So important to recognize that no amount of beautiful diapers will fill a void inside, thanks for being vulnerable and honestly sharing your experiences.
This video is like: "Things I wish I knew before cloth diapering. Not, like, about cloth diapers. Just what I wish I'd known earlier." And I love it! Thank you for being such an authentic voice on this platform and a valuable asset to this community.
Yes Love! My biggest take away from this was MINDSET! I’ve accomplished a lot these past couple months with my own mental health, my physical health and more. I’m a first time mommy here at 30. Baby boy been in cloth successfully these past 15 months thanks to the knowledge you have shared. But yes ladies and gents let’s get our MINDSET right and we will all benefit 🥰
I love that 💕 mindset can really change every single aspect of your life in varying degrees. Mindset is incredibly powerful 🔥 mental health has been such a huge theme for me since 2017 because I’ve seen some dark depths but also amazing heights. It takes work to move through mindset but it’s worth it. It’s where growth happens 🌱🦋✨
OMG absorbency is soooo key. I totally agree, especially as my baby boy is a heavy wetter that I used like hundreds of hemp / bamboo inserts and boosters haha
I only go in a few groups nowadays. No mommy groups because they’re too much lol, and just a handful of cloth groups. Too exhausting to be in mommy groups.
listening about mom WhatsApp grups is a great anticonceptive 😅. I don't know if I want babies but I love cloth diapers so much, they're so cute and environment friendly 😆
Glad I found your channel today!!! We dont have kids yet but I have been thinking using cloth diaper when we have our first born.. and my research scare the crap out of me (i need diaper lol). but listening to you talk about it in ur calm soothing voice really ease my nerve and rebuilt my confident in choosing cloth diaper
Research can sometimes be overwhelming because there’s so much info out there! I’m glad I could help with your decision to choose cloth 👏🏻 Once you start to understand the basics then cloth becomes less scary. After awhile it becomes so normal and part of your every day life ☺️
Just coming in here to comment that I’m in loveee with your videos! I love your sense of humor, your honesty with cloth diapering, and not putting out wrong information this is by far the best channel I’ve found on cloth diapering! Thank you for helping me keep going with cloth diapering 🥰
The present is called the present for a reason. This in between stage, between past and future, the process of finding yourself, of remembering who you truly are it's a Gift. The gift of growth, Spiritual Physical and Mental Growth...It's also what good mothers enjoy about raising there children, watching and helping with the process of there growth. We as parents help shape who they are becoming but the minute they are in our belly they start to shape who we are becoming and even for different children and at different stages in our lives the process is just so uniquely beautiful...
Wow! So beautifully said 💕✨ Time won’t wait for us. The is illusion is that we believe we have time. Time is a precious gift that is best spent while being present. One of the best things we can do for our children is work on ourselves and grow. It changes the way we raise them and show up to them. Such a profound lesson I’ve learned along the way 💕
I’m really happy I found your channel a couple of days ago. I’m a new stay at home dad and I’ve found cloth diapering to be very empowering as I validate my new role, which can get really lonely because most communities are for women/moms (I don’t mind joining those communities but there can be obstacles beyond my control to being accepted or feeling like I can belong). Being the one who takes care of the baby and the house is also very liberating for me as a guy, especially because all my life I’ve tried to break beyond gender expectations. I’ve binged many of your videos and many of your insights about life in general remind me of stuff I’ve gone through, including growth and change. I hope to watch for a long time to come!
This was a lot more life advice than I initially expected but I loved it!! You are so strong and than you for being vulnerable on camera. I just want to give you a big hug!! ❤️❤️❤️
I love a good deep dive 😂💖 the element of surprise and depth are my favorite parts of making videos! We’re doing so much more than just cloth education here, we’re growing too 🌱✨
Thank you for your beautiful sincere words. I really feel you, motherhood can be so hard and lonely and such a learning process, I would say nowadays is harder than ever. I see a lot of need for BUYING ALL THE NAPPIES in this community and for me I know that if I allowed myself to get there with my addictive personality is not going to be healthy. Some can do it for fun but I know myself and I need to see diapers as something that full-fills a need: hold pee and poo.
