Re : The REAL Truth About Arielle Scarcella (Response To Kalvin Garrah)
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The problem is that everyone takes everything as a personal attack. The point is that females rights and trans right conflict, there can't be real equality because that would mean to disregard issues that are exclusively related to biological women or disregard issues that are exclusively linked to transsexual and their journey.
Hey there! How are transwomen and bio women right conflicting? This is a genuine question btw. I'm willing to learn :)
@@tamashiikyomei4046 I tried to reply to you but my comment was removed.
@@rosered6876 That is happening more frequently lately 🤔
@@tamashiikyomei4046 So, if we talk about transwomen, they are competing against women in sports. Even if I believe we should be inclusive, there are reasons why sports are sex segregated, it's because biologically, men and women are different. Men are stronger, and faster. We are not okay to make a man fight against a woman because the fight is unbalanced, because biologically men are stronger, especially if they train everyday. Transitioning doesn't change your biology, and if you have always trained your advantage remains. Their right to be included and not being discriminated is in contrast with the right of women to have a fair competition against other women.
Just as an example.
@@frankiethebookworm3163 Gotcha! I was aware of those cases. I thought that there were other, let's say, fundamental differences. But what you're saying is true and I agree with you.
I'm a trans man but I was born a bio female. Am I supposed to forget the 20 years I was a female? I also cant get the 20 years of being born a male. Trans activists need to be more realistic and accept that trans women are different than women and same with trans men and men.
I think what annoys me about all these “communities” is that from an outsider looking in; it looks like these “communities” must be in lock step and be a Hivemind. Why can’t everyone have their own opinions? I have gay Christian conservative friends, friends who are atheists that are very pro democrat, politically independent friends who will lean depending on the policy or social view. We all get along and have our own stories about our struggles. We support when needed and listen but not fix when needed.
@@ldc3214 i agree. I feel like I'm not even apart of my own community because of my different opinions. If everyone just minded their own business and lived their best lives we wouldn't fight but oh well🤷♂️
@@cap10aiddles39 The problem is done people can’t handle a peaceful life. So they make it miserable for others because they only find purpose & meaning in actual pain & suffering.
No Brainer. But they exist in a world of lies.
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Oh my god, I (female) literally looked into transitioning as a teenager (now 22). Gender dysphoria was a term that made sense in my discomfort toward my body so I defined it as such. My family was incredibly un-supportive so it didnt go past my clothing/hair choices. And now in retrospect I know that my discomfort was a result of sexual abuse.
Trans activists dont want me to exist, nor any similar experience to be valid. I understand why my experience may add barriers to transitioning and that is upsetting and counter-productive.
But I agree that it is misogynistic to brush experiences like mine under the carpet, this is affecting the most vulnerable groups of young women and I'm sorry but that DOES matter.
Exactly, which is why it is utterly dangerous to self-ID without a proper psychological evaluation.
You should thank your family somewhere down the road for not letting you jump into the deep end.
Wow. I’m so sorry you went through that but it’s a great example why we should let kids and teens transition so young.
@@DarknessIsThePath Well on the flip side. Men can identify as women & avoid false accusations. Made by the bad apples of women who pretend to act as though they’ve had bad experiences, that they’d have otherwise falsely accuse the guys of doing if, the innocent men didn’t identify as a Masculine Presenting Trans Lesbian just so they aren’t blamed or demonized as part of “the patriarchy” in the 1st place.
So in that way, the Trans community had been doing more for men’s rights then the MRAs ever did in it’s entire lifetime.
@@maribart4237 NOT. Should not..
Sometimes I feel like they just say “I was 100% in support of this person when they are making pro trans opinions but when they start talking about women’s rights, thats anti-trans”
It’s like, huh???
Cus it disproves their feelings. They use our plight then disrespect us
That's exactly what they're saying.
Just wanted to let you know my like was number 69.
That is all ❤
That text about male entitlement just really shows how Kalvin sees the world in black and white. Its either good or bad, he either accepts someone or completely shuns them, no room for a grey area; when reality is made in the grey.
I agree , kinda , that’s why trans women act how they do. FORCING themselves on us like MEN do, but they can’t see that🤣
Exactly. Grey areas are the meaning of life. It's freedom of speech, and freedom to be individuals. You shouldn't have to choose a side on every issue. There should be Grey areas to choose, and discuss as rational human beings.
“This book I’ve never actually read written by a person I have zero info about is DEFINITELY bad...” 🤔🧐🤔🧐
The title is easy to misunderstand
Yeah 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@@noodlesdorkenson4674 I agree. That’s exactly why people say you don’t judge a book by it’s cover 😁
Sometimes children would rather not open a book and read something they may challenge their belief system. Liberals or leftest are like this also.
I had to have a large debate with someone how the misappropriation of the word trans by people who basically are gender curious and don't have physical dysphoria is causing all of the issues. I see it as abuse for parents/teachers to promote that any form of behaviour being gender non conforming makes children "trans", as that's putting a gender binary on behaviour that didn't need to exist and stigmatising childrens natural curiosity.
As someone who has followed Blaire for a long time, knowledge of calvin and recently started watching Arielle's video's after discovering her on twitter the overview i get of everyone is that Blaire and Arielle spend quite a long time researching topics before making videos to try and analyze both sides viewpoints. Sure, sometimes they get things wrong but we are all humans and make mistakes now and again.
Calvin on the other hand while being central and a good person seems to jump to the first conclusion a lot of the time and with the example of this book doesn't always do the appropriate research on topics he covers and let's his emotions lead his narrative too much.
I don't think any of the above are bad people, calvin just seems less mature than the other two and implements less critical thinking before posting his videos which often leads him to more pessimistic conclusions.
Calvin is also the youngest and fairly edgy xd
@@southamericunt6354 this also might come off as a little sexist but in most cases men actually fully mature at a later age than women due to brain chemistry.
@@tokofukawap4055 Not to mention the adult brain isn't fully developed until you're 25
@@leviacronym6770 and kids transition as such a young age, they are just groomed by the media and it’s sad.
@@tokofukawap4055 That isn't sexist though, that's just biology
I was one of those women who identified as a trans man. I didn’t realize that what I was suffering from was PTSD and not Gender Dysphoria. Doctors were so ready to help me transition right away instead of getting down to the root of my problems, which was being a sexual assault survivor. I only figured out I have PTSD because I did my own research and told my doctor.
@Leo Gabriel it was the same for me as a trans woman. In my country (the Netherlands) you need a diagnosis of gender dysporia before you are even allowed to medically transition and even after the diagnosis they want to make sure you are in a 'safe' position to transition medically (mostly means being out to family and friends and having presented as the preferred gender for a couple of months). It took me 2.5 years to be allowed to start to medically transition. Doctors were very critical and wary and wanted to know every detail of my past. Even when you are allowed to start medically transitioning the waiting lists are very long and some can take up to longer than a year. Over here it is definitely not something you can just do right away if you feel like it. From what I have heard it is the same in most Western European countries.
Amen same
Kristinaw Same here in Germany. You need to go to therapy a certain time and you need to live your life with your preferred pronouns and gender for a certain time publicly so you have the chance to discover yourself and your life. Then, if you pass (in life) you get the diagnosis from your psychotherapist so you can start hrt and operations. Normally your therapy is advised to take time for 18month before you can start hormones and six month on HRT before you can start operations.
(Edit i was connecting this mostly with the other replies so if it doesn't sound like a complete reply to you its bc i was just. Adding to the other trans guys that replied)Doctors can only rely on you, if both the doctors and you believed it was gender dysphoria, why wouldn't they help you in that. But also in most places(speaking in the US, idk where you are) it's typical to go to therapy for months/a year before even starting a physical transition. It may have been overly easy for you but that's not even mentioning you having to do your own discernmnent for yourself. Would I be okay being called this? Why do i feel like this is right? Could it be something else? It's more personal discovery and im glad you figured it out before anything bad really happened
I understand it can be harder for some physicians to treat PTSD than gender dysphoria (bc in the latter case they simple refer the patient away & don't deal with them). I'm a neuro & was always a scientist & athlete who, if I'd grown up as a teen in 2020, I prob would've thought I should transition to a man. Believe me, it takes until your mid-20s before a human brain is even fully developed, so I strongly advise against medical transition before that
Arielle, he said it exactly right, YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON. Youre willing to go through all this bs and lose friends to stand up for what you believe and ESPECIALLY right now thats soooo fucking hard to do. You could have easily just kept it all to yourself for the sake of comfort but you didnt! keep going youre awesome
she makes videos that are straw man arguments looking to the fringe as if its common place.
@@polkarou3572 The problem is it IS common place, this ideology is coming to ELEMENTARY SCHOOLS and don't tell me it's not because I have a 5th grader and the school sent the curriculum out literally saying they KNOW it will be an issue...so it's not "fringe" it's being injected everywhere and effecting everyone which is why people are pushing back...
@@polkarou3572 bs
@@polkarou3572no, it is common place. Teenagers found the trans movement and started identifying with it trying to make sense of whatever insecurities they have, but they aren’t actually trans. Arielle is pointing out the very glaring signs that this is a problem for everyone, trans and not trans. She is doing more for the community then other activists claim to be doing
Did that person LITERALLY judge a book by its cover?
Yep... completely disappointed in him... thought he was better than that.
Do you expect him to research a whole book just for some tweet? It’s literally pointless, and one piece of a giant argument.
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b then why include it all, especially after stating that they know nothing about it other than the cover? Great way to invalidate your own position.
@@Nightwatcher20 что в этой книге написано?
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b Short answer? Yes. If you're going to comment, at least know what you're talking about. If you don't want to read the whole book, Abigail Schrier has done a number of talks and interviews on the same material.
Her big point is exactly what Arielle said - that girls who are not suffering from gender dysphoria, but the normal struggles girls go through while developing into women, are increasingly being "pushed" by the culture, therapists, teachers, etc., into transitioning. And the numbers are even higher in Autistic girls and women, who ALREADY don't fit into the world.
Speaking as a now-adult Autistic woman, I can pretty safely say that if how things are today was how things were in my teens and early 20s, there is a high likelihood I would have been caught up in this phenomenon.
I think all of us just really want there to be more safeguards, and to be sure there are no other underlying causes besides actual gender dysphoria before ANYONE starts transitioning.
its very hard now a days to talk about woman's issues bc its seen as terfy, you are very brave pls never stop making content related to it
WHY is being a TERF even a bad THING??? What if women wants to live a life where other women are important for them, they dqte other women etc, HOW can that be q bad thing? That's just silly.
I agree she is very brave to stand up for what she believes is right.
Everyone doesn't have to agree with you on 100 of your beliefs. It's ok to agree to disagree.
But we shouldn't be fighting each other. We should be coming together as a whole community women, men, black white, Asian, Indian, gay, lesbian, bi, trans, all of us. Not fighting amongst ourselves.
