KIM KARDASHIAN TELLS VOGUE "I CHOOSE MYSELF": How To Stop Being A People Pleaser | Shallon Lester
Вставка
- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
- 🐶 HELP SAVE HOMELESS DOGS! 🐶 bit.ly/33fuA3u
#KimKardashian told #Vogue that she's decided to be selfish. Um...is that a shift in priorities? I'll break down why you WANT to be more of a narcissist and how to stop being a people pleaser! #shallonlester
⭐ GOT A QUESTION? ⭐ shallonlester.com
💋 GET A CUSTOM VIDEO (US) 💋 www.cameo.com/...
💋 GET A CUSTOM VIDEO (UK, AUS, CANADA) 💋bit.ly/3rVQenl
💜 Subscribe: bit.ly/2YzOtJV
💜 Follow On Insta: bit.ly/2YmMQnR
💜 Follow on TikTok: bit.ly/3EMtGJ9
💜 Watch More Shallon Lester💜
Latest Uploads: bit.ly/31jN8cg
⭐Kardashian Psychology: bit.ly/31nX2cR
⭐Confidence & Body Image: bit.ly/2SYo87c
⭐The Truth About Taylor Swift: bit.ly/2T7zkyx
⭐Gigi & Bella Hadid: bit.ly/2Ti93NX
⭐College Dating & More: bit.ly/2ZqfAIP
⭐Players & F**kboys: bit.ly/2SY8cSF
⭐The Truth About Shawn Mendes: bit.ly/2ZC04ti
Popular Videos: bit.ly/2GMVGQN
💜About Shallon Lester💜
CELEB GOSSIP AND LOVE LESSONS!
Got a love, dating or friendship question? You've come to the right place! I'm Shallon Lester, a two-time published author, NYC magazine editor and star of Howcast's viral kissing videos. I spill the tea on celebs like Kylie Jenner, the Kardashians, Beyonce, Shawn Mendes, Justin Bieber, Hailey Baldwin, Rihanna and more, breaking down their relationships, scandals and psychology to see what lessons WE can learn, and give you no-nonsense advice and real-world tips on everything from dating apps and players, to family and friends!
❤️🐶 GOT $5? DONATE NOW TO HELP HOMELESS PUPS! ❤️🐶bit.ly/33fuA3u
As a Veterinary Technician who cares very deeply for our four legged friends, thank you for lending your voice as their advocate!! They need us!! 🐶❤️❤️
I really love animal and dogs especially and i found it nice that you try to help them. But this way - bringing dogs from other lands to the land, where are every day are about 5500 dogs put to sleep (acc. Best Friends Animal Societyl), because nobody wants them - it seems kind of not really efficient way....but still better care than dont care at all.....just wanted to mention it....
And I find your videos really funny and sarcastic and enpowering as well, good luck with everything!
🐶💕 Thank you so much Shallon 💞
WE LOVE THIS! This is why I love you Shallon 😭💘💘💘
My boundary is I do not tolerate disrespect. I refuse. If a friend of mine is disrespectful and I address it and it’s met with dismissiveness, gaslighting and deflection then I slide away from that friendship. I’m done giving people chances they do not deserve!
Learning
I’ve lost so many friends because of this in the last 5 years. Everyone see’s me as this cutthroat person because I’ve ghosted friends of years, but what they don’t understand is that I chose to get away from a disrespectful person. I’m all about the respect. Never would I bring up my friends’ flaws or saw anything unkind to them. It’s not my place. It’s nobody’s place. It’s insane how it’s so hard to find people that will lift you up these days.
I respect you for doing that because that means you respect youself and you know what you want!!
You will build so many new, healthy relationships the next years because of that decision!!
👑🙌🏻💗
@@jjm8224 for me, this is good for new relationships or if you're establishing these boundaries for the first time in an old relationship
I first keep my distance. Don't hang out as much w them, don't be as available, depending. If they never ask, never notice somethings off, or ignore it by changing the subject hoping you'll forget about it, that means they're unaware or not conscious enough to care how they treat people and do you really wanna be close to someone like that?
