navigating self-doubt

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  • Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
  • on fear of being seen, embracing triggers, relationship doubts, reparenting yourself, future plans + dreams! Here's 10% off your first month of therapy with sponsor: BetterHelp.com/leahsfieldnotes
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    00:00 the inner critic lives rent free
    01:25 the gift of triggers
    03:05 self-doubt as self-harm
    06:16 fear diminishes with action
    07:45 use hope + dreams
    10:09 living alone vs. at home
    11:01 does my life partner exist?
    12:30 gentle parenting myself / would I have kids ?

КОМЕНТАРІ • 353

  • @malinimenon
    @malinimenon 28 днів тому +171

    Sometimes life is about living the questions instead of finding all the answers ✨

  • @jasmincl1973
    @jasmincl1973 Місяць тому +243

    this video really hit a spot for me! im 21 and navigating through a tough time, learning some things the hard way but also trying to be more gentle with myself. living for others, serving and meeting their expectations is draining and im still struggling to develop more compassion for myself and my needs because i dont wanna let them down although its not my responsibility. thank you leah!!

    • @martacruz7997
      @martacruz7997 Місяць тому +9

      I am also 21 and going through the same as you. Keep strong, i believe in us!

    • @jasmincl1973
      @jasmincl1973 Місяць тому +1

      🫂🫂🫂

    • @sp.2778
      @sp.2778 Місяць тому +4

      being 21 is weird af!! bless us all lmao

    • @emszus
      @emszus 29 днів тому

      @@martacruz7997me too 🫶🏻

    • @paavanarao5906
      @paavanarao5906 28 днів тому +2

      This hit home , I've realised so much about myself (limiting beliefs, negative patterns ) of course the anti hero in my head , although it's been difficult to nurture myself and stop people pleasing has been really hard and at the same time I've started to trust the process.
      I hope you all have the faith and trust in yourself
      Have a great day/life 😂

  • @leeanucha
    @leeanucha 29 днів тому +124

    I am 48 years old and have done so much in my life, did so many type of jobs, reinvented myself 50 times and still find your videos very inspiring. I also have a 3 month old daughter, and i wish she would be as smart and as grounded person as you. thank you. you are truly a unique soul.

    • @leahsfieldnotes
      @leahsfieldnotes  27 днів тому +9

      Oh my gosh what an honour 😭🫶🤍 sending u and your sweet daughter lots of love!!

  • @auntyvic
    @auntyvic Місяць тому +74

    This is random but related. Sometimes I randomly think about the Mona Lisa and how thousands of people visit the Louvre daily. I’ve heard so many people say it’s unimpressive and I just want to say to them I think it’s a damn good thing da Vinci wasn’t trying to impress YOU. I guess it goes without saying that when we make impactful work or connections especially nowadays in a world riddled with envy accusation and assumptions, a lot of people will be eggy, unimpressed, and unfortunately even hostile. And the worst part is no matter how much we tell ourselves it shouldn’t matter, it does and it still hurts so much.
    I can say as someone who’s chronically online just trying to feel something that you are different Leah. For however much time you end up putting out your work and thoughts on here I’ll forever be grateful.

    • @Blablahuser
      @Blablahuser 27 днів тому +2

      I like your example soo much❤

  • @obuuri
    @obuuri Місяць тому +174

    "Do I question it every week before my period?"
    SO RELATABLE 😭
    Also I'm glad this video got uploaded as I was just having another severe case of self-doubt again a few minutes ago 🥹

  • @tarawilde
    @tarawilde Місяць тому +37

    I had a list of qualities I wanted in a life partner. I could not have designed a better partner than the man that waltzed into my life 6 years ago. He has strengths and qualities that I never would have chosen for myself.
    I thought I wanted someone who liked most of the things I liked. But really.. he cooks, he cleans and he’s secure in himself. We agree on the fundamentals of life but our interests and passions are so different. We have so many things to talk about because our experiences and opinions can be so different.

  • @lolo_s3724
    @lolo_s3724 Місяць тому +87

    this really helped me to realize the importance of listening to one’s own needs and what we can do to live better, thank you for that, this place is beautiful by the way ! Can’t wait to look forward to seeing your evolution again and again, it allows me to grow more serenely, to see other young adults sharing their doubt ❤️

  • @geelychee3690
    @geelychee3690 Місяць тому +80

    Leah, I can’t tell you how perfect of a time this video came. I just quit my first big girl architecture job after almost three years - it’s been a week since and I have been trying to navigate through so much self doubt and questioning if I made the right decision. I tend to spiral when it comes to negative thoughts, so your words about acknowledging self doubt and fear, but going into it with hope and action are truly comforting. Thank you as always - I have been watching your vids for years now, and it’s been great to see how much you yourself have grown and become so wise 😌

