Thanks Pushkal ji for your time and valuable insights. Thanks Madhu ji and Manushi ji for hosting this important show. (Hope this text won't be revoked).
पुष्कल सर एकदम सही कह रहे हैं । मैने इनके कमांड में काम किया है । मेरी शादी के बाद जब मैं यूनिट आया तो पुष्कल सर ही मेरे कमांडिंग ऑफिसर थे । इन्होंने मुझे भी समझाया था की 100 परसेंट नॉमिनेशन वाइफ को मत दो। तब मैने इनकी रिस्पेक्ट में ही अपना नॉमिनेशन अपने पिताजी को दिया था। बाद में मेरी ही यूनिट के केस देखकर मुझे लगा की सर ने बिलकुल सही करवाया था। पुष्कल सर जैसा लीडर मैने अपनी पूरी सर्विस में दूसरा नहीं देखा।
जातिवाद वंशवाद संप्रदायवाद परंपरावाद से निकलकर समाज भोगवाद बाजारवाद सुविधावाद व्यक्तिवाद मेरा जीवन मेरी मर्जी मेरी खुदगर्जी मे फंस गया है अब कुछ भी नही बचेगा
@@48038 @48038 In normal urban life or to some extent rural life; jatiwad don't exists. But politicians keep it alive. All political parties are culprits.
My husband written my name in the place of NOK in the service will and he passed away while he was on duty in 2021.He was very much concerns about my future and life when there will be any kind of problems such as death or an accident may occur in our family life. He was in service for 36 years and we donot have children and we spends our whole money to his family for their well being but when he passed away Nobady from his family came to station to received his body for funeral and his last departure. Only myself took him to his home town and did all ceremony but now my mother in law and brother's fighting for money alone, now I am in such a turmoil to survive my life without fear. Really speaking defence should take an action according to the life of widow as well as familly.
Sir, let me highlight my case 1. We had love marriage. His family didnot come for our marriage 2. After son was born, they came 3. They took 70000 from him for elder brothers house. They take all canteen stuff, rum, come for holidays..his pay goes on them 3..my MIL asked me give me all details of your salary, money. I teach 4. I was planning to leave my job. But he has no money left for kitchen . His hand always tight. So we live in separate cities because of my job 3. My child suffering. My mental health. His mental. health 4. My MIL threatens me with divorce if I don't give my money to her. She asks through husband 5. My family blames me, why you allowed husband to meet his family that didn't come for our marriage 6. I suffered depression. I don't want husband to choose between me and mother but mother says its her right to take money from son. 7. Wives also suffer. What should I do? Leave my husband. Divorce him? He harasses me when mother teaches him, your wife doesn't love you, your son doesn't love you. My fear is my husband will die of pressure on him. I keep queit for that She even says marry your widowed sister in law
अगर बच्चे है तो बच्चो के नाम पैसा होना चाहिए. ...और अगर बच्चे नही है और यंग बीवी है वो शादी कर सकती है तो यंग बीवी और माता पिता को 50...50...प्रतिशत मिलना चाहिए. ..
My husband is serving. You cant imagine how much interferance parents do in marriage. For money. For control. Even jobs. They want you to tell them salary, savings, where you spend, what you buy. Mine was love marriage, they didn't even come to the wedding. But after child was born,they came and controlled everything. Asking me to tell them in my whole service how I had spent my money. Thats before marriage. They took money and gave elder brother. His children. All elder brothers responsibility thrown on our shoulders. We were running 3 families expenses. Still not happy. They want son to have affairs not be joru ka gulam, insult in laws, insult wife,distance own child. Even marry someone else or own widowed bhabhi. Thats reality. All for money. She has her own double storey house. Husbands money,elder sons money. Still not happy.
I totally agree with the views of Wing Commander Pushkal and a big salute to him... he is very open, just and wise in his suggestions. Hope he makes the recommendations to the PM & Defence Minister to bring out these necessary changes as suggested by him as its the need of the present hour and also Amendments have to be done in Next of Kin as justice has to be done to parents too when they loose their son or daughter whilst in service to Our Nation on 50:50 basis or if there are children on 70:30 basis. Its the duty of every son and daughter to provide for their parents and i being convent educated we were taught by elders n also by our educators to honour our parents and later on our parent in laws & take care of them till their end.
पति कर्ज लेकर पत्नी को शिक्षित करता हैं, पत्नी सरकारी नौकरी मिलने पर पति को छोड़ देती हैं. यह सब सरकारी संरक्षण और घटिया कानून व्यवस्था के कारण बढ़ा है.
@@Bhy587 teri Ma-bahnaa-betiya sabse khudaati hai isiliye sabke baare se wohi sochta hai. Waise vivah nahi kiya hoon toh un chinnaaro' ko bhej dena kabhi.
@@Bhy587 @Bhy587 teri Ma-bahnaa-betiya sabse khudaati hai isiliye sabke baare se wohi sochta hai. Waise vivah nahi kiya hoon toh un chinnaaro' ko bhej dena kabhi.
जब नियम बने थे तब परिस्थितियां अलग थी शहीद की विधवा ससुराल मे रहती थी और दूसरी शादी नही करती थी लेकिन अब शहीद की पत्नी दूसरी शादी कर सकती है और शहीद के पैसे का पूरा लाभ नया पति उठायेगा. ..... इसलिए अगर शहीद के बच्चे है तो पूरा पैसा बच्चों के नाम हो अगर शहीद के माता पिता डिपेंडेंट थे या आय का कोई साधन नही था तो ३० प्रतिशत उनको भी मिले....और अगर बच्चे नही है तो पैसा पत्नी और माँ को 50..50...प्रतिशत मिलना चाहिए. ....
