Sometimes is really is like that. When my former stepbrother came out (my father and his mother are now divorced), his mother threw herself into a narcissistic pity party and meltdown where she didn't come out of her bedroom for three days. Despite my father's own extreme shortcomings as a father, he was the one who told her she needed to get right and help her son, that he was going to be experiencing a lot of turmoil and that a lot of kids his age struggling with their sexuality turn to substance abuse and/or suicide.
Yes. True. But Candy is marvelous. Just marvelous. Strong, truth teller and bold. I always thought Prey Tell was a bit much. But sometimes we are a bit much. Candy sweetie. We only wish we could be like her. "I am somebody"
When her dad said he bought her the doll house... because he wanted the best for his baby... I missed my mom at that moment. That’s why this show is so real, it touches you.
Btw, Anjelica Ross requested no rehearsing of these scenes beforehand because she wanted to capture the emotion and spontaneousness of everything. She succeeded.....
She also said that when her mother says 'I've missed you', it wasn't something she could respond to straight away, her reaction is more measured because of the welter of emotions underneath. Brilliant acting.
What’s even sadder is, yes most times it takes the death of one for parents to say I love you, but most times. The parents still don’t show up. Let alone say I love you. Even at the end.
@@punkalien2922 I understand your pain believe me I do but don’t send your life hating them. Because the more time you have that hate inside of you the less time you have to truly live and be free. 💯
When you realise when the mum says, “I’ve missed you.” Not only is that her saying she missed having her child, but she’s missed her chance to be properly in her life as her parent. God this episode broke me. 😭😭
@@KnowledgeSeeker78491 Of course they were wrong but they were confused and terrified. Candy was probably the first and only transgender in their families. They were overwhelmed
TRAPPNEST no matter how overwhelming thing get you should never turn your back on your child. Especially if they aren’t cursing you and putting their hands on you being disrespectful!!! Parents will put up with being cursed but will kick the gay child out. I have seen it with my own two. It’s no excuse for it!!!!
@@Atlantaboi84 As human beings, we find ourselves doing things that we should not do. A majority of people in the world , especially in the past, are told that homosexuality is a disgusting sin. Then you find out that you're that your own child is one of those "sinner", the natural human response is to get away from what disgust you. It's wrong but it is what it is.
As I’ve said before, Anjelica Ross requested NO rehearsals. She wanted all of the dialog to be organic and real. Everything you’re seeing was first-run.
So when my cousin came out as gay his parents kicked him out. Then, his mother had a near death experience and an emergency open heart surgery. After she woke up she realized that if she had died on that operating table her own son would not come to her funeral. She also realized that if her son were to die before her she wouldn't be invited to his. These two realisations caused my aunt, a proud, republican, christian lady to accept and reconnect with her son. She also accepted all his friends, some of whom were middle eastern, gay, and Muslim. She also accepted all her son's boyfriends and his husband with open arms. I wish more parents thought about situations like this when disowning their LBGTQIA+ children. About how they'd feel if their child died with the last memory of their parents being one of rejection and pain. Or about how they'd feel if their own child wouldn't show up for their funeral. Maybe they'd realize that their kids are more important than their homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia. Maybe.
When candy said "I love you daddy" to her dad and her dad just turning back to her corpse cuts deep because to me it shows that he wasnt able to say he loved her and now its too late :(
I'm crying. When Candy told her ma: "You're my gateway to the feminine." That was beautiful. When I was a kid in the 1980s and through the early 1990s, things really did look like a scene from POSE. Didn't understand it then, however I appreciate it now. *straight and refuse to hate*
The scene with Candy and her Father, gets me every time!!! “I wanted my baby to have what he.......I guess, what she wanted”. It’s so rare to see how much Black father’s truly love their children on film. The tenderness in their eyes and the love in their heart as they look at their children is so real. Black parents love the hell out their children, but that love comes with so much fear and that’s why this scene is so powerful. #SeenAsWeAre
Side bar- anybody else get Cicely Tyson and Danny Glover vibes from Candys parents???? This scene...ugh i had already been crying this just made the tears RUN.
usually in movie and tv . you don’t see black fathers in their child’s life. and if they are it’s very little because their toxic masculinity makes them think that only the woman should raise their children. but in this scene you hear about a black father who was not only in his child’s life but also did everything he could for his children making sure they lived in a positive environment to be creative and express who they are. and the fact that the father corrected himself after misgendering his daughter just makes me cry tears of happiness.
Reminder to not wait to bring flowers til somebody is gone. Theres parents who didn’t even come to watch their child be buried, but the ones like Candy’s who did after years of silence don’t and won’t get a chance to talk to their child coffinside like in the show. Please, love your child unconditionally, and let then know that before it’s too late. Protect our transgender women
I agree. However, there can be a double edged sword...a lot of people de-transition and feel that after surgery something was missing, when they expected it to make them feel whole. I would love to support anybody who chooses what they want, but the grey area does exist and I would feel so badly to support a friend or family member who ended up feeling that way...like somebody should have fought with them to figure out who they truly want to be before going the surgical route. Its very heartbreaking. Just as heartbreaking as not letting someone be who they think they wanna be. Its so difficult...
This scene made me so angry and sad. It took your child dying for you to finally see her and love her the way a child is supposed to be loved. I would’ve been embarrassed showing up. That’s sickening.
@@DC-pp8xf idiotic comment!!!! This scene is about redemption ffs AND also understanding how difficult it must be and probably then even more so than now for a parent to really be able to 'get' how to transition themselves when their child realises their true trans identity. There is nothing in this scene that should provoke hate on any side....quite the opposite, Union in love, understanding and empathy.
