@@Rubeauti Listening to this person at all. First of all, he is wrong, second, he calls himself, "the great", third, the name Igor says it all. lol. Reason to ignore a man: When they have to bolster their ego by dating multiple women at once, I personally only date one girl at a time. If the girl could be "the one', I will want to focus on only her, if she doesn't have the potential to be "the one", then I wont waste my time or hers. I LOVE ur response though. 😀 And hey, I love leftovers, just not when its a woman.
@@BP7BlackPearl I've tried to learn other languages and it's very difficult. I had to cheat to pass english. Just don't tell my teachers other wise it'll be on my permanent record.
32 years ago, when was a young U.S. Marine stationed at Subic Bay. I spotted an attractive Filipina in Olongopo and struck up a conversation. I had dinner with her later that night and got the vibe that she really wasn’t really interested. As a result, I made no effort in pursuing her. Several weeks went by and I accidentally bumped into her again and she asked me why I made no effort to contact her again. At this juncture I realized that she was just shy. We have been happily married for over 30 years now.
@@riegh36 hypothetical query, however I do not believe in a double standard. Even before I met the lady to whom I am now engaged, I always allowed access to all my social media, to include friends/connections, and NEVER kept anyone a secret. Those who do keep you hidden - andor expect you to do the same - tend to be scammers with extremely well polished acts, and the ways in which they PRETEND to be open with you are still littered with giveaways. The last two who tried to pull that with me (one Visayan, the other American), I gave them plenty of rope to hang themselves and was all too happy to pull the metaphorical trapdoor lever on them at that point.
I think it depends on the situation, I have been talking to a foreign man since August last year we have almost 22yrs. Age gap, I'm already in my 30s but he is the 1st foreigner I've ever talked to, and if ever God allows us to be together he's my first in almost everything. I told him about it and he is very respectful and patient with me. I never told anyone about us because we both agree that we need to take it slow and we need to meet first in person to know each other deeply. I know almost everything about him, his family, his past, and vice versa. His coming to the Philippines this coming May I just hope it turns out well. I like him and always pray that he is the one who I have always been praying for all this year. Maybe the reason also why I never told them about him is because I don't have a high expectations until we meet. I'm very private when it comes to my personal life. I want to enjoy what we have now, I came from a province but living almost half my life here near the metro Manila because of work 😀 P. S. Sorry about my English 😅
Not sure about your knowledge and understanding of Filipinas as well asthe Philippines culture but there are challenges Filipinas face especially when involved with foreigners. Als,o the ideology of status, jealousy, and drama along with a Filipina has to be careful who she shares knowledge of her involvement with a foreigner besides her immediate family.
, I agree with what you said though I'm not sure because it's my first time being with a foreign man. All I want now is just to enjoy what we have, my sisters know that I'm chatting with a foreign man. but I never told them the specific detail Maybe I want to enjoy what we have without answering many questions. You know some Pinoy has a lot of questions when they learned you have a foreign friend or talking to a foreign man. I want to have a peaceful Start if ever😀
Be careful out there guys... I was in a relationship for almost a year with a filipina. I just found out she didn't just have one previous kid but three and was still legally married. Her conscience finally got to her and came clean. Wasted all that time and a deeply hurt heart.
@@ShredzZ_SteamDeck_Gameplays I met her at a bar called 'Don't Tell Mama' in Angeles City. 🤣 She is an older woman...19. Do you think she really loves me??? 🤣
Another tell sign she isn't really interested is if her messages are brief, no creativity...if your Filipina is truly interested, she will write long messages, or many messages....not just I love you, kisses, chat tomorrow Finally, she will show creativity....she'll use technology to put together photos or messages....
If you're communicating with a woman from a different country with a different language as yours, why would you expect an essay? If you're not from the Philippines and never learned the language, should they expect an essay from you also in their native language?
@Squid Usn perhaps my brief message wasn't clear....I'm speaking from experience....the girl I knew could write English well...during the initial communication she expressed herself well in writing ✍️ We met in person and she seemed ok though a bit reserved, never initiated much.....then after I had to travel for a short time her messages got short, good morning, I love you then disappear for a day or two before the next...I got cue that she lost interest, wasn't into me and said goodbye
@Travel with Ernie it was clear. It was clearly generalizing. Not all of them can express themselves the way a foreigner expect them to with a foreign language, written or spoken. Some write better in English than speak it.
Before I met my Filipina girlfriend, I remember texting with another Filipina woman that was not really interested. It took me 3 weeks to realize it. But, I also remember meeting another Filipina that didn’t contact me for a couple days after we had been texting and video chatting for a a couple of weeks. I thought she was losing interest , so I decided not to text her unless she texted me. But, then something changed that she all of a sudden started texting regularly and she has never let me down in the past 1.5 years. We began an LDR after. We finally met in person last summer and she is now my girlfriend.
@@williamshevr i actually think it’s on the right track, even though there was a little bump in the beginning. The relationship took a moment to get on the right track. It’s been on the right track ever since.
Go read coach Corey Wayne’s book, “The 3% Man”. It will give you the tools to make dating easy and effortless. You don’t even have to buy it, he has a website where you can download and read it for free… look him up on UA-cam.
Very good advice and probably good advice for guys dating any woman, not just Filipina. I was dealing with that recently with a Chinese girl i was dating that was quite a bit younger than me. She exhibited several of the signs you just spoke of. As hopeful as i was that it would work, i just had to let it go.
A word of advice from someone with decades of dating experience: don't try to put a round peg in a square hole. If she's uninterested, it's unlikely you can turn the situation around, even if you have very tight game. Cut your losses and try with someone else who right off the bat will be more interested. With any particular girl, you have no idea what her situation is, what she really wants, etc. You might be a wonderful guy, but just not for her. And that's OK. Any girl you have a realistic shot with will be friendly and approachable from the start. Invest your time in this girl.
I always find that dating advice never really seems to sink in with people. However people who watch dating shows are always able to tell if a couple will be compatible. Maybe we need to have a cameraman follow you on your dates, Rubeauti.
If she does not hold your hand-never initiates sex-always wants an 🍎 phone-says her uncle is dying-she will scream at you if she doesn’t eat rice-she refuses to get you Italian spaghetti sauce-spends her entire day on her 📱-locks her 📱and the worst she grabs your phone and says you are a cheat and you tell her that photo is my daughter
2 ex Flipinas-some of it -the rice/spaghetti sauce-uncle applies to men who have dated Flipinas-some tongue in cheek my daughters raised in the 🇺🇸 are different though due to economics being different here than the 🇵🇭
This is really decent advice for dating women in general. Men stop "working" for their attention. If they are TRULY interested in you, they will move mountains to see you and ask questions about you. It's not rocket science.
I'm in an LDR with a filipina. You have given me confidence that we are on the right track. She doesn't display any of these. When we are in person, then I can see how she is with me and around other people. Video chat and messaging is one thing, but in person can be quite another. Time will tell.
Scotty, That’s right. How things go in person can be quite different than online. I have heard a couple of stories of LDRs that lasted for two years before people met, and then only to break up after spending 3 days in person. I think honesty in the LDR is important so there are no big surprises in person. Best wishes!
@@shanwu2739 lol ATM 🤣😆😆. Yes. I saw a lot of crazy things happen to LDR Gringos in The Philippines. I was unexpectedly an Actor in another Gringo movie the poor guy didn't know his Filipina can't be trusted. Also another guy was playing Actor in my movie poor me too I was aware of the risk but still took the risk 😜 🤣😂. Some Filipinas are cold and ruthless Lol 🤣😆. It was 9 years ago Bro 👍🙌
If a guy needs this advice, he sure had no game in his home country. And will be a Simp in the Philippines also . It's good you addressed these situations for them.
