Secret~ 575 ~Txiv Neej Make Up~01/15/2024~

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  • @tyrannosaurrex1350
    @tyrannosaurrex1350 10 місяців тому

    Kablia Niam Neejvam kuv xav los ua tsaug rau koj cov lus ua koj tau los hais txog ntawm tus ntxhais ua raug ntaus nyob Tim nplog teb. Tsis muaj leej twg hais tau raug thiab yog npaum li koj hais lawm. Txhua yam koj tau hais txog cov hmoob nplog no ces yog tag nrho li nawb. Vam thiab cia siab hais tias cov hmoob nplog no yuav los pom thiab hnov cov lus koj hais no es seb yav tom ntej no mus lawv puas yuav los hloov tau nawb. Koj hais tau zoo heev thov qhua koj👏👏👍👍🙏🙏

    • @Secretsinspiringstories
      @Secretsinspiringstories  10 місяців тому

      Tsis ua cas mog vim kuv mob siab heev rau peb cov pojniam. Tej zaum kuv yeej hais tau hnyav zog rau lawv lawm. Tabsis yeej ua tau txaus npau taws heev.

  • @nengyang209
    @nengyang209 10 місяців тому +2

    Q.1: you answered her correctly but it’s only a matter of time before she finds someone then she’ll leave you. Honestly, whenever an argument always comes back to finical issues, I would chose a peace of mind then a toxic relationship. Good luck brother

  • @LillyRose09
    @LillyRose09 10 місяців тому +2

    Q1: Every relationship must have respect to survive and go the distance. If this continues then the issues will grow bigger so you need to address it now. It sounds like both you and your wife say hurtful things to each other during heated moments with the intent to do as much emotional damage as you can but do still love one another. She’s just saying that to hurt you and does not mean it which is why she brings up the gold digging men.
    My suggestion to you is to have a candid heart to heart conversation with your wife and let her know that you find those words to be very hurtful and ask that she reframe from bringing it up. I think you may have made her felt not loved or valued enough at times so she throws that in your face to try to make a point that other men would cherish her and want her too. So maybe let her know that when you tell her that the door is always open, it is only because you were upset but know she is a good woman that any decent man would want and you want to always be that man that has her hand. Put your pride down, show some vulnerability, and she will know that you are sincere. You both must talk it out or it will manifest and grow to where it will destroy your relationship. As someone who also makes more than my husband, I know this topic is really sensitive to him and make every effort not to bring it up because it has nothing to do with our love and respect for one another. Good luck to you both. I am sure you can overcome this through honest communication.

  • @leejmuam1
    @leejmuam1 10 місяців тому +6

    Q#2. Hnub no puas chim koj siab? 😂😂 you can lie, but we already know why you divorced your 1st wife. Stop complaining, you got your dream. Live it.

  • @xayxiong1061
    @xayxiong1061 9 місяців тому

    Glad you found a good relative/ friend to guide you through your troubled marriage.

  • @c.lee-soulisak327
    @c.lee-soulisak327 10 місяців тому +2

    Q1: Financial problems is the number one issue in a marriage. If you feel you're marriage is worth saving. Try going to marriage counseling.

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 10 місяців тому +1

    Q2. Kwv tij, yus twb laus lawm tseem mus yuav ib tug mos2, lawv ntxias yus tos lawv tuaj teb chaws vam meej xwb, lawv yeej tsis hlub tiag, ces kawg ua siab ntev xwb, es yus ua li qhov yus ua tau, es tsis txhob hais2 nws es uv kom tej me tub me nyuam loj tso, tsuav kom muaj ib tug poj niam xwb ces OK lawm

  • @PinkMang0
    @PinkMang0 10 місяців тому

    1st Story: Don’t be embarrassed of who you are! Don’t worry about what others think/say. There are straight men who like to cross dressed too. This is America; you’re free to expressed who/how you are. Don’t let no one tells you what/how you should be. Only you can tell yourself! Be proud of who you are!! Expressing yourself isn’t a crime! Thank you for sharing your story. 😃

  • @kiaxiongvue5971
    @kiaxiongvue5971 10 місяців тому

    Zoo kawg nkaus mas qhov ko twb yog nej cov Txiv neej ntshaw ntag mas lov

  • @TheMongcha
    @TheMongcha 10 місяців тому +3

    Q2. You are not her future, it doesn’t matter what you do, she will find a way to get rid off you.

