Why Narcissists are Successful: Cat- vs. Grin Narcopaths (Narcissism Cheshire Effect)

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  • @latlayfotfoy2709
    @latlayfotfoy2709 10 місяців тому +51

    They take more than they give. They convince, they pretend, they promise and if they don't get what they want, they do the same thing elsewhere.

  • @Sehill0011
    @Sehill0011 10 місяців тому +98

    Mine plays video games for hours. He then talks like the things he did in the game are real. He will tell people " I flew a plane into a war zone," and other ridiculous stuff. It's crazy.

    • @XenaXOE
      @XenaXOE 10 місяців тому

      Are we living the same life😮 my narc boyfriend does the same. It’s like he’s addicted to the feeling of being the “hero” of the game, achieving all these fake accomplishments because he has no ambition or accomplishments in the real world 😢

    • @perrylindsey2481
      @perrylindsey2481 10 місяців тому +10

      Mine became the head chair of mohs surgery at Harvard's Dana Farber cancer institute

    • @jbuntine1255
      @jbuntine1255 10 місяців тому +6

      My X drank 2 slabs of beer , smoked pot X5 bottles Red and 2 pouches of Tabacco
      More than $300. A week
      And in the end took 140K from joint bank account ,and maintained his bank account from mummy in EU that he never separated from, Oh how she hated me.... sick
      And he only worked 7yrs of an 18 yr marriage..

    • @hashh2019
      @hashh2019 10 місяців тому

      @@perrylindsey2481lol i went to their website to see who that could be

    • @jamespain2138
      @jamespain2138 2 місяці тому

      Is he a streamer ?

  • @NadineLalonde
    @NadineLalonde 10 місяців тому +26

    Prof. Eric McLuhan: "The body is everywhere assaulted by all of our new media, a state which has resulted in deep disorientation of intellect and destabilization of culture throughout the world. In the age of disembodied communication, the meaning and significance and experience of the body is utterly transformed and distorted." Physical/Reality base vs Fantasy/Digital. Stay real. May the 17% prevail. Stay real.

  • @suzanneadey3448
    @suzanneadey3448 10 місяців тому +23

    This is phenomenal. Totally fascinating. Thank you so much.

  • @sunu84
    @sunu84 10 місяців тому +47

    My partner Narcissist is so lucky with money. I think it's the fact that he believes so much that he deserves money and success that makes the law of attraction successful. He deceives a lot of people in order to sell, he lies compulsively, he even steals a cake from the supermarket.

    • @dominusbalial835
      @dominusbalial835 10 місяців тому +22

      he has a crap load of money and needs to steal snacks? it's probably not the food that they're after but the gratification of stealing it from a organization

    • @systemicsystems703
      @systemicsystems703 10 місяців тому +6

      Sounds like a sociopath. Maybe you should see the signs?

    • @Lucidtherealone
      @Lucidtherealone 9 місяців тому +1

      I didn't think there were red flags until I read that he's a cake thief

    • @Rothinger
      @Rothinger 7 місяців тому +1

      As an narcissist i hate spending money on food. And i have a lot of cash. I would also Steal food if that would be easy.

  • @SMILEY.45
    @SMILEY.45 10 місяців тому +18

    A girl I knew literally had a Cheshire Cat tattoo like it was a warning sign haha

  • @tonyperez2830
    @tonyperez2830 10 місяців тому +8

    Epic speech! That created a shift in consciousness in me. Thank you!

  • @user-vi3sz3fg2r
    @user-vi3sz3fg2r 10 місяців тому +8

    Incredible. Dr. Vaknin, you are the best, best, best.

  • @pqt112
    @pqt112 10 місяців тому +16

    Every black person needs to watch this video. We keep losing because we are too real. This system is not made for us. Nigerians are the most successful black group because they know how to manipulate reality (i.e. scam culture).

    • @Suddenmindfulness
      @Suddenmindfulness 10 місяців тому +2

      So, so true. It’s clear as day, to me. Thank you for saying this!

  • @agesflow6815
    @agesflow6815 10 місяців тому +17

    Thank you, Prof. Sam Vaknin.

  • @SósAnita-j6e
    @SósAnita-j6e 10 місяців тому +11

    Thank you Professor! That is really it! What a brilliant explanation of these days!

  • @ancusEIRL
    @ancusEIRL 10 місяців тому +47

    As a software dev i just want to buy small place in the countryside and harvest my own food. We do nothing relevant for reality.

    • @Victoria-qc9vw
      @Victoria-qc9vw 10 місяців тому +2

      Fuck yeah. I'm looking north of Russia, and you?

