Big Meltdown In The Big Apple | TSA Cares Doesn't Work
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2024
- The big meltdown in the Big Apple! I've thought about this several times debating whether Abigail was having autistic meltdowns or not. Meltdowns are a loss of control. I don't think Abigail was in control of her yelling and stimming...hence, a meltdown. TSA tried and I give them credit for that but TSA Cares doesn't work like it is.
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Abbie isn’t affected by loud environments. The restaurant wasn’t actually as loud as it seemed in the video anyway. She was yelling before we got to the restaurant so it wasn’t what set her off. She won’t wear headphones, earplugs, or anything else on her head.
Would she wear headphones with her music?
Sometimes but she can’t keep them on for very long.
Abbie, I am so impressed by you.I have similiar anxieties to yours w my anxiety disorders. But you went and did it. I am so proud of you. And congratulations to all of you on the Shorty award!
I don't have autism. But I do have sensory issues and feel sometimes like I'm melting down. It feels uncontrollable. I wish I could adequately describe the feeling - overwhelmed, overstimulated, super anxious, skin crawling, skin super, super sensitive, everything crashing in on me and then a feeling like rage. Certain sounds can do it, and patterns, but mostly it's just when I'm tired and super overstimulated and almost always when I need to eat or haven't eaten enough. I really wish I could explain what a totally horrible feeling it is. It feels like torture.
At those times I have to be left alone until I can calm down and get something more in me. A place like that with all the sounds, movement, sights, smells, can make me feel insane under certain circumstances. The things that affects me the worst is low blood sugar. Eating refined sugar destroys me. That typically precipitates the feeling/meltdown. At other times I can handle the same environment. But having sugar ruins me.
I also can;t have things in or on my ears or even head. Drives me batty.
I have no idea what causes a person to have sensory issues or what causes people with autism to have them. But I've watched many of your videos and have noticed that it has happened at restaurants a few times? I wonder if it would make a difference if you gave her a small snack of protein and fruit before you go out to eat. Interestingly, a lot of videos of people acting insane toward fast food workers or whatever have that correlation of hunger. (Or is it hanger?)
The blood sugar/hunger connection with my sensory issues is huge and obvious.
Also, have you ever tried to cut out refined sugar for a while and see if the meltdowns diminish? It can really affect people but it can be hard to make the link. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inner-source/201311/is-there-blood-sugar-monster-lurking-within-you
Just a suggestion. I'm sure you get so many and it must be annoying. But from someone who experiences what I think is a similar thing to what Abigail feels, I thought could be worth a shot?
Maybe sensory inputs of the lighting in the restaurant could have been bothering Abby. I love the subway ride when I visit NYC.
"Should we find a creepy alleyway to take cool photos in?"
"No you did that yesterday"
😂😂😂 love your family and vlogs!!!!
lol, I loved that part
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That would be me...
@@fatheringautism The train/rollercoaster analogy is just the sort of thing I say, then I realise...That was so funny.
Abbie always looks so happy when she's picking on her brother 😂
Ashleigh Hunt 😂
"They know what they want to do but they don't implement it" describes the TSA in general.
True
TSA doesn't care, that's been my experience anyway. I have an insulin pump for Juvenile Diabetes and can't send it through the xray machine. TSA insisted it would be fine, I insisted I wasn't chancing ruining such an expensive piece of equipment when the manufacturer said not to put it through the machine, so then they treated me like a terrorist.
NYC is a huge sensory overload even for people not on the spectrum. I'd say Abby did great!
Crissy Presents Marleighs Magical Moments I am autistic UA-camr and my sister and stepmom were on the today show last spring and I hate nyc
Someone with ausitme here!
Aww Abigail looks so sad at the escalator :(
I can't eet when i''m in a (busy) restaurant (it just wont go down because of stress) i totally understand her melddown. if i where in that situation i would like to have my Headphones on (without music just noice canceling) and sitting in a corner (sometimes with my back to te noise)
Doctors told my parents when i was 7 years old that i would never drive a car or life on my own,
And now i'm very good at driving a car and living on my own (with help)
When i see Abigail, i see a girl with intelligence and a lot of potential!!
See has grown a lot!
Stephan! (from The Netherlands)
yeahhhhhh, she wanted her music. It didn't last or help for some reason. The anxiety of even going into a setting that MAY be noisy can set me off. Even if I don't go in.
yentl555 I had a friend named Stephan from the Netherlands (dutch here too!) although he has ADHD and not autism
Rockstar!!!!!
