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Should You Get Married Young? | The Pros and Cons
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- Опубліковано 13 гру 2017
- ‘Should You Get Married Young? | The Pros and Cons’
We’re giving our top pros and cons for what it’s like being married young. Young marriage can be so beautiful, but it can also be extreamly challenging, so you got to know yourself and be prepared!
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My husband and I got married young, we were both 22. This September will be 20 years and I am currently planning our vow renewal. Totally agree, if you have found the one your soul loves (Song of Solomon 3:4), you don’t have to wait years to take that step.
Wow that’s amazing, congratulations! Yep, totally agree :)
Sadie Johnson
That is so encouraging to hear! I’m 18 and am really hoping to be married young :)
22 is NOT a young age for a woman to be married. 8-13 is young, 14-16 is normal, and 17+ is fucked up feminist modernity.
Paul Costa language
@@paulcosta8297 That's not true at all. No one gets married at 8-13 and 14-16 is NOT normal whatsoever unless you're from some foreign country.
I'm loving your channel today! I was 20 and my husband was 19. It was his idea so 💁 almost 8 years and 3 children later... I say get married when you find "the one" whether that's at 19 or later on in life!
Amen Harlee! Thanks for the comment!
Harlee Fyock
That is so encouraging to hear!🙌🏼
Harlee I love your comment!!
wealthy people may be less successful in love
I think it depends on the maturity of a person but also how important there walk with God is to them. Alot of young people take a relationship more serious then the relationship they should have with God and use emotional connection not logical thinking to figure out is this person a good fit for my life? Do they want the same things? If so go. Get married. But love God first.
Mary Swenson "But love God first." That's great. I really like that.
YES.
But what if i’m not religious? Which i’m not
Good news!!!!!!!!!
Therefore repent and turn back, so that your sins may be wiped out, that seasons of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord, and that he may send Jesus, who has been appointed for you as the Messiah.
Acts 3:19-20 CSB
From then on Jesus began to preach, “Repent, because the kingdom of heaven has come near.”
Matthew 4:17 CSB
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God has come near. Repent and believe the good news!”
Mark 1:15 CSB
Jesus replied, “Truly I tell you, unless someone is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Jesus answered, “Truly I tell you, unless someone is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.
John 3:3, 5 CSB
Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.
1 John 2:6 NIV
1john.bible/1-john-2-6
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
John 14:6 CSB
For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life.
John 3:16 GNB
bible.com/bible/296/jhn.3.16.GNB
_Jesus_ actually died, *_GOD_* has _His blood_ as a sacrifice for your sins. *_GOD_* killed *_His_*_ Only Son_ for you. All your sins: sexual immorality (fornication, adultery(lust), homosexual sex, pornography) murder( hating someone, envying, abortion and killing someone) , theft( murder, lying, abuse, corruption, disrespect, racism) and idolatry (greed, love of money, worship of other gods and pride) can be forgiven only if you believe in _Jesus_; that __*_God_* sacrificed _Him_ for the atonement of all your sins, and that_*He*_ raised _Him_ up 3 days later. And now He sits on the Right Hand of *_The Father_*__, ruling over all creation as __*_Lord and Saviour_* of the world.
Jesus Christ died for your sins, and only through Him you can be forgiven of all your sins.
You only go to heaven because of faith and belief in The death and resurrection of _The Son of _*_God_* for the sins of the world.
Hell is for those reject GOD'S Only Son, they will be burnt by the wrath of The Almighty God.
Believe that all your sins are forgiven because of The Blood of Jesus, who is The Messiah, The Saviour.
Repent, turn away from your sins and live because,
*_Jesus Lives_*
@@hollandoates2573 Good news!!!!!!!!!
Therefore repent and turn back, so that your sins may be wiped out, that seasons of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord, and that he may send Jesus, who has been appointed for you as the Messiah.
Acts 3:19-20 CSB
From then on Jesus began to preach, “Repent, because the kingdom of heaven has come near.”
Matthew 4:17 CSB
“The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God has come near. Repent and believe the good news!”
Mark 1:15 CSB
Jesus replied, “Truly I tell you, unless someone is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” Jesus answered, “Truly I tell you, unless someone is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.
John 3:3, 5 CSB
Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.
1 John 2:6 NIV
1john.bible/1-john-2-6
Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
John 14:6 CSB
For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life.
John 3:16 GNB
bible.com/bible/296/jhn.3.16.GNB
_Jesus_ actually died, *_GOD_* has _His blood_ as a sacrifice for your sins. *_GOD_* killed *_His_*_ Only Son_ for you. All your sins: sexual immorality (fornication, adultery(lust), homosexual sex, pornography) murder( hating someone, envying, abortion and killing someone) , theft( murder, lying, abuse, corruption, disrespect, racism) and idolatry (greed, love of money, worship of other gods and pride) can be forgiven only if you believe in _Jesus_; that __*_God_* sacrificed _Him_ for the atonement of all your sins, and that_*He*_ raised _Him_ up 3 days later. And now He sits on the Right Hand of *_The Father_*__, ruling over all creation as __*_Lord and Saviour_* of the world.
Jesus Christ died for your sins, and only through Him you can be forgiven of all your sins.
You only go to heaven because of faith and belief in The death and resurrection of _The Son of _*_God_* for the sins of the world.
Hell is for those reject GOD'S Only Son, they will be burnt by the wrath of The Almighty God.
Believe that all your sins are forgiven because of The Blood of Jesus, who is The Messiah, The Saviour.