Wow it’s powerful that you understand your own patterns and behaviors. That in itself takes a lot of self awareness, but also that is self care in itself. Keeping yourself from falling into addictive patterns that are hard to break. Kudos to you 🙌🏼🔥
@@JaysNest haha yeah in the other hand i would rather buy another nappy than starting smoking again for example....😅 second hand baby clothing and nappies at least doesn’t do that much harm so I’m not too hard on myself either, and no judgment to others!
First of all i want to let you know that you are very inspiring! 💞 I am very thankfull that i found your channel 2 years ago i have learned alot thru your channel thank you soo much! I became a mother at 15 as well and i know what it is like to stop talking to old friends and go thru some depression. Definitely understand what is to go thru ups and downs and also made de mistake of buying aot of cloth diapers because now i learned that buying stuff (cloth diapers) doesn't fill up the gap someone could have inside. I would definitely tell my self to invest in some flats! ☺
Goodness I wasn't expecting to get so much from this video, not related to cloth diapers! I am in the depth of depression and new motherhood right now. Thank you for speaking to me, so raw and real and so inspirational
My grandmother and my 80 year old aunt only had basic washing machines. What they did have was a clothes line and the power of the Sun. my Aunt did say she loved liners to help with the poop.
Your video was exactly what I was expecting for your video. I feel your pain, girl. I went through a divorce in 2013 and that shit changes you, or maybe you changed and grew and that's why your marriage didn't work out long term. Whatever it is, you'll get through it and be a better you at the end. 💖 You're totally right though, buying diapers or whatever will not fill the void.
I feel like marriage in itself changed me. I used to see marriage through this air of illusion... it’s just a piece of paper to celebrate deep love and a deep binding contract. Back then I thought it’d make love more meaningful which is backwards. I learned a lot about myself through the reflection of marriage. No regrets 💖 Sometimes we outgrow people when we outgrow versions of ourself. Luckily we are still able to maintain peace and a friendship despite the divorce... and that’s on growth! LOL I’m thankful for the way it all unfolded
I really enjoyed this video! So sweet to hear you talk about how you've grown etc. I'm a first time cloth diapering mom and enjoyingit, have definitely learned a lot from your videos! Your maturity and voice in this video is compelling, keep up the good work!!! 🥰
I feel like a lot of us are on this path of self discovery and it’s so beneficial to speak about that growth. I know that I would’ve loved something like that in my early journey. I know how powerful inspiration and passion can be when shared with others. It’s a perfect concoction for transformation. I’ve met so many people who have inspired me to grow and now it’s my turn to pass that on to those who are ready to grow too 🌱✨
Im trying so hard to invest in quality absorbancy from the get go but i have so much that isn't working because my little one is still so little, especially trim between the legs (3 weeks, 9 lbs, already in OS pockets) that things like flats are just too bulky and i cant even get the diaper on her, and the ones i can get on her with more bulk i have to use different snaps than usual to make the diaper a lot bigger. Like double the size she is with our regular inserts. no idea if thats a normal thing to have to do 😂 too many diapers- I feel like im buying too many diapers just in trial and error, not even addicted to buying... yet 😂
@@JaysNest it's not even that it just looks ridiculous, i have to expand the diaper to toddler size to get it on her with a flat inside and then some of them still dont fit right. and shes not even 1 month 😅 we're still up every 3 hours for feedings anyway so we've partially given up trying to make her night diapers last longer than that for now anyway. We got a routine of feed, change, back to sleep 😂
I’m a first time mom and your video was so warming and much needed! My baby girl is 3 months and I’m starting cloth diapering. Thank you for the information! You are so right about the mom groups!
You are such a beautiful person inside and out! I am so grateful that I have found your channel because you have helped me so much! I could listen to you talk for hours, Thank you 💕
I found you years ago and LOVE your videos and your message. Completely agree with the groups thing. I feel that people think they can say whatever they think online. I have unfollowed all the pages/left groups for all cloth diapering. We’ve been ttc for four years and we’re finally going through a fertility doc. And I love your girls names! Willow and Hazel have been on my “names list” since high school!