If they do notice, they ask and are defensive and it's impossible to resolve without compromising what you're trying to communicate....that's a bad sign imo..and I would keep my distance.
now, if they want to reach out to you, because they notice something's off...and they ask, "hey did I do something to offend you?"..I would answer honestly. If they listen and are not defensive...that's a good sign they're good friends to keep around b/c you can both work through it and maybe next time, you'll feel more comfortable bringing it up right away. All just my opinion. Hope this helps.
Good quality people are hard to come by, it can be lonely but it's so important to know your worth.
What do you all do?
Same here! I have 0 tolerance! 🙃
Don't EVER say that you're "this youtuber talking about the Kardashians", cause you are such a light and inspiration and a voice of reason, you don't even know what your words do, thank you for making these videos , its like you are my friend in my head haha.
10,000%
This!
She has no clue how much she helps 🥺
Exactly!
Yes
Letting go of people pleasing is truly life changing . I used to be engulfed in ppl pleasing and couldn’t figure out why I was miserable for the longest time. I just snapped one day, cut off majority of my friends and truly starting putting myself first. I went from broke/miserable living to paycheck to paycheck to financially thriving and emotionally stable 🤣 choose you.
How did you go from broke to financially stable?
Good for you. Well done!
Yes!! Highly agree!
@@mave143 don’t spend a cent on anyone. Help yourself first
people are idiots.
My boundary: I am no longer making time for people who make me feel like shit.
Love you Shallon!
This is my boundary too, you took the words right out of my mouth 👏❤️
My boundary is that I do what suits me, not what makes other "happy".
Being older now I feel like being a people pleaser really fucked me up, because every time I let people step over my boundaries, I was trying to convince myself that I liked that, like "Oh maybe I do want to sit next to quiet Marie, shes not that bad" And I think thats one of the reasons now why I struggle so much identifying what I like and what I dont like and expressing it.
My boundary:
I will not spend hours talking on the phone with a guy after just a few dates.
This ‼️ only talk on the phone once a week for like 20 30 minutes. Why would we want someone who got alot of free time to talk for hours everyday
My boundary goal is: don't buy gifts for people I know only for a few months, just because they invited me to their birthday party and I want "to be nice". I'm so over that! They never get you anything for your birthday in return, let's be honest...
Last year I started to push my shy ass into no loger forcing myself to go events/parties/places I didn't want to go just because people insisted or because I was afraid someone would get mad at me. I told myself that I should not suffer just because I feared rejection. Surprise surprise: no one got mad.
Respect from others starts with respecting yourself.
Boundaries accomplished so far: 1. I've changed my number this year. Broke off my 2 yr engagement (he cheated..again) 2.Took a 2 week break away from my phone after the number change, it felt Amazing. 3. Called out my classmates for ignoring me in our clinical psych groupme chat after missing a day of class. It went hella awkward but I reported that to the professor, so she was willing to personally work with me afterwards. I added that in there because it was a big step for me to talk about it rather than hold everything in.
New lessons from those boundaries: 1. Im no longer accepting guys who arent equally yolked as me. 2. My mental health is priority and needs to be checked in, if im not feeling okay I shouldnt let others invalidate that. 3. Lastly, I'm learning to accept and be comfortable with myself because I'm the only who has my back. Its taking time and this isnt an easy journey, there are some slip up moments but the progression is well worth it.
My boundary is to STOP reaching out/making plans with a "friend" I have who rarely ever reaches out to me, and flakes often. I have brought this to her attention more than once, and all I get is excuses. And because of social media, I constantly see her out with other friends, so it's not like she's staying at home doing nothing. Moral of the story: if someone wants to spend time with you, they will!
Same! Those people are no longer in my phone, nor are they on my social media.
No one is obligated to make out time for you tbh , it's their decision, stop pitting it against them, just love yourself enough to not care and take it to heart
I chuckled at quiet Mary. I am quiet Mary and I feel equally exhausted by the constant talkers who seem to go on and on! Huh! I usually go home thinking wow I couldn't get a single word in even if I wanted to (I didn't) all the while these talkers may find me exhausting because they feel the need to fill the silence! What an epiphany. 😁
same girl same!😂
🥺🥺🥺 aww when Shallon broke. You are the Queen of kindness. And no, you are not just saving one thing. You’ve been saving so many Women for years. 🙏🏽
"When you can print your own emotional money, instead of going out - working and hustling for it - when you can give it to yourself, you look around at other people and you're like, "who the fuck are you? what are you giving to me?"" - Shallon
I'm not giving out free (unappreciated) advice anymore. People always come to me with their problems because they think I have my life together (which I do in a lot of ways, but like, I don't have all of the answers either) but then they just ignore my advice and use me as an emotional dumping ground. From now on, unless a person has PROVEN to me that they value what I have to say (good or bad), they're not getting at the wealth of knowledge inside this mind, lol.
