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- Опубліковано 23 кві 2024
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If it's worth doing, it's worth doing wrong until you get it right.
And when it's worth doing, but doing it wrong may very well mean breaking the law?
That's a good saying. I'm going to steal that for my own narrative.
@@inventiveowl395Then, if available, do it in an environment where there’s no penalties until you’re comfortable doing it when it can’t be done wrong.
the act of saying this shows this guy has been doing some epic shit.
the IRS looking at my taxes rn
Wanted to make something for my wife on her birthday. Never carved anything in my life, I am 57 years old. Knew it would suck. Carved a lopsided owl, creepy eyes, stupid looking feet. Gave it to her today at lunch on her birthday. She cried. Said it was the most beautiful thing ever. Find someone who doesn’t think you suck. Even when you do. And then never let go.
That’s beautiful
@@betterideas indeed.
It maybe sucks but it is absolutly unique in the world, and therefore priceless. Which is what a wife desire for her birthday.
Now that was a toast for life 😊
I made a wine rack for my wife, had never made anything before. Made a ton of mistakes and it took way longer than I hoped. She ended up loving it and when I recently said I wanted to make a better one, she said no 🤷
So weird how this came up, I've been thinking about getting swimming lessons and I'm 35, and the only thing that puts me off is getting judged by people
I grew up swimming on swim team, nothing makes me happier than people learning how to swim!
Swim, tombegone. Swimmmmmmmm
My dad decided to learn guitar at 65. He’s now turning 80 and so he got to enjoy a new hobby for 15 years. Now, swimming is definitely more public (unless you own your own pool) but who cares what people think?
Great words thanks guys! I doubt people even take notice but in your head you think everyone is watching lol
I’m about to be 35 - I’m a “successful” music producer and I never learned keys. I am now learning because it will better my craft. Getting over the worries. You’re not alone! Let’s get it 🙌🏾🔥
If you can't do it, try again until you get it right.
If you can't do it, give up
@@qk7xNah, i'd win.
@@qk7x Why inhale if you have to exhale?
@@MrKentakie i couldn't have explained it any better
If you can't get it right, that's ok
Grew up in a perfectionist family. My dad would always tell me "if you're not going to do it the right way then don't do it at all" so that's exactly what I did. If I wasn't naturally good or if I didn't find it engaging enough I just wouldn't do it at all. Now I'm 25 and am just now realizing how much I missed out on by the lack of "failure" in my life.
I'm 35 and the same. So, good news for you: you're ten years ahead! Make sure to act on the message in this video.
"if you're not going to do it the right way then don't do it at all"
I think there's truth to this saying but I think there has to be a clearer distinction between "doing things the right way" and "getting it right". I used to hear my parents say that to me and I understood it as "don't do it if you're just going to fail". Now that I'm a little older, I've come to understand that maybe "failure" is a fundamental part of
"doing things the right way", and eventually, getting it right.
By contrast, there's a scientist who credits his career to a moment when he was a little kid and spilled a giant jug of milk all over the kitchen floor.
His mom came in and went "Wow! I have never seen such an enormous puddle of milk! Well, since it's there already, want to play in it?"
They played in the milk for a while, and then she said "At some point, we're going to need to clean this up; would you prefer to use a mop, a rag, or some paper towels?"
After they'd cleaned it up, she said "What we have here is a failed experiment in how to carry a heavy milk jug with those tiny hands. Let's go to the back yard and see if we can do better." And they spent a while with a jug full of water, helping the kid figure out how to hold it and how to pour without spilling (too much).
That day he realized that he doesn't have to fear mistakes, and that mistakes are opportunities for learning and experimentation. And his entire career as a scientist stems back to that one moment of great parenting.
ooh, big same! getting told as a kid that "you're smarter than that." definitely wasn't helpful when I needed that help.
Agree! And it’s soo terrifying like I am going to lose a piece of me.
"It was never going to be good, and it never had to be."
Sounds real good! It's the most simple of truths that are the most comprehensible and coherent.
I absolutely sucked at figure skating when I started as a teenager. Hell, by most standards I still suck. But I'm a million times better than I was 2 years ago. I literally just did it.
