The Death Of Natural Beauty | Plastic Surgeon Reacts
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Watching older tv shows makes me miss the variety of beautiful faces there are in the world. Now everyone is going for the same face. It's sad. I miss different lip shapes, different cheeks and jawlines. There are a million ways for a face to be beautiful. I wish people still valued that unique kind of beauty.
That is an important point! I think that there is absolutely nothing wrong with someone looking a little younger or prettier. But my impression is that people are trying to fit into a uniform mold rather than supporting the person's natural beauty and advantages.
I agree. This is why I am watching more older shows (or from other countries) and movies with unconventional good looking people. House of the dragon is a good, yet still popular example.
This is so obvious when you compare the new Gossip Girl cast to the older one. They all have the same features, regardless even of race! wtf @@glitzerplastikchichi
You know Marilyn Monroe had some surgical work done before making it as a big star. If you go back to her Norma Jean days, posing for photos, you can see that her nose was bigger, more rounded and bulbous at the tip. And her eyes were different, well specifically the eyelids. After the surgery her eyelids always had that slightly lowered, looking down appearance. You could see a lot more eyelid. She might also have had something done to her chin, as it looked more receding and weaker (or there was more fat under her chin).
But most other actresses hadn't had surgery such as Grace Kelly, Audrey Hepburn, Ava Gardner, Liz Taylor or the stunning Gene Tierney (rather modern looking with her full lips whereas Kelly had lips that would be too thin today).
This is so incredibly true. Diversity is beautiful. And I think flaws, scars, imperfections, wrinkles etc give a face character and tell a story of their life.
I also think this might be why I love Schitt's Creek so much - everyone in the show looks like normal people. All beautiful/attractive in their own ways.
Instead of insisting everyone is “naturally” aesthetically pleasing, what if we stopped placing such high value on beauty in the first place??
As mortal beings, we’ll always want to look our best and will have a sentimental impulse to preserve our physical bodies, regardless of societal pressures. What we can let go of is the horrible notion that beauty equates to virtue and value.
I agree, this would be the ideal. But I feel that human consciousness still needs to evolve a lot further before we can get to that ideal.
as a person who dabbles in astrology... venus is laughing at this comment. we will never get rid of beauty and its appeal to us, just as food tastes good when its made with the best ingredients/way, sight (beauty) will remain as a form of attaining a certain level of satisfaction from the senses. what we can do as humans, is love all, everyone we meet, the beautiful, the not, thats the only way we can escape this prison called life
Not in this world
Because ever since we were kids beautiful meant good and kind. Look at all the fairytales.
I think that's impossible because just like the other comment said, we would have to get rid of the idea of beauty since childhood and it's impossible all the people around the world get it. There's always something that is going to be more beautiful. In order to get rid of the concept of beauty, everyone will have to be the same looking and that's impossible.
It's better to stay mature and looking and appreciating people beyond how they look
Thank you so much for this response video! You made some really interesting points. I'm glad my message resonated with you and would love to discuss this further!
Love you Amala!!!
it feels illegal seeing your comment this early 👁👄👁
Tbh, you sound more sane than him. I've started watching both of your videos over the last 6 months, and this clash shows the weird delusions that plastic surgeons allow people to entertain. I think that every psychiatry department should clear those who want to get any surgery done first.... I'll never get over whatever they did to Zac Efron's and Emily Blunt's face😢.
Love you, girl! Keep going!❤
@@JayUchiha17to be fair, Zac broke his jaw so violently it almost killed him. What he had was technically reconstruction surgery, he had no choice in the matter
I remember reading hunger games as a young adult. I can't remember exactly how it happened, but one of the characters from the capital is taken in by the resistance (i don't know what they were called). A kid looks at her color altered skin and all the things and says 'why do you look like that?' She looks around realizing she sticks out and starts crying saying 'it's supposed to be beautiful'
I don't know why but that stuck with me. That alterations we precieve as beautiful, are they just beautiful because someone told us they were? We d don't need to be fixed. Beauty is so much more.
Beautifully stated 😊
They vomited to stay healthy and stuff they belly up to the limits.
This is an amazing analogy.
unatural is more beautiful
Hunger games is a really interesting take on body modification trends. They take it to a level we in our present society perceive as “extreme” but when you take a step back & look at it honestly, how we define the limits of these trends are completely subjective & relative to the society in which we live.
I’ve seen so many women with natural untouched healthy bodies get ridiculed for not having BBL like “curves” and it’s gross. Today it don’t matter if you’re chubby, skinny or fit it only matters if you have “perfect” curves and a pretty face. If you have a less attractive face with a perfect body then you’re a butter face and if you have a perfect face with a less attractive body then you’re nothing society Is wack.
Where do you live?
While having curves has definitely been a popular trend, I think we have to identify who that trend is popular with. Artificial curves achieved through surgeries like BBLs and fat transfers are more popular with OF models, Instamodels, reality stars/influencers, etc. . However, being thin and/or physically fit is still very much the beauty standard in many places.
This happens more online (social media) than real life.
@@Jane67498 facts but imagine teens with the same body or shape that’s being hated on reading the hate and wondering what’s wrong with themselves. Either way it’s becoming so toxic. I’m not saying at all there’s not any people who admire different shapes but just the nasty mfs who are so brainwashed into believing a body needs to be perfectly curvy and hating on those who have a natural shape/look.
@@loulabell5679 Where is that, even online? I have never seen it.
I agree with this lady. Regardless of the procedure, people rarely look like a younger version of themselves. Mostly, they end up looking a bit (or a lot) strange.
It depends on DNA🤔
However, some could use castor oil on face, if they're not allergic
It must be organic.
Cold pressed & hexane free
@@kathleenking47oh please . Just don’t do it . SMH
Like a “20 year old lizard” as Bill Burr says.
I agree... but Demi Moore is looking pretty FOINE. SHE LOOK AMAZING. NOW ,ALL SHE NEEDS TO DO IS STOP THERE AND JUST KEEP UP SPA AND BEAUTY REGIMENTS. NO MORE SURGERY!
Agreed!
When I was younger I really wanted filler to emphasise cheekbones but then I lost weight and to my astonishment I had nice prominent high NATURAL cheekbones- who knew!? They’re still there in my 40s and aren’t going anywhere because they’re Natural, I’m so grateful I didn’t mess with my face.
Exactly
Yes this is so true. I started going to the gym and lifting weights at 29 and my natural God given beauty came out naturally. I think we should age naturally and live healthy and we wouldn’t need all the plastic surgery.
Indeed, sometimes patience can go a long way! As many young girls, I would've wanted to remove some of my cheek fat, but thankfully I watched Doc's video about it, and with time they are naturally and beautifully getting thinner and shaped into place. There is beauty in time ❤
I never wanted fillers, but I've got nice cheekbones after I started wearing braces (I'm a millenial born in ex-USSR, orthodonts weren't really common in my childhood and now lots of my peers wear braces in their 30's)
Thank God! I used to want breast implants in my 20’s. So glad I didn’t! My breast are perfect size now
He mentions how people get insecure when others always point out certain flaws and that lead them to get plastic surgery, but I can't imagine any of my friends telling me there's something wrong with my face or body, and I don't think I'd ever surround myself with people who did. Makes me think that insecurities are more of a social issue than the result of a "flaw" that people have
It’s not that your friends point out YOUR flaws. It’s more so that some friends will comment on their own “flaws” and it can be difficult for some people not to internalize it & see that feature as something THEY need to “fix” too.
@@missliz0407 thank you!
He means the public.....
Sometimes these comments will be very innocent & non-malicious (maybe they like your nose better than their own so they compliment it) but a person's insecurities only take note on the fact others are focusing on an area they dislike rather than on the positivity behind it so they just feel worse & are reminded of the "problem" more
I mean if your growing up with mothers who ridicule your face or body, a handful of people will either ignore but feel insecure or get procedures as a result of this environment. Sometimes its your own family.
I am a Psychiatrist, and I believe there should be a serious discussion between Plastic Surgeons and us, because (and this is only one of the many problems that arise when we "clash") some of the procedures, advices, ... that they give, no doubt well-intentioned, is harmful to Mental Health (ie more cristallization of obsesivoid ideas about looks). Anyhow, this Doctor seems very openminded about the whole thing, and that's very important, very well done for him. Great channel, btw. Cheers.
As a clinical psychologist, I approve of this message !
If the plastic surgeon would seek out a discussion with the psychiatrist first, he’d probably go out of business.
writing this really quickly and i may be wrong but i've always thought that there's a stunting of mental growth that can occur if one is unable to overcome any individual's personal issues. like one doesn't allow themselves the opportunity to reach or surpass their potential and that's possibly often the route to genuine happiness .