I’m the pickiest eater. That restaurant would have been a scary scenario for me.
Eapecially snail or clam. I could not eat those either.
“Can we find a creepy alley to take photos in?” “No.... you did that yesterday” haha that conversation has me laughing
Ive noticed Abigail is holding her head up much more lately!!!! Hold that beautiful head up girl!!! Show the world your pretty face!!😘
Profound.... "We must be willing to let go of the life we have plan, to make the most of the life that's ahead" Thank you so much. So often, too often I have thought of the life I planned for my son, until I become totally destroyed in and out. Thank you.
thanks for doing this, I'm a father with a daughter who has autism and I feel so alone and lost sometimes. You're doing a great job and I'm really proud of you.
Abigail was a real trooper on the trip. She looked so exhausted . Love this family
Abbie did so well on the trip. So proud of her.
She's fantastic ❣
yes with my anxiety too i don’t eat bc i’m so nervous and i always find a bathroom to escape
Hunter College is a great school. Congratulations on getting in Summer, it is not the easiest school to get into!
Meme Er What is she studying . Congrats on being accepted.
NYC is a hard place for a special needs child we tried once it was way too much! Like you said having meltdowns there is no private place to go and sit and everyone just stares which is really uncomfortable.
My nephew is 8 and was just diagnosed with Autism yesterday. I'm so grateful to have found your channel. Not only to educate myself, but to now be able to reccomend this channel to my sister to educate her. Perfect example of why you do this! Thank you so much, I appreciate you and your family more than you know! ❤
I’ve had very different experiences with TSA Cares in different airports, but the one thing in common was that the people at check-in were unaware of the program and every trip, even through the same airport, was different at screening. My best experience was in Kansas City. Glad you made it home safe. 🐾💖🐾💖🐾
Hey guys!!! Welcome home!!! So much love in this family!!!!!!!
Welcome home guys! Congrats again on your win and so glad you had an awesome trip ❤️
I’m so glad I found your channel this past month. I have a neighbor with autism who’s like a brother to me, and for that reason I’m going to school for occupational therapy this fall to work with children with autism. It’s such a misunderstood condition and you handle it and everything it encompasses with grace and humility. Keep on being you and keep on being amazing parents!
Welcome to NY, the city of sensory overload
Thanks for sharing this. My daughter faced a security checkpoint this week where we read the sign instructions to her and then when she got to the metal detectors they gave her instructions which were different than the previous sign. so she stood there not listening to the new instructions and started flailing. by the time she obeyed there were 6 additional guards there and I was getting nervous for her. Different situations are stressful and while I can roll with the changes, I know that my autistic daughter needs preperation for everything that could happen which of course is not always possible. But thank you for sharing about TSA cares, it's good to know about if we fly. And congrats for being able to lead Abbey through a successful trip and staying calm yourself while you do it.
First time I've ever commented on one of your videos, and lemme just say, that Chinese food made me so hungry lol
It was good!
“Can we find a creepy alley to take pictures in?”
“No we did that yesterday”
😂😂😂
I love you guys. I have a severely autistic daughter as well. You inspire me to try to strive for my version of normal.
Congratulations Maass Family on your big win at the Shorty Awards. You are certainly deserving of the award. It is so wonderful and fascinating to me that the world is recognizing what amazing, honest, genuine, down to earth wholesome family you all are. You definitly use your platform for good and to create awareness for all humans. I love watching your videos, it has been so neat too watch you all create memories, go on adventures, enjoy life, grow and flourish together as a family. Keep sharing your story. Much Love ♡
As someone with anxiety I use the bathroom as a safe space often.
