After going through recurrent miscarriages and dealing with infertility I really appreciate your mindfulness around these topics. Love how honest, open and caring you are when it comes to these topics. Thank you ❤️
@@craftsandcats12 well i cant wait to be a mom, but i personally want to wait until after 25 or something, i'd like to study medicine and a baby is hard work:)
@@ralusa6970 yes hun... take your time! Enjoy your young adult life & enjoy the alone time your partner before bringing a baby into it! I promise you won't regret it. I met my husband at 17. We married at 21 & 22 years old. We're now 25 & 26 years old. We've already bought our first house & we've been financially good for a few years now... but we just started trying to conceive this year 😊 Still no luck... so throw me some baby dust! 👶🥰 But let me tell you.... its SO much more exciting when you're mentally ready for a baby. Even though we've been extremely careful at preventing pregnancy in the past... I still always imagined I'd accidentally get pregnant & that terrified me tbh... I've always dreamed of happily planning our baby & dreamed of telling our family & them be over the moon happy... not worried & mad. Now that I'm at this point in my life... it's SO SO exciting & SO worth the wait ❤
Mmm not sure I agree that pregnant women need to not complain about that they are going through whether it be pain, happiness or emotional exhaustion. Women need to remember that they are entitled to feel what they are feeling no matter what someone else is going through. People are so hyper sensitive about what they are going through that it’s projected onto other women. Feel your feelings and feel what you are going through, it’s okay! just know that someone else’s situation is their own. People/women need to recognize that.
This!! We didn't actually choose to be the sex that carries children, so it's not really fair to say that just because we chose to have children we shouldn't express pain and trauma around pregnancy. Men don't have to make that choice to have kids. We can simultaneously be glad for the chance to make our own reproductive choices and experience pregnancy and also have complex feelings around it. Of course be sensitive when you don't know someone else's history around pregnancy, but it's upsetting to feel like gratitude is the tax we pay on the basic right to freely choose to be pregnant.
You are so inspiring, I'm twenty now and I can't get over how you've achieved so much and your only four years older than me! God has really blessed you with such strength☺️
@@AliceRoche-ii2ke I think it is an achievement to have a happy marriage regardless of age, that takes alot of work. But besides that she has a house and a career at only 24! She is also financially stable with soon to be three healthy babies, these are achievements. Most people don't have all of this untill they are in their mid thirtys.
Achieved what? Finished high school, got married, started having babies. Not really an achievement. No education, no traveling, no career. YouTubing is not sustainable in the long run- you need to keep producing sellable content, which means your life is driven by it- keep moving houses, keep having babies. You aren’t really living your life. Think about it.
Skin tags form in any areas of increased skin friction. In a lot of people the armpits, groin, around the necks from shirts constantly rubbing, etc. Luckily if you remove them before they get bigger they stay away. A nuisance but it happens ☺️. Love your videos! Excited to see your new little one soon
I've never seen you so open and sincere, you seem so happy and light. I am very happy for you and everything you are conquering. it's really fun to see you like this.
We've been diagnosed with secondly infertility & your videos are what's keeping me peaceful. I am so excited to see your third babe & what new adventures are to come 💛
On the topic of body hair, making my own sugar paste at home made things so much simpler and easier. There are good recipes on youtube to follow. You only need one cup of sugar, 2tbsp of lemon juice, 4 tbsp of water and a tsp of salt. It's quick to make, easy to use once you get used to it, it is more painful than shaving, but the hairs seem to grow back less and less with time, and overall you need to do it way less times. No itching at all... ingrown hair can happen, but I feel like it happens less so than after shaving. It is pretty much free, all natural ingredients, dissolves in water... I even did it in late pregnancy. I love it so much and had to share. Affordable, natural, efficient, lasts longer, and reduces hair growth.
I disagree. I think sleep when the baby sleeps is helpful and doable if you're a first time SAHM. It helped me recognize just how much sleep I actually as a first time mom, and that I NEEDED naps in the first 3 months of the baby's life. Honestly though, sleeping when the baby sleeps in general is not very practical for those with multiple kids unless u have a sitter/nanny. Also preparing food ahead of time allows for you to eat when the baby is eating, and you can have people bring food to you.
@@sketchergirl7 yes I just commented this I needed to nap at least once a day not all day not every day but getting a nap in where you can when you are a solo parent especially if you don’t have night help us very important
Totally with you on smell sensitivity during pregnancy. I noticed it's been much worse with this second pregnancy and it's definitely affected kissing :( Hopefully it gets better in the third trimester or after birth
Keeping hair down there during pregnancy is super beneficial to mum and bubs and shaving disrupts the microbiome/germs that are good for bubs via vaginal delivery
I'm literally watching this video on a Saturday afternoon after waking up from a nap while my 18 month old is also napping (and I hear my husband snoring in his chair in the livingroom). I don't know how you get through your day without naps in those first few months 😭 I still enjoy them
Omg I'm so glad to hear of someone else who cant nap, I'm so sick of people telling me to nap, I cant nap I barely sleep at night, I didnt even in first trimester 😅😂😭
Same here! My FIL called the house one day and my husband was napping, but I was up doing nesting things and my FIL was like you're the pregnant one, why aren't you napping? I was like ...? I don't nap!
I was adopted by a woman who couldn't have children (she's an absolutely amazing mom, 12/10), and I'm getting ready for a family planning appointment tomorrow. My husband and I are both nervous. My mom's told me to just be honest with how I feel, physically and emotionally. She's absolutely been my rock during all of this, and my husband and I are grateful for her experience with kids and as a nurse. She learned about pregnancy from her mom, who was called home by God some years ago, and she's been passing that knowledge on to me.
I just wanted to thank you Delilah, your videos leading up to the birth of my son have really helped me except what childbirth is. I was very fearful and it was even my number one fear to have child. But because of the way that you normalize things it’s no longer fear of mine. I just had a Theodore of my own, my husband and I have decided the name before we found out that your son was Theodore as well. I just wanted to say thank you.
