I taught for 31 years, just retired. I’m sure there are lots of home school families that it works for what they want for their kids, but often they are fundamental church families who don’t want their kids to have college educations. What a lot of us see in public school is somewhere between 2nd and 4th grade we start getting the home school kids I think because parents suddenly realize can’t read, can’t do basic 1st grade math, can’t write, etc. and let me clarify that it’s not huge numbers of kids but it’s steady numbers. Almost always they seem unaware of what their kids should be able to do, and by this I mean that they think a 9 year old who can read a kinder book and add 6+3 is doing high level work. The parents also give pretty consistent stories claiming kids can do grade level work at home when they clearly can’t. It’s really an uphill battle to get these kids up to grade level and there’s not a lot of real parental help. It’s hard on students and it’s sad. It’s kids with no real learning issues but by this point, tons of issues with habits and behaviors that make kids successful in school and work settings like the ability to listen and focus on following simple multi step directions without 1:1 assistance on everything.The kids loved home school mostly, but often it’s because it was home unschooled. Luckily kids are freaking amazing and can catch up if they really want it. No one is as smart as an elementary student who wants to learn. Their brains are like sponges. The other issue worth mentioning though is that they have trouble getting along with other kids and displayed a lot of mean behaviors, like judgemental verbal unkindness.
I was homeschooled K-12, and for a long time until I had my own kids, I thought that my homeschool experience had been bad. But now I realize that the only reason why I had that view of homeschoolers( and myself ) were the people around me, either friends or adults, who made me feel like an outsider and less intelligent than them just because I was homeschooled. Looking back on it now, it was truly a blessing. My innocent childhood was extended. I felt safe and free to focus on the things I loved. And when I entered the workforce as an adult, I knew how to interact with and handle all sorts of different situations. Thank you Bekah, for this video! ❤
I homeschooled 5 kids , never had television in the house which I feel helped them choose books for entertainment , etc … All kids went to college graduated summa cum laude and all pursued graduate degrees . Even if they decided not to go to college , I feel the homeschool environment was successful ! And yes , my 5 kids had no problems socializing and were involved in sports !
I homeschooled my son from K-2nd and it was such a wonderful, delightful experience. He is in 3rd now experiencing his first year in public school and the difference in his mental health this year is astronomical. His self confidence has plummeted from the constant “behavior management” in the classroom. It’s making me want to go back to homeschooling so badly.
I had the same experience! I LOVEDDDD being homeschooled. My siblings and I were always complimented on how social we were and how we communicated with adults!
One size fits all is the WORST. A video showing the positives of homeschooling is lovely! Evaluating your own child’s temperament, your location/school options, and your own patience and capabilities as a parent are so important. I’m an educator and I choose not to homeschool my two kiddos. I tried it and it wasn’t a fit. The best decision for your child is what’s right for you & your family. And that may change over time (and that’s okay!). Thanks for sharing, Bekah!
I was homeschooled my entire childhood and most of this I couldn’t say better myself. I’m always excited when homeschool moms want my perspective because I have so many opinions on the good and the bad. Overall though I had a great experience and I can’t wait to homeschool my own kids!
Can you please let me know the pros and cons of homeschooling? I am in the process of making a final decision if I should homeschool my children. Thank you ❣️
@@daisyx1002 The cons are really based on the parents. I would ask yourself if you feel capable of listening to what your kids need as individuals and helping them get support. You don't need to know everything to be a good homeschool parent, but being able to find resources for your kids is important. Making sure their social and academic needs are being met on a regular basis, since those things aren't built in like regular school. Other than that there aren't any big cons. It's so individual that it's usually pretty clear when it isn't working for one child. It doesn't have to be all or nothing!
Yes please have your mom in the video !!! Thank you for this ! I live homeschooling my 3 children and it’s so amazing how we can keep changing things up each year and figuring out new ways to make it fun ! ♥️ it’s so beautiful to learn with your child as well on so many things
There are also misconceptions about public schools. It’s not really true that starting at the age of 5 kids are expected to sit in a chair all day long. Stepping into a primary school class, what is seen is kids up, moving around, dancing, singing, playing, exploring stations, and encountering their learning in authentic ways even in the classroom. As a middle school teacher, my students only sit in a chair for a portion of the time, and I very often take them outside and have them up, moving around, having meaningful conversations, etc. Sure, there are some teachers who teach to the text and students sit a lot of the time, but there are also some students who really thrive in those classes with that predictable structure. I just think that relegating public school to sitting in a desk, violence, and bullying is a narrow perspective. From my experience, it’s a curious, exploratory, inquiry, play based environment to learn! All in all, it kind of depends on the teacher and not necessarily the system! Same goes for homeschooling.
I remember you and Rachel coming into Gajarian ins . You called me Miss Sharon. I would watch you for your dad. I loved you and your sister and brothers. Take care little Beka
Thank you for this conversation! I’m actually a homeschooling Mom, I had to listen to this as I always wonder how adults who’ve homeschooled view their parent’s decisions. While I homeschool my 4 boys who are all still under 11 years old, it’s useful to hear this seasoned perspective. I’d love to hear your conversation with your mom, I think there’ll be more for us to learn! Again, thank you so much!❤
THANK YOU for sharing! We are starting our homeschooling in the fall with my oldest (kindergarten) and we’ve gotten all kinds of comments and opinions about it, mostly negative, and it’s very disappointing and discouraging! But it feels right for us on so many levels and we can’t wait! I’d love to here your moms perspective on everything and gain any wisdom I can from her! Including what her day flow looked like and if she was more structured in that or was everyday kind of different? As well as how she went about choosing a curriculum. There’s sooooo many options that it seems overwhelming!
Thank you for this video! I have decided this year that I want to homeschool my kids! My daughter turns 4 this April and all everyone is asking me right now is what I plan to do about school. I never had peace about sending her to school and I never thought of myself as one that would EVER homeschool my kids. But God has really been laying it on my heart and has been giving me such peace about it and confirmation! This video was so helpful! ❤
I homeschool my girls. Took my oldest out when she was in 4 year preschool and have never looked backed! She’s about to be in 3rd grade now ❤ we love it! We are in 2 homeschool groups and we do field trips all the time. They have SOOO many friends that they actually get to socialize with, not just sit in a class and be told not talk to one another
Love hearing your perspective! I teach in a Montessori school and a lot of the positives you mentioned here also apply there (self paced, multiple ages, hands on learning, lots of student choice, etc.) just thought I’d throw that out there for anyone who is interested in something a little less traditional but not able to homeschool.
