Out of her 9 children, 7 are "not normal"

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  • Опубліковано 29 жов 2024
  • Meet the toughest mother in Singapore! With every piece of news received, it hurts Tahirah to know that 7 out of her 9 children are unlike any "normal" kids.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 244

  • @queuepls
    @queuepls 3 роки тому +29

    Autism is more common than we think. A very brave mum, I wish her family happiness and strength!

  • @Deadlyroll
    @Deadlyroll 3 роки тому +124

    If its 7 out of 9 there is a high chance it could be linked to genetics.. It's too late now but they should have gone for genetic tests to ensure there's no mutations that could possibly be inherited by the child.

    • @SY-bz7zr
      @SY-bz7zr 3 роки тому

      Does it mean that autism can be tested during pregnancy?

    • @Deadlyroll
      @Deadlyroll 3 роки тому +16

      @@SY-bz7zr not sure if it's available in Singapore, but definitely possible as technology already exist. PGT for ASD can be done in the United States.
      Alternatively parents can test for any gene mutations in their own genome that might be passed down.

    • @lilacspring2556
      @lilacspring2556 3 роки тому +2

      I don’t think people are sure what the genes for autism are

    • @zeelynne
      @zeelynne 3 роки тому +2

      Not everyone can afford having genetic tests done..

    • @Deadlyroll
      @Deadlyroll 3 роки тому +1

      @@lilacspring2556 while the technology is far from being mature, actually multiple gene mutations have been identified.

  • @Pebblesjebbles7777
    @Pebblesjebbles7777 3 роки тому +29

    Thank you for taking good care of your kids. You are a great mother and people here shouldn’t be quick to judge because we do NOT know their full story and who they are. We all cannot assume and judge quickly. All i can see are the sacrifices of a mother in ensuring the well-being of her 9 innocent and lovely kids…and that’s no easy task! What matters is that they are happy as a family❤️

  • @call2872
    @call2872 3 роки тому +43

    She must have a very supportive husband. Raising 9 kids with special needs is not easy for the parents.

  • @aceace9397
    @aceace9397 3 роки тому +66

    I'm a special needs educator myself, and I must tell you I love my students so much and they are special in their way. Please know that sometimes the people out there does not know this condition, so you can start to educate or advocate the people who are close around you first... May God ease ur affair. ❤🌹

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +4

      Ameen. I appreciate your kind prayer. Thank you. Yes, I have. I am a special needs parent advocate since 2008 and mental health parent advocate since 2016. 10 years and more. I am doing volunteering in advocacy coz I believe in paying it forward. 🌻🌻🌻

    • @aceace9397
      @aceace9397 3 роки тому +1

      @@NiBenDan alhamdulilah! Anyway whats ur email? I can share some strategies to help manage behaviour too. And also don't be bothered by some negative comments from others ok.

  • @leahf.batocabe5497
    @leahf.batocabe5497 2 роки тому +4

    Only a mother with special need child can truly emphatise with a fellow mother with the same child. You don't know the pain and the agonies of they went and going trough. So for those of you parents who have a normal children, do not judge! The best thing you can teach with your children is for them to be kind and respectful! I am a mother of a child with autism, but i love him very much for who he is. He has taught me a lot of valuable lessons in life that changed me totally. My son is a double blessing for us and i know deep in my heart that God has a wonderful plan for his life!!!

  • @mandasantoso
    @mandasantoso 3 роки тому +34

    Wow, 9 children! And they're keep going even after two of their children is diagnosed! Maybe, just maybe, isn't it better to stop at two, maybe three?

  • @jaclee3594
    @jaclee3594 3 роки тому +22

    Dear Tahirah, my heart goes out to you, I too have a special needs child and I can understand your struggles. Stay strong! You are an amazing woman!

  • @isaemann8638
    @isaemann8638 2 роки тому +6

    Dear Tahirah, You are a very smart woman who educates yourself on how to take care of all your 9 kids and especially your 7 special needs children. You are also very wise to keep yourself mentally healthy in order to be able to take care of them by having some time for yourself and to take walks in the park for a break! 👍👏🙌. This is very important! You put into practice what you learnt from the books. That’s good! You are indeed a very strong person! For others, as I have read from their comments, if they were you, they would have landed themselves into mental institutions! They are judgmental & critical! If only they would empathize and be good SG citizens by giving you some help like taking one of your kids out in order to give you some respite eh? Less talk and do more charitable work for the community and country eh? That would make SG a great loving nation!

  • @Steffyduffyy
    @Steffyduffyy 3 роки тому +14

    What a strong mum … so eloquent and well spoken. Im sure your strength will be passed onto your children. Thanks for being such a motivation!

