Aroace agender gang! I actually found out I was agender through a meme because identifying with "no" resonated with me on a deep and personal level in a way gender never had.
@@blacknoodles6538 Well, for one, I bind. I wear baggy shirts. Face masks help a lot. I use makeup sometimes to make my facial features look more defined. I really need to get back into working out. Emotionally, my therapist always just reminded me that other people don't define me and they don't know me, so what they think I am doesn't matter. Sometimes I do gender affirming guided meditations. I try not to look in the mirror or look at myself when I bathe. I don't really know other than that. Distract myself? I wish it was like when I lucid dream and I can mold my body to my willthen fly around topless because I can.
With my experiences with being Agender, I knew this; I knew my gender fluctuated in some way (with masculinity, femininity, being neutral, etc. etc. rather than being male and female), but I realized that the label Genderfluid didn't describe my experience. At the end of the day, I'd just rather be a human who can change its gender expression to make it feel comfortable with itself rather than conforming to an exact gender.
I feel the same way. I typically present somewhere between fem and androgynous, but I feel it doesn't factor into my gender. the way I dress doesn't make me a girl, it makes my happy :)
Oohh, same. I kind of like to describe my experience of gender as being agender but genderfluid, aka I don't have a gender but have some flux. Neither of those terms rly fit, so I just say that I'm non-binary. I do flux between feeling more masculine, feminine, neutral, and what I'd call enbiness (like feminity and masculinity; it feels simultaneously like nothing and something other) on a low lvl. Sometimes I can feel more than one at a time. Idk if I ever have 0% days, but it's like the max of any of those is 50% and I don't usually feel any of those over 30%. So I don't feel it very intensly. It's cool to know that's someone else has a similar experience! 👋
As a Demiboy this is exactly what I feel. Sometimes I feel like a male and sometimes I don't feel like anything, and sometimes I feel both so I use both terms.
I think the first clear sign that should have made me realize was how much I identified with a post that was basically like "my pronouns are I/me and the rest is a you problem".
@@maitherolfsenlisa5593 Boa noite! Eu uso Elu/delu e Ele/dele, porém você deve saber que não há regras pra uma pessoa escolher seus pronomes! Você pode ser mulher e usar ele/dele, ou homem e usar ela/dela, como alguns afeminados fazem. Pronome é a forma que te faz confortável ser chamade, e não tem nada a ver com identidade de gênero!
As an Agender person I can confirm this,we don't really feel like having a gender,which basically means we're like a blank paper. I use They/He/She pronouns the most (You can use whatever pronouns,I don't give a f but I state I'm comfy with those three so people don't get confused) Btw Happy pride month everyone! Be who you are
I'm girlflux, so I usually go throughout my day, feeling different intensities of feminity, and at the least fem, I feel agender, all the way up to female. I'm typically fine with any pronouns, but as I naturally present more fem, I use they/she to not overly confuse my company. Happy Pride Month! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
That's a great explanation of being flux. I identify as agenderflux because it just sounded like the best definition for me but I didn't really know what the flux meant. Experiencing different intensities of being agender mixed with slightly feeling another gender quite resonates with me, so I think I chose the right label. Thanks for the explanation :)
I'm on one of those websites where you get chosen for surveys (not sure if it's the right way to describe it in English sry) and then you have to pick a gender and the good surveys have three or more possible answers. So basically sometimes I chose female, sometimes the third option and sometimes I needed like a full minute to choose and I was like, am I cheating on myself, until it just recently clicked and I realised, woops, looks like I'm girlflux and actually answering these questions truthfully xD
Thinking about gender always gave me a massive headache, i always was like: 'I don't feel female, or male, or somewhere in between.. i'm simply just myself, what gender am i???' and than i discovered Agender.
“yOuR gEndEr iS whAt’S iN YoUr pAnTs” “Welp. Guess I identify as a firbie” 🤷 “Wait. Wait… what?! Why do you- no wait. Why is there a firbie in your pants?!“ 😰
just an explanation for these characters at 2:06 : They are from an web-series called "bfb" and "tpot" .Their names are "two" and "four" and they originally originate from another educational short called "x finds out his value" from 2009. Both of these characters where made by ua-cam.com/users/jacknjellify who also makes the web-series. (if I forgot anything will edit it in)
My sister keeps asking if I’m questioning my gender/sexuality like no I’m just tryna learn about other people so I can not be like the guy who told me privilege is a myth 🗿
No gender, only abstract descriptions of my being :)) Yesterday it was the planet Saturn, the day before it was _pink_ Saturn, other times its retro neon carpets (hence my pfp), etc.. it's fun :]
Finally someone else who understands. Feeling like my being is adjacent to a nebula is not a gender nor is it related to gender. The nebula is my whole being, and there is not a gender in the nebula, nor is there room for a gender in the nebula. I also kinda identify with dragons and elves because I'm a dragon who can shapeshift into an elf in my lucid dreams, and I've spent a lot of time lucid dreaming. It was like a whole second life for me back in middle school, and it was the one place I felt like I could truly be myself. Identity doesn't equal always equal gender.
