1 Week Without Riley & Chat About Pet Grief
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- Опубліковано 11 тра 2021
- How our first week without Riley went. How we are coping, things we are remembering, and how we learned our feelings are normal. Also showing the lovely cards and gifts we got as well as showing Riley's urn, paw print and fur clippings. Showing the custom urn I plan to get made for him and brief chat about my other cats in the past and what I did for them after they passed away. I also advocate for in home euthanasia at the end of the video and explain why and how you can go about finding a vet in your area to do that.
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I absolutely agree with the article about pet loss. I was utterly distraught after loosing my Beagle Tasha. She was my shadow, I swear she knew what I was going to do before I’d even thought of it. She had suffered from epilepsy for more than half of her life which only intensified our bond. It took me three years to bring my new little girl into my life and I remember crying from guilt the night before I brought her home.. but my house feels like a home again. Just take one day at a time 🙏 xx
That is cute I'm glad you're going to do the same thing for Riley when you're ready
Oh sweetie, my heart just feels for you and your community! Please don't apologize for communicating your grief in your way and timing. Hugs hugs hugs!!! I'm glad you chose to do a week later update. Hugs!!
Never second guess yourself, you was a great cat mom and did everything you could for Riley. He was such a lucky cat. Take your time grieving, it will get better. Sending you hugs and prayers. ❤
You absolutely did the right thing. Don’t doubt yourself. Of course that was a hard decision to make, but the best thing for Riley.
Krystle, no need to apologize for making long detailed videos about your loss. This is your way of dealing with the huge loss, your way of coming to terms with Riley passing away and getting used to the life without seeing him.
I felt your pain so many times throughout this video. I had few doggies before my Charlie and their loss was so very hard every single time, but Charlie has been the very first fur baby that is fully mine, he is like a baby to Mike and me. I have never spent a single day or night without his little self ever since he became the part of our little family. I literally cannot even imagine not having him around - he joins me even on my bathroom breaks 🙈🤣.
He comes to work with me, he sleeps next to me and eats next to me and even makes videos with me. He is always there like my baby, my best Buddy and my faithful companion.
Loosing him may kill me to be honest. Ugh.
So I absolutely understand what you were talking about and how you feel every minute of a day in that empty apartment.
Now to the paw print business - can I just say how ridiculous to take the print of a hind leg and not his front paw? Are they serious? Ugh. This makes me want to just take Charlie’s paw prints myself.
Thank you for educating people on in-home pet euthanasia. After hearing about it, there is no other way I would do it.
The end of this video touched my heart. Yes, please people, stay with your pet till the end. I know it’s probably one of the hardest things we will every have to do, but it’s the right way. Do not let them leave this world all alone. Nobody wants to cross to the light alone. We all want someone to be there with us, to perhaps hold our hand. Our pets deserve to not be alone. After all the love and devotion they gave us their whole lives - pay it back and stay with them. Do not be a coward, put your feelings or grief aside and do right by your little one/or big one....
So thank you for bringing awareness about the end of life journey - death is a part of life. And I think many of us will choose to say our good byes at home when the time comes after watching your videos.
Thank you Katie. I know what you mean with the paw print. It was a simple miscommunication on the paper work. I just think they should be asking the pet parents if they want claws showing on the prints or not. Had they asked me and not just assumed show claws, this wouldn’t have happened. 🤦🏼♀️ But I understand the lady is still new there and probably never encountered a declawed cat because declawing now days is frowned upon and most vets won’t do it. But given Riley’s age, back then declawing was a bit more common so she really should have been aware. At least it is from Riley’s paw. Just not what I was expecting.
I’m so glad that my video may help bring awareness to letting our pets pass at home peacefully. It truly is the best way.
@@LifewithKrystle Thank you for that, Krystle.
I wasn’t aware of that choice but now I’m fully decided to do it that way when the time comes - may it be a very long time from now but still...we need to know about choices like this, so I’m grateful for all information and awareness you gave all of us 🙏🏻.