When people come crying to me with their problems, my response will be "I'm sorry that's happening to you. I hope things work out."
Love you, Shallon
Me last year, I totally related to this. Now when someone is basically complaining about their situation and you can tell that they will not be making any changes I detach. And now I just say it starts with change, yes it will hurt/be uncomfortable but it starts with you. For a long while now I’m not an emotional dumping ground for friends (no give, just take) and coworkers. Energy for us first 💕
@@NancyRamirez-zh8ol I'm so happy for you putting yourself first, and also, I've been so much happier taking care of myself and not letting energy sucking monsters siphon from me, haha. Only warm blooded animals here!
Hi Shallon, I'm crying with you. My mom also saves stray doggies at home (Lima-Perú), it's a very rough city and there are TONS of dogs and cats in the streets. She now has 7 and 2 kitties at home. She's great and I'm so proud.
Shallon darling I friggin love you and your advice. I’m 27 and suffer borderline personality disorder. When I am in one of my down (minutes or hours) I watch your videos and it gives me the reassurance that I can be strong and put myself on a strong path like yourself ❤️ x
Hey how is life with bpd? I’m curious if u don’t mind
@@salehaxox7381 well in short terms it’s up and down. I can be in floods of tears over my dads death (when I was aged 9) then the next minute I can be laughing at the memories and fun times and I know normal people can do that too but the sadness is deeper and the happiness is deeper. It’s hard that’s all I can really say it’s a very confusing disorder. I’m learning “to live” with it, it sort of gets easier in ways as the years pass.
@@natashaferran420 my boyfriend has it and his behavior is very confusing to me. It almost drives me to insanity at times. He often purposefully does things to make me jealous, he will lash out on the tiniest things ever like stuff nobody would take seriously, he gets very paranoid with me like I am doing things behind his back when I am loyal. He makes it seem like I am the one causing all the problems in the relationship when I’m sure I’m not because I try to maintain the peace as much as I can, but then I think it might be my fault so it gets confusing. He loves very hard though like the way he cares and puts in effort and everything is so nice and I don’t wanna leave him. I’m sorry for this big message but I am curious if u can relate to any of this or if u think this is a part of bpd?
@@salehaxox7381 don’t hide your emotions from him show him how his behaviour makes you feel because us with bpd have a lot of empathy when we can physically see how our behaviour has made the person on the receiving end to feel because a lot of the time (maybe just me) we don’t realise how awful the words were coming out of our mouths. Also I/we will want you’s to be sad too and feel the emptiness we can feel. I would say he is lashing out at small things because he has a permanent anger inside him (remember most of us developed bpd because of something bad). I’m so sorry but I don’t know what advice to give you other than be there for him but don’t bow to him either. If he really is talking shit tell him straight. Try and see things in black and white like he does and never say nasty words back to him even if he has said them to you because we can be poking for that and it reevaluates are thoughts of being unwanted and unneeded. I’m hope this helps and I will pray your life gets easier. All the best and good luck x
@@natashaferran420 thank you so much ❤️ I really love him a lot and leaving him seems impossible. He loves me a lot too but life gets very hard with him, I also think I might have a thing for broken men and wanting to bring light into their life. I will try being more patient and understand it’s the illness rather than him but at the same time I won’t tolerate disrespect. sometimes he will purposefully want me to react in some way and if I don’t I think he thinks I don’t care enough. I have ego problems and if my ego gets bruised I detach and stay to myself or threaten to leave and stuff. I also have anger issues too so it’s hard to be logical at times. 😭 but thank you a lot
Let the records show (again) that Shallon predicted that Kim would eventually leave Kanye after she gained more estimable achievements and stopped being Kanye’s little Pygmalion project.
