Match their energy, ghost the ghoster. Don't waste your time and energy on these people. And never get into a relationship with these people. If they disrespect you now, they always will
I'm doing this with friends now, too. I had two work friends (oxymoron, by most standards) that totally ignored a text I sent this weekend. I decided to never ever text them outside of work again, unless it has to do with work. And when It comes to men, I've always gotten that rush from chasing, but I'm done with that, too. I now think it's super hot when a guy is just fully there, and fully respectful, and is kind and doesn't ignore you to play games or act like you're not there. I had a guy I was really attracted to, and I think a lot of it was my attraction to chasing them -- but I decided to turn myself off to them, act with the same energy towards them as they act to me, and I lean into the people who are kind and actually reciprocal. Gotta train yourself sometimes to realize that reciprocity and consistent kindness are truly the hottest attributes one can hold.
I like your videos. always very helpful. I'm in my 40s and it took me that long to realise that I should get the same respect I give to others. I always used to tolerate certain behaviours and thought I had done something wrong and caused it . I appreciate communication and I wouldn't chase after anyone.
I had a "friend" who had these narcissistic kinds of behaviors with me since many years already, but I tolerated all of that in memory of what she was in the beginning and also because I know that she struggled with depression too, so she often ghosted me or disappeared for many months and "I had to be ok with that". I never really chased her but always answered politely when she came back from nothingness. But since new year I basically ghosted her back, and if she'll come back I'll be cold. I want her to be safe and ok, but I was ready to let her go. And as I felt that, new people came into my life 😊 So yeah, let them go, you need to detach from these old people to attract new ones, and respecting yourself is the first thing to do in your life first and most.
It's not narcissist it's avoidant attachment style of relationship bcs I struggle with this I think narcissist is the opposite they love bomb you but idk how they r in friendship tho But It's just what I know for now
@@axmy0613 yes, the perfection of the early stages was indeed love bombing. I sticked in this friendship in memory of the love bombing stage. And she's narcissist because she herself admitted it. I took a decade to realize that :0
@GnopKing yes everyone has a trait of narcissism in them but the covert type yikes, I have family like this so I know but hey I'm glad u you move on from a friendship that was no longer serving you people change and that's ok too. I really thought this type of people could never have friends bcs they r always in their misery. It's sad but its how their brain works.
I think its good to send a hey, you ok? Because if something is happening in their life they might not want to devlare it, but would appreciate the check in....if they dont reapond then youve done your bit
I find your channel few days Ago.Its so valuable and straight to the point ! Thank You Francesca! I was so low but i think I can fight my depression now😊
I chatted with a guy on WhatsApp for a while. I noticed that he was interested in me. And I started to like him. Then after a while he changed his phone number but he didn‘t give me his new number. It hurted me a lot. I just could not understand why. Then I started to wait, and sometimes I still hope he will contact me and tell me a „good“ reason for this behavior. I know its wrong and I try to forget him. But its not easy 😖 Btw sorry for my English😅
@@EmReyplayslots look where exactly? I don't live in a million people city. The options are limited. I'm not outgoing and extroverted person, I'm very awkward and quiet. Sure I'd love to do some self improvement but I have no fuckin idea what to do.
@@kristijan8518 it might be the girls that you are approaching. I am older, but I think that these dating apps are terrible. I don't know if you are approaching people in person or on the apps. I think in person is best.
Men need to hear this more than women nowadays. Women get a million propositions from men on a daily basis, and thus think it's completely okay for them to ghost men without saying anything at all
But I still want him back. I want him so badly. All this love and affection I have for him in my heart are not fading away no matter how much I try. First I tried hiding all my emotions then I slowly accepted them and let myself feel whatever I felt. But nothing worked. It has kinda become an obstacle in my daily life. I don’t know why am I so weak and vulnerable
I feel the same way. But its high time we take a step and gather our sh!t together orels we wont be able to fall in love with anyone else, ever! We deserve better, buddy!
