Sometimes, we all need to just vent. Im so glad she had such a wonderful family. I also was undiagnosed as a kid and struggled with autism. Its good to look back and realize how silly you were as a kid.
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Finally, someone else who says high school wasn’t really that fun, but also acknowledges it was kinda fun at the time. I don’t look back on high school fondly, but at the time I was thinking it wasn’t as bad as it could be.
One hundred percent, middle school was such a nightmare for me that the high school experience was...well, not better but sucked in a different way. I also did not go to prom or participate in any sports/activities, so. That was a thing.
Elementary school to middle school were absolute hell for me, likely because I kept getting stuck with the same classmates from 2nd grade up to my last year of middle school and they were pretty much all horrible to me, come high school I was rarely in the same class with anyone else since everyone had different classes they went to and I had a group of friends in highschool. I probably would've managed to finish high school had I not hit a mental wall, the moment I learned I could dropout and just go get my GED elsewhere I did it, best decision of my life as I spent what would've been my junior and senior years of high school at home, playing video games and watching anime getting the much needed mental break. Middle school was the worst because of the three as the constant bullying took such a toll that I developed an aversion to going out anywhere to the point of getting physically ill if I needed to go to school or go out somewhere....
Hi Jesse, you probably won’t read this but your channel is what led me to recognising autistic traits in myself and is what led to me getting a diagnosis. I’d just like to thank you so much for being so open about it, it truly was a great help and gave me the confidence I needed to talk about it with my family. So thank you! (Ps, you’re one of my special interests, so keep shining 😉)
Actually turns out, when my grandma used to live in Oklahoma as a kid she absolutely demolished Hanna Montanas dad in soccer. Apparently he sucked at it and all old people know eachother. He actually called her out in college when she got sick.
same thing happened to me! but i’m still not officially diagnosed because i don’t have the money for it and support in the country i currently live. i hope one day i’ll manage to do it tho
God ‘Jack of all Friends, Close to None’ was so true of my high school experience. Like most people genuinely seemed to like me, but I was never invited to parties or to hang out with anyone in the summer.
any time I think "hey schools aren't modelled after prisons that much" I hear about stuff like "isolation rooms" and get back on track (my highschool literally used to be a former "reeducation" youth prison. go figure)
@Pingo its so normal in every school in the uk aswell mine was the same thing, you either went to "reset room" where you missed two lessons to sit there in silence and do your work or you went to isolation . its so sick.
The school to prison pipeline is a documented reality in America unfortunately, especially for students of color. In my Education courses in college we talked about how the state prison systems use Third Grade End-of-Year test scores to ballpark many cells they'll need in the coming years.. We also had ISS (in school suspension) growing up, which was what Jesse described as isolation.
@@shadowboy213 Kids need interaction and stimulus though. Many kids are in isolation ALL DAY. Meaning no break times, no leaving the room for lunch, no getting up to stretch your legs. Even the staff won't talk to you. You're sat in silence all day, have your lunch on your own in silence, no breaks, no moving around, nothing to do all day except homework. Can't even nap or hum to yourself or doodle or anything without getting in trouble if caught. It'd drive me insane, quite honestly, and I'm an extremely unsociable person. The utter cruelty and irony of punishing ADHD kids that way when they act up from being understimulated is beyond comprehension.
I literally used to ask to be put in isolation 😂 I hated people especially the ones in my school (badly bullied) but liked the work. So isolation was not punishment it was the best day ever lol
Honestly, I'm happy for anyone who is able to and gets along well enough with their parents to keep living at home as long as they need to. My relationship to my parents isn't awful, but I could never go live in that house again, it's just way too much for my mental health! Glad for those who finds it comfy at home, really 🥰
I stayed in my parents house till I was 22 or 23 and it was the best thing I ever did for my relationship with my parents. It became so much healthier for me and them! So I feel you.
I really feel this. My relationship with my parents is actually pretty good now that we dont live under the same roof, but as a late-diagnosed autistic woman I really sometimes wish I could just go back home.
I both am able too and don't have a choice. I'm nearing 30, am disabled (late-diagnosed autism + other mental health things) and have never been able to leave home, but thankfully I have a good relationship with my parents and it's a big apartment. Still, it's hard sometimes because I feel like a failure, and my living situation (amongst other things) undoubtedly makes me very unattractive to potential partners. But that's just the way it is. 🤷♀️
Same. I moved out with my bf as soon as we could and it’s such a struggle honestly but I’d much rather have financial stress than simply live with my parents, and that shows a lot. It’s sad to think about that I feel like I don’t have real “parents” I can rely on. But I’m happy to provide my little sister a safe place that I didn’t have at her age
Teen Jesse deserved so much better. School systems just don’t wanna help disabled people. Good on the people who tried to help her as much as possible. Love ya Jesse. X
if there's anything i've learned from british builders it's that the uk loves their extremely closed floor plans. that initial hallway in first person hit me like Life Has Many Doors, Ed-Boy.
LMFAO we doooo, it’s cold 90% of the time so closed plans bring the heat in but rn it’s 40 degree celsius and this floor plan will be the DEATH OF ME !!!
I'm glad you can stay late at school with clubs and all that jazz. My high school was my escape from my absolutely horrible home life then 😂 ya girl was too active in the after-school activities
cutting school to go hide at my bffs house whose mother was the truancy officer! lol shed never report us but was up the ass of anyone else. shed write us excuse notes. my high school and home were nightmares for me. my only escape was my friends. im pretty sure i spent more time at friends houses from 10-17 than i did at home. i hated that entire period of my life. HATED it. wanted to disappear, not exist, but was too scared to end it all. thank GOD. im on the fence about buying this ex pack because it was literally the worst time in my life but i want to relive it and be on the cool kid side. the popular, not wanting to crawl into a wall when anyone walked by me, kid. its rediculous, im in tears as i write this ( im 50 years old now, so, if it still brings up this kind of emotion, you know it sucked for everyone). high school really fucks people up, not gonna lie
Honestly, I feel the "I have left the classroom, and therefore I have no recollection of what happened today." in my soullll. Also, I applaud you for writing in the Harry Potter RPC on tumblr. It's always been dicey and very cliquey. Thus why I stay on the edge of big fandom rpcs. lmao
I love it when you talk about your undiagnosed autism time. I have a teenager in the process of evaluations for neurodivergent things. As a teenager all of a sudden there’s been a realization that they do behave differently than most but whatever happens to be the issue they were very good at masking when they were in one classroom and kids were more predictable. Middle school has shown something a bit different with social cues, sensory stimulation and hyper focused interests. Anyway, thank you for being so open and representing Autism in women and being diagnosed later. ♥️
yaaaaay go you mummy for knowing the signs! My mum just hated me because of how different I was to my perfectly healthy high achieving sister haha the drama was real
@@dandygirl6 thank you. I’m trying hard, so far my biggest hurdles are trying to make extended family aware that they just can’t expect the same type of behavior from this kiddo as the other cousins. The conversations are a million percent different and the expectations really need to be let go of.
@@dandygirl6 I’m sorry you had to go through sibling comparisons :( People shouldn’t ever be hated or feel hated for being neurodivergent (or any other way of existing that’s perfectly natural, human, and not in their control)! It’s really unfair, and especially hurtful when it comes from your own family. I hope you’re in a better place now! 🤍 /gen edit: thought I messed up the tone indicator, so I edited it, but then realized I was right the first time 😂 it’s all good now! 👍
I had childhood trauma; but found peace at being at school away from all the drama at home. Different circumstances for different folks. I also think people say they "miss high-school" because it's mostly a time of self discovery with minimal consequences.
@@brandoniswhoiam No one has to experience trauma, but it’s more likely for people with bad childhoods to have worse memories of their school days. Cause if your childhood wasn’t great then your memories of school probably weren’t great either
high school was the best BECAUSE at home sucked so much. school was my favorite place to be and my memories there are still some of the best i have specifically because of my trauma
In America, at least when I was in school, isolation was called In School Suspension. It was awful. We were in the school dean’s office but we couldn’t talk too.