  • @nuso2599
    @nuso2599 10 місяців тому +1

    Q1: Our jobs are never guaranteed and tomorrow is not promised, she needs to stop being so cocky cuz one day she could lose her job or get sick and will depend on you to take care of her…you both are still young, you both need to respect each other that you are in partnership not single anymore.

  • @TheMongcha
    @TheMongcha 10 місяців тому

    Q1. We all facing the same situation as you are. You are not alone.

  • @beelor6422
    @beelor6422 10 місяців тому

    It's ok. Let your mom be happy.

  • @XaiduckMi
    @XaiduckMi 10 місяців тому

    2nd story, know you’re self worth buddy, don’t depend on other people’s thoughts and feelings to solidify you’re worthiness. Send her back, it doesn’t matter. Find the one who loves you, not the one you love.

  • @shengmoua3992
    @shengmoua3992 10 місяців тому

    Q2; kawg uv os

  • @xeevnploojxyooj2376
    @xeevnploojxyooj2376 10 місяців тому

    A. Tus tij laug
    Koj twb muaj 63 xyoo lawm, tsim nyog koj txawj txiav txim siab rau koj tus kheej lawm , peb qhia koj tsis nyog lawm ,
    Remember your life is on end. Her life is just beginning ok.

  • @chervang6550
    @chervang6550 10 місяців тому

    Q2: ua siab ntev tsis:tuag os! Yog tuag ces peb cov poj niam tuag tag lawm!

  • @kerlee7536
    @kerlee7536 10 місяців тому

    for q. 1 kev sib yuav yog kev sib hlulb thiab sib fwm sib zam txim yog leej twg pheej muab qhov koj tau degree siab los sis tau nyiaj ntau los khav theeb nyob hauv lub neej xwb ces lub neej yeej yuav mus tsis txog twg yeej kawg yuav tau ua poj nrauj yawg nrauj ib hnub xwb

  • @xoxosav54
    @xoxosav54 10 місяців тому

    #2- here need myaj heev need tsim. Txog koj zeeg lawm. Ua siab never nawb tsam mob stoke ces tau mus nyob tsev laus nawb.

  • @meeher-b2b
    @meeher-b2b 10 місяців тому

    Tsai nyob tsi tau ua Kev lawm os tug miv tub

  • @hlubforlife
    @hlubforlife 10 місяців тому +3

    Story One: Although your wife's making more money than you, DO NOT let her buy you the pink dress!
    Story Three: You're not GAY, you're a DRAG QUEEN!😂😂😂

  • @meemeezong1827
    @meemeezong1827 10 місяців тому +2

    The mom with Social Media posting - I have friends like you. We are all in our 50s and my divorce friends post lots of inappropriate and embarrassing things about their personal life on Facebook. Please don’t do this. It’s embarrassing for your children and grandchildren. Keep your personal life private. Nobody need to what you do in private. Stop trying to be popular on social media. Nobody care.

  • @meeher-b2b
    @meeher-b2b 10 місяців тому

    yawm txiv yog koj ntshuav nwg qhe mej cov txiv neej yeej tsi sawm zoo os

  • @KMH0078
    @KMH0078 10 місяців тому

    I know someone like that. A relative thinks because she makes more than her husband if they were to divorce she could do better without him.

  • @soukha2232
    @soukha2232 10 місяців тому

    Q1: You are still young. Pack your belongings and leave her. Nrog cov neeg muaj plhu khav theeb pob nyiaj hnub/nyiaj hli mas xeeb txob kawg nawb.

  • @geuher7315
    @geuher7315 10 місяців тому

    Q.1 yog koj poj niam saib tsis tau koj lawm mas vim nws tau nyiaj ntau dua koj lawm nws thiaj hais li

  • @kuvxwb9466
    @kuvxwb9466 10 місяців тому

    Q2: Cas nej cov txiv neej es pheej xav txog nej tus kheej xwb na? Peb poj niam los peb yeej feel ib yam tabsi vim Peb laus ncaj peb tsis laus liam. Duh koj yeej paub tias nws siv koj tuaj teb chaw mekas xwb. Pab tsis tau koj lau.