The thing with ppl pleasers is they attract alot of users, abusers & narc types. And they are great at manipulating & shaming you. I have seen lots of videos on how to stop ppl pleasing but not any that tell you what to do when you stop. How to handle the guilt, the shame & fear of losing ppl. How to handle upsetting & disappointing those you love, care about. This is often why ppl do not stop even though it hurts them. How to handle conflict. Even if they do stop they fall right back into it. I have a friend that is a ppl pleaser. She overextended herself for ppl who would not even throw her a bone. And I have seen what she avoids by ppl pleasing.
It's twisted the fact that people hurt themselves in expence of fill other people's desire, but if we can't love ourselves, how we gonna love others?
My boundary is that I will stop smiling/laughing for compromise. I know it kinda sound dump but I’m done pleasing people that way. Im so happy for Kim, glad she’s finally happy and that she’s finding her way
Kim wanting to come off grounded, humble, level-headed...is so everything but. I don't understand people still falling for this. She is the definition of a narcissist and stands for everything wrong with it: self-centered, selfish, greedy,...
The Kardashians have collectively decimated a whole generation of girls who look up to them, normalizing sexualisation, shallowness, and silly, unreachable beauty standards.
I prefer to look up to a confident Shallon that also has flaws and admits having some and is more relatable than whatever Kim is trying to sell me.
I agree! I always think of the million-dollar plastic surgeries that she had (not that I mind, it's her body) and the fact that she still feels the need to photoshop the heck out of the pictures. She'd be much more respectable and relatable if she really accepted her body and the flaws that she can't even camouflage with surgery.
Empire built from sex, defrauding, greed, falsehoods.
preach
FACTS!!!
I am 30 years old and I can confidentially say that the Kardashians ended a decade of teenagers aspiring to be so unnaturally thin it creates eating disorders. Prior to the Kardashians circa 2000-2006, Nicole Richie, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Mischa Barton were the celebrity bodies that young women aspired to have. And I can say that because I was a teenager during that time. You need money, be 18+ to have the plastic surgery that the Kardashians have…. Most teens cannot afford that… so they go to filters or photoshop…. But eating disorders… nope, you can create that at any age for free and obviously much more detrimental to health.
Shallon, I’ve been watching you since I was in 8th grade. I’m now a college sophomore. I swear sometimes I hear your voice in my head when I’m contemplating a (usually bad) decision, telling me to do better😂. My own older sister and I have a terrible relationship, and your videos helped me when I would struggle with that because it was like you filled that space. My partner teases me all the time that a lot of my opinions echo you, because you’ve been such a shaping force in my life and world outlook. So TLDR is you helped shape me into who I am today, and I appreciate you. Keep being awesome💜
A healthy love for self is what actually need instead of the opposite.
Good for Kim for having that aha moment where she finally realized that she is worthy and enough without the outside validation.
Being human and experience everything including the messy and the not-so good parts of that is what makes us better in connecting with others. Because. We are all here to evolve and grow together.
Thanks Shallon for your wisdom.
Much love from 🇨🇦❤️🦋
💔 poor babas 💔 we saved a stray from a township in south-africa, she is now with us in switzerland🇨🇭 she is our angel with invisible wings ❤ thank you shallon 💋🙏❤
love this!❤️ grüsse aus basel 🇨🇭
For me its about a fear of conflict... I don't care what someone thinks.. I care if they are going to try to punch me in face, or do something intentionally wrong in an attempt to weaken me... I guess thats a downfall of "warm-blooded". Come and fight let's go. I am protected and strong. I feel rest to recharge everyday because I have my own sanctuary of peace
Kudos to you Shallon for using your platform to make a difference. I have been volunteering with a dog rescue and I know how very little it takes for us together to make a huge impact.
my boundary im setting is if im uncomfortable in a situation i will speak up and i will say no.
Sittin here this morn, doin my make up for work…when I seen you get so emotional and cry about wanting to help animals and people, it made me tear up! Hurt to see you cry. But that’s ok bc you’re a GREAT person and mentally you’re saving me. And I mean that. You’ve helped me become so much confident, strong, you’ve lifted my moods in ways I can’t even understand, which is exactly why I pick your vids to watch everyday! You’re one of the very few whose advice I want to hear. Always keep being you 🌸⭐️
I'm in recovery and this is exactly how I was feeling before my last relapse. I was letting everything n everyone leech off of me. But now I'm putting myself first, (protecting my energy), and keeping it simple. I feel like I'm finally getting to exhale.