the attack helicopter got me too LMAOOO its so funny i never considered how much of a joke that WASNT for me. like i genuinely liked saying ima helicopter bc i relate to THAT more than man or woman lmao
oh how great my morning has started, 💖😁😁🎉 ok this is quite personal, I am asexual and personally think privates look absolutely horrendous and i would become non-binary physically if some like that was possible. never connected to any gender stuff, didn't understood it thought I might be non-binary but didn't came to terms with it, it just was neither understable nor connective, then I discovered the term agender felt quite comfortable and immediately connected. today when I watched this video I am like ooo I have made one two decisions in my life NO and NO. Happy pride month guys🎉❤🏳️🌈
I don't know how to explain being agender. I just know I'm supposed to have a gender but instead of the response there's just nothing, I can say I'm AFAB and okay with being feminine, I don't have disphoria. It's just that I don't really feel like expressing a gender at all. I'm just a human being who happens to have a vagina but I would exactly feel the same if I had a penis
YES!! Never thought I'd meet someone who feels exactly how I feel! I recognize that I have a female body, but I never perceived myself as a girl. My body is not a woman body; it's just a body. I don't have girl or boy interests or personality traits; they're just my interests and personality. I cannot know what it's like to attach my appearance, my voice, my hobbies, etc to my gender, as I have no gender to attach it to. I just wear and do whatever I like and whatever suits me. Big agree - if I were to wake up tomorrow and everything was the same, except I was now male, I would only be freaking out over _how_ that happened. And maybe be grumpy over the fact that I have to re-fit my clothing. Otherwise, life would continue as normal for me. There would be no gender crisis over my sex changing.
This was amazing! Especially love the couple that I hadn't heard before, like the one person "I will be appreciative even though this is exactly what I didn't want." Ha!!! Yes lol, so exactly right. It felt so right to find the label agender for myself, but at the same time it also felt weird. Like, other people really have those things? I thought we were all in on this joke that gender exists together! You mean all these people... ACTUALLY feel those things exist?? So it was super weird to get a flag for it. Like everyone else believes in these imaginary animals and I just got handed a stuffed imaginary animal. I mean... If that makes y'all feel better for my not having an imaginary animal, I can hold this stuffed version of it, I guess. Lol, gender.
I LITERALLY WATCHED ONE MINUTE OF THIS VIDEO AND REALISED IM AGENDER!!! I’d always knew I wasn’t cis but man or even non binary never felt right. BUT FINALLY I FEEL LIKE IVE FOUND A LABEL THAT TRULY FITS!!!! 🥹🖤🐀🤍💚🤍🐀🖤 (There was no grey emojis so I used rats lol) Edit: oops I’m actually just a cis girl but just because the label doesn’t fit me personally doesn’t mean that agender people aren’t valid
I’m non-binary but I am having a crisis because sometimes I feel like I’m non-binary while sometimes I feel like that doesn’t fit me. I don’t feel like a girl or a boy ever, but sometimes I just feel like everything and nothing.
2:07 yo that’s four and two, originating in an educational video but later popularized in bfb(aka bfdi season 4), both of which are created by the youtuber jacknjellify
3:46 I do get what they want to say, and sry if I interpreted wrong, but small reminder that non-binary doesn't mean "middle between male or female"! it simply means NOT being binary :DD
Any other genderless people kinda hate the agender label? Like yes technically this is the label that describes me, but that one dude is right, I don’t want a label to clarify that I don’t identify 😐 with a label. Kinda defeats itself, and also there’s just a general negative stigma around using lgbt labels I don’t really like. Plus people saying “well I just connect with the label” That’s great, but I can already tell we are not the same/similar in identification. Idk, it makes me very uncomfortable. That’s all, good day 👍 Edit: sorry this is long but GENDERLESS AND GAY ABSOLUTELY🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@sleepatterns cause genderless people who are attracted to a certain sex/gender have parallels to the opposite sex/gender that is heterosexual AND to the same sex/gender homosexuals. Like if they like girls, their perspective can be parallel to heterosexual men and gay women. It’s about how your perspective on attraction is more parallel to a gay person. It sucks all this stuff is so complicated 😃😃😃 I’m SORRY THIS IS TOO LONG OKAY 😭😭😭😭😭😭 plus I say gay as kind of a joke anyway. edit: y’all better not “there’s more than 2 genders 😡 “ I know, I’m just using the masses as an example, take with a grain of salt.