💯 Exactly Alpha! Candy and Blanca didn't need to need to have a conversation because they both genuinely had love for each other in spite of all of the shady ballroom shenanigans!
The whole episode was powerful, moving, emotional, and heartbreaking all in one. It was real. This episode has left the viewers with a few important lessons.
When Vivica said, “Baby, why did it take me so long to see you?” ... the flood gates opened again and I cried like I was is the damn family 😭😭😭😭. Imma miss Candy’s mean funny loyal ass! 🖤
A beautiful fact for you all- Actress playing Candy’s mom is a famous Transwoman model Angel is based off this woman I saw a video talking about the characters based on real People and events of our community’s history. I saw the video before watching this episode And was pleasantly surprised when she appeared. That’s amazing casting and I am so proud of our community getting the honor and recognition we deserve I’m not Trans But identified with Bisexual my whole life That’s the only label I’ve accepted because we’re all multidimensional I was on the committee in college and and been active within our family for years- Even choreographed shows for drag Queens and Taught People how to walk and dance in heels. This show is amazing ❤️
Sorry but that is not Tracy Norman aka Tracy Africa mother of the house of Africa Newark NJ native. But yes they did create a storyline from her life for Angel.
MR. RYAN MURPHY & MS. JANET MOCKKKKK!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 The writing is unbelievable!! I don't care what anyone says!! This was everything for a Grande Diva like Candy!! Often times we get caught offguard by a death, ergo 'gone too soon. ' But that's because those of us left on Earth didn't hug enough or love enough or spend enough time or truly appreciate enough or .....the list goes on..... Often times in life, you don't truly understand the gift of breath & experience of a person until their untimely demise!!! KUDOS TO POSE!!! KUDOS TO THE POSE TEAM!!!! This show is beyond compare 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Crying now I feel just like her. Being a trans rejected by parents is the most painful of All rejections. By the 2 who made me who o am. My mom hated how I mirrored her, an since dad an mom never got along, dad couldnt take me either 🤣 But who doesn't wanna be loved for being who they are?? I can't even finish my comment the way I want so I'll just say THANK YOU for posting this
I wonder if candy's life would have been a little more simpler had her parents said these things earlier in her life and than always having a home to come to when the world was too harsh for her...?
Does anybody know if the actress that plays the mom is candys real life mother? The resemblance is INSANE; they look alike, talk alike, have the same mannerisms & everything!
I LOVE THE DAD, dad won me over he may have not understood but he always tried to be supportive. even when Blanca said Candy instead of her name prior and the dad called her Candy was a sign of respect for me. respect that he understood his daughter chose who she wanted to be and he stood by it.
"Wasn't no guidebook instructing me how to raise a child like YOU." I'm nobody's mother so I'm not going to pretend that I understand what it's like to raise someone who is in the LGBTQ+ community. But what baffles my mind even more than that is how one could turn their backs on and hate that which came from you. I don't think I could. So perhaps there isn't a guidebook, but that's the beauty of it all...you get to write your own. I hope you do.
Straight people love to blame the culture for their attack on us to reddem themselves. Of course It was a culture thing but It was a culture created by them and perpetuated by them. They knew exactly what they were doing.
You know what's crazy? My mom said that about me before she even knew I was queer. She said "You know, your teen phase was probably the hardest. Yeah you never ran away or snuck boys in like your sister. You never stole and we never had any big arguments. But all those things were familiar to me. You, talking with you was like living with someone who spoke another language. I had no clue how to connect with you, there was no guidebook on how to deal with the specific issues you were going through. And I think that made you more lonely. I just thank God you found friends that didn't steer you wrong." Shit sticks with me to this day as I raise my own kid.
Watching this, I feel like this is the only way I’m going to get through to my own parents. This scene is powerful because I see my whole life in this episode. This was the most painful episode for me to watch. It’s so real, honest and true.
🏳️🌈 I broke down hard with this scene..... I wish for my hubby’s parents to look for him before it’s too late..... it’s horrible not being loved by your own parents. Not everything will be perfect but like a lot of us in the LGBTQ+ community we sure damn try to make it that way. 🏳️🌈
The talk with Candy's father had me crying. They say it's always harder to speak to your father than it is your mother. And, this time the roles were reversed, I couldn't stop crying it was so heartfelt. 😭
Angelica Love Ross is her real name. There are a bunch of behind the scenes episodes on YT and hers is so good. She's amazing at life, not just acting!!
I wanted to say that MS. Ross's performance touched me so deeply. She finally had her moment of glory. The episode is well written, full of emotion and beautifully acted. The way she resolved her all of her relationships by visiting each person after death, especially with her parents. I watched this episode more than once and cried each time. I pray that she is nominated for an Emmy, she is a brillant, beautiful and vulnerable. I finally understood where she came from and why she was the way she was. Thank you Angelica for the amazing and touching character that you created.. I am going to miss seeing you on Pose ! Love you girl !
Roger Fernandez I couldn’t have said it better myself! Never have I ever had tears flow the way they did watching this. Truly one of the most touching scenes I’ve ever watched on TV.
Thus entire scene is a message to parents: Your not guaranteed to leave this world first, but regardless of who goes first, never let the last goodbye you say out of love go unsaid. Your child is who they are, and while you are there to guide, protect, and teach, you are also there to support, love, and understand. When it's your time to go, or theirs, let them know that.
Watch the show... I was hesitant to watch the show because I thought that it was going be a show, comedy!! But it's true reality that our brothers and sisters went thru and still go thru. As a mother of two boys it was emotional.. love your children while there here. Pray for your children even if you don't agree with sessions. God bless billy porter for allow us into his reality
I was crying so hard that my friend’s service dog came over to comfort me and then I started crying even harder 😩😩😩😂😂😂😍😍😍. Man this is so fucking heartbreaking. The acting is phenomenal.
