How to Make FRIENDS with Each of the 16 Personalities
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2024
- How to become friends with each of the 16 MBTI Types
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The 16 Personalities of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator are INFJ, INTJ, INFP, ISFP, INTP, ISTP, ISFJ, ISTJ, ENFP, ENTP, ESTP, ESFP, ENTJ, ESTJ, ENFJ, ESFJ
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00:00 Introduction
01:29 ESTP
02:16 ESFP
03:02 ISTJ
04:01 ISFJ
05:12 ESTJ
06:18 ENTJ
07:41 ESFJ
08:32 ENFJ
09:42 ISFP
10:47 INFP
12:12 ISTP
13:10 INTP
13:44 ENTP
14:34 ENFP
15:32 INTJ
16:49 INFJ
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I have a question, can ISFPs express their love and emotions towards someone verbally? I see everywhere people saying how isfps are bad at expressing emotions, yet I know someone who has the same traits as isfp but is very open and expressive, is that possible?
@@daria_vegan_sweden_1699 it is a stereotype sooo yeah
How much did your ENTJ partner contribute to your 1M+ subscriber success on UA-cam??😅
Frank, I have been wanting to tell you this for a long time, but then I am always lazy to write, but: THE CAPTIONS IN THE VIDEO GO TOO FAST that MOST times is hard to read it. Try leaving them for a little longer while you edit ;)
edit: oh I continued watching the video (I was in the Entj part) well so now that I know that is KEVIN the editor, pass this message to KEVIN
@Maria CANCER It's so sad to hear about your diagnosis, Mary. Myself, I have a long line of relatives who died of cancer. Every day I'm awaitin' for the symptoms. Please know I'm care. Keep on as long as it takes. Love & peace.
Step 1: Know the person’s personality type
Truuu
Shirt ID would help.
@FrankJames truu translated to wow
Ask them the questions from the test and answer them for them guess /skip the Private questions .
@@beagrothus7916 lol as we are going to do that. Wait, seems like a challenge, is tempting me
HE PUT TIME STAMPS FOR US!!!🎉
FINALLY 😭
WOOOOO
Wtf dude thanking for so few dislikes for saying the obvious
@@Renikee I’ve never gotten this many likes before :-:
@@KajunPicker I would remove the thanks so you don’t get hated on 😅👍🏽
As an INFP, there’s nothing more I value in a friendship than genuine listening. If a person does that to me…he or she is the best and I’ll cherish this person forever.
Esp not listening to reply or assume or tell me how to feel or what to do. Or to turn it back to them or compete with me or compare. I have 2 life “friends” left n they do this.
sameeee
I legitimately made a close friend online just because she was open to hearing my sufferings. And yes, I value her in high regard, but my infp ass just can't maintain a good, healthy relationship without my freaking tendency to self sabotage.
We don't talk much now because I see myself as a worthless human being not worth her time lmao. Dang I need some fixing in me badly.
Yeah cause no one listens to us. We are the listeners. It’s a real treasure when someone listens
A close friend of mine became a close friend quickly because they're such a good listener that it's crazy
As an INFJ, having a friend acknowledge I’m burnt out during a party and then say it’s okay I should leave or it’s okay to take a breather is especially validating. I do feel I owe my social energy to people so it’s nice when someone sees me really trying but I’m actually spent.
U never owe social energy. Eff that noise.
@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 thank you I try
Aww definitely take breaks, you'll be at your best with others when you're ready to socialize again. - infp
I’d probably catch your vibe and give you “permission” to leave the party (although I’d secretly want you to stay)-ENFP
@@eval4495 quite right
Important tip to befriend an INTJ:
Don't try to hangout simultaneously.
Invite them way ahead of time so they can have enough time to rehearse and plan.
So true. 😂
And be authentic. We can smell bullshit from a mile away and will not be impressed.
yeah my friends always ask me to hung out only 2/3 days before while i carefully planned my whole weeks for years, sorry but i cannot reschedule or postpone everything for such nonsense. if you want to hung out tell me way ahead of time and make sure to propone a good idea
Yet, not much more than a week before or they will find an excuse to back put of it. A week is perfect to look forward to the event without being taken off guard by it’s suddenness, or start feeling trapped by it.
So true
I think the problem with the INFJ thing is that we're so good at reading others emotions, we can sometimes forget that others don't have the same ability and we can expect more that we should.
i do this all the time and everytime get hurt beacuse i feel like they (basically everyone around me) dont care, like they have the ability to read me but just doesnt care. I try to remind myself that they propabbly just cant read me like i can with them, but IT DOESNT WORK my brain still believes they do
@Pia yeah, I've gotten much better about it but not perfect. Only because I own my own business so basically been forced to practice how to "Detach" myself from situations and I mean A LOT of practice lol.
This is a problem I have noticed in myself . -INFP
My daughter is an INFJ and I am an ISTJ. I don't read other people's emotions. My daughter and I work hard at communicating because it's important! Also, we know each other's MBTI types.
@@lauriecampbell1378 can confirm, that is really not us ISTJs strong point. Outside of the obvious (literally crying etc), all we can do is gather Si data of how a person usually feels in a situation and use that to predict or put ourselves in that person s shoes with Fi but different people might not act the same as us to the same situation so that is unreliable
As an introvert, I find it very difficult to make extrovert friends because they're very loud and I end up being ignored.
Same, as an INFP, I get ignored all the time, like I'm literally invisible to people
I feel kind of nervous with most extrovert friends because they won’t text me for a long time, or they’ll say they’re busy and I’ll think “oh they don’t like me anymore” and then the next time I see them they’ll be like “OMG it’s so good to see you my bestie!!!”
Haha, don't make us such horrible friends to introverts 😭🤣🤗 Gosh that's bullshit, everyone's trying to bully us these days but it's really not the case most of the time - you definitely don't need to be an extrovert when you're just loud, it's simply about the matter of how you view the world and what you focus on. So perhaps some of those were not even real extroverts. Anyway cheer up, if anyone would see your bad situation, sympathise with you and be willing to make you feel better in such situations, it really might as well be an extrovert
come with me introvert (i'm enfp) don't tell anyone!
