‘There’s A Lot Of Emotional Baggage Here,’ Dr. Phil Tells Family At Odds
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- A woman says she has been estranged from her mom since she kicked her mom out of her house. She says she wants to fix the relationship before she gets a call that her mother has died. Dr. Phil offers advice.
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“I can see liv laughing over there”
Liv crying
To be fair, she also snarled a sarcastic laugh that spoke volumes.
She was laughing
Tia Mulindwa she laughed before she said that
I don’t think that was laughter, I believe she was shaken a little, and jerked back bit which some people do when they cry. As soon as she did what her daughter claimed was laughter, tears started to come out of her eyes. People who are older tend to react in this way more often than other people, because their bodies aren’t working the same way that they used to as they age. My mom just turned 70 this year, and she started to do things like this in her mid 60’s on the few occasions she cried. For example she cried when one of her best friends passed away, and she reacted this way when she cried, it’s not as uncommon in older people.
@@AnonymousBelle562 That was a laugh
I disagree with Dr Phil on you only have one set of parents. It's okay to cut off toxic people if that's the only option. My father is the trifecta of an addict (alcohol, drugs, gambling) and his behaviour isn't conducive to my or my children's well being. I disowned him in 2008/2009. Haven't spoken to him since, he was a manipulator, a liar, a thief, an addict...my children come first, always. Even before myself. I cut him out because he tried to destroy me emotionally and psychologically. There was NO WAY I was going to let him try that with my babies.
People teach us who they are through action and word - listen to them when they do. There is no shame in cutting out toxic people from you life regardless of who they are.
Agreed though I think if you can mend the relationship it's wonderful. A lot of relationships between parents and their children are not as serious as what you speak of and can't be healed. Some people definitely don't deserve that though
EXACTLY 🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽 At the end lf the day, they don't deserve special treatment just because they share the same blood. Love family members and relatives go by this logic and his honestly easier for them to corrupt and to manipulate other family members that actually care about them it's because of that narrow-minded logic the nowadays it's your own family that you can't trust more than better strangers
Sheal Berube absolutely agree with this comment!
Totally agree with this it is correct you have to protect who you love
Why would you disagree, did they mention on the show, of her having another set of parents.
Yuck! Why would anyone say they had a favorite child? Don't like that woman.
My parents said the same thing they had favorite
Cause no matter how much a parent denies it they have favorites if there’s more than one child. It just happens. You can love someone equally but chances are there’s a child out of two you’ll like more
@@christopherh4891 I have two kids and I don't have a favorite! I treat them equal. And that is the truth
G T no wonder she’s on the doctor Phil show
Master Manipulator so the other siblings want no parts of her. I wonder why
Walking away from my abusive mother was one of the best things I've ever done. I finally have peace in my soul for the first time in my life.
Holly Hinkel not every mother is evil!
@@Bellasita63 They didn't say every mother was evil...
@@Bellasita63 Who even said that? 😂
I agree. I cut my mother off 5 years ago. She causes a lot of trouble. Lies. Gossips. Manipulater. And then laugh about it. Then she acts Innocent.
Thank god i have awesome relationship with my parents
It's very obvious that a lot of you have never had to deal with a toxic family member.
Ok clearly both of these women are completely batshit crazy. There’s plenty of toxic to go back and forth here.
Clearly you have a magic crystal ball that can see all our lives.
@Andrea Gomez thank you
Right my grandmother is Liz times 100000000 and she's painted me and my mother, uncles, and aunt in a awful way then plays saint it's so awful having people tell you how awful you are for not putting up with them after you had enough
What do you know Emily what are you a sorcerer
My question is ...so where are her other children if this was her favorite. Why arent they involved?
Probably because mom is bat sh*t crazy
Kay A the mother’s behavior is ur answer. They want nothing to with her because she’s nuts.
Because the situation had nothing to do with the siblings lol
kalei shayne bur their mom sleeping in her van 🤔
If she’s the favorite then I don’t want to see how she treats the other one 🙄
Girl please... She's your favorite because u need a place to go...