Ppl starting is so rude, it's so obvious she's special needs. I go through the same thing with my daughter but I don't care. The big Apple is alot for her, it's fast moving. Luv u Abby
@molly lazaris that's a massive differnce between curious and rude. Curious is actually asking qs which I'm sure they wouldnt mind. Rude is just staring
And your son is so charismatic he reminds me of your husband! I just have the best respect for your whole family for dealing with everything like you do. I know I’m being a
Love the graphics Jeff!!! Abbie and the lines reminded me of my hubby. He is a detainee' on the Spectrum. He can't stand lines. He got yelled at by an officer for speaking when he wasn't supposed to because he was tired of standing in a haircut line. They checked his med records and came back to explain to him calmly that he can't talk out loud like that. He still hates lines but he just calls home to me to vent about them! 😂
I'm only part way through this as I comment, but regarding being in a large noisy restaurant setting I commend you for toughing it out. Personally, I'd be out the door as soon as I saw the chicken feet! I'm pretty sure that's gotta be a choking hazard - and OMG the ceramic plates! My son gets like that sometimes in restaurants so I've often joked that the only restaurant we'd feel safe and accepted would be a Greek restaurant; isn't it customary to smash the plates as an expression of appreciation? At least I wouldn't have to be called to wash dishes! Seriously though, we know from experience that when the food comes we say "check please" so we can take care of business and leave without having to wait for the server to come back.
To be honest everything about NewYork would have caused me extreme anxiety. I think she did fabulous considering the noise levels, smells, speed of everything, temperature change, so many faces, taste of food so different. She is a rockstar for trying to be as good as she could.
“Can we find a creepy alley to take pictures in?”
“No we did that yesterday”
😂
What did the flight attendant mean when he said “thanks for letting me know because I’m squeamish?”
No clue. It was a strange response.
FatheringAutism someone said he was “making a joke he said ‘I’m screamish’ .. what’s screamish? ... that was odd. Hope he wasn’t rude at all on the plane if she had out bursts
Unprofessional... not unexpected...
Screamish? Rude.
I think it was just words with either little meaning as he may have been exhausted from dealing with the delay etc or a note for himself to be aware. I'm on the spectrum myself and one of my triggers are loud sudden noises, especially screaming, shouting etc, so tbh that instant response would be something I'd say. But he seemed friendly enough
My son isn't autistic but he does have issues with sensory hypersensitivity at times and your videos have helped me deal with them patiently.
I appreciate the time you take to share your life with us. Congrats on the shorty award!
I pray to god from my heart to this beautiful girl and her family to give them strength and health and happiness
Going through gates reminded me of moving to Guam....with a 1 year old. It was an exhausting 23 hours just in the air.
My mom and I have had issues with TSA not having any idea what tsa cares is/not following through with what we have planned with them. We called to ask about assistance with going through security because I have very bad anxiety and them not knowing about it and making it more complicated just made the situation even worse.
Lol airport security gives me real bad anxiety. Just watching this vid made me shudder
I had the worst anxiety attack ever a few weeks ago at a concert in a small venue and I escaped to the bathroom too, just to be alone in a familiar space. So I feel you there Abigail 💕
Kierstyn Hancock I had a similar experience but I almost fainted so the body guard and my sister had to walk me to the stairs for fresh air. Sensory overloads are the worse at concerts
I do that too even though I'm neuro-typical. We all just need a break sometimes. The whole NY thing looked awesome, but extremely overwhelming. I was exhausted just seeing them at the end of the video.
@Leah Dijon right. My daughter is 20 and just diagnosed with ASD. Panic disorder/meltdowns are a huge indicator of ASD/Asberger's.
Juhani139 stress and mental health issues are not the same thing
Leah Dijon ^
I have an anxiety disorder and SPD so I have a really hard time at restaurants and in public places. I always become depersonalized or feel like I cant breathe and I'll choke on food. I'll start crying or getting really upset and people will stare. It's so embarrassing.
I love how you teach all of us something new in every single video . You guys are a amazing family .
Love you guys so much. Thank you for always making a difference.💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
Thank you for taking us with you to NYC! Congratulations again to you all for winning!
I would be anxious to with NYC and not knowing what to expect and do. New things make me anxious. But if someone tells me what I need to do or what should be happening I’ll be a little calmer. Just saying I can understand Abbie’s anxiety to a point. It’s most likely way more so for her with the sensory overload etc.
I have the utmost admiration and respect for your son and You guys as parents. The patience and love you guys have for the lovely Abbie is so touching. Thanks for being so real and I really learnt a lot from u guys. You doing a great job, Isaiah - u deserve a medal - for a teenager, you are a role model !
I never used TSA cares and I have special needs. Usually the airlines accommodates my disability when I fly.