@@angelicaterry3367Nah, its bodie dismorfia, its a never ending "needs" if change, look at zac effron for example
(Im too lazy to correct typos, sorry 😗)
Dude anybody who is touting this girl as a legitimate source of information should really look into her page. She’s an uncle Tom type of personality. Definitely not someone who should ever be listen to, regardless of one or two things they say are true. It’s also ironic considering she is naturally beautiful, why is it always people who are naturally good ( regardless of her abhorrent views, she is good looking )looking who say this type of stuff? 💀
It’s weird that you say he’s well informed, when the person he’s getting this information and commenting on, is a person who has pretty abhorrent views. So much for do no harm....💀
I wish for a day when everyone wakes up and realizes how beautiful they are
That’s a sweet sentiment but just can’t/wont happen. Even babies can distinguish between ugly and beautiful and have more reactions, positive reactions to beautiful faces. Beautiful people are treated differently, often better, their entire lives. Animals have to be the biggest, have the biggest plumage, dance the best to attract a mate. It’s just part of evolution. I think people should put forward their best self and invest into becoming awesome humans than just looking awesome.
Won't happen. The whole culture needs to change. For now, beauty can even earns
you survival means (money). It's so tough out there!
I’m 3 days post op from chin lipo. Fml I’m in pain and can’t wait to be recovered
It will never happen. Because this doesn't sell. Everything is made to make you feel uncomfortable, to make you think you should "enhance" yourself physically. It's all about selling products and services to unhappy people. The health trend was distorted and redirected to medical treatments that make you healthier, in the end is all about money.
Not everyone is beautiful and you know it
I think south korea is actually a really good example of the future she is talking about. Some surgeries here in korean are so frequent they don't even call them surgeries (even though they are) just the lighter word in korean "procedure" getting your rhinoplasty or double eyelids for example. Looks have always been a huge part of society so plastic surgery has always just been looked at as natural maintenance. But what happens when trends constantly shift and change. The closer you can get to "ideal" beauty the more you strive for it and mix all of these features that when together look uncanny. I know several people in person who don't even look human anymore because of the procedures they have had. In america people are still critical of that but here, some people actually think thats fine and still find the uncanny look "beautiful"
Most of the time it’s minor procedures and not dramatic. Eyelids and nose are usually the basics, and yes eyelids is now considered a ‘procedure’ and not ‘surgery’. But remember that most times these girls were naturally pretty and enhanced their looks. Plastic surgery has limits and most times it only looks good if you looked good naturally, meaning it’s mostly only an upgrade and not a revamp. You could go from 4 to 6 or 7 to 8, but you cannot go from 0 to 10 with plastic surgery. If that was possible, everyone would be doing it.
As a Brazilian, I cannot express how much I hate the term BBL, and truth is, the majority of Brazilian population have no idea of what is a BBL. Only celebrities do this, mostly reality show celebrities.
Interesting..
@@highlovevibration most brazilians are naturally curvy the same goes for black women, most brazilians can't even afford that
They call it that because the procedure makes their butt look like what Brazilian woman have, big curvy round rear ends.
The issue is the black and latino community is really harsh with its beauty standard. Natural curvy women arent even considered curvy enough.@@ZuzanaHrachovcova
Many, many exercise programs the last few decades in the United States have used Brazilian's bodies to sell their programs. I remember as a kid seeing commercials for "getting a Brazilian booty", Americans tend to idealize Latin Americans in general, I think it comes from how many of our fav super models have come from places like Brazil. Victoria's Secret models especially.
All my colleagues have done plastic surgery and their ages range from early 30s to early 20s. It's so sad. They all look like butched bratz dolls.
😮 that’s crazy
And that's their right to look like butched Bratz doll.
Stay natural, you’re beautiful 😘
I bet you the next generation is going to totally reject these trends just as fashion changes
Thats their right to look like one. My last comment was deleted.
I support cosmetic surgery and treatments but my issue is that most people’s goals are to look like one standard, Kardashian, as opposed to enhancing and/or refining their own look.
100%
Exactly. Kim Kardashian went to her surgeon and asked him to make her look like Jennifer Lopez and now she looks like a melted version of Jennifer Lopez and the women that follow Kim are now becoming melted versions of Kim Kardashian looking like a melted version of Jennifer Lopez.
@@LifeAfterLosing 😆😆 Creative but accurate description..
Right! Cosmetic surgery can be OK in some cases but the problem is ppl trying to look like this so-called standard beauty or some AI created person now 😮
I agree
And when do you get to be accepted for who you are? As someone who has been less than perfect my whole life and has felt the pressure of being "not (fill in the blank) enough", the most freedom and happiness that I have attained is when I finally learned to accept myself for who I am. If I have to radically change my appearance to be accepted by people, then I'm pretty sure those are people I don't really want to be around anyway.
Well that’s not necessarily how the real world works so….
@@tamarapowell8982How so? Do you mean most people would treat someone different?
a beautiful person has better reaction to people than someone ugly, even tho i agree that accepting yourself is better@@TickingClocks
It’s easy for someone who is young and beautiful to say they will never use methods to look younger when they get to around 60; but now that I’m 74 all my older friends have tried different procedures depending on their income. When procedures are affordable and prevalent they are hard to resist. I remember my 80+ mother and her friends talking about having their eyebrows tattooed and me thinking, how ridiculous! But most humans care about their looks till the bitter end.
Yes! So many young Americans don't seem to spend much time around older people, it's bizarre to me what an unrealistic view of aging they seem to have. Not that I'm much better, I'm 30 and I'm only just starting to see how blind I was in my early 20's. I imagine I'll look at my current self in the same way when I'm 40! 😅
Thank you so much for your comment, anyway. I hope more younger folks see it and take your words to heart.
It's called vanity and delusion. Old ladies will be unattractive no matter what they do, but they narcissistically want to believe they look good.
I agree. She is using these points for her politics.
@@jenm1 What does this have to do with politics?
@@poilaaliop It can go either way. I'm 70. I used to fret about my face looking older as the years passed. I'd look at pictures from when I was younger and think "DANG. I didn't look as old as I thought."
Now I tell my friends, "If you're not happy with your looks, _get_ happy with them...'cause in ten years you're going to *_wish_* you looked this way." And start taking better care of your skin.
My skin always looked pretty young but there were certain bits of me that never did. People said I had "granny titties" when I was in high school (and it was true; I went from pancake-flat to having stretch marks and boobs I could have thrown over my shoulder in a few weeks...always hated them).
I had a boob-lift in my 30's but the real lift was to my confidence. It was so totally worth it. And my girls looked _fabulous._
For a few years. Then I was back to granny titties. But the boost to my confidence remained, miraculously. One man told me he'd thought they looked good before, bless him.
Aren't we always our worst critic?
I'm concerned about using permanent solutions for temporary problems. Much of the beauty standard is a matter of temporary fashion trends. In the 70s, the fashion, the standard of beauty, was for thin lips. I always thought my lips were huge bc of this. Now as an adult, I'm shocked to see the standard swing so far in the other direction. Use clothing, hair, and makeup to fit in with trends, not surgery.
That's very true but in the meanwhile, being conventionally attractive gets you further socially and financially. That's just how it is.
@@emmaphilo4049 But when the fashions change you have no eyebrows bc you over plucked and they didn't grow back. 😛. Or your lips are forever inflated when thinner lips make a comeback. If you want to stay on trend, work with things that are reversible. That's what makeup, hair, and clothes are for. Don't use surgery to follow a fad.
Thick lips will never be out of style.
@LukasP143 are you sure about that. I was a teen in the early 2000s and was teased about having big lips... they were definitely not in style then. I also have a naturally big butt and have seen several cycles of that being in and out of fashion in my lifetime. ALL styles come & go (and then eventually come back around again!).
@@rupert8211for white people and those with their cultural standards of beauty it will go out of, or has never really been in, style. Most people don't actually follow that standard and do not care to botch their natural bodies for something that most don't have or want anyway. It's a normal, natural feature that will exist as long as humans do. That's like saying brown eyes are a trend that can go out of style. It's literally what most humans have and can't actually go out or in style.
i started getting grey at 25(F) and dyed it for a bit because my ex was absolutely horrified and he was the one who had to look at it all day. but after we broke up i decided that the keeping up and the roots were a lot more stress than the grey hair, and now im a delicious salt and pepper at 32. i've had very interesting conversations with older women who thought i'd dyed it like this, and have found that they think it's inspiring that a 'young girl' dared embrace getting older. now im learning this, not to mention all the toddlers going to sephora and all.. i'm even more determined to keep my hair natural and GREY. it's a beautiful silver/gold in summer and to be honest, i can't wait to be a full-on grandma. there was a time i didn't think i'd make it to 18. getting older can be beautiful, if only you allow it to be.
I have a young salt and pepper client and she is GEORGOUS and does not look 'older' at all, she looks great. Good for you!
what's your diet like? Im in my mid 30's, i use to get a lot grey hairs too. I changed my diet to eating more whole foods, such as cruciferous vegetables and fruits. I also manage stress (cortisol) by walking 20-30 mins everyday. By doing those things my grey hair gone.
