@@lizprince7944 that's where you are gaslighting yourself buddy. You gotta stand up for yourself, then you meet the right people eventually and loose the bitter ones
@@lizprince7944 The bare minimum means being treated with respect and kindness, as any human being would deserve. It’s not “nothing” it’s actually very important. You sound ignorant & stuck in your ways 😂
Just in case people need reminding, if you want to get proposed to in a super lowkey way that's perfectly fine! It's all about how YOU want to be proposed to. Your partner should know you well enough to do what would make you both feel happy and excited in that moment.
Yeah I don't think she's saying they have to go all out. The first clearly has made no effort and is very selfish. The second clearly knows her and has made an effort to do something she would like. It's about the gesture.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
That wasn’t low key, that x did it to get out of trouble for not buying her a birthday present, not cuz he wants to express his love and make a life long commitment.
my ex proposed to me by placing the ring box next to me on the couch without a word, and walked off and had a shower. When he came out, I asked him what this was, and he just shrugged his shoulders and left 😭 😂 I can't even count it as a proposal. I'm so glad you found someone who clearly has a lot of love for you! ❤
I appreciate how you are all looking for the positives here, and I felt the same way too to begin with, he definitely has communication issues, but after a few years, there was clearly no intentions on following through with marriage. Not long after this "engagement" he cheated on me several times, even while I was pregnant with his child. I would love to go into more details about everything thats happened since, but I won't. All I will say is, though I didn't see it at the time, it was more of a "shut up" ring than a "I want to marry you" ring
@@janayabrooking4405 I hope you too have found, or will find (whenever you are ready/if you so desire) a man that has a lot of love for you too & makes you feel as happy as Jessica clearly is now! You all deserve so much happiness & love in your lives! ✌🏼💜🥰
@@JessicaKent Hats off to him!! That was an AMAZING proposal!! So sweet and genuine, a definite memory you both will never forget!! Job well done!! 💯❤😍💍 Like you said never settle for less!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💯🥰
@@Womenandwinenot poor taste, respectfully disagree. My hubby proposed at a very famous, beautiful and crowd packed park/landmark where we live in Arkansas. Hundreds of people watched and applauded as we kissed. I asked him why there later on and he said because he loves me so much he wanted the world to know. It shows your man is not just secure, he is secure with you. He's not trying to run game because it's the opposite of shady.he announced it to God and everyone. I appreciated the gesture and the fact that he (normally shy and reserved) was secure enough that I would say yes but he still accepted the risk O could say no and embarrass the crap out of him. Reward outweighed the risk and on that day I WAS the reward. I think it's beautiful. Congratulations Jessica! Wishing you many happy years, my hubby and I have twelve so far. My unsolicited advice to you is always prioritize each other. Never stop "dating" each other and always, always give it 150% just in case the day ever comes where he cannot or won't give his 100%, your extra 50 will cover the deficit and solidify y'all as a 100 💯 every day/each day!! I think a deep purple would be so pretty with your features as a wedding color but OC that's a personal choice. Personally we eloped for alot of different reasons and I don't regret it. ❤🫶🏼💞💞🥰🎉🥂💐😍😍
My son’s father proposed to me in his bedroom on New Year’s Eve. I literally thought he was giving me coloring books. It lasted 4 months. My second proposal was done the day before Halloween (our favorite holiday) we were dressed as corpse bride and groom, he set up pumpkins in Boston garden and had carved “will you marry me” in the pumpkins. This was way before social media and it’s one of the best memories I will ever have! ❤ did cost much, except the ring. But it showed how much he knew me and loved me!
@@sonya5043Idk about that. I pay more attention to my mom then to anyone else on the planet and when it comes time to get her Christmas/Birthday/Mother’s Day gifts, I always have the hardest time with it! I never know what to buy her! I usually end up just making some random edit on CapCut of pics of the two of us and sending it to her lol
i have only been proposed to once my then boyfriend took me out to dinner on our 6 years of being together..we went to a nice little italian restaurant..then after dinner we headed up tt the sky tower in Auckland ....we had a look around then we went to the top deck and he said shall I get someone to take a photo of us with the city in teh background..it was dark at this point... so al the city lights were on..,,so he found this random stranger and asked them to take ap photo (he later revealed he quietly said them just keep taking photos). so here we are standing beside each other having our photo taken next thing I know he is getting down on on knee and proposing..was a complete surprise (not him proposing as such but when it happened) he presented me with this beautiful sapphire and diamond ring ...we celebrate 20 years of marriage this November :)
I don’t think that ex proposal was the bare minimum… the bare minimum is him getting a ring, taking you somewhere nice that you like and proposing. Anything beyond that is icing on the cake.
Although it really isn’t the bare minimum, it WAS the bare minimum for him to her. 8 years into a relationship and you haven’t picked up on what your s/o likes or interests and still have that “I’m not a good gift giver/ you didn’t tell me what you wanted” mentality and attitude, it speaks volumes. It’s about knowing your partner.