Arielle: The point here is that you condensed a 40 minute long video into 20 minutes where you fixate on points that were not black and white. There ARE crazy trans people. You made a point to include every single part. of the video where I had something nice to say about you but then turn around and fail to include the countless arguments that you make which I debunk in the video. This is VERY selective editing. I would love to hop on a UA-cam live stream one day and debate/conversate on these topics, because once again, you cut out MANY of the points I made.
I agree, a debate would be a 100 times better than video responses
Kalvin I agree 100%. It reminds me of her response to noahfinnce. Very dishonest. The worst part of this video is the comment section. They call u a sjw for respectfully distancing yourself from Arielle. I am sure that Arielle’s fans would scream if they got called fascists for disagreeing with you.
Kalvin, I would love to see that happen. I cannot believe all the support she's getting when she completely avoided very important points. Like when she said trans women have male aggression. Are we gonna pretend that didn't happen Arielle?? Why not address that? Also I've noticed people are pointing out that you're flipping back to "sjw". I fully disagree. I feel like I'm about a year ahead of you but that our thoughts parallel very well. I started out full sjw, went very conservative for a while there and now I'm falling somewhere in the middle. You're allowed to change your opinions and points. That's called growing up.
A debate in live-time would allow you to both get your points across without editing anything. Sounds like a great idea, hopefully your comment gets bumped up or pinned.
I think a lot of people would want to see that debate.
I just love how trans people and activists say don't judge, but are judging people without really listening or looking into what's being said.... or trying to silence people who disagree with them. It's gotten to the point where I won't even interact with them.
I don't know what to say. Ah~
I used to blindly accept all trans stuff, but then I saw the homophobia and misogyny in some of the beliefs/ideas. It is scary and we should be able to have calm conversations. Disagreements aren't necessarily personal attacks.
Not even 30 seconds in but- "childish" lmao? You're the 30 year old who befriended children sorry if just 3 years later they're not up to par with your level of "maturity"
That doesn't diminish any of her points but okay.
@@a.h.8269 It kinda does, either they were mature enough for Arielle to befriend years ago, or she was already aware of their childishness & her benifiting in the power imbalance from the start. If it's the latter she should have been more reserved & cautious in what she encouraged them to do & what they did together, both in public & in private.
She doesn't admit any mistakes here which makes me loose some respect for her. (I don't agree with everything Kalvin said either btw.)
Like lmao you're so right-why is she friends with children? That's so creepy. There are plenty people her age and she chose children.
@@TMtM-gk8bj the same thing could be said for Blair as she's 26 or 27
You can't dispute any of her points, so you just come after her for befriending young adults. Amazing.
Kalvin is literally calling you a terf with extra steps. Ridiculous
I feel like this shows that there is a divide between the LGBT Community that is older and the one that is full of the younger generation. The older generation seems to be more about preserving and LGBT community and pushing for rights. While the newer one seems to be so open about who is part of the community it loses its meaning as a community.
I read a stat from a non biased source (the J Walter Thompson innovation group) that said 50% of zoomers interviewed identify as LGBT. It looks as though the definition of LGBT has become so broad that more and more people consider themselves to be a part of the community
Kalvin Garrah is not progressive, at all, He is often criticized for it. Just facts.
@@lenagarossi6997 he belives in the whole non binary people are trans that sounds prograssive.
Ben Simon non binary ppl don’t identify as their assigned gender is that the definition on trans???
QS729 trans people make up like 1% of the population though... it’s definitely not a bad thing, but 50% seems like an unusually high number, even to the other LGBT+ people I’ve shown the stat to
how can you say "let's get feminism and trans activism to coexist" when you frequently say that feminism and trans activism are contradictory and that they don't go together????
Look up the definition of coexist.....
Umm... Because both feminism and trans activism can co-exist-- they can respect each other and know they are two completely different fights.
But in a lot of ways, they are contradictory as feminism is, at its core, to do with sex equality, not gender equality.
meat eaters and vegans beliefs are contradictory yet its still possible for them to coexist
theism and atheism are contradictory and they can coexist
catholics and gays
conservatives and liberals
they can all coexist.
even at the most extreme, the kkk and black people (look up daryl davis)
i've seen plenty of these groups including feminists and trans activists peacefully coexist.
it's when ignorance is present that they cannot coexist.
ikr like feminism literally mean equality for all.. so is her definition of feminism excluding trans people?
Tiffani okay.... “exist at the same time or in the same place.” Then feminism and trans activist already coexist. Why did Arielle say that we need to MAKE them coexist then?
I'm a female with PTSD and BPD, who was considering transition, and I was not even a teen at that time, I was 22-23. 30 now, cured PTSD and happy that I didn't mutilate my body.
Calvin seems like the kind of person that wants you to serve them then thank them for allowing you to serve.
He’s just a kid with very limited life experience. Still overly passionate about things he deems very important. At that age and stage in the human life cycle that often means viewing very nuanced issues through a very black and white lens. Even though kids at that age believe themselves very enlightened they tend to back their own views by demonizing opposing views. That’s why you’re a transphobe, I’m a transphobe, everybody’s a transphobe.
It can be hard to deal with when one has traversed so many more stages along the lifecycle. I’m dealing with it with my ftm trans son. So passionate now with all of their young like minded friends but people and groups grow and fall a part and eventually grow up and go their separate ways. It’s not as easy to make friends as one gets older or moves to a new city or country and I imagine that is much harder when one has made physical transitions.
@@cebaker5671 Children should be taught to love harder than they hate and that’s not common knowledge any more.
Teach them well.
At this point I think the lesbian community should really seperate from the LGBT alphabet soup. I love my gay brothers, I dont mind bisexuals but Im tired of being called a TERF from the Trans community simply for being a lesbian that want to advocate for women's rights.
Yeah, saaaame. I hate what the community has become. Apparently if you don't agree with absolute everything, you're immediately a terf, a fetishist, a traitor etc...
Like, I was in an LGBT Facebook group and I introduced myself "Hey, I'm Emily, I'm 19 and a lesbian" and the amount of death and rape threats and "F*cking terf!" comments I got was astounding. I just commented "So why isn't this group called the GBT community as you're all being so unwelcoming and homophobic to me? How ironic that you're being so discriminatory", and then they just kicked me out of the group.
That may be a good idea!
@@Nightwatcher20
Unfortunately, what you're seeing isn't really anything new, and which I have been seeing brewing for at least ten years, if not longer (yes, I am old ... don't remind me ...) ...
I could go into a long essay, but, at the most basic level, is the whole proposition that "If I say I'm trans, then I'm trans. I do _not_ need a Dr to validate my identity!!!" is true. Except, self-id-ing, as Rose of Dawn (a fellow Brit of mine) oh so neatly described, whilst made with the best of intentions, is a road to hell, as it leaves everything wide open to misuse, and abuse, as personified by " the titanic troon, JY" ...
And yes, whilst there is a good proportion of trans individuals whom do stick by the need for medical diagnosis, as their own dysphoria did require medical treatment, especially in the form of HRT, and in the case of many transmen, either top surgery and/or a full hysterectomy, there is a turf war (yes, I know ...) between them, and the rest of the trans community, whom are upset that gender dysphoria still remains in the DSM. Unfortunately, you were 'collateral damage' in that war, and, in some ways, had nothing to do with you, as a person. Rather, as you stated that you're a lesbian (a perfectly reasonable thing to do ...), those whom are on the pro self-identifing side of the debate, automatically assumed, even without talking to you, that you must be one of _those_ lesbians that hate transwomen, and don't want any transwomen in the same bathroom/changing room as you ...
That is what is tearing the whole GRSM* community apart, and it will only get worse, as the far/hard-left take over progressive politics even more futher than they have already. Cold comfort I know, but, as Centre-Left leaning myself, I'm almost a poltical orphan, has the sensible part of the left is seeing their own backyard utterly trashed by a herd of mammoths ... no wonder many have completely shifted to the right ...
What's even sadder is that they even managed to shut down space for reasonable debate. My transmale fiancé, before he started taking the mini-Pill, then Testosterone, did indeed have periods. So when J. K. Rowling made her (in)famous tweet about "there used to be a term to call people whom menstruate", that put in the odd postion of understanding what she meant, but acknowledging she (seemingly) thought that sex and gender are synonymous. However, that doesn't, and won't, ever justify the hate thrown her way, and neither does this crap justify the hate thrown in yours, too. I feel like I ought to apologize, but then it's them that ought to apologize for their behaviour, and not me ...
So, yes, whilst the life of my fiancé, and those of my trans friends, regardless of differences of any poltical opinion I may have with them, matter, those that take the far/hard-left of the debate are making it _really_ difficult to support trans rights ...
[*= personally I use Gender, Romantic, and Sexual Minorities (GRSM), as a) its much more simplier than the current, expanded, alphabet soup; and b) encompasses, as far as I can tell, everyone in that soup, with the exception of Allies, without need for further letters.]
@Julianne Taylor I don't think you can know my view on ''trans issues'' just based off my comment. I don't mind bisexuals as I don't care really about the fact that they're in the LGBT community, at least they actually belong there unlike the ''T''. Being trans is not a sexual orientation as far as I know so I don't know why its being lumped with the rest of us and in fact it is probably a disservice to the trans community as they have their own battles and hurdles to fight.
Agreed. And honestly I’m tired of lesbians going into gay bars and running them out of business.
You should really speak about the LGBT community in Iraq and all the mistreatments that those people face
video on that coming soon
@Alexandre Reis With the present administration in Brazil, there is a lot of oppression though.
In the Middle-East, transgender people are the only part of the LGBT community that is accepted because trans people do not overthrow the binary, gender norms, etc. I am not saying that I support this viewpoint, being lesbian myself.
Arielle Scarcella I can provide content if you wanna
For real.we're getting killed here...I'm from iraq and I know the struggle...
Arielle Scarcella if you want information I'm here to help
I'm a 45 yo trans woman, only been on hormones for 3 years. I basically agree with you on this whole video. Bio women are in greater need of attention than ever before! Also the one community that has caused the most stress for me as a trans person has been the trans community. I have actually had people tell me I'm transsexual not transgender because I'm transitioning from m2f, I'd only be transgender if I was transitioning to something OTHER than Male or female.🙄🙄🙄
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I'm sorry about that. As a biological woman, I am happy to support your decision to become a woman.
But why do they have to be treated better than me or any other woman.
I dont understand the thought process. For example, they spend so much effort to change themselves to become female, look female, act female, dress feminine, and even take female hormones, and even surgery to be female. But then treat women, the actual thing you want to be, like crap?
I dont get it.
I always find it hilarious when people point to something and say, "now I haven't read/looked into(or whatever)", so you are going solely on your opinion and not actually doing any research into the issues. Sounds like you are judging a book by the cover. Kinda like how these same people complain is done to them.
"Explain to her how she is being harmful."... Young girls, women and lesbians are being harmed right now. So why are we not allowed to talk about it? You're right, it's misogyny.
Keep doing what you're doing! Shout it from the rooftops!
Exactly, scream it louder!