    • @thedevilandhertrumpets4268
      @thedevilandhertrumpets4268 10 місяців тому +8

      Thank you for acknowledging that.

    • @ancusEIRL
      @ancusEIRL 10 місяців тому +1

      @@teriekwilliams2828 that isna really good question. Maybe by the time i am able to afford such fantasy the countryide will be completeltly machine based. I've been dreaming about it since i worked at verizon around 8 yeara ago.

    • @ancusEIRL
      @ancusEIRL 10 місяців тому +3

      @@Victoria-qc9vw i've considered Constanza. It is in the north of Dominican Rep. Good weather for vegetables to grow, it is around 14⁰ C most of the year. And it is cheap. Two hours driving and you get 27⁰ - 32⁰ C in Puerto plata.

    • @ancusEIRL
      @ancusEIRL 10 місяців тому

      @@thedevilandhertrumpets4268i've been in telecom, finances and airline services and mos of the work can be done with 25%. Same as in twitter/X the rest is just business crazyness.
      You end up asking : i deliver but am i really adding value to the human race ?

  • @artydogy
    @artydogy 10 місяців тому +4

    Wow. That was a good one. My brain is buzzing and bent. I'm was surprised to here about the 17 percent, that's pretty wild.

  • @DmitriyKolyasnikov
    @DmitriyKolyasnikov Місяць тому

    I want to thank Mini for this wonderful lecture, and of course, my thanks to the professor too. You have described beautifully how narcissists can achieve success, but you have not said why narcissists are doomed to it. Creating a fantasy in which the narcissist is the best, irreplaceable, loved (the narcissist is unable to distinguish success from love) takes too much energy. It is an endless hell. Becoming truly the best of the best is the only way to get out of this hell. If you are the best - you are the best. You do not need to create a fantasy in which you will be the best. A great example is our Mini, who achieved worldwide popularity with the support of the professor. If Mini has a narcissistic disorder, she does not need to fantasize that she is popular and loved, she is.

  • @bocekschmitt7838
    @bocekschmitt7838 10 місяців тому +9

    Vielen Dank, Professor Vaknin, bemerkenswerte und hervorragende Erklärung für so vieles 😻

  • @patriciagorn6645
    @patriciagorn6645 10 місяців тому +88

    Its like living in hell being with one of them 😢

    • @hannahb3854
      @hannahb3854 10 місяців тому +3

      Stay strong, I know how you feel ❤

  • @joannavlachou4520
    @joannavlachou4520 10 місяців тому +10

    I don"t know if Dr. Sam Vaknin.refers to politicians, but the Narcs i know that have thrived , are really hard workers, not neccessarily smart but they work really hard because they don t care for anything/anybody else and they get excited by antagonism...they spend most of their time in working and obtaining their goals.

    • @Oysters176
      @Oysters176 5 місяців тому

      @@anika_h My psychopath of an older brother, had the 'perception/image' that he was a 'hardworker'/'smart', don't know how getting 'good grades' is worth it if they are talking about shapes in 5th grade.. Lame. Not worth bothering with really. Because I was not 'compliant' or as mean as them, or sm, I got labeled with 'fasd'/autism. The world hurt me do to that.

  • @JonCurrie
    @JonCurrie 10 місяців тому +2

    May the force be with you in these neocon feudal economic reality times.

  • @cristianmihai4818
    @cristianmihai4818 10 місяців тому +4

    this should be learned in schools....

  • @kshas3
    @kshas3 4 місяці тому +1

    Seriously read most of this transcript before watching. Fascinating insight

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  4 місяці тому

      Transcripts here: vaknin-talks.com

    • @kshas3
      @kshas3 4 місяці тому

      @@samvaknin thank you Sam, I am learning so much. I have been oblivious to the narcissistic abuse I have been experiencing.

    • @kshas3
      @kshas3 4 місяці тому

      @@samvaknin I have a possibly malignant covert narcissist/turned psychopath with tons of support/supply hacking into my computer/internet. How to stop?

  • @Rys12.3-4_5
    @Rys12.3-4_5 10 місяців тому +4

    Thank you 😍
    Narcissists are Successful by obtaining money and power .
    Narcissist is good but without hurting people .

    • @doloresfer
      @doloresfer 10 місяців тому

      Nascicist are never good because they always hurt people... This video is a romantizied view of narcisists

  • @lilshrine
    @lilshrine 10 місяців тому +2

    Pls make more videos on this, we really need to hear more about this topic 😮

  • @cecillekinnear4585
    @cecillekinnear4585 10 місяців тому +2

    Im an artist. My mother a well known author. I completely get your lecture. Art is the wandering mind fluttering through disembodied images. Im married to an engineer who did pioneering work in optical fibre.