I love you!! You are so awesome and beautiful!. The community is so so blessed to have you. A few things I wish I knew before cloth diapering. It’s not all or nothing! It’s never to late to start, this one was so powerful for me. I thought at a year old was just a waste of money and would be easier to continue with disposable diapers than to learn something new. Hint: I was so wrong! Cloth diapering would be to hard or complicated. Well, here I am almost nine months after a preloved set from Facebook. That set is now gone and all diapers are the brands I enjoy. Flats are scary and to much work....😂😂😂😂 if I could just go back nine months ago and slap myself I would.... Thanks to you I’m a flats girl. And omg.... they are so easy!! You get a little better each time, and when all else fails fold that shit into rectangle and go.😂
I would tell myself: Mistakes are ok. Things don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes good enough IS good enough. Don’t research until I die; at some point, you gotta get out of the chair and take the first step! Give people the benefit of the doubt. Not everyone is out to get you. Friends don’t have to think or look like you.Give their perspective a shot. Tell that critical voice in the back of your head to stfu and stop giving it power. Be kind to yourself and be kind to others even when it’s hard.
You're so wonderful!! You helped give me the confidence to try FLATS. I'm actually excited and feel mostly committed to cloth diapering. Your individual outlook towards being flexible in what works for you and your children is aligned with my mentality towards cloth diapering in general. I'm becoming a FTM and feel in touch finding your channel especially in these times in lockdown and restriction. I've been so anxious and feel at ease when I hear about your experiences and honest opinions and without undue negativity. LOVE IT! Keep up the great work mama and keep on, keepin' on.
I really appreciate you saying that. I know times are tough and parenthood is already hard without global restrictions and loneliness. I know how powerful words can be during times like this. Sometimes sharing our stories can help others choose a path of healing or reflection which is a powerful gift in itself. Plus, sometimes it’s nice to have be able to talk with people or listen to people who break down the tense energies and stress surrounding new experiences. It can make all the difference ✨
What I would tell my past self about cloth diapering: Don't do so much research. You won't even bother reading all those notes you took on Google. Try different diapers. Don't dismiss pockets because you'll want to try them later. Your preferences will change over time. You'll really like prefolds, but then you'll fall in love with fitteds and realize those aren't perfect either. Strip diapers on a regular basis, like monthly. Not once in a pink. Ammonia builds up. Don't ever soak diapers. Buy a heavy duty drying rack. Those cheap Maytags will break overtime. There will always be a sale. Wait for one. It's not rocket science using high efficiency machines. You can totally wash diapers at your sister's house. You should have started elimination communication at birth. Why didn't you look into it when you first heard of it? You could have been all geared up, no blowouts, no spraying nasty first solids. By the way, you think it's the worst thing that can happen to you, maybe you'll give up cloth diapering, but solid waste will develop into ploppable poo sometime in the future and spraying them will get better. It still won't be your most favorite thing about cloth diapers. Another reason why you should have given elimination communication a try. Your portable washer was a great investment for stripping diapers. Don't be so disorganized. Think of a system to store diapers out of use. Be strategic about the order for the ones you currently use. Get good cloth wipes (no polyester blends). Give them a try with your homemade wipe solution. Ends fray, but that's not a huge deal. You should have bought more wool covers from Organic Caboose because they will go out of business. It would have been good to practice folding flats and making diy stretchies when you were pregnant. Your toddler will try practicing with you. Your son will adorably put his diapers one at a time into the dryer when he is more than 12 months old. He gets easily distracted, though, so don't expect much help.
Ooh girl, you’re a bit hard on yourself with all the “should’s”. You made the best choices with the best information and the best mindset at the time. It’s ok. You learned as you went and you did just fine 😊
Mom groups on Facebook are way to judgmental. We are all different what work for Sally down the road is not going to work for you! I agree with you not showing your wash routine. I wouldn't as well. So many are so closed up and set in their own way and they think its the right way for everyone. I had to learn the hard way while babysitting. I CAN'T STAND AIOs I couldn't get them clean at all i washed them 6x one day and followed a Facebook groups steps. The advice from that group was so rude they said some stuff I refused to repeat but I actually stripped the pul off of them from washing them the way they told me in just 5 weeks!! I switched to prefolds and flats with pockets and covers and left that group and never looked back!!