Young transgender people are being harmed right now. So why are we not allowed to talk about it? You’re right, it’s transphobia.
People like to throw out the word misogyny every time a man disagrees with a woman it’s so annoying. Kalvin was respectful towards her the entire video. Show me the misogyny
@QS729 How is it harmful towards women? Here's a question for you. Do women and girls have a right to undress in a room without males with penises there? Yes or no.
@@dimcgee1726 You act like a female only environment is inherently safe.
I will say that on the book, there is a observable psychological trend when it comes to prepubescent girls fearing puberty and growing up. Psychotherapeutic psychology has noted that the majority anorexia nervous sufferers who are prepubescent are overwhelming female. It has been proposed that AN is a subconscious method of halting puberty as malnutrition will prevent breast growth and periods, changes that cause body dysmorphia. And with the conversation of transgenderism, young girls may confuse body dysmorphia with gender dysphoria.
Exactly
@@arielle Your video on this topic was one of my favourites ever, both of your videos as well as on the UA-cam platform at large. Keep up the excellent work, Arielle!
Do you have a source for this? I'm extremely interested in reading about that and even more curious if adults that develop AN can still tie in with that. Of course I can try googling it, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask first.
@M H I guess it's not so much of "I hate my body", "My breasts are too big" etc., but more "I want to have the opposite sex's body, I want a penis, I want to be fully perceived as a man, I want to be an old man, not an old woman". I don't think it's solely about the body, but a lot of it does stem from how you want the world to see you and what you want your future to look like...
I don't know, it's a tricky subject. What is clear, though, is that body dysmorphia (and other mental disorders) and gender dysphoria are getting mixed-up.
Cringey oh shit I love your UA-cam you should talk about this Cringey!!!!
I was actually quite shocked to see Kalvin's about-face, tbh. Also, I had to stop watching his video after he'd made the comments about Abigail Shrier's book (which I've bought, read and find excellent and fair BTW) and had started, frankly, to ramble about "chromosomes not being the be-all and end-all". I was shocked by his current level of indoctrination into gender identity ideology actually and am sure you must be _beyond_ shocked by this turn of events.
he's like "why does sex matter" excuse me sexism? ever heard of it
I was disappointed to see him do the 180 he did. I was waiting for it after Ryan's video. BOTH made a point to say Arielle "isn't a bad person". Okayy...so. Why, then, are you both using your platforms to publicly shame and criticise her, when you know how poorly women and lesbians are being treated right now. And when you openly admit she's not a bad person. I know these kids are so young, and most of us can remember being so naive and stupid at that age but it's still disappointing to see them not even trying to think critically, or think outside of the hive mind. Never read a goddamn paragraph of that book? Oh well, Ima trash it AND Arielle for it anyway. The audacity. The utter fucking audacity. I know good and goddamn well Blaire won't fall for this bullshit.
@@youcantdiealonewithcats I'm not shocked that a 20 year old doesn't know shit about shit.
She wants to base everything on chromosomes but honestly unless you’ve had yours tested you will never actually know what yours say and then one can only assume
@@amiddend are you serious? There are many ways to identify chromosomes based on physical appearance snd health abnormalities. This isn't a blood type guessing game.
As a trans woman (and especially as a trans lesbian), I feel a strong sense of responsibility to be an ally to biologically female people. I I believe it is harmful appropriation as an outsider to the sex to take on the identity of womanhood and enter women's spaces without listening to bio females and prioritizing their comfort and safety. My rights as a trans woman should never come at their expense. No biologically male person is exempt from examining and breaking down toxic masculinity. No bio male is exempt from supporting bio females in this deeply misogynistic world. Even if I'm not a man, I was still programmed and socialized that way and it's still on me to be aware of it. Despite the many shared experiences I have with bio women, there are many aspects of womanhood and the female experience that I will never understand. I'm a fundamentally different creature and I'm okay with that. I agree with almost everything Arielle has said on trans issues and I wish there were more voices like hers.
if you succumb to cis-het ideology you will always be a 2nd class citizen, never forget you are just as valid as cis women, just as I am, yes, until I pass better I wouldn't dare go into women-only spaces, but that's more for my safety/sanity than theirs.
their rights as cis women shouldn't come at our expense.
Arielle is nothing more than a woman with the brainpower of a 5th grader who is trying to seem clever...
@@whiteknightintegrity7869 cis women and trans women are equal but different. no-one is saying one is better than the other but they are not the same.
This comment made my day
@@vossboss220 If we are equal why can't idiot bigots understand we're women too?
Neither is better, but cis morons have a habit of trying to make people believe we're nothing compared to them, like we're 2nd class citizens.
@@whiteknightintegrity7869 ...Your talking about bigots, who knows why they do what they do. It doesn't change that trans women and bio women are different. To claim otherwise ignores how bio women live their life and what they have to do. Which goes in complete opposition of what the SJW crowd CLAIMS they are for.
he didnt even read the book? wow lol i have several friends that since childhood always felt bad abt themselves and their bodies and most of them actually tried to transition and wanted to but now that theyre adults and do go to terapy they understand where this wish came and we do need to talk abt this
" you are not trans, you cannot comment on trans issues " ... This sounds like you are telling someone if you are not a politician, don't get involved in politics 🤦🏻♀️
I am gay and I don't know all the nuances of being gay, I can still have an opinion, it's called freedom of speech. Everyone is experiencing things differently so it's basically impossible to know all the nuances.
Commenting and speaking _for_ trans are very different. A lot of people seem to think they’re just sharing their opinions, when what they’re really doing is talking over trans people on trans issues.
Well you’re certainly not an expert in politics lol
@@SuperSymbiote1 I will let you be the expert, it's not something I want to have an expertise on.
Amalia S. I mean if you’re not a politician or something similar, you’re less likely to be right in discussing politics.
I’m a trans woman, & I agree with you Arielle. ♥️
There is literally a Ted talk with a trans woman who transitioned later in life who said being a male was easier then being female. I think that is what she means by some trans women have male entitlement. Many were successful men who had things given to them from their previous gender, even if they were otherwise unhappy with themselves.
Male entitlement in transwomen sometimes means that they place themselves front and center in discussions about problems that affect ciswomen more or differently and certainly have affected ciswomen for longer periods of time. And because our culture trains DFAB people literally from birth that they aren't allowed to speak loudly on their own behalf, that they must automatically take a quiet (and supportive) second place when a male-trained voice speaks, it becomes even more difficult for ciswomen to stand up for themselves if a transwoman rolls up full of the also-automatic, also culturally-instilled assumption that theirs are the most important concerns in the room.
And that's not to say that transwomen don't experience problems that affect them more. They certainly do. And when they do, they advise ciswomen to talk less and listen more. This is a great idea, and it would be even greater if ciswomen could count on similar support - rather than being treated like...well, treated like women talking to men.
Also - #NotAllTranswomen. Of course. It shouldn't have to be said at all. Except it does need to be said, because bringing up these issues can degenerate into all sorts of accusations.
And some of us have been homeless and jobless drug addicts because of our dysphoria and did not even start life until almost 30.
As a women who thought I was 100 percent trans when I was in my early 20s...
And at 29, 30 in a few days, I know that I'm not trans now and just a women who is into chicks...
All your points were correct.
You just gained a subscriber.
Yes please tell us what made you come to the decision your not.
I'd also like to know
Similar but opposite story. In my late teens I figured out I was trans but chose to live as my assigned gender because I was bi and figured I'd have a better chance at finding love as a bi woman than a bi transman.
Now that I'm in my mid-thirties I can no longer deny who I am. Nearly 20 years after coming out to myself I'm finally coming out. On one hand it sucks to come out so late yet because I'm so much more comfortable/settled in every other aspect of my life than I was when I was young I'm glad I didn't transition at a young age. Although, I do wish I had started to transition 5 years or so ago.
Honestly, when I was younger, it made me feel more accepted to be more manly. I had more privledge. I had more friends. It seemed cool. Girls liked me more. I was very comfortable, and sometimes miss it, BUT I could not see myself ageing as a man...so figured I must not be one.
Now that im older I really don't care about what people think and don't care if I have friends, so I just stay as a women because im more comfortable just being who I was born, simple as that.
@@TheDailyMess-RS I'm glad you're happy with the results. There's no rule against cross dressing or androgyny if you ever feel a hankering. Good for you 💕
If non trans aren't supposed to talk about trans issues then explain how hetro and gay politicians change laws for trans without debating/discussing them?
Seems like you can only discuss the issues if they agree with Kalvin?
Maybe he should try making himself self aware before telling others what to do.
Quit being hypocrites.
Yeah, gay rights wouldn't exist if it wasn't for the straight majority voting to legalising what we now take for granted today, so why do we not get an opinion?
@QS729 I don't agree with your perspectives. She is careful to not make lump sum generalized judgements involving any given segments of the LGBT or CIS groups.
@QS729 herp-a-derp I guess we will have to agree to disagree
Nightwatcher 2.0 you don’t get an opinion because you haven’t experienced it
Being male is a requirement to becoming a transwoman though?
yeah, like people keep saying "transwomen are biologically male" yes, that's what makes them trans. It's not like we don't all know that, it just shouldn't be used to invalidate people.
comeback kid How could you possibly invalidate them then? If not that
@@SuperSymbiote1 people use being born male as an excuse as to why they arent "real" women.
Blaire says the same things but she's not labelled as a Terf 🤔
@@thedarkestpath7464 I’m not sure when it become other peoples jobs to validate anyone
Trans people deserve rights that don't take away from any other protected group's rights. When rights take away other rights, we have a major problem on our hands. There HAVE to be compromises made. Pretending trans women are the exact same as bio women isn't going to help anyone. We have to come to agreements that work out for both.
MissYellowRose nobody pretends trans women are the same as cis women. Also what rights are trans people wanting that take away rights from cis women??
Him: I haven't read the book
Also him: It's terfy trash
Yeah... that's basically the mentality of SJWs... they never look up on stuff before gathering an opinion... It's sad how Kalvin is buying into all of this "If you're not trans, shut up" slogan.
I think the point of that part of kalvins vid was like, "hey! This looks terf like, and doesn't look very good on someone who claims to advocate for trans people!!"
@@oat_milk.8740 But then he also didn't bother to read into what the book is or watch the interview-- even if he said "I know it isn't a terfy book, because I watched the interview and it's a very interesting perspective, but the title is perhaps a little misleading" would be a lot better.
People: Never read the communist manifesto
Also People: it's communist trash
The WOMBman “terfphobia”
I think it's completely fair to say that some trans women do have a sense of male entitlement when it comes to dating. Just go on dating/social media apps, and you'll notice some trans women do still approach dating in a more aggressive manner. It's really not a stretch at all to say that some people, especially if they're early in their transition, so maintain some patterns of behaviour from the gender they are transitioning from.
So true
and ive seen some ‘transwomen’ that are on the app grindr which is a gay dating app for MEN.