In watching this I put myself in Abbie's shoes how mind blowing this must have been for her. Strange places, so many people, noise, smells all kinds of different things to ride on and in. But kudos you Asa, Priscilla for giving her this experience this is one of the many reasons you won the Shorty Award. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Just thought I’d offer this. I’m mobility impaired and always get the wheelchair service which helps by not waiting in lines and being fully escorted to your gate. Now, I know Abby doesn’t need a wheelchair but on the forms the person escorting fills out they check what the disability is and to my knowledge they do have Autism and non verbal on there. I’ve never used TSA cares but so far only heard negative things :( Maybe using the “wheelchair”/disability service would be better for next time. 😊 She did great! Congrats on the win! 🎉
Autism Parents are my heroes. While I will never know exactly what it’s like to walk in your shoes, I have had students have huge meltdowns in very public places and I know how stressful it can be. Here is what I would like to say about it:
Let them look; let them stare. Let me tell them that I don’t care.
This child who is struggling, who’s falling apart
Is the center of my focus
And the beat of my heart!
They think they know what this life is about.
I hear their mummers as loud as a shout.
They think they could “fix it”, that they have the “cure”.
I wonder how they can be so sure!
What’s happening with this child is not her being bad.
This is autism and sometimes it’s sad.
I wish they would wait for this storm to pass
For her mind and her body to be calm at last.
When the storm is over and the sun breaks through-
This is autism, it can be beautiful too.
Until the storm’s over I’ll be her umbrella. I’ll protect her from danger, I’ll protect her from pain. I’ll protect her from stares, I’ll protect her from shame.
So let them look, let them stare. I’ll tell them again that I don’t care.
This is soo BEAUTIFUL, TRUE & PRECIOUS @Au Teacher 💖🧩🧸🖼🎈
Thanks for Sharing!!! 😊🥰🙏🏻
Wow as a mother of an autistic child this brought me to tears is beautiful Thank you for your words of love and understanding
I can’t stop binge watching your channels. Love them.
she looks like it hurts her so much,I actually cried,poor baby,she never had any food on her plate and it looked like she was waiting for someone to come
Is that Jing Fong?? Omg its usually so crowded for dim sum! Also Priscilla....I feel you about the chopsticks lol
Abigail about to pass out is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.
iLUVmyADIDAS that sounds really weird out of context 😂
Julia May 14:21 she’s about to pass out from exhaustion on the plane, it’s adorable..... how is that out of context?
iLUVmyADIDAS I meant if you read your comment without the context from the video, I know what you were referencing but the comment would sound weird without context, that's all lol
Got it. I get what you mean now lol ur right it would sound weird out of context.
definitely read thus before i got to this part and was like.. wait what she faints and it's cute? hahahahh 😂😂😂
Congratulations Maas Family!
You so deserve your award!
Abbie was amazing! Sensory overload is so easy to have in NY for someone without sensory processing issues
The bond between your daughter and you is beyond amazing. I can't help but have a smile on my face and in my heart watching you guys interact. She is stunningly beautiful inside and out. If I can be a tenth of the parent you and your wife are, I'll be grateful. 💙💜💙
“Abbie remember the airplane isn’t new.....” 😆
Thank you for giving me hope that traveling will be possible one day with our son! Though not with out stresses. LOVE YOU GUYS!
So glad ya'll made it home safe and sound. Hugs !!!
I'm so glad I started following Isaiah's instagram! He's such a good photographer!
Awesome family trip! You inspire me taking my child who has Autism into the City. I’m glad everyone had a great time and congrats on winning your award!
I had to giggle at Abbie pounding that glass of water after eating that chicken foot. 😂 I’m sure that’s not why she did it, but that’s what I would’ve done if I was brave enough to eat it. And I LOL’d at Priscilla stabbing her food with chop sticks because I do that too! Hahaha! My husband is great with them. I just go to my trusty ol’ fork. 😂 I just wanted to hug Abbie on the subway ride. The subway is horrible! I hate it. I can only imagine how it felt for her. You guys are always so patient and that’s just one of the many reasons I love ya so much.
I keep watching to see the meltdowns but never see one!
Abbie shouldn't feel bad about getting upset because I have been living in NYC for fifty years and I feel that way almost every day. By the way, Hunter College is five blocks from my apartment.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience with TSA cares. There is another youtuber who had many chronic illnesses, and she lives in Florida. She had no issues at all
Nora Beard Chronically Jaquie?