    • @leahsfieldnotes
      @leahsfieldnotes  Місяць тому +8

      awww sending u lots of love and extra hope! excited for what’s in your future 🫶

  • @tabi5550
    @tabi5550 Місяць тому +42

    idk how much this will help anyone but as a person in my early 20s, what has really helped is to always get back up after a failure. sth about pushing thru even when the odds are 'against' your favour. keep pushing, aim high and keep trying. be gentle with yourself too. it may never make sense but we tried

  • @reykuadrat
    @reykuadrat Місяць тому +33

    turning 26 this year on november.. i've been contemplating on a lot of stuff especially financial security and personal goals. cried a lil when you talked about hope with action and fear without action damn that hits. i guess navigating this so called late 20s means being more compassionate towards ourselves and regulate big emotions and distractions! i swear i procrastinate a lot, i don't even know why. i guess it's also that damn phones and not sitting well with my emotions.

  • @DevilDears
    @DevilDears 28 днів тому +12

    I came to the same conclusion about triggers as you recently. They can show you where you still have wounds to heal & where you need to be extra compassionate with yourself if you let them. It’s all about growth mindset in the end. ❤ Moving “back home” can be almost unbearably hard but it’s perfect for intense reflection on how far you’ve come and where you really want to go.

  • @sameomeow
    @sameomeow Місяць тому +8

    i hope that the next time you think about how many people are triggered by what you say and do not agree with you, that you also remember there are 10x as many people who are waiting for your videos every week and watch till the very end because i care about what you have to say and everytime you upload it feels like i can finally enter my safe space again and see someone who inspire me to take care of myself as well

  • @Politodarkangel
    @Politodarkangel Місяць тому +110

    I hope your contract with Better Help ends soon, so I can fully immerse myself in your content again. I don't trust the company, they support genocide and are capitalizing on a mental health crisis, I've done my research. Wish you the best, do trust your good intentions

    • @Blablahuser
      @Blablahuser 27 днів тому +3

      She surely heard this before. I think this is a very loyal sponsor to her to let it go

    • @adharasinagtala
      @adharasinagtala 21 день тому +6

      oh i did not know they're genocide supporter :(( lots of my favorite content creators do sponsorships from them as well

    • @ezrajogsskzl
      @ezrajogsskzl 17 днів тому +5

      Also they’re not really helping anything, this is a scam

  • @thatseyss0
    @thatseyss0 Місяць тому +13

    Leah you're an amazing human. This is beautiful. Being a 20 year old, contemplating life and dreams, watching myself scared of living and people, isolating,self sabotaging, lost, self doubting and running away from myself at the same time wanting to figure out life in general is so difficult for me.
    I was always the odd one everywhere, and now, since i find humans like you I've had this realization, no, there are people existing with similar thoughts, still trying and navigating their life, still scared and self doubting and that is a humane thing! maybe a little different from others but this is us, this is me, growing vulnerable and delicate and it's fine🤍
    this is my first time commenting anywhere at all and believe me I've had to gather courage for this too lol :)

  • @user-fq5lp8nn1j
    @user-fq5lp8nn1j 29 днів тому +9

    Being a 18 year old discovering ur channel when i was 16 was the best thing ever !!! Leah whenever i watch these videos i feel more happy and inspired from you I doubt my self very much coz rn I'm getting academically and physically weak but mentally I'm getting very strong and i will definitely improve my life and take actions even tho I'm scared and i will keep spreading love and kindness in the world just like you☺️

  • @TheReverenceProject
    @TheReverenceProject Місяць тому +15

    You’re one of the most charming people I’ve seen (and I mean that in a very impressive way that actually even translates through a screen) and the way you share your thoughts in your content is SO thoughtful. I think it resonates with and brings value to a lot of us!

  • @ericeychis
    @ericeychis Місяць тому +5

    it's useful to see the hope/fear visual and the maslow's hierarchy visual as I'm a visual learner and I'm certainly in a situation now in my adult life where I stay in a state of fear for long and it has to do with a hard time with unresolved trauma and just having a hard time with things as a 21 y/o. I feel in my spirit that if I were to just do SOMETHING that feels a bit intuitive and right, even if it's imperfect, I could get through what I'm facing, however, still, the self-doubt and anxiety consumes me and it's just an unhealthy relationship I have with myself where my priorities aren't always clear to me and I don't have a strong "why". the maslow's hierarchy example is really insightful because I come from a russian immigrant family (I was born in the U.S. though) and they create such a stigma about mental health and self-care and all of that and it's awful to me and really difficult to navigate. however, the original hierarchy that you shared from the indigenous groups helps affirm my choices and intuition and the little steps I make to take care of myself.

