HOW I FACED MY WORST ENEMY & WON | WHY I'VE REALLY BEEN GONE SO LONG
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2018
- Hey Sistas! I've been gone for a while dealing with some heavy issues and how I overcame some of my biggest fears, but I'm glad to be back and have the opportunity to share with Olay today.
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First off, you look absolutely gorgeous. Second, I love your message. Third, you’re such a phenomenal mom and a strong woman. Last, but certainly not least, I love you to infinity and beyond 💫...and I will ALWAYS be here for you. ❤️
Thank you my Love Muffin!!! I am also so very proud of you and witnessing your growth has been so inspiring! Love you more than you’ll ever know! ❤️
❤️big sissss! You said nothing but the truth , very impactful words, and your so brave to overcome yourself and the negative outsides sources! I love you!
Baby Sissss!!! Thanks my love!!! Love you, love you, love you so much!!!❤️😘
We as black women need to recognize the need to seek therapy. Wearing a mask is NOT and does NOT make the issue disappear. It is ok for us to not be strong... yes we are black women, but we are also human beings with feelings and emotions. Seeking outside influences (and NO a friend is not an outside influence) to point out the who, what, where, why and how is soooooooo beneficial. Someone who is non-judgmental and neutral. THERAPY black women!!! It is such a necessity in a world full of superficialness and hatred.
I see the difference in this woman's face. In her voice. In her demeanor. Thank you India, for being so transparent and open about this. Hopefully it will change the dialogue on seeking mental health help. You're amazing!!!
Just wanna add that I, too, went thru therapy and learned about my ego. I've learned how carrying "baggage" truly influences choices and decisions. I've learned to forgive and let go. And I've learned to love-- and be friendly to myself first before I can be friendly to anyone else. I thank my therapist for being that guiding voice and light in a sea of negativity that lived inside my head.
Be well all.
You hit the nail of my conviction right on the head because I was just about to say while reading this: "Well, I'm at least telling my best friend how I feel now"
Thank you for this
ALL 👏🏾 OF 👏🏾 THIS 👏🏾 !!! I was just discussing the Ego and how it gets in our way the other day! Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom with us, Sis! And thanks for recognizing the change, I literally feel the change!
NEEDED THIS!!!
@Drink me Fabulous because people have been taught for centuries that black people, among other things, feel no pain, are emotionless beings with mystical powers. I've seen physicians NOT give black men and women pain meds post surgery because of this myth!!! Look up eugenics... this is what whites are told about us.
You are not alone. I took off my cape recently. I had to accept that I could not longer do it all.
Transparency is much needed for and within our community. Yours is priceless. Thanks so much for your willingness to share to help others!
Thank you! And I agree, it is much needed!
Women NEED to hear this. I NEEDED to hear this. Thank you for your transparency. I was just having a convo with my best friend about Self Love. Looking within is key!
Sister, there's only 1 you...and only you can live at peace in that body...and sometimes we have to work to get there. We can't condemn us for realizing we got some stuff to do.
But seems like you're getting it together...that's what strong women do!
Nice to see you. : )
I’m sorry we invalidated your trauma. I have missed you so much you’re my favorite sister. I hope we can make social media a better place.
I really appreciate how you discussed the different types of women like not everyone wants to be a mom, or not every mom can make or wants to make the same choices as others. This was a really thoughtful and helpful video.
This was very brave of you.
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. You are empowering so many women to find help and heal from their experiences. The saddest thing is that so many women suffer alone because of the fear of judgment. It sounds like you're healing and thriving. Know your bravery is appreciated :)
I wore the mask of shame, feeling unnecessary, unloved, uninspired and unworthy and I chose to avoid negative emotions and to be a pleaser to try to cope with things. Last year I had one of my worst car accidents yet with all 3 of my children in the car, went through a divorce, found out I have narcolepsy and finally had an amazing, scary, powerful awakening. And... It was the hardest and best thing I've ever been through! There is NO award for being a superwoman, actually the reward is heartache, pain, mental, physical and spiritual bondage! Thank you for sharing, it's very very brave! Continue to be compassionate and kind to yourself 1st and share your truth. Many blessings on you sis! I'd love to know how you manage something like this and sustain a marriage, not to get in your business but it might be something others can be inspired and encouraged by. Therapy, reading, sharing, listening, connecting with a tribe of caring, genuine sisters and stillness has been an integral part of my healing as well.
