I actually agree with this based on my own experiences with men. Looks can attract easily but it’s how they carry themselves that makes us fall for them
I'm picking up what you're putting down here. My big obstacle is my receding hairline; I psyche myself out about it sometimes. I'm sure it does hurt first impressions, but even in encounters as short as a glance, I smile almost instantly in what I think is a worthwhile effort to compete with if not win over the attention from the hairline. Kinda like what you said- I try to make the leaving memory be the smile not the hairline.
"Your perception of attractiveness comes from whatever you consume on a daily basis" This is something I sorta struggle with. Growing up, I constantly got called ugly, which in turn fucked up how I viewed and treated myself. Even though I'm in much better shape and dress better, sometimes I still feel like the ugly, fat kid in middle school.
its still all in your head. You stated the quote at first, now start hugging that quote. Because your perception all happens in your head, you are able to be attractive you have to work on yourself on the inside so you can carry yourself better + get rid of your insecurities inside.
I realize that sometimes my friends aren’t really my friends or real friends. They’re just gaming buddies or just work buddies. I don’t know if I have any friends, I feel alone just with my family
Hi, I don't typically leave comments, but I've been watching your videos more recently, and this one came at the right moment. I know that your videos are generally aimed towards men, but as a woman, I've gotten things out of watching them, too. Lately, low self-esteem and feeling self-concious have had a big impact on me. I've always been a pretty simple gal. But as I meet more people in college, especially fellow girls, I catch myself comparing myself to them. I imagine myself as very plain in the eyes of guys. Whenever I go anywhere with friends, I watch them get flirted with all the time, meanwhile I'm just kinda there. 😂 I know it's dumb to feel this way, but sometimes I can't help it. I hear guys say they want someone sincere and who can match their nerdy energy, but what I actually see is them going after the hottest girls around. Anyway, this video has helped me on my journey of self-acceptance, so thank you for making it! Take care!
thanks for sharing 🙏🏽 yeah truth to be told looks will almost always be primary for guys but what i will say personally at least is that there have been girls that became more attractive to me after getting to know their personality whether they were quirky, shared the same humor, etc. And sorry haha I know theres a small percentage of girls that watch but since im a guy I can only speak on experiences as a guy, but im glad you had a positive takeaway🤍
Thank you for sharing your experiences on that! I guessed before that looks are primary for guys, but it helps to hear a guy say it honestly. As time goes on, I worry less about what others think of my appareace, and I just want people in my life who take the time to get to know my personality. 🙏
@@Hope99129 I think your view is a bit flawed. As a guy, I also think looks are the primary thing we look at in women. And I too have become more attracted to girls once I got to know their personality, or the opposite, I have become way less attracted to girls that had shitty personalites. And I think this experience is common for many men. But... I think If you won't care what others think of your appearance and just want people in your life that take the time to get to know your personality... you are missing the point, at least when it comes to interactions with guys. For a guy to want to take time to get to know your personality, they first have to find your appearance interesting enough to actually take that time. That's usually the main thing that actually gives men genuine motivation to get to know a woman. I'm not trying to say you should aspire to be a supermodel or anything like that, If you're a simple gal you can keep it simple, but I think not caring about your looks might backfire. If you want the guys to want to get to know your personality, they need to have at least have some motivation in form of your looks. I'm sorry if that sounds unfair, but based on what I've noticed in life appearance matters more when you're a girl than when you're a guy. I'll give you an example from my personal life - I have two good female friends. In terms of their potential in looks or character, I believe they have pretty much the same level of attractiveness. But, one of them constantly gets hit on by guys and flirted with, while the second one barely attracts any attention from guys and has never had a boyfriend. Both are fairly nerdy girls, that's why I'm friends with them. You want to know the main difference between them? The first girl puts a lot of effort in her looks, the other one thinks all that matters is personality and generally doesn't put much effort in her appearance. The truth is, if she just cared for her appearance more she would probably get similar attention to the first girl. I didn't say this to hinder your journey of self-acceptance, just as a sincere comment because I think this would be valuable for you to know
There’s attractive and unattractive people and you can’t talk your way out of it. Better would be to learn how to rate faces and charge your subscribers whatever amount of dollars a pop to determine who is and isn’t on a case by case basis.
"Some girls think I'm ugly. Some girls think I'm decent. Some girls think I'm okay." I can relate to that.
At least you have that lol
Hm.
Think majority of people can
@@Takashii85 I have no idea
They all think I’m handsome I can just never keep a long relationship regardless who’s at fault me or the other person
Good message. Especially the part about comparing to others that are at their best
I actually agree with this based on my own experiences with men. Looks can attract easily but it’s how they carry themselves that makes us fall for them
Yea by being kind and being empathic and genniuly a good person not having confidence or swag all that is just shallow
You still go for the attractive guy first 🤷🏾♂️
@@Emilyportmontell that to the others
Hm.