  • @tanchye1720
    @tanchye1720 3 роки тому +44

    Wow! 😳
    9 children. Supporting 2 in Singapore is liken to a 20 kilometres run. 🥵
    All the best to you and your happy family. 🙏💕

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +3

      Thank u 💕🙏

    • @akhil5960
      @akhil5960 3 роки тому

      Hahaha true. But some people are angel 😇

  • @grassshoots7474
    @grassshoots7474 3 роки тому +20

    She is awesome as a parent. But can somebody hightlight the awareness on genetic predisposition?? Families with such cases should really be counselled medically or religiously that it is not "being kind or successful" if you have that many special needs children. It clearly shows that there is genetic flaws and it arises to societal issues when these children grow older. Who is taking care of them when the parents are not around anymore? Imagine half the population acts like this, our world will be in danger. It's not about kindness anymore, it's about bringing suffering to these children. Please, Tahirah and hubby. You can help to educate besides teaching parents on coping with sped children. Do educate them in smart family planning. Having more children does not mean you are a successful woman. Not when 7 out of 9 are special needs. Wish you well..

    • @grassshoots7474
      @grassshoots7474 3 роки тому +7

      Yet, this is a controversial issue that nobody dares to talk about. There are so many cases of such due to poor and ignorant family planning. Or "God's gift". It's not a gift for moderate/severe ASD kids to be forced to fit into the society. They do not enjoy this.. it's not their gift. It's their suffering.. Please educate.

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +2

      @@grassshoots7474 i have commented about it but got shot down by her

    • @yxinz
      @yxinz 2 роки тому +2

      Cause she said ‘Why us again?’. Hmm genetics sis… then again I applaud her for caring for so many kids. I have one and I’m alrdy exhausted.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 2 роки тому

      @@xxs0ulxx1 as much as you have the freedom to comment, so do I. If there is no story of mine, you won't be here on this platform.

  • @wowShane-r9s
    @wowShane-r9s 3 роки тому +67

    Knowing that your first child a special child was enough for you to reconsider your birth plan given the genetic predisposition of conceiving special child. While having 9 children is a matter of personal choice.

    • @zaintonputeh8475
      @zaintonputeh8475 3 роки тому +28

      This is lack of responsibility. Give birth is easy to bring them up is difficult.

    • @wowShane-r9s
      @wowShane-r9s 3 роки тому +19

      @@zaintonputeh8475 There are people who religiously believe child is a gift from God. It's not big deal to giving birth to many children, as long as you are mentally prepared for possible complications of how you gonna deal with a special child and make sure that you don't complain. If you're happy to do so, then it's fine. Unfortunately, most prospective parents rarely take this into consideration.

    • @archangel323118
      @archangel323118 3 роки тому +24

      @@wowShane-r9s If you are happy, that's one thing. But what about the children's happiness? Are you able to provide a good quality of life to your children? 9 is just way too many in today's world. It's not just about the parent's happiness but the child's and his/her future as well. This is just bad family planning, no matter how much you sugarcoat it.

    • @wowShane-r9s
      @wowShane-r9s 3 роки тому +4

      @@archangel323118 well, that's why I personally do not plan neither to get married, nor having a child. Coz, I negatively believe that children were born to the world to suffer. But that's merely one of the perspectives of looking things. In fact, People think differently.

    • @teresakow423
      @teresakow423 3 роки тому +8

      I guess it is their belief in their God.
      So don't judge them. They have the confidence that their children will turn out fine. The Society we live in must include them in our lives. God created us stronger so that we can help the weaker ones.

  • @Jasmine-uo2fy
    @Jasmine-uo2fy 3 роки тому +7

    They look normal. Don't worry. Mild cases won't be effect. Iam not an autism adult, but I was being a mild mentally challenged because of family and education pressure. Now I'm curing. I'm great. I can do anything.Cruscumtence may be effect.

  • @maryj4876
    @maryj4876 3 роки тому +5

    I have 2 autistic nephews and 1 DS. All of them are from my 2 cousins. The 1st autistic, very sociable likes fun and active but hard to follow to any instruction. The 2nd autistic doesn't like noise and overwhelmed when we so many people sorrounds him. But he's a follower, likes to be alone and can follow instruction. The DS is very sociable and sweet, he's still small at 2yrs old. I noticed that he is slow in his development. We love them all, in the family. They have disabilities but we treat them normal. 🙏❤️

  • @cantabileloves
    @cantabileloves 3 роки тому +19

    Seems like there's a high chance it's genetics. I'm in awe at the parents' love and courage for their children.

  • @michellesoo3106
    @michellesoo3106 3 роки тому +14

    Puan Tahirah, you are very eloquent and a very strong woman ! Salute to you ! Simply amazing mother

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      My family is my greatest support. I am truly blessed to have them. Your kind and thoughtful words are reliefs for me. Thank you so much, Michelle Soo. Bless your beautiful heart. 🌹🌹🌹

  • @Ni-gf1tk
    @Ni-gf1tk 3 роки тому +4

    i have so many things to say but who am i to judge. what a strong woman. praying for the highest level of heaven for this kind of superparents

  • @feliciachong5166
    @feliciachong5166 3 роки тому +14

    Wow 9 children, how did they managed financially? It’s so expensive to raise a child in sg

  • @yiling9874
    @yiling9874 3 роки тому +2

    Great respect from a mother who also have a special needs severely autistic child here. My boy was diagnosed since his age of 2.... he is verbal and creative with his toys, and has a very good memory to count from 1 to 100... but lacking a lot on social skills. So far my family is very proud of his progress after going through sessions of early intervention. God is fair to us to gift us a healthy and smart baby. We can do it 💪 🙌

  • @lisasavourey3621
    @lisasavourey3621 3 роки тому +12

    What a brave and strong woman you are! Your children are blessed to have you as a mum ❣️

  • @noriyatonyunos4042
    @noriyatonyunos4042 3 роки тому +10

    i am awed! You have my full respect Mdm. May you be blessed with all the good deeds you and your husband have done. May children be safe and healthy always. Take care🌻

  • @onghc5892
    @onghc5892 3 роки тому +25

    I really respect you, mdm. You are a very great, noble and brave woman and also a very great mother for all the sacrifices you made for your children. Wish you and your husband and all your children all the best!!!!

