How to Find Your Calling as an INFJ: 5 Questions To Ask
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2020
- INFJs are an amazing group of people with a great deal of potential. Inside each one of us is often a deep desire to pursue our passions in such a way that it helps the world. However, some of us get stuck in a rut along the way. In this video, I give a few ideas for INFJs on how to find their passion or calling.
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We loose motivation very fast! A slight failure make us depressive! So annoying!
Kamil Karnale omg ikr?! I suffer from extreme procrastination as well 😤
Omg so true that I hate myself for that 😢
Exactly
True
Thank God I am not alone. Because of this I thought that something was wrong with me.
I’ve always said “I just want to be happy” whenever someone asks what I want for my future....
I think what I truly want is to feel safe enough to be myself. Because that, is true happiness
Yes.❤
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the use of "we" gives an infj like myself comfort that someone understands. :>
:> i luv it
I guess us, INFJ, love to use 'we' when presenting something, because the credit for what we said is not for us alone. Like when I was presenting my team's work when I was in college, I almost never use the word "I" because we work on it together. As well as, while mentioning INFJ, I too mostly use 'we' as the title is not for me alone to own.
Nawww. 😍💝
Ive been saying this from day 1 at 8years old
Its my travling mind that fights me from BEING it took a personality quiz with Google askimg her why do i feel crazy
N mind always on over driveing me
"failure to launch syndrom" - extremely true.
A new title for procrastination. I love it!
oh yes, i felt that :'D
Same
I don’t think its actually failure to launch really. I think it is more so, continuing in life until you reach that point you are able to launch. We need to understand a point will come where we can launch and begin to help others, but it happens when life decides, not when we decide. We only continue to follow our path until we launch. At that point there is happiness for us as well as everyone we interact with. It’s such a beautiful feeling.
Situational depression, that's exactly what happens when I am in a place or job that doesn't fit me and nobody understands why, I feel like I am drowning yet from the outside people think everything is fine and question my attitude. Understanding the situational depression concept is a great motivator to get off the sick merry-go-round I was stuck in. Thanks!!!!
EXACTLY... "situational depression". That's me living in a small, gossipy town... working a job for eight years that I hated every day... but there were no other jobs in town. I walked out that back door and moved away from that town. I'm ok now.. kinda... 500 miles and a border away from there!
Congratulations! One step at a time. I'm in a boring small town. I have 3 78 year old women friends which is ridiculous. I'm 62. They are so out of my interests. There are no men! Of interest. 1 new guy moved in but there's no spark.
"Usually really good at something like art." Me watching this video as I'm drawing on my tablet 😆
Relatable. 😂😂
Me watching while I watercolor. 😂
Im painting a portrait......hmmm a pattern lol
Haha, same here, painting with aquarelle :D
Heyyy i like ur art on instagram ❤️
Great advice - get your stuff out there! Is anyone else TOO - polite, self-deprecating, modest, awkward with compliments, unchallenging of other's BS, etc? Practice NOT being these things. Develop and share your voice. You know the world needs you 💚
YAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSS! Lol
🥺
Yes the world needs us - they don't know it but they do! :)
Yesss :(
You know me so well!!
I am 17 years old. Is it wierd I love watching these videos? I feel like i differ from the age group
I'm 17 too. I totally feel you there
It's not weird, it's impressive you are already thinking about these things now.
Same here, soon 18 :) I always feel like I'm an alien who's very good at pretending to be like everyone else. Great at adjusting. But on the inside still an alien.
I'm 54 and I feel the same way, so nothing weird there...
felt the same at 17 10 years later still feel the same in my age group now lol
The 5 questions:
1. What is your unfair advantage?
2. What did you love to do when you were young?
3. How can you help people / help the world?
4. Is there any information you have right now you wish you had when you were young?
5. What's a complex topic that you could make simple?
Bonus: how do you eventually become irreplaceable?
people hav always said i hav a big heart, am sensitive/empath, hav a good spirit. Loved to play in nature when young, make plant dyes, miniature homesteads from moss/twigs/rocks, etc. Idk more than that. Thanks for the vid
You are a gentleperson and a scholar.