@@michi-bi i'm a vegetarian so fruits and veggies are a given haha i've also had a daily yoga practice since i was 23. it's something that seems to run in the family, but my biological mother has been dyeing her hair since before i was born so i never knew. she's ashamed of getting older and tried to shame me into dyeing my hair again as well. but i meant it when i said i can't wait to be a full-on grandma. if only it would just turn silver all the way!
@@elliebolouse I see, silver is a pretty color, People bleach their hair to get Ash grey/silver
girl you sound so cute i wish i could see it!!! i have a friend whose grey hair is also hereditary and it looks so unique i could recognise them a mile away 😆 all the best and although people will still tell u their unwanted opinions on ur hair, i hope u think of the nice comments instead and keep doing what u love best
I love that you provide a really empathetic perspective towards those who want plastic surgery to fix insecurities, but you don’t push it as the ultimate solution. While I’m happy with my own face, I acknowledge that insecurities can’t just vanish, and people won’t appreciate beauty in faces they aren’t used to seeing praised and promoted. It’s so sad, but at the end of the day, all we can do is be kind to people and understand when insecurity leads them to want to change their appearance. Cheers, beautiful people 🧡🧡🧡
It's easy to want to defend natural beauty when you have natural beauty. Not everyone was born with even just a decent face. People perception of you is incredibly affected by outside appearance, and it affects people reality for better or worse.
Yes, but beauty is subjective still and body trends change alot. In the 90s being skinny was in, now its big butts. You never know if it will change again to something else so risking your life for surgery based off trends is wild
@@kuroichan101 Some things never go out of "trend". Skin color, height, phenotype, etc. all play into that. She's ticking more boxes than not tbh.
Especially by these very young women and men. I used to think the same, I was PERFECTLY happy with my entire face and body in my 20s. I liked myself. And I still do, but I do feel bad about many other changes as I age. I no longer have the same opinion. It's easy to say "love yourself as you are".
@@kuroichan101yes🎉🎉🎉 beauty is subjective. You took the words out of my mouth 🤓
My looks were never something I had to worry about. Having luckily experienced that as a lifelong constant, I would never judge someone for wanting to be more symmetrical, or whatever.
Stephanie Lang has a great video on natural beauty vs trending beauty. It's called 'You are borderline ugly.' I strongly recommend watching the whole thing. Very eye opening.😊
i watched it love that girl
@@user-ob8pm9yh2s She's one smart cookie 🥰
how was it eye opening for you? Ive seen it and was okay, but I don't get what you mean? so I'm wondering because I thought it was common knowledge of sorts, that some supermodels often have that categorised look!?
Yes, funny enough I used to say that. I'm right on the line of being ugly 😂
@rubylicious1024 I always find it interesting when people don't seem to realize that we don't all learn the exact same information at the exact same time.
The Ozempic trend made it impossible for me to get it for my diabetes for a very long time. I ended up switching to Rybelsus instead (oral form of semaglutide) so I didn't end up in the hospital. It's the only med that has worked for me without giving me severe lactic acidosis or allergic reactions.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I still don't get why people use ozempic when they could use the alternative product like wegovy (think that's the name) which is actually for weight loss.
@@arriah2810yeah or they could just go om a diet and work out. a lot of these celebs aren't even obese to start with, they don't really need the drug lol. ig for older ones maybe, but when it's 30-40 somethings idgi
Has everyone forgotten about Phentermine? Works well with no side effects in certain people.
@lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 has everyone forgotten about exercising and hard work?
If people only realized they could use ketogenic diet and fasting and actually save money on food. Pretty sad that most would rather just pop a pill.
I'm a little disappointed to hear Doc L say there is nothing wrong with trying to conform to today's beauty standards. There are a few things wrong. One is that is. completely impossible and it leads women to always feel insufficient. Two, even if you have a $150000 to spend on surgery, the beauty standard is constantly changing and you'll never feel enough if you subscribe to it. I've had surgery. I'm not judging anyone, but we need to recognize the damage to mental health happening to WOMEN in this country because of unrealistic standards. This is not a healthy trend and more women need to reject it.
ditto! you said it better than me. I had to rewind to make sure I heard right. Shame really, you are not helping the population saying things such as this Dr.
Invest the 150k in psychotherapy
Invest the 150k in psychotherapy then you'll nevvmer NEED surgeries
Theres a point in that. But for someone Who is Asian like me who has no western features I a.m being called ugly because my nose is flat or that I a.m too fat but im already underweight for my height By alot that when i moved to the states people keep telling Me to eat but I don’t want to. Its not a standard though its just bullying 😂
Did you really just use bullying as a justification for plastic surgery? That logic treats the victim the problem, and not the bully. If your bully says you have an ugly nose, and you go change your nose, you're agreeing with your bully. You're telling them they're right.
Exactly! Looking for other people to affirm your idea of yourself is only going to lead you down a path further away from self acceptance which also he gains more profit from
I agree with you, but I think it’s unrealistic and naive to believe that bullying will ever go away. Sometimes its not just bullies, its representation in the media, filters on instagram…
No, he didn't use bullying as justification. He used it as an example of why people resort to procedures.
@@Ana_1980Thank you!
@@Ana_1980literally they’re so slow
We don’t live in a culture that worships natural beauty anymore. Now it’s the real housewives and Hollyweird that sets the beauty standards. Everyone, men and women want to look like an inflated blowup doll. It’s disturbing and frightening especially the really extreme surgeries like that Wildenstein lady omg 😳
My lovely, pretty neighbor died at her home from a hemorrhage two days after liposuction surgery. Her passing was a tragic loss.
My banker wanted six pack abs, and a 'hot body'. He underwent stomach surgery which caused a heart attack that killed him.
Recently, my friend's boyfriend 'Sam' died from dehydration after spending the day at the gym working on his abs. He was 23, and he died because he was after a 'cut' look.
I should consider myself lucky in that the "work" that I had done was without life altering consequence.
I hate to sound awful but women have contributed to that. Women prize status and like to compete around themselves by displaying status pr economic might at any way they can. The rise of interest in artificial looks and "perfection" I think is directly correlated with that. It's also a way to circumvent around beauty since people will always have a natural preference and affinity to those that are born with it; if you can't beat mother nature you can sort of get a similar "high" and sense of "superiority" by buying said beauty. And I put those words in quotations because those are genuine feelings usually by those that aren't "gifted" beauty by nature to those that have it. Jealousy and in an attempt to not lose "status" they create beauty or trends to detract from that. For a long time if not always been the case, beauty trends have been made by the wealthy mostly out of this reason to excuse their status or provide merit to their having this power. At the end of the day those with natural beauty always managed benefactors and had it easier to go up the ranks but women within those classes already tried to secure status by mimicking interest or creating fascination in other ways. Plastic surgery is sort of a lot of women's dream where it allows them to input beauty into their physicality if they don't have it and showcase status. It's not going anywhere now because it provides that security. However make no mistake this will actually make the prizing of natural beauty unprecedentedly higher rather than throw it out the window. People are petty by nature and the general consensus is, beauty is better when it's "free". The beauties being poor or not throughout time has not changed that it has only amplified that idea. I think what this is going to lead to is a Gattaca like situation where designer babies will become a thing to subjugate it. That's definitely what this will lead to.
*edited: typo. Also note: This isn't set in stone and it's more complicated than that. Women aren't the only ones using inorganic manipulation but it's also obvious we're the majority using such services. I apologize if I offended at any point. Correct me if I'm wrong. Like everyone here I'm still learning with you.
@@eyesthrurosecoloredglassesTotally agree, an excellent description of what happens. Beauty has always been an instrument, today that instrument can be bought.
@@eyesthrurosecoloredglasses The reason you sound awful (aka what truly bothered me when reading your comment) is because you specified women and a lot of the things you said are either stereotypes or assumptions that you're indirectly pushing as 100% facts. It's not JUST women, men DEFINITLEY contributed, DEFINITLEY compete similarly and also have plastic surgery as dreams. And i don't mean that in a niche way either alright'. The beauty standard for women IS based on the male gaze after all. similarly the ever growing male gaze is becoming the beauty standard for men.
edit: half my comment wasn't saved. Yeaaaahhh, so now you're just left with the upper part. Which basically sounds bad on it's own or as if i am attacking you. No, i was just sharing my perspective which is now out of context since 80% of it went bye bye and ain't no way i typing that all again. Point is, your tone is what makes it sound bad. And the reason it reads off as you saying it's only women despite not saying so directly is because of the way you spoke indirectly. The first sentence you decided to put up is the worst one you could've possibly chosen, basically just another "i hate to say it folks!!" I know it's there to show your intent ain't with harm but often it gives the opposite effect. And then following it with "women contributed to it" instead of just "And i feel like a lot of women contributed to it." which would've been 100% true and yet not as accusatory or whatever word it is to describe it, women judge women all the time. To shorten it even more, some of your points i do agree with and find true. Anyways have a great day ahead.
