Healthy opposites 1) Impatience, feening after, hard to control panic and desire 2) Discomfort and anger around possible loss/threats, panic around possible competition 3) They can't walk away, trouble detaching, afraid to lose you 4) they treat You like they want You and want to keep you, they express their value, they show healthy consistency 5) clear, consistent communication, secure communication 6) they know you'll leave/pull away
A lot of this is not true, if someone has a secure attachment style they can be patient and trusting. For example I don’t have a crazy obsessive personality, even if I’m crazy about you on the inside I can still hold it back because I want to be respectful of you and your boundaries. I also don’t really get jealous. A little bit of jealousy is natural and okay I also understand that people do not belong to me, they are not possessions that I feel afraid of losing. Someone who is meant for me and truly likes me, can not be lost or taken away by someone else. And if they are, then we were never right for each other to begin with.
Exactly! This is why I don‘t take advice from random strangers on the internet because we‘re all different and have different attachment styles one thing doesn‘t go for all. Even the whole “communication has to be consistent“ while yes the person should typically show interest some people struggle with anxiety or even time management and aren‘t good with phones etc. there are many reasons as to why a person might not text you 24/7 (it‘s even healthier considering that back in the old days people didn‘t have phones and were forced to meet up in person to speak and weren‘t available 24/7 either) so these expectations of having to text all the time are just unhealthy and unrealistic and put unnecessary expectations and stress onto us instead of focusing on our own happiness and seeing our partner as a bonus.
@@believer2023_me too. I shy up and unfortunately self sabotage my own self in fear that I am always bothering someone or hear a response that might not be good enough for me. I hope that make sense lol
Alex, I don’t think this is always the case. That describes someone with an anxious attachment style or experiencing limerance. Secure or avoidant attachment styles don’t always experience that type of intensity. I’m in a relationship with a guy who isn’t jealous and can be patient seeing me, but he committed to a relationship with me because he said he was afraid of losing me.
I was gonna say this. My partner is avoidant and even though by the third date he couldn’t keep his hands or lips off of me, he was patient for sex even though he could have gone and gotten it elsewhere. He’s a successful strong person and he is able to delay rewards for the right time.
@AD-hh6dd I agree with you and this contradicts some of his past videos or it makes it seems like if your a woman doing this behavior means you’re needy and you shouldn’t act like a “crack head” but if a man doesn’t act this way..he isn’t attracted to you? Tbh I wouldn’t want a thirsty needy man just like a man wouldn’t want the same. I don’t think it means that because some ppl can actually be busy…it depends on the context of the texts or conversation because you can tell when someone doesn’t like you
1) just because a guy is with you does not mean he is in love with you. 2) he didn’t say “if a guy doesn’t act like a crack head he’s not attracted to you”. This is not about attraction. Personally I agree with Alex. If a guy doesn’t get jealous of other men around you, then I’m sorry. He ain’t in love. If he doesn’t need to see you and talk to you , he ain’t in love. Or he’s playing games. Either way.
He literally says in the beginning if a person likes you they should be like a crackhead so I said if they DONT act like a crackhead then he’s saying that they DONT like you…literally what he said in the first 20 seconds of his video
@@elyzak333 I agree with you. My recent ex wanted space and wasn't sure about me and around six months into it, he tells me the big "we need to talk" conversation after a misunderstanding with his dad! It was so sad. I felt like I was on probation at a job. Like it was a TEST to see if we could last as a couple. In the end, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and didn't even know it!
I used to tell my man to call me back after work , and that mf would go out of work , never call me back, and instead puts stories on Instagram , knowing damn well I'll see them ! then he would call me crazy for the way I act cold and distant after that😏🙂
i told a man to call me one time after he was done playing the game... this man never called me ... when i asked the next day why he said "oh im sorry i got off the game took a shower and laid in bed i fell asleep i was so tired".... i knew from that point i was like yea this a wrap. lol because from there it just got worse.
tbh stop telling men to call you. it needs to be their idea, otherwise they start to see you as their mother & they begin to resent you for it. Don’t hate me, I’m just the messenger 😂 I know from experience. You need to be so busy with your own life that you don’t care about when you hear from them, they go crazy for that
@@brittneylyntalks the internet is the one place I get to speak my mind without any great consequence. If you want to get offended by what I say that’s on you. Ima do me.