While this is “cute” and tugs on ppl’s heartstrings, this is NOT the reality for MANY LGBTQIA+ people, and PARTICULARLY THOSE IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY! I’m a gay man, and my family, my coworkers, and general public despises, dislikes and abhors anything dealing with homosexuality or anything dealing with LGBTQIA+...and this is the case for many black families. Many have been cut off, isolated (or in my case-chose to isolate themselves out of fear of being rejected and exiled from family), bea+ened and k!łłed for being LGBTQIA+... while this was touching, this is NOT reality.
It is one of many realities. It's not yours. You have to make your own reality. I wish you all the best and that you won't close off your heart to invite others into your heart to become your new family.
@@roddo1955 thank you!!! I really needed that... You are right. This is not my reality...just like My comment is not the reality for everyone else. I understand that. We are all different and our experiences are different in some way, shape or form.
@@nishashawn2021 that’s true. This is why I tell ppl to give ppl their roses while they’re living, not once they’re dead. I see this so much with parents of LGBTQIA+ children.
God, this scene is amazing. Every time I watch it, I cry. So many of us in the LGBTQ+ community never get that opportunity of acceptance, and love, from our families. To see it, and hear it, just lights up my heart. We spend so much of our lives hiding who we are and conforming to those around us. Being seen, and accepted, means so so so much to us and this scene always brings tears to my eyes. Such an amazing cast and show!
A lot of the tragedy and suffering the LGBTQ people go Through, part of it the parents who rejected them are to blame. You carry your child for 9 months in the womb, only to dispose of him/her because they turned out to be something you don't accept because of what your religion or society will look and think of you. When you throw you child out of the house, with no food, shelter, money , opportunity... The child will have to pick up what the streets have to offer, and not always it's good. Prostitution, abuse, hunger, Diseases, drug overdose and a lot of times murder. Parents love your child the way they are so they can have a chance at life.
I know Blanca had her ups and downs with Candy, especially since at times she was mean towards her, but I love that she still looked at her like a sister and showed unconditional love, even in death.
Man, if a dead person jump out of a casket and started lip singing and dancing, I would run through the walls of the funeral home trying to get the heck out of there. LOL
But it was beautiful. I was shocked myself. When it happened I got chills all over & thank God I was laying down in my bed when I watched this scene bcs I would have fainted to the floor. 😥😥😥
That was a simply amazing and stunning scene. Candy FINALLY got her moment. She got her moment. She looked gorgeous in her sparkly hair and exuberant and fearless
She's not wearing the same clothes. Her hair is a different length and all glittering. It was her if she HAD been allowed to lip-sync at the ball. Thankyou.
I love and hate this scene equally. Love it because it is so tastefully played and emotional, all the actors outstanding. I hate it because these stories actually occured and these poor women were never able to reconcile with their families, and it's so heartbreaking it makes me angry cry.
It's true. Having the courage to be transgendered is so much for one to go through...years of pain, doubt, expense & exclusion before they become renewed...but I think without acknowledging the grieving process of losing a child of one gender, and the new reality of gaining a child of another gender, even for the most loving parents, it can be a lot to process. Better they seek therapy & acknowledge any possible confusion, than to hold onto ignorance & fear, and lose their children.
I’ve only watched a few Pose clips in the past 30 minutes but wow they’ve all brought out so many emotions within me! I’m sobbing right now because of this scene!
Omg like this is beyond POWERFUL AS ME BEING TRANS WOMEN I cry so hard CAUSE this exactly what so many of us go through... POSE IS THE BEST TV SHOW TO THIS DATE...🌈🦄💯👁🙏💛
this episode has such a special place in my heart, especially with her fathers love. the day i watched this episode about 2 years ago, my father had a heart attack. he was thankfully ok but it was definitely a wake up call for me. i took my parents out to dinner the next week and finally told them i was trans and wanted to change my name. i was so scared that they would hate me or that this would be the final push for them to let me go, but i’m so glad i did it. this last christmas my mother gave me and my sisters the same gift, a necklace with our initial. when i opened mine and saw the “a” for my name, i finally understood what candy must have felt getting her dollhouse. it will always be the greatest gift i have ever received 💖
ACCEPTANCE is what we all crave universally especially from our parents no matter you're race, culture, religion, or sexuality. This damn scene had me choked up. I'm a straight woman that love the show that have been cast out by her own parents because she refuse to be controlled. All she want is acceptance🙂
This is one of the MOST ICONIC shows to ever grace TV!!! FX did an astounding job with this series!!! I had no clue of how they lived and grew in their community, but this was informative and eye-opening!! Bravo to the cast!!❤
😭😭😭😭😭 it's even sadder because while some of the other conversations with the cast were ones they couldve had with her in their head knowing her, these ones were specifically conversations that they would never have, about things they would never know, with her life cut short before such an exchange could ever happen
If people would just open up a little more and understand a little harder this world would be a better place! A little Love and understanding goes long way
Me being mother of four, I will always love my children no matter what. Gay. Straight. Lesbian. Bi.Transgender, I will love them more and more for having the courage to come out.
They cast her mother perfectly!
They look so much alike, all this felt so real 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Agreed!
Unbelievably perfect! Candy's Mother resembles Cicely Tyson.
When she said “baby” I lost it
She also wasnt the original actress to play candys mother. It worked out perfectly. though.
What’s ironic about this scene is that it is the father who seems much more accepting than the mother.