I took this OP’s comment as that Jess’ Ex DID LESS THAN the typical bare minimum. I think they were acknowledging how lazily her Ex truly went about it…especially now looking back on it🤷🏻♀️
Girl. Fucking congratulations. You deserve so much happiness. When you finally find your match all the past lessons make so much sense. I am unbelievably happy for you Jess. You've come a long way doll❤
My fiancé proposed to me in one of my favourite cities, on the beach. It was perfect - he found a nice quiet place (I'm an introvert so would have been too overwhelmed in front of a crowd) and he knows how much I love the sea, so he did it there. The right man knows how to make the proposal special to you. I'm so happy that your fiancé proposed in such a lovely way ❤ congrats!🎉
I knew a guy who turned to his girlfriend casually on the couch and asked "do you want to get married?" and she looked over at him, shrugged her shoulders and said "yeah sure." And then he pulled up a jewelry website and handed her the computer to pick what she wanted. Could never be me 😂
My fiancé and I love fishing, he proposed to me where we had had our first date. He clipped it to his fishing line and dropped it in my lap and said baby look what I caught. I bawled my eyes out it was the cutest thing ever.
Sorry, I had to laugh at a lot of comments. It's not about how they propose but who they are. How do I know that's true? Well, my ex-fiance proposed to me in a very sweet and romantic way with a beautiful ring. Turned out he was a narcissist. We were together for almost 14 years and have a kid together. We lasted almost 10 years after he proposed before I finally had enough of how I had been treated for almost 4 years at that point. I personally HATE the idea of a huge (or even small) PUBLIC proposal. My boyfriend knows this fact too. My anxiety is very bad in public settings. I hate even attention being on me for my own birthday. It's about what you feel comfortable with, the love you have together, and how much you love each other. The ring, how they propose, and all of that mean jackshit.
Agreed. I wouldn't like being on stage on camera etc but my finance knew that and proposed in a way that was right for us and shows me he loves me every day so it's the effort to express love that matters I think.
Yeah I feel you I witness someone do this in a local park yesterday and everyone was watching as he had hired three guitarists and a singer! I feel it also puts way more pressure on someone to say yes. It was just so awakened the woman just covered her face the entire time I would die inside if someone did that to me
You seem to be glowing now that I think of it. You look so much younger and I can see your more open about your emotions and life and you’re comfortable with it. You’re in a good place in life
Remember when everybody was trying to warn her how he was bad news because of his tattoos and his past? Y’all were so quick to want this woman’s relationship to fail. I’m so fucking happy to see this! You proved em all wrong Jess and Berner! Congratulations!
Because the man before her was worse. Way back then, when she started posting about her prison time, she was dating a man that was too dangerous to be around her child and she was too blind by how wrong it was to have him around her daughter. So most likely people were warning her in concern just like the last man.
@@sickening_love1154 I was here for that relationship too. People legitimately judged Berner because of how he looked in the beginning. They had little concern about her previous choices and were more worried about judging a book by its cover.
My ex fiancé proposed to me in the parking lot of my job the same job where he slept with my boss the week after and continue to sleep with her for four months. My boyfriend now is so much better he does everything for me takes in my feelings and cries over how much he loves me physically crying over how much I mean to him.
To the reasonable-enough dudes here: No chick in her right-enough mind, ever insists that you have to propose to her in public. Marriage proposals - in a sense - is more about the guy, than the girl. So pick a method you are comfortable with. For anyone who must know: I'm not red nor blue pill; I have to be culturally non-African in order to practise patriarchy or feminism. I am culturally African (i.e., Black culture).
Lmao😂this is hilarious on top of a good message. Never settle for someone who doesn’t show up for you and who doesn’t care about your feelings. It takes more than one person caring to make a relationship last. I’m so happy for you and Burner. I’m glad you found your 🦞
I personally would prefer a low key proposal but at least something more romantic than that. I know my partner well and we both don’t like the spotlight or anything. If he ever does propose it’ll be just the two of us.
😅😂Haaahaa!! This skit is everything!! I had to re-watch it a handful of times. Girl I'm over the moon happy for u & Berner! Ur storytime was funny & sweet about the proposal. Now u & Berner should do one together so we can hear how each of u was feeling, etc. ❤
Reading the comments, I must share too! About 16 years ago my kids dad proposed but it was only after years of talking about it & he made major purchase for himself on Valentine’s Day. It ended badly. Fast forward. Last month my boyfriends of almost 2 years proposed. He works with granite & marble & I love crystal, we love rocks. So he handmade my ring out of quartz & proposed 200 feet underground in the caverns, surrounded by beautiful rocks!!! It was also at the Wishing Well. So that was his wish, to spend our lives together❤
The ex proposal is how (minus the kid and the “games on” comment) my husband dis it. However, it was the best proposal ever for me because it was low key, logical, and showed he knew me well enough to know that I’d want to pick out my own ring. At the end of the day, there’s no right or wrong way as long as it resonates with who you’re proposing to.
Yeah mine experience was exact opposite. The first guy the proposed to me was very verbally abusive, calling me fat and ugoy and how he wished that i looked like his ex and all that, but did the propose to me in front of thousands of people thing. The guy i am married to never mistreats me in any way, verbal, physical or mental. He has helped me overcome the trauma from my life and become a much better person and his proposal..... he came home from work, i met him walking into the house, he had the ring on his pinky and said "now, will you marry me? This is a real one, nothing fake" because i had been wearing a fake ring and wasn't actually engaged to him or anything lol and then after a few years of being engaged, he walked in the house from work and said "let's go get our marriage license tomorrow and have our wedding this weekend." Lol so with 7 days to get ready for my wedding, i had a great wedding with only a few people and my dad officiated the wedding that he originally had said if we ever got married he wouldn't even show up. Long story short, the right man isn't always going to have the big elaborate ways of showing his love for you
I think also realizing we actually deserve love and respect. Im working on that. Self love an self worth doesnt come easily for me. Congrats jessica!! ❤
They say if you see someone with stuff you want you should ask them how they got it. So how do you find men to be interested in you, show passion for you, care about your needs, actively listens, always wishes to positively surprise you, will marry you, are compassionate, and romantic af?
