Get To Know Me - Buying our Cottage, Starting a Garden, Autism, Pets Q&A

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  • Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
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  • @swenger27a
    @swenger27a 2 роки тому +30

    I am the same. I like hobbies that are generally seen as those done by older retirees. I like gardening, embroidery and collecting old tea cups/antiques etc. I have always thought that I was an old soul living in a young woman's body. I don't like crowds and people in group settings. I don't mind one on one with people but I could go ages alone and not feel lonely. I love animals, nature and the slower pace of life. I have high social anxiety and struggle with depression (more in the gloomy parts of the year) I think going to national trust gardens on the weekend would be a dream. I don't have that much here in the US but I do love to see Botanical Gardens. My father worked with plants most of his life so I think that is where I get the love for them. I think what you do as a young person who gardens has a lot more value than parties and all those shallow pursuits that most young people waste their time on. You are conscious of nature and what you can do to be more eco friendly. I think that is brilliant!

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +5

      That’s so sweet! Good way to describe it, people always call me an old soul. We are much alike. Thank you for writing this

  • @shanlynwebb
    @shanlynwebb 2 роки тому +33

    My son was diagnosed Autistic at 7 yrs. You are so right..most people have no understanding of autism which is the hardest thing to deal with as a mother. It is people that make things difficult not the autism itself. I love gardening, I grow a lot of flowers. Hello from New Zealand.

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +7

      That is so true. The prejudice or stereotypes make the world much harder to navigate. Thanks for your comment ❤️

  • @jenc8953
    @jenc8953 Рік тому +9

    I don’t like tik tok or instagram so your preference for UA-cam is just fine with me because I prefer that too. Your garden is such an inspiration, it’s just beautiful.

  • @WhiteThreadCrochet
    @WhiteThreadCrochet Рік тому +4

    What a Godsend your channel is for me! As an introverted person who loves gardens, but lives in a city flat, and a mother of a 14-year-old autistic boy, your channel is so valuable to me! Thank you so much!

  • @mikaharmik958
    @mikaharmik958 Місяць тому

    You're such a wonderful person. I just love listening to you. Your house and your garden is something I always dreamt about - beautiful in its imperfection.

  • @eh-b2038
    @eh-b2038 Рік тому +4

    We feel exactly the same! Both my boyfriend and I are in our late 20's and absolutely love gardening - visiting gardens, attending our own, watching gardening videos. And your channel is the best! Thank you for sharing x

  • @mirandaandrea8215
    @mirandaandrea8215 2 роки тому +19

    Your passion for gardening is wonderful! I love your style and approach to the natural way!

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much 😊

  • @SMElder-iy6fl
    @SMElder-iy6fl 10 місяців тому +1

    It is such a relief to see a "messy" garden. So many videos are about perfect gardens and perfect gardeners. I've never in my life shown any talent for being perfect! But i love my garden.

  • @jennyprice1140
    @jennyprice1140 Рік тому +6

    So lovely to hear more about your life and in particular autism/ADHD. My daughter is 15 and waiting for diagnosis. It really resonated with what you said about the hurtful things people can say, especially family members. She's struggled to find any role models, so it's lovely for me to share your story with her, thank you! And you've created the most beautiful home and garden and lovely to see you've found a place where you can be safe and happy. 💚🌿

  • @julietetlours
    @julietetlours 2 роки тому +4

    So over people commenting on others with words like weird and unusual! We are all unique and wonderful in our own ways. Words can actually hurt and it baffles me the words our own families can throw around like nothing.

  • @carola.h.5689
    @carola.h.5689 2 роки тому +9

    This was so wonderful to watch! As someone who is on the autistic spectrum (pdd-nos to be specific) it is wonderful to see someone else with the same struggles. To know that i am not alone and to be able to accept the things that make me happy and make me who I am.

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +4

      Thank you so much for sharing that ❤️ I feel the same

  • @janeandclementine
    @janeandclementine 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you for this. It is so helpful to hear the autistic experience explained by a young woman.