yeah that’s why I went from agender to labelless, ‘gender’ is just a bunch of made up bull and I hate the way the lgbtq has rewritten it to be something it’s not. you don’t feel masculine or feminine those concepts in themselves are made up of STEREOTYPES the same foundation of gender. “I relate more to typical STEREOTYPICAL male things therefore I must be a demigirl, demiguy, non-binary blah blah blah”, why can’t you just be a masculine person????? All these labels just to make yourself feel special. 🙄
i thought i was genderfluid and like, some part of me still is but overall im just Agender and prefer they/them most of the time. you know. just kinda vibing i guess
I just feel like an enigma at this point. I just want to be an ethereal creature that doesn't have sex (I'm definitely Ace) but I don't know what this makes me in terms of gender. I don't really want to wear gendered clothes, either male or female. Baggy shirts and sweatpants or leggings or shorts make me feel most comfortable. I don't know what the fuck I am lol
I’m ace/aro, and I relate to some things in this compilation, but I don’t think I’m agender. I’m not ruling it out though… Here’s my current gender situation-I’m mostly just writing it here to vent, but if anyone reads this it’d be cool as well. I just feel like gender is a completely invented, arbitrary thing, and I have totally lost sight of what it means to identify as a certain gender. Additionally, I think that I don’t really care about which pronouns you use to refer to me, because I don’t feel like any of them hold meaning to me. I’m generally more comfortable with girl-related adjectives and words declined in feminine form, but that might simply be because I’m more used to it. Presenting in a traditionally girly way mostly makes me uncomfortable. This all seems very agender, but, when I think of myself as agender, it feels like I’m erasing something that’s there, or like I’m over-simplifying things. Sometimes I feel very much a part of the group of people that is “women”, and sometimes I identify more with traditionally male things, but I never feel completely at home with either. To be honest, my gender identity is probably somewhere in the middle, and I might find it eventually, but I don’t think I care enough to actively try and figure myself out. I’m comfortable enough as I am (other than the fact I wish I had smaller/nonexistent boobs, lol).
Dude I’m in almost perfectly in the same situation. The fact that gender stereotypes exists, it makes me feel the two genders of male and female are basically impossible to hold. Just the idea of both feels, artificial? In a way. However, one night I felt completely female without the use of traditional girly stuff. I’ve felt male other times but most of the time, I’m Demigirl. (But that could also be of social influence). I care a bit more of my pronouns but I still don’t know the ones I’ll stick with. I suspect I might be demifluid or totally genderfluid bc of this, but my brain believes that I’m not any of this and just a girl like my sisters. 😅 I started venting too but it’s all confusing. Try journaling your thoughts, I’m trying it out and I think it can help see an overview of all your gender thoughts. Also I completely agree with the whole “erasing a part of you”. I know something’s there but I can’t identify it. The only thing I’m sure of is my asexuality.
@@leaftiger12 I felt that last sentence :,) but journaling sounds like a really good idea, actually, thank you! I already use it for other things, I should definitely start doing it regarding my gender situation as well. Also, good luck with your own gender situation ;)
0:50 As an autistic agender person, I somewhat have this issue where I'm between thinking gender is convoluted or gender is a pointless concept. However, I tend to think about it like this; When you're born, you have a masculine side and a feminine side. However, in some cases, you can have a third side which can be interpreted as gender neutrality. Other cases, you can just have no sides (Agender) or your sides are manifested into scribbles that shape into animals, objects, or even concepts (Xenogender). Maybe 2 or more of those sides fluctuate between each other (Genderfluid) or just coexist (Bigender, Trigender, Polygender, or genders similar to it). Maybe you don't care about the existence of the sides at all (Gender Apathetic) or you feel like there's an empty hole there (Gendervoid). I know this is probably a really simplified interpretation of it and doesn't accurately cover the entire complex spectrum of gender (This probably doesn't include specific micro labels), but this gets the point of gender across to me.
GUYS! my mother told me that back in the day she felt as if she didn’t have a gender. Now I know that she was agender like me! She’s not agender anymore but I still like to think about the fact that my mom was once’s lgbtq+
Hey I don’t know if anyone will see this comment but I wanted to ask if I could still be agender if I don’t mind if people use like more gendered terms like miss/mr or useing she/him pronouns towards me? I don’t think I’m cis but I’m trying to see what labels fit best.
So when my friend lived at her old house she had these neighbors and they were real rude and one time me and my friend got into a fight with them about LGBTQ and at the time I was unsure what I was so this fight was weird for me and then one of them said "oh then I identify as a helicopter" and my friend said "YAS QUEEN"
3:45 just came back from Christopher Street Day and UA-cam was like: you still think you’re non-binary? Here you go, you might wanna check out agender while you’re at it😂
Crying, screaming, throwing my phone, I love this! As an agender person who uses it/he pronouns, I'm so glad that you included a TikTok about other agender friends using binary pronouns. Happy pride month! 🖤🤍💚🤍🖤
4:17 i used to say i was an attack helicopter too,then the ~gender bandit~ came along.my friend would also ask if i wanted to borrow some of her gender for a bit
i might be agender but im not really sure. right now,i identify as cis male, but i dont really know why im cis. i dont feel like i should be female, but the only reason i identify as male is because im born jn this body and im raised as a boy. and from what i hear from the internet, gender is much deeper than body and how youre raised so im not sure if im really cis. theres also the option of being nonbinary which might fit in me, but im also not sure
The way I've described my gender (Transmasc agender-) is I'm basically an enderman from Minecraft- not necessarily a man, but still masculine enough to be seen as boyish, but still just genderless entirely
i’m agender because i don’t believe in gender in the way i don’t believe in god. gender is a social construct. it’s putting people in 2 categories and judging their intellect, personality, strength, emotions and more based on which one they’re in. i found that not telling anyone my gender online made my interactions feel more genuine, like gender just muddied the communication. oddly, i still use he/they. i probably don’t use she/her because of transphobia and the need to distance myself from my sex, and they/them is the most comfortable thing for me. i’m just used to it, it’s nothing special. not sure about he/him though, not a lot of people use it on me, but i kinda like it, i think??