Can it not just be entitlement ? Women have entitlement to call trans womens shitty takes Male entitlement instead of just entitlement, because they dont have to go through the pain of being midgendered.
@@Maddysublime transwomen are male though. That's not misgendering. Misgendering would be saying "man" entitlement. Male = sex class. man/men = gender class. And let's be real, male entitlement looks very different from female entitlement.
Sandy Gonsalves trans women are “biological males”, yet reject said upbringing and live as women
Full disclosure: I am a trans man who didn’t physically transition until age 24.
I think it’s important how, in this video, you led with compassion towards young people without dysphoria who are transitioning early in life. I, too, believe they should be offered more therapeutic guidance.
That being said, perhaps you could focus more on empathy based videos rather than vids which come off as anti-trans? Some of your videos fuel more hate towards trans people than compassion for non-trans children who medically transition against their best interest.
It would be really f*cking cool to see you make content about HOW we can protect people from making wrong decisions for themselves and their bodies.
For instance, a video about increased funding for more ubiquitous child therapy could be really informative. Or even a video talking about “informed consent”, and its pros and cons.
All I’m saying is, perhaps this backlash from the trans community could be an opportunity to shift video structures and themes in order to make your opinions more clear. The result could be more unifying than divisive. I bet you’d see even more support from multiple communities.
She isn't trans though... At best, all she can do is have sympathy - not empathy. That is the point as to why she does it from a standpoint of logic over emotion. Does that not make sense?
Samuel Koppa When she speaks about fear and other emotions pertaining to childhood - teenage transition rates and other issues, that isn’t logic. That’s morality and emotion. I’d like to hear more logical arguments coming from her but most (not all) have seemed fallacious.
Samuel Koppa Exactly. She isn’t trans, so rather than use her platform to define trans people from her limited scope, creating content centered around solutions for those with whom DOES identify would be a more productive usage of time. Impact is more important than intention.
claps say it louder for the people in the back please
@@bmh1992 she's literally made content involving the entire LGBT+ community, is she not allowed to speak on each group because she's just a lesbian?
Interesting how Kalvin complains Arielle doesn't see how her arguments are harmful to the trans community while also failing to see that Arielle is only raising these points because she sees these as aspects of trans ideology that are harmful to lesbians or women as a whole. Unfortunately some times one person's gain is another's loss and being part of a "minority" group doesn't mean that those losing out should just put up with it, especially when what the other group is demanding is not something to put them on an equal footing but extra rights (aka priviledges).
Transwomen are women and lesbians though.
@@72JeanYves science says otherwise and while they are free to believe whatever they want, just as we don't let flat earthers force the rest of us to deny that the earth is round trans activists should not be trying to demand that everyone else profess the trans ideology.
All that they should be seeking is to not be targetted for their beliefs and living a different lifestyle, to be left in peace and not attacked for it.
How can a group demand that their beliefs and ideology be respected while refusing to do the same to the beliefs and ideology of others and yet think they are the good guys/gals?
daivahataka Your logic is not logical since Transphobes do not respect the Trans community which isn’t an ideology unless you consider the LGB part of the LGBT as also ideological and beliefs are not a part of fact in that they are men and women as Transgendered. Also legitimate science agrees with me. 😎 So many videos here are about vilifying and demeaning Transwomen especially so obviously there is a ‘demand’ to have her ignorance and intolerance spread and to make money from suckers as we know bigots are the most gullible. They have to be to be Transphobes. 😂
daivahataka Oh, and they are asking to be left alone and to not be treated as the gender they don’t identify with, so if that’s not respected then how is it not being forced on them others ideologies and beliefs? 😉
@@72JeanYves believing that one can transition from one sex to the other is an ideology and one with no scientific backing, putting it on the same level as religious beliefs. Currently no mammalian creatures have this ability. Instead people have the ability to alter external appearance to mimic the other sex but that is no different to transracial people using fake tan or tanning injections.
You claim legitimate science agrees with you, care to provide a single accepted peer reviewed source from within the factual sciences (as opposed to social sciences which Lindsay, Pluckrose and Boghossian exposed as garbage)?
Asking to be referred to in a way that does not match the factual reality or be granted access to somewhere when the rules say you should not have access to them simply because you feel you should is not simply asking to be left alone, it is seeking to bend others to your will and as some TERFs have pointed out this is the big difference between the gay rights movement (where they just wanted to be left alone and not criminalized) compared to certain segments of the trans rights movement (where the demand is that you must perceive me as I want to be perceived and treat me accordingly).
Kalvin talking about male entitlement like he made some good point was really embarrassing. Transwomen and men - all males - are socialized as boys/men. That upbringing and life experience is what creates the entitlement found in men and males who identify otherwise. He really bombed this whole thing.
I haven’t always agreed with you but I agree with most things you say. It would be a boring world if we always agreed. It’s sad people are so childish with there criticism of you. You always have my support, by the way loved your podcast with Isaac butterflied!! Great to see you doing a video with one of my countrymen 👍👍👍
awww i love him!
@@arielle I agree with what Charles KD said, Although i have difficulty genuinely seeing how Transgender topics directly effect you. {i know what it's like to have tension on social media with someone you mean well for}. Regards from Sydney Australia 👨💻🏖🏊♂️
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@@Friendship1nmillion well, they do affect how lesbians are perceived (e.g. being called fetishists) as well as how young lesbians are treated when they have some insecurities about their sexuality: "Oh, you must be trans if you don't like being lesbian (because lesbians are being treated like shit), that's the only answer. Transition now, then you can be straight!"
@@Nightwatcher20 As a cis lesbian I can say i've never once been told any of those things nor do trans issues affect me in any way.
I don’t understand how trans rights and trans issues have to do with lesbians?
Considering so many trans women ID as lesbians, we have every right to an opinion.
@@dimcgee1726 well what do you have to do with those women? I'm so confused I'm a lesbian to and if someone has a shitty take like, lesbians must be attracted to trans women I say to myself hmmm that's a shitty take and move on. There will always be shitty people with shitty opinions why do we act like shitty opinions infringe on our rights.
@@dimcgee1726 dude, someone identifying as a lesbian doesn’t directly affect you. You don’t have to date someone who you’re not attracted to.
He is childish. I used to like his videos but he is different now
He's gone right back into SJW land.
Agreed.
I agree. There was a video he posted while ago, he DOXed the person he was speaking about and used a lot of really unnecessary awful language/name calling. He was a complete #CYBERBULLY3000... like he was proud of it.
Smh he used to be so much more reasonable idk what happened.
No he just grew up
QS729 in the past- meaning- a longer period of time ago. As in, when his views obviously were different. To put a time on it, let’s say, a year ago. Awhile ago, meaning more recent. Let’s say, a few months ago, but this year. Maybe I should’ve used better terminology to specify, but I don’t mind explaining that to you. I know it’s been a quick change-up, so it’s hard to follow. Hope this helps you understand a little better.
The community is acting like a "spoiled child" the last 2,3 years and i am dissapointed :/
Agreed
jenny patrinou how is distancing yourself from someone that has conflicting views from you “spoiled”. The point of Kalvins videos was to show he no longer publicly agreed with Arielles views, not spoiled in the slightest
@@olivera6743 it'd help if he had actually looked into the freaking book before going off on it.
Maggie The Druid what?
Maggie The Druid he talked about the book for literally two seconds in a 40 minute video I think ya need to chill
The kids in kindergarten are mad at their teacher. 😂
I love this comment so much idk why 😂😂😂
@@rand0mdude779
LOL Because it's true.
I’m really happy you speak about these topics. I’ve had the exact experience you’ve described. As a young girl, I accepted that I was attracted to other girls by around 10 years old. I was a depressed and anxious kid. I escaped my pain (which had no clear cause) through social media - specifically Tumblr. I met a lot of trans people through this platform and I very strongly connected with the idea of being trans. The idea burned inside my brain. I would pray at night in tears in middle school that I would wake up the next day in a male body. I came out as trans around age 13-14 and publicly identified as such all throughout my high school years. I started taking testosterone pretty much as soon as I turned 18. About 6 months on hormones, I realized that being trans wasn’t going to solve any of the problems I was trying to escape - the same problems I had when I was so young and made the decision to transition. I had to face the fact that being a man isn’t going to solve any of problems. If anything, being trans had exacerbated every problem I had, including my social phobia. It’s the 3 year anniversary since I started identifying as a lesbian and stopped taking T, and I couldn’t be happier with that decision.
It’s worrisome how easy it can be for children to get access to hormone blockers, hormones, and surgeries when it’s such a tricky situation to figure out a correct diagnosis for these kids without permanently damaging their bodies. This doesn’t mean people with gender dysphoria aren’t trans and shouldn’t transition. I have no rule over anyone else’s body or decisions. Gender dysphoria is more complex than what’s “advertised” to young girls and boys as a solution to feeling very uncomfortable with ourselves and our bodies.
Thanks again.
All love
I'm so glad for you that you didn't ruin your body and realised you were a lesbian. I wish you a good life.
Good that you didn't jump on transitioning. Mine is a similar one too, lesbian and thought I was trans (had dysphoria) throughout my teens. During 18-21, I began actually contemplating why do I want to be a man, not woman.
Turned out I thought that being a woman limited my masculine self (misogyny), and that it was better to be attracted to women as a transman (internalised homophobia). Worked through all that, realised that I can be as butch as I am, and being born a woman encompassed that side of my being too. And ofc, that I was a lesbian. It was a breath of fresh air.
I'm glad to be out of gender dysphoria, it was getting worse. I'm sure if I'd received the offer of hormones and surgery that time, I would've regretted it
This is the reason why people are scared of all these trans rights allowing children to make these decisions. Most people at those ages are having trouble figuring out what or who we are anyways. All of us. Hormones, body changes, deciding how we want to dress, or look, or what sexual preferences we like or don't like. But just because you are a female who wants to be more masculine, clothes, hair, etc do not define your gender, or sexual preferences. It's ok to be a masculine female, or a feminine male, and still be heterosexual, or lesbian or gay. It doesn't automatically mean you want or need to become the opposite gender to be happy.
I've not agreed with everything you've said, but the whole bit about Kalvin questioning whether you were even friends and "using" him for content was so ridiculous. You're literally in the same internet realm and collabing with like-minded people. He'll grow up and regret these emotional diatribes.
Yeah, you see UA-camrs collab all the time, it still makes them friends.
She's a grown woman who fostered relationships with a group of kids who had been longtime fans of hers before they started their own channels and asked one of them to show her his genitals for a youtube video a month after he turned 18. Kalvin mostly defended Arielle's intentions in his video, but at what point are these people justified in at least questioning if there was an exploitative undercurrent to this relationship in your mind?
"I didn't read the book so I'm gonna judge it to be a Terf's book because of the title" 10/10 logic right there.
@QS729 Have you ever heard "never judge a book by it's cover"?
@QS729 its just clickbate in book form. chill
Clearly that old saying is still important bc people clearly haven't learned yet 🙄
juana gariboldi a books title and tag line are quite literally meant to summarize the book/give the general gist or message... its clickbaity for lack of a better word, and worded the way it is on purpose.