@moodsofkiwi9285 from our experience, Montessori only works for kids without any learning differences and works for only mild cases of ADHD. There are too many distractions and movement and honestly our son did not get much attention in a large 30 students Montessori classroom.
Montessori definitely doesn’t work for all kids! I’ve seen a lot of kids with ADHD thrive with getting to set their own goals and learn what they want to learn (hyper fixation can be a superpower!) but also seen a lot of kids too overwhelmed and distracted with the environment. There are for sure pros and cons with any approach.
@@moodsofkiwi9285totally agree, the expense of most schools is not what Maria Montessori had in mind at all. In our area some public schools are transitioning to a Montessori approach and some schools (the one I teach at) are partially government funded, about half of our students are low-income and there on scholarship.
I’m a support teacher for families that homeschool through a homeschool based charter. I was a classroom elementary teacher for 7 years and then decided to pivot when COVID hit. So many people were turning to homeschool with the pandemic so they needed a lot of people for my position. Anyways, this is my 3rd year as an Education Specialist (my position title) and I’ve seen it all. All of my families were new to homeschool when I started in 2020. Many of them went back to traditional school when COVID improved, but I kept several of my families because they discovered how well it worked for their family. Some people do an absolutely amazing job with homeschooling their kids while others really need to send their kids to traditional school because it’s not a good fit. It really is about what’s best for your family. With that being said, I have 2 young kids and I plan on sending them to traditional school because I truly don’t see them enjoying homeschool. However, I’m open to it if their needs change.
I LOVED this video. And would so love a follow up with your mom. I found myself getting emotional a few times during this video…how beautiful a gift you just gave your mom for validating her choices and investment in you. So so beautiful. ❤
This was an awesome video. My husband is very pro homeschooling and as a full time working wife (we don’t have kids as of yet) it worries me giving up my salary to teach them at home or just being a failure at teaching since that’s not my strong suit necessarily. This was really insightful and feels like it creates a really safe environment for the kids and that’s ultimately what I care about the most in this scary world.
I love this soooo much! Everything you said is exactly why I am choosing to homeschool my children. I find that so many adults have so many mental health problems because of trauma from going to school, from having to pretend something you’re not and follow social norms. You sound so confident, intelligent and sure of yourself. That is what I want for my daughters. Thank you so much for sharing your point of view
Love that you mention the socialisation thing! There's a whole psychological thing too about how children the same age actually tend to get aggressive when made to socialise especially in a competitive way (how schools are often setup).
I was also homeschooled and have a lot of positive things that came from it AND there are a lot of critiques I have of it. We can’t ignore that in the US it’s often used by religious groups to indoctrinate their children and that isn’t ok. It’s also incredibly challenging on the parent / child relationship to make them both the teacher and the parent. I think it’s important to be really honest about those negatives. There are so many great school alternatives to look into (ie forest schools, Montessori) before homeschooling.
I had a very similar homeschooling experience and am currently pregnant with my first babe, and I CANNOT WAIT to give them the same beautiful experiences my mother gave me through homeschool. I also never thought about how homeschooling gave me so much confidence in my authentic self from such a young age because my mother crafted an environment for me to thrive in. She was so in tune, like you said, with seeing what I was drawn to and creating a space for me to grow and learn in my individual passion.
I was also homeschooled most of my education, until my last year of high school. I loved it! My mom bought a curriculum she ordered from a homeschool catalog and she would piecemeal it together. Stuff like art and history and geography she was confident with her knowledge of and it aligned with her passions so that was easy for her to teach and she would often make up her own curriculum for those subjects. Subjects like math and the sciences she definitely relied more on the curriculum she ordered and she would seek out others who were good in those subjects to help. For example my dad loved government and he would teach us that subject. Plus, we would participate in the all the community extracurriculars available, like theater and sports! I remember as I got older and as the work got harder, my mom would “teach” less and just supervise. I was teaching myself in high school and just checking in with my mom, she would grade my papers and check my math answers etc. The best part about being homeschooled was the Time! We had so much control over our own time. I could get my assigned work done before lunch each day and have the rest of the afternoon to do what I wanted, like read or draw. And we could take family vacations and field trips whenever we wanted, it was the best! Some years we even did school through summer, but like I said we would take vacations whenever we could so it balanced out!
About the socialization thing if you've ever had a child in public school you know they're taught to sit down and shut up. We are about ready to take my son out next year because of the level of anxiety he has around teachers yelling at them for doing normal child things. I get that the teachers can't just let them take breaks and chat. I believe this is a crucial part of childhood development.
Bekah, thank you so much! I was homeschooled from 1st-12th grades, so I’m a home school lifer. 😂 I appreciate that my parents were so intentional about giving me space to pursue activities I was interested in (music especially) and that I wasn’t bogged down with endless worksheets and busy work. I also got to develop really close relationships with my siblings and had a strong sense of self and good self image, even through my awkward middle school years. I feel like things have changed a lot since I was homeschooled in the 90’s and early 00’s, but one of the downsides of being homeschooled was the tendency for it to be pretty insular and isolated from society and other beliefs. I was also raised conservative Christian, and only after going to college was I really exposed to lifestyles and beliefs other than conservative Christianity. That’s something I want to give to my daughter that I didn’t have until I was much older. But we live in a big metropolitan area now and I think she’ll have a much more diverse friend group than I had when I was a kid. I’m on the fence about whether or not I want to homeschool my daughter. I am intimidated by lesson planning and staying organized, but I’m definitely open to it if she is interested! My mom always gave us the option to homeschool and I’d love to give that to my daughter.
I was homeschooled until I went to public high school. I’m a pretty quiet and introverted person, but people are always surprised when I tell them I was homeschooled, like they would’ve expected me to be incapable of human interaction 😂 As with everything there are pros and cons, but homeschooling offered me opportunities public school wouldn’t have in elementary and middle school. We met weekly with a small group of homeschool families to do history and anthropology lessons. During our weekly lessons, we would cook traditional food from the culture and time period we were studying. It has definitely inspired a lifelong love for cooking! I also think learning to cook foods from different cultures at a young age made me a much more open-minded eater than most people I meet. You can learn so much about different cultures and historical periods by experiencing the food, and so many people miss out on that by not being willing to try new foods. I don’t want to homeschool my own children, but I do want to provide them with as many of those same positive experiences as I can.
