You’re an amazing mother ❤️ You and ehlani have a lot of people that love you! Can’t wait for you to feel like your old happy self 💕 remember that time heals everything ❤️ love you 🥺💕
I haven’t seen you girls hang out as much. Maybe she needs you Alo. Try hanging out more with her. It will really help her even if you’re both just at home chillin.
She's sadly not entirely "free" that is why women you have to be very careful who you have kids with also men some end up having bad luck themselves!! ☹️ That is Ehlani's dad at the end of the day that is why I'm saying be careful!! It can be soo mentaly draining..
@@Cinthialavesyuu when I said free like she’s free of that toxic relationship. There’s a difference between co parenting and being in a relationship with someone who is constantly lying and cheating. Now she can focus on herself and her daughter and what’s best for them two.
@@naty17441 Yes that is true atleast she will find happiness (a new love maybe her real love), but it is soo hard when the other person doesn't think like you and it makes raising kids with the other person more difficult.
@@Cinthialavesyuu why do women have to be careful with who they have babies with? Why can’t men be better human beings? I wish more people would see that…
@@irisrodriguez1593 Because SOME men are selfish af not raised right or simply born that way, but there is also women like that only care about themselves and not their kids.
Now cassie we all know you were talking shit about elsy not that long ago and u said her baby looked like a fat deformed Down syndrome child, I saw the receipts on Twitter
Every person I’ve talked to wishes their parents would’ve just separated instead of trying to force being together and being toxic and unhappy. you’re doing the right thing!!!!
it’s literally better to do it when they’re really young then to do it when they’re older because i honestly wish my parents would’ve divorced a lot sooner.
Elsy, I grew up in a toxic household and there were so many nights that I cried myself to sleep praying and BEGGING God to give my mum the strength leave my dad. You are doing the right thing. Baby Ehlani will thank you. ❤️
@@jessicao1144 but 98% of women dont want a man to use a cond...at all cause they dont get the experience or full effect stop this use protection nah women need to say no to sex.. alot more, close yo legs simple.. women are in control who can hit simple...💯💯
@Brenda actually in America and in especially in hispanic and black women being a single mother IS NORMAL. Like no one stays together to work things out anymore. Maybe we should normalize dating people for longer and actually trying to work things out.... smh. Normalizing single motherhood is NOT a good thing wtf
Yessss ! Totally agree with you ! She doesn’t want Ehlani to go thru what she went thru and that proves the kind of mom she is ❤️ she will do anything for her baby girl ❤️❤️❤️
I asked my mom once, why she stayed with my dad for as long as she did and she said that “she didn’t want us to grow up without a father”. My dad was toxic and abusive with my mom, siblings and I. I would hate to be home because all they would do is argue and then he’d take it out on us. I resented my mom for so long and low key still do when I remember everything my dad put us thru. I wish my mom would’ve left him sooner than she did and for her to raise us by herself. So as a daughter who grew up in a toxic household, I can tell you that your daughter will appreciate that you left him now for the sake of your sanity and happiness. She may not understand it now or anytime soon, but she will one day and she will thank you for not staying in a toxic situation. Us as mothers need to snap out of that old school mentality when ppl say “we need to stay for our kids”. If it’s not real, healthy, love, we don’t need it, kids or not and we can’t let anyone make us feel guilty for walking away and we cannot set that example for our kiddos. You’re doing the right thing, if YOU are not happy, your child won’t be happy. They see and feel what you are.
I feel you.. I wish my mother left my dad 15 years ago, she’s given her life to him and does not deserve to die by his side.. she’s 53 years old and is still with him.. it’s sad that one day I will look back and see nothing good in him ever.. growing up he was a druggie ,my mom should’ve left him the first time he laid his hands on my big sister at the time she was 14… but she stayed smh he would punch my sister in the face I saw it all and then pushed my mom ,I have been traumatized..and then me at the age 14 he became addicted to meth and we ended up losing our home I then turned 15 ,I was homeless and all my family was seperated we didn’t see eachother for months and I lost my dog that year my dad accidentally ran him over because he was not in the right state of mind.. my mom has always been blinded by love..it’s so sad he treats her like shit and a servant.. my poor 14 year old brother treats my mom wrong too because he has seen my dad how he treats her and even said that he can do it too since he does it.. we also had lost a second apartment when I was 16.. i became a drug addict ,I was depressed ,I would hurt myself because that’s what ecstasy does.. it causes depression afterwards.. I left dark purple bruises on my arms and face..I felt no pain until the next day when it wore off…I got pregnant that year I lost everything and found out at 16 and I went through postpartum depression afterwards and when I was giving birth my dad was at home abusing my little brother and I believe that’s when he lost his innocence and started hanging out with the wrong crowd and kept getting locked up.. he’s so little but it hurts me because that could’ve been prevented. It’s crazy ,but definitely never stay just because you want a family or give them a father.. it saves your children’s lives even if it hurts..it’s for the best..
I feel you. My mom is still with my toxic stepdad 16 years later. They have a 14 year old and 8 year old together and I hate knowing that my brothers have to grow up in that toxic environment. I also resent my mom a little because we had so much fun before she met my stepdad and after she did it was nonstop arguing and toxic masculinity. Growing up watching that made me move out as soon as I turned 18 and never wanted to come home from school or being friends when I was younger. It’s sad and I wish my mom would realize the trauma her children have and are experiencing because she’s only staying for her children. 😔
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 staying in a toxic house hold relationship does effect your children.. my dad and mom and still to this point they are very toxic but they are old fashioned so no matter how much they’re children told them to stop and leave each other they stayed together…. I left at 15 yr old because I was tired of all that and I felt like my mother let us think that was okay and it’s not ok.. so elsy baby girl you are doing in amazing job. Don’t ever forget that… 🙌🏼
My mom stayed with my toxic dad. Now as a grown up, I ask my parents why they didn’t separate. Listening to the screams have scarred me till this day. Hope this helps you with your choice.
idk wha Elijah was thinking treating elsy like she’s nothing, she’s everything a man looks for! A good person, beautiful inside and out, he took a fat L
Elijah made himself look like a whole ass fool. He’s so immature and look at Elsy being mature and speaking up about how she feels without bashing him. Time heals love, we’re all here to support you and your baby girl.❤️
A lot of men always do because they are so self conscious and jealous of their own beautiful woman trying to control because they are afraid to lose the woman but don’t understand that’s what’s making us want to leave
We all have our own lessons to learn this life. And these beautiful women happen to have these negative situations possibly to give other females strength to go on and move forward if we are being co trolled in any aspect.
Don’t you ever say you lost the experience of being a family. You don’t need a man to have a family.. Family are those who love each other. Don’t stress about it to much.. A real man will come into your life and take good care of both of you..
I totally understand her. Yes, we know we are capable to successfully be a solo parent and then some. But it sucks. What woman doesn’t want to have an amazing partner during the birth? To fall in love with your partner when you get to see them become an amazing parent? To be a team for the blessing that you were so excited for? Instead we’re fighting the battle of learning to be new parents AND dealing with such drama, pain and loss. You do not give the same to your child when you’re going thru so much and it sucks. My baby (now 8) cried all night every night until she was almost 8 months. I was losing my shit straight up. Why did she though?! Because my stress was so profound. She felt it all. It wasn’t until I took a trip and felt the peace, is when she finally cried less and slept more. I now have an amazing partner that she loves thankfully but I still feel the guilt that she doesn’t live a normal life and has such a shitty donor as an image of a father. But yes Elsy, better days are to come. The road just fucking sucks.
Lmao yall dont understand that it complicates things for the child by meeting additions partners who are not the parents. Co-parenting is weird they should just work it out unless if he cheated.
You are not giving up “too soon”, being in a toxic relationship is enough reason to go so that you and your baby are in a better environment physically, mentally and emotionally! Be proud that you’re strong enough to walk away, most aren’t and live miserably. May God continue to give you strength! ❤️🙏
As a mother who stayed in a relationship for years so my children would have a “family” it’s not worth it your children see your pain and feel the negative energy. Don’t feel bad your doing the right thing. I’m just now becoming myself again.
I knew it wasn’t going to work out from the start. He seemed like a little boy and elsy is such a boss ass woman and so independent. She also too cute for him
This situation is a perfect example of the phrase “don’t get with a bad bitch if you can’t handle one”. He couldn’t stand that his girl was successful, motivated, beautiful, and smart while he was a bum & a troll. And speaking as someone who’s 24 and has lived w parents who dislike each other my whole life, that haven’t and prob never will separate, I just wanna tell you you did the right thing. I wish my parents would’ve separated so I wouldn’t have had to be in the crossfire of all their fights, and see what a bad relationship is, cuz it affected me and how I went about w my relationships. In the end whatever you gotta do to give yourself and your baby the best life, you just gotta do. Don’t let “oh but I want a picture perfect family” or “oh I don’t wanna be a failure” get into your head cuz it’s not true. A man/dad isn’t necessary to complete a family but either way I know someday you’ll meet someone who will treat you so well and treat ehlani like his own.