I don't even look at the housewives anymore. If yall follow them dweebs then u r bad off than I thought. They don't even clean..
This reminds me of me and my coworker. We’re both starting to age, and she’s dropping thousands on injections and threads. She’s thinner than me but she’s always dieting. She’s always complaining about how she looks. Objectively speaking I’m not better looking than her, but shes always complimenting me and saying she wishes she had my (insert body part here). I think what she’s really seeing is me being comfortable in my own skin. I don’t even want to call it confidence. I see my mommy pooch and the lines starting to come in around my eyes. But I don’t actively hate the way I look. It doesn’t bother me enough to put down the cheesecake or spend thousands on “fixing” myself. Im healthy and happy and that makes me very lucky. I think that’s what it comes down to.
"I think what she’s seeing is me being comfortable in my own skin"!! YES, 1000 x YES!! You keep eating that cheesecake lady! 👊🏻🤩🥰
That's It! someone actually said that to me before, Yes I'm comfortable in my own skin..I like to stay active, I take care of my skin, and I'm conscious of what I put in my body..I could be a millionaire and wouldn't get all those procedures done..no way.
I wish people would work on their inside as much as the superficial surface.
Not judging others, it just seems like people are never satisfied, one procedure seems to always lead to another.
You go girl❤😊❤
Inspiring ♡
Thank you for making this video, Dr. Linkov! I got a septoplasty almost a year ago after being punched in the face by my abusive ex-boyfriend. As well as this incident causing me trauma physically and emotionally, it helped me move forward and heal from that trauma to get the surgery. The procedure included having a minor bump removed. Something that had caused me intense insecurity throughout my life.
I look like myself still, something I stressed the importance of to my surgeon, and I’m way more confident in myself now. It was functional but also slightly cosmetic, and the confidence I gained has been amazing for my emotional healing in both self confidence and trauma!
Whilst I absolutely agree with nearly all of the points made in the original video - beauty 'standards' are becoming dangerously unrealistic, literally, with the constant bombardment of advertising and damaging proliferation of AI and filters making even 'mainstream beautiful' people feel inadequate - I really do wonder if she'll have the same unshakable confidence in 30 or even 20 years time. I truly hope she does. I remember being 20 and despite being picked on for a few physical characteristics, being adamant I would never EVER have plastic surgery. Now 30 years later and I only wish I had the money for a procedure, because as Dr Linkov says, I don't recognise 'myself' any more!
I agree with you - it's great that this young woman is advocating self-acceptance, but until it starts to happen, you don't know exactly how you're going to feel about your face aging, how it's going to impact you psychologically. I certainly don't blame anyone for wanting or having (if they can afford it) a face lift - and I don't think wanting your aging skin hoiked up a bit is necessarily the sign of some deep underlying insecurity.
Dr. Gary you are a class act surgeon, your comments are not offensive and you educate with kindness.
Very true! Love his videos.
Yes, love the way he educates with kindness and professionalism!
Agreed! He also realizes that what makes us different, makes us beautiful. Especially when Hollywood's definition of beautiful is constantly changing like trends.
@@jenerin905 The most attractive thing about Hollywood actors is... The fact that their Hollywood actors.
And it's not even plastic surgery, make-up has gotten so good, these corporations lied to women telling them if they just buy this product you can look like the model in the ad, but now it actually came true and men don't have to buy movie tickets or magazines to see hot chicks.
As a 21 year old guy when I see a conventionally attractive woman basking in the sun next to an expensive car I just see corporate mumbo jumbo, but when I see an average looking woman with winged eyeliner I fall to my knees. Probably a male vs female gaze thing tho since a lot of these IG models still have a massive female following.
Spot on. I just watched a video from a plastic surgeon called Amir Karam and it was one big advertisement for his facelifts. Then someone mentioned the price and I was shocked. He pointed out everything wrong with a 63 year old woman's face. It was horrible to watch.
The veneer horseteeth that’s toilet bowl white gets me every time. 😂
Toilet bowl white 💀
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Horse teeth!! 😂😂😂😂
Toilet bowl white! I freaking love this. I will use it.
I don’t know how old she is, but she looks fairly young. I was thinking the same way she’s now when I was in my 20’s. I am now almost 37 and my outlook on procedures has changed as I see my face starting to show signs of aging. It’s hard to take these opinions serious from someone who has never faced this problem. Often times we cannot relate although we think we can. Until we actually get there and realize how different it actually is.
I completely agree. I’m also 37 and haven’t had any enhancements and still look very young however I see a difference and am considering something very small. Also I use to listen to Amala all the time but stop because she’s so young and inexperienced
I do see your point but there is also 18-25 year olds under going a lot of surgeries as well that really haven’t even started “aging” yet. At all! It comes down to security in yourself and internal worth and representation vs your external.
I can relate.I'm 65 and while I don't wish to look 25 again,nobody is ever going to convince me that my hanging jowls,turkey-wattle neck,and breasts hanging down to my hoochy are"beautiful".Wrinkles don't really bother me and I have been totally gray since I was 40 and love my gray hair.I just want to be rid of all the sagging.
@@debra1363try face yoga ❤
I understand what you’re saying because it’s easier to say this when you are already fairly good looking and young, but beauty standards among young people are absolutely insane these days and impossible to match without surgery. Maybe if our view as a society wasn’t so image obsessed and we had different values as a whole we wouldn’t feel so much pressure to be different. If your beauty is artificial is it even real? There is nothing more beautiful than being loved for who you actually are. I say this as someone in my mid 30s.
I appreciate how you speak evenly and an easy pace. I didn't realize how fatiguing other content was to my ears.
I sometimes listen to this channel to feel calm! 😂
Social media has a lot to do with it. People want to look like filters they see, and have the same procedures they see plastic surgeons talk about, highlight and show on celebrities.
I agree with most of the comments! But there's something i havent seen people mentioning and that is, how children view their moms who have had plastic surgeris and botox injected to their face. Children learn from people's facial expressions. When moms get rid of their wrinkles with botox, they also make their children have a hard time "reading" their facial expressions, which is problematic, cause they will not learn this valuable thing that they have and might even affect their emotions.
And also, how would a child react when they start realizing mom/dad look completely different than them? It's making their lives kinda distorted.
We gotta care about the children of the future.
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@@tela2171 that's very insightful, I have never considered that!
When I was younger, I’ve been wanted to do some plastic surgery, I even saved up some money for it. But as I grow older and mostly everyone are doing it and ended up looking like twins. I have change my mind and started to love what I look and I don’t give a F if other people thinks I’m ugly. What’s important is I’m happy and I love who I am. Just to be clear I’m not judging people who have gone through plastic surgery because I know how it feels to not feel confident about oneself. If these surgery would make them happy, then that’s great 😊.
All I think I care to do if I can afford it, is just a facelift. I just want to keep my face looking the same as long as possible but of course, age comes first is all.
Thank you for being a voice of calm reason and kindness. I really appreciate your perspective!
hey doc. i do not have any intention to have plastic surgery but somehow i watch your videos. it is like a relaxation therapy for me. i think it is because your calm attitude. love from Turkiye.
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I actually agree with a lot of Amala's points. We are constantly chasing a beauty standard that is virtually unrealistic. Even after all the surgeries and procedures, even models are further edited to a computerized unattainability. At the same time, I am not going to shame someone for doing what might make her feel better and more confident about her appearance. When done well, plastic surgery can be a really great thing. I used to hate my nose and wanted a rhinoplasty, but I'm too scared I wouldn't like how I might end up looking afterwards, complications, botched surgery, and just never being satisfied with my appearance. I live in a society with exclusively Eurocentric standards of beauty and I know that definitely impacted how I felt about my appearance since childhood.
So exactly what she said except you are wrong that any one today lives in an exclusively Eurocentric beauty standard.
@@JMBBrasil are you African American?
@@gravityclarityTbh, the person might mean that standards change around the world. It definitely is the case in certain countries, but as you move around, the Eurocentric idea isn't ideal everywhere.
@yeswoo4452 in most places, there is a preference for lighter skin, straighter hair, and smaller noses. I hate when white people try to invalidate black people's experiences. Black people who are considered attractive tend to look more white with looser hair textures, lighter skin, and straighter, less spread noses. This person appears to be white passing and Brazilian. The standard there is very much the same. They even removed a darker skinned woman as a Brazilian carnival queen because everyone thought she wasn't pretty enough because she wasn't more mixed looking. It's disgraceful. And I hate that. It's easy to say something doesn't exist if it doesn't affect you.
@@gravityclarityNot as much anymore, though. Smaller nose is definitely not everywhere. Lighter skin (depends what you mean) is also not everywhere. If anything, having lighter skin, especially ginger white, leads you to be ridiculed and insulted.