Mine was similar, we called it In House Suspension. It'd be a teacher chaperoning us in an empty classroom for the entire school day, kind of like a study hall except no talking, no phones, and no joy of any kind. Absolutely miserable. The only upside was actually getting some of my classwork done 😭
I feel that, it was awful!!!! I went to high school in the US and we had detention as well as ISS/OSS. We had a couple designated tiny, dark rooms with a desk and a chair in the corner so you had to sit in there alone until school was out. I don't think that helped ANYBODY lol, just made everything worse for most
In the UK here and once I was out in isolation for three days, and I loved it! The students in my school were so naughty and the teachers had completely given up on the class, so every lesson I’d just sit there stressing out and hyper stimulated as all the students shouted and messed about around me, with the teacher just giving us all the silent treatment. In isolation I was just put in a room with a computer, my pack of work and one teacher keeping an eye on me and helping me when I needed it. Learned more in those three days than I would have in two weeks of normal lessons. Was in isolation for hitting a bully back after they shoved me, after that I kind of wanted to get in more fights just so I wouldn’t have to deal with the stress of being in those classes. Never did, my parents moved me out of that school shortly after.
omg so painful, most schools have some kind of version of this. Here in Aus in a staunchly catholic school it's called the RTC (responsible thinking classroom) where most of my educating was done.
I love hearing you talking about your autism journey and teenage experience because I've never thought that I could've related so much to a random internet girl from England, when I can't even relate to many people around me in Spain. It just feels great to listen to your stories as a late diagnosed autistic woman myself, so thanks for that. I got here because of Sims, I'm staying for the stories.
The fact that you got suspended for printing out Hannah Montana is hilarious (but also heart breaking). That made me lol literally. Not because I’m heartless but because it’s soooo cute!
Considering I'm 99% sure my crippling anxiety issues I've had for 10+yrs was due to traumatic experiences in school, I'm gonna have so much fun with this pack 🙃
This is sooo hilarious to watch as a late diagnosed autistic person. Everything's way too relatable, the only thing that's easy for me to eat is chips/crisps (for the texture) so that was funny as well :') I told my boyfriend and he rolled his eyes 😂
Just wanted to say thank you for being so honest with your experience! I was also labelled a handful in school and ended up being diagnosed with autism later in life and can relate to your journey so much! Just about to graduate with a 2:1 after being kicked out before my A-levels. Thank you for making me feel more normal!
I second this! I left mainstream school 3 months into in year 7, diagnosed autistic at 13/14, was only given the chance to do 4 GSCEs and now I'm in my second year in uni at 21! It's so great to see other's success stories !! Can't thank you enough Jesse
I had a similar experience. British, and was also undiagnosed. I actually had a more traumatic time in primary school (though high school was also awful, but-) because I had literal TEACHERS bully me. The worst bully is now a head teacher. I wish I had the language and understanding to have spoken up and expressed what he had been doing, but I didn't. He got away with mental abuse in front of a whole class, as well as physical abuse where I felt FORCED to cheat on a maths test because he had bullied me so much about how badly I was doing, I was desperate for it to stop; he grabbed me by my wrist when he noticed I was copying someone's work, and yanked me clean out of my chair and off the floor. I hope the fucker suffers in some way in his life. I'm 29 in several days. I really fucking hope there aren't any children still treated like this.
Oof, the "I wish I had the language and understanding to have spoken up" hits hard. Being undiagnosed for both ADD and autism, school was difficult for me, and oftentimes I didn't have the language and understanding to (1) properly express how people were mistreating me or (2) make people understand why I was more sensitive to things. And it is sad that the adults and children of that time seemed to have no inclination to show any kindness or try to figure out how they could help
i’m 32, not diagnosed with anything but strongly believe i either have autism and/or adhd, and i had about 2-3 teachers who would bully me just for being different. my second grade teacher was the worst though… i remember being so confused about why she didn’t like me :/ looking back i must’ve frustrated her in some way, but i’ll always resent the fact that instead of trying to get me help or something her first instinct was to be mean to a child.
@Pingo Holy shit, yeah. Thinking about it, I had times like that as well. Most notably because of my hair. My fringe would grow over my eyes, and I had this snobby music teacher in high school that would say the same. And then there were cooking classes. By the time my sister was in high school, we got even poorer, so much so we couldn't afford the ingredients to cook in the class. The teacher would mock my sister and ask how we couldn't afford food.
My hs years were a general experience of undiagnosed adhd, among other things, in fact my home life was worse for me so school, and weekends at the library were a refuge. I was a 'gifted student' who had few problems in class - in structured environments, but hw and projects, especially in classes that weren't my favorite, painted me as two different students. Overall honor student, did after-school tutoring in math, which most times was just somewhere to hangout and prep mentally for going home, graduated expected to go into a premed program and just... didn't.
My school didn't have dedicated isolation rooms, just used empty class rooms, or a seat in the corridor outside someone's office, usually tucked under a stairwell. Once, i had to shadow a senior teacher and sit in the back of his class and watch him teach the same class 4 times 🙈
Yes we had "in school suspension" in America well my school at least and I'm guessing its kinda like isolation. We'd just sit in a room with the rest of the delinquents and not speak and be given cold lunches 🤣🤣
cold lunches as in, the foods were hot foods that had gone cold, or they were just cold food options? I'm australian so having food provided to you is weird to me in the first place
@@countrye3013 cold food options like turkey or ham sandwiches which were really gross I went to a football highschool so our school lunches were pretty good to feed the school teams but our isolation foods were straight prison foods .. terrible
@@Wurmze honestly I don't understand it. No idea what it was to achieve it did make me build a resentment to the school and the principle who kept sending me to in school suspension instead of talking to me and seeing what was going on. I didn't live in the best area and a lot of kids around me were dying from gun violence or just misfortune events. My parents were divorcing and it was a new area for me and we weren't the richest so I didn't have the best things. So it made me act out.. which wasn't a good excuse but it's the truth the principle didn't seem to care "just send them to in school so we don't have to deal with it "
@@Wurmze It was probably to ensure that they were actually being punished as opposed to out of school suspension where you were at home doing whatever you pleased. If I needed a mental break from school, I actively went out of my way to get suspended so I could stay home and watch tv and play video games because at that point I would rather risk being seen as a troublemaker for a mental break than sit in class being treated like garbage by my classmates and even by some of my teachers, plus I was decent enough at school that I could make up for it once I went back, of course I had to carefully walk the line to be sure I didn't get expelled.
I was diagnosed with autism at 19 and I feel the exact same way as you. Hate the education system with a passion for not picking up on it but I hold absolutely no ill will to my family. I grew up in such a loving family and I think one of the reasons it maybe wasn’t picked up by them was because they were so accepting I felt a lot more comfortable being myself and less likely to have meltdowns (had plenty at school tho lmao)
We didnt have isolation per say but we did have in school suspension or ISS. They put you in a specific classroom with a teacher watching and you werent allowed to talk to anyone and just do homework and be quiet
I relate so much to the homework thing. I have ADHD and the second I shoved that homework in my bag there was no seeing it until the end of the grading period when my mom would go through my bag and find it all. I even couldn’t use electronics on weekdays and still wouldn’t do it because I either forgot or procrastinated. I’m lucky teachers didn’t give much homework in my high school because I would have failed because of that alone
love hearing about people getting kicked out of school bc i did too. i tell people i dropped out but i technically got kicked out because i stopped doing work or even going. kinda like you, it was the undiagnosed adhd lmao
We had "in school suspension" which is like your Isolation. I'm in Oregon, USA. And I love the way you talk about Autism. My son is Autistic and school was awful for him. But he finally graduated with a "modified" diploma after 5 years of high school.
JESSE! Your description of hiw your family treated you while being undiagnosed like that's exactly me. I know my mom and dad loved me (my siblings not so much) but they just didn't understand why I was so different but they just ya know TRIED THEIR BEST.
This was so fun and interesting! I've come to the realisation that I'm fine watching or playing other people's traumatic teenage years in The Sims, but as soon as something reminds me too much of my school or my house I refuse to engage, instant mood killer.
It's so confusing when people say high school was the best time of their life and the worst time of their life. For me it was just the worst time of my life. High school was awful. There was nothing good about it. Things have been better since I graduated. The main reason I'd never have kids is high school. I couldn't put another human being through that.
It’s the opposite for me (well I understand how people could say it was the worst time of their life from their stories but) I had mental health issues and struggles during high school but none of them stemmed from high school they came from home life and junior school. Getting to go to school every day, be with my friends, pmsl at the charismatic teachers (or with my friends at the rubbish ones though they were the minority), learn so much, have so many awesome experiences, have no real responsibilities (even if they feel real at that age). It’s just a setting that you’ll never get in the rest of your life because as an adult you’re restricted by your friends being all over the place, real responsibilities, jobs, time crunches it’s just so much harder and more isolated. I remember every few months in high school I’d remind myself, you need to appreciate this time right now, and I don’t think I did enough as I let myself get overwhelmed by the anxiety and such. But yeah I hope my potential kids have a good high school experience like mine and not one like yours.
