I have a really bad habit of buying things that aren't cohesive and then wondering why they don't go with anything else in my closet. I also tend to buy things that are out of my comfort zone because they look cute on other people so I want them to look cute on me. I have never liked the way collared shirts look on me, but a few years ago I decided I was GOING TO WEAR COLLARED SHIRTS, DAMMIT! So instead of buying one or two to try them out, I bought like 10. Then I never ended up wearing them because guess what? I still hated the way they looked on me.
I have much of the same impulses, and even though some people don’t like the restrictiveness of the colour season theory, I could stand for a bit of reining in. 😂
What has helped me keep a cohesive style that I never get sick of most has been taking inspiration from my favorite pieces of older media. My biggest inspirations are The Labyrinth, The Phantom of the Opera, The Dark Crystal, Heathers, Girl Interrupted, and honestly even more I can't think of.
glad you talked about both the advantages of having a cohesive style and the risk of getting repetitive with it. i'd love to see more about how to be cohesive without getting into a rut of the same pieces in the same formulas. it's tough working from home though to motivate myself to put together a cool interesting outfit instead of throwing on a basic tshirt and yoga pants. i wish i accessorized more but it's just like... i'm the only person who cares, and do i care enough to put the effort in
What I've learned is that the absolute #1 best way to be cohesive is a color palette! Change silhouettes/patterns, keep colors or mindfully integrate new colors. Say you love plaid pants and tees but get bored of it. If you try a floral skirt in the same color palette as ur plaid pants, it can be worn with all the same tees but is a completely new look :)
I’m an emotional dresser so like emotions they are all over the place. Fashion should be fun and people over thinks it. Also, if you get stuck in wearing the same thing over and over again accessorizing can change a whole vibe.
"at the time I was into cowboy boots, but I was still kind of dipping my toes in them..." well obviously, they won't work for you, if you don't wear them on your whole foot.... a dad joke, presented to you by me, not a dad.
I think my biggest problem is that I like too many different styles that I don't want to commit to one... I would love to have a cohesive style, but even seasons will change the style that I want to wear. I think something that has helped me a lot recently though is pinning outfits on Pinterest specifically with pieces I know I own or know I own something similar. Makes me excited to dig into my own wardrobe rather than always buying new things :)
Honestly I really like over-accessorizing. Especially when the accessories are exactly the same color. That’s why I got shoes and belts and bags in every rainbow color. When I wear the matching accessories it makes me look so put together and I love it!
11:53 You have relatively small bones, so it doesn't surprise me that more delicate, minimalist jewelry typically suits you better. I have huge bones, so I have to wear chunky jewelry or it gets completely lost.
My struggle is buying similar things to keep a cohesive style and then realizing I have multiples of everything because my cohesive style is very narrow. I'm getting better at not buying the silhouettes that I don't like on me, even though they look good on other people.
A big enemy for me is thrifting things not suitable for my country's climate. I like sweaters and cardigans and long sleeves, but I live in a country that's humid. So I never really get to wear the items I want because it would be too hot. But my BIGGEST enemy is still buying items that align with my style but not the weather because I make excuses about wearing them when it gets cold. But it NEVER gets cold here so I NEVER get to wear them. They are collecting dust in my closet as we speak.
I love wearing cardigans and long sleeves too, in fact it’s my favorite style of tops to wear. I do get all four seasons where I live, but even during summer I still want to wear my cardigans. So I wear sheer, lace and light weight crochet cardigans on hot summer days. I love wearing them over tank tops. I would like to suggest you give it a try
Yes, I second the lace/crochet cardigan idea! Another thing: functional clothing. There are long sleeve, loose tops from UV protectant and cooling materials, especially in Japanese brands I think. Not natural fibers, certainly not cheap, and not the cosy knit aesthetic sweater that I love, but mostly interchangeable with sweaters in an outfit.
This honest reason my style sucks it’s becuase I have a 9-5. So most of my clothes are office appropriate attire. My “fun” clothes hardly ever get worn 😅
Yes! My struggle these past few years has been finding a wardrobe that is ME at work. I just wear what I like and worry about what others consider appropriate later. Good luck on your fashion journey. Dressing for work really sucks!
Great thoughts! Thanks for sharing 😊 For me the hardest is wearing something that’s more elegant and elevated from casual or basics. I like simple clothes like jeans and shirts, but it feels so boring. I just recently discovered that instead of buying new clothes/style you can instead add new accessories or hair styles, or even fun nail designs to bring something new to your style.
it's definitely a tricky balance between owning similar pieces to establish your own style but also have it not feel so repetitive. perhaps it's about what you pair those pieces with and trying out new combinations so that your style stays 'cohesive' but you can achieve variety at the same time. as for me, i love experimenting with my style from time to time but my issue is i don't have the guts to wear it outside my home. i end up reverting back to 'safe' outfits that won't draw attention but someday i would like to proudly wear whatever i want and not mind people looking when i'm out and about.