I always always love your videos! I learned a lot not just on cloth diapers but also as a person and as a mom. Thats also I felt. I bought a lot of diapers because of sadness and i felt happy because of them, but it only lasted for a few months. The emptiness is still there. It also became one of the factors of why I felt stressed and sometimes I'm having anxiety attacks. I mean, because I bought a lot of diapers my financial state is not that good anymore and thats when the anxiety attacks me. I also focus on my mental health and I promise that I will not be that hard on myself. Another thing. It's okay to use disposables if you feel tired. There's nothing wrong with that. Always always focus on your mental health. Always put your self first! ❤️ -btw! Love you soooo much jacqueline! ❤️
I wish I had invested in boosters right from the start. They have been a lifesaver. I’ve always struggled with getting absorbency right for my oldest since I didn’t start cloth diapering until he was about a year old. His diapers used to be sooo bulky 😂
My washer right now is a top loader with an agitator in the the middle, I love it. But I'm moving and my new washer will be a front loader with no agitator 😭
I’ve never washed with a front loader but I know people do successfully. I wonder how much different the process will be though. I imagine there’s still agitation happening! Here’s to hoping that a new washer won’t cause any issues 🙏🏼💖
Don't worry, you can make it work! Front loaders are the standard in Europe and we make it work! The agitation comes from the laundry tubling down the drum!
I would tell myself... You’re trying so terribly hard. Stop. Take some time to sit quietly. It’s ok if it hurts- it won’t last forever if you just let it wash through you, even though it feels like a tidal wave. Tears will help the pain soften to be not so sharp, just a little sore before it fades. What happened is over. What is beautiful and here now? What’s here that you love? Let your gratitude build until it bursts out of you, because you do impossible things when you’re filled with passion. Just a moment alone will do... let it in. God has been here all along, and blessings and grace already surround you. Let them in. Let it be easy. Thank you for the food for thought, Jacqueline 🧡 I feel nourished telling myself what I wish I could have... sometimes it’s so good to mother ourselves like that! 🥰
Can you use just a hemp/bamboo insert or do you need to use them with microfiber (something that absorbs quickly). My baby isn’t a super heavy wetter and microfiber is enough when we are at home, but I’d rather use a natural fiber. Most things I’ve read say to use both, but that leads to a pretty big diaper and seems like more than we need/defeats the purpose of using a natural fiber. Help!
hello! I write from my husband's account! =) I wanted to know your opinion about the one size covers from lalabye baby. I saw in a video that you used that brand, but I just don't find many reviews of them. If you could help me know what you think of them, I appreciate your very sincere opinions. Thank you!
For budget friendly flats: I love repurposing receiving blankets as flats! I love Green Mountain Diapers muslin flats. Diaper Rite and Petite Crown have nice bamboo/cotton flats. But they are prone to shrinking LOL. Bamboo/cotton is known for shrinkage. It can takes months but sometimes it can shrink a lot. For really absorbent flats I love DIY stretchy flats!
I’m 32 years old, I really REALLY hope the decade younger than me can start uplifting and STOP JUDGING other women. That’s the last thing we need! In this lopsided world. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it, and if you do, then YOU are the ugly person and it shows.
So important to recognize that no amount of beautiful diapers will fill a void inside, thanks for being vulnerable and honestly sharing your experiences.
This video is like: "Things I wish I knew before cloth diapering. Not, like, about cloth diapers. Just what I wish I'd known earlier."
And I love it! Thank you for being such an authentic voice on this platform and a valuable asset to this community.
Yes Love! My biggest take away from this was MINDSET! I’ve accomplished a lot these past couple months with my own mental health, my physical health and more. I’m a first time mommy here at 30. Baby boy been in cloth successfully these past 15 months thanks to the knowledge you have shared. But yes ladies and gents let’s get our MINDSET right and we will all benefit 🥰
I love that 💕 mindset can really change every single aspect of your life in varying degrees. Mindset is incredibly powerful 🔥 mental health has been such a huge theme for me since 2017 because I’ve seen some dark depths but also amazing heights. It takes work to move through mindset but it’s worth it. It’s where growth happens 🌱🦋✨
OMG absorbency is soooo key. I totally agree, especially as my baby boy is a heavy wetter that I used like hundreds of hemp / bamboo inserts and boosters haha
Yess! Absorbency is everything 🙌🏼 it’ll make or break the experience
Definitely agree with the mom group thing, and not just regarding cloth diapers. Soooo many groups I’ve had to leave
I only go in a few groups nowadays. No mommy groups because they’re too much lol, and just a handful of cloth groups. Too exhausting to be in mommy groups.