It was a hard time in life just by virtue of puberty and being a teenager…normal stuff…but I still have overall positive memories of high school. I enjoyed high school. My dad was like the King of High School. Popular, football player, homecoming king, always partying, etc. My mom, on the other hand, didn’t have a good high school experience. She ended up doing independent study to get out of going every day. She had a really tough four years, mentally. So yeah they’re my parents, but their experiences compared to my (and my brother’s), were vastly different from my own. Because my brother even had a different experience than I did. You can’t really assume everyone’s going to go through what you did. You don’t have to have kids if you don’t want them of course, but thinking they’d automatically have the same experience as you did, is flawed logic. My point is to say kids are who they are, and who their parents are, is not a guarantee of who they are going to be.
I agree. My high school experience was a lovely blend of social rejection, developing health issues, and increasingly ab*sive parent relationship. It felt like a constant fight. My school even let me down because once I started doing my general classes in college I realized I wasn’t taught anything in high school, even basic stuff like how a cell works we never went over. I don’t have a single good time I remember about being in high school. I was always struggling with everything. Now I’m 21 going to uni and am content as a loner, living with my boyfriend and have a handle on my health issues. So much better
i still remember having exams and all that in highschool and around the time, the sims 3 came out and i remember just walking out of my first exam that i did no study for and just going to the plaza to get my pre-ordered Sims 3 base game and just all exam prep or even anxiety was completely suffocated by Sims :') also... lmao at you treating school like a game, 'cuz same babes. also my fave crisps are kettle chilli flavour. kettle cooked chips texture omg.. the tiny layers.
I really love these videos where we get a peek at younger Plumbella. I suspect I have autism but my school experience wasn't quite like yours. I'd be curious to learn how you adapted your living/learning style in college, because I'd love to get a master's too but I'm not confident it'd go well.
Hearing you talk about loving living at home brings so much comfort to me. I'm in no hurry to leave but no one seems to be able to grasp that when I explain it.
Why are your LPs so damn fun to watch? When I'm having the crappiest day I can count on you. Also, I love cheese & onion crisps best. Why we don't have these in the US is a mystery, they are fab.
I think I'm in a healthy middle regarding my own high school experience, where I didn't particularly love it, but I don't have much trauma from it either. But ONE TIME I got to sing my favorite song with my friends playing in our makeshift band for the day in front of like 80 teens and tweens or something, and that is a memory I will treasure forever. I freaking rocked out hard that day.
Not high school, but in middle school I also got in so much trouble and found I preferred my school’s version of isolation. It was great- I knew what was expected of me and I got to read for most of the day. Idk why everyone was surprised when I was diagnosed autistic a few years later
That isolation stuff seems like it could really mess up kids' mental health. Seems like some weird medieval logic or something. I hope they don't still do that!
Yeah they do. Its pretty much to keep them from disrupting the other kids. here youre a problem child we simply dont want to see you. Youd think they would have come up with a better system by now or go hey maybe this kid is acting out for a reason. What sucks more is the only classes they have for kids who cant mask or blend at all(special ed) and they don’t even try and teach those kids. Just hear learn how to be a janitor
they do it was terrible. i swore once in middle school at no one in particular and my english teacher heard me and i got sent to isolation for a day. it was hell and my guardian was so pissed off.
I really love what you did with this video/take on a let’s play for an upcoming pack! Not just getting in here and playing like the trailer for the park showed us, I appreciate the vulnerability! I’ve been undiagnosed with quite a bit my entire life. It’s only now getting into my early 20s that I am realizing me not going to a doctor, or really any type of counseling, therapy my entire life. Gah loves you XOXO
reading some more about isolation rooms, and they're kinda like where I took my college exams because of my ADHD and they were so helpful because everything was quiet. on the other hand, classes where I could be loud and move around and talk a lot to the teacher were the classes i did best in. thank you so much Jessie for talking about your experience in school it helped me reevaluate my own school behavior I light of my new ADHD diagnosis
Just wanted to say, I'm autistic, and I just listen to your videos while at work because you talking is comforting to me. That's all. Thank you for all your content!
I've been homeschooled my entire life, and I have never understood studying, I always had everything I needed in the program I was on so I didn't ever need to go actively research something. I've never really understood what having big friend groups and going out with them was like either. I know the school system fails a lot of people, and it isn't great, but hearing about how you didn't understand how to manage your time or revise, it helps me not feel so alone with what I'm dealing with. I'm currently being tutored to understand standardized tests, how to take notes, and how to understand and apply things in a comprehensive way. I've been slowly learning how to study and it feels good to know I'm getting better and understanding what I'm doing. GED tests soon, and then onto college. Thanks for this video, it's encouraging to see how far you've come.
I think it would be more realistic for the sims to have other reactions for failing besides embarrassed. Plenty of kids don't care about grades and it's kinda boring to have every sim react the same the bad grades/bad performance/bad whatever.
My high school years weren't bad, just uneventful. I was expecting to have an experience like in the movies or TV shows. I was clearly disappointed, but it wasn't too bad after all. I can relate to many of your same experiences especially my mom giving me money for lunch and me saving it up to buy CDs or go to the movies. 😁😁
Lol same, my experience was just uneventful and disappointing. But I had a decent time with my little friend group so I'm not complaining too much! Although I am now 24 and mentally still feel 14 because it's like I never really experienced being a teenager so it feels like I've been frozen in time for a decade
I died when she mentioned her dad thinking that when her sims got on the internet it took away from his internet 🤣😭 sounds like something my parents would say
OMG babe, the crisp addict, so am I! My faves are oriental crisps by chipsfrisch, and salt and vinegar crisps 😂 M ADHD brain can also relate to many things you aced uring school days omg
I dropped out of high school because of depression and burn-out caused by my undiagnosed ADHD, it was a nightmare and I have very few positive memories from that time. Thanks for talking so openly about your ASD❤️
I work in special education and genuinely appreciate how open you are about your diagnosis. There needs to be as much authentic representation of people with autism as possible. ❤
I hated hated hated secondary school, I was bullied and most probably already had undiagnosed borderline personality disorder, it was horrific there's nothing I miss.
Holy crap, your high school experience is so weirdly similar to my own. While I always did my homework and did well in school, I too was diagnosed autistic at 25, realized I was asexual around age 21, and also played the sims constantly. AND I called in sick to school a massive amount and barely went. I just did my homework at home, watched tv, ate Doritos, and played the sims most days. And I too have no clue how to keep friends.
i have never related to a person more than i relate to you. i got diagnosed with autism when i was 18. highschool for me, an undiagnosed autistic girl, was AWFUL. i responded to it a bit differently than you. i tried so hard to fit in, down to monitoring the way other people walked so i could copy it. it was TRULY exhausting. but i am also ace and chips are my favorite food, i really like the flamin hot lays at the moment. anyway, as an autistic person, it is super hard for me to relate to other people, i am just happy to have found your channel, you are an inspiration and you are just very comforting to me.
We had isolation desks in elementary school, they had walls build onto the desk so that you couldn't enter act with your class mate, but you were still in the class. I had undiagnosed ADHD and autism, and when I got put in an isolation desk I cried the whole day. No one explained to me that I was there to help me focus on my work, I felt like it was a punishment because the only other kid in my class who had an isolation desk was a bad kid who got in trouble all the time. And I was a good kid, I just got distracted easily.
17:45 - When I was in middle school, I used to get all kinds of after school detentions & in school suspensions. Never cared. I get to skip class to read? Sweet!
Hi, I don't know if you'll read this but I wanted to say how inspiring it is to see you talk about this. I have autism and likewise struggled in secondary; in yr 10 I couldn't;t go in at all and in yr 11 I was today 4-3 days a week, my parents and the school didn't think I'd do my exams. I just sat them, I just wanted to thank you because it's people like you who I can look up to and know that being on the spectrum isn't going to hold me back. So thank you so much for waking up in the morning and just being yourself and making these videos!
