Do this to stop taking things personally
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- A video breaking down how to stop taking things personally. Many people struggle with letting people's judgments, opinions, and attitudes get to them.
Watch this entire video for a deep understanding of why you may take things personally and how to prevent it (may require multiple watches).
Enjoy!
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I always suffered from the spotlight effect untill I realized that it was just a mental state
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Same here.I found out I was autistic at 40.I had the spotlight effect, it's called masking.Its very stressful.I feel great now.Capricorn rising!
It says more about the person who attacks you personally than you yourself. I had to learn this the hard way recently.
Tbh I still struggle with how people perceive me and I can’t understand why some people are mean hearted
Low conscious awareness. Everyone assumes people think like they do mechanics wise. Imagine a person with vindictive thought having a nature of assuming this. Its projection n insecurities really. As damaging as it is, its only when its on the surface. As soon as you know its a reflection of an inward state, you cant help but keep a distance or realize you are feeling the sorrow of the person, not yourself. Thats the illusion. You're feeling the others literal energetic state of being.
@@t.c.l1625 makes sense no wonder I feel like I am in flight or fight mode when that person is around! low energy people are so draining 🥲
People are not necessarily being mean just because they perceive you differently than how you want them to. We can't control how people perceive us, all we can do is try not to intentionally cause them to think negatively about us the best we can while still being honest.
@@WeRNthisToGetHer Well then aren't you walking on eggshells because you have to "try" not to intentionally make them think negatively? then you aren't living as your authentic self or self-censoring. Some people are mean-hearted because they also have unconscious biases that they aren't ready to deal with.
Both you and another guy posted about not taking things personally within hours of each other in the midst of me taking something personally and man, if that ain’t the universe grabbing me by the shoulders and telling me to snap out of it, idk what else will 😂
Opportune timing of this video. I passed it over actually thinking someone else could benefit from it, without even listening to it myself. So instead I listened to it first and it resonated so nicely within me.
I am grateful Jim
Great to hear Nate!
@JemVeda Thank you
Me and my gf broke up recently, her request but my acceptance, and I would often say, to myself and others, that she needed to work on her communication. I fully believed that somewhere I had to accept blame as well. But somewhere in the past few weeks my intuition said do you realize you're so defensive when people talk about you? That included her. And now I know she was opening up, or rather wanted to, but my defensiveness and aggression turned her off and scared her. It's good to learn and grow
@@Nate_tureboy That's what it's all about, growth. This experience will only make you better.
@JemVeda Thanks Jim, I agree : )
In her goodbye note to me the last line she wrote was; Nathaniel, you are a good man. Be a good man
I'm watching this because a close friend of mine has taken a lot of things personally when it comes to their interactions with others (but not me, I'm an angel lol) I'm hoping to find new ways to articulate this topic in the future... coz for me, it's a very low vibe mentality and it needs to go 🤞
I love this and your channel in general! Thank you, brother
You’re welcome and thanks for watching!
Thank you gor this. You keep me from slipping into unconscious thought and believing my own distortions❤
I build my expectations based on what comes out of your mouth. I set higher expectations based on who the person is and what and how they say. Never let an emotional outburst or a drunken outburst slide. Those are 2 "emotions" that usually show the person deep truths. That's why men suffer more in relationships. Men are taught to forgive, so they do. Women never truly forgive, and also say the worst things ever when emotionally angred or drunk.
Thank you ..this is a great help❤
There are those whom are antagonistic and will be 🎉
this is great
Never take it personally especially when you know it's personal
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One time when I was overly worried about people disliking me, someone told me to consider that I am probably not really that important, but if I am then that's an accomplishment. You are living rent free in people's heads.
Had a blast making this, enjoy!
Big thanks
You are appreciated brother.
I need this video. In my friend group I was the one who was constantly teased and made fun of. When I asked my friends why they only did that to me they said I should learn how to take a joke. But constantly being belittled is very tiring. I realized I was just an easy target because I was kind of like the childish one in the friend group so no one respected me.
time to get real friends. you realize that when you're older. if they don't respect me, I'm out. It feels better being alone, and over time people are more likely to befriend you than if you are surrounded by those hair-brained losers.
@@LLS710 the truth is I’ve never had any real friends all through elementary school or middle school and now in my last year of high school I’m just waiting to be done so I can be free to be alone. I realized friends will just disappoint you in the end.
I always had the same things happen, and I'm 59. I finally distanced myself from those so-called friends. It's shocking how 'friends' can belittle and disrespect you constantly and think it's okay!
It's may not always be JUST the other person's fault. Most people do that shit with friends because they just *feel* it's ok to do that, that "you don't mind", and it's fun and games.
Most people don't tease everyone they meet, you've shown at some point that boundaries can be crossed with you and you don't mind (ofc you may mind, and just don't say it, but people can't read your thoughts yk). To receive respect you should first realize that means setting boundaries.
And please don't take this the wrong way, there are absolutely bullies out there who do that shit despite what you think, and in that case you _absolutely_ should ditch them. But if you've never made your boundaries known to other people, and this teasing keeps happening to you in every group, then you can't really put all the blame on them.
I agree with the other commenter that says you need to find better friends. Please surround yourself with people who raise you up not tear you down and not those who are jealous of you. Those people are not your friends.
“Misalignments are not personal, they’re vibrational”
I changed the way I perceive things. Things don't happen TO me . Things happen FOR me.
this mf so smart i love you
Haha thank you
“I took that personally”
I love your aura
Always go for passion, no matter what! You live once and people dont last!
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Obama giving obama a medal meme
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This is one of the best videos I've watched in 2024. It's funny how when the student is ready, the teacher appears. I'll definitely listen to this multiple times. Either way, it's a gem Appreciate your content and will definitely be watching more of it! 👊
I appreciate this. My therapist sent it to me and it’s made me rethink a lot of things.
Funny bc i was just thinking a construction worker gave me a dirty look lol
U have helped me so much with my cptsd bruh❤🙏
Love your videos bro
Your videos have helped me process so many emotions, thank you!
Awesome 🔥
Amazing video !! I started a new job about 3 weeks ago and I was just talking about this with my therapist! I literally was thinking my coworkers were out to get me 😭 I’m so happy you posted this!
Perfect timing haha
I love this so much 💗 its life changing, honestly... thank you😊
Thank you :)
I needed this yesterday, but thank you anyway
Thanks for watching!
Consider the source.
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Thank you Jem. You have no idea just how timely this video popping might be for others. It certainly is for me today. Bless you. 🙏🏼
Thanks for watching, I’m glad it brought a lot of value to you :)
19:18 I like your videos because you speak truth and wisdom. We need more of you.
Thank you
Some groups are really keen on punishment.
Not seen immediately as a employee, as a outside to be put outside.
Is that just ?