This fear is so real for us as women and I feel like with all of the news and documentaries coming out it makes me even more paranoid. My partner literally only locks his doors because of my fear with this. Living alone or with someone it is so difficult to overcome the anxieties. I am so glad that you are safe and I really hope the person experiencing the breakdown has support in his life and is able to find the healing he needs. ❤ I hope that you find comfort after experiencing this and find little things that give you the sense of safety you deserve, much love from Arizona!
"the news and documentaries coming out it makes me even more paranoid." YES. I'm a woman who works in violent rime, and I strongly believe society tries to make women afraid of this shit. Afraid of strangers, afraid of doing things alone, afraid to leave the house... when really the men who are most likely to inflict harm on us are the men we love and who claim to love us. Our fathers, boyfriends, friends, husbands...
So scary :( I’m glad you’re ok, it hurts to hear this happened to you. I lived in a spot with two other girls and like a week before I moved in someone broke into the apt via a window on the fire escape. It really can happen to anybody, living alone or not and nothing can really prepare you for that situation. I hope you’re feeling a little bit better day by day
Hey Jenny, I'm so sorry about your experience. I'm sure many other comments echo this sentiment, but having a dog live in your home with you is truly the best thing you can do for mental health, for safety, and for emotional support. Although there is a lot of responsibility that comes with being a pet owner as well, I think the benefits outweigh those. My dachshund has alerted me several times in the middle of the night to sounds I didn't even hear! Thankfully it was all good (apartment neighbors), but their senses are unmatched and so beneficial. It's also so smart to rehearse those scenarios in your head prior to an actual event occurring. Wishing you the best, and I'm glad you are safe.
Personally I loved your little drill to escaping a situation like the one you mentioned. I think it was great! Just remember Jenny, if you trust in yourself you become more than capable of escaping situations like this. Glad you were ok :) x
Hi Jenny, I’m so happy your okay and I appreciate you sharing all sides of living alone. It’s important to talk about. I felt like I could relate a lot to the feeling of being frustrated sometimes that yes I’m lucky to be able to live alone but ultimately it’s not my goal and would be nice to have somebody especially in these very real and scary situations. I’m in the same boat of grappling with that and finding ways to feel safe and secure inside and out. It’s been a learning curve and maybe I’ll be better for it in the long run learning how to deal with these types of situations on my own. But in the mean time it’s good to know there’s other ppl who go through it! I hope you have a better week and that it is full of more sweetness ❤
I live half the time alone when my kids are with their Dad so I know how it feels to live alone. I have a wooden baseball bat next to my bed and more importantly, I have a little dog that will alert me to anything happening. She has a really loud bark and is always on patrol. I really think a dog will make you feel better. Try not to feel too afraid, I've been in LA for 30 years and have been safe. Plan something fun for this weekend.
as a single woman living alone i can totally relate and am so glad to hear it all was ok at the end. your escape plan is A+. i have never thought about it, but now i definitely will. sending you love. you are srtonger than you think ❤
Jenny, that is terrifying. I'm sorry you went through that but so relieved it all turned out okay thankfully. I've been doing jiujitsu for almost 8 years now, never with the intention of ever using it in real life, but for the knowledge and confidence it has instilled in my ability as a person, as a woman. There are so many jiujitsu gyms in LA, I would highly recommend getting into it. It's a great way to exercise, but ultimately it has made me so much more confident in ME and my ability to protect myself or get away in a worst case scenario. Stay safe
jenny!!! im so sorry that you went through that traumatic event. im happy you are physically ok and taking it day by day. with time i hope your wound heals xoxoxox
Thanks so much for sharing this. I’ve had this happen to me and I am still struggling with feeling comfortable around my apartment at night. It’s such a real part and thank you for sharing it with us x
Having a dog helped’me so so much feeling secure emotionnally ans physicall, dealing with paranoïa (someone came into my House few years ago and didnt heard). Now i know that my shetland sheepdog Will always alert and bark. When he doesnt do anything im not gettîng into paranoid and insecure stairs. Wish you this and all thé love around.
sending love! 🧡💛🧡 that's a scary thing to go through on your own. I'm glad it all ended up okay, I feel sorry for the neighbour. also, you rock basics so well.. any oversized shirt or blouse looks amazing on ya!