@@ellie-dw1ju Haha, every time you write a comment you have different MBTI? Amazing skills, very genuine 👏🏻😉🤣
INFJ here - very, very true stuff! We're often warm, approachable, sympathetic, and friendly. But who we take DEEP into our hearts is very, very selective. It's only the people we feel safe with. The people we feel appreciated and understood and supported by. And since we're rare, introverted personalities to begin with, that's usually not many people. But because we often have big, caring, giving hearts, people tend to latch onto us and suck our energy. Boundaries and limits are an absolute MUST for an INFJ to learn. Learn to say no - but more importantly - to not feel guilty over it!
Yes. I agree. ❤
As an INTJ, that's so true. Don't pressure us, don't try to push us and don't waste our times too. If we think you're cool enough, we're gonna come out of our shells even trying to"bypass" a little social kinda of person. Intj's time are valuable, and friendships are things we take very seriously.
(Disclaimer: this is just my personal opinion, hope someone gets that)
for real
U said “lmao” one too many times to be an INTJ lmao
So true
Lmao, all those 'Lmao"s make me doubt you're an INTJ Lmfao
Yeah I rarely lmao
I struggled a lot with social situations before. People misunderstand me all the time - even now. But after learning from Frank and taking many tests, I've found myself to be an INTJ. Now I understand myself and others better. I find peace in knowing that it is okay to be misunderstood and that people are just different. Frank, thank you, man.
Hello fellow INTJ!
@@avaius Hey, man. Glad you understand.
@@lovegansaw No problem, friend. I feel the same way. I've learnt to enjoy being perceived as 'different'. Some things still get me down but I'm working on them :)
☺️☺️ As an ENFP, as a kid, I didn’t understand that ppl didn’t wanna hangout with each 24/7 or that they were not up for anything, like the next adventure. I just couldn’t fathom it. 😮😮 Nice to know that other ppl are similar to us, but also that other ppl can be vastly different too.
Same for me, I actually did think I may be somewhere on the autism spectrum or have some social disorder for the way I am, turns out I'm just another INTJ and there are more people like that. It was pretty comforting to find this out.
How to become a friend with an INTJ:
- ask but don't push (as Frank mentioned)
- genuinely show interest in them
- ask them for advice but don't overwhelm them with your emotions, especially don't be unreasonable
- if you manage to make sure they feel accepted by you (points above help you a lot), you win a loyal friend for the rest of your life
~ INTJ
I'm an INTP and my best pal is an INTJ. We don't talk to each other a lot, but when we do, it switches back and forth between who starts the conversation and such. Once I found out he liked something I liked that I consider pretty niche, we just clicked. Not instantly, though. It took about 2 months for us to really be friends.
What's funny too is that we're both nerds and are really good in the academic field. Our class got our report cards for the third quarter last week, and when I saw he had better grades than me, in my head I was like "Finally, a worthy opponet."
I'd consider us rival-buddies, but we're definitely more friendly towards each other. :))
Man, that sounds so fun! I'm an INTP too and I'd love to have a friendship like that someday!
Woah you are very skilled at making friends
L and light
Literally my sister (INTP) and me (INTJ)☺️
As an infp I was like, "Aight we're not even THAT sensitive" and then with Frank's chili example I was like "Okay, yeah you're right, we are THAT sensitive" 😂
“Skittish” is definitely a good word for an ISTP. When I first met my husband, he practically ran away when I tried to talk to him.
Even as a kid, I'd run off to my room when I see guests at home, I just don't have anything to say in general, wouldn't wanna make the mood awkward by blanking out...
I literally hid behind the couch in our living room once when a guest arrived, thinking they would go upstairs with my dad, but they just walked over and saw me hiding from them😭 embarrassing times
@@aelardizI have some the same
@@flowerpot3787I've also done the same thing
@@catrice1296I've done that a few times too
INFP married to ENTJ here and I was laughing so hard when you said it was hard to stay married to an ENTJ because SAME! But it's so worth it
😂🎉
as an infp I can deeply relate to this. I am really sensitive and i only get close to people who are nice to me, and I constantly struggle with my classmates, specially the most rude ones, even if they're joking, because I have a really hard time differentiating "just joking" and *actually being rude and wanting to hurt me*
@@whimsickels bro that is so facts (infp)
oh my god what you just said describes me so well, may all of us be happy
ISFP and INFP are very similar, but I think if we ever don't get along it's because of this exact thing! ISFP get so focused on what *we* like that we often don't realize how indifferent and dismissive we are to others' interests, and we accidentally make our INFP friends feel a little bad even if we were getting along so great otherwise. I'm trying to be more mindful of it!
Why Do I relate to this I'm an ENFP 👀👀👀👀 I once got INFP but my family say that I'm very sociable and friendly 😫😫 I also relate to much to the ENFP description as well 😅😅😅
@@yovizimra infps and enfps are similar in many ways just so you know
One of my happiest moments...my ISTP daughter told me that if we weren't related, we would be friends. ~INTP
Beautiful.
I love how you almost always put INTJ and INFJ last. It’s like you know who your audience is.
Yes.
Lmfao so true
Nah. ENTJ here. Put us last Frank!
The best comes for last ;)
As an infp after we become friends honesty and loyalty is very important.
INFP really hates dishonest and pretentious people. We infp are very open minded so we want you to be yourself . 👁️👁️ I ended my friendship with my friend of 6 years cause she use to lie alot not even for a good reason she use to lie unnecessarily like she lied she got ear piercing 🤷 to a very close friend simply .
I can agree I want trust and honesty in a friend 😊
By the way INFP here
Same for INTP
My best friend lies a lot and as an INFP it gets on my nerves. She lies about dating guys and guys liking her and stupid things like that (this comment sounds kinda aggressive sorry lol)
Who likes dishonest and pretentious people?
