Probably one of the most genuinely affecting and well-acted emotional scenes from any movie Barbra has done. And to think she directed it! That just shows how good of a director she is! :)
This is the ultimate movie that centers around "baggage" (as a counselor would say) - "baggage" from our past that we have to deal with, analyze, and then learn from and heal. Alot about "forgiveness" of another human's frailties and imperfections, as well as our own, especially as it relates to our emotional and psychological makeups. The more I saw this film, the more I realized that every character needed to be healed in some way. Possibly my all time favorite movie - AWESOME!!!
Same here. About 15 years ago, I watched this movie for the first time, and it was nothing that I was expecting. I thought it was amazing. I'm not the biggest Streisand fan, but this movie is a masterpiece.
This movie has always been one of my very favorite. Barbra is just amazing,but the fact that she directed it stared in it.. had the empathy and the simplicity to be a psychiatrist who knew what her boundaries were.. Nick or Tom was never a patient so then falling in love was not Against the rules so to speak the direction that Barbra gave in this movie was phenomenal, and nick blossomed as the talented actor that he is ! sometimes I wished there was a sequel to this, especially when he's going over the bridge, murmuring Lowenstein Lowenstein I love this movie!!
I thought so too until my independent, small film maker Uncle who was born in the south pointed out the cliches about the south in the movie and the melodramatic qualities. Then I couldn't unsee it.
even though Streisand lets Nolte steal the show with his acting, she does some great acting in this scene. She can't freaking help herself from being good. I think the minute she knows there were 3, she knows something bad happened to Tom. He doesn't expect her to follow up and is too traumatized to come up with a cover story. She doesn't say "what he do to you"", she says "tell me about him..." She knows he's the one with the impeccable memory.
Probably have loved and been a fan of Nick Nolte since his performance in Rich Man Poor Man. For those not following the film closely, Tom wasn't a patient of Dr. Lowenstein. He came to NY to help his twin sister after her attempted suicide. Dr. Lowenstein needed him there to uncover the secrets of their dysfunctional family that led to Savannah's attempted suicide. But, as the story unfolds, one realizes all the key players needed cathargy. For proof, watch the scene of Tom n Susan in the park after he'd visited Savannah in the hospital. During their exchange he clearly states he wasn't her patient. Anyway, I love, love this film. All human emotion are on display in this masterpiece.
Great great fascinating movie, i hope it got many prizes. the actors are wonderful. Congratulations Barbra as such a fine director. I saw it after years and was amazed how much of the quality of it i missed then. Everybody in it deserves a lot of praise. The book is great too.
"And that's what I like about the south..." This is such a great scene. The last remaining piece of his facade is destroyed, and he realizes just how much he's really been through. I'm not a big fan of Streisand. But I think her portrayal of a psychiatrist was very accurate.
Every time I watch this scene, I burst into tears. It is a memorable one. All the cast is flawless, especially Barbra and Nick. Barbra is a force of nature! She is multifaceted!
This is a rough movie. But so brilliant. Ugh Streisand, can’t support her but gotta admit... she directed a brilliant movie. Nick Nolte: Master of his craft. 💚🧚♀️
Before Robin Williams made Matt Damon cry on Good Will Hunting she was first. One of the best scenes of a psychiatrist getting a patient to cry and the second one was with Robin Williams and Matt Damon.
I so miss the wonderful Robin Williams who left us to suicide. Played a role where his 15 year old son commited suicide and some years later used that method...
Actually, I used these clips as part of an assignment for a Counseling Methods class and 'affective' refers to affective therapy which is concerned with emotional awareness. But yes, this is a good example of a good counseling method
awww i love this character that barbra plays so much :) and also if that person that barbra played was real i would feel that i could go and talk to her about anything that i needed to talk about i wish i could find someone like her but barbra also seems like the kind of person like if you told her a problem she would do anything she could to help i love herr so much
Lyman, your message was a blessing to hear. You have said it all - "With God, ALL things are possible." Our Lord is the Great Physician. Our Lord gives us the "peace that surpasseth all understanding" and, as you have discovered, it is the most important thing in life. May God continue to bless, heal, and keep you for the rest of your days.
