My Autistic Friend Explains Autism (And Why He's Proud to be Autistic)
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- Ryan is proud to be autistic and would choose to remain so if given the option. He just wishes others would be more accepting of his differences. Although he was a bit nervous at first, Ryan sat down for an interview to advocate for himself and the autism community.
Ryan's Socials:
UA-cam: / @rymar101
Instagram: / rymar101
FB: / rymarlee
Twitter: / rymar101
SBSK's Socials:
/ specialbooksbyspecialkids
/ chrisulmer
/ specialbooksbyspecialkids
Ryan spat bars when he said," Normal is a setting on a dryer." I screamed 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
He should have warned us first. Didn't even have my safety goggles on.
🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yes!🔥🔥🔥🔥
Needs to be a T shirt :)
@@furkankoc9168 😂😂
@1:00 “normal is a setting on a dryer” Whoa dude is dropping wisdom!
This quote has been around a long time- its the title of a book by Patsy Clairmont.😊
Oh man.
Well said dude Iarnizzo91
Mind blown!!!
larnizzo91 fax
"People should learn that being popular does not mean everyone likes you."
Wow...
I agree
Wow ❤
Agree
One of my best friends has autism, when I was in third grade, I started to become friends with him, one day, my teacher came up to me and explained that my friend had autism. I didn’t care and I said, “ So? He’s just like everyone else, he just has a little temper.” I’m way past third grade and I’m still friends with him. If he gets upset, I draw him a picture or I’ll ask him to read me his favorite book, sea creatures. We are still friends. We draw, read, play, and more together. He hugs me everyday. He makes my life happier everyday. Just remember, don’t judge a book by its cover. He is the best friend I’ve ever had. I hope you understand everyone.
That's awesome, especially your response when you found out! You have made a big difference in that person's life and I'm really glad you were able to do that 😁
Ugh this melted my heart. It’s SO important for different people to be accepted and I’m sure your friend is so thankful for you too
YOU ARE WONDERFUL!
Good on you for being friends with him
Thank you Amanda for sharing your experience. I've known a few people over the years with autism. I didn't always know what their situation was at the time.
Ryan seems like such a nice, bright young man. I cannot imagine him having trouble finding friends!!
Janell Bauer facts 😄
He is 50x times smarter than this white boy.
Janell Bauer I can´t believe that, too. He is intelligent and very lovable, I would love to have him as a friend.
I can because I'm autistic myself and know that neurotypicals operate within an invisible social economy that they're not fully aware(they automatically navigate like how you don't have to think about moving each leg to walk) and when people like me and many other autists try to play the same game we get ejected and vilified for not reading the invisible social narrative perfectly and sometimes failing to hit people's feel-good buttons. If you want to be the friend with someone with autism it'll sometimes take more understanding and fair-play than you may feel obligated to do because of expectations coming from social hierarchical structures that you operate under. This all isn't said to be mean, it's to say that it's very understandable that even the most charming and well meaning aspies can be isolated and alone.
@@KennethHuntington1 darn, well said man. This could very well be my problem with aspergers. Though i am quite withdrawn and need to step out of my comfort zone anyways. i need to at least try harder. But if people still dont accept us, who cares lol. I think i am so used to being withdrawn due to little social success in the past
he is so well spoken! what a smart person. he should be a motivational speaker.
He speech is emotionless :D little bit funny
Brightboy well it’s possible since autism doesn’t mean someone is automatically less smart
@@kuirkyy my comment was?
I am chatting with him on IG and we video chatted twice and consider him as a friend. He is totally kind, funny and cool and whe share a few common interests. I am really glad to came across this Video and got to know him. Thank You Chris :)
His answer was priceless “ there is no normal, because we’re all different “ ..very bright amazing young man. ❤️ 🙏
I have autism, too. I met Chris at Angelo State University a few months ago, and while I truly admire his work, I really want to thank him for giving us a voice. I often feel unseen and disregarded because people don't understand me. Chris is bringing the understanding this world needs for people with disabilities.
-Rachel, the woman in the purple flannel top.
What does having autism mean?
@@bluestar5211 It means different things for different people. Overall, it's a developmental disorder that makes it hard to communicate in some cases or interact with others. We think differently and see things differently, just like Ryan said.