I agree most countries do follow a more Eurocentric beauty standard (in the West mainly), but I wouldn't say it's everywhere. And America is definitely a world of its own in that aspect.
I love British and Irish celebs because almost all of them have human teeth and untouched faces.
Yeah, it's such a different market for them that they'd likely struggle to get acting work if they looked too obviously fashionable or tweaked.
Or, obtain more roles because they look like natural human beings. That's one of the reasons I prefer watching UK films & TV series. I like to see regular normal people.
For me German movies, they look so human ND relatable
you’re possibly watching prestige period pieces. British reality show starlets and musicians are extremely modified.
@@jeanettemullinsI heard someone once say the difference between the main character in a British sitcom and an American sitcom is that the American main character is the one making the funny jokes/things happen, the British one is who the funny things are happening to.
Man, you are so sensitive and understanding of how humans think and feel. You are always so spot on and sensitive on how you comment on everything, even on your before and after videos, which can be rather delicate. But your approach is always very classy and professional! Thank you for your great content!
i feel like without the "this person may have been bullied/mocked for this certain trait, getting cosmetic surgery might help their mental health about it and they feel happier" i would have agreed 100%. but that statement is basically validating changing your natural self to align to the bully's standards, which is not a good thing. that's like validating if, let's say i got mocked for one of my facial traits, is the best way to go about it is by doing what the bullies want and change that trait and basically remove it via very invasive methods so that i could please them, and in turn "get rid" of the source of my insecurity that they fostered in me, rather than try to embrace and love my most natural form? would that really be true happiness for me?
@@bingbong6323 - The thing is, this sounds very beautiful as an ideal world, but when you get picked on over and over and over you just want to blend it so that you won't go through that again. I have estrabismus in just one eye and I have been bullied for it since I started school and all I want is just be able to not be self conscious about it. I don't like looking at people in the eye cause I know they will see and either make fun of me or think I am stupid. I don't know if you ever noticed, but people often represent stupidity or confused people with crossed eyes??? So, I would like to have corrective surgery to be able to be confident in looking at people in the eye without fearing they will mock me. I am changing my natural form? YES, would that be true happiness? YES, because it would bring me confidence. I am not sure if you have gone through something similar, but only those who do truly understand this because they feel it on a daily basis. I am 43 now, I am have never been able to get the surgery, cause it is really expensive and I am so scared I will go blind... But if I could pay a great doctor that has a trustworthy reputation and I had the money, I would do it in a second. My natural self sucks and has only brought me pain and trauma.
@@bingbong6323 I mean people should get surgery for themselves first and foremost but if that person feels like getting surgery will make them more confident, then who are you or we to look down and judge them?
@@tamarapowell8982 I'm not judging anyone. I'm saying that if you started feeling bad about your face because people made fun of you, changing it might not bring real self love. But if you haven't been mocked and you want a simple, safe procedure, go for it! I just think we shouldn't rush to fix our natural looks with surgery. It's upsetting how people don't even try to love their natural traits and put effort into minimizing their insecurities before they jump to plastic surgery. It's sad how quickly people follow beauty standards without thinking.
I watched some of Alyson Stoners videos she made talking about growing up in hollywood. She talks about the pressures to look a certain way and how it negatively affected her and the regrets she has for getting plastic surgery on her nose and having an eating disorder to stay a good weight. It's so sad but really eye opening. Such a toxic place.
I used to live in the bay area and now I live in socal. I was shocked when I saw so many young women with surgical modifications. It's insane how I'll notice at least one woman with plastic surgery whenever I go out. It's quite strange, especially since it looks so obvious. You'd think that plastic surgery is meant to enhance the looks of the individual, not make it look like they've had some very noticeable procedures.
Or they all look alike because plastic surgeons use the same,
procedures, in the same way.
@@sandrabentley8111 That's definitely a possibility. I guess loosing all uniqueness is the goal for a lot of women nowadays. Sad.
That struck me when he was justifying plastic surgery as a means for older people to look the way they feel within, like their younger selves- the problem is that they *don’t* look like theirselves at all, let alone their younger selves.
The surgeons seem to take a standard approach instead of an individualized one and the results look disharmonious and give uncanny valley; the onlooker instantly perceives that something is off.
@@planarianthe thing is as you get older you are supposed to mature and not be so shallow.
everybody looks the same :(
I think beauty goes through cycles, like fashion. Today it’s tons of procedures, tomorrow, it’s being natural. Have you noticed gen z rocking 90s gear with mullets? 😂 it’s wild seeing that making a come back.
With clothes yes but Gen z gets the most plastic surgery out of any generation previously in their age group.
But the ones that had surgery to gey the unnatural look are going to risk their health again to try to get their natural look back. Not only have we seen how unsuccessful these attempts have been, there will often need multiple surgeries to look normal. So the numbers of people who have had botched surgeries going unnatural, will be joined by the botched surgeries going back to natural. Then the top up surgeries that are needed to fix the weird shapes their face will make when natural aging interferes with the face they have sculpted. Surgery does not stop the aging process from happening. You just need more surgeries to keep them from clashing and having things shift or having a 50/50 young/old facial features.
Plastic surgeons have long careers because they have repeat customers for life
I’m LOVING Pamela Anderson right now! She’s been going with no makeup and still looks gorgeous!!
Exactly. Back in the 2000s having a big bottom was considered ugly. Come to 2018 it's the most desired thing people want to get, and many did with cosmetic surgery. Same with how people used to mock and bully people with naturally big and full lips, come to current time where almost everyone wants/got fillers on their lips to make them bigger. Not to mention currently we are seeing a resurface of the alarming 'heroine chic' size 0 skinny that was the ideal back then with the younger generation.
Getting any sort of "trend" body modification on me is something I wouldn't personally do, as I know I might be regretting them and removing them later on when the beauty trend changes like it always does. And some celebrities did in fact remove them- look at how Kim Kardashian stopped getting her bbl filled when the trend kind of died. As an 18 year old girl in this day and age, I can definitely understand why many do get cosmetic surgery; I have felt the pressure to do so as well. But I believe if the only way you could truly love yourself is to alter every insecurity, then that's not true self-love.
In regards to myself, should I ever get any cosmetic work done, it would be either to enhance my quality of life or something extremely simple and barely noticeable, that will enhance my facial features rather than change them.
What's frustrating about the use of Ozempic for cosmetic results is that it creates a shortage for those who need it for actual medical conditions (like myself). I have insulin resistance after being Type 1 Diabetic for years. Ozempic would help increase my insulin sensitivity and lose weight (which would further reduce my need for insulin). It greatly impacts my long-term physical health, but as it is, currently there simply isn't enough of the drug to go around.
Kimora Lee wrote a long time ago, essentially ‘if there's something you want to change with surgery, wait until you’re out of your 20’s if you can. You may grow to love the part that you dislike in the present moment. If you still feel that way as you mature, go for it.’ I’ve had breast augmentation / reduction for preventative care (breast cancer) and for back and shoulder health. The surgery changed my life and the way I feel about my health and well-being. I feel at home in my body SO much more than before. I was well taken care of by the doctor I went to. Even the day of surgery, they made sure I was safe and as cozy as one can be on an operating table. Haha. Everyone involved, the anesthesiologist talked to me pre-op, my surgeon, nurses, they all checked in before and after. One of the best decisions I’ve made for myself. I was 29. The risk / reward part is crucial, and like clothing trends, everything goes into obsolescence at some point. Once the trend is over, those folks have to decide for themselves if they made the right choice or not. I DO believe celebrities should disclose if they have had work done if / when it’s appropriate, it can be deceptive not to. I will be glad when the BBL goes back into a niche and isn’t a beauty standard anymore. Butts are cool but it’s gotten out of hand. Haha. I’ll see myself out. 😬😭😬😬
It's easy for her as a young beautiful woman to have the opinion of "let's all be happy with our unique given appearance"
But Dr is spot on about how we age, it is difficult looking in the mirror and seeing a different person.
Also my grandma had a face-lift 40 plus years ago and no one had a clue. Everyone was astounded how young she always looked and couldn't tell she had work done. So it's nothing new and doesn't need to be drastic.
The important thing about your grandma's face-lift is that no one could tell that she had one. She clearly had a good surgeon who knew how much to lift without going too far. I don't know why so many celebrities are having such obvious face-lifts...they end up looking like they have plastic wrap stretched across their faces. I don't understand how someone can look in a mirror and think that they look better that way than they did before.
I think this woman is talking about young celebrities, who are having drastic cosmetic surgery procedures that are doing nothing to enhance their natural beauty. For example, I don't know how anyone who's had the buccal fat removal can think that they look good with sunken cheeks that make their faces look skeletal. In another video, Dr Gary said that is a very hard procedure to reverse or "fix" because of how deeply that fat pad sits. All those people are stuck looking like that as they get older and realise how much that look is aging them.