  • @whostolethechocolate
    @whostolethechocolate Місяць тому +11

    Dear Leah, I am normally a silent viewer but I just wanted to tell you that you are such a source of inspiration to me! Because of you mentioning it in your (last?!) video I bought "The artist's way" and it has helped me tremendously already (although I have to admit that I haven't been completely consistent with the exercises)! And today again you have helped me realize so much which I will certainly also share with my friends & family. Thank you for being!

  • @JWu1212
    @JWu1212 27 днів тому +6

    I am 29 and 2 years ago I moved away from my home country to another continent to start a new life. Being an outsider of the local culture I am struggling to make myself recognized by the new environment. This year I've learned to prioritize my own needs over the expectation of external interests. Self-doubt has become not a judgment of my worth, but rather a tool for self-discovery and understanding.

  • @oliviaschroder
    @oliviaschroder 27 днів тому +3

    i was hesitant to click on this video when i first encountered it because self compassion is such an intimidating concept for me to grapple with. i’ve lived my life prioritizing the expectations and wants of others, so much so that i have no clue how to tap into my own needs and desires. i loved hearing you speak on hope and fear and awareness and the self - it is such a comfort to see you break down this big looming presence into thoughts i can recognize in real time. releasing myself of guilt, shame and converting these into acceptance will take some time, but your video offered me some relief from cyclical/harmful thinking and offered some hope, too. this video came at an important time, thank you!

  • @rebeluluhipe
    @rebeluluhipe 29 днів тому +3

    This really hit, in all sorta ways. I had been super full of self-doubt, thinking about my choices, perceived mistakes, and current projections. Similar to you I’m turning 27 in June (woopie gemini life) and just all over the place. I moved to a new place back-ish home (moved around for a while then came back home, but not with family), lost a close friend, and just changed like whole career. I reevaluated a lot of what makes me happy and really matters to me. I can happily say choosing myself was an amazing choice and one that looks different daily. I’m in a smoother path where I’ll be starting a new job at a farm soon leaving a job with pretty toxic mentality, trying to find a community around me (friends who align w me) and just deepening my relationship with my partner. It’s all been a journey and it still isn’t perfect and I don’t have it figured out, at all, but like all the little actions and changes are really helping me go to what feels best. If you’re ever in LA love to chat! Feel like we’ve been in a pretty similar wave, but sounds like so many of us are!! Good luck on your move and your next steps!

  • @cairo8413
    @cairo8413 28 днів тому +8

    leah ive been watching ur stuff since i was 19 freshly moved out, im almost 23 and in a happy relationship now, and we have a one year old daughter together. i still watch ur content bc life is ever changing and they bring me sm peace no matter where i'm at in life

    • @leahsfieldnotes
      @leahsfieldnotes  27 днів тому +1

      Ohhhh myyy goodness 😭🫶🤍 I feel so proud of you I can’t believe you’ve become a mama in this span of time! Haha why do I feel like i became an aunt 😂 sending you all lots of love💐

    • @cairo8413
      @cairo8413 27 днів тому

      @@leahsfieldnotes thank you sm!!

  • @mattydillydally3143
    @mattydillydally3143 Місяць тому +16

    Okay, holy moly, I feel the exact same way about dating and setting the bar. The “problem” with it is, for me, I got out of a 10 year relationship when I was 27. I’m 36 now and have barely dated (I had 1 serious partner for 15 months during that time), and it’s because I’m sooo picky and my standards are sooo high. BUT, I often feel like “am I falling behind? Am I missing out?”
    Which leads to the child issue. I never really wanted children, but my younger brother has 2 children under 5 now, and I’m like “dang, I do want a life partner (that’s always been a yes for me) and maybe I do want a child” but, is it too late? And then I just get depressed, feeling like I’ll never have what I truly want, a wife and kid(s). Life is hard lol. But, all you can do is keep developing yourself, push forward a step at a time, TRY to not let your past turn into regrets, and TRY to not project your future as being one of lack. Love you @leahsfieldnotes and love to all you viewers

    • @melaniesyx
      @melaniesyx 25 днів тому +1

      I can relate to that too. I spent my 20s either casually dating or being stuck in relationships that didn't work out for me and as I was entering my 30s I felt the pressure of finding a serious parner but dating became just so daunting that I litterally had to force myself to get out and meet people. I'm also quite picky and, in my culture, people (usually women) get blamed for having high standards and never settling down. But now I see that high standards are not the problem. Believing in the existence of an ideal partner is the first step to finding him/her. Instead of lowering my standards, I would expand my capacity to love myself and others. And I no longer see my past mistakes as a waste of time. They got me ready for this loving, fulfilling relationship that I am in now. Keep your hope up and good luck!

