Why didn't they move that would've been easier for the kids. Two adults 55+ could go into an older adult community. You could've worked out buying them out.
Ariel I am Soo proud of you. As someone who is breaking generational habits and curses. I follow you on IG which is how I found your podcast. Your kids are amazing!! Keep guarding your peace. You got this mama!
Why did you leave if half the home is yours? I'm sorry Parents or not, I would take them to court. That doesn't give them the right to mistreat your Family.
@@lindadrinks-johnson1904does not sound like it if she would have to leave if something happened to her parents and then they would have the house sold and $ split 3 ways. She should've protected herself legally for that situation and if the parents disagreed I would not have moved in.
She’s not, she’s respecting them cause they are still her parents. Being mad at a situation with ppl does not mean you need to add negativity to it. Recognize the situation, gain understanding and find the most peaceful out come for your self. Those are still her parents and her kids grandparents, family go through issues all the time. She doesn’t have to bash them to tell the truth. The truth alone will show their character and God will handle the situation. There is still a respect and order. They have raised her into the responsible women that she is, they are owed respect, but more likely she could have found a better separation plan for her parents and the kids to consider their concerns so she can have love and respect between them instead of hostility, and resentment for getting in a business deal with each other. It would of been respectful of her to give her parents their space, they raised a child already, not every grandparent wants to feel like they raising children, and that’s what they most likely felt like. They wanted their adult time.
@jazstyles8410 Then they shouldn't have bought a huge house with her, only to kick her and her kids out right before the holidays. They should've considered what it would take beforehand and either completely seperate the house or not buy it at all. A huge purchase like this, if it goes south, could mean financial ruin for a young person. Yet, they treat their own daughter like this! Why didn't the grandparents leave ? .. but no, they uprooted all those kids who have school and need stability. They sound selfish and unreasonable and they're probably the type to turn around and expect to be cared for in old age, or wonder why they're not close to their daughter and grandkids.. because you made them homeless.. that's why.
@@stardust26895people aren’t accustomed to recognizing abuse for what it is: abuse! People will make excuses and cherry pick who is right and wrong all the time. There are some very vile people out there and some of those people just happen to have kids! That doesn’t change the fact that they’re terrible people! The obsession with humbling younger adults and invalidating their experiences with such self righteous audacity is so ridiculous yet so common and dare I say socially acceptable. It’s a tragedy how much hate gets swept under the rug because “that’s still your family” It’s so callous and tone deaf
If you're on the deed/title/mortgage I would look into selling my interest in the property or rent out your portion...they don't want to live with you maybe they prefer living with complete strangers...then take the money to buy another property for yourself and your children
Yeeahh idk if the whole story is being told or what… maybe her parents used her $$ for the initial funding (dp/cc) but financed in their names… if thats the case then she probably didn’t get her name on the mortgage or deed/title.. 😢
You can sue the estate for your money. A will is contestable also. Just because they wrote it in the will doesn’t mean it can’t be changed. You could also just sue now.
she needs to understand the law. because even though the parents have in the will that the house is to be split equally, they cant enforce that because she is also an owner of the house. now if she isnt on the deed, then she has completely screwed herself. as long as she is on the deed, half the value of the house is her's and their half would be split 3 ways. i really hope she lawyers up because this story is insane
They could’ve refinanced the house, pulled her share of funds plus equity out of the home, and compensated her relocation efforts. Just found her channel today, so trying to get caught up. I pray she and her children are doing well now
The children will remember this. And the grandparents will be hoping on a relationship later in life. And will be shocked when they want little to nothing to do with them. This is so sad.
What happened to the money you put towards the house ? It seems they wanted the house and used your money to qualify. Ariel, your adopted parents are resentful. please start praying for an easy life. Why should you keep being stressed out. This is not how life should be. You deserved a soft life.
I was so shocked when I saw the video of your dad with the stick and the fan trying to get at Dre! I have never heard of grandparents cussing their grandchildren. I am sooo happy you moved.
Years ago a sibling wanted the family to invest into a multi family house. My answer was a resounding NO. I already knew boundaries would be crossed and even if we had different floors and our own space, it would be the same as living with parents and sibling(s). Most parents don't understand respect and boundaries and believe their rules trumps everything. And certain siblings can be the same way. For some families it can work but ground rules and mutual respect is important. Oh and minding your own business helps too.
Your parents were abusive. I hope you kept all of your receipts for the house. Tell you adoptive parents to buy you out because if they run into trouble, it will be on your shoulders. I don't think they would have a problem with that.