When I was in high school my teacher wanted me tested for ASD as well, turns out it’s just ~crippling anxiety and childhood trauma~. Amazing how many symptoms cross over, IE repetitive behaviours, self-soothing, lack of stable relationships, and reactivity to loud noises/large crowds
I've just finished "high school" (secondary school) and I blocked most of it out, it's unbelievable that it was 5 whole years. I very much kept to myself and was a goody-toe-shoes. I managed to get away with not doing much of my coursework in Year 10 and 11 because my mum and teachers just assume I did most of it because I was so quiet and well behaved. I also fucked myself because I just sat in maths and doodled for 2 years (all the way up until mocks) which I really shouldn't have done but I love inconveniencing myself even if it costs me my grades xx In conclusion speak up in school and actually revise because I didn't towards the end and I'm gonna get shit grades and I don't know if I'll pass oops. Also to answer the question my favourite crisps are cheese and onion crinkles (I think made by cheedars) they are so delicious. Final tangent as someone questioning if i have adhd/autism sometimes it's great ✌️
@@itssgracie I hate when you're kid who keeps their head down because they just don't pay attention to you 🤪and you have to suffer in silence. I can't stand burnt looking crisps 😭like mccoys, walkers etc
@@cflo1606 BURNT CRISPS😭nahh anything that looks ‘burnt’ like cheese on pizza or chips i can’t.. i just can’t do it 💔 i know i remember at parents evenings the teachers would be like contribute more, put your hand up etc I literally cannot i’m the quiet one i’ll let everyone else do it 😭
Two Tipps 1 Dont be a goody two shoes people wobt respect you. Be respectfull but if they Start calling you namens and make fun of you call them cunts and punch the living shit out of them if you have two 2 yes i totaly aggre
I did the same in high-school and only passed because I actually tried in my senior year. I spent most of my time at school daydreaming and trying to look like I was paying attention and snuck by because I'm decent at figuring things out, but I barely remember anything now at age 28 besides basic knowledge and a few random interesting facts. I did significantly better in college though because you pick the field you're interested in instead of being forced to memorize the same things as everyone else. If you want to go to college and are in the US, I would suggest going to community college first to figure out what you enjoy studying. I switched my major 3 or 4 times before getting my bachelor's degrees and saved a lot by going to a good community college beforehand. Also, I was diagnosed with ADD (whch is now called ADHD-PI [PI stands for primarily inattentive]) when I was 22 or 23 and it made me realize why I struggled so much with things that shouldn't be that hard to do. I really wish that I was diagnosed earlier though because I probably would have stuck with mechanical engineering as my primary major (instead of switching back to psychology) and would have a higher paying job now :/ It takes a while and you'll keep changing as a person over time, but eventually you will find a career field that intrigues you enough to stick with and hopefully brings you some fulfillment! If academics really aren't your thing, there are many jobs that focus more on experience so there are still options available. Education is important, but you're still a valid and valuable person even if you don't do well in school! There's way more to life than just memorizing stuff because someone told you to.
@@itssgracie I was one of the quiet kids in school and have spent years trying to learn how to socialize and interact with people because being shy doesn't help you at all when you're an adult. Being quiet/shy is often a mild defense mechanism to protect you from social rejection (or potential harm in abusive environments), but can also significantly stunt your development of beneficial social skills. I missed out on soooo many opportunities and experiences when I was younger because I was afraid to speak up and didn't realize the benefits of just talking with other people. My dad was also extremely quiet and his life was very stagnant until he recently started talking to people more often and is now finally doing more of the things he said he wanted to do for the past 20-30 years. I've learned from his experience that you have to get out and talk to people to accomplish many things in life (except for becoming an off-the-grid hermit), so the sooner you develop decent social skills, the better. I'm still very introverted and lots of social interaction is still exhausting, but becoming comfortable with talking to strangers/people I barely know definitely helped me do a lot of things that I didn't think was possible (like travel internationally, meeting certain people, make money w/ art, etc.). If you let people know about your skills and interests, a surprising amount of people are willing to help you out or just talk with you and become a connection or friend if they have similar interests. I'm saying all of this in case any other former quiet kids see this comment thread and hopefully don't end up make the same mistake that I did of making "shyness" part of their identity and later discovering how much they missed out on 😕
I loved Hannah Montana too!!!! My bestie at the time and I were masters at the dance we used to hold dance practices at her house and all the neighborhood kids would come over to learn it from us Lmao
For those struggling in Middle school or High School, just know that it gets so much better once you’re out either working or in college. Especially if you are like me who was at my worst mentally (agoraphobia, OCD, Conversion Disorder, and AFRID) I was in intensive outpatient treatment out of state in middle school and then traveled across the country for residential treatment freshman year. I was the “sick girl” and although I wasn’t really bullied and there were a group of girls who were really supportive, I was definitely outcasted. But the moment I graduated and went to college, the people were so much more accepting and understanding. The variety of personalities was mind blowing to my 75 student graduating class from HS 😅 You’ll find your place if you haven’t in HS 💕 I’m looking forward to playing out an alternate universe HS experience in Sims though!
I love your channel so much Jesse. Thanks for being so real and telling us about your high school self. I wish we could have gone to school together, would definitely like to have been your friend. ❤
I had a very similar high school experience, even though I live in America. Also we did have isolation in my school as well, though ours was called AIM (i don't recall what it stood for tho) it was basically the same thing, except you could do homework there. I had to go for like a week straight for the whole day because I didn't get my parents to sign a permission slip or something so i couldn't participate with the rest of the class. I have no idea why i didn't just get my mom to straighten things out for me lol. It was a really cruel punishment when i hadn't even done anything wrong. One time, i remember they didn't tell me when lunch was. So i just didn't get lunch that day. And weirdly enough, I remember the vice principal (?) Or someone like that, he was a HUGE middle aged bald man and in the middle of me sitting in this AIM isolation room, i guess he felt bad for me so to be relatable or something he just started talking about the hannah Montana season finale to me lol. It was extremely surreal.
Pmsl. Printing out a piece of paper to the vice principle saying "Hi, what you upto?" is the funniest thing ever. How dare they put you in isolation for that 😂
Bit of an aside, but I love how much you love to live with your parents. I never really got that feeling because living with my parents was pretty difficult (I love them just can't deal). I hope my daughter feels like you do when she grows up, because I don't want her to struggle in her young adulthood trying to live on her own with rent rising like it is like I did.
Oh man I could go for crisps any time. My favorite's sour cream & onion but out here in my state in the US, there's a local brand that sells a flavor called Sasquatch Surprise that's, surprisingly not bad. Like barbeque mixed with citrus.
I feel like this video was like Jesse's therapy session and honestly im here for it
This was probs so healing I can feel it Lmao
Sometimes, we all need to just vent. Im so glad she had such a wonderful family. I also was undiagnosed as a kid and struggled with autism. Its good to look back and realize how silly you were as a kid.
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Finally, someone else who says high school wasn’t really that fun, but also acknowledges it was kinda fun at the time. I don’t look back on high school fondly, but at the time I was thinking it wasn’t as bad as it could be.
just wanted to say that i love ur profile pic
Thank God.
Way better than middle school! I liked having more freedom to choose classes and other things like football and basketball games could be fun
One hundred percent, middle school was such a nightmare for me that the high school experience was...well, not better but sucked in a different way. I also did not go to prom or participate in any sports/activities, so. That was a thing.
Elementary school to middle school were absolute hell for me, likely because I kept getting stuck with the same classmates from 2nd grade up to my last year of middle school and they were pretty much all horrible to me, come high school I was rarely in the same class with anyone else since everyone had different classes they went to and I had a group of friends in highschool. I probably would've managed to finish high school had I not hit a mental wall, the moment I learned I could dropout and just go get my GED elsewhere I did it, best decision of my life as I spent what would've been my junior and senior years of high school at home, playing video games and watching anime getting the much needed mental break. Middle school was the worst because of the three as the constant bullying took such a toll that I developed an aversion to going out anywhere to the point of getting physically ill if I needed to go to school or go out somewhere....
I'm glad I'm not the only one whose high school experience was a whirlwind of chaos and tears.😂
*hugs* You're ok! You made it through and you're not alone.
Same
Hi Jesse, you probably won’t read this but your channel is what led me to recognising autistic traits in myself and is what led to me getting a diagnosis. I’d just like to thank you so much for being so open about it, it truly was a great help and gave me the confidence I needed to talk about it with my family. So thank you! (Ps, you’re one of my special interests, so keep shining 😉)
This is so sweet, I'm so glad you got the help you needed
same! i found out i was autistic bc of her. thats so sweet
So sweet! ❤️
Actually turns out, when my grandma used to live in Oklahoma as a kid she absolutely demolished Hanna Montanas dad in soccer. Apparently he sucked at it and all old people know eachother. He actually called her out in college when she got sick.
same thing happened to me! but i’m still not officially diagnosed because i don’t have the money for it and support in the country i currently live. i hope one day i’ll manage to do it tho
God ‘Jack of all Friends, Close to None’ was so true of my high school experience. Like most people genuinely seemed to like me, but I was never invited to parties or to hang out with anyone in the summer.
Too real 💀 at least I've found people here who have the same experience!!