It is difficult to eat speak and smile and stay healthy if There is no Dentist too reach !Not on Belgium 🇧🇪 not in 🇫🇷 ant suggestion? 😊 10:17
ASK GOD ! 11:23
5 HEALT CARE ! 15:18
I've always said that the dream job would be doing the things we loved the most when we were kids. Because as kids we didn't think about getting rich of even just paying mortgage/debt or being able to afford something. We simply followed our heart.
I wanted to be a florist.
I love flowers and giving them to make them happy.
In Louisiana you need to pass to exam to purchase a License to become a florist.
I had no idea how much money they made. It didn't matter.
Because it's Love that makes me happy and fulfilled
You are the first mind coach to make these deep dives so accurately, into the experience of an INFJ. Thank you for thinking so clearly and sharing what you have learned in your life.
Check out Frank James!
Just wanted to add my two cents.Frank James is great when I'm in a quirky goofy mood. He makes me laugh. And these videos are great for being in a more quiet, serious, and reflective mood. Both are great in their own ways!
also infjs are so adventurous that they like to experience what other people feel about almost everything..good are bad they just want to experience it.. lol talking about myself..
Omg! Im always saying that. I sometimes make people uncomfortable by asking unexpected questions but im totally trying to get their experience.
This couldn’t be more spot on. Freedom is absolutely the key. I finally discovered my “thing” in my late 20s (watercolor painting) and created an entire business around it. Thanks for using your gift to make us feel seen and understand ourselves even better, Clay! It’s helpful and comforting.
Omgggg I just bought a numbers painting kit because I loveeed painting as a kid, but I stopped it and now I wanted to pick it up again. This is sooo affirming. I feel so seen 🥺
anyone else type up long youtube comments from time to time just to delete it all in the end cuz you feel like it doesnt matter?
All the time 😂😂😂😂 but when I delete them it actually makes me feel better. Like I’ve gotten it off my chest without having the continue engaging in an argument or conversation with the other person . I thought I was just me 😂🤪
@@Paula-zl3zn😂True INFJs 😅😂❤
I’m definitely lost in life. I had a lot of bad circumstances that led me to be this way. But I do have unfair advantages like being going at speaking English despite being a first generation immigrant, and I always get complemented on my face. I don’t enjoy cleaning but I’m quite good at it because I was forced to do chores in my adolescence and teenage-hood. I wish I could go back 20 years and tell me younger self that my mother is a narcissist and that there’s nothing I can do to help her.
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Hang in there. Not easy to find the path forward but it is there. And it sounds like you’ve overcome a lot already. Thanks for sharing.
Hey, I feel you. My dad has gone trough the same rough path with a narcissist mom who didn't pursue his talents and great abilities in art. You seem like a strong individual, and I wish you the very best.
Omgg I got to know that my mom is covert narc when my alcoholic father left us. It was shocking and eye opener for me. But yet I am still struggling to know myself and the best career for me. Yes I always think of this that if I could go in the past and tell me younger self the truth about narcs.
I grew up with a narc mother also so I feel ya. Took me 40+ years to realize that. It really took a toll on my life.
Narc Mother and drunk dad... I feel you....
As an INFJ, only 2-3 minutes into this video, I already find it sooooo relatable. This is exactly me and what I'm going through. I totally understand everything that you are talking about. I always feel the need to find a goal or purpose in my life. However, as an INFJ, I have too many things going on in my mind but I did not do any of it so I always end up with this feeling of 'I'm trapped' and I don't know what to do. 😢
Edit: After watching your video, I feel so much better to know that I am not alone. I'm so glad that there are other INFJs who understand us. Thanks so much for the video! Will try to start thinking about that 5 questions seriously.
I love listening to your calm voice and gentle demeanor. It’s soothing. 💕🌿✨🍃
Yep
I always end your videos feeling like I just listened to an encouraging pep talk with a counselor who understands me (INFJ) on the most accurate level lol thank you!
The situational depression thing resonates 100%. In fact, I kept telling doctors this exact phrase and they still wanted me to take meds. Like you, when I am on my right path, it all goes away. Thank you for this video, I need to do what I love. Freedom!
I am an INFJ and 66 years old and retired and still never knew what I should do in life! I worked for banks in Accounts Receivables because I love managing money, as an Office Manager and Legal Secretary for a Law Firm because of my love for law based on integrity and the truth, Office Manager for a Vet Office due to my love of animals, and Office Manager for a Nursery School based on my love of children.