Sometimes i ghost people not because i don't respect them but because i just dont want any type of confrontation and i avoid confrontation like the plague. Other times i ghost people because they're very toxic and i just dont want to be friends with toxic people anymore. I know ghosting is not right and it's not the answer but it's just so much easier sometimes
Yess I relate to this a lott. I'm someone who fears confrontation and I try my best to avoid it. And I ghost toxic ppl instead of confronting. Sometimes I do it cuz of detachment issues but it's rlly rare..
@@yasmin_hussain but ppl who hurt me don't deserve an explanation cuz explaining only escalates things and they won't fix their behaviour so it's better to just take the exit door
Me too, I started ghosting a friend who called me "Brother" and Who I knew since 18 years when I learned he married and not only he didn't invite me to his marriage, but he never even told me that, that he was going to marry. So I just stop contacting him. If I see him I greet and I'm polite, I wish him all the goodness, but I just don't want him in my life anymore because I felt betrayed and disrespected.
@ Also a wow moment. @ never looked at it like being needy or clingy.. Cringe. @ for the 1st time in a long time, I feel I darn well deserve better and someone out there will appreciate me. I'm not perfect by a long shot. However I'm pretty darn alright too.
Maybe out of balance self entitlement causes others to leave, not to assume it's always ghosting, it could just be solepsism or indifference. They could have something else going on & have under developed social skills, patterns take a while to confirm. These buzz words are fairly recent.
I agree with you ! For me am a very communicative and social person but I know some people might struggle with that . I also try to figure out if that person is importsnt to me . If it stays like that for a long time I take steps back. I think that’s what she wanna tell us ,especially when it comes to romantic things . Like in this emotional rush it’s hard to act like our brain tells us . But not just letting them go after one time not responding but If it’s always the same for longer and obvious ghosting
Yeah but that's what we call ghosting whatever the reason is, even if they don't know they ghosted you. Why would you like to be in that kind of relationship (friend, romantic)? For people who want okay, probably they also have something going on in terms of mental health or social awkwardness, but for people who are healthy and want healthy and bonding relationships it's best just to go and don't look back.
Actually, everyone already does this. I don't care. It's traumatizing. I don't do that to people myself, and I'm not letting people do that to me. I'm very good at destroying someone's self esteem. If he already doesn't respect me, he might as well hate himself. We're no longer in the age of being the "better person," whatever that's supposed to mean. We're in the age of "eat or be eaten." The only issue is that people are not practiced enough at biting remarks and targeting weakness. They're taught too much restraint. I think differently of someone I've only been casually talking to.
It's better to stay above these petty grill calculation antics and behaviors of ill or misinformed beings. They like the latency of catch-up,, they like the fish but rarely ever go fishing. Better to throw a penny in the pond. Then again there are wishes we never spend.
Avoid Avoidents forever.
Sad 13K ppl have watched this....
Ghosting says: "I AM A SELFISH COWARD".
They have to live with that.
Go "F" yourself...
Stay strong Collective ❤💪
Fr
Match their energy, ghost the ghoster. Don't waste your time and energy on these people. And never get into a relationship with these people. If they disrespect you now, they always will
That's right ✅️
FACTS 💯💯💯👍🏽 thank you 🙏🏽
If they ghost you, they don't care about you or your feelings. So be strong and let go! I know first hand its hard but you can do it! 👍🏻💪
I'm doing this with friends now, too. I had two work friends (oxymoron, by most standards) that totally ignored a text I sent this weekend. I decided to never ever text them outside of work again, unless it has to do with work. And when It comes to men, I've always gotten that rush from chasing, but I'm done with that, too. I now think it's super hot when a guy is just fully there, and fully respectful, and is kind and doesn't ignore you to play games or act like you're not there. I had a guy I was really attracted to, and I think a lot of it was my attraction to chasing them -- but I decided to turn myself off to them, act with the same energy towards them as they act to me, and I lean into the people who are kind and actually reciprocal. Gotta train yourself sometimes to realize that reciprocity and consistent kindness are truly the hottest attributes one can hold.
✨F A C T S💯💯💯👍🏽 so important ✨💕🌺💕✨
Never never ever contact a person who ghost you, never!