I am going to join the chorus here as an ISTJ, imagine keeping people around that you can never trust about anything. Sucks that it was such a long friendship, such illogical lies too, at least if she would have had a reason to lie about that. Not that it would have excused the lying but at least you would have understood why she did it as you said. I guess the lying was a recent thing or has it gone on for a while but you just hoped she would change/did not want to believe she was lying for no reason like that?
I can confirm that as an INFP I’m actually more on the stoic side. What’s weird is when I think I appear to be all bubbly and interactive, people will still think I’m being standoffish. “What do you mean I’m quiet? Did you not hear me speak a whole 2 sentences?” Lol “What do you mean I don’t seem happy? I’m actually pretty happy right now.”
It’s like the wall I built is so thick it can be hard to break through it even when I want to. It’s a rare and happy occurrence when someone “gets” me.
When I drink a lot of caffeine, it makes me talkative, but only relatively. I can go several interactions with people without saying a word. So I'll say two consecutive sentences and be like 'Wow, I'm sorry I'm talking so much, I'm so embarrassed.' I've had so many people be like 'What do you mean, you said ten words???' Lmao -infp
Right? Though I'm the worst when I feel harder feelinfs too intensely. I shut down and cold stare at people. *processing emotions, need to get away from people*
Then I'm told my mbti type cries a lot. 🤷♀️
My gosh. I’ve been through many similar situations. The weirdest thing is that I feel like the way I think I am is so different from what others think I am. Like, I used to think I was extremely bubbly, but it turns out that I am come off as intimidating to others (especially to boys). Its weird, because I thought I was approachable.
You described my experience as an INFP so well! Other people's perceptions of me are either: standoffish and stoic OR won't-shut-up and bubbly. No in-between. 😅
I was told I have the demeanour of a princess, just kind of cold ig? By someone new and it was so off-putting because once you get to know me I’m anything but that lmao
As an INTJ, this is very true. I consider my time very valuable and so I choose where to be, who to be with, and what to do very carefully.
Your time is no more valuable then the homeless people that you ignore on the street. Stop being so precious.
SAME! (Not an INTJ!)
As an INFJ, a lot of people like me and try to get close to me, but I let very few people in. I prefer my privacy and solitude in most cases. In the past I have been very tolerant with overlooking problems with people, but in my late 30s started being easily turned off from people. It doesn’t take much for me to write someone off as a person I want kept in the distance- one lie, one cruel behavior, a lack of deeper interests, self-importance, greed… I don’t intentionally keep track of everyone, but I end up with a file on everybody. It’s not that I don’t still like them and want the best from them, I just prefer my solitude over any stress or drama or another adult brings into my world. Solitude to me means freedom. It has to be worth it, I have to still be myself, I have to be able to trust them…
I feel you❤
I very much relate to this.
I’m INFP and my best friend is ISTP. After we met for around one year, she gave me a letter which said her thought on me and announced that we are friends now. And I was like “Wait, so we were not friends back then?😂”
Yea. You were only acquaintances before. As an ISTP, I can say that you weren't friends before
As an ISTP, getting close to people over shared interests is why going to med school was a godsend. Lots of different people with different goals in life, but all united by the pressure of… med school 😅 I just didn’t feel the same connection with my classmates in HS
Same. I'm also an ISTP. I only make friends with people that I like to joke with and have fun with, usually because we think the same way, or have the same sense of humor.
As ENTP my closest friends that aren't childhood friends are people who "got the joke". I often throw in a joke or word play or reference when talking for myself to enjoy, but sometimes people notice it and play off of it and that's how best friendships start. People who got the joke are pretty much all personalities, suprisingly more feelers than thinkers
i love this comment so much bc it's *exactly* how i entered one of the most fun (short-term) friendships I've ever experienced with an entp i met very randomly about a year ago
as an Infj i love jokes and playing them off if the person makes good ones of course 😂😂😂
@@Siyah-px2uy that’s why they say that the INFJ and ENTP combination is made in heaven. ;-)
I am an entp with some entj and intj characteristics. It is impossible to make friends for me xd
@@dhellta_226 why is that?
INFJ - Nothing better than your friend knowing, without being told, how you're feeling and not getting the wrong idea. Once in a while I almost disappear from interacting in our friend group's discord for a couple of weeks to go into a sort of cocoon of withdrawn-ness to recharge. At some point I always get worried that I'm making my friends feel bad but whenever I ask, one of my best friends tells me that she notices and knows that it's just something I need to do sometimes ❤
Also she, myself and one other close friend of ours have similar social batteries, so we always carpool together and are capable of telepathic communication as far as telling eachother when we're ready to leave.
So accurate. As an INFJ, I think we have a special talent to link with the deepest part of the others. It creates a close relation that sometimes we didn't notice ir was that close.
Can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out and will end up helping/talking to strangers get through the deepest darkest times and then walk away to never see or talk to them again… and I’m okay with that!
As an INTJ, the assessment to not push us into a friendship is very true. I have such a great relationship with my own circle because they respect my boundaries and don't try to force me to stay in a social situation, or demand more of me than I can allocate back. I simply don't have enough time and energy to invest myself in every friend collaboration and they respect that.
I love that your example for ISTP was inviting them to join a trivia team because that would actually work on me. I did quizbowl in high school and I kind of miss it
As an ISTJ that also sounds like a lot of fun
Dude I perked up at the suggestion lol. - ISTP
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@@catrice1296 lol same! I was super shy/had very bad social anxiety and rarely actually answered, but I enjoyed the competive nature, and our coach always had snacks, so practices were always fun. I remember once there was a bonus round and all the questions were about different martial arts, and I knew all of them, but we got the first question wrong because I was too nervous to speak up. I said the answer quietly but nobody thought it was right so they went with a different answer, and then after that they trusted my judgment for the rest of them
I'm an INFP, and I got a job where I have to be paired up one-on-one with a different coworker every day, and then be stuck with them for 8 hours. It's absolute torture when I get stuck with very talkative people who are a little too nosy (i.e. bringing up religion and politics on the the very first day that I've met them)
They are trying to connect with you on a deeper level 😃
@@neyayansen5322 I think you're right. It's stressful for me, but I appreciate their openness.