Mother: "Nathan, I love Nathan."
Nathan: 🤨
:|
Nathan be like : fckin liar
Exactly he was like Oh really😲
keep distance from people you do not have a good relationship with, even it is a family member! Dr. Phil is not right in this case.
She gave them rent,therefore,she have the right 2 say the grandkids
Can't come in my room.
Agree 100%
I really hate the traditional one-sided narrative about parents. We can't keep spreading the story you only get one parent and when they're gone they are gone, because of that narrative, there are children living with inner turmoil their whole lives. Obviously, the daughter is wearing her emotional issues. And every parent does not deserve the special treatment they get. I've experienced it and when you're overwhelmed and know enough is enough in order to preserve your sanity you have to remove yourself. Dr Phil just allowed this mom to run her emotional manipulative con game. Even her saying she's her favorite was manipulative. She's her favorite because she's probably always been the easiest one to manipulate
Great point!!!
SO TRUE! My mother is exactly the same.
Exactly 🙌🏼
Toy toi, your so wise and spot on. Manipulation is rampant in families. This grandmother is nasty.
Thank u so much ...I needed to hear that. It went straight in &made me think n feel better. ... I've been wearing tht emotional baggage n always had to b there n take care of my mom (she got dementia in my teens) n my brother never helped n fam slowly started pulling away n made me feel guilty n tell me it's my job to deal w her. I did all I could since a kid. I'm a nurse now & 35. Still dealing w mom. But poor thing is in the last stages of the illness. She was a good mom, Christian n good woman but got sick too too young in her 40s when I was young. But what u said on how we can't carry on w so much because we will loose our sanity. I now have Anxiety (PTSD) and rheumatoid arthritis from chronic stress n anxiety. U see. It will kill u. But what u said made so much sense to me, we gtta stop look n see where we're @ n see we're not perfect n DNT need to carry the world's problems. And tht it's ok to ask fr help. 💝💝💝💝
She’s obviously trifling and keeps a nasty home. She didn’t let dr Phil in because her house is nasty. Mom needs to get her own place because she also has issues.
Teena Robinson, best comment yet ! You pegged them right.
Exactly
teena robinson I agree with you
She doesn’t even call her Mom
marie johnson not everyone likes to be called by a title
@@chloecarpenter1404 Why are there so many of you enablers on here today?
JusticeForNichole ?
@@JusticeForNicholeAlloway are you on your period mate?
Mary Ryerson she calls the police on a six year old
I'm so glad my mother was a lovely woman. This mother would be a nightmare.
You are so blessed. Don't take that lightly be that example to yours and you will be blessed for generations.
She's using "favorite child" as a manipulation tactic. Dr Phil would not fix this in his sleep imo
Today is Christmas. My mother in law died in 2016. My birth giver in 2017....I miss my mother in law so much. I only thought of my birth giver because of this post. Once I leave this post, she will be gone too. My mother in law has been with me daily. I'm tearing up for the thousandth time over the heartbreak of her being gone.
@@gwendolynfoote4460 Merry Xmas sweetheart. I miss my parents so much. Life isn't easy sometimes. You are loved.
Mom sounds like she has some narcissistic tendencies
@Bighearted Sunshine The daughter is a lazy, angry mess. Victim of a narcissist. I hope she gains the tools to see her mother clearly and learn to defend herself effectively.
yea she does, she really does
So much so. I think Dr Phil might have ignored that.
Treating her daughter like this and then trying to make up for it by saying, "She's my favorite child" just shows how manipulative this woman is. Maybe there's something here worth saving, but not everything is.
Not sure how I feel about Dr Phil bypassing this mother’s emotional manipulation as OK and insisting so much on her daughter and husband having to deal with her....
Right. He’s obviously projecting his own insecurities about his relationship with his parents 🙄
Phil, my son, its rude to put your grief on people. Sometimes its best not to fix something so toxic, even if its your parents. Their mortality isn't special. I suppose it could be a motivator if framed the right way, but it leans too far toward emotional manipulation imo
But it's a reality that will happen to everyone. Why hate your parent for the rest of your life if it can be fixed?