This couldn't have come at a better time! My two goals this year is building up my health and my business. I'm 100% laser focused on those two and haven't let anything get in the way of that. I'm actually proud of how much I've gotten done so far.
My biggest shift in life was listening to my body. Yeah, I was so focused on what was happening everywhere else but with me. Oh I was good with my emotions and how I felt but not with my body. It started with just me asking my body how I felt. It took practice but I was able to locate pain and act on it. Then my body trusted me more and revealed more. That sounds groovy but it's true. Ok, now I'm old and I just discovered I have fibromyalga which is really bad. Guess what? I'm on top of it and not really at risk because of it. I'm in the practice of responding to my body and it tells me what I need.
I have had fibromyalgia since 23, now I am 33. Glad you are having progress listening to your body. I am thankful for my fibro, I hate it but it also has revealed a lot to me.
So proud of you for taking your life in your own hand! I’m currently working on my health too, I need to lose 30lbs and it has been a struggle 😅
My promise to myself: I will not let others make me feel lower. I want to perceive my ideas and opinions as priority.
Fills my heart with joy that your helping these poor defenseless doggies 🐕
While I was walking home, I put on some good music and pet a street cat and a dog and also hugged my neighbour who is old and stays alone. All of this costed me no money at all but the amount of happiness it gave me 😌😌
Kim is so manipulative and I hate how everyone simps for her...Kourtney chose herself and got judged for it. Besides, Kim always chooses herself in relationship, she even stuck with Kanye for her benefit so what's new here?
Nothing wrong with putting your self first
One boundary I can set today is taking time to process and release my emotions in a healthy way, to leave any negative emotions or energies in a present moment rather than drag it to the future.
I honestly have a lot of growing respect for Kim after hearing this. I was team Kim ever since this whole divorce drama started but she's honestly such an inspirational person and someone who I've seen actually grow from fame. Other celebrities have also done so but since I've followed Kim K for a long time, I can really see it from her.
Also, so glad you had a great time on the DR trip!
You have such a caring heart ❤️ I love animals so much and donate often to shelters. Thank you for being a voice for the voiceless 💗💗
Yesterday was the last time I answered my phone for work related matters on my off days (I work 50%).
For what? To get to know that my creative work was not pleasing enough to someone of the company… ruined totally my evening, and today I still think about it. And the worst part of it is that, he told me that it wasn’t urgent and that he was going to write me an email about it. 🤦🏼♀️ Monday will set my boundaries. Thank you!
Ciao Shallon, grazie per i tuoi video ❤️
Cheers from south Switzerland 🇨🇭
Some of my friends from college lately they arrange to go out and I'm always the last to find out (they don't ask me if I am free or where I want to go, they arrange it by themselves and they just announce it to me). Usually my best friend is the one who invites me to go with them, in the past it wasn't like that. I don't think they do it intentionally to ghost me, they just don't care about me. In the beginning I got angry and sad but then I started watching Shallons channel systematically and I have to say that she helped me a lot, now honestly idgf about them. But I'm afraid that they might ruin the relationship I have with my best friend because if they go out regularly then I'm afraid we won't find time for eachother. Also one of these girls texted me to check if we have common classes, in the beginning I was happy because I thought she send me this message unconditionally but when I thought about it I understood her intentions, she works and she can't attend the lectures so will definitely ask me for my notes. Keep in mind that this girl who texted we used to be close but now as I said before she doesn't care to hang out with me. So what do you think I should do? I don't want to give her my notes but I'm afraid I might sound rude and she will get mad and badmouth me to others
I think you should talk about this with your best friend (sounds like someone you can trust) and maybe ask for her advice on this situation. Good luck!
Nefeli, you answer to her"oh...,I was going to ask you the same thing since am not going in this class regularly.Maybe WE should find someone who does.Please let me know if you find someone...😁" Ps 1. These type of people are counting on you,for worry to be rude...dont do the obvious, suprise them.