  • @lilyhufsmith7407
    @lilyhufsmith7407 Місяць тому +14

    leah your videos have truly been a source of inspiration for me over the past few years and always come at points in my life when i need them most. i so deeply appreciate your perspective and willingness to be open about your continued growth as a human being. please never stop doing what you're doing

  • @the_freak_gia
    @the_freak_gia 28 днів тому +2

    hiii leah, i want to thank you a lot

  • @annaandjudy
    @annaandjudy Місяць тому +8

    I'm so glad to see you again! You are my favorite youtuber, and someone I really admire (and aspire to be), mainly because we are so similar (and I mean this in a non-weird way). Your videos, your style, and just how you speak and live are so comforting. I was severely doubting myself for the entire day today, thinking that I don't deserve the love and resources I recieve, so your video really came at the right time for me. 你的视频总是可以引起共鸣,真的很欣赏你

  • @lavenderruffles
    @lavenderruffles 8 годин тому

    It surprised me when I met my current partner how perfect he was for me. He’s not perfect for everyone but all of the flaws that he has are perfectly matched with things that I feel are my strengths so we balance each other out. There were also a couple of compromises that I’ve made to my initial list of qualities I was looking for because I realized some were not really that important to me after all once I met him (like superficial things). So it’s great to know what you want but also be open to changing your mind because you never know who could surprise you!

  • @sumae6217
    @sumae6217 Місяць тому +9

    i kept checking your channel the past few days if there was a new upload cuz i always feel so at peace when watching your videos!🤍 looking forward to watching this leah!!🫶🏽

  • @jaidaowens3962
    @jaidaowens3962 29 днів тому +3

    As a young adult, there's SO much self doubt because you're expected to be at a certain point in life and you have no example of what that looks like or what you're supposed to do because you're supposed to create it for yourself. Especially with people that have estranged relationships with their parents and they're unable to teach them things, you're just kinda thrown into life and have to learn things yourself. My best friend was facing a lot of self doubt because he doesn't know exactly what career he wants and doesn't know whether to go to college or focus on getting experience. Plus his dad isn't supportive in the way that he needs. So he had to overcome that and realize this is his life and he doesn't need his approval and he has people behind him to support him and care about him. But I believe doing proper research and putting yourself in a position to try new things is so important because we're so used to the box that we grew up in that we don't realize possibilities outside of what we know. So yeah, I've been thinking about the concept of self doubt a lot recently. With my best friend and myself too because I had to grow up so quickly. As someone about to turn 22 in June, if I had to leave any advice it would be to master and embrace your emotions and confront your stubbornness instill responsibility in yourself, save money because it will be a life saver even if you're financially stable, and use the Internet to your advantage and look up the things you don't understand about how to build a life for yourself when independent. 👍🏽 Hope any of this helps.

  • @orangesplanets
    @orangesplanets Місяць тому +7

    Leah, this video was so important to me! I’ve been navigating this weird time in life where I don’t really know where I’ll go or what I’ll do in the future, and hearing that a person that I so admire and take as an inspiration has the same fears and doubts was like a hug.
    Thank you for being so vulnerable about your feelings, because even though it's scary, and people on the internet can be so mean, know that somewhere in Brazil there is a viewer that felt inspired to create and overcome her own self-doubts.
    Lots of love! 🥰

    • @leahsfieldnotes
      @leahsfieldnotes  Місяць тому +4

      awwwwww that means so much to me 😭🫶🤍 thank u sweet angel 👼

  • @Jujub.e
    @Jujub.e Місяць тому +4

    I wasn't having the best day really and was doubting myself a lot and my feelings. Your videos always make me feel at peace. Its like im listening to a friend talk ;-; love you leah

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 29 днів тому +2

    The video's exploration of using triggers as pathways to healing is profoundly impactful. 🌱 Embracing self-compassion not only aids personal growth but can also significantly enhance one's resilience in personal life.

  • @scriptonaut7242
    @scriptonaut7242 22 дні тому +1

    we're the same age, in similar situations, & have similar attitudes in life - love your channel & thank you for sharing yourself w the internet

  • @rizi222
    @rizi222 3 дні тому

    Your videos are comfort to me, feels like I'm getting a hug whenever I watch your videos. Thank you so much, leah.

