Im agree she doesn't know the Turkish culture she will find out how the culture and the community are put together. I hope she will be accepted by the family and certainly not with those tattoos. Turks are incredibly nationalistic. Has she ever lived in Europe.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side! I've only really dealt with non-black guys simply because that's who has always approached me when I was younger. I'm a black woman and I'm in my early 40s. I didn't know who's attracted to me now since I don't get approached. 😢 But I will say this, simply having an interacial relationship isn't gonna do much for you. The guy MUST HAVE emotional intelligence and empathy and be a loving, masculine leader, provider and protector. NOT ALL NON-BLACK guys are that!!! Big shocker huh!? I have usually only attracted feminine, weird or narcissistic and toxic white and non-black guys. Having better self insight at my age I have figured out why and I'm working on myself. At this point, whomever I might start a relationship with must meet certain criteria or he doesn't get a chance. PERIOD! NON-BLACK guys don't get an automatic pass. Any man has potential for me as long as he meets my criteria.
when i was in highschool and junior high i attracted mostly non black women, i always got approached by girls. in highschool and junior high -75% non black girls approached me -20% were mixed girls or biracial girls or high yellow black girls pretty girls -5% REALLY pretty girls in my grade, Or older women who were dark skin (older like Adults) It wasnt until 30 years i appreicated what i had. But i had an older cousin who noticed things about me, growing up we had a rocky relationship He was a cousin i looked up to because he was slightly older than me, but he really didnt like me. He saw me as spoiled rich kid(middle class not rich). Who got everything he wanted. When was teens he noticed how girls flocked to me. To me i just thought they was being nice and did that to everybody. Like i was cool with everyone. But he said, all these dimes keep following you around you could have any one of them. How do you do that. By my 20s he use to say everytime i had a new girlfriend or homey lover friend, how do you be getting them, where do you find them at. i was like what do you mean. he was like all you get is the prettiest girls i ever seen how do you do that. i literally said when it comes to black girls this all i can get. I didnt mean it in a good way. like he had what was called a tip drill. she had a banging body but face like baracuda. But her body omg looked so good. an she was darker skin, i didnt get many dark skin girls ever. so for me it was dream to get with a darker skin girl. By my 20s i started getting darker girls. But i had to learn how. there were elements from hairstyle, how i dress, even body weight composistion that attracted mostly asian, latina, white and high yellow sistas and the few darker skin girls were really really pretty like 9s and 10s level. But the average or regular degular dark skin or even brown skin girl didnt go for me, I use to dream of getting a woman like Patra. But the only dark skin girls who would go for me were the ones who were prettier than her. anyway i did some changing, i changed my natural aesthethic and became more thuggish and little rough, then i started attracting darker women. but when i was too well put together and too polished i only attracted pretty girls of other races and pretty light bright sistas. i digress, im older now an i attract the women i always wanted. the 6s and 7s, and average looking girls. also some below average women who are darker complexed. To be honest my thing was i wanted a large range of options. An also i wanted to be like the other guys around me. Who got regular girls. But back then i just didnt have the aesthetics or persona to attract average grils.
The main thing that we should be in search of is connecting with a partner who God has brought us into alignment with. Simply dating outside of your race is not going to "save" you, because there are always going to be good and bad individuals within every race, so we need to make sure that we are more focused on the heart and character of the individual than we are focused on their skin color. I know there can be lots of money that can be generated off of this type of "content" that's centered around race, but we have to be careful and make sure that we aren't feeding into false or exaggerated narratives. Ask God to help you when it comes to making the right decision as it pertains to your partner.
Many might not get it but when you know, any other option feels like you have settled for less. I do not want to bring the heart into this but am 35 now and know better. My current focus is on becoming a good enough partner on paper so that I can make the leap. I see you. It is beautiful, and you are a lucky soul. I appreciate the insight 10 times over. Stay blessed!
As a black man its easier dating women of other races, we just have more things in common outside of the bedroom. But im phyisally more attracted to brown and high yellow skin in women, Dont get me wrong, i have a snow bunny im seeing, but i still need me a little peanut butter, mocha and occasionally some caramel every now an then.
As a white male, I've never dated outside of my race, but only because of the lack options to do so. I'd love to, but there aren't a lot of "melinated women" where I am, and I don't think most women of any race are into geeky guys. He doesn't have to understand where you come from, but he should be emotionally supportive of who you are and where you want to be.