  • @vanessascott2009
    @vanessascott2009 Рік тому +3

    Well done to you! This is where the school system and family doctors have failed our children! Proud of you for being so open and teachable!

  • @chezelleconroy2951
    @chezelleconroy2951 2 роки тому +4

    It’s just so lovely to hear so much more about you- Thankyou for sharing, we appreciate it. 🇦🇺

  • @Zetta5890
    @Zetta5890 Рік тому +1

    Hey mona i read your story in regards of your wedding on the autism spectrum website,And i am really glad i have discovered your content it has helped to feel a little bit better.I waa diagnosed with Aspergers only 6 years ago and im 32 years old and ive struggled so much to be happy being me and finding my place in this neurodiversity world at times.

  • @lorrihernandez341
    @lorrihernandez341 Рік тому +6

    I love your story! Thank you for inviting us into your world! 😊

  • @georgettea7836
    @georgettea7836 3 місяці тому

    I am anew subscriber from Melbourne Australia. Thank you for your honesty and I like what you said about trying to fit into other people's way of living. This has been my problem most of my life. I've always been "too quiet " and strange to others. Glad that you have found a place you feel happy.

  • @wilhelminahorn1662
    @wilhelminahorn1662 2 роки тому +6

    Great video! I also have a strong need for animals and nature in my life. Without animals around me I feel like I am dead inside. I have been like this all my life and it is just essential to my happiness to choose a country lifestyle. :)

  • @miriamfox8219
    @miriamfox8219 Рік тому

    You speak so wonderfully. You hit the nail on the head about Autism. (I was diagnosed as an adult and a woman, and did have to fight to make myself understood). I have trouble admitting I'm not always as capable as I wish I was. Also your house and garden is beautiful, inspiring me to sort me own garden and make it a bit nicer (we have Kale, Pumpkins, Beans, Rhubarb, courgettes and more but could get more flowers in there, apart from a very tall sunflower called David). Thank you for so honestly sharing about your life and experiences. This is definitely a nicer side of the internet.

  • @KimmyCharise
    @KimmyCharise 2 роки тому +10

    This was great! Thanks for giving us a little insight into your inner world. ❤️

  • @marblehead3398
    @marblehead3398 Рік тому +5

    New subscriber. You are lovely and I love your cottage and garden ❣️

  • @euphorbia1581
    @euphorbia1581 Рік тому +1

    Omg, it almost made me cry when she said she doesn't like people, socializing, being in a crowd. I wonder if I might be neurodivergent too

  • @emanuelad3534
    @emanuelad3534 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for your time, for your efforts and honesty. Such a joy to follow you. Big hug

  • @eloise5177
    @eloise5177 Рік тому +4

    I was the same age 17 I was wanting to be in the garden helping my dad hated the boring going out drinking etc with same age group I did exactly what I wanted to do ie what I loved and still do now. I also love animals more than people. I never felt awkward about being called strange I have a strong personality and I do what I want not fit in with others just to fit in .

  • @dianeirvine1384
    @dianeirvine1384 2 роки тому +2

    Very interesting with everything you said. Think I like the same types of things. Thank you from NZ.

  • @princessdumbarton9877
    @princessdumbarton9877 Рік тому

    I'm almost exactly like you. I wasn't diagnosed until age 60. I wondered why everything was so difficult. I could not stand working in offices so I got a job working alone at night, that was a relief. Then I worked at home for a few years. Cannot stand being around people or socializing. I really only like being around animals. It's a lot easier to get help now so that's good. There was no help for me when I was younger as everyone just thought I was odd. Only boys were diagnosed with autism. I love your place.

  • @jenniferkessener1111
    @jenniferkessener1111 2 роки тому +1

    I have gardened all my life, and I am so happy for you. Now as a senior I do not have the mobility I had, but still love my garden.
    I am interested in how you managed to get diagnosed as an adult. My son, who is a young adult realized recently that he is probably autistic, he scored very high on an online quiz

  • @RaeDellDalton
    @RaeDellDalton Рік тому

    Your really a brave person to put yourself out there. I enjoyed your story. Thank you. Keep being you!