Hell yeah, love to hear it
Fail better.
"Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly." - G. K. Chesterton
You are so right. I fall into this mental trap all too often, thinking if I don't have the time or mental energy to put my all into something, I may as well rest now and do it later. Only to do the same thing the next day.
When I first heard this quote, I think the example that went with it was brushing your teeth--brushing for a quick 30 seconds in the morning as you rush out the door is better than not brushing at all, but it's opened up a whole new mindset for me in regards to many things in life.
Thank you for this video, it's oddly encouraging to hear that it's okay to suck XD
This is one reason why quality is suffering across the board.
Customer service is almost non existent.
Quality products are rare.
Skilled professionals are extremely rare.
Fax
Customer service is overworked. Speaking from experience
@@BB-te8tc wouldn't the solution be to hire more people if you're running that business? 🤔
I'm not running the business. I'm one of the underpaid overworked agents trying his best with the resources I have while dealing with all the complaints that we "don't answer the phones"
@@BB-te8tc"underpaid" for answering phones. You can make $20 or more an hour in the CBRF field and actually serve a purpose.
This is a reason I LOVED telling people I was taking circus classes as an adult in my 30's. Do what brings you joy! Don't allow internal judgment bully you and stop you from doing those things.
"if you are good at something never do it for free"
Shoutout to the Joker for that bar 💯.
"How much you want?"
"Uhm... Half" 🗣🔥
Aiming my piss?
Unless you want to. I do things that I'm good at for free for people I love all the time.
Gaumarjos!
Phew maaaan - this hit. JUST the kick up the butt I needed; I've been avoiding growing and developing my business for fear of not being good at marketing and of worrying that I'll piss people off by contacting them.
Massive thanks for this vid; changed my mind, my perspective and my attitude
Who will care, mate, they probably won’t even simply think about it or care about it
Plus, it is better to do something than to do nothing. You fail by getting them on your side? Ok, not a problem - call again tomorrow with a new offer or call another person.
Your videos mean so much to me man. I’m a person who can constantly make small mistakes, and those mistakes just echo in my head and I can never get to work, instead simply wallowing in past failures. It’s always so refreshing to see your face in my youtube recommendations showing me why I can so easily get to work. You’ve saved me on countless occasions, so thanks man
“Nerdy… like playing the trombone” too real
Ironically even what we are competent at we once tried for a very first time, at which point we were likely no good. However, we often forget this amidst the comfort of familiarity. Where’s the joy if we were just good at things all the time? It’s the struggle that makes the competency we eventually gain the most gratifying. Keep pushing, keep growing. Great message Joey and enjoy Europe!✨
thank you for this video, I'm 27 and only just really learning to find the joy in pushing past that fear of failure and actually trying something new, the narrative in my head has always been the same and has probably held me back more than I've ever realised - "don't do X, THEY will think.." and I attach that thinking to most of the people around me, believing that I'll no longer be accepted by people if my actions don't align with their needs or their perception of me.
Realising this has initially been a big step for me, mainly because it's helping me realise that the less I put myself into this box I've created for my mind, I allow myself to be more authentic which pulls people in and feels great because I've tried to be other peoples idea of good for most my adult life, which if anything has only pushed them away and left me somewhat isolated... I thought I had to hold it all in and squeeze myself into the right shape for the right person, place or situation. but actually I need to explode into my own shape and find where it best fits
there's not much in the way of positive reinforcement around me but things like this video make me feel more confident that I'm on the right path or at least trying to walk it
just needed a grateful/positive vent
do what you want people! there's a whole world of shit to do out there and even more people who won't get to experience it, trapped by their own pain and fear
my boss will be thrilled to hear im no longer scared of doing a bad job!
I read a book about creative writing, the writer of the book tells the reader "if you can't write something good, then you should write something bad."
The message behind it is that, people tend to procrastinate because they think they are not good enough.
On the other hand, people who write something bad, get the job done. He said, "The thing about bad writing is that, it can be edited and improved later." Though I'm not a writer myself (just hobby), this advice really help me a lot.
I needed to hear this. Thank you
This is why I subscribed to you. Thank you for this fantastic advice and perspective.