I've lost a parent so I know what he means ... But on the other hand toxic people will make you sick
@@jesussaves6625 but there are things that can not be fixed and hating no I would say forgetting is better bcz some parents doesn't even deserve to be hated
Dude . .that was kinda harsh...
Okay expert psychologist
Dr Phil is projecting a lot of his own parental experience into this one and it just doesn't fit. The daughter is telling him she doesn't have a relationship with her mom because the woman has made a relationship impossible. He needs to let it be what it is instead of guilting her into letting her mom's behavior slide. Hold that old woman accountable! It's okay to say she was a bad parent, that she STILL is, and that she's reaping what she's sown!! I've gone through this exact thing with BOTH of my parents. It's healthy to let them be the people they've chosen to be and stop reacting and rescuing them, and even more stop trying to resurrect a dead relationship that the other person doesn't care about. Her mother doesn't give a flip about her, only that she doesn't have a house to live in.
And who cares if there's only one mom in your lifetime? If the mom is an unhealthy, lazy, terrible family member who justifies asinine actions and blames other people for all her problems, she doesn't deserve to be in the household. She makes her daughter miserable and is unwilling to change or compromise but wants her daughter's family to support and excuse her. That daughter has every right to say NO THANKS!
Terrible advice, Dr Phil. Sorry, but you totally failed on this one. 👎👎
nope! theres always something called a second chance and going at it!
@@says101 doesnt mean u should dismiss all the emotional abuse in the relationship so you can "fix" it.
@@says101 Not always. Dead things cannot be resurrected...
He 100% did fail this family. The old woman wasn't held all the way accountable. He directed more if his energy, and thoughts, into tearing down the wife. Let's be real, when our lives get hectic and we start suffering from emotional distress, our homes aren't always going to be pristine and perfect. It's okay to have messy days, as long as you still take care of your children's needs and that's what this mother was doing. So no she's not a bad mom, no her home isn't a pig sty, Dr.Phil is just upset she didn't allow a filming crew to record her messy home only to hold it against her and blast it on nation television for the world to see. Who would want that? Having a messy home doesn't make you a bad parent. Dr.Phil holding this woman up to impossible standards, then implying that her home was a pig sty and that she's a bad parent was foul on his part.
The mother's only issue is that she didn't clean up as frequently as she could have. That doesn't represent what she's like as a mother if all three of them agreed that she's taking care of her children.
I see her eyes, and she's tired. You can tell she fought hard to have and mend her relationship with her mother and that's something I can relate to. After a while you don't have time for fake and forced smiles, or nice gestures. You get right to the point. Dr.Phil acting like the grandmother was entitled to her daughter's happy emotions, and implying that she wasn't really trying to make amends because she didn't look happy was foul on his part as well.
He's an outsider looking in, there's not enough time in the world to air all of grievances in under 40 minutes (typical airtime for talk shows like Dr.Phil).
He did not give this family the help they need, he failed and subsequently pushed them all apart further.
That mother is going to go home thinking she's not a good mom, because a white man on a TV show told her she wasn't because her home was messy. That grandma is going to justify her shitty actions with Dr.Phils bias, and the husband and the children will suffer as a result.
He screwed up big time.
She didn’t deny the roaches and dirty house
No, if you’ve been abusive by a parent you DO NOT HAVE TO FORGIVE THEM!!
Flower power Lifting Haven’t you heard, forgiveness isn’t for them, it’s really for you. You probably won’t forget, but why live with hate every time you think of them. That physically manifest in your body each time, not worth it. Thank you 🙏🏽
kittenpawsbb I don’t have to forgive them to be happy. I don’t have my abuser in my life. I am happy knowing I tried to make the situation better and they had no interest so nothing I can do for them. Focus on my life
Abusive is not the word you wanted lol
Nah, forgiveness is the first step to healing. You have to forgive to truly be at peace. You can forgive, but never forget.