Depends, i dont have good game, and can come off as inexperienced but ive bagged a few Filipinas. Sometimes it works in my favor cuz they leave me alone after a hook up and not get clingy.
well im listening just to learn more about the cultural difference. the filipina im dating gives me most all of her time. but the differences between her and the women in over here have many differences. me personly got tired of our women here because they are not family orionted and no self respect
My biggest mistake was not marrying my Philippine girlfriend. Her name was Marilord. I think she was from Cebu. I made a mistake. She loved me and I loved her. I made a Tragic decision. At least I got more attention and respect from from her than any American woman.
It has been my experience that women pursue commitment from men, and men pursue intimacy from women. I think the physical motivation for relationships is primarily biological imperative to create an environment for successful offspring, and ensure the survival of the species. Qualities in a relationship like loyalty are important for different reasons for men and women. We provide different needs for each other, and when we do that well we find the spiritual motivation for relationships in love and happiness.
Hate to say it but know plenty of guys pursue commitment. It’s just how can you have commitment and no intimacy? My 2 cents is women are now adopting men’s way of life…ooo that meat looks yummy!
All very logical and valid points. “It’s hard to see the forest from the trees”. If you’re a low value partner, you will take what you can get - you’ll entertain the bad habits in exchange for the “arm candy”. It’s not worth it. Know your worth and know that you deserve more. You’re smart Rubeauti. Articulate and well presented topic. Bravo 👏! Thanks for posting.
This is a female's perspective. All true, but there's more... Many Filipinas are insecure and can just have a hard time understanding why you are talking to her. I often hear "Why are you talking to me?" "Why are you coming to PH?" Both in a puzzled voice. Insecure about their English. Once I give good answers to these she warms right up. I see often in dating profiles is Filipinas complaining about men asking for nude pics. They call them "scammers". So I get the feeling many are holding back to see if I'm going to be rude. Doesn't take very long for her to warm up. I also get asked pretty quick about other Filipinas I'm chatting with, how many I've chatted with in the past. Filipinas often say they want a humble guy. It took me a long time to figure out what they mean...it's different from in the US. They don't like a man who talks about their wealth because it just makes them more insecure. They already feel insecure and now you look harder to land. Being a foreigner they already are assuming you have money, she doesn't want to know it's a lot. American women want to know every penny a guy has...but not directly. Easy rules... One message only. If she doesn't reply then that's it. None of this simping "Where are you?" "I miss you" begging. That's silly. She has to being doing some pursuing too. As an American guy it stands out when a Filipina is trying to impress me because American women never do that. Older Filipinas quickly name drop contacts in PH government. That's equals power in PH. If they own land you're going to hear about it.
"One message only. If she doesn't reply then that's it. None of this simping "Where are you?" "I miss you" begging. That's silly.".... yeah I made this mistake 😞
@@imcaufieldholt yeah, that goes for any woman, not just Filipinas… and even after you are talking more or dating… think of it as a game of tennis, you hit the ball over the net and then you wait for them to hit it back before you can hit it again (messaging should always be done this way).
Here's a clue. If she shows real interest, you will know. Of she doesn't show real interest, move on. If she's interested, she'll move mountains to meet you. If not move on.
very useful advice indeed... my rule of thumb for the women in the west, is if by the third date, she's not showing her goods, then bye-bye and good luck... exactly because I for one, I have no time, nor patience, nor energy to pursue, or even worse, to chase... what's the point of "chasing" if she's running away..??.. makes no sense to me at least... if she wants me, she'll make time to spend with me... best advice my own mother told me... oddly enough, after 2-6 weeks I get a sign from her telling me "oh, dear, you didn't call me anymore, you disappeared... why..??.." by that time, I'm already checking someone's else goods...
Truth. And, I found a lot of narcissistic entitlement too. And, I was just out of college. Back then, they usually wanted to meet in groups as they were only after the money or green card. I think that hasn't changed. All just wanted money for extended family as they were conditionally loved by their parents.
Thank you sis. This info applies to women everywhere. But mostly younger women who don't yet know their own minds yet. Older women know what they're doing when they string you along. You've got something that they want but it ain't you.
If a Filipino woman likes you she will make it obvious after one date. Don't give a second date to a girl who doesn't like you. Date multiple women. Don't commit to one girl unless she earns it. Don't commit to a girl you met online and never met in person. You tell her how it's going to be, don't let her dictate the terms or you are a human doormat and she will treat you accordingly.
Welcome to my life.... fell in love, she lost interest, I found it difficult.... became a human doormat... now realised the error of my ways, but took a long time
I’m happy you put this vlog out. I’ve been pursuing a Philippino but she has not shown me much if any attention. This is my official statement. Rubeauti, it’s over. I can’t go on seeing you any longer. We can still be Vlog friends but that’s it. No more special attention looking forward to dinners that never happen or calls that never get answered. I wish you the best. Cordially MAC.
My advice, cut her off COMPLETELY, do you REALLY need another friend trying to sabotage your future relationship, and there's really no benefit for a man to have female friends.
When she only shows her face, and after you send her a 3/4 photo she finally admits she is chubby. When she rebuffs you saying you should not pursue young women, when ur 60. Both are good reasons to stop.
@Rubeauti I don't know when you will see this comment. But I want to say that it couldn't have been more timely. I have now reached the point where I am finally ready to completely give up any pursuit of any involvement with a certain Filipina, whether personal or Business. I had pretty much given up on the personal, as she told me long ago she was taken, and I experienced similar things to what you described in your video. Realistically, there can be not even a long distance conversation, and certainly not a so-called LDR when one person is clearly ghosting the other. I have and am giving up the Ghost on any chance at love or any close to that in that case. It is fitting that it would be you delivering this message again. I think this is the second time for me seeing it. But this time it hits differently. Thank you for being like a drink of cool water to this man suffering in the desert wind and heat. I recently found your regular Twitch connections that now start my days, and you give me life. ❤
"too nice" to say what she really thinks? I hear this comment said a lot... as if the girl thinks shes so sweet and kind, and that no bad words would ever leave her mouth. When in reality, something far worse is happening... she's in fact gaslighting. And gaslighting isnt nice. Its dishonest, and happens a lot.
I needed this! I met a Filipino girl on line. She disappears middle of a texting conversation and leaves me hanging until I text the next day! Thanks. 👍
Just partway through this excellent video. Men if the girl is on the phone during the meal… just get up walk out… note you should probably still pay the bill though
If you use the principles found in coach Corey Wayne’s book “The 3% Man”, you will quickly weed out those that don’t actually want you and you’ll be able to grow the attraction with those that do. What she says here is true but you can know a lot faster than getting to some of these scenarios.
@@solascriptura-e7t yeah.. Aaron Clarey... I agree that is a good one too but I don't know of anyway to get that one for free... and Corey Wayne allows free pdf downloads from his website.
I really like the way u break everything down. As an American who’s had 2 long term relationships with Filipina women I think you’re spot on in most of the topics you discuss. Your videos should be most helpful for the new foreigner considering dating a Filipina 👍🏾
I will never date or try to date a Filipina woman ever again. I worked in a big metropolitan hospital in Toronto and I have met plenty of Filipina women there. Yes, they are very flirting, they always called me Guapo, or Pookie whenever they would see me. I had asked one cutie out for a date and she invited me to her........let's say very animated church service. So I went and she had her whole family attending there. I requested we go out for coffee one on one after the service but she insisted that her mom and brothers come with us. Being a Western man this was a total turn off for me so I stopped pursing her. It was getting too complicated just to get one date. Then in recent times I met a cute Filipina woman who was a cashier in a retail store. We became friends and we exchanged numbers. At first it was all flirting texting and when I asked her to meet me at a nice crepe restaurant, she changed her tune and her texts became abrupt and terse. I always thought that because of their flirty nature they would be easy pickings. I mean, a lot of them even talk dirty talk. Suffice to say, I gave up.
