answering your questions + sharing my thoughts!
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- join me as I sit down and answer some of your questions about my life, my job, my future plans, and my thoughts and feelings on minimalism, no buy, etc!
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I will be sharing the ups and downs of life and how to attempt to get through it in one piece. I’ll be sharing realistic life advice, minimalism tips, routines, vlogs, and anything else I think you would benefit from! Life is messy and unpredictable, and learning how to manage these hurdles is the first step to leading a happier and more intentional life. We're all trying our best out here, and I just want to share what is and isn't working for me.
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Grace
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I understand where the punishment mindset comes from. And its probably worse for those with ADHD or people with excessive spending habits. I like to think that I am actually HELPING myself, because even though the initial high from buying something is nice, it fades off soon and I end up losing money and having more physical and mental clutter. Hence, I try to avoid impulse spending. I hope this mindset helps you through the rest of your year. ❤ Feel free to share it on a vlog because, judging from the comments, I think a lot of people had the punishment mindset, and I don't think many will see this comment! ❤
I could definitely use a dopamine ideas video! I am attempting a no buy month but have not been doing well with it. I ended up having a rather stressful month and I think that I didn’t have the capacity to deal with that and add a no buy. I definitely bought way less and mostly spent some gift cards on things that I actually needed…but..yea. I am still trying and maybe I will see if I can do a no buy March. February in wisps sort of a bad month to deal with on a good day!
I was watching other videos about no buy/low buy and one of the tips is to start doing it only for a month and understand why we buy like we do. Otherwise, after the no buy we could fall into the old habits. That being said do you enjoy any kind of hobbies?
For me I failed my nobuys because like Grace said, I was doing it as punishment. Then I’d spend even more right after. I watched a ton of declutter/minimalist videos to help me realize I’m not buying because I just don’t need more stuff!!
Yes please!
I love that you addressed this "I don't deserve" mindset that can be attached to no buy. I am approaching it as a rewarding myself with less overhead. Less to have to clean, to put away, to overall manage. After having to clean out my moms house when she passed and my grandmother's house when she moved-then her apartment when she passed, the stuff can just be so overwhelming. I had some initial withdrawal from shopping, but I am finding I less stress about managing the mess of stuff (I still have so much stuff, but I am not actively adding to it). I am also saving for a trip so being able to travel will be my reward.
I've been slowly changing my thought process from depriving myself to intentionally using what I have. I'm noticing that the feeling of realizing I used everything up and not wasting a thing is the same dopamine as purchasing something- at least for me. Purchases are starting to have more meaning now and I couldn't be happier for trying this challenge.
On another note: some of my favorite homesteading/slow life channels on UA-cam are country life vlog, dianxi xiaoge, liziqi, simple living alaska ♡
love these reflections!! also thank you for the channel recs!!
Owning a homestead and being able to do most of the building, carpentry and fixing yourselves, is litteral gold. I am 37 yo and lives alone on the swedish countryside in a little cottage and is growing my own food. The amount of money you save by doing things yourself (when done well, if you don’t is just gonna cost you down the line😅) is crazy. Your homestead plans sounds like a dream worth working hard towards. NZ is the most beautiful country!
I love this!! so happy for you 💗
So glad to be able to support your homestead dream through UA-cam! ❤
so so grateful to all of you 😭💗
I've found that I almost always just want to do something fun when I get the urge to buy something. My partner and I tried archery this weekend and it cured my urges to buy anything that had been cropping up that week, and it only cost 25 bucks for the two of us.
that's so cool!!!!