8:05 इस particular case में शादी कुछ महीने पहले हुई थी I understand अगर कई सालों की married life होती और उसके बच्चे होते तो बात अलग होती इस particular case में this girl did NOT deserve to keep Anshuman's कीर्ति चक्र
पति खोया, बेटा खोया तो पति तो दोबारा मिल सकता है और मिलेगा ही लेकिन बेटा अब कभी नहीं मिलेगा, ये अजीब तरीका है कि मरणोपरांत सबकुछ सिर्फ पत्नी को, क्यों, ये हमारे नियम बनाए गए हैं कुछ को ऐश करने दो और कुछ का गला दबा दो
@@jonaligoswami651 पति तो मिलेगा दोबारा और जल्दी ही, एक पति के होते हुए भी दूसरा पति रखा जाता है, लेकिन बेटा कहां से आएगा, मां बाप का तो सबकुछ चला गया, पैदा करने से लेकर बड़ा करने तक सबकुछ मां बाप ही करते हैं
You should have listened to the young Daughter-in-law's version also before doing this Video. Who knows what trauma she had faced in their home which made her to leave the house . Both families should sit n sort out the issues mutually.
Even serving officers have problems. Their wife 1. Army expects you to do welfare, awaa activities, so many things. They dont cater wife has to look after his parents also. When they are with them. Gives no time to wife. For family life. She gets no pay for her work 2. Parents take husbands pay,also demand wives pay,her money because they are head of family. They say you are bahu,you have to give us full account of your pay. How much you earn,save,where you spend . Why. 3. MiL wants to keep husband under her control. He cant do anything without telling her. Not even gift to wife,child 4. MiL encourages husband to not be biwi ka gulam. To go out have affairs. Not go to in laws place. Not respect in laws. Paints they dont love you 5. In laws want their son to cut off wife totally from his life. Marry another
What ever rules already in defence that is very much clear to supported the familly of soldiers as well as parents.. Respected Sir, most of the soldiers living for their own mother family rather than wife and children.In this case you must have study about the situation facing by wife of a soldier and make your statement against the present NOK rules and norms. And do not think that the soldiers are not enough knowledgeable person to make their will by alone..
I have a lot of respect for you Madhuji, but the way you introduced this topic completely one sided made me skip the video. Few points, - parents have multiples times clearly mentioned about not getting the money whereas they have received 15 lacs from UP govt and 50 lacs from army insurance. Also hey have said wo paise lekar bhag gayee. - Most are criticizing her saying parents are left with nothing, where as they have received @ 65 lacs, father receives his pension plus all the medical and canteen facilities and all the perks that comes being retired from army himself. Plus they have two other children who are both doctors. So - Now the only thing we have here is their word, how do we know she was not being pressurized into marrying their younger son or may be some disagreements between them. It's not unknown that it has been practiced in may families in order to keep money property from going out. This possibility can't be ruled out. - Why ask for a sacrifice from younger son in this day and age. This is an educated family and the wife if needed will work and earn money, will marry whomever she wanted to , if she feels that way. - Change of address issue, in my opinion it's natural that she will change it to wherever she is residing. After all the correspondence will most likely be addressed to her as his NOK.
Change the correspondence address then why you are changing permanent address do you understand the gravity of changing permanent address, now anshuman singh is from gurdaspur punjab and not from deoria, up. Changing permanent address is criminal offence. Parents in every interview told about what they received even they said they will give that amount to wife if she gives them kirti chakra. You just interpreted the things you wanted
Father even suggested he would give the child of future daughter inlaw to smriti, if she doesn't get married.... Who gave him the right to separate a child from his mother. He wants to dominate everyone even the future daughter in law. He has changed his statements so many times. There r many cases in which wife didn't get anything. Smriti till now has maintained a dignified silence. She can also say a lot of things.
Who makes a children perform great deeds- they are parents. If wife get some time after marriage, she may become companion. Balancing relationship is not required because wife did not get enough time to have some influence on husband. It is injustice to parents that chakra was not given to them. Money matters, but the young widow's behaviour is highly reprehensible.
Madam ,if parents want 100 percent benefits, don't marry your sons. Simple. Why he needs wife? He has mother.why he wants children 2. What about father in laws responsibility? Has he given from his pocket to bahu? Has he returned her stree Dhan? Given her two rooms in his house to stay? Has he given in writing he will give her 50 percent of his property if she lives with them? He has responsibility to see DIL is happy. He wants account of her money, but will not give her account of his wealth,his earning. 3. Can't a widow go to her parents house? Can't a widow teach? Can't she study? 4. Why anshumans father doesnot live with his parents? Why his wife not live with in laws? They themselves don't do what they preach. They dont live with parents even after retirement. Tomorrow his wife or daughter will be vidhva too. Will they stay with in laws?
5 months is an excuse. 20 years marriage also has same problems. Parentd want all money. They dont think wife should get anything because they will take care of her and her kids. Even kids should not get anything . All should be with FiL because he is head of family. Do you want that?DIL to beg FIL for money? For her sanitary pads, her children's books? She has no dignity?
Koi politician jitne term Jeet kar aate hain, unhe har term ka alag pension milta hai . Aise me Ek mp ya mla 4-5 pension Ghar le jaata hai. Kya uske upar koi charcha bhi nahi honi chahiye.
It's unfortunate that we are seeing such hyperindividualism and self-centric behavior. The Sacrifice of our brave hearts must inspire and create more brave hearts, and I pray to God that may every brave heart get to live his full life, Being Wife You should have played a role in promoting more such patriotism and helped the families of other martyrs of course you too have a life to live but I hope you do not make yourself a wife of a Jihadists!! Though your own investment in the life of Dr Anshuman is very little so you may not remember it, but the investment of the nation and the parents of Anshuman is very high and the loss to them is incalculable that is why the nation stands up with the family of Martyr so that this nation may never feel a shortage of Anshuman.. patriots and braveheart!!
Saari interviews sunne ke baad mera ek sujhaav hai: Madhu didi, pension rules to change hone chahiye: 1.jin matapita, mata ya pita ki mritak ke elawa ek bhi aur santaan nahi unke liye kuchh%de depending on bahu ke bachche hai ya nahi. 2. jinke ek ya adhik additional santaan hai unke liye less%, 3. jinke santaan bhi hai, property bhi hai aur jo khud bhi pension le raha ho, aur uske marnoparaant uski patni ko family pension mil jayegi unhe pension me kuchh bhi share nahi, 4. aur jinke khud ka pension hai, santaane hain, property bhi hai ki TV par bhaanj sake, influential hai ki news reporters ko bula sake aur sasur hai jo bahu ki witch hunting kar uske pension se irshya kare use jail me daal de.