Sorry to hear that. I've had some genuine and intense LDR's with province Filipinas. I've thought about Filipina's living here in the States. I will use caution and your experience to keep me on alert if I do pursue a domestic Filipina.
Wow!!! Thankyou, thanyou, thakyou for this wisdom... I wish that I heard this 30-yrs ago. I am contemplating moving to the Philippines in the next 2-3yrs, and hope that I learn as much as I can to make a happier retirement... Currently earning almost $4,000 USD (after taxes) every month.
Hi Rebeauti. Many good points here. I will point out the part of thinking you are in a relationship goes both ways. I have chatted with some that think I am their bf just cause I chat with them. Talking to each other and spending time together is the best way to know if there is a connection. I have had some say they want to be with me but then I see some of the signs you have mentioned so then it is a big no. The biggest no no is being on the phone at inappropriate times. I hope those who watch this video learn something but some will not learn as they are wearing rose colored glasses and think all is good when really it is not so good. Keep smiling and stay safe
Excellent point all, ma'am. Some we learn as young men. Pupil dilation, turning body / feet towards the person their interested in, open body postures, casual touch reciprocation. Micro-expressions are harder to learn and take study, but can be very useful, especially at crux moments. Thanks for your great pointers and tips ma'am!
I was laughing hard at #4. I dated a thai woman that always was texting when we were going to eat. I would rather eat cold food than start eating before she put down her phone. At times she was furious. After a while she learned though.......
When I was a younger man I developed a "three no" rule. If I wanted to date a girl/woman I'd give her 3 chances to reject me. Obviously, some of them didn't require three rejections to convince me to give up. But some were/are more subtle.
You are so articulate and fine command of the English language. Some men are not secure in their skin, these are the ones that can be taken for a ride.
There needs to be a sense of mutuality when interacting with the person, most guys are aware or can read specific cues, listen, see, or take notice of their level of engagement. As a guy, be interested but not overly interested do precisely what some of them do in taking a measured approach, be specific about certain requests to see their reaction to shorten the time you may be wasting talking to a particular lady e.g. "I'm going to be in this area on a particular day if you're around we can hang out if not, it's cool" walk away.
Great video addressing addressing and replay of recent experiences with western women !!!! This a video I could of used 8 months in the USA showing me that I may be a little dense ???
Good advice..Traveling 20+ hrs from the East Coast of the US to the Phillippines is a long ride. Dont have time to play these mind games. I think the song by Dionne Warwick says it best. "Walk On By."
Since the pandemic I can't hug my filipina fiancée. For more than 2.5 years we keep hoping that one day the world will go back to normal but until now not really. Thank you for that raw and true content about your country. You deserve definitely more views 👍
I've met a Filipina on line. She's wonderful and we both seem to like each other. But according to her she's been hurt before and a lot of times she seems to keep me at arms length. This has been for a couple of months now and I don't know what to do
It's understandable. I believe that the best thing that you can do is to be sympathetic and understanding. If and when she opens up, let her know how you feel and keep communicating with her because you're interested but not because of her past relationships.
The bottom line is most everyone there is poor. Thats the way it is If ive worked hard my entire life to enjoy my retirement then the girl with me acts accordingly or is easily replaced. Be a man, not a door mat
It works both ways , why as a man should I jump through hurdles . That’s why I am attracted with someone from The Philippines . I have chatted with many Women , and been messed about a lot , and that’s ok , it’s a learning process . Better than wasting my time in the West , I’m now not stupid , I can see through the less desirable traits , for me it’s easy now . Still looking for my perfect Filipina 👍
I wish I knew about Filipinas when I was much younger! I'm hoping to have one a bit younger than me as I get closer to retirement age. I'm on my 3rd LDR and have learned A LOT!
Hi Rubeauti thanks you for that very informative video about things to pay attention to when you are dating someone and that can be anyone any where, I appreciate your videos peace ✌ and love
It takes a lot of experience with women to pick up on this tips. I got a 6 sense now about this things and have zero tolerance, I’m quick to walk when I spot them
Good video....thoe things apply across the board to women everywhere. People in general would be better off if they were simply "Honest" with each other...Male & Female alike
Great video Rubeauti. Thanks for sharing. May I add one more to your list? The "I know my worth" attitude. She will judge you by the cost of the date and if you don't spend enough on her she will push you aside.
"I know my worth," is a narcissistic saying (Definition - An extremely self-centered person who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance.), and you dodged a bullet. A woman can FEEL she knows her worth that doesn't make it reality. The MAN determines her worth or "VALUE" to HIM, and he does that based off her personality, traits, character, who she is as a person on the INSIDE, and what she will ADD TO HIS LIFE to make it easier and better (You know, "What she brings to the table.")
Woow harsh reality I guess in Philliphines for foreigner guys you have to be ruthless and don’t entertain wish wash or someone who is giving you I am not sure kind of interest. You need someone when they see you they are really scared of upsetting you. For me i would suggest all the serious guys to look for respectful girls who value your time and presence. Very subtle things that you mentioned but for the most part most of us guys tend to not pay attention to especially when a girl is young and beautiful.
Geez... I can already tell when a Filipina isn't interested in me, because US women have already done all that to me...these signs are pretty universal I guess... except when US women accept a date from a guy she's not interested in, it's not because she's 'too nice to say no', they do it to use the guy for free food & drinks...
Really? Just for the freebees? I never dated much. I always just zoomed in on the right gal at the right time without much fanfare. It would take rather unique circumstances before I would "date" a western woman. Actually, I'm no longer into western women. Just women in Asia.
This is a very helpful video. I like straightforward communication and appreciate honesty without being rude. I agree that I could miss the girl that likes me if I concentrate on too many specific features. After all beauty of the heart/personality trumps all.
Thanks for your kind words! 🙏 I'm glad you appreciate my straightforward communication and honesty. I agree that beauty of the heart/personality is the most important thing to look for in someone. 💗
Dating can be a fun experience with women. However, some individuals, regardless of gender, may be held back by fear. This is an opportunity to test their character and challenge them. It's not just about finding a potential partner, but also about learning about people and having fun along the way. Remember, you can't truly know someone until you spend time with them. I never let someone goes into her planning with well prepared answer. If you think about something of secret, this is not my fault, but I will make you give your secret and I only try nothing to do that. Also, I listen and make activities. I don't talk and it is not for myself.
I complement you. You are a very smart, young woman. I will mention that you are a beautiful woman but I’m sure you don’t need to be reminded. Great information. And you are very well spoken person.
Very good stuff. Good to hear some straightforward common sense - and the comment about not replying to messages when she always has her phone with her is insightful. Messages I get from my (very attractive) gf are very brief and do not show any interest in my life - i.e. are statements ('Hope you're having a good day') rather than questions ('Hey, how is your day going?'). Time to move on (& don't worry: I've been thinking about this for a while). Thanks.