Travis James
It be like that sometimes
Sometimes is really is like that. When my former stepbrother came out (my father and his mother are now divorced), his mother threw herself into a narcissistic pity party and meltdown where she didn't come out of her bedroom for three days. Despite my father's own extreme shortcomings as a father, he was the one who told her she needed to get right and help her son, that he was going to be experiencing a lot of turmoil and that a lot of kids his age struggling with their sexuality turn to substance abuse and/or suicide.
Travis James naw it’s always one when it comes to black families my parents care like this my dad is hella chill my mom no so much
I felt the same. But you know the old saying....girls are the love of the father and boys are the love of the mother.
Yes. True. But Candy is marvelous. Just marvelous. Strong, truth teller and bold. I always thought Prey Tell was a bit much. But sometimes we are a bit much. Candy sweetie. We only wish we could be like her. "I am somebody"
When the dad said “ I can’t let you go we’re just getting started” i passed out 😢😢😢😢
Louis Williamson exactly 😔😔
The most heartbreaking part for me from the dad. 😪🙏🏾
CS Jobson mine too ! I was done after this scene !
@@csjobson7763 Yes, he was the first who ever seen her and accepted her
It took me out alsoo😔😟😭😢😭
When her dad said he bought her the doll house... because he wanted the best for his baby... I missed my mom at that moment. That’s why this show is so real, it touches you.
Me tooooo!!!! That was my mom to a T she never let us need for nothing worked 3 jobs always. Rip Mama!!! Thank god for good parents
when the mother says "Baby" , " i missed you" both these times set me off on such a cry fest
I will never not cry or tear up during that scene
Facts... Imaging how many parents let go and let live when it comes to their LGBT children. Never know when the last time is the last time 😢
No when the mom said “ I didn’t know “ I started 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
same here. That is exactly how my mama referred to me after being away from home for a long time. That scene was everything.
I seen this scene so many time and I still cry 😭
Btw, Anjelica Ross requested no rehearsing of these scenes beforehand because she wanted to capture the emotion and spontaneousness of everything. She succeeded.....
Travis James Fantastic!
And it is so iconic!!! Yo I would've sworn this was Angelica's real parents or something!!!
She also said that when her mother says 'I've missed you', it wasn't something she could respond to straight away, her reaction is more measured because of the welter of emotions underneath. Brilliant acting.
What’s ironic is that it seems her father was much more accepting than the mother.
So sis is an ACTRESS actress eh? That's impressive!
The sad thing is it literally took death for her parents to say I love you
What’s even sadder is, yes most times it takes the death of one for parents to say I love you, but most times. The parents still don’t show up. Let alone say I love you. Even at the end.
@@kyleszydlowskidejesus9048 i lived in represion my whole life 4 them and still are angry with me i'm very tired
@@punkalien2922 I understand your pain believe me I do but don’t send your life hating them. Because the more time you have that hate inside of you the less time you have to truly live and be free. 💯
I always say tell ppl you love them while they’re here and love your children for who they are!
@@kyleszydlowskidejesus9048 Agreed
When you realise when the mum says, “I’ve missed you.” Not only is that her saying she missed having her child, but she’s missed her chance to be properly in her life as her parent. God this episode broke me. 😭😭
So true
As confused as her parent may seem in this moment...its also clear that she is loved by them....maybe not understood....but loved.
I guess...but not loved enough not be be kicked out of their home and have to turn tricks to survive
@@KnowledgeSeeker78491 Of course they were wrong but they were confused and terrified. Candy was probably the first and only transgender in their families. They were overwhelmed
TRAPPNEST no matter how overwhelming thing get you should never turn your back on your child. Especially if they aren’t cursing you and putting their hands on you being disrespectful!!! Parents will put up with being cursed but will kick the gay child out. I have seen it with my own two. It’s no excuse for it!!!!
@@Atlantaboi84 As human beings, we find ourselves doing things that we should not do. A majority of people in the world , especially in the past, are told that homosexuality is a disgusting sin. Then you find out that you're that your own child is one of those "sinner", the natural human response is to get away from what disgust you. It's wrong but it is what it is.
I think you have the best comment...being a parent is hard and it’s hard to except somethings but a lot of our parents love us more than we know
"I wanted my baby to have what he- what SHE wanted"
😭😭❤️
TrangPak2 when her Dad said that, I just lost it! Even now while writing this I’m crying 😭.
Omg here we go again 😭😭
i was bawling
As I’ve said before, Anjelica Ross requested NO rehearsals. She wanted all of the dialog to be organic and real. Everything you’re seeing was first-run.
Wow tell me more budd
I never knew that!!!!!! I always thought this scene was so raw and beyond genuine and that explains it
That seems incredibly lucky nothing happened to ruin the first take
Lies u weren’t there.
@@mufasa1794we’re you there ? No . So how can you discredit or credit anyone .
This scene is everything all at once. Yes, I’m crying.
Every time I watch this scene. 😊❤
I need ms Angelica Ross to make an appearance every time another character dies. She can be the Angel leading them to their final Ball😭😭
Yes!!!!
Red Truth yaaaaaassss!!!!
You just foreshadowed it hahaha
I need you in the writers room brilliant idea
Oh my God....😭😭😭😭😭
So when my cousin came out as gay his parents kicked him out. Then, his mother had a near death experience and an emergency open heart surgery. After she woke up she realized that if she had died on that operating table her own son would not come to her funeral. She also realized that if her son were to die before her she wouldn't be invited to his.
These two realisations caused my aunt, a proud, republican, christian lady to accept and reconnect with her son. She also accepted all his friends, some of whom were middle eastern, gay, and Muslim. She also accepted all her son's boyfriends and his husband with open arms.