Do not give her your notes. Do you think if the situation was reversed, would she do the same for you?
I have a group of friends like this. It's all about what they want to do, I never get asked how I feel or for any suggestions. Its ruled basically by one person. A dictatorship. Lol This year, I am focusing on myself and not spending money..so they will have to do their stuff without me and find others to help chip in for their dinner and hotel bills.😆
Girl, you and your words are a GIFT for every woman! Thank you so much!
There's a fine line between Doing everything I can to succeed no matter the cost, and wanting others to succeed. It's been a common philosophical/economic paradox since the 17th century. The dominant way of thinking has been "when everyone acts in their own self interest, all of society will benefit". This worked when we all lived in Feudalism and all we had was our farm and family we looked after. But in the complex society we're in now, self sacrifice and compromise is far more advantageous.
We're all interconnected, in a globalized world whether you like it or not, unlike anytime in all human history. At the end of the day, if you want your life to be better, you have to support and uplift your neighbors, your community, and being a narcissist is not how you go about doing that. Remember, the 1 percent elites want you to be divided, so they can reap all the spoils from your hard work. Don't give in to them, all the glam and riches they promise you, you're far better off focusing your limited energy and time into people around you, the people in your reality. People like Kim and all these other celebs live on a totally different universe that only exists because of hard working people like you and the attention they get.
I think you should watch the video because I break down two different types of narcissism--the actual, clinical very bad kind, and the kind that means you DO look out for yourself and therefore, ironically, have the energy to actually help others.
I have never subscribed to someone so quickly. You are incredibly entertaining
Your analogies are so true but hilarious “that’s like shaving your head and moving to New Mexico” lol. That had me laughing.
My boundary is to cut back on brunches with friends and use that time to get my dream job in London (my dream city to live in). Thanks Shallon!! x
My boundary is to focus more on my emotional intelligence. Thanks Shallon.
Shallon seeing you cry made me cry 🥺😭😭
Omg this reminds me of my relationship a few years ago. He was sooo excited to show me off, tell everyone about me, said things like “you’re too good to be true” then slowly things got different. I had a car accident and lost my license for 6 months and he freaked out, called me a basket case and said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to be together anymore. Lol. Of course I already was moved in paying for more than half the bills and he wanted to “just be two people getting our lives together who live together” I said ok but he didn’t wanna date others…🤔 After three years I finally left and am so glad I did. Never thought of him as a narcissist because he seemed to hate himself so much and I can totally see that now. Didn’t realize narcissists can have low self esteem.
Honestly, Kim had her kids with a somewhat talented guy, so some interesting genes there, and now she can relax and enjoy her millions that she worked for. Her kids will inherit from both parents, she does not need Kanye, plenty of fresh men out there for her to play with. I doubt she suffers for one bit.
I loved this episode Shallon. You are spot on with Kim doing her and I love the way you are so honest about self-care and how important listening to your intuition is
Was literally rewatching an old vid on how to be a billionaire like RiRi when this dropped cause I needed my Shallon fix 😍🤩
@JessicaI was about to start my run! Wow. there is something special about this pack. We are always kicking ass in sync.🔮
Shallon, you literally changed my life just in 2 hours of watching your videos. Thank you!
I will not let people take advantage of my ability to love and be understanding. I will not allow people to keep taking from me and never getting anything back. All I ask is loyalty and honesty if you can’t do that you gotta go.
Promise to Self: I will not hold myself back in order to please others. I try to be kind and compassionate with people at the expense of my peace. I try to understand others so deeply and try not to blame them for the way they treat me/others, but in reality they have no right. There's always a reason/explanation but I do not owe anyone anything, ESPECIALLY NOT my peace. I wish the best for others and I hope that they prosper from their hard times, but I will not allow them to mistreat me just because they don't know any better. I deserve better and I am giving myself better now.
And I'm thankful for your unique and refreshing style of interpretation. 💕 LOVE 💕
Shallon, you are incredibely wise, sensitive and complex woman (in a good way) i send you so so much love cause you deserve everything in this world.