Yes! Thank you about not napping! I can't do that either. When baby sleeps is when I work on my online business/spend time with the other kids, too! I just go to bed WAY early in the evening and call that good 😅
Oh girl I agree sleep when baby sleeps that saying just gets under my skin. In theory it should work but real life application it is a no for multiple reasons.
With my first my hormones pud us both to sleep with every feeding for the first few weeks... i'm surprised it was the opposite for someone, because oxytocin and prolactin usually is very relaxing
God Bless your growing family! It’s crazy to know that God loves our children more than we do. Like how much higher and pure are his ways than ours- wow . Knowing that is so motivating and freeing simultaneously as parents.
Tips for hair removal: Modest Brazilian Wax! Little to no itching in between treatments and lasts about 4 weeks. So worth it - especially when pregnant!
Thanks for answering these questions it gives me a lot of peace of mind 💕 Also, just wanted to say that while my pregnancy was 100% planned and I am excited about having my baby, I DO NOT like being pregnant! It has been very hard on my physical and mental health. I dont want to go through it again for another baby though of course I dont regret the baby I have right now. I think it's ok to say pregnancy is difficult and totally unpleasant for some people because it certainly can be!
The most annoying thing with a newborn was not being able to complain how tired I was. Because everybody said "if you tired, sleep when the baby sleeps". And I couldnt. I am not a nap person!!! So I felt guilty to complain about it. Its good to know I am not the only one!
Yes!!! 🙌🏻 The congestion was one of the most annoying symptoms. My husband had to wear earplugs because of the snoring, and I hate breathing through my mouth when I sleep. I'm 9 days postpartum now though, and I think that's all back to normal now. 💤
Thank you for the video! Also I just want to say I love how this was shot… your face is crystal clear and the background being blurred out makes it easier to focus on you and what you’re saying 😌
YESSS about the "sleep when the baby sleeps" comment. I love the suggestion, it's great if you can, but I have trouble napping. It does sometimes get annoying. I'm glad I'm not the only one!! 😅
Tip for when the belly is too large to see down there (or any day really if you have the time lol) use a small mirror, place it laying down on the lid of your toilet, place your leg on the toilet lid and you can shave that way. I must confess I only do this when I know I’m in early labor, haha 😂
skin tags during pregnancy - when my mom was pregnant with me, she suddenly got a tiny mole on her bottom eye waterline LMAO and i have a matching one!!
Can't wait to watch! I've been off of Instagram for the last 9 months (since my son was born) but had to create an account just to stay updated on baby #3 🤦♀️😂) I love your content and am totally inspired by you as a mother and creator!
Just think of yourself as “Sexy Eve,” bet she had pubic hair and was a good lookin gal who could catch Adam’s gaze any time she wanted. Seriously, expecting yourself to be hairless is v modern and IMO twisted and letting go can be liberating, in many ways. Please understand hair is not inherently dirty. I understand preferences... but this one is mostly steeped in sexist cultural norms, and when you’re so pregnant? 💗
Early into dating my current partner I complained about the razor bumps and itchiness and he said 'stop shaving it if you don't like it, i like it natural' and ever since I've just been trimming it with an electric razor. It still looks tidy but it's much more comfortable for me.
Yes! My husband told me guys don't care. Im glad someone said something. Obviously it's a personal preference but I think a lot of women do it because they feel obligated. Trim it and call it a day it's soooo not worth the hassle or discomfort.
Honestly I’m the only caretaker of baby husband never helped (when he was here) I needed to nap with baby just once a day if I could squeeze it in I desperately needed it
This is an old video, but I just had to comment. The I feel more confident when I'm pregnant part! 100 %! I've never felt as beautiful as now during pregnancy. And for the first time in my Life, I don't care If other people find me attractive
What’s hardest from an intimacy POV (not sexual) is practicality of bump but also smell sensitive as well, which means no kissing, which is such an intimate thing to lose.
My second pregnancy is 100% different. I never spotted and never had breast soreness. I started to have nipple tenderness later in the pregnancy (followed up with leaking milk?!) but that's it. My first trimester made me basically bed ridden, I was so miserable. Luckily, I have a great partner and his family to help with the baby so I could rest when needed. As soon as second trimester hit, I felt like a different women soooooo much better compared to the 1st trimester. I'm very grateful to have another child, but this pregnancy been really hard on me. I can't wait to meet the little one, will be worth everything.
I hated all my pregnancies but I'm still grateful that my body was able to grow my beautiful girls. Also, my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage which added additional anxiety to my full term pregnancies.
This video and your other pregnancy related ones are coming at a great time for me. Me and my partner are in that life stage where things about children and such are being discussed far more intently than ever because they are such a REAL thing that could happen if ew wanted it to. It's nice to have someone who talks about pregnancy in a raw way that doesn't hide how hard it can actually be! Keep doing what you're doing; you're doing it so so well!
Yessss the kissing thing! I see my partner around two days a week but sometimes I can’t kiss him, because of the smell. It’s so confusing because I want to kiss him but when he’s close I really don’t want to kiss him anymore. It was worst in the first trimester, especially if he had had a beer somewhere in the last hours (could’ve been the evening before even). So relatable, thanks for sharing.
I absolutely hated both pregnancies… omg I really struggled and some days I had to go to the maternity ward for IV fluids and other big issues. The fact that other women cannot get pregnant doesn’t diminish the problems other women have during their pregnancies. I suffered a miscarriage and that made me realise that even though I’m fortunate about being able to get pregnant, women are still scared of talking about things cause they don’t want to hurt others.
I have mixed feelings being pregnant. The first trimester was so incredibly hard, I described it to my husband as a miserable existence 😂 Now I'm 21 weeks I'm feeling much more myself and enjoying feeling the baby move and kick. It feels magical.