listening about mom WhatsApp grups is a great anticonceptive 😅. I don't know if I want babies but I love cloth diapers so much, they're so cute and environment friendly 😆
Awww the old footage! ❤❤❤
What I wish I knew... + therapy session 🥰
I love how you don't give a sh!t and start laughing ❤ you are a true inspiration!
Laughter is the best medicine 😂💖
@@JaysNest true 😊
Glad I found your channel today!!! We dont have kids yet but I have been thinking using cloth diaper when we have our first born.. and my research scare the crap out of me (i need diaper lol). but listening to you talk about it in ur calm soothing voice really ease my nerve and rebuilt my confident in choosing cloth diaper
Research can sometimes be overwhelming because there’s so much info out there! I’m glad I could help with your decision to choose cloth 👏🏻
Once you start to understand the basics then cloth becomes less scary. After awhile it becomes so normal and part of your every day life ☺️
Just coming in here to comment that I’m in loveee with your videos! I love your sense of humor, your honesty with cloth diapering, and not putting out wrong information this is by far the best channel I’ve found on cloth diapering! Thank you for helping me keep going with cloth diapering 🥰
I appreciate you 💖 I’m glad I could help you along your journey!!
The present is called the present for a reason. This in between stage, between past and future, the process of finding yourself, of remembering who you truly are it's a Gift. The gift of growth, Spiritual Physical and Mental Growth...It's also what good mothers enjoy about raising there children, watching and helping with the process of there growth. We as parents help shape who they are becoming but the minute they are in our belly they start to shape who we are becoming and even for different children and at different stages in our lives the process is just so uniquely beautiful...
Wow! So beautifully said 💕✨
Time won’t wait for us. The is illusion is that we believe we have time. Time is a precious gift that is best spent while being present.
One of the best things we can do for our children is work on ourselves and grow. It changes the way we raise them and show up to them. Such a profound lesson I’ve learned along the way 💕
Girl!!!! I just want to give you a ginormous hug right now 🤗🤗🤗 So much love for you 💖💖💖
I’m really happy I found your channel a couple of days ago. I’m a new stay at home dad and I’ve found cloth diapering to be very empowering as I validate my new role, which can get really lonely because most communities are for women/moms (I don’t mind joining those communities but there can be obstacles beyond my control to being accepted or feeling like I can belong). Being the one who takes care of the baby and the house is also very liberating for me as a guy, especially because all my life I’ve tried to break beyond gender expectations. I’ve binged many of your videos and many of your insights about life in general remind me of stuff I’ve gone through, including growth and change. I hope to watch for a long time to come!
Just wanted to add that what you say at 17:00 really moved me and resonated with me
The mom groups, yep!! Spot on!
This was a lot more life advice than I initially expected but I loved it!! You are so strong and than you for being vulnerable on camera. I just want to give you a big hug!! ❤️❤️❤️
I love a good deep dive 😂💖 the element of surprise and depth are my favorite parts of making videos! We’re doing so much more than just cloth education here, we’re growing too 🌱✨
Thank you for your beautiful sincere words. I really feel you, motherhood can be so hard and lonely and such a learning process, I would say nowadays is harder than ever.
I see a lot of need for BUYING ALL THE NAPPIES in this community and for me I know that if I allowed myself to get there with my addictive personality is not going to be healthy. Some can do it for fun but I know myself and I need to see diapers as something that full-fills a need: hold pee and poo.
Wow it’s powerful that you understand your own patterns and behaviors. That in itself takes a lot of self awareness, but also that is self care in itself. Keeping yourself from falling into addictive patterns that are hard to break. Kudos to you 🙌🏼🔥
@@JaysNest haha yeah in the other hand i would rather buy another nappy than starting smoking again for example....😅 second hand baby clothing and nappies at least doesn’t do that much harm so I’m not too hard on myself either, and no judgment to others!