I'm pregnant and a former teacher and I'm highly considering homeschooling my son! Nervous about not getting any "me time" or time or away from my son (I know it's needed for both of us, he can't be with me 24/7) other than that I'm so excited to plan activities. :)
Yes, yes, yes!!!! Thank you Bekah for so openly and honestly and courageously sharing your perspective and representing so many of us while you did so!!!
I love hearing your perspective. I have the opposite timeline. I went to public school until high school. Then I was home schooled, starting my freshman year. My mom went through an accredited home school program, and the program came up with the curriculum with each student catered to their learning style and offered a graduation ceremony and diplomas. I was able to select subjects that I was interested in and was shocked when the teacher from the program asked me what I wanted to study and how I wanted to study. Did I want a textbook, work sheets, or a DVD video lesson. So I could choose to learn my way. I was also someone who read at a higher grade level and was excited to read the books I wanted. I was sh*t at math, so I was able to go really slow with my math. I felt like public school left me under prepared to work independently. I felt lost at first, not having someone telling me what to do at all times. When to change subjects, when to eat, when to take bathroom breaks, I was a public school robot. I socialized a lot at sports and was always complemented on my ability to talk to adults, confidentiality, and understand adult concepts. The biggest negative about public school was the drama it was really stressful and distracting. Honestly most of the kids from my home school program went to Ivy league collages and got their dream jobs (not me I'm a self employed hippy). And most of the kids from my public school got pregnant in high school didn't go to college or went to a trade school and still live in the same town. No judging just honesty the public school drama and dr*gs were crazy in my town.
This video was absolutely amazing. Beautifully told. I will not be sending my two year old to public school and I have much anxiety about homeschooling her. Thank you so much for sharing all your experiences and yes I would love to listen and watch you do a video with your mom included to hear her memories of it all as well. Thank you again for making me excited versus fearful for taking this on.
My son has autism and ADHD and being at school definitely makes him have higher needs and struggle more. When he's at home learning with me he's having fun. When he's at school he just has meltdowns and panic attacks for a majority of the day.
Considering homeschooling for my 3 and 1.5 yr olds and this was SO helpful! I agree with all your points but hearing from someone who lived it and loves it enough to give your kids the same experience = priceless
Ive always had a cynical view on homeschooling, I probably wouldn’t do it myself still but this video was really informative and has opened my mindset! Thank you for sharing this video!
Love this perspective! We’re highly considering homeschool right now and it’s nice to hear your pov bc I’ve mostly heard hs moms and educators discuss it.
I loved hearing about your experience and so happy you liked it! The only thing that “weirds” me out about homeschooling is the parents ability to teach (or not teach) what they want to their kid. 😅 Similar to what you mentioned about learning Creationism and that the earth is only 4,000 years old.
But also states chose what public schools teach as well. So many schools are getting rid of certain books or banning certain history lessons ect. And purposely leaving stuff out.
BEKAH!!! MY QUEEN! thank you for this video. I think you honor your mom so well. It makes me emotional. You are a great daughter to her & i can't wait to start my journey homeschooling my daughter knowing you are on this journey too. Proud of you and excited for this new season of Bekah outside of Chatty Broads.
I LOVE U. I was homeschooled kindergarten-12th grade and I loved it! I truly believe I learned how to lead and think for myself in a way that my friends (who went to public school) would share that they did not. I'm super thankful for my parents!
I was kind of like you - in and out of school situations depending on what worked best for me and what I requested. The thing that always bothered me about homeschool was that my parents never allowed for the defined *breaks* you get in traditional school. It felt like every vacation, I had to write a report, and I had to look at what they wanted me to look at. I also felt very self conscious of what was on my transcript at the end of highschool, because I felt my mom was a bit generous with her definition of “Biology” class. My mom also never actually taught me anything, AND I had undiagnosed ADHD, AND I’m a very social person, so homeschool felt like I was on my own to the nth degree. That being said, the cons to traditional school and socializing are just like you said. I hope we’re able to find a balance for my son!
Do you think it's a downside of homeschooling to not be exposed to children/people who come from many different families? I feel like if you're in a homeschool co-op, you're often with a lot of other crunchy moms and similar lifestyles lol. Thoughts? Loved the video 😊
I personally was not homeschooled, but most of my close family friends were and we did family “homeschool field trips” all the time together. They also were part of larger homeschool co-ops that helped teach more detailed subjects for the older kids. Most of these friends continued to large universities and were completely “normal”
I was severely bullied in school and then homeschooled most of middle school & high school. The school system paid for a teacher to come to my house daily since the situation was so bad. I was allowed to go to school in person for art classes and sports if I wanted. I would 100% homeschool my kids after my own horrible experience in the school system. I agree there are wayyyy better ways to socialize children then school. Kids would a actually threaten my life and sexually harass me daily and I went to school in a super wealthy town.
I homeschool my 2 young stepsons and we love it. The freedom to master concepts before we move on, the flexibility of our day, just all of it is a major blessing.
Thanks for sharing! I would LOVE if you had your mom on, too. Where did her confidence to homeschool stem from? What kind of mantras or thoughts did she have around it that ultimately made her do it and kept her going? What gave her confidence that she was doing the right thing vs the norm. How did she choose curriculums?
We started homeschooling this year! Love it. My comeback for all the questions are always “well there are (weird/ can’t read/ etc) kids in public school too”
I’m a public school teacher and I can’t wait to homeschool my children. I became a teacher because I wanted to teach kids how to love learning but the system is so toxic and I feel like I can’t do what I was meant to do. I have a few friends in the same boat as me and I can’t wait to have a great community!
I’m hoping to homeschool my 7 and 8 year old this next school year for the first time. We are going to do a Spanish curriculum this summer and read aloud some chapter books for sure. I am going to be putting in the work with my mental health so that I can hopefully be the best I can for my kids and myself. I don’t have a ton of support from those around me to homeschool, so I also want to prove to all of them that I can do it! Thanks for the video! I really enjoyed hearing your experience. I am sure it will be super helpful for others as well.
I just started homeschooling a year ago and I so appreciate this video, I’m going to send people this video when they ask questions lol perfect explanation
i also highly suggest Quaker school for those looking for alternative schooling but may not be able to take on a teacher role :) its kinda in between home-schooling and montessori.