It’s interesting watching you grow in this new relationship. Where did you two meet? 💕And did you ever find that cat again? The one that you bonded with in his neighborhood? She was so cute. 😻
I'll tell how we met one day in the future 😂 its funny. But she's still in Istanbul, I'm back in America now so unfortunately I had to leave my little baby 😫 she's ok though!
@ ok, yay! I’m so happy you found her again.💓 Give her some camera time when you go back. The look on her face was so foreign 🤣 and super cute at the same time. 😻
More blackwomen are whiting out their bloodlines foolishly because they dont value their bloodllines and want to mix up their seed which is EXACTLY againstwhat the Bible says.I speak to blkmn about this as well so b4 you ask if I bring this up to blkmn,yes I do!
Agree wholeheartedly. I’ve always dated out !💕 There’s a lot more compatibility and attraction there. And to add to the whole “I can’t date outside of my race because the person won’t understand me” argument …It’s almost always related to struggle. Why do you want someone to trauma bond with? Not to mention, black people are not the same! People need to stop assuming that all black people relate to each other just because we share similar skin. It’s beyond ignorant. I don’t want to be with someone just like me. And if you feel like you just won’t possibly have something to talk about, then get some more hobbies😂 You CAN and should be able to talk about anything.
Yes, you get it! This is very well said.✨ Also, the “trauma bond” point is so important but a lot of people don’t even know they’re in one to even recognize whats happening. People even do that in their friendships. Its nice to see you completely understood what I was saying in the video 💞 a breath of fresh air fr
I definitely agree. This is why I preach for black men to date out. There are literally beautiful feminine women of other races as options. White, Latina, asian and Arab women. And at times it’s much peaceful and less toxic than what we are accustomed to. Black men need to get their money up and start dating out much more.
Also, you black men are 50% of the toxicity that exists in a relationship. Unless you learn to self reflect and work on yourself, you're still going to bring your toxicity to any non-black woman anyway. The only reason why you people like foreign women is because they put up with your crap just because they want an American ticket to freedom from their own crappy cultures that mistreat women anyway. Of course, you see that and want to capitalize on that.
No black men need to date within! Dating out is weakness and shows by going to other races. Tobit 4:12, it’s biblical to date, marry, procreate within .. black men need mental strength , black women provide whats needed to gain that mental strength. We’re made for each other.. dating out is just taking an easy way out. White, Latina, Arab, Asian women have their own men to date
This popped on my screen for a reason and you’re right and I’ve been wanting to do this. Especially after another failed same race relationship. And it’s not just a certain type of guy I’m referring to it’s the race as a whole. I’m over it. They make it clear to me that they have no problem dating or cheating outside theirs and I’m over being loyal to game.
@@starwolfsden6531 I can if I want actually. And I wish i can say it was the same type over and over but that’s not the case which is why I’m over it. Working on myself doesn’t change the facts or statistics sorry love.
@ you should scroll down and read the comment from @arieslogathan lol my point exactly. Stop protecting men that don’t even want you. He stated “accustomed to” whose is exactly what she is stating in the video. Black men aren’t treating woman outside their race a certain way because they not going for that. lol like I said I’m done.
That’s a terrible misinterpretation. Do you really believe black relationships are simply trauma bonds? That’s far from the truth. It’s about preserving and strengthening the back family, just as other races prioritize their families and communities. You’re not considering this deeply enough. In fact, dating outside your race often introduces unique challenges, such as conflicts and disrespect rooted in racial differences. These issues may not always be overt but manifest subtly, which can be even more harmful in the long run.
Nah I’m white and my last relationship I was trauma bonded and he almost strangled me twice, held me hostage hit me etc, extreme verbal and all types of abuse and he was a white man. Trauma bonds exist in all abusive relationships has absolutely nothing to do with race.
I also agree with what you’re saying with strengthening the black family and culture and not letting it fade away. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and it shouldn’t be treated like there is but it’s not my place to speak on it as I’m not black
I also you're confusing a trauma bond with being able to relate to similar background. A trauma bond is formed when a toxic person conditions their partner to take their abuse. That's very different than simply being able to relate to one another with a similar upbringing. Maybe you mean trauma dump on each other?
Are you becoming a cultural expert. Maybe you have never traveled outside. U.S.A. otherwise you would not talk nonsense. You can and may talk about your own experience but you should not generalize. I hope you have done some research into Turkish/Kurdish culture and the community.
This message was for black women and she was highlighting the struggles that BLACK American women face. Black women are EXPECTED to only date, marry, and love black men. Many black women (again here in the United States) face loneliness because they are waiting for that one black man that checks all of the boxes. This video obviously wasn’t for you.