Repent, turn away from your sins and live because,
*_Jesus Lives_*
I got married young, I was 18 my husband was 21. I don't recommend anyone gets married young, I'm not religious so I don't personally care about sex before marriage. Marriage is a lot harder than this couple is making it out to be. I love my husband and we have learned to work things out but it took a long time for us to get there. So take care of yourself first, go to school, learn to be independent, and learn to love yourself first because it makes it so much easier to tell your partner how you need to be loved. I would say wait longer than 6 months to be sure you want to get married to the person you're with, marriage changes things really quickly. And don't think that just because you don't know if the person you are with is marriage material, that's ok it depends on what you're looking for in a relationship, are you dating to get married then obviously that is a problem. But if not, if you're dating to get to know what you need from a relationship, then wait.
I agree that it doesn't take a long time to know if you're dating "the one". My boyfriend proposed after 4 1/2 months, with my dad's blessing of course, and we are getting married this December and couldn't be happier😊 we will both be in our 20s by the time we're married and look forward to growing older together!!! The Lord certainly blesses if you wait for the one He has for you!
How is that now
I think when people date for more than two years there is a problem unless it there is a good reason like they are finishing college or something.
@@wanilimbe great thank you. Still happily married and we have a little girl that isn't quite a year old yet
wealthy people may be less successful in love
What are you thoughts, PandM Fam? Is young marriage the way to go? Love you guys!
Paul and Morgan Hahahhahahahahhahahaaha when paul said sex 😂😂😂😂😂 didn't expect that
Mariana Beatriz Baahaha I get a little edgy sometimes💁♂️
This time next year I’ll be married to my best friend. He’ll be 22 I’ll be 21 and we’ve been getting to the tough stuff 😅 but we are committed to each other and to God and so excited to start our life together. 😊 I love your videos. Thank you.
Your relationship with God should always come before your relationship with a person, but I think you should be preparing yourself spiritually and emotionally for your future spouse no matter your age. Marriage takes a new level of maturity, and it may come at a different age for each couple. You might meet someone and be ready at 20, and that's great, but it's also great when God uses your singleness in unexpected ways, leading you to meet and marry your spouse later in life.
I feel like for me personally, I would like to wait until I'm 21, only because I'd be almost done with college, which I feel really helps a person grow, mature, and figure out where they want to go. I also don't think any amount of time can determine how long people should wait until they marry, some people are together for years and others are only a couple months. It really just depends on the people :)
I agree with Pauly on that one, examine yourself and don't disqualify yourself just because you have a whole list of flaws.. just let go, trust God, and take the plunge!!
YouThe Church Whoop
Whoop! Thanks for watching :)
I love this statement so so much!! I've always felt like I have to be perfect, fully put together, and have all aspects of my life figured out before I could even think about dating someone. I've fallen into the lie that I have to find the perfect guy who makes no mistakes but that's a bunch of nonsense. He doesn't exist and no one is perfect. It's about loving someone through everything despite their flaws, learning and growing together. You guys have taught me that and given me a whole new perspective. I'm excited to see what the future holds and who God has for me. ❤
I've been binge watching your videos for 6 hours straight now! (Don't judge me, I just found your channel today.) Y'all are great. Anyway, I do wanna marry young but I just turned 23 and don't have a boyfriend so... Lol.
2 years later... are u married now?😄🧡 or found the one you consider marrying?
As one who was engaged at 19 I can personally say that I THOUGHT I wanted to get married young, but now that I'm almost 27 I realize looking back that all those yrs I was wanting to get married I actually wasn't ready like I thought I was. God needed to get a lot of junk out of my life and I needed to come to the true realization of His love for me so that it would be all about Him and not some guy who wasn't even who I was meant to be with. My original plan was to married by 25 but I've learned things don't always go as planned, but who really cares when I know whatever and whomever God has for me will be far better than what I was hoping for. While I may have delayed some things by getting in God's way, I can say now that I'm truly more ready for marriage than before. But the key to all of it is putting God first, so when that future spouse comes along they won't be replacing God in ur life but joining u in ur race toward God.
Love the honesty, openness and integrity in your videos. That is what the Bible calls "Living in the light". It is meaningful to get advice from people whose advice is based not only on what they think but also what they do. Thank you for sharing not only biblical tips but your life experiences with us.
😊❤️
I wanted so badly to be married young. Now I'm 26 and I feel like hope is lost.
Miranda Taylor but you’re still young
With ya there. I don't know that I feel ALL hope is lost but definitely the hope to be married "young"
God has a plan.
Hope isn’t lost. Branch out, explore, focus on your dreams. I’m 30 and not married. Don’t get stuck in the bubble of feeling like you have to be married to be happy/fulfilled
Miranda Taylor You are only 26. That is still young. Travel , have fun and focus on yourself first. Its not 1950 anymore . Not being married in your early-mid twenties isn’t the end of the world.
I think personaly that its a good option get married Young (obvisly if you found the right person, and God is in the affair)
We agree!
Yes, but it depends on maturity and health of the relationship. I was married at 23 and it didn’t work. Married again at 25 and still married over 20 years.
Good point :)
Don't forget to remember what Jesus said about remarriage and adultery:)
Wyatt Cerri he said divorce if they cheat on you 😄
Ugh, so many people say don't get married young... to have everything figured out and established first and I'm like WHAT?! That doesn't even make sense to me. The way that would look like in my life is - I'm single my whole life and die alone.