Getting to a catharsis is not an easy thing. I know that from experience. There is a great deal of truth about passing through the difficult stuff to begin to get clear of it.
This scene in the movie brought tears to my eyes! It still does every time I watch it! I'm sure this scene was the most difficult thing to film and it's a shame that Nick Nolte wasn't nominated for an Oscar for his role and Barbra Streranid for her roles in acting and directing.
I read The Lords Of Discipline as well and if there was one thing that alot of the Characters had in common in Pat Conroy's Books is that they were "emotionally damaged". Will McClean's who is hardworking and moral gets backstabbed and Tom Wingo had a horrific painful childhood.
@@loveinthemidst5841 bullshit, what honor is in pretending to love your wife? in lying to her an pretending you don't want to be with someone else in stead of you? In such a situation the greatest gift the guy i "love" would give me is the truest honesty, so that i could take that information and find a better option. To live a life based on lies is what weak people do.
Elizabeth Bennet Uhhhh....really who cares. We’re about to go under haven’t you noticed??? The scamdemic ring a bell? But since I got this lovely ‘Bullshit’ comment in the middle of the night. Yeah. Honor means something. You make a family you honor it. Feelings come and go but you honor family and don’t leave your wife and children for new pu***. Unless you’re in an abusive relationship you make it work if you’re a man of honor. Your comment is.... Bullshit. Bye
Are there any other clinicians here cringing over the ethical ambiguity? Just me? 😅 I am also wondering if Dr. Melfi was party inspired in part by Streisand's portrayal of a psychotherapist in this film. 🤔There is a reference to this movie in one of the episodes of The Sopranos, so I like to think that the writers did want the viewer to make that connection. I could be wrong though!
Concordo, desde que o terapeuta consiga acessar o que necessita ser acessado. Nem todos conseguem essa façanha e, consequentemente, não há evolução no tratamento.
As touching as this scene is, and yes, this is a screenplay adaptation of a novel, but let's get real. No self-respecting mental health professional would do what Streisand's character does here: it is unethical, unprofessional, and likely deleterious to the patient. And I'm not even going to get into the 'relationship' she has with her patient later on in the movie. I think, instead of going for the emotional "money shot", Streisand should have considered a more restrained performance. Nick Nolte's character would've likely recoiled from being on the couch next to his shrink, and done any of a number of 'socially acceptable' behaviors we've allowed men to express: scream, curse, break things. That would've been better exposition: heck, I think he would've been more comfortable making his confession to his dead sister's gay neighbor, played broadly (but honestly) by George Carlin. He would've provided a level of visceral empathy that would've held a lot more gravitas than this melodramatic spectacle.
I will give t to you that there is definitely tons of grey area in this scenario and in their relationship PERIOD. It was clear (@ least to me) by the way she started tearing up just by hearing his stort that she was too emotionally invested. But she was still able to walk him through the initial healing process using her good old fashioned training which TECHNICALLY can only be deemed unethical if he were her patient but he wasn't.
I think there's some poetic license here. I haven't read the book but it's clear that Tom is not her patient. It's also clear that she is not manipulating him and that his is not a pattern or something she has done or will ever do again. And the tearing up... I'm not sure that I want a therapist that wouldn't tear up at this story, or maybe the fact at that they didn't even tell their father or deal with it in any way. That his twin tried to kill herself right after (and I believe was already mentally ill). That their brother had committed a murder to protect them. Lowenstein's a little traumatized by the story. Therapists aren't superhuman. I think the way Streisand directed this, when I first saw this. You cold feel the awkward energy and how Tom tries to use humor and mask the pain and shame reliving. How he blames himself for it.
One of the best movies made. Streisand deserved an Oscar for director! What a snub!!
Barbara has the most beautiful hands ever. I've always admired them, especially when she plays the piano.