Omg zero routine
@@leipzigergnom yea maybe your energy level are different or it could be other reasons too😄
As an INFP I wouldn’t mind the religion/politics discussion. I find that infinitely more interesting and engaging than small talk.
Being ISTJ, I really appreciate people stick to what we have agreed upon, like if we agreed on meeting for a coffee, its just coffee (and not random spontaneous shopping, where I also have to explain myself, why I do no want) , if you say lets take a bicycle ride 10 km, its 10 km (read: not 5, not 15). Do I need to mention coming on time is a must have? 😄 When I get comfortable with a person this way, it gives space for spontaneity.
Well if a person is not able to stick with a plan or coming on time, I have no problem just minding my own business.
love the timestamps FJ
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ISFP here. The best way to be friends with a ISFP is just to be friendly, chill, and sincerely interested in both the person and their hobbies. Because we are “Adventurers” we do like to go on random adventures sometimes with no clear destination till we get there, but if we invite you along for the ride we consider you very close. Also if your cool with listening to music that is outside of “mainstream music” that’s a huge plus. One of the biggest things we love is music so we are always wanting to let those we love listen to tunes that makes us happy. The worst thing you could do is to downplay our interests/hobbies as “lame” or “uncool.”
As an ISFP, I agree with this👍
This was probably the most relatable thing anyone has ever said about being an ENFJ. I'm actively avoiding everyone rn because I'm so emotionally drained from my own issues at the moment that I can't talk to anyone for fear of them needing me 💀 but being alone is emotionally draining too so... I really can't win
Heh the paradox. I adore my ENFJ mate but I don't talk to her very often. She's out there doing all the things and I'm not trying to add to that. I'll message her back every week, ish (for context, my other friends hear from me maybe once every couple of months) just so she won't worry about me and so she can cross me off the list. I hope that other people won't take too much from her, because she's so giving, because she can't not give. When we do talk I have to battle her urge to make shit about me and turn it back to her lol. - ISTP
Totally been in a similar spot before. It really is the worst.
My encouragement is:
This too shall pass.
Married to ENFJ. This is very enlightening because I’ve been confused how someone so social can stand being so isolated recently. Thank you for sharing. -ENFP
i really like befriending enfjs because of this. i see you guys struggling to keep all of your friends entertained and happy, but you barely get it back. and as a provider of justice and truth(lol), i see it as my duty to free you of those shackles. telling my fe user friends that they actually shouldn’t take on others burdens and the people who are using them are evil is such a relief, especially when they agree to cut those people off. yall deserve better (: -estj
So truuuee I just moved and really want to make friends in my new area, but at the same time I’m like always subconsciously drawn to people who need help and I seriously can’t do that labor rn. But I’m LONELY
Spot on for INFJ T_T Especially the part about one sided friendships, there were so many moments where I would be surprised by the activities people suggest we do together, simply because I didn't even register that we were that close :O
lol yea, i had a very extroverted "friend" in college (i suspect ESFx) who would always invite me to her birthday, hangouts and whatnot and wouldn't stop even if i accepted only once in a blue moon. but what bothered me most was that there always were tons of other people already involved so I felt just like a a replaceable filler piece anyway. she never asked for a 1on1 meet-up except for specific study stuff. often i ended up sitting around among strangers, rather quietly and uncomfortably, without any meaningful conversations, looking for an excuse to go home..
Thankyou Frank. I'm an ISTP with an INFP mum. She so often thinks I hate her, now I know why. The sucky thing is, I just can't do emotions. Not because I don't want to, she's my mum, I literally can't. I've tried putting it on, but she can tell, and I feel like a complete idiot doing it. This is where having low FE really gets to me, I see when I need to do it, but just can't find the right words/actions to actually do it without sounding or looking like I'm faking it. 😬
Just know people, if you have an ISTP in your life who isn't great with emotions, know they love you, especially if they continue to be in your life. We don't mean any hurt, we literally can't emote like some people can't change a tyre. You couldn't order that person to change a tyre, same goes here. We be like 🤷♀️
I'm infp with an istp friend. Before this I didn't understand how istps work and how can we know if they like you or they value you in your relationship because how stoic they seem. And overall they really seemed very confusing to me and I didn't know how to even get to talk with them without feeling like I'm making them bored 😅.
But now after befriended my istp friend in our friend group I understand how they show love. Just like you said, they show love by wanting to be included in your life. They're not good with flowery words, but they're good at saying directly that they want YOU to be included in whatever they're doing. Everytime we hold events like hanging out or playing games or travelling my istp friend will always says something like "if (my name) goes, I'll go" or if one of us couldn't make ourselves available, my istp friend will get disappointed and I can sense her mood is gone. She's often very exclusively responsive and doesn't say much so we can't really sense her affection in the group. But when it comes to doing things irl, we (or me at least) can sense the subtle sign she's giving. It honestly warms my heart and I feel special bcz istps don't do that to most ppl and she doesn't even do that to her supposedly 'close friend'. It feels refreshing to get affection this way bcs all my life I've only received words of affirmation as love language (and I couldn't help that since infps are sucker for those lol)
@@apieceoftrash5673 That's actually pretty sweet. She must feel very comfortable around you, that's quite a feat. 😎
Agreed. We may seem stoic, but believe it or not, there is a person inside of us!
I'm an ENFJ and my best friend is an INFJ, she helps me just as much as I support her, we listen to each other and recognize when the other is drained ❤
Literally same. I’m an ENFJ and my roommate is an INFJ. We’re both very supportive of each other. I know her really well and can identify when she’s uncomfortable in situations and she helps me when I spread myself too thin.
hh for me i am an INFJ and my sister is an ENFJ, now we live together for uni and i think we finally getting along , more than before
As an INFP I completely agree with what you said. People half of the time are not even aware of how judgmental they're. And if I complain I hear that I'm too sensitive or take things too personally. But that's not the point. I understand that someone might not have any bad intentions, but it doesn't change my feelings at all. That's why I prefer to keep close to myself.