I agree with you that it shouldn't take long to know if that person is right for us and that we are allowed to go into marriage with flaws and everything you both said ☺ . I think movies, TV shows and obsessions for the perfect person and not knowing ones self and what's best for them...and not knowing the Lord, influences people to make bad decisions and causes them to be so lost in anything to do with healthy relationships. And lack of good examples in their lives. My husband laughed when you (Paul) said you were financially fine and living with friends and then she spends more money 😄 lol, most married men can relate to this.
Candace McMasters Haha Awesome comment, Candace. Totally agree with everything you are saying. Glad we’re on the same page :)
My dad advised against marrying young due to practical reasons.. families cost money. One should go to college get a degree and save money to support a family first. That makes logical sense to me. My sister met her husband at 19 didnt get married to him till 27. Why ? She was in college so was he . They had no money or job to support each other .8 years later they marry he is a corporate lawyer and she is neonatologist
Another pro is that you get to grow with each other which I think is so lovely! Like you're going through life's struggles and joys together and learning so much along the way. Yes! I so agree with the "not waiting" bit...like you pretty much know after a few months of seeing them in all kinds of situations (under pressure, disappointment etc) and this 5 year business is rubbish haha Love you guys and keep shining
Tabby RH Yes, rubbish! haha for real tho, it’s ridiculous😛 Love that, the depth of friendship that going through joys and trials produces is amazing. And we’re just getting started :)
Tabby RH agreed. I love remembering that my husband and I couldn't afford to feed ourselves dinner every night and had to rotate who's parents we ate at. We paid all our bills but we couldn't fully feed ourselves. We recently bought our first house and thank God we're enjoying God's blessings and our hardwork.
Priscilla Merrow stories like this make me so happy.
@@priscillamerrow996 Priscilla that's truly amazing!!
I got married at 19 and my spouse was 20. Getting married young is definitely more financially challenging and not the mention the backlash you tend to get from people in general because it's not the norm. I don't and never will regret my decision, but I don't think getting married young or old, getting married soon after you meet someone or later...one isn't better than the other. It just depends on you, and your maturity, your walk in life and with God, having a good community, etc. My parents met and got married in their late forties and they have exemplified a beautiful God-fearing marriage for me. My youth pastor and his wife have also exemplified a beautiful God-fearing marriage for me and they got married at 19 and 20 as well. I agree with this video and can relate to it a lot with my own marriage. (I'm not saying this is what the video is saying btw just wanted to say it though :D) There's no perfect age to get married, as long as you are leaning in to the Lord and being wise with your decision to marry, by seeking counsel through your community, through trusted and more experienced married couples, through prayer, and through premarital counseling and open and honest conversations with your partner then the age doesn't really matter (of course im not saying getting married as a child is okay though! you get what im saying).
me and my boyfriend are both 19 (we have been dating for almost 2 and a half years so far). We are both Christian, he grew up in a Christian family but I didn't. We want to get engaged after I finish my degree, at that point we will both be 21 and would have been dating for 4 years (he is doing a longer degree than me so if we waited for him to finish too we would both be 23). Our biggest problem is our families having different views... His parents are Christian so they are perfectly happy with the thought of us getting married young but because my parents aren't Christian they don't get it and think we should wait longer before we get married. I'm finding it so hard to know what to do because I want my parents to be happy with the decisions that I make but at the same time if we waited to get married later we would waste so much money living in separate houses for extra years (which my parents also dont understand bc they would have no problem with us moving in together before marriage - but we don't want to do that). Ugh it's so hard when the views are so conflicting
Thanks for the comment Jessie. Ultimately your obedience is to the Lord. What is the Lord telling you? :)
Get a female roommate and wait a little while till you are more financially stable is my advise.
Woah, this is exactly my situation!
Listen to God not your parents.
You talk about how ‘the first year of marriage’ was really tough, and I see it as a common theme amoung lots of young married couples. Having time being together without the ultimate pressure of being bound together /not being able to escape eachother is how two people grow closer and stronger. I think a relationship where both people can literally walk when they want to but go ‘no, I’m committed to you and I choose to stay with you’ is much stronger than marrying early and using that as a reason for ‘not being able to leave.’ My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years and this is our first year living together, and it has been the easiest transition ever because we had ample amount of time to get to know and grow with one another in a setting that allowed us the freedom to do so.
Also, just wanna say how appreciated your videos are. Im going into vocational ministry, and strong godly relationships are rare, and something I have a history of struggling with. Yall speak so much truth, and its very refreshing
My boyfriend and I are both very very strong Christians. We have been dating a 15 months. I am 18 and he is 17. I’m going into college in a few weeks and he’ll be a senior in high.
We aren’t playing on getting engaged for 4 years and married for 5. So then when we get married we would of been dating 6+ years.
I know he’s the one I’m gonna marry and we will still be young when we get married (23&22) but have been dating a long time. And that’s okay. We won’t get married quickly into our relationship because being so young it’s not really possible but we will still be able to do it and I can’t wait
I'm 21 and am in my first serious relationship with a young man (who's 23) that I've known since I was 17. We've talked about marriage with my parents and we expect it to happen within the next year. I would say how soon you get married depends on the couple. When I first seriously thought about getting married it kinda freaked me out, but now that I've been able to spend quality time with my boyfriend and through a lot of prayer I now look forward to the prospect of marriage. God has given me the peace that my guy is "the one" and I couldn't be happier.