As a person that tore while giving birth, yes the first poop is scary af. I was so scared too cuz they didn't tell me how bad I tore (I initially thought it was all the way but it was not that bad). I was worried I was gona rip my stitches open.
I was also scared for my first poop. My midwife recommended taking some stool softener immediately after birth and taking a half dose for a few days after just to keep everything soft and preventing the need to pushing. That said. There was nothing to be scared of. Just had my second baby and again I was a little anxious about the first poop after but it was just fine. I had/have a second degree tear in both cases and it was still okay.
For any future babies take a stool softener once you are closer to your due date! I started taking it before I went into labor and it saved me😂 it was still so scary though
@@Spookyghoul777 I had the epidural, and I did not! I’ve heard different from everyone though!! But I was so focused on pushing at the point that I tore that I’m not sure I would’ve noticed!
Yes, this. I have these and they're debilitating. It's not just aesthetic and I'm actually getting surgery after this pregnancy. It's effectively made me bedridden. Only like 4% of pregnant women get them so not many people talk about these.
Your honest and sweet! Congratulations to yall, and hope you have a wonderful labor a delivery of baby #3. I'm not far behind you on baby #2, at 31 weeks. Here we go! And hit nail on the head with what you were talking about with pregnancy. There are really hard parts, its all beautiful and a blessing, but sometimes hardships even with it. And some women have very very hard pregnancies and deliveries. It happens. And women who struggle with infertility and child loss are loved and respected. That is a mountain some folks have to face and its a very hard climb. And on both side folks need to be loving and compassionate towards one another.
why shave when it hurts? :( Tip: shave into the other direction (into the direction the hair is growing). The skin doesnt get irritated that much and its similarly long.
I wouldn’t be shaving but I definitely keep everything groomed and short during pregnancy because it’s so much easier to keep clean, especially with postpartum bleeding.
@@Ichigo2058 was disappointed by this honestly and it made me hungry for like-minded people. I’ve let all shaving go and look back as if that responsibility was part of my past life. Being bound by the idea that naturally I’m something to be ashamed of, something to correct, clean, keep adolescent. I’ve always blamed the expectation that you are shaved on pornography and was surprised that it’s such a part of this marriage, especially so late in pregnancy. But my husband reminded me that Christianity can be very patriarchal and that seeing women as unclean may be pretty pervasive. Makes me sad really. (On my husbands account as it’s ad free.) I hate our “must shave” culture that you can’t let go of until you explore actually letting it go. It’s weird... when I stopped all shaving at 35 I felt like a maturity and sexuality lightbulb finally came alive that had been seriously delayed.
I definitely napped once a day with each of my babies. My naps were short….maybe 20 minutes, with toddlers in my nest (the nook behind my curled up knees on the couch), so I could feel them if they got up. I had special toys tucked away just for nap time, so that my older kids had something to occupy them. With our last babe, our kids were old enough to watch an episode of something while I quickly checked my eyelids for cracks. That being said, all the other baby napping time was spent with kids and taking care of other tasks. I breastfed each baby for a couple of years, and was up with them at night (no sleep training), so this is how I could be the best me. Just some insight for anyone who might be looking for this type of info. You look lovely Delilah, and I can totally relate to the boost in confidence that comes from pregnancy
@H Margerison sids risk peak at 2-4 months, decreases sharply after 6 months and is extremely rare after 1 year by the time their toddlers. Hope you find the best arrangements for you and baby to get the best sleep you can! My baby won't sleep alone on his back for more than 45 mins at a time 😭
@@hspurr5922 Well, I co-slept safely, but I didnt actually mean that I napped WITH them, I just meant I slept once a day while they slept. Every mama has to make it work for her!
I hate being pregnant. I have a diastasis so my abs are on fire, which make my back hurt more, my ribs throb, my RLS keeps me up at night, I'm experiencing intense mood swings and depression and this little boy kicks me in the ribs so hard it makes me keel over. I feel like it's important to share this because women are made to believe that pregnancy is a blissful experience and it can be the opposite. Only 2.5 months to go
Skin tags! I have two right in the exact spot! Never heard anything about this and was weirded out. Also have like two tiny ones on my eye lid 😂😂 I keep trying to rip the ones on my armpits off but it's painful 😂
I lost my mucus plug at 37 weeks with both of my pregnancies so far, got induced at 40 weeks with my first and went into labor at 40 and 6 with my second. I guess I just lose it really early 🤷♀️
@@hebebebe139 I hear it's super common! I was traveling when I lost it and wasn't flying back for a few more days and called my mom crying because I was afraid of going into labor on my trip. Probably shouldn't have been flying at 37 weeks but..... you live and you learn haha
@@hebebebe139 That sounds awful! My midwife told me from 37 weeks on that I'd most likely have my baby that week, I didn't go into labor until almost 41 weeks and it was the longest 5 weeks of my life 😩
I rushed to the hospital and delivered a few minutes after getting there. The car ride was traumatizing and I wish my parents would have let me deliver in their house 😭
If you can possibly have a home birth next time, I highly recommend. My first birth was similar. A car ride during transition is the worst and then the panic at the hospital was not fun. I made it to the hospital just in time to push with my first. She was born less than a half hour later. With my second (three days ago!) I had a home birth and it was SO MUCH NICER! It took all of 4.5 hours from my first contraction to delivery. No car ride. I got to shower in my own bathroom and settle into my own bed after. Amazing.
Love this....I had 3 boys in 3 years. Intimacy was fantastic during pregnancy but afterwards.....wow....so tired and exhausted...but it’s a matter of making time for one another. I also hated people touching me when pregnant and being an RN....people just came up to me and touched me🤢
I'm glad that you touched on non sexual intimacy. I think if nonsexual intimacy is harder, then sex is also harder because it's harder to get into the mood if you're not casually intimate as much. Nonsexual intimacy that I really enjoy and that is even practical during pregnancy is showering together and your partner helping you lather up with soap, cause you don't have to try to get your legs and bend .... only works in a big shower tho, cause the belly is like a whole extra person.