Wait, you're telling my my obsession with statement pieces and forgetting to buy basics is a problem? 🤣My style is flawless but my impulse control when I see something I like is weak.
something (like the uncomfortable clothing part) that also helped me with my style and sewing is how I view my inspirations. I used to feel like i need to have an almost exact replica of outfits I found cool, but they never fit me in a way I liked about myself. I then, as an example, started realising that I actually dont like pencil skirts or stiff skirts because I like having the room of moving around.
Over-accessorizing has been a game-changer for me actually! We say ''less is more,'' but the inverse is true too, ''more is less!'' So whenever I find myself second-guessing if a more formal piece of jewelry is ''too fancy'' and out of place to wear with my track pants and sneakers, I can just layer on even MORE jewelry with it to make the fancy one seem LESS formal.
I’m sure there are many reasons why I’m not completely happy with my wardrobe, but today I cut one of my tshirts to have an off-the-shoulder(boatneck-ish?) type of cut, and I LOVE IT. As a skinny, tall girl with relatively wide shoulders, and relatively narrow hips, it drapes wayyy better now. T-shirt have always looked kinda awkward on me (no matter the size,) but now my tshirts are not only flattering, but have a bit more character to them!
My downfall is buying things that look very similar to things I already have. Then I don't have anything to wear because everything I have looks like everything else! That's a bit of an exaggeration, but I do need to watch out for that.
Should yalls buy cowboy boots, start with brown or black without a ton of extra color. Then you can go crazy when you've decided if you like cowboy boots. I find I can't go wrong with a T-shirt or tank, jeans, and cowboy boots with a matching belt/bag. Then a flannel shirt or hoodie on top if I need an extra layer. For more fun pieces I've got some fringe vests, some cute sweaters, a black denim jacket wtih green and pink stitching (my fav statement piece) and an awesome red leather jacket.
My style sucks because I like too many different styles and I don't like combining them. So I have one grunge outfit, one "art teacher" outfit, one skater-ish outfit, etc. But I get bored of rotating the same 7 outfits and when I mix and match I just look like it is laundry day and I threw on whatever was clean 😭
I have learned, though I'm certainly not perfect, that when I'm shopping, instead of aiming to buy the latest trends, I buy what I'm "missing," using trends as a guide, in my wardrobe, that adds to its cohesiveness. So, I aim to make the most out of what I have, by buying supportive pieces that help with what I already have. It took me a long time to get to this point as I had to go through tons of trial and error trying to build a base wardrobe I could be happy with. It takes time to figure out your style(s). So, it all depends what stage we are at in our journey to being happy with what we have.
If those green boots are a smooth leather (not pebbled etc), you can dye them with leather dye, which is pretty cheap. Maybe turn them into dark green or black.
I am so bad at accessorizing! Bracelets bother me, my ear holes need repierced, i only have like 3 necklaces, i am just not set up to do it well🤣🤣also my ears stick out crazy so hats are a no go, gotta keep that hair down
I feel like the new thing for people to worry about is that their style might be repetitive, when a short while ago we were supposed to have a "uniform" you could fall back on, which was, of course, repetitive and you didn't have to think about it. Maybe it has to be one or the other or we could go for things that have sort of a similar essence but aren't exactly the same. But it's a fine line and that's okay.
I started watching your channel some time back (at the same time as Katie from Steal the Spotlight - algorithm) and you are the reason why I started to look at clothes as something more than just piece of fabric :D I was classic case of wearing minimalist/timeless/popular pieces and wearing them to the ground. Somehow without real soul in it, just affordable presentable outfits (most of the time inherited from my siblings or parents). After watching some of the videos, I was more intentional and I am still looking for my personal style, but it is so much fun :D well, not the shopaholic phase of buying anything, but that is behind me. hopefully. :D
Meanwhile my wardrobe looks like it belongs to 10 different people... but to be fair I do wear all of them depending on the occasion and which mood I'm in. Gotta keep it interesting for myself. 😇
it’s interesting that you mentioned loving a piece of clothing, but it being impractical in reality. i recently got an 80s romper from depop,i absolutely LOVED everything about it when i tried it on, and it seemed like it would be super practical. i wore it today, and omg it was riding up my crack constantly! i couldn’t bend over at all without feeling exposed and was so self conscious the whole time i was wearing it. i thought it wouldn’t have that issue since the shorts were longer :/ i actually ordered like 3 other rompers because i liked that one sm when i tried it on. i’m really regretting that choice now 😅 i will definitely be wearing bike shorts underneath them in the future
Was going to suggest sturdier undies, like granny panties or even those new women's boxer shorts... Bike shorts also sound nice tho. Snag tights make biker style light shorts (called chub rubs iirc) in a plethora of colours, so if colour is something you like to play with, have a look, or cut off old tights that have runs further down on the leg to try it out first?
I'm the same as you with accessories, sometimes I'll put on a hat or belt that I love, but I end up feeling like its wearing me rather than me wearing it haha, like I feel conspicuous as if I'm in a costume 😂
My big thing is that I have a habit of buying things that don't go with my lifestyle... I have an at home office job, but a lot of my wardrobe consists of heels, baby doll tops, fancy dresses, etc that I know I will never wear but I buy them anyways because they are cute and "what if there is a special occasion?" 😣
Oh yeah 🙋♀️ I so often have nothing to wear for the life I have, and too much for the life I want 😆 Some people tell me to manifest it, and I would very much like to be a hippy forest witch 😂
I say make your own special occasion to wear them! Wear them around the house, to the grocery store, to go thrifting, throw a tea party, etc. Find creative ways to get wear out of what you have and hopefully you'll end up focusing on that instead than adding more to your closet.