Tik tok supporter. Came across this video for the first time. Not done but being that this was 11 months ago, I'm excited to see what God did for you & your family this past year
I was thinking about moving and "buying" a new home with my husband's parents...but over time seeing how the live and what they want, we decided to buy the home separately, then leave space for them if they ever desired to move in later. We are also newlyweds, so it would be nice to live alone for a bit first.
Smart choice. I know the economy is tough, and folks have multiple families and generations living together now. But I’ve always felt like you can’t have too many adults living in the same household, especially parents and their adult children. They soon forget you’re adults and think they still have parental control.
Please don’t do it!!! Parents aren’t meant to live with children forever!!! Unless you are helping take care of them in their old age as a way of honoring them don’t do it for the sake of your marriage and your future children
They stole $50k from you, and would rather lose the house than pay you back. I'm sorry this happened to you, but I'm glad your heart is open enough to trust others, I hope you realize how precious a gift your trust is, and the next person that receives it actually earns and deserves it. Everyone, avoid doing business with family, gifts only. And if you do end up doing business with family, friends, and people you aren't legally married to, please have lawyers draft contracts, or at least go online, find the proper forms, and to to the bank so it can be notarized. Also, NEVER put money into a house, or fix it up if your name isn't on it, and without the proper paperwork so you or them can leave whenever you want and not lose your investment.
They were just as abusive as your ex. Shame on them. You're going through something many of us haven't even been through half. You are doing a great job.❤
I'm also glad that she has been putting it out there ALL of the things that she has been going through with her parents and her brothers. So, when she starts distancing herself from them, no one can say that SHE turned her back on THEM for her biological family
@cherylgordon6436 they're still her parents. I know many adoptees who are loved by and who love their parents. I know some who hate their parents as well. I know natural born kids who were horribly abused by their parents but still, somehow, respect them. 🤷🏾♀️
Okay, everybody her parents were adopting parents. I can understand now. Not all adoptive parents love you unconditionally, like they would love their own children. Shame on them.😮
Ariel should’ve gotten a lawyer before they signed the papers for the house because both of them put in the same amount of money so they had no right to put u and ur kids out.They would’ve given me my money back.Kirma is a mf.The adoptive parents will regret this!! You’re a good person!! I’m praying 🙏🏽for things to get easier for you
True. What I don't understand is why she would enter into a deal with people she knew were like this. Why would she put this much into something and not be on the mortgage/deed? It's clear she has a problem with setting boundaries. How does one respond to someone throwing a rock at their child with "well, I guess we are moving"? A UA-cam short brought me to watch this video. I'm not familiar with this content creator. Clearly, there is a lot of background to her story that I'm missing.
You’re a very nice and respectful person; your parents sound… I couldn’t imagine being okay with my daughter and her five kids having to look for a house, while me and my husband are staying in a house big enough for everyone. Especially knowing her past with an abusive man 🤦🏾♀️
We need to stop calling evil shit petty !!! Call it what it is EVIL… and older people are set in their evil ass ways !!! Notice kids and geriatric patients have no filter whatsoever… the evil shows with age !!! Sorry you experienced such pain from the people that are supposed to love you !!! Your a great mommy and they were jealous of you and your relationship with your biological children 😢😢
Now I understand why some old people die miserable on nursing homes with no children or relatives to visit or look after them. Sorry for having to experience all that in their hands. May God heal your pain & clear your path and open doors of good opportunities for you and your kids. May He play divine helpers every step of your way. Much love sis💕
Ariel, I wish I had that kinda discipline and respect for my parents when I was mishandled by them. I wish I could’ve honored my parents and had given them grace in moments that gut punched me. God is going to blow your mind. Honor thy mother and father is a commandment, man oh man. You’re a real one.
I want to cry because the past few months have been tough and I felt as if I’d never find the light. I hope one day I am able to make it out with my kids.
highkey can relate to your kids in this situation . dad moved in with grandma during covid and because my mom’s living situation wasn’t as stable , me and my sister went with him . the verbal abuse was mainly directed towards my sister but dad never really nipped it in the bud like he should’ve because of his own trauma but she was absolutely the kind of person who would verbally “bully” you into getting her way . Went to family therapy and even that didn’t help much , so my sister moved out . Literally couldn’t imagine it without her so currently spending my breaks from college on my mom’s couch . Not nearly as comfortable physically , but that emotional peace of mind knowing my every action isn’t being scrutinized is absolutely worth it .
Thanks for sharing. Your DV story makes more sense to me after hearing this. While you might not have witnessed or experienced physical abuse by them, your parents seem to have a history of mistreatment and displays of dominance, which impacted your self-worth. I pray continued success in your healing journey. Blessings to you and your family.
True parents would never do this to you. Your parents don't love you. They don't. And they hate their grandchildren too. I've never heard of this bevahiour before. These people HATE you. Like truly HATE. I don't know what went through their head but they need prayers because this is plain EVIL.