The reason of my last heartbreak was being ghosted. It’s really a complete mind f*ck! 💯
It’s terribly cold and cruel 💔
For real
It hurts like hell 🙂🙂🙂😭😭😭
It's hard yes, but it's necessary think about yourself 😢
When someone ghosts you, you ghost them back
I like your videos. always very helpful. I'm in my 40s and it took me that long to realise that I should get the same respect I give to others.
I always used to tolerate certain behaviours and thought I had done something wrong and caused it .
I appreciate communication and I wouldn't chase after anyone.
I had a "friend" who had these narcissistic kinds of behaviors with me since many years already, but I tolerated all of that in memory of what she was in the beginning and also because I know that she struggled with depression too, so she often ghosted me or disappeared for many months and "I had to be ok with that". I never really chased her but always answered politely when she came back from nothingness. But since new year I basically ghosted her back, and if she'll come back I'll be cold.
I want her to be safe and ok, but I was ready to let her go.
And as I felt that, new people came into my life 😊
So yeah, let them go, you need to detach from these old people to attract new ones, and respecting yourself is the first thing to do in your life first and most.
It's not narcissist it's avoidant attachment style of relationship bcs I struggle with this
I think narcissist is the opposite they love bomb you but idk how they r in friendship tho
But It's just what I know for now
@@axmy0613 yes, the perfection of the early stages was indeed love bombing. I sticked in this friendship in memory of the love bombing stage. And she's narcissist because she herself admitted it. I took a decade to realize that :0
@GnopKing yes everyone has a trait of narcissism in them but the covert type yikes, I have family like this so I know but hey I'm glad u you move on from a friendship that was no longer serving you people change and that's ok too.
I really thought this type of people could never have friends bcs they r always in their misery. It's sad but its how their brain works.
@@axmy0613there is narcissism in everyone but very few have the ability to change and apologize and self analyz5
No you are wrong .....again
This felt like an elder sister's advice to me! Recently had a friend ghost me. Thank you so much for sharing this - you put me at ease. 😌💖
Completely correct!
AVOID AVOIDANT FOREVER ❤😂🎉
I think its good to send a hey, you ok? Because if something is happening in their life they might not want to devlare it, but would appreciate the check in....if they dont reapond then youve done your bit
💯
Thank you!! Excellent advice 💙
Love your advices. I’m grateful for all of them 💓
I find your channel few days Ago.Its so valuable and straight to the point ! Thank You Francesca! I was so low but i think I can fight my depression now😊
you're so good, thanks for sharing. It's true
So true. thank you.!
I chatted with a guy on WhatsApp for a while. I noticed that he was interested in me. And I started to like him. Then after a while he changed his phone number but he didn‘t give me his new number. It hurted me a lot. I just could not understand why. Then I started to wait, and sometimes I still hope he will contact me and tell me a „good“ reason for this behavior. I know its wrong and I try to forget him. But its not easy 😖
Btw sorry for my English😅
What if EVERYONE ghosts me? Literally everyone. Not a single girl talks to me.
Come on, it's not possible, soon or later, somebody will be nice to you
@@svetlanastajic99 I'm 31 and still didn't have a girl that showed interest.
I think you need to look elsewhere or wouldn't hurt to do some self improvement
@@EmReyplayslots look where exactly? I don't live in a million people city. The options are limited. I'm not outgoing and extroverted person, I'm very awkward and quiet. Sure I'd love to do some self improvement but I have no fuckin idea what to do.
@@kristijan8518 it might be the girls that you are approaching. I am older, but I think that these dating apps are terrible. I don't know if you are approaching people in person or on the apps. I think in person is best.
Thank you so much!!
As soon as they show the red flags walk away
Yes nice 💯.
Let them rest in peace 😂
But not in “that way”, right? 🤣
@@LittleLulubee of course not 😅😂😂
Yes gurlll
Nice videos 👍
Just ignore them
I thank you 🌹
Agreed 🤝🏻❤
Men need to hear this more than women nowadays. Women get a million propositions from men on a daily basis, and thus think it's completely okay for them to ghost men without saying anything at all
But I still want him back. I want him so badly. All this love and affection I have for him in my heart are not fading away no matter how much I try. First I tried hiding all my emotions then I slowly accepted them and let myself feel whatever I felt. But nothing worked. It has kinda become an obstacle in my daily life. I don’t know why am I so weak and vulnerable
I feel the same way.