  • @joythompson4454
    @joythompson4454 Рік тому +1

    Just brilliant..you make me feel so much better about being alternative. Your cottage is beautiful.

  • @maryboehme420
    @maryboehme420 2 роки тому +1

    I too love old clutter! What a lovely way to put it 💕

  • @lucylufrank3770
    @lucylufrank3770 2 роки тому +3

    I try not to go on tik tok often because I find it like a black hole and I’m not great with regulating my screen time right now, but I found you there and I love your sweet little tik toks - they were like a breath of fresh air and I rushed here to find if there was more to see ! Xxx

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому

      Thank you for saying that, so kind! I feel the same about tiktok. Can end up doom scrolling on there too easily xxx

  • @achnix3167
    @achnix3167 Рік тому +1

    Is there a video where you go into your working situation? Combining good work eith countryside living is sth i dont often see on these channels that often present a fairytale version... More often than not peoples have inherited a lot etc etc. Great video btw, love the honesty

  • @Garden_of_Eve10b
    @Garden_of_Eve10b Рік тому

    I love your videos, you’re such an inspiration ❤ I ordered some peony roots and some bulbs, crocus, tulips, anemones and freesias…I am slowly starting my cottage garden in zone 10b
    You really motivated me to do so and can’t wait to see what else you motivate us to do in our garden!! ❤

  • @crashofthemoons
    @crashofthemoons Рік тому +1

    Your reasons for living in the countryside are the same reasons I live in the countryside. 😊 I also wish we could get food delivered 😅

  • @sparrowsendhomestead
    @sparrowsendhomestead 2 роки тому +1

    Loved so much about this! Your cottage looks calming, cozy and comfortable. I’m definitely a spring-focused gardener too. Every July and August I look round my garden thinking ANOTHER year has gone by without me planning for the summer. Oh well, maybe 2023 will be the year…!

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you! Oh I relate to that so much! Good to know it’s not just me haha

  • @ukkalns
    @ukkalns 2 роки тому +2

    thank you! 💛

  • @fruski
    @fruski 2 роки тому +5

    i for one would definitely love to watch a video about your journey with autism!! i have suspected that i have it too for a while now, and i think i present similarly to you (social and sensory issues), and i’ve had the same response from people when i mention it - like friends and family members jump at the chance to assure me of how “normal” i am, even though my school years were fraught with me getting in trouble for running away, i was called weird and creepy by so many of my peers, but now that i mask a lot (which is often deeply painful and exhausting for me), people seem to think i’m “normal”, even though i feel less like myself than i ever have because of how much i subconsciously mask my personhood and my autism. people definitely have very specific preconceived notions about what autism “looks like” so that even though i am often called weird, whether i’m quiet and reserved or when i let my guard down and unmask, because i don’t look like what they think autism looks like, they think i’m just quirky and weird.

    • @sarahstudies8149
      @sarahstudies8149 Рік тому +3

      Yeah same. I have a diagnosis now but I don't tell everyone because of these kinds of reactions. Same happened with my ADHD as well. As soon as you tell people it's all 'no you're not (insert stereotype here).' So frustrating.

    • @fruski
      @fruski Рік тому +3

      @@sarahstudies8149 at this point i only really tell other people if they also mention being neurodivergent or seeking a diagnosis because i feel like that's the only time i feel understood. or when i tell my family. otherwise it's very much a solitary experience :(

    • @sarahstudies8149
      @sarahstudies8149 Рік тому +2

      @@fruski It's rough :(

  • @mgodersky
    @mgodersky 2 роки тому

    My family has always had old English sheepdogs, they are wonderful dogs, very loyal, can herd your ducks and don’t shed so much. Highly recommend that for your 3rd dog 😊

  • @petiteusagi1233
    @petiteusagi1233 Рік тому

    I'm autistic and ADD , also dislexic an HSP. Really glad to find your videos, they've got all the stuff I love 😍🥰🌺🐰. I love old and vintage stuff, flowers and porcelain dolls. I also do embroidery and knitting haha! I'm like an old lady 😂❤ Greetings from Perú 🙋‍♀️🦙🌺

  • @mariafmk1068
    @mariafmk1068 2 роки тому +1

    This is such a uplifting and informative video.