Marry when you find “the one” even if you don’t believe in that concept you will know when you are with the person you’re gonna marry.it doesn’t matter if you’re 18 or 35 God will send you your person
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I feel like my husband and I got married decently young and I think it's great especially because you have even more time to enjoy with each other, get to know each other better, have experiences, and grow together. However, I will say it didn't take long for me to feel like I knew I would marry my husband, I knew somewhere between 3 to 6 months into us dating. I feel that for my husband he was an exception to knowing within six months or so, mainly because of the fact there were deeper things that he had to come to terms with to feel confident to marry at all. These weren't issues in the relationship but from past experience with disloyalty and divorce in his family. Love you guys Paul and Morgan, keep making videos and stick close to the Lord!❤️
I have been BINGE watching yalls videos. I have a question though, what about getting maried while in college?
Yes if I'm gonna seriously date someone I'd like to know in my heart that I will marry them if I don't see a future I wouldn't wanna waste time
What are your thoughts about dating in college? Should people get married while still in college or in the first year even if they know they are the one?
Studies have been done to show that you really don't know your partner fully until you've known them for 5 years. And I totally believe this! I could not even imagine marrying my boyfriend after a year, let alone months! We've almost been together 5 years now, living together for almost 3 and we know we're going to get married, just hasn't happened yet. Mostly because weddings are expensive! Haha
I don't know if you're going ti see this, but anyway.
The only thing I disagree with in your video is the "less than one year to make a decision" thing. My mother married my father when they were both 26 and knew each other for less than a year. And the marriage seemed perfect until 20 years later he left our family to be with another woman and showed us a dark side of him we couldn't spot before (it was shown in small signs that most people, including us, would ignore).
I was 18 when it happened (a tad more than a year ago) and although I am still young and have time, I wouldn't want to feel the pressure to get engaged in less than a year. In the beginning stages of relationship I tend to idealise my boyfriend. With my current one I try to avoid this mistake and be aware of his flaws so that I can be more understanding of his actions and feelings (he is awesome btw, we don't fight at all, only talk if someone's upset).
I can absolutely imagine my life with him. He cares about me, can cheer me up and treats me with utter respect, I just want to be sure that if I marry him I will know that my image of him in my head is a realistic one and I'm alright with each aspect of it. I just want my marriage to be a successful one.
If you can, I would be grateful for a little prayer for me and my boyfriend.
This channel should have more subs!!! 😀😁
Nick Cortez haha thank you! Means a lot, we’re headed in the right direction 👊👊
I was 19 when my husband and I married. He was 21. We are coming up to 10 years of marriage and have two little boys. Both loved and still love Jesus. Didn’t start off godly as we kept our relationship hidden from the start but I love him more and more. Life has taken us through different seasons. Seasons I look back at and I’m like wow that wasn’t that hard haha. But we are stronger and has God prepared us for today because of those seasons. Marriage can get challenging for sure. Young and old. We both need to be committed for the long haul and have a close relationship with Jesus. I really enjoy watching your videos. Praying against any attacks that come at you both. It’s not easy being in the spotlight. Keep being in tune with His spirit. Xx
I think the hardest part about young marriage is the same no matter what age you are and that is having children! Not everyone has children, but learning how to navigate being parents for the first time is a CHALLENGE. And then once they grow up, trying to navigate just being a couple again WITHOUT children is a struggle. I don’t think it matters how old you are, it’s all maturity level and willingness to adapt to change.
You dated 4 months?! I’ve known my boyfriend for 7 years.. how long was your engagement?
4 month engagement :)
Paul and Morgan yikes I don’t think I could really know a person well enough in the much time. I’d need at minimum a year. Wow. You two seem perfect together though. How long did you two know each other before then?
Dancing For My Savior they met on tinder and started dating right away
They were horny
What about money? Many times people 21 and under do not have a career that will support the lifestyle of an individual let alone two? Plus the cost of an engagement ring, an apartment/house and a wedding. Even a cheap wedding ($8000-$10000) can break the bank if you only make $11 dollars an hour. Should you have a degree and large sum of savings before you get married? I think people should have one or the other, otherwise one could end up on the street. My friend's married friends had this exact problem. I want to wed but while everyone else is doing it, I work at a good job that pays less than $15/hour and am drowning in student debt? How can I get married even if I find the right person who also makes what I do? No hate here, but some serious financial things to work through.
Jessica Giaquinto A wedding doesn't have to be big or cost a lot! If you are both making a living and able to support yourselves, you can afford to be married. I know many people who were on a limited budget and made it work because they knew a lot of people who were willing to contribute decorations, time, space, food, etc. Sometimes just getting married is more important than having your "dream" wedding.
My sister is getting married to her guy this August they have a child together but we're young when they met backyard wedding. Even tho she says it went backwards he's a great guy and I'm so happy for her.
I feel this!! Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years and we have plans to get engaged next year and married the year after. We are both students so all our money goes to our education, however I graduate next year. Weddings are EXPENSIVE. My friend just got married and made everything as cheap as he could (and got married in a church) and it still cost $12,000. Even a wedding dress costs a couple thousand. If all our money needs to go towards school right now, I don’t see how marriage is even possible.
My hubby and I were 21&22 when we got married. We were both still at uni and had almost no money seriously! Lol the first 2 years we lived in a tiny bungalow at the back of a friends house that didn't even have a stove! Fast forward 10 years we have 3 kids (6,4,3) own a beautiful 5bed home etc
all our friends are just now settling down getting married and having kids - they've spent 50k plus on their weddings, are only able to buy tiny homes due to wasting all their money and waiting till property prices boomed
1224erday David's Bridal has dresses under $200 all year long. Thrift stores have very pretty gowns for under $40. Friends even loan their dresses out. I think the wedding planning is a good time to learn about compromise. For instance, instead of the dream venue, one could choose a cheaper venue so there's more money for the honeymoon. It is entirely possible to have a nice wedding for cheap!