I’m currently pursuing a Filipina who exhibits many of the same signs described in this video, but when I bring them up to her, she has good/understandable justification. These are that she was dating a man prior and she has pushed him away, sexually/romantically. However, he has been helping her be able to keep her house with his financial support following the sudden/unexpected death of her husband. Her job’s pay is not enough to pay all the bills. If she pushes him away completely, then she’ll lose her husband’s house without his financial support. She seems interested in a relationship with me, but can’t push the other guy away until she can stand on her own two feet, financially. She shows her appreciation by making his lunches/dinner and letting him live in her guest bedroom. She works during the evening hours when he is off work, so personal interaction is rather minimal. In the meantime, I feel like I’m in a holding pattern. This woman has some really great qualities about her, so I don’t want to give up on her so easily. She might legitimately be between a rock and a hard place. I’ve given her many opportunities to release me, but she gets upset when I start suggesting we say ‘goodbye’ to each other. Other positive signs are that she calls me 4-5 times per week and we often talk more than 2 or even 3 hours per call. So, this shows anything but disinterest. Yet, the indefinite holding pattern is hard to tolerate. Not sure what to do here!
What is wrong with me? I am a fat, middle aged Belgian who is a Manila newby. And genuinely interested in culture, language , quality lodgings, musea , art and a foodie… I constantly end up on YT about dating Filipina’s ! What algorithm connects my humble existence to the devinity of Filipina ladies?
Great stuff Rubi, all excellent points and very helpful for many men. In a way though should men be "I'm out of here", gone, move on, much before any of these signs show? I hope that I would, that I would not be so googly eyed over her that I loose my senses. What made me think about this is a phrase that you repeated about 4 times; "if she blah blah blah than she is a WASTE OF YOUR TIME!" It made me think of the saying "Love at first sight", this may sound very cliché and often not even accurate but there is something to it, when a girl first meets a guy and there are things about him that she likes (and visa versa), that is exciting, right? And that raises the general excitement and whole energy. Natural behavior is that that excitement and energy shows, it reveals itself. Such a girl (and again the other way around) will, with joy, try to find out more about the guy, she will want his attention, she won't even want to look at her phone because he is talking to her. When he calls and she sees that it is him calling on her phone she won't even let her phone ring a full first ring tone because she'll be jumping with joy that he called and she's dying to talk with him again, and on. Maybe I am taking this a little far but if there's not at least a little of that, maybe that should be the exit point, like before there's even an entrance point. That would never happen though if I met you in person Rubi 🙂
This is helpful. However, it applies in the US as well. It is normal woman behavior with the exception that Philippine women are less verbal about showing you. Good tips about the nonverbal clues. TY
I would like to add the Number 4..... when your dating and she is always chatting or texting on the phone.. know this.. that she might text or chat her so called boyfriend.... red flag for those girl who always check and almost glued on her phone when dating u
I had this conversation with my girlfriend and she would not admit that her feelings had changed from when I was over there six months previously. Something to do with the fact that i was sending her 25000 pesos a month. So I sent here an email and broke it off. I am sending her the allowance because she has kids and should make other arrangements for her income and that's that. I have 22 years of being married to a Philippina who was not interested she has gone off with another man. I am doing fine now and the next woman does not get an allowance I have to consider my needs for once.
That's a lot of money. Sending money to that woman was a cardinal sin of online dating. Please don't that again. You're not helping other guys in here.
@Where's David-Paul? I hate to say it and don't mean to be disrespectful, but you're the typical example and cause why most of these women can't be trusted.
Hi miss ive just found you as im planning a trip to the Philippines soon. Ive done 20 years in Thailand i should of gone the Philippines first ya yo it is what it is i have my half Thai son so it wasnt all a waste of time anyway ive been on Filipina cupid its been a challenging task not many genuine girls on there if at all. There just playing the field any advice miss you are highly educated o yes and stunningly beautiful God Bless You
I just started watching ypur you tube find it refreshing that you cover a wide range of possibilities and different locations not just the regular spots . ON mAY 5TH i board a flight to the Philippines it has been since 1969 since I've been there , my son was born in Olongapo , now I have a inlaw family for he married a Philion lady and I have two granddaughters that were bornin the PI and now a grandson on the way they are in the states now,, maybe we can met up and I can tell the whole story
I have been putting together a list of current scams used on date sites. And trying to put down a list of tell tale signs that the person you are talking to is a scammer. Love to do a Colab one day about this topic.
U Are so right about cell phones. I told one girl once when we started on a date, if you want to date your cell phone fine and I made a U-turn in my car in to take her home and she put it away. Then the date continued. There’s no way I am going to date a girl when she’s on her cell phone all the time , none
first mistake, you said "woman" ... it should be women
and second mistake?
@@Rubeauti Listening to this person at all. First of all, he is wrong, second, he calls himself, "the great", third, the name Igor says it all. lol.
Reason to ignore a man: When they have to bolster their ego by dating multiple women at once, I personally only date one girl at a time. If the girl could be "the one', I will want to focus on only her, if she doesn't have the potential to be "the one", then I wont waste my time or hers.
I LOVE ur response though. 😀 And hey, I love leftovers, just not when its a woman.
English isn't her 1st language. Cut her some slack.
@@Mikesadventures-m2q Amen bro. I would like him to say woman, or women in tagalog
@@BP7BlackPearl I've tried to learn other languages and it's very difficult. I had to cheat to pass english. Just don't tell my teachers other wise it'll be on my permanent record.
32 years ago, when was a young U.S. Marine stationed at Subic Bay. I spotted an attractive Filipina in Olongopo and struck up a conversation. I had dinner with her later that night and got the vibe that she really wasn’t really interested. As a result, I made no effort in pursuing her. Several weeks went by and I accidentally bumped into her again and she asked me why I made no effort to contact her again. At this juncture I realized that she was just shy. We have been happily married for over 30 years now.
Many filipinas pretend not to be interested at first and expect a man to be persistent. I’m glad you both connected a second time.
Yes that shy thing, I really had to learn that its really just being shy, and not the stupid games that western women like to play
They believe in courtship, not dating.
Sounds like you are lucky you both ran into one another again. Glad you found her - twice.
Awwww🥰
One of the biggest red flags: she keeps you a secret from everyone else she knows.
what if,if vice versa 😀
@@riegh36 hypothetical query, however I do not believe in a double standard. Even before I met the lady to whom I am now engaged, I always allowed access to all my social media, to include friends/connections, and NEVER kept anyone a secret. Those who do keep you hidden - andor expect you to do the same - tend to be scammers with extremely well polished acts, and the ways in which they PRETEND to be open with you are still littered with giveaways. The last two who tried to pull that with me (one Visayan, the other American), I gave them plenty of rope to hang themselves and was all too happy to pull the metaphorical trapdoor lever on them at that point.
I think it depends on the situation, I have been talking to a foreign man since August last year we have almost 22yrs. Age gap, I'm already in my 30s but he is the 1st foreigner I've ever talked to, and if ever God allows us to be together he's my first in almost everything. I told him about it and he is very respectful and patient with me. I never told anyone about us because we both agree that we need to take it slow and we need to meet first in person to know each other deeply. I know almost everything about him, his family, his past, and vice versa. His coming to the Philippines this coming May I just hope it turns out well. I like him and always pray that he is the one who I have always been praying for all this year. Maybe the reason also why I never told them about him is because I don't have a high expectations until we meet. I'm very private when it comes to my personal life. I want to enjoy what we have now, I came from a province but living almost half my life here near the metro Manila because of work 😀 P. S. Sorry about my English 😅
Not sure about your knowledge and understanding of Filipinas as well asthe Philippines culture but there are challenges Filipinas face especially when involved with foreigners. Als,o the ideology of status, jealousy, and drama along with a Filipina has to be careful who she shares knowledge of her involvement with a foreigner besides her immediate family.
, I agree with what you said though I'm not sure because it's my first time being with a foreign man. All I want now is just to enjoy what we have, my sisters know that I'm chatting with a foreign man. but I never told them the specific detail Maybe I want to enjoy what we have without answering many questions. You know some Pinoy has a lot of questions when they learned you have a foreign friend or talking to a foreign man. I want to have a peaceful Start if ever😀
Be careful out there guys...