  • @flowerpixel
    @flowerpixel 2 роки тому +4

    I agree about UA-cam/ig/TikTok. UA-cam immediately felt like home. I hate it when my favorite gardening UA-camrs upload videos on ig, please post on UA-cam instead 🙂

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +1

      Home is a good way to describe it 🥰 thank you

  • @tonigaban1987
    @tonigaban1987 Рік тому +1

    So lovely girl! Real Angel!

  • @morganwyenn3515
    @morganwyenn3515 2 роки тому

    I loved hearing about your approach to choices and lifestyle! Thank you for sharing about that stuff. ❤️

  • @shannonmoffett6530
    @shannonmoffett6530 Рік тому

    I agree with your desire to be more on you tube. Slow, romantic, peaceful videos 💯💗

  • @Naomi-dm4nw
    @Naomi-dm4nw 2 роки тому

    I love your account. It’s so calm and relaxing. I hope at some point you’ll set up a Patreon account so your followers can contribute towards your home and garden in thanks for this content. UA-camrs like Ariel Bissett and Elise Buch do this.

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much! That’s a great suggestion, I’ll look into doing that and see how others set it up.

  • @dodiatkins4515
    @dodiatkins4515 Рік тому +1

    ❤ You make my day.

  • @barbarawinch4681
    @barbarawinch4681 Рік тому

    Wow you own Japanese spitz, I breed them in Australia, I've got 8 of them. Love your home. Thank you 😊

  • @sattinbelbin4461
    @sattinbelbin4461 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this Q and A x

  • @miathompson1172
    @miathompson1172 Рік тому

    Your videos are so lovely… 🌸

  • @logix4935
    @logix4935 2 роки тому +8

    ❤️❤️❤️

    • @monalogue
      @monalogue  2 роки тому +3

      Thank you so much for your support ❤️

    • @saitamassj2475
      @saitamassj2475 2 роки тому +2

      @@monalogue It's alright, I hope it helps with your energy crisis. 😢

  • @vansf3433
    @vansf3433 Рік тому

    You guys live in the same low-lying region as Jacob Rees Mogg. It's unusual to have dry weather in Somerset, while it's prone to flood.
    It's the best to ignore people's comments because no mater whatever they say about you, none of what they say will be able to change anything of you. You will still be your own person, and are the only one who can understand yourself better or more than anyone else can.

  • @lindawilson8434
    @lindawilson8434 Рік тому

    What type of job do you have?
    Just found your channel and have subscribed

  • @fantasmasnolaboratorio
    @fantasmasnolaboratorio Рік тому

    soo cute very nice

  • @gameon6023
    @gameon6023 2 роки тому

    Tell us about your childhood, if that's possible

  • @anoodono1841
    @anoodono1841 Рік тому

    Do i see a solid fuel stove n ure livingroom? F so free fuel shld b available not too far away? I collect all my timber for fire for free

  • @Bearcub599
    @Bearcub599 7 місяців тому

    🧡🩷❤

  • @christinepickard7804
    @christinepickard7804 Рік тому

    👍💐💐

  • @ЕленаШеренкова-ш6ф

    А может аутизм - это нежелание жить по законам этого мира? Где нужно врать и притворяться, чтобы выжить? А природа, все что создано БОГом, такое красивое и нежное, чистое и не требует от тебя унижений и того что тебе не нравится?

  • @saitamassj2475
    @saitamassj2475 2 роки тому

    First.

  • @lavendermist
    @lavendermist 2 роки тому +1

    Lovely little q&a, I really enjoyed it! If been following you on Instagram for ages and I absolutely love the UA-cam content you’ve been creating.
    Also you actually answered my question which made my day 🥰