I have some problem communicating with other people …………do I have it too?
I m so absent minded…\………
@@bluestar5211 You should try talking to a professional if you feel like something's up. They will try to help you find out what's making you feel this way. Take care
I’m going through a possible autism diagnosis right now and I’m 19. I was kinda scared at first because there’s a lot of stigma. But after doing research and seeing this video I think I understand ASD a lot more.
Being scared is a natural first step on the path to acceptance.
Sorry to hear that but I hope u are alright and feel good 😁
I got diagnosed at an older age as well, you can do it!!
Same with me ya it's a lil scary lol
Heather Dee, I never got diagnosed as there are no psychologists in my area who work with older people on the spectrum, but I was actually relieved when the question of having Asperger’s came up and I started doing research-it explained so much I never understood about myself and struggled with.
And now I accept myself and like being an Aspie. I came to understand that it’s not that I have s problem with being an Aspie-it’s society (generalized) that has a problem with it so it’s all good!
I've been with my autistic partner for 2 years and it's so lovely to see this side of autism being represented - the hidden disability where there's no clear verbal or cognitive disability. I find my partner is often overlooked because he appears so "normal" so his buttons and triggers are pushed so much easier, as people don't know. I am so glad a light is being shone on this :)
It's been a while hope you two are doing good!
As a Native American woman with Asperger, this is life. Thank you so much. I'm using my autism to help preserve my nation's language.
I'm confused. How come these comments are on? Well I think this guy has a beautiful mind. He's very articulate and we'll spoken. Great job Ryan. I loved this interview. One of my favorites. Excellent job. Keep being you. You are great.
I think the adults he interviews as have the comments on, and the kids have them turned off. That's my best guess tho
@@jfinney225 Not exactly. UA-cam turned SBSK's comments off. It was never a choice of SBSK's. Search and you'll see a video where they explain this. Actually, two videos. There's a petition for it as well. I'm very puzzled why this one didn't get hit as well. I've watched a LOT of their videos and this is the first one I've seen with comments. And plenty of them had adults.
did you just assume that some of us who are actually NOT that articulate, are worse? I do not think that was the point of the video. but well, I guess this is just how you, neurotypicals would prefer us to be like you. this is all just sad and misunderstood.
I wish he was my friend 😊 he seems cool
Ikr
Agreed
I know Ryan very well. He actually lives right across the street from my girlfriend and I. We went to the same schools together.
I also have mild autism, but it’s high functioning like Ryan’s. Ryan is a wonderful guy and am very lucky to be friends with him.
@@patrickrobinsob1464 Thank you! Please take care
LadyGabes You’re welcome. You too!!!
He's wise beyond his years. It's really incredible to hear someone with such an amazing understanding of the world. More people need to live with his positive mindset
I have high functioning autism and adhd seeing this video has helped me accept who I am
Same here!
@Pablo Moreno Cordón hi
My son does too! I just found this channel and this young man made me very proud of my son and this man. He is very wise. Made me cry and want to try harder to help.
Good
I have level 2 moderate
This guy is awesome, my son is on the spectrum and I want him to be proud of who he is. This gentlemen is a complete inspiration!!!!
Show him this video. It's encouraging! 🤗💖
@@potbunny7754, may I take Dr. Phil to a camp maniac camp in order to fix him? 🤔
A very smart, honest,respectful and really likeable young man. 💚👏
Wow. This guy has it all together. He's emotionally intelligent and articulate and introspective and super smart and loving. What a fabulous person.
I've got autism too, I just finished my first semester in college with flying colors! Let's go! Big boy gang!
Nate Rod 🤗🤗🤗👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This comment has made me so happy. Congrats to you friend! I hope you are still doing well, especially during this pandemic!
Congrats! 🎉
Nice ☺
Congrats king !
BEST QUOTE: " Normal is a setting on a dryer!" 😄😄😄 Can't be anymore real than this!
ghe c This quote has been around a long time- its the title of a book by Patsy Clairmont.😊
It took me a while to get it. Lol!! I get it now 😂😂😂😂
I wish I had friends like these
Facts. Real , honest, wise, loyal.
Ryan was speaking facts this whole video. I wish the best for this dude.