12:01 I always feel I’m over accessorizing but honestly if I don’t do it, I feel half-dressed 😭 I am a maximalist first and foremost, everytime I wear only one necklace or small earrings I don’t feel like myself tbh
this was really insightful, I always enjoy hearing your thoughts on different fashion related topics!! 💞 an issue I have is that I'm super picky with clothes and haven't found many I'm completely happy with yet 😔 there's not a lot of pieces in my closet I'd consider 100% perfect for me, there's usually something about the design/fit that I wish was a little different! this often leads to me feeling unsatisfied with my style 😭 I think upcycling and making clothes from scratch would help a lot so I'm hoping to do that more!!
I actually adore all my clothes. I'm putting a ban on buying any new clothes for a while because I love what's in my wardrobe so much and if I have more things I'll be less likely to wear my cherished pieces. Yet I still always feel like I have bad style. The biggest thing is just laziness and choosing personal comfort. Instead of wearing a beautiful, ornate, embroidered velvet jacket and a maxi skirt I'd rather wear sweatpants 🙃 My list of excuses are endless. I'm a single Mother. I'm chronically ill. But the bottom line is it's kind of selfish to hoard these thrifted gems if I never wear them. So I've started to wear what I love after a deep depression episode. Other more minor problems are under accessorising and not doing my hair. I bought a Shark airstyler and feel SO much better about myself. I actually want to put on my nice outfits when I have good hair because I feel worthy of them.
I have to say I definitely relate to that last 1 about thinking too hard about your clothes. There are times when I'm actually in a hurry and I literally have no time to think about anything so I just grab things and throw them on and I end up really liking that outfit Versus when I actually sit around and style and accessorize Put it all out together and then it looks like crapand. 😄
As a fellow stylist and fashion enthusiast, one of the things that has helped me a ton these past few months is planning my weekly outfits. I pencil out ideas I had, items I want to wear, especially things I haven’t in a while, and I plan 7 outfits. It’s flexible so I can swap looks or items if the weather, an event or plan comes up that requires changes to the look I planned for the day. It has helped me so much figuring out what I actually wear, what I keep coming back to, what I forgot I had but love or hate wearing.
Hey Alexa, i love your videos! You have such a charm and i really love listening to you. Ive been strugling with my style since i graduated and the worst mistake i make is wanting to makeover my whole wardrobe from night to day. Ive been trying to pay more attention to what i like instead of buying random new clothes (tho its been hard). I hope i get more comfortable with my clothes with time, and own less items that i actually love. Thanks for the vid!
I own pastels and wear them mostly in the summer but yeah typically everything is paired with certain things in my closet 😬😬 I was bummed this summer tbh and limited myself and wardrobe bc I couldn't find cute lacy racer back bralettes to cover my back that fit me 🤧🤧 I usually try to deflect my bad scoliosis and scar in this god awful sticky 90° weather the best I can 😅😅
I made the mistake of gaining weight and then not taking care on picking my clothes because I thought it would be temporary. I bought the bare minimum basic stuff to cover myself. I should have put more love and care on the task because I deserve to look good at all times, even on my big tummy times.
I was told Ive always had a certain style but like to corporate trends....lol.. took me way too long to get into flare jeans, but with Fall I'm ready for my black leggings again.. lol
Great points here! Always seem to struggle with this off and on. Love your advice and will think about this when approaching my wardrobe! One problem I find is with colors. I often find that I need every color of shoe/bag to make an outfit go together? Like if they don’t match I think the outfit looks weird, but sometimes if they do I find that it’s boring! I guess maybe it would be good to branch out in terms of texture or shade? But haven’t found a solution to this. I guess along those same lines, sometimes the color of an item can stump me: like I love the fit or the pattern, but I just can’t find anything to go with it or only ONE item. I find that wearing too many neutrals might be boring? But then I don’t enjoy color 😂 Definitely also struggle with under accessorizing as well. I also need to wear glasses and I often feel like sometimes my outfits look really good, but that they don’t work with my glasses 😂. Obviously sight is more important but that always seems to get me stuck, since contacts irritate my eyes too much. OH and I definitely also get very focused on only one aesthetic
Ngl, my personal style is bonkers: loud colors, weird cuts, unusual textures. I found the through-line that makes it look cohesive: sweater vests. Neon green, lace shirt and yellow clam diggers look like a "real" outfit if you throw a bright yellow sweater vest over it.