Im 28 and my parents are still “married”, living together and don’t speak. In the middle of all the drama. I can’t speak or hang out with my dad cause my mom gets mad and is very controlling. I promised myself that my kids would never go through what I have and am living. Elsy you made the best decision for baby ehlani.
You are too young to understand that a father is NECESSARY in raising a child. Many adults of broken homes end up needing therapy for the lack of a father figure being around. I am a product of that myself and know first hand. My parents would have volatile fights and though I’m glad that they separated because the fights were bad, to deny that having my dad around was difficult for my siblings and I would be a lie. Elsy needs to do what’s best for her and her child, but I pray that her and her ex seek counseling, because nothing compares to raising children in a two parent household. This is what happens when you don’t wait on God to send you the partner he has in store for you. It’s not too late though, she can repent and ask Jesus to less her in her life.
@@itszbebabaybee girl I’m 24 I’m not a child. I think I understand. And I never said ehlanis dad should never see her, I said elsy doesn’t need to BE WITH the dad. Hes still going to see her.
@@starheartskull15 you’re 24 saying that you don’t need the dad which is wrong. I also never said that you said that ehlani wasn’t going to see her dad.
"I don't want to take her innocence away" that was so beautiful elsy ! You're doing the best thing and the best you can. You are an amazing mother. And maybe her family experience will be one of a kind Bc it'll be different!
This broke my heart in pieces... it’s ok to lose yourself and have hope in things. We’re human sis, you are beautiful inside out and this season will be better soon. You’re never a bad mom. Sending you all my love, and hugs sis!!
@@anthonydavila9415 stop responding to him. Let him go, tell yourself "not my circus not my monkeys." We can't change ppl, we can't control what others do. Once you only take charge of yourself only, you will feel better and lighter. Sending you love & light.
@@anthonydavila9415 you need to get an order of protection and stand your ground. Show him you're strong. I know it's easier said than done but you have to show him or he will keep doing things to you cause he thinks you're weak. I went through 11 years of abuse and he traumatized me so bad. I wish I knew what I know now... he was the weakest link and was more scared of what i was going to do... so i used it to my advantage and looked him in the face and put him away.
The same thing happened to me. I left my bd for 6 months and I spent those 6 months crying out to God every night. I went to church.. I seeked God. I read the bible.. I started working out, I opened up a business. . And after 6 months of me getting strong and finding my identity and anchoring myself in God... we did go on a family cruise.... that was scheduled before we broke up. ... and God ended up rewarding my 6 months of putting God first... by lining things up for us to get married on the cruise. So yeah we got married and came back from this family trip a married couple. I begged God to change him while we were broken up and God ended up telling me " Im actually here to change you." Biggest plot twist.. Now we're celebrating 10 years in October and we just had our fourth baby. My husband was an atheist.. now he loves God. God has changed us sooo much. And I'm glad I turned to God to learn how to truly fight for my family. I didn't have a dad either and my mom wasn't in my life much either. God showed me how much baggage I was carrying into my relationship and my bd as well. GOD healed me, humbled me, transformed my whole life. I'm telling you Elsy... if he can do it for me.. he can do it for you. I'll leave you with this scripture 2 chronicles 7:14 ... read it.. it changed my life. Also I'm just now learning how God didn't design us women to carry all the burden of providing and raising kids by ourselves. Yes we can do it. But that's why u have a lot of women depressed and tired. Yes you can get rid of the weight of your bad right now but your just exchanging it for other weights. That we weren't designed to carry. Imma be praying for you bc I know exactly how you feel sweet girl. I've been there. Message me if you're ever interested in hearing more about what I went through. A lot of relationships fail bc we're "fighting" for our relationship all wrong.
You deserve so much more as a woman and a mother from the father of your child. Sorry you are going through all this. He should be appreciative that he has a strong woman as the mother of his child. He's just bitter because he knows your to good for him. Sending you positive vibes and a big hug.
Elsy my parents got divorced when i was 19… and i wish they separated earlier! I was hurting MORE when they were together bc of all the fighting! U have no idea how much closer i got to my mom shes always gonna be your baby girl! And separating later on in life made me feel like my childhood was a lie. Separating early on will not give her that lie…its not selfish! You are helping your baby girl in a way you dont even know! You are showing her what it means to be a STRONG WOMAN by doing this!
I love your comment I agree, I have so much respect for single moms it’s possible to do anything, your setting a good example for your child you don’t have to force a relationships sometimes it better and the kids will grow up realizing that you don’t always have to be stuck with someone! My mom always tells me if your not happy or if one day you feel like your relationship isn’t the same, you can always go separate ways sometimes it’s better that way!
Yesss I agree! my parents separated when I was younger but I love seeing my parents happier now with their new partners & know it was for the best. It was so stressful seeing them unhappy & fighting when they were together. Even as a children, we know!
As someone who was a child of a broken family, please don’t stay together in a toxic relationship just for the kids. Children observe and normalize behaviors of their parents and that will only fuck up their perception of what a healthy relationship should look like when they’re adults
Preach this!! 💯 same here I can totally relate. Grew up in a toxic environment and I thought it was normal and tolerated toxic relationships with men and I’m 27 almost 28. I wished my parents weren’t together. Now they aren’t and my parents are healthier apart and I wish parents didn’t stay together in a toxic relationship. You’ll be a better parent if you put yourself first and have healthy relationships with yourself and in romantic relationships. In the long run your child will understand and have less trauma and not repeat the cycle.
I just left my toxic relationship a year ago after 10yrs. I wished I’d done it sooner but it’s hard leaving a situation like that knowing they know whr your at or hiding out. My kids seen a lot and every time I look at them it shatters me to know what they went thru. So we’re getting over it and it’s hard sometimes but we push thru it. They’re a lot happier and so am I. So what your doing is the right choice for you and babygirl. Keep pushing for that happiness you both deserve 💜💜💜
I’ve been in that same situation and I knew I made the right choice when my own daughter said, “ I love my dad but I’m glad he’s gone. The house feels more peaceful.” You’re the mom Elsy and you know exactly what will make your baby happy. You being at peace will bring more joy to you and your daughter. You got this!!
@Snake Eyes X I agree. If you are man enough to get it in, then you should man up and be there for the child. However, don’t be surprised when you are going around having causal sex, get pregnant, and find out your not compatible with a guy who was just trying to hit.
U didn’t give up on ur family HE DID!!! We all make choices and just cause he’s her dad it don’t mean u can’t have a family with a wonderful man who will love u and ur babygirl without the toxicity
i literally couldnt relate more to something. I luckily left at three months but toxic was an understatement & i kept so much a secret. Im So happy for you 💗💗💗 stay strong & heal 💗
Don’t block your blessings by staying, but I know how hard it can be to leave. Don’t worry, you will eventually get to the point where you have really had enough.
Girl, do what is truly best for your child and yourself. It’s so much better having parents that aren’t together then having parents together that dont show what real love is for their child!
Let’s normalize letting these influencers live their own life as everyone else does. NO ONE should stick around in a toxic relationship just bc there’s kids involved 🗣 it’s better for your kids to grow up seeing you happy and apart than seeing y’all together and going through toxic shit. It’s traumatizing ! Elsy shouldn’t have to apologize for how she feels but y’all make her feel guilty when it ain’t even your business 😑
Toxic runs in their family ? Cause look at trey and Alo she wasn’t herself and now she’s different and happy. Im so happy for you Elsy you’re a great mother ! You’re doing this for your daughter
@@Nicole-nh1ir actually no he didn’t, you just like believing in rumors and drama just like every other hater out there, because y’all seem to enjoy drama. Btw I hope you know that people can easily fake, edit, and photoshop “evidence” so easily but then again you probably didn’t know that which is why you wanna assume shit.
I am so proud of you! It takes so much strength to get out of a toxic relationship let alone having a child with that person. You are so brave and I admire you putting your child first ❤️❤️
Don’t delete this video. It’s beautifully you and raw. There’s no “perfect” mom. We all have our flaws, we’re all learning and experiencing new things as our babies grow. But you are perfectly you. A lot of us moms lose ourselves. I know I did but I’m slowly repairing myself and you will too. You will get through this. We’re all rooting for you! ❤️❤️ “It ran in your family until it ran into you. Cheers for deciding that the toxic cycle ends with you.”