I’d never heard about the skin tag thing! I’m 32 weeks pregnant and like 3 months ago, got two little bumps in the exact same place as you, right at the front of the underarm. It makes total sense that that’s what they are! I can’t pick mine off so I’m hoping they will go away, they aren’t really possible to hide in the summer when I’m wearing tank tops 99% of the time 😅
Wow literally strangers touched my belly allllll the time without even asking and I would get so mad, I AM NOT PUBLIC PROPERTY. Literally I’ll be shopping at the grocery store and some women would randomly come up and touch my belly and start talking to me. Also I have 9 siblings and I was the first to get married and have a baby, so my belly never got a break. It was like the most exciting thing for everyone
I had the exact same thing. I had 2 vaginal births before and it was wonderful. So, about 3 weeks before my due date I woke up to a blood covered bed. As my son was coming down, the placenta broke. They rushed me for a C section. I was given a ultra sound every week. My doc was watching closely but it didn't make any difference. My son was born healthy 6lbs 9ozs.
I hope it's okay that I answer this. I've had 6 kids and I had a 2nd degree tear after baby #1. I shared my worries about tearing again with my midwife and she suggested perineum massage leading up to birth and then right before baby crowned she did hot compress. She also had my push really slow. A good birth provider should work with you to give you the best chance for no tears:)
Love this - I’m pregnant with nr 2 and feel you on several things here 😂 BUT how do you deal with having sex when your libido is down? With everything being more sensitive down there and life being more busy, I just cant get in the mood mentally and physically is just uncomfortable...
Having just had my second baby, I totally get this. My approach was that intimacy was important for my marriage and relationship so if I wasn’t in the mood, I just focused on his pleasure (aka just give a blow or hand job 🤷🏻♀️). Sometimes just the act would get me in the mood, but sometimes it was just about doing something for my husband without expecting or wanting anything for myself.
you’re so pretty delilah
she truly is!
I will whole heartedly agree with that :)
After going through recurrent miscarriages and dealing with infertility I really appreciate your mindfulness around these topics. Love how honest, open and caring you are when it comes to these topics. Thank you ❤️
i'm 17 and far away from being a mom but your videos are just so addictive:) i love learning about motherhood and pregnancy and see the reality of it
Samee
Same
Had my first at 19 we were married at 18 might not be too far off 😏😉
@@craftsandcats12 well i cant wait to be a mom, but i personally want to wait until after 25 or something, i'd like to study medicine and a baby is hard work:)
@@ralusa6970 yes hun... take your time! Enjoy your young adult life & enjoy the alone time your partner before bringing a baby into it! I promise you won't regret it.
I met my husband at 17. We married at 21 & 22 years old. We're now 25 & 26 years old. We've already bought our first house & we've been financially good for a few years now... but we just started trying to conceive this year 😊 Still no luck... so throw me some baby dust! 👶🥰
But let me tell you.... its SO much more exciting when you're mentally ready for a baby. Even though we've been extremely careful at preventing pregnancy in the past... I still always imagined I'd accidentally get pregnant & that terrified me tbh... I've always dreamed of happily planning our baby & dreamed of telling our family & them be over the moon happy... not worried & mad. Now that I'm at this point in my life... it's SO SO exciting & SO worth the wait ❤
Mmm not sure I agree that pregnant women need to not complain about that they are going through whether it be pain, happiness or emotional exhaustion. Women need to remember that they are entitled to feel what they are feeling no matter what someone else is going through. People are so hyper sensitive about what they are going through that it’s projected onto other women. Feel your feelings and feel what you are going through, it’s okay! just know that someone else’s situation is their own. People/women need to recognize that.
Amen👏
Wow written so well!
This!! We didn't actually choose to be the sex that carries children, so it's not really fair to say that just because we chose to have children we shouldn't express pain and trauma around pregnancy. Men don't have to make that choice to have kids. We can simultaneously be glad for the chance to make our own reproductive choices and experience pregnancy and also have complex feelings around it. Of course be sensitive when you don't know someone else's history around pregnancy, but it's upsetting to feel like gratitude is the tax we pay on the basic right to freely choose to be pregnant.
Louder Sister, Louder facts only, thank you
Well said!!!
You are so inspiring, I'm twenty now and I can't get over how you've achieved so much and your only four years older than me! God has really blessed you with such strength☺️
@@AliceRoche-ii2ke she got married, has a career, a beautiful house, AND kids
@@AliceRoche-ii2ke I think it is an achievement to have a happy marriage regardless of age, that takes alot of work. But besides that she has a house and a career at only 24! She is also financially stable with soon to be three healthy babies, these are achievements. Most people don't have all of this untill they are in their mid thirtys.
@@AliceRoche-ii2keif you think you can do better by the age of 24 by all means go right ahead 😘
@@AliceRoche-ii2keme too
Achieved what? Finished high school, got married, started having babies. Not really an achievement. No education, no traveling, no career. YouTubing is not sustainable in the long run- you need to keep producing sellable content, which means your life is driven by it- keep moving houses, keep having babies. You aren’t really living your life. Think about it.
My toddler ran over as soon as he heard your voice! (I think he has a crush on eloise♡)
Skin tags form in any areas of increased skin friction. In a lot of people the armpits, groin, around the necks from shirts constantly rubbing, etc. Luckily if you remove them before they get bigger they stay away. A nuisance but it happens ☺️.
Love your videos! Excited to see your new little one soon
I've never seen you so open and sincere, you seem so happy and light. I am very happy for you and everything you are conquering. it's really fun to see you like this.