Well first of all how long have you been together? Are you credible to give advice about this?
What i'm getting out of this is: you want to have sex so you get married to someone you have known for a couple of months. You don't want to get divorced because that's kinda bad for your ego. That's kinda sad considering you only have one life to experience all the shit you want to experience...
Not everybody gets married so quick bc they wanna have sex. Read the Bible. It says if you can't control your flesh than get married
It's not always a choice. The love of my life passed away unexpectedly when I was 24. That was almost 3 years ago and I've only recently felt ready to find love again but I'm trusting God that the He will bring me the right person at the right time like He did with Chris before he died. It can be very discouraging at times because it feels like no one my age can relate to what I've been through but I'm also genuinely grateful about that too because I would never wish this pain on anyone. I'm also going blind so it takes a little longer to find someone because unfortunately not everyone is accepting or understanding of eye disease or forgiving about the fact I can't drive because of it but I know there has to be men out there like Chris who would be loving about it. God Bless you guys. I'm glad you had the option to decide to marry young ❤️
deal Aly . I'm sorry to hear that your love passed unexpectedly. THe LORd Jesus is healer. May your sight and eyes be healed by he stripes of the LORD Jesus Christ. We can trust Jesus. He saves. He heals. For nothing is impossible with the LORD.
I'm seventeen so still quite young to think about marriage... but if I meet a guy that I love I would absolutely marry at like 25
A reason is that i looove children and i would like to be sure to have the time and energy needed to enjoy my life with my loved ones
I hope the lord will make this happen.
Great videos guys, i really appreciate you, really inspiring!
You said it shouldn’t take long to figure out if you want to marry someone or not. I disagree. Marriage is a huge life decision. Deciding after only 2 months that you are ready to spend the rest of your life with that person seems fast. It takes longer than that for you to even get to know someone fully. Just my opinion. Also, you mentioned that you shouldn’t be dating someone unless you are thinking marriage. But that depends on age . Most 19 year olds are not thinking about marriage .They are in a casual dating phase.
Hi Paul and Morgan! I just wanna say how much I thank God for your videos; they really help me 😊
My dad advised against it stating it is best to plan ahead for your family by getting a degree getting a career and saving money to support a family first. Proverbs says to even tend your fields and house plan ahead for your family
I think it also depends on financial stability because once you marry someone you leave your parents house and you become one with your spouse and you need a house, car etc. so I agree money is important when it comes to marriage.
Yes ma'am :)
I've known along of people who have married young and they have done awesome. But, I also known people who have married when their older. I believe that just may be me. I mean I don't mind being an older bride but you never know what God will do. Who knows. I just may meet my future hubby this year 😁 Do yall think you can make a video of getting married when your older? I mean can you bring on a couple who has done that?
One thing that I disagreed with is with not waiting to marry the one you’re dating. Not waiting more than a year. From the point you meet someone to a year, you’d be surprised at how thy person can change and reveal the “secret person of the heart.” I think it’s wise to take things slow with marriage as the end goal. But never jump into marriage just because you’re on a time limit.
Id like that gett married young but married fast eh no cause my parents and my ex boyfriend got married within six months of knowing each other both people realized they couldn't actual coexist so I think it takes at least a year of really experiencing many different things with the person before u really know
I’ve been dating my boyfriends for about a month and we both definitely see marriage in our future. It doesn’t take long at all. Everyone’s opinions about it taking a while to figure it out scared me at first because I knew very quickly that he was the one. ❤️
When truly listening to the Lord, He will make His plan evident!
What if you are still trying to figure yourself out? What if you don’t know what it is you want from life? What if a few months/years down the road you decide you know what, maybe this wasn’t the right person/time for me?
My husband and I met October 2011, start dating officially November 2011, got engaged December 2011, and married December 2012. Not only did we get married fast but also young (I was 21, he was 23 on our wedding day). And I don’t regret either aspect. I am so grateful to have had him by my side through my first real job, living on my own, paying all of the bills, etc. It feels like we really grew up together. My husband famously told his shocked friend after we got engaged “when you know, you know” ❤️ I agree that it doesn’t take long to determine if you could marry someone and that getting married young has many pros and cons (more pros in my experience). Love your channel!
I think you guys are very naive about the real world. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 15 and we are now approaching 25. I moved away from home 2 years ago to do my PhD, which sadly meant leaving him too. I will finish University and then move back home and then finally we will marry. What’s the rush? We love each other, we are best friends and we have each other’s backs. Going through a long distance relationship only makes us stronger and more likely to over come any problems in the future we may face. If we can go through this we can survive anything. I think you both need to be a bit more open minded.
They weren't saying everyone HAS to or even should get married young, they were listing pros and cons. So they're not judging you and there's no need to judge them for their decision to get married young. Also, you were 15 when you met your soon-to-be husband. That's very young, so I really don't think they're saying you should have been married by 16 or 17 years old. Maybe I misunderstood what you were saying, maybe you're expressing that you think it's wrong to get married young at all, which in that case you certainly have the right to share that with their audience
I think your way works too! Your time away (as hard as it might be) might even give you some good time to leasrn more about yourself and develop as a single person, focusing on yourself a bit more.
Sin is a reason to not take long. That things creeps up on prolonged relationships!