आपका आकलन पत्नियों के लिए रक्षा दलों मे चलने वाली संस्थाओं के लिए बिलकुल सही है इसमे AWWA सबसे ज्यादा क्रियाशील हैं एक मीडियम रेजिमेंट की सच्ची घटना जो मैंने देखी लगभग 2016 या 2017 की एक बिहार का जवान जो नायक रैंक का था वह अपनी पत्नी को साथ मे फैमिली आवास मे रहता था वहां फैमली welfar सेंटर में AWWA की एक्टिविटी शुरू हुई उसमे उसकी पत्नी को फैशन शो में रखा। वो सुबह जाती थी शाम को वापिस आती थी। बच्चों को स्कूल भेजना या दोपहर का बच्चों को स्कूल से आने के बाद देखना खुद की ड्यूटी की तैयारी सब जवान को करना पड़ता था। इस कारण ड्यूटी पर कभी कभी लेट होने पर डाट मिलना शुरू हो गया। ये लगभग एक सप्ताह तक चला। उसकी पत्नी भी जाने कोई खास रुचि नहीं ले रही थी फिर भी जाना पड़ता। परेशान होकर उसने अपनी पत्नी को सख्ती के साथ रोक दिया कि अब कहीं नहीं जाना है। जब उसकी पत्नी नहीं गयी तो उसे कंपनी Commander इसके बाद Commanding ऑफिसर ने बुलाकर बहुत जोर दिया कि उसे भेजना ही पड़ेगा अब उसने सभी से एक ही बात कही कि वह अपनी पत्नी को अपने बच्चों और अपने कार्य के लिए लाया है इसलिए नहीं भेजेगा। इसके बाद उसकी रिपोर्ट को ब्रिगेड Commander के पास भेजा और ब्रिगेड से डिविजन Commander GOC के पास भेजा गया। GOC सहाब बहुत फॅमिली हितैषी थे उन्होंने स्पष्ट आदेश सभी ब्रिगेड के लिए दिया कि कोई भी किसी की AWWA एक्टिविटी मे जबरदस्ती नहीं बुला सकता।
Mam aap jo bhi bol rahe ho 100/💯 baat sahi h isme aap bade soch samjh ke bol rahe ho anshuman ke maa pitaji ko aap hi insaaf dila sakte ho unhone kisi ko paresan nahi kiya aapka bahut bahut dhanyawad hoga mam ji
नौजवान उम्र में युवा प्रेम में भावुक होता है उसे रिश्तो के मनोविज्ञान और अभिभावकों की भावनाओं का उतना ऐहसास नही रहता ,ना ही उसे इसका पूर्वानुमान रहता कि पत्नी का नेचर कब कैसे बदल सकता है ।इस पर सैन्य अथारिटी को अनुभव शील स्पेशलिस्टो की राय को सैनिक या कर्मचारियों को बताना चाहिए।
Marriage chahe 1 month ya ek din ki bhi ho toh wo shadi legal hoti hai. Shadi sab soch samaj ke karte hai. Koi nahi sochta ki aesa hoga, ye toh situation hai. The girls parents should have solved the situation, no Father wish to marry his daughter to someone who would die and would not even be given security after his death
Please some day discuss topic "parental alienation" for separated divorced parents (father). Discuss how joint parenting or joint custody can be made feasible.
This country needs full reform from top to bottom. There is colonial/Islamic mindset in judiciary, education, army, police, bureaucrats everywhere. No one thinks from Bharatiya perspectives.
Sasur saahab, education secretary ke paas pahunch gaye, smriti ke pita ki naukri se related department. Ye jarurat se jyada pressurise karna nahi? Unke di hui teeno vikalp ko dhyaan se sune to usme inke ghar me bahu ko rehne ka pressure diya gaya hai- agar mere ghar me rahe to mai chhote bete se vivaah kar dunga, mere ghar me nahi rehna chahiye to MAI beti ke jaise khud vivaah karwaunga, agar mere ghar me bina vivaah kiye rahe toh apne bete ka bachcha uski god me daal dunga. Matalab smriti ke paas unke ma ke ghar rehne ka choice hi nahi chhoda tha--- mere bete ke naam ka pension leke tu kahin nahi jayegi. Tabhi unki bahu ko bina bataye jhaansa dekar bhaagna pada.
Agar wife ki death ho jaati to kya aap Husband ko apne In -Laws (Ladki k maa-baap) ki responsibility-duty ki salah deti? ??..Lt Kiran Shekhawat: After the death of 1st Woman Officer to Navy, all her entitlements & benefits were given to her "spouse" as per policy. No Kids, marriage duration around two years, her parents got nothing & left behind to support themselves from own savings. No one called the husband gold digger or lootera dulha or someone who should have been trashed because he would remarry. Jahan beti k maa-baap ki baat aati hai to aap jaise log ye gyaan le kar kyu nahi aatey ?????
मधु जी हम बहनों ने हर तरह से मानसिक और सामाजिक शारीरिक रूप से माँ पिता की सेवा किया हर समय उनके लिए उपस्थित रहे परन्तु उनकी अचानक मृत्यु होते ही मेरी भाभियाँ भाइयों पर हावी हो गई और हम बहनो से सारे रिश्ते तोड़ दिए जैसे वो मौका ढूंढ रहे थे जबकी माता पिता दोनो ने हमारा ध्यान रखने को कहा था । हम बहनो की शादी गरीब घरो मे हुई थी जबकि हमारे पिता ने हम बहनो पर पैसा बचाकर भाईयो को महंगे-महंगे पढ़ाई करवाई पर आज भाइयों ने सारे रिश्ते तोड़ दिए केवल इस लिए कि कुछ देना लेना न पड़े । आप ऐसी बेटियो के लिए भी विडियो बनाइए ।
Bilkul sahi kaha mere saath bhi yehi ho rha h jab ki mera bada bhai Army m h uski Wife ne usko mere kilaf kar diya ..aab hamko 3 saal ho gaye h..hamare bich m koi baat nahi hoti h. or na hi m unke ghar jati hu....par Mera ek chota bhai bhi h wo bhi Army m h .wo bhaut acha h uski wife bhi bahut achi h. uske waha jati hu wo mujhe bhaut pyar dete h....