Idk about anyone else but Elijah never seemed right for you Elsy. Y’all just didn’t go together idk how to explain it and it’s sad that he would hurt you after knowing what you’ve been through. And then for him to disrespect you on Instagram every time y’all break up just shows how little he cared about you. Let go and let God!! There’s sooo many people out there that will treat you the way you deserve and make you happy as well as your baby. You’re so young girl you have so much time to find a good person that’ll respect you. Don’t worry you’ll be in a better place soon! Just love yourself and learn to be happy by yourself first. You’ll be okay! Sending all my love to you Elsy ❤️
He was straight out of high school when he became a father. I don’t fully blame him cause he still has/had that immature mentality and hadn’t even grown when he became a dad. I feel like it’s hard for a 19 year old to fully commit to someone and want a forever family like elsy wants. That being said, it still doesn’t excuse him from doing what he did and trying to manipulate Elsy into staying after everything he’s done to her
Congratulations beautiful lady! This generation of women are here to break toxic cycles and teach our children that love and happiness conquers all. You’ve got this goddess ✨✨✨ your daughter will forever be proud of you for this💕💕 stay golden queen 👑
Elsy, leaving a toxic relationship is the best thing you could ever do for baby ehlani… do not apologize for putting your mental health first!!! You’re doing so great and whatever went down between you and E is between you two and as long as he’s coparenting with you and cooperating and being involved with baby ehlani that’s all that matters. You’re doing so well bbg praying for you 🤍
You’re not taking anything away from baby E. If anything, you are helping her. She will no longer be involved in a toxic environment. She will forever be grateful for that. No child deserves to be in that position. Some things have to be done for the better.
This video just made me sob and sob and SOB. I’m literally in the same position 😔 as women we hold on to our family as long as we can until we realize it’s not good for our BABY! I TRIED…I’m praying for you and anyone who is going through this… 💙💙💙💙🙏🏼✨
This is the most I've seen you open up and speak with confidence. So happy that you are on your way to a better future and surrounded by positive energy only. Leave anything negative behind and focus on your happiness and your child's bc that's all that matters. ❤️
That's that old-school mentality you stay with your partner for the kids..this new generation we do things a little differently.. toxic is toxic baby girl.. FREE YOURSELF.. I'm so excited for your new chapter & Baby E has the best mommy a girl could ever ask for.. sending love & positivity your way mamas!! ✨💕😘🙏🏼
He knew how much you wanted a family because of the things you had gone through, and that you would stick around despite all the bad and he took advantage of that. He’s going to realize now that your healing and moving on that it’s his loss..
the way you talk about your daughter just shows how amazing of a mother you are. don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise! you deserve all the happiness in the world 💕
Imagine the girl he cheated with her watching this .. I HOPE she feels some sort of regret for breaking up a family. Elijah as well. He wasn’t set & ready for the dad role & it showed he’s not as mature as you Elsy. You deserve so much better. You deserve to be the best version of you for Ehlani 🤍🤍
Growing up in a toxic household was a nightmare. For many years I resented my mom for staying in that situation. My dad never saw his faults and passed that down to his son. I don't have a relationship with them now. Unpacking that trauma in my late 20s has been a rollercoaster of ride of emotions. You're doing whats best for you and your daughter and thats all the matters!
You’re so inspiring Elsy. Sigue adelante, time heals all, leave it to God. You are a strong momma♥️ All the support from one salvi to another, much love girl 💙💕
And this ladies is why it is so important to get to know and love a man before you have kids with him. Men tend to show their true colors in difficult times. Sending virtual support to you Elsy, this decision must have been extremely difficult 🙏🏻
Not entirely true for every situation When I met my husband we moved in together and we only knew each other 7 months and I got pregnant and 6 years later we are happier then we can ever be with 2 kids time or what “society standards”means nothing when two people genuinely love each other
As a single mother, don’t feel like you are doing the wrong thing, if ending it makes you happy, mentally, you are doing the right thing, trust me, ending my relationship was the best thing I could have done, and you know when it’s easier without that person, you know you did the right thing. Trust me. You got this! 💪🏻 single moms are a different type of super hero. 💪🏻💪🏻
you’re so good at communicating your feelings! Super proud of u baby ! You’re the best mother you can be to Elani and you’re doing what’s best for her that is well respected. Sending you much love and positive energy dale pa lanteeee mami ! 💕
He is lucky you even glanced his way. He blew his chance and now you have the best thing that he could ever offer. And that’s your beautiful baby. God put him in your life to give you your best friend…if anything just hold onto that. Please remember just bc you’ve had a shitty relationship doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a good one! You are teaching your daughter values. Never be sorry for that! She is what is most important. Get yourself back, and let him his family and friends soak in their own negativity. They will be the ones hurting your baby and one day she will realize it and they will need to explain why they were so rude and disrespectful to her mommy. Trust me you are doing good. Silence those that say otherwise…. You’ve got this Elsy… Gods got you ♥️
Ehlani doesn’t need her parents together. She needs HAPPY parents.You’re an amazing mommy. Love yourself and be “selfish” that what your baby girl needs 🤍 you’re going to give her the best life. Stay strong momma , you got this !
This woman has everything a man can look for, can't wait for someone to take care of her, to make her happy as it should be. Sending lots of love Elsy, everything will be okay💗
It’s crazy how influencers feel so pressured to have to speak about their personal life to people they don’t even know. Elsy, please don’t feel like you are doing the wrong thing Bc you aren’t. A forced relationship isn’t a good relationship even if it involves kids. Take time to heal and get back to your old self.
SO PROUD OF YOU. I know it was a hard decision, but you have to put yourself and you baby before anyone and anything!!! So happy you can be your true authentic self 💗💗 sending you love and healing
It’s far worse to stay in a toxic relationship just for your child. Your child will get older and realize what love is and what is not. As much as you wanted to stay with him for your baby, it was not the way. So happy you came to the realization that you could have a happy family, WITHOUT him. 🤍
I’m going through something VERY similar right now… but let me tell you you’re a lot stronger than i am. And it’s SO amazing you have people you can talk to about it. I am so happy you’re taking the steps to make yourself happy.
AMEN! My ex was toxic & a narcissist . I prayed & ask the Lord if he is not for me to remove him out of my life. The Lord answered me and said he is not the one & I did not listen. Found out he was cheating on me and I was devastated. I was angry at God for a month but I'm like No it's not the Lords fault. The enemy comes to Kill, steal and destroy! It's the enemy trying to blame the Lord. He warned me & did not listen. After breaking up with him, and having a relationship with God MAN my life changed! I have never been so happy as I am now. We all go through trials with our walk with God but giving the Lord full control over my life then that's when my life changed as well😎🥰 but remember God has the ultimate Victory!♥️ Whoop whoop Just keeping my ex in prayer and asking the Lord for him to change & not to cheat on his future wife. No women or man deserves that.
Do not feel guilty Elsy. Erase the “perfect family” idea bc you are enough family for your daughter. A family doesn’t need a man, let alone a boy who doesn’t understand his role. Stay up. 💕
A child/children do NEED a father around. I wish this whole single mother can handle everything rhetoric would stop being perpetuated. A child needs both parents to thrive.
Sending love and hugs! You're an amazing mother and I can hear in your voice the raw pain. May God bless you and your daughter! Only God can get you through this, you will get through this! God bless you and your daughter
Elsy, Elsy, Elsy, why do you talk to yourself as if you are guilty for everything when you are Not! One thing you need to realize is that your daughter will grow up one day and know who her dad is. You're a great mom and you shouldn't need anyone to tell you that. As long as your daughter's happy and taken care of, you don't need anyone's opinion.
Generational curses, it’s hard when you don’t know any better. She’s relearning how to handle her situations. It will take time to understand not to apologize.
I grew up with only a strong mother and trust me she doesn’t need both her parents to become a good/succesful person. You are enough, you’re a great mother 💕
You are truly an amazing woman & mom. With ever word you said you can tell you try and do what’s best for your daughter. Your happiness and your daughters happiness is all that matters. It may seem so difficult and hard for you right now but one day you will look back and know you made the best decision for your family. It’s time to heal and grow to the best version of you ! Lots of love to you and baby Ehlani ❤️
Thank you for this video. Going thru the same thing only thing I haven’t had the guts to leave yet 😞 I hope soon I’ll have the courage to leave him. My little one needs a healthy MOM ❤️ We deserve to be happy and respected!