I was in a relationship for almost a year with a filipina. I just found out she didn't just have one previous kid but three and was still legally married.
Her conscience finally got to her and came clean.
Wasted all that time and a deeply hurt heart.
Where did you meet her and also how old she is?
@@ShredzZ_SteamDeck_Gameplays I met her at a bar called 'Don't Tell Mama' in Angeles City. 🤣 She is an older woman...19. Do you think she really loves me??? 🤣
@@johnnypastrana6727 ye definitely, bar girls are wife materials :D Yikes
@@johnnypastrana6727 19?🤣🤣🤣 3 kids? It happens!😜
@@bigjohnson7415 maybe she got pregnant at 15 or 16
Another tell sign she isn't really interested is if her messages are brief, no creativity...if your Filipina is truly interested, she will write long messages, or many messages....not just I love you, kisses, chat tomorrow
Finally, she will show creativity....she'll use technology to put together photos or messages....
If you're communicating with a woman from a different country with a different language as yours, why would you expect an essay? If you're not from the Philippines and never learned the language, should they expect an essay from you also in their native language?
@Squid Usn perhaps my brief message wasn't clear....I'm speaking from experience....the girl I knew could write English well...during the initial communication she expressed herself well in writing ✍️
We met in person and she seemed ok though a bit reserved, never initiated much.....then after I had to travel for a short time her messages got short, good morning, I love you then disappear for a day or two before the next...I got cue that she lost interest, wasn't into me and said goodbye
@Travel with Ernie it was clear. It was clearly generalizing. Not all of them can express themselves the way a foreigner expect them to with a foreign language, written or spoken. Some write better in English than speak it.
@squidusn71 he never said he's expecting an Essay did he
I think all those points are valid, not only Filipino women, but for every women.
Before I met my Filipina girlfriend, I remember texting with another Filipina woman that was not really interested. It took me 3 weeks to realize it. But, I also remember meeting another Filipina that didn’t contact me for a couple days after we had been texting and video chatting for a a couple of weeks. I thought she was losing interest , so I decided not to text her unless she texted me. But, then something changed that she all of a sudden started texting regularly and she has never let me down in the past 1.5 years. We began an LDR after. We finally met in person last summer and she is now my girlfriend.
What changed is the guy she actually wanted wasn't interested, and you were the fallback option
@@Exalted_Example that may be true. But, I am okay with that. She wants me now.
Yeah ur not her first choice
@@williamshevr i actually think it’s on the right track, even though there was a little bump in the beginning. The relationship took a moment to get on the right track. It’s been on the right track ever since.
@@hexicano4ever497 I am her first choice now. It was only a small blip in time.
This video just reminds me how difficult & annoying modern dating has become. 😔
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@@JohnnyVisions it’s all the same.
Go read coach Corey Wayne’s book, “The 3% Man”. It will give you the tools to make dating easy and effortless. You don’t even have to buy it, he has a website where you can download and read it for free… look him up on UA-cam.
Still better than anything in the US.
Fo' Shizzle
Very good advice and probably good advice for guys dating any woman, not just Filipina. I was dealing with that recently with a Chinese girl i was dating that was quite a bit younger than me. She exhibited several of the signs you just spoke of. As hopeful as i was that it would work, i just had to let it go.
A word of advice from someone with decades of dating experience: don't try to put a round peg in a square hole. If she's uninterested, it's unlikely you can turn the situation around, even if you have very tight game. Cut your losses and try with someone else who right off the bat will be more interested. With any particular girl, you have no idea what her situation is, what she really wants, etc. You might be a wonderful guy, but just not for her. And that's OK. Any girl you have a realistic shot with will be friendly and approachable from the start. Invest your time in this girl.
Great advice! There's too many options to waste time with someone who isn't into you.
I always find that dating advice never really seems to sink in with people. However people who watch dating shows are always able to tell if a couple will be compatible. Maybe we need to have a cameraman follow you on your dates, Rubeauti.
If she abruptly ends a video call and doesn't call or text back more than a few times...That's a definite sign. 😳🤨🥴
If she does not hold your hand-never initiates sex-always wants an 🍎 phone-says her uncle is dying-she will scream at you if she doesn’t eat rice-she refuses to get you Italian spaghetti sauce-spends her entire day on her 📱-locks her 📱and the worst she grabs your phone and says you are a cheat and you tell her that photo is my daughter
@@BarnabyBarry this is an oddly specific list.
2 ex Flipinas-some of it -the rice/spaghetti sauce-uncle applies to men who have dated Flipinas-some tongue in cheek my daughters raised in the 🇺🇸 are different though due to economics being different here than the 🇵🇭
Many parts of the country still has bad internet receptions and some people doesn't have the luxury to load their cellphones.
This is really decent advice for dating women in general. Men stop "working" for their attention. If they are TRULY interested in you, they will move mountains to see you and ask questions about you. It's not rocket science.
I'm in an LDR with a filipina. You have given me confidence that we are on the right track. She doesn't display any of these. When we are in person, then I can see how she is with me and around other people. Video chat and messaging is one thing, but in person can be quite another. Time will tell.
Follow the money. My 2 cents. I only found narcissism and desire for financial support for extended family.
Scotty,
That’s right. How things go in person can be quite different than online. I have heard a couple of stories of LDRs that lasted for two years before people met, and then only to break up after spending 3 days in person. I think honesty in the LDR is important so there are no big surprises in person. Best wishes!
LDR is high risk trust me. I learnt the hard way in PH in 2014. Lol 🤣😂. I wish Scotty good luck.
ATM hahaha..... But wish you lucky.
@@shanwu2739 lol ATM 🤣😆😆. Yes. I saw a lot of crazy things happen to LDR Gringos in The Philippines. I was unexpectedly an Actor in another Gringo movie the poor guy didn't know his Filipina can't be trusted. Also another guy was playing Actor in my movie poor me too I was aware of the risk but still took the risk 😜 🤣😂. Some Filipinas are cold and ruthless Lol 🤣😆. It was 9 years ago Bro 👍🙌
If a guy needs this advice, he sure had no game in his home country. And will be a Simp in the Philippines also . It's good you addressed these situations for them.
Yep. I usually come to these videos to read the stories in the comment section.
Depends, i dont have good game, and can come off as inexperienced but ive bagged a few Filipinas. Sometimes it works in my favor cuz they leave me alone after a hook up and not get clingy.
Filipinas are on a completely different level. When Homer wrote of Sirens, I'm 100% certain they were Filipinas working OFW.
well im listening just to learn more about the cultural difference. the filipina im dating gives me most all of her time. but the differences between her and the women in over here have many differences. me personly got tired of our women here because they are not family orionted and no self respect
Having game isn't the problem. Finding someone you want for more than casual I nigh impossible in the west.
My biggest mistake was not marrying my Philippine girlfriend. Her name was Marilord. I think she was from Cebu. I made a mistake. She loved me and I loved her. I made a Tragic decision. At least I got more attention and respect from from her than any American woman.
It has been my experience that women pursue commitment from men, and men pursue intimacy from women. I think the physical motivation for relationships is primarily biological imperative to create an environment for successful offspring, and ensure the survival of the species. Qualities in a relationship like loyalty are important for different reasons for men and women. We provide different needs for each other, and when we do that well we find the spiritual motivation for relationships in love and happiness.
Hate to say it but know plenty of guys pursue commitment. It’s just how can you have commitment and no intimacy? My 2 cents is women are now adopting men’s way of life…ooo that meat looks yummy!