Probably one of the most genuinely affecting and well-acted emotional scenes from any movie Barbra has done. And to think she directed it! That just shows how good of a director she is! :)
The film is a work of art from beginning to end.
@@MrDuboce i fully agree, saw it after many years and could appreciate it soooo much more.
This is the ultimate movie that centers around "baggage" (as a counselor would say) - "baggage" from our past that we have to deal with, analyze, and then learn from and heal. Alot about "forgiveness" of another human's frailties and imperfections, as well as our own, especially as it relates to our emotional and psychological makeups. The more I saw this film, the more I realized that every character needed to be healed in some way. Possibly my all time favorite movie - AWESOME!!!
One of those movies that has never left me and a scene that never gets any easier to sit through.
Same here. About 15 years ago, I watched this movie for the first time, and it was nothing that I was expecting. I thought it was amazing.
I'm not the biggest Streisand fan, but this movie is a masterpiece.
"God help me." That line kicked me in the gut.
This movie has always been one of my very favorite. Barbra is just amazing,but the fact that she directed it stared in it.. had the empathy and the simplicity to be a psychiatrist who knew what her boundaries were.. Nick or Tom was never a patient
so then falling in love was
not Against the rules so to speak
the direction that Barbra gave in this movie was phenomenal, and nick blossomed as the talented actor that he is !
sometimes I wished there was a sequel to this, especially when he's going over the bridge, murmuring Lowenstein Lowenstein I love this movie!!
Very underrated performance by Nick - great chemistry with him and Barbra. Great film - not one of those overacted dramas.
He was nominated for an Oscar
@@Price70 It was hard for Hollywood to see that A Macho Man like Nick Nolte could play a vulnerable person who was a Victim.
I thought so too until my independent, small film maker Uncle who was born in the south pointed out the cliches about the south in the movie and the melodramatic qualities. Then I couldn't unsee it.
Great acting. When she says " you really have known how to cover your pain" . The look on his face
even though Streisand lets Nolte steal the show with his acting, she does some great acting in this scene. She can't freaking help herself from being good. I think the minute she knows there were 3, she knows something bad happened to Tom. He doesn't expect her to follow up and is too traumatized to come up with a cover story. She doesn't say "what he do to you"", she says "tell me about him..." She knows he's the one with the impeccable memory.
Great observation. She says out of it. "Tell me about him." Brilliant line.
Diese Szene war so ergreifend für mich, wirklich sehr gut gespielt. Ich musste auch weinen. 😭😥😢
Why do I keep playing this scene over and over? I sob and sob and sob.
If I only could find Someone Like this to let my pain out, and stop hiding within myself
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Probably have loved and been a fan of Nick Nolte since his performance in Rich Man Poor Man. For those not following the film closely, Tom wasn't a patient of Dr. Lowenstein. He came to NY to help his twin sister after her attempted suicide. Dr. Lowenstein needed him there to uncover the secrets of their dysfunctional family that led to Savannah's attempted suicide. But, as the story unfolds, one realizes all the key players needed cathargy. For proof, watch the scene of Tom n Susan in the park after he'd visited Savannah in the hospital. During their exchange he clearly states he wasn't her patient. Anyway, I love, love this film. All human emotion are on display in this masterpiece.
Yes, this movie is a masterpiece.
Gripping, powerful, couragous...simply beautiful. Thank you.
When men cry,,it's very special.
Great great fascinating movie, i hope it got many prizes. the actors are wonderful. Congratulations Barbra as such a fine director. I saw it after years and was amazed how much of the quality of it i missed then. Everybody in it deserves a lot of praise.
The book is great too.
"And that's what I like about the south..."
This is such a great scene. The last remaining piece of his facade is destroyed, and he realizes just how much he's really been through. I'm not a big fan of Streisand. But I think her portrayal of a psychiatrist was very accurate.
God I love that movie.
Wow, not a fan of Streisand? How can that be?
@@m.rivers9201 me too!!
@@miagardner541 She's a liberal loon who can sing.
This scene is so gut-wrenching.