We've been diagnosed with secondly infertility & your videos are what's keeping me peaceful. I am so excited to see your third babe & what new adventures are to come 💛
On the topic of body hair, making my own sugar paste at home made things so much simpler and easier. There are good recipes on youtube to follow. You only need one cup of sugar, 2tbsp of lemon juice, 4 tbsp of water and a tsp of salt. It's quick to make, easy to use once you get used to it, it is more painful than shaving, but the hairs seem to grow back less and less with time, and overall you need to do it way less times. No itching at all... ingrown hair can happen, but I feel like it happens less so than after shaving. It is pretty much free, all natural ingredients, dissolves in water... I even did it in late pregnancy. I love it so much and had to share. Affordable, natural, efficient, lasts longer, and reduces hair growth.
Thank you for being so open! I'm currently 33 weeks pregnant and dealing with a lot of the same things!
Love you and your content! 💕
I would be interested about the topic "friendships as an aduld and introvert. :) :) "
you’re name is so pretty!
@@hannahsofia4828 this is a fake name for youtube. Actually i have a prettier name . Hannah. Like you
Ah, "sleep when the baby sleeps" drove me nuts!! It's actually listed as "the worst advice I received" in my daughter's baby journal!
I never could sleep when my kids were sleeping either...🤦🏻♀️
I disagree. I think sleep when the baby sleeps is helpful and doable if you're a first time SAHM. It helped me recognize just how much sleep I actually as a first time mom, and that I NEEDED naps in the first 3 months of the baby's life. Honestly though, sleeping when the baby sleeps in general is not very practical for those with multiple kids unless u have a sitter/nanny. Also preparing food ahead of time allows for you to eat when the baby is eating, and you can have people bring food to you.
@@sketchergirl7 it's only doable if your specific biology allows it. mine and many others' doesn't. 🤷
@@yippeeflowers Or if you have a healthy baby that actually sleeps longer then 10 minutes at a time.
@@sketchergirl7 yes I just commented this I needed to nap at least once a day not all day not every day but getting a nap in where you can when you are a solo parent especially if you don’t have night help us very important
I sooooo wish someone had told me things like this before giving birth! Love your content. 🥰
Totally with you on smell sensitivity during pregnancy. I noticed it's been much worse with this second pregnancy and it's definitely affected kissing :( Hopefully it gets better in the third trimester or after birth
I love being pregnant!!! I miss it. But I’m not sure I want anymore. So hard to make that decision!
Keeping hair down there during pregnancy is super beneficial to mum and bubs and shaving disrupts the microbiome/germs that are good for bubs via vaginal delivery
Totally having the congestion issue. I snore so bad I get headaches. I found using the breath right strips when I sleep make a world of difference.
I'm literally watching this video on a Saturday afternoon after waking up from a nap while my 18 month old is also napping (and I hear my husband snoring in his chair in the livingroom). I don't know how you get through your day without naps in those first few months 😭 I still enjoy them
Omg I'm so glad to hear of someone else who cant nap, I'm so sick of people telling me to nap, I cant nap I barely sleep at night, I didnt even in first trimester 😅😂😭
Same here! My FIL called the house one day and my husband was napping, but I was up doing nesting things and my FIL was like you're the pregnant one, why aren't you napping? I was like ...? I don't nap!
Kissing not being fun because of smells! YES! Not necessarily that they have bad breath but you’re just extra sensitive to their smell! I feel that
I also got a skin tag there! And it’s sooooo itchy!
Wow I definitely didn’t shave once I got super pregnant! I highly recommend it lol
Same! I let what's naturally supposed to be there just be! lol
I was adopted by a woman who couldn't have children (she's an absolutely amazing mom, 12/10), and I'm getting ready for a family planning appointment tomorrow. My husband and I are both nervous.
My mom's told me to just be honest with how I feel, physically and emotionally. She's absolutely been my rock during all of this, and my husband and I are grateful for her experience with kids and as a nurse. She learned about pregnancy from her mom, who was called home by God some years ago, and she's been passing that knowledge on to me.
I just wanted to thank you Delilah, your videos leading up to the birth of my son have really helped me except what childbirth is. I was very fearful and it was even my number one fear to have child. But because of the way that you normalize things it’s no longer fear of mine. I just had a Theodore of my own, my husband and I have decided the name before we found out that your son was Theodore as well. I just wanted to say thank you.
Can’t wait for the baby to be here i think it’s a girl. :)💗 Praying for the rest of the pregnancy & delivery to go smoothly.
Yes! Thank you about not napping! I can't do that either. When baby sleeps is when I work on my online business/spend time with the other kids, too! I just go to bed WAY early in the evening and call that good 😅
Oh girl I agree sleep when baby sleeps that saying just gets under my skin. In theory it should work but real life application it is a no for multiple reasons.
Do the dishes when baby does the dishes, I’ve heard is a good rebuttal
Especially if you have a micronapper. As soon as you lay your head to the pillow they wake up.
With my first my hormones pud us both to sleep with every feeding for the first few weeks... i'm surprised it was the opposite for someone, because oxytocin and prolactin usually is very relaxing
I've never heard your Canadian accent as much as when you said skin taaags! Haha, I love it
And figure! Oh and produce in another video I watched! I love it too hahah
It’s definitely more of a west Canadian accent because here in Ontario we don’t say it like that
I’ve been told we pronounce it the same way here in Ontario as well! My American family however says it completely different
God Bless your growing family! It’s crazy to know that God loves our children more than we do. Like how much higher and pure are his ways than ours- wow .
Knowing that is so motivating and freeing simultaneously as parents.
Even the kids that are trafficked?
Hey! You’ve been in my prayers. Hope you are doing well💕
You have such a calming voice. I love listening to you!
I appreciate you and your channel a lot! You’re very inspiring and watching your vlogs while my baby naps just calms me down! 🙂
Tips for hair removal: Modest Brazilian Wax! Little to no itching in between treatments and lasts about 4 weeks. So worth it - especially when pregnant!