That feeling that this guy is the older you sent to direct you from the past
I work best alone when success or failure falls on my shoulders. Working for someone was always difficult, if someone showed any lack of ethics or fell into the profit trap solely I would be turned off immediately. I found my happy place as a real estate and vacation rental photographer. I communicate in emails and texts mostly so light contact there and then I go into empty houses and do my job and leave. When I was younger I worked in customer service management jobs and healthcare. I couldn't imagine myself there now and would be very unhappy. As a side job, I also babysit for single moms and I am able to be home with my young daughter while making a little money helping others in that way. During winter when my photography job is less abundant, I clean the house for a large vaca rental where again the house is empty and I can do my thing in peace. Sometimes on the days, I stay in the house day after day, I can get less productive but it works. I am good at everything I do, in every job position I gained responsibility and authority quickly. I know now in my 40s that no matter what happens in life I can adapt and survive based on my adaptability and quick learning.
I have forever thought that there's got to be someone who would look at me and think that I am the one person they need for whatever the project or need is... but the next thought, invariably, is that I rarely accomplish anything that I envision, anything worthwhile.
1. My Unfair advantage ?
° I remember my friends say im good at decoration ideas. (Event organiser)
°Good at understanding ppl and giving them advice.( Councelling)
2. What I love to do?
° I love traveling and I love talking about the place and describe the feeling the scene.
° I always loved coffee and I wanted to become a barista.
° I love cooking
° Obviously photography
° Gardening
° Making new friends I love talking to different mindset of ppl their deepist thoughts.
3. How can I help ppl?
° That's at top for infjs helping others.
° I believe that now days ppl want to be heard ppl want to loved and recognised. So I would love to be that kind of a person who can embrace ppl in need.
4. Any information I have now I wish I had when I was young?
° YES! UA-cam I wish had these kinda vids that could tell me I'm not alone and I'm normal. I really feel Jealous for this generation kids growing youths that they have so so so many information filled in internet and so many free skills to learn. I really wish I had this back than so I could figure out what I actually wanted to do with my life.
° The skill of awareness I would like to give this to my younger self.
° And yes obviously boundaries I really wish I knew that word back then so I could get less hurt.
5. One of the complicated work I can make it easy?
° I remember teaching my fellow frnd science and mathematics formula like he couldn't remember which formula applies where,
For example- He love cars so I named the formulas according to each car and the value the car holds in his mind.
I write individual letters to my children and wife every month and sit down with each one to review them. This has been consistent for years. We talk about only them. The good, the bad, and the ugly. I also wrote a book about it. Working Class Dad. Not promoting the book, but just confirmation on being an INFJ. The world makes sense now. ☺️
I dont aim for happiness, the emotion is too fleeting and not a good barometer for success.
Aim for fulfillment and a purposeful life. As an infj, i rather die doing something of purpose that contributes to the greater good, then live without purpose.
Wow,just what I needed now.I am 46,still don't know my calling.INFJ's are so weird and wonderful.I actually love and appreciate myself more! Thank you Clay!
Happiness is freedom. I love that!
I haven't given up my love of horses to this day! 29 years strong...
I share the same wish- That I had known about narcissism or strong narcissistic traits when I was younger, and was able to recognize it in people. Also why I attracted these personality types. Better late than never!
This was relatable on a level I cannot articulate; thank you for putting words to the nuance in my head! Even commenting is hard for me because of our INFJ perfectionism, but I'm being brave today!
Me too! I'm being brave today and typed a long comment haha
Bravery
Be Brave
You got this
@@huezreaganwong9615
How much stress
Let me count the ways
This is so funny, I am INFJ through and through - working as a speech & language therapist with children with complex needs (helping) while following my passion and special skill with a jewellery making business on the side.. best of both worlds! Love your insights! 😊💕
Thank you, Clay! I just found out yesterday that I am an INFJ. This is like all my puzzles came together and made a complete picture. I am drawing/painting all my life, but always thought it is "ok", nothing special...anyone can do it)). I was traveling through Canada from Winnipeg to Vancouver and stayed for two weeks in Kelowna. I met one elderly lady from St. Pius church, she looked at my art on Instagram and ordered a portrait of her daughter's dog...another one ordered a print of my art, another bought a Feng Shui art from me, BUT this didn't convince me that I do something special...it was always just another painting. I even felt surprised that people like it, want to have it, say something like "you are such a talented artist"...I always thought they say so because of being my friends or being polite Canadians)). Now by listening to this video I realized that it is something more valuable than I thought before. Probably I will make something commercial with my art and see how it will work out). You motivated me because you speak as an advanced business version of myself...it is so cool!
so stunned to know you are also stuck with Narcissist ever before, INFJ is truly prone to be trapped by Narcissism, what a bad density.