Women pursue ATM and men pursue love and commitment 😅😅😅😅
All very logical and valid points. “It’s hard to see the forest from the trees”. If you’re a low value partner, you will take what you can get - you’ll entertain the bad habits in exchange for the “arm candy”. It’s not worth it. Know your worth and know that you deserve more.
You’re smart Rubeauti. Articulate and well presented topic. Bravo 👏! Thanks for posting.
How refreshing for some brutal honesty, rather than the candy talk that some people would prefer listening too.
This is a female's perspective. All true, but there's more... Many Filipinas are insecure and can just have a hard time understanding why you are talking to her. I often hear "Why are you talking to me?" "Why are you coming to PH?" Both in a puzzled voice. Insecure about their English. Once I give good answers to these she warms right up. I see often in dating profiles is Filipinas complaining about men asking for nude pics. They call them "scammers". So I get the feeling many are holding back to see if I'm going to be rude. Doesn't take very long for her to warm up.
I also get asked pretty quick about other Filipinas I'm chatting with, how many I've chatted with in the past.
Filipinas often say they want a humble guy. It took me a long time to figure out what they mean...it's different from in the US. They don't like a man who talks about their wealth because it just makes them more insecure. They already feel insecure and now you look harder to land. Being a foreigner they already are assuming you have money, she doesn't want to know it's a lot. American women want to know every penny a guy has...but not directly.
Easy rules...
One message only. If she doesn't reply then that's it. None of this simping "Where are you?" "I miss you" begging. That's silly.
She has to being doing some pursuing too. As an American guy it stands out when a Filipina is trying to impress me because American women never do that. Older Filipinas quickly name drop contacts in PH government. That's equals power in PH. If they own land you're going to hear about it.
"One message only. If she doesn't reply then that's it. None of this simping "Where are you?" "I miss you" begging. That's silly.".... yeah I made this mistake 😞
Thanks 👍
@@drahculia3579 whats wrong with a 5 year old giving dating advise?
@@imcaufieldholt yeah, that goes for any woman, not just Filipinas… and even after you are talking more or dating… think of it as a game of tennis, you hit the ball over the net and then you wait for them to hit it back before you can hit it again (messaging should always be done this way).
@@imcaufieldholt Nearly every man has made that mistake at least once. The key is learning from it and not repeating the same mistake.
Here's a clue. If she shows real interest, you will know. Of she doesn't show real interest, move on. If she's interested, she'll move mountains to meet you. If not move on.
very useful advice indeed... my rule of thumb for the women in the west, is if by the third date, she's not showing her goods, then bye-bye and good luck... exactly because I for one, I have no time, nor patience, nor energy to pursue, or even worse, to chase... what's the point of "chasing" if she's running away..??.. makes no sense to me at least... if she wants me, she'll make time to spend with me... best advice my own mother told me...
oddly enough, after 2-6 weeks I get a sign from her telling me "oh, dear, you didn't call me anymore, you disappeared... why..??.." by that time, I'm already checking someone's else goods...
Unfortunately, I had to learn this the hard way. Everything she has described is what I found to be true. I hate that people can be so cruel.
Truth. And, I found a lot of narcissistic entitlement too. And, I was just out of college. Back then, they usually wanted to meet in groups as they were only after the money or green card. I think that hasn't changed. All just wanted money for extended family as they were conditionally loved by their parents.
Thank you sis. This info applies to women everywhere. But mostly younger women who don't yet know their own minds yet. Older women know what they're doing when they string you along. You've got something that they want but it ain't you.
Take it one day at a time. It will work itself out and you will eventually find the one you are looking for and meant to be with.
If a Filipino woman likes you she will make it obvious after one date. Don't give a second date to a girl who doesn't like you. Date multiple women. Don't commit to one girl unless she earns it. Don't commit to a girl you met online and never met in person. You tell her how it's going to be, don't let her dictate the terms or you are a human doormat and she will treat you accordingly.
Welcome to my life.... fell in love, she lost interest, I found it difficult.... became a human doormat... now realised the error of my ways, but took a long time
Doesn't have to be a filipino woman. That should be for any woman. It's not rocket science lol.
I’m happy you put this vlog out. I’ve been pursuing a Philippino but she has not shown me much if any attention. This is my official statement. Rubeauti, it’s over. I can’t go on seeing you any longer. We can still be Vlog friends but that’s it. No more special attention looking forward to dinners that never happen or calls that never get answered. I wish you the best. Cordially MAC.
Dude, you're such a simp. And because of this you've been ignored so massively. Get a life bro.
My advice, cut her off COMPLETELY, do you REALLY need another friend trying to sabotage your future relationship, and there's really no benefit for a man to have female friends.
😂🤣
I love the guys say my Phillipino and not my Phillipina. Guys in filipine ending in o is for male, ending in a is for females.🤣🤣🤣🤣
When she only shows her face, and after you send her a 3/4 photo she finally admits she is chubby.
When she rebuffs you saying you should not pursue young women, when ur 60.
Both are good reasons to stop.
@Rubeauti I don't know when you will see this comment. But I want to say that it couldn't have been more timely. I have now reached the point where I am finally ready to completely give up any pursuit of any involvement with a certain Filipina, whether personal or Business. I had pretty much given up on the personal, as she told me long ago she was taken, and I experienced similar things to what you described in your video. Realistically, there can be not even a long distance conversation, and certainly not a so-called LDR when one person is clearly ghosting the other. I have and am giving up the Ghost on any chance at love or any close to that in that case. It is fitting that it would be you delivering this message again. I think this is the second time for me seeing it. But this time it hits differently. Thank you for being like a drink of cool water to this man suffering in the desert wind and heat. I recently found your regular Twitch connections that now start my days, and you give me life. ❤
You're right, it's important to watch for the signs she's not interested. When a woman takes out a restraining order against me, I take the hint. 😀
No one likes a quitter.
I am sure if you persevere you wil triumph…in going to jail🤣🤣🤣
@@President-Elect_Cory 😂🤣😂
@@nemelendez 😂🤣😂
When a woman takes out a restraining order, you're a stalker that couldn't take the few hints she was giving lol.
"too nice" to say what she really thinks? I hear this comment said a lot... as if the girl thinks shes so sweet and kind, and that no bad words would ever leave her mouth. When in reality, something far worse is happening... she's in fact gaslighting. And gaslighting isnt nice. Its dishonest, and happens a lot.
She's just not interested in you. Step up your game.
Don't pursue women for dating. Do something meaningful for the community you are in, and you'll become a magnet for the best.
😆 in my old town noone cared about the fire brigade boys. People today don't care. Everyone lives in their won world.
I needed this! I met a Filipino girl on line. She disappears middle of a texting conversation and leaves me hanging until I text the next day!
Thanks. 👍
Just partway through this excellent video. Men if the girl is on the phone during the meal… just get up walk out… note you should probably still pay the bill though
The advice she gave applies to all women from every background.
Yup it’s a time task to deep dive into her personality to find the right woman that’s compatible with you.
If you use the principles found in coach Corey Wayne’s book “The 3% Man”, you will quickly weed out those that don’t actually want you and you’ll be able to grow the attraction with those that do.
What she says here is true but you can know a lot faster than getting to some of these scenarios.
Another goodie, would be: "The book of numbers",
by Adam Cleary.