I’ve been binge watching all of your videos and this is the only one with comments on and it’s really unfortunate. The comments are all so positive and helpful. UA-cam is doing a disservice to the community by Turning them off keep up the good work
Why is it UA-cam s fault?
@@PrincessPartyEventos Search their channel and you'll find a video about it. UA-cam turned off their comments (and hid pre-existing ones) and won't tell them why other than to say it's to "protect the children" (even when the videos are of adults). And they won't budge and inch or even talk to them seriously about it.
@@PrincessPartyEventos channels that have content with minors have their comments automatically turned off by youtube. It's their new policy.
Very cool person. He's going to be very successful in life.
“Normal is a setting on a dryer”. Badass!
BrittKatSlat : so as life
Normal is subjective which really holds no value, We should be like life... Because “life” is different. 😊
Ryan is very lovable and intelligent, everything he said was spot on! And I absolutely loved his poem!! I would love to be his friend. :)💚
I have a 4 year old granddaughter who's been diagnosed with autism. I had issues with accepting that diagnosis, because she excelled at everything until around the age of 2. She was full out walking at 10 months, as well as communicating verbally. It was like she changed overnight, she started whispering to me and barely talking to others at all. I must say that this channel has really given me some much needed insight on autism, as well as other conditions. I wanted to show my appreciation to SBSK, and wish them success going forward.......you're truly AWESOME!!!!
My daughter was diagnosed at 2 months away from turning 4 after also walking at 10 months, having eye contact, loving to interact with us,being verbal n speaking normally for her age. Then things started to change around 2/2.5 because she would throw fits, which I just thought were normal temper tantrums at first,but also her language skills didn't continue progress beyond 3 word phrases or asking questions like kids do (why, what's that,etc.) N seemed to be more into toys/objects than kids/people. It was hard at first even though during the year we waited on a list for her to be evaluated for a diagnosis I had realized n accepted that she more than likely was autistic but actually being given that diagnosis n hearing it was still hard. But over the past 3 years since I've learned so much n come to accept it n just adjust things accordingly around her n do everything I can to help her be happy n succeed.
@@mallorygibbons4975 I know I for took for granted just how complex that 3 pound muscle in our head really is. After I left 1st comment, I suffered the loss of my father from cancer which spread to his brain. I walked in on him while he was having a stroke, his speech went first and by the end he was in a child-like state. I just continue to find ways to communicate with my granddaughter on a level that's comfortable for her. She's very good when it comes the puzzles, and Life is the biggest puzzle of all......so I'm more than certain, she'll be just fine. Thanks for sharing Mallory.
@@mindofmajorbaltimore4570 I'm sorry about your father. I wish u n your granddaughter the best of luck. Do u live in Baltimore? I live about 45 minutes from Baltimore closer to Delaware. I come to Kennedy Krieger a good bit for my daughter. That's where she was diagnosed.
@@mallorygibbons4975 yes I'm from Baltimore (born and raised).lol
My granddaughter was diagnosed at Kennedy Krieger as well.......it's a very small world. Wishing you and your daughter the best in this new year.
I feel you ! My son is 4 autistic he started off trying to talk walking before he could crawl and then at 2 it’s like he reversed now at 4 he whispers and etc but seeing this video. Is like a sign of relief and a motivation ! Your granddaughter will be able to function and have a healthy life ❤️ prayers for you love
This really makes me emotional. My son is 7 and is high functioning autistic. And it’s hard for me to connect with him and for us to understand each other. I’m so proud of my son we never give up! I’m thankful that this young man did this interview it was very helpful.
I’ve also noticed that my son builds his personality around media. The gift and the curse really lol
Why is it hard to communicate with him if He is high functioning? Is he nonverbal
I feel same with my autistic son. I really want hugs sometimes but he doesn't like them or eye contact 😔 we do enjoy music together and for that I'm really grateful. Thank God for computers too 😁
PS my son graduated high school now. The melt downs are different now. Hang in there if your son has them. My son used to bang his head scratch his face yell and flap arms and hands. He is so mellow now it's really a trip. Now he just goes to his room sits in silence until he feels better. I'm ever so grateful for how he has grown to understand himself and what he needs to do for himself when he's over stimulated or stressed. Maturity is a wonderful thing in everyone.