You sound just as evil have you ever heard if you don't have anything nice to say STFU how is what you comment is helping or showing any compassion or empath! BTW there are "TRUE" parents who have done worse your just mean
This is my first time watching your content and honestly I think your parents asking you to leave was the best thing. I can relate to a lot of things you mention. Trust me hunny it gets better , peace is the best thing we can have in our lives. I wish you all the best to you and your children
Ariel!!! I am so very proud of you!!! I’ve been following you on IG for almost a year…I saw how you taught your kids how to budget!! Awesome job!! I was a single mom of 3 for most of their lives, they all had different dads but my ex husband raised them all..he was also abusive..anyway…decades later and I put myself through school and was able to afford private school for my younger two, my kids all turned out great!! I just turned 60 and no kids in my house…my girls are in stable relationships, phew!! I just wanted to share how proud I am of you and also that I’m sorry about how petty parents can get….I’ll be praying for all of you, you are doing an amazing job raising your kids!!! Keep it up!! ❤❤❤ Thank you Jesus!!
I know I'm late, and since this episode you are in a better space BUT you can leave the individuals that raised you where they are. There is no longer a need to involve them in you (and the kids) lives especially if they have resorted to treating you like that. They may have outgrown the reason for being in your life and that's ok.
I think that a lot changed afer Ariel found out that she was adopted and IN HER PERENTS EYES, how dare she look for her biological family after they have taken care of her for over 2 decades. They knew full well going into the agreement of purchasing a generational house that they didn't want to tolerate her or her children. I think that they used her for half of the down payment on that house to get some of their money back that they spent on her
This video popped up on my feed and as a mom my heart wants to pour into a woman I've never met. I do pray God blesses Ariel and her children with LOVING RELATIONSHIPS from people with genuine hearts. Although you have not prayed for an easy life I do pray you experience ease and restoration. Life has not been fair to you. I pray you facilitate solid lives that help break generational curses. From one single mother to another...may God bless you beyond your wildest dreams.. relationally and financially. ❤
I know you have moved but for your dad to hit your child with a stick that was a charge because the stick was used but you where so nice to not get him lock up so I respect you for that. But just don’t be so forgiving the next time . 🙏
I honor your God given strength. You are thriving in your gift and doing what you can to show up everyday. I pray God grants you the softest life possible because you deserve it!
Ariel, I pray God’s blessings for you and your children. I hope you and your children are seeking counseling. This was my first video of your pod and my heart was heavy listening to your story. ❤❤
Thank you for sharing. People keep talking about generational living but it doesnt work for every family. I've always wondered if seperate houses on one plot of land will work for my family. Because we cannot live with each other 😂😂😂
We would have sold the house…period Plus if you really know your parents this well…why would you do anything financially with them. Financial relationships is very very serious with anyone…you would of been better in a small house in peace🙏🏽✨✨💫💫
Sounds like this woman grew up with an abusive father and mother, so choosing an abusive partner was what she knew. The way they treated her and her children was nothing new. I am glad she and her children are safe and well. Yes, her parents deserve peace in their lives, too. However, they owe her $50K!
Please don't think you can ask God for too much. He will help us and we aren't a burden to him. You are doing such a great job raising little humans and taking care of yourself as well. I am learning a lot from you as a soon to be first time mom. Your children will remember the stances you took to protect them from being treated unfairly against the world. I pray for abundance for you and your comfort healing. Prayers to you and the kiddos❤.
Because you have such a big Forgiving heart, you'll always be blessed, they are your parents and no matter what, you're are being the respectful, loving daughter God intended you to be. Why waste time fighting with them, we are all on the train together and no one knows when will be their last stop, we need to love each other until that day comes, don't waste a second holding unto a grudge. Be unapologetically you.❤
I had the same issue with getting a house. Moved into our house 4 weeks before giving birth after prayer at church and putting my faith into God because it was completely out of my hands.
I know it is hard to byhave a relationship with your parent when they are treating your kid and you like you were living there for free. Why do they have so much power that you left? Your parents agreed to the living situation why are you just moving? You should have stayed until the house was sold. I'm so sorry they are treating you this way. GIVE IT TO GOD.
The key is to buy your own shii. No splitting no 50/50-no partner or parent! Can’t nobody put you out of anything you own %100. I feel for you love! This is a lesson for all of us.
I think it’s OK to force the sale of that house. You are supposed to be their #1 priority. You deserve better. It’s not wrong to force the sale or maybe require that they pay rent to use your half of the home.
Do you think your parents are resentful for you reaching out to your biological family? Is that a reason why they would behave in this manner. It’s heartbreaking.