  • @MaiProject2024
    @MaiProject2024 10 місяців тому

    Q1: no marriage is perfect. Every couple will always have some kind of argument. Focus on working with your relationship with your wife. Dont focus on what she says when she's hurt. Shes using that bc she knows its the only thing that irritated or get you. Do remind her to stay humble though. Maybe the people she surrounds herself with value that kind of reputation (high income and degree) and like to show off. Work on showing her its not good to brag. Look up successful people and biography that can bring attention to that area and learn with her. Being under 30, she and you both have a lot to learn.

  • @vangxiong3960
    @vangxiong3960 10 місяців тому

    Ib tug poj niam uas coj li ko!! ces siv tsis tau os, tsis hais poj niam los txiv neej yog coj li ko ces lub neej yuav muaj teeb meem.

  • @mhaiyaaj
    @mhaiyaaj 10 місяців тому

    Over $100k is normal for a professional job. It’s not that much.

  • @kaylauj
    @kaylauj 10 місяців тому

    That guy with the mom living her best life in Laos. Dude, have her back either its right or wrong. So what if she wanna hoochie around. The men do it. If you're friends talking all that mess about your mom. They ain't your friend. smh...

  • @vangxiong3960
    @vangxiong3960 10 місяців тому

    Nkauj Hmoob nplog lawv li lawv tsis muaj kev hlub, vim lawv tsuas yog siv peb cov txiv neej tuam choj tuaj xwb os tus phooj ywg.

  • @AneeN1995
    @AneeN1995 10 місяців тому

    Q2- Grandpa, you was just a bridge for her to come here. She was in disguise as ba ba no just to fool you. I’m sure she has a lover

  • @kellielee9829
    @kellielee9829 10 місяців тому

    Q2: nws tsis hlub koj os. Nws muab koj tuam choj tuaj xwb. Kuv xav mas nws tsim koj xwb os.

  • @hmongremark2686
    @hmongremark2686 10 місяців тому

    Story 1 - Tsis muaj 2 qho, tsuas muaj tib qho nkaus rau koj tus poj niam kam nrog koj ua neej kom nyob mus ib sim txawm koj khwv tau nyiaj tsawg dua nws lawm ntau npaug. Qhov ntawv yog koj ntse dua nws nkau xwb mas nws thiaj hais lus fwm koj. Yog koj ntsuas koj tus kheej ruam dua nws no ces koj nrauj nws tam sim no yuav zoo dua. Story 2 - Koj laus dua koj tus poj niam mos ab lawm ntau npaug. Nov yog xyob txhiaj nkaus xwb. Koj txaus siab lob xyob txhiaj tuaj nrog koj ua neej lawm ces xyob txhiaj yuav tsum phov kom koj nyob ntxhov siab.

  • @nalaher3022
    @nalaher3022 10 місяців тому

    Q1, leave the marriage before you're too invested. She isn't satisfied with you. Find a woman that respects you.

  • @panhiathao7538
    @panhiathao7538 10 місяців тому

    To the first question. My husband the same way. Thaum nws hais lus mos lus zoo rau Kuv ces Kuv hais tias koj ces ua dev hlub tub xwb os.

  • @tubhmoobhmoob2944
    @tubhmoobhmoob2944 10 місяців тому

    Q1. Cov poj niam zoo li ko ces yog cov niag poj niam ruam tsis paub siab paub qis, coj li me nyuam yaus xwb, tsis yuav zoo dua, yuav los tsis tsav yus qhov twg os kwv tij

  • @nuso2599
    @nuso2599 10 місяців тому

    Q2: Nws tau nws daim green card lawm ces nws tsis need koj lawm os…ntxov lig los nws yuav muab koj povtseg nawb. Yus yuav tsum yuav tus hnub nyoog raws yus lub sijhawm es luag thiaj hlub yus os…ntshaw mos ab ces thaum kawg zoo li no xwb.

  • @kuvxwb9466
    @kuvxwb9466 10 місяців тому +1

    Q1: Your wife is being selfish and ungrateful. If guys marry her for money, that’s not love. Nws ruam dhau. If she think the grass is greener on the other side, cia nws mus nws. Sometimes when you have everything in your life, one partner will find the stupidest thing to complain about. You just need to put her in her place.