Yeah man same for me and if I tell someone don't do that they were like you can't take a joke but in my opinion even someone is not showing they are hurt by that word that doesn't mean they aren't hurt they might be somewhere in his or her heart hurted deeply so I didn't like to judge cause eventually it hurts them
My mom (an INFJ), will have conversations with random strangers & be overly friendly. But then she also has like no friends. It's the weirdest thing. She only has 2 friends I know of.
My INFP self also relates to this video cause I have such strong opinions on things & feel so much. Yet people who meet me know nothing about me even though they think they do everything. I am constantly being my authentic self but hide my emotions & opinions but I come off as an open book. The only people that know me completely are my mom, 1 out of my 8 siblings, & my boyfriend. It's not even that I am picky with friends, I just struggle with opening up & people tend to dismiss me a lot.
My boyfriend gained my trust the quickest because, our first interaction was him moving closer. Me questioning it. & Him saying it's so he could hear me better. He was an amazing listener & I wasn't being dismissed or invalidated like normal.
Anyways he's an INTP & he likes to analyze me a lot & we have very interesting, & deep yet overall meaningless conversation. It's beautiful. I love him.
My INFJ boyfriend is the same, he is so open, friendly and funny when talking to other poeple, but doesn't really have close friends who he frequently sees. I think it's because he is often just too submerged in his own interests and projects that he forgets to talk to. write to or invite people. It's not like he doesn't care. Meanwhile as an ENxP I often invite people to our flat or hang out with friends from time to time. He said he is taking notes on how I do it xD
I'm INFJ and do this, too. I like short chats while in public, you can ask me for help at the store, etc. But, there's a difference between cordiality and long-term friendship. I know pretty quickly who I wouldn't get along with in the long run, so why drag it out and make it inevitably uncomfortable for everyone?
@@otterinaballgown3703 it's just strange to me. Cause I get so anxious & nervous when strangers talk to me. & I always start thinking that I am about to be murdered when a stranger talks to me. No matter who it is.
That's a mix of trust issues though. I am comfortable with my 1 close friend (my boyfriend), mom, & siblings. I have people I hang out with when I feel like it but they don't really know me like they think.
I do get very talkative when I know someone a bit more. But that's about it. I just say a whole lot of nothing.
OMG😂 Infp here with Intp boyfriend as well❤
hey sorry i'm in an INFJ and idk why but i just knew you'd like mcr (i love them too) and i now love u sm
As an ENTP I really love when someone I meet is able to hold a nice natural conversation with me because what often happens is i have to change my pace to match the other person and that con get kind of boring
I'm not going to lie. I saw ENTP's and grinned big. There is nothing more fun than being able to talk to someone who can keep up with my brain like that. When I find it, *Chef's kiss*
Then I put them through my INFP BS to find if I'll actually trust them. 🤦♀️
As an istp/estp, there is nothing more Cool + Attractive than someone who can hold a good conversation about a topic that's actually interesting
It's so rare (for me) that when it does happen, it's fucking magic. - ISTP
I'm working on it - INFJ
me me me. i can talk about a hundred different topics and give you a hundred different facts. i just have yet to meet an actual xstp😭 you guys are so cool and i definitely want you in my life but where did you all go? especially estps are my favorite type😞 -estj
@shadowboxing7029 yeah it's hard to come by /:
@theglobalswede760 the key to ease in conversation is eliminating fear
@chancellorpuddinghead talking about a hundred topics sounds like such a good time rn. i have a kinda similar problem though, my brother is istp but he's the only other xstp i know, it's sad
@chancellor puddinghead I feel pretty cool myself with your words, thanks, and here I am, can keep conversations and switch them quickly, but people around really shy, and they often think that I am too energetic? So, I try to hold myself, ESTP, don't give up ^^
As an INTP, I really do admire those who can keep up with my thoughts and ideas (which is what you specified)
"if you respond in a way like, 'sure', like you're not trying to be a jerk or anything, but you're also not really engaging with that level emotion that they are putting into this, they're gonna be like,
'well, this person hates me now'"
as an INFP, LITERALLYYYYYYY i have never seen anything more accurate
ENFJ here. Being "someone they can spend time without worrying about your emotions" really got me, it's more true than it seems.
The top is someone who's also NEVER judging, even internally. We can sense it.
No pressure anyway 😀
My ENFJ friend said she appreciates me for both these things and I was surprised. I thought she liked coaching people through their emotions to help them. How interesting you guys are. :) (INTP)
judgers who don’t want to be judged
As an INFJ, I wholeheartedly concur with his assessment. I am trying to not hurt anyone's feelings, so I don't tell them I want them to give me space, and if they can't read the tired vibes I'm giving, I get more exhausted and they just vaguely wonder why I'm grumpy.
Infp here.. Yes ! Listen to us and be sincerely interested/involved.. Some people will just be talking for the sake of talking, asking questions but then won't let me finish and run into an other subject. I take time to open up but once I trust you, I want us to feel safe about sharing our thoughts and emotions. I want authenticity. But I can't vibe with everyone and if I don't feel a connection, I won't force it. I can't deal with ppl who lie, don't have moral values, are mean for no reason, manipulative... I'd rather chose carefully who I surround myself with. So yeah.. If you're close to me you are very special !
As an INTP, the description was extremely accurate 😌 It would be my dream for someone to start a conversation with “What if..” instead of the usual boring small talk phrases like wHEre ArE yOu FrOm or dO yOu hAve Any SiBLiNgs. Also thank you for shouting out Chilean viewers (as one myself ofc) it made my day 🥹
INFP here. I have a picture of my wife and I at an Alaskan dog sled camp. I look like I am bored out of my mind, but I was mind blowingly happy. It was one of the best days of my life. Sometimes I look at it just to remind myself that I can be hard to read, and to let people know what I am thinking/feeling.
With my ENFP friend, he seems like he is like a Golden Retriever who considers everybody a friend, and you have to be a pretty big jerk to get on his bad side.