@@AndreTJonesyou do understand that this video was putting all black men in one category right? If someone keeps getting in bad relationships, they obviously need to work on themselves. To say that a whole race is superior than another based on personal experiences is a bit much because we all know that not every individual is the same. Sometimes it takes self work to attract the right person, no matter what race.
@ I watched the video. Can you provide timestamps where she put ALL black men in one category? Did she say that Kurdish men were superior? Y’all have bigger fish to fry. There are ACTUAL accounts where you have passport bros denigrateting black women and the devest from black men videos where they put down black men. She said none of this. All she said ,basically, was its ok to look out. The problem in our community is we expect black women to only date in house sometimes at the expense of happiness. Love who you gonna love. Black man here by the way.
@@AndreTJones THANK YOU ANDRE!! 🙂 very well said. Some people just listen to respond and want to be combative or simply don't have the discernment to listen to an opposing perspective because of their own biased, strong emotions.. which is typical. Not once did I bash any race, put a race in a category or put any other race on a pedestal.
Queen of what?She literally selling out and saying fk her blackness and wants to white out her family by having mutts(mixed kids) with men of other races,thats more like traitor then a queen bro.Stop simping
I think you should always keep an open mind because you never know who is going to be the BEST fit for you. 😊❤
Im agree
she doesn't know the Turkish culture she will find out how the culture and the community are put together.
I hope she will be accepted by the family and certainly not with those tattoos.
Turks are incredibly nationalistic.
Has she ever lived in Europe.
10000%!!
The grass isn't always greener on the other side! I've only really dealt with non-black guys simply because that's who has always approached me when I was younger. I'm a black woman and I'm in my early 40s. I didn't know who's attracted to me now since I don't get approached. 😢
But I will say this, simply having an interacial relationship isn't gonna do much for you. The guy MUST HAVE emotional intelligence and empathy and be a loving, masculine leader, provider and protector. NOT ALL NON-BLACK guys are that!!! Big shocker huh!? I have usually only attracted feminine, weird or narcissistic and toxic white and non-black guys. Having better self insight at my age I have figured out why and I'm working on myself.
At this point, whomever I might start a relationship with must meet certain criteria or he doesn't get a chance. PERIOD! NON-BLACK guys don't get an automatic pass. Any man has potential for me as long as he meets my criteria.
when i was in highschool and junior high i attracted mostly non black women, i always got approached by girls.
in highschool and junior high
-75% non black girls approached me
-20% were mixed girls or biracial girls or high yellow black girls pretty girls
-5% REALLY pretty girls in my grade, Or older women who were dark skin (older like Adults)
It wasnt until 30 years i appreicated what i had. But i had an older cousin who noticed things about me, growing up we had a rocky relationship
He was a cousin i looked up to because he was slightly older than me, but he really didnt like me. He saw me as spoiled rich kid(middle class not rich). Who got everything he wanted. When was teens he noticed how girls flocked to me. To me i just thought they was being nice and did that to everybody. Like i was cool with everyone. But he said, all these dimes keep following you around you could have any one of them. How do you do that.
By my 20s he use to say everytime i had a new girlfriend or homey lover friend, how do you be getting them, where do you find them at. i was like what do you mean. he was like all you get is the prettiest girls i ever seen how do you do that. i literally said when it comes to black girls this all i can get. I didnt mean it in a good way.
like he had what was called a tip drill. she had a banging body but face like baracuda. But her body omg looked so good. an she was darker skin, i didnt get many dark skin girls ever. so for me it was dream to get with a darker skin girl. By my 20s i started getting darker girls. But i had to learn how.
there were elements from hairstyle, how i dress, even body weight composistion that attracted mostly asian, latina, white and high yellow sistas and the few darker skin girls were really really pretty like 9s and 10s level. But the average or regular degular dark skin or even brown skin girl didnt go for me, I use to dream of getting a woman like Patra. But the only dark skin girls who would go for me were the ones who were prettier than her.
anyway i did some changing, i changed my natural aesthethic and became more thuggish and little rough, then i started attracting darker women. but when i was too well put together and too polished i only attracted pretty girls of other races and pretty light bright sistas.
i digress, im older now an i attract the women i always wanted. the 6s and 7s, and average looking girls. also some below average women who are darker complexed. To be honest my thing was i wanted a large range of options. An also i wanted to be like the other guys around me. Who got regular girls. But back then i just didnt have the aesthetics or persona to attract average grils.