  • @zouayang245
    @zouayang245 10 місяців тому

    Tus txiv dev ko koj tseem muaj ntsej muag tuaj hais txog koj tus niam mebcab thiab koj tus pojniam los ua yug metub menyuam laus tag ua koj rhev hnub no koj hais tias kuv laus li koj niam hnub no npam koj koj thiab tau ua koj tus pojniam moab ho ua niam moab rhev koj thiaj paub kuv txoj kev khwv tus hluas yeej tsis ua koj khev lios

  • @chaituaher724
    @chaituaher724 10 місяців тому

    ?2 good for you tsuav tau nkauj mos ab 1 zaug xwb os

  • @chaher-jm8xo
    @chaher-jm8xo 26 днів тому

    Number 3 secret story, uncle, of course you are gay. 😂

  • @xiavang9082
    @xiavang9082 10 місяців тому

    Question 2.. koj xa tau tus mos mos tsis yog koj niam no ce yeej meem ua siab 2222. Neeg tsis xawm zoo ce zoo li koj tag!!😂😂

  • @zouayang245
    @zouayang245 10 місяців тому

    Metub koj ce mus raug dab ntxaug lawm ce kawg tuag nawb dag ntxaug muab nws nqu ntshav tuag hnub twg los kavliam os metub aws

  • @nonameanonymous743
    @nonameanonymous743 10 місяців тому

    Q1: What does she do for her job? Is she happy, or stressed about it? Regardless doesnt justify her reason on treating you the way she did, but probably just immature at digging what really bothers her. So she brings up money talk to get even.
    Q2: Zoo siab hlo pay child support xwb mas. Tus 1 tsis zoo ces tim lawv. Tus 2 tsis zoo thiab ces tim yus. Cia tus 3 es yus thiaj learn yus li lesson os.

  • @chavlee615
    @chavlee615 10 місяців тому

    Someone need to learn to eat fried mushrooms

  • @doogvang
    @doogvang 10 місяців тому

    Q1. Better divorce now or you regret that you have waste your time, Q2. Li koj ces kawg ua ib pawg xwb thaub vim yog koj yuav hais kom yeej ces yeej tsis yeej nws.

  • @Justin-q4w6d
    @Justin-q4w6d 10 місяців тому

    Q1..divorce her at once lol

  • @songxiong3567
    @songxiong3567 10 місяців тому

    Q2. Koj tsis yog yuav ib tus niam tsev. Koj yuav ib tus me nyuam yau xwb.

  • @symouacheupao6228
    @symouacheupao6228 10 місяців тому

    Tus txiv tsev thib ib
    1.koj nrog nws tham txog ntawm nws cov nyiaj hli koj noog nws tias es koj xav nrauj kuv los vim kuv tau nyiaj tsawg
    Yog nws nqia koj tias tsi yog nws yeej hlub koj no ces koj hais rau kom nws txhob hais txog qhov nyiaj ib zaug ntxiv lawm vim koj tsi nyiam kom nws hais li ntawm txhob pub nws hais lawm
    Yog nws nqia koj tias nws tsi hlub koj es thiaj hais kom koj chim es thiaj tau kiav mus no ces let her go.
    Tej zaum nws yeej hlub koj tab si nws khav theeb siv nyiaj ua phom tua koj xwb koj txwv nws ces nws yuav hloov.
    Kuv muaj ib tug nyab mas ib nyuag chim ces hais los tias ces wb sib nrauj kiag xwb hais tas li ces tus txiv hais tias nrauj ces nrauj xwb tsi mus li thiab
    Kuv noog nyab tias es koj hais li ntawm xwb es hais tiag los dag maj
    Nws tej li cas dag xwb mas lam hais saib nws puas hloov xwb
    Qhov 2 koj ua tus swb kiag xwb txhob nrog hais nws yuav hais li cas tsi care tsi teb

  • @chaituaher724
    @chaituaher724 10 місяців тому

    ?1 the sooner the better you don't have to wait

  • @Gardendev
    @Gardendev Місяць тому

    Q1: go back to school, because you still young.

  • @uqerklee13
    @uqerklee13 10 місяців тому

    Q2. Pab tsis tau. Nyias khi nyias daws nyias. Nyias nti nyiad kaub puab nawb npas ham khaub khuas ces tsis muaj neeg pab tau yus li. Yog hlubmenyuam ces kawg uv xwb. Uv tsis taus ces kawg them child support xwb.