    • @zaintonputeh8475
      @zaintonputeh8475 3 роки тому +11

      U already know that u have disabled child n u go on having more n more instead of concentrating on the fewso that u can put more effort on the few but u keep on having more. Why give birth to so many.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for your kind prayer. I truly appreciate u making the time to write motivating words for a stranger like me. You are a gem. 🌻🌻🌻

    • @cje2698
      @cje2698 3 роки тому +2

      @@zaintonputeh8475 you sound ridiculous. how can one even know that their child would have special needs before even actually giving birth to them? stop shaming others for something they can't control

  • @marsitatulus4205
    @marsitatulus4205 3 роки тому +7

    Be strong..Thahirah 😊😊😊…ALLAH WITH YOU 💐💐💐

  • @claypu8243
    @claypu8243 3 роки тому +7

    Actually all the disorders that are stated in the video are getting more common in society these days, because people start to acknowledge these disorders instead of being ignorant and shut themselves off when it comes to their children being a "special need"

  • @margaretlim7385
    @margaretlim7385 3 роки тому +20

    To keep on having "not normal" childeen, 9 children even normal, are too many in this over populated planet. Are you able to care for them now and their future, emotional and financial.

    • @oooo3955
      @oooo3955 3 роки тому +1

      My friend had only 2 young children...but still can't afford to raised them well as he actually died young when both his children at pre and primary school.
      GOD knows best...

    • @felixc914
      @felixc914 2 роки тому +2

      Should do a couple health check before marriage. In your case, you should do a check after yr 2nd children. Question how, are your children going to have their children?

    • @yummymellon4058
      @yummymellon4058 2 роки тому +1

      @@felixc914 indeed I think it is better for them to do some genetic diagnosis and compatibility for both

    • @isaemann8638
      @isaemann8638 2 роки тому

      @ Margaret Lim - please do not call these kids “not normal” children. That’s politically incorrect. They are normal & healthy but they have special needs. Therefore they are the special needs children. Terming them “not normal” is like labelling them as lunatics!

  • @jeffreyphan1
    @jeffreyphan1 3 роки тому +13

    We human should be mindful about our own ego, lower it and always think of other parties before making judgements.

    • @rozzaadam7379
      @rozzaadam7379 3 роки тому

      Totally agreed with you Sir… as the saying goes .. it’s easier to say than done ..

  • @thingsihyin4872
    @thingsihyin4872 3 роки тому +7

    Is your spouse your first cousin ?

  • @abdulrajaf6
    @abdulrajaf6 3 роки тому +6

    Alhamdulilah..Sis Tahirah...May ALLAH SWT...Bless you n your.Family...Strength to endure this Temporary Life.Respect for you..coz u NEVER RUN from any Situation..You r STRONG..Keep DOA..for Muslim..that will make US even Stronger..Stay Safe bring your Kids the BEST YOU Can..They r YOUR GREATEST ASSETS in Life..Not Money or FAME..(I'M X S'POREAN..)..listen to your words MAKE ME appreciate what i have TODAY...(kirim salam to your Husband..ok..)..

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      MasyaAllah. Thank u so much kind Sir. Your generous words made my and my husband's day. May Allah continue to bless you and your family with His blessings and mercy. Take care & be safe. 🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @happyleaf9635
    @happyleaf9635 3 роки тому +10

    out of topic but....she look soooo young at age 44?!

  • @IndraLeimer
    @IndraLeimer 3 роки тому +1

    My son's friend in kindergarten here in Austria has special needs but im lucky because my son treat his special needs friend as his best friend. And here In Austria specially in my son's group the kindergarten mixed between normal kids and special needs kids , and the parents yet never had any complain

  • @sweetpopcorn1
    @sweetpopcorn1 3 роки тому +3

    What a strong mummy, supportive dad and a lovely family. All the very best to them!

  • @fauziahahmad106
    @fauziahahmad106 3 роки тому +7

    I myself mother to special need child ( aspergers syndrome ) my son love to make friends, but since childrens of his same age didnt understand him, they ignored him. Tq for this video, inspiring to parents of special need child.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      You and your son are not alone. Pls know that 💕 Are u based in Singapore? If you are, add me in fb of e same name. Introduce yourself so I know it's you. Take care 🌹🌹🌹

    • @fauziahahmad106
      @fauziahahmad106 3 роки тому

      Salam sis. Im based in Malaysia .