Last time I was this early we had to stay in our houses for some reason, don't remember why...
Something that’s seriously so true. It’s what people are afraid of most now more than ever especially thanks to social media. What we don’t let ourselves remember is that our bad gets better, the baseline of our bad is what we’re improving and allows us to become better. Great video like always and really excited to see some B-roll in Europe!
10/10 video dude. I can tell the journey of new home ownership is an inspiring leaning experience for you. I thumbed the algorithm in support.
Hope you enjoy your travels! It’s great for the soul
“Survival instincts of a little kid who’s trying not to get hurt” I feel this so much…
3:29 love the edit if jumping to different faces, different moods while the off screen narrator continues steadily.
I’m so glad you’re posting again. Your videos have helped me out so much in learning how to better myself!!
I feel this. Some times its easy to forget how things build. You see someone good at making music. Why would I ever try? But that misses the point. It takes so much time to get good at something
Good luck on your trip! Enjoy! Thank you for a great video! Learned this only 2 years ago and continues to be life changing to this day!
I just finished building 3 raised garden beds (or rather boxes) and I was so proud to have accomplished it. Even though every bit of the woodsmanship is off and it may give me a splinter, I'm glad I didn't wait til it was perfect to complete it. I got plants sown and ready to go!
Just started taking boxing classes, and this is exactly what I needed to hear. 🙌✨️
I went out of my comfort zone and joined a dance class earlier this year. It was incredible to be bad at it, but also to free to be bad at it. It made it really fun. I got more and more comfortable through the weeks, and now I can say that I am truly enjoying dance! I even played the piano during a class, and it was beautiful to see the other students dance on my compositions! Find your safe space and get free!
I think what has helped me has been unmarrying my skills and output to my worth as a human being. It has taken a lot of therapy to get to a place where I know that I'm worthy of love and that my value is inherit, not dependent on what I do. That has given me good grounds to be like- my life is valuable even if I don't succeed in grandeour, which is out of my control. So when I suck, I take it as a critique on what I did rather than my whole value as a person and on this earth. My song being wack does not mean that I am wack, rather, I'm worthy whether I make good music or not, so I can see my hard work, on something that still isn't there yet as an ok thing, and I can take criticism without feeling like i'm a POS, which can help the thing I'm making be better- rather than me thinking it means that I am not enough. two separate axes
Don’t stop until you get it right, Stop until you can’t miss.
keep spreading your light brother ✨️🙏
Good stuff! You have a great way of bringing up things that are so obvious, but that we don't really think about. Thanks man!
Thanks for this one. Great explanation of growth vs fixed mindset.
Had to rewind after getting lost staring at you staring at your spatula!
Great video and great advice, thanks for sharing!
As someone who's always felt pressure to excel right away, this message is like a breath of fresh air. Embracing imperfection is the ultimate act of self-love and growth. hanks for the reminder!
man I wish I had a friend like you, to talk about subjects you talk in your videos! Love your content! keep it going man
Perfect timing! Started a new skill and was really beating myself up over why I'm not an expert yet, needed to hear this, thank you!!
Thank you Joey, I needed to hear this! I am trying to change my career from doing the work to teaching it and I feel very self conscious. Have a good time in Europe.
I love your short videos. Very informative. One message at a time! I had the same with playing the piano when 42. Perfectionism was kicking me hard but then I let go and just enjoyed playing. For fun. For myself. Not for others.
You're giving probably the only advice on yt that works for me. thank you for that. i love your channel - reallly helped me a lot
I'm Brazilian and I'm starting my career as a programmer at 30 years old. These voices often stay in my head, bringing a feeling of discomfort, as if I shouldn't try because a 15-year-old boy is already a programmer and I probably won't have any chance, so know that this video helped me a lot. Thanks
Love this video! Great message and very relatable footage!!!
Glad you're back Joey!
I've been a fan of your channel for quite a while, but I don't think a video has resonated with me as deeply as this one.
The idea that doing a good job and doing your best are likely two different things at the beginning. And that early attempts were never destined to be good - such powerful ideas.