  • @maixiong-mu5cm
    @maixiong-mu5cm 10 місяців тому

    Q1. Tus poj niam no ua hauj lwm tau nyiaj ntau dua koj tus ua txiv lawm es nws thiaj li khav theem thiab hais lus saib tsis taus koj. Nug koj tus kheej seb koj puas ua tau lub siab ntev es uv nws tus cwj pwm phem mus txog hnub kawg xwb. Yog koj xav hais tias koj yuav uv tsis taus ces kav tsij ua bye-bye rau nws thaum ntxov xwb las as.

  • @lipeixiong9931
    @lipeixiong9931 10 місяців тому

    Tsis pom dej dag siab tsis nqig, even u are making more money than your husband, his worth is not about the money he makes. Does he love you and respect you, if he's does...he is a good man
    You are a good man...don't want let someone degrading you. Good luck

  • @Justin-q4w6d
    @Justin-q4w6d 10 місяців тому

    Q2..it’s your fault..you wear the dress ..haha , divorce her at once

  • @phem55
    @phem55 10 місяців тому

    Tus me tub w/ Q:1 money can’t buy love, woman like your wife you don’t to stay w/ her it can only getting worse

  • @michaelf2700
    @michaelf2700 10 місяців тому

    Q1: She has no respect for u & it will only get worse. If u think ur marriage has a chance, go seek marriage counseling. If not, make her dream come true & divorce her a**.
    Q2: Koj txoj kev phem saib tsis taus koj tus niam loj es npam koj lawm xwb os, nwm qhuav ntxim kawg nkaus.

  • @leechai11
    @leechai11 10 місяців тому

    Q1. Brother you guy r still very young neb tseem xav xav sib ceg xwb os thiab nej ib tug tsis tau txawj zam ib tug. Thiab neb yog hom niam txiv es niam tsis txaw hais Los txiv tseem tsis txawj mloog thiab. I had passed that step before I reach my 30th. Your wife she does love you and you do love her too. Your next step is try to study more of her personality and try to understand her more than you will find a way out between you two. Good luck

  • @jasthao9330
    @jasthao9330 10 місяців тому

    Q1: Talk to your wife. Let her know how hurtful her comments are to you and ask her to stop
    Q2: thaub laus aww, koj ces niam qhuav ntxim xwb os😅

  • @pakouvang9164
    @pakouvang9164 10 місяців тому

    Brother aw... ntawm ko ces yog poj niam tus cwj pwm xwb os... hais rau koj tias yog koj tseem hlub no ces uv xwb os yog tsis hlub lawm ces xiaj qhia kev cai rau xwb ma xiaj kiag xwb nawb

  • @yin-yan9
    @yin-yan9 10 місяців тому

    Q: it's unfortunate that we forget about those, that we should be most grateful for. Their partnership is unconditional so our lives could be comfortable and healthy. Don't discount others to boost our confidence, esp our those that we lobe and love us most.

  • @xiavang9082
    @xiavang9082 10 місяців тому

    Question 1: Your wife should never disgraced 5:24 you just cuz she make more.. remember you need to value your worth. Grass is not greener on the other side. U are a man.. keep your head high… you can always get another wife per your parents words.

  • @xiameevang9131
    @xiameevang9131 10 місяців тому

    All the secret today is so funny.😂😂😂 Answer to the first question did you married her because she made more money? If it’s not then you need to go back to school quietly and don’t tell her until you get a better degree to making more money than her.You are still young you can do it.

    • @xiameevang9131
      @xiameevang9131 10 місяців тому

      Answer second secret. Koj tshuav Koj tus niam mos ab nqi os.
      Nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb mas, ntshaw ntshaw tus mos mos li ces zaum no yuav tau lub npe Thaub Laus Tsw Paus txog hnub tuag kiag laud.😂

  • @rainbowanimalsrainbowanima6743
    @rainbowanimalsrainbowanima6743 10 місяців тому