Hi Grace i just wanted to say thanks for doing theae videos/project. I'm not at the stage of being able to do a No buy yet but you have inspired me to do my own low-buy challenge, and while i would say my follow-through has been... Patchy... I'm definitely spending far less than I normally would have. Every time I lapse I watch one of your videos and get back on the horse to try again and your low-key persistence and these video check ins are really hekpful and inspiring. Thanks from a kiwi viewer 😊
doing something imperfectly is better than not doing it at all!!! 💗
love these chatty check in videos! also omg we are almost the same age, I turn 26 in October :) excited to watch your channel grow and hopefully lots of NZ content in 2028
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I’m excited for the homestead stuff! 🤗
Yessss! I would love a live-video so much 🥰
yes please do a dopamine video!! lovely video as always, grace 🤍
I'll get working on that!!! and thank you🥰
Yes queen! Please do a live! I’d love to be there 😊❤
I listen to these while I’m working 👌🏻 but New Zealand feeling like home is probably bc it is the land of your ancestors and that’s so cute❤
yeah 🥰 I don't know exactly how far back they go (they're european, not māori) but I definitely have that familial tie to the land for sure💗
I set up my guidelines at the beginning of the year. Then this month I was offered a new job at a new company. Not something I was planning for. Which due to a different dress code I actually had to buy a new work wardrobe. Thanks to your videos I wasn't stressing about it. Instead I did some research into what my work uniform should be so that I was still comfortable. Then I went through my closet and pulled any piece that would work and made a small list of items I still needed. I ended up getting 5 new blouses and 1 dress that will work for all 4 seasons using other pieces I own. Before I would have felt the need to buy everything brand new and end up wasting hundreds of dollars. I just kept focusing on my why while I was shopping and it really helped. Plus I saw something else I really liked and I wasn't going to buy it but I went shopping with my Mom and she got it for me as a gift for getting a new job. (It was a pair of lounge shorts. lol)
I think about one of your past videos when you announced your new era on UA-cam and shifted away from purely posting about minimalism, and I say I am subscribed to Grace Nevitt and all the content she posts! you are such an interesting person to watch and learn your takes on different topics. I loved hearing everything from your job to your future plans in New Zealand (idk why but Farmer Grace is so cute to me hahaha) 💕
this is so sweet thank you😭💗 farmer grace will be in full force when I move to NZ!! can't wait
I'm here mostly to thank you for all your kindness and encouragement towards us. UA-cam is usually my guilyu pleasure, but here I feel welcomed and like I'm actually growing something for myself, with the help of this incredible community. I'd love to hang out in a live stream anytime ❤
Great video!! So cool hearing about your job! I’ve been decluttering & trying to be more minimal for a few years now. Found your channel recently & love your vibe & the music you use 😊
Also joining in on the year long no spend challenge so it’s always great hearing about your experiences & feedback, it’s very helpful! Been enjoying all your content & look forward to going along for the next few years till your NZ adventure!! ❤
thank you so much!!! 💗
I'm so jealous that you have the possibility in the future to live out your dream ♥️ I have almost the exact same dream and even though I've never been to nz, as a Finn I already know I would absolutely love it there. Taking care of any sized farm or homestead is not for one person though and since I have no one in my life to do it with me it can just be a dream. However I truly hope you continue your youtube journey until then and beyond bc I would absolutely love watching your life there and how you get by and settled etc. All the love and luck 🫶
thank you so much!!! and please don't give up on your dream!! you can live on a smaller plot or make sure you have the space for WWOOFers!! then you'd get to meet new people and they could help you out💗
Poor Flip! My dog used to have a very similar diet because he had terrible allergies and it really helped. If you don’t always have time to make it at home, you could buy frozen pre-portioned bags from a local pet butcher
it's working wonders so far!!
Loved this video! And your Homestead story was so sweet! I look forward to seeing your journey over the years and making your dream come true. Loved hearing more about your job, a day or a week in the life and a swing would be so cool too see too. So glad I found your channel randomly, because the no buy/low buy year is helping me so much so far. I definitely medicate with shopping and buying things that I think will fix my life. But now I get a dopamine hit when I update my budget spreadsheet (so geeky i know, but I kinda love it) and get to put money towards paying off my debts. And if I stick to my plan, I will be debt free by October and then will be able to save for my future too. 💜
I was thinking of actually filming a weekend in my life this weekend for next thursday's video :)
Yes! Come to NZ ! It’s lovely here xx
I'm making my way there as fast as I can!! 😭💗
On the scarcity mind set...I think if we shift from thinking "we can't have this or do that or buy something we think we must have..." to thinking "I'm in a good head space and am so happy I "get" to work on spending my money wisely and saving for things that I really want and that are more important than buying stuff for instant gratification" that we might think less about scarcity. Your New Zealand plan sounds so amazing. Go you!!