सर आप केवल अपना अनुभव बांट रहे हो असलियत में इन्फेंट्री में तो दिन और रात का पता नहीं होता फॉर्म तो दूर की कौड़ी होती है केवल पत्नी का नाम पूछा जाता है बाकी काम ऑफिस में खुदबखुद तथाकथित आदेशों के द्वारा पार्ट2ऑर्डर कर दिया जाता है।
बेटा, इसीलिए तो मैंने अधिकारियों को भी बोला की अपने जवानों के साथ न्याय करें , ऑर्डरलीरूम पर मत छोड़ें और इस तरह के फॉर्म में उसे समझा कर भराएँ जल्दी में नहीं .
Sainik ke maa bap bhaii kahi kahi pe sainik ke wife bachhe ko dekhte tak nahi hai... Sainik ka paisa lete hai pura aur retire hotehi usko hi nikal dete hai ghar se
Namastey madhu mam! Plz keep one session on agniveer. This scheme is getting negative response despite some changes. Youth who have already enrolled in agniveer batch themselves are dissatisfied. I think bjp needs to take it back otherwise they will have to face defeat. Our army is cut down short from 12 lacs to 10 lacs bcos of agniveer. This is serious issue mam. In process of cutting cost are we cutting our army? We can not play with the fauj of this country. Plz I am feeling restless bcos of this scheme. This scheme will backfire. Plz make one video about this.
आज मधु जी के लिए मेरा सम्मान कई गुना बढ़ गया। ज्योति जी जैसी ही सनातनी विचार रखती हैं। पुष्कल जी की बातें अक्षरशः सत्य हैं। इसका पालन होना चाहिए। 🙏🏻
बहुत दिनों के बाद मानुषी की सार्थक चर्चा, साधुवाद।
Thanks Pushkal ji for your time and valuable insights. Thanks Madhu ji and Manushi ji for hosting this important show. (Hope this text won't be revoked).
पुष्कल सर एकदम सही कह रहे हैं । मैने इनके कमांड में काम किया है । मेरी शादी के बाद जब मैं यूनिट आया तो पुष्कल सर ही मेरे कमांडिंग ऑफिसर थे । इन्होंने मुझे भी समझाया था की 100 परसेंट नॉमिनेशन वाइफ को मत दो। तब मैने इनकी रिस्पेक्ट में ही अपना नॉमिनेशन अपने पिताजी को दिया था। बाद में मेरी ही यूनिट के केस देखकर मुझे लगा की सर ने बिलकुल सही करवाया था।
पुष्कल सर जैसा लीडर मैने अपनी पूरी सर्विस में दूसरा नहीं देखा।
Bahut acha kiya aapney I salute you.parents sey bada koi Nehi hota coz vo apna sara sukh suvidha sabh chotkey apney bacho ko padatey hey.
आज कल विवाह का टिकना धन और विलासितापूर्ण जीवन पर आधारित है। अगर भौतिकवादी महत्वाकांक्षा पूरी न हो, महिला तुरंत ही पति को छोड़ देती हैं।
जातिवाद वंशवाद संप्रदायवाद परंपरावाद से निकलकर समाज भोगवाद बाजारवाद सुविधावाद व्यक्तिवाद मेरा जीवन मेरी मर्जी मेरी खुदगर्जी मे फंस गया है अब कुछ भी नही बचेगा
@48038 In normal urban life or to some extent rural life; jatiwad don't exists. But politicians keep it alive. All political parties are culprits.
@@48038 @48038 In normal urban life or to some extent rural life; jatiwad don't exists. But politicians keep it alive. All political parties are culprits.
और परिवार वालों के द्वारा दिए गए संस्कारों और शिक्षा पर भी
My husband written my name in the place of NOK in the service will and he passed away while he was on duty in 2021.He was very much concerns about my future and life when there will be any kind of problems such as death or an accident may occur in our family life. He was in service for 36 years and we donot have children and we spends our whole money to his family for their well being but when he passed away Nobady from his family came to station to received his body for funeral and his last departure. Only myself took him to his home town and did all ceremony but now my mother in law and brother's fighting for money alone, now I am in such a turmoil to survive my life without fear. Really speaking defence should take an action according to the life of widow as well as familly.
Really sorry to hear this. Why did his family members boycott him?
Sir, let me highlight my case
1. We had love marriage. His family didnot come for our marriage
2. After son was born, they came
3. They took 70000 from him for elder brothers house. They take all canteen stuff, rum, come for holidays..his pay goes on them
3..my MIL asked me give me all details of your salary, money. I teach
4. I was planning to leave my job. But he has no money left for kitchen . His hand always tight. So we live in separate cities because of my job
3. My child suffering. My mental health. His mental.
health
4. My MIL threatens me with divorce if I don't give my money to her. She asks through husband
5. My family blames me, why you allowed husband to meet his family that didn't come for our marriage
6. I suffered depression. I don't want husband to choose between me and mother but mother says its her right to take money from son.
7. Wives also suffer. What should I do? Leave my husband. Divorce him? He harasses me when mother teaches him, your wife doesn't love you, your son doesn't love you.
My fear is my husband will die of pressure on him. I keep queit for that
She even says marry your widowed sister in law
Every case is different. Situation based judgement should be done
अगर बच्चे है तो बच्चो के नाम पैसा होना चाहिए. ...और अगर बच्चे नही है और यंग बीवी है वो शादी कर सकती है तो यंग बीवी और माता पिता को 50...50...प्रतिशत मिलना चाहिए. ..
My husband is serving. You cant imagine how much interferance parents do in marriage. For money. For control. Even jobs. They want you to tell them salary,
savings, where you spend,
what you buy. Mine was love marriage, they didn't even come to the wedding. But after child was born,they came and controlled everything. Asking me to tell them in my whole service how I had spent my money. Thats before marriage. They took money and gave elder brother. His children. All elder brothers responsibility thrown on our shoulders. We were running 3 families expenses. Still not happy. They want son to have affairs not be joru ka gulam, insult in laws, insult wife,distance own child. Even marry someone else or own widowed bhabhi. Thats reality. All for money. She has her own double storey house. Husbands money,elder sons money. Still not happy.