you’re only dumb if you don’t learn a lesson. bingewatch Alex’s vids, literally let all the info sink in so it’s part of your nature to identify when someone doesn’t value you & when to walk away
Well I don’t totally agree with cuz, you can still like someone but not be in contact with them all the time due to work duties. We all grown so some times we can’t be on our phones every second of day. As long as there’s communication period that should be enough. Especially when you’re getting to know each other
Alex is really saving me from embarrasing myself with this one. Does anyone know how i can send a question to him that maybe can be awsnered by him. Or can someone maybe help me with a small situation
I'll send u recent photos...cuz I'm an up n coming podcast person....like privately...but I'm fitness trainer...THOUGH I don't try n focus on that BUT....I LIKE u a LOT 😂😂😂
When you say they act like a crackhead do you mean ppl who’ve actually been dating or just guys? Cuz I like a guy I only see at work, but I’m not blowing up his phone and mostly keep my distance aside from occasional flirting. In my mind he’s the same, likes me a bit but not enough to take the risk I guess 🤷🏻♀️
let it simmer there’s no rush. if anyone makes a first move it needs to be him. if u wanna fck with him, tell him you think he’s such a good friend. tbh giving mixed signals is what creates the crackhead behavior (from my experience). your words need to not align with your actions. with your words you say he’s a good friend, say things that disqualify him, etc.. but actions can be flirty. lol kinda toxic but it works
@@nataliaviera9293 I also just realized I think he’s seeing another girl at work :(…and hadn’t seen them together in couple months until the day after he made a comment suggesting I was seeing someone at work (I’m not) and I teasingly said “why you jealous?” I feel like it’s either just bad karma for saying that or he really is jealous and is using ole girl to make me jealous??
Healthy opposites
1) Impatience, feening after, hard to control panic and desire
2) Discomfort and anger around possible loss/threats, panic around possible competition
3) They can't walk away, trouble detaching, afraid to lose you
4) they treat You like they want You and want to keep you, they express their value, they show healthy consistency
5) clear, consistent communication, secure communication
6) they know you'll leave/pull away
A lot of this is not true, if someone has a secure attachment style they can be patient and trusting. For example I don’t have a crazy obsessive personality, even if I’m crazy about you on the inside I can still hold it back because I want to be respectful of you and your boundaries.
I also don’t really get jealous. A little bit of jealousy is natural and okay I also understand that people do not belong to me, they are not possessions that I feel afraid of losing. Someone who is meant for me and truly likes me, can not be lost or taken away by someone else. And if they are, then we were never right for each other to begin with.
Exactly! This is why I don‘t take advice from random strangers on the internet because we‘re all different and have different attachment styles one thing doesn‘t go for all. Even the whole “communication has to be consistent“ while yes the person should typically show interest some people struggle with anxiety or even time management and aren‘t good with phones etc. there are many reasons as to why a person might not text you 24/7 (it‘s even healthier considering that back in the old days people didn‘t have phones and were forced to meet up in person to speak and weren‘t available 24/7 either) so these expectations of having to text all the time are just unhealthy and unrealistic and put unnecessary expectations and stress onto us instead of focusing on our own happiness and seeing our partner as a bonus.
Omg this is so me. Thank god i read this. I'm literally obsessed with him but wouldn't even initiate contact most of the times.
You don’t get jealous of ugly girls. Lmfao.
@@believer2023_me too. I shy up and unfortunately self sabotage my own self in fear that I am always bothering someone or hear a response that might not be good enough for me. I hope that make sense lol
Gotta love Tyrone🏋🏾 😂
The crackhead itch 😂😂😂😂
lol that itch was everything
LMFAOOO
Thanks for bringing back Tyrone. I was starting to miss him 🤣
What about….”My money low? I can’t lay with you cause my pockets hurting.” ???
Alex, I don’t think this is always the case. That describes someone with an anxious attachment style or experiencing limerance. Secure or avoidant attachment styles don’t always experience that type of intensity. I’m in a relationship with a guy who isn’t jealous and can be patient seeing me, but he committed to a relationship with me because he said he was afraid of losing me.
I was gonna say this. My partner is avoidant and even though by the third date he couldn’t keep his hands or lips off of me, he was patient for sex even though he could have gone and gotten it elsewhere. He’s a successful strong person and he is able to delay rewards for the right time.
@AD-hh6dd I agree with you and this contradicts some of his past videos or it makes it seems like if your a woman doing this behavior means you’re needy and you shouldn’t act like a “crack head” but if a man doesn’t act this way..he isn’t attracted to you? Tbh I wouldn’t want a thirsty needy man just like a man wouldn’t want the same. I don’t think it means that because some ppl can actually be busy…it depends on the context of the texts or conversation because you can tell when someone doesn’t like you
1) just because a guy is with you does not mean he is in love with you. 2) he didn’t say “if a guy doesn’t act like a crack head he’s not attracted to you”. This is not about attraction. Personally I agree with Alex. If a guy doesn’t get jealous of other men around you, then I’m sorry. He ain’t in love. If he doesn’t need to see you and talk to you , he ain’t in love. Or he’s playing games. Either way.