God yeah same…I would always talk about my friends at school and my parents would wonder why I never hung out with anyone outside of school
any time I think "hey schools aren't modelled after prisons that much" I hear about stuff like "isolation rooms" and get back on track (my highschool literally used to be a former "reeducation" youth prison. go figure)
@Pingo its so normal in every school in the uk aswell mine was the same thing, you either went to "reset room" where you missed two lessons to sit there in silence and do your work or you went to isolation . its so sick.
I’m lowkey jealous of those, if i could just do my work alone at school that would be a dream, i don’t get in trouble I’d probably ask for that lol
The school to prison pipeline is a documented reality in America unfortunately, especially for students of color. In my Education courses in college we talked about how the state prison systems use Third Grade End-of-Year test scores to ballpark many cells they'll need in the coming years.. We also had ISS (in school suspension) growing up, which was what Jesse described as isolation.
@@shadowboy213 Kids need interaction and stimulus though. Many kids are in isolation ALL DAY. Meaning no break times, no leaving the room for lunch, no getting up to stretch your legs. Even the staff won't talk to you. You're sat in silence all day, have your lunch on your own in silence, no breaks, no moving around, nothing to do all day except homework. Can't even nap or hum to yourself or doodle or anything without getting in trouble if caught.
It'd drive me insane, quite honestly, and I'm an extremely unsociable person. The utter cruelty and irony of punishing ADHD kids that way when they act up from being understimulated is beyond comprehension.
I literally used to ask to be put in isolation 😂 I hated people especially the ones in my school (badly bullied) but liked the work. So isolation was not punishment it was the best day ever lol
Honestly, I'm happy for anyone who is able to and gets along well enough with their parents to keep living at home as long as they need to. My relationship to my parents isn't awful, but I could never go live in that house again, it's just way too much for my mental health! Glad for those who finds it comfy at home, really 🥰
I stayed in my parents house till I was 22 or 23 and it was the best thing I ever did for my relationship with my parents. It became so much healthier for me and them! So I feel you.
I really feel this. My relationship with my parents is actually pretty good now that we dont live under the same roof, but as a late-diagnosed autistic woman I really sometimes wish I could just go back home.
I both am able too and don't have a choice. I'm nearing 30, am disabled (late-diagnosed autism + other mental health things) and have never been able to leave home, but thankfully I have a good relationship with my parents and it's a big apartment. Still, it's hard sometimes because I feel like a failure, and my living situation (amongst other things) undoubtedly makes me very unattractive to potential partners. But that's just the way it is. 🤷♀️
I love living with my parents. So much better than being “indépendant”, aka lonely.
Same. I moved out with my bf as soon as we could and it’s such a struggle honestly but I’d much rather have financial stress than simply live with my parents, and that shows a lot. It’s sad to think about that I feel like I don’t have real “parents” I can rely on. But I’m happy to provide my little sister a safe place that I didn’t have at her age
Teen Jesse deserved so much better. School systems just don’t wanna help disabled people. Good on the people who tried to help her as much as possible. Love ya Jesse. X
if there's anything i've learned from british builders it's that the uk loves their extremely closed floor plans. that initial hallway in first person hit me like Life Has Many Doors, Ed-Boy.
LMFAO we doooo, it’s cold 90% of the time so closed plans bring the heat in but rn it’s 40 degree celsius and this floor plan will be the DEATH OF ME !!!
@@Plumbella honestly, I feel like I’m melting
I'm glad you can stay late at school with clubs and all that jazz. My high school was my escape from my absolutely horrible home life then 😂 ya girl was too active in the after-school activities
Home was my escape from my traumatic high school experience
My mom was so strict so I was in every after school activity 🤣
cutting school to go hide at my bffs house whose mother was the truancy officer! lol shed never report us but was up the ass of anyone else. shed write us excuse notes. my high school and home were nightmares for me. my only escape was my friends. im pretty sure i spent more time at friends houses from 10-17 than i did at home. i hated that entire period of my life. HATED it. wanted to disappear, not exist, but was too scared to end it all. thank GOD. im on the fence about buying this ex pack because it was literally the worst time in my life but i want to relive it and be on the cool kid side. the popular, not wanting to crawl into a wall when anyone walked by me, kid. its rediculous, im in tears as i write this ( im 50 years old now, so, if it still brings up this kind of emotion, you know it sucked for everyone). high school really fucks people up, not gonna lie
we don't even have after school activities at school in my country, you either go home or sit around alone in school
Oh yeah I was at school from 7 to 7 everyday bbbb I did Not wanna go home. Theater kids never wanna go home tbh
Honestly, I feel the "I have left the classroom, and therefore I have no recollection of what happened today." in my soullll.
Also, I applaud you for writing in the Harry Potter RPC on tumblr. It's always been dicey and very cliquey. Thus why I stay on the edge of big fandom rpcs. lmao
I love it when you talk about your undiagnosed autism time. I have a teenager in the process of evaluations for neurodivergent things. As a teenager all of a sudden there’s been a realization that they do behave differently than most but whatever happens to be the issue they were very good at masking when they were in one classroom and kids were more predictable. Middle school has shown something a bit different with social cues, sensory stimulation and hyper focused interests.
Anyway, thank you for being so open and representing Autism in women and being diagnosed later. ♥️
yaaaaay go you mummy for knowing the signs! My mum just hated me because of how different I was to my perfectly healthy high achieving sister haha the drama was real
@@dandygirl6 thank you. I’m trying hard, so far my biggest hurdles are trying to make extended family aware that they just can’t expect the same type of behavior from this kiddo as the other cousins. The conversations are a million percent different and the expectations really need to be let go of.
@@dandygirl6 I’m sorry you had to go through sibling comparisons :( People shouldn’t ever be hated or feel hated for being neurodivergent (or any other way of existing that’s perfectly natural, human, and not in their control)! It’s really unfair, and especially hurtful when it comes from your own family. I hope you’re in a better place now! 🤍 /gen
edit: thought I messed up the tone indicator, so I edited it, but then realized I was right the first time 😂 it’s all good now! 👍
I always find that when people say high school was the best time of your life never experienced childhood trauma 😂 xx
So, they have to? I’m confused.
I had childhood trauma; but found peace at being at school away from all the drama at home. Different circumstances for different folks.
I also think people say they "miss high-school" because it's mostly a time of self discovery with minimal consequences.
@@brandoniswhoiam ?
@@brandoniswhoiam No one has to experience trauma, but it’s more likely for people with bad childhoods to have worse memories of their school days. Cause if your childhood wasn’t great then your memories of school probably weren’t great either
high school was the best BECAUSE at home sucked so much. school was my favorite place to be and my memories there are still some of the best i have specifically because of my trauma
Thanks for the asrxual mention. High school and puberty is very confusing when you are asexual but havent put it all together yet!
"I don't feel like I was failed by anyone... Apart from the public education and the Tories"
Beyond same.
Lmfao I absolutely adore you.
In America, at least when I was in school, isolation was called In School Suspension. It was awful. We were in the school dean’s office but we couldn’t talk too.
Mine was similar, we called it In House Suspension. It'd be a teacher chaperoning us in an empty classroom for the entire school day, kind of like a study hall except no talking, no phones, and no joy of any kind. Absolutely miserable. The only upside was actually getting some of my classwork done 😭
I feel that, it was awful!!!! I went to high school in the US and we had detention as well as ISS/OSS. We had a couple designated tiny, dark rooms with a desk and a chair in the corner so you had to sit in there alone until school was out. I don't think that helped ANYBODY lol, just made everything worse for most
My school had a large library so ISS was inside right next to the librarians office so you could do homework and stuff.
In the UK here and once I was out in isolation for three days, and I loved it! The students in my school were so naughty and the teachers had completely given up on the class, so every lesson I’d just sit there stressing out and hyper stimulated as all the students shouted and messed about around me, with the teacher just giving us all the silent treatment.
In isolation I was just put in a room with a computer, my pack of work and one teacher keeping an eye on me and helping me when I needed it. Learned more in those three days than I would have in two weeks of normal lessons.
Was in isolation for hitting a bully back after they shoved me, after that I kind of wanted to get in more fights just so I wouldn’t have to deal with the stress of being in those classes. Never did, my parents moved me out of that school shortly after.
omg so painful, most schools have some kind of version of this. Here in Aus in a staunchly catholic school it's called the RTC (responsible thinking classroom) where most of my educating was done.
That ladder is almost steep enough to respect the slope and narrowness of British stairs
Watching someone talk with such fondness and love about their family is so surreal to me, lol, it seems like Jesse genuinely adores them
I love hearing you talking about your autism journey and teenage experience because I've never thought that I could've related so much to a random internet girl from England, when I can't even relate to many people around me in Spain. It just feels great to listen to your stories as a late diagnosed autistic woman myself, so thanks for that. I got here because of Sims, I'm staying for the stories.