It truly is an ongoing battle. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. We as people need to stop having preconceived notions on what we are supposed to be at different stages of our lives and a lot of the times we stress and over obsess on why we are not there and what we are doing wrong that we forget to actually enjoy the journey on getting to where we need. Some of the hardest things to overcome is to stop treating life like it's some sort of race or competition because when you do that you skip some of the best parts at least that's what I learned. Thank you so much for sharing.
The Truth! 🙌🏾
cjckennedy thank you for your post! I have lived this way for so long just now overcoming this way of thinking, being and living. Your post serves as a reminder to keep moving forward in my plight and where God is taking me😘
Well said!!!! Thank you!
You spoke to my soul, I can't stop crying for you and myself, you are a light in a dark world for speaking the truth that so many women deal with within themselves thank you for being brave , I love you and continue progressing
You are not the only one dealing with all the things you listed in this video. I feel like your inside my head. I needed to hear this!
You have been truly missed. Glad your doing the work to get better. God bless! 😊
Everybody thinks black women are strong and can take anything SO they throw a lot at us. In truth, we’re not stronger than anyone per se, we just have a fear of reaching out for help.
Thank you for being so brave and sharing with us.
Listening to you I was like:
Traumatized from a car accident ✔️
Because my injuries aren’t visible my friends say, “Oh she’s ok” Irks my life because I do have a permanent spinal injury and I’m in pain everyday ✔️
I loss my husband 13 years ago and I should be over it✔️
The whole time we were married (12 1/2 yrs) we tried to conceive unsuccessfully. Then I get the, “why don’t you have kids?”✔️
You’re especially right when you say we put in a smile and a pretty appearance but for me crying on the inside. I found myself taking care of everyone else and people who I helped repeatedly weren’t there for me Soo.... this year I decided to fall all the way back. Put myself first a little and it feel GOOD!!!!
So I give it to you for all you been thru and finding that light at the end of the tunnel. Congratulations 💙🦋👶🏻 on baby Phoenix!!!
I truly love this video and you. I love your sisters as well. Thank you for being so transparent. Mental health is not something that is talked about enough in the African American culture. I have also battled with not loving myself through a broken marriage, being a single mother, and other issues. Therapy is a must for me.
Omg I'm going through the exact same thing right now sis, hang in there, there are better days than others but when its bad its bad. I haven't seen professional help but I did just recently discover what what problems are, and most of them are because of my childhood. It's scary and hard to deal with but i'm glad you were BRAVE ENOUGH TO SHARE THIS AND HELP OTHER WOMAN. MUCH LOVE.
I cried all the way through this video because you touched a very scary topic that myself any many others experience. I pray for our strength ❤️
I too, was in a few car accidents. The last was when I was 5 months pregnant. My son side was hit by a bus, the impact busted the windows out ....the car spinned around almost the opposite direction. Thank God .....the baby was fine... my son didn't have one scratch or glass found in his skin or eyes. My daughter turned 11 yesterday. My son is now in college. Life can have a way to get to you. Glad you are healing and recovering !👍
Tawana Martin that must have been really painful and traumatizing
chelsie romero It was it took me 2 months to drive again....I know what she means....
Tawana Martin Thank God your son was unharmed. We were rear-ended by a drunk driver when my son was 6 months old. He was unharmed as well. I had a lot of pain and soreness but I was okay. But, I was a wreck emotionally and experienced anxiety while driving for months. I still
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India! This is right on time for me! I was just meditating on my self love today. I was thinking about a talk I was having with a mentor about thankfulness, acceptance and contentment. I never felt peace. After many sessions of meditation I just could never seem to find it. I started thinking about acceptance and the thought of allowing things to "be". To welcome the events that occur to not fight them but to move with them to accept them. The thought of this at one time gave me ANXIETY! I realized that I had a serious issue with contentment. I couldn't deal with the thought of letting things "be" without doing something. I realized that maybe I didn't know what contentment really was... Maybe it's simply being thankful for what "is". The thought of this allowed me to have acceptance of love ( because I couldn't at one time from myself or anyone else) information, wisdom or other gifts . Without guilt, judgements, returns or questions of value or worth. Being able to understand contentment and acceptance through being thankful has finally brought me peace. I hope you find it as well! Namaste sistas.