I wish more parents thought about situations like this when disowning their LBGTQIA+ children. About how they'd feel if their child died with the last memory of their parents being one of rejection and pain. Or about how they'd feel if their own child wouldn't show up for their funeral.
Maybe they'd realize that their kids are more important than their homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia. Maybe.
That’s very thought provoking
Well Said!
Thank u
❤
@Say That!💯 Cry about it
When candy said "I love you daddy" to her dad and her dad just turning back to her corpse cuts deep because to me it shows that he wasnt able to say he loved her and now its too late :(
I'm crying. When Candy told her ma: "You're my gateway to the feminine." That was beautiful. When I was a kid in the 1980s and through the early 1990s, things really did look like a scene from POSE. Didn't understand it then, however I appreciate it now. *straight and refuse to hate*
The scene with Candy and her Father, gets me every time!!!
“I wanted my baby to have what he.......I guess, what she wanted”.
It’s so rare to see how much Black father’s truly love their children on film. The tenderness in their eyes and the love in their heart as they look at their children is so real.
Black parents love the hell out their children, but that love comes with so much fear and that’s why this scene is so powerful. #SeenAsWeAre
PERIODT TBH I FEEL LIKE ASIAN AND BLACK PARENTS ARE MORE FAMILY ORIENTED THAN WHITE ONES (not a racist comment)
@TheLovelyRose ooof sorry
@TheLovelyRose what should i change? Im so sorryyy i didnt mean it ug hh how thicc face i am to use Mariah As my profile and just me being racist
@TheLovelyRose you cant be racist toward white people. prejudice is the term.
@@daydreamera8558 I think you might have meant to say that it seems like Black and Asian parents are more reserved at showing love.
The moment her mom says “I’ve missed you” I just lose control😢😔
Nova Starr I felt it from the bottom of her heart🥺
Rahdames Clemons ditto😢😭
Same! also when her dad said “i can’t let you go, we’re just getting started” 😭😢
It was OVER. I had to rewatch the scene to see what her father said.
Oh my, yes! And when she spoke to her father... I lost it. I just cried and cried.
Side bar- anybody else get Cicely Tyson and Danny Glover vibes from Candys parents????
This scene...ugh i had already been crying this just made the tears RUN.
Aaron Michael yes the acting the casting was spot on
For a 2nd I really thought it was Ms. Cicely
Yess
I got that to but the scene was so full of emotion I could careless
What?!!!
usually in movie and tv . you don’t see black fathers in their child’s life. and if they are it’s very little because their toxic masculinity makes them think that only the woman should raise their children. but in this scene you hear about a black father who was not only in his child’s life but also did everything he could for his children making sure they lived in a positive environment to be creative and express who they are. and the fact that the father corrected himself after misgendering his daughter just makes me cry tears of happiness.
Reminder to not wait to bring flowers til somebody is gone. Theres parents who didn’t even come to watch their child be buried, but the ones like Candy’s who did after years of silence don’t and won’t get a chance to talk to their child coffinside like in the show. Please, love your child unconditionally, and let then know that before it’s too late. Protect our transgender women
Amen Amen
Amen my great grandma favorite saying was “don’t bring me flowers when I’m dead bring them when I’m alive and can enjoy them
We look at the wrong instead of being Humble Loving first
And men. And everyone else. ❤
I agree. However, there can be a double edged sword...a lot of people de-transition and feel that after surgery something was missing, when they expected it to make them feel whole. I would love to support anybody who chooses what they want, but the grey area does exist and I would feel so badly to support a friend or family member who ended up feeling that way...like somebody should have fought with them to figure out who they truly want to be before going the surgical route. Its very heartbreaking. Just as heartbreaking as not letting someone be who they think they wanna be. Its so difficult...
This scene made me so angry and sad.
It took your child dying for you to finally see her and love her the way a child is supposed to be loved. I would’ve been embarrassed showing up.
That’s sickening.
It’s reality. Relationships aren’t perfect. A lot of people die with unresolved issues.
@Stephen LePew how?
At least they made amends.. some ppl never do that
@@DC-pp8xf idiotic comment!!!! This scene is about redemption ffs AND also understanding how difficult it must be and probably then even more so than now for a parent to really be able to 'get' how to transition themselves when their child realises their true trans identity. There is nothing in this scene that should provoke hate on any side....quite the opposite,
Union in love, understanding and empathy.
I'm blessed to have a mother and father who raised me right and they are totally fine with me being gay..
GOD BLESS MY PARENTS!!
MAN YOUR ONE OF LUCKY ONES!
You so bless
How is your life now? Also, stop using the word gay, i learned that gay was a slur used to insult male sluts so use the word, Queer now. Pls.
You're lucky; my father always was, and always will be, a homophobic prick.
Danial Zaini gay is the actual word
That Miss Blanca - she's a class act.
She really is
She’s so strong. I think that’s why candy just sat with her and started humming with her to console her
💯 Exactly Alpha! Candy and Blanca didn't need to need to have a conversation because they both genuinely had love for each other in spite of all of the shady ballroom shenanigans!
I love Blanca. She handles situations really well. Thats why Elektra depends on her.
starbrightprod Even though she would never admit it, Blanca is probably one of the only people Elektra truly admires and respects.
The whole episode was powerful, moving, emotional, and heartbreaking all in one. It was real. This episode has left the viewers with a few important lessons.
This scene broke my heart. I will miss candy
When Vivica said, “Baby, why did it take me so long to see you?” ... the flood gates opened again and I cried like I was is the damn family 😭😭😭😭.