You should obviously do what makes you happy with your channel, Alexa, so take this or leave this: I haven’t felt as drawn to some of your videos lately because I wish you would rewear your clothes more. If you aren’t rewearing the outfits you style, then I feel like maybe the experimentation would t work for me, either. I, for one, would love it if you rewear clothes in more videos. Actually, if you make a video about wearing outfits you came up with in past videos and still stand by, I would probably watch and rewatch that so much! But, first and foremost, I’m just one person, and you know your channel best, so you should trust your judgment and go to people wiser than me for counsel. I did like this video a lot!
something I’ve realized I do is every single outfit I currently have or am planning for future in my mind is a different “vibe” that resonates w me- so each one feels unique to me even tho some use repeat pieces, formulas, etc. I am someone who like all colors and many accessories so that works out in my favour i guess and I don’t get bored Also I have all my outfits saved as pictures organized by weather so I can re-wear them again and again I’m all for repeating! I’m not a “come up w something on the spot” person at all. Especially w all my clothing sensory issues I need to k n o w it works before I wear it or I’ll regret it lol.
Alexa! I dont remember if you mentioned it but who did your color analysis? That lipstick youve been wearing lately really makes your entire complexion glow!
Alexa! 🧡 you liked an item on my Depop the other day and it made my entire week 🧡 I was actually jumping and screaming and yelling my boyfriend about it I was so excited
For me it's buying clothes that don't fit perfectly and trying to make them work, like keeping jeans that are a little too tight or a top where the sleeves are a little too long... I would put them on and try to make them work and get really frustrated in the end haha 😂
My husband teased me the other day about changing my clothes multiple times a day, because my daughters do it now too 😂, but I have a lot of great pieces and I want to get a lot of use out of them. Also, I just do what I want 😜
So, what do you do if you don't have a style at all? I buy clothes, but it's usually just jeans and an band tee. I have no style other than that, and I don't want to always wear the same thing, but I have no idea what else to do?
I would maybe try to buy different cuts of jeans, or different silhouettes of tops to see if you connect with any of those. If you go too drastic with the pieces you won’t end up wearing them because they’re uncomfortable and don’t match anything, but if you find you like a specific silhouette, maybe you can buy more pieces that match into that. say you realize you love some bell cut sleeves because they make you feel like a fairy or a witch, try getting a skirt or some flared pants and matching it with that. and now that you have that skirt, suddenly this other top looks super cute and wouldn’t it just look lovely with this pair of leggings? i think that’s how style comes to be. a different approach is to try buying more accessories other than just necklaces and rings. try different cardigans, layered turtlenecks, boleros, belts, scarves, etc. and see if anything speaks to you through (again) silhouette or color. that’s an easy way to spice up your already existing clothes while you search for your more authentic style
I think everything you wear is so freaking cute, but I could never wear what you do. I also couldn't be paired with you because Im girly but also a bum. I feel like I tried to mix them together. Hahahaha
I wish I knew UA-camrs with scoliosis with more styling options.... It's just like my life on the regular day to day I don't know anybody with disabilities 🤷🤷 I've hung out with normal people forever who just don't get it 🤣🤣 no offense .... Now I coop myself up in my house bc why even bother trying anymore 😅😅
My trap is too low cut tops. I always like the style of them because I have a small upper body and bra size. It looks good in the mirror. But sometimes I feel to exposed wearing them. But I also don’t like the opposite where I’m wearing a high neck top. It’s hard to find the perfect balance of showing my chest in a flattering way that doesn’t feel like I’m too exposed. If anyone can relate to my struggle and has top suggestions that are basics please help a girl out! 🙏🏻 😅😅 for reference, my favorite cut top so far is the free people top called “clean lines sunfade baby tee”,
Wear scoop neck tops or v necks, or just any neckline that shows your collarbones without showing your cleavage. I'm an XS 34A/32B bra size so I know lol.
“Lizzie McGuire you are an outfit repeater” traumatized a generation
Literally 💀
Let us all remember that it is just as pathetic to be an outfit rememberer!
Facts!!!!
I'm glad it came from a movie in the first place and that people didn't just came up with that by themselves 😂
My summer style sucks. So hard to dress cute in the heat.
same i just have black white and grey tank tops 😂
My priority is to survive. Having unique accessories can save you, sunglasses, hats, necklaces, belts and bags.
This. 😭
I have a really bad habit of buying things that aren't cohesive and then wondering why they don't go with anything else in my closet. I also tend to buy things that are out of my comfort zone because they look cute on other people so I want them to look cute on me. I have never liked the way collared shirts look on me, but a few years ago I decided I was GOING TO WEAR COLLARED SHIRTS, DAMMIT! So instead of buying one or two to try them out, I bought like 10. Then I never ended up wearing them because guess what? I still hated the way they looked on me.
I have much of the same impulses, and even though some people don’t like the restrictiveness of the colour season theory, I could stand for a bit of reining in. 😂
I have bought so many cute dresses I just don’t feel comfortable wearing.
What has helped me keep a cohesive style that I never get sick of most has been taking inspiration from my favorite pieces of older media. My biggest inspirations are The Labyrinth, The Phantom of the Opera, The Dark Crystal, Heathers, Girl Interrupted, and honestly even more I can't think of.
This inspiration sounds AMAZING!!
I love the Labyrinth!
You have excellent taste in movies lol
This is a great idea!