I didn't poop. I peed while pushing! The nurse had emptied my bladder but didn't get it all. When I was asked to push I peed all over the doctors arm!
Thanks for answering these questions it gives me a lot of peace of mind 💕 Also, just wanted to say that while my pregnancy was 100% planned and I am excited about having my baby, I DO NOT like being pregnant! It has been very hard on my physical and mental health. I dont want to go through it again for another baby though of course I dont regret the baby I have right now. I think it's ok to say pregnancy is difficult and totally unpleasant for some people because it certainly can be!
"feeling like I should be".... I feel this!!
The most annoying thing with a newborn was not being able to complain how tired I was. Because everybody said "if you tired, sleep when the baby sleeps". And I couldnt. I am not a nap person!!! So I felt guilty to complain about it. Its good to know I am not the only one!
Am two months pregnant this is my first video I watched.already like you. You are natural.
Yes!!! 🙌🏻 The congestion was one of the most annoying symptoms. My husband had to wear earplugs because of the snoring, and I hate breathing through my mouth when I sleep. I'm 9 days postpartum now though, and I think that's all back to normal now. 💤
Thank you for the video! Also I just want to say I love how this was shot… your face is crystal clear and the background being blurred out makes it easier to focus on you and what you’re saying 😌
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I love hearing positive moms talk about pregnancy and motherhood. 💖
i’m not pregnant and not planning to have kids ANY time soon but i just really love you for some reason??? so here i am
YESSS about the "sleep when the baby sleeps" comment. I love the suggestion, it's great if you can, but I have trouble napping. It does sometimes get annoying. I'm glad I'm not the only one!! 😅
You don't need to be perfect person, you need to be balanced person, mentioning pros and cons. Be blessed.
Omg I’m currently 6 months with my 2nd and I totally feel you with the sensitive smell.. and it affecting kissing🙃
This is so true
I am 19 years old.... no where near being pregnant or having a family but I will always watch a Delilah video! Love you girl 🌈🌈❤️🧚🏻
Tip for when the belly is too large to see down there (or any day really if you have the time lol) use a small mirror, place it laying down on the lid of your toilet, place your leg on the toilet lid and you can shave that way. I must confess I only do this when I know I’m in early labor, haha 😂
skin tags during pregnancy - when my mom was pregnant with me, she suddenly got a tiny mole on her bottom eye waterline LMAO and i have a matching one!!
Can't wait to watch! I've been off of Instagram for the last 9 months (since my son was born) but had to create an account just to stay updated on baby #3 🤦♀️😂) I love your content and am totally inspired by you as a mother and creator!
the sweatsuit is a great color on you🧡
Just think of yourself as “Sexy Eve,” bet she had pubic hair and was a good lookin gal who could catch Adam’s gaze any time she wanted. Seriously, expecting yourself to be hairless is v modern and IMO twisted and letting go can be liberating, in many ways. Please understand hair is not inherently dirty. I understand preferences... but this one is mostly steeped in sexist cultural norms, and when you’re so pregnant? 💗
Early into dating my current partner I complained about the razor bumps and itchiness and he said 'stop shaving it if you don't like it, i like it natural' and ever since I've just been trimming it with an electric razor. It still looks tidy but it's much more comfortable for me.
Yes! My husband told me guys don't care. Im glad someone said something. Obviously it's a personal preference but I think a lot of women do it because they feel obligated. Trim it and call it a day it's soooo not worth the hassle or discomfort.
@@aisling8308 same! Just trimm it and it's so much better
I love this comment. To the hair tho, some people really just hate the feeling of hair on their body, or just down there.
Thank you for being so honest with us. I am in 11 weeks and wishing more open statements like yours ❤
Low key wanted to punch everyone who told me to “sleep when the baby sleeps” 😅😆
Literally everyone at my baby shower
😂 yes
My first was special needs and never slept longer then 5 to 10 mins at a time and people still quoted this to me.
Honestly I’m the only caretaker of baby husband never helped (when he was here) I needed to nap with baby just once a day if I could squeeze it in I desperately needed it
I prefer "eat when the baby eats" 😂
Really loved the questions you picked and your answers to them... your peaceful energy is inspiring to pregnant ladies like me :-)
This is great, Delilah. 🌼 Thank you for being open with us. 🌼
This is an old video, but I just had to comment. The I feel more confident when I'm pregnant part! 100 %! I've never felt as beautiful as now during pregnancy. And for the first time in my Life, I don't care If other people find me attractive
I felt the same way!!
What’s hardest from an intimacy POV (not sexual) is practicality of bump but also smell sensitive as well, which means no kissing, which is such an intimate thing to lose.
16 weeks today with #2 sooooooo excited for your baby to be born and know weather it’s a boy or girl
My second pregnancy is 100% different. I never spotted and never had breast soreness. I started to have nipple tenderness later in the pregnancy (followed up with leaking milk?!) but that's it. My first trimester made me basically bed ridden, I was so miserable. Luckily, I have a great partner and his family to help with the baby so I could rest when needed. As soon as second trimester hit, I felt like a different women soooooo much better compared to the 1st trimester. I'm very grateful to have another child, but this pregnancy been really hard on me. I can't wait to meet the little one, will be worth everything.
I hated all my pregnancies but I'm still grateful that my body was able to grow my beautiful girls. Also, my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage which added additional anxiety to my full term pregnancies.
This video and your other pregnancy related ones are coming at a great time for me. Me and my partner are in that life stage where things about children and such are being discussed far more intently than ever because they are such a REAL thing that could happen if ew wanted it to. It's nice to have someone who talks about pregnancy in a raw way that doesn't hide how hard it can actually be!
Keep doing what you're doing; you're doing it so so well!
