I never understood the mentality where you prefer someone who will be attracted to those harder to reach. If I had a choice between 9/10 that is playing hard to get and a 5/10 that is love bombing me, I will totally fall for the latter. It just makes no sense to want someone who's not interested in you and is not actively pursuing you. I never understood guys who are "hunters". No means no. I won't be putting effort into a one sided relationship. I wanna be cherished and see at least as much effort put into pursuing a relationship with me as I am putting in it, otherwise I'm just gonna walk away, cause why would I subject myself into being a simp orbiter that gets nothing out of a relationship, or enter a relationship where I am not being treated and respected equally but there is a toxic uneven power dynamic with me being treaded on? Hell no. If you play hard to get, I'm not missing out on anything worthwhile. It's you who misses out on how good I would be to you, looking after you and devoting myself to you, if you showed equivalent interest and effort. But I'm not gonna sacrifice myself giving all that away for free.
I never understood the mentality where you prefer someone who will be attracted to those harder to reach. If I had a choice between 9/10 that is playing hard to get and a 5/10 that is love bombing me, I will totally fall for the latter. It just makes no sense to want someone who's not interested in you and is not actively pursuing you. I never understood guys who are "hunters". No means no. I won't be putting effort into a one sided relationship. I wanna be cherished and see at least as much effort put into pursuing a relationship with me as I am putting in it, otherwise I'm just gonna walk away, cause why would I subject myself into being a simp orbiter that gets nothing out of a relationship, or enter a relationship where I am not being treated and respected equally but there is a toxic uneven power dynamic with me being treaded on? Hell no. If you play hard to get, I'm not missing out on anything worthwhile. It's you who misses out on how good I would be to you, looking after you and devoting myself to you, if you showed equivalent interest and effort. But I'm not gonna sacrifice myself giving all that away for free.