I have a five year old and this really makes me want to homeschool except i'm a single mother and don't have the option to stay home and do this. HOwever this really opened my eyes to it. I hope I can do it one day with the right partner
This has nothing to do with this video, but I think it would be fun if you did a video of your favorite clothing/jewelry pieces and what they mean to you/where you got them. Our wardrobes are often an extension of ourselves, and your style is unique and fresh, and I just think it would be a fun video :)
How did you find the experience of your home being both a home and a school, was it easier or harder to focus than when you went to traditional school? I work with kids aged 3-6 at a Montessori school, and I've noticed the children (In general) show more respect to teachers than to parents (Respect in regard to listening and using quiet voices, which is necessary in maintaining a calm learning environment for everyone). I want to homeschool when I have children but I worry that the home environment will be too chaotic for structured learning, though obviously it's great for unstructured, experiential learning which is more important anyway.
That can definitely be tough, I remember when I was homeschooled having a hard time focusing. Group learning with friends really helps because then it’s not just you and your parent fighting each other. Routine also, my mom was never great at sticking to a really good routine around learning and I think that was part of the issue.
as a person that follows you on insta and loves your content - I am so glad you're posting more on this platform! YT is my fave and I loved seeing you on my homepage! long form content ftw 😤🤎
So much of this resonates with me! I was homeschooled on and off through elementary. It was always our choice if we wanted to home school or attend public school each year. I felt like I got more beneficial socialization outside of public school, definitely felt like I could interact with people of other ages, and did not have any issue returning back into public school! We also had a home school group that we attended 1-2 times per week and went on "field trips" with :)
I’m new here and just started watching your channel. This video is interesting especially your comments about institutional oppression and being raised conservatively Christian…which has its own umbrella of oppression. How do you reconcile those two worldviews / have you talked about your religious beliefs in previous videos I’m not seeing? Genuinely curious
public school kid here - what's weird is that until puberty hit around 6th grade, I DID NOT CARE what other people thought. Then all of the sudden, all of us magically cared in 6th grade and beyond. So I am wondering if any homeschooled kids experienced this shift even at home in 6th grade... perhaps a desire to go to public school and a desperate desire to fit in around this age...
that's a great point! I will say the environment in my high school homeschool co-ops was still a wayyyy different vibe than my private/public school peers. a lot more chill and accepting.
I was homeschooled until I went to high school and had both homed school and public school friends all through childhood. What I’ll say is, I don’t remember ever caring much or even thinking about what I looked like until I was in environments with a lot of other kids who went to public school. The summer between my seventh and eighth grade year, I did a kid’s play with the local community theater that a lot of public school kids participated in. Experiencing how a lot of the public school kids behaved towards everyone during that was the first time I remember being self conscious about my body, specifically my weight. That’s something I never remember experiencing from interacting with the homeschool kids I grew up around.
You should start a podcast called “Bekah Rants” and just go off about whatever topics you’re thinking about. But maybe that’s what this channel already is haha.
I'm glad you touched on the privilege of it, that's been my hold up with the idea. Privilege and diversity. (Not that the public schooling I went to had much diversity...)
I was also homeschooled and have a different perspective than you. But I also never went to school. I wish I had had experience with both because I feel constantly unsure of what all I missed out on.
let me tell you, there were some fun aspects...but it's not like the movies and a lot of my time in school was trying to figure out how to get out of school lol
@@BekahMartinez your recollection of your childhood and day to day schooling sounds a lot like how mine was. Unfortunately I came out more resentful of the religious aspects as well. But it is nice to reflect on the good times again. I just do not plan to homeschool my own kids.
As someone who was 100% homeschooled until college, I appreciate you debunking these homeschooling myths and explaining why homeschooling is a MUCH more natural way to “educate” children. Formal schools offer some benefits to children, sure, but I think school is, on the whole, and negative model for bringing up children.
I will add: homeschooling can certainly be done poorly, too! I am one of seven children, and my parents fully unschooled us, so I was not given any structure of any kind, my parents did not facilitate any social outlets for us, and that was hard on me. It really is on the parent to create a well-rounded and enriching upbringing for their child - but that is the way it has always been since the beginning of time. Parents have always been responsible for preparing their kids to survive the rest of their lives. We have really outsourced that responsibility to school teachers in many ways, which is entirely impractical and also unnatural.
I was bullied in high school and don’t think I was too weird 😂 I mean the person that bullied me was in band with me so joke’s on her she was a weirdo too I guess 😅
One major reason I wouldn't homeschool is I would want a homeschool group but I know that due to where I live I would only have access to conservative Christian families.
The fact that you had to qualify your statement with "I'm not saying ADHD isn't real but..." kind of tells me that sort of is what you think. ADHD is a neurological disorder. Would you question the validity of autism? I get the point you're trying to make, and as someone with ADHD, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, but you could get that point across without the qualifier in the beginning. That said, being able to participate in band made every bad thing about high school worth it. The average parent can't teach their child a musical instrument, and even if they could, they can't replicate the experience of being in a full band every day with a conductor.
I taught for 31 years, just retired. I’m sure there are lots of home school families that it works for what they want for their kids, but often they are fundamental church families who don’t want their kids to have college educations. What a lot of us see in public school is somewhere between 2nd and 4th grade we start getting the home school kids I think because parents suddenly realize can’t read, can’t do basic 1st grade math, can’t write, etc. and let me clarify that it’s not huge numbers of kids but it’s steady numbers. Almost always they seem unaware of what their kids should be able to do, and by this I mean that they think a 9 year old who can read a kinder book and add 6+3 is doing high level work. The parents also give pretty consistent stories claiming kids can do grade level work at home when they clearly can’t. It’s really an uphill battle to get these kids up to grade level and there’s not a lot of real parental help. It’s hard on students and it’s sad. It’s kids with no real learning issues but by this point, tons of issues with habits and behaviors that make kids successful in school and work settings like the ability to listen and focus on following simple multi step directions without 1:1 assistance on everything.The kids loved home school mostly, but often it’s because it was home unschooled. Luckily kids are freaking amazing and can catch up if they really want it. No one is as smart as an elementary student who wants to learn. Their brains are like sponges. The other issue worth mentioning though is that they have trouble getting along with other kids and displayed a lot of mean behaviors, like judgemental verbal unkindness.
I was homeschooled K-12, and for a long time until I had my own kids, I thought that my homeschool experience had been bad. But now I realize that the only reason why I had that view of homeschoolers( and myself ) were the people around me, either friends or adults, who made me feel like an outsider and less intelligent than them just because I was homeschooled. Looking back on it now, it was truly a blessing. My innocent childhood was extended. I felt safe and free to focus on the things I loved. And when I entered the workforce as an adult, I knew how to interact with and handle all sorts of different situations. Thank you Bekah, for this video! ❤
As a school psychologist, if I ever have kids they’re 1000% being home schooled 😂
Can you elaborate more on that?