I am autistic and I started to talk normally at age 7
He's correct, there is no normal. Everyone is different. I, myself, have Aspergers, and I have experienced moments where people don't understand, so turn to hateful comments. But Autism is not a disease, it is something that simply means we see the world differently, and think of things differently.
To anyone being bullied because you are on the spectrum; Don't let those words get you down. The people who say them, have no control over your life, don't focus on them, focus on the people who treat you with respect. ❤❤
Lunar Eclipse I’m sorry people have treated you badly. Kudos to you, for sharing your story and being kind and supportive to others! Keep being awesome. ❤️
@@thebrantfordrailfan
It's not a disease. I'm sorry you feel that way.
TheBrantfordRailfan why do say it's a disease? Lol. I have asperger syndrome too and it's a tough disorder to handle but be confident man and that's coming from someone who struggles with confidence and self esteem.
Seriously, that "normal is a setting on a drier" line got me. So true. Been following your videos for a couple years Chris. I watch them with my 6 year old daughter. Been watching for over a year with her. She loves them. She asks lots of questions and she has befriended a few people at school who would be considered "different." Thank you for helping teach that there is no normal.
Yes there are comments on this video. Ryan, what an honor to watch your video. You introduced yourself to the world with so much compassion and conviction. I love and appreciate you Ryan. Keep it up !!!
Sincerely, a friend of yours
"don't tell me to act like a normal person because normal is a setting on a dryer and, overall, nobody"s normal"
I’m somglad for people like him to speak for the autism community. So many people on the spectrum are nonverbal and can’t advocate for themselves, but people like Ryan speak up for the community and give them a voice.
I’m so glad that technology lie that exists nowadays to help people. I’ve seen some people on the lower end of the autism spectrum who are cognitively impared as part of their disaility making devices hard to use, or some people with autism that may be verbal, but have major difficulty expressing themselves properly. People like the man in this video who can fully understand the effects of autusm and how it can affect his everyday life help for those who cannot put those same feelings into the right words.
This dude is a genius!!! I almost wouldn’t catch the autism he’s extremely high functioning. I love what he has to say, definitely dropping some wisdom. He would make a great spokesperson, he’s so intelligent. I have two close family members with ASD and it always intrigues me how different each version is from one person to the next.
Thanks Seth
"There is no normal. we are all different"
Exactly!! I really wish that more people perceive things the way you do
I love when you said, “Just because you are popular doesn’t mean everyone likes you.” So true and I wish I would have thought of that when I was in high school. You are so incredibly smart and caring. I’m very inspired by you!!!
Thank you for this one! Our 16 year old grandson was just diagnosed with autism, and this interview was so helpful.
“Do you want to be normal?”
“No, there is no normal. We’re all different.” ❤️🙌🏿 words to live by.
Ryan, I think you're just the coolest dude on the block. You're so self aware and smart and wise! You are so inspirational and I really learned a lot from watching you in this video!
Ryan is such a smart and chill guy. Thanks for teaching me more about autism!
I’m 35 and I still love watching Disney! 🙌🏻❤️
You're never too old
Just because it's animated doesn't make it any less powerful of a story
what does this have to do with the topic at hand?
I'm 33 and still like watching Disney
I am 40 and still love video games! 🎮👾🤓👍🏼
"Don't meddle in the affairs of the heart" ... I love this guy!
He seems too smart for some of these questions
What do you mean
@@purely_cringe3498 hi
People with autism tend to be smarter so. Lol to that dumb comment 🤣
@@zorls Ignore them lol they prob don’t understand how it works
He's a very smart person! I would defiantly give him a hug if I ever met him.
I myself am autistic, so to me he seems "normal" because I don't know any other way; and I don't know what its like to be a "normal" person, so I can relate to him. If that makes sense.
I hear you loud and clear. It's like self reflection when watching.
I hope you are keeping well.
A brilliant, lovable, articulate, well spoken young man whom we can all learn from.
“Hmm yes I know” I don’t know why but I screamed, like sometimes when he responds it sounds sassy and I love it 😂 he’s so sweet!
I’m on the mild side of the spectrum I’m almost 26 🙌🏽 love being different ❤️ I was diagnosed at age 14.