Go out and meet people. Ask to be introduced, go hang out at places you already frequent, find a common interest. It may take a while but eventually maybe you will be sitting down with a group of friends and they’ll be there because one of your friends is friends with them. You won’t know what to say because they’re so pretty and sweet and smart, and they’re thinking the same thing about you! They send you gifts bring you flowers and make you feel like the best thing to breathe air. They may mess up and you will too because we are all human but you’ll come back together apologize together, and make up over a recipe you saw one time on Pinterest. Love takes time.
Man…. It’s really all about knowing your partner! Sports are my whole world so a proposal that ends with “the game is on” would be music to my ears. But I’ve been watching you for years and aside from a few Steelers shirts that you’ve worn I’ve never seen you talk about sports once! So for you that wouldn’t be a good proposal. You deserve the best and you’re totally right that no one should settle ❤ I might not understand your current relationship, but i see it like the end of lion king. You’re Simba and us, your fans, should be like Timon and Pumba. Remember when they all arrive back to pride rock and Simba says “this is my home,” and Timon is like “we’re fighting for this?!” And he doesn’t get it at all. But he loves Simba, and so he says, “if it’s important to you, it’s important to us.” That’s how all your fans should treat this engagement ❤ leaving our own opinions out of it! If it’s important to you it’s important to us ❤ congrats Jess 🎉 wishing you all the best in your engagement 💍💕🙏🏻🍻 (and rest in Peace to James Earl Jones, the voice of Mufasa! 🦁🙏🏻💕)
That proposal had nothing to do with a game; other than that was her exes way of saying this talk, even though it’s my partners birthday, and I’m “proposing” to her.. the game is more important than anything to do with you, or this conversation about a wedding. He didn’t get down on one knee. He didn’t find one singular way to make that proposal special. It was actually just really gross behavior. She’s in a beautiful relationship now. With someone who absolutely adores her. It’s darling to see. She really deserves the absolute best, and I’m just incredibly tickled she’s actually getting that now!❤
@@JessicaKent as a patriots fan i can’t say too many positive things about your Steelers but my team is also in rebuild mode so i can’t talk trash. I will say that Mike Tomlin is one of my favorite coaches ever and I give him a ton of props for handling some of the most difficult players in the NFL with class and grace.
Congratulations!!! You really have a keeper this time around, ignore tye haters. You and your babies deserve only happiness. Sending much love and wishes for a life beyond anything you dreamed
I have said it on Instagram, Patreon, and here (I don’t have TikTok) and I will continue to do so: Jess, I am so incredibly happy for you! You are in a happy and healthy relationship with a safe, loving, and devoted man. You have three incredible babies. And you are now in a safe place where you can breathe, relax, and enjoy life. You deserve all of this and so so much more. Don’t let anyone take away your peace and safety again. Thank you for letting the crew experience your freedom and joy with you. 🖤💍
Also, I just want you to be aware that you still have a piece of merch with your ex on it. I’m not sure if you know that or not so I just wanted to bring it to your attention just in case you don’t want it there. I’d love to see some you and Berner merch, though! 😊🖤
Honestly I completely disagree on you not telling him what to get you. It would be nice if he could get you what you want without saying anything but no one is a mind reader. Unless he happens to be around when you are talking about what you would like for your birthday. you cannot expect him to know what to get you. He can get you something you might like. I think honest communication in relationships is key and if you refuse to engage in such conversations don’t expect anything
Its effort. He put 0 effort in and after 8.5 years I wasn’t going to tell him what I want bc I would have been thrilled for a dinner with my family and a cupcake. And he knew that.
Am I the only one who doesn’t like the second one either 😅 I don’t care for the first one but I would pick 1 over 2 and I guess because I personally want my proposal to be intimate. That’s just me but hey, I guess I won’t get to choose how a man propose. 😅
My husband of 9yrs, been with for 10, proposed to me at a meet and greet of the band that brought us together. We just went to see the same band the other day for my bday and to celebrate almost a decade since our engagement. 🖤
My parents divorced when I was around 7. I remember her telling me he had called her on the phone and asked her kinda the same way.. didn’t really have a ring and wasn’t even there in person. Hardly even really asked. She and my stepdad talked about it, he asked me if it was okay, she designed a custom engagement ring, and when he went and picked it up he still knelt on one knee on the kitchen tile in his basketball shorts and gardening tshirt. It wasn’t grand, but he still gave her a more real proposal than she had had before. He has been my greatest example of a husband and a father I’ve had. He’s been her rock. I’m grateful for what he has given her.
This 2 of my exes lol...narcissists will never go out of their way to do anything special for you to make you happy....they do it the complete opposite so they can flip it on you when you are "grateful" for times like this
Stop making it so damn easy for us then!! Jesus!! 😂😂😂 wtf are you even talking about tough guy?? She’s not marrying the d-bag lame deadbeat that gets made of! YAAAY for her!! 🥰😍😍
My husband took me to our highschool (where it all started) and we walked around the building pointing out different spots through the windows where we shared this or that moment. As we were leaving, he popped the question right un front of the building, almost in the same spot we were standing when we took photos for the only school dance we went to early on in our relationship. It doesnt sound like much, but it was everything to me.