  • @SubZero-qi9hk
    @SubZero-qi9hk 3 роки тому +1

    In this Era,9 Children. I'm The 9th Child in My Siblings. But that was in 1969 Living in Goverment Quaters & Kampong Era.

  • @hudajalil6803
    @hudajalil6803 3 роки тому +16

    Wow...I always thought me having 3 special need boys were very challenging on top of it I was diagnosed with chronic illness have suffered the most. But after watching this, Im not alone facing this issue..

    • @shye8477
      @shye8477 3 роки тому +1

      stay strong !

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +5

      Salaam sis. May your affairs be eased and good health restored. Ameen. You may reach out to me. My socmed handles are of my name. Special needs parents need support. InshaaAllah, I can be your support. Take care 🌹🌹🌹

    • @dummyphon7038
      @dummyphon7038 2 роки тому

      Hang in there stay strong mama

  • @PeterLeo-m6w
    @PeterLeo-m6w 3 місяці тому

    May God bless the family, these children are gift from above, entrusted into these couple care, God knows why, we shud not judge them, be nice, considerate n understanding, ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @MsLilac88
    @MsLilac88 3 роки тому +3

    You are a determined & wonderful mother. 😊

  • @therunningpianist
    @therunningpianist 3 роки тому +21

    The irresponsibility is galling. Clearly there is some form of recessive genetic traits being expressed here with the parents and yet they continued to pump more out. Innocent children have to go through lots more difficulties in life once the parents are gone.

    • @grassshoots7474
      @grassshoots7474 3 роки тому +5

      Yes. It is very controversial but adults should be educated and counselled on their future kids. These children are going to be societal problems because these parents think it is love or gift from religion God. It is truly irresponsible and bad planning. I hope they can come out and educate others on genetic disorders. Tahirah, you are not a bad parent. You are one awesome parent. But you need to step out and educate to many other families that they shouldn't reproduce if several siblings are with ASD or GDD or special needs. There is scientific evidence in this. It's plain ignorance which leads to "irresponsibility". Who is going to take care of these adults when the parents are gone?? Imagine half the population does the same. It's not so easy

  • @sufianmaroni378
    @sufianmaroni378 3 роки тому +7

    respect this lady so much because...... not many parents first thing thinking of early assessment to understand the child. Its hard, and the struggle is real, and she did well. :)

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Alhamdulillah. My family is my best support system. Thank u very much for your generous words. 🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @limcherie63
    @limcherie63 3 роки тому +4

    You are a strong, positive and incredible mum❤️
    God bless you and your family.

  • @conanabang1515
    @conanabang1515 3 роки тому +28

    9 children and 7 has some kind of problems with them..the way she talked about the issue she faced and faces at the moment show tough this lady is. Some people can't deal with one or two normal child/children and this lady has to deal with 9 ! Kudo to this lady !

    • @shaptic95
      @shaptic95 3 роки тому +13

      Unpopular opinion: I hope she has the financial capacity to bring up 9 kids, and I agree that she is a strong-willed woman. Otherwise, the kids will have lesser resources to compete in life IMO.

    • @conanabang1515
      @conanabang1515 3 роки тому +8

      @@shaptic95 I don't think anyone is stupid enough to point out your comment as unpopular..your comment brought out legitimate question as how a family can afford to have 9 children when most people these days do not even want to have children.

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +13

      @@shaptic95 do they look like they have the financial means to provide for 9 kids? Are they living in a bungalow?
      It’s families like them that perpetuate the poverty cycle. End up if they can’t afford the burden shifts to the state.

    • @aceace9397
      @aceace9397 3 роки тому +6

      @@xxs0ulxx1 Does living in a bungalow means rich? U can live in a HDB flat and still be rich. Rich doesn't equate to money solely, if u r rich but have lack empathy towards others, then booyah. Anw good luck to ur generations, U must experience then u will understand. Right now u r only judging and lack of empathy towards others.

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +1

      @@aceace9397 i dont need to experience cos my kids are normal. i married someone not closely related to me to decrease my chances of having genetically abnormal children. i spread my time and money among my kids to ensure they get the best chance of reaching their full potential and not be a burden to society. i have good family planning to ensure this.

  • @yummymellon4058
    @yummymellon4058 2 роки тому +1

    I think it's better for her and her husband to get a genetic diagnosis and compatibility to predict and see whether either one or theirs combine might resulted in any misorder.

  • @andrewie4
    @andrewie4 2 роки тому

    She is super woman!! Omg. I wish to meet u n thank u for your great SVC to your kids. They shld be v v proud of u

  • @jimmyoh1982
    @jimmyoh1982 3 роки тому +10

    The cost of the living very high.. Wish you all the best for your family and you, sister..

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      Thank u so much, Sir 🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @wenwuipu5831
    @wenwuipu5831 3 роки тому +6

    is this woman in the special needs teaching career? because she is more than qualified to be in this career path, but for now she has her hands full...bless you and stay strong...

  • @dwichiesa
    @dwichiesa 3 роки тому +6

    9 children. To be saluted! Can she do day in the life video?

