I think some people struggle feeling sexy after such a big change to their body; also, I've heard a few men and women say that it puts their partner off sex, rather than the person themselves, which sucks. For me, I love the Vanilla Blush range from a functional point of view, as I find that it supports the bag when it gets full with that little pocket thing in there, but I don't really use it as a way to hide the bag - couldn't care less about anyone seeing the bag! :D
The way people feel about their stomas is so individual. For me these garments don't increase the way I feel about my body. I am comfy with my stoma and love it to bits. I am waiting for surgery date to get it made permanent.
I completely agree with you however I can also understand the appreciation (more so in a practical way not so much a sexy way) for having products made to help us. Me being single and not having a partner go through my struggles there are times I find myself wondering what if someone does mind my ostomy in intimate moments and me feeling so vulnerable......but then me being me (and where I agree with you 100%) I would toss the guy and not the bag hahaha. I guess like makeup i see benefits with underwear etc aimed for ostomates the same, I don't need them but just simply like them. I don't agree with the approach and what it may imply whether intentional or not, you're right, your body should be attractive because of confidence and appreciation, not product. I would be a hypocrite though if I said I don't want something with the pocket inside and still have a cute look to it. I wish Canada had products to actually choose from, sexy or not! I had ordered a pair from Vanilla Blush to try but didn't care for them :o/ Nothing wrong with them but just not what I prefer and too pricey for me to keep trying. Anyways that's a whole other rant hahaha.
SMH. What exactly makes you think that women are buying these products just to please someone else? Of course my partner loves me and thinks I’m sexy no matter what. It’s me that has the problem with it. I want him to see me look beautiful. And I mean beautiful in the way that I used to be when I was able to wear lingerie and feel very pretty and sexy. I don’t want to have to cover up with something baggy and hide my body just because of my insecurities. I want to get past it. These products help with that. I think that your viewpoint is very narrow minded.
Look girl, I’m glad for your self-confidence but I’ve had my colostomy bag for 11 years now and I’m still not over it. Now the love of my life for 26 years is terminally ill and I’m trying to make him happy and feel good. I can’t do that in regular underwear or lingerie. Your video is judgemental towards the hordes of people that struggle with insecurity over their Ostomy bags. I mean, what the hell is wrong with some thing that would make somebody feel more confident? Just because you’re so confident does it mean that the rest of us are. You’re not spreading Body positivity. We are criticizing those who don’t have enough confidence to do what you do. Sorry but not sorry.
Oh honey if you think you’re in control of your body with your IBD history… Well I got something to tell you. You are not out of the woods. You may think you are but you should know already that IBD is no not well understood by the medical community still. Also, I don’t believe that you have zero insecurities about your ostomy. You wouldn’t be going so hard out of your way to prove otherwise if you weren’t a bit insecure. But go ahead and go on and preach. You’re not gonna reach anybody though with your approach. Nobody appreciates preaching. I wonder, how long have you had your ostomy? And you don’t need to answer me obviously. But we are not all the same. Oh and trust me I am used to my ostomy. I just hate it still. I doubt that will ever change. I’m glad that the surgery saved my life but that’s it. It changed me. I have many PTSD related issues and all of my surgeries have given me some form of PTSD. I just really really don’t like it when people try to tell others how to feel. I pray that you can become more open minded.
Wow. Just found your comments as I don't post anymote or look at comments anymore. Not sure if you've watched any of my other vids but I explained that I recorded them as a video diary, a way of mapping MY own journey and exploring the thoughts and feelings I was having along the way. If you don't agree - cool, we're allowed our own opinions and experiences. However, there's not really any need to get so angry and start telling me I'm not 'out of the woods' etc.
I think some people struggle feeling sexy after such a big change to their body; also, I've heard a few men and women say that it puts their partner off sex, rather than the person themselves, which sucks. For me, I love the Vanilla Blush range from a functional point of view, as I find that it supports the bag when it gets full with that little pocket thing in there, but I don't really use it as a way to hide the bag - couldn't care less about anyone seeing the bag! :D
Well said!:)
The way people feel about their stomas is so individual. For me these garments don't increase the way I feel about my body. I am comfy with my stoma and love it to bits. I am waiting for surgery date to get it made permanent.
I completely agree with you however I can also understand the appreciation (more so in a practical way not so much a sexy way) for having products made to help us. Me being single and not having a partner go through my struggles there are times I find myself wondering what if someone does mind my ostomy in intimate moments and me feeling so vulnerable......but then me being me (and where I agree with you 100%) I would toss the guy and not the bag hahaha. I guess like makeup i see benefits with underwear etc aimed for ostomates the same, I don't need them but just simply like them. I don't agree with the approach and what it may imply whether intentional or not, you're right, your body should be attractive because of confidence and appreciation, not product. I would be a hypocrite though if I said I don't want something with the pocket inside and still have a cute look to it. I wish Canada had products to actually choose from, sexy or not! I had ordered a pair from Vanilla Blush to try but didn't care for them :o/ Nothing wrong with them but just not what I prefer and too pricey for me to keep trying. Anyways that's a whole other rant hahaha.
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SMH. What exactly makes you think that women are buying these products just to please someone else? Of course my partner loves me and thinks I’m sexy no matter what. It’s me that has the problem with it. I want him to see me look beautiful. And I mean beautiful in the way that I used to be when I was able to wear lingerie and feel very pretty and sexy. I don’t want to have to cover up with something baggy and hide my body just because of my insecurities. I want to get past it. These products help with that. I think that your viewpoint is very narrow minded.
Look girl, I’m glad for your self-confidence but I’ve had my colostomy bag for 11 years now and I’m still not over it. Now the love of my life for 26 years is terminally ill and I’m trying to make him happy and feel good. I can’t do that in regular underwear or lingerie. Your video is judgemental towards the hordes of people that struggle with insecurity over their Ostomy bags. I mean, what the hell is wrong with some thing that would make somebody feel more confident? Just because you’re so confident does it mean that the rest of us are. You’re not spreading Body positivity. We are criticizing those who don’t have enough confidence to do what you do. Sorry but not sorry.
Oh honey if you think you’re in control of your body with your IBD history… Well I got something to tell you. You are not out of the woods. You may think you are but you should know already that IBD is no not well understood by the medical community still. Also, I don’t believe that you have zero insecurities about your ostomy. You wouldn’t be going so hard out of your way to prove otherwise if you weren’t a bit insecure. But go ahead and go on and preach. You’re not gonna reach anybody though with your approach. Nobody appreciates preaching. I wonder, how long have you had your ostomy? And you don’t need to answer me obviously. But we are not all the same. Oh and trust me I am used to my ostomy. I just hate it still. I doubt that will ever change. I’m glad that the surgery saved my life but that’s it. It changed me. I have many PTSD related issues and all of my surgeries have given me some form of PTSD. I just really really don’t like it when people try to tell others how to feel. I pray that you can become more open minded.
Wow. Just found your comments as I don't post anymote or look at comments anymore. Not sure if you've watched any of my other vids but I explained that I recorded them as a video diary, a way of mapping MY own journey and exploring the thoughts and feelings I was having along the way. If you don't agree - cool, we're allowed our own opinions and experiences. However, there's not really any need to get so angry and start telling me I'm not 'out of the woods' etc.