Fantastic stuff as always, thanks man
Not a lot of people are going to be patient with you until you get it right and that further reinforces the thought that you'll never make it. Even the strongest need support
I love the shorter format! Very potent vid
Thank you, Joey for your videos. Every time you post a new one, I have more confidence and I try to do new things and implement them into my routine, greetings from Brazil!
This video really hits hard right now. I'm an aspiring and struggling musician and it's my own fault I haven't succeeded. I have received nothing but praise and support from friends and family when I share my music and perform for them, but all I can do is self sabotage and compare myself to the greats and come up with excuses to not just truly go for it because "it's already been done and they've all done it better than me".
Needed this. Thank you
This is such an important message, especially in this day and age. Like, yes, absolutely DO try new things and don't be afraid to completely suck at them at first. That's how learning works. I'm so proud of myself for finally being able to cook actually really freakin' tasty food, and I was only able to get here because I stopped convincing myself that I couldn't do it, lmao. Just go out there and do things that you're not familiar with. There ain't nothing to it but to do it.
Thank you. Needed this!
Love your video, keeps me learning and being a better person. Keep them coming please ❤
Ya really put it succinctly. Thank you.
I love this! Thank you!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🏆🏆🏆
This is epic mate. Honestly, everyone over the age of 20 should hear this on a regular basis.
What seperates sucessful people from losers is that losers aim for perfection and sucess, while sucessful people care about a journey of learning through failure.
omg your like the first person on the planet ive seen who like gets the idea that failing is just being good at something in progress and i feel like this video finally helped that idea really manifest and settle in my head. Thanks for the video dude
Wow Thank you a lot for your videos! You say things that are really change my perspective.
I love your videos. You're the only motivational youtuber I like because your messages in videos are true and the videography looks great. You don't give any bullshit advice like many other motivational youtubers. Keep producing these great videos!
Damn, that is deep. As you arised not only a perfectionism being mashed into our heads subconsciously through some phrase like 20-30 years ago at school, but also a topic of people thinking that everybody will judge them based on how they do and what they do, aka overexaggerating that everyone will think about what they say and what exactly they say, when most of people just either won’t care or will not even think about it more than a milisecond.
Though, I agree, as without doing mistakes you won’t become a master at something, not even master, but just normal at something, because sure, you can be good at something, but if you never made mistakes in that aspect you are good at, then you simply won’t be ready to solve them in case they really occur.
I was never an athlete growing up… I was comically uncoordinated. But I started training MMA and it changed my life. It showed me I am capable of anything I put my mind to and that mentality has translated to everything else in my life. Just do it!
I like the change in format. Keep it up.
Solid advice per usual…I am in the middle of getting an SSIS cert at work and I absolutely suck at it, but am going to stick it out so I can add value to the company and create some job security.
I found a harsh truth that people who make fun of you being bad at your job haven't gone. They are the actual people you work with
lovely message
Sending love from D.C, Joey!
Appreciated this video, it was a reminder I didn’t even know I needed.
lol the piano bit.. so on point. this is always a wonderful sentiment to reinforce. also i have that L-shaped desk.
every time i watch a new upload it hits
Excellent. To the point.
I really needed this video.
Thank you. I really mean it.
1:38 People around me made fun on my dancing in a good way but it was fun
N now 4years later im killing at dancing im at top 10% in dancers but never showed to anyone because of that past fear of being made fun 😭
❤from a 19 y old from india brother 🇮🇳
This was eye opening for me ❤😮
I have actual deep rooted OCD. To where it's a constant analysis of my environment and can see everything "wrong" and how it should be, or how I think it should be, in order for it to be right. People use their excuse of having OCD but it's BS and people don't understand the toll it can be for your mood because it's going to be very negative if you are not careful. Anyways, biggest thing that has been a major growth factor in my life is the motto from David Freiburger with cars, but have applied it to everything in life: "Don't get it right, just get it done." Comes from the notion of having a classic car that we don't want to work on because it won't be a frame off restoration to get it perfect because we don't have time, money, skills etc. But work on it. Get it running and driving. Enjoy it rather than looking at it. Anything I do now I look at an accomplishment even if it's not perfect. It got done. I did it. Not watch someone else on youtube do it. And it's not perfect, but have learned a lot from everything I do now to make better skills and judgement.