Hugs and prayers going out for guys. You are very strong... I could never do this.❤❤❤
When I had to give Mittens away, I cried at work, in the car and everywhere. The house without a special family member, like Reilly would be too quiet. It is very hard to lose a pet. Reilly was so lucky to live with you and your husband. He had a great home and you took good care of him. During mourning people do a lot of things. Of course there’s going to be anxiety and depression. Getting used to a house without a special pet will be hard. I only knew Reilly for a short period. I loved to hear him vocalizing while you were dressing your dolls. You are the best. I saw the paw print. It is a great keepsake to remember a special family member. But, I agree you should have an opinion for how you what your keep sake.
Hey. I just want to say that it’s okay to cry on camera. I appreciate the fact that you can show your whole self with us, both in this video and in the last one. If you ever feel shame or self-conscious crying on camera, that’s normal too, but it’s okay either way. Whatever you’re feeling is okay, natural, normal, and valid. You’ll make it. The healing process takes time, but I pray you will get to a place where you can only remember Riley and smile. And just so you know, I added a prayer to my prayer list for Riley to rest in peace, also asking him to say hi to Sneaker and Boots for you.
The whole time I watched this video, I kept expecting Riley to start meowing or climb up into your lap. It's gonna take time to get used to the fact that he's gone, but in the meantime, we can at least think about the good times you had with him and how hilarious and fun he was. Rest in peace, Riley. We love you!
I really like your video I think it was very informative and showing ascot everything why is that you got from Riley I’m glad that you did what you done showing us what it look like everything for me being really unfair and met a lot to me that you shared that because it help me decide whether that will be an option for Angel if anything should happen to her thank you so much for being the person you are just remember you are always loved Riley will never be forgotten
Pets are family. I grieve for my past hamsters all the time
I'm glad you didn't condense the story, Krystle. I have watched your channel for years, and Riley held a place in my own heart. I believe that Riley had that 'something special' quality you spoke of for all of us viewers too. We all fell in love with the way he slept with his head face-down in between his paws; the way he snuggled you on camera; his funny little meows, and even the way he appreciated when your viewers sent him toys. With his big, dark soulful and wise eyes, he really was such a charismatic character.
I felt honoured to be allowed to hear about the journey of his last few weeks, and I cried along with you as you described his final moments. We all so truly loved your little guy. His passing was 'beautiful' how he was sedated first and how he was with you and Aleks. He would have just felt himself drift off to sleep, feeling safe and with the people who loved him beyond words. He only knew the purest love and care. I lit a candle for your sweet boy and for you and Aleks. Riley will be over the rainbow bridge playing with Boots and Sneakers, and with my dogs Heidi and Tasha, and with my cat Cody - and with all the other loved animals who have left us. And Earth-side, our precious fur babies will live on forever in our hearts xx
Thank you ❤️
We cremated my Mom's dog and we have her paw print and wooden box with her name plate on it, Happy was my little fur sister and I miss her everyday. Shih Tzu are a wonderful breed, but they have so many health problems and she was 16 when we had to put her down, she kept having heart attacks and seizures and it was very depressing for me and my hubby to take her to the vet that day. My Mom did not want to do it, she grieves differently. Pet grief is very real and it takes a long time to get over.
What I loved about Riley is when you tried to change the your newborn dolls or when you tried to change your American girl dolls he was always in the way he was so cute and I'm sorry that happened to him and I hope that you will I'm just glad that you're okay and I'm sorry about your cat and I know that you love him very much and you really was a very cute cat he was always getting the videos and I thought me and my sister thought that was cute
It is a sweet story of Riley's life with you.
I probably wouldn't get another cat immediately, but I cannot be without a cat for very long. They help my depression, which helps me deal with all the other things wrong with me. And, although I think kittens are super cute, I would adopt an adult, possibly with special needs. There are so many cats that need homes (and again this is me personally), that I would feel guilty to not have a cat in my life.
I have cremated all of my cats since becoming an adult. I got a big box, and I will put them all together along with name plates for them. Your shadow boxes are amazing, I would be so bad at doing that. It's already difficult to organize because my brain keeps shifting things, OCD and depression have made my brain incapable of constant change, and an inability to see things as perfectly arranged.