Imma miss Candy’s mean funny loyal ass! 🖤
The doll house line had me in tears. 😭😭😭😭😭And I love how Blanca doesn't miss a beat and still uses the correct pronouns.
I really hope this show can bring some reconciliation between families.
Mona Liza Yeesss Yo 💯
Pose is definitely a groundbreaker.
Maybe they could move the show to network TV so it's easier to find.
They must be realistic.. sometimes that reconciliation never comes
A beautiful fact for you all-
Actress playing Candy’s mom is a famous Transwoman model
Angel is based off this woman
I saw a video talking about the characters based on real People and events of our community’s history.
I saw the video before watching this episode
And was pleasantly surprised when she appeared.
That’s amazing casting and I am so proud of our community getting the honor and recognition we deserve
I’m not Trans
But identified with Bisexual my whole life
That’s the only label I’ve accepted because we’re all multidimensional
I was on the committee in college and and been active within our family for years-
Even choreographed shows for drag Queens and Taught People how to walk and dance in heels.
This show is amazing ❤️
Sorry but that is not Tracy Norman aka Tracy Africa mother of the house of Africa Newark NJ native. But yes they did create a storyline from her life for Angel.
OMG.
pose was already powerful because of the messaging and script but the fact that they go this deep into the characters is crazy
Delete this… your information is incorrect. This is Patrice Johnson… not Tracy Africa.
This episode was EVERYTHING ❤️ Her Dad is AMAZING
It’s sad they’ll never have this conversation irl that it was too late to reconcile. Candy deserved to be happy
She’s living the life of luxury in her after life.
That moment with her dad, I had to pause cuz I was sobbing uncontrollably. 😞
At one point I was crying uncontrollably
That’s what got me!
I cried a lot on thus moment. Its very emotional to see her coming to see her each friends and family to say good bye and good thing.
Blanca :how did you know Candy ?
Candy Mom: What kids damn name is Candy welp we know we're Candy got her Spunk from
* "What kind of damn name is Candy?"
Man this scene had me balling my eyes out
Me2.
SAME HERE!
Powerful scene right here this my first Time seeing this and I cried 😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭
Same, it was too much
💕💕💕
MR. RYAN MURPHY & MS. JANET MOCKKKKK!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 The writing is unbelievable!! I don't care what anyone says!! This was everything for a Grande Diva like Candy!! Often times we get caught offguard by a death, ergo 'gone too soon. ' But that's because those of us left on Earth didn't hug enough or love enough or spend enough time or truly appreciate enough or .....the list goes on..... Often times in life, you don't truly understand the gift of breath & experience of a person until their untimely demise!!! KUDOS TO POSE!!! KUDOS TO THE POSE TEAM!!!! This show is beyond compare 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Amen 🙏
Kat Harris I agree please acknowledge people while they are here smiling, loving whatever tomorrow is not promised.
Write a book. You have a way with words.
These eyelashes are soooo done 😭😭😭 😭😭 😭 after all my crying 😩😩when the dad said I can't let you go we just getting started 🤧😭
Crying now
I feel just like her. Being a trans rejected by parents is the most painful of All rejections. By the 2 who made me who o am. My mom hated how I mirrored her, an since dad an mom never got along, dad couldnt take me either 🤣
But who doesn't wanna be loved for being who they are??
I can't even finish my comment the way I want so I'll just say THANK YOU for posting this
Star Child You are loved! I just want you to know that!
I love you
Never forget you are loved baby, by people who don't even know you.. that's what real "family" is...
Hugs
NO MATTER WHO U ARE WE LOVE YOU
I wonder if candy's life would have been a little more simpler had her parents said these things earlier in her life and than always having a home to come to when the world was too harsh for her...?
Does anybody know if the actress that plays the mom is candys real life mother? The resemblance is INSANE; they look alike, talk alike, have the same mannerisms & everything!
No that not her mom
I think the actress is Kimberly Elise.
R.A. FIGUEROA lol no that’s not her
@@alphacharm Thanks.
R.A. FIGUEROA no, not Kimberly Elyse at all. They may look alike but their voices differ vastly.
I LOVE THE DAD, dad won me over he may have not understood but he always tried to be supportive. even when Blanca said Candy instead of her name prior and the dad called her Candy was a sign of respect for me. respect that he understood his daughter chose who she wanted to be and he stood by it.
Lord that was heavy
I’m a straight male crying, we are all people😭
I'm crying with you 😢😢😢😔😭😭
When candy turned to her father the conversation made me cry
When I say I BAWLED throughout this whole episode. I’ve never cried so hard at a tv show like that before.
"Wasn't no guidebook instructing me how to raise a child like YOU." I'm nobody's mother so I'm not going to pretend that I understand what it's like to raise someone who is in the LGBTQ+ community. But what baffles my mind even more than that is how one could turn their backs on and hate that which came from you. I don't think I could. So perhaps there isn't a guidebook, but that's the beauty of it all...you get to write your own. I hope you do.
What show is this and hiii bts fan
@@erickakhan5567 pose
Straight people love to blame the culture for their attack on us to reddem themselves. Of course It was a culture thing but It was a culture created by them and perpetuated by them. They knew exactly what they were doing.
You know what's crazy? My mom said that about me before she even knew I was queer.
She said "You know, your teen phase was probably the hardest. Yeah you never ran away or snuck boys in like your sister. You never stole and we never had any big arguments. But all those things were familiar to me. You, talking with you was like living with someone who spoke another language. I had no clue how to connect with you, there was no guidebook on how to deal with the specific issues you were going through. And I think that made you more lonely. I just thank God you found friends that didn't steer you wrong."
Shit sticks with me to this day as I raise my own kid.