I really like Kalvin AND I really like you...But you're 100% right in this situation. I used to think I was trans and tried to present myself in an androgynous manner because I wasn't happy with the changes puberty brought on to my body, plus depression. My best friend is a trans woman, and after she came out I concluded that I was "non-binary" (something I do not believe in these days), so everything you said really did close to home and I appreciate that.
What would have helped your situation do you think. Not being allowed to start transitioning? Stories from detransitioners? I would like to hear some solutions from arielle because I cant agree that taking away someone's right to choose is reasonable.
@@Maddysublime but if that someone is a child it is very reasonable .
@@guknhguhcrujbcd3962 I agree with that
To be honest I'm extremely disappointed in Kalvin. What I can't fathom is that he's studying to be a lawyer and yet he made such unsubstantiated arguments about the book being "Terfy" while openly admitting he had never read it, as if this somehow was some damning indictment on Arielle's stances which HONESTLY regarding women's rights and trans rights aren't TERRIBLY different from a year ago. The only thing that's changed is she inched a scootch further right on a select number of specific issues, most of which have little to do with the trans community ANYWAY and have more to do with free speech than anything else!
It seems like the person who's changed here is Kalvin. Not Arielle.
EDIT: AND ANOTHER THING
The Trans Women in Sports issue.
Kalvin used the fact that he (a trans MAN) plays lacrosse. Great. Good. That's not what's being discussed here. A FTM individual who transitioned while in puberty and who's bones and muscles have grown over a period of time with the application of Testosterone competing in a sport with other males who have testosterone pumping in their systems CANNOT be compared to a MTF individual who has mostly gone through puberty, who's bones and muscles have already grown thanks to their testosterone and which cannot simply be undone by taking estrogen competing in a sport with females who have never had the competitive benefit of Testosterone IN THEIR LIVES. Or even worse an MTF individual who has almost completed puberty and has never taken any estrogen AT ALL competing with females who cannot be expected to match them in physical strength or aggression regarding competition.
Um...Hasn’t Kalvin made tons of videos straight up making fun of trans trenders and judging other trans people like crazy? 🤔
That didn’t bother me because I don’t think he has truly bad intentions or anything but to now flip on you for bringing up the real issue of young girls being ‘trended’ into becoming trans, as well as other female issues. You’ve never said anything anti-trans. Disappointed in him. Me thinks the boy wants clicks too much. 🙄 He questions your friendship and then goes on to cite examples of what a great friend you’ve been. Stay strong girl.
Yea it’s all very strange
Yeah, I just don't get it.. I was shocked to see that Kalvin has bought into all this "If you're not trans, shut up" narrative.
@@Nightwatcher20 Personally I think it has something to do with his age, he's 19 IIRC. Old enough to know better, but still young enough to be immature about things. I'm hoping once he grows up a little he'll realize he allowed himself to fall in with the wrong crowd again (since he admits he used to be a hardcore SJW) so I feel once he calms down a little he'll realize he's made some mistakes and learn and grow from them.
Never said anything anti-trans? She is supported by Trumps supporters now, who didn't before she decided to make money from the gullible morons.
72JeanYves I thought we were talking about trans people but if you’d like to talk about Trump I guess we can. 🤔 She’s supported by people with common sense. Many of those are Trump supporters and many of those are liberals. What’s your point? I’ve never once heard her say anything anti trans.
There is a difference between reacting and reactive. I appreciate you used the criticism to talk about the bigger picture.
Always
@@arielle It's rather poetic, really.
When you stand up for rational conservative values you will most definitely be condemned for your beliefs. Never stop standing up for your realistic views !
Thank you for your videos. I am one of those many girls you spoke about. I suffered from other mental health issues and tried to transition at 14 and begged for homrmone therapy and was almost granted it and people at school either judged me completely or wanted to "copy me". Legit told me "that's so cool I want to do that" Like no... it's not cool its not a trend to me. But turns out I wasn't trans. I still have like dysphoria sometimes but I think it's triggered by something else going on in this mental war inside me and I'm glad I can atleast realize that instead of being so defensive like everyone else hopping on this "trend". So thank you for your videos about people like me. I support you.
I've seen some of Kalvin's recent stuff. Tbh I think he's still finding himself. I don't mean to be patronising but a full decade of life more makes such a difference to your world view. We all have to remember that any person can change their mind or their ideas can and probably will continue to evolve
very true and interesting point
Super agree with this. I've followed Kalvin for a little while now, and hes a great kid, but hes still a kid. Hes still just naive and has a lot more growing to do, which is very clear. I dont think he had any evil intentions
That's when it's important to be self aware and not go off half-cocked in an immature ignorance and spouting off things like that into the public realm.
I know most young adults think they know it all, but this younger, entitlement generation thinks that the rest of the world should bend over backwards to make their worldview be all that is. It doesn't work that way.
All I'm saying is that you don't "attack" anyone you are/were personal friends with on a public platform & not expect to be called out, regardless of age or maturity.
Hopefully even the older generations are willing to have their perspectives and beliefs challenged...that's how we grow.
@@melaniehenson9737 to an extent, I do think that most young people go through this though. Brains aren't mature until at least 25. He's in the early stages of college so probably being influenced by some "cool" people and being made to repent for his past videos. Arielle doesn't deserve this, I completely agree this is shit and she looks quite deflated here 🙁
Just so you know, I always have and will continue to support you. I'm so glad to see that I'm not the only one who noticed something quite shocking: Kalvin Garrah has been indoctrinated into far leftism. The same guy who always poked fun at these morons and called out their bullshit is starting to become one of them. MissLondon is also starting to drift over too, and honestly, it's so disappointing, but alas, what can we do?
"far leftism" is talking about how u felt mistreated by a friend and took issue with their content? i swear u and arielle (who liked this comment) would fucking SCREAM if u got called a right wing fascist for disagreeing with someone but as soon as its the other way around u label the other person as a leftist. also do you two even know what leftism is? you seem to think its limited to sjw cringe compilations. Arielle: i want a video of why you left the left that actually includes leftist ideas you disagree with, not liberal cringe compilations. YOU ARE DISHONEST!
@@daisyf.3151 Gee, thank you for all of those elaborate assumptions about me, a complete anonymous stranger on the internet. First of all, I'm not a right-winger, nor a left-winger. I find that both, the far left and the far right are equally toxic. I'm fully aware of what leftism is, thank you very much. Leftism used to be about tolerance, acceptance, compassion, empathy, but it has now become like the far right, but with different ideology. Leftism has become a breeding ground for narcissistic, entitled idiots with fascist-like tendencies. I don't like that, so I don't call myself a leftist anymore. Kalvin displayed a lot of the traits of a far-leftist: literally judged a book by its cover, claimed it was a "TERF" book without even having read it, and admitting to it. Cognitive dissonance 101 right there, something far-leftists are known for. Implied support for transwomen, who are biologically male, to compete against bio women, even though the results of this have been fatal for bio women. Lastly, like Arielle said, Blaire White has openly criticized this and Kalvin didn't call her out for it, which I'm going to assume is because she's (Blaire) trans. It's like Kalvin is ok with Blaire or any other trans person saying everything Arielle has said, but is not ok when someone not trans says it. This is classic far-leftist behavior. Demand inclusion but also practice exclusion like a champ.
@@missblackcat4655 Three words: Preach this loudly!
Your point about Blaire is very true and very interesting. Woke culture is scarily effective at shutting down cis women while simultaneously praising trans women.
Also Kalvin is such a kid. So bad at making genuine arguments.
@QS729 That was my understanding as well.
@@_sofie did you waltch his video? he made some good points that were left out of this video. the one I thought was most convincing was all the statements on sex. He talks about how Arielle feels the need to tell all these trans people that they are biologically male or female or whatever, and its stupid and wrong. i would recommend you watch it.
I’m sorry for all the abuse you’re getting from these individuals. It’s so important that we as part of LGBT stand for these girls who are affected by ROGD.
One thing I wanna mention is MAYBE older trans ppl aren’t coming out because if they are 40 , 50 , 60 they have already lived and started their lives with families yes happiness is important but is losing your family going to make you happier
I came out in 52 started hormone 255 I'm now 62 all four of my grown children that are over 30 years old have a problem with their dad I haven't lost any friends my classmates are my closest supporters but not having been in a relationship for 25 years is a real bummer in Downer and I have not had any surgeries or Botox to approve Mite looks but I do think that I will continue to have male privilege because I still think technically male but I'm emotionally female
But you can say that for any age. Coming out at any age can mean you lose friends, family, future prospects-- just because they're children doesn't mean that they're completely safe and will be accepted with open arms. Even at an age like, idk, 28, you really don't see many trans people coming out at that age. This sudden rise in trans people is only in children, teenagers and the odd 20/21-year-old (so still school age). Pretty much no-one older than that shares the same SJW ideology and is a "woke" non-binary pansexual or whatever person.
This is probably because gender is now mostly seen as more of a personality trait; if you're a little bit quirky and stray from gender stereotypes, then you're automatically trans and anyone who questions you is a bigot-- this is their mindset. A rather unhealthy one to say the least.
And personality and identity is a huge thing we all go through until we're about 25 when our brains fully develop. Everyone goes through this. It's normal. But it doesn't mean we need to stick a label on everything and rush into irreversible procedures and take away people's rights for the sake of a tiny minority's convenience.
@@briancampbell6156 you are so brave for living your truth. it really is a true feat to come out at your age, it often comes with a lot of repercussions unfortunately but i applaud you for doing it anyway. you are an inspiration to many young trans people, rebecca.
Bran Definitely. There are plenty of reasons why older people are coming out less than younger people. Years and years of internalized negative messages about being trans, for one. They grew up with completely different social messaging.
i can see your point but i also think nightwatcher is right. it''s very difficult to dissect because no one can give me an definition of gender dysphoria, or transgender identity or even gender. it's all changing day by day and it's really difficult tto understand it
Thank you for this. My youngest daughter is like me. We both struggle with bi polar disorder, borderline personality disorder, and have a history of suicide attempts. At 45 years old I have had the opportunity of time and the blessing of decades of mental health treatment including individual therapy, psych ward stays, a long term (14 years) and attentive (he worked in tandem with my sleep doctor to find the best mix of medications to treat my mental illnesses and my narcolepsy w/cataplexy psychiatrist and DBT, including a 90 day intensive DBT residential treatment for women with emotional disorders. I am far from normal and understand that my daily life is a constant balance of healthy behavior and psychotic thoughts and urges. No, I'm not going to gallop up to you, bite off your nose and then howl at the moon but I am aware that I see and feel the world through a distorted lens, therefore almost all knee jerk responses and reactions have to be arrested until they are run through my approbations committee (aka the rational side of my thought process). If someone decides it will be funny to jump out and surprise me it all becomes a moot point. That's the unpredictable fun of cataplexy, you never know when you may become an unresponsive heap on the ground. I refer to it has "fainting goat syndrome."