They definitely are it's so blatant. They were so verbally abusive to her and the kids which is so unnecessary. I get it they don't want to share space anymore, but they could've handled this in a civil manner. She's good because it would be a loooooong time before I interact with them again unless they're ready to talk and genuinely apologize.
I just want to say from experience; when you've lived through abuse, severe emotional unavailability, disfunction, etc... for years, it distorts your understanding of what's okay, appropriate or acceptable. Its hard to decipher what's okay and whats not. I just want to point out that this isn't normal behavior for parents. Their behavior and attitude around your well-being and the well-being of your children is saying that they don't care about you or the children. What you described isn't behavior that stems from love.
Life is weird sometimes… my parents live in a whole different continent and they would love to wake up with my their noisy grand children. My mother in law is always asking us to move in with her because she wants to see her grand kids grow up. And these grandparents get the opportunity and they do not want it. Time on this earth is limited and it should be spent with people that matter.
Hi Ariel. I am doing well. I haven't started Christmas shopping because my husband and I are visiting our families for Christmas. We will shop when we get there.
New Subscriber DECEMBER 2024. Hate this happened to Ariel and her kids. They are definitely narcs, unloving, hateful, jealous...... and were intentionally inflicting pain that will take years of counseling to overcome 😢. Can't wait to watch her current update ❤
With everything I'm hearing, I wonder if you'll be surprised in the end and find yourself left out of the will with no recourse to access the property you paid for. You sound like you've been used. Ill be praying for you, May God cover you
I don't understand if there are separate living quarters, down payment you paid,you paid half the mortgage why you moved? You and your kids should have stayed on your side of the house.
Where you messed up was not consulting a lawyer about this before buying the house. You left the window open for your parents to take advantage of you and your money. Now they can sell the house and they can get your 50000 you out in on the down payment
This is not normal. Your "parents" must've been a little mean before you moved in? Why would you put yourself in this situation if you knew what they were like? I could totally see two houses next to each other or in the same neighborhood, but why did you do one house?
From listening to these stories it seems like they treated Ariel different the moment they had their own children
Why didn't they move that would've been easier for the kids. Two adults 55+ could go into an older adult community. You could've worked out buying them out.
Sounds like they knew all along they didn’t want to live together but wanted her money for the house.
Ariel I am Soo proud of you. As someone who is breaking generational habits and curses. I follow you on IG which is how I found your podcast. Your kids are amazing!! Keep guarding your peace. You got this mama!
Why did you leave if half the home is yours? I'm sorry Parents or not, I would take them to court. That doesn't give them the right to mistreat your Family.
Is her name on the deed. Did she sign papers at closing?
@@lindadrinks-johnson1904 If her name is on the deed as Joint Tenant w/ Survivorship upon parents unliving the property will converse to her.
Not only that, she has kids to care for, they are just 2 people, they should've moved.
@@adosbattle7105Thats what i said! She may not be on the deed.
@@lindadrinks-johnson1904does not sound like it if she would have to leave if something happened to her parents and then they would have the house sold and $ split 3 ways.
She should've protected herself legally for that situation and if the parents disagreed I would not have moved in.
The way mom would be homeless and dad would be in jail after throwing a rock at my child. Ain’t no way!
sad.
I don’t care how bad it gets, I could never imagine mistreating my grandkids. 😢
I'm sorry but I couldn't even do something so awful to my child who is has always been good & never could I hurt my grandchild.....
I believe you're definitely giving your parents too much grace
I mean, she can't very well, just say what we all think of them now, can she?😂😂😂😂😂😂
She really gave them so much grace and that’s a damn shame cause they don’t deserve none of it
She’s not, she’s respecting them cause they are still her parents. Being mad at a situation with ppl does not mean you need to add negativity to it. Recognize the situation, gain understanding and find the most peaceful out come for your self. Those are still her parents and her kids grandparents, family go through issues all the time. She doesn’t have to bash them to tell the truth. The truth alone will show their character and God will handle the situation. There is still a respect and order. They have raised her into the responsible women that she is, they are owed respect, but more likely she could have found a better separation plan for her parents and the kids to consider their concerns so she can have love and respect between them instead of hostility, and resentment for getting in a business deal with each other. It would of been respectful of her to give her parents their space, they raised a child already, not every grandparent wants to feel like they raising children, and that’s what they most likely felt like. They wanted their adult time.
@jazstyles8410 Then they shouldn't have bought a huge house with her, only to kick her and her kids out right before the holidays. They should've considered what it would take beforehand and either completely seperate the house or not buy it at all.
A huge purchase like this, if it goes south, could mean financial ruin for a young person. Yet, they treat their own daughter like this!
Why didn't the grandparents leave ? .. but no, they uprooted all those kids who have school and need stability.