I just found out I might be agender I'm still young and granted it might change over time but often times I don't really care about gender or pronouns I'm fine with whatever and I feel as though this fits me best as of now
hi! so like is it ok that i represent as agender, or agender flux (agender, but make it genderfluid too) but also demigender? like i partly connect to gender, but the rest i am agender, but it fluctuates between how genderless i feel.
Aroace agender gang! I actually found out I was agender through a meme because identifying with "no" resonated with me on a deep and personal level in a way gender never had.
ayyy ive found my people!
Funny coincidence, me too 👋 can i ask how you deal with dysphoria (if you have dysphoria) like emotionally? I have bad dysphoria about my face so yeah
@@blacknoodles6538 Well, for one, I bind. I wear baggy shirts. Face masks help a lot. I use makeup sometimes to make my facial features look more defined. I really need to get back into working out. Emotionally, my therapist always just reminded me that other people don't define me and they don't know me, so what they think I am doesn't matter. Sometimes I do gender affirming guided meditations. I try not to look in the mirror or look at myself when I bathe. I don't really know other than that. Distract myself? I wish it was like when I lucid dream and I can mold my body to my willthen fly around topless because I can.
@@lolymop333 thank you for sharing
Aroace agender gang!
With my experiences with being Agender, I knew this;
I knew my gender fluctuated in some way (with masculinity, femininity, being neutral, etc. etc. rather than being male and female), but I realized that the label Genderfluid didn't describe my experience. At the end of the day, I'd just rather be a human who can change its gender expression to make it feel comfortable with itself rather than conforming to an exact gender.
I feel the same way. I typically present somewhere between fem and androgynous, but I feel it doesn't factor into my gender. the way I dress doesn't make me a girl, it makes my happy :)
Oohh, same. I kind of like to describe my experience of gender as being agender but genderfluid, aka I don't have a gender but have some flux. Neither of those terms rly fit, so I just say that I'm non-binary. I do flux between feeling more masculine, feminine, neutral, and what I'd call enbiness (like feminity and masculinity; it feels simultaneously like nothing and something other) on a low lvl. Sometimes I can feel more than one at a time. Idk if I ever have 0% days, but it's like the max of any of those is 50% and I don't usually feel any of those over 30%. So I don't feel it very intensly. It's cool to know that's someone else has a similar experience! 👋
Your gender can not fluctuate😂. Youre either male or female bro😂
THIS IS SO TRUE
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4:35 Unironically, I am also asexual aromantic and agender and my first word spoken was "no"
...not even joking about that last part lol
To all the people who say “”people explaining how not having a gender is a gender””
Agender isn’t a gender, it’s a label
like being trans right
@@fahdkhan1971 exactly!
Like saying you're asymptomatic isn't a symptom. It's a lable.
There is only two genders.
As a Demiboy this is exactly what I feel. Sometimes I feel like a male and sometimes I don't feel like anything, and sometimes I feel both so I use both terms.
Sorta same gender feels bro N-b/demi-girl/agender
@@atrixcanada7204 That's cool! I'm also Trans (FTM), Polyamorus, and Omnisexual.
You may be boyflux.
I didn't know what Boyflux was, and so I googled it and, you're right, I am. Thank you for helping me!
Happy Pride! 😁🌈
💙💗💟💗💙
@@rainndrops_goodvibes5257 Oh, no problem!!
I'm agender and seeing this made me really happy, I legit had to stop myself from screaming. Thank you, it really made my day
I think the first clear sign that should have made me realize was how much I identified with a post that was basically like "my pronouns are I/me and the rest is a you problem".
Thank you so much!! I'm an agender person and seeing this representation and support makes me want to cry :'') - 🇧🇷
Aaah bate aí 🖐
@@somethingunusual8456 Aaaaah :D 🖖
Same
Quais pronomes você usa como uma pessoa agênera ?
@@maitherolfsenlisa5593 Boa noite! Eu uso Elu/delu e Ele/dele, porém você deve saber que não há regras pra uma pessoa escolher seus pronomes! Você pode ser mulher e usar ele/dele, ou homem e usar ela/dela, como alguns afeminados fazem. Pronome é a forma que te faz confortável ser chamade, e não tem nada a ver com identidade de gênero!