Can you please tell us why??
I homeschooled 5 kids , never had television in the house which I feel helped them choose books for entertainment , etc … All kids went to college graduated summa cum laude and all pursued graduate degrees . Even if they decided not to go to college , I feel the homeschool environment was successful ! And yes , my 5 kids had no problems socializing and were involved in sports !
As a public school teacher I agree!
My mom teaches in public school. I went to a private Christian school.
I plan to homeschool as much as possible
I homeschooled my son from K-2nd and it was such a wonderful, delightful experience. He is in 3rd now experiencing his first year in public school and the difference in his mental health this year is astronomical. His self confidence has plummeted from the constant “behavior management” in the classroom. It’s making me want to go back to homeschooling so badly.
I had the same experience! I LOVEDDDD being homeschooled. My siblings and I were always complimented on how social we were and how we communicated with adults!
One size fits all is the WORST. A video showing the positives of homeschooling is lovely! Evaluating your own child’s temperament, your location/school options, and your own patience and capabilities as a parent are so important. I’m an educator and I choose not to homeschool my two kiddos. I tried it and it wasn’t a fit. The best decision for your child is what’s right for you & your family. And that may change over time (and that’s okay!). Thanks for sharing, Bekah!
I was homeschooled my entire childhood and most of this I couldn’t say better myself. I’m always excited when homeschool moms want my perspective because I have so many opinions on the good and the bad. Overall though I had a great experience and I can’t wait to homeschool my own kids!
Can you please let me know the pros and cons of homeschooling? I am in the process of making a final decision if I should homeschool my children.
Thank you ❣️
@@daisyx1002 The cons are really based on the parents. I would ask yourself if you feel capable of listening to what your kids need as individuals and helping them get support. You don't need to know everything to be a good homeschool parent, but being able to find resources for your kids is important. Making sure their social and academic needs are being met on a regular basis, since those things aren't built in like regular school. Other than that there aren't any big cons. It's so individual that it's usually pretty clear when it isn't working for one child. It doesn't have to be all or nothing!
Yes please have your mom in the video !!! Thank you for this ! I live homeschooling my 3 children and it’s so amazing how we can keep changing things up each year and figuring out new ways to make it fun ! ♥️ it’s so beautiful to learn with your child as well on so many things
There are also misconceptions about public schools.
It’s not really true that starting at the age of 5 kids are expected to sit in a chair all day long. Stepping into a primary school class, what is seen is kids up, moving around, dancing, singing, playing, exploring stations, and encountering their learning in authentic ways even in the classroom.
As a middle school teacher, my students only sit in a chair for a portion of the time, and I very often take them outside and have them up, moving around, having meaningful conversations, etc. Sure, there are some teachers who teach to the text and students sit a lot of the time, but there are also some students who really thrive in those classes with that predictable structure.
I just think that relegating public school to sitting in a desk, violence, and bullying is a narrow perspective. From my experience, it’s a curious, exploratory, inquiry, play based environment to learn!
All in all, it kind of depends on the teacher and not necessarily the system! Same goes for homeschooling.
I remember you and Rachel coming into Gajarian ins . You called me Miss Sharon. I would watch you for your dad.
I loved you and your sister and brothers. Take care little Beka
Thank you for this conversation! I’m actually a homeschooling Mom, I had to listen to this as I always wonder how adults who’ve homeschooled view their parent’s decisions. While I homeschool my 4 boys who are all still under 11 years old, it’s useful to hear this seasoned perspective. I’d love to hear your conversation with your mom, I think there’ll be more for us to learn! Again, thank you so much!❤
THANK YOU for sharing! We are starting our homeschooling in the fall with my oldest (kindergarten) and we’ve gotten all kinds of comments and opinions about it, mostly negative, and it’s very disappointing and discouraging! But it feels right for us on so many levels and we can’t wait!
I’d love to here your moms perspective on everything and gain any wisdom I can from her! Including what her day flow looked like and if she was more structured in that or was everyday kind of different? As well as how she went about choosing a curriculum. There’s sooooo many options that it seems overwhelming!
Thank you for this video! I have decided this year that I want to homeschool my kids! My daughter turns 4 this April and all everyone is asking me right now is what I plan to do about school. I never had peace about sending her to school and I never thought of myself as one that would EVER homeschool my kids. But God has really been laying it on my heart and has been giving me such peace about it and confirmation! This video was so helpful! ❤
I homeschool my girls. Took my oldest out when she was in 4 year preschool and have never looked backed! She’s about to be in 3rd grade now ❤ we love it! We are in 2 homeschool groups and we do field trips all the time. They have SOOO many friends that they actually get to socialize with, not just sit in a class and be told not talk to one another
Love hearing your perspective! I teach in a Montessori school and a lot of the positives you mentioned here also apply there (self paced, multiple ages, hands on learning, lots of student choice, etc.) just thought I’d throw that out there for anyone who is interested in something a little less traditional but not able to homeschool.
I love Montessori! I used to work in a Montessori school. It’s too bad they can be expensive
@moodsofkiwi9285 from our experience, Montessori only works for kids without any learning differences and works for only mild cases of ADHD. There are too many distractions and movement and honestly our son did not get much attention in a large 30 students Montessori classroom.
Montessori definitely doesn’t work for all kids! I’ve seen a lot of kids with ADHD thrive with getting to set their own goals and learn what they want to learn (hyper fixation can be a superpower!) but also seen a lot of kids too overwhelmed and distracted with the environment. There are for sure pros and cons with any approach.
@@moodsofkiwi9285totally agree, the expense of most schools is not what Maria Montessori had in mind at all. In our area some public schools are transitioning to a Montessori approach and some schools (the one I teach at) are partially government funded, about half of our students are low-income and there on scholarship.
I’m a support teacher for families that homeschool through a homeschool based charter. I was a classroom elementary teacher for 7 years and then decided to pivot when COVID hit. So many people were turning to homeschool with the pandemic so they needed a lot of people for my position. Anyways, this is my 3rd year as an Education Specialist (my position title) and I’ve seen it all. All of my families were new to homeschool when I started in 2020. Many of them went back to traditional school when COVID improved, but I kept several of my families because they discovered how well it worked for their family. Some people do an absolutely amazing job with homeschooling their kids while others really need to send their kids to traditional school because it’s not a good fit. It really is about what’s best for your family. With that being said, I have 2 young kids and I plan on sending them to traditional school because I truly don’t see them enjoying homeschool. However, I’m open to it if their needs change.