Yes!!! Thank you so much for sharing this!!! The peace I’ve found ... Sis! Like you said, I never felt peace until I truly accepted myself and life as it was. I may not be able to work on or change the people or situations that surround me, but I CAN work on myself. So much more gratitude for the simple things in life and focusing my energy on what truly matters. Much Love to you, Sis! ❤️
This video came right on time 🙌🏾. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with us. I can definitely relate to a lot of what you said and I’m sure many other women will too. You’ve helped us more than you’ll ever know.
Thank you!!! And I’m so glad this helped. ❤️
It's a work in progress for our entire lives! The work is never done but once the self inquiry journey starts it is so beautiful! Great video❤
This is so real. The post pet period can be soooo lonely. Thank you for sharing❤️A LOT of women need to hear this
So happy for you and thank you so much for sharing your story. It wasn't an accident that I ended up watching this today. I really needed it. Thanks again!
Thank you for openess, honesty and vulnerability. It touched me that you were brave enough to share your heart on this platform. 💜🙏🏾
Bless you. I am going through it now. I’ve always struggled with depression.
I have high and lows but it seems as if my lows are getting dangerous. Thank you for sharing.
This was on point. While I've missed your presence on YT I'm so happy that you took this time out for yourself. I appreciate you sharing this video because this is the kind of thing that let's people know that they are NOT alone in their feelings. There IS someone who can relate. I believe that your transparency can and WILL most definitely save a life. Thank you!
Thank you for your story. The myth of being a "strong black woman" is silencing our hurting, emotions, etc and killing us. Im learning to accept being vulnerable and to seek help (therapy). Thanks again 🙌🏿❤
I can relate to this on so many fronts! Let's start with the most important part: I too almost lost my son.
My best friend and I were pregnant at the same time and due 10 days apart. She went in 5 days overdue and I was honestly just curious to see where I was since the doctor hadn't measured me in a while. Went to the ER, told them I'd been having mild contractions (true) and they checked me in for observation. Turns out I was in active labor (who knew)! They hooked me up to everything and about 4 hours later something started beeping and everyone went crazy. They were all talking to each other but no one was speaking to me at all, they were busy rushing me into the OR. I finally caught someone's attention enough to ask what was going on b/c I couldn't get enough info while they were yelling at each other and it was just a cacophony of voices. A nurse finally told me his heart rate was around 40 and dropping quickly so they were going to give me a C-Section. There was an anesthesiologist to the right of my head that was pushing meds when I decided to ask if I could try pushing. They literally all stopped, doctors, nurses and anyone else in the room, looked at each other and the doctor finally decided I could try. 10 minutes later my son was born, a little blue with the cord wrapped around his neck twice. He's now 9 and consistently the brightest boy in his class! God is so good!
I was recently diagnosed with major depressive disorder as well as a mood disorder. Mental health is so taboo in the African American community and for so long I resisted getting help but no more. I feel better. I like feeling better. I'm glad you got help. 🖤
Thank you for sharing, when you said, “there’s a light at the end of the tunnel,” I felt that.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. I have felt like something is wrong with me. I feel inadequate and sad and scared. But the worst is i cant put my finger on it. I've thought about counseling and that scares me. Idk, im a mess but im not going to stop til i figure it out.
Thank you for this video! It is always comforting to know that we are not alone in our struggles.
This was one of the most beautiful and transparent videos that I have watched. You will/are helping so many people with this video. Shoot you're helping me come to a realization that I had PTSD after having my son, and it's been 19 yrs since I had him. In the beginning I couldn't talk about his coming into the world w/o crying. A woman's/ mother's intuition is never wrong and we should never ignore it.
I gained 5lbs from one Tuesday appt to the next at 35 weeks, when I had plateaued at a 25 lbs weight gain for my entire pregnancy. My blood pressure was high(when it never has been) and I was sent home on bed rest for the next 2 days and a jug to collect urine for protein. I took it back on that Thursday gave it to the lab, something said before you leave get them to check your bp to see if it's gone down. It was even higher, they put me in a quiet dimly lit room for some time, came back it was even higher. They called my doctor and long story short I was given the urine back and sent to L&D where I ended up having an emergency C-section for mine and the baby's safety(I was going to be 36 wks the next day). My son came out blue, not breathing, and almost died and transferred to another hospital's NICU. He was in the hospital 4 days shy of a month. He does now have Mild Intellectual Disability and on the Autism Spectrum, however, he can communicate and do for himself. But my husband and I will take ALL of what comes with him and thankful I followed my intuition because had I just gone home we both could have died. So you aren't alone in your feelings. Tfs
trishalachell God is good!! Your story is indeed a testimony!