I am currently sitting in my car watching this with my 2 month old and my Maltese in the back seat, just thinking about my next move to leave their dad. Everyday is a fight. He’s physically and verbally abusive but knows just what to say to make me stay. What are the odds that this video would pop up now. SMH! Even though you didn’t disclose much, we could read between the lines and trust me - us women completely understand you. No matter what you do you will always be a bad mom in someone’s eyes, especially his and his family’s. Girl you have the money to get a place of your own. If I had that I would’ve been long gone. So be strong for baby E and keep moving forward. Remember, it’s best to hurt for a couple months than to be miserable for years.
you're doing amazing mama, you're so strong!!! don't ever forget that , this is something extremly hard to talk about and its so understanding because i am going through this right now as a new mom and i wish to take that step to work and make myself better for my baby girl so go to you love
Thank you for having the courage to be transparent. Especially in this topic. You have been blessed with this platform. This truly helped me. You are a strong momma. You got this. Life is too short to spend your time and energy on something or someone who will never see you for you. You know you have found your soulmate when you canbe yourself 100% around them. I wish you the best in your journey.
He talks so badly of you & your “followers” yet YOU earned all your followers. You put in the work, showed your character which EVERYONE saw & we loved. People can see through fake stuff but you’re one of the most genuine & he’s so bent he can’t change people’s view of you. Love you elsy! Stay strong girl. You were so right to walk away to set an example for your daughter
The pain in Elsy’s voice when she explains herself 🥺 you have many supporters that will support you throughout every step of the way. The emotions your feeling are valid Elsy. I understand that you want your family to be one but you have to also understand that your happiness matters too. If you want baby Ehlani to be happy then show her that by loving yourself too mamas🤍🤍
Mom life girl 😪 Many females don't feel like themselves after giving birth & its sad how we get judged instead of getting help. We go through so damn much 💔
This!!!! I felt like I lost my old self. It’s so weird! But then again a mom changes you completely. You don’t come first anymore, the baby does. But becoming a mother is a blessing. 🙏🏻
You got this elsy. As a single momma I can’t tell to and guarantee you’re going to come out of this STRONGER and WISER than ever before. It takes strength to leave toxic places and people. I can’t wait to see you blossom again 💕 one thing I ALWAYS keep in my mind when making decisions is being an example to my baby girl. (I wouldn’t want my little girl to put up with a toxic relationship so I won’t put up with it either) because if I do I’m just allowing her to make the same choices thinking it’s oky. THIS ALWAYS HELPS ME make the right choices even when it’s hard. Lead by example 💘 even when it’s hard. Love you and praying for your baby girl 🤍🤍🤍
you are such an inspiration, its so good that you are finally putting you and your baby first. you deserve to be happy, and you are an amazing mother so your daughter will be proud that you decided to find yourself and start healing! I see how much you love baby e, its such pure love. Send you love and prayers🥺❤️
Elsy, my fiancé tells me this all the time “it’s not the family you came from, it’s the family you make” A family doesn’t not mean mom dad & baby. I’ve been a single mom for 3 years and now engaged to one of the best man I’ve ever came across. Hang in there! Pray pray pray! Your daughter is going to appreciate your sacrifices you are making now. Your beautiful & a great mom!
i love this! and yes its very true what your fiancé said ! I've also heard " If you don't come from a healthy family , make sure a healthy family comes from you " I feel like elsy is going to find someone else in the near future who's actually going to treat her good and respect her and love her the way shes supposed to and also be a good step father to ehlani ! I can definitely see that happening for her and i wish for it to come true because she deserves it for being such a strong boss ass woman 💕💕 Hang in there elsy good things are coming for you ❤️
@@DazedDreamsss you get what you allow, girl. Set your boundaries NOW, reflect and choose what you want and need from a partner. Respect yourself enough to not deal with any kind of disrespect. Love yourself and above all, your child. Be the best version of you, and those who don’t have the same goals as you, or want more for themselves the way that you do, let them go. Love doesn’t chase. Don’t chase anyone. People who are worth your time and energy are going to reciprocate the energy and time that you can.
All I see is a strong amazing woman. Elsy you did not take anything away from your daughter, you saved her from a lot of trauma and that’s huge, it’s the entire direction of her life. She’s lucky to have such an incredible mama 🤍
Elsy, I also left my son's father when he was months old..a few years later I found the perfect man and father to my son. He adopted my son and I have been happily married now for almost 30 years..there is hope for you. Hang in there!
You’re an amazing mother ❤️ You and ehlani have a lot of people that love you! Can’t wait for you to feel like your old happy self 💕 remember that time heals everything ❤️ love you 🥺💕
Love me a supportive BFF💜
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Glad she has you there for her always besties for lifers ❤️🤞🤞
I haven’t seen you girls hang out as much. Maybe she needs you Alo. Try hanging out more with her. It will really help her even if you’re both just at home chillin.
She sounds mentally and emotionally drained but at the same time like she’s free. I really pray she heals.
She's sadly not entirely "free" that is why women you have to be very careful who you have kids with also men some end up having bad luck themselves!! ☹️ That is Ehlani's dad at the end of the day that is why I'm saying be careful!! It can be soo mentaly draining..
@@Cinthialavesyuu when I said free like she’s free of that toxic relationship. There’s a difference between co parenting and being in a relationship with someone who is constantly lying and cheating. Now she can focus on herself and her daughter and what’s best for them two.
@@naty17441 Yes that is true atleast she will find happiness (a new love maybe her real love), but it is soo hard when the other person doesn't think like you and it makes raising kids with the other person more difficult.
@@Cinthialavesyuu why do women have to be careful with who they have babies with? Why can’t men be better human beings? I wish more people would see that…
@@irisrodriguez1593 Because SOME men are selfish af not raised right or simply born that way, but there is also women like that only care about themselves and not their kids.
you got this mama, you are so strong!!!! you do not need anyone to be the amazing mother that you are. sending you lots of love & hugs els😭🥺❤️❤️❤️
HEY CASSYYY
Now cassie we all know you were talking shit about elsy not that long ago and u said her baby looked like a fat deformed Down syndrome child, I saw the receipts on Twitter
@@xoxo6060 where are the screen shots ?
@@xoxo6060 girl shut the hell up, that has nothing to do with you so shut up. Even if that was what casi said don’t bring up the past.
@@xoxo6060 what the fuckkkk. Where she say that at?
Every person I’ve talked to wishes their parents would’ve just separated instead of trying to force being together and being toxic and unhappy. you’re doing the right thing!!!!
it’s literally better to do it when they’re really young then to do it when they’re older because i honestly wish my parents would’ve divorced a lot sooner.
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Omg Im i no no.
FACTS
You didn’t give up a family, he did.
this.
Fr !
Dear God,
Please send Elsy a ‘Benny’ when the time is right , and throw the ‘Tre’ away.
Amen 🙌
Amen !! ❤️
‼️‼️ my thoughts exactly
& they come from the same family “the tre’s” lol 😂
@@xahhmamax @the TREitors
@@camilaortiz1560 😂
Elsy, I grew up in a toxic household and there were so many nights that I cried myself to sleep praying and BEGGING God to give my mum the strength leave my dad. You are doing the right thing. Baby Ehlani will thank you. ❤️
This comment makes me cry 😢
ppl need to normalize women not staying with their bd if they're not happy
& normalize getting abortions so u can avoid all this
@@luvkuromi7815 no abortion comes with a lot of mental problems. Normalize using Protection
@@jessicao1144 but 98% of women dont want a man to use a cond...at all cause they dont get the experience or full effect stop this use protection nah women need to say no to sex.. alot more, close yo legs simple.. women are in control who can hit simple...💯💯
A man is not responsible for your happiness! Who da fuxk told you that!? A man's purpose to to protect and provide.💯💯💯
@Brenda actually in America and in especially in hispanic and black women being a single mother IS NORMAL. Like no one stays together to work things out anymore. Maybe we should normalize dating people for longer and actually trying to work things out.... smh. Normalizing single motherhood is NOT a good thing wtf
Elsy is trying to protect ehlani the way she wishes someone did for her when she was younger
Yessss ! Totally agree with you ! She doesn’t want Ehlani to go thru what she went thru and that proves the kind of mom she is ❤️ she will do anything for her baby girl ❤️❤️❤️
I asked my mom once, why she stayed with my dad for as long as she did and she said that “she didn’t want us to grow up without a father”. My dad was toxic and abusive with my mom, siblings and I. I would hate to be home because all they would do is argue and then he’d take it out on us. I resented my mom for so long and low key still do when I remember everything my dad put us thru. I wish my mom would’ve left him sooner than she did and for her to raise us by herself. So as a daughter who grew up in a toxic household, I can tell you that your daughter will appreciate that you left him now for the sake of your sanity and happiness. She may not understand it now or anytime soon, but she will one day and she will thank you for not staying in a toxic situation. Us as mothers need to snap out of that old school mentality when ppl say “we need to stay for our kids”. If it’s not real, healthy, love, we don’t need it, kids or not and we can’t let anyone make us feel guilty for walking away and we cannot set that example for our kiddos. You’re doing the right thing, if YOU are not happy, your child won’t be happy. They see and feel what you are.