So very inspiring. Such a timely video. ❤️ All the best to you and your family, Jay!
Thank you 🙏🏼💖💖 I wish the same for you and your family
First of all i want to let you know that you are very inspiring! 💞 I am very thankfull that i found your channel 2 years ago i have learned alot thru your channel thank you soo much! I became a mother at 15 as well and i know what it is like to stop talking to old friends and go thru some depression. Definitely understand what is to go thru ups and downs and also made de mistake of buying aot of cloth diapers because now i learned that buying stuff (cloth diapers) doesn't fill up the gap someone could have inside. I would definitely tell my self to invest in some flats! ☺
Goodness I wasn't expecting to get so much from this video, not related to cloth diapers! I am in the depth of depression and new motherhood right now. Thank you for speaking to me, so raw and real and so inspirational
Lots of love to you sweetie 🙏🏼✨ It’s such a raw journey filled with so many ups and downs. I’m happy this spoke to the heart 💕
My grandmother and my 80 year old aunt only had basic washing machines. What they did have was a clothes line and the power of the Sun. my Aunt did say she loved liners to help with the poop.
Yess! Liners are so amazing for poop 👏🏻 they were Doing it right. Makes poop clean up so much easier
Your video was exactly what I was expecting for your video. I feel your pain, girl. I went through a divorce in 2013 and that shit changes you, or maybe you changed and grew and that's why your marriage didn't work out long term. Whatever it is, you'll get through it and be a better you at the end. 💖 You're totally right though, buying diapers or whatever will not fill the void.
I feel like marriage in itself changed me. I used to see marriage through this air of illusion... it’s just a piece of paper to celebrate deep love and a deep binding contract.
Back then I thought it’d make love more meaningful which is backwards. I learned a lot about myself through the reflection of marriage. No regrets 💖
Sometimes we outgrow people when we outgrow versions of ourself. Luckily we are still able to maintain peace and a friendship despite the divorce... and that’s on growth! LOL I’m thankful for the way it all unfolded
I soooo needed to hear this!!!!! Btw I love the background music, very calming
I really enjoyed this video! So sweet to hear you talk about how you've grown etc. I'm a first time cloth diapering mom and enjoyingit, have definitely learned a lot from your videos! Your maturity and voice in this video is compelling, keep up the good work!!! 🥰
I feel like a lot of us are on this path of self discovery and it’s so beneficial to speak about that growth. I know that I would’ve loved something like that in my early journey. I know how powerful inspiration and passion can be when shared with others. It’s a perfect concoction for transformation.
I’ve met so many people who have inspired me to grow and now it’s my turn to pass that on to those who are ready to grow too 🌱✨
All so beautifully put.
Yes to inner child work! Amen! It's important to do this reflection and work on ourselves. 🥰🥰
This video got me. 🥲 in a positive way. Thank you
Im trying so hard to invest in quality absorbancy from the get go but i have so much that isn't working because my little one is still so little, especially trim between the legs (3 weeks, 9 lbs, already in OS pockets) that things like flats are just too bulky and i cant even get the diaper on her, and the ones i can get on her with more bulk i have to use different snaps than usual to make the diaper a lot bigger. Like double the size she is with our regular inserts. no idea if thats a normal thing to have to do 😂
too many diapers- I feel like im buying too many diapers just in trial and error, not even addicted to buying... yet 😂
Having a heavy wetter is hard 😂 all that fluff on an itty bitty baby can sometimes look ridiculous lol.
@@JaysNest it's not even that it just looks ridiculous, i have to expand the diaper to toddler size to get it on her with a flat inside and then some of them still dont fit right. and shes not even 1 month 😅 we're still up every 3 hours for feedings anyway so we've partially given up trying to make her night diapers last longer than that for now anyway. We got a routine of feed, change, back to sleep 😂
I’m a first time mom and your video was so warming and much needed! My baby girl is 3 months and I’m starting cloth diapering. Thank you for the information! You are so right about the mom groups!