The main thing that we should be in search of is connecting with a partner who God has brought us into alignment with. Simply dating outside of your race is not going to "save" you, because there are always going to be good and bad individuals within every race, so we need to make sure that we are more focused on the heart and character of the individual than we are focused on their skin color. I know there can be lots of money that can be generated off of this type of "content" that's centered around race, but we have to be careful and make sure that we aren't feeding into false or exaggerated narratives. Ask God to help you when it comes to making the right decision as it pertains to your partner.
It’s a great comment
@@mertismailogullari Thank you
Seems God will have u meet someone who humbles you..at least as a guy..so hard to put pride to the side
I literally said everything you typed in this message. :) I completely agree with you. Lol
@@TamiyaJanae That's awesome sis! I appreciate you
Many might not get it but when you know, any other option feels like you have settled for less. I do not want to bring the heart into this but am 35 now and know better. My current focus is on becoming a good enough partner on paper so that I can make the leap. I see you. It is beautiful, and you are a lucky soul. I appreciate the insight 10 times over. Stay blessed!
As a black man its easier dating women of other races, we just have more things in common outside of the bedroom.
But im phyisally more attracted to brown and high yellow skin in women, Dont get me wrong, i have a snow bunny im seeing, but i still need me a little peanut butter, mocha and occasionally some caramel every now an then.
As a white male, I've never dated outside of my race, but only because of the lack options to do so. I'd love to, but there aren't a lot of "melinated women" where I am, and I don't think most women of any race are into geeky guys.
He doesn't have to understand where you come from, but he should be emotionally supportive of who you are and where you want to be.
I was close minded when it came to interracial dating but as I grow older I’m much more open to the idea.
Having an open mind in general for your life is a beautiful thing. Good for you.
It’s interesting watching you grow in this new relationship. Where did you two meet? 💕And did you ever find that cat again? The one that you bonded with in his neighborhood? She was so cute. 😻
I'll tell how we met one day in the future 😂 its funny. But she's still in Istanbul, I'm back in America now so unfortunately I had to leave my little baby 😫 she's ok though!
@ ok, yay! I’m so happy you found her again.💓 Give her some camera time when you go back. The look on her face was so foreign 🤣 and super cute at the same time. 😻
na bruh i need me black females 😔🙏🏽
Thank you for talking about this!! I'm in an interracial marriage and I love it !! 😍😍
More blackwomen are whiting out their bloodlines foolishly because they dont value their bloodllines and want to mix up their seed which is EXACTLY againstwhat the Bible says.I speak to blkmn about this as well so b4 you ask if I bring this up to blkmn,yes I do!
This is irrelevant but you’re pretty and I love your neck tattoo
Agree wholeheartedly. I’ve always dated out !💕 There’s a lot more compatibility and attraction there. And to add to the whole “I can’t date outside of my race because the person won’t understand me” argument …It’s almost always related to struggle. Why do you want someone to trauma bond with? Not to mention, black people are not the same! People need to stop assuming that all black people relate to each other just because we share similar skin. It’s beyond ignorant. I don’t want to be with someone just like me. And if you feel like you just won’t possibly have something to talk about, then get some more hobbies😂 You CAN and should be able to talk about anything.
Yes, you get it! This is very well said.✨ Also, the “trauma bond” point is so important but a lot of people don’t even know they’re in one to even recognize whats happening. People even do that in their friendships. Its nice to see you completely understood what I was saying in the video 💞 a breath of fresh air fr
I definitely agree. This is why I preach for black men to date out. There are literally beautiful feminine women of other races as options. White, Latina, asian and Arab women. And at times it’s much peaceful and less toxic than what we are accustomed to. Black men need to get their money up and start dating out much more.
Good for you, this discussion is for women only though. Nobody asked for your opinion or what you're doing. We already know and don't care.😂
Also, you black men are 50% of the toxicity that exists in a relationship. Unless you learn to self reflect and work on yourself, you're still going to bring your toxicity to any non-black woman anyway.
The only reason why you people like foreign women is because they put up with your crap just because they want an American ticket to freedom from their own crappy cultures that mistreat women anyway. Of course, you see that and want to capitalize on that.