Yessss the kissing thing! I see my partner around two days a week but sometimes I can’t kiss him, because of the smell. It’s so confusing because I want to kiss him but when he’s close I really don’t want to kiss him anymore. It was worst in the first trimester, especially if he had had a beer somewhere in the last hours (could’ve been the evening before even). So relatable, thanks for sharing.
I absolutely hated both pregnancies… omg I really struggled and some days I had to go to the maternity ward for IV fluids and other big issues. The fact that other women cannot get pregnant doesn’t diminish the problems other women have during their pregnancies. I suffered a miscarriage and that made me realise that even though I’m fortunate about being able to get pregnant, women are still scared of talking about things cause they don’t want to hurt others.
I have mixed feelings being pregnant. The first trimester was so incredibly hard, I described it to my husband as a miserable existence 😂 Now I'm 21 weeks I'm feeling much more myself and enjoying feeling the baby move and kick. It feels magical.
As a person that tore while giving birth, yes the first poop is scary af. I was so scared too cuz they didn't tell me how bad I tore (I initially thought it was all the way but it was not that bad). I was worried I was gona rip my stitches open.
I was also scared for my first poop. My midwife recommended taking some stool softener immediately after birth and taking a half dose for a few days after just to keep everything soft and preventing the need to pushing. That said. There was nothing to be scared of. Just had my second baby and again I was a little anxious about the first poop after but it was just fine. I had/have a second degree tear in both cases and it was still okay.
@@ang_131 the hospital was sepose to give me my stool softner but they took too long so thats probably why I panicked lol
For any future babies take a stool softener once you are closer to your due date! I started taking it before I went into labor and it saved me😂 it was still so scary though
Can you feel the tearing in the moment ? I’m absolutely terrified.
@@Spookyghoul777 I had the epidural, and I did not! I’ve heard different from everyone though!! But I was so focused on pushing at the point that I tore that I’m not sure I would’ve noticed!
Experiencing the vericose veins down there as well definately by far my worst symptom. Currently 33 weeks pregnant
Yes, this. I have these and they're debilitating. It's not just aesthetic and I'm actually getting surgery after this pregnancy. It's effectively made me bedridden. Only like 4% of pregnant women get them so not many people talk about these.
Your honest and sweet! Congratulations to yall, and hope you have a wonderful labor a delivery of baby #3.
I'm not far behind you on baby #2, at 31 weeks. Here we go!
And hit nail on the head with what you were talking about with pregnancy. There are really hard parts, its all beautiful and a blessing, but sometimes hardships even with it. And some women have very very hard pregnancies and deliveries. It happens. And women who struggle with infertility and child loss are loved and respected. That is a mountain some folks have to face and its a very hard climb. And on both side folks need to be loving and compassionate towards one another.
why shave when it hurts? :( Tip: shave into the other direction (into the direction the hair is growing). The skin doesnt get irritated that much and its similarly long.
^^^
Feels way cleaner when the hair is removed
I wouldn’t be shaving but I definitely keep everything groomed and short during pregnancy because it’s so much easier to keep clean, especially with postpartum bleeding.
poor souls. thinking hair is not clean ... shaving industry 1:0
@@Ichigo2058 was disappointed by this honestly and it made me hungry for like-minded people. I’ve let all shaving go and look back as if that responsibility was part of my past life. Being bound by the idea that naturally I’m something to be ashamed of, something to correct, clean, keep adolescent. I’ve always blamed the expectation that you are shaved on pornography and was surprised that it’s such a part of this marriage, especially so late in pregnancy. But my husband reminded me that Christianity can be very patriarchal and that seeing women as unclean may be pretty pervasive. Makes me sad really. (On my husbands account as it’s ad free.) I hate our “must shave” culture that you can’t let go of until you explore actually letting it go. It’s weird... when I stopped all shaving at 35 I felt like a maturity and sexuality lightbulb finally came alive that had been seriously delayed.
I definitely napped once a day with each of my babies. My naps were short….maybe 20 minutes, with toddlers in my nest (the nook behind my curled up knees on the couch), so I could feel them if they got up. I had special toys tucked away just for nap time, so that my older kids had something to occupy them. With our last babe, our kids were old enough to watch an episode of something while I quickly checked my eyelids for cracks. That being said, all the other baby napping time was spent with kids and taking care of other tasks. I breastfed each baby for a couple of years, and was up with them at night (no sleep training), so this is how I could be the best me. Just some insight for anyone who might be looking for this type of info. You look lovely Delilah, and I can totally relate to the boost in confidence that comes from pregnancy
Love that idea of naps in the nook of your legs 😍
Isn't that a massive sids risk? I'm so worried about unsafe sleep I'm sure I won't be able to sleep unless I know baby is safe
@H Margerison sids risk peak at 2-4 months, decreases sharply after 6 months and is extremely rare after 1 year by the time their toddlers. Hope you find the best arrangements for you and baby to get the best sleep you can! My baby won't sleep alone on his back for more than 45 mins at a time 😭
@@hspurr5922 Well, I co-slept safely, but I didnt actually mean that I napped WITH them, I just meant I slept once a day while they slept. Every mama has to make it work for her!
I hate being pregnant. I have a diastasis so my abs are on fire, which make my back hurt more, my ribs throb, my RLS keeps me up at night, I'm experiencing intense mood swings and depression and this little boy kicks me in the ribs so hard it makes me keel over. I feel like it's important to share this because women are made to believe that pregnancy is a blissful experience and it can be the opposite. Only 2.5 months to go
Super interesting, I have a mild deviated septum and use Breathe right at night and nose spray during the day. It seems to help.
“Go in blind and hope for the best” 🤣🤣
I had nasal congestion during all my second pregnancy and it was gone right after baby was born!
Me not even being pregnant nor ever being pregnant still super interested in this video 😂
When you do Q & A, would you please do time stamps, so we can skip to the Q's we want to know?