The fact that you got suspended for printing out Hannah Montana is hilarious (but also heart breaking). That made me lol literally. Not because I’m heartless but because it’s soooo cute!
Singing "Sisters" was an unexpected surprise, and it'll be playing in my head all week.
We stan the masterpiece White Christmas
Considering I'm 99% sure my crippling anxiety issues I've had for 10+yrs was due to traumatic experiences in school, I'm gonna have so much fun with this pack 🙃
This is sooo hilarious to watch as a late diagnosed autistic person. Everything's way too relatable, the only thing that's easy for me to eat is chips/crisps (for the texture) so that was funny as well :') I told my boyfriend and he rolled his eyes 😂
Just wanted to say thank you for being so honest with your experience! I was also labelled a handful in school and ended up being diagnosed with autism later in life and can relate to your journey so much! Just about to graduate with a 2:1 after being kicked out before my A-levels. Thank you for making me feel more normal!
I second this! I left mainstream school 3 months into in year 7, diagnosed autistic at 13/14, was only given the chance to do 4 GSCEs and now I'm in my second year in uni at 21! It's so great to see other's success stories !! Can't thank you enough Jesse
I had a similar experience. British, and was also undiagnosed. I actually had a more traumatic time in primary school (though high school was also awful, but-) because I had literal TEACHERS bully me. The worst bully is now a head teacher. I wish I had the language and understanding to have spoken up and expressed what he had been doing, but I didn't. He got away with mental abuse in front of a whole class, as well as physical abuse where I felt FORCED to cheat on a maths test because he had bullied me so much about how badly I was doing, I was desperate for it to stop; he grabbed me by my wrist when he noticed I was copying someone's work, and yanked me clean out of my chair and off the floor. I hope the fucker suffers in some way in his life.
I'm 29 in several days. I really fucking hope there aren't any children still treated like this.
Oof, the "I wish I had the language and understanding to have spoken up" hits hard. Being undiagnosed for both ADD and autism, school was difficult for me, and oftentimes I didn't have the language and understanding to (1) properly express how people were mistreating me or (2) make people understand why I was more sensitive to things. And it is sad that the adults and children of that time seemed to have no inclination to show any kindness or try to figure out how they could help
i’m 32, not diagnosed with anything but strongly believe i either have autism and/or adhd, and i had about 2-3 teachers who would bully me just for being different. my second grade teacher was the worst though… i remember being so confused about why she didn’t like me :/ looking back i must’ve frustrated her in some way, but i’ll always resent the fact that instead of trying to get me help or something her first instinct was to be mean to a child.
@Pingo Holy shit, yeah. Thinking about it, I had times like that as well. Most notably because of my hair. My fringe would grow over my eyes, and I had this snobby music teacher in high school that would say the same. And then there were cooking classes. By the time my sister was in high school, we got even poorer, so much so we couldn't afford the ingredients to cook in the class. The teacher would mock my sister and ask how we couldn't afford food.
My hs years were a general experience of undiagnosed adhd, among other things, in fact my home life was worse for me so school, and weekends at the library were a refuge. I was a 'gifted student' who had few problems in class - in structured environments, but hw and projects, especially in classes that weren't my favorite, painted me as two different students. Overall honor student, did after-school tutoring in math, which most times was just somewhere to hangout and prep mentally for going home, graduated expected to go into a premed program and just... didn't.
My school didn't have dedicated isolation rooms, just used empty class rooms, or a seat in the corridor outside someone's office, usually tucked under a stairwell. Once, i had to shadow a senior teacher and sit in the back of his class and watch him teach the same class 4 times 🙈
Yes we had "in school suspension" in America well my school at least and I'm guessing its kinda like isolation. We'd just sit in a room with the rest of the delinquents and not speak and be given cold lunches 🤣🤣
Well that’s low key horrifying lol. What is that meant to achieve other than making the kid resent the school??
cold lunches as in, the foods were hot foods that had gone cold, or they were just cold food options? I'm australian so having food provided to you is weird to me in the first place
@@countrye3013 cold food options like turkey or ham sandwiches which were really gross I went to a football highschool so our school lunches were pretty good to feed the school teams but our isolation foods were straight prison foods .. terrible
@@Wurmze honestly I don't understand it. No idea what it was to achieve it did make me build a resentment to the school and the principle who kept sending me to in school suspension instead of talking to me and seeing what was going on. I didn't live in the best area and a lot of kids around me were dying from gun violence or just misfortune events. My parents were divorcing and it was a new area for me and we weren't the richest so I didn't have the best things. So it made me act out.. which wasn't a good excuse but it's the truth the principle didn't seem to care "just send them to in school so we don't have to deal with it "
@@Wurmze It was probably to ensure that they were actually being punished as opposed to out of school suspension where you were at home doing whatever you pleased. If I needed a mental break from school, I actively went out of my way to get suspended so I could stay home and watch tv and play video games because at that point I would rather risk being seen as a troublemaker for a mental break than sit in class being treated like garbage by my classmates and even by some of my teachers, plus I was decent enough at school that I could make up for it once I went back, of course I had to carefully walk the line to be sure I didn't get expelled.
I was diagnosed with autism at 19 and I feel the exact same way as you. Hate the education system with a passion for not picking up on it but I hold absolutely no ill will to my family. I grew up in such a loving family and I think one of the reasons it maybe wasn’t picked up by them was because they were so accepting I felt a lot more comfortable being myself and less likely to have meltdowns (had plenty at school tho lmao)
I'm so glad you made a realistic play of British secondary school years cos it was a mess for me as well LMAO
We didnt have isolation per say but we did have in school suspension or ISS. They put you in a specific classroom with a teacher watching and you werent allowed to talk to anyone and just do homework and be quiet
I relate so much to the homework thing. I have ADHD and the second I shoved that homework in my bag there was no seeing it until the end of the grading period when my mom would go through my bag and find it all. I even couldn’t use electronics on weekdays and still wouldn’t do it because I either forgot or procrastinated. I’m lucky teachers didn’t give much homework in my high school because I would have failed because of that alone
love hearing about people getting kicked out of school bc i did too. i tell people i dropped out but i technically got kicked out because i stopped doing work or even going. kinda like you, it was the undiagnosed adhd lmao
I’m only halfway through, but the absolute unhinged ‘family that all love each other but are all just A LOT’ vibes are sending me
Your bit about your family always supporting you even though you weren’t diagnosed yet made me legit weep I love you
We had "in school suspension" which is like your Isolation. I'm in Oregon, USA. And I love the way you talk about Autism. My son is Autistic and school was awful for him. But he finally graduated with a "modified" diploma after 5 years of high school.
OMG this was a replay of my childhood, I got expelled from four schools and in school i lived in isolation. I have Autism and ADHD
“Pop it lock it polka dot it!”
Me: “…. Right that’s it, time for Disney + 👏🏼”
JESSE! Your description of hiw your family treated you while being undiagnosed like that's exactly me. I know my mom and dad loved me (my siblings not so much) but they just didn't understand why I was so different but they just ya know TRIED THEIR BEST.
Isolation room seems so weird to me. Also refusing to go to the party before prom and grabbing food instead of dancing is so relatable XDD
yeah being in isolation sucks, my school last year changed the name to "wellbeing hub" but its still just sitting a room, alone, in silence lmao
This was so fun and interesting! I've come to the realisation that I'm fine watching or playing other people's traumatic teenage years in The Sims, but as soon as something reminds me too much of my school or my house I refuse to engage, instant mood killer.
I haven't watched any other videos on this than yours, some people hype the packs up way too much. Cant wait to watch this, love ya ❤
"I'm gonna go take a bath and conceal my acne" me too babe me too
It's so confusing when people say high school was the best time of their life and the worst time of their life. For me it was just the worst time of my life. High school was awful. There was nothing good about it. Things have been better since I graduated. The main reason I'd never have kids is high school. I couldn't put another human being through that.
It’s the opposite for me (well I understand how people could say it was the worst time of their life from their stories but) I had mental health issues and struggles during high school but none of them stemmed from high school they came from home life and junior school. Getting to go to school every day, be with my friends, pmsl at the charismatic teachers (or with my friends at the rubbish ones though they were the minority), learn so much, have so many awesome experiences, have no real responsibilities (even if they feel real at that age). It’s just a setting that you’ll never get in the rest of your life because as an adult you’re restricted by your friends being all over the place, real responsibilities, jobs, time crunches it’s just so much harder and more isolated. I remember every few months in high school I’d remind myself, you need to appreciate this time right now, and I don’t think I did enough as I let myself get overwhelmed by the anxiety and such. But yeah I hope my potential kids have a good high school experience like mine and not one like yours.