Watching this, I feel like this is the only way I’m going to get through to my own parents.
This scene is powerful because I see my whole life in this episode. This was the most painful episode for me to watch. It’s so real, honest and true.
This episode should have WON AN EMMY!! It was so damn POWERFUL!!
🏳️🌈 I broke down hard with this scene..... I wish for my hubby’s parents to look for him before it’s too late..... it’s horrible not being loved by your own parents. Not everything will be perfect but like a lot of us in the LGBTQ+ community we sure damn try to make it that way. 🏳️🌈
The talk with Candy's father had me crying. They say it's always harder to speak to your father than it is your mother. And, this time the roles were reversed, I couldn't stop crying it was so heartfelt. 😭
As a trans woman myself… this scene just shredded my soul for the *love of GOD* this show is a piece of art
Although I am a trans man, many moments also made me cry. This show is a masterpiece, nothing more to say.
Should win multiple Emmys. There's no justice if this doesn't. Lady playing Candy should win. This scene killed me.
Angelica Love Ross is her real name. There are a bunch of behind the scenes episodes on YT and hers is so good. She's amazing at life, not just acting!!
It's crazy how they shows candy soft side after her death..... I guess her toughness was her protection from letting people in to hurt her
Just like Elektra
I wanted to say that MS. Ross's performance touched me so deeply. She finally had her moment of glory. The episode is well written, full of emotion and beautifully acted. The way she resolved her all of her relationships by visiting each person after death, especially with her parents. I watched this episode more than once and cried each time. I pray that she is nominated for an Emmy, she is a brillant, beautiful and vulnerable. I finally understood where she came from and why she was the way she was. Thank you Angelica for the amazing and touching character that you created.. I am going to miss seeing you on Pose ! Love you girl !
Roger Fernandez I couldn’t have said it better myself! Never have I ever had tears flow the way they did watching this. Truly one of the most touching scenes I’ve ever watched on TV.
Also little fun fact, Angelica mentioned in an interview that she requested to have no lines for this scene, she’s really that good ❤️
This scene Always makes me cry
Thus entire scene is a message to parents: Your not guaranteed to leave this world first, but regardless of who goes first, never let the last goodbye you say out of love go unsaid. Your child is who they are, and while you are there to guide, protect, and teach, you are also there to support, love, and understand. When it's your time to go, or theirs, let them know that.
This could've said this any better 😊🥲💖
"That night ... I felt SEEN by YOU"
This is the most tearful, touching, emotional and saddest scene. I will miss Miss Candy. A talented, beautiful woman. 😭
This made me cry her mother can to peace after she died it's never to late to love your child but you better do it before it's to late
5:36 "I felt seen by you"
This is when I started crying in parts all the way till the end of the episode.
I've never watched this show. This clip has been showing up on my timeline, so I decided to watch it. I was not ready for this...
Watch the show... I was hesitant to watch the show because I thought that it was going be a show, comedy!! But it's true reality that our brothers and sisters went thru and still go thru.
As a mother of two boys it was emotional.. love your children while there here. Pray for your children even if you don't agree with sessions. God bless billy porter for allow us into his reality
This show is amazing. You laugh cry and grow
What's the name of it
@@francinevyfhuis8041 the name is Pose.
Candy will be missed. One thing is for sure, Blanca is good people!!
I was crying so hard that my friend’s service dog came over to comfort me and then I started crying even harder 😩😩😩😂😂😂😍😍😍. Man this is so fucking heartbreaking. The acting is phenomenal.
🤣🤣🤣🤣😢😢😢😢
Some people will never know you or understand you until you were gone. But it's okay.
I can not control my emotions no matter how many times I watch this scene. This episode period. 😢
While this is “cute” and tugs on ppl’s heartstrings, this is NOT the reality for MANY LGBTQIA+ people, and PARTICULARLY THOSE IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY! I’m a gay man, and my family, my coworkers, and general public despises, dislikes and abhors anything dealing with homosexuality or anything dealing with LGBTQIA+...and this is the case for many black families. Many have been cut off, isolated (or in my case-chose to isolate themselves out of fear of being rejected and exiled from family), bea+ened and k!łłed for being LGBTQIA+... while this was touching, this is NOT reality.
It is one of many realities. It's not yours. You have to make your own reality. I wish you all the best and that you won't close off your heart to invite others into your heart to become your new family.
@@roddo1955 thank you!!! I really needed that... You are right. This is not my reality...just like My comment is not the reality for everyone else. I understand that. We are all different and our experiences are different in some way, shape or form.
@@UA-camReady also, this is a after death conversation full of regret. I think it's very realistic.
@@nishashawn2021 that’s true. This is why I tell ppl to give ppl their roses while they’re living, not once they’re dead. I see this so much with parents of LGBTQIA+ children.
Just because it isn’t reality now, doesn’t mean it won’t ever be. Putting this on tv is a great start I think
The acting in this.... phenomenal
God, this scene is amazing. Every time I watch it, I cry.
So many of us in the LGBTQ+ community never get that opportunity of acceptance, and love, from our families. To see it, and hear it, just lights up my heart. We spend so much of our lives hiding who we are and conforming to those around us. Being seen, and accepted, means so so so much to us and this scene always brings tears to my eyes. Such an amazing cast and show!
This scene made me block my entire family so they can learn to love me for me,,and I want them to realize that when am still alive
@Kat Brown they did, today my sister called me,and so did my mum yesterday
@@tabbyshiko4574 👏🏿
The "at worst gay" is so real... I'm shocked at how realistic this dialogue is.