If someone is not sorry (for other than themselves), keeps repeating the behavior and/or doesn't even acknowledge what they've done, I see no reason to forgive them... forgiving them would make me feel like a sap tbh. I'd rather make peace with myself and not interact with them at all
Talking to my mom gives me panic attacks
Im so sorry !
Me too
Same
Grow up
Austin G i am “grown up”, I live on my own and hardly speak to my mom. However, when we do speak, it’s always her being negative.
When you have adored your mother as a child and she has abandoned you for her lover, you have included her in your life for 63 years, and you refuse an unreasonable request, and she says “you’re not my daughter” walk away and don’t look back. No regrets upon her death. Dr. Phil is a wise man, but his counsel does not always work.
No one should live with regrets, relationships are difficult and challenging and we always do our best. I am sure you did your best and your mother loved you in her own way (which can be wrong as we are all very far from perfection) and will protect you from heaven. Hope you are in peace now.
@@franci.f. Shut up. Just SHUT. UP.
He has talked at length about his abusive, alcoholic father and how he cut him out of his life. I honestly can't even believe he is spouting this nonsense like we haven't been watching the show/other interviews for the past 20 years.
@@JusticeForNicholeAlloway Calm down, I understand your point, but i was speaking out of my perspective, write to Dr Phil if you don't like what he said. It s not my business
Francesca, my mother loved me as much as she was capable of loving her children. I do expect a happy reunion in the next life, where all wounds will be healed. 😊
The best type of relationship with toxic parents is a long distance one
I need to write into the show. I think I’m Dr Phil material.
Mel’s Life570 Go for it.
4 ever nice for you to think, but you can’t push that on people that aren’t interested
Very very true
4 ever Bruh. Jesus is cool and all but have you ever had waffles and ice cream?
can i be the guy that did you wrong lol
Don’t fix this, it’s anther game mom is playing
There are some real things that need help. They aren't the kind of things that CPS/DCFS steps in on unless there's some real mental/physical/emotional abuse/neglect going on with the kids (it sounds like they address the kid's mental/emotional needs so there's not really much unless they find her being incapacitated by mental illness or "masking" drug/alcohol abuse). It's the kind of stuff that a family therapist is PERFECT for. It would give the parents the chore support they need (a 6 year old is old enough to do some basic supportive chores) and the schedules to give the kids consistency.
As for Liz? There has to be an attempt, because (supposedly) her heart is in the right place. Whether or not she still has problems with him drama-wise AFTER the children are attended to will tell us whether there are other problems at play and whether she is not redeemable.
Full disclosure: My grandmother reminds me a lot of this one and my mom had a lot of things she had to learn in Home Ec considering the condition of my grand's house when we visited from time to time (very cluttered/messy).
Agreed
Following Phan I feel bad for you
Liz is very, very manipulative. She is unmoved when asked whether she's inquired about how her grandchildren are doing, but cries when contemplating her own mortality and circumstances. She has a rationalization prepared for every criticism or observation but, when Dr. Phil says "(You were a bad houseguest) wasn't a question", she stops mid-rationalization, reads the room and says instead, "I wasn't trying to answer." She definitely was, she just saw he wasn't going to buy into it and stopped herself. She is hopelessly manipulative, extremely capable and resourceful, not helpless/disabled at all, just crafty, cool customer. If she had $650/mo. to pay rent to her daughter, why doesn't she use that money to live elsewhere? She's not elderly, disabled, handicapped or a felon, so why isn't she employed? Maybe I missed something, but I have little sympathy for her.
Eureka Garlic I’m just sayin nothing dr Phil says can b taken seriously because he’s not licensed in California 🤷🏻♂️
Ive been through this with my mom playing exactly like a victim,it causes u a lot of depression from childhood to adulthood, After i cut my communication with my mum for 2 years,i had this peace of mind...She is probably a narcissistic Mother.