Wow i needed to read this. I had eclampsia with my baby girl almost a year ago november 5th. I had all the signs of preeclampsia but wasn't diagnosed. I had 4 seizures and had an emergency c-section at 34weeks.
Holy shit - you just put a label to something I didn’t even realize I was experiencing. Thank you for sharing your story! 🙏🏾
India!!! Thanks for sharing your journey on self acceptance and being vulnerable. I too can relate to being in a state of self rejection and constantly seeking validation from others. I appreciate you and I've always considered you a beautiful kindred sista. Much Love to you! We will get thru it!! ~Agnew~
Hey!!!! We can and will get through this! Thank you for all of your support over the years! Sending my Love, Light ✨, and Blessings 🤗
Thank you for sharing what thousands (if not more) of people are going through everyday, but no one says anything out loud. I have gone through the same thing and had to reach out for help. I’m glad I did, because keeping silent almost silenced me forever.... but GOD!!!!
May you and yours forever be blessed!
I can’t love and share this fast enough! Thank you, glad you are doing better 💜
Thank you for being so fearless to share your story.
So happy for you!! Much needed, thank you for this. As always you look beautifuuul.
Sending love sis ive went threw something similar with both kids!!! Post parturm depression is real! Child birth, pregnancy traumas,and abusive and toxic relationships alot to take on. Healing is part of the process one day at a time self care and love💜💜💜💜
It sure is! And thanks for sharing, Sis! We def need to have more open discussions about this.
Post Partum Depression is so real. My daughter is almost ten and I am finally comfortable with talking to people about it, especially other new moms so they don’t feel alone like I did. I felt ashamed not being happy after giving birth to a healthy baby. Thanks for sharing India! 💕
Beautifully spoken.
You are beautiful! This is a beautiful testimony!! Thank you for sharing your heart ❤️
God bless hun. To look within and be transparent with oneself is the starting point for growth of character. I remember when I had that moment like you and took the steps to healing. I’m still on that journey.
We hold so much, so glad you got help and shared this. “Have mercy on yourself” needed this❤️
So happy your shared your journey! It has helped me already. Great to see you again.
I love you and your honesty! We’re your family and will always be there for you no matter how often you’re here and how long it takes if you take a break 💕 😘
I love y’all sooooo much!!! Thank you!!!
You're so beautiful sis. Thank you for the transparency. God bless you and your family. I'm praying for you all!
Thanks for your encouragement and glad you're back.
You're so beautiful and blessed.
That is so true India when you said “so many people would rather hide behind a mask their entire lives.” Transparency can be hard but it’s necessary for self-healing and to help others heal. Thank you for sharing and encouraging.
YOU look beautiful!! I'm so proud of you. Thanks for sharing.💗
Thank you for this video! You made me cry because I am in that SPOT! I needed this. Love your hair also
Thank you for this. I wish you and your family nothing but the best 💖
I'm really thankful you posted this video. I've been going through a very similar journey, so this is confirmation from God I'm on the right track. I thank you and your biological sisters for you all's commitment to your own journeys and to us with your videos. From one Sista to another? You're a lighthouse on a dark sea. 💗
Thank you so much! Your comment has me feeling all the feels 😭 and y’alls feedback is my confirmation from God that putting this out was what I was supposed to do. Thank you! ❤️
Thank you for being so transparent! I needed to hear your story more than you could ever know!
So happy and proud of you for sharing your truth with us!!
Wow!! Thanks so much for sharing something so personal. I always tell people “You never know what someone is going through”. Just because a person smiles 😊 and seems to be happy 😃 doesn’t mean they are not going through anything.
I’m so proud of you and thank you so much. I’m glad you sought out the help you needed to fell better for yourself!!!
I just want to say THANK YOU. Just thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for putting this out there 💜
Love that you shared! Great reminder and added reassurance that self care is so essential as well as self worth, love and appreciation . ❤️
Thank you for sharing!! Sometimes our bodies go in survival mode without us knowing. It is an amazing blessing!