--nvm
glad you talked about both the advantages of having a cohesive style and the risk of getting repetitive with it. i'd love to see more about how to be cohesive without getting into a rut of the same pieces in the same formulas.
it's tough working from home though to motivate myself to put together a cool interesting outfit instead of throwing on a basic tshirt and yoga pants. i wish i accessorized more but it's just like... i'm the only person who cares, and do i care enough to put the effort in
What I've learned is that the absolute #1 best way to be cohesive is a color palette! Change silhouettes/patterns, keep colors or mindfully integrate new colors. Say you love plaid pants and tees but get bored of it. If you try a floral skirt in the same color palette as ur plaid pants, it can be worn with all the same tees but is a completely new look :)
I’m an emotional dresser so like emotions they are all over the place. Fashion should be fun and people over thinks it. Also, if you get stuck in wearing the same thing over and over again accessorizing can change a whole vibe.
"at the time I was into cowboy boots, but I was still kind of dipping my toes in them..."
well obviously, they won't work for you, if you don't wear them on your whole foot....
a dad joke, presented to you by me, not a dad.
😂😂😂😂
I think my biggest problem is that I like too many different styles that I don't want to commit to one... I would love to have a cohesive style, but even seasons will change the style that I want to wear. I think something that has helped me a lot recently though is pinning outfits on Pinterest specifically with pieces I know I own or know I own something similar. Makes me excited to dig into my own wardrobe rather than always buying new things :)
Honestly I really like over-accessorizing. Especially when the accessories are exactly the same color. That’s why I got shoes and belts and bags in every rainbow color. When I wear the matching accessories it makes me look so put together and I love it!
Duuude, your lipstick shade is PERFECT for you!
11:53 You have relatively small bones, so it doesn't surprise me that more delicate, minimalist jewelry typically suits you better. I have huge bones, so I have to wear chunky jewelry or it gets completely lost.
My struggle is buying similar things to keep a cohesive style and then realizing I have multiples of everything because my cohesive style is very narrow. I'm getting better at not buying the silhouettes that I don't like on me, even though they look good on other people.
A big enemy for me is thrifting things not suitable for my country's climate. I like sweaters and cardigans and long sleeves, but I live in a country that's humid. So I never really get to wear the items I want because it would be too hot. But my BIGGEST enemy is still buying items that align with my style but not the weather because I make excuses about wearing them when it gets cold. But it NEVER gets cold here so I NEVER get to wear them.
They are collecting dust in my closet as we speak.
I love wearing cardigans and long sleeves too, in fact it’s my favorite style of tops to wear. I do get all four seasons where I live, but even during summer I still want to wear my cardigans. So I wear sheer, lace and light weight crochet cardigans on hot summer days. I love wearing them over tank tops. I would like to suggest you give it a try
Yes, I second the lace/crochet cardigan idea!
Another thing: functional clothing. There are long sleeve, loose tops from UV protectant and cooling materials, especially in Japanese brands I think. Not natural fibers, certainly not cheap, and not the cosy knit aesthetic sweater that I love, but mostly interchangeable with sweaters in an outfit.
This honest reason my style sucks it’s becuase I have a 9-5. So most of my clothes are office appropriate attire. My “fun” clothes hardly ever get worn 😅
Yes! My struggle these past few years has been finding a wardrobe that is ME at work. I just wear what I like and worry about what others consider appropriate later. Good luck on your fashion journey. Dressing for work really sucks!
Great thoughts! Thanks for sharing 😊 For me the hardest is wearing something that’s more elegant and elevated from casual or basics. I like simple clothes like jeans and shirts, but it feels so boring. I just recently discovered that instead of buying new clothes/style you can instead add new accessories or hair styles, or even fun nail designs to bring something new to your style.
And elegant clothes don't go with my boots :(. Literally the cornerstone of my wardrobe is my boots!
@@chairliftphilospher5710 you can try more fitted (not super chunky) boots or loafers with platform. I think they are more versatile than other shoes.
it's definitely a tricky balance between owning similar pieces to establish your own style but also have it not feel so repetitive. perhaps it's about what you pair those pieces with and trying out new combinations so that your style stays 'cohesive' but you can achieve variety at the same time. as for me, i love experimenting with my style from time to time but my issue is i don't have the guts to wear it outside my home. i end up reverting back to 'safe' outfits that won't draw attention but someday i would like to proudly wear whatever i want and not mind people looking when i'm out and about.
Wait, you're telling my my obsession with statement pieces and forgetting to buy basics is a problem? 🤣My style is flawless but my impulse control when I see something I like is weak.
something (like the uncomfortable clothing part) that also helped me with my style and sewing is how I view my inspirations. I used to feel like i need to have an almost exact replica of outfits I found cool, but they never fit me in a way I liked about myself. I then, as an example, started realising that I actually dont like pencil skirts or stiff skirts because I like having the room of moving around.
i hate my style the most when I'm trying to fit in, or look normal, or wear the same silhouette more than three days in a row.
Normal is a laundry setting 😁
Over-accessorizing has been a game-changer for me actually! We say ''less is more,'' but the inverse is true too, ''more is less!'' So whenever I find myself second-guessing if a more formal piece of jewelry is ''too fancy'' and out of place to wear with my track pants and sneakers, I can just layer on even MORE jewelry with it to make the fancy one seem LESS formal.