He literally says in the beginning if a person likes you they should be like a crackhead so I said if they DONT act like a crackhead then he’s saying that they DONT like you…literally what he said in the first 20 seconds of his video
@@elyzak333 I agree with you. My recent ex wanted space and wasn't sure about me and around six months into it, he tells me the big "we need to talk" conversation after a misunderstanding with his dad! It was so sad. I felt like I was on probation at a job. Like it was a TEST to see if we could last as a couple. In the end, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and didn't even know it!
I used to tell my man to call me back after work , and that mf would go out of work , never call me back, and instead puts stories on Instagram , knowing damn well I'll see them ! then he would call me crazy for the way I act cold and distant after that😏🙂
That would the time for me to step back & distance myself as well. You’re the prize not him!
@@deniseakins6753 Yeah he's my ex now 🙂😂
i told a man to call me one time after he was done playing the game... this man never called me ... when i asked the next day why he said "oh im sorry i got off the game took a shower and laid in bed i fell asleep i was so tired".... i knew from that point i was like yea this a wrap. lol because from there it just got worse.
tbh stop telling men to call you. it needs to be their idea, otherwise they start to see you as their mother & they begin to resent you for it. Don’t hate me, I’m just the messenger 😂 I know from experience. You need to be so busy with your own life that you don’t care about when you hear from them, they go crazy for that
@@nataliaviera9293 no i totally agree!!!! You’re so right . If they want too they will without asking . Having to ask is too much like begging to me.
This video is golden.
I'm a new subscriber and I'm loving this ❤ All the way from Namibia 🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦
This is very helpful 😊
You're the brother I never had 👍
Great video. Luv your look today......
This first things said rings RED FLAG TO ME. I'm out
Hair looks so much better. Try even shorter. Great advice man! 😂
Missy is alive still... awww❤
So true....💯💯💯
8:06 lol
Live around whitey where its quiet😂😂😂
Yes to an extent… there are circumstances like with Aquarius man where they need space and it’s not personal
Whatever you tell yourself to sleep at night.
@@elyzak333 wow that’s a rude comment. If you look up any Aquarius channel Aquarius themselves will state that it’s sometimes not personal.
@@elyzak333😂😂😂 exactly people who base their whole life on horoscopes and star signs are mental
@@brittneylyntalks the internet is the one place I get to speak my mind without any great consequence. If you want to get offended by what I say that’s on you. Ima do me.
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I agree
This describes my bf :( also he’s moving to Italy without me 😢. I’m so dumb 😢
you’re only dumb if you don’t learn a lesson. bingewatch Alex’s vids, literally let all the info sink in so it’s part of your nature to identify when someone doesn’t value you & when to walk away
nice hair style
So chic ❤
Well I don’t totally agree with cuz, you can still like someone but not be in contact with them all the time due to work duties. We all grown so some times we can’t be on our phones every second of day. As long as there’s communication period that should be enough. Especially when you’re getting to know each other
8:03 woooow Alex hating on your own folks 🤧🤣 You know you love the noise.
😂 yeh Tyrone ❤
Impatience to me is insecure men, and unhealthy masculine energy...
I believe in a healthy amount of jealousy.
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Alex is really saving me from embarrasing myself with this one. Does anyone know how i can send a question to him that maybe can be awsnered by him. Or can someone maybe help me with a small situation
I'll send u recent photos...cuz I'm an up n coming podcast person....like privately...but I'm fitness trainer...THOUGH I don't try n focus on that BUT....I LIKE u a LOT 😂😂😂
nice glasses
When you say they act like a crackhead do you mean ppl who’ve actually been dating or just guys? Cuz I like a guy I only see at work, but I’m not blowing up his phone and mostly keep my distance aside from occasional flirting. In my mind he’s the same, likes me a bit but not enough to take the risk I guess 🤷🏻♀️
let it simmer there’s no rush. if anyone makes a first move it needs to be him. if u wanna fck with him, tell him you think he’s such a good friend. tbh giving mixed signals is what creates the crackhead behavior (from my experience). your words need to not align with your actions. with your words you say he’s a good friend, say things that disqualify him, etc.. but actions can be flirty. lol kinda toxic but it works
@@nataliaviera9293 I also just realized I think he’s seeing another girl at work :(…and hadn’t seen them together in couple months until the day after he made a comment suggesting I was seeing someone at work (I’m not) and I teasingly said “why you jealous?” I feel like it’s either just bad karma for saying that or he really is jealous and is using ole girl to make me jealous??
😂2:06 🔪 🛞
Nah Puerto Ricans have an island for a reason
Trueeeee