This was extremely helpful from start to finish. There were a zillion INFJ takeaways! Interestingly, the lifelong photography interest you mentioned shows in the high-quality videos you're creating while breaking out of your perfectionism. What an illustration of many of the points you were making here!
Great advice , you broke this down in a very INFJ friendly way . It feels like you read my confused mind and spoke solutions .
Thank you !
I love your videos! Always great food for thought. Not to mention, it's always comforting to be reminded I'm not the only one who thinks the way I do...lol. #infj struggles...lol
I am listening to you speak about narcissists a moment ago and Yes I have found this to be sadly true for me twice. I have dumbed myself down in my life and that has been Super hard to even admit but I know who I am now and refuse to get stuck anymore.
Business videos please! I hope you know one of your natural gifts is speaking in a very clear and impactful way. Much love
Thanks Clay. This was super helpful. Please do more business videos. There is a lot of business advice on the Internet, but I guess INFJs do business a little differently. Would love to hear your insights.
I agree with this... more business vids Clay!
👍agree
Agree
You are so spot on with your comments and questions to ask yourself to become more self aware. I was having a difficult time finding a job after being laid off twice in my 50s. Difficult transition after a failed marriage, not seeing a way forward. And the phrase that resonated with me was from a Harry Potter movie, of all places: Play to your strengths. I have many things I can do naturally well but I don't value because they won't bring in much money. But doing them makes me happy. Creating detailed drawings and maps. Being able to turn things around in my head and always knowing where I'm going and never getting lost. Having memories going back to when I was 5 months old. Sewing, baking, etc. It is a difficult task of becoming self aware. Value yourself and your skills. That's what I would tell my younger self. Every day. Talk yourself up instead of down. Take more chances. You can muddle through because we INFJs seem to be able to mostly land on our feet. We are very good at thinking outside the box and coming up with unique solutions that no one else has thought about. I always list that as a strength on my resume, but it's something that isn't valued until a team at work runs into a problem and they need a solution in the next 3 minutes. Under pressure, I can usually come up with 2 or 5 ways to get out of the situation with grace and dignity. Just rambling thoughts.
As an INFJ who can completely envision a future of my design, and completely build that future in my mind... in many ways it’s already built, and I know I could build it and that reality is enough, so I don’t do it. BUT, when something is so powerful within me that I cannot not do it; those projects are truly mind blowing!
What type of design you make?
ElMehdi Saniss I’m a horticulturist and business owner. Landscape design and also business ideas in general...
@@Prohortico
I understand your words.
I found my niche in propagation and then growing. I bloomed. As I fall asleep, I design my own land, different every night! I don't do it though. I wanted to feed the world, my idealism, ended up in fruits nuts and berry growing job. I have an orchard. I live to design
My father said you are a painter, you paint with plants!
Christine McCoy beautiful! I majored in production horticulture at Olds college, studied greenhouse and nursery production, this year due to the pandemic I’ve lost a lot of landscape work and I am going to be starting a small market garden.... are you Canadian?
Well let me say one thing, these talking videos are actually amazing for me to think some of my own things out. These videos may actually have more “worth” to others than yourself. So, thank you for what you’re doing. Please continue.
I'm an INFJ Advocate. I've had trouble fulfilling my "purpose" in this life. I think I've finally understand and accept it. If the opportunity arises, I offer my help. Of course there are people who disapprove of my methods but who cares. It fulfills a need inside myself and it's healthy for me...
This really hit me. Ever since I was a kid I drew to now im asked to do wedding portraits. I also placed state with violin in the Spokane Youth Symphony. Just recently I organized and compiled all the things I had to do into notes and made it a checklist for work and someone had asked "how'd you do that?"
All of this, and I always had figured that it was easy- that I'm not that good to the point I was suffocating and wondering what I am good at.
Note to everyone. Believe in yourself and take advantage of the gifts you have, the world needs it. Its a blessing i'm 21 and have stumbled across this.