This happens with every parents of martyr. Parents are even struggling for uniform of their son to kept as memory. Thanks for raising such issues.
प्रणाम दीदी तथाकथित पुरुष प्रधान समाज में पुरुषो का ही शोशन हो रहा हैं।एक ज्वलंतशील सामाजिक समस्या पर महत्वपूर्ण संवाद के लिए आप दोनो को धन्यवाद ।
I totally agree with the views of Wing Commander Pushkal and a big salute to him... he is very open, just and wise in his suggestions. Hope he makes the recommendations to the PM & Defence Minister to bring out these necessary changes as suggested by him as its the need of the present hour and also Amendments have to be done in Next of Kin as justice has to be done to parents too when they loose their son or daughter whilst in service to Our Nation on 50:50 basis or if there are children on 70:30 basis. Its the duty of every son and daughter to provide for their parents and i being convent educated we were taught by elders n also by our educators to honour our parents and later on our parent in laws & take care of them till their end.
पति कर्ज लेकर पत्नी को शिक्षित करता हैं, पत्नी सरकारी नौकरी मिलने पर पति को छोड़ देती हैं. यह सब सरकारी संरक्षण और घटिया कानून व्यवस्था के कारण बढ़ा है.
बाद दुख हुआ आपकी बीबी भाग गई😢
Kabhi kabhi patni ko bhi chod deti hai..khud dekhi hun.lekin purush logone jyada kkarte hai is type kaa case
@@Bhy587 teri Ma-bahnaa-betiya sabse khudaati hai isiliye sabke baare se wohi sochta hai. Waise vivah nahi kiya hoon toh un chinnaaro' ko bhej dena kabhi.
@@Bhy587 @Bhy587 teri Ma-bahnaa-betiya sabse khudaati hai isiliye sabke baare se wohi sochta hai. Waise vivah nahi kiya hoon toh un chinnaaro' ko bhej dena kabhi.
@@jonaligoswami651 Improve your writing skills. What you want to convey.
अगर सैनिक की पत्नी पुनर्विवाह करती है तो कैंटीन सेवा मेडिकल फैसिलिटी बंद की जाये ।मांबाप को मेडिकल फैसिलिटी मिले।
Patni ki kyu unke 18saal ke bachcho ki bhi band honi chahiye.
मधु जी आप ने विधवाओं का दुख देखा नहीं ससुराल वालों को केवल धन ही दिखाता है
madhu didi ne aaj kal ki विधवा महिला की बात कर रही है... पुराने ज़माने की महिला की बात इस Video me nhi kar rhi hai...
बहोत बहोत अच्छी चर्चा
❤❤❤❤Madhu ji aur Pushkar ji, aapne ek aisa drushtikon diy hai jo koi aur soch bhi nahi sakta tha..... baki sare channels se kitna bhinn !❤❤❤
बिना कारण ससुराल छोड़ने वाली पत्नी होने का सारा हक खो देती है
जब नियम बने थे तब परिस्थितियां अलग थी शहीद की विधवा ससुराल मे रहती थी और दूसरी शादी नही करती थी लेकिन अब शहीद की पत्नी दूसरी शादी कर सकती है और शहीद के पैसे का पूरा लाभ नया पति उठायेगा. .....
इसलिए अगर शहीद के बच्चे है तो पूरा पैसा बच्चों के नाम हो अगर शहीद के माता पिता डिपेंडेंट थे या आय का कोई साधन नही था तो ३० प्रतिशत उनको भी मिले....और अगर बच्चे नही है तो पैसा पत्नी और माँ को 50..50...प्रतिशत मिलना चाहिए. ....
Aaj apke mat ko sun kr mujhe bahut santvna mili khushi hui ..as i have same thoghts as of yours ...about anshuman' parents ...
8:05 इस particular case में शादी कुछ महीने पहले हुई थी
I understand अगर कई सालों की married life होती और उसके बच्चे होते तो बात अलग होती
इस particular case में this girl did NOT deserve to keep Anshuman's कीर्ति चक्र
पति खोया, बेटा खोया तो पति तो दोबारा मिल सकता है और मिलेगा ही लेकिन बेटा अब कभी नहीं मिलेगा, ये अजीब तरीका है कि मरणोपरांत सबकुछ सिर्फ पत्नी को, क्यों, ये हमारे नियम बनाए गए हैं कुछ को ऐश करने दो और कुछ का गला दबा दो
Pati tumko dobara mil chakte hai..sabhi ko nahi.beta bhi dobara mil chakte hai ajkol
@@jonaligoswami651 पति तो मिलेगा दोबारा और जल्दी ही, एक पति के होते हुए भी दूसरा पति रखा जाता है, लेकिन बेटा कहां से आएगा, मां बाप का तो सबकुछ चला गया, पैदा करने से लेकर बड़ा करने तक सबकुछ मां बाप ही करते हैं
@@veenapandey10 tumko dobara nahi 10 baar milega.sabhi ko nahi..thik hai
@@jonaligoswami651 तुम कितने बार वाली हो ये साबित कर दिया
@@jonaligoswami651 तुम कितने बार वाली हो ये साबित कर दिया
You should have listened to the young Daughter-in-law's version also before doing this Video.
Who knows what trauma she had faced in their home which made her to leave the house .
Both families should sit n sort out the issues mutually.
Even serving officers have problems. Their wife
1. Army expects you to do welfare,
awaa activities, so many things. They dont cater wife has to look after his parents also. When they are with them. Gives no time to wife. For family life. She gets no pay for her work
2. Parents take husbands pay,also demand wives pay,her money because they are head of family. They say you are bahu,you have to give us full account of your pay. How much you earn,save,where you spend . Why.
3. MiL wants to keep husband under her control. He cant do anything without telling her. Not even gift to wife,child
4. MiL encourages husband to not be biwi ka gulam. To go out have affairs. Not go to in laws place. Not respect in laws. Paints they dont love you
5. In laws want their son to cut off wife totally from his life. Marry another
Very good discussion, govt must should rectify all loops immediately.