"You can just say the ring i got you for your birthday/Christmas is your 💍 ring if you want." Thats what i get.👌🏽😂 obviously thinkin hard about this rn.. 😂
As long as it wasnt performative for the sake of seeking attention or pleasing a crowd? I've seen an "im an introvert" video of hers before, so as long as this level of publicity and audience is what she wanted? Im gonna assume the best and hope that this intimate special moment was publicly recorded & posted for a good reason
Imagine getting on your knees in front of what seems like thousands of people and proposing to a woman just for her to go online and compare you to her ex 😂
My husband proposed to me on our living room couch. We eloped two days later and have been married for 4 and half years. We had no rings at the time. No dress. Nothing. He later sold many of his items to get me a temporary ring. But we knew how much we loved & valued eachother. We did the big dress, photos, event on our one year. I got my dream ring. And we are still going strong. Sometimes its not what someone can provide. Was it my “dream proposal”? No. But I wouldnt change a thing.
This. But also, it doesn't have to be a big grand proposal. It's the intent behind it. My husband proposed to me in a Walmart parking lot of all things 🤣 not a romantic setting but the absolutely most romantic memory I have of him before we got married. Because he was so honest and vulnerable in that moment I knew that was exactly what was necessary. So don't settle, but don't settle for the guy who is just checking a box. Don't feel like if it's not something so amazing that he doesn't mean it. How has he acted up until that moment? That's what matters.
My fiance and I didn't have a traditional proposal because he was wanting to go into the military but that didn't work out so I thought he wouldn't want to marry me anymore and talked about saving the stuff I bought for later but he grabbed my hand and looked in my eyes and said "I still want to marry you" and It made me feel so loved cause we didn't plan on getting married until a few more years. I helped him pick out my ring and he helped me pick out his but I think he is planning a traditional proposal this weekend when we go camping🥰 I'm already engaged but I'm so excited and nervous lol
My fiancé proposed to me while we were scuba diving in some ancient Roman ruins in Italy! Underwater! It was magical and perfect for us. Also, I'm a history nerd, so it was really fitting
The bare minimum is also known as human decency and a requirement remember that don't settle for a requirement of human decency
Stop gaslighting us. The bare minimum is basically nothing at all
@@lizprince7944 fair warning your bare minimum can be very different from my bare minimum
@@lizprince7944 that's where you are gaslighting yourself buddy. You gotta stand up for yourself, then you meet the right people eventually and loose the bitter ones
@@Nachtelfin0des0Todes pointing out gaslighting isn’t gaslighting. But you are gaslighting me. Just stop the crap
@@lizprince7944 The bare minimum means being treated with respect and kindness, as any human being would deserve. It’s not “nothing” it’s actually very important. You sound ignorant & stuck in your ways 😂
The way she couldn’t help herself but get down with him for a second on that stage!!! Great love
I just wanted to pick him up 🥹❤️
@@JessicaKent 🥰 you guys are adorable
Who is her fiancé?
where have you been? lol
Just in case people need reminding, if you want to get proposed to in a super lowkey way that's perfectly fine!
It's all about how YOU want to be proposed to.
Your partner should know you well enough to do what would make you both feel happy and excited in that moment.
Yeah I don't think she's saying they have to go all out. The first clearly has made no effort and is very selfish. The second clearly knows her and has made an effort to do something she would like. It's about the gesture.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
@@carlh42677 Exactly! I had seen a couple of comments that were focused more on how he proposed in a big way rather than the fact he proposed in a way where she felt special. That's the most important part.
That wasn’t low key, that x did it to get out of trouble for not buying her a birthday present, not cuz he wants to express his love and make a life long commitment.
my ex proposed to me by placing the ring box next to me on the couch without a word, and walked off and had a shower. When he came out, I asked him what this was, and he just shrugged his shoulders and left 😭 😂 I can't even count it as a proposal.
I'm so glad you found someone who clearly has a lot of love for you! ❤
Well that doesn’t necessarily mean they didn’t care. They could have just been bad at expressing themselves.
How odd…
Did he have serious issues with communication?
I appreciate how you are all looking for the positives here, and I felt the same way too to begin with, he definitely has communication issues, but after a few years, there was clearly no intentions on following through with marriage. Not long after this "engagement" he cheated on me several times, even while I was pregnant with his child. I would love to go into more details about everything thats happened since, but I won't. All I will say is, though I didn't see it at the time, it was more of a "shut up" ring than a "I want to marry you" ring
@@janayabrooking4405
I hope you too have found, or will find (whenever you are ready/if you so desire) a man that has a lot of love for you too & makes you feel as happy as Jessica clearly is now! You all deserve so much happiness & love in your lives!
✌🏼💜🥰
My ex did the same thing 😂
Never settle for the bare minimum is one of the biggest lessons I'm learning. Lots of love to you and your family congratulations ❤
@@WomenandwineThe point is your partner should know what kind of proposal you’d like.