I feel you.. I wish my mother left my dad 15 years ago, she’s given her life to him and does not deserve to die by his side.. she’s 53 years old and is still with him.. it’s sad that one day I will look back and see nothing good in him ever.. growing up he was a druggie ,my mom should’ve left him the first time he laid his hands on my big sister at the time she was 14… but she stayed smh he would punch my sister in the face I saw it all and then pushed my mom ,I have been traumatized..and then me at the age 14 he became addicted to meth and we ended up losing our home I then turned 15 ,I was homeless and all my family was seperated we didn’t see eachother for months and I lost my dog that year my dad accidentally ran him over because he was not in the right state of mind.. my mom has always been blinded by love..it’s so sad he treats her like shit and a servant.. my poor 14 year old brother treats my mom wrong too because he has seen my dad how he treats her and even said that he can do it too since he does it.. we also had lost a second apartment when I was 16.. i became a drug addict ,I was depressed ,I would hurt myself because that’s what ecstasy does.. it causes depression afterwards.. I left dark purple bruises on my arms and face..I felt no pain until the next day when it wore off…I got pregnant that year I lost everything and found out at 16 and I went through postpartum depression afterwards and when I was giving birth my dad was at home abusing my little brother and I believe that’s when he lost his innocence and started hanging out with the wrong crowd and kept getting locked up.. he’s so little but it hurts me because that could’ve been prevented. It’s crazy ,but definitely never stay just because you want a family or give them a father.. it saves your children’s lives even if it hurts..it’s for the best..
I feel you. My mom is still with my toxic stepdad 16 years later. They have a 14 year old and 8 year old together and I hate knowing that my brothers have to grow up in that toxic environment. I also resent my mom a little because we had so much fun before she met my stepdad and after she did it was nonstop arguing and toxic masculinity. Growing up watching that made me move out as soon as I turned 18 and never wanted to come home from school or being friends when I was younger. It’s sad and I wish my mom would realize the trauma her children have and are experiencing because she’s only staying for her children. 😔
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 staying in a toxic house hold relationship does effect your children.. my dad and mom and still to this point they are very toxic but they are old fashioned so no matter how much they’re children told them to stop and leave each other they stayed together…. I left at 15 yr old because I was tired of all that and I felt like my mother let us think that was okay and it’s not ok.. so elsy baby girl you are doing in amazing job. Don’t ever forget that… 🙌🏼
@@lorrainehernandez4916 yup my mom has never told me to be better and my dad is machista af..
Same 🥺
You talked about the situation so appropriately and responsibly.
Agree
My mom stayed with my toxic dad. Now as a grown up, I ask my parents why they didn’t separate. Listening to the screams have scarred me till this day. Hope this helps you with your choice.
idk wha Elijah was thinking treating elsy like she’s nothing, she’s everything a man looks for! A good person, beautiful inside and out, he took a fat L
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Period 💯💯
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He was a boy not a man
He’s definitely gonna regret it
Elijah made himself look like a whole ass fool. He’s so immature and look at Elsy being mature and speaking up about how she feels without bashing him. Time heals love, we’re all here to support you and your baby girl.❤️
He's very immature playing boy games.
Can you tell me what he did??? I don’t know what he did or what happened
@@jen4162 didn’t she say another person was involved in the relationship?
@@sulenmaflores1874 so he cheated pretty much ? do you know what else happened i heard he put some stuff on social media about her or something ?
What exactly did he do?
I don't understand how guys can hurt girls like elsy and alondra. They seem like such sweet human being. :(
👌 FACTS WELL THEM BROKE BOYS ARE RELATED. SO GO FIGURE.
A lot of men always do because they are so self conscious and jealous of their own beautiful woman trying to control because they are afraid to lose the woman but don’t understand that’s what’s making us want to leave
@@juliagom1715 And what about the moms who leave their husband?
We all have our own lessons to learn this life. And these beautiful women happen to have these negative situations possibly to give other females strength to go on and move forward if we are being co trolled in any aspect.
They’re hoes 😂
The way her voice cracks says it all.. 🥺 stay strong mama! ❤️
Don’t you ever say you lost the experience of being a family. You don’t need a man to have a family.. Family are those who love each other. Don’t stress about it to much.. A real man will come into your life and take good care of both of you..
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I totally understand her. Yes, we know we are capable to successfully be a solo parent and then some. But it sucks. What woman doesn’t want to have an amazing partner during the birth? To fall in love with your partner when you get to see them become an amazing parent? To be a team for the blessing that you were so excited for? Instead we’re fighting the battle of learning to be new parents AND dealing with such drama, pain and loss. You do not give the same to your child when you’re going thru so much and it sucks. My baby (now 8) cried all night every night until she was almost 8 months. I was losing my shit straight up. Why did she though?! Because my stress was so profound. She felt it all. It wasn’t until I took a trip and felt the peace, is when she finally cried less and slept more. I now have an amazing partner that she loves thankfully but I still feel the guilt that she doesn’t live a normal life and has such a shitty donor as an image of a father. But yes Elsy, better days are to come. The road just fucking sucks.
Lmao yall dont understand that it complicates things for the child by meeting additions partners who are not the parents. Co-parenting is weird they should just work it out unless if he cheated.
@@adderallxr9451 so she should continue to be in a toxic relationship? That would be more damaging for a child please shut up
@@adderallxr9451 your advice is AWFUL.
Stop viewing it as “losing the family experience” when the family experience would have been toxic, abusive, and traumatic.
You are not giving up “too soon”, being in a toxic relationship is enough reason to go so that you and your baby are in a better environment physically, mentally and emotionally! Be proud that you’re strong enough to walk away, most aren’t and live miserably. May God continue to give you strength! ❤️🙏
As a mother who stayed in a relationship for years so my children would have a “family” it’s not worth it your children see your pain and feel the negative energy. Don’t feel bad your doing the right thing. I’m just now becoming myself again.
Happy u walked away
I knew it wasn’t going to work out from the start. He seemed like a little boy and elsy is such a boss ass woman and so independent. She also too cute for him
Exactly! Lowkey I thought what does he do? Elsy makes the bread by UA-cam & Instagram & Bh cosmetics but he?? Elsy too good for the lil boy
@@TheAlexvill98 pretty sure he put her down for it too. He seems like a Hater too
@@diane4729 exactly..I won’t doubt he going to talk bad about elsy to his cousins esp w Tre
@@TheAlexvill98 Tontos malvados is what they are. Hopefully now that he is gone elsy can post more 🥰
@@diane4729 😂 exactly! Que se va! We need more Elsy and Ehlani ❤️ I can tell Elsy is much happier w just her baby
This situation is a perfect example of the phrase “don’t get with a bad bitch if you can’t handle one”. He couldn’t stand that his girl was successful, motivated, beautiful, and smart while he was a bum & a troll. And speaking as someone who’s 24 and has lived w parents who dislike each other my whole life, that haven’t and prob never will separate, I just wanna tell you you did the right thing. I wish my parents would’ve separated so I wouldn’t have had to be in the crossfire of all their fights, and see what a bad relationship is, cuz it affected me and how I went about w my relationships. In the end whatever you gotta do to give yourself and your baby the best life, you just gotta do. Don’t let “oh but I want a picture perfect family” or “oh I don’t wanna be a failure” get into your head cuz it’s not true. A man/dad isn’t necessary to complete a family but either way I know someday you’ll meet someone who will treat you so well and treat ehlani like his own.
Im 28 and my parents are still “married”, living together and don’t speak. In the middle of all the drama. I can’t speak or hang out with my dad cause my mom gets mad and is very controlling. I promised myself that my kids would never go through what I have and am living. Elsy you made the best decision for baby ehlani.
Elsy is the one who trapped HIM. She wanted a baby daddy so bad
You are too young to understand that a father is NECESSARY in raising a child. Many adults of broken homes end up needing therapy for the lack of a father figure being around. I am a product of that myself and know first hand. My parents would have volatile fights and though I’m glad that they separated because the fights were bad, to deny that having my dad around was difficult for my siblings and I would be a lie. Elsy needs to do what’s best for her and her child, but I pray that her and her ex seek counseling, because nothing compares to raising children in a two parent household. This is what happens when you don’t wait on God to send you the partner he has in store for you. It’s not too late though, she can repent and ask Jesus to less her in her life.
@@itszbebabaybee girl I’m 24 I’m not a child. I think I understand. And I never said ehlanis dad should never see her, I said elsy doesn’t need to BE WITH the dad. Hes still going to see her.
@@starheartskull15 you’re 24 saying that you don’t need the dad which is wrong. I also never said that you said that ehlani wasn’t going to see her dad.
"I don't want to take her innocence away" that was so beautiful elsy ! You're doing the best thing and the best you can. You are an amazing mother. And maybe her family experience will be one of a kind Bc it'll be different!