@@solascriptura-e7t yeah.. Aaron Clarey... I agree that is a good one too but I don't know of anyway to get that one for free... and Corey Wayne allows free pdf downloads from his website.
read that book, pretty good
I really like the way u break everything down. As an American who’s had 2 long term relationships with Filipina women I think you’re spot on in most of the topics you discuss. Your videos should be most helpful for the new foreigner considering dating a Filipina 👍🏾
I will never date or try to date a Filipina woman ever again. I worked in a big metropolitan hospital in Toronto and I have met plenty of Filipina women there. Yes, they are very flirting, they always called me Guapo, or Pookie whenever they would see me. I had asked one cutie out for a date and she invited me to her........let's say very animated church service. So I went and she had her whole family attending there. I requested we go out for coffee one on one after the service but she insisted that her mom and brothers come with us. Being a Western man this was a total turn off for me so I stopped pursing her. It was getting too complicated just to get one date. Then in recent times I met a cute Filipina woman who was a cashier in a retail store. We became friends and we exchanged numbers. At first it was all flirting texting and when I asked her to meet me at a nice crepe restaurant, she changed her tune and her texts became abrupt and terse. I always thought that because of their flirty nature they would be easy pickings. I mean, a lot of them even talk dirty talk. Suffice to say, I gave up.
Sorry to hear that. I've had some genuine and intense LDR's with province Filipinas. I've thought about Filipina's living here in the States. I will use caution and your experience to keep me on alert if I do pursue a domestic Filipina.
She is very interested when she needs money and she broke my heart.
yes it seems contradictory that a filipina can be immersed in her phone when with you, but doesn't answer calls or is tardy in answering your messages
Time to move on … 📱 mobiles are the death of good manners but what you describe is contemptible …
Wow!!! Thankyou, thanyou, thakyou for this wisdom... I wish that I heard this 30-yrs ago. I am contemplating moving to the Philippines in the next 2-3yrs, and hope that I learn as much as I can to make a happier retirement... Currently earning almost $4,000 USD (after taxes) every month.
Hi Rebeauti. Many good points here. I will point out the part of thinking you are in a relationship goes both ways. I have chatted with some that think I am their bf just cause I chat with them. Talking to each other and spending time together is the best way to know if there is a connection. I have had some say they want to be with me but then I see some of the signs you have mentioned so then it is a big no. The biggest no no is being on the phone at inappropriate times. I hope those who watch this video learn something but some will not learn as they are wearing rose colored glasses and think all is good when really it is not so good. Keep smiling and stay safe
All your points are well thought out your spot on very informative video, thank you.
Excellent point all, ma'am. Some we learn as young men. Pupil dilation, turning body / feet towards the person their interested in, open body postures, casual touch reciprocation. Micro-expressions are harder to learn and take study, but can be very useful, especially at crux moments. Thanks for your great pointers and tips ma'am!
I was laughing hard at #4. I dated a thai woman that always was texting when we were going to eat. I would rather eat cold food than start eating before she put down her phone. At times she was furious. After a while she learned though.......
Hahaha, I loved your outtakes they were great!
The vast majority of all of this applies to all women, regardless of nationality. You forgot to mention the superstations that Filipina's have.
Sounds like relationships in general. Thanks for the insights though. Always informative content.
When I was a younger man I developed a "three no" rule. If I wanted to date a girl/woman I'd give her 3 chances to reject me. Obviously, some of them didn't require three rejections to convince me to give up. But some were/are more subtle.
I'd say that's a 1 chance rule in the PH. Just say "no money". That was easy.
Bredzisz
What is that got to do with this video.
@@squidusn71 I think the verb you're looking for is "has"
@Patrick Freeman ok, so what has that have to do with this video.
You are so articulate and fine command of the English language.
Some men are not secure in their skin, these are the ones that can be taken for a ride.
There needs to be a sense of mutuality when interacting with the person, most guys are aware or can read specific cues, listen, see, or take notice of their level of engagement. As a guy, be interested but not overly interested do precisely what some of them do in taking a measured approach, be specific about certain requests to see their reaction to shorten the time you may be wasting talking to a particular lady e.g. "I'm going to be in this area on a particular day if you're around we can hang out if not, it's cool" walk away.
Great video addressing addressing and replay of recent experiences with western women !!!! This a video I could of used 8 months in the USA showing me that I may be a little dense ???
True of any woman no matter what nationality
Wise words Rubeauti!
@@Rubeauti Hmmm🤨 Interested in dating me?😏
Just kidding, but the interest is intriguing. My name is Lucas.
Great video, this kind of wisdom is efficient enough to make you aware of what women will do. No matter what part of the world they are from.
Good advice..Traveling 20+ hrs from the East Coast of the US to the Phillippines is a long ride. Dont have time to play these mind games. I think the song by Dionne Warwick says it best. "Walk On By."
Since the pandemic I can't hug my filipina fiancée. For more than 2.5 years we keep hoping that one day the world will go back to normal but until now not really.
Thank you for that raw and true content about your country. You deserve definitely more views 👍
The borders are open mate. You can go there, or she can leave there.
I've met a Filipina on line. She's wonderful and we both seem to like each other. But according to her she's been hurt before and a lot of times she seems to keep me at arms length. This has been for a couple of months now and I don't know what to do
It's understandable. I believe that the best thing that you can do is to be sympathetic and understanding. If and when she opens up, let her know how you feel and keep communicating with her because you're interested but not because of her past relationships.
Dating seems to be the same in many cultures.....sometimes male controlled cultures can be quite extreme...that is the way I feel...
The bottom line is most everyone there is poor.
Thats the way it is
If ive worked hard my entire life to enjoy my retirement then the girl with me acts accordingly or is easily replaced.
Be a man, not a door mat
It works both ways , why as a man should I jump through hurdles . That’s why I am attracted with someone from The Philippines . I have chatted with many Women , and been messed about a lot , and that’s ok , it’s a learning process . Better than wasting my time in the West , I’m now not stupid , I can see through the less desirable traits , for me it’s easy now . Still looking for my perfect Filipina 👍
I wish I knew about Filipinas when I was much younger! I'm hoping to have one a bit younger than me as I get closer to retirement age. I'm on my 3rd LDR and have learned A LOT!
Thank you. I have experienced this already. 😥😔
Rubeauti, you make good videos. Good luck to you in your life and future.
Hi Rubeauti thanks you for that very informative video about things to pay attention to when you are dating someone and that can be anyone any where, I appreciate your videos peace ✌ and love
It takes a lot of experience with women to pick up on this tips. I got a 6 sense now about this things and have zero tolerance, I’m quick to walk when I spot them
Good video....thoe things apply across the board to women everywhere. People in general would be better off if they were simply "Honest" with each other...Male & Female alike
wao thats an eye opener , I ll be sure to watch this video a couple times, thanks Rubeauti
Social acuity is very important here - don't pay attention to what she says, just watch what she does.
yes just like others country. but are polite and that makes it all the difference...
Great video Rubeauti. Thanks for sharing. May I add one more to your list? The "I know my worth" attitude. She will judge you by the cost of the date and if you don't spend enough on her she will push you aside.
"I know my worth," is a narcissistic saying (Definition - An extremely self-centered person who has an exaggerated sense of self-importance.), and you dodged a bullet. A woman can FEEL she knows her worth that doesn't make it reality. The MAN determines her worth or "VALUE" to HIM, and he does that based off her personality, traits, character, who she is as a person on the INSIDE, and what she will ADD TO HIS LIFE to make it easier and better (You know, "What she brings to the table.")
@@ejtaylor73 exactly
Woow harsh reality I guess in Philliphines for foreigner guys you have to be ruthless and don’t entertain wish wash or someone who is giving you I am not sure kind of interest. You need someone when they see you they are really scared of upsetting you. For me i would suggest all the serious guys to look for respectful girls who value your time and presence. Very subtle things that you mentioned but for the most part most of us guys tend to not pay attention to especially when a girl is young and beautiful.