I LOVED this video. And would so love a follow up with your mom. I found myself getting emotional a few times during this video…how beautiful a gift you just gave your mom for validating her choices and investment in you. So so beautiful. ❤
This was an awesome video. My husband is very pro homeschooling and as a full time working wife (we don’t have kids as of yet) it worries me giving up my salary to teach them at home or just being a failure at teaching since that’s not my strong suit necessarily. This was really insightful and feels like it creates a really safe environment for the kids and that’s ultimately what I care about the most in this scary world.
I'm excited for the follow up with your mom! I'd love to hear about choosing curriculum.
I love this soooo much! Everything you said is exactly why I am choosing to homeschool my children. I find that so many adults have so many mental health problems because of trauma from going to school, from having to pretend something you’re not and follow social norms. You sound so confident, intelligent and sure of yourself. That is what I want for my daughters. Thank you so much for sharing your point of view
Love that you mention the socialisation thing! There's a whole psychological thing too about how children the same age actually tend to get aggressive when made to socialise especially in a competitive way (how schools are often setup).
Great job! Love it. A great in between option we found is Montessori
I was also homeschooled and have a lot of positive things that came from it AND there are a lot of critiques I have of it. We can’t ignore that in the US it’s often used by religious groups to indoctrinate their children and that isn’t ok. It’s also incredibly challenging on the parent / child relationship to make them both the teacher and the parent. I think it’s important to be really honest about those negatives. There are so many great school alternatives to look into (ie forest schools, Montessori) before homeschooling.
I had a very similar homeschooling experience and am currently pregnant with my first babe, and I CANNOT WAIT to give them the same beautiful experiences my mother gave me through homeschool.
I also never thought about how homeschooling gave me so much confidence in my authentic self from such a young age because my mother crafted an environment for me to thrive in. She was so in tune, like you said, with seeing what I was drawn to and creating a space for me to grow and learn in my individual passion.
I was also homeschooled most of my education, until my last year of high school. I loved it! My mom bought a curriculum she ordered from a homeschool catalog and she would piecemeal it together. Stuff like art and history and geography she was confident with her knowledge of and it aligned with her passions so that was easy for her to teach and she would often make up her own curriculum for those subjects. Subjects like math and the sciences she definitely relied more on the curriculum she ordered and she would seek out others who were good in those subjects to help. For example my dad loved government and he would teach us that subject. Plus, we would participate in the all the community extracurriculars available, like theater and sports! I remember as I got older and as the work got harder, my mom would “teach” less and just supervise. I was teaching myself in high school and just checking in with my mom, she would grade my papers and check my math answers etc. The best part about being homeschooled was the Time! We had so much control over our own time. I could get my assigned work done before lunch each day and have the rest of the afternoon to do what I wanted, like read or draw. And we could take family vacations and field trips whenever we wanted, it was the best! Some years we even did school through summer, but like I said we would take vacations whenever we could so it balanced out!
Your children are clearly very bright and engaging... whatever method you’re using certainly works. So refreshing to hear your perspectives!
About the socialization thing if you've ever had a child in public school you know they're taught to sit down and shut up. We are about ready to take my son out next year because of the level of anxiety he has around teachers yelling at them for doing normal child things. I get that the teachers can't just let them take breaks and chat. I believe this is a crucial part of childhood development.
Bekah, thank you so much!
I was homeschooled from 1st-12th grades, so I’m a home school lifer. 😂
I appreciate that my parents were so intentional about giving me space to pursue activities I was interested in (music especially) and that I wasn’t bogged down with endless worksheets and busy work. I also got to develop really close relationships with my siblings and had a strong sense of self and good self image, even through my awkward middle school years.
I feel like things have changed a lot since I was homeschooled in the 90’s and early 00’s, but one of the downsides of being homeschooled was the tendency for it to be pretty insular and isolated from society and other beliefs. I was also raised conservative Christian, and only after going to college was I really exposed to lifestyles and beliefs other than conservative Christianity. That’s something I want to give to my daughter that I didn’t have until I was much older. But we live in a big metropolitan area now and I think she’ll have a much more diverse friend group than I had when I was a kid.
I’m on the fence about whether or not I want to homeschool my daughter. I am intimidated by lesson planning and staying organized, but I’m definitely open to it if she is interested! My mom always gave us the option to homeschool and I’d love to give that to my daughter.
I loved this video so much! I really have homeschool on my heart. Thanks for doing this video Bekah.
I was homeschooled until I went to public high school. I’m a pretty quiet and introverted person, but people are always surprised when I tell them I was homeschooled, like they would’ve expected me to be incapable of human interaction 😂
As with everything there are pros and cons, but homeschooling offered me opportunities public school wouldn’t have in elementary and middle school. We met weekly with a small group of homeschool families to do history and anthropology lessons. During our weekly lessons, we would cook traditional food from the culture and time period we were studying. It has definitely inspired a lifelong love for cooking! I also think learning to cook foods from different cultures at a young age made me a much more open-minded eater than most people I meet. You can learn so much about different cultures and historical periods by experiencing the food, and so many people miss out on that by not being willing to try new foods. I don’t want to homeschool my own children, but I do want to provide them with as many of those same positive experiences as I can.
I'm pregnant and a former teacher and I'm highly considering homeschooling my son! Nervous about not getting any "me time" or time or away from my son (I know it's needed for both of us, he can't be with me 24/7) other than that I'm so excited to plan activities. :)
Yes, yes, yes!!!! Thank you Bekah for so openly and honestly and courageously sharing your perspective and representing so many of us while you did so!!!
I love hearing your perspective. I have the opposite timeline. I went to public school until high school. Then I was home schooled, starting my freshman year. My mom went through an accredited home school program, and the program came up with the curriculum with each student catered to their learning style and offered a graduation ceremony and diplomas. I was able to select subjects that I was interested in and was shocked when the teacher from the program asked me what I wanted to study and how I wanted to study. Did I want a textbook, work sheets, or a DVD video lesson. So I could choose to learn my way. I was also someone who read at a higher grade level and was excited to read the books I wanted. I was sh*t at math, so I was able to go really slow with my math. I felt like public school left me under prepared to work independently. I felt lost at first, not having someone telling me what to do at all times. When to change subjects, when to eat, when to take bathroom breaks, I was a public school robot. I socialized a lot at sports and was always complemented on my ability to talk to adults, confidentiality, and understand adult concepts. The biggest negative about public school was the drama it was really stressful and distracting. Honestly most of the kids from my home school program went to Ivy league collages and got their dream jobs (not me I'm a self employed hippy). And most of the kids from my public school got pregnant in high school didn't go to college or went to a trade school and still live in the same town. No judging just honesty the public school drama and dr*gs were crazy in my town.
