You Are Being Sexually Harassed If....
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- Опубліковано 12 січ 2023
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The APOLOGY though! We weren’t ready 😂😂😂😂”Am so sorry Lawrence”😂😂😂But this girl Nabacwa🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🤣🤣🤣It’s never a dull moment with you on the show 😂😂😂
That Nabachwa 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hahahaha! Banange I had to apologize even though Lawrence loved it 😅. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 ohhh dear Pumla you’re such a vibe.🥰
Naye banange Nabachwa.
The "nga maama wo" has killed me😂😂😂😂
I can't even begin to write the sexual comments work colleagues have made..sometimes I stand up for myself but other times I become speechless because of the appaling nature of the comment...
Girl that's such a pity.When we speak up we are b##$ or divas.
Manuela i know that particular paper that you are talking about. My year we dragged that lecturer to court because he really gave many girls a headache 💀
😢😢 look at people in educating our children....
I experienced this in a certain workspace and shared it with my work colleague who was a secretary to the perpetrator and all she told me was to zip up and help her never to utter it out. I got confused and never went to his office again without being accompanied by her. This person grabbed my butt and couldn't believe it until I looked at him and he winked at me. Alot happens in the so called "corporate offices"
Exactly, I use the same word "Nga mama wo"🤣🤣 This shuts them up 👌
Thank you ladies. This is so insightful.
I felt so emotional wen Emmanuel was jazzing about the lecturer saga 😭😭😭😭😭😭the same thing happened to me😭😭...like she said it always the easiest courses that make u fail.God will see through those men 👋👋👋
Things are there mwana gwe 😌😌
For children above 3, the P.A.N.T.S acronym comes in handy. Firstly as affirmations made by the child with our help but also as an easy way of giving them appropriate sex education to curb sexual harassment and abuse. You can tailor it to suit you.
P.A.N.T.S in this case stands for
P- *PRIVATES ARE PRIVATE*
The parts I cover with my swimsuit are Private parts. This is why I cover them at all times. No one should ask to see or touch parts covered by my underwear or swim suit (Now parents let the babies wear underwear from as early as possible)
Sometimes the doctor might want to see, but they should always explain why and ask if it is okay first. I do not go to the doctor's room without dad or mum.
A- *ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU OWN YOUR BODY*
My body is God's gift to me. No body should do anything that I don't understand or makes me feel uncomfortable. If anybody tries I will tell an adult.
N- *No means NO.
I have a right to say NO even to someone that I know and love. I am in control of my body and how I feel matters. If I do not understand something being done with my body, I will say No. I can say NO if I don't want to hug or kiss someone. I can give them a hug or shake their hand. When it comes to my body, what I say passes
T- *TALK ABOUT SECRETS THAT UPSET YOU*
Secrets should not make me feel worried. If they make feel worried, upset or uncomfortable, I tell an adult that I trust. Secrets that come with threats are bad Secrets. I will not get into trouble for sharing a secret that makes me upset. (Parents together with child can come up with a child safety network, list people that she can talk to)
S- *SPEAK UP, SOMEONE CAN HELP.*
I always talk about stuff that upset me. I always ask questions when I do not understand what is happening. An adult that I trust will listen. It doesn't have to be a family member, I can talk to my teacher at school or church too.
You know, the saddest thing about defilement is that no justice can undo the damage done to that little boy or girl. But also there is no guarantee that that child will get justice in Uganda. Sigh!
This is really good. Thank you for sharing these tips
Thank you so much.I will use this for my children and learners
How can I copy this? I would like to use this please.
Great insights here. Thanks bump love
Thanks ladies, quite a wide aspect to talk about and educate. Waiting for another episode of the same
As a mum to a young gal ,this is so helpful. Thank you bump love. I look forward to more of these
I for one underwent sexual harassment with one of my uncles, when i told him i don't like the way you touch me ,he was like so do you want me to go out to other gals yet you are here? I felt bad ,i have never said it to anyone, but since then till now , I distanced myself from him and our relationship is shaky and I appreciate that. I have never forgotten .Thank God I got to know what he thought of me and i have always protected my younger sisters from him
It's the worst when it's so close to home. So sorry. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 Thank you
Thank you Ladies for this been facing it and still but I always speak up and defend myself in anyway possible
Love you ladies ❤️
Wwwooww..such a powerful message.. thank you gals🥰❤️
Thanks ladies another powerful message. 😊
Thank you for sharing this topic. It's a big one and I encountered it a lot in my work life. One of my superiors resorted to being verbally abusive because I refused to give in.
Oh thank you Manuela for that last bit on the advice on how to find your voice. Oh wow thank you. Thank you ladies for the show.
Thank you ladies! Very enlightening talk.
Thank you ladies