(my art is at locker_arts if anyone cares haha)
Contradiction alert! Our "Feeling" elevates and deflates those chemicals and balancing them makes us feel less depressed and more empowered to achieve our ideas...by taking the initiative of setting the goals...and getting up to do it! Without those chemicals in balance we can't get up to do what we know we need to do!
Like you mean neurotransmitters like serotonin and domaine? I agree you need proper levels of those to function.
Thank you, Clay! This INFJ has viewed many of your other INFJ subject videos, but my first time commenting on one here. Your videos on INFJ subjects are the few on UA-cam that I can share with my ISFJ mother - to clearly explain who I am as an INFJ. Couldn’t explain it better myself. 👍🏻🙏🏻
I left a mundane job in January to purse an online reselling business. I gave myself freedom with that, wished I did this 20 years ago. But back then I did not know much about my INFJ needs. I just kept feeling guilty for not excelling in careers that were (looking back) not set for my MBTI.
Thanks, Jeff.
I kept thinking my childhood was holding me back and that I was so frozen that I could not function in my business like I wanted. This helps me a lot to get past myself and do what I am good at. Thanks!
I struggle so much with confidence... I feel like I get the theory and what I should do... But when it comes to practicing what I preach... Oh boy. Inspiring video. I should reflect on what my strengths that I took for granted and thought 'too normal' - time for me to practice more drawing and post them on my Instagram more!
same same
The resistance thing is spot on. To me though, I had to wait for the right timing to find my path, I guess sometimes you can't force it you just have to keep going until some day it all makes sense to you. It is difficult to predict life and I sure did not expect myself to be in a middle of a pandemic writing my thesis on PTSD and design this year. Hope everyone are safe and healthy!
I've often thought that happiness is found in the pursuit of goals....the pursuit of a better version of myself. Unhappiness is from perceptions that there are barriers to your pursuit of a better self.
Turns out we live in the same province! 😉
While being an INFJ determines how we process information, I think it is the culmination of all our experiences (joyful and painful) that determines who we are as a person. You would not be able to teach your younger self these lessons if you hadn't gone through the experiences and grown from them. I have had some painful difficult circumstances, in the last few years especially, but they have challenged me to dig deep and figure out what my line in the sand is so to speak. What is important, what will I fight for and what is something that is time to let go. It's a great time of self reflection that otherwise wouldn't have happened and I wouldn't change that. Food for thought....
Freedom = happiness. Yeah, have to agree 100%.
1 - the unfair advantage (something you do easly naturally while ppl find it difficult)
2-what do you always like to do
3- what are the things that you know now you wish that you could teach it for your younger self
4-what are the complicated things that you could make it simple easly
5-how could you be irreplaceable (what is the knowledge that you specifically have)
YES "situational depression" if I'm in a job I don't like I feel trapped and like I'm not making the most of life. If there's a leader who I don't like who tells me what to do and it doesn't make sense to me or seems like the bad choice I find I want to rebel against it.
I definitely have resisted my true self for the first 19 yrs of my life but since I've been like f it I should be bolder to do what is right for me things have been figuring out better
It's so hard for me to see what skills I have because I have sooooooo many interests but I don't feel like I've become skilled at any of them. I have ADHD so I become hyper focused on one thing but get bored after a few days or weeks. That or perfectionism sets in. The result is that I jump to another interest. That means that I never become really skilled at any one thing .... I will often come back to each interest eventually.... sometimes YEARS later. But it's hard to feel really good at anything when I can't stick to anything very long. 40 years of this!(Not to mention adding several children to focus on now. ) Maybe by 80 I'll have put in enough hours to have some actual skills! Lol
Exactly what you describe for me too!
I needed this, thank you.
Your voice and the way you speak is so calming that instead of scrolling on my phone while a video plays, I actually focused only on your video.
Thanks for this video!
Thank you so much for these videos!!!
I love your videos bro great work!
Excellent!!! You nailed it!!! Thank you!!!
so glad this popped up in my feed, thanks for posting this video clay
Thank you for sharing your blessings😊
This is so helpful, thank you!
Thank you for the encouragement.
Thank you for this. I really needed to hear this.