I like the agender flag. It looks like a mint ice cream sandwich. And I love that. I am agender and I approve the flag cookie
I agree, I'm agender and I love mint
@kaiyajanelory7925 omg twinsie!!! (As an agender i also love anything associated with mint as well)
As an Agender person I can confirm this,we don't really feel like having a gender,which basically means we're like a blank paper. I use They/He/She pronouns the most (You can use whatever pronouns,I don't give a f but I state I'm comfy with those three so people don't get confused)
Btw Happy pride month everyone! Be who you are
Same- with everything- the pronouns it doesn’t really matter and I’m good with any and all call me what you want and blank sheet of paper- ✨perfect✨
yaaasss same for me! when someone refers to me as "he" or "she" i'm just like heyyy ya wanted something? i also love to look androgynous
_anly stize_
You speak my language my friend-
Same, pronouns don't equal gender.
Omg me too, I’m agender with she/he/they pronouns
I'm girlflux, so I usually go throughout my day, feeling different intensities of feminity, and at the least fem, I feel agender, all the way up to female. I'm typically fine with any pronouns, but as I naturally present more fem, I use they/she to not overly confuse my company. Happy Pride Month! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
That's a great explanation of being flux. I identify as agenderflux because it just sounded like the best definition for me but I didn't really know what the flux meant. Experiencing different intensities of being agender mixed with slightly feeling another gender quite resonates with me, so I think I chose the right label. Thanks for the explanation :)
Same I didn't know it had that name
WHAT IS UP MY FELLOW GIRLFLUX
I'm on one of those websites where you get chosen for surveys (not sure if it's the right way to describe it in English sry) and then you have to pick a gender and the good surveys have three or more possible answers. So basically sometimes I chose female, sometimes the third option and sometimes I needed like a full minute to choose and I was like, am I cheating on myself, until it just recently clicked and I realised, woops, looks like I'm girlflux and actually answering these questions truthfully xD
genderfluid person here that sometimes feels agender…i loved this compilation >3
Thinking about gender always gave me a massive headache, i always was like: 'I don't feel female, or male, or somewhere in between.. i'm simply just myself, what gender am i???' and than i discovered Agender.
So real 😭
transmasc agender here! i feel so represented 🥲
“yOuR gEndEr iS whAt’S iN YoUr pAnTs”
“Welp. Guess I identify as a firbie” 🤷
“Wait. Wait… what?! Why do you- no wait. Why is there a firbie in your pants?!“ 😰
I'm going to start saying this when people ask
O h g o d n o t h e f u r b y-
don’t forget the vagina
@@sleepatterns
Were you trying to be transphobic?
My gender is phone, keys, earbuds, gum, and lint
I was not expecting my TikTok to be in here that genuinely caught me off guard 😭 😭
just an explanation for these characters at 2:06 :
They are from an web-series called "bfb" and "tpot" .Their names are "two" and "four" and they originally originate from another educational short called "x finds out his value" from 2009.
Both of these characters where made by ua-cam.com/users/jacknjellify who also makes the web-series.
(if I forgot anything will edit it in)
My sister keeps asking if I’m questioning my gender/sexuality like no I’m just tryna learn about other people so I can not be like the guy who told me privilege is a myth 🗿
Agender people are cool!!!! ANYWAYS I CANT WAIT FOR TOMORROW!!!!
As a agender person thank you I think your cool to
No gender, only abstract descriptions of my being :))
Yesterday it was the planet Saturn, the day before it was _pink_ Saturn, other times its retro neon carpets (hence my pfp), etc..
it's fun :]
Finally someone else who understands. Feeling like my being is adjacent to a nebula is not a gender nor is it related to gender. The nebula is my whole being, and there is not a gender in the nebula, nor is there room for a gender in the nebula. I also kinda identify with dragons and elves because I'm a dragon who can shapeshift into an elf in my lucid dreams, and I've spent a lot of time lucid dreaming. It was like a whole second life for me back in middle school, and it was the one place I felt like I could truly be myself. Identity doesn't equal always equal gender.
Wow, that's really cool! I appreciate how you describe yourself as a being, and find things that resonate with you!
Excited to finally see some agender rep
the attack helicopter got me too LMAOOO its so funny i never considered how much of a joke that WASNT for me. like i genuinely liked saying ima helicopter bc i relate to THAT more than man or woman lmao
Yeahh! Thx for this video, I really love that every day agender people (mee) are more visible.
7:53 : "i constantly feel like i am just a brain being carried around in a meat sack..." HOLY SHIT THIS IS IT, THIS IS HOW IS FEEL
SAME YO
now i know that several years ago i came ou t as non-binary thinking it was agender when in reality i was both and neither
Hello! Happy pride month
The first one really hits me, I went through the exact same process-
I’m still closeted sadly but I made a secret alt account to comment on these. I love having these relatable vids and compilations
5:55 that's the most relatable tictok I've seen in forever
oh how great my morning has started, 💖😁😁🎉 ok this is quite personal, I am asexual and personally think privates look absolutely horrendous and i would become non-binary physically if some like that was possible. never connected to any gender stuff, didn't understood it thought I might be non-binary but didn't came to terms with it, it just was neither understable nor connective, then I discovered the term agender felt quite comfortable and immediately connected. today when I watched this video I am like ooo I have made one two decisions in my life NO and NO. Happy pride month guys🎉❤🏳️🌈
I simply do not vibe with gender
AMAZING VID
This helped me realize I'm agender!!! Thank you for this!!!