You are such a beautiful person inside and out! I am so grateful that I have found your channel because you have helped me so much! I could listen to you talk for hours, Thank you 💕
I found you years ago and LOVE your videos and your message. Completely agree with the groups thing. I feel that people think they can say whatever they think online. I have unfollowed all the pages/left groups for all cloth diapering. We’ve been ttc for four years and we’re finally going through a fertility doc. And I love your girls names! Willow and Hazel have been on my “names list” since high school!
I love you!! You are so awesome and beautiful!. The community is so so blessed to have you.
A few things I wish I knew before cloth diapering. It’s not all or nothing!
It’s never to late to start, this one was so powerful for me. I thought at a year old was just a waste of money and would be easier to continue with disposable diapers than to learn something new. Hint: I was so wrong!
Cloth diapering would be to hard or complicated. Well, here I am almost nine months after a preloved set from Facebook. That set is now gone and all diapers are the brands I enjoy.
Flats are scary and to much work....😂😂😂😂 if I could just go back nine months ago and slap myself I would.... Thanks to you I’m a flats girl. And omg.... they are so easy!! You get a little better each time, and when all else fails fold that shit into rectangle and go.😂
Hugs mama!💕 You are loved, remember that.
I appreciate you 💕
Aww my daughter's name is Hazel as well! That is so neat! Yes I definitely need to invest in more hemp inserts, they make a huge difference!
I would tell myself:
Mistakes are ok. Things don’t have to be perfect. Sometimes good enough IS good enough. Don’t research until I die; at some point, you gotta get out of the chair and take the first step! Give people the benefit of the doubt. Not everyone is out to get you. Friends don’t have to think or look like you.Give their perspective a shot. Tell that critical voice in the back of your head to stfu and stop giving it power. Be kind to yourself and be kind to others even when it’s hard.
You're so wonderful!! You helped give me the confidence to try FLATS. I'm actually excited and feel mostly committed to cloth diapering. Your individual outlook towards being flexible in what works for you and your children is aligned with my mentality towards cloth diapering in general. I'm becoming a FTM and feel in touch finding your channel especially in these times in lockdown and restriction. I've been so anxious and feel at ease when I hear about your experiences and honest opinions and without undue negativity. LOVE IT! Keep up the great work mama and keep on, keepin' on.
I really appreciate you saying that. I know times are tough and parenthood is already hard without global restrictions and loneliness. I know how powerful words can be during times like this. Sometimes sharing our stories can help others choose a path of healing or reflection which is a powerful gift in itself.
Plus, sometimes it’s nice to have be able to talk with people or listen to people who break down the tense energies and stress surrounding new experiences. It can make all the difference ✨
@@JaysNest Totally. You so get it! Peace & Love :)
This is so powerful. Thank you for sharing your heart.
What I would tell my past self about cloth diapering:
Don't do so much research. You won't even bother reading all those notes you took on Google.
Try different diapers. Don't dismiss pockets because you'll want to try them later.
Your preferences will change over time. You'll really like prefolds, but then you'll fall in love with fitteds and realize those aren't perfect either.
Strip diapers on a regular basis, like monthly. Not once in a pink. Ammonia builds up.
Don't ever soak diapers.
Buy a heavy duty drying rack. Those cheap Maytags will break overtime.
There will always be a sale. Wait for one.
It's not rocket science using high efficiency machines. You can totally wash diapers at your sister's house.
You should have started elimination communication at birth. Why didn't you look into it when you first heard of it? You could have been all geared up, no blowouts, no spraying nasty first solids.
By the way, you think it's the worst thing that can happen to you, maybe you'll give up cloth diapering, but solid waste will develop into ploppable poo sometime in the future and spraying them will get better. It still won't be your most favorite thing about cloth diapers. Another reason why you should have given elimination communication a try.
Your portable washer was a great investment for stripping diapers.
Don't be so disorganized. Think of a system to store diapers out of use. Be strategic about the order for the ones you currently use.
Get good cloth wipes (no polyester blends). Give them a try with your homemade wipe solution. Ends fray, but that's not a huge deal.
You should have bought more wool covers from Organic Caboose because they will go out of business.
It would have been good to practice folding flats and making diy stretchies when you were pregnant. Your toddler will try practicing with you. Your son will adorably put his diapers one at a time into the dryer when he is more than 12 months old. He gets easily distracted, though, so don't expect much help.