This broke my heart in pieces... it’s ok to lose yourself and have hope in things. We’re human sis, you are beautiful inside out and this season will be better soon. You’re never a bad mom. Sending you all my love, and hugs sis!!
when she said “i’m exhausted, i’m tired” you can hear the pain in her voice. I feel it 🥺
I’m going through the same thing she was and it’s so tiring I don’t understand what to do either.
@@anthonydavila9415 stop responding to him. Let him go, tell yourself "not my circus not my monkeys." We can't change ppl, we can't control what others do. Once you only take charge of yourself only, you will feel better and lighter. Sending you love & light.
@@CarmenLSoto-ez5wy Thank you 🙏🏼 and I’ve tried that so much but I’m kind of afraid of his actions 🙃
@@anthonydavila9415 you need to get an order of protection and stand your ground. Show him you're strong. I know it's easier said than done but you have to show him or he will keep doing things to you cause he thinks you're weak. I went through 11 years of abuse and he traumatized me so bad. I wish I knew what I know now... he was the weakest link and was more scared of what i was going to do... so i used it to my advantage and looked him in the face and put him away.
@@CarmenLSoto-ez5wy I’m glad thing’s got better for you
You can tell by the urgency in her voice that she’s deadass tired.... like Elsy girl I’m praying for you! 💖
The same thing happened to me. I left my bd for 6 months and I spent those 6 months crying out to God every night. I went to church.. I seeked God. I read the bible.. I started working out, I opened up a business. . And after 6 months of me getting strong and finding my identity and anchoring myself in God... we did go on a family cruise.... that was scheduled before we broke up. ... and God ended up rewarding my 6 months of putting God first... by lining things up for us to get married on the cruise. So yeah we got married and came back from this family trip a married couple. I begged God to change him while we were broken up and God ended up telling me " Im actually here to change you." Biggest plot twist..
Now we're celebrating 10 years in October and we just had our fourth baby. My husband was an atheist.. now he loves God. God has changed us sooo much. And I'm glad I turned to God to learn how to truly fight for my family. I didn't have a dad either and my mom wasn't in my life much either. God showed me how much baggage I was carrying into my relationship and my bd as well. GOD healed me, humbled me, transformed my whole life. I'm telling you Elsy... if he can do it for me.. he can do it for you. I'll leave you with this scripture 2 chronicles 7:14 ... read it.. it changed my life.
Also I'm just now learning how God didn't design us women to carry all the burden of providing and raising kids by ourselves. Yes we can do it. But that's why u have a lot of women depressed and tired. Yes you can get rid of the weight of your bad right now but your just exchanging it for other weights. That we weren't designed to carry. Imma be praying for you bc I know exactly how you feel sweet girl. I've been there. Message me if you're ever interested in hearing more about what I went through. A lot of relationships fail bc we're "fighting" for our relationship all wrong.
Thank you girl for this. I see all these comments encouraging her in the wrong ways. You have given a great example of what God can do!
AMEN
This made me cry. I needed to read this comment.
Que Dios te bendiga.
This really touched me. 🥺
I felt it in my soul.
Thank you sister!
@@user-gv7my7vz7x amen! Praise God
You deserve so much more as a woman and a mother from the father of your child. Sorry you are going through all this. He should be appreciative that he has a strong woman as the mother of his child. He's just bitter because he knows your to good for him. Sending you positive vibes and a big hug.
Elsy my parents got divorced when i was 19… and i wish they separated earlier! I was hurting MORE when they were together bc of all the fighting! U have no idea how much closer i got to my mom shes always gonna be your baby girl! And separating later on in life made me feel like my childhood was a lie. Separating early on will not give her that lie…its not selfish! You are helping your baby girl in a way you dont even know! You are showing her what it means to be a STRONG WOMAN by doing this!
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I love your comment I agree, I have so much respect for single moms it’s possible to do anything, your setting a good example for your child you don’t have to force a relationships sometimes it better and the kids will grow up realizing that you don’t always have to be stuck with someone! My mom always tells me if your not happy or if one day you feel like your relationship isn’t the same, you can always go separate ways sometimes it’s better that way!
Yesss! Same! Once I got older I told my mom and she says she wished I wouLe hace been more vocal about it !
Yesss I agree! my parents separated when I was younger but I love seeing my parents happier now with their new partners & know it was for the best. It was so stressful seeing them unhappy & fighting when they were together. Even as a children, we know!
100% agree. Unfortunately it took the death of my father for me to get closer to my mom but watching them yell at each other all day was not it.
As someone who was a child of a broken family, please don’t stay together in a toxic relationship just for the kids. Children observe and normalize behaviors of their parents and that will only fuck up their perception of what a healthy relationship should look like when they’re adults
Preach this!! 💯 same here I can totally relate. Grew up in a toxic environment and I thought it was normal and tolerated toxic relationships with men and I’m 27 almost 28. I wished my parents weren’t together. Now they aren’t and my parents are healthier apart and I wish parents didn’t stay together in a toxic relationship. You’ll be a better parent if you put yourself first and have healthy relationships with yourself and in romantic relationships. In the long run your child will understand and have less trauma and not repeat the cycle.
I just left my toxic relationship a year ago after 10yrs. I wished I’d done it sooner but it’s hard leaving a situation like that knowing they know whr your at or hiding out. My kids seen a lot and every time I look at them it shatters me to know what they went thru. So we’re getting over it and it’s hard sometimes but we push thru it. They’re a lot happier and so am I. So what your doing is the right choice for you and babygirl. Keep pushing for that happiness you both deserve 💜💜💜
I’ve been in that same situation and I knew I made the right choice when my own daughter said, “ I love my dad but I’m glad he’s gone. The house feels more peaceful.” You’re the mom Elsy and you know exactly what will make your baby happy. You being at peace will bring more joy to you and your daughter. You got this!!
He’s weak af, because you are so successful and that crushes his ego. Ugh macho! You Don’t need him, move on! So proud of you 👏🏼
Dude was just trying to hit, not settle down and have a family with her.
@Snake Eyes X I agree. If you are man enough to get it in, then you should man up and be there for the child.
However, don’t be surprised when you are going around having causal sex, get pregnant, and find out your not compatible with a guy who was just trying to hit.
U didn’t give up on ur family HE DID!!! We all make choices and just cause he’s her dad it don’t mean u can’t have a family with a wonderful man who will love u and ur babygirl without the toxicity
You are so self aware. It’s inspiring. I am so sorry you’re going through this, but you have so much love being sent your way 💕
i literally couldnt relate more to something. I luckily left at three months but toxic was an understatement & i kept so much a secret. Im So happy for you 💗💗💗 stay strong & heal 💗
She’s inspiring me to leave my toxic ass bd :(
Free yourself 🙌
DO ITT
Don’t block your blessings by staying, but I know how hard it can be to leave. Don’t worry, you will eventually get to the point where you have really had enough.
Girl, do what is truly best for your child and yourself. It’s so much better having parents that aren’t together then having parents together that dont show what real love is for their child!
Do it girl!! You won’t regret it!
Let’s normalize letting these influencers live their own life as everyone else does. NO ONE should stick around in a toxic relationship just bc there’s kids involved 🗣 it’s better for your kids to grow up seeing you happy and apart than seeing y’all together and going through toxic shit. It’s traumatizing ! Elsy shouldn’t have to apologize for how she feels but y’all make her feel guilty when it ain’t even your business 😑
This!!!
Period!!
Toxic runs in their family ? Cause look at trey and Alo she wasn’t herself and now she’s different and happy. Im so happy for you Elsy you’re a great mother ! You’re doing this for your daughter
Oh shit forgot they were related daaam
@@juliagom1715 wait who and who is related sorry I'm new ro this channel but I've watch Alo for a long time and just found this one today 🙂
@@vhyee874 i guess her man and alondras ex man are cousins,they are saying toxic men run in the family lol
Why am I cryingggg! She is so genuine I respect her for leaving, she deserves happiness
Him being related to trey should’ve been the first red flag. That family are such clout chasers
FR!!!
Next will be Catherine… I’ll be sad if Austin does that..
Austin already did cheat lmao
I thought of this! Don’t wanna judge a an Apple by its tree but honestly 9/10 this is the case. People are similar to how their family is
@@Nicole-nh1ir actually no he didn’t, you just like believing in rumors and drama just like every other hater out there, because y’all seem to enjoy drama. Btw I hope you know that people can easily fake, edit, and photoshop “evidence” so easily but then again you probably didn’t know that which is why you wanna assume shit.