I'm ENFP and exactly like that
As an ENFP (almost ambivert), I feel like different sides of me have different groups of friends. Some of my friends would not understand my more poetic, sensitive side (I have INFPs for that ❤). Some of my friends have more conservative or rigid understanding of the world, and there are topics I don't fully, freely explore with them. People may think that's not authentic, yet I have a genuine heart connection with all of them, and that's what counts. Their different personalities are fascinating and they all enrich my life in their own beautiful ways.
I relate to this (fellow ENFP)
Thanks, this comment feels right. Mostly I don’t like ENFPs in FJ videos. Not because the image is not very flattering, but somewhat superficial and not very thought out. Like we are not interesting at all. I believe we are deeper than that 😌 maybe he just doesn’t like ENFPs, whatever
@@bravemoon2124 I don't think he would misrepresent a type on purpose. He probably doesn't have a full understanding of yall yet
Fr
Yes, people are books. Different types of books give a different feelings, you group them according.
This shows why my ENFJ husband and my INTP self work well together- He knows I'm not going to be emotionally taxing, and I know he's willing to follow my crazy ideas.
As an INFP i actually long and yearn for friendship but at the same time i am really selective of who i choose to become friends with this is a very complicated feeling...
Does it feel like most people wouldn't accept or understand your feelings and will judge you harshly for it?
As an INFJ I live in under the phrase “I may be their best friend but they’re not my best friend”
As an INTP who can read peoples' types fairly easily, this is helpful.
As an infp I find it hard to make friends because people tend to get bored of me really quickly, it takes literal *months* of continuous communicating with me before I even feel comfortable cracking a joke around someone let alone holding a conversation with them for more then 10 minutes- so safe to say a lot of people don't have the patience, which is understandable! But now, thanks to this video I've gained some awesome friend making knowledge >:D So maybe I can use that and reveal some super secret friendship powers I didn't know I had ^.^
Thank u for adding time stamps
6:25 ENTJ IS SO ACCURATE.
7:15 yes but they will also cut you out if you try to set boundaries more than once (you should have known it’s a one time pass apparently), change at all, or lie about something that is so completely insignificant that it should have become an in-joke, and probably would have in any other situation. But noooo, now I just can’t play chess anymore without having an identity crisis njfjckfhvjdkdjdjdkdmfhfjfjfjdk
15:36 Also, as an INTJ, yes this is the hardest part, but also the most important part of keeping my one best friend who is an infj
And yes I do love time how did you know
As an INTP
I find it funny how accurate that is, because a lot of conversations I have are "What if...?" questions
As a fellow infj it's so difficult when you're just tired of social interactions but people KEEP TAKING IT PERSONAL like c'mon, I like you, but I need spaaaceeeee 😭
"They can be very difficult to read... all the time."😅 100%! You hit the nail on the head with INFPs. Yes, to all of it.
- An INFP.
You also have to be willing to pursue the INTP. We're not coming to you and we're often lost in our own heads. Gentle persistence is necessary if you want to be actual friends and not simply close proximity acquaintances.
I'm an intp and I did this to my best friend. She used to be an intp too. An absolute book worm. Even though I was not a big reader, I would sit in the library with her everyday and we slowly stared talking. I'm glad I persisted because we have been friends for 7 years. A lot of people just don't stick around.
"Intj's are like turtles" true, true😂
I'm an INFP, he's so on point with these that it's scary
(INTJ) Ah yes, I see. That's spot on with the ENFJ. I'm _his_ advice guy, and maybe my low outward emotion is refreshing to him.
Me, an INFJ, watching this to see how people can become friends with me
ENTJ - Yep it’s suuuper easy to become friends with me but as a progress-oriented person, I only keep friends that are good, reliable people. Nailed it!
Great video! However, I disagree with the ENFP one. It's not really a good idea to sorta adapt to the vibe of one group because usually ENFPs have different groups of friends. As an ENFP, you tend to be an ambivert. One day you feel like hanging out with bigger groups of people, some days you prefer 1-to-1 convos, maybe even alone time. You may also have friends for different interests, etc. The point is, you need different groups of people to meet those different needs. Every group will have a different vibe, which is awesome. But it means there isn't one vibe you can chameleon into. An enfp is a rainbow of vibes.
The best thing you can do is to be authentic. It's very noticeable to us when you try to adapt to others too much. We smell inauthenticity from miles away. It feels fake and shallow - it won't impress us. It's much more fun and relaxing when someone can be themselves around you. It feels like they trust you and care enough about you to put their guards down. That's a sign of respect. That's the 'vibe' I'd personally want to see. I don't care whether you fit into a group. I want to connect with the person you are.
And by being confident to be yourself, you also give subconscious permission to me to be authentic. Very often ENFPs feel like they need to adjust to a group, only show one side of themselves. They both love and hate their Ne, because they've often been made to feel like they're too much. Be yourself, show both your chill and loud sides and you give us the permission to do the same.
More tips;
-- Be excited about what you love. Don't just try to please us or adapt to what we like, show us what makes you tick. What are the things that you enjoy doing?
-- Be curious about who we are and ask questions. ENFPs can be huge people pleasers and tend to only ask others. If you ask ENFPs questions about who they are, what they like or what they think about a certain topic, you show them that you value them and their perspective.
-- Be open to adventure and be able to be a bit spontaneous. ENFPs love new experiences. It's very difficult to find someone who likes going from thing to the next as much as us. And we don't expect it from everyone all the time. It's just nice to have people to go on adventures with sometimes. Who like to do something new, even if they're really awful at it. Especially if they sometimes come up with the idea. It's just nice to have someone who sometimes takes the initiative and comes up with something new.
-- Think a little outside the box. Make an effort to think about options that are meaningful to the ENFP. It can be very simple. For a birthday, don't just buy chocolates, or a gift card. It can be very meaningful to the cute store in town and buy a special trinket that makes you think of them for a certain reason. Letting the ENFP know you actually remember what they say or like.
Or you can even go to an art class, instead of the movies for a date. It doesn't matter that it's perfect. It matters that you made the effort to think about what the ENFP might like. If you'd to get it wrong, a healthy ENFP won't be offended. They'll be charmed by your effort, will share what they'd love to do instead so you can do it another time. It's just about you trying and making the effort to getting to know them.