Excellent. Thank you, my friend.
have you been in Vienna last month? I swear I saw you.
Yep
I live in vienna and I'm not a bot :)
@@bredlify3079 you're not fooling anyone, only bots live in Vienna
Love your videos man, you are doing a great job at pulling us back to reality.👍
After so many days!! Thanks.
‘It was never going to be good. And it never had to be’.
Practice and time spent in it makes the difference. I have learnt how to crochet by looking videos on UA-cam, then I just took the time to practice, again and again, until I was able to make a poor little ball with lots of holes in it... But I was just so proud of myself. Proud of achieving something with my hands. And now, years later, I am able to make plushies that look really nice, I have crocheted lots of shawls and other things, I wear them with pride... Not cheaper than buying something, but more fullfilling.
When I was young I thought that if I wasn't good at something directly at the beginning, I would never be. Being good is not important, working to get better without giving up makes the difference. When I try something too difficult, I stop before getting disgusted by it, take the difficulty down for some time, then come back later on the hard part. And it works ! That means I needed more practicing, not that I am bad or that I cannot get better.
As we say in French, "Paris ne s'est pas construite en un jour" (meaning : "Paris has not been built in one day"). Take the time to learn, practice and don't give up ! Just enjoy it :) !
And remember : we all had to learn to walk, and we all sucked at it !
Thank you so much!
I love your channel Joey! You have actually inspired my youtube channel! Thank you!
Such a great video a lot of people will appreciate the message
You made references to what is basically imprinting of ideas/feelings in childhood...that carry over as we mature. True. Sadly, what you say here needs to be said in school, starting at the young age where (usually negative) thoughts take root...and it's not.
I agree - that's how I feel about my music. I'm not a professional musician by any means but I love writing, creating and playing and so I just produce my own stuff and share it, even if it sucks or is miles behind all the incredible stuff that's out there today.
It's not always about doing something right, or beeing strong. Sometimes its just about feeling right or feeling strong. Like you said... Who judges these things anyway?
And I came to notice that most people actually choose to be gentle and encouraging 🙂
such a nice pronunciation, so clear, so easy for those who are not natives, just as I am.
This topic actually applies very good to my experience with English. Yes... my English was "never good enough" until I understood that it would never be good enough... But working in a call center, talking to natives I realised that sometimes you just have to try and to give it a try, cause I'll never be 100% prepared and well trained and with perfect situation and conditions for doing whatever.
Great video, helped me a lot 😁👍🏻
this came atbthe point I needed it the most
How are your videos always amazing??
Keep up the great work man, your the only self improvement channel I actually trust lmao.😂🔥
I had been thinking of going to the gym for over a year now but it never felt like the right time😅. You just made me realise what was really stopping me all along, thank you.
If something is worth doing, it's worth doing poorly at first until you master it.
True inspiration...
How weird to see this video while i'm having hard time learning and doing things. It's like it's here to confirm what i knew already : continue the journey
Great video as usual 💯.
Holy crap, it feels like this dude has the ability to read minds. This was released just when I needed it
A reflection of my current life here, every since I learned how to speak Hiligaynon as the native dialect here in Bacolod City after years of studying, practicing, and talking with my close ones, I decided to communicate other people with this language, especially with my classmates, but with my rational thought, fear of judgement, and fear of rejection from other people really prevented me to practice the language itself and integrate it in my life to a point I just well speak English in school. This video did really touched on my life quite a bit, well explained about the problems in this type of situation. I can't thank enough with this video, so really thank you. I take action in communicating with Hiligaynon to people i'll meet in next month and with judgement, and criticism from other people, I'll don't mind and care about those and i'll improve on those criticisms to further improve on this language. So thank you.
I really needed to hear this today I just got back into the gym this past week after not lifting for 4 years and felt like a wuss my first day back
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Its the time of my life when i feel like i am understanding all these repressed emotions of mine, and here i am, who got recommendation of this video, honestly this purely explains each and every aspect of why i repress myself, but in order to benefit from this video, i have to apply it. Thanks, btw for this video, it gave me some clarity!