Har Har Mahadev 🙏
I Salute you pushkal Sir and Madhu ji didi
Very well discussed the topic, I would like to thank you for putting forward a case to discussion table by media and people like you.🎉🎉
Sir Great representation about truth of wives welfare organisation in military
Welcome Madhu bahan.love u immensely.may Krishna bless u with the best.May u always remain away from the negative energy of dear Modi ji.
Yeh Kirti Chakra maa baap ko samrpitt hona chahiye.
Kirti chakr marne vale ko mila he. Maa baap marenge tab kude me ???
What ever rules already in defence that is very much clear to supported the familly of soldiers as well as parents..
Respected Sir, most of the soldiers living for their own mother family rather than wife and children.In this case you must have study about the situation facing by wife of a soldier and make your statement against the present NOK rules and norms. And do not think that the soldiers are not enough knowledgeable person to make their will by alone..
But if she is so innocent,she should comment n come in front
I have a lot of respect for you Madhuji, but the way you introduced this topic completely one sided made me skip the video. Few points,
- parents have multiples times clearly mentioned about not getting the money whereas they have received 15 lacs from UP govt and 50 lacs from army insurance. Also hey have said wo paise lekar bhag gayee.
- Most are criticizing her saying parents are left with nothing, where as they have received @ 65 lacs, father receives his pension plus all the medical and canteen facilities and all the perks that comes being retired from army himself. Plus they have two other children who are both doctors. So
- Now the only thing we have here is their word, how do we know she was not being pressurized into marrying their younger son or may be some disagreements between them. It's not unknown that it has been practiced in may families in order to keep money property from going out. This possibility can't be ruled out.
- Why ask for a sacrifice from younger son in this day and age. This is an educated family and the wife if needed will work and earn money, will marry whomever she wanted to , if she feels that way.
- Change of address issue, in my opinion it's natural that she will change it to wherever she is residing. After all the correspondence will most likely be addressed to her as his NOK.
Main bhi toh yehi keh rahi thi
Sahi kaha bilkul
Change the correspondence address then why you are changing permanent address do you understand the gravity of changing permanent address, now anshuman singh is from gurdaspur punjab and not from deoria, up. Changing permanent address is criminal offence.
Parents in every interview told about what they received even they said they will give that amount to wife if she gives them kirti chakra.
You just interpreted the things you wanted
Father even suggested he would give the child of future daughter inlaw to smriti, if she doesn't get married.... Who gave him the right to separate a child from his mother. He wants to dominate everyone even the future daughter in law.
He has changed his statements so many times. There r many cases in which wife didn't get anything.
Smriti till now has maintained a dignified silence. She can also say a lot of things.
All my life I have fought for wives when they are wronged. In this case, Smriti is more wrong than wronged.
🙏🕉️ Radhe Radhe sach bole hain aap
Who makes a children perform great deeds- they are parents. If wife get some time after marriage, she may become companion. Balancing relationship is not required because wife did not get enough time to have some influence on husband. It is injustice to parents that chakra was not given to them. Money matters, but the young widow's behaviour is highly reprehensible.
hats off to wing comm. pushkal dvivedi jee, to tell the facts and unbiased point of view... people like him must be in rules making system
Madam ,if parents want 100 percent benefits, don't marry your sons. Simple. Why he needs wife? He has mother.why he wants children
2. What about father in laws responsibility?
Has he given from his pocket to bahu? Has he returned her stree Dhan? Given her two rooms in his house to stay? Has he given in writing he will give her 50 percent of his property if she lives with them? He has responsibility to see DIL is happy. He wants account of her money,
but will not give her account of his wealth,his earning.
3. Can't a widow go to her parents house? Can't a widow teach? Can't she study?
4. Why anshumans father doesnot live with his parents? Why his wife not live with in laws? They themselves don't do what they preach. They dont live with parents even after retirement. Tomorrow his wife or daughter will be vidhva too. Will they stay with in laws?
5 months is an excuse. 20 years marriage also has same problems. Parentd want all money. They dont think wife should get anything because they will take care of her and her kids. Even kids should not get anything . All should be with FiL because he is head of family. Do you want that?DIL to beg FIL for money? For her sanitary pads, her children's books? She has no dignity?
Well said
You are right
I totally support your good initiative. God bless you
Superb mam , sabse bada dushman ladki ka bap h
Bahut sahi...apke vichar...
Koi politician jitne term Jeet kar aate hain, unhe har term ka alag pension milta hai . Aise me Ek mp ya mla 4-5 pension Ghar le jaata hai. Kya uske upar koi charcha bhi nahi honi chahiye.
Will certainly take up this issue
It's unfortunate that we are seeing such hyperindividualism and self-centric behavior. The Sacrifice of our brave hearts must inspire and create more brave hearts, and I pray to God that may every brave heart get to live his full life, Being Wife You should have played a role in promoting more such patriotism and helped the families of other martyrs of course you too have a life to live but I hope you do not make yourself a wife of a Jihadists!!
Though your own investment in the life of Dr Anshuman is very little so you may not remember it, but the investment of the nation and the parents of Anshuman is very high and the loss to them is incalculable that is why the nation stands up with the family of Martyr so that this nation may never feel a shortage of Anshuman.. patriots and braveheart!!
Shaheed Nishant Singh ki mother ne khud sweekar kiya ki unko 50 percent hissa mila. Please don't lie Madhu kishwar
बिल्कुल सही बात है कि husband के लिए duties निभाएं तभी husband के वजह से मिलने वाले rights भी मिलने चाहिए ।
Saari interviews sunne ke baad mera ek sujhaav hai:
Madhu didi, pension rules to change hone chahiye: 1.jin matapita, mata ya pita ki mritak ke elawa ek bhi aur santaan nahi unke liye kuchh%de depending on bahu ke bachche hai ya nahi.