@@JessicaKent Hats off to him!! That was an AMAZING proposal!! So sweet and genuine, a definite memory you both will never forget!! Job well done!! 💯❤😍💍 Like you said never settle for less!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💯🥰
@@Womenandwinenot poor taste, respectfully disagree. My hubby proposed at a very famous, beautiful and crowd packed park/landmark where we live in Arkansas. Hundreds of people watched and applauded as we kissed. I asked him why there later on and he said because he loves me so much he wanted the world to know. It shows your man is not just secure, he is secure with you. He's not trying to run game because it's the opposite of shady.he announced it to God and everyone. I appreciated the gesture and the fact that he (normally shy and reserved) was secure enough that I would say yes but he still accepted the risk O could say no and embarrass the crap out of him. Reward outweighed the risk and on that day I WAS the reward. I think it's beautiful. Congratulations Jessica! Wishing you many happy years, my hubby and I have twelve so far. My unsolicited advice to you is always prioritize each other. Never stop "dating" each other and always, always give it 150% just in case the day ever comes where he cannot or won't give his 100%, your extra 50 will cover the deficit and solidify y'all as a 100 💯 every day/each day!! I think a deep purple would be so pretty with your features as a wedding color but OC that's a personal choice. Personally we eloped for alot of different reasons and I don't regret it. ❤🫶🏼💞💞🥰🎉🥂💐😍😍
Amen! Such a difference! ❤
@Womenandwine you can still do good and make up for it. No excuses, even to make up for the past. 😊
My son’s father proposed to me in his bedroom on New Year’s Eve. I literally thought he was giving me coloring books. It lasted 4 months. My second proposal was done the day before Halloween (our favorite holiday) we were dressed as corpse bride and groom, he set up pumpkins in Boston garden and had carved “will you marry me” in the pumpkins. This was way before social media and it’s one of the best memories I will ever have! ❤ did cost much, except the ring. But it showed how much he knew me and loved me!
This is so sweet 😍
The Halloween proposal is the sweetest 🥹❤️❤️
I live in Boston(Dorchester) and this is seriously so romantic. I bet it was perfect. The weather the season❤
That is freaking hilarious. My fiancé proposed to me as I was going to the bathroom.
😭😭😭😭😭 how absolutely precious I will never settle for
I dont understand people who say they are "bad gift givers". Its literally so easy to get someone a present
It’s easy to get a present. But a thoughtful and intriguing present? Not so easy.
If you legit paid any attention or listened to said person receiving gift, easiest shit dude.
It’s cause they don’t care enough to pay attention
@@sonya5043Idk about that. I pay more attention to my mom then to anyone else on the planet and when it comes time to get her Christmas/Birthday/Mother’s Day gifts, I always have the hardest time with it! I never know what to buy her! I usually end up just making some random edit on CapCut of pics of the two of us and sending it to her lol
I like how you still think of him and compare them
i have only been proposed to once my then boyfriend took me out to dinner on our 6 years of being together..we went to a nice little italian restaurant..then after dinner we headed up tt the sky tower in Auckland ....we had a look around then we went to the top deck and he said shall I get someone to take a photo of us with the city in teh background..it was dark at this point... so al the city lights were on..,,so he found this random stranger and asked them to take ap photo (he later revealed he quietly said them just keep taking photos). so here we are standing beside each other having our photo taken next thing I know he is getting down on on knee and proposing..was a complete surprise (not him proposing as such but when it happened) he presented me with this beautiful sapphire and diamond ring ...we celebrate 20 years of marriage this November :)
That's beautiful! Congratulations on 20 years 🥰
Congratulations ♥️
Wow 20 years congratulations that's amazing you dont hear about many happily ever afters like that anymore❤❤❤
I don’t think that ex proposal was the bare minimum… the bare minimum is him getting a ring, taking you somewhere nice that you like and proposing. Anything beyond that is icing on the cake.
Although it really isn’t the bare minimum, it WAS the bare minimum for him to her. 8 years into a relationship and you haven’t picked up on what your s/o likes or interests and still have that “I’m not a good gift giver/ you didn’t tell me what you wanted” mentality and attitude, it speaks volumes. It’s about knowing your partner.
I took this OP’s comment as that Jess’ Ex DID LESS THAN the typical bare minimum. I think they were acknowledging how lazily her Ex truly went about it…especially now looking back on it🤷🏻♀️
Girl. Fucking congratulations. You deserve so much happiness. When you finally find your match all the past lessons make so much sense. I am unbelievably happy for you Jess. You've come a long way doll❤
My fiancé proposed to me in one of my favourite cities, on the beach. It was perfect - he found a nice quiet place (I'm an introvert so would have been too overwhelmed in front of a crowd) and he knows how much I love the sea, so he did it there.
The right man knows how to make the proposal special to you. I'm so happy that your fiancé proposed in such a lovely way ❤ congrats!🎉
I knew a guy who turned to his girlfriend casually on the couch and asked "do you want to get married?" and she looked over at him, shrugged her shoulders and said "yeah sure." And then he pulled up a jewelry website and handed her the computer to pick what she wanted. Could never be me 😂
My fiancé and I love fishing, he proposed to me where we had had our first date. He clipped it to his fishing line and dropped it in my lap and said baby look what I caught. I bawled my eyes out it was the cutest thing ever.
Omg that’s ADORABLE 🥹
eww
OK that is good 👍
That's so creative!!!! 🥰😭
I remember my hubby saying “would you do me the honour of making me the luckiest guy on earth”. So sweet!
THE WALK UP lmaoooo and the accent I can’t take it 😂😂😂😂 JESSICUH
The accent kills me everytime!!😂
It's the puffed up Michilan Man waddle for me 😅😂💀
Johnny Bravo 😂
Stretch Armstrong 😂
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Sorry, I had to laugh at a lot of comments. It's not about how they propose but who they are.
How do I know that's true? Well, my ex-fiance proposed to me in a very sweet and romantic way with a beautiful ring. Turned out he was a narcissist. We were together for almost 14 years and have a kid together. We lasted almost 10 years after he proposed before I finally had enough of how I had been treated for almost 4 years at that point.
I personally HATE the idea of a huge (or even small) PUBLIC proposal. My boyfriend knows this fact too. My anxiety is very bad in public settings. I hate even attention being on me for my own birthday.