The ageing doesn't happen suddenly one day. It is a process, you will get used to your changing body. You should I guess
I'm 40,about to be 41,and I love my face and body ! I love looking unique !
@Duh_3298 I've always thought of this. I see myself in the mirror everyday. Usually I don't notice anything changing but my family does when they don't see me for a bit. Same for my husband. He just says idk babe you look the same every day😂. The only time he can see a difference is when I show him a before and after picture.
Same thing I said.
I remember hating my curves in my late teens-early 20s because svelte was the look. I wasn't overweight, I was healthy. My body is just naturally curvy. A soft belly, rounded hips and thighs. No matter how much I worked out or how toned I got I couldn't achieve "svelte" with my body type. Now curvy seems to be in. Love who you are. Be healthy for your body type verses trying make your body fit into the "it" body type of the moment.
i think the best part of my own plastic surgery (rhinoplasty) is that it looks as if i just got my father's nose instead of my mom's (thanks so much i guess), i've kept the bump on the top and it's not a big difference in size. when i initially got it i was in 12th grade in high school and some of my classmates questioned why i wouldn't participate in P.E classes anymore that year and i had to explain that i got surgery done. in earnest it was a very tiny correction and i overall look the same. my face did not lose its unique characteristics, just became more balanced.
I did rhinoplasty. It didn't make my nose smaller but the hump is mostly gone. The best decision I've ever made.
Why is the hump bad? I think it's cute
Same! And my sinuses are straight i love my nose afterwards
@@whatrtheodds Because I don't like it.
Let’s be perfectly clear here:
Natural beauty isn’t “dead”, it’s just that men have stopped finding it attractive.
Why? Because social media and camera filters have warped people’s perceptions of beauty.
That’s what I’ve noticed. 🤔
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Men lead, women follow!
What happened to just doing a hair mask or getting a nice relaxing facial? I love getting regular facials and it has really helped me to look my best naturally. I am happy to look like me.
Well thats you, Tiff.
@@Noa-g1exI know. I just wish people looked at their unique face and just appreciated how they look just as it is. Unaltered. Aging. Big nose. Double chin.
That’s what I’m talking about! I’m with you Tiff!
Noa, you’re part of the problem
@@britishroyalfamilyvideos this girl is literally saying SHE feels good about herself and doesnt feel the need to have surgeries unlike the others, SHE is happy with what SHE looks like. All of this is good until it is being used to compare/judge others who arent born conventionally good looking or has resorted to plastic surgeries. Its the same principle of being rich and saying you dont need to beg for money like the others who are less fortunated. THAT is the problem.
A lot of people dont feel better or more confident about themselves with just a facial or practising self love etc. I personally do not support plastic surgeries espcially extreme ones for obvious reasons, however, i support the people who have plastic surgeries done because that might be the last resort they do, and that they do it responsibily.
Not every plastic surgeries is good, not every plastic surgeries is bad, some deatroy lives, some actually SAVES lives.
Please practice critical thinking more, you are the problem
Dr Linkov so happy to see you are recovering from your alopecia universalis! Blessings to you and your lovely family❤
Joe W. Says: Please Excuse Me for not realizing that that was not simply a Condition but rather a disease from which one needs to Recover. Evidently I must educate myself better. I apologize for the error.
Loved this reaction. I especially loved how you showed empathy for everyone - not just the patients, but also the woman critiquing the patients. All of our perspectives are shaped by our own unique life experiences, and and you did an excellent job bringing light to this.
She is gorgeous and young and I agree it will be interesting to see if her opinions shift as she ages.
The thing is, she'll probably hold the looks until she's well passed egg dead age. Meaning she'll have a family....even if she doesn't, so long as she eats right and exercise....the "aging" problem won't be too bad. By the time it becomes a problem she'll be in her 50s. At that point if you don't like how you look, you have a mental problem. Love yourself first before ever doing plastic surgery. Then one will realize it was never worth it.
THIS. If you take care of yourself aging is not a rapid process@@RatusMax
Exactly. She's young and beautiful, naturally. It's easy to have the opinion "why don't we all just love ourselves the way we are." With darker skin she will age better than fairer skin people so she's blessed in that area as well.
@@MelodyInTheChaos Yeah it kinda stings having someone who is naturally so gorgeus shaming others for not being comfortable with their looks. Good for you but we aren't all born equally beautiful as brutal as that sounds. I dunno, I just get really irked by this.
@@pinkunicorn8794that's not what she's doing at all and the fact that you see it that way is really sad.
You are a perfectly genuine human being. I find just watching your intelligent insights a pure delight. 😊Thanks for being such a nice person. ❤️
I can agree with a lot that she said but its interesting how its always the alredy beautiful ones that have these opinions
Indeed, all this coming from young beautiful women.. it would be refreshing and imo appropriate for them to adress that somehow. I like how she didn't completely shy away from it but in the end she's still young and fitting the beauty standard.
I think its because when your already considered naturally "beautiful", you understand how being beautiful dosnt nessersarly mean your going to be happier or live a more fulfilling life. Your life experience is living proof.
You understand It dosnt solve your problems and whilst I do agree that pretty privilage exists...there's also disadvantages to being attractive too.
In someways being considered attractive can actually cause alot of anxiety and intense pressure, and the problem is we are living in a society where its not even enough to be pretty anymore, you now have to be PERFECT. And perfect by some anime artifical style standard.
When you grow up being made to feel like your appearance is the most important thing (because it's all that people around you have commented on), you end up realising just how much obsessing over looks is actually really unhealthy because 9/10 you've developed a type of body dysmorphia as a consequence of constantly being under a microscope.
And when beauty becomes your identity, it opens the door to a whole plethora of problems that people don't even realise is an issue
@@imfine8224 yes, Im sure. But you also underesimate the feeling of total despare and sorrow when youre invisible or even worthles in the eyes of others.
@Jenniebynsow of course I can understand. We live in a shallow and superficial world unfortunately and I can see how it's getting worse.
I guess it's just a case of either playing into it and perpetuating the problem, or choosing to instead focus on other important aspects of life and consciously surround yourself with as many people/things as possible who reflect the same mentality and values.
Block out the noise. Be the change you wish to see and all that.
Hence why I choose to leave the beauty industry after 13+ years and became a care and support worker.
Not that I'm blowing my own trumpet or anything but I'm just saying.
I recognised how the beauty industry profits off people's insecurities. Feeds off self hate masquerading as self love. And I made the concious decision to not be a part of the problem by being a mascot of such.
But I still get sucked into the trap sometimes. I think its incredibly challenging not to when the "world" hammers in to you the importance of being a 10 or your worthless. But even the most gorgeous looking of people still feel incredibly insecure, compare themselves to others relentlessly and are depressed because of it. Don't let the gram full of selfies fool ya. Why do you think they even do it? What are they trying to prove?
The game is still the same... it's just on a different level. In some ways being "invisible" would feel alot like freedom from it all for some. Imagine your "appearance" making you a target for abusive/predator types...even as a small child and how that fks you up psychologically? I could go on and on about the cons of being noticed for your appearance but I'm not going to, I just want to empathise there's disadvantages on both sides of the coin. And so simply becoming prettier may not be all its cracked up to be in alot of cases and may not be the answer.
But I don't blame people for the way they feel when the world has done such a number on people's perception regarding how they see themselves/others.
I just ask myself am I personally gonna be consumed with "looks" when I'm on my death bed reflecting on how I've spent my life. Probs not...I'm more likely gonna wish I didn't spend as much energy on such, and wish I had prioritized focusing on other meaningful and wholesome parts of life.
Tbh i think it's also easier for me to say this as I now work with the elderly too. So ive really got to see what becomes of each and every one of us (if we are even lucky and live that long) in terms of appearance and it really drills home how irrelevant it actually is in the grand scheme of things.
It really is all smoke and mirrors and it's unbelievably sad just how distracted and deceived we get with this sort of stuff.
But hey its like that saying "if we all woke up tomorrow and decided to love ourselves, so many industries would go out of buisiness" and its true imo.
But again no judgements...just observations 💭💜
As a naturally slim woman like the woman that’s talking, it’s much more easier to say and yes, we do have insecurities as slender woman, but it’s much more easier to say because our bodies are still more excepted. Then majority of woman’s body types so I know she’s like love yourself, take care of yourself, but when you are a slim woman, you have a high metabolism you can eat everything me and my sister we came from the same household we ate the same thing however, my sister gained excessive amounts of weight. My sister actually doesn’t even eat oh baht, I was the only person in my family that would eat everything and I would just be slim. I would just naturally look like I’d walk the runway and having a car V plus family definitely shows you a big reality check so hopefully she doesn’t close off her mind when it comes to people doing what they feel is best for their bodies. I’m not crazy about it, however, just like women should have the right to take care of the bodies people should too, even if we don’t agree with it. .