  • @ValerieDemeerleer
    @ValerieDemeerleer 7 днів тому

    I've been watching your videos for years now and they always provide such a cathartic space for me. Thank you for not feeding into these self doubts and continuing to share your thoughts and feelings with us. It truly makes my day whenever I get to watch one of your videos. Best of luck with the move!

  • @kaseyliu
    @kaseyliu 29 днів тому

    leah, you're such an inspiration to me. your view on life and advice really helped me be more introspective and be kinder to myself, and I hope you keep sharing what you've learned. i see a lot of parts of myself in you, and you've impacted me a lot, and I know you've impacted so many other people's lives as well. you motivate me to do my best while caring for myself and reminding myself that it's not my fault for everything!

  • @foamsoap41
    @foamsoap41 Місяць тому +2

    you're very self aware and that's such a blessing, enjoy this season of your life :)

  • @lucymoon
    @lucymoon 28 днів тому

    I think I’ll be coming back to the first three minutes of this video many times. The wisdom!!

  • @pjgr1231
    @pjgr1231 Місяць тому

    i really relate to your feelings of self doubt leah!! i just graduated from uni so i’m feeling the post grad existential crisis feelings🥲thank you for carving out a space on the internet that feels safe and grounded in kinship and support❤as you said in the beginning, we do truly like to hear your thoughts and i love reading comments on your videos, it really does feel like a community, so i truly am grateful that you’ve been posting again❤❤

  • @hannah-ul5oq
    @hannah-ul5oq 29 днів тому +1

    This channel is a beautiful safe space. You are so thoughtful and genuine it's very refreshing :)

  • @miriamwilkins6554
    @miriamwilkins6554 Місяць тому +2

    thank you for posting, I love watching your videos right before bed, they feel like a hug when I'm tired too

  • @katerambolamanana
    @katerambolamanana 27 днів тому +1

    Oh Leah, what a time to believe in a higher power. You made me absolutely tear up, in the best of ways! So many gems. Hope with action!!! I do, so sincerely, feel safe in your space, and I love you for creating it. Thank you infinitely ❤
    A thing we’re learning at work is internal narratives. I find it helpful to recognise self-doubt as a narrative that we can combat. So yes, we’re gonna trigger some people. And also yes, some people are gonna love our videos. I appreciate what you share, and I’m a better person because of you. So please know these affirming truths exist too 🫂⛅️

  • @esmedecker
    @esmedecker 29 днів тому +1

    Your videos are always so well-synced to whatever I am going through at the time that I watch them - I couldn’t sleep as I was overthinking some of my own triggers and self-doubts from past and future, and decided to watch your new video which I had been saving for the morning, and this was perfect. Thanks always, Leah!!

  • @jelloooo2429
    @jelloooo2429 28 днів тому

    thanks for the reminder to be kinder to ourselves, its so hard when life gets so busy but sometimes when im like life is too much whats the point all i needed was a snack and a hug and a nap love uu leah🫶🫶

  • @hejagodka
    @hejagodka 28 днів тому

    i'm grateful for your presence here so much Leah 🥺

  • @brunagomes1012
    @brunagomes1012 28 днів тому

    first of all, happy birthday Leah !! it's so strange and also comforting to know that other people are struggling with the same feelings as us, this was exactly what i needed to hear to try to release the self doubt i'm feeling lately regarding my career habilities, social skills, the way i'm perceived and even my body image (i'm usually a pretty positive person when it comes to loving and respecting my body, but lately 👎🏻 maybe it's my pre period doubts, that i 100% related to yours.) thank you so much for being you, i genuinely love you❤

  • @sanaearthfire3833
    @sanaearthfire3833 13 днів тому

    So so so so grateful for the algorithm!!!! I am releasing self-doubt of expressing my gifts to my family

  • @claireb6350
    @claireb6350 29 днів тому

    thank you leah, your words mean so much to me and I feel really grateful that you plan on continuing your videos.

  • @_____liah
    @_____liah Місяць тому +1

    By watching this, I've realized one of the most relevant things in my life: (1) to view my triggers as a gift and an opportunity.
    I just turned 18 within the last two months, and for the past seven years, I've been struggling with coping when faced with my so much trauma triggers. All too often, I've ended up coping in ways that are harmful to my physical, mental, and emotional health. Knowing someone who see triggers as an opportunity to heal a wound has given me relief !!! I now feel quite quite quiteee open in seeing my own triggers in a similar way- seeing them as chances to open spaces that allow me to heal in a more healthy and safer way.
    ps: i missed you a looot. graduation's coming in a few days and just by seeing this new video of yours feels like a huge reward already ❤

  • @peanutbutter9483
    @peanutbutter9483 Місяць тому +6

    i miss you i love you im so happy to see you leahh :")

  • @citizendee3046
    @citizendee3046 17 днів тому

    Hi Leah, a lot of growth in this video. Taking care of basic human needs will lead to self-actualization. Basic Needs: Growth, Contribution, Significance, Certainty, Love & Connection, & also includes Uncertainty. You are a breathe of fresh air, blessings on your Journey! 🤩

  • @sarasvane418
    @sarasvane418 Місяць тому

    we all need this safe space in our lives, thank you Leah

  • @peterbutter2054
    @peterbutter2054 29 днів тому

    After having a busy day in the office, it’s sooo relaxing to just lie down and watch you video and listen to your talks.