-- Be open to accepting different sides of our personality. It's very hurtful if someone only appreciates us when we're on our best, or highest energy. Don't be too surprised or upset if the ENFP will have days where he/she just prefer to stay indoors and watch a movie together.
I agree (as a fellow ENFP)
This is absolutely correct. Probably why I don't get along very well with unhealthy xxFJ's.
Absolutely right 👍
I'm infp but my boyfriend is enfp, all this sounds super accurate to me. I love how spontaneous he is and I love trying new things with him. We have a million inside jokes. Somehow he is still finding and acquiring food that I've never even heard of before. I can't wait to explore the world with him for the rest of my life❤
Yes please just be yourself and don’t mind me being myself 😁
I feel easier to connect with people who has similar interests.
~ A random INTP
Agreed 🙋🏻♀️
Agreed +1
~ Another random INTP
Agreed
-another INTP
Yes indeedy!
-INTP
Thank you for making these videos Frank! As an INTP with severe social anxiety (progressing tho), this is honestly gold content for me lol
Intj- not trying to make friends but, I agree. I like smooth people. It is like trying to take me on a date. I will always say no but if you are clever enough, I will grow on you and change my mind.
It's funny cuz I know as an INFP that if I don't express my emotions people aren't gonna know, but I feel things so intensely that I assume it's just RADIATING out of me for all to see, so it feels like overkill to say it.
Like even if it's positive: if I like someone I assume I'm acting accordingly so saying it would seem needy.
I'm working on it though. Great video as always Frank ❤
I feel exactly the same. It’s like I feel a category 5 hurricane raging inside, but others only see a light breeze blowing leaves around.
I'm an infp but my emotions apparently show up on my face. 😂
I didn't realize that I do this until reading your comment. Thank you, you have given me something to work on.
-an INFP
As an ENFJ, you are totally right. I try so hard to be there for so many people and care about people. People often take advantage of my kindness. I keep being there for them even if sometimes I don't want to but the people I really enjoy the most, are the ones who are chill and we can have a good time and also care about what I am going through too not just what they are going through. It is nice. Also I love your content Frank James. I have been watching you for a few years now at least. Keep up the great work.
Absolutely! Honestly the one sided nature and a lot of the therapy provision (lol) has actually made me quite antisocial now. I used to have tons of friends but I’ve just kept a few now. The ones I’ve kept actually have two way conversations and are pretty damn chill.
Hi Frank James your videos are getting better day by day 😊
Thanks 🧡
INTJ, INTP and ISTJ all 3 describe me perfectly. Yes, please don't pressurize me constantly to open up. It takes me a long while before I start opening up to new people and hence have a hard time making friends. People around me constantly ask me to speak more and I've just had enough of it. Sometimes I want to shout at them to shut up but I just smile at them and stay silent. 😅
i once had a close social media friend who was an ENTP and was always trying to meet me, he was pressuring me into it and it made me just not interested in meeting him anymore. Even worse it made me not want to talk to him because he brings it up everytime we talked. He eventually understood how my personality works and just stopped asking me to meet him. Instead he said once after some time of not bringing the subject of meeting into our conversations that he was visiting a new bookstore in our city and because he knew i loved books he talked to me about it in case i was interested in accompanying him. The way he was chill about it and didn't put any pressure on me like he usually does automatically made me down for the idea and we finally met. good advice Frank!
-INTJ.
As an INFJ in relationship with an INFP, I find the INFP section of analysis (by an INFJ) is strikingly correct. The 3 big "no" are (1) never judge your INFP, (2) never criticize her (no matter how your remarks may be benevolent) and (3) never let her alone with her emotional or any other problems. God bless you FJ for your continuous effort. Now the MBTI light shines upon our lives and this is you whom we'd be grateful to. Still I wonder why the INFJ skit (or whatever) always comes the last.
I’m one of those weird INTJ’s who really likes to talk but it makes me really tired quick. So I’ll be talking someone up a wall and then randomly shut down. Also this video is true. Don’t pressure someone like I, we probably will find an excuse to leave or simply walk away. Just how it be I guess.
This is a fun video, Frank! I should have taken notes because I liked a lot of the silly that went along with the teaching. In any case, these are great things to know in making friends. INFJ-very true. We need people to understand the feels and the vibes and give us our space when we need it. Thank you! ☺
INFP. Sincerity and attentiveness is accurate. However I'm also very selective about my friends. People with purpose and something unique, who inspire and touch my soul draw me in.
For the INFP, that is so true. I feel things sooo strongly but rarely show the full experience of my emotions. I can be super happy and my family will just tell me to smile more or people will ask me what's wrong when I'm happy. 😂
If I find myself learning something new whenever I talk to you, you are likely to become my friend! My Ne and Te love new information! - ENFP
Oh, now I understand why I tend to get along with ENTPs, as an INFP. I really like having conversations about random topics b/c I can easily tie things back to how they personally affect me and those I’m close to, or how it affects really anything, and this makes me feel more passionately about the topics being discussed. I also appreciate an ENTPs way of viewing things in a nihilistic way, b/c deep down I’m thinking the same.
wow as an isfp you described my dream friends. I just dream of going on a trip with a friend/s and stumbling upon a beautiful view or lake or roses and just stopping to fully embrace what is before us. perhaps going for a swim in the lake, smelling the roses, watching the view for as long as we want...... that just sounds magical to me!!!!
because now i usually wonder off when i am on a trip with my friends, cause I see something that I want to explore furthermore, while they have a plan that they want to achieve and don't find much interest in the things that i find fascinating (like rolling in the sand for half an hour lol)
Yes, I've been through my fair share of one sided friendships, usually because I just haven't gotten the "mutual vibes" from the other party.