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +2

      Thank u so much for the honour. I can't make the time for it, just yet. 🤓 But you surely can add me in popular socmed handles of the same name. See ya 👋

    • @jgd777
      @jgd777 2 роки тому

      @@NiBenDan
      I am severely depressed+ lonely
      No children
      I cannot hold on to job for long
      Never sought medical treatment
      Because I have to take medication
      Medicine=Drugs
      What is your advice

  • @angxiang3186
    @angxiang3186 3 роки тому +4

    Incomprehensible to have 9 children and 7 have special needs.
    I m in awe for your courage, determination n perseverance.
    Bless you to have abundance strengths and good fortunes and blessings for you and your family.

  • @thebugbud
    @thebugbud 3 роки тому +20

    Amazing mother. Definitely not easy

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful words 🌻🌻🌻🙏

  • @asyranaqid644
    @asyranaqid644 3 роки тому +22

    You Ma’am deserve the world’s best parent award!

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Thank u 🙏🌻🌻🌻

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +2

      @@xxs0ulxx1 worst family planner? According to whose standard? You? No way I am using your standard. You are wayyyy too much of a keyboard trasher.

    • @asyranaqid644
      @asyranaqid644 3 роки тому

      @@xxs0ulxx1 stfu it’s a blessing to have many kids, pretty sure your kid’s aint gonna take care of you when you’re old, assuming you’ll have any HAHAHA

    • @celestialstar124
      @celestialstar124 3 роки тому +3

      @@asyranaqid644 it's a blessing to have many kids only if the kids are happy and healthy.
      With more kids a parent's attention have to share. For SN child they need more attention so it's tiring for the parents but may not be most beneficial for the kids.
      I hope they stop at 9 and try to give the 9 kids their best.
      When patents pass away or kena accident. How the remaining single parent or the normal kids going to raise the siblings? Have to make many considerations before giving birth if we want to provide the best to our kids.
      With too many kids, will the couple even have enough time for themselves?

    • @asyranaqid644
      @asyranaqid644 3 роки тому +1

      @@celestialstar124 I do agree with your views because it’s logical. But they seem to be doing alright so I wish nothing but the best for them. Cheers dude

  • @desmondcheah2930
    @desmondcheah2930 3 роки тому +7

    You are such a strong woman & great mother 👍🏻

  • @maureenackerley8024
    @maureenackerley8024 3 роки тому +15

    What an amazing mother! 👏 ❤

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words Maureen. 🙏🌹🌹🌹

    • @maureenackerley8024
      @maureenackerley8024 3 роки тому +1

      @@NiBenDan if you lived here in Australia I would nominated you for "Mother of the Year". I have the utmost respect for you. 👏❤❤❤

  • @inc.kitten2175
    @inc.kitten2175 3 роки тому +3

    May happiness, joy and complete satisfaction fill your homes and heart. He who has so much love to give, must have the biggest heart! May the love you give be returned to you tenfold!

  • @stephanielim9908
    @stephanielim9908 3 роки тому +2

    Great mother! I have a child with ADHD & I am already stress out.

  • @Zailah0201
    @Zailah0201 2 роки тому

    May God give both parents the strength...bless this couple god please 😪😪
    Is there a way I can meet them and pass donations?

  • @skybright9447
    @skybright9447 3 роки тому +8

    As someone with autism I'm sad to see and read some of the comments on this video, but yet again, i knew a video like this would have these comments. This is why i never tell anyone about my diagnoses. We are people too and can live perfectly "normal" lives when given the tools and space to live like we want to. Let me just reiterate that "normal" is subjective. Just because we may not be like everyone else or behave differently than the majority does not make us aliens! Having an autistic child is not the end of the world for you or your child. It is not a defect caused by vaccines or "inbreeding" or whatever weird conspiracies people believe in. I'm not hating on the women in this video at all, she seems like a very strong women who will stand up for her children. However the title of this video is ill put. I also find it disheartening that there are 101 video online about parents or carers of autistic children but very few videos on large platforms about actual individuals with autism. And if they are, they are on the very lower end of the spectrum, further feeding into the idea that autism is only viable when in a wheelchair and being non verbal! It is a spectrum for a reason. Maybe there are videos uploaded by individuals themselves trying to dissolve stereotypes but never on large platforms. We are still thought to be the defect of society. I know first hand what it felt like to have my mums "world come crashing down'" when she discovered that her daughter wasnt like other peoples. It hurt knowing that i was seen as a defect. And it wasnt even intentionally! My mother loves me as i do her but she was still distraught by the diagnosis as if i had been diagnosed with cancer! Autism can be a struggle. It is not the "special" super power people want to project in order to seem like they care. But it is also not a terminal life debilitating diagnosis. It cam be the diagnosis that cam save your child's future by allowing them to understand why they behave the way they do, that there are other like them and that they can now discover what tools and strategies they cam implement to live a happy and fullfilled life. Im all for praising parents and those who have raised us growing up as they went through alot giving us a future, however when the ones taking "care" are getting more attention then the one who actually is in difficulty a problem arrises. To the woman who is in this video, keep your head up, ignore the ignorant comments of others and dont be heartbroken your kids are different but embrace it! Good luck :)
    Also, to those who are saying "why have so many children then?"
    Are those with autism not deserving of a chance to live a life? Is this world only reserved for those who are deemed "normal" by societies standards? Are we so 'defected'that we need to be breed out of existence? You should all be sickened by your use of words, i just hope that the world can improve and we can learn to love each other regardless of what happens. A parent's love is supposed to be eternal. You dont only love your child i they turn out "Normal". You love them regardless!