My daughter is a lesbian. I have no issue with that, saw it coming, never wavered in my support, acceptance and pride in who my daughter was. She struggles, more than her brother or sister ever have. They have made such great futures for themselves by their own grit, determination and self discipline. I can take no credit in it but I am fiercely proud of them. The one thing that only my youngest knows, the one thing that no matter how I try I can't put into words for my other two children to ever understand is that forever and always pervading sense of not belonging, always being slightly out of sync with the world around you. Knowing that you're participating in your surroundings but never able to stop feeling like your skin is too tight, to know the right thing to say but the wrong one is voiced, where the world is too close while understanding almost all are watching you up close from far away. The agony of learning hose that venture close find your reality more than they can handle day in and day out. She has decided that she is a trans man. At first I supported it but it became irrefutable that she was trying to find an easy way to circumvent the pain of harsh reality. Everyday I hope she will find the ability to grab control and realize that it will all hurt less when she stops playing the victim, and starts creating the life story of experiences that will always and forever be a little uncomfortable but the smiles, the tears, the joy, the pain, the left right, up down, black white, in out and the other side of the Looking Glass while chasing the Jabberwocky is 100% wholely hers.
I love Kalvin but I’m 100 percent with you on this. You got a new sub
@@arielle
(may I please ask a video about Aces and if we belong to the LGBT? 🙏🏽 I heard a lot of a phobia from the community recently, and some people telling me to do conversation therapy or cray things like that. everyone talks about the hot trans topic, I know aces aren't as hot and interesting and we are nothing but 1% of the population but you once made a great video about us that helped me a lot when I thought I was broken or a monster that can't love and when my friends stoned me for "judging" them by just being me and not having interest in boys or girls.
please?
A forever closeted Ace from the MiddleEest
edit: especially Asexual women, since we lose the right to our bodies in the laws of marriage in the middle east, in the countries: Palestine, Egypt, Syria and more, Asexuals are forced into sex. I'm sex repulsed if I was living in those countries, I promise you, I wouldn't survive.
edit 2: I'm going to erase this. I don't want anyone to see this, please say you at least saw it before than.)
@@somegirl4631 @꧁Bon Bon of the Bun ꧂ I'm just a random on the internet with a opinion so you can take it or throw it in the trash, but here it is: from what I understand, asexual people have no sex drive and no interest in sex. However that does not always go hand in hand of not being able to love or be in a relationship. IF you have been diagnosed with asexuality and you have no interest in men or women, I haven't a clue why you would want to be included into the lgbt community, where sexual orientation/the fact that we love and are attracted to the same sex (both if you're bi), is key. Perhaps you should (if you are able) see a doctor to get closure.
@@stepintothelight1437
there are some big misconceptions in your answer.
1. you assumed all Asexual are aromatic. that's a common misconception, Asexuals can be biromantic (like me), they can be homoromantic (like Slice of Ace UA-camr) they can be hetroromantic (like the Ace episodes UA-camr) they can be literally anything. so it's a misconception that Asexuals don't have a sex drive or don't want to have sex.
Asexuality is about SEXUAL ATTRACTION, just as homosexuality is about sexual attraction to the other sex, and hetero is about sexual attraction to the opposite sex, and bi is sexual attraction to both. Asexuality is about lack of attraction, not about not having a sex drive. many Asexuals, me included, have a sex drive, people who don't are often sick or have some kind of a real life problem, Asexuality is not a problem or something that can be fixable like a lack of a sexual drive, sexual attraction is not libido, those are two different things. and Asexuals CAN have sex, they wouldn't crave it as much as sexual people, but they still can have it (unless they are disgusting by it, than they are sex repulsed. not to be mistaken with fear of sex which is mostly a mental problem cused by trauma, sex repulsed don't fear sex, they are just disgusted by the act). so you can still vary much have an interest in man and woman, just not in their bodies, or in extreme cases (like demisexuality or gray a) you can feel just a bit of sexual attraction or feel it to a limited amount of humans, (for example, in demisexuality case, I'm demi, currently there are 3 people I feel any sexual attraction to in the whole world. which is 😂 and we don't experience crushes. this simply doesn't exist in our brains)
2. you said that being LGBT is being attracted to someone, which is false, since T is also there, and scientifically speaking, the A is much closer to LGB than the T, it doesn't mean the T doesn't belong to the acronym. the community wasn't made as the "weird sexuality club" it was made for people whom gender/sexuality is different from the general society which are discriminated for that reason. because those people need help the community was born, to lift them up, not as some kind of an oppression Olympics like it is this days.
3. the main reason I want the A to be added to the acronym is actually vary selfish. I'm not a "special snowflake". I'm a middle eastern person who grow up in a country where to be any letter is NOT "cool". in over 9 middle eastern countries Asexuals are raped by the law because there is a law that doesn't agree to acknowledge marriage with no sex, there is also an Islamic law that punishes people who don't have sex within marriage, and you can be beaten to death by law for it, mostly Asexual women are the one to pay the price, and since in chritian countries this laws doesn't exist, the community is under the impression Asexuals in the middle east are not killed raped or oppressed (which, I'm sorry but it's the biggest thing I hate about this community. they are very fast to show their "oppression cards" of how LGBT are treated in the middle east and use us as examples, but they never actually care about us. they never advocate for us. they cry about oppression of not being able to buy a wedding cake while I'm here scared for literally my life because I might live in the only middle east country that won't kill me, but just beyond my country borders I count as a freak that can be raped against my will by law. and just 2 kilometres from where I stand, this is the law of the land.
but no. of course a wedding cake is MUCH more important to western LGBT than our literal *lives* here in the middle east)
so I'm hoping that if the A would join the LGBT maybe the community would help Asexuals in countries where it's illegal for them to exist without being raped. so as I said, it's about resources and awareness to those problems that people just honestly don't know about.
@@stepintothelight1437
you mentioned seeing a doctor which exactly the kind of problem I'm talking about. you assumed I have sex drive problem (libido) which, I don't lol. thanks g d. Asexuality isn't about libido, Asexuality is about dopamine.
you remember I said scientifically Asexuals are more similar to LGB than the T? well that's because of how sexual attraction works. for the LG, for homosexuality, the dopamine, the drag of attraction in the brain is created for the opposite sex, for Bisexuality for both, and for Asexuals the dopamine has low creation rate or not created at all, which is why they count scientifically as a valid sexual orientation, because they have the same characteristics as homosexuality, bisexuality and heterosexuality. Asexuality doesn't change over time, it stays stable, it also is rooted in your brain not your libido. the fact you told me to go checked show you didn't know that, and I don't blame you because that's exactly why I'm advocating for Asexuality to get into the acronym, because of awareness, nowdays people view Asexuals in worst manner than any other LGBT group in the USA (according to a research done in one of California university, there is info about it online) more people would deny a house to an Asexual than a gay couple or even a trans person because of hate that comes lack of awareness. Asexuals are less than 1% the population yet 3% of violence against LGBT is directed at them (statistics I kinda suffered) and Asexuals are the no1 in the whole LGBT in conversation rape, people think it's a sex drive problem or "I'm so hot I can heal you from your Asexuality" thing.
Also, I can't actually go to a psychiatrist to take care of myself as Ace, because, sadly, because there is 0 awareness (especially in my country where there isn't one organisation to help Asexuals) so I can't go to a psychiatrist to help me (though I wouldn't anyway cuse I'm gonna be in the Closet for all eternity lol. my family is more Acephbic than homophobic or trasphobic. but it's probably because of the cultural change) because he doesn't KNOW most if the time what Asexual is and would confuse the term with sex drive defection just like you, which would cuse him to prescribe me hormones that would do absolutely nothing but hurt me. (and give cancer. a lot of Aces were forced hormones upon them to fix them back than, and it cused vary bad cases of cancer and death because people tried to "cure" their sexuality)
so those are my main points.
Still thankful I got introduced to Arielle by her appearance on Tim Pool’s show. Girl’s got integrity.
Same
guys tim pool is a literal nazi holy shit
@@daisyf.3151 uh-huuuuuh. I assume you have evidence for this accusation?
I first saw her on Tim pool too. One of his first guests. A good interview.
Thank you for making the content you make and responding to this. As a young gay woman, I was first indoctrinated in the SJW left when I was discovering my sexuality. I'm so thankful I've found reason and creators like you that empower those with different beliefs, especially after I was isolated from my community due to some of my beliefs similar to yours and Blaire's. So thank you for everything you do, you truly make a positive difference ❤
S a m e.
Welcome to the outcasts. Glad to have you sister.
I just feel like you are one of the few people who have tried really really hard to support and uplift trans people, even after a section of that community (or people who claim to speak on behalf of them) tried to ruin your career. I think this is why many women are frustrated, even after bending over backwards to accommodate trans people, and be kind and empathetic to their struggle, they don’t seem to accept anything but complete submission. I think about how eloquently and empathetically Jo Rowling wrote on behalf of trans people who face violence, and she was still cancelled for having an alternative position on gender identity. I just really believe nothing will ever be good enough. You have done so much for this community, and even after everything they put you through they won’t even give you the benefit of the doubt. Just know that so many women, especially lesbians, appreciate that you stood up for our rights and dignity, even when it was inconvenient for you. Stay strong!
She used to be very open to transgender people in the past, but she’s coming off TERFy as of late. Not to say she is a TERF, but she does mimic some of their arguments. I don’t think she’s a bed person and maybe she’ll stop talking about transgender people altogether (she’s known to talk over them). She can do whatever she wants, just that’s my hope.
@@user-sf9gs2pg1b Ryan made a video about Arielle. Jamie made a video about her. Chase made videos about her. Kalvin made a video about her. Noah did it too. All of these people I named are Transmen... That shows a lot. She's negatively affecting the community with unnecessary arguments and perspectives about transwomen
@@ad_kk16 and your community hurts or can hurt bio women and lesbians .
I really love how genuine you are Arielle. You cannot mistake the sincere pain and anguish this person has caused you with "TERF Fuel"accusations. I think my advice to him isto first read books, not covers, and then make an analysis. A fact excluded in this video is this book is inspired by the multiple lawsuits against Trans surgeries performed on young girls in the UK, which sterilised them. This is now outlawed because it has been acknowledged that these girls could not make informed consent to those capricious surgeries.
I believe what you are doing is the right thing, and that people like Kalvin are taking things you say way to personal when you're not talking about them personally, you're talking about other things that may be in line with their lifestyle but they shouldn't take it as you're talking about them. If that makes any sense at all.
Being trans isn’t a lifestyle it’s just who we are
@@amiddend It's still your lifestyle.
@@calvinh.8882 no it's a condition
@@ARTHUR-lw7xz No matter what, The way someone lives their life is in fact their lifestyle.
@@calvinh.8882 is having autism a lifestyle?
I'm unsubbing from Kalvin, used to like him and actually agree a bit before hearing what he has to say about males and females now... and he didn't even Google the book..?