I don't know how to explain being agender. I just know I'm supposed to have a gender but instead of the response there's just nothing, I can say I'm AFAB and okay with being feminine, I don't have disphoria.
It's just that I don't really feel like expressing a gender at all. I'm just a human being who happens to have a vagina but I would exactly feel the same if I had a penis
YES!! Never thought I'd meet someone who feels exactly how I feel!
I recognize that I have a female body, but I never perceived myself as a girl. My body is not a woman body; it's just a body. I don't have girl or boy interests or personality traits; they're just my interests and personality. I cannot know what it's like to attach my appearance, my voice, my hobbies, etc to my gender, as I have no gender to attach it to. I just wear and do whatever I like and whatever suits me.
Big agree - if I were to wake up tomorrow and everything was the same, except I was now male, I would only be freaking out over _how_ that happened. And maybe be grumpy over the fact that I have to re-fit my clothing. Otherwise, life would continue as normal for me. There would be no gender crisis over my sex changing.
That last one
O my goodness.
Thank you
This was amazing! Especially love the couple that I hadn't heard before, like the one person "I will be appreciative even though this is exactly what I didn't want." Ha!!! Yes lol, so exactly right. It felt so right to find the label agender for myself, but at the same time it also felt weird. Like, other people really have those things? I thought we were all in on this joke that gender exists together! You mean all these people... ACTUALLY feel those things exist?? So it was super weird to get a flag for it. Like everyone else believes in these imaginary animals and I just got handed a stuffed imaginary animal. I mean... If that makes y'all feel better for my not having an imaginary animal, I can hold this stuffed version of it, I guess. Lol, gender.
I LITERALLY WATCHED ONE MINUTE OF THIS VIDEO AND REALISED IM AGENDER!!! I’d always knew I wasn’t cis but man or even non binary never felt right. BUT FINALLY I FEEL LIKE IVE FOUND A LABEL THAT TRULY FITS!!!! 🥹🖤🐀🤍💚🤍🐀🖤
(There was no grey emojis so I used rats lol)
Edit: oops I’m actually just a cis girl but just because the label doesn’t fit me personally doesn’t mean that agender people aren’t valid
So glad you found a label that fits! Happy pride 🏳️🌈✨
I oddly love the rats
@@twrose3070 sameee
Lmao i love the rats
Love the rats
I’m non-binary but I am having a crisis because sometimes I feel like I’m non-binary while sometimes I feel like that doesn’t fit me. I don’t feel like a girl or a boy ever, but sometimes I just feel like everything and nothing.
2:07 yo that’s four and two, originating in an educational video but later popularized in bfb(aka bfdi season 4), both of which are created by the youtuber jacknjellify
3:46 I do get what they want to say, and sry if I interpreted wrong, but small reminder that non-binary doesn't mean "middle between male or female"! it simply means NOT being binary :DD
AGENDER BUDDIES
This is helping me explore my gender! TYSM!!! 🖤🩶💚🩶🖤
"just vibing" yes that is me
Literally went through all the labels on the first one.
Agender is me! And proud I am!
I'm agender and trans masc and these make me very happy
fck, i love it 🥰 AGENDER PALS RISE 💚
1:49
My pronouns are he/they, I recently found out I'm agender and one of the names I was thinking about is elliot 💀 I want that one now lol
Hahaha that last one 😂🤣 love it
i love that my fav one has the famous orphan tears audio lol
Any other genderless people kinda hate the agender label? Like yes technically this is the label that describes me, but that one dude is right, I don’t want a label to clarify that I don’t identify 😐 with a label. Kinda defeats itself, and also there’s just a general negative stigma around using lgbt labels I don’t really like. Plus people saying “well I just connect with the label” That’s great, but I can already tell we are not the same/similar in identification. Idk, it makes me very uncomfortable. That’s all, good day 👍
Edit: sorry this is long but GENDERLESS AND GAY ABSOLUTELY🎉🎉🎉🎉
how can one be “gay” if they don’t have a gender…? you wouldn’t be anything. none of this means anything anymore.