So sorry that happened Jenny. I'm in my 20s and have lived alone for a few years now and I felt so much safer after getting my dog. Having that peace of mind makes all the difference. Plus she helps me feel a lot less lonely. Sending love!
so sorry you had to experience this, especially on your own! I've had similar scares while living alone and that incredibly lonely feeling of "who do I call" if/when something happens...just remember you do have people that love you and will be there to comfort you
I think your plan is a great plan. It's so nice that other people (men especially) have been given the confidence for confrontation but no matter who you are it has the potential to go so wrong.
Great one! I really think I understand your fear and concern. I live by myself, but with my landlords in the same building. We also had some break ins during Christmas. And even though I curse(d) living here so often, I am starting to realize that a) it Is good and helpful to not live completely alone, so one can watch out for each other, but leading to b) which is even more important; starting to make connections with the people who are There, in your environment... Your neighbors... As you so fittingly said in one of your last videos " easy for me, hard for you (vice versa)" I also understand how hard it is to approach people, even or .... especially in one's own neighbourhood sometimes, hehe. And even, if they seem to have mental health issues. Just being gentle to each other and willing to understand one another. I'm working on that myself, but wanna get along truthfully. Love you, and sending you much peace and confidence, that "This, too, shall pass" (: 🌿❤
omfg. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Also my worst fear. It was helpful that you shared your plan, I hadn’t thought about what I would actually do if it happened, other than worrying about it generally. ❤
As a child I experienced a attempt to break in, thank god my dad was an alcoholic at the time and was awake. And screamed when he saw a gloved hand at the window. But that fear always fucked my sleep up once I lived on my own. Since moving in with my boyfriend, who has two dogs I’ve slept like a baby 😂 so can conquer that having gorgeous dogs around really helped me. They are a massive commitment though especially when you want to travel. So really important to be really sure your ready. So sad you went though this and for the experiences in comments too. Sending love to all who have anxiety and traumas from break ins ❤❤❤❤❤
I discovered your channel a week ago but I love your content. I’ve been watching your videos every day 🌸 So sorry for what happened with your neighbour, I am glad you are okay.
I respect you so much for sharing this and talking about this. This is a real thing that women may face, whether living alone or when their partner is away. We need to talk about this more to balance the over glamorization/romanticisation of life on social media. Thank you. It will take time to get over this, maybe moving will help? and therapy for sure
love you so much jenny boo, I'm glad to know all is well. the fear is real and not often talked enough about so thank you for the share. having a plan A, B, C is essential even if you live with someone. so kudos on your escape plan. Can't you look into an alarm system and have your landlord install it? maybe split the cost. just a suggestion. xoxo
I’m living alone in SF and totally feel your fears of living alone. I get random people buzzing my door in the middle of the night. It never really scared me (I’ve lived there for 10 years) until recently and it has increased my anxiety/depression so much. I’m heading back to SoCal to be in a safer environment later this year and to not live alone… being closer to family definitely makes me feel safer!