Every time I watch this scene, I burst into tears. It is a memorable one. All the cast is flawless, especially Barbra and Nick. Barbra is a force of nature! She is multifaceted!
This is a rough movie.
But so brilliant.
Ugh Streisand, can’t support her but gotta admit...
she directed a brilliant movie.
Nick Nolte:
Master of his craft.
💚🧚♀️
Tough scene ..... and not a dry eye in the house.
My all time Favorite Movie
Nick colte is such a natural ..The best of the best.Great actor Mmm Lord!
Before Robin Williams made Matt Damon cry on Good Will Hunting she was first. One of the best scenes of a psychiatrist getting a patient to cry and the second one was with Robin Williams and Matt Damon.
Ordinary People, 1980, Timothy Hutton/Judd Hirsch
I so miss the wonderful Robin Williams who left us to suicide. Played a role where his 15 year old son commited suicide and some years later used that method...
Actually, I used these clips as part of an assignment for a Counseling Methods class and 'affective' refers to affective therapy which is concerned with emotional awareness.
But yes, this is a good example of a good counseling method
I'm a Substance Abuse Counselor and I have shown this movie as an example of unaddressed trauma.
My favorite scene in the movie. So sad and tragic.
Ich liebe diese Szene aus diesem hervorragenden Film. Nick und Barbra sind spitze!!!!
Best movie ever. Brilliant!
awww i love this character that barbra plays so much :) and also if that person that barbra played was real i would feel that i could go and talk to her about anything that i needed to talk about i wish i could find someone like her but barbra also seems like the kind of person like if you told her a problem she would do anything she could to help i love herr so much
Lyman, your message was a blessing to hear. You have said it all - "With God, ALL things are possible." Our Lord is the Great Physician. Our Lord gives us the "peace that surpasseth all understanding" and, as you have discovered, it is the most important thing in life. May God continue to bless, heal, and keep you for the rest of your days.
This movie didnt award these actors with grammys or oscars because real is not accepted these days
Getting to a catharsis is not an easy thing. I know that from experience.
There is a great deal of truth about passing through the difficult stuff to begin to get clear of it.
It's true bro! It's true!
This scene in the movie brought tears to my eyes! It still does every time I watch it! I'm sure this scene was the most difficult thing to film and it's a shame that Nick Nolte wasn't nominated for an Oscar for his role and Barbra Streranid for her roles in acting and directing.
Wow, both Barbara and Robin were the best psychologists of film!
Yes, but so sadly Robin left us to suicide at 62?. Such a kind, loving man and great actor.
I read The Lords Of Discipline as well and if there was one thing that alot of the Characters had in common in Pat Conroy's Books is that they were "emotionally damaged". Will McClean's who is hardworking and moral gets backstabbed and Tom Wingo had a horrific painful childhood.
love this
Absolutely beautiful
Lowenstein is one of the most beautiful woman of movie history...
Ah yes, the last line of the film. "I say it like a prayer. Lowenstein. Lowenstein."
Amazing how seamlessly the cliches of the novel pair with those of the film.
I wanted him to stay with her
Me too.
He couldn’t.
He was a man of honor.
💚🧚♀️
@@loveinthemidst5841 bullshit, what honor is in pretending to love your wife? in lying to her an pretending you don't want to be with someone else in stead of you? In such a situation the greatest gift the guy i "love" would give me is the truest honesty, so that i could take that information and find a better option. To live a life based on lies is what weak people do.
Elizabeth Bennet
Uhhhh....really who cares.
We’re about to go under haven’t you noticed???
The scamdemic ring a bell?
But since I got this lovely
‘Bullshit’ comment in the middle of the night.
Yeah. Honor means something. You make a family you honor it. Feelings come and go but you honor family and don’t leave your wife and children for new pu***.
Unless you’re in an abusive relationship you make it work if you’re a man of honor.
Your comment is....
Bullshit.
Bye
Lowenstein! Love wins!!!
Brings me tears every time 😪
Nick Nolte was so handsome and masculine and sexy. Such a good actor. What drugs and alcohol have done to him is truly tragic.