    • @hamidahahmad574
      @hamidahahmad574 3 роки тому

      I understand your sentiments however people suffering from cancer are normal too ….

  • @akshobramkumar5993
    @akshobramkumar5993 3 роки тому +4

    One of her son is from our school. He is a good dude

  • @ambareenkausar6905
    @ambareenkausar6905 2 роки тому +1

    MashaAllah. May Allah ST bless your family with Aafiya.

  • @loganathanranggasamy1643
    @loganathanranggasamy1643 2 роки тому

    My heart 💓 pain full for the children 🥺.may God 🙏🏻 blessings to you and me ❤️❤️👍 praying for your information 😊💪💪 thanks giving Google bye 👌 bye ❤️

  • @Dyqanas
    @Dyqanas 3 роки тому +1

    I have a 4 year old son with a special needs as well. It's really a heartbreaking news when the doctor said that my son might have Autism due to late speech. He's unable to control his emotions at times. After a year going through intervention programme,he did improve on his speech. Watching this video gives me strength to give my all to my son. Thank you🙏🏼

  • @rusimiemy1502
    @rusimiemy1502 3 роки тому +4

    You are a great mother ❤️
    And your childrens are great too 💖

  • @nellyyeo707
    @nellyyeo707 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you very much for sharing! My son is also autistic. I learn so much more from you than from any meeting or book. Your husband and you are simply amazing!

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Hi 👋 pleasure to meet u, Nelly Yeo. you can reach out to me. We special needs parents need the support from like-minded ppl. Take care 🌹🌹🌹

  • @loganathanranggasamy1643
    @loganathanranggasamy1643 2 роки тому

    Singapore good education I'm not well understood English language Malay language outdoor not well understood sorry can't help I'm praying for your children 🥺💘💖

  • @bharathdeva9407
    @bharathdeva9407 3 роки тому +2

    great and strong mother 💪💪💪

  • @krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893
    @krisnanstravelvlogscomings3893 3 роки тому +7

    You are a strong woman more importantly a strong mother

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Thank u so much 🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @jaijai-py2md
    @jaijai-py2md 3 роки тому +2

    It's God's decision.. Don't stress much.. Do what u can and pray.. ask him to guide u and give u strength to carry on.. God bless

  • @alukardFE
    @alukardFE 3 роки тому +36

    Wait... Why would you continue having kids :/

    • @tanyaozify6710
      @tanyaozify6710 3 роки тому +24

      Precisely!!!!!!!!!!! If one kid got prob... Stop having kids!! Omg.

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +13

      Lack of education and strong faith

    • @Urmybestfren313
      @Urmybestfren313 3 роки тому +6

      It doesn't mean having a first child w special needs meant tht the second will. I'm pretty sure she didn't expect majority of them having special needs. But still it's a blessing that she's still being strong despite the hurdles. Pls la be nice

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +22

      @@Urmybestfren313 even if i accept that, by the 3rd and 4th she didnt see a pattern? her lack of education and failure to understand genetics has burdened not only herself but her 7 special needs children.

    • @tanyaozify6710
      @tanyaozify6710 3 роки тому +18

      Then using taxpayers money to help to fund for her kids.. thats irresponsible...

  • @distortdude80
    @distortdude80 3 роки тому +1

    What is normal and not normal?? This is discrimination.

  • @Дэни-д6ю
    @Дэни-д6ю 3 роки тому +6

    Aspire to be like this woman.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +2

      I appreciate you seeing the positivities in my story. Thank u so much 🌻🌻🌻

    • @RinnieButterfly
      @RinnieButterfly Рік тому

      ​@@NiBenDanma'am, thank you for sharing your story.
      It made me cry so hard.
      Esp when you mentioned how your children try live and cope normally with the outside world.
      Please deliver my salamm to your husband, and all your nine children.
      I am deeply enlightened to meet more amazing people like you.
      Sincerely, rin.

  • @ganissweet774
    @ganissweet774 3 роки тому

    She is look young for being mother of nine !!

    • @bchpls24
      @bchpls24 3 роки тому

      have one every 1-2 year

  • @moonstars6279
    @moonstars6279 3 роки тому +3

    This story will help those to learn ftom here. One us easy yo take care a d afford with but more would be a suffering for whole family. God bless

  • @celestialstar124
    @celestialstar124 3 роки тому +18

    Are they able to afford raising 9 children by themselves without any fund or aids from organisations?
    If they can self support then they can have as much children as they like.
    But if they cannot self fully support their own 9 kids then please stop making more kids because 7 out of 9 are not normal. It's selfish of the couple to continue to create more unhealthy babies and expecting the society to help raise their abnormal amount of children.
    Every single human doesn't live alone and have to interact to survive with day to day chores. So each human can affect many other human. People who care for them or interact with them.