If that’s her “favorite” child then I can just imagine how the rest turned out 😅
They say that the state of your house is a good indicator of your state of mind. Looking at the daughter... It's probably true
AaronP11 Absolutely. They can detail all the Mothers doing. But that house was in pretty bad condition before she moved in.
Dr Phil uploads again...
Me: *_Gotta go fast_*
Wow. Sounds like mom is quite an manipulative person. I'd be very careful.
She wasn’t a house guest she was a tenant. House guests don’t have to pay or clean. What they did was technically illegal to someone paying rent.
yes and Phil did not raise iT SMH
Ell The Storm and Sea she agreed to pay and clean
Ooxter it’s still considered taking advantage. And also because of her age it could have and should have been considered elder abuse.
My parents talked badly about each other it’s like they trained me to hate them.
The mom was supposed to "help" clean not clean the whole house
I hope they can work it out... my mother died at age 52, I was 26, my daughter was 4. Her and I had a beautiful relationship, and I still have so many regrets in regards to her passing. Don’t waste time being angry over nonsense, you don’t know how much time you have left 😔
It's perfectly fine to cut toxic people out of your life. Blood or not. You're one of the lucky ones who got good parents. Not everyone has that blessing.
Argent Knight: Artemis everyone does have that right. What I’m saying is, toxic or not, living with regret after someone has passed is awful.
These young, immature, or inexperienced, people will not see the light until it's blinding them, unfortunately.
@@laurenadams4624 Or some people live with regret everyday because they refuse to cut horrible people out of their lives. I understand what you're saying about making amends and being grateful for your parents, but some mothers/fathers are so bad that keeping them away is the best option. There are some people that you can't fix and that don't care how miserable they make you.
But it isn't nonsense. This advice is perfectly fine for small issues with family members but this episode clearly indicates it's not that.
Not everyone has great relationships with their parents. Some parents are cruel mean people and I think that's what people with 'normal' parents don't get.
It sounds to me she wanted her mom be to a servant all because she gave her a place to stay
I could never kick my mother out , sorry but this woman is selfish and lazy and just mad her mom wouldn't do her work for her
I mean the daughter madr her mom pay rent?!?! Like her mom gave her a life and went through the pain and emotions, her mom gave her a home. Probably spent millions if dollars on her and she wants her mom to pay rent.
nanthini naban not only that but also do free cleaning and babysitting. Those two took advantage of the mom.
Lol. Their house is a wreck. So many excuses!!! Make a living environment that your children deserve!
People from the eastern world can’t imagine these things !
Our parents are God for us
Yes. We have issues aswell ! We solve it ! There are some evils sending their old parents to old homes !
Old parents are like babies ! Just like they take care of us when we are young, itis our duty to take care of them , love them when they are old !
Thank you. I agree. The way our elderly people are treated here is just a disgrace. It's like they are through away when they're no longer functioning to benefit us.
It HAS to be immaturity. I've noticed most of these commenters are very young. I noticed one had Dora the Explorer for her profile picture (comment about you shouldn't worry about their death, save your own sanity), and another one commented, "Talking to my mom gives me anxiety." That sounds like a personal issue. I'm not sure if I want to laugh or cry.
Agree
This is true in some American cultures as well.
@@zeldagoblin Her mother sure wasn't lonely 🤣!
Shame on putting her Ma out. She should had prays 4 God help.
Charging Her own mother rent ?!!
kathyb799 I get charging her rent, because having her there is an extra expense they can’t afford. If you have children, any extra income should be going to their family fun, investments and their children’s future education. That’s their responsibility as parents. That being said $650 does sound like a lot, it would easier to assess, if we knew what the rent and utilities expensive were. Because it should not be split up 50/50. Thank you
The daughter probably gave the Mother a lot of problems growing up, she's vindictive and lazy. I wouldn't want to live in a dirty house that's for sure , Her Mother should try to get her own place because I think that would help their relationship.
Everyone needs to watch the whole show
Why does she call her mom "LIZ"? Very Disrespectful!