It's about what you feel comfortable with, the love you have together, and how much you love each other. The ring, how they propose, and all of that mean jackshit.
Never settle ever ladies this right here, proves it
DBC...Daily BLESSINGs Coming! .... CONGRATULATIONS JESSICA! Truly, WISH YOU and BURNER420 THE BEST! and More Babies.... LoL. Your Family is AMAZING.
I would DIE if I was proposed to the 2nd way. It’s all about what works for you guys! I’m a low key person.
Agreed. I wouldn't like being on stage on camera etc but my finance knew that and proposed in a way that was right for us and shows me he loves me every day so it's the effort to express love that matters I think.
ones thoughtful, ones...doing what he thinks will make u happy
I wish you would stop comparing. The rearvision mirror is smaller than the windscreen for a reason. Xxxx Expecially beautiful moments like this.
I don’t make these videos for myself I make them for my audience.
@@JessicaKent I am your audience hun. I'm just thinking of your wairua xxx
So happy you finally found a guy that deserves you 🥰
Oh dear god please dont anyone propose to me publicly! 😬😬
Yeah I feel you I witness someone do this in a local park yesterday and everyone was watching as he had hired three guitarists and a singer! I feel it also puts way more pressure on someone to say yes. It was just so awakened the woman just covered her face the entire time I would die inside if someone did that to me
at least she liked it, i would hate that
Jess I am SO glad to see you happy - you’ve not shown up on my feed in a while and this has just made my day ❤
Hahaha your Reese accent 😂
I'm so happy for y'all ❤❤
And I would absolutely hate this. Shows how much he knows you!
You seem to be glowing now that I think of it. You look so much younger and I can see your more open about your emotions and life and you’re comfortable with it. You’re in a good place in life
Remember when everybody was trying to warn her how he was bad news because of his tattoos and his past? Y’all were so quick to want this woman’s relationship to fail. I’m so fucking happy to see this! You proved em all wrong Jess and Berner! Congratulations!
Who is she??? I honestly don't know and never seen any of her content
Because the man before her was worse. Way back then, when she started posting about her prison time, she was dating a man that was too dangerous to be around her child and she was too blind by how wrong it was to have him around her daughter. So most likely people were warning her in concern just like the last man.
@@sickening_love1154 I was here for that relationship too. People legitimately judged Berner because of how he looked in the beginning. They had little concern about her previous choices and were more worried about judging a book by its cover.
Nope, they were saying she needs to stop rushing into relationship and allowing men around her children.
@@katherine5797 the comments I saw did not say anything like that lol.
My ex fiancé proposed to me in the parking lot of my job the same job where he slept with my boss the week after and continue to sleep with her for four months. My boyfriend now is so much better he does everything for me takes in my feelings and cries over how much he loves me physically crying over how much I mean to him.
The second proposal would be perfect... if done privately.
Definitely hate the idea of being proposed to in public.
I would hope it’s common sense to discuss the topic beforehand…😅
To the reasonable-enough dudes here:
No chick in her right-enough mind, ever insists that you have to propose to her in public.
Marriage proposals - in a sense - is more about the guy, than the girl.
So pick a method you are comfortable with.
For anyone who must know:
I'm not red nor blue pill; I have to be culturally non-African in order to practise patriarchy or feminism.
I am culturally African (i.e., Black culture).
Lmao😂this is hilarious on top of a good message.
Never settle for someone who doesn’t show up for you and who doesn’t care about your feelings. It takes more than one person caring to make a relationship last.
I’m so happy for you and Burner. I’m glad you found your 🦞
I personally would prefer a low key proposal but at least something more romantic than that. I know my partner well and we both don’t like the spotlight or anything. If he ever does propose it’ll be just the two of us.
😅😂Haaahaa!! This skit is everything!! I had to re-watch it a handful of times. Girl I'm over the moon happy for u & Berner! Ur storytime was funny & sweet about the proposal. Now u & Berner should do one together so we can hear how each of u was feeling, etc. ❤
Yeah... big gestures are not what love and healthy relationships are about. They're nice, sure, but this isn't what matters.
Love the skits! And love that you're so happy
✌️💚
Just have faith be faithful throughout marriage that's it. If you want to be committed be faithful no matter what !
Reading the comments, I must share too! About 16 years ago my kids dad proposed but it was only after years of talking about it & he made major purchase for himself on Valentine’s Day. It ended badly. Fast forward. Last month my boyfriends of almost 2 years proposed. He works with granite & marble & I love crystal, we love rocks. So he handmade my ring out of quartz & proposed 200 feet underground in the caverns, surrounded by beautiful rocks!!! It was also at the Wishing Well. So that was his wish, to spend our lives together❤
The ex proposal is how (minus the kid and the “games on” comment) my husband dis it. However, it was the best proposal ever for me because it was low key, logical, and showed he knew me well enough to know that I’d want to pick out my own ring.
At the end of the day, there’s no right or wrong way as long as it resonates with who you’re proposing to.
I love how you knelt while he was proposing.
You're so worried about your ex. Just be happy in your new relationship.
Yeah mine experience was exact opposite. The first guy the proposed to me was very verbally abusive, calling me fat and ugoy and how he wished that i looked like his ex and all that, but did the propose to me in front of thousands of people thing. The guy i am married to never mistreats me in any way, verbal, physical or mental. He has helped me overcome the trauma from my life and become a much better person and his proposal..... he came home from work, i met him walking into the house, he had the ring on his pinky and said "now, will you marry me? This is a real one, nothing fake" because i had been wearing a fake ring and wasn't actually engaged to him or anything lol and then after a few years of being engaged, he walked in the house from work and said "let's go get our marriage license tomorrow and have our wedding this weekend." Lol so with 7 days to get ready for my wedding, i had a great wedding with only a few people and my dad officiated the wedding that he originally had said if we ever got married he wouldn't even show up. Long story short, the right man isn't always going to have the big elaborate ways of showing his love for you
So happy for y'all!!❤❤ You deserve only the best!!!