Glad you are safe hope you start feeling better soon. I know you don’t want to rely on a dog, but as a single woman sometimes a dog is a great deterrent for creeps on the street or break ins, especially bigger breeds or stereotypically scary breeds. My cousin is small and has has d multiple scares with big men following her nothing has happened thank goodness but she was stressed more often than not. Now she has an American boxer and let me tell you she can walk nyc streets at any time and feels safe with her best pal
thank you for sharing, its really important because many people do not think about what they should do in this situation / think that these things may never happen- they might never happen but they can! also opening the window and screaming/screaming for help will also put anyone off thats trying to get in! don't worry what time it is, also try to have at least one neighbour's phone number, you could visit them and say what happened or if you feel unsafe and would like to mutually be a point of contact. Another tip is pushing furniture up against the door of the room you're in , even if you have a lock or not - it could help you bide time. im wondering if keeping mase or something like that in a few locations around the house would also be helpful. I wish you feel calmer and safer soon
I deeply appreciate your honestly and vulnerability - it’s what makes you one of my favourite online creators. I never find myself comparing my life to yours because you don’t pretend your life is perfect.
Had a man climb up to my window and had his full body pressed against the bars peeping on me one night and it was freaking terrifying. For weeks I was afraid he was going to break into my apartment. Thankfully I had bars on my windows but I’ll never forget. Take care of you, be gentle on yourself and hope you find something fun to do as a distraction! ❤
I am so so so sorry you had to experience what you did. I had the very same thing happen to me but it was at my house. The cops came quickly and what i think ended up happening was that i think the person was trying to get into the wrong house. Anyway we ended up getting a dog (pittie, boarder collie mix) the sweetest 60lb pup but also has the meanest bark and is very protective of our house/lets people know his presence strangers who ring the doorbell or bring packages. He would definitely attack anyone that intruded our house. Having a dog makes me feel so so safe. I think having a pup maybe would make you feel safe as well?
Totally get it - life as a woman is so HARD. Sorry if someone’s doesn’t want to hear this. living in a constant vigilant state is exhausting. Yet is all that we got atm. sucks. Sorry you had to go through that, and happy it turned out to be ok - still traumatic tho. ❤ it will take some time
thank you for sharing, im sorry this happened to you, unfortunatly nothing new, specially the feeling of unsecurity in us women. I think a dog would be a great pal to have by your side, it would not only help you feel safer, but give you tons of love. Also i know you love animals so maybe this, as ugly as it was, was a sign for you to go adopt a little doggie and enjoy some walks, time and love with him in LA . BTW I quitted social media some time ago but you're one of the few ones I still watch here on youtube, I relate so much with your experiences & energy. If you ever come by to Madrid, I can show you around / give you tips :) I'm sending you looots of love.
I’m glad you’re safe. Something I avoid is eating corn. As silly as it sounds… I once almost choked to death and thankfully I was not alone that morning but I was supposed to be
I’m a man so things are a little different for me but I live alone in a city with very high crime. I keep a thick wooden baseball bat and a switchblade next to my bedside. I just know if anything goes down, I’ll be jumping out the window. It’s scary for all of us
I never understood why all young women youtubers use the title 'living alone,' or 'living alone in the woods.' Is it supposed to be titillating, its very weird?
This fear is so real for us as women and I feel like with all of the news and documentaries coming out it makes me even more paranoid. My partner literally only locks his doors because of my fear with this. Living alone or with someone it is so difficult to overcome the anxieties.
I am so glad that you are safe and I really hope the person experiencing the breakdown has support in his life and is able to find the healing he needs. ❤ I hope that you find comfort after experiencing this and find little things that give you the sense of safety you deserve, much love from Arizona!
"the news and documentaries coming out it makes me even more paranoid." YES. I'm a woman who works in violent rime, and I strongly believe society tries to make women afraid of this shit. Afraid of strangers, afraid of doing things alone, afraid to leave the house... when really the men who are most likely to inflict harm on us are the men we love and who claim to love us. Our fathers, boyfriends, friends, husbands...