I think it is good for you to share all your emotions and thoughts about this. This is a very challenging part of life. Don't apologize for being a caring human and sharing the details with us. It brings all of us who can't meet you in person to feel "close" to you thru empathy, sympathy and love. Many of us have been thru similar experiences and it also prepares others who haven't been down this path before who may one day. It's ok to take all the time you need to grieve and cry - that's normal! I feel the way you do about the paw print. What an unfortunate situation. At least you can know the pawprint is really his. The urns you have for the other pets is so nice to be personalized, as is your shadow boxes. My cat I had messaged you about on FB, Peanut, she had 2 strokes so I can relate. The second one was the worst and that was the beginning of the end for her. I have "guilt" about my choice for all these years, yet I KNOW in my mind that I DID do the right thing for HER comfort and not mine. I 100% agree with your feelings about the end for pets at home. You DID do the right thing and you exhausted all reasonable life sustaining things for him prior. When your Riley put his head down the way he would sleeping face down, you KNOW he was in comfort right then. You gave him the softest kindest ending you could to end any pain he had and helped him cross the rainbow bridge. My personal opinion is to wait before getting another pet. Your hearts will tell you when and if the time is right. It was ten years for me before I had another cat after my Peanut. My cat now was not planned either so that's how I knew when she came into my life it was ok and time to have another cat. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and know that we grieve with you. xoxo
Thank you. Yes that’s so right about him being in comfort. I for sure know that. ❤️ You’re right about getting another pet not being planned. We never planned to get a cat when we moved in together. We just wandered into the shelter to see the animals and there was Riley meowing right at me. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your experiences of grief with us. I hope the grief continually gets lighter until you can only remember Riley and feel happiness because of the time you had together.
I'm crying (don't worry about it...Riley wasn't even my cat and I'm crying over him) and one of my cats (named Freddy) is trying to comfort me...he does that whenever I cry. I'm praying for you and Aleks...
(When you think you see him at the corner of you eye, it could be his spirit letting you know he's still with you)
I remember the first time I felt grief for a pet was my cat Blitzen, who me and my family had since 1987, when I was either 1 or 2 years old. Blitzen died in October 2005. She was 18, which if my calculations are correct, is 88 in cat years. I remember tragically losing one of the cats that took Blitzen's place in 2006. He was an orange classic/bullseye tabby named Bubsy, who we adopted from the Cheektowaga ASPCA along with Maggie, who we believe was his mother (as she was a few years older than Bubsy). Anyways, Bubsy had been hit by a car on the morning of July 2, 2006, and apparently, I was still asleep. My parents didn't deliver the news about Bubsy's tragic death until they got home from moving my sister into her new apartment in Buffalo. I was very distraught as you could imagine, but Bubsy was my favorite cat, and he was only a year old. To console me, my parents took me to Pizza Hut for dinner that night. When Abby and some of my sister's other cats had died, my dad made urns for them. I recall months later in December of 2006, our Burmese cat Donner had suddenly died at the age of 15 a day after the vet diagnosed him with a kidney issue. I remember the first time I cried over the loss of a pet was when we lost our first beagle Buster when he was still a puppy (he, just like Bubsy, got hit by a car). In 2014, our cat Hex had died at either 15 or 16, but my parents didn't want to tell me until after we got dinner at Wendy's (it was like how my mom didn't tell me about Linkin's death the day before our American Thanksgiving until after we had eaten our usual Thanksgiving feast of chicken in lieu of turkey and all the fixin's). Around the time my parents were about to go take Lightning (my second orange tabby) to have him euthanized in 2019 the day after Christmas, my mom allowed me to have an extra few minutes to pet Lightning and give him some love before his time came. I noticed you made some memorial things for Riley, and I had made some gravestones for my cats in my pottery class. I had made one for Lightning, but as of late, I have not been able to retrieve it due to the horrible pandemic. After Bubsy's untimely death, my parents made a large photo of him, which is framed, and remains in the room where I'm currently using my computer in, along with a few unframed photos of Bubsy. I was crying while I watched the video because of how I remembered some of my cats and other pets dying...it's okay to cry. -Andrea
Sorry for your lost
hi krystal i dont really know what to say at times like this riley was a beutiful cat but has for grief it will get better in time i had a cat called aurthur took me quite along time to get over him but you should remember all the good times you had together and the love you had that will never go away give it time krystle youll be fine in the end xxx