No black men need to date within! Dating out is weakness and shows by going to other races. Tobit 4:12, it’s biblical to date, marry, procreate within .. black men need mental strength , black women provide whats needed to gain that mental strength. We’re made for each other.. dating out is just taking an easy way out. White, Latina, Arab, Asian women have their own men to date
I agree amen. ❤
This popped on my screen for a reason and you’re right and I’ve been wanting to do this. Especially after another failed same race relationship. And it’s not just a certain type of guy I’m referring to it’s the race as a whole. I’m over it. They make it clear to me that they have no problem dating or cheating outside theirs and I’m over being loyal to game.
You can’t blame a whole race for you selecting the same type of people over and over again. Sometimes you have to work on “you”.
@ not even sure why your protecting a race that wouldn’t do the same for you and hardly value the black woman. Which is a whole other topic smh
@@starwolfsden6531 I can if I want actually. And I wish i can say it was the same type over and over but that’s not the case which is why I’m over it. Working on myself doesn’t change the facts or statistics sorry love.
@ you should scroll down and read the comment from @arieslogathan lol my point exactly. Stop protecting men that don’t even want you. He stated “accustomed to” whose is exactly what she is stating in the video. Black men aren’t treating woman outside their race a certain way because they not going for that. lol like I said I’m done.
You a very beautiful lady ❤
That’s a terrible misinterpretation. Do you really believe black relationships are simply trauma bonds? That’s far from the truth. It’s about preserving and strengthening the back family, just as other races prioritize their families and communities. You’re not considering this deeply enough. In fact, dating outside your race often introduces unique challenges, such as conflicts and disrespect rooted in racial differences. These issues may not always be overt but manifest subtly, which can be even more harmful in the long run.
Nah I’m white and my last relationship I was trauma bonded and he almost strangled me twice, held me hostage hit me etc, extreme verbal and all types of abuse and he was a white man. Trauma bonds exist in all abusive relationships has absolutely nothing to do with race.
I mean almost killed me, he did strangle me. Yet white men never get the bad reputation.
I also agree with what you’re saying with strengthening the black family and culture and not letting it fade away. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that and it shouldn’t be treated like there is but it’s not my place to speak on it as I’m not black
@@NAnonymous-g5n 👍
Saved me 🤷🏾♂️
Saved some black women from wasting time and instead putting energy on finding a soulmate in whatever form God has made him in.
@@AndreTJones exactly that’s the message
I also you're confusing a trauma bond with being able to relate to similar background. A trauma bond is formed when a toxic person conditions their partner to take their abuse. That's very different than simply being able to relate to one another with a similar upbringing.
Maybe you mean trauma dump on each other?
Are you becoming a cultural expert. Maybe you have never traveled outside.
U.S.A. otherwise you would not talk nonsense.
You can and may talk about your own experience but you should not generalize. I hope you have done some research into Turkish/Kurdish culture and the community.
This message was for black women and she was highlighting the struggles that BLACK American women face. Black women are EXPECTED to only date, marry, and love black men. Many black women (again here in the United States) face loneliness because they are waiting for that one black man that checks all of the boxes. This video obviously wasn’t for you.
@@AndreTJonesthank you! Glad you said it
@@AndreTJonesyou do understand that this video was putting all black men in one category right? If someone keeps getting in bad relationships, they obviously need to work on themselves. To say that a whole race is superior than another based on personal experiences is a bit much because we all know that not every individual is the same.
Sometimes it takes self work to attract the right person, no matter what race.
@ I watched the video. Can you provide timestamps where she put ALL black men in one category? Did she say that Kurdish men were superior? Y’all have bigger fish to fry. There are ACTUAL accounts where you have passport bros denigrateting black women and the devest from black men videos where they put down black men. She said none of this. All she said ,basically, was its ok to look out. The problem in our community is we expect black women to only date in house sometimes at the expense of happiness. Love who you gonna love. Black man here by the way.
@@AndreTJones THANK YOU ANDRE!! 🙂 very well said. Some people just listen to respond and want to be combative or simply don't have the discernment to listen to an opposing perspective because of their own biased, strong emotions.. which is typical. Not once did I bash any race, put a race in a category or put any other race on a pedestal.
The grass is greener on the other side temporarily. The only thing that will done is you will abandon who you are and become that person.
So you need a savior. 😅
black savior, but he doesnt exist, so..
U so Fly Queen ❤❤
Queen of what?She literally selling out and saying fk her blackness and wants to white out her family by having mutts(mixed kids) with men of other races,thats more like traitor then a queen bro.Stop simping
Well spoken, good insight without bashing the other gender. Per Black Man
Thank you! I never want to bash any other race, especially my melanated men.