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I'm picking up what you're putting down here. My big obstacle is my receding hairline; I psyche myself out about it sometimes. I'm sure it does hurt first impressions, but even in encounters as short as a glance, I smile almost instantly in what I think is a worthwhile effort to compete with if not win over the attention from the hairline. Kinda like what you said- I try to make the leaving memory be the smile not the hairline.
Have you considering maybe getting a hair transplant?
many options there brother, alot of guys go through it at some point; and love the mindset behind leaving a smile
@@aneeshpatel9078 I am unsure about it. After mulling it over, I usually come to the conclusion that I like myself the way I am.
Thank you brother for every video you been doing for us. I appreciate you! But i do agree you're character and personality is what outshines looks
This guy is so underrated
"Your perception of attractiveness comes from whatever you consume on a daily basis"
This is something I sorta struggle with. Growing up, I constantly got called ugly, which in turn fucked up how I viewed and treated myself. Even though I'm in much better shape and dress better, sometimes I still feel like the ugly, fat kid in middle school.
Then I need to get off the looks maximizing stuff
its still all in your head. You stated the quote at first, now start hugging that quote. Because your perception all happens in your head, you are able to be attractive you have to work on yourself on the inside so you can carry yourself better + get rid of your insecurities inside.
Nice gaslighting, but *y’all* don’t even believe that. So, you can’t expect other people, whom you’re trying to run into a wall, to do so 🫤🤷🏾♂️
If i wasnt unattractive i dont think i would be a virgin at 25
Hm.
Problem is, for us average looking men, is that a lot of women think the average guy looks like the hot guys they see on IG and TikTok.
I realize that sometimes my friends aren’t really my friends or real friends. They’re just gaming buddies or just work buddies. I don’t know if I have any friends, I feel alone just with my family
Ive been called really handsome irl (even by girls) but on omegle a lof of people said i was ugly
Hi,
I don't typically leave comments, but I've been watching your videos more recently, and this one came at the right moment. I know that your videos are generally aimed towards men, but as a woman, I've gotten things out of watching them, too. Lately, low self-esteem and feeling self-concious have had a big impact on me. I've always been a pretty simple gal. But as I meet more people in college, especially fellow girls, I catch myself comparing myself to them. I imagine myself as very plain in the eyes of guys. Whenever I go anywhere with friends, I watch them get flirted with all the time, meanwhile I'm just kinda there. 😂 I know it's dumb to feel this way, but sometimes I can't help it. I hear guys say they want someone sincere and who can match their nerdy energy, but what I actually see is them going after the hottest girls around.
Anyway, this video has helped me on my journey of self-acceptance, so thank you for making it! Take care!
thanks for sharing 🙏🏽 yeah truth to be told looks will almost always be primary for guys but what i will say personally at least is that there have been girls that became more attractive to me after getting to know their personality whether they were quirky, shared the same humor, etc. And sorry haha I know theres a small percentage of girls that watch but since im a guy I can only speak on experiences as a guy, but im glad you had a positive takeaway🤍
Thank you for sharing your experiences on that! I guessed before that looks are primary for guys, but it helps to hear a guy say it honestly. As time goes on, I worry less about what others think of my appareace, and I just want people in my life who take the time to get to know my personality. 🙏
@@Hope99129 I think your view is a bit flawed. As a guy, I also think looks are the primary thing we look at in women. And I too have become more attracted to girls once I got to know their personality, or the opposite, I have become way less attracted to girls that had shitty personalites. And I think this experience is common for many men.
But... I think If you won't care what others think of your appearance and just want people in your life that take the time to get to know your personality... you are missing the point, at least when it comes to interactions with guys. For a guy to want to take time to get to know your personality, they first have to find your appearance interesting enough to actually take that time. That's usually the main thing that actually gives men genuine motivation to get to know a woman.
I'm not trying to say you should aspire to be a supermodel or anything like that, If you're a simple gal you can keep it simple, but I think not caring about your looks might backfire.
If you want the guys to want to get to know your personality, they need to have at least have some motivation in form of your looks. I'm sorry if that sounds unfair, but based on what I've noticed in life appearance matters more when you're a girl than when you're a guy.
I'll give you an example from my personal life - I have two good female friends. In terms of their potential in looks or character, I believe they have pretty much the same level of attractiveness. But, one of them constantly gets hit on by guys and flirted with, while the second one barely attracts any attention from guys and has never had a boyfriend. Both are fairly nerdy girls, that's why I'm friends with them. You want to know the main difference between them? The first girl puts a lot of effort in her looks, the other one thinks all that matters is personality and generally doesn't put much effort in her appearance. The truth is, if she just cared for her appearance more she would probably get similar attention to the first girl.
I didn't say this to hinder your journey of self-acceptance, just as a sincere comment because I think this would be valuable for you to know
There’s attractive and unattractive people and you can’t talk your way out of it. Better would be to learn how to rate faces and charge your subscribers whatever amount of dollars a pop to determine who is and isn’t on a case by case basis.
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I agree bro
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true say
say true
Not to mention Photoshop