Is truly tragic.
AMAZING every inch PERFECTION
Did you see her nails ...their like Butta
Now where can I find a woman like that...
Maravilhoso o video.bo. seria passar todo o filme
lindo esse momento
like the scene with the wonderful robin williams in good will hunting
1:38 It's not your fault. 1:52 It's not your fault. 1:59 It's not your fault. 2:05 It's not your fault.
Maravilhoso
Miért nem láthatom ezt a jó filmet magyarul végig ?..........mert nagyon jó.....?
Great movie…Better book…
Nick norte debió ganar el Oscar ese año pero Anthony hopkins era más popular pero su trabajo no superó el de nick en esta película
shall u please writ the sub title of sence by english, i want translate it please
lindissimo
Are there any other clinicians here cringing over the ethical ambiguity? Just me? 😅
I am also wondering if Dr. Melfi was party inspired in part by Streisand's portrayal of a psychotherapist in this film. 🤔There is a reference to this movie in one of the episodes of The Sopranos, so I like to think that the writers did want the viewer to make that connection. I could be wrong though!
Genial
Terapia: devastação que liberta...
Concordo, desde que o terapeuta consiga acessar o que necessita ser acessado. Nem todos conseguem essa façanha e, consequentemente, não há evolução no tratamento.
Humbling
You can heal from the past but don't bring it in the future
Too painful 😣
Anybody Know the name of the classical music orchestra that are playng during the bernard and tom footbal training? Please i'm desperate...
Barbra mentions what it is in her autobiography- which should be listened to on audible it's fantastic
He should of stayed with her
omg he is worst then savannah but really cute!!!!!
@LawnmoverMan There is at least one here in HEL who is looking for a man with feelings and depth. Not necessarily with awful childhood though...
SuviMeansSummer What's HEL?
U good nick ?
Nick Nolte is very good.
O.maxi.o
As touching as this scene is, and yes, this is a screenplay adaptation of a novel, but let's get real. No self-respecting mental health professional would do what Streisand's character does here: it is unethical, unprofessional, and likely deleterious to the patient. And I'm not even going to get into the 'relationship' she has with her patient later on in the movie. I think, instead of going for the emotional "money shot", Streisand should have considered a more restrained performance. Nick Nolte's character would've likely recoiled from being on the couch next to his shrink, and done any of a number of 'socially acceptable' behaviors we've allowed men to express: scream, curse, break things. That would've been better exposition: heck, I think he would've been more comfortable making his confession to his dead sister's gay neighbor, played broadly (but honestly) by George Carlin. He would've provided a level of visceral empathy that would've held a lot more gravitas than this melodramatic spectacle.
And that's why you are not a film maker, my dear
terrible depiction of a therapist.. the lack of boundaries.lowenstien was the ill one
He was not her patient. She did not cross any boundaries. Had he been her patient then you would be correct, but you are not.
incorrect. check your boundaries. it was a relative..and she manipulated him to get info and slept with him.
hel ho no he was look what happened to him
I will give t to you that there is definitely tons of grey area in this scenario and in their relationship PERIOD. It was clear (@ least to me) by the way she started tearing up just by hearing his stort that she was too emotionally invested. But she was still able to walk him through the initial healing process using her good old fashioned training which TECHNICALLY can only be deemed unethical if he were her patient but he wasn't.
I think there's some poetic license here. I haven't read the book but it's clear that Tom is not her patient. It's also clear that she is not manipulating him and that his is not a pattern or something she has done or will ever do again. And the tearing up... I'm not sure that I want a therapist that wouldn't tear up at this story, or maybe the fact at that they didn't even tell their father or deal with it in any way. That his twin tried to kill herself right after (and I believe was already mentally ill). That their brother had committed a murder to protect them. Lowenstein's a little traumatized by the story. Therapists aren't superhuman. I think the way Streisand directed this, when I first saw this. You cold feel the awkward energy and how Tom tries to use humor and mask the pain and shame reliving. How he blames himself for it.