  • @isabe.l
    @isabe.l Місяць тому +1

    This video is a big big lovely hug, thank u❤️‍🩹

  • @angelinamaureenelti8520
    @angelinamaureenelti8520 28 днів тому +1

    Dear Leah, enourmous thank you for articulating your UNHEARD VOICE. Thank you for showing us that phase of self-doubting is not a straight path that we only encounter it once in lifetime. You have shown that it's the reality but we will be fine even if we question ourselves back-to-back. Your storytelling ways in telling small details of the hard process IS, DAMN, MAKE IT MORE RELATEABLE. Warm huggg

  • @alicja7852
    @alicja7852 Місяць тому +2

    IM SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU LEAH

  • @duiease9470
    @duiease9470 Місяць тому

    i love your videos Leah! I’ve been a silent viewer for the past couple of years but I’ve always looked forward to your videos as you share your journey, thoughts, feelings, etc. I feel that I can relate to some of your content and learn more/ be more open minded. Wishing you all the best!

  • @healingwitholly
    @healingwitholly Місяць тому +1

    Thank you from the bottom of my aching heart Leah ♥️✨🧸 I’m 24 and trying to quit my current finance job and pursue something more aligned with my path. I also want to create content but posting the shit is the most daunting part 😅 I wrestle with self-doubt everyday but I recently learned that an opportunity will be available soon that I may be considered for! It’s very exciting, scary, nervewracking, but I keep trying to remind myself that I’ve been through harder transitions before and survived them. I wouldn’t trade that wisdom for anything else. Good to always be reminded that uncertainty lives within all of us but so does compassion and love 🥰 keep sharing your field notes pls! We love em

  • @estherkraus5717
    @estherkraus5717 29 днів тому

    thank you for sharing about your doubts regarding relationships, particularly about having standards and knowing what you want. i think that in our current context, dating feels particularly bleak, but finding love is a topic that has produced so many books, songs, paintings, poems, movies, etc for SUCH A LONG TIME! that's not to say there aren't things about the world today that make it feel like an especially lost cause, but realizing that it's one of the major consistencies of the human experience helps comfort me when i find myself in a moment that's filled with despair about not ever getting to experience the magic of finding that *special someone*. there's a lot to be said about the depth that you have in the relationship with yourself, though. idk just a very relevant topic for me that i have a lot of thoughts about and thank you for validating that quest and hope in this video.

  • @user-mh7dj8tx8g
    @user-mh7dj8tx8g 29 днів тому

    thank you so much for your videos, leah. they really help me during my life, especially now, when i’m recovering from a breakup

  • @IttieBittieLini
    @IttieBittieLini 25 днів тому

    this video is what I needed solo travelling at the moment it’s been a lot of growth overwhelming at times, this made me cry! thanks leah

  • @marsgal6027
    @marsgal6027 22 дні тому

    I found your page a while back and i just want to say, you have this way with words that is really compelling and thought provoking. I have recently started therapy as a way to help cope with my anxiety , so your videos are really soothing since you have such a serene nature about you. It's like I know I can watch your videos on a low feelings day because you won't overwhelm me and I feel better after your videos. ❤ I hope whatever journey life brings you on brings your soul happiness and thank you for sharing these moments in your life

  • @madelinelaam
    @madelinelaam 29 днів тому

    Your video, your voice, the vibe are so healing all the time

  • @floralrainyue
    @floralrainyue 29 днів тому

    There are so many things going through my mind after watching this video and moments that I deeply related to... but for now, all can muster is: Thank you, Leah! ❤

  • @inomevera
    @inomevera 26 днів тому

    Thank you Leah ❤ im 30 and went through a breakup a couple of weeks ago (short relationship I ended) and struggling a lot of shame and anxiety, self hate stemming from my loneliness, all the free time I have now, shame in reaching out to others for support, and if Im good enough to have the romantic relationships/the friendships I really want. This made me feel less alone!!! I believe in us

  • @vanehuuhc9981
    @vanehuuhc9981 Місяць тому +1

    You have no idea how happy i was to see you posted again 🥹🥹 ur fr lil a big sis to me

  • @j_chua
    @j_chua 29 днів тому +1

    Really appreciated this video Leah, especially the thought of using the gentle parenting style on yourself ❤

  • @raeaab
    @raeaab 28 днів тому

    this video made me so emotional and so much of what you said resonated with me. Thank you Leah for still choosing to show up and be vulnerable with us :’) and i hope you had a good birthday

  • @jessiejessie3430
    @jessiejessie3430 Місяць тому +1

    You are brilliant as you are, Leah!