Ryan, your relationship advice really widened my eyes. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago for the exact reason to figure myself out. When i do, It may or may not work out but as long as i am happy with who I am. Thankyou so much
He's so smart. And he's right, there's no normal. Normal is relative and often overrated.
This guy is incredibly insightful and kind!
Thank you for making this UA-cam channel ❤️❤️ it helps me a lot for my little brother much love to RYAN
My son is getting an ados evaluation for autism and this video is like a breath of fresh air. Thank you for creating this platform.
I have Autism too, a lot of people make fun of that fact. It breaks my heart every single time :(
If people are making fun of you, it is only because they actually feel bad about themselves...their opinions don't matter:)
Well spoken with a pure depth to every thought. You have a true heart and understanding that is way beyond your years which is a BLESSING not a curse. What a GIFT.
Thank you for sharing with us
*normal is a setting on a dryer* yes!!
Hey my fellow dude with autism. You’re incredibly well-spoken. I loved everything about this. You explain autism and your struggles and triumphs so incredibly well. I would absolutely be your friend! I think the thing I related to the most was struggling with failure, and backing out if you think you might fail. I relate to this SO much. It’s overwhelming but you can accomplish so much. You’re going to continue to be an amazing advocate. (Also- I loved the Harry Potter reference!!)
w o a h he’s so a m a z i n g and smart
Normal is just a setting on the dryer! Yes! Love it.
I like his voice.
Well said young man my adhd makes me who I am too
Oh yes! I would be a completly different person without my ADHD! Of course, because the syndrome makes our brain, thinking, feeling and behavior like it is. I love to have ADHD, my world is so intense, colorful, feelings are so strong, I am highly sensitive and very creative, my working and thinking is really fast... I think I wouldn´t bear to loose all that and be neurotypical... Sorry for my bad english, I´m german.
One of my most favorite videos. Ryan, you have inspired me. I loved your poem.
You know i felt i had enough of living , been dealing with suicidal toughts and a heavy depression but this man just Made me feel like living is worth i'm not a worthless trash and i can do things watched a Lot of SbSk but this video in special got trough me thanks so much
I know it has been a year but I hope you are still doing well ❤
I happened across your comment and I had to respond, "Tusk, you have so much greatness in you........just being here expressing your feelings, shows a great deal of strength". Never stop showing that strength and helping others face their truths. I really hope you're reading this Champ.💪🏿💯
I hope u feel better. This guy really had a heck of lot things to help everyone. This channel is full of good people. I hv to ask you is your name tusk because of pigs? Just asking because I do potbelly pig rescue.
I know this has been a while ago but I hope you’re feeling better. You are definitely not worthless and deserve so much love and happiness. Always stay strong when life gets tough because there will be better things ahead. Have a great day and God bless you!
“Come to Me all who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28 🤍
Wow. Ryan seems like such a wonderful and honest man. I hope he knows what a huge step he just did for the autism community. What an intelligent and lovely human being. I wish there were more Ryans in this world.
I really like this interview. He is such a sweet guy. The kind of friends many people want. Thanks.
I like the point he made about the spectrum of autism affecting races. It's not just whites
Definitely
Chris, you are a special human. The world is lucky to have someone to open our eyes to such important topics.
such a wise man.
I love people with disabilities they a light of sunshine in our lives💙
Niyah sabrina We love you too sweetie 😘😘
Omg Ryan is an adorable smoll bean full of love to give to the world. And so wise, too!
I envy his friends. You're an awesome human, Ryan.
07:03.. you made a big difference for me already. “Really…” saying with happy eyes and energy. Aww man, that melted my heart. He is such an amazing guy.
He has so much sense. More than the average person. I love it! I can learn from him.
Facts!!!!
Thank you so much for the continued exposure to others of not just those with disabilities in general but specifically autism. There wasn't even a diagnosis for Asperger's when I grew up and I have PTSD from the trauma and I still struggle with self acceptance.
Thanks in large part to folks like you, a lot more people have now at least heard of autism/asperger's and know what it means. Only 14% of us are actually able to hold down full time employment and only about 40% are employed part time. We need to change this and things like this help with increased awareness and in turn helps understanding and accommodation of people like us.