They sound selfish and unreasonable and they're probably the type to turn around and expect to be cared for in old age, or wonder why they're not close to their daughter and grandkids.. because you made them homeless.. that's why.
@@stardust26895people aren’t accustomed to recognizing abuse for what it is: abuse! People will make excuses and cherry pick who is right and wrong all the time. There are some very vile people out there and some of those people just happen to have kids! That doesn’t change the fact that they’re terrible people! The obsession with humbling younger adults and invalidating their experiences with such self righteous audacity is so ridiculous yet so common and dare I say socially acceptable. It’s a tragedy how much hate gets swept under the rug because “that’s still your family”
It’s so callous and tone deaf
If you're on the deed/title/mortgage I would look into selling my interest in the property or rent out your portion...they don't want to live with you maybe they prefer living with complete strangers...then take the money to buy another property for yourself and your children
Good one😊. But good people are going to do good.
She needs an lawyer.
It's clear she's not on any of the paperwork. Her parents wouldn't be able to put the entire house in their will/estate if she was on the deed.
Yeeahh idk if the whole story is being told or what… maybe her parents used her $$ for the initial funding (dp/cc) but financed in their names… if thats the case then she probably didn’t get her name on the mortgage or deed/title.. 😢
@Morelorrr i agree I know she is giving an overview but more is here. She also didn't mention who paid down payment.
Parent housing situation starts at 23:00
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You can sue the estate for your money. A will is contestable also. Just because they wrote it in the will doesn’t mean it can’t be changed. You could also just sue now.
she needs to understand the law. because even though the parents have in the will that the house is to be split equally, they cant enforce that because she is also an owner of the house. now if she isnt on the deed, then she has completely screwed herself. as long as she is on the deed, half the value of the house is her's and their half would be split 3 ways. i really hope she lawyers up because this story is insane
They could’ve refinanced the house, pulled her share of funds plus equity out of the home, and compensated her relocation efforts. Just found her channel today, so trying to get caught up. I pray she and her children are doing well now
The children will remember this. And the grandparents will be hoping on a relationship later in life. And will be shocked when they want little to nothing to do with them. This is so sad.
What happened to the money you put towards the house ? It seems they wanted the house and used your money to qualify. Ariel, your adopted parents are resentful.
please start praying for an easy life. Why should you keep being stressed out. This is not how life should be. You deserved a soft life.
I was so shocked when I saw the video of your dad with the stick and the fan trying to get at Dre! I have never heard of grandparents cussing their grandchildren. I am sooo happy you moved.
Years ago a sibling wanted the family to invest into a multi family house. My answer was a resounding NO. I already knew boundaries would be crossed and even if we had different floors and our own space, it would be the same as living with parents and sibling(s).
Most parents don't understand respect and boundaries and believe their rules trumps everything.
And certain siblings can be the same way.
For some families it can work but ground rules and mutual respect is important. Oh and minding your own business helps too.
I believe "this is my house" comments from the mom or dad. Dealt with that and was paying all the rent. Crazy.
Toothbrushand toothpaste 😮 hit a new level of pettiness towards the grandbabies smh😢
Just evil
The Real Issue was them putting Your property in their Will. And them disrespecting you is Crazyy
Your parents were abusive. I hope you kept all of your receipts for the house. Tell you adoptive parents to buy you out because if they run into trouble, it will be on your shoulders. I don't think they would have a problem with that.
Tik tok supporter. Came across this video for the first time. Not done but being that this was 11 months ago, I'm excited to see what God did for you & your family this past year
I was thinking about moving and "buying" a new home with my husband's parents...but over time seeing how the live and what they want, we decided to buy the home separately, then leave space for them if they ever desired to move in later. We are also newlyweds, so it would be nice to live alone for a bit first.
Don't do it!!!!!!! Yelling from afar for your future....... Trusttttttttt me
Yeah…don’t do that. I been married for 20 years and moving in laws in and you’re newly weds is a recipe for divorce.
Smart choice. I know the economy is tough, and folks have multiple families and generations living together now. But I’ve always felt like you can’t have too many adults living in the same household, especially parents and their adult children. They soon forget you’re adults and think they still have parental control.
Please don’t do it!!! Parents aren’t meant to live with children forever!!! Unless you are helping take care of them in their old age as a way of honoring them don’t do it for the sake of your marriage and your future children
They stole $50k from you, and would rather lose the house than pay you back. I'm sorry this happened to you, but I'm glad your heart is open enough to trust others, I hope you realize how precious a gift your trust is, and the next person that receives it actually earns and deserves it.