@@sleepatterns cause genderless people who are attracted to a certain sex/gender have parallels to the opposite sex/gender that is heterosexual AND to the same sex/gender homosexuals. Like if they like girls, their perspective can be parallel to heterosexual men and gay women. It’s about how your perspective on attraction is more parallel to a gay person. It sucks all this stuff is so complicated 😃😃😃 I’m SORRY THIS IS TOO LONG OKAY 😭😭😭😭😭😭 plus I say gay as kind of a joke anyway. edit: y’all better not “there’s more than 2 genders 😡 “ I know, I’m just using the masses as an example, take with a grain of salt.
yeah that’s why I went from agender to labelless, ‘gender’ is just a bunch of made up bull and I hate the way the lgbtq has rewritten it to be something it’s not. you don’t feel masculine or feminine those concepts in themselves are made up of STEREOTYPES the same foundation of gender. “I relate more to typical STEREOTYPICAL male things therefore I must be a demigirl, demiguy, non-binary blah blah blah”, why can’t you just be a masculine person????? All these labels just to make yourself feel special. 🙄
i thought i was genderfluid and like, some part of me still is but overall im just Agender and prefer they/them most of the time. you know. just kinda vibing i guess
Vibing with the plants
3:18 i mean i already knew i was agender but still, this tiktok just...yes
I just feel like an enigma at this point. I just want to be an ethereal creature that doesn't have sex (I'm definitely Ace) but I don't know what this makes me in terms of gender. I don't really want to wear gendered clothes, either male or female. Baggy shirts and sweatpants or leggings or shorts make me feel most comfortable. I don't know what the fuck I am lol
mood
sounds healthy.
I’m gonna do you a solid and let you know that you’re a female. It’s okay. Stop overthinking it. No need to thank me
Im cisgender and i support!
(Im bisexual btw)
was just watching this but as soon as Two and four came on that surprised me-
Aroace agender 👑
I’m ace/aro, and I relate to some things in this compilation, but I don’t think I’m agender. I’m not ruling it out though…
Here’s my current gender situation-I’m mostly just writing it here to vent, but if anyone reads this it’d be cool as well. I just feel like gender is a completely invented, arbitrary thing, and I have totally lost sight of what it means to identify as a certain gender. Additionally, I think that I don’t really care about which pronouns you use to refer to me, because I don’t feel like any of them hold meaning to me. I’m generally more comfortable with girl-related adjectives and words declined in feminine form, but that might simply be because I’m more used to it. Presenting in a traditionally girly way mostly makes me uncomfortable. This all seems very agender, but, when I think of myself as agender, it feels like I’m erasing something that’s there, or like I’m over-simplifying things. Sometimes I feel very much a part of the group of people that is “women”, and sometimes I identify more with traditionally male things, but I never feel completely at home with either. To be honest, my gender identity is probably somewhere in the middle, and I might find it eventually, but I don’t think I care enough to actively try and figure myself out. I’m comfortable enough as I am (other than the fact I wish I had smaller/nonexistent boobs, lol).
Dude I’m in almost perfectly in the same situation. The fact that gender stereotypes exists, it makes me feel the two genders of male and female are basically impossible to hold. Just the idea of both feels, artificial? In a way. However, one night I felt completely female without the use of traditional girly stuff. I’ve felt male other times but most of the time, I’m Demigirl. (But that could also be of social influence). I care a bit more of my pronouns but I still don’t know the ones I’ll stick with. I suspect I might be demifluid or totally genderfluid bc of this, but my brain believes that I’m not any of this and just a girl like my sisters. 😅 I started venting too but it’s all confusing. Try journaling your thoughts, I’m trying it out and I think it can help see an overview of all your gender thoughts. Also I completely agree with the whole “erasing a part of you”. I know something’s there but I can’t identify it.
The only thing I’m sure of is my asexuality.
@@leaftiger12 I felt that last sentence :,) but journaling sounds like a really good idea, actually, thank you! I already use it for other things, I should definitely start doing it regarding my gender situation as well.
Also, good luck with your own gender situation ;)
@@racoon_in_ankhmorpork Glad I could help in a way! Good luck with you situation as well. It’s nice to know that we aren’t alone. 😁
This video: *exists*
Me: Maybe I am a triple A!
0:50 As an autistic agender person, I somewhat have this issue where I'm between thinking gender is convoluted or gender is a pointless concept. However, I tend to think about it like this; When you're born, you have a masculine side and a feminine side. However, in some cases, you can have a third side which can be interpreted as gender neutrality. Other cases, you can just have no sides (Agender) or your sides are manifested into scribbles that shape into animals, objects, or even concepts (Xenogender). Maybe 2 or more of those sides fluctuate between each other (Genderfluid) or just coexist (Bigender, Trigender, Polygender, or genders similar to it). Maybe you don't care about the existence of the sides at all (Gender Apathetic) or you feel like there's an empty hole there (Gendervoid). I know this is probably a really simplified interpretation of it and doesn't accurately cover the entire complex spectrum of gender (This probably doesn't include specific micro labels), but this gets the point of gender across to me.
"What does it mean to be agender?"
Basically, I canceled my monthly subscription to gender.
4:16 SIPSIPPIN ON ORPHAN TEARS SIPSIPSIPPIN ON ORPHAN TEARS
hey! you can be genderfluid and agender AT THE SAME TIME!