  • @MulansHouse
    @MulansHouse 20 днів тому

    Thanks leah! Loved that little hope/fear graphic. And I really support your vision of creating a space for more safety and love. Keep being a champion. I need it, we need it, it helps

  • @Toonksbell43
    @Toonksbell43 29 днів тому

    Oh my gosh the living at home and questioning it every week before your period is sooooo real! As a 26 yr old that wants to share things online as well, this was a very nice video to see 😊

  • @simranrana6701
    @simranrana6701 Місяць тому +35

    As you said in the beginning, the same thing happens to me, it means I also want to start a UA-cam channel but I am afraid of what people will think about me, my videos will not go viral, and I won't get likes. But I really like making videos, I have a lot of videos on my phone but I don't upload any of them... 🥲🫧

  • @Julia98.
    @Julia98. 24 дні тому

    Hi Leah, thank you so much for always sharing your journey so openly. Every time I watch one of your videos, it immediately makes me feel less alone and inspires me to try new things. Listening to you is like a wholesome therapy session with a friend and because of you I learnt how to treat myself kinder. You truly are (to me and definitely to many others) a safe space.
    Sending you lots of love and a belated happy birthday! ❤

  • @DK_L07
    @DK_L07 Місяць тому

    Whenever I watch your videos you give me hope Leah. I've been struggling a lot lately with anxiety and depresion and eventhough you dont know my existence I feel like you give me warm hugs at the end of your videos. Thank you for everything you have been taeching me so many things.(sorry for my english I am trying to learn it👉👈)

  • @mariellenstathopoulos967
    @mariellenstathopoulos967 Місяць тому

    This was such a nice self-help chat, felt like a podcast and I hope you keep making content because it truly is a breath of fresh air

  • @salomelf2744
    @salomelf2744 29 днів тому

    i'm 22, i have lost my dad a year ago and dealing with massive existential crises, your videos are a bit of calm in the storm. thanks

  • @Annettely
    @Annettely 28 днів тому +1

    This is such an insightful discussion! Thank you for sharing this peace. Your thoughts and aesthetic always gives me peace

  • @anahelena405
    @anahelena405 25 днів тому

    happy late birthday, leah! i’m glad you’re allowing yourself time to heal and that you feel ready to share this process with us.❤
    this video brought up some very interesting points for me. as a person and an artist i tend to allow my insecurities and people pleasing to completely overrule my dreams.
    it is definitely trying and tiresome but i think the fear/hope diagram you showed should be a good thing to have in mind when these feelings come up.
    excited to see what else we can learn together and teach each other :))

  • @sulkychild8597
    @sulkychild8597 Місяць тому

    I spent 2 hours in state, and I went onto UA-cam to find something to soothe me and here you are. Thank you xx

  • @rolandharter8708
    @rolandharter8708 29 днів тому

    This video was so helpful i had just "realised" some self dout in my self and this really helped me catch my self and remember to dream and take action!! i cant thank you enough your vids have taught me so much 🙏

  • @yellowerisy
    @yellowerisy 24 дні тому

    Thanks Leah for sharing, I’m turning 33 this years. I encounter self doubt many times within months per year. Still I’m trying to go over it through taking care of mental health. Listen to ur vdo makes me skip fear for a moment and move on.

  • @meepicoffeee
    @meepicoffeee 29 днів тому

    this video just throughout felt like a big sister advice podcast. thank you so much for being vulnerable. also, happy birthday to you Leah!

  • @Alslifenotes
    @Alslifenotes Місяць тому +1

    I've been watching your videos for a while now & haven't ever commented
    I'm not sure you'll see this but I wanted to thank you... your shared field notes have helped me have a gentler & kinder view on life :)

  • @magc6702
    @magc6702 Місяць тому

    Thanks for being such an introspective learner, you inspire me!

  • @edenkalaj-rice8608
    @edenkalaj-rice8608 Місяць тому

    Happy golden birthday Leah!