Yeah, I unsubbed him for the same reason, really... he didn't even bother to do his research and assumed things... Like when Kalvin said "I know she said that she would date a post-op transwoman, but I don't believe her"... I just lost it. Arielle has said several times now that she would if they are fully transitioned. Him manipulating the truth to suit his opinion is just so childish.
@@Nightwatcher20 girl when did he manipulate that he literally just said he personally doesn't believe she really would lmao
People like you & Blaire are doing wonders for our community. Fck the haters. 🙌🏻
This is how an adult responds to a controversial video directed at them. Bravo, woman. Proud of you. I hope this conversation continues, and stays mature and open.
Let’s be honest, she’s terrible at responding.
So this is my opinion and it’s gonna be long so if anyone reads this thanks I like kalvins vids I find him smart and entertaining I found him through Blair and ariel when I started questioning my sexual orientation after years of trying to push down my feelings. A lot of lgbt content started popping up. Anyway based on some of kalvins comments it feels like kalvin flip flops. He said he used to be very sjw in a vid and that he was friends with people like you and Blaire and London and not chase ross because he said he’d realized how wrong that was. Now it seems like he’s flipping back to the sjw side. Maybe not full blown but leaning that way. I say this because of the comment about biological sex and hormones and intersex people that he made. Intersex is a birth defect that affects a very minuscule amount of people. So idk why this is always the argument used to me sex is someone who has xx or xy chromosomes and or has or should have the ability to produce eggs or sperm. Obviously there are exceptions there are women who can’t get pregnant men who can’t ejaculate there are people with extra chromosomes or the opposite but in general those are a minuscule number. Anothe thing I thought was funny was him bringing up you saying that some trans women can have male entitlement. What I read from that was more of a toxic masculinity thing which women can have as well as men. I could be wrong and you can correct me if I am but It seemed like you said it in the wrong way but the point came across to me at least. To that point when you’re raised as a boy even if you’re not a boy that toxic masculinity can sometimes stay with you and you may not even realize it. That male entitlement or toxic masculinity could have been from before your transition. Especially since a lot of behaviors are learned not innate. Don’t get me wrong I like kalvin but as a bisexual cis female I think a lot of what you say is to open people’s eyes you’re controversial cause you have to be. No one other than you blaire and rose are talking about these things. Yeah you might not be trans but you’re a woman and when trans rights cross over the line to women’s right you have a reason to speak up. I want to thank you for being a voice for women and the lgbt community and showing people they can work together if people would just stop fighting and listen to what eachother had to say. Ok rant over 😊
If you want there is actually a great funny video about gender critical ideas made by Contrapoints
I'm intersex and know others that r and we really hate that argument
@@arthurturp9008 Yeah, I've had conversations with a few intersex people and they hate how they are being weaponised in an argument that doesn't even make sense.
I agree. Intersex people have nothing to do with being trans, and in fact, intersex people can be categorized as either male or female depending on factors like gametes and the activation of the SRY gene. So when "non binaries" try to compare to intersex, it also make no sense and is actually a bit insulting. Intersex people are still along the binary. Kalvin started losing me when he started falling for the NB stuff. It's not a thing.
@@owenb8596 Contra is disingenuous as all hell at this point. I was subbed to them for years, then after transition, she really actively started to ignore any decent arguments brought her way. She is heavily biased. She even stated AGP did not even exist. Which is false. It does exist. I cannot stomach her cherry picking content any longer. It's just high production value + bisexual lighting draped over verbose bullshit.
You have every right to talk about issues affecting young girls. Genuinely disappointed that he didnt even watch the joe rogan podcast with abigail. As a gay teen years ago, experiencing gynecomastia, i had many thoughts that i was trans and it lasted a good year, i can only imagine what so many young girls are going through now. Great work for sticking to your morals!
and yet the kids attacking her just keep ignoring comments like yours and pretend that she's only doing bad by speaking of these things
the joe rogan podcast was with that woman who's a terf? if someone says they believe they are transgender, you believe them because you aren't inside their head, you aren't hearing their thoughts or feelings what they feel. if it turns out they aren't trans, then that's fine! because then they finally figured out who they are. is that so hard to understand? no. no it's not.
"She's not a Terf, But..."
This is one of the times where everything after the but is contradictory.
QS729
Yeah, he seemed quite sad to have to make this video, but he felt that his options limited since he already tried asking her to stop.
@N Stop using the outdated definition of Rape. Rape is any sexual act that isn't consensual.
I watched that whole podcast with Joe Rogan. She loves trans people. The book is literally just interviews. Soooo... if you don’t support that book, you don’t support young women. You’re cisphobic then?
But Madison, cisphobia isn't real UwU
watch her interview with ben shapiro
Immediately went from your video to the Joe Rogan podcast with Abigail, stayed up late to finish it, spectacular. Thanks for the great video and podcast recommendation. You've led me to some fantastic content creators I would have never found without you being willing to put yourself out there and talk to so many people. 💗
I find it really hard to believe Arielle's lesbian content makes her anywhere near as much money as her trans or anti-liberal vids.
Just go to her videos, go to "most popular," and you will see her most popular videos are on lesbian sex or sex related content. There's one top video that features a trans women, but all the rest do not and are just on lesbian/ sex related things.
I need to know something, in case someone here can enlighten me. Why is “male entitlement” only for males and not for trans women who have been raised and socialized at some point in their lives, usually at least in their formative years, as MEN??? Does identifying as a woman get rid of all the years and socialization you lived or were perceived/treated as a man?
Trans women can be affected by male privilege, however most trans women weren’t socialized the same way cis men are
Michael Merritt thanks for answering! How would they not be, if they start their transition in their young adulthood? I can see how that’s not the case when children or teens come out as trans, but when they’re transitioning, say, at 19, certainly they would be treated as men throughout their life until that point, right? I’m just looking to understand is all, sorry if I come across as crass or such.
This sucks. I took Kalvin off of notification a few weeks ago as some of his videos are a bit harsh imo. He doesn't seem to understand when he crosses over into bullying territory. And I know he mentioned a little while ago that he'd talked to you about your content but I honestly don't know if I ever could have foreseen him making a full video on you. I think it's uncalled for personally and just starts drama. I think I remember Blaire saying smth recently about following people without having to always agree with them and I think there's great merit in that. You should always broaden your circle and listen to others' views and make sure to not get caught up in an echo chamber. That requires a degree of understanding as to why people hold the views that they do though. UA-camrs shouldn't make drama videos about each other whenever they disagree. This isn't school, we're all adults now. Personally, I used to be ignorant to the issues caused by things like self-ID. I've always wanted to be supportive and open-minded and never wanted to be bigoted to anyone. I still don't. But after a lot of doing my own research and following people I disagreed with, my views have changed. I now know abt issues with rape crisis and DV shelters, lesbian rights, etc, and I honestly kind of wish I'd never looked. I know and love trans people but to pretend like we cis women aren't being affected by mainstream trans activism (keyword mainstream. I know it's a minority in reality) is just ignorance at this point. Love your content and also am still subbed to Kalvin and I hope you guys can work things out bc your friendship was awesome and this is incredibly upsetting to watch. 😔💔
Yes but her videos totally aren’t harsh at all
@@Xxsorafan I never said that. But Arielle doesn't bully people, she makes an effort to understand why they believe the things they do. She talks with all different kinds of people and simply points out the effects that transition can have on people who aren't trans, with a specific focus on lesbians because they are getting caught up in this shit a lot right now. That's it.
xotbirdox lol @ she doesn’t bully people. She has a history of erasing bi sexuals but okay
@@Xxsorafan I am bi. I was around when that video came out. She explained it. She was simply trying to expose the attitudes towards bisexuals in the community. She doesn't believe that stuff at all.
xotbirdox 🙄
I’m totally for everyone being attracted to anyone they desire. But Arielle is correct. Somehow being trans or just different has become “cool”. And there is some discrimination but the victim mentality has become the trend with a lot of young people.
this is insulting to trans people
@@daisyf.3151 everything is insulting to you folks these days.
Yeah, I completely agree. I’ve had it so easy. I definitely haven’t wanted to kill myself on multiple occasions on the basis of being trans.
bulletproofange1 ..... toughen up butter cup.
It's looks like your friend has surrendered to the woke concept of adjacency: that not only are problematic people problematic, but anyone who is friends with them or publicly associated with them or even just refuses to take part in their cancellation is also assumed to be problematic. If he continues to go along with this, he's only going to be forced to distance himself from more friends to please an ever smaller group of friends.
Is trendy to identify as trans as a teen
No it's not, I lost half my family because of this.
@@ARTHUR-lw7xz I'm sorry to hear that, but... in many cases-- where being trans is fully accepted and you get a lot of praise and "oh, you're so brave" etc., it is a trend. As Arielle said, it's basically like the new emo of it being a new way of self-harm and a new coping mechanism for depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia BPD etc. It's an escape from their original self, their true self.
To clarify, I'm not talking about actual trans people with actual gender dysphoria, I'm talking about depressed teenagers hopping onto the trend in order to feel connected to a community that they simply do not belong in.
Nightwatcher 2.0
Tw: t slur (censored) & self-harm
Calling it self-harm is... well, weird. I’m transgender, and before transitioning, I would self-harm. Head to toe (yes, I did self-harm on my face) were just... cuts. Everywhere. I was confused because I should’ve been happy. I had all As, I had a bf who loved me, I had everything I wanted. Yet, for seemingly no reason, I’d cry and self-harm daily. Started doing hormones and I’m happy and haven’t self-harmed since.
To have friends and family leave you, to have to take hormones for the rest of your life, to have to deal with society just not accepting you in general, it’s just... why would someone do that to themselves? Masochism? What’s the cause of their depression if they thought transitioning would help? And, if they didn’t feel any better, why wouldn’t they stop taking hormones, detransition, get their family back, etc.?
If they don’t quit taking hormones, at what point can you just say they’re not going to detransition and they’re happier that way. No one in their right mind would do this to themselves.
Also, where is it accepted? Asking because I want to move there. They could speak a different language, idc, I’ll learn it during my stay. Don’t say California, I live there and it’s not as accepting as it may seem. Tell someone you’re transgender, they’ll zip it. Don’t tell them, they’ll tell you how much they hate the tr*nnies, lmao
Where the literal fuck is it trendy?
QS729 that’s what I’m saying
Admits he never read the book but says it was obviously written by a terf...
Alright
Great video as always Arielle
Arielle "the book isn't about trans people"
the cover of the books: "the transgender craze"
@@marshallwayne9270 but it isn't actually directly about trans people; it's about how young girls, particularly lesbians, are forced into this idea that if you don't like your body, then you must be trans-- not body dysmorphia, not general depression and anxiety. So they're not actually trans people at all.
Very disappointed in Kalvin. That was pretty immature of him. Hopefully he can grow up a little and see his error here.