To be honest, if you’re going to get married but not ready yet, why not just be best friends? Why are you even in a relationship with him now? (What’s your opinion on that one? Just thought of that)
I think their point was for the people are against getting married young because they still need time "to live their life" or "it's too soon to commit". While you should have certain things in place before being married, you don't have to have it all together, and being young doesn't hinder you from achieving your dreams if it is right for you.
My boyfriend & I have been together for 9 1/2 months. We both knew very early on that we would end up married in the future
Props to you guys for taking on a difficult feat.:) I hope your love continues to flourish!
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Omg y’all are so cute together! I love watching you! And thank you for this video!
“Sorry if my eyeballs look like I’m dead.” Lol 😆
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I agree with the fact that it doesn't take long to know if you should marry, except for the fact that they may be deceptive. I know a person who married a narcissist who proposed 3 months in and they ended up divorcing because he was deceived her into thinking he was a godly man
My parents got married young but in today's generation, most young people are not ready and should get married after they are a bit older.
awwwww you guys are so amazing, love what you are doing, you really give valuable advice. I'm a new subscriber so I'm binge watching your videos😍😍... I'm so dragging my boyfriend here
I just found you folks, and I really love your content.
I'd only say that most folks who realise that they're immature are probably on their way to maturity; the other ones, mebbe not so much...
Haha good point :)
Haha! Great video. Me and my husband dated and got married in a year! When people ask the classic "So how's married life?" I always say "it's an adventure! 😄👍😛"
We were newly into our 20s when we got married which is deffinantly not the normal thing to do in our culture, and i totally agree - you have to be mature! Willing to put another persons needs above your owwwn - is more difficult than you would think. I think what it boils down to is commitment. You have to be committed to each other and to your marriage. If you are 200% committed I think there is a freedom and comfort knowing no matter what, you will work through it and come back to a place of love and understanding...
(And if anyone thinks they're not mature... Marriage will defiantly help that in no time. Lol)
Thanks for sharing P&M 😊
I love your comment!!
My husband and I got married at 19 and 20! We've been married 8.5 years, I still got a master's and he still got a doctorate, our third baby is due in a few weeks and we wouldn't have it any other way!
It depends of two things
-if you are mature enough
-if it is the will of God for your life to do it at that age
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A lot of people around me say "don't marry young! You make awful decisions when you're young!!!" or things if that nature. I am curious to know what you might think about it? I feel like it really depends on the person and how they handle themselves/ life / ect. I would really love to hear your thoughts! Thank you! Love your videos they really widen my view of things! ❤
You gotta follow the Lord’s leading and timing :)
My husband and I got married at 19 and 20 years old. We celebrated our 10yr anniversary last month and I can already see progress personally, jointly, physically, financially, and spiritually we made. I have a good number of friends who waited and got married in their 30s and I see the benefit of that as well. I think the hardest part was figuring out who I was while trying to figure out how to be a wife. I think regardless of age people should always be sure of the person they are going to marry and know that people do change. The person you marry will be different (even if only slightly) in the next five, ten, etc years from when you first get married. Know feeling happy is a fleeting feeling and marriage is work. Happiness comes from the Lord and will seep into your marriage and make your workload lighter. I really l ok very my husband and I just happened to pick someone who has grown up to be good and God fearing. Also, to those not married pray for your future spouse. God hears your desires for your future mate. He did for me.
Priscilla, I love your comment!! Many blessings to you and your husband. I truly hope that God blesses me.
Although I really agree with u guys!!! My boyfriend and I really want to get married, hes 22 and I'm 21 but we both are in medical school. He has 2 more years left and i have 3 more years left. Our parents want us to get married when he finishes medical school but we have been together for 2 years and we do not think we can wait 2 more years and rather get married NOW. But then there is another issue, if we plan to get married within a couple months there is no way that we can plan our wedding. He is taking his first USMLE Board Exam and I still havent taken mine until one year from now and its the most important exam i medical school (If that makes sense, its basically 1 of 3 board exam which decides what doctor you are open to become with your specific score, the higher the score the more the options you have and the better chance you have of residencies accepting you when you get out of medical school). Any thoughts????
ginika osude I think it depends what you think "married" means. Like....in American culture we traditionally would like to have a wedding where we invite friends and family, and acquaintances and extended family next. And then a huge wedding banquet. Personally, I think that's a very bad example of getting married. If finances of a wedding ceremony are getting in the way, I think that they are not very important and you can do without. If that's not the issue, what is stopping you?
It's about priorities. You've decided to finish school and that's your priority so then you have a cheaper or different than you imagined wedding. If you don't have time to plan the wedding perhaps your Mother would do it for you? You can have a smaller wedding if money is the issue.
Personally I think finishing school should come before getting married. If you are committed to each other and ready to marry now you will still be there in 2 years. Or do you think you will have changed your opinion by then? What do you get if you get married now? What exactly can you not wait for? I mean will you have time to be a wife if you finish school when you get married now?
ginika osude This is something I sort of relate to! Not with medical school, but I am currently going into my 3rd year of college. My boyfriend and I met 8 months ago in Israel (we go to the same college but were part of different ministries). We did not know each other until the trip and now, after dating for almost 7 months, were both very interested in the idea of getting married. The issue is that we are both still in college and still financially dependent. Here are a few things you can consider:
1. Having a very small wedding now that doesn't require much planning (more like a ceremony and then a small celebration after with family and close friends). And then you guys can save up for a bigger wedding that you can plan and get excited for and have that in a year or so. (I have a friend that did this and it worked out wonderfully for them).