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I’m a sahm with adhd, and it is quite the struggle to mine dopamine from my daily life, cutting out shopping, tv, caffeine, phone, snacks. Trying to replace those things with connection to my kids and learning to find dopamine in little things. Sometimes I’m so directionless though.
ugh I feel that!! just ride the waves and remind yourself that the instant dopamine will be replaced by the slow dopamine... just takes a bit of time (and discomfort) to weather the transition! 💗 you got this
we'd love a live chat with you!! I'd love to hear about your plan for your farm once you get to your homestead. I'm an ~amateur~ gardener planning for my second vegetable garden this spring and I LOVE the idea of growing most of my own food. It's been a major learning curve for me in terms of setup & layout, when/where to plant specific plants, how much sun & water etc etc. It's an exciting challenge though and I'm curious how you're preparing yourself for that part of your new journey!
one of my favorite things is something Roots and Refuge says here on youtube: "your waiting room is your classroom"
I've learned SO much about gardening and plants in the last few years and plan on continuing to do so until I move there! I've never had my own garden, but I have a few books on gardening and layouts and NZ native plants :)
Same, 'The Minimalist' doco changed my life 5 years ago.
I would definitely join a live! I have been having some health issues that make it hard to get out of the house and that would be a great way to spend an evening in
I saved this video for chores time 😂 the New Zealand homestead sounds like a dream. I have chickens (they're little jerky dinosaurs) and an acre and a half of land with a nice sized garden but not much discretionary time to do much with it yet after working a full time job + commute. I'm doing the low buy to get some money saved up to ditch the commute!
hope this challenge can help you make that dream a reality!!
So fn funny the chicken egg other magic level story! ...just cracking up watching you laugh with yourself about it...great yo laugh.
it's just that funny thing of "wow did I really not put together that this is where regular grocery store eggs cane from?" I just assumed that bc it was on a farm that it would 1000% turn into a chick😂
13:59 Girl same. I don’t want random crap. Only get me the things I need.
This last Christmas I told my family I only wanted a set of sheets. Nothing else. Unfortunately they wanted to give more and things that could not be returned so I just donated as soon as it came in the mail
I loved growing up on a farm. Just not the small town Midwest politics haha. Living in southern California now and I love the people here but also crave being on a farm long term. Definitely thought about New Zealand but moving that far away from family would be hard. Love this type of video!
I honestly can't wait to live on a farm 😭💗
I've been learning to make myself a take along treat before I leave the house. Every time I go out. Harder to be tempted by something you already have. lol
SO true!!!
This has been such a nice chit chat video! You’re job is so unique! Can’t wait to hear more about the homestead plan.Why New Zealand in particular??
Same here! xx
I just love the vibe in NZ!! I also am already a citizen so it makes things easier in that way.
We'd love to have you in NZ!! It's so beautiful here, although our public image as a 'clean green country' is really misleading! We have one of the highest GHG emissions per capita in the world, and highest consumption rates per capita in the world, and we make most of our national income off of dairy farming which has polluted a lot of our rivers (to the point they are unswimmable) and soil (which means people living near dairy farms have much higher rates of cancer). Indigenous Māori here had their land stolen from them to build dairy farms and are now discriminated against on their own land. I still feel it's one of the best places to live in the world at the moment, but we have such a ways to go in terms of making sure our environment and people are truly cared for.
these are great points!! the grass is always greener, I suppose... although most places feel like a major step up from NYC 😅
@@gracenevitt yeah totally!!
The way I’m getting my no spend to work is when I see something I won’t. I go and take that money and put it directly on the credit card. I am trying to pay off that way I feel I spent money on something I needed to spend it on. And now as of today, I have paid off my credit card and put it away. Do you have no spend for a year. Put that money you want to spend on a bill credit card loan whatever you need to be paying off instead of buying something you’re buying something you’re way out of debt.
I think movement brings a lot of Dopamine. Go for a walk, Do a Yoga Session with UA-cam or another workout, pilates for example, is a very good way to gain dopamine. Only 10 minutes can help.