Everyone, avoid doing business with family, gifts only. And if you do end up doing business with family, friends, and people you aren't legally married to, please have lawyers draft contracts, or at least go online, find the proper forms, and to to the bank so it can be notarized. Also, NEVER put money into a house, or fix it up if your name isn't on it, and without the proper paperwork so you or them can leave whenever you want and not lose your investment.
They were just as abusive as your ex.
Shame on them.
You're going through something many of us haven't even been through half.
You are doing a great job.❤
I'm also glad that she has been putting it out there ALL of the things that she has been going through with her parents and her brothers. So, when she starts distancing herself from them, no one can say that SHE turned her back on THEM for her biological family
So the first abuse Ariel experienced was at the hands of her parents
These people adopted her to make that clear, 😢
@@cherylgordon6436 That's 3 times worse.
@cherylgordon6436 they're still her parents. I know many adoptees who are loved by and who love their parents. I know some who hate their parents as well. I know natural born kids who were horribly abused by their parents but still, somehow, respect them. 🤷🏾♀️
Okay, everybody her parents were adopting parents. I can understand now. Not all adoptive parents love you unconditionally, like they would love their own children. Shame on them.😮
This!!!
Ariel should’ve gotten a lawyer before they signed the papers for the house because both of them put in the same amount of money so they had no right to put u and ur kids out.They would’ve given me my money back.Kirma is a mf.The adoptive parents will regret this!! You’re a good person!! I’m praying 🙏🏽for things to get easier for you
True. What I don't understand is why she would enter into a deal with people she knew were like this. Why would she put this much into something and not be on the mortgage/deed? It's clear she has a problem with setting boundaries. How does one respond to someone throwing a rock at their child with "well, I guess we are moving"?
A UA-cam short brought me to watch this video. I'm not familiar with this content creator. Clearly, there is a lot of background to her story that I'm missing.
@@jesusmywholehaschangedme too 😢
Not all birth parents love you unconditionally. So your comment is stupid
You’re a very nice and respectful person; your parents sound… I couldn’t imagine being okay with my daughter and her five kids having to look for a house, while me and my husband are staying in a house big enough for everyone. Especially knowing her past with an abusive man 🤦🏾♀️
Be Encouraged Ariel. God is ordering your steps.
Amen!!
We need to stop calling evil shit petty !!! Call it what it is EVIL… and older people are set in their evil ass ways !!! Notice kids and geriatric patients have no filter whatsoever… the evil shows with age !!! Sorry you experienced such pain from the people that are supposed to love you !!! Your a great mommy and they were jealous of you and your relationship with your biological children 😢😢
Now I understand why some old people die miserable on nursing homes with no children or relatives to visit or look after them. Sorry for having to experience all that in their hands. May God heal your pain & clear your path and open doors of good opportunities for you and your kids. May He play divine helpers every step of your way. Much love sis💕
Ariel, I wish I had that kinda discipline and respect for my parents when I was mishandled by them. I wish I could’ve honored my parents and had given them grace in moments that gut punched me. God is going to blow your mind. Honor thy mother and father is a commandment, man oh man. You’re a real one.
God knows and sees that your parents didn't honor you. The Bible says parents don't provoke your children to wrath.
@ that’s also true
Are you going to pursue the legal route to sell the home you purchased with your parents?
She most definitely should
I want to cry because the past few months have been tough and I felt as if I’d never find the light. I hope one day I am able to make it out with my kids.
Wow that is so heartbreaking and hurtful. That is abusive and not a safe environment for you or your children.
I have no words about the toothbrush and toothpaste. Cheese and Rice!!
You did the right thing. He was unhinged and you could have been hurt or your babies. Never feel shame for doing the right thing ❤
highkey can relate to your kids in this situation . dad moved in with grandma during covid and because my mom’s living situation wasn’t as stable , me and my sister went with him . the verbal abuse was mainly directed towards my sister but dad never really nipped it in the bud like he should’ve because of his own trauma but she was absolutely the kind of person who would verbally “bully” you into getting her way . Went to family therapy and even that didn’t help much , so my sister moved out . Literally couldn’t imagine it without her so currently spending my breaks from college on my mom’s couch . Not nearly as comfortable physically , but that emotional peace of mind knowing my every action isn’t being scrutinized is absolutely worth it .
Thanks for sharing. Your DV story makes more sense to me after hearing this. While you might not have witnessed or experienced physical abuse by them, your parents seem to have a history of mistreatment and displays of dominance, which impacted your self-worth. I pray continued success in your healing journey. Blessings to you and your family.
We've got your back Ariel....... All the way in South Africa 🌍🌎🌍🌍❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
True parents would never do this to you. Your parents don't love you. They don't. And they hate their grandchildren too. I've never heard of this bevahiour before. These people HATE you. Like truly HATE. I don't know what went through their head but they need prayers because this is plain EVIL.