It sounds like they wanted a cheap maid. They thought okay great she can help pay rent. Yet she can do this “extra work” if she moves in. I know someone who is her age and gets paid money to do all that. It sounds like it was their intent to have someone clean up their mess while they don’t do anything. I even learned from a friend who had a maid you still clean up and may even do more work than a maid does but you just don’t leave things around because you feel like it. The two parents are just lazy. If the grandmother cleans it’s because it’s truly dirty to help out and do some but not all work. There’s a limit I would think.
She calls her mother by her first name!! She is cold toward her! She is also very lazy!!
Why want her mom to deal with her kids and dirty home..i think she is same lazy ppls
I call BS. Dr. Phill has said NUMEROUS times how glad he was to get his abusive, alcohlic father out of his life. "Repair the damage." Oh, like you did, Doc?
You always repair the damage, it doesn't mean you keep a relationship.
sometimes relationships can;t be mended but the fact that these women came onto the show together shows they obviously are willing to try so it's not the same thing at all
She called the cops on her own grandchild. That right there is too far and I would've kicked her out too. Her being homeless is not her daughter's fault, it's hers. You do not have to support someone that never supported you, even if they're family. She's only crying now because she has no where to go and she's still wording and explaining things like she's a victim when she caused it in the first place
When living with ur kids u can't say much. Stay out of the way. Pay ur rent which was cheap. Help out much as u can.bottom line u can't put ur Mother out. Shame on u😣!
Saundra Wills she shouldn’t be paying rent. It’s ridiculous
Saundra Wills she should have been paying rent and helping out. It should have been one or the other. They knew that by having her move in they could take advantage of her by not only making some extra money but also by saving money when it comes to cleaners and child care providers.
Did anyone actually listen to the whole show .She was paying them rent $650.00. While the daughter laid in bed half the day being fat n lazy.
Wait so if she had more than one child why doesn’t she go live with one of the other children instead of complaining about being homeless? Smh
The mother”Liz” is a sick unhealthy women. I don’t blame her daughter for throwing her out. She still thinks she’s a victim but she called the cops on her 6 year old grand child, called CPS and was a all around bad person.
2 fine her mom phone all she had 2 do was call her #.
jnie swartz if the house was a bad as she said I would have called CPS as well.
I'm sorry I'm on daughter's side I think she really tried to help her mom. Seems like they were chato her too much rent tho but mom should been helping out too and a bad house guest like he said
Well damn Liz! If Jeanine is your favorite child then how do you treat your other kids? That worries me.
I wanna see what the house looked like!!
I feel an obligation to look after my mother, but it’s not because she was a good mother. It’s a cultural and a religious upbringing. My daughter can’t understand why I try to be there for toxic family members when they are in trouble. I’m trying to teach her to be the better person. I believe my daughter will be there for me in my old age. I hope I have taught her to be a better person. I could never charge my mother rent or expect her to be maid service. But I probably won’t tolerate her mistreating my daughter. I would help her to find a suitable accommodation and would never throw her out into the street. This family is very toxic.
I really feel sad when I see people say that taking care of someone because you feel obligated makes you a better person. It doesn’t, it makes you an unhappy one. I think toxic parents treat you bad your whole life, you internalize it’s ok to be mistreated. Be happy and surround yourself with those that love you. You may regret giving so much of yourself to a “not good mother”. You may one day look at your life and realize that instead of giving and taking all the love and kindness from the positive people in your life, you wasted time absorbing her negativity.
"When you look over your shoulder your history becomes your future"
Not sure I agree with that
You have a choice to do something about it or not. Never accept the hand your dealt unless it is fair or good.
Those are scars not history. Every conflict they have now it triggers the daughter's past.
Amen, I wished this was something I thought of before I barred my parents.
You can “unbar” then. Unless it was a situation of abuse (and I mean real abuse-not disagreements or hurt feelings) will most likely highly regret cutting off your parents.
I'm sorry, hun. 🌻
I was my dad's 'favourite' of his five kids - but I am pretty sure he never made a public - or to my siblings, private - statement about this.