So scary :( I’m glad you’re ok, it hurts to hear this happened to you. I lived in a spot with two other girls and like a week before I moved in someone broke into the apt via a window on the fire escape. It really can happen to anybody, living alone or not and nothing can really prepare you for that situation. I hope you’re feeling a little bit better day by day
Hey Jenny, I'm so sorry about your experience. I'm sure many other comments echo this sentiment, but having a dog live in your home with you is truly the best thing you can do for mental health, for safety, and for emotional support. Although there is a lot of responsibility that comes with being a pet owner as well, I think the benefits outweigh those. My dachshund has alerted me several times in the middle of the night to sounds I didn't even hear! Thankfully it was all good (apartment neighbors), but their senses are unmatched and so beneficial. It's also so smart to rehearse those scenarios in your head prior to an actual event occurring. Wishing you the best, and I'm glad you are safe.
Personally I loved your little drill to escaping a situation like the one you mentioned. I think it was great! Just remember Jenny, if you trust in yourself you become more than capable of escaping situations like this. Glad you were ok :) x
Hi Jenny, I’m so happy your okay and I appreciate you sharing all sides of living alone. It’s important to talk about. I felt like I could relate a lot to the feeling of being frustrated sometimes that yes I’m lucky to be able to live alone but ultimately it’s not my goal and would be nice to have somebody especially in these very real and scary situations. I’m in the same boat of grappling with that and finding ways to feel safe and secure inside and out. It’s been a learning curve and maybe I’ll be better for it in the long run learning how to deal with these types of situations on my own. But in the mean time it’s good to know there’s other ppl who go through it! I hope you have a better week and that it is full of more sweetness ❤
I live half the time alone when my kids are with their Dad so I know how it feels to live alone. I have a wooden baseball bat next to my bed and more importantly, I have a little dog that will alert me to anything happening. She has a really loud bark and is always on patrol. I really think a dog will make you feel better. Try not to feel too afraid, I've been in LA for 30 years and have been safe. Plan something fun for this weekend.
as a single woman living alone i can totally relate and am so glad to hear it all was ok at the end. your escape plan is A+. i have never thought about it, but now i definitely will. sending you love. you are srtonger than you think ❤
Jenny, that is terrifying. I'm sorry you went through that but so relieved it all turned out okay thankfully. I've been doing jiujitsu for almost 8 years now, never with the intention of ever using it in real life, but for the knowledge and confidence it has instilled in my ability as a person, as a woman. There are so many jiujitsu gyms in LA, I would highly recommend getting into it. It's a great way to exercise, but ultimately it has made me so much more confident in ME and my ability to protect myself or get away in a worst case scenario. Stay safe
these vlogs are so calming and relaxing. Thank you for these 🫶
jenny!!! im so sorry that you went through that traumatic event. im happy you are physically ok and taking it day by day. with time i hope your wound heals xoxoxox
Thanks so much for sharing this. I’ve had this happen to me and I am still struggling with feeling comfortable around my apartment at night. It’s such a real part and thank you for sharing it with us x
Having a dog helped’me so so much feeling secure emotionnally ans physicall, dealing with paranoïa (someone came into my House few years ago and didnt heard). Now i know that my shetland sheepdog Will always alert and bark. When he doesnt do anything im not gettîng into paranoid and insecure stairs. Wish you this and all thé love around.
sending love! 🧡💛🧡 that's a scary thing to go through on your own. I'm glad it all ended up okay, I feel sorry for the neighbour. also, you rock basics so well.. any oversized shirt or blouse looks amazing on ya!
So sorry that happened Jenny. I'm in my 20s and have lived alone for a few years now and I felt so much safer after getting my dog. Having that peace of mind makes all the difference. Plus she helps me feel a lot less lonely. Sending love!