This conversation is much needed ❤️
Thank you thank you!! I just looked at myself in the mirror and said who are you ? Having 2 boys 13months apart and getting married kinda made me feel like I’ve lost myself. Like I’ve lost my identity I don’t feel like I’m depressed or anything but I defiantly feel like I’m lost and I definitely need to hear this. I need to find myself within myself. I need to stop worrying about what other people think and there opinions. Thank you I look forward to more videos and welcome back 💃🏾
Priin Jones 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 same here!!!
Wow.....thank you for sharing and being so transparent! So many women needed to hear this!
Thanks for the courage to share your truth. I'm pleased to see you back and happy your mental and physical health are optimal
Thanks for being so transparent sista!
Really needed to hear this. Thanks sis❤
Your liberation has you glowing! Glad you were able to be fearless!
Thank you India for being so transparent and reminding me that seeking help doesn’t make me weak but human.
I am sooo proud of what you put here on your platform! YOU just saved someone's LIFE!!! WE LOVE YOU!
Thank you so much for making this! I've been following you and your sisters for almost 10 years, I was a freshman in college and baby natural :) and wow, I feel like I've grown with yall. Thank you. Keep being real with us, it's greatly appreciated and we're all doing this healing work together.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and for sharing your journey
Thank you for your transparency. I just want to send you a bunch of hugs, love. Truly, your journey you've shared has been phenomenal. Fight the good fight and don't give up💙💙💙💙💙
Love, Love, LOVE and NEEDED this video!!!! Thank you for sharing, and for being transparent. You are not alone sis!!!! Much love and light to you and your family!!! ❤❤❤
Everything you are saying in this video is real and on point! You delivered the message so brilliantly. Thank you for sharing and keeping it real.
When I tell you this video was everything!!!!! Thank you for laying your soul bare! Your openness was so refreshing and much needed! 🤗🤗🤗
What a great, great video! I definitely cried! I identified with sooo much of what you said, and I thank you for being transparent, authentic, and sharing with us! ❤
This is such a powerful message that needs to be addressed more often. Amazing video 👏🏼❤
Thank you for being transparent. I needed to hear this. I’m working on forgiving myself and not being so hard on myself.
A beautiful message. We miss you and Im so glad you’ve gone through that journey of self-love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Big Sis! Needed to hear this ❤️
This was amazing and on point. Exactly what women need to hear!
Wonderful, wonderful, wonderfully, WONDERFUL video! You look renewed 🙂 I pray you continue to heal and thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing this. This was right on time for me. Kudos to you for doing the ultimate self care and taking steps to get stronger for yourself and your family!
Thank you so much for your transparency. I really needed this.
You spoke to everyone. My heart is with you. Thank you for your honesty. Mask off.
Thank you for sharing. I felt the same way when I had my son. He didn’t almost die, but I definitely had post partum depression. I lied to the doctors about how I was feeling, but I was truly had a hard time adjusting despite doing all of the motions to care for my little one. Keep growing pretty girl!
Thank you so much for sharing. For being you and speaking about the good, the bad, and the scary 💛
You are definitely not alone. Thank you for those video I will listen to this as often as I need.
Thank you for sharing your story. So many people deal with what you went through and I appreciate you being forthcoming for many other women who may be going through similar situations. God bless you!
Wishing you all the best!!!! I totally and completely agree that we have to look within in order to heal... appreciate your transparency!!!!
You are so right. A cancer diagnosis woke me up. Woke me right up! I’m in the process of overhauling every part of me. It will take time but I am doing it. Great video.
Kudos to you and being transparent. You are beautiful, amazing, and fierce!
This was a beautiful video. Thank you for sharing your story, the timing was so precise that I know it was truly divine
You are so AMAZING! Thanks so much for sharing. You are inspiring. You are in my prayers.
I’m soooooo proud of you for doin this video! I don’t know u personally but u and ur sisters are wonderful women! I’ve been through a lot and this video is sooooo relatable, we luv u sista!
I was not in the mood to cry this morning...thank you for sharing sis! I went through very similar issues with my last pregnancy and depression afterwards and you're right, you have to be honest with yourself and love yourself. The Lord is your strength! ❤
LOVE YOUR TRANSPARENCY!!! God bless you sis
Thank you for this. It's exactly what I needed to hear at this very moment.