2. Another thing you can do is just wait one more year and have a low budget wedding. My sister managed to do this (she was engaged after 3 months of dating and married 5 months after getting engaged). Her wedding was beautiful. She managed to do this with the help of friends and family. Chances are, you can use your church and whatever recreational room/gym they have for low cost! Also my sister had a potluck so all her guests brought a dish or dessert. It was really cool cause everyone got to contribute and it was free! (There was also PLENTY to eat).
Something you want to make sure of is that you're going to be financially independent or getting help from family if not (this option obviously isn't ideal but I believe it is better to stay pure and holy than to have all the money you need). Just know that the second option comes with a ton of stress to the marriage.
why not think of going to the court house and doing it that way? then later on have a ceremony with all your friends and family? :)
I didn’t get married young. I got married when I was 29. I lived my life. I’m 47 now I’m still with my wife. I have 3 kids. Life isn’t easy sometimes but life goes on.
Can you make a video on how to take things slow. You know you always have that urge to take things toward but how Can I take things slow. Also I have the tendency to fall in love quickly so how can I keep myself from just splurging those words out
TheWayOf Cailinn may I ask what you define as love?
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
How old were you guys when you got married? God continue to bless you guys!
This is a really nice video... I love it 😍
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I have a friend that got married when she was 19! I thought she was crazy that time hahahaha
Guys get married when you're 20-25 ,the more You wait the more You lose the desire of getting married ,Im 34 and never married and it sucks
I'm 25 no kids and not married it doesn't feel good
This is terrible advice. Paul’s first reason to marry young is sex.
That is a not a good reason to get married. A couple should be mature enough to make a commitment and you should take time to get to know each other. 2/4 months in a relationship couples are just getting to know each other.
I found this really interesting because I grew up in a family where everyone that married young got divorced. My great aunt, my grandma, my grandpa, my mom, the list goes on.
You both made me further my understanding of marriage; that despite what my family tells me, if God has ordained the marriage and confirmed it, then you shouldn't take 7 years to get married.
I can see that the marriages did not work out between my family members because they did not have Christ in them, which causes their relationship to weaken and break.
Thank you so much for sharing! I'm glad I was able to understand more about God's hand in marriages.
What if you're a Christian teen dating and can't get married? In a year?
5:03 love it hahaha
and the younger the better in my opinion - but any age is fine. Maybe after 20 though.
Marrying young is before many have baggage and you wise up about lots of sin and toxic behaviours that manifest in people. You can open your heart easier. But Meeting someone later you often know yourself better and know what you want in a partner.
Just seek the Lord.
Should you still get married young if you plan to go to college?
How old were you guys when you got married?
Hey! Morgan was 21, I was a bit older😊
I'd say that if God is truly in your life when you are young, then you should get married young. If not, then you shouldn't. That's because people that TRULY believe in God are less selfish and more mature than those that don't.
Learned some new things today ...gr8 video
miguel ramirez Awesome! Appreciate you watching bro!
I'm so confused!! I'm 16 and was taught by my school and parents that I should wait at least 3 years before being serious about marriage, and then there are a lot of christian couples who get married within a year of meeting each other!!! I don't know how to feel about this, and which path I should take once I'm in the dating world.
Victoria Marcondes the path that feels right for you :)
Love your channel!! How long have you both been married?
I think the 2 year stuff is BULL CRAP. it's an excuse to NOT commit.
The Moore Adventure Glad we’re on the same page! Totally agree :)
Personally I think that when you are young you can change so much while you finish growing up that commiting to a person really fast may not be the best idea. 2 years later they may be a completely different person and not who you committed to those 2 years ago. I understand that marriage involves compromise but should you really compromise your whole personality just so you can stay with a person forever after you rushed into things?
TheJanaRina I see your point, but isn’t this whole point of life and walking with Christ and being human to continuously develop, grow and change? Becoming less like our sinful selves, and more like Christ, which ultimately makes us more ourselves than we ever could be alone? Yes, our younger years (I’m thinking 18-25ish) is an extremely formative time, BUT we are always forming - or supposed to be. I think that there is an unspoken idea that when you grow up, and learn how to be a “real” adult, then you will be equipped to take on things better. Which is true in a sense, but from my recent reflections on adulthood (I’m almost 21) is that nobody knows what they are doing, they are all just winging it and doing their best.
So when it comes to marriage, you should both have grown into new people in 2 years, and then again within the next 2 years, and so on. The cool thing about marriage though is that you’re doing it together. This happens on individual levels and as a pair.
Also, if you have to compromise your whole personality, then it probably isn’t a healthy relationship to be in at all - which is coming from personal experience, and the experience of a few friends :)
I disagree. I’d actually say three years is a solid time to wait! People grow and change and you have to make sure you are willing to stick with your partner through all of it.
Some people just think you don’t need a legally binding contract to be committed to someone. If you want to marry then now hopefully you’ll still want to marry them in two years. Or else you probably shouldn’t get married at all.
All my cousins married in their late 20s and 30s . Because they went to college got degrees and had to save for a family
I wouldn't want that.
@@auser6828 you wouldn't want a college degree or marry in your 30s?
@@carlathompson9308 I wouldn't want to get married in my thirties.I got married when I was 24.I had my first child at 30 and my second at 34.I wish I would have had kids in my twenties and then I would have been able to have more.If you get married in your thirties you have to rush into having kids and have them close together.