I can't stop crying girlllllllll play that damn role omg the missed LOVE
A lot of the tragedy and suffering the LGBTQ people go Through, part of it the parents who rejected them are to blame.
You carry your child for 9 months in the womb, only to dispose of him/her because they turned out to be something you don't accept because of what your religion or society will look and think of you.
When you throw you child out of the house, with no food, shelter, money , opportunity...
The child will have to pick up what the streets have to offer, and not always it's good.
Prostitution, abuse, hunger, Diseases, drug overdose and a lot of times murder.
Parents love your child the way they are so they can have a chance at life.
I’m bawling my eyes out! This scene is so beautiful
There I go again with the waterworks...
I know Blanca had her ups and downs with Candy, especially since at times she was mean towards her, but I love that she still looked at her like a sister and showed unconditional love, even in death.
" WHY DID IT TAKE ME SO LONG TO SEE YOU? " It's always gonna be the question that will never be answered no matter how many more lives we sacrifice.
Candy looked like her mom!!! 😭😭 this episode had me rocking back and forth!!!
Man, if a dead person jump out of a casket and started lip singing and dancing, I would run through the walls of the funeral home trying to get the heck out of there. LOL
Carlos Bright Get some depth.
But it was beautiful. I was shocked myself. When it happened I got chills all over & thank God I was laying down in my bed when I watched this scene bcs I would have fainted to the floor. 😥😥😥
That was a simply amazing and stunning scene. Candy FINALLY got her moment. She got her moment. She looked gorgeous in her sparkly hair and exuberant and fearless
You missed the point. She really didn't rise out of a casket and sing. Get some sense.
She's not wearing the same clothes. Her hair is a different length and all glittering. It was her if she HAD been allowed to lip-sync at the ball. Thankyou.
I love and hate this scene equally. Love it because it is so tastefully played and emotional, all the actors outstanding. I hate it because these stories actually occured and these poor women were never able to reconcile with their families, and it's so heartbreaking it makes me angry cry.
Sometimes, parents need therapy to deal with this reality.
It's true. Having the courage to be transgendered is so much for one to go through...years of pain, doubt, expense & exclusion before they become renewed...but I think without acknowledging the grieving process of losing a child of one gender, and the new reality of gaining a child of another gender, even for the most loving parents, it can be a lot to process. Better they seek therapy & acknowledge any possible confusion, than to hold onto ignorance & fear, and lose their children.
Candy was a complex character. She had to be tough to survive. I will miss her crazy ass!!! Such an exceptional and touching episode😍😍😍
I’ve only watched a few Pose clips in the past 30 minutes but wow they’ve all brought out so many emotions within me! I’m sobbing right now because of this scene!
Omg like this is beyond POWERFUL AS ME BEING TRANS WOMEN I cry so hard CAUSE this exactly what so many of us go through... POSE IS THE BEST TV SHOW TO THIS DATE...🌈🦄💯👁🙏💛
My gay scars hurt so much with this but is so beautiful...
Yep this scene is so powerful 😭😭💕💕💕💕
Dad being so unwilling to let his baby girl go. "We're just getting started..." goodnesssssssssss😫😫😫😫😫
this episode has such a special place in my heart, especially with her fathers love. the day i watched this episode about 2 years ago, my father had a heart attack. he was thankfully ok but it was definitely a wake up call for me. i took my parents out to dinner the next week and finally told them i was trans and wanted to change my name. i was so scared that they would hate me or that this would be the final push for them to let me go, but i’m so glad i did it. this last christmas my mother gave me and my sisters the same gift, a necklace with our initial. when i opened mine and saw the “a” for my name, i finally understood what candy must have felt getting her dollhouse. it will always be the greatest gift i have ever received 💖
ACCEPTANCE is what we all crave universally especially from our parents no matter you're race, culture, religion, or sexuality. This damn scene had me choked up. I'm a straight woman that love the show that have been cast out by her own parents because she refuse to be controlled. All she want is acceptance🙂
God damn this fucking sjw show sucks!
It made me cry like a kid so much 😭
This is one of the MOST ICONIC shows to ever grace TV!!! FX did an astounding job with this series!!! I had no clue of how they lived and grew in their community, but this was informative and eye-opening!! Bravo to the cast!!❤
People claim this life is a choice for us but what would make us pick a life of heartache and pain constantly? I'm glad people are realizing this .
😭😭😭😭😭 it's even sadder because while some of the other conversations with the cast were ones they couldve had with her in their head knowing her, these ones were specifically conversations that they would never have, about things they would never know, with her life cut short before such an exchange could ever happen
Me: *watches the video close to tears*
Also me: *sees the last few frames with Candy's dad's butt* well dayum.
I haven’t seen this show yet but I clicked on this and omg. The tears just kept coming. So emotional, I am binge watch it now!
Thank you for uploading this. I’ve been distraught all day rewatching this episode.
Me too... I've watched it 4 times
@@danasheia7064 Really?!! I can't, it's just too emotional
IM DROWNING IN TEARS HERE IN BRAZIL 😭, THANK U SO MUCH CANDY FEROCITY. U'LL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN 🙏🏻❤️
OMG thank you so much for posting. This is going to mean so much to my friend
You really are a breath of fresh air butterfly kisses thanks
Why?
Dose it mean much to a friend
Kiba151 Because his family disowned him for years for being trans. And they just have reconciled and are very close now.
If people would just open up a little more and understand a little harder this world would be a better place! A little Love and understanding goes long way
This show has a lifelong place in my heart, and I will never forget the things it makes me feel.
Emmy award winning scene
Me being mother of four, I will always love my children no matter what. Gay. Straight. Lesbian. Bi.Transgender, I will love them more and more for having the courage to come out.