You sound just as evil have you ever heard if you don't have anything nice to say STFU how is what you comment is helping or showing any compassion or empath! BTW there are "TRUE" parents who have done worse your just mean
May the Lord send you great and mighty help. Keep standing strong.
This is my first time watching your content and honestly I think your parents asking you to leave was the best thing. I can relate to a lot of things you mention. Trust me hunny it gets better , peace is the best thing we can have in our lives. I wish you all the best to you and your children
I feel like I found my home with this podcast! People who’ve not been through this type of trauma don’t get it! ❤ lots of love and light Ariel!
Sometimes our biggest bullies are our parents 😢 and it's so sad cause you love them and you want peace but they choose violence and hate.
Ariel!!! I am so very proud of you!!! I’ve been following you on IG for almost a year…I saw how you taught your kids how to budget!! Awesome job!! I was a single mom of 3 for most of their lives, they all had different dads but my ex husband raised them all..he was also abusive..anyway…decades later and I put myself through school and was able to afford private school for my younger two, my kids all turned out great!! I just turned 60 and no kids in my house…my girls are in stable relationships, phew!! I just wanted to share how proud I am of you and also that I’m sorry about how petty parents can get….I’ll be praying for all of you, you are doing an amazing job raising your kids!!! Keep it up!! ❤❤❤ Thank you Jesus!!
You're such a inspirational soul. May God continue to bless you and your family.
I know I'm late, and since this episode you are in a better space BUT you can leave the individuals that raised you where they are. There is no longer a need to involve them in you (and the kids) lives especially if they have resorted to treating you like that. They may have outgrown the reason for being in your life and that's ok.
I think that a lot changed afer Ariel found out that she was adopted and IN HER PERENTS EYES, how dare she look for her biological family after they have taken care of her for over 2 decades. They knew full well going into the agreement of purchasing a generational house that they didn't want to tolerate her or her children. I think that they used her for half of the down payment on that house to get some of their money back that they spent on her
God bless you and your family. ❤ This too shall pass 😢
I pray you place better boundaries with your parents.
Saw a clip and I’m here now!!
Gained a subscriber I love how you speak ❤❤
So glad you got out of that terrible situation with your parents!!!!
This video popped up on my feed and as a mom my heart wants to pour into a woman I've never met.
I do pray God blesses Ariel and her children with LOVING RELATIONSHIPS from people with genuine hearts.
Although you have not prayed for an easy life I do pray you experience ease and restoration. Life has not been fair to you. I pray you facilitate solid lives that help break generational curses.
From one single mother to another...may God bless you beyond your wildest dreams.. relationally and financially. ❤
I pray you and your kids are so so so much happier this Christmas
I know you have moved but for your dad to hit your child with a stick that was a charge because the stick was used but you where so nice to not get him lock up so I respect you for that. But just don’t be so forgiving the next time . 🙏
You have an amazing heart! You can tell you’re going to be extremely blessed! Keep up the good work!
Dang, girl. You’re a real one ❤ God bless you and those babies
I honor your God given strength. You are thriving in your gift and doing what you can to show up everyday. I pray God grants you the softest life possible because you deserve it!
The amount of maturity you possess is astonishing. You are truly a role model who I admire. I love your transparency and your family. 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
Ariel, I pray God’s blessings for you and your children. I hope you and your children are seeking counseling. This was my first video of your pod and my heart was heavy listening to your story. ❤❤
Thank you for sharing. People keep talking about generational living but it doesnt work for every family.
I've always wondered if seperate houses on one plot of land will work for my family. Because we cannot live with each other 😂😂😂
I’m just starting to listen to you and I absolutely love your transparency. Thank you for sharing your journey!
Wow, you are speaking so much wisdom and grace, 🙏🏽 you will be blessed 🙏🏽❤️
We would have sold the house…period
Plus if you really know your parents this well…why would you do anything financially with them. Financial relationships is very very serious with anyone…you would of been better in a small house in peace🙏🏽✨✨💫💫
Great show, I enjoyed listening while I worked out today ❤ God bless you all!
Sounds like this woman grew up with an abusive father and mother, so choosing an abusive partner was what she knew. The way they treated her and her children was nothing new. I am glad she and her children are safe and well. Yes, her parents deserve peace in their lives, too. However, they owe her $50K!
She needs to sue them.
They could've had peace if they stayed on their side. But they kept going on her side.
Wishing yu and the kids all the best Ariel ❤❤
Just watching this and I am sorry that you had to deal with this..
i get it. i wont ever pay to see somones life but i get it. good luck with the rest of your journey.