I've been on disability for a long time and now seeking part time employment again. I'm also already thinking about what I might could do as a career, rather what I WANT to do. It's very frightening and I know there are those who won't understand. But letting people know how they can help us in a positive way helps a great deal. I'm optimistic about the future.
Thanks again. People like you are what is keeping this world turning.
Normal is the setting on a dryer.... I LOVE that :)
Hello! My six years old son has autism, and I am worry about his future very much. But this intelligent young man shows, how smart, communicative and open-minded can be a person with such diagnosis. Your channel inspires me to do more and more every day for my son, so now he speaks out entire sentences, although a year ago he couldnt say a word. Now we are learning to communicate to other people, and getting better with it. Thank you for what you are doing, and thanks for this interview with such a brave person as Ryan! P.S. Pardon my poor English, I am Russian, and forgot almost everything what learned at school)))) Well, its enough to understand and read the subtitles, but poor to write, and describe how thankfull I am. You, guys, give me hope and power to make my sons life as happy as it could be!
My youngest is autistic I'm amazed by her strength and mostly her brain. She's highly intelligent it blows my mind. Like I told her what is normal? No one knows because none of us are. I love autistic people because they're honest and genuine while most so called normal ppl are fake and can't be themselves.
This is one of the most amazing videos and interviews I have ever seen. It has changed my life.
Another great video and a great friend. Thanks, Chris and Ryan!!!! SBSK is my favorite channel.
He is magnificent! Thank you for these interviews
I like his voice and his assertiveness
And that he's one of the few who looked directly into Chris' eyes when sitting together
Many autistic people make intense eye contact to compensate for the intense pain and violation it makes us feel. We do it because neurotypicals will not respect us or see us as human otherwise.
So cool to meet someone who is just like my son. My son is the most awesome person in the world.
“Normal is a setting on the dryer” 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
You added value to my life too! You are so special! I love how you are able to be transparent and honest. Nothing but love for you!
chris, i love and appreciate you so much❤ you inspire me every day. the way you talk so easily and calmly to all theses people with differnt diseases or disorders is so amazing. we need more kind, caring and non judgemental people like you in the world❤ thank you for all that you do!!
That poem was beautiful
1:09 this man needs to go on a TED talk like he just spoke absolute facts
LeoIsIrrelevant
Oml why did i think you was talking about the movie 😂😭
You deserve a lot of congrats Chris, you are so good at making people feel good and comfortable
I feel like I need to listen to snippets of this every morning as I get ready for the day. He speaks with such conviction and that’s inspiring.
What an awesome sense of humor! And SO smart and wise beyond his years.. “ being popular doesn’t mean that everyone likes you” .. TRUTH!!
I really appreciate this video. Thanks for teaching me more about the autism spectrum❤️.
I always love your vids. The people you meet are just amazing and so strong. Love this always.😻
Ryan is incredible! He brought tears to my eyes, what a beautiful young man. Thank you Ryan for sharing your story. I would gladly give you a big hug anytime 🤗
I've seen this video multiple times and I keep coming back to it. Ryan is a quote machine and he has taught me so much! Thank you Ryan my friend
Ryan you are a beautiful, intelligent, insightful, courageous young man. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing yourself. We were recently told that my 3 year old grandson has ASD and watching you has really given me hope that the world will see and love him the way I do. And that when that happens it will be because of heros like you paving the way.
"How can you get into a relationship or get married when you don't even know yourself yet?" Lord in Heaven... that hit this perpetually single 40-year-old right in the heart. Lol
This guy is golden 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Soooo happy you interviewed him wish more of us were like him
Ryan is so wise and thoughtful. His creativity shone through his poem.
Authism has a laaarrrggeee spectrum, my mom has a friend who's grandson has authism but he can barely communicate with people, it's clear he can feel love and is pretty playful (he's like a little kid, always happy) but he doesn't communicate. Yet here's this guy who speaks and expresses his ideas better than most people, he seems so caring and composed I wouldn't be able to tell he's on the spectrum at all.
Love you Chris!!! I signed the petition this morning. Best of luck getting the comment section resolved. It feels good to finally comment on one of your videos. I have a microcephalic sister so what you're doing means a lot.
What a brilliant well spoken kid.....and Chris you are just so kind.
You are so incredibly wise beyond your years. Thank you for sharing your story!