I hear the hurt in her voice and it makes me want to cry🙁 it’s sucks being in a toxic relationship girl🙁
I am so proud of you! It takes so much strength to get out of a toxic relationship let alone having a child with that person. You are so brave and I admire you putting your child first ❤️❤️
Your baby will understand when she’s older. It’s better to walk away then hurt yourself and your baby
Don’t delete this video. It’s beautifully you and raw. There’s no “perfect” mom. We all have our flaws, we’re all learning and experiencing new things as our babies grow.
But you are perfectly you. A lot of us moms lose ourselves. I know I did but I’m slowly repairing myself and you will too. You will get through this. We’re all rooting for you! ❤️❤️
“It ran in your family until it ran into you. Cheers for deciding that the toxic cycle ends with you.”
HELL YEAH!!!👏👏👏👏👏👏
Idk about anyone else but Elijah never seemed right for you Elsy. Y’all just didn’t go together idk how to explain it and it’s sad that he would hurt you after knowing what you’ve been through. And then for him to disrespect you on Instagram every time y’all break up just shows how little he cared about you. Let go and let God!! There’s sooo many people out there that will treat you the way you deserve and make you happy as well as your baby. You’re so young girl you have so much time to find a good person that’ll respect you. Don’t worry you’ll be in a better place soon! Just love yourself and learn to be happy by yourself first. You’ll be okay! Sending all my
love to you Elsy ❤️
I agree!
Agreed I never got a good vibe. I always thought she was way to good for him.
I agree they didn’t go together at all
We need to remind ourselves…. They were never together she got pregnant and then they ended up together. Things sometimes don’t work out .
He was straight out of high school when he became a father. I don’t fully blame him cause he still has/had that immature mentality and hadn’t even grown when he became a dad. I feel like it’s hard for a 19 year old to fully commit to someone and want a forever family like elsy wants. That being said, it still doesn’t excuse him from doing what he did and trying to manipulate Elsy into staying after everything he’s done to her
you inspire me so much girl ! you’re so beautiful, so strong. i’m so proud of you 🤍🤍🤍
Congratulations beautiful lady! This generation of women are here to break toxic cycles and teach our children that love and happiness conquers all. You’ve got this goddess ✨✨✨ your daughter will forever be proud of you for this💕💕 stay golden queen 👑
Elsy, leaving a toxic relationship is the best thing you could ever do for baby ehlani… do not apologize for putting your mental health first!!! You’re doing so great and whatever went down between you and E is between you two and as long as he’s coparenting with you and cooperating and being involved with baby ehlani that’s all that matters. You’re doing so well bbg praying for you 🤍
You’re not taking anything away from baby E. If anything, you are helping her. She will no longer be involved in a toxic environment. She will forever be grateful for that. No child deserves to be in that position. Some things have to be done for the better.
Yesss 👏🏻
Yeeeeees!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
This video just made me sob and sob and SOB. I’m literally in the same position 😔 as women we hold on to our family as long as we can until we realize it’s not good for our BABY! I TRIED…I’m praying for you and anyone who is going through this…
💙💙💙💙🙏🏼✨
This is the most I've seen you open up and speak with confidence. So happy that you are on your way to a better future and surrounded by positive energy only. Leave anything negative behind and focus on your happiness and your child's bc that's all that matters. ❤️
That's that old-school mentality you stay with your partner for the kids..this new generation we do things a little differently.. toxic is toxic baby girl.. FREE YOURSELF.. I'm so excited for your new chapter & Baby E has the best mommy a girl could ever ask for.. sending love & positivity your way mamas!! ✨💕😘🙏🏼
Yes 🙌🏼 so true ! ❤️
Thisssss! Straight facts 👏
He knew how much you wanted a family because of the things you had gone through, and that you would stick around despite all the bad and he took advantage of that. He’s going to realize now that your healing and moving on that it’s his loss..
the way you talk about your daughter just shows how amazing of a mother you are. don’t ever let anybody tell you otherwise! you deserve all the happiness in the world 💕
This is so relatable and I’m so glad she was open to talk about it. Thank you!
Elsy is filming in her car inside her garage. She learned from the best, Panchito 🙌🏼😄😏😏
💀 lmao
He’s gonna see this 😭😭😭😂😂😂
😂😂😂😭
Watch him edit this 😂
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Imagine the girl he cheated with her watching this .. I HOPE she feels some sort of regret for breaking up a family. Elijah as well. He wasn’t set & ready for the dad role & it showed he’s not as mature as you Elsy. You deserve so much better. You deserve to be the best version of you for Ehlani 🤍🤍
Maybe the other didn‘t even know about elsy. Fr stop blaming the other ones for cheating or breaking up families it‘s HIM. Only HIM.
@@lxlxh4703 girl u swear she didn’t know about elsy pls
@@lxlxh4703 stupidest comment, how tf she not gonna know about Elsy lol
@@jacckkjack9788 and even if she knew so what? It‘s this boy‘s fault all alone
@@lxlxh4703 nah it takes 2, shes just as guilty
Growing up in a toxic household was a nightmare. For many years I resented my mom for staying in that situation. My dad never saw his faults and passed that down to his son. I don't have a relationship with them now. Unpacking that trauma in my late 20s has been a rollercoaster of ride of emotions. You're doing whats best for you and your daughter and thats all the matters!
You’re so inspiring Elsy. Sigue adelante, time heals all, leave it to God. You are a strong momma♥️ All the support from one salvi to another, much love girl 💙💕
And this ladies is why it is so important to get to know and love a man before you have kids with him. Men tend to show their true colors in difficult times. Sending virtual support to you Elsy, this decision must have been extremely difficult 🙏🏻
I agree
Facts
Not entirely true for every situation When I met my husband we moved in together and we only knew each other 7 months and I got pregnant and 6 years later we are happier then we can ever be with 2 kids time or what “society standards”means nothing when two people genuinely love each other
Girl u can know the man for 10 years, have a baby and then a year later separate, it doesnt matter for how long u known the man.
This comment is gold !!!
As a single mother, don’t feel like you are doing the wrong thing, if ending it makes you happy, mentally, you are doing the right thing, trust me, ending my relationship was the best thing I could have done, and you know when it’s easier without that person, you know you did the right thing. Trust me. You got this! 💪🏻 single moms are a different type of super hero. 💪🏻💪🏻
Periodddt 👏🏾👏🏾💛🙏🏾
Yasssse bestiana
Yes!
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Yes
you’re so good at communicating your feelings! Super proud of u baby ! You’re the best mother you can be to Elani and you’re doing what’s best for her that is well respected. Sending you much love and positive energy dale pa lanteeee mami ! 💕
My mother always told me, “be the best version of yourself and if they still leave, know that it was not your fault”. Be brave y sea feliz Elsy💜
He is lucky you even glanced his way. He blew his chance and now you have the best thing that he could ever offer. And that’s your beautiful baby. God put him in your life to give you your best friend…if anything just hold onto that. Please remember just bc you’ve had a shitty relationship doesn’t mean you don’t deserve a good one! You are teaching your daughter values. Never be sorry for that! She is what is most important. Get yourself back, and let him his family and friends soak in their own negativity. They will be the ones hurting your baby and one day she will realize it and they will need to explain why they were so rude and disrespectful to her mommy. Trust me you are doing good. Silence those that say otherwise…. You’ve got this Elsy… Gods got you ♥️
Yess 🙌
This was beautifully said 🙏
This>>>>
Yes Amen 🤍🥺
God is good🙏🏼🤍🤍🤍🤍
Ehlani doesn’t need her parents together. She needs HAPPY parents.You’re an amazing mommy. Love yourself and be “selfish” that what your baby girl needs 🤍 you’re going to give her the best life. Stay strong momma , you got this !
I hope like alo found her benny, elsy finds her man when the time is right and lives her best life 🤞🏽❤️🥰 praying for you mama
The pain you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming. 💗 Romans 8:18
LOVE IT!💙
Amen 🙌🏻🙌🏻
🙌
❤️ needed it
Amen 🙏
This woman has everything a man can look for, can't wait for someone to take care of her, to make her happy as it should be. Sending lots of love Elsy, everything will be okay💗
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@Elvira D ❤️
It’s crazy how influencers feel so pressured to have to speak about their personal life to people they don’t even know. Elsy, please don’t feel like you are doing the wrong thing Bc you aren’t. A forced relationship isn’t a good relationship even if it involves kids. Take time to heal and get back to your old self.
SO PROUD OF YOU. I know it was a hard decision, but you have to put yourself and you baby before anyone and anything!!! So happy you can be your true authentic self 💗💗 sending you love and healing
Proud of you ❤️
It’s far worse to stay in a toxic relationship just for your child. Your child will get older and realize what love is and what is not. As much as you wanted to stay with him for your baby, it was not the way. So happy you came to the realization that you could have a happy family, WITHOUT him. 🤍
Pls fix
A common misconception for “family” is a mom and dad . No baby girl , as long as the baby is surround by love , then that is family 🖤🖤🖤
AMEN
I’m going through something VERY similar right now… but let me tell you you’re a lot stronger than i am. And it’s SO amazing you have people you can talk to about it. I am so happy you’re taking the steps to make yourself happy.