If you're overweight, you aren't taking care of yourself. It's not the only thing that isn't taking care of yourself, but it's one way of neglecting your health.
This makes me nervous. I have to get veneers as the final step in a multiphase plan to correct a congenital dental problem that has lead me to have bite and facial collapse. I wish I didn't have to, but it's the only way to hold onto my teeth and avoid medical issues and facial pain stemming from the bite collapse. I hope people won't judge me like this.
Don't stress over what other people think.
That said, don't choose toilet bowl white. Instead pick a normal tooth shade found in nature, seriously, not kidding. Try to pick a shade that's close to the color of the whites of your eyes.
Good luck, I think you'll be happy that you got them✌️
Difference between you and the people that are be judged by society is they didn’t need these things done and they end up over doing plastic surgery, in your case you absolutely NEED this procedure to lead a normal life. You have a functionality that needs to be fixed, most people getting plastic surgery is doing it for the aesthetic and that’s the big difference . ❤❤❤
Reconstructive surgery.
Well you have a say on how they will look like. My dad had to put them on as well it was painful and long process. He doesn't have the smile I used to know and love even though it wasn't so white, so It does look different and artificial but objectively they are good teeth and love shouldn't depend on things like this
@@aarchie5268 Appearance and aesthetic have no function?
First of all, I want to thank you for your YT channel for presenting things without subjectivity, because fewer and fewer doctors choose not to compromise nowadays.
In my opinion, social media distorts our sense of reality, people forget to live life without the validation of others, especially in social media. We will need a reset sometime in the future or a reform when it comes to such things, because the risks are not only at the individual level but also at the societal level if we continue to promote such things.
A wonderful approach before aging.
I am 36 not wearing make up, no surgery, no botox but a lot of anxiety when I look in the mirror. I take care of my skin and try to eat healthily.
In my 20s I was criticising those who were afraid of getting older.
I totally agree with her. I have had 20 plus surgeries for problems from a chronic illness. Some were even life and death. The recovery of this is horrible and painful. I will never understand why someone would want to go through this for elective reason. It is not worth it to me. If you can’t live yourself how to you expect someone else to love you? Also what bought the saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder . Look at paintings from different centuries and how women looked different. One last thought is comment about surgery to improve quality of life. I live in pain everyday and if a surgery can make some of that pain go away it doesn’t seem elective to me
As a chronic illness patient, I totally agree with you. The cosmetic surgery industry preys on healthy people that don't know the risks of unnecessary procedures or simply underestimate them, precisely because they have not been forcefully medicalized to save their lives. Healthy people usually don't value their health.
@@futureplaxy that’s not your business or place regardless!
You saying “If you can’t live for yourself how do you expect for others to love you” is like saying if you can’t have empathy for others how do you expect for others to have empathy for you which I find funny considering you’re not practicing empathy yourself right now
@@tamarapowell8982 It's just as much her business and place to say what she wants to say, as it is yours, Tamara Powell
I, too have had reconstructive crainofacial surgeries. Now, I never had plastic surgery. But, I think the two are totally different. I mean, the two have different names for a reason. A lot of plastic surgeries (or procedures) you apparently can recover from in one day, if not within hours. The surgeries you’re talking about take months, if not years of recovery time. Not to mention, most of the time people like us need them, unlike these people who choose to get them. So, the surgery will already be easier because they don’t need it in the first place. While for us it will be harder because we need it. It’s completely different. Take reconstructing a nose that doesn’t have any cartilage to begin with and the patient has severe breathing issues and is prone to infections. That’s different than your regular rhinoplasty on an overall healthy individual. Those people who get plastic surgery will never in a million years know what we experienced, unless they get a botched surgery or something goes wrong. What they do is a walk in the park in comparison to what we have experienced. So, no wonder you’re so against plastic surgery. Because you have had RECONSTRUCTIVE SURGERY. Totally different topic here.
As for the bitch, she knows nothing. She can’t tell other people how to live their life. NO ONE is allowed to do that. How about you focus on your own life and STFU? Just a thought. But, she is especially not allowed to do that when she, herself doesn’t have these struggles. That’s very insensitive, disingenuous, and reek of dissonance. Also, she is solely talking about plastic surgery in Hollywood or social media. Not real life. Or better yet, Korea. Apparently, it’s a standard for everyone there to get plastic surgery. I can care less what Hollywood and social media is doing because I’m not apart of those worlds. I want to know how plastic surgery will affect RL people, like a mom of three.
And don’t get me started on the whole, ‘love yourself’ bit. This dude had more patience, PC wording, and tolerance than I would ever have. If I made a video, I would get cancelled so fast, lol.
Dr. Linkov, you really presented a difficult, but important, topic and issue. You covered it with respect but the value of where we are and where we seem to be heading - in regards to the value of our own natural beauty. We have truly, well some, have truly lost their way and are so superficial, thinking they found the key to happiness, when in reality, it is the biggest band-aid. Thank you
The ones who need to hear this the most are the proponents of medical "transition" where they trade self-acceptance for a facade and a lifetime of medical problems.
Im just curious how many of us can say that we weren’t told something negative about our physical appearance in our lives and usually the same feature. This said at 38 years old I’ve realized that a big part of life is accepting yourself. When you don’t, you’ll always be chasing to fix the next thing that “needs to be fixed” and to look like your best self is to look like yourself. Let’s normalize it
Your page and responses are so refreshing 🙂🥰 thank you 👏🏼
Right. It's easy to say these things when youre young. When you actually get older, you're views may change. The doctor is giving a realistic view on this topic.
What a great idea doc!!!!! Please get these UA-camrs together to discuss that!!!! What an awesome idea for a video segment!
I love these discussions but I think in the long run this will just lead to a Gattaca-like situation because human nature will always admire the beauty nature provided for free more. I think so many women have taken to surgery mostly to display status amongst themselves. This has been a noted phenomenon in humanity from the get-go. Surgery manages to display resources and acquisition of beauty especially by those that don't have it. Trends have been set by the wealthy for a long time because of this, as a way to provide merit of status. However history has shown time and time again that people will ALWAYS curry favor to the naturally "blessed". What I'm seeing from all this is that eventually people will not be satiated by it as people do not look to those getting work done with preference over those that naturally look a certain way for free. We prize beauty mostly because of hoping it would pass "genetically". Designer babies and sciences like that is what's really going to root from all this as a result of wanting to defy human pettiness in preference of the naturally beautiful.
Dr. Linkov, I watched a program on leg lengthening about 10 or even 15 years ago! This show focused on a clinic in a Eastern European country. They showed a young lady that spent many months, many operations and a lot of money all for a few inches in height! It was pretty gruesome. If I remember right she had her legs "broken" and then she had to wear some sort of halo around her legs and the stretching or knitting of the bones was moved by a minuscule amount periodically.
I'm 47 and I can reassure you, Don't want either change anything on my body/face nor want to look or be younger. I look old (my age, actually) but happy and thankful for my health and unique body.
I hear that alot, especially from guys, about just accepting how you look and accepting the quirks and traits of aging or experiences on your face. I have been unlucky with alot of stress and trauma from a young age, and it affected my face alot obviously. I have alot of fat in my face still, and I have been taking care of my face with skincare and a healthier everyday routine, but one thing that always sticks, are my sunken undereyes... I can't fix it "in time" before I want to start a family and get a disruptive routine again, and I dream about trying undereye injections so I can feel that I can have my "young face" while I'm still young... Some things are just unfair and many surgeries can save or help alot of people with the minimal changes that are needed for some people to feel like themselves again. I can't since I have been threatened about being ostracized or mocked if I try to get any injections, so I have accepted my fate of hating my face forever, but I would never wish this upon anyone else, I believe that people deserve happiness, even if it takes a tweek to accomplish.
That is very sad. Good luck with that. 😢
You really hit the nail on the head when you talk about how people with insecurities, when they go through with these procedures, come out the other end happier and with better self esteem. Almost every single person goes through this to some degree, whether you have had braces, lost weight, dye your hair, paint your nails, or go through with these body modifications with extra “help” from doctors/aestheticians/surgeons. The reality is that throughout history, we have wanted to beautify ourselves, so people touting “self acceptance” when they aren’t self aware enough to realize they are doing the exact same thing, maybe to a lesser degree, are just hypocritical.
Thank you for putting nuances to this perspective and to be so respectful... I really love that
It always cracks me up when people like Amala talk about how you should have the confidence to just love yourself how you are and then say they wear makeup because they are still struggling with their own confidence journey.
Yeah... She's 23, and has been through some extreme ideological shifts in recent years. All the best to her, but that's not really a stable state to be in. Yet people are looking to her for guidance? Idk, I know she's laughing all the way to the bank, but it doesn't sit right with me somehow.