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Thinking of you and Aleks, i cried again, Praying for you both. Gotta face up to my Poorly (deaf over a year now) 13 year old staffie, going over the rainbow bridge, I taught her sign language as a puppy and got thrown out of dog training 6 months in due to that! but i carried on and don't know why!? !! i sure am glad now, i can even make her drink water by sign language! She's been allergic to beef and milk since screening at 12 weeks old (no rawhide or animal derivatives, usually means beef!) no yogurt treats! (milk!) i make her low salt bacon and apple rolls now and again!! and she has chicken and rice lil bones and THANK GOD for CHAPPIE dog biscuits and wet food here in the UK! (rice n fish n chicken) she now has a mass the whole size of her liver, found over a year ago because of blood tests i requested because of her sudden hearing loss (she's had hypothyroidism since 12 weeks old as well, controlled by pills her whole life!) she now for over a year been having to take a blue pill an hour before food and other pills after an overnight fast! she trapped a nerve in her spine in january 2020 and i had to sleep on the sofa in the lounge as she couldn't get upstairs before covid so as she has separation anxiety and my husband died 10 years ago suddenly, and as she couldn't sleep on the bed i had to sleep by her. so i only went shopping once a fortnight for 2 hours before lockdown in march 2020, i was already in lockdown due to the dog. So sorry to go on, i've had her since 2008 and my husband died when the youngest of my 3 children was 12 years old.(they've all left home now, last one 4 years ago!) She's recovered from her trapped nerve now and can get upstairs, but i worry every time i have to get 200 thyroid pills (she has 3 a day) will she be here to have them all! So I truly am thinking of you both Krystle, i think you are very brave facing the camera, i'd be a bawling mess the whole time!! God Bless you both and love from me and the 3 cats and staffie doggie (whom the cats love and take turns sleeping by!) Ellie from the UK xxxxxxxxxx
Thank you and praying for your fur baby ❤️
@@LifewithKrystle THANKYOU SOOO MUCH, means a lot xxxxxxxx been following you for years, haven't made a video for years my daughter would edit them and upload them but she went to university in 2016 and I think she uploaded one in 2017. Got a new decor Dunelm beautiful birds of in the nursery within a Bedroom! XxxxxxX
That’s ok my dads place is a pet cemetery hehe 😉
What was the app called
I’m so sorry that you guys are still struggling with loss of your buddy Riley xoxo ❤️❤️❤️
It’s for a Canadian tv channel called CTV
My Little Brother Passed Away that same Day.
So sorry
So sorry for your loss.
Oh geez he was cremated on my birthday 😢
Every time I lose a hamster it takes me a whole day to put them into their little coffin and another day to clean their home. Then I do a funeral and they wait until my dad comes cause he does the burial where he lives ❤️
By the way I had a cat named months as well we called her booty that’s pretty coincidental you had a cat the same age same name I mean boots
Animals r a part of r families I have lost two dogs in the past in 2015 n that same year I adopted my dog sky maybe in the furter u can adopt another cat
I had to put my old dog down so he wont suffer any more n my mother dog past away natural from an heat attack
I discuss adopting another cat in this video
I’m so sorry for your losses
Thanks I'll never forget them but I think other animals should have a second chance in life to be loved and cared for I have cat that is 8 years n a dog that's 6 year old
I understand. My husband is so heartbroken from loosing Riley that he doesn’t want to go through it again with another animal. I feel a bit the same but this is my third time going through it and so I’m more open to another pet. This is his first time going through it. Either way if he ever changes his mind it will probably be a long time before that happens.
I know how you feel about that I had a cat and her name was baby and we've had I had her since I was like 12 and a half years old and we found out she adopted us I moved to San Diego California and we moved in City heights in San Diego California because that's what the city is called and San Diego their City heights North Park normal heights or whatever and then San Diego when we moved there was a cat that came to our sliding door and we only lived in a one-bedroom apartment I lived in one bedroom apartment with my mom and my dad and when I was 12 years old 12 and a half there was a cat at the door and my Dad loved her we both loved her very much and we fed her hot dogs and we thought she had a home but she was a stray and the people that had her we found out why she couldn't get have babies because the BB gun call whoever had her before had her didn't take very good care of her and she ran away and I've I had her until I was 18 years old and we had to put her sleep at home too
Do you think you will get another cat?
I think I briefly answered that in the video
Did you say you watched different strokes on an app? Which app?
It's the CTV app which a TV station in Canada.