Where’s the ringgg, I wanna see the ringgg 😂 this would’ve been the perfect little spoiler easter egg haha
I posted a story time on here lol
I think also realizing we actually deserve love and respect. Im working on that. Self love an self worth doesnt come easily for me. Congrats jessica!! ❤
Yes!
They say if you see someone with stuff you want you should ask them how they got it. So how do you find men to be interested in you, show passion for you, care about your needs, actively listens, always wishes to positively surprise you, will marry you, are compassionate, and romantic af?
Go out and meet people. Ask to be introduced, go hang out at places you already frequent, find a common interest. It may take a while but eventually maybe you will be sitting down with a group of friends and they’ll be there because one of your friends is friends with them. You won’t know what to say because they’re so pretty and sweet and smart, and they’re thinking the same thing about you! They send you gifts bring you flowers and make you feel like the best thing to breathe air. They may mess up and you will too because we are all human but you’ll come back together apologize together, and make up over a recipe you saw one time on Pinterest. Love takes time.
Girl congratulations!!! Love you mama
I am soooo happy for you both you truly deserve the very best 💝
Want she with that old sketchy dude like 6 months ago?
She’ll be divorced from this guys within 2/3 years. Mayyyyybe 5
Ive been settling for the bare minimum for a long time. I needed this message. Thank you❤️
Man…. It’s really all about knowing your partner! Sports are my whole world so a proposal that ends with “the game is on” would be music to my ears. But I’ve been watching you for years and aside from a few Steelers shirts that you’ve worn I’ve never seen you talk about sports once! So for you that wouldn’t be a good proposal. You deserve the best and you’re totally right that no one should settle ❤
I might not understand your current relationship, but i see it like the end of lion king. You’re Simba and us, your fans, should be like Timon and Pumba. Remember when they all arrive back to pride rock and Simba says “this is my home,” and Timon is like “we’re fighting for this?!” And he doesn’t get it at all. But he loves Simba, and so he says, “if it’s important to you, it’s important to us.” That’s how all your fans should treat this engagement ❤ leaving our own opinions out of it! If it’s important to you it’s important to us ❤ congrats Jess 🎉 wishing you all the best in your engagement 💍💕🙏🏻🍻 (and rest in Peace to James Earl Jones, the voice of Mufasa! 🦁🙏🏻💕)
Go Steelers! 😂❤
That proposal had nothing to do with a game; other than that was her exes way of saying this talk, even though it’s my partners birthday, and I’m “proposing” to her.. the game is more important than anything to do with you, or this conversation about a wedding. He didn’t get down on one knee. He didn’t find one singular way to make that proposal special. It was actually just really gross behavior. She’s in a beautiful relationship now. With someone who absolutely adores her. It’s darling to see. She really deserves the absolute best, and I’m just incredibly tickled she’s actually getting that now!❤
@@JessicaKent as a patriots fan i can’t say too many positive things about your Steelers but my team is also in rebuild mode so i can’t talk trash. I will say that Mike Tomlin is one of my favorite coaches ever and I give him a ton of props for handling some of the most difficult players in the NFL with class and grace.
Okay but the first one actually seems kinda sweet. Just me? Okay.
I was thinking the same thing 🤷♀️ the other one was a little obnoxious...
But maybe I'm just jealous that she's gotten two guys to propose to her LOL
ur standards are kinda low….
Congratulations!!! You really have a keeper this time around, ignore tye haters. You and your babies deserve only happiness. Sending much love and wishes for a life beyond anything you dreamed
Yasss iktrrr ❤🎉. This gives me more confidence that im on the right track.
Omg the ex so expressive is a non loving way 😅Thank gawd you dodged that bullet ❤
I have said it on Instagram, Patreon, and here (I don’t have TikTok) and I will continue to do so: Jess, I am so incredibly happy for you! You are in a happy and healthy relationship with a safe, loving, and devoted man. You have three incredible babies. And you are now in a safe place where you can breathe, relax, and enjoy life. You deserve all of this and so so much more. Don’t let anyone take away your peace and safety again. Thank you for letting the crew experience your freedom and joy with you. 🖤💍
Also, I just want you to be aware that you still have a piece of merch with your ex on it. I’m not sure if you know that or not so I just wanted to bring it to your attention just in case you don’t want it there. I’d love to see some you and Berner merch, though! 😊🖤
Honestly I completely disagree on you not telling him what to get you. It would be nice if he could get you what you want without saying anything but no one is a mind reader. Unless he happens to be around when you are talking about what you would like for your birthday. you cannot expect him to know what to get you. He can get you something you might like. I think honest communication in relationships is key and if you refuse to engage in such conversations don’t expect anything
Its effort. He put 0 effort in and after 8.5 years I wasn’t going to tell him what I want bc I would have been thrilled for a dinner with my family and a cupcake. And he knew that.
Totally agree, what a weird take.
Am I the only one who doesn’t like the second one either 😅 I don’t care for the first one but I would pick 1 over 2 and I guess because I personally want my proposal to be intimate. That’s just me but hey, I guess I won’t get to choose how a man propose. 😅
My husband of 9yrs, been with for 10, proposed to me at a meet and greet of the band that brought us together.