It was a hard time in life just by virtue of puberty and being a teenager…normal stuff…but I still have overall positive memories of high school. I enjoyed high school.
My dad was like the King of High School. Popular, football player, homecoming king, always partying, etc. My mom, on the other hand, didn’t have a good high school experience. She ended up doing independent study to get out of going every day. She had a really tough four years, mentally.
So yeah they’re my parents, but their experiences compared to my (and my brother’s), were vastly different from my own. Because my brother even had a different experience than I did.
You can’t really assume everyone’s going to go through what you did. You don’t have to have kids if you don’t want them of course, but thinking they’d automatically have the same experience as you did, is flawed logic.
My point is to say kids are who they are, and who their parents are, is not a guarantee of who they are going to be.
I agree. My high school experience was a lovely blend of social rejection, developing health issues, and increasingly ab*sive parent relationship. It felt like a constant fight. My school even let me down because once I started doing my general classes in college I realized I wasn’t taught anything in high school, even basic stuff like how a cell works we never went over. I don’t have a single good time I remember about being in high school. I was always struggling with everything.
Now I’m 21 going to uni and am content as a loner, living with my boyfriend and have a handle on my health issues. So much better
i still remember having exams and all that in highschool and around the time, the sims 3 came out and i remember just walking out of my first exam that i did no study for and just going to the plaza to get my pre-ordered Sims 3 base game and just all exam prep or even anxiety was completely suffocated by Sims :') also... lmao at you treating school like a game, 'cuz same babes. also my fave crisps are kettle chilli flavour. kettle cooked chips texture omg.. the tiny layers.
slaying with that primark top xx
I really love these videos where we get a peek at younger Plumbella. I suspect I have autism but my school experience wasn't quite like yours. I'd be curious to learn how you adapted your living/learning style in college, because I'd love to get a master's too but I'm not confident it'd go well.
Hearing you talk about loving living at home brings so much comfort to me. I'm in no hurry to leave but no one seems to be able to grasp that when I explain it.
“Where the f*cks Isabella?”
Isabella: 😎
Thank baby Jesus I'm not the only one who wore a harry potter costume to school. I had a dementor costume that I would wear to school at ANY chance
Why are your LPs so damn fun to watch? When I'm having the crappiest day I can count on you.
Also, I love cheese & onion crisps best. Why we don't have these in the US is a mystery, they are fab.
the undiagnosed neurodivergent schooling experience is definitely an interesting one, the homework thing is all too relatable
I think I'm in a healthy middle regarding my own high school experience, where I didn't particularly love it, but I don't have much trauma from it either. But ONE TIME I got to sing my favorite song with my friends playing in our makeshift band for the day in front of like 80 teens and tweens or something, and that is a memory I will treasure forever. I freaking rocked out hard that day.
Not high school, but in middle school I also got in so much trouble and found I preferred my school’s version of isolation. It was great- I knew what was expected of me and I got to read for most of the day. Idk why everyone was surprised when I was diagnosed autistic a few years later
me: watching this to see the gameplay if it's worth the money
jessie: sits in a room for half an hour 😂
i love when jesse talks about their past and personal life they're really cool and its great to get to know more about the,
The story of sending printouts to the heads office genuinely made me laugh. That fucking funny 🤣🤣 props to you for that
That isolation stuff seems like it could really mess up kids' mental health. Seems like some weird medieval logic or something. I hope they don't still do that!
They do
Yeah they do. Its pretty much to keep them from disrupting the other kids. here youre a problem child we simply dont want to see you. Youd think they would have come up with a better system by now or go hey maybe this kid is acting out for a reason. What sucks more is the only classes they have for kids who cant mask or blend at all(special ed) and they don’t even try and teach those kids. Just hear learn how to be a janitor
Yea they do still it’s such a crazy way to ‘punish’ a literal child/teen
they do it was terrible. i swore once in middle school at no one in particular and my english teacher heard me and i got sent to isolation for a day. it was hell and my guardian was so pissed off.
I really love what you did with this video/take on a let’s play for an upcoming pack! Not just getting in here and playing like the trailer for the park showed us, I appreciate the vulnerability! I’ve been undiagnosed with quite a bit my entire life. It’s only now getting into my early 20s that I am realizing me not going to a doctor, or really any type of counseling, therapy my entire life. Gah loves you XOXO
reading some more about isolation rooms, and they're kinda like where I took my college exams because of my ADHD and they were so helpful because everything was quiet.
on the other hand, classes where I could be loud and move around and talk a lot to the teacher were the classes i did best in.
thank you so much Jessie for talking about your experience in school it helped me reevaluate my own school behavior I light of my new ADHD diagnosis
Just wanted to say, I'm autistic, and I just listen to your videos while at work because you talking is comforting to me. That's all. Thank you for all your content!
I've been homeschooled my entire life, and I have never understood studying, I always had everything I needed in the program I was on so I didn't ever need to go actively research something. I've never really understood what having big friend groups and going out with them was like either. I know the school system fails a lot of people, and it isn't great, but hearing about how you didn't understand how to manage your time or revise, it helps me not feel so alone with what I'm dealing with.
I'm currently being tutored to understand standardized tests, how to take notes, and how to understand and apply things in a comprehensive way.
I've been slowly learning how to study and it feels good to know I'm getting better and understanding what I'm doing.
GED tests soon, and then onto college. Thanks for this video, it's encouraging to see how far you've come.
"Before we knew my sister had bipolar disorder!"
Me: "Batch that's a HIPAA violation!"
I think it would be more realistic for the sims to have other reactions for failing besides embarrassed. Plenty of kids don't care about grades and it's kinda boring to have every sim react the same the bad grades/bad performance/bad whatever.
My high school years weren't bad, just uneventful. I was expecting to have an experience like in the movies or TV shows. I was clearly disappointed, but it wasn't too bad after all. I can relate to many of your same experiences especially my mom giving me money for lunch and me saving it up to buy CDs or go to the movies. 😁😁
Lol same, my experience was just uneventful and disappointing. But I had a decent time with my little friend group so I'm not complaining too much! Although I am now 24 and mentally still feel 14 because it's like I never really experienced being a teenager so it feels like I've been frozen in time for a decade
It makes me so sad how much the school system fails neurodivergent kids
I died when she mentioned her dad thinking that when her sims got on the internet it took away from his internet 🤣😭 sounds like something my parents would say
OMG babe, the crisp addict, so am I!
My faves are oriental crisps by chipsfrisch, and salt and vinegar crisps
😂
M ADHD brain can also relate to many things you aced uring school days omg
I dropped out of high school because of depression and burn-out caused by my undiagnosed ADHD, it was a nightmare and I have very few positive memories from that time.
Thanks for talking so openly about your ASD❤️
I work in special education and genuinely appreciate how open you are about your diagnosis. There needs to be as much authentic representation of people with autism as possible. ❤
I hated hated hated secondary school, I was bullied and most probably already had undiagnosed borderline personality disorder, it was horrific there's nothing I miss.
Same bitch 💜💜
Holy crap, your high school experience is so weirdly similar to my own. While I always did my homework and did well in school, I too was diagnosed autistic at 25, realized I was asexual around age 21, and also played the sims constantly. AND I called in sick to school a massive amount and barely went. I just did my homework at home, watched tv, ate Doritos, and played the sims most days. And I too have no clue how to keep friends.
going through high school/secondary with undiagnosed autism is traumatic i’m glad i can recreate this
i have never related to a person more than i relate to you. i got diagnosed with autism when i was 18. highschool for me, an undiagnosed autistic girl, was AWFUL. i responded to it a bit differently than you. i tried so hard to fit in, down to monitoring the way other people walked so i could copy it. it was TRULY exhausting. but i am also ace and chips are my favorite food, i really like the flamin hot lays at the moment. anyway, as an autistic person, it is super hard for me to relate to other people, i am just happy to have found your channel, you are an inspiration and you are just very comforting to me.
"I'll take isolation, thank you." Lmao yes ma'am, can relate to that!
We had isolation desks in elementary school, they had walls build onto the desk so that you couldn't enter act with your class mate, but you were still in the class.
I had undiagnosed ADHD and autism, and when I got put in an isolation desk I cried the whole day. No one explained to me that I was there to help me focus on my work, I felt like it was a punishment because the only other kid in my class who had an isolation desk was a bad kid who got in trouble all the time. And I was a good kid, I just got distracted easily.