2. jinke ek ya adhik additional santaan hai unke liye less%,
3. jinke santaan bhi hai, property bhi hai aur jo khud bhi pension le raha ho, aur uske marnoparaant uski patni ko family pension mil jayegi unhe pension me kuchh bhi share nahi,
4. aur jinke khud ka pension hai, santaane hain, property bhi hai ki TV par bhaanj sake, influential hai ki news reporters ko bula sake aur sasur hai jo bahu ki witch hunting kar uske pension se irshya kare use jail me daal de.
The Samvaad today should've been impartial, but it unfortunately turned out to be one-sided today.
Maa baap ke paas kitna bhi ho ..bete ki emotional hak par bhi maa baap ka hak hai
आपका आकलन पत्नियों के लिए रक्षा दलों मे चलने वाली संस्थाओं के लिए बिलकुल सही है इसमे AWWA सबसे ज्यादा क्रियाशील हैं
एक मीडियम रेजिमेंट की सच्ची घटना जो मैंने देखी लगभग 2016 या 2017 की
एक बिहार का जवान जो नायक रैंक का था वह अपनी पत्नी को साथ मे फैमिली आवास मे रहता था वहां फैमली welfar सेंटर में AWWA की एक्टिविटी शुरू हुई उसमे उसकी पत्नी को फैशन शो में रखा। वो सुबह जाती थी शाम को वापिस आती थी। बच्चों को स्कूल भेजना या दोपहर का बच्चों को स्कूल से आने के बाद देखना खुद की ड्यूटी की तैयारी सब जवान को करना पड़ता था। इस कारण ड्यूटी पर कभी कभी लेट होने पर डाट मिलना शुरू हो गया। ये लगभग एक सप्ताह तक चला। उसकी पत्नी भी जाने कोई खास रुचि नहीं ले रही थी फिर भी जाना पड़ता। परेशान होकर उसने अपनी पत्नी को सख्ती के साथ रोक दिया कि अब कहीं नहीं जाना है। जब उसकी पत्नी नहीं गयी तो उसे कंपनी Commander इसके बाद Commanding ऑफिसर ने बुलाकर बहुत जोर दिया कि उसे भेजना ही पड़ेगा अब उसने सभी से एक ही बात कही कि वह अपनी पत्नी को अपने बच्चों और अपने कार्य के लिए लाया है इसलिए नहीं भेजेगा। इसके बाद उसकी रिपोर्ट को ब्रिगेड Commander के पास भेजा और ब्रिगेड से डिविजन Commander GOC के पास भेजा गया। GOC सहाब बहुत फॅमिली हितैषी थे उन्होंने स्पष्ट आदेश सभी ब्रिगेड के लिए दिया कि कोई भी किसी की AWWA एक्टिविटी मे जबरदस्ती नहीं बुला सकता।
Mam aap jo bhi bol rahe ho 100/💯 baat sahi h isme aap bade soch samjh ke bol rahe ho anshuman ke maa pitaji ko aap hi insaaf dila sakte ho unhone kisi ko paresan nahi kiya aapka bahut bahut dhanyawad hoga mam ji
Ma'am ur thoughts are very right....totally agreed
नौजवान उम्र में युवा प्रेम में भावुक होता है उसे रिश्तो के मनोविज्ञान और अभिभावकों की भावनाओं का उतना ऐहसास नही रहता ,ना ही उसे इसका पूर्वानुमान रहता कि पत्नी का नेचर कब कैसे बदल सकता है ।इस पर सैन्य अथारिटी को अनुभव शील स्पेशलिस्टो की राय को सैनिक या कर्मचारियों को बताना चाहिए।
Totally agree with every word of officer
Bahut accha baat kaha sir aapne
What is this 'Pata kyun badalwa diya'? Pata toh NoK ka hota hai. Jo insaan ab iss duniya mein nahi hai uska pata iss dharti ka nai hota hai.
Sir ap bhut achhi or sahi soch hai
🙏 जय श्री राम 🌹 🙏 🏹 🚩 दोनों को साधुवाद! 👏🙌
If widower switch on for resettlement. It should be appreciable. Then pension should be converted to the parents pension
Marriage chahe 1 month ya ek din ki bhi ho toh wo shadi legal hoti hai. Shadi sab soch samaj ke karte hai. Koi nahi sochta ki aesa hoga, ye toh situation hai. The girls parents should have solved the situation, no Father wish to marry his daughter to someone who would die and would not even be given security after his death
You are right
Parents r 100% right. Madhuji sirf appne sahi samja.
आपको प्रणाम है कमांडर जो आपने शहीद और वीरगति मे अन्तर समज़ाया है
Please some day discuss topic "parental alienation" for separated divorced parents (father). Discuss how joint parenting or joint custody can be made feasible.
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This country needs full reform from top to bottom. There is colonial/Islamic mindset in judiciary, education, army, police, bureaucrats everywhere. No one thinks from Bharatiya perspectives.
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I am surprised why has nobody tried to listen to wife's side of story and find out why did she leave them.
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Sasur saahab, education secretary ke paas pahunch gaye, smriti ke pita ki naukri se related department. Ye jarurat se jyada pressurise karna nahi? Unke di hui teeno vikalp ko dhyaan se sune to usme inke ghar me bahu ko rehne ka pressure diya gaya hai- agar mere ghar me rahe to mai chhote bete se vivaah kar dunga, mere ghar me nahi rehna chahiye to MAI beti ke jaise khud vivaah karwaunga, agar mere ghar me bina vivaah kiye rahe toh apne bete ka bachcha uski god me daal dunga. Matalab smriti ke paas unke ma ke ghar rehne ka choice hi nahi chhoda tha--- mere bete ke naam ka pension leke tu kahin nahi jayegi. Tabhi unki bahu ko bina bataye jhaansa dekar bhaagna pada.
Smriti samney akar santusht karti to ...Anshuman ke Parents ke sath unka bhi samman hota but unke kritya chalaki se bhare hai...
Exactly
You are right
Kafi Acha Discussion raha ki 1 solution ki taraf Aage bada.
समस्या की जड़ फेमिनिस्ट सिम्पैथेटिक एक्टीविस्ट हैं। परिवार को सम्बंधों की धुरी माननी होगी।
Jaise prem ki prateek cheena ji h vikram batra ji ki patni h,waise hi dhokebaji ki bhi prateek ab h ,sabke samne,
You r right
Well thought of & well said. Food for thinking & course corrections.👍
Paisa bolta hai. Soros funded NGOs hai toh Indian Right wing funded NGOs kyu nahi nahi?