It serves no good.
Your siblings knew.
People are complaining about the parents when they act up. Well, they had to tolerate their chaotic children and abandon their usual life for their children, why can't the children do the same?!?
zubaida nazzal Because the children did not ask to be born. When you have a child you chose to abandon your usual life and have chaotic children. Children don’t get a choice...speaking as a parent
Parents are the ones wanted to be the parents.
I wouldn’t want that grandmother in my life. She is the type you got to love from a distance - a far distance
Sounds to me like the daughter is lazy, and wanted to use her mother as a nanny, and housekeeper! There were cockroaches in the house before the mother arrived. And who charges your own mother rent?! As a senior mother they don’t have the energy to keep up with young children and having to do everything else for her lazy daughter, plus she’s from a different generation! Today people have no respect for our older generation. People back then were sure stronger then what we’re raising now! Don’t forget one day we’ll get to that age and your gonna realize you don’t have that energy we once had. That’s why it’s called retirement!
As an older person, I couldn't live in filth...and this older person did NOT agree to do ALL of the housework, especially when it was disgusting when she moved in...I would stay in my room as well and feel suicidal if I had to live in that...and what mental and emotional issues is all that filth doing to the children
But regardless it sounds like the daughters household was nasty in filthy
The mother knew that be4 she moved in! She had no place 2 go but 2 her daugther or live like a dog on the street.
I feel like they wanted a live in babysitter and maid. And mom wasn't as helpful as she could have been but she is older. There isn't the stamina anymore.
Gloria Ptach they knew they could take advantage of her. Because not only did she pay 650 total in rent a month but she also did free babysitting and house cleanings the babysitting alone would cost them over a thousand a month.
Regardless of how bad my mother is I would never and could never do this to her. It’s not possible.
I find it so funny when Dr Phil says "there is lot of unfinished emotional business here". He's so practical. Coming from a region where families work hard to accumulate that kind of unfinished business and even developed a (luckily non-institutionalized) "revenge code" .
Can you translate all that cuz I'm dumb AF 😂😂😂
@@niamphdollieofficial Basically, according to that Code, revenge for a wrong suffered is not only a right but a duty to educate society to respect rules, so that the wrongs did not dissolve but accumulated for decades or centuries between families. This is the opposite of what Dr. Phil is saying now. Hopefully I clarified that comment :)
@@franci.f. Oooh gotcha thanks hun 👌🏽☺️
Is she really calling her mom by her 1st name ????
That is very disrespectful !!
I’m not saying the mom is right but the mom raised her whole life and u want her to pay rant
Smart move. Please fix and repair the relationship between you and your mom.
After listening to the grandmother for a few minutes, I knew she was a manipulative person and a perpetual victim. Her daughter and son-in-law need to cut all ties with her for the sake of their sanity. They tried, it didn't work, cut their losses, and let grandmom move on to stay with one of her other children. Then go NO contact. Period.
She wasn't a house guest she paid $700 a month. Sometimes the favorite child is the one you work too hard to love and don't feel loved backed. Her daughter calls her Liz - when did that start? Good luck with the couceling, there just maybe too much baggage to work through, but perhaps they can work out a plan to wave the white flag.
I think that couple is lying. Why should grandma have to puck up after their kids. Yeah help clean the house but damn they are trying to blame grandma for the state of the house when it is them and their kids that make the mess
I mean you only get one set of parents but that doesn’t mean you have to let them ruin your lives
It IS frustrating when a 6 yr old has control over ur things and refuses to give it back....things u cannot replace because ur broke...in reality mom shouldve gotten phone back but the cops dont need to waste theit time on family squabbles....over a child who can be taught to leave others things alone...
Nah, if you’ve had an abusive manipulative perpetual-victim parent you would understand cutting them off.
Nope. Some relatives aren't worth stressing over. Sharing genes doesnt mean you need to subject yourself to unacceptable behaviour.