I completely understand about the love for dogs. I wasn’t a dog person not long ago but right before my mom passed from covid last year my husband gave me a puppy. At first it was crazy and even contemplated on re-homing him. The puppy phase was hard and I didn’t know what I was doing while I was still grieving losing my mom. After watching many training videos and lots of patience he’s everything to me. He saved my life and has helped me tremendously. I volunteer at our local animal shelter and there’s not been one day that I don’t cry. I donate what I can to rescues. I simply love dogs now.
This is the video I have been waiting for! I am currently in transition of putting myself first and this video just validated what I have been feeling.
Since you mentioned Kayne, I just wanted to say if you listen in the background to the video he posted of himself driving and complaining about not being able to attend Chicago's birthday party he has his own voice programmed into his GPS! Nothing like the sound of their own voice to a narcissist!
Fuck yeah Shallon, I’m glad you’re doing these sisterhood trips. Much needed for us. Hopefully I can make it to one of these one day ❤️🙏🏾
i'm 18 and i started binging your videos. now that i'm going to uni, i want to be a confident bad b who doesn't take shit from anyone. your videos make me feel so good and motivate me so much. love ya
Thank you so much for putting this and all your content there. I am 46 and have been through so much. I have very little self esteem but didn't realize it until listening to you. I realize that I have put the key to my happiness in others hands and I stayed anxious and exhausted all the time. I love what you said about that 1 friend that doesn't respect what you want, F- them! I love this!
The dog story really touched my heart. I started volunteering with the humane society because of your videos suggesting that we get involved with something. I love it! When I was younger I volunteered with autistic children, so I'd like to get back into that. It's just hard with the v@ccin3 situation 🙄
My boundary for myself: stop letting people at work take advantage of me and my hard work.
This was amazing honestly what I needed to hear!!!!!
Ive been practicing not laughing or sending a heart emoji or a smiley face unless i mean it, truly the precursor to me getting walked all over.
My rescue dog is my world. Had to donate.
I am watching each of the videos few times to make sure that the message sinks in!
I'm gonna be more selfish with myself and focus on my self preservation.
If this isn’t exactly what I needed rn! I’m sitting here questioning if I’m a narcissist cause I put me first. I didn’t want to be in a relationship with a guy after 2 weeks of dating and I’ve been feeling so bad about it.
You do so much more than just taking about the Kardashians. You're one of the smartest people on the internet shallon.
Perfect! Getting my house painted and I need to sit around doing nothing but supervising - now i have something to fill the time 😀
it is beautiful to see your vulnerable side..
My new hard limit is no one else's life is more important than sacrificing my own being a people pleaser.
Kim has evolved drastically where you can’t but love to watch her. She’s beyond inspiring ✨✨✨
Congrats on the weight loss, Shallon! I know how hard you've worked for it💛
I need a shallon in my life as my older sister. 🤗
Shallon, thank you for existing. Honestly girl.
yes! my boundary is not skippinng on plans that only involve me, to make space for other people's last minute plans. If I've committed going to the gym I'm going to put my plans first.
oh, I have a clinical depression because of "I'll sleep when I'm dead".
My boundarie is to show up for myself as reliably as I do for others
We said "f*ck em" at the same time!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 You're so right!!
I wish I would have met you when you were out here visiting Scottsdale. Come back! 😆 💕
Shallon I just want to tell you how much you've helped me to stop being small it's fucking awesome 💋
My boundary, among many, is do not waste my time. I'm not going to invest time on things that truly don't serve me. If i want to watch memes for an hour, good for me but i'm not going to listen to my friend talk for an hour about a dude she'll probably ghost by the end of the week. Also i have to sleep in my bed with my dogs, after a hot shower and skincare, with my eye-mask and ear-plugs. A good night of sleep is a treasure.
I’m not ok with being with someone whos friends with someone they’ve dated or hooked up. Idc it’s it’s their best friend. Idc if it was years ago: I’m not ok with it and that’s OK. I have every right to say na that’s for not me then. It doesn’t make me a bad person or “crazy” im gonna be honest with myself and put MY needs first.
Great video Shallon!
This is a random topic, but one I’ve always been curious about. Can you do a video about Cara Delevingne and how she has literally been friends w everyone like Rihanna, Kendall Jenner, Margot Robbie, Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, and even girls like Amber Heard!! Ive always wondered how she’s been able to get in w super famous women like that.