I’m sure there are many reasons why I’m not completely happy with my wardrobe, but today I cut one of my tshirts to have an off-the-shoulder(boatneck-ish?) type of cut, and I LOVE IT. As a skinny, tall girl with relatively wide shoulders, and relatively narrow hips, it drapes wayyy better now. T-shirt have always looked kinda awkward on me (no matter the size,) but now my tshirts are not only flattering, but have a bit more character to them!
My downfall is buying things that look very similar to things I already have. Then I don't have anything to wear because everything I have looks like everything else! That's a bit of an exaggeration, but I do need to watch out for that.
When i am in a style rut, i remind myself that good posture is a great accessory that makes anything look good ;-)
Should yalls buy cowboy boots, start with brown or black without a ton of extra color. Then you can go crazy when you've decided if you like cowboy boots.
I find I can't go wrong with a T-shirt or tank, jeans, and cowboy boots with a matching belt/bag. Then a flannel shirt or hoodie on top if I need an extra layer. For more fun pieces I've got some fringe vests, some cute sweaters, a black denim jacket wtih green and pink stitching (my fav statement piece) and an awesome red leather jacket.
My style sucks because I like too many different styles and I don't like combining them. So I have one grunge outfit, one "art teacher" outfit, one skater-ish outfit, etc. But I get bored of rotating the same 7 outfits and when I mix and match I just look like it is laundry day and I threw on whatever was clean 😭
I have learned, though I'm certainly not perfect, that when I'm shopping, instead of aiming to buy the latest trends, I buy what I'm "missing," using trends as a guide, in my wardrobe, that adds to its cohesiveness. So, I aim to make the most out of what I have, by buying supportive pieces that help with what I already have. It took me a long time to get to this point as I had to go through tons of trial and error trying to build a base wardrobe I could be happy with. It takes time to figure out your style(s). So, it all depends what stage we are at in our journey to being happy with what we have.
If those green boots are a smooth leather (not pebbled etc), you can dye them with leather dye, which is pretty cheap. Maybe turn them into dark green or black.
I am so bad at accessorizing! Bracelets bother me, my ear holes need repierced, i only have like 3 necklaces, i am just not set up to do it well🤣🤣also my ears stick out crazy so hats are a no go, gotta keep that hair down
I feel like the new thing for people to worry about is that their style might be repetitive, when a short while ago we were supposed to have a "uniform" you could fall back on, which was, of course, repetitive and you didn't have to think about it. Maybe it has to be one or the other or we could go for things that have sort of a similar essence but aren't exactly the same. But it's a fine line and that's okay.
I just found your channel couple of days ago through the videos with Kathleen and Liz and now I love watching your videos, too :)
I started watching your channel some time back (at the same time as Katie from Steal the Spotlight - algorithm) and you are the reason why I started to look at clothes as something more than just piece of fabric :D I was classic case of wearing minimalist/timeless/popular pieces and wearing them to the ground. Somehow without real soul in it, just affordable presentable outfits (most of the time inherited from my siblings or parents). After watching some of the videos, I was more intentional and I am still looking for my personal style, but it is so much fun :D
well, not the shopaholic phase of buying anything, but that is behind me. hopefully. :D
Meanwhile my wardrobe looks like it belongs to 10 different people... but to be fair I do wear all of them depending on the occasion and which mood I'm in. Gotta keep it interesting for myself. 😇
it’s interesting that you mentioned loving a piece of clothing, but it being impractical in reality. i recently got an 80s romper from depop,i absolutely LOVED everything about it when i tried it on, and it seemed like it would be super practical. i wore it today, and omg it was riding up my crack constantly! i couldn’t bend over at all without feeling exposed and was so self conscious the whole time i was wearing it. i thought it wouldn’t have that issue since the shorts were longer :/ i actually ordered like 3 other rompers because i liked that one sm when i tried it on. i’m really regretting that choice now 😅 i will definitely be wearing bike shorts underneath them in the future
Was going to suggest sturdier undies, like granny panties or even those new women's boxer shorts... Bike shorts also sound nice tho.
Snag tights make biker style light shorts (called chub rubs iirc) in a plethora of colours, so if colour is something you like to play with, have a look, or cut off old tights that have runs further down on the leg to try it out first?
I think one issue I have is buying things for very specific occasions and then wondering when and where I'm gonna wear it again. 😅
I'm the same as you with accessories, sometimes I'll put on a hat or belt that I love, but I end up feeling like its wearing me rather than me wearing it haha, like I feel conspicuous as if I'm in a costume 😂
My big thing is that I have a habit of buying things that don't go with my lifestyle... I have an at home office job, but a lot of my wardrobe consists of heels, baby doll tops, fancy dresses, etc that I know I will never wear but I buy them anyways because they are cute and "what if there is a special occasion?" 😣
same!