@@poilaaliopshe used to be an insane lefty, now she’s moderate/right leaning. Not an extreme shift.
@@PapeySapote It might not seem extreme to you because she's not going from one extreme political ideology to another, but that sort of change can still be extreme from a personal point of view. It is hard to be at complete odds with your family. To gain a huge platform when you are still figuring yourself out after leaving a toxic situation. Isn't it pretty common for someone who leaves one difficult situation to fall straight into another? Even if her views are moderate, sudden fame is a huge change. She's also very young. It's a lot to handle. That's more what I meant by extreme.
@@poilaaliopgoing from an extreme left to someone who basically holds views that are conservative and liberal is not extreme imo. Extreme shift would be going from far left wing nut to far right wing nut. I don’t see her being in a difficult situation.
These people pick and choose when body modifications are wrong, when technically, a tattoo is also an example of body modification.
If it enhances your appearance in a good way, you're bad for doing it. But it's it's a neutral enhancement, then it's fine.
It's a bs opinion on her part.
The collaboration (sort of) I never knew would happen but am glad to see 💕
I really like your videos because you actually explain why some procedure are dangerous or not. Thoses infos are really important for futur patients... trully and especially in this field... knowledge is power, and I wonder if you would make more specific videos about procedures existing for different parts of the body lioe for exemple the vline/jaw or the ribs because there are tons of harmful beliefs circulating on the internet. My english is not great but I hope I’ve conveyed my mind correctly. 😊
Aloha Dr. Linkov, thank you for this wonderful video. I agree with you and your common sense. I’m a senior and have always taken care of my skin and body and appearance but these jowls really do bother me. Wish I had the money and help to have a lift but I just don’t have the means to make it happen. I love myself anyway but just don’t like looking in the mirror except to apply makeup and fix my hair. And yes, due to severe scoliosis, I have lost a lot of my self confidence. That’s life and I work hard at trying to stay in an attitude of gratitude💖.
A naturally beautiful young woman shouldn't be judging people who aren't as privileged for wanting to feel a bit of what she gets naturally. However is there an issue with social media/airbrushed photos ect yes I completely agree
i remember growing up I hated my full lips people would bully me to the point of tears like i literally would go home crying to my mom “im so ugly i hate my full lips, everybody keeps saying they’re so ugly” like i was so traumatized I would try to speak to make lips appear smaller now look at what’s trendy big full lips imagine if i had gotten a lip reduction lol
I love your videos. You always provide thoughtful and respectful insight. ❤
I appreciate the way you approach your discussions about these topics. You seem to try to speak honestly on both sides of the issue, especially acknowledging the nuance.
While we want to aspire to build a non-judgmental society & encourage self-acceptance, reality just isn’t there at present.
I think the main thing we can do is ensure that people are properly educated on the risks involved with anything we do to ourselves, having honest conversations as apprised to shaming people which then pressures them into hiding what they’re doing & prevents us from speaking about real risks involved.
I have very high regard for a good plastic surgeon. I worked with a woman who had several surgeries after an accident. She looked fabulous after she was finished, and I know she was a different person afterward. Her doctor really gave her a new life.
Natural beauty will never go out of style in real life. The overly filled, botoxed, bbl look looks crazy in real life.
Ppl are competing with filtered, photoshopped images and it's causing mental illness. It's sad.
Very great content Dr Linkov :) I always appreciate your balanced perspective. In my opinion, having surgery to look rejuvenated or fix something that impact your self confidence is a very personal decision and one that I support. Where I am uncomfortable is when it's to follow a trend which is what we see in very young people. I am worried about this younger generation all looking the same, and how it will impact them as they age. This is quite unhealthy and I am happy to see this being addressed.
Thank you Dr Gary for educating us about plastic surgery and how it affects people and the pros and cons, how people can be insecure and when they get a small change it the only thing they do and they are happy vs people with psychological underlying problems and need more help in therapy not the knife. I am team make it look natural and subtle if you will do it. I personally would like to get a septoplasty myself because I have trouble breathing. It might be I want other procedures done when Im older in 20 yrs maybe some eyelid lift or lip lift but I'm going to wait and see.
Wanting to deny aging is terrifying too…
I'm always amazed at people who are naturally beautiful tsk tsk others. If I looked like Amala I wouldn't want surgery either.
Fascinating. Thank you for offering an educated perspective
Dr. Linkov's videos have popped into my recommendations a few times now. Each time, I'm impressed with the depth of his content and the valid pro/con discourse. As someone who got a rhinoplasty at a fairly young age and has suffered from a whistling nose ever since (I developed a hole in my septum from the surgery), I've always had a bad taste in my mouth about cosmetic surgeries/surgeons. But Linkov keeps his content grounded in reality and, as a result, has helped remove some of my historical negative bias against plastic surgeons. Thank you for helping me re-adjust my perspective, Dr. Linkov!
It's really easy to say all she's saying when you're young, beautiful, and conventionally attractive.
I love Amala. Not only is she beautiful, but she’s extremely intelligent and articulate.
the fact that she's beautiful is exactly why her opinion matters 50% less than the "ugly". she cannot speak for a demographic in which its struggles she is shielded from due to her privilege.
@@Emilnananaxo This is such a dumb braindead take. As if people who are seen as 'beautiful' can't have insecurities and struggles with their appearance. Beautiful is also just an opinion lmao. Like saying ugly people shouldn't have an opinion about beauty products because they're ugly anyway. gtfoh with your close minded bullshit.
I appreciate you going over this and being honest about all of it
One of my big insecurities is a botched repair job after having skin cancer removed. They were supposed to only remove the skin, but they removed a chunk of the frontalis muscle as well. So now one side of my forehead/eyebrow hangs down lower, with an obvious triangle shaped dent on one side of my forehead.
I would consider plastic surgery to repair this. But not until later on in life, perhaps as part of a hairline lowering or face lift. I can hide it with a side fringe as it is.
Great balanced take on current beauty & modification trends doc! It may be a bit easier for younger influencers to advocate for, “all natural”, as their interaction w/age is more limited. My Mom is in her mid 60’s and I’ve noticed she’s walked back some past criticisms about procedures. Time sometimes tweaks that tune a bit.
Believe me, it is shocking when you start aging over 60. I was never a great beauty but when my neck and jowls got saggy I wanted a facelift. I’m also glad I got braces as a kid.
My mum says that too she's 53.
My future husband needs to be as calm as this doctor lol, so calming to listen to.
That aside, this was a really loving and honest response. I really like that the doctor is honest about the reality and agree that it would be nice for people to accept themselves. I have seen some plastic surgeons who are quite encouraging of surgery.
I absolutely LOVE this video! Thanks Doc
My close friend, who is two years older than I (she’s 62) gets Botox…fillers…has “lost weight” via fat removal…has had brow lift..neck lift…she always says “wow…so and so looks SO OLD”….imhave to remind her, “No, they are aging as a normal person does who doesn’t rely on surgeries and injections to stay “young”. She can do whatever she wants…but she’s staring to,gross me out by judging OTHERS for “looking old” simply because they’re not throwing money at Father Time.
And no…I have done none of those things so I’m sure she has a very harsh opinion of my smile lines, jowls, and heavy eyelids.
I grapple with the challenge of self-acceptance, a battle that feels insurmountable without the intervention of surgery. My primary aspiration is to enhance my appearance, a pursuit I've convinced myself is for personal fulfillment, detached from the views of others. Yet, I am relentlessly critical of my own reflection.
Admitting the full truth, it's not just about personal satisfaction. I acknowledge that I, too, am part of the cohort that casts judgments on others. This tendency of judgment, unfortunately, does not spare me and shapes my own self-perception.
Stop looking in the mirror all the time, stop taking selfies, stop worrying about your physical, start to work on your mental, emotional and spiritual which are all severely lacking. Best of luck, you can do this.
I really like you. You are honest, nonjudgmental, down to earth, reflected and I agree with every line you are saying in this video. With the girl having strong opinions about things she visibly has no experience with - not so much. I am particularly tired of the Ozempic hate from people who have been slim all their lives and tend to give advice like 'Just eat less' (No shit, Sherlock!) or even worse 'You're beautiful as you are!' (... and will die of a heart attack at 50). Plastic surgery isn't ubiquitous - it's ubiquitous in the circles she considers relevant to her. That people measure themselves against AI filters and also have this disconnect between their digitally filtered image and their true selves which breeds all sorts of dysmorphia is a much more complex topic.
Bravo. a very mature and intelligent discussion between these two youtubers.
I'm middle-aged, perimenopausal, stressed from a layoff last year and struggling with raising kids and caring for my parents. I have gained 25lbs since 2020 and I am disappointed in my appearance, my body doesn't look or feel good. I used to be a runner and have taken that up again recently but if I had the money I would take Mounjaro or Wegovy as well. That is the extent of change I would do to my body.
How old are you? I heard strength training is very effective for weight loss