This video was absolutely amazing. Beautifully told. I will not be sending my two year old to public school and I have much anxiety about homeschooling her. Thank you so much for sharing all your experiences and yes I would love to listen and watch you do a video with your mom included to hear her memories of it all as well.
Thank you again for making me excited versus fearful for taking this on.
My son has autism and ADHD and being at school definitely makes him have higher needs and struggle more. When he's at home learning with me he's having fun. When he's at school he just has meltdowns and panic attacks for a majority of the day.
Homeschooled my kiddos for 20 years in total. Great discussion Bekah!
To put it simply, homeschooling is an extension of parenting.
Considering homeschooling for my 3 and 1.5 yr olds and this was SO helpful! I agree with all your points but hearing from someone who lived it and loves it enough to give your kids the same experience = priceless
Ive always had a cynical view on homeschooling, I probably wouldn’t do it myself still but this video was really informative and has opened my mindset! Thank you for sharing this video!
Love this perspective! We’re highly considering homeschool right now and it’s nice to hear your pov bc I’ve mostly heard hs moms and educators discuss it.
Your mom is a rock star! ❤
I loved hearing about your experience and so happy you liked it! The only thing that “weirds” me out about homeschooling is the parents ability to teach (or not teach) what they want to their kid. 😅 Similar to what you mentioned about learning Creationism and that the earth is only 4,000 years old.
But also states chose what public schools teach as well. So many schools are getting rid of certain books or banning certain history lessons ect. And purposely leaving stuff out.
@@haleysmith5710 very true nowadays! 100%! But I didn’t feel that way when I was in grade school (more than 10 years ago)
BEKAH!!! MY QUEEN! thank you for this video. I think you honor your mom so well. It makes me emotional. You are a great daughter to her & i can't wait to start my journey homeschooling my daughter knowing you are on this journey too. Proud of you and excited for this new season of Bekah outside of Chatty Broads.
I LOVE U. I was homeschooled kindergarten-12th grade and I loved it! I truly believe I learned how to lead and think for myself in a way that my friends (who went to public school) would share that they did not. I'm super thankful for my parents!
I was kind of like you - in and out of school situations depending on what worked best for me and what I requested. The thing that always bothered me about homeschool was that my parents never allowed for the defined *breaks* you get in traditional school. It felt like every vacation, I had to write a report, and I had to look at what they wanted me to look at. I also felt very self conscious of what was on my transcript at the end of highschool, because I felt my mom was a bit generous with her definition of “Biology” class. My mom also never actually taught me anything, AND I had undiagnosed ADHD, AND I’m a very social person, so homeschool felt like I was on my own to the nth degree. That being said, the cons to traditional school and socializing are just like you said. I hope we’re able to find a balance for my son!
I had such a different perception of you on Bachelor, I loveeee your outlook on life and how fearless you are in living against the grain!!
Do you think it's a downside of homeschooling to not be exposed to children/people who come from many different families? I feel like if you're in a homeschool co-op, you're often with a lot of other crunchy moms and similar lifestyles lol. Thoughts? Loved the video 😊
We had a variety of families in our homeschool group from all walks of life! It all depends on the co-op you join!
Love hearing the side of the homeschool child/ student 🌻
I was not homeschooled, but am currently homeschooling my two children!
I personally was not homeschooled, but most of my close family friends were and we did family “homeschool field trips” all the time together. They also were part of larger homeschool co-ops that helped teach more detailed subjects for the older kids. Most of these friends continued to large universities and were completely “normal”
Question for your mom: What is one thing looking back now that you would’ve done differently in home schooling your children?
I was severely bullied in school and then homeschooled most of middle school & high school. The school system paid for a teacher to come to my house daily since the situation was so bad. I was allowed to go to school in person for art classes and sports if I wanted. I would 100% homeschool my kids after my own horrible experience in the school system. I agree there are wayyyy better ways to socialize children then school. Kids would a actually threaten my life and sexually harass me daily and I went to school in a super wealthy town.
Completely changed my mind about home schooling! Every single thing you brought up is so true. Can you home school my kid? Lol
I homeschool my 2 young stepsons and we love it. The freedom to master concepts before we move on, the flexibility of our day, just all of it is a major blessing.
Thanks for sharing!
I would LOVE if you had your mom on, too.
Where did her confidence to homeschool stem from? What kind of mantras or thoughts did she have around it that ultimately made her do it and kept her going? What gave her confidence that she was doing the right thing vs the norm. How did she choose curriculums?
PERIOD PERIOD PERIOOOOOOD. I love this video, Bekah. I agree, the school system often sucks the life out of children.
This was great! I’m considering homeschooling my kids and would love to also hear from your mom!
We started homeschooling this year! Love it. My comeback for all the questions are always “well there are (weird/ can’t read/ etc) kids in public school too”
I’m a public school teacher and I can’t wait to homeschool my children. I became a teacher because I wanted to teach kids how to love learning but the system is so toxic and I feel like I can’t do what I was meant to do. I have a few friends in the same boat as me and I can’t wait to have a great community!
Can you elaborate on why you say the system is so toxic? I’m considering homeschooling my little ones.
I’m hoping to homeschool my 7 and 8 year old this next school year for the first time. We are going to do a Spanish curriculum this summer and read aloud some chapter books for sure. I am going to be putting in the work with my mental health so that I can hopefully be the best I can for my kids and myself. I don’t have a ton of support from those around me to homeschool, so I also want to prove to all of them that I can do it!
Thanks for the video! I really enjoyed hearing your experience. I am sure it will be super helpful for others as well.
I just started homeschooling a year ago and I so appreciate this video, I’m going to send people this video when they ask questions lol perfect explanation
Bekah thank you for this video. I appreciate your perspective and if I ever have kids, they will be homeschooled 😇
i also highly suggest Quaker school for those looking for alternative schooling but may not be able to take on a teacher role :) its kinda in between home-schooling and montessori.