Hi Jenny
so sorry you had to experience this, especially on your own! I've had similar scares while living alone and that incredibly lonely feeling of "who do I call" if/when something happens...just remember you do have people that love you and will be there to comfort you
Omg yay! you and Moya hanging out, I'm so happy, I loved you two together in Barcelona. You two were everything and you guys vibe so well ❤️
So sorry you had to experience that. It’s the worst. Sending hugs x
oh jenny, sending you so much love
I think your plan is a great plan. It's so nice that other people (men especially) have been given the confidence for confrontation but no matter who you are it has the potential to go so wrong.
so glad you're okay Jenny
Stay safe bebe !!!! Sending a positive energy towards you !! That must have been so scary for real. But I hope you have good days ahead
Great one! I really think I understand your fear and concern. I live by myself, but with my landlords in the same building. We also had some break ins during Christmas. And even though I curse(d) living here so often, I am starting to realize that a) it Is good and helpful to not live completely alone, so one can watch out for each other, but leading to b) which is even more important; starting to make connections with the people who are There, in your environment... Your neighbors... As you so fittingly said in one of your last videos " easy for me, hard for you (vice versa)" I also understand how hard it is to approach people, even or .... especially in one's own neighbourhood sometimes, hehe. And even, if they seem to have mental health issues. Just being gentle to each other and willing to understand one another.
I'm working on that myself, but wanna get along truthfully. Love you, and sending you much peace and confidence, that "This, too, shall pass" (: 🌿❤
omfg. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Also my worst fear. It was helpful that you shared your plan, I hadn’t thought about what I would actually do if it happened, other than worrying about it generally. ❤
As a child I experienced a attempt to break in, thank god my dad was an alcoholic at the time and was awake. And screamed when he saw a gloved hand at the window. But that fear always fucked my sleep up once I lived on my own. Since moving in with my boyfriend, who has two dogs I’ve slept like a baby 😂 so can conquer that having gorgeous dogs around really helped me. They are a massive commitment though especially when you want to travel. So really important to be really sure your ready.
So sad you went though this and for the experiences in comments too.
Sending love to all who have anxiety and traumas from break ins ❤❤❤❤❤
I was hoping you’d uploaded! Perfect timing ! Wishing you a lovely day, from London xx
So sorry this happened to you Jenny. Sending you tons of hugs, peace and comfort. xx
you are officially my comfort vlogger
I'm sorry you had to go through that and I'm glad you are safe
I discovered your channel a week ago but I love your content. I’ve been watching your videos every day 🌸
So sorry for what happened with your neighbour, I am glad you are okay.
I respect you so much for sharing this and talking about this. This is a real thing that women may face, whether living alone or when their partner is away. We need to talk about this more to balance the over glamorization/romanticisation of life on social media. Thank you. It will take time to get over this, maybe moving will help? and therapy for sure
Wholesome garden moments 😌 please keep us updated on Scarlett's garden! x
I haven't finished the vid yet but the dead mouse/dead mau5 thing got me
So happy you are OK🙏🏿🖤
I have a similar plan. I also have a Ring security system and have stickers on every window.
love you so much jenny boo, I'm glad to know all is well. the fear is real and not often talked enough about so thank you for the share. having a plan A, B, C is essential even if you live with someone. so kudos on your escape plan. Can't you look into an alarm system and have your landlord install it? maybe split the cost. just a suggestion. xoxo
I’m living alone in SF and totally feel your fears of living alone. I get random people buzzing my door in the middle of the night. It never really scared me (I’ve lived there for 10 years) until recently and it has increased my anxiety/depression so much. I’m heading back to SoCal to be in a safer environment later this year and to not live alone… being closer to family definitely makes me feel safer!
Glad you are safe hope you start feeling better soon. I know you don’t want to rely on a dog, but as a single woman sometimes a dog is a great deterrent for creeps on the street or break ins, especially bigger breeds or stereotypically scary breeds. My cousin is small and has has d multiple scares with big men following her nothing has happened thank goodness but she was stressed more often than not. Now she has an American boxer and let me tell you she can walk nyc streets at any time and feels safe with her best pal
Omg I love moya’s videos!