35 years and just found my purpose as a writer. Your videos helped with that a lot. It's been a struggle. I wish I'd known about the MBTI and INFJ personality a lot earlier. I literally just discovered this about two weeks ago. I feel foolish
Thank you for talking about this topic. I really needed this. 🙏🏼
I definitely can relate the perfectionist. I've also found that when I finally get over my perfectionism and just put things out, I am unable to fully shirk off any criticisms, so honestly, I'm back in the perfectionist closet for a few years building back up my confidence. I've been trying to "give from my saucer" lately. It's hard to balance taking care of yourself and not feeling like a selfish a-hole and putting yourself out there and not taking things so personally and to heart. #wordvomit
Wow, so much has resonated with me. Thank you!
I really appreciate your work. Thank you :)
Thank you SO much!! I have been going to therapy because I do this! I don't think I'm special and feel worthless because i dismiss myself. My husband keeps telling me how talented I am at cooking and baking. Friends started telling me but I was just thinking, "anyone can do this. It doesn't matter." This Thanksgiving my mother-in-law came and was telling me my Thanksgiving meal and pies were amazing. I really have been disregarding myself not realizing i have talent! I teared up during this video. Thank you.
Thanks for this video I definitely needed to hear this. 💖
This is so good and so accurate!
I can really relate to everything that you are saying. Great video😊
I too, have a love for photography. I am a natural at taking nature photos, and I seem to naturally find the best angles. I also have a flair for nurturing. I have 5 children. One is a paraplegic, and two have Autism. People have always complimented me on my skills against all odds, that I show up for them so well. My oldest 3 children were taught empathy, that being smarter is better than surface beauty, that it matters how they treat others. They were honor students throughout school, and independent adults. My youngest daughter and son are my biggest challenge, as they have incredible intelligence, but can’t tell me what they want for dinner. Autism is quite the overwhelming challenge. I do my best to help them learn important things, like life skills. I am so busy, I sometimes get to the end of my day, and realize I forgot to take care of myself... Especially while dealing with the quarantine situation, and the kids don’t have ABA therapy.
I find myself being over empathetic sometimes to people I just met or only met a few times. I’m a 6’4” male, and yeah I even find myself being over emotional a weird thing. But one talent I have is I can sing really well, but I don’t think I’m good enough to try for anything in a singing career. I also find myself in leadership positions often in most group settings. I don’t know if it has something to do with my size, or the fact that I genuinely try to listen to people. Idk, but your videos have pulled me out of this black hole I’ve been in since my father died. I’m wasting my life, I have many talents, but I’m to insecure to present them outwardly in a functional way. I felt lost and alone. I thought about seeing a therapist because I felt broken. I’m overcoming a drug problem and it’s hindering my ability to function.
Thankyou for making this video ☺️💕
Have listened to two of your videos on the way to work so far, and your channel may be my new favorite. Can relate to so much of what you talk about.
❤❤❤❤❤I needed to hear this, thank you so much
Very motivating! Thank you!
Thank you so much for this, you are so awesome!
These are great! Thanks!!
Thank you for creating these videos. I greatly appreciate your humility. The material you share greatly resonates with me. Blessings!
So grateful to have discovered you!
Very helpful!
Blessings.
Thank you, Clay, it's encouraging and found valuable to me. Even if I have tons of ideas, this perfictionism thing holding me back. I think it is now time to take a step forward. Thank you!
You are amazing! I just started watching your videos and I am hooked....keep up the wonderful deep dialogues.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge Clay. I have really needed some kind of mentor insight from a more mature infj and I appreciate you filling in that gap. Love.
Thank you! You’re so accurate!
Thanks! I always think what I know is “too easy”. Then I heard these older women lighting up like it was actually helpful and I was shocked!
Really really great video. Thank you.
Thank you so much for making these videos. Finally a group of people like me.
I have just discovered your channel and in the first 3 videos I've watched, you've helped me with a lot of what I've been searching for ! I love the way you explain things. Thank you
Yes! I so relate to this, you really out things into perspective. I just kept saying "YES!"
Thank you for this❣️
Thank you so much for this.
Thanks Clay! You nailed it for me. Great advice.
thank you for posting 😊 somehow this was exactly what I needed right now :)
The only thing that makes my heart beat is horses. They make me want to live. I feel my heart and when I am with them I feel understood 😌 thank you so much for helping us 🙏 I wish I knew all this stuff when I was younger 😌