But its high time we take a step and gather our sh!t together orels we wont be able to fall in love with anyone else, ever!
We deserve better, buddy!
❤❤❤
Truth
Exactly .... worth subscribing to ur chanel
🙏🏼
Sometimes i ghost people not because i don't respect them but because i just dont want any type of confrontation and i avoid confrontation like the plague. Other times i ghost people because they're very toxic and i just dont want to be friends with toxic people anymore. I know ghosting is not right and it's not the answer but it's just so much easier sometimes
Yess I relate to this a lott. I'm someone who fears confrontation and I try my best to avoid it. And I ghost toxic ppl instead of confronting. Sometimes I do it cuz of detachment issues but it's rlly rare..
Ghosting is downright disrespectful + cowardly.
@@yasmin_hussain but ppl who hurt me don't deserve an explanation cuz explaining only escalates things and they won't fix their behaviour so it's better to just take the exit door
Me too, I started ghosting a friend who called me "Brother" and Who I knew since 18 years when I learned he married and not only he didn't invite me to his marriage, but he never even told me that, that he was going to marry. So I just stop contacting him. If I see him I greet and I'm polite, I wish him all the goodness, but I just don't want him in my life anymore because I felt betrayed and disrespected.
Just walk away..
Anyone know what color lip stick she’s wearing is?? It’s gorgeous!
Easier said than done.
Of course, but you can do it! 💪
@ Also a wow moment.
@ never looked at it like being needy or clingy.. Cringe.
@ for the 1st time in a long time, I feel I darn well deserve better and someone out there will appreciate me. I'm not perfect by a long shot. However I'm pretty darn alright too.
👌
Sister I faced ghosting
I will text him "pooja, what is this behavior?"
Crank up Garbage's "Special" and just do you.
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In short if someone ghost you, just leave them
Maybe out of balance self entitlement causes others to leave, not to assume it's always ghosting, it could just be solepsism or indifference. They could have something else going on & have under developed social skills, patterns take a while to confirm. These buzz words are fairly recent.
I agree with you ! For me am a very communicative and social person but I know some people might struggle with that . I also try to figure out if that person is importsnt to me . If it stays like that for a long time I take steps back. I think that’s what she wanna tell us ,especially when it comes to romantic things . Like in this emotional rush it’s hard to act like our brain tells us . But not just letting them go after one time not responding but If it’s always the same for longer and obvious ghosting
Yeah but that's what we call ghosting whatever the reason is, even if they don't know they ghosted you. Why would you like to be in that kind of relationship (friend, romantic)? For people who want okay, probably they also have something going on in terms of mental health or social awkwardness, but for people who are healthy and want healthy and bonding relationships it's best just to go and don't look back.
P.S: this isn't about romantic relationships only. It's all types of relationships. Really.
hot cold is OK... maybe if you are aware of it
Actually, everyone already does this. I don't care. It's traumatizing. I don't do that to people myself, and I'm not letting people do that to me. I'm very good at destroying someone's self esteem. If he already doesn't respect me, he might as well hate himself. We're no longer in the age of being the "better person," whatever that's supposed to mean. We're in the age of "eat or be eaten."
The only issue is that people are not practiced enough at biting remarks and targeting weakness. They're taught too much restraint. I think differently of someone I've only been casually talking to.
You sound like you need some psychological help.
So what to do or tell them after they come back??
I have decided to ignore them.
Errrmmm..sorry,who's this? ( works every time )
@@stuti1119 but didn't we want to save the relationship?
@@mangolanguage. No, she said if you take them back, it just shows them that they can mistreat you
@@LittleLulubee ohh, get it
Why can’t you confront them ?call them out on it ?!
maybe people don't want to ruin the good memories of those people
Becouse the don't care about it. So safe your energy
You are too wise for your age. 👍
Do you know her age?
It's better to stay above these petty grill calculation antics and behaviors of ill or misinformed beings.
They like the latency of catch-up,, they like the fish but rarely ever go fishing.
Better to throw a penny in the pond.
Then again there are wishes we never spend.
Nothing to see here.