Cara comes from a family of English aristocracy and socialites..a wealthy family. Many connections.
shallon can you do a video on hailey bieber and kendall jenner caught consistently parking in the disabled parking bay/ mean girl mentality?
This video is so triggering, I’ve been trying to accept my own narcissism and selfishness and have just blew up some important relationships in my life.
We don't know kim of course but I don't know if she's a narcissist. I more get the vibe she CAN be mean and dramatic and she's definately vain, but she can also be genuinely calm, kind and open. I also think she's really hard-working and has a genuine interest in law aside from just wanting publicity. My heart goes out to kanye because he's not having an easy time in this separation but he also caused kim a lot of stress (though I suppose it went both ways). I pray things get better.
I think Kim is an empath
I'm gonna be a narcissist, create my own set of boundaries and clean my life out of everything and everyone that doesn't align.
The only thing I noticed how dark her skin is on the cover dunno why they make them self so dark when they not naturally
To me it is not making a border, but the opposite, letting myself act freely. Not holding up my energy, but letting it flow.
Recent example:
I think that it's right to do certain activities together with my husband: to visit places, going on trips etc. Last year I was waiting for my husband to take the initiative. He knows I'm into skiing, he said that it would be good to go skiing together. But he didn't actively follow those words. When the day came he seemed not very interested. And it felt wrong to me to make him follow me, or to go alone. So I stopped myself.
But I don't want to do this anymore. This winter I'm going skiing on my own, and not waiting for him to get morally ready. And no, it doesn't make me a bad wife.
I feel so better, my body is stronger, I'm more emotionally stable, more energy is flowing through me, I care for myself better, my creativity went up.
So I will continue being more brave and open, letting myself do what's meaningful to me.
wow your eye makeup looks beautiful 😍
You’ve helped me so much with my interpersonal relationships
Boundaries and self/if it's broke fix it if it's not don't☺️. I'm not too keen on meshing the word narcissism into the self improving lane , it can complicate the word. There's much deeper of a meaning behind why when you use it that way and would hate for it to be misused by someone that might not understand the full ramifications or it's new purpose to be used for benefit. Riding the fence still on that one😘I'm enjoying your content as a newby first time viewer and please don't stop while you've been given this opportunity to share your knowledge of life .
I needed this!!! Thank you
Thank you for promoting philanthropy for animals. I coach pageant girls of all ages and I have a young one who is getting into her teens now and nervous about promoting it because she doesn’t want it to come off as too young when other girls platforms are on suicide, bullying or abuse. I tell her it’s all in how we talk about it and all topics are important, we can’t compare but we can be smart of on how we deliver information on our platform to show its importance while being confident we are making a positive difference in this world. I recorded and shared just the clip of you asking for a billion dollars for dogs with her- AMAZING BTW!!! She loved it and is continuing to make animal rescue trips across the nation to save dogs from abuse and puppy mills then bringing them to homes who are elated to have them. ❤️
I actually think Kim is an empath with a few narcissistic traits. Kanye, on the other hand, checks each box on narcissistic personality disorder.
Ha, don't let her fool ya.
A person can’t be an empath with narcissistic traits, it doesn’t work that way, I just wanted to point this out there, I’m not trying to start a debate on this 🤷♀️😌
Yeah I mean she's an ISFP personality type! It makes sense
@@stephanielopes7148 Everyone has narcissistic traits...including you and me. It's actually healthy to have some. Kim has an image, somewhat created by her team, that she plays into. I am very familiar with narcissistic personality disorder and she does not have it. Kanye does...which means that he hates himself, has low self esteem and disassociates. Its usually caused by trauma in early, before age 6, childhood.
@@imjustagirl Don't let her image as a spoiled Armenian princess fool you. This is what she rose to fame on...and her handlers encouraged. She does not check the boxes for extreme narcissism or NPD. Look it up and read about it and you will be reading about Kanye.
This is one of your most precious videos. 👍🏻 Simple is best. 💓
I loved this! I decided 6 years ago to Choose Myself, I gave up dating and plan on getting back the years I lost in my marriage and other relationships, post my divorce. Its been a great ride so far!! I have 16 years to go, that I need to make up for!! God willing, he'll allow me to get them back ❤️❤️