This is making me sort through and feel more at peace with some things from School 💜💜
17:45 - When I was in middle school, I used to get all kinds of after school detentions & in school suspensions. Never cared. I get to skip class to read? Sweet!
mccoys, whatever the fuckin flavour, are BANGING
Hi, I don't know if you'll read this but I wanted to say how inspiring it is to see you talk about this. I have autism and likewise struggled in secondary; in yr 10 I couldn't;t go in at all and in yr 11 I was today 4-3 days a week, my parents and the school didn't think I'd do my exams. I just sat them, I just wanted to thank you because it's people like you who I can look up to and know that being on the spectrum isn't going to hold me back. So thank you so much for waking up in the morning and just being yourself and making these videos!
the fact i’m wearing the shirt Jesse is wearing here is everything to me right now
When I was in high school my teacher wanted me tested for ASD as well, turns out it’s just ~crippling anxiety and childhood trauma~. Amazing how many symptoms cross over, IE repetitive behaviours, self-soothing, lack of stable relationships, and reactivity to loud noises/large crowds
Ngl i was so confused for a hot seocnd when you said crisps lol. Then I remembered people outside US call chips crisps xD
I've just finished "high school" (secondary school) and I blocked most of it out, it's unbelievable that it was 5 whole years. I very much kept to myself and was a goody-toe-shoes. I managed to get away with not doing much of my coursework in Year 10 and 11 because my mum and teachers just assume I did most of it because I was so quiet and well behaved. I also fucked myself because I just sat in maths and doodled for 2 years (all the way up until mocks) which I really shouldn't have done but I love inconveniencing myself even if it costs me my grades xx
In conclusion speak up in school and actually revise because I didn't towards the end and I'm gonna get shit grades and I don't know if I'll pass oops. Also to answer the question my favourite crisps are cheese and onion crinkles (I think made by cheedars) they are so delicious.
Final tangent as someone questioning if i have adhd/autism sometimes it's great ✌️
@@itssgracie I hate when you're kid who keeps their head down because they just don't pay attention to you 🤪and you have to suffer in silence.
I can't stand burnt looking crisps 😭like mccoys, walkers etc
@@cflo1606 BURNT CRISPS😭nahh anything that looks ‘burnt’ like cheese on pizza or chips i can’t.. i just can’t do it 💔 i know i remember at parents evenings the teachers would be like contribute more, put your hand up etc I literally cannot i’m the quiet one i’ll let everyone else do it 😭
Two Tipps 1
Dont be a goody two shoes people wobt respect you. Be respectfull but if they Start calling you namens and make fun of you call them cunts and punch the living shit out of them if you have two
2 yes i totaly aggre
I did the same in high-school and only passed because I actually tried in my senior year. I spent most of my time at school daydreaming and trying to look like I was paying attention and snuck by because I'm decent at figuring things out, but I barely remember anything now at age 28 besides basic knowledge and a few random interesting facts.
I did significantly better in college though because you pick the field you're interested in instead of being forced to memorize the same things as everyone else. If you want to go to college and are in the US, I would suggest going to community college first to figure out what you enjoy studying. I switched my major 3 or 4 times before getting my bachelor's degrees and saved a lot by going to a good community college beforehand.
Also, I was diagnosed with ADD (whch is now called ADHD-PI [PI stands for primarily inattentive]) when I was 22 or 23 and it made me realize why I struggled so much with things that shouldn't be that hard to do. I really wish that I was diagnosed earlier though because I probably would have stuck with mechanical engineering as my primary major (instead of switching back to psychology) and would have a higher paying job now :/
It takes a while and you'll keep changing as a person over time, but eventually you will find a career field that intrigues you enough to stick with and hopefully brings you some fulfillment! If academics really aren't your thing, there are many jobs that focus more on experience so there are still options available.
Education is important, but you're still a valid and valuable person even if you don't do well in school!
There's way more to life than just memorizing stuff because someone told you to.
@@itssgracie I was one of the quiet kids in school and have spent years trying to learn how to socialize and interact with people because being shy doesn't help you at all when you're an adult. Being quiet/shy is often a mild defense mechanism to protect you from social rejection (or potential harm in abusive environments), but can also significantly stunt your development of beneficial social skills.
I missed out on soooo many opportunities and experiences when I was younger because I was afraid to speak up and didn't realize the benefits of just talking with other people.
My dad was also extremely quiet and his life was very stagnant until he recently started talking to people more often and is now finally doing more of the things he said he wanted to do for the past 20-30 years. I've learned from his experience that you have to get out and talk to people to accomplish many things in life (except for becoming an off-the-grid hermit), so the sooner you develop decent social skills, the better.
I'm still very introverted and lots of social interaction is still exhausting, but becoming comfortable with talking to strangers/people I barely know definitely helped me do a lot of things that I didn't think was possible (like travel internationally, meeting certain people, make money w/ art, etc.).
If you let people know about your skills and interests, a surprising amount of people are willing to help you out or just talk with you and become a connection or friend if they have similar interests.
I'm saying all of this in case any other former quiet kids see this comment thread and hopefully don't end up make the same mistake that I did of making "shyness" part of their identity and later discovering how much they missed out on 😕
I loved Hannah Montana too!!!! My bestie at the time and I were masters at the dance we used to hold dance practices at her house and all the neighborhood kids would come over to learn it from us Lmao
8:23 ADHD 🤝Autism
absolutely NO object permanence in regard to the existance of homework
For those struggling in Middle school or High School, just know that it gets so much better once you’re out either working or in college. Especially if you are like me who was at my worst mentally (agoraphobia, OCD, Conversion Disorder, and AFRID) I was in intensive outpatient treatment out of state in middle school and then traveled across the country for residential treatment freshman year. I was the “sick girl” and although I wasn’t really bullied and there were a group of girls who were really supportive, I was definitely outcasted. But the moment I graduated and went to college, the people were so much more accepting and understanding. The variety of personalities was mind blowing to my 75 student graduating class from HS 😅 You’ll find your place if you haven’t in HS 💕 I’m looking forward to playing out an alternate universe HS experience in Sims though!
In Las Vegas Nevada at my school we have in house suspension. Which is basically isolation with a longer name
I HOPE.. they let us take "packed" lunches to school for lunch 😭
you can do that anyways you just need to cook something and make it a packed lunch then it will go in your inventory so you can take it anywhere
I'm pretty sure you can already pack meals into bags and put it in your inventory, atleast it's in my game
@@SaraMcNutz i for sure mean that at lunch time you have to bring a packed lunch that your sim will automatically eat without your say
@@spiidercider i’m pretty sure sims eat the food randomly anyways if it’s in their inventory
"hannah montana fixation" i feel that we've had so many hyperfixations in common i love that
I love that Sims 4ever showed a raging fire that looked straight out of Sims 1
Lmaooo I remember when I was in junior year, we didn’t have to do PE anymore. Me n my friends were all celebrating 😭😭
I love your channel so much Jesse. Thanks for being so real and telling us about your high school self. I wish we could have gone to school together, would definitely like to have been your friend. ❤
I had a very similar high school experience, even though I live in America. Also we did have isolation in my school as well, though ours was called AIM (i don't recall what it stood for tho) it was basically the same thing, except you could do homework there. I had to go for like a week straight for the whole day because I didn't get my parents to sign a permission slip or something so i couldn't participate with the rest of the class. I have no idea why i didn't just get my mom to straighten things out for me lol. It was a really cruel punishment when i hadn't even done anything wrong. One time, i remember they didn't tell me when lunch was. So i just didn't get lunch that day.
And weirdly enough, I remember the vice principal (?) Or someone like that, he was a HUGE middle aged bald man and in the middle of me sitting in this AIM isolation room, i guess he felt bad for me so to be relatable or something he just started talking about the hannah Montana season finale to me lol. It was extremely surreal.
Pmsl. Printing out a piece of paper to the vice principle saying "Hi, what you upto?" is the funniest thing ever. How dare they put you in isolation for that 😂
the JOY I felt when you said you’re ace,,, so few ppl r and knowing this makes me feel like I’m not just off
Bit of an aside, but I love how much you love to live with your parents. I never really got that feeling because living with my parents was pretty difficult (I love them just can't deal). I hope my daughter feels like you do when she grows up, because I don't want her to struggle in her young adulthood trying to live on her own with rent rising like it is like I did.
"I have left the classroom and therefore have no recollection of what happened today" honestly a massive mood
Oh man I could go for crisps any time. My favorite's sour cream & onion but out here in my state in the US, there's a local brand that sells a flavor called Sasquatch Surprise that's, surprisingly not bad. Like barbeque mixed with citrus.
For us USA folks, we have ISS. In school suspension. Just like your isolation room. 😂😩