I have a five year old and this really makes me want to homeschool except i'm a single mother and don't have the option to stay home and do this. HOwever this really opened my eyes to it. I hope I can do it one day with the right partner
Thank you Bekah for such a beautiful video, it’s inspiring! ♥︎
This has nothing to do with this video, but I think it would be fun if you did a video of your favorite clothing/jewelry pieces and what they mean to you/where you got them. Our wardrobes are often an extension of ourselves, and your style is unique and fresh, and I just think it would be a fun video :)
i absolutely loved this, thank you for sharing
❤ from a fellow homeschool graduate. Ps i loved John taylor gattos work and thoughts on the school system! Highly recommend!
I’d really like to homeschool my future kids, but I live in Spain where it’s a big grey area. Technically it’s illegal
How did you find the experience of your home being both a home and a school, was it easier or harder to focus than when you went to traditional school? I work with kids aged 3-6 at a Montessori school, and I've noticed the children (In general) show more respect to teachers than to parents (Respect in regard to listening and using quiet voices, which is necessary in maintaining a calm learning environment for everyone). I want to homeschool when I have children but I worry that the home environment will be too chaotic for structured learning, though obviously it's great for unstructured, experiential learning which is more important anyway.
That can definitely be tough, I remember when I was homeschooled having a hard time focusing. Group learning with friends really helps because then it’s not just you and your parent fighting each other. Routine also, my mom was never great at sticking to a really good routine around learning and I think that was part of the issue.
Thank you so much for making this video ❤
Great video! Would love a video with your mom and her insight!
I just found your channel and I can relate to and love your content! I hope you do great!
Definitely make a video with your mom!
I’m curious if she every felt like she wasn’t doing enough? I’d be so worried I wasn’t doing *enough*
The hair is giving "berries and cream"😊
as a person that follows you on insta and loves your content - I am so glad you're posting more on this platform! YT is my fave and I loved seeing you on my homepage! long form content ftw 😤🤎
Great video great topic love hearing your perspective 👍👍👍
Love this! Your experience sounds almost identical to mine except I had less private/public school experience. I’m homeschooling my 5 kiddos too❤
So much of this resonates with me! I was homeschooled on and off through elementary. It was always our choice if we wanted to home school or attend public school each year. I felt like I got more beneficial socialization outside of public school, definitely felt like I could interact with people of other ages, and did not have any issue returning back into public school! We also had a home school group that we attended 1-2 times per week and went on "field trips" with :)
I’m new here and just started watching your channel. This video is interesting especially your comments about institutional oppression and being raised conservatively Christian…which has its own umbrella of oppression. How do you reconcile those two worldviews / have you talked about your religious beliefs in previous videos I’m not seeing? Genuinely curious
I went to public school , worst year of my life honestly 😅 I plan on homeschooling my children ❤
public school kid here - what's weird is that until puberty hit around 6th grade, I DID NOT CARE what other people thought. Then all of the sudden, all of us magically cared in 6th grade and beyond. So I am wondering if any homeschooled kids experienced this shift even at home in 6th grade... perhaps a desire to go to public school and a desperate desire to fit in around this age...
that's a great point! I will say the environment in my high school homeschool co-ops was still a wayyyy different vibe than my private/public school peers. a lot more chill and accepting.
I was homeschooled until I went to high school and had both homed school and public school friends all through childhood. What I’ll say is, I don’t remember ever caring much or even thinking about what I looked like until I was in environments with a lot of other kids who went to public school. The summer between my seventh and eighth grade year, I did a kid’s play with the local community theater that a lot of public school kids participated in. Experiencing how a lot of the public school kids behaved towards everyone during that was the first time I remember being self conscious about my body, specifically my weight. That’s something I never remember experiencing from interacting with the homeschool kids I grew up around.
@@jennifertroth737 that IS super interesting
@@BekahMartinez this is great food for thought. I am more open to homeschooling now. Thanks!
Thanks for the video! I’m going to homeschool my kids too!😊
You should start a podcast called “Bekah Rants” and just go off about whatever topics you’re thinking about. But maybe that’s what this channel already is haha.
I'm glad you touched on the privilege of it, that's been my hold up with the idea. Privilege and diversity. (Not that the public schooling I went to had much diversity...)
School was the best days ❤
How did she keep on top of the housework and the homeschooling at the same time? Did you have more chores when you were homeschooled?
I’d love to be able to homeschool my kids at some point in the future, but is that feasible when both parents are at work all day?
Love your hair!!!
I was also homeschooled and have a different perspective than you. But I also never went to school. I wish I had had experience with both because I feel constantly unsure of what all I missed out on.
let me tell you, there were some fun aspects...but it's not like the movies and a lot of my time in school was trying to figure out how to get out of school lol
@@BekahMartinez your recollection of your childhood and day to day schooling sounds a lot like how mine was. Unfortunately I came out more resentful of the religious aspects as well. But it is nice to reflect on the good times again. I just do not plan to homeschool my own kids.
As someone who was 100% homeschooled until college, I appreciate you debunking these homeschooling myths and explaining why homeschooling is a MUCH more natural way to “educate” children. Formal schools offer some benefits to children, sure, but I think school is, on the whole, and negative model for bringing up children.
I will add: homeschooling can certainly be done poorly, too! I am one of seven children, and my parents fully unschooled us, so I was not given any structure of any kind, my parents did not facilitate any social outlets for us, and that was hard on me. It really is on the parent to create a well-rounded and enriching upbringing for their child - but that is the way it has always been since the beginning of time. Parents have always been responsible for preparing their kids to survive the rest of their lives. We have really outsourced that responsibility to school teachers in many ways, which is entirely impractical and also unnatural.
What curriculum do you recommend?
I'd love to see a video with your mom
I was bullied in high school and don’t think I was too weird 😂 I mean the person that bullied me was in band with me so joke’s on her she was a weirdo too I guess 😅
One major reason I wouldn't homeschool is I would want a homeschool group but I know that due to where I live I would only have access to conservative Christian families.
Follow up 🙌
Did she ever say what happened to their cat that got out and was hit by a car?
The fact that you had to qualify your statement with "I'm not saying ADHD isn't real but..." kind of tells me that sort of is what you think. ADHD is a neurological disorder. Would you question the validity of autism? I get the point you're trying to make, and as someone with ADHD, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, but you could get that point across without the qualifier in the beginning. That said, being able to participate in band made every bad thing about high school worth it. The average parent can't teach their child a musical instrument, and even if they could, they can't replicate the experience of being in a full band every day with a conductor.
Are you the actor from Jesus revolution? Or you look just like her
If you believe what the Bible says, the earth is around 6000 years old based on the genealogical lineage of people that is written in the Bible
Wrong