Dr. Phil does not understand everything. I gave my mother one chance after another. She died about ten years ago and I have never been so relaxed and happy in my life. Some people are just toxic.
God Liz reminds me of my abusive father. He's so narcissistic and never takes responsibility for his actions.
Send them to RANCH ! 😂😂😂
Aishah Inam omg😂
That’s all I think about whenever I see dr phil😂
I don't get it.. how do you kick out your own mother? Idc what my mum has done, she'd be always welcome☠️
If grandma can pay $650 a month in rent to her daughter why can’t she get a lil 1 bedroom apartment?? 🤔
You don't abandon your mother to homelessness BUT mom needs to quit putting her family's business in the street.
If her daughter is her favorite child, then God help the rest of the family. This woman needs to go away and stay away.
This is a situation that doesn’t need to happen. 🤦🏼♂️
Shame on them I have no other words! It’s still the woman that gave birth. Daughter seems pretty lazy though.
She don’t need to stay like a maid cleaning and babysitting and on top of it pay rent . *She can HELP but not do it all*
Her mom isn’t nice but you can’t leave her on road to die . Family sucks 🤦🏼♀️ but have to do it
sweet spicy to be fair her mom agreed to the arrangements instead of finding her own place to live
Sorry but I can’t have someone in my house that gets child protective services and police involved ( for a 6 year old taking a cell phone) with my family. If they let her stay around she might lose her kids over probably false accusations
Curchel Smoot true I get it however maybe they started by keeping her as a free maid hence she also did all those things
Just saying . They invited her and was exploiting her as a free maid
NeverDoubtThePowerOfAlliteration Ily a homeless person would agree for anything dear . Even I would have agreed and later understand thT they weren’t trying to help me instead they were happy to use my situation to use as free maid
... but she's not even helping, then she called the cops on a 6 year old!
If this is her favorite child, that means she has more than one. Both/all her children are letting her be homeless. That's telling.
GET RID OF ALL BAGGAGE YOU DON’T NEED ANYMORE.......... BELIEVE ME YOU WILL HAVE SO MUCH MORE TO LOOK FORWARD TOO!!!!!!!! YOU WILL FEEL LIKE AN ENTIRE DIFFERENT PERSON 👍🏻✅😁
Dr. Phil makes much sense in an irrational situation here. The problems that family members usually hold against each other are so trivial, and we usually only realise and regret that after they have long departed. Time for reflection.
As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. Phil is pissing me off with this one😒
You can tell there are deep issues but if you cant move forward with someone that has hurt you then just dont. You become mean and unfair to that person & it never works out.
I’m so bored that I am a 11 year old watching doctor Phil I have been diagnosed with boredom thanks quarantine
'They say ur not supposed to have a favourite child' yeah there's a reason for that.
"You know we're airing this, right?" 🤣
Liz can get a nice apartment in senior housing somewhere with in distance to visit the grandkids on the weekends.
None of them are right. The mother is guilty, so is the daughter. 😔
She is 70 it would be very hard being on your own to having 4 small children around 24/7 and a demanding household like back to working full time , she needed her own space so I agree with the lock on her bedroom door it sets boundaries especially with the children that it’s granny’s space and she needed regular time out away from the house to not feel so overwhelmed
And also you shouldn’t be crying no one did nothing to you so stop crying
Ground rule #1 don't call the cops on your grandchildren
If I were the mom I would be miserable too. She has to pay $650 every month and still have to do all the house work. I believe the grand kids were tormenting her and the mom did nothing about it.
The agreement said help clean. Not do all the house work. And she didn't even help. She yelled at the kids all the time and never wanted to be around her own grandchildren. She dead bolted her bedroom door shut so they couldn't get in so she didn't have to deal with them. She never did anything that she agreed to like housework and watch the kids. The kids were scared of her.
I agree. She's 70 years old, paying her rent plus cable. The daughter should take care of her own children, and keep her house clean.
@@mjdsouthsf she got 4 kids therefor, she needs help.
Her mother can do but so much. Be Thankful 4 that.
How come none of her children will take her in?