Jada Paisa hoga, vahi log jaige.
Samaj ki kadvi sachchi hai.
धनय है इन महिला को कितनी अचछी बाते बोल रही है
Agar wife ki death ho jaati to kya aap Husband ko apne In -Laws (Ladki k maa-baap) ki responsibility-duty ki salah deti? ??..Lt Kiran Shekhawat: After the death of 1st Woman Officer to Navy, all her entitlements & benefits were given to her "spouse" as per policy. No Kids, marriage duration around two years, her parents got nothing & left behind to support themselves from own savings. No one called the husband gold digger or lootera dulha or someone who should have been trashed because he would remarry. Jahan beti k maa-baap ki baat aati hai to aap jaise log ye gyaan le kar kyu nahi aatey ?????
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Manushi बिना स्मृति का पक्ष जाने ये चर्च बेकार है।कोई न कोई कारण जरूर होगा जिसके कारण उसका व्यवहार बदल गया होगा।
Aapko punjabi family ka culture pata nahi hai kya???
Right brother
Very nice
Parents ka bhi haq ....hai aur unko aisi paristhiti me help milni chahie
Bchch gya chhota beta.Aisi larhki se shadi karwa dene se bechara devar mara jata.
Apke dwara jwalant vishay par sahi sujhav....sakaratmak hai...abhar
6:00 येही बात "सीरत" जैसे ड्रामों में होती है तो लिबरल वामपन्थी फेमिनिस्ट गिरोह को सारा त्याग भाव और सहारा देने की ख्वाहिश समझ आजाती है. अजीब 🥲
आप सब एक बात भुल गएँ ये फोज का ही नहीं हर सरकारी नौकरी वालो के साथ ऐसा होता है
spot on
56:32 POV: You know what's the matter with Shaheed already 😎
Madhu ji ap itna satik aour यथार्थ बाते करती है फिर भी लोग आपकी आलोचना करते है मुझे बहुत ही बुरा लगता है आपकी हौसला बनी रहे
मधु जी
हम बहनों ने हर तरह से मानसिक और सामाजिक शारीरिक रूप से माँ पिता की सेवा किया हर समय उनके लिए उपस्थित रहे परन्तु उनकी अचानक मृत्यु होते ही मेरी भाभियाँ भाइयों पर हावी हो गई और हम बहनो से सारे रिश्ते तोड़ दिए जैसे वो मौका ढूंढ रहे थे जबकी माता पिता दोनो ने हमारा ध्यान रखने को कहा था । हम बहनो की शादी गरीब घरो मे हुई थी जबकि हमारे पिता ने हम बहनो पर पैसा बचाकर भाईयो को महंगे-महंगे पढ़ाई करवाई पर आज भाइयों ने सारे रिश्ते तोड़ दिए केवल इस लिए कि कुछ देना लेना न पड़े । आप ऐसी बेटियो के लिए भी विडियो बनाइए ।
Iska ek hi solution hai, south ke jaise matriarchy. Mujhe property inheritance ka to nahi pata, par ha south me ma baap beti ke hi ghar rahte hai.
Bilkul sahi kaha mere saath bhi yehi ho rha h jab ki mera bada bhai Army m h uski Wife ne usko mere kilaf kar diya ..aab hamko 3 saal ho gaye h..hamare bich m koi baat nahi hoti h. or na hi m unke ghar jati hu....par Mera ek chota bhai bhi h wo bhi Army m h .wo bhaut acha h uski wife bhi bahut achi h. uske waha jati hu wo mujhe bhaut pyar dete h....
सामाजिक मूल्यों मे बेहद गिरावट आ चुकी है । जो परिवार संस्था को तोड़ने मे सफल है ।
Hamara sanatan dharam. Maa baap ko sbse bda maanta hai, system totally badalna padega, apni sanskrtiti ko bachane ke liye ....
Apki har ek bat sahi h
There have been several such incidents after the 1999 Kargil War.
सर आप केवल अपना अनुभव बांट रहे हो असलियत में इन्फेंट्री में तो दिन और रात का पता नहीं होता फॉर्म तो दूर की कौड़ी होती है केवल पत्नी का नाम पूछा जाता है बाकी काम ऑफिस में खुदबखुद तथाकथित आदेशों के द्वारा पार्ट2ऑर्डर कर दिया जाता है।
बेटा, इसीलिए तो मैंने अधिकारियों को भी बोला की अपने जवानों के साथ न्याय करें , ऑर्डरलीरूम पर मत छोड़ें और इस तरह के फॉर्म में उसे समझा कर भराएँ जल्दी में नहीं .
Anshumansinh ke mata pita ko mataji shanti pradan kare, jay bhagavaan pir hargovandas Bapu
Parents ko right milna chahiye,unho ne beta diya army ko
Eah wahi he na jinhone Ekam ko dhoka diya..
Shhi bola apne mam
Belkul sahi
Sainik ke maa bap bhaii kahi kahi pe sainik ke wife bachhe ko dekhte tak nahi hai... Sainik ka paisa lete hai pura aur retire hotehi usko hi nikal dete hai ghar se
Yes yes yes
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जय श्री राम 🙏🚩
Aankhe khul gyi, kitna bda shadyantra chal eha hai, hamari sanskriti ke khilaf..
Once for all divide the money between family n wife.obviously wife will remarry.Wife should be free from family.
Madam ne right kaha,jab zimedari nhi tab right v nhi milna chahiye
Namastey madhu mam! Plz keep one session on agniveer. This scheme is getting negative response despite some changes. Youth who have already enrolled in agniveer batch themselves are dissatisfied. I think bjp needs to take it back otherwise they will have to face defeat. Our army is cut down short from 12 lacs to 10 lacs bcos of agniveer. This is serious issue mam. In process of cutting cost are we cutting our army? We can not play with the fauj of this country. Plz I am feeling restless bcos of this scheme. This scheme will backfire. Plz make one video about this.