Just look at some 4 chan thread , they have a shit Ton of info that goes into detail on how make friends and get the vibes goin
Average lack of Fe moment (same, I struggle with picking up “vibes” too)
Thank you for the ENFJ on the picture ❤😊
As an ESFP it’s so easy to befriend me- just laugh with me or talk to me and just propose things to do together! Literally don’t even need words! I’m down for everything ! (I’m too easy it’s fine) or you can just plain say you want to be friends and I’ll literally ADORE YOU FOR IT BC WHAT THATS SO CUTE YOURE MY BESTIE NOW
do you want to be my friend?? i crave adventures
@@user-hw6bi5uc1q definitely! LETS GOOOOOOOOOO!!!! I LIVE FOR ADVENTURES!!
@@hanayanah ILL BRING THE FRENCH FRIES AND SPEAKERS
I’m an infp and in regards to friendship i’m just not really into talking about me or you lol. If we can just talk about aliens or monsters or soundtracks then you’ve got a bestie!
I am an ENFP and I mostly want to be friends with everyone nice. Well ofc not everyone and it might be related to my personal trauma from being treated like an outcast and not having friends in previous school bc I am 'weird', but the first thing I did after coming to new school was try and talk to most people to decide which of them I want to be friends with. Sounds so harsh, I know. But the judgement was mostly based on what type of people they are. If they are nice (which I concluded in about a month), I most certainly am hanging out with them.
Yes kind people! I look for kind people as well.
Accurate. Frank 95% of the time gets things right to the T.
As an INTJ - I approve this message.
If there is something that has broken friendships over the years for me its people who have pushed me to be a part of something I don't want any part in.
Clingy friendships are the absolute worst.
And complaining that I ignored them because it would take me a couple of days to respond to messages that I deemed completely stupid and useless.
Even if someone is my friend, if they text me something like "Hey I saw a cute purse at the store the other day." I'd just roll my eyes and go back to doing something productive. If they can't accept that pointless conversation isn't my cup of tea, then they aren't my cup of tea either. I have far better things to do with my time.
It's difficult to get close to an ISFP if you don't share our interests, but you're totally right that what we're focused on changes every day lol One day all I want to do is go to a concert, the next day might be a video game day, next day I want to read or write. Whatever it is, you can't interrupt what I'm in the mood for, you just have to join in or wait for the next time we're in the mood for the same thing.
editor kevin: "frick, now i gotta find a picture of a vibraphone." 🤣 the toxic work environment comment was hilarious, and i love when FJ does seinfeld .... kramer is frickin *spot on* and cracks me up every dang time. 🤣 good info in here and this video was tight, guys! nice work!
Ditto! I love all that stuff too! Giddy up!😂
There was this one girl in school who I really wanted to be friends with, but every time I'd say something to her and try to open up, she'd just say "Good for you." And she'd leave it at that. I definitely got the impression that she really didn't care whatsoever about what I had to say. It felt like my mere presence was annoying to her. So I do hate dismissiveness, and I learned from her that I really hate that phrase in most situations. Spot on 👌
-INFP
This was so spot on that I can't believe it. (INFJ). It absolutely turns me off if I need to say bluntly to someone that I'm tired or need space. I'd rather just disappear from the face of the earth (and have done that too, figuratively speaking). Now I just need to write out the manual and start handing it out to potential friends 😁
I am often mislabeled as an "open" and "friendly" person despite being an INFP because I tend to show confidence with just strangers about (I mean they don't know me so it wouldn't hurt if I'm expressive about my feelings and thoughts). As time passes and the more I get to know these people, however, the more I'm inclined to clam up. In the end, I always sense that people think they know me but it turns out things are way deeper than they see.
Oooh...same goes for me! :>
And hmm what kind of people you would like as a friend?
I have a friend INFP but don't really understand when they like me or don't. I mean they say they like all of me and care and love me but at the same time they are so closed and difficult to get to know.
As an INFP I try to make an effort to explain my beliefs or my shitty situation in a way that I don't get judged in the first place, especially with people that I know will not get it. The conversation then almost always ends there in awkard silence lol
Non infps arent even interested in conversation. They always think about what they could be doing at any given moment instead of linving in it. However if you have something valuable to offer you will receive a few kind words and feel no connection at all.The way I see it you can only have a real conversation with a therapist and thats if they are good at their job lol
I let them talk first, for the first several interactions. The conversation will be about them until I feel I know them enough to trust them with what I think or feel -infp
As an INFJ I confirm this. The good thing that me and my friend don't care about contacting each other but we luv each other and meat a somewhat a lot and having a good time. I rlly appreciate my real friends and ppl I luv >
INFJ here, I can be rather approachable, but I can be selective of those I'm vulnerable with or open up to. I can be rather reluctant to open up because I tend to not like being vulnerable unless I KNOW being in such a state won't be utilized. I can be casual, but if things get too close for comfort, I may or may not perform an evasive manuver. Being reliable will be an immediate golden ticket though.
It's easier to be friends with us! Just treat us nicely and be honest! 😊❤
~ Sincerely an ENFJ 🩷
My husband is an INTJ and another thing that is important to him in a friendship is the ability to have an intelligent conversation and not have the other person be offended when he disagrees with them. He thrives on hearing well thought out opinions that are different from his own so when he hears one he digs into it, which sometimes make people think he’s being mean when really he’s just curious.
As an ISTJ, yes I admit I am difficult to get to know, but once I trust you you’ll see a whole world of quirky hiding inside! 😊
Oh your relationship is very a good case examples for me I’m INTJ my boyfriend is ISTJ.
We barely talk and he is very kept everything inside his head, sometimes I kinda annoy too cuz I like to speak very directly what I want or what I will say but he doesn’t.
May I ask how you guys are communicating?
@@Peggy-Roses I’m certainly not a relationship expert, but here’s a couple things that work for us. My husband has a very active brain so sometimes if I need to talk to him about something I ask “is this a good time to talk about x?” Or if I sense he’s not taking in what I’m saying a quick “Are you listening?” not in a rude way, just to let him know I need his attention. That way I can give him some space if he needs it and he knows I need to talk. If your INTJ doesn’t talk much, I’d say don’t push him to, but when he does open a conversation try your best to be both interested and interesting so he knows he can trust you with his thoughts. Then he may start to open up a bit more.
Oh absolutely INTPs are so easy to become friends with. I agree with this summary so much. "What if" is everything.