  • @amaradays
    @amaradays 25 днів тому

    hiii leah, thank you for making this video! im 21 right now, and feel doubt about my myself. i'II always complaining about me or my relationship with other, why does'nt work? I often blame myself.
    but, after watching your video i realize not everythings be my mistake. sometimes situations is. or maybe that universe dont give me permission to reach my wish or expectations.
    im still learning how to manage my emotions or dealing with my thought, not blaming everyone or feel sorry about being me. it's okay and it takes a time to learn it.
    life gonna hard sometimes, but if im gently take care of myself I'II can pass it. I can happy in my way & trust the proccess.
    really enjoy your video! thank you leah, please be happy ya! (sorry for broke english, this is not my mother languange) :)

  • @sillymeheriny
    @sillymeheriny 29 днів тому

    3:04 i felt this LOL but what a nice reminder that you already possess the skills needed to be compassionate and take care of yourself! rooting for you Leah! ✨

  • @hayleighibrahimi6903
    @hayleighibrahimi6903 21 день тому

    Leah, your videos have made me so inspired. You're so talented. I'm newly 30 years old and I see so much potential and love in you. Fuck anyone who makes you feel bad about your content. You're doing something amazing and I look forward to more videos from you - for years to come! We need to all dream forever.

  • @Mikashifuto
    @Mikashifuto 28 днів тому

    seems like I’m watching on your birthday, so I wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday Leah!! I hope you are having a wonderful day and treating yourself like the beautiful child of the universe that you are ✨ this video really struck a chord with me and it’s inspiring me to be more intentional with my self care - while my self doubts are less loud and explicit than they used to be, it’s still a subtle self judgement that lurks in the background! I hope the year ahead brings you much joy, insight and practising your intentions 🫶🏼

  • @Chloeee-0805
    @Chloeee-0805 25 днів тому +1

    ❤❤❤For triggers I really resonates with you Leah. I just want to say love you! And we are all on our way for better self🎉

  • @ciciwei2261
    @ciciwei2261 21 день тому

    sending you good energy Leah! thanks for always sharing with earnestness about hard topics.

  • @aubrey6688
    @aubrey6688 Місяць тому +1

    thank you for this video leah! your videos always come at the right time. I've been struggling with self-doubt for the past three years and it has been troublesome for me. but yep, just like you i try to my best to overcome it! like what you said, fear decreases when there is action done. so despite the negative emotions i feel, i have put my self in spaces where i can grow. although very uncomfortable and scary, i think the fear I've had before has become something i can fit inside my hand. it will always be there, but it has evolved into something that i can control and manage.
    i also understand what you said about being intentional when it comes to dating. i get you! as someone who's in my early 20s, there is this feeling of pressure of whether i should just be like other people who casually date for fun. but then again, there is also the option of considering all the aspects that go into relationships. although i have never dated before and it also wouldn't hurt to explore just like my peers, i also like the idea of being upfront with what i expect from a relationship. what you said about your nephew also resonated with me. lately I've been volunteering for children and teaching them how to read. showing patience and understanding to these kids made me realize that i should also be kinder and more compassionate with myself.
    thank you so much for this!!!!! sorry if this is too long already!!!! i always wish you love and health and happiness. your videos have always inspired me 💗

  • @yjc6351
    @yjc6351 Місяць тому +1

    omg! miss you so much!
    刚打开youtube就看到你,好开心,lucky day!

  • @EarthWinz
    @EarthWinz Місяць тому +1

    Been going through a very similar journey this year and taking comfort in your words and the comments

  • @sophiasantos5383
    @sophiasantos5383 Місяць тому +1

    there's a quote from clarice lispector that helps me, it is "depois do medo, vem o mundo" (after fear comes the world)

  • @sieungirls
    @sieungirls Місяць тому

    oh my god finally Leah’s back! Love youu

  • @marikkomariam
    @marikkomariam 25 днів тому

    I love this video, Leah! Thank you so much for showing up here. Your videos really comfort me. I just watched it before a job interview and it made me calm down and become less nervous.

  • @juliacolautti4138
    @juliacolautti4138 22 дні тому

    I have so many doubts about pursuing a career in design by myself, I just want freelancing and art, and it's hard to believe in myself many times, but the diagram helped me to see better, and everytime I feel this way, I am going to take more actions. Thank you so much ❤

  • @clariceyang3910
    @clariceyang3910 Місяць тому +1

    Ive been thinking about my career shift these days that makes me really anxious and self-doubt. Thanks for your words in this video. Let's feel the fear and do it anyway. See u at the top 💌

  • @livetolovelife4535
    @livetolovelife4535 Місяць тому

    leah this is so beautiful and I am so happy to have discovered your channel. the care and thoughtfulness behind each video is very clear. I always look forward to seeing you evolve