The title is incredibly sensationalistic, and is fuel for terfs who also won't read the book but will use that reference to further their cause. Arielle does the same thing she uses extreme titles to get views and it's hurtful to trans people who deal with over generalized concepts about them all the time. I feel that is also hurtful to Arielle herself because she can have good information but it's clouded by terfie titles.
he's young is the problem. at his age I made snap judgments too
By the way, I hope that everyone buys Abigail Shrier's book. I've read it and it's so well-written and timely. Amazon and Facebook are censoring the books ads, so I'm hoping that people will be a little bit proactive spreading the word with their family and friends even though it's a difficult topic. The parents who contacted Shrier and told their stories to her deserve to be heard. It was amazing to read about how the system does everything that it can to shut them out of their child's most essential decisions and to pressure them into medical interventions that are poorly supported by evidence.
I bought it when it first came out
She really said "I know trans rights has been a big focus of the lgbtq+ community (because trans people started the lgbtq+ community and experience the highest rates of murder and suicide of anyone else in the community) but I think we need to focus on how is advocating for the right of trans people to live comfortably in society affects young lesbians" like ... It doesn't babe. As a young lesbian trans activism has never once affected me except for the knowledge that my trans lesbian sisters are significantly more likely to be hate crimed than me making me very heavy hearted.
Preach
@@EllaAndrophobia I'm a woman, a feminist, and a lesbian. Just because I don't agree with you as a woman doesnt mean I'm not a feminist. Immature
@Jason Wilson that is wrong on so many levels. Trans people have the highest suicide rate of any population actually. Trans women led the far majority of protests and riots in the fight for lgbtq+ rights. We have recorded evidence of both of these facts. These are your fans Arielle... This should be a problem.
Ella Androphobia it isn’t homophobic or misogynistic
@Jason Wilson the first March for lesbian and gay rights was actually organized by a group of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and TRANS people. Even though the March did not outwardly fight for trans right many trans people were there to fight for gay and lesbian rights. They have stood with us from the begining and it's about damn time we stand up for them.
terf is becoming synonymous with having common sense. proud terf 💕
Pretty much. I listened to an interview on the radio here in the UK with a transwoman (who is a science teacher) called Debbie... something or other-- sorry to say I can't remember her surname.
Anyway, she said that "If TERF stands for 'Telling Everybody Real Facts', then I'm proud to be a terf!"
Absolutely loved her 😂
Terf is an honor. And funny enough, most people getting labeled as a terf aren’t even radical or a feminist lol
Sameeee
Nightwatcher 2.0 I say TOTALLY ENVIABLE REAL FEMALE 💯
bratty banks that’s literally transphobia. You think trans women want to be cis women
What if all of this drama BS had nothing to do with sexual orientation or anything like that and these types of people were just selfish narcissistic spoiled babies Who have always gotten their way and never had to engage in real debate regardless of sex or color sumthin 2 think about keep doing your thing girl
Perfectly well put! And this is exactly why I am ashamed of my generation raising these types of kids!
I think you hit the nail on the head
PLEASE... STOP MAKING SENSE!!!
It’s a pity that you and Kalvin don’t get on that much anymore, I appreciate you standing up for women unlike a lo of other lgbt feminists
“Trans men are men but trans women aren’t women”
@@ReplyGuy22345 okay
The reason why I like Blaire white is exactly what I think you mean. A lot of transgender people are so "proud" of being trans but they want to be called women. Why not say that you are a trans woman out and proud? I feel like it brings some sort of shame, so desperatly wanted to be called a "woman" instead of a "trans woman". Take Blaire, she passes for a woman for a lot of people and is still a proud "trans woman". I have so much more respect dor transgender women who actually say they are a bio male. Keep it real and what it is. A lot of people already dont like any letter in the LGBTQIA+ community because people tend to want to much and make things soo damn difficult. Call me a fag, call me whatever the fuck you want. I am proud of myself and thats all I need, not the rest of the fucking world to....
Lame I know but I think that the quote from game of thrones is pretty useful here: " Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you". You can't change your sex so you might as well embrace it instead of trying to blur the lines with all the 'sex is not binary!!!!' shit
saying people secretly hate someone else is the rudest thing in my book
And not even saying who the person is, like what are you even supposed to do with that info but be paranoid...
I think one of the big problems is the way you word things. Speaking as a trans guy myself I acknowledge that I'm biologically female and that's not going to change. But that doesnt mean I'm okay with being called female or seeing headlines like "trans women are not women". It makes trans people feel kinda ass. Like I know I'm biologically female, but its upsetting to think about and a big reason I like to transition. For example you wouldnt say depressed people are depressed. It's kinda obvious and probably not something they'd want to acknowledge. I use to have depression myself and that's the only reason I'm comfortable using that example. While your videos have good points to them, the way they are worded feels like little stings that leave a bad taste. It's a free country so feel free to talk about whatever you feel is effecting you. My issue I've seen so far is the way things are worded.
The fact that seeing the truth makes someone feel bad isn't a good reason to lie in public when women's rights are on the line. There is 0 feminist advocacy that can be done to defend the right of female people to our own spaces and groups while saying that trans women are women. At some point the question comes up, and it's either lie or say the truth. If someone who's currently experiencing depression finds it offensive when someone says they're depressed, that's a personal fragility problem and it isn't the responsibility of everyone around them to lie. We can't have the definition of "female" if we have to pretend trans men aren't female. That doesn't mean bringing it up in irrelevant personal conversations with people because that's mean and helps no one, but I really don't see how she could be honest without hurting anyone's feelings.
I really do not understand why they say "Arielle isn't a terf," yet try to "expose" her (I think that is the word to use here). both videos Kalvin and Ryan made are confusing to me. The book example Kalvin used was a bad example. When you say you haven't read it or done research you can't uses that as an example. (never judge a book by a cover). I am glad she is sticking up for her morals. I just feel like they shouldn't have made videos to the pubic, this should have all been said to her in private. I felt like their videos was like a cancel culture thing :/
They are part of a conformist cult essentially. They can't stay silent because the other cult members demand they make statements denouncing someone like Arielle who doesn't comply. They like Arielle and the confusion you see in the videos is them trying to reconcile what they know to be true about their friend with what their "obligation" is to the cult to call her a bigot terf. That's why the things they are saying make no rational sense. And it's also why people 5on that cult say things like "rationslity is a tool of white oppression" it lets them live with the cognitive dissonance. Ideas and opinions don't need to make sense because things making sense is an oppressive tool of the patriarchy....yeah.try to work that one out lol
@@mattm7378 never thought of it that way, damn.
Back in high school I had so much self hate, I hated every feminine developmental change in my body, I would wear two sports bras during the day to keep my chest as flat as possible, and one over night. I thought I was transgender and thought about hormonal changes and surgery. Fast forward 8years, I have worked through my self hate and and my eating disorder, I feel comfortable in my body and extremely glad I did not went through any life altering permanent changes. Minors should not be making life altering decisions. Additionally Constructive criticism does not make someone a TERF or any of the other words people love to throw around, we need to get rid of this idea that if someone has a different opinion, sees something differently or criticizes us that it makes them an enemy.
Thank you so much for standing up for your morals in the face of this extremism. You're approaching this from a thoughtful and empathetic perspective, and it's a shame that some people can't see that. I'm sorry that it's affecting your friendships like this, I'm kind of in the same boat with my friends and the divide that these issues are causing. There's no room for discussion anymore, no more 'live and let live.' It's 'convert or fuck you.' It's so tiring.
It's good to address this once in a while as these kids are young, and they might not be as informed as they should. But not worth defending yourself from people like this. It's like fighting with a religious extremist. No point.
When I was in high school I fell into the goth/emo scene- that was 13 years ago, I’ve grown out of it, but looking back, I can totally see how that evolved into trans just on the basis of it being an outsider group and I can totally see people being trans just because that’s where the group went
Being goth/emo is significantly more common than being transgender. I was the only transgender person in my year. At the time, I had many goth friends. Plus, detransitioners are a minority within a minority. Quite a small fraction.
I’m trans and not even remotely into the goth or punk scene lmao u act like all trans ppl r white emo teenagers. That’s not at all true or even close to being true
I was waiting for this
Tbh I honestly think that if your trans FRIENDS seriously feel like some stuff you say is bothering them then maybe you should take the time to self examine yourself instead of just disregarding what they say because of you "feminist self".
Not trying to take a side here but maybe it should be worth looking into.
Do you think she really hasn't self examined her perspective on things? I'm sure she has.. One can hear another's view without agreeing with it or taking it on themselves. So i'm sure she heard, thought about it, and yet disagreed to some extent, and that's okay.
@@wingbat Maybe she has I dont know. But I guess I just hope that she has taken her friends words to heart. This whole situation is just rubbing me the wrong way so I'm hoping for the best.
You'll know you have the right frame of mind when even those that say are your friends attack you and go against you just because you think differently.
I love you Arielle. You are awesome.
as a trauma survivor myself, i always had this feeling about these people, that this is self hatred and trauma related. Glad, you're talking about this! glad i found you.
Been watching for years Arielle and barely ever comment but just wanted to say thank you for being you 😊
I've been watching almost the entire spectrum of LGBT UA-cam since the getgo of the OG... From all ends of politics. And all I can say is, I am tired. When I was young and confused on what the hell being "into girls" (bisexual) was, this side of the internet helped me really hone in on who I was, what I believed, what I liked, and what I want for myself. I was told as a child/teen, this is a place I can feel safe and authentic, at a time cishet society didn't discuss our lives or want to even hear it. But now? The LG, the B, the T, we're all just fighting all the time. We're FIGHTING. We're starting to break apart, and the cishet society IS watching - that's what we forget. They're watching everything we do and say, and then BASING their viewpoints on us based on it. My childhood idealism of identifying safely as LGBT is... Gone. It's all just a big 'ooft'. And in reality? My opinion on these friendships on LGBT UA-camrs doesn't matter, I'm a viewer and not in your personal lives. I am just so saddened in *all*... All, whatever side of politics... Our efforts to make a better, safer world for LGBT people, we are hurting ourselves in the process.
I needed this comment!
Social media could be a factor. Remember when cisLGB used to go find love, friendship and party; and T people met up for support and focused on their goal of physical and social transitioning? No bathroom issue, no dumb minors and people got along. That was when people were not on internet 24x7
Yeah.. Now it's all just identity politics, mob-mentality, validation, cancel-culture and pushing gender ideology, queer theory and what not.
Idek if idiots who engage in the above are actually LGBT or they're just the Q+ (or activist) part. Because I suspect it also started going downhill when in hurry of being inclusive, LGBT suddenly started adding more and MORE letters. Started with Intersex (i can't even find them around), and non-binary. Latter led to explosion of genders and the need to justify it using various ideologies. All these letters have been degraded so much that they've become meaningless
Idk man it sucks. Sucks to be a part of this. I'm staying away from the LGBTQ+ until a serious issue pops up; the battle is almost over but these idiots are chronically addicted to fighting, so much so that they're now attacking each other for dumbest reasons like "uwahh, y u not date me, transphobe!"