Ooh girl, you’re a bit hard on yourself with all the “should’s”. You made the best choices with the best information and the best mindset at the time. It’s ok. You learned as you went and you did just fine 😊
Mom groups on Facebook are way to judgmental.
We are all different what work for Sally down the road is not going to work for you! I agree with you not showing your wash routine. I wouldn't as well.
So many are so closed up and set in their own way and they think its the right way for everyone. I had to learn the hard way while babysitting. I CAN'T STAND AIOs I couldn't get them clean at all i washed them 6x one day and followed a Facebook groups steps. The advice from that group was so rude they said some stuff I refused to repeat but I actually stripped the pul off of them from washing them the way they told me in just 5 weeks!! I switched to prefolds and flats with pockets and covers and left that group and never looked back!!
I always always love your videos! I learned a lot not just on cloth diapers but also as a person and as a mom. Thats also I felt. I bought a lot of diapers because of sadness and i felt happy because of them, but it only lasted for a few months. The emptiness is still there. It also became one of the factors of why I felt stressed and sometimes I'm having anxiety attacks. I mean, because I bought a lot of diapers my financial state is not that good anymore and thats when the anxiety attacks me. I also focus on my mental health and I promise that I will not be that hard on myself. Another thing. It's okay to use disposables if you feel tired. There's nothing wrong with that. Always always focus on your mental health. Always put your self first! ❤️
-btw! Love you soooo much jacqueline! ❤️
thank you for sharing im due on the end of this month! subscribed .
I wish I had invested in boosters right from the start. They have been a lifesaver. I’ve always struggled with getting absorbency right for my oldest since I didn’t start cloth diapering until he was about a year old. His diapers used to be sooo bulky 😂
My washer right now is a top loader with an agitator in the the middle, I love it. But I'm moving and my new washer will be a front loader with no agitator 😭
I’ve never washed with a front loader but I know people do successfully. I wonder how much different the process will be though. I imagine there’s still agitation happening! Here’s to hoping that a new washer won’t cause any issues 🙏🏼💖
Don't worry, you can make it work! Front loaders are the standard in Europe and we make it work! The agitation comes from the laundry tubling down the drum!
I would tell myself...
You’re trying so terribly hard. Stop.
Take some time to sit quietly. It’s ok if it hurts- it won’t last forever if you just let it wash through you, even though it feels like a tidal wave. Tears will help the pain soften to be not so sharp, just a little sore before it fades. What happened is over.
What is beautiful and here now? What’s here that you love?
Let your gratitude build until it bursts out of you, because you do impossible things when you’re filled with passion.
Just a moment alone will do... let it in. God has been here all along, and blessings and grace already surround you. Let them in. Let it be easy.
Thank you for the food for thought, Jacqueline 🧡 I feel nourished telling myself what I wish I could have... sometimes it’s so good to mother ourselves like that! 🥰
It’s beautifully healing, isn’t it? 💗thank you for taking a minute out of your life to share
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Can you use just a hemp/bamboo insert or do you need to use them with microfiber (something that absorbs quickly). My baby isn’t a super heavy wetter and microfiber is enough when we are at home, but I’d rather use a natural fiber. Most things I’ve read say to use both, but that leads to a pretty big diaper and seems like more than we need/defeats the purpose of using a natural fiber. Help!
hello! I write from my husband's account! =) I wanted to know your opinion about the one size covers from lalabye baby. I saw in a video that you used that brand, but I just don't find many reviews of them. If you could help me know what you think of them, I appreciate your very sincere opinions. Thank you!
What flats do you recommend?
For budget friendly flats:
I love repurposing receiving blankets as flats! I love Green Mountain Diapers muslin flats.
Diaper Rite and Petite Crown have nice bamboo/cotton flats. But they are prone to shrinking LOL. Bamboo/cotton is known for shrinkage. It can takes months but sometimes it can shrink a lot.
For really absorbent flats I love DIY stretchy flats!
I’m 32 years old, I really REALLY hope the decade younger than me can start uplifting and STOP JUDGING other women. That’s the last thing we need! In this lopsided world. If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it, and if you do, then YOU are the ugly person and it shows.
You don’t have to go all in.