  • @Lou_Cyphre
    @Lou_Cyphre 10 місяців тому +2

    MadTV did a virtual reality helmet bit named "Habitat 2000" that is relevant today

  • @MIRNA_LIZ
    @MIRNA_LIZ 10 місяців тому +11

    A M A Z I N G 🎉🎉🎉

  • @belindared3389
    @belindared3389 10 місяців тому +2

    Great explanation 😂❤

  • @raynoobkac
    @raynoobkac 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you very much for the great lecture Mr. Vaknin.I cant wait for the day when we all turn ourselves into narcissistic zombie cyborgs,for example like The Borg from Star Trek🤣

  • @MaryThompson63
    @MaryThompson63 10 місяців тому +7

    What an interesting model for thinking about these things! How does it apply to a covert narcissist who isn't successful in the world?

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 місяців тому +32

      S/he is successful at undermining, plagiarizing, sabotaging, and destroying.

    • @pqt112
      @pqt112 10 місяців тому

      The ones I know are skilled at being victims. Faking illnesses, provoking people into mistreating them to claim victimhood and get attention, etc. They can really put you in jeopardy by changing people's perception of you and perception is reality....

  • @101AGAMES
    @101AGAMES 8 місяців тому +2

    can I fake being a narcissist?

  • @patriciavandevelde5469
    @patriciavandevelde5469 10 місяців тому +36

    Don t marry, stay solos!

    • @psychonauticum
      @psychonauticum 10 місяців тому +20

      After surviving narc abuse and spending 3+ years rebuilding myself, yeah I admit I'm afraid to be with ANYONE else. I REALLY like having a "me".

    • @chereeB-hummingbird
      @chereeB-hummingbird 10 місяців тому +7

      Amen ✨️

    • @psychonauticum
      @psychonauticum 10 місяців тому +9

      Listening to Sam def helped me along. Learned so much from this man so I still watch just cause he's quite fascinating.

  • @SMILEY.45
    @SMILEY.45 10 місяців тому +7

    "I know what you’re afraid of. It’s not pain, or solitude. It’s indignity you can’t stand, Hannibal. You’re like a cat that way." - Alanna Bloom to Hannibal Lecter

  • @startingovaries
    @startingovaries 10 місяців тому +5

    My ex narco.path is a multi millionaire and says he's dying now but no one believes him. He's such a Liar.

  • @jacobshorter7204
    @jacobshorter7204 10 місяців тому +7

    My hyper-vigilance @ 00:26:03 👀

  • @yanakhalina-stackpole4710
    @yanakhalina-stackpole4710 10 місяців тому +3

    Wow

  • @pitinicori
    @pitinicori 10 місяців тому +8

    Every emperor and tyrant in the world was a charming narc

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 місяців тому +23

      Psychopathic narcissist.

    • @pitinicori
      @pitinicori 10 місяців тому +1

      @@samvaknin alright well if these psycho narcs are leading society like symbolic sheep to live in outer space with their digital coins, I’ll stay alone tending to the earth, a complete disgruntled so called “failure.” Even my degree can be used a doormat.

    • @pqt112
      @pqt112 10 місяців тому +3

      So many African dictators were nutcases

  • @janfinale2039
    @janfinale2039 10 місяців тому

    Funny...... just discovered this clip, & Alice In Wonderland is presently performing on stage (ballet) in Sydney

  • @aspherical7658
    @aspherical7658 9 місяців тому

    I'm convinced. Where do I sign up for narcissist training classes?

  • @thelau61
    @thelau61 10 місяців тому +4

    Well there you go, if you want to be successful, become a narcissist.

    • @pqt112
      @pqt112 10 місяців тому +4

      I wanted to say, you can just cosplay as one, but at some point you will get lost in the sauce. I am challenged everyday at my job by delulu people expecting me to go along with their delusions. It can feel like drowning

  • @SusanWillans-b9q
    @SusanWillans-b9q 10 місяців тому +4

    Sounds like American politics

  • @roxanakh2094
    @roxanakh2094 10 місяців тому +1

    Professor Vaknin, you used the term " Manipulation of symbols in fantastic spaces." Can you please explain how you came up with this term? you explained to some degree, but does this have a philosophical background? If you did make this term, can you discuss this more in a video? and if you borrowed it, can you give references for further reading regarding the term, not specifically narcissism. Thank you.

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  10 місяців тому +7

      I coined this phrase a few years ago.

  • @alicia2111
    @alicia2111 9 місяців тому

    "promosm"