Geez... I can already tell when a Filipina isn't interested in me, because US women have already done all that to me...these signs are pretty universal I guess... except when US women accept a date from a guy she's not interested in, it's not because she's 'too nice to say no', they do it to use the guy for free food & drinks...
Really? Just for the freebees? I never dated much. I always just zoomed in on the right gal at the right time without much fanfare. It would take rather unique circumstances before I would "date" a western woman. Actually, I'm no longer into western women. Just women in Asia.
Thank you Rubeauti!!
Very very helpful.
God bless you 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️
Very interesting and also obvious information, but not all know it. Nice...
This is a very helpful video. I like straightforward communication and appreciate honesty without being rude. I agree that I could miss the girl that likes me if I concentrate on too many specific features. After all beauty of the heart/personality trumps all.
Thanks for your kind words! 🙏 I'm glad you appreciate my straightforward communication and honesty. I agree that beauty of the heart/personality is the most important thing to look for in someone. 💗
11:24. Choose the puppy that choose you.
I can usually tell rather quickly, with short answers "oh ok" and makes no effort to get to know me.
Dating can be a fun experience with women. However, some individuals, regardless of gender, may be held back by fear. This is an opportunity to test their character and challenge them. It's not just about finding a potential partner, but also about learning about people and having fun along the way. Remember, you can't truly know someone until you spend time with them. I never let someone goes into her planning with well prepared answer. If you think about something of secret, this is not my fault, but I will make you give your secret and I only try nothing to do that. Also, I listen and make activities. I don't talk and it is not for myself.
I complement you. You are a very smart, young woman. I will mention that you are a beautiful woman but I’m sure you don’t need to be reminded. Great information. And you are very well spoken person.
You have good insight Rubeauti. Thank you for sharing reality. Great video and well done.
Very good stuff. Good to hear some straightforward common sense - and the comment about not replying to messages when she always has her phone with her is insightful. Messages I get from my (very attractive) gf are very brief and do not show any interest in my life - i.e. are statements ('Hope you're having a good day') rather than questions ('Hey, how is your day going?'). Time to move on (& don't worry: I've been thinking about this for a while). Thanks.
Yeah move on.... these are standard questions she may be sending to half a dozen guys
You have no idea what you're saying.
Excellent video and much needed.
I’m currently pursuing a Filipina who exhibits many of the same signs described in this video, but when I bring them up to her, she has good/understandable justification. These are that she was dating a man prior and she has pushed him away, sexually/romantically. However, he has been helping her be able to keep her house with his financial support following the sudden/unexpected death of her husband. Her job’s pay is not enough to pay all the bills. If she pushes him away completely, then she’ll lose her husband’s house without his financial support. She seems interested in a relationship with me, but can’t push the other guy away until she can stand on her own two feet, financially. She shows her appreciation by making his lunches/dinner and letting him live in her guest bedroom. She works during the evening hours when he is off work, so personal interaction is rather minimal. In the meantime, I feel like I’m in a holding pattern. This woman has some really great qualities about her, so I don’t want to give up on her so easily. She might legitimately be between a rock and a hard place. I’ve given her many opportunities to release me, but she gets upset when I start suggesting we say ‘goodbye’ to each other. Other positive signs are that she calls me 4-5 times per week and we often talk more than 2 or even 3 hours per call. So, this shows anything but disinterest. Yet, the indefinite holding pattern is hard to tolerate. Not sure what to do here!
The highlights on your cheeks worked well with that lighting
Thanks for this. Unfortunately it comes too late for me. I wasted 3 years and a lot of headaches and tinnitus as a result
by not reading the signs. 🥴
What is wrong with me? I am a fat, middle aged Belgian who is a Manila newby. And genuinely interested in culture, language , quality lodgings, musea , art and a foodie… I constantly end up on YT about dating Filipina’s ! What algorithm connects my humble existence to the devinity of Filipina ladies?
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Great stuff Rubi,
all excellent points and very helpful for many men.
In a way though should men be "I'm out of here", gone, move on, much before any of these signs show? I hope that I would, that I would not be so googly eyed over her that I loose my senses.
What made me think about this is a phrase that you repeated about 4 times; "if she blah blah blah than she is a WASTE OF YOUR TIME!" It made me think of the saying "Love at first sight", this may sound very cliché and often not even accurate but there is something to it, when a girl first meets a guy and there are things about him that she likes (and visa versa), that is exciting, right? And that raises the general excitement and whole energy. Natural behavior is that that excitement and energy shows, it reveals itself. Such a girl (and again the other way around) will, with joy, try to find out more about the guy, she will want his attention, she won't even want to look at her phone because he is talking to her. When he calls and she sees that it is him calling on her phone she won't even let her phone ring a full first ring tone because she'll be jumping with joy that he called and she's dying to talk with him again, and on. Maybe I am taking this a little far but if there's not at least a little of that, maybe that should be the exit point, like before there's even an entrance point.
That would never happen though if I met you in person Rubi 🙂
This is helpful. However, it applies in the US as well. It is normal woman behavior with the exception that Philippine women are less verbal about showing you. Good tips about the nonverbal clues. TY
Ah women...so lovely, yet such a pain. Good advice. Be well pretty girl!
I would like to add the Number 4..... when your dating and she is always chatting or texting on the phone.. know this.. that she might text or chat her so called boyfriend.... red flag for those girl who always check and almost glued on her phone when dating u
Great podcast reaubeauti u kept it real and honest. That why your channel continues to grow.watch u will be at 100,000 B4 u know it.
I had this conversation with my girlfriend and she would not admit that her feelings had changed from when I was over there six months previously. Something to do with the fact that i was sending her 25000 pesos a month. So I sent here an email and broke it off. I am sending her the allowance because she has kids and should make other arrangements for her income and that's that. I have 22 years of being married to a Philippina who was not interested she has gone off with another man. I am doing fine now and the next woman does not get an allowance I have to consider my needs for once.
Look after yourself dude, especially your heart
That's a lot of money. Sending money to that woman was a cardinal sin of online dating. Please don't that again. You're not helping other guys in here.
I only sent her money after I lived with her for 4 months in the Philippines.
@Where's David-Paul? I hate to say it and don't mean to be disrespectful, but you're the typical example and cause why most of these women can't be trusted.
Hi miss ive just found you as im planning a trip to the Philippines soon. Ive done 20 years in Thailand i should of gone the Philippines first ya yo it is what it is i have my half Thai son so it wasnt all a waste of time anyway ive been on Filipina cupid its been a challenging task not many genuine girls on there if at all. There just playing the field any advice miss you are highly educated o yes and stunningly beautiful God Bless You
I just started watching ypur you tube find it refreshing that you cover a wide range of possibilities and different locations not just the regular spots . ON mAY 5TH i board a flight to the Philippines it has been since 1969 since I've been there , my son was born in Olongapo , now I have a inlaw family for he married a Philion lady and I have two granddaughters that were bornin the PI and now a grandson on the way they are in the states now,, maybe we can met up and I can tell the whole story
I have been putting together a list of current scams used on date sites. And trying to put down a list of tell tale signs that the person you are talking to is a scammer. Love to do a Colab one day about this topic.
Hello Rubeauti, many of these signs are true in most cultures. Thank you for the video.
Good info. Painful, but good info.
These are actually good points for dating anyone, period.
Thanks for the great advice! 🤗 I appreciate your kind words and it's something I'll definitely keep in mind.
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Are so right about cell phones. I told one girl once when we started on a date, if you want to date your cell phone fine and I made a U-turn in my car in to take her home and she put it away. Then the date continued. There’s no way I am going to date a girl when she’s on her cell phone all the time , none