So glad you’re okay now ❤
Does anyone know where this beautiful pendant is from?
thank you for sharing, its really important because many people do not think about what they should do in this situation / think that these things may never happen- they might never happen but they can! also opening the window and screaming/screaming for help will also put anyone off thats trying to get in! don't worry what time it is, also try to have at least one neighbour's phone number, you could visit them and say what happened or if you feel unsafe and would like to mutually be a point of contact. Another tip is pushing furniture up against the door of the room you're in , even if you have a lock or not - it could help you bide time. im wondering if keeping mase or something like that in a few locations around the house would also be helpful. I wish you feel calmer and safer soon
Get the service angel! 🐶💗
We love you Jenny!!
I deeply appreciate your honestly and vulnerability - it’s what makes you one of my favourite online creators. I never find myself comparing my life to yours because you don’t pretend your life is perfect.
sending you all the love Jenny!!!
When you need help always yell fire. That way you are sure to get help because no one wants to burn up.😬 Glad you are okay. All love
hi Jenny, what cameras do you use for your videos?!
sending love I am so sorry that that happened to you
Had a man climb up to my window and had his full body pressed against the bars peeping on me one night and it was freaking terrifying. For weeks I was afraid he was going to break into my apartment. Thankfully I had bars on my windows but I’ll never forget.
Take care of you, be gentle on yourself and hope you find something fun to do as a distraction! ❤
I missed your videos jenny! I hope ur doing great!!
awh hi! you too !!!! have a blessed day!!! xxx
I am so so so sorry you had to experience what you did. I had the very same thing happen to me but it was at my house. The cops came quickly and what i think ended up happening was that i think the person was trying to get into the wrong house. Anyway we ended up getting a dog (pittie, boarder collie mix) the sweetest 60lb pup but also has the meanest bark and is very protective of our house/lets people know his presence strangers who ring the doorbell or bring packages. He would definitely attack anyone that intruded our house. Having a dog makes me feel so so safe. I think having a pup maybe would make you feel safe as well?
Babe, Jenny posted!
Totally get it - life as a woman is so HARD. Sorry if someone’s doesn’t want to hear this. living in a constant vigilant state is exhausting. Yet is all that we got atm. sucks. Sorry you had to go through that, and happy it turned out to be ok - still traumatic tho. ❤ it will take some time
thank you for sharing, im sorry this happened to you, unfortunatly nothing new, specially the feeling of unsecurity in us women. I think a dog would be a great pal to have by your side, it would not only help you feel safer, but give you tons of love. Also i know you love animals so maybe this, as ugly as it was, was a sign for you to go adopt a little doggie and enjoy some walks, time and love with him in LA . BTW I quitted social media some time ago but you're one of the few ones I still watch here on youtube, I relate so much with your experiences & energy. If you ever come by to Madrid, I can show you around / give you tips :) I'm sending you looots of love.
i just want ONE jenny meal. ONE! you throw down on that stove everytime
NEXT TIME YOURE IN TOWN I AM MAKING U A MEAL AND THATS FINAL
will you please make cute little magazines for your new project
Tap water u are unstoppable 😭
I can’t be the only one that recognises your friend Scarlett from the Cody Simpson music video back in the day 😅🫶🏾
Hahhaha she is going to love this comment
love your videos
Moya!!!
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people love the living alone lol
I’m glad you’re safe. Something I avoid is eating corn. As silly as it sounds… I once almost choked to death and thankfully I was not alone that morning but I was supposed to be
I’m a man so things are a little different for me but I live alone in a city with very high crime. I keep a thick wooden baseball bat and a switchblade next to my bedside. I just know if anything goes down, I’ll be jumping out the window. It’s scary for all of us
Which you the safe place around you
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Listening to Action 👅🧠
Get an alarm or ring . Is not feeding the fear is being realistic and taking care of yourself
I never understood why all young women youtubers use the title 'living alone,' or 'living alone in the woods.' Is it supposed to be titillating, its very weird?
That cute slug is going to eat all her plants!!! Get rid of the bastard
Hei bourn
You are a nice girl
Stay well
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I’m not on instagram ❤