Thanks for your video!!!
Speaking of weird pregnancy symptoms my eye has started twitching (19 weeks) the second it started I thought about you haha
I'm always so excited to see new video from you 🙂 you're the Best youtuber and such an inspiration! Greetings from Slovakia 💓
I have gotten so many skin tags in both my pregnancies!! It’s so weird. And usually always in my arm pits too
You are so genuine and intelligent! Love your videos. They are so positive and interesting! Have an amazing day ✨✨
You should get a good buzzer for your lady parts. It’s not obviously as smooth as a razor but it’s definitely worth it with how sensitive you are now!
You're amazing, I love watching your videos, & you're such an inspiration to women!
Intimacy, gosh yes. 34 weeks with #4 and I honestly don't even know if there's any space anymore.
I'm getting pimples everywhere during pregnancy it's odd. I got one on my boob but then it started to get one on my butt then I freaked out a little
Same.. i'm 31 weeks now... getting A LOT of pimples....
@@kulitbanas9151 yeah I have no clue where they are coming from honestly
Skin tags! I have two right in the exact spot! Never heard anything about this and was weirded out. Also have like two tiny ones on my eye lid 😂😂 I keep trying to rip the ones on my armpits off but it's painful 😂
I lost my mucus plug at 37 weeks with both of my pregnancies so far, got induced at 40 weeks with my first and went into labor at 40 and 6 with my second. I guess I just lose it really early 🤷♀️
@@hebebebe139 I hear it's super common! I was traveling when I lost it and wasn't flying back for a few more days and called my mom crying because I was afraid of going into labor on my trip. Probably shouldn't have been flying at 37 weeks but..... you live and you learn haha
this was with my first pregnancy as well haha
@@hebebebe139 That sounds awful! My midwife told me from 37 weeks on that I'd most likely have my baby that week, I didn't go into labor until almost 41 weeks and it was the longest 5 weeks of my life 😩
This was great!!! So excited for you ❤️❤️
I rushed to the hospital and delivered a few minutes after getting there. The car ride was traumatizing and I wish my parents would have let me deliver in their house 😭
If you can possibly have a home birth next time, I highly recommend. My first birth was similar. A car ride during transition is the worst and then the panic at the hospital was not fun. I made it to the hospital just in time to push with my first. She was born less than a half hour later. With my second (three days ago!) I had a home birth and it was SO MUCH NICER! It took all of 4.5 hours from my first contraction to delivery. No car ride. I got to shower in my own bathroom and settle into my own bed after. Amazing.
I’m the same way!!! I’m so much more confident when I’m pregnant!!!!! It’s a crazy thing.
Love this....I had 3 boys in 3 years. Intimacy was fantastic during pregnancy but afterwards.....wow....so tired and exhausted...but it’s a matter of making time for one another. I also hated people touching me when pregnant and being an RN....people just came up to me and touched me🤢
How do you handle intimacy after having kids? I’m concerned about the lack of privacy when the kids keep coming into the bedroom.
I'm glad that you touched on non sexual intimacy. I think if nonsexual intimacy is harder, then sex is also harder because it's harder to get into the mood if you're not casually intimate as much.
Nonsexual intimacy that I really enjoy and that is even practical during pregnancy is showering together and your partner helping you lather up with soap, cause you don't have to try to get your legs and bend .... only works in a big shower tho, cause the belly is like a whole extra person.
I got skin tags in my armpits too!
I’d never heard about the skin tag thing! I’m 32 weeks pregnant and like 3 months ago, got two little bumps in the exact same place as you, right at the front of the underarm. It makes total sense that that’s what they are! I can’t pick mine off so I’m hoping they will go away, they aren’t really possible to hide in the summer when I’m wearing tank tops 99% of the time 😅
Wow literally strangers touched my belly allllll the time without even asking and I would get so mad, I AM NOT PUBLIC PROPERTY. Literally I’ll be shopping at the grocery store and some women would randomly come up and touch my belly and start talking to me.
Also I have 9 siblings and I was the first to get married and have a baby, so my belly never got a break. It was like the most exciting thing for everyone
I had the exact same thing. I had 2 vaginal births before and it was wonderful. So, about 3 weeks before my due date I woke up to a blood covered bed. As my son was coming down, the placenta broke. They rushed me for a C section. I was given a ultra sound every week. My doc was watching closely but it didn't make any difference. My son was born healthy 6lbs 9ozs.
Hi!! Yay answers! Enjoy hearing your perspective. I didn’t see the link about the baby names you and Zach watched? 🙂
That's so crazy I was the opposite my pregnant libido was insane
I know a Vincent, he's a nice guy.
I think it is a more common name in South Africa, where I'm from.
My son is named Vince. He is the coolest man.
I had my first daughter 6 months ago. I want more kids but I tore while giving birth. How do you prepare your body and avoided tears?
I hope it's okay that I answer this. I've had 6 kids and I had a 2nd degree tear after baby #1. I shared my worries about tearing again with my midwife and she suggested perineum massage leading up to birth and then right before baby crowned she did hot compress. She also had my push really slow. A good birth provider should work with you to give you the best chance for no tears:)
@@mirandarileydesigns Thank you so much
Love this - I’m pregnant with nr 2 and feel you on several things here 😂 BUT how do you deal with having sex when your libido is down? With everything being more sensitive down there and life being more busy, I just cant get in the mood mentally and physically is just uncomfortable...
I had the opposite problem. I was RARING to go my entire pregnancy and my husband didn't want to have sex for MONTHS. 😅
Having just had my second baby, I totally get this. My approach was that intimacy was important for my marriage and relationship so if I wasn’t in the mood, I just focused on his pleasure (aka just give a blow or hand job 🤷🏻♀️). Sometimes just the act would get me in the mood, but sometimes it was just about doing something for my husband without expecting or wanting anything for myself.
I think you as perfect a person can be!