    • @zhenmeiheng4917
      @zhenmeiheng4917 3 роки тому +4

      It’s too late to say these now why not give some encouraging words to the parents rather than judging? Knowing that they might see your comment….

    • @celestialstar124
      @celestialstar124 3 роки тому +7

      @@zhenmeiheng4917 so you think she should continue to make number 10th, 11th and 12th unhealthy kids?
      Too late after you got rapped then will you encourage your rappist too?
      There are people who doesn't use their brains on their own. Only after someone provided them with reminder then these people will realise facts in life.
      Just like those people on carousel trying to buy a $3 stuff and expecting you to deliver from boon lay to sengkang mrt Station. If you didn't remind them they won't realise anything wrong because they don't use their brains.

    • @archangel323118
      @archangel323118 3 роки тому +11

      @@zhenmeiheng4917 As much as his comment was harsh, it IS a valid point. It's never too late to say such words. Maybe too late for this brave and strong mother, but it's still an important message for the young parents/singles out there.

    • @zhenmeiheng4917
      @zhenmeiheng4917 3 роки тому +1

      @@celestialstar124 I’m not saying I agreed on what she did but it is too late to judge and criticise on her now..she is now in a difficult situation so why not say some encouraging words so that those who r suffering could move forward? If I were in her situation I would hope that someone could provide some encouraging words or valid tips to move forward and continue my life rather than spreading negativity… you thought she never know this is wrong? Be considerate…

    • @celestialstar124
      @celestialstar124 3 роки тому +7

      @@zhenmeiheng4917 there are plenty of people giving her encouragement including you so u think she still needs mine?
      So if your child or spouse made a mistake then you only use encouragement they will 100% change?
      Like this need police or go court meh? It's not too late if she still want to try to make the 10th baby u know?
      You should learn to respect other people sharing their own opinions and not demanding everyone to say what you like.
      If nobody wake her up, she may not realise facts. It's your constantly complaining to my comment making me reply back you that hurt her more.
      So maybe you should be the one reconsider instead

  • @aceace9397
    @aceace9397 3 роки тому +7

    Tough lady! May God ease ur affairs

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      Ameen. Thank u so much 🌹🌹🌹

  • @jeny7177
    @jeny7177 3 роки тому +13

    If one really loves children, 2 or 3 shd be sufficient! Don’t hv to repeat parent’s generation of having so many

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      My parents don't even have so many children. Your comment is subjective. You shouldn't generalise things.

    • @jeny7177
      @jeny7177 3 роки тому +3

      @@NiBenDan cos earlier generations did hv many children.., yours perhaps is a small exception

  • @mayuboeb
    @mayuboeb 3 роки тому +1

    wa when was the last time they dined out as a family man... i hope the restrictions clear soon so Tahirah and her family can have quality bonding times outside their home

    • @crystalcai6314
      @crystalcai6314 3 роки тому +1

      Even if restrictions are lifted, it will be long while before 10 can dine together

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +2

      Thank u so much. Your comment is so kind. We still bring our kids out for dining in rotation. 2 parents with 2 kids each time although separated over 2 tables. We make things work. Most importantly, the family bonding still continues.

  • @xxs0ulxx1
    @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +56

    any close familial relationship between you and your husband? inbreeding may lead to higher risk of genetic disorders.
    why keep having children if your previous ones are special needs? pls have some family planning.

    • @syvvnnee
      @syvvnnee 3 роки тому +10

      thats so insensitive i think you should keep your opinions to yourself

    • @DeStinAr0
      @DeStinAr0 3 роки тому +13

      Yes thats pretty insensitive.
      Although there is some truth in what u said but the way u put it is pretty rude , be more nicer to other ppl man… 🙏🏻

    • @aogoh
      @aogoh 3 роки тому +26

      Is not insensitive but is a fact, why ignore the elephant in the room.
      The evidence is not a mistery..
      ..
      ua-cam.com/video/kyNP3s5mxI8/v-deo.html

    • @xxs0ulxx1
      @xxs0ulxx1 3 роки тому +16

      @@aogoh precisely. It has been known for centuries even before genetics was developed that brother-sister or cousins offspring produce a higher incidence of genetic abnormalities like autism.
      The fact that this lady has so many abnormal children may lead to the possibility that her husband may be closely genetically related to her

    • @socheezy3407
      @socheezy3407 3 роки тому +5

      There are people who had family planning for years and saves alot of money before going for a child but end up they cant get a child. You seemed to forget that we are not the ones who knows our future. Try to be sensitive and understanding before it comes to your turn.

  • @nursyazana865
    @nursyazana865 3 роки тому +1

    You are amazing!

  • @qiteindashenggreatsage3621
    @qiteindashenggreatsage3621 3 роки тому +5

    Bless you and your family

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +1

      Thank u so much 🙏🌻🌻🌻

  • @mikey6538
    @mikey6538 3 роки тому +4

    7 children... as long as you happy... but

    • @chantalmonique2353
      @chantalmonique2353 3 роки тому +2

      9 kids....