Oh yeah 🙋♀️ I so often have nothing to wear for the life I have, and too much for the life I want 😆
Some people tell me to manifest it, and I would very much like to be a hippy forest witch 😂
I say make your own special occasion to wear them! Wear them around the house, to the grocery store, to go thrifting, throw a tea party, etc. Find creative ways to get wear out of what you have and hopefully you'll end up focusing on that instead than adding more to your closet.
ppl outside ur home dont know what ur lifestyle is so maybe wear it when you go outside 🤷
I just realized I am an overaccessorizer and I love it. For me an outfit doesnt feel compleet without at least 4 accessories.
12:01 I always feel I’m over accessorizing but honestly if I don’t do it, I feel half-dressed 😭 I am a maximalist first and foremost, everytime I wear only one necklace or small earrings I don’t feel like myself tbh
me opening this video because my whole wardrobe is filled with band t-shirts and hawaiian shirts only and i look the same every day 😀👍
Absolutely love your videos,Alexa❤
i love ur fits so much these days and ur giving adventures of sabrina smm in this vid!
this was really insightful, I always enjoy hearing your thoughts on different fashion related topics!! 💞
an issue I have is that I'm super picky with clothes and haven't found many I'm completely happy with yet 😔 there's not a lot of pieces in my closet I'd consider 100% perfect for me, there's usually something about the design/fit that I wish was a little different! this often leads to me feeling unsatisfied with my style 😭 I think upcycling and making clothes from scratch would help a lot so I'm hoping to do that more!!
I actually adore all my clothes. I'm putting a ban on buying any new clothes for a while because I love what's in my wardrobe so much and if I have more things I'll be less likely to wear my cherished pieces. Yet I still always feel like I have bad style. The biggest thing is just laziness and choosing personal comfort. Instead of wearing a beautiful, ornate, embroidered velvet jacket and a maxi skirt I'd rather wear sweatpants 🙃 My list of excuses are endless. I'm a single Mother. I'm chronically ill. But the bottom line is it's kind of selfish to hoard these thrifted gems if I never wear them. So I've started to wear what I love after a deep depression episode. Other more minor problems are under accessorising and not doing my hair. I bought a Shark airstyler and feel SO much better about myself. I actually want to put on my nice outfits when I have good hair because I feel worthy of them.
You can style your gorgeous green boots with the white dress and a denim jacket! 💚
Damn I feel called out lol
I have to say I definitely relate to that last 1 about thinking too hard about your clothes. There are times when I'm actually in a hurry and I literally have no time to think about anything so I just grab things and throw them on and I end up really liking that outfit Versus when I actually sit around and style and accessorize Put it all out together and then it looks like crapand. 😄
As a fellow stylist and fashion enthusiast, one of the things that has helped me a ton these past few months is planning my weekly outfits.
I pencil out ideas I had, items I want to wear, especially things I haven’t in a while, and I plan 7 outfits. It’s flexible so I can swap looks or items if the weather, an event or plan comes up that requires changes to the look I planned for the day.
It has helped me so much figuring out what I actually wear, what I keep coming back to, what I forgot I had but love or hate wearing.
Hey Alexa, i love your videos! You have such a charm and i really love listening to you.
Ive been strugling with my style since i graduated and the worst mistake i make is wanting to makeover my whole wardrobe from night to day. Ive been trying to pay more attention to what i like instead of buying random new clothes (tho its been hard). I hope i get more comfortable with my clothes with time, and own less items that i actually love.
Thanks for the vid!
I own pastels and wear them mostly in the summer but yeah typically everything is paired with certain things in my closet 😬😬 I was bummed this summer tbh and limited myself and wardrobe bc I couldn't find cute lacy racer back bralettes to cover my back that fit me 🤧🤧 I usually try to deflect my bad scoliosis and scar in this god awful sticky 90° weather the best I can 😅😅
I made the mistake of gaining weight and then not taking care on picking my clothes because I thought it would be temporary. I bought the bare minimum basic stuff to cover myself. I should have put more love and care on the task because I deserve to look good at all times, even on my big tummy times.
I was told Ive always had a certain style but like to corporate trends....lol.. took me way too long to get into flare jeans, but with Fall I'm ready for my black leggings again.. lol
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Great points here! Always seem to struggle with this off and on. Love your advice and will think about this when approaching my wardrobe!
One problem I find is with colors. I often find that I need every color of shoe/bag to make an outfit go together? Like if they don’t match I think the outfit looks weird, but sometimes if they do I find that it’s boring! I guess maybe it would be good to branch out in terms of texture or shade? But haven’t found a solution to this. I guess along those same lines, sometimes the color of an item can stump me: like I love the fit or the pattern, but I just can’t find anything to go with it or only ONE item. I find that wearing too many neutrals might be boring? But then I don’t enjoy color 😂
Definitely also struggle with under accessorizing as well. I also need to wear glasses and I often feel like sometimes my outfits look really good, but that they don’t work with my glasses 😂. Obviously sight is more important but that always seems to get me stuck, since contacts irritate my eyes too much.
OH and I definitely also get very focused on only one aesthetic
Ngl, my personal style is bonkers: loud colors, weird cuts, unusual textures. I found the through-line that makes it look cohesive: sweater vests. Neon green, lace shirt and yellow clam diggers look like a "real" outfit if you throw a bright yellow sweater vest over it.
I love your green cowboy boots!