Ah yes.. my identity.. AAADBDHJJKBDK-
🖤💚💜🤍
I got to the end of the comp then it clicked it in my head "He wait a minute was bfdi TikTok"
0:12 I'm the Gray part of the Agender flag I am a semi Agender, I'm comfortable with they/them and even my "old" pronouns She/her.
bruh
@@Io_21 got a problem-??
@@Where_in_the_world_am_I I disagree with they them pronouns and agender. But you do you😝
@@Io_21 so your telling me you just watch these vids to complain.
@@Where_in_the_world_am_I I watch these videos as a try not to cringe challenge
Doctor :what gender are you
Me : uhhhhh. 🤤
I remember thinking to myself one time "bruh I don't want a gender" then I find this and it's like "o wait that's an option-"
GUYS! my mother told me that back in the day she felt as if she didn’t have a gender. Now I know that she was agender like me! She’s not agender anymore but I still like to think about the fact that my mom was once’s lgbtq+
It’s called a personality. Not a gender 🤦🏿♂️
*I've found my people*
love your pfp!
3:18 fr makin me question my gender, ,
aw man here we go again
"Your gender is what's in your pants!"
"I'm not wearing pants."
2:01 as me having recently realized I’m ace I can very much relate
Although I’m still very much romantic-
Hey I don’t know if anyone will see this comment but I wanted to ask if I could still be agender if I don’t mind if people use like more gendered terms like miss/mr or useing she/him pronouns towards me? I don’t think I’m cis but I’m trying to see what labels fit best.
Yes ofc you can😊!
Kennard gets it. Thanks kennard.
everytime i watch strictly agender tiktoks i only find out that my people are weird... nice :)
I feel like I might be agender since I don't really feel like any gender. It's similar to my emotions like it doesn't really feel like anything
So when my friend lived at her old house she had these neighbors and they were real rude and one time me and my friend got into a fight with them about LGBTQ and at the time I was unsure what I was so this fight was weird for me and then one of them said "oh then I identify as a helicopter" and my friend said "YAS QUEEN"
Can you do gender faun next 😅
3:45 just came back from Christopher Street Day and UA-cam was like: you still think you’re non-binary? Here you go, you might wanna check out agender while you’re at it😂
For some reason the last video got blocked in America.
4:37 lmao my best friend is aroace and possibly agender too so we have an inside joke that they’re a triple A battery so I call them battery boy
why did almost all your videos disappear for a time
I only know of my recent FTM being gone for a bit, but it will be back. Which other videos have dissapeared for you?
@@ellabella001 it was nothing but about 5 videos, it was the “what is ___” videos
@@gibbous_silver Strange...They're hopefully visible to everyone right now.
Crying, screaming, throwing my phone, I love this! As an agender person who uses it/he pronouns, I'm so glad that you included a TikTok about other agender friends using binary pronouns. Happy pride month! 🖤🤍💚🤍🖤
5:44 All I needed to hear 💖
You can be Agender and still have pronouns you prefer. Like I go by She/They cause I like them more than the others!
"What's your gender?"
"Oh, I don't have one, kinda forgot to renew my subscription lol 😅"
1:57 basically me
Is anybody else voidgender here? I can’t find a single person to relate to.
I am pangender I experience agender alot, I feel super comfortable here !
..I think I’m Agender-
4:47 Ayee that's my comment :D
3:36 I just say: "I don't feel"
Triple A battery gang! (Aroace agenders)
4:17 i used to say i was an attack helicopter too,then the ~gender bandit~ came along.my friend would also ask if i wanted to borrow some of her gender for a bit
i might be agender but im not really sure. right now,i identify as cis male, but i dont really know why im cis. i dont feel like i should be female, but the only reason i identify as male is because im born jn this body and im raised as a boy. and from what i hear from the internet, gender is much deeper than body and how youre raised so im not sure if im really cis. theres also the option of being nonbinary which might fit in me, but im also not sure
The way I've described my gender (Transmasc agender-) is I'm basically an enderman from Minecraft- not necessarily a man, but still masculine enough to be seen as boyish, but still just genderless entirely
i’m agender because i don’t believe in gender in the way i don’t believe in god.
gender is a social construct. it’s putting people in 2 categories and judging their intellect, personality, strength, emotions and more based on which one they’re in. i found that not telling anyone my gender online made my interactions feel more genuine, like gender just muddied the communication.
oddly, i still use he/they. i probably don’t use she/her because of transphobia and the need to distance myself from my sex, and they/them is the most comfortable thing for me. i’m just used to it, it’s nothing special. not sure about he/him though, not a lot of people use it on me, but i kinda like it, i think??
I just found out I might be agender I'm still young and granted it might change over time but often times I don't really care about gender or pronouns I'm fine with whatever and I feel as though this fits me best as of now
hi! so like is it ok that i represent as agender, or agender flux (agender, but make it genderfluid too) but also demigender? like i partly connect to gender, but the rest i am agender, but it fluctuates between how genderless i feel.