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      You can say it. I will reply back to u.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      @@chantalmonique2353 yes, 9 kids. Kind of a cliffhanger comment. Continue your thoughts here.

    • @vennsim71
      @vennsim71 3 роки тому +2

      @@NiBenDan don’t have to get them to talk. Everyone undoubtedly will have different opinions and thoughts, some mild some wild.
      Kids are already a fact, so focus should be the quality of life as of now, equipping them with the necessary education as well as life skills. Ensuring that they will thread their paths well into their own futures.
      Pretty sure financially you guys are good, to go on to having 9 kids. Let the talkers talk, lead your life and your kids lives the best possible way. Cheers

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому

      @@vennsim71 Hi Venn 👋 thank u so much for making time to reply to me. Appreciate your wise words. That's positive parenting right there. Take care & be safe 🙏🌹🌹🌹

  • @angietan77
    @angietan77 3 роки тому +5

    They must really love children so much or have lots of faith to have so many children, despite already having one special needs child as these things can be genetic... It is not easy, I have one too and that's only one, I can't imagine for her... I have a friend who yearns to have a second child but is so worried to have one more because she already has too much on her hands with one SN child... So with that said, they are really brave! 👏

  • @joannakoh7971
    @joannakoh7971 3 роки тому +5

    Why do you need to have so many children?

    • @Deadlyroll
      @Deadlyroll 3 роки тому +1

      My friend whose family shares her faith told me some of them have this belief the younger they have children and the more they have, they can retire earlier to have the kids take care of them.

    • @ringofsolomon268
      @ringofsolomon268 2 роки тому +2

      The 'banyak anak banyak rezeki' concept.

  • @thatone8085
    @thatone8085 3 роки тому +5

    Really , it's too many for a family. Imagine having 9 pairs of shoes , clothes and next time handphone , 90 satays with 30 small rice & maybe being young ,they are still hungry and dare not say. Everything will not be enough while they are growing up. Maybe when you were younger you did not think of the consequences & 15 years later, it can be good or also more suffering. In your present situation you may have forgotten about your compassion for others in society who also need your help. Wish you good luck.

    • @NiBenDan
      @NiBenDan 3 роки тому +6

      Who are you, man to say I never help the society? My kids are not menace to the community. I have been advocating about asd, adhd, gdd and ocd since 2008. I am still volunteering as a special needs parent advocate as and when a mainstream or sped schools, charity organisations or a SN parent support group need my help. My advice to you now and for the future, keep your thoughts if they are unkind. You clearly never thought about my children's feelings who are still minors.

  • @yukiefromoz2573
    @yukiefromoz2573 3 роки тому +1

    Obviously must be something in the genes.

  • @macrick
    @macrick 2 роки тому

    Hate to say this, but after the 2nd child. they should have stop trying.

  • @oceanicmermaid
    @oceanicmermaid 2 роки тому

    9 children Oh my dear Lord she is amazing

  • @grz4694
    @grz4694 3 роки тому +4

    1 dollar 9 tries

  • @yusufm2455
    @yusufm2455 3 роки тому +2

    Anak syurga.. insyaallah tempat kakak Dan suami terjamin di syurga di akhirat kelak..

  • @jingyun4323
    @jingyun4323 3 роки тому +3

    She looks so young. I thought she was in her 20's.

  • @teresachinoitshu8408
    @teresachinoitshu8408 3 роки тому

    Mdm, Easecox pure essential oil have helped other children of special needs. There is nother product that might help and not so expensive!!
    Should you choose to use the essential oils, please ensure they are PURE and of MEDICAL grade... adulterated ones will do more harm

  • @mrjumaatsamian
    @mrjumaatsamian 2 роки тому

    Kalaw nanti meniggal mereka akan terus ke Syurga

  • @akhil5960
    @akhil5960 3 роки тому +1

    Very powerful 👏

  • @MG-qp9lm
    @MG-qp9lm Рік тому +1

    Typical and you will still have more

  • @urmomm7770
    @urmomm7770 3 роки тому

    I think I saw the girl at my school….

  • @roslinawatiahmad618
    @roslinawatiahmad618 3 роки тому

    U

  • @sarahk.2192
    @sarahk.2192 3 роки тому

    💕❤️🌟

  • @gulabo88_
    @gulabo88_ 3 роки тому

    Respect 🙏

  • @MG-qp9lm
    @MG-qp9lm Рік тому

    Typical

  • @TMM-N
    @TMM-N 3 роки тому

    Tkpe lah ka. ..kaka masuk syurga kerana ni..kami pulak ada kewajipan bantu akak

  • @felixc914
    @felixc914 2 роки тому +1

    This result of human actions and is not God instructions. Stop bring God into this topic, they busy overseeing billions others human too. What ever melt down, human have to face it and don't go whinny to the God. Education is a guideline and you determine your own life not by anybody. Please be responsible to your own action.

  • @tinacarlton9949
    @tinacarlton9949 2 роки тому

    This is what incest does and why God forbid

  • @kathklim
    @kathklim 3 роки тому +6

    Wow.. irresponsible family planning.