    Q2:thaub laus aw.. koj tias niam loj tsis khib tsis Kay koj lawm e koj thiaj li mus yuav ibtug niam nkauj hmoob nplog tuaj . Tabsis niam nkauj hmoob nplog tsis hlub koj lawm. Thaub ! Koj tib koj tus niam loj laus2 no e xav paub tias koj tseem hluas2 lov.. ntshe twb yog koj tham2 hluas nkauj hmoob nplog e ua rau niam loj tu tu siab rau koj thiaj li tsis hais koj lawm peb paub kawg koj hais zais zais lus tsis kam qhia qhov tseeb .
    Ntawd koj tus niam hmoob nplog ces nws tseem hluas nws tsis hlub koj hauv nruab siab os koj laus 62 xyoos lawm ne.. tsis phim nws ces nws lam nyob nrog koj xwb lo lus zoo lus qabzib koj yuav tsis hnov lj os.tabsis pojniam hmoob nplog yog koj lub hom phiaj ntshaw2 ces koj yuav tau uv thiab yoog nws xwb os. thaum nws nyob tim nplog hais lus zoo lus mos rau koj vim yog nws tseem ntxias koj tuam choj tuaj koj yeej paub zoo ..
    Uv tag uv dua xwb os vim tias nws nyob nws tim plog teb koj mus coj tuaj e ntshe tsis muaj leejtwg pab tau li os.. hais kom cov neejtsa pab koj ntuas xwb

  • @Mrhangi3
    @Mrhangi3 10 місяців тому

    Q1 do she buy you stuff, go out with you , spend time with you if she do it mean she love you too while the money make her thing she the male.. it ok stay with her it American, women are boss now lol😂 as long she love you and do thing with u and don’t go out and party with her friend every weekend plus u just say u dint want pay child support lol that answer ur question stay with her

  • @kevinher4010
    @kevinher4010 10 місяців тому

    Q2. Koj twb muaj 60 tawm xyoo, tsis nyog koj yuav paub tias qhov twg yog qhov twg tsis yog. Koj tsuas nros koj mus txob yuav tej tus mos ab li ntawd ces kawg ua tiag uv nyob xwb.

  • @nicklee646
    @nicklee646 10 місяців тому

    Stories #1
    If she makes more than you, why you worried, let her go right away before you make more than. You won’t have pay anything of you guys divorces but it’s your heart to break not us. Just an idea because you asked.

  • @leejmuam1
    @leejmuam1 10 місяців тому

    Secret #2. Yes it is embarrassing but if your dad is the one doing with those young girls in laos, i bet you won't complain about it. Stop this double standard!

  • @maixiong-mu5cm
    @maixiong-mu5cm 10 місяців тому

    Nej cov txiv neej Hmoob npab nauj uas ntshaw ntshaw cov niam mos ab nyob tim Laos ces niam qhua ntxim xwb. Kuv xav hais tias nej cov nyiaj ntau dhau lawm es tsis muaj chaw rau. Nej thiaj li muab nej cov nyiaj mus tos cov poj laib tim Laos tuaj nrog nej ua rog xwb os. Koj ces ua luam poob peev lawm. Pab tsis tau koj.

  • @geuher7315
    @geuher7315 10 місяців тому

    Q.2 thaub ruam aw koj tus niam mos ab tsis hlub koj os... muaj 1 hnub ces nws yuav ua bye bye rau kij xwb os... yus laus lawm pheej ntshaw tus hluas ces li ko ntag mas

  • @myprecious6751
    @myprecious6751 10 місяців тому +1

    Q1...marriage isn't about who makes the most money or who brings the most in a relationship. Brother, you can do so much better. You do not need someone like that pettiness and such manner and morals in your life. Love and respect yourself first. Leave and divorce her. Do not wait until you become obligated and no way out. Let her go live a life with her money.

  • @kevinlee2791
    @kevinlee2791 10 місяців тому

    q1, koj ruam los ntse es koj sij hais tias koj tau nyiaj ntau duas kuv nas. qhia rau nws paub tias kuv twb them nyiaj yuav koj lawm ces, koj cov nyiaj xuab moos los puav leej yog kuv li xwb nas. vim kuv

  • @Huabtaisdav1972
    @Huabtaisdav1972 8 місяців тому

    You are gay forb100%. No question marks.

  • @BeaSong-d3g
    @BeaSong-d3g 10 місяців тому

    Q1: bro....your wife have too much pride in herself due of her job...she thinks she better than u but remember nobody is better. It up to u bro... nobody can't tell u wat to do.