You’re an amazing mother you’re beautiful, strong and doing an amazing job🙏🏼❤️🥰
The answer is Jesus. He will never fail you or forsake you.
Amen!
Very true
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This >>>
AMEN!
My ex was toxic & a narcissist . I prayed & ask the Lord if he is not for me to remove him out of my life. The Lord answered me and said he is not the one & I did not listen. Found out he was cheating on me and I was devastated. I was angry at God for a month but I'm like No it's not the Lords fault. The enemy comes to Kill, steal and destroy! It's the enemy trying to blame the Lord. He warned me & did not listen. After breaking up with him, and having a relationship with God MAN my life changed! I have never been so happy as I am now. We all go through trials with our walk with God but giving the Lord full control over my life then that's when my life changed as well😎🥰 but remember God has the ultimate Victory!♥️
Whoop whoop Just keeping my ex in prayer and asking the Lord for him to change & not to cheat on his future wife. No women or man deserves that.
Do not feel guilty Elsy. Erase the “perfect family” idea bc you are enough family for your daughter. A family doesn’t need a man, let alone a boy who doesn’t understand his role. Stay up. 💕
This comment 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
A child/children do NEED a father around. I wish this whole single mother can handle everything rhetoric would stop being perpetuated. A child needs both parents to thrive.
@@itszbebabaybee Not everyone is the same. Especially in her case, it is way too toxic.
So proud of you💗 I was raised from a single mother and I love her so much and she taught me so much. Very proud of you!
Sending love and hugs! You're an amazing mother and I can hear in your voice the raw pain. May God bless you and your daughter! Only God can get you through this, you will get through this! God bless you and your daughter
Elsy, Elsy, Elsy, why do you talk to yourself as if you are guilty for everything when you are Not! One thing you need to realize is that your daughter will grow up one day and know who her dad is. You're a great mom and you shouldn't need anyone to tell you that. As long as your daughter's happy and taken care of, you don't need anyone's opinion.
Generational curses, it’s hard when you don’t know any better. She’s relearning how to handle her situations. It will take time to understand not to apologize.
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When you get emotionally abused and gaslighted, then you always feel like everything is your fault and apologize.
She’ll find out when she truly loves herself ♥️
I grew up with only a strong mother and trust me she doesn’t need both her parents to become a good/succesful person. You are enough, you’re a great mother 💕
PERIODDDD single moms are heaven sent 💓
C Wu
You are truly an amazing woman & mom. With ever word you said you can tell you try and do what’s best for your daughter. Your happiness and your daughters happiness is all that matters. It may seem so difficult and hard for you right now but one day you will look back and know you made the best decision for your family. It’s time to heal and grow to the best version of you ! Lots of love to you and baby Ehlani ❤️
You’re an amazing mother!!! The fact that you did your research is amazing 💕 wishing you the best 🥰
Thank you for this video. Going thru the same thing only thing I haven’t had the guts to leave yet 😞 I hope soon I’ll have the courage to leave him. My little one needs a healthy MOM ❤️ We deserve to be happy and respected!
You can tell the pain in her voice 🥺
I am currently sitting in my car watching this with my 2 month old and my Maltese in the back seat, just thinking about my next move to leave their dad. Everyday is a fight. He’s physically and verbally abusive but knows just what to say to make me stay. What are the odds that this video would pop up now. SMH!
Even though you didn’t disclose much, we could read between the lines and trust me - us women completely understand you. No matter what you do you will always be a bad mom in someone’s eyes, especially his and his family’s.
Girl you have the money to get a place of your own. If I had that I would’ve been long gone.
So be strong for baby E and keep moving forward. Remember, it’s best to hurt for a couple months than to be miserable for years.
I hope you had the strength to leave! You deserve more. Prayers sent your way. 🙏🙏
you're doing amazing mama, you're so strong!!! don't ever forget that , this is something extremly hard to talk about and its so understanding because i am going through this right now as a new mom and i wish to take that step to work and make myself better for my baby girl so go to you love
Thank you for having the courage to be transparent. Especially in this topic. You have been blessed with this platform. This truly helped me. You are a strong momma. You got this. Life is too short to spend your time and energy on something or someone who will never see you for you. You know you have found your soulmate when you canbe yourself 100% around them. I wish you the best in your journey.
He talks so badly of you & your “followers” yet YOU earned all your followers. You put in the work, showed your character which EVERYONE saw & we loved. People can see through fake stuff but you’re one of the most genuine & he’s so bent he can’t change people’s view of you. Love you elsy! Stay strong girl. You were so right to walk away to set an example for your daughter
Yesss! 💕
Also set a good example for girls who follow her and are scared to be alone🙏 hoping these girls learn from her mistakes.
Yes ma’am, she is the what momma! And this takes so much strength to post!
The pain in Elsy’s voice when she explains herself 🥺 you have many supporters that will support you throughout every step of the way. The emotions your feeling are valid Elsy. I understand that you want your family to be one but you have to also understand that your happiness matters too. If you want baby Ehlani to be happy then show her that by loving yourself too mamas🤍🤍
You’re soooo strong! Such an amazing mother and person 🙏🏻
You got this. Your an amazing mother! Props to you!!!!❤️ everything will be better
Mom life girl 😪 Many females don't feel like themselves after giving birth & its sad how we get judged instead of getting help. We go through so damn much 💔
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Omg right I get judged a lot by my mother in law step father in law and sister in law & babydady I have a hole lot of people attacking me 😢😔
This!!!! I felt like I lost my old self. It’s so weird! But then again a mom changes you completely. You don’t come first anymore, the baby does. But becoming a mother is a blessing. 🙏🏻
Say it louder for the in-laws in the back. 🗣
FELT
You got this elsy. As a single momma I can’t tell to and guarantee you’re going to come out of this STRONGER and WISER than ever before. It takes strength to leave toxic places and people. I can’t wait to see you blossom again 💕 one thing I ALWAYS keep in my mind when making decisions is being an example to my baby girl. (I wouldn’t want my little girl to put up with a toxic relationship so I won’t put up with it either) because if I do I’m just allowing her to make the same choices thinking it’s oky. THIS ALWAYS HELPS ME make the right choices even when it’s hard. Lead by example 💘 even when it’s hard. Love you and praying for your baby girl 🤍🤍🤍
you are such an inspiration, its so good that you are finally putting you and your baby first. you deserve to be happy, and you are an amazing mother so your daughter will be proud that you decided to find yourself and start healing! I see how much you love baby e, its such pure love. Send you love and prayers🥺❤️
Can't wait to see Elsy as Happy as Alondra after she left her relationship with Tre
ig it just ran in their family , treating beautiful amazing woman bad . Go figures 🙄
Elsy, my fiancé tells me this all the time “it’s not the family you came from, it’s the family you make” A family doesn’t not mean mom dad & baby. I’ve been a single mom for 3 years and now engaged to one of the best man I’ve ever came across. Hang in there! Pray pray pray! Your daughter is going to appreciate your sacrifices you are making now. Your beautiful & a great mom!
i love this! and yes its very true what your fiancé said ! I've also heard " If you don't come from a healthy family , make sure a healthy family comes from you " I feel like elsy is going to find someone else in the near future who's actually going to treat her good and respect her and love her the way shes supposed to and also be a good step father to ehlani ! I can definitely see that happening for her and i wish for it to come true because she deserves it for being such a strong boss ass woman 💕💕 Hang in there elsy good things are coming for you ❤️
Tell me what to do lmao I keep attracting idiots and I’m only 25, been a single mom for 6 years now 😭
Your words are beautiful 🥺💜
@@DazedDreamsss you get what you allow, girl. Set your boundaries NOW, reflect and choose what you want and need from a partner. Respect yourself enough to not deal with any kind of disrespect. Love yourself and above all, your child. Be the best version of you, and those who don’t have the same goals as you, or want more for themselves the way that you do, let them go. Love doesn’t chase. Don’t chase anyone. People who are worth your time and energy are going to reciprocate the energy and time that you can.
All I see is a strong amazing woman. Elsy you did not take anything away from your daughter, you saved her from a lot of trauma and that’s huge, it’s the entire direction of her life. She’s lucky to have such an incredible mama 🤍
You are an amazing mother by the way. She is going to have such a happy life with momma 💜 you got this momma!!!!
Elsy, I also left my son's father when he was months old..a few years later I found the perfect man and father to my son. He adopted my son and I have been happily married now for almost 30 years..there is hope for you. Hang in there!