I pray for you all the time! God is there girl! He sees you. Yes a bible 🙏
Please don't think you can ask God for too much. He will help us and we aren't a burden to him. You are doing such a great job raising little humans and taking care of yourself as well. I am learning a lot from you as a soon to be first time mom. Your children will remember the stances you took to protect them from being treated unfairly against the world. I pray for abundance for you and your comfort healing. Prayers to you and the kiddos❤.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of that. Hopefully you and your kids also have peace in your new home. 🙏🏽
Because you have such a big Forgiving heart, you'll always be blessed, they are your parents and no matter what, you're are being the respectful, loving daughter God intended you to be. Why waste time fighting with them, we are all on the train together and no one knows when will be their last stop, we need to love each other until that day comes, don't waste a second holding unto a grudge. Be unapologetically you.❤
I had the same issue with getting a house. Moved into our house 4 weeks before giving birth after prayer at church and putting my faith into God because it was completely out of my hands.
Turning the air conditioning off I just could not understand. ❤
I know it is hard to byhave a relationship with your parent when they are treating your kid and you like you were living there for free. Why do they have so much power that you left? Your parents agreed to the living situation why are you just moving? You should have stayed until the house was sold. I'm so sorry they are treating you this way. GIVE IT TO GOD.
The shoebox idea that is awesome if my children were still home, I would have used that when they were growing up
Why adopt if you plan to mistreat the child? Then proceed to treat her children in such a way.
The key is to buy your own shii. No splitting no 50/50-no partner or parent! Can’t nobody put you out of anything you own %100. I feel for you love! This is a lesson for all of us.
I think it’s OK to force the sale of that house. You are supposed to be their #1 priority. You deserve better. It’s not wrong to force the sale or maybe require that they pay rent to use your half of the home.
You're so strong!!!!!
You are so strong i pay the 2.99 but if you go up ill still pay it❤ from one mom to another you got this🎉
Hang in there. You’re awesome and life gets better.
Do you think your parents are resentful for you reaching out to your biological family? Is that a reason why they would behave in this manner. It’s heartbreaking.
They definitely are it's so blatant. They were so verbally abusive to her and the kids which is so unnecessary. I get it they don't want to share space anymore, but they could've handled this in a civil manner. She's good because it would be a loooooong time before I interact with them again unless they're ready to talk and genuinely apologize.
We're family we got yall
I just want to say from experience; when you've lived through abuse, severe emotional unavailability, disfunction, etc... for years, it distorts your understanding of what's okay, appropriate or acceptable. Its hard to decipher what's okay and whats not.
I just want to point out that this isn't normal behavior for parents. Their behavior and attitude around your well-being and the well-being of your children is saying that they don't care about you or the children.
What you described isn't behavior that stems from love.
Life is weird sometimes… my parents live in a whole different continent and they would love to wake up with my their noisy grand children. My mother in law is always asking us to move in with her because she wants to see her grand kids grow up. And these grandparents get the opportunity and they do not want it.
Time on this earth is limited and it should be spent with people that matter.
Idk, your ability to accept abuse from people who are supposed to love you is so sad because you're such a beautiful person, inside and out.
Hi Ariel. I am doing well. I haven't started Christmas shopping because my husband and I are visiting our families for Christmas.
We will shop when we get there.
New Subscriber DECEMBER 2024. Hate this happened to Ariel and her kids. They are definitely narcs, unloving, hateful, jealous...... and were intentionally inflicting pain that will take years of counseling to overcome 😢. Can't wait to watch her current update ❤
With everything I'm hearing, I wonder if you'll be surprised in the end and find yourself left out of the will with no recourse to access the property you paid for. You sound like you've been used. Ill be praying for you, May God cover you
God bless you and your children.
I don't understand if there are separate living quarters, down payment you paid,you paid half the mortgage why you moved? You and your kids should have stayed on your side of the house.
With two acres there’s more than enough space for you to separate it and build yourself another house
Where you messed up was not consulting a lawyer about this before buying the house. You left the window open for your parents to take advantage of you and your money. Now they can sell the house and they can get your 50000 you out in on the down payment
This. Right. Here.
Yay I’ve been waiting for the videos.
Wait....WAIT......❓️
29:38 #WhoDoesThat?????????
That is beyond petty. That is MEAN-SPIRITED😮😲
❤thank you for sharing your life. ❤
Great Episode! I am supper proud of you.
First time listening love your podcast
This is not normal. Your "parents" must've been a little mean before you moved in? Why would you put yourself in this situation if you knew what they were like? I could totally see two houses next to each other or in the same neighborhood, but why did you do one house?
Wait a minute, if you paid half of everything were you on the deed/title of the home? Is your name on the mortgage?
I been following you and the kids and didn’t know the extent of your story 🙏🏿❤️❤️❤️❤️