I've definitely failed the no buy year so far 😂😂 oops. I'm going to restart again in March! Let's go!!
you only fail if you give up!! this is just a bump in the road! 💗
I love your glasses!! Where did you get them?
I got them from Lens Crafters! I think they're vogue brand?? they were not cheap unfortunately lol
Love this video, if you ever come to germany. You can visit me here, i have a apartment that i rent out from time to time 😎😊
So cool that you have New Zealand citizenship! It’s on my bucket list of places to go. My husband’s grandparents live in Ireland (we live in the US) and his dad grew up there so my husband can pretty easily get citizenship. We have a 9 month old daughter now so she can get citizenship too. I’m the only one who needs a visa :p. My husband is in nursing school now but I have dreams of living in Ireland someday. I feel so fortunate to have been able to go visit a few times already!
Ireland is so beautiful!! my mom is a dual citizen of Ireland + US actually! via her grandfather who was born there 💗 it's a lovely place and I hope you do end up living there one day!!
We will still watch when you’re doing homesteading content.
About the Christmas thing what if you ask for one specific thing and say you don’t want anything but people don’t listen to that!
then it's not on you anymore if you declutter or re-gift the item!!! you set your boundary and communicated your needs, and they still decided to spend their money! consumerism has translated into "money = time, love, care, etc" when it's really the thought that counts. hopefully the people in your life will understand sooner rather than later! at the end of the day, it's their money and their "problem" if they don't listen to you.
How do you make sure that he gets all the dog nutrients he needs?? It seems cheaper no?
we just switched over to human food but I'm going to get him a doggy multivitamin to go with his food. and no, sadly this diet for him is much more expensive.
Hello ❤🎉
I'm struggling with my no-buy. Part of it is I need to specify my why. Most of it is I am severely dopamine deprived in a postpartum survival mode year with 2 kids that need me 24/7. And sleep deprivation. This is hard.
sending you big hugs!!! maybe try to do some journaling, open a voice memo and talk it out, or talk to someone you feel comfortable completely opening up to. see if you can figure out a why and then align yourself to that. all the decisions that come from there will then feel much more intentional💗
Where did you get your shirt from?
forever 21 unfortunately :/ I generally hate fast fashion but sometimes I use it to round out my wardrobe and turn fast fashion into slow fashion LOL only buy from those stores if I know I'll be keeping the pieces for a long long time
I’d be up for a live as long as it’s not on the weekends as that’s when I work…
I'll try to pitch a few ideas and see if I can find a time that works for a handful of people! sadly it won't end up working for everyone, but I'll do them every so often!
My recent low buy story.
I've known I'm going to be a bridesmaid in June ( yay!) and that I would need shoes for that, I had no others and i hate shoe shopping. So there's particularly shoes where on my yellow list ( but no others ) I could by one pair of white sandals that I was able to re wear all summer, sorted.
And there was this pair that were £150 (!) But they convert to flat, they would solve the problem, i could stop shopping for shoes, blah blah blah and anyway I put my phone down and 2 days later I found a normal pair of sandals for £18!🎉 ( they don't convert but they are low enough you know) It reminded me of the $27 story - sometimes you've just got to sit on something that little bit longer. And I was reminded of how annoying and long shopping is, not the buying but the decision and thinking 😅 I spent about a week thinking about these shoes! Madness 😂
Also I would love a live chit- chat ❤
ugh I LOVE when a solution comes up naturally!!
Hello, subscriber from NZ here. We would love to have you!!
Yes. We would.
can't wait to move there!! so kind if you both to say so😭💗
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Grace. My darling. I can start a drinking game with you saying "To be completely honest". I'm saying this with love. I don't think you know you have this verbal habit. (I say the same thing in my native language and it's driving me nuts when I realize it. Like what? The rest of the time I'm not honest or what?? It's actually a way to emphasize what you're about to say, I know, but I think we can do without it! :) ) I enjoy your content a lot and I can't wait for NZ
Can we be friends?
feel free to follow me on instagram and chat a bit!! I'm not on there a ton, but I love connecting with y'all over there :)