We just went to see the same band the other day for my bday and to celebrate almost a decade since our engagement. 🖤
I’m so happy for you. He seems like a wonderful guy and I’ve never seen you happier
WE DIDNT FORGET!!......
You could tell how much he loves you by how he broke down asking you. He couldn't hold himself together anymore. It brought me to tears.
My parents divorced when I was around 7. I remember her telling me he had called her on the phone and asked her kinda the same way.. didn’t really have a ring and wasn’t even there in person. Hardly even really asked. She and my stepdad talked about it, he asked me if it was okay, she designed a custom engagement ring, and when he went and picked it up he still knelt on one knee on the kitchen tile in his basketball shorts and gardening tshirt. It wasn’t grand, but he still gave her a more real proposal than she had had before. He has been my greatest example of a husband and a father I’ve had. He’s been her rock. I’m grateful for what he has given her.
This 2 of my exes lol...narcissists will never go out of their way to do anything special for you to make you happy....they do it the complete opposite so they can flip it on you when you are "grateful" for times like this
🥰Had seen this vid before but never realized that YOU were that lovely lady!CONGRATS❣️
Awwwww adorable your fiance, that was so sweet
"Games on" he wildn out lmao
Men never settle for a woman that makes fun of you on the Internet. SMH
he was abusive, he deserves it
Stop making it so damn easy for us then!! Jesus!! 😂😂😂 wtf are you even talking about tough guy?? She’s not marrying the d-bag lame deadbeat that gets made of! YAAAY for her!! 🥰😍😍
They been together for what few months
A year.
So happy for you !!❤🎉
Until you get divorced or split up and then make a similar video with the next victim.
My husband took me to our highschool (where it all started) and we walked around the building pointing out different spots through the windows where we shared this or that moment. As we were leaving, he popped the question right un front of the building, almost in the same spot we were standing when we took photos for the only school dance we went to early on in our relationship. It doesnt sound like much, but it was everything to me.
The desperation is palatable. Is he going to adopt the kids too
We can’t all be Berner and propose on stage 😂
"You can just say the ring i got you for your birthday/Christmas is your 💍 ring if you want." Thats what i get.👌🏽😂 obviously thinkin hard about this rn.. 😂
Amen sister! Thats right girl! May you both have the best blessed marriage ❤
As long as it wasnt performative for the sake of seeking attention or pleasing a crowd? I've seen an "im an introvert" video of hers before, so as long as this level of publicity and audience is what she wanted? Im gonna assume the best and hope that this intimate special moment was publicly recorded & posted for a good reason
girl u deserve all the love in the world
I'm so happy for you jess❤❤❤
Imagine getting on your knees in front of what seems like thousands of people and proposing to a woman just for her to go online and compare you to her ex 😂
This girl has been problematic since day one…drama and hype are her biggest revenue streams.🤷♀️
My husband proposed to me on our living room couch. We eloped two days later and have been married for 4 and half years. We had no rings at the time. No dress. Nothing. He later sold many of his items to get me a temporary ring. But we knew how much we loved & valued eachother. We did the big dress, photos, event on our one year. I got my dream ring. And we are still going strong. Sometimes its not what someone can provide. Was it my “dream proposal”? No. But I wouldnt change a thing.
I love this ! You deserve the world! Great reenactment! Never settle absolutely .
Congratulations on your engagement 🎉❤🎉❤
I knew he was the wrong one just from the way "he" said your name 😂 also you look like a young Leslie Mann, pls take that as a compliment
Wow! So happy for you! ❤🎉
Im learning this too ❤ every time he does something nice , i like, don't know what to do w myself. Lol
Hi, bad gift buyer here. Buying gifts gives me so much anxiety, I worry that it's not good enough. It's not lack of care
This. But also, it doesn't have to be a big grand proposal. It's the intent behind it. My husband proposed to me in a Walmart parking lot of all things 🤣 not a romantic setting but the absolutely most romantic memory I have of him before we got married. Because he was so honest and vulnerable in that moment I knew that was exactly what was necessary. So don't settle, but don't settle for the guy who is just checking a box. Don't feel like if it's not something so amazing that he doesn't mean it. How has he acted up until that moment? That's what matters.
My fiance and I didn't have a traditional proposal because he was wanting to go into the military but that didn't work out so I thought he wouldn't want to marry me anymore and talked about saving the stuff I bought for later but he grabbed my hand and looked in my eyes and said "I still want to marry you" and It made me feel so loved cause we didn't plan on getting married until a few more years. I helped him pick out my ring and he helped me pick out his but I think he is planning a traditional proposal this weekend when we go camping🥰 I'm already engaged but I'm so excited and nervous lol
“I’m getting married in 6 months you’re either on the boat or not”
😂 got in my dingy 😂
My fiancé proposed to me while we were scuba diving in some ancient Roman ruins in Italy! Underwater! It was magical and perfect for us. Also, I'm a history nerd, so it was really fitting
Congratulations beautiful you deserve to be happy 💙💙💙
You deserve nothing less! This is amazing ❤
That's adorable ❤❤❤
CONGRATULATIONS TO THE BOTH OF YOU❤❤❤
Congrats I'm so happy for you❤
Hopefully, your not slamming this dude in 10 years! 🤣
-Just kidding, best of luck! ✌️
Awe! Sweetness overload vs a coward!❤
Facts, never settle for the bare minimum ❤
💯❤ Agree