@@auser6828 not necessarily my sister had 4 and 40 when she had her last. They were spread out 10 years. I'm just saying it is discouraged to marry young. Because you need to be able to financially able to support your kids . Most people in their 20s these days arent ready to financially to become parents
@@auser6828 in fact I. My family it is encouraged space your kids out due to it is financially more feasible that way and actually cheaper to raise them that way. My dad and mom had from oldest to youngest apart.. we were planned this way for financial ability to support us
What about if you have known the person for a long time and then started dating but you need to wait to get married (Not because of the person)
Horse Lover Hey! I guess it depends on your reason for waiting 😊
I kind of disagree with this. I think it just depends entirely on the couple. I dated a guy for an entire year when I was 19 and I was absolutely, 100% committed to him, I wanted to marry him, I wanted to spend my life with him. I had NO doubts. Then, he ended it, and afterwards, I saw how much I'd been in a bubble in that relationship. It wasn't bringing me closer to God. It wasn't giving me what I needed. But I didn't yet know what I needed, and I didn't have my life priorities sorted out yet because I WAS too young. Other people are more mature than me, and early marriage works for them. I am so glad I didn't get married to the first man I had a serious relationship with. It's all up to God and when He decides it's your time!!
Oh and new to your channel but really enjoying it so far, you guys are funny:)
Thanks for the comment Camila
Haha 0:55 😂😂
God's Kingdom Servant Keeping it edgy! 😜
Yes I agree that you get married 19 to 24
And have a baby between 19 to 24 so you can spend time with your child more longer and younger.
Sienaaa Bhabii Getting married and having a family in that age range makes it hard to enjoy your freedom.
Most people are even established mentally or financially at 19-24
Please don't talk about how "mature" you need to be. It makes older singles out to be seen as "immature". Whether to marry young, or average(I was 28 which was considered "average" for the year then) or older, is highly individual. And how old were you two when you married?
I'll be getting married at 18,5.😇
I REALLY WANNA GET MARRIED YOUNG 😂 if my girlfriend ever sees this that will be fun
Okay so I’m 18 and my girlfriend is as well. We’ve been dating for 10 months and at this point, I have no doubt in my mind that she’s the one that God gave me to spend the rest of my life with. The thing is, I don’t know whether or not I should propose. I really want to because I’m 100% sure about her, but we’re about to start college. Thoughts?
Isaac Ray I say wait. 18 is too young to get married. You are barely an adult. You haven’t experienced life you. There’s still alot of growth for you. Focus on yourself first, go to college, travel, better yourself, gain more experience . If she is really the right one, then she isn’t going anywhere. You can wait a few years.
Get married young for sure❤️
Everyone’s different. What may take someone 2 months to know if they want to marry someone may take another person over a year
Do yall believe in "the one" ?? Like God has the one for you ?? Or like it's not a specific person idk how to explain lol
They have a video talking about this.
Vanessa Gomes which one??!
ua-cam.com/video/CSAuNpXtRAc/v-deo.html
How old were you guys when you met
To answer: it depends who you are and what you want to have done in life, and how mature or not you are. For me, it would probably have been a mistake to marry young.
There are those, that are just born at a higher maturity level than others...old souls I believe they call them. And there are those that sometimes never mature...many factors play into this . But, the bible says, it's better to marry, than to burn....so, it also depends on your ability to fight lust as well....lots of prayer, and I believe as my wife and I did, go through Christian counseling before marriage....was the best thing we ever did! We've been married 30 years now, and are still the best of friends, lovers, and brother and sister in Christ! Knowing exactly what you are looking for in a spouse...and the other also knowing what each is looking for...Communication is everything, and even discussing sensitive subject matters and Christian beliefs prior to getting married....a thorough understanding between each other! Not just know yourself.....know who you are marrying....crucial!!!
I am 18 and I am about to get married husband
Like three of my friends have just gotten engaged and we are all 21.
Im new; I like your videos! How old WERE you when you got married?
How old were you both when you got married
How old were you two when you got married?
373dancerGirl 21 same age for both of’em
I like you guys a lot, but I guess I don't entirely understand with this advice you give consistently that you should never date for less than a year or that it's wrong to prayerfully pursue a relationship with someone you will not be in a position to marry for a longer time than the timeline you have set. I knew early on with my partner that we would marry, as did he. We came to this conclusion with prayer, through spending time with God and centering him in our relationship. However, it wasn't possible for us as we both felt called to pursue our educations in different states and continue dating each other long distance while focusing on marriage on a specific timeline, but a distant one. I felt in my heart that God was pushing me to move away and go to college in a very different political, social climate, and be a presence in campus ministry there. We want to honor our eventual marriage by saving it for a season when we can be together and be close to one another, rather than starting it in distance. We have been together for five years and are planning to marry next summer. I understand, having dated someone for that long, the reasons you cite for not encouraging long dating relationships--we should date with a purpose, we should not expose ourselves to unnecessary temptation, etc etc etc. But I have never once felt or been led to feel that our relationship and eventual marriage were not in God's plan because of our life circumstances. That time has given us a chance to grow in our relationships with God through each other. In our relationship, we were able to heal hurt we had both felt that was isolating each of us from God and our dating relationship fostered closeness with God we never would have had outside of it. And we have spent those years building strong personal relationships with the lord and learning so much about ourselves and each other with God watching over us and helping us stay focused on his design for love. I believe that this season of dating gave us so many tools to enter marriage with, and while it was hard and it stretched our patience and our hearts for God, ultimately that stretching created greater strength through Him and in Him. I understand that won't be the case for everyone, but especially since scripture does not prescribe any rule about less than a year, I think it's really important to talk about long term dating due to circumstances outside of emotional/spiritual readiness or 'sureness.'