You should obviously do what makes you happy with your channel, Alexa, so take this or leave this:
I haven’t felt as drawn to some of your videos lately because I wish you would rewear your clothes more. If you aren’t rewearing the outfits you style, then I feel like maybe the experimentation would t work for me, either. I, for one, would love it if you rewear clothes in more videos. Actually, if you make a video about wearing outfits you came up with in past videos and still stand by, I would probably watch and rewatch that so much! But, first and foremost, I’m just one person, and you know your channel best, so you should trust your judgment and go to people wiser than me for counsel. I did like this video a lot!
something I’ve realized I do is every single outfit I currently have or am planning for future in my mind is a different “vibe” that resonates w me- so each one feels unique to me even tho some use repeat pieces, formulas, etc. I am someone who like all colors and many accessories so that works out in my favour i guess and I don’t get bored
Also I have all my outfits saved as pictures organized by weather so I can re-wear them again and again I’m all for repeating! I’m not a “come up w something on the spot” person at all. Especially w all my clothing sensory issues I need to k n o w it works before I wear it or I’ll regret it lol.
Alexa! I dont remember if you mentioned it but who did your color analysis? That lipstick youve been wearing lately really makes your entire complexion glow!
I actually LOVE those green cowboy boots and have an eye out for them myself
love the video but also LOVE the berry lip!!!! what are you wearing?
Thank you!!! It's the Merit Matte Lipstick in Equestrian and the Merit Lip Oil in Sangria!
i don't think my style is that bad, im just lazy😂😂😂😂
Alexa! 🧡 you liked an item on my Depop the other day and it made my entire week 🧡 I was actually jumping and screaming and yelling my boyfriend about it I was so excited
For me it's buying clothes that don't fit perfectly and trying to make them work, like keeping jeans that are a little too tight or a top where the sleeves are a little too long... I would put them on and try to make them work and get really frustrated in the end haha 😂
the teal cowboy boots in my closet rn 👀
Anybody else buy the green cowboy boots bc of Alexa? 😂I love them! They are like brat/ beetlejuice 🎉but yeah this is a great vid❤❤❤
Great video! Many great realizations and pieces of advice.
Love the new angle
My husband teased me the other day about changing my clothes multiple times a day, because my daughters do it now too 😂, but I have a lot of great pieces and I want to get a lot of use out of them. Also, I just do what I want 😜
So, what do you do if you don't have a style at all? I buy clothes, but it's usually just jeans and an band tee. I have no style other than that, and I don't want to always wear the same thing, but I have no idea what else to do?
I would maybe try to buy different cuts of jeans, or different silhouettes of tops to see if you connect with any of those. If you go too drastic with the pieces you won’t end up wearing them because they’re uncomfortable and don’t match anything, but if you find you like a specific silhouette, maybe you can buy more pieces that match into that. say you realize you love some bell cut sleeves because they make you feel like a fairy or a witch, try getting a skirt or some flared pants and matching it with that. and now that you have that skirt, suddenly this other top looks super cute and wouldn’t it just look lovely with this pair of leggings? i think that’s how style comes to be.
a different approach is to try buying more accessories other than just necklaces and rings. try different cardigans, layered turtlenecks, boleros, belts, scarves, etc. and see if anything speaks to you through (again) silhouette or color. that’s an easy way to spice up your already existing clothes while you search for your more authentic style
Maybe that is your style
I think everything you wear is so freaking cute, but I could never wear what you do. I also couldn't be paired with you because Im girly but also a bum. I feel like I tried to mix them together. Hahahaha
Please drop your recs for bras under white tops!
I wish I knew UA-camrs with scoliosis with more styling options.... It's just like my life on the regular day to day I don't know anybody with disabilities 🤷🤷 I've hung out with normal people forever who just don't get it 🤣🤣 no offense .... Now I coop myself up in my house bc why even bother trying anymore 😅😅
Happy Sunday
Noone is going to tell me that my style sucks. It's just clothing.
In the video I said I’m talking about myself 💘
@@alexasunshine83 💖 Obviously I didn't watch it, sorry. You always look great. I'll have to watch the video though!
What a fun video. 😂
My trap is too low cut tops. I always like the style of them because I have a small upper body and bra size. It looks good in the mirror. But sometimes I feel to exposed wearing them. But I also don’t like the opposite where I’m wearing a high neck top. It’s hard to find the perfect balance of showing my chest in a flattering way that doesn’t feel like I’m too exposed.
If anyone can relate to my struggle and has top suggestions that are basics please help a girl out! 🙏🏻 😅😅
for reference, my favorite cut top so far is the free people top called “clean lines sunfade baby tee”,
Wear scoop neck tops or v necks, or just any neckline that shows your collarbones without showing your cleavage. I'm an XS 34A/32B bra size so I know lol.
Oh and square necklines are good too.
I second the square neckline^
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I like effortless chic. A lot of accessories do not look chic to me. It’s trying too hard to impress. It’s a personal preference.
This video doesn't make sense X
Haven’t watched yet but my Wednesday is so much better now seeing you posted 🥹
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Can't believe the algorithm didn't show me this til a day later😭