I recently found your youtube channel and honestly, I have never seen something so inspiring. You guys have opened my eyes to many things. I give all my respects to you because of how you handle situations. So much patience and positivity in each and every one of your videos. I am in the education field and I'll be sharing your videos with so many other educators. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Sending love from NYC! Hope you had fun in this crazy city
I worked with an autistic teenager who would also use the bathroom as an escape from activities she wasn't familiar with.
I'm not Chinese but I have family that was raised there, the safe bet is to ask for dishes that have chicken, pork, beef, and obviously noodles/rice. I was taught how to use chopsticks at a young age, with the more difficult skinny pointed ended ones, while my parents used the thicker rounded or cubed end chopsticks that can be easier to hold. Now there's even children versions that have finger grasps. It's better to just ask for a fork than to look like a fool and stab your food.
Congratulations guys for winning I am glad that you’re guys have a great time to have a great weekend
Being an autism parent is so draining. I bet you guys just wanted to give up and cry. But I'm glad you stuck through and made it.
I keep missing these when they are posted!!! Ugh but happy I’m watching now!!!
I love that quote... Its SO true. I had to accept my daughter was disabled. She was born with Cornelia De Lange Syndrome. I was very sad, but over the years, I have comes to terms with it. I wouldn't trade her for the world. Great video!!
Congratulations on the Shorty awards!! ❤
I have memories of fear a special needs adult back in the 70s when most were hidden from the rest of the world. The adults did no favors in helping us understand that he was not going to hurt us . Since those experiences I ended up becoming very aware of their need to be loved no matter the understanding. He was the man that was a forever child that lived with mom until she passed and less than a week after he passed away from broken heart syndrome.
My prayers are that society will make it easier by educating what we don't understand.
💔💔💔
Did anyone else notice Summer had straight hair in the beginning of the vlog? I almost didn’t recognize her at first since I’m so used to seeing it being so curly!
So glad that you guys got to Dylan's.
I have Bad Anxiety and I freak out in restaurant because I don’t like people watching me when I eat
She is bored. .she is not doing what she wants to do.
Thank you Abby for sharing your bad day with us! I hope you are enjoying being at home! love from canada
from different abby
Summer is going to school right by my school on 71st Street! I hope she enjoys the city life :)
Loved the quote, reminded me of my favorite: "Life is what happens to you when you're busy making other plans" -John Lennon (Beautiful Boy) orig: Allen Saunders
Congrats to the award, You’re so worth it. You Rock, all 5!
so glad that you had a good trip. that's why we never go on trips as even day trip is very stressful for our son. may you soon be in regular routine again and have your happy girl again. wishing you all the very best
❤️ Congratulations, you guys deserve winning, you’ve put your heart into these vlogs! You don’t just bring awareness but more acceptance among the general public through your videos❤️
Priscilla at the dinner table had me cracking up! I love her!
Got to end of video!!! OMG!!! I KNEW you'd not be able to resist and read them both!!
OK. That was too funny!
Its Joeysworld
I feel like I revealed too much of my "you better be nice to my friends" side of my personality.
HaHa. I'm right there with you!
"Should we find a creepy ally to take pictures at?" "No we did that yester... " 😂😂😂😂😂😂
thanks for taking us with you! Congrats again!!! 🎉
I would be upset too, that food doesn't look great.
I love your channel . You are doing such a good job with your family! Big hug from Sweden 😊
I haven’t watched this yet but I’m SO DAMN DISAPPOINTED in TSA Cares with your experiences. I’ve only used it twice but it’s been good in our experience. I’m sure it comes down to the place, team, and individual TSA agents but MAN I’m so sad and angry to see the title. I’ll watch when I get home. So freakin’ sorry you guys. 😨
She downed that water 😮 I’m so impressed. My mouth dropped to the floor.
6:47. I can feel the frustration. You want to ask: "What's bothering you"? And she can't answer.
As long as TSA pays attention to constructive criticism, it will pay off for others!
Who knows what she hears and sees.. you have a very special girl on your hands ...
Love your channel and sweet Abby. I am binge watching your videos. Love from Iceland.
Watching this today makes me see how far Abbie has come! You are amazing with her but its so sad to watch her struggle! x
Huge congratulations on winning a shorty award. This is an amazing time for all of you. I always believed you would win xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 😍
I’m so pissed about the TSA issue. They don’t know? WHAT THE HELL! Serious training issue with corporate - everyone should contact them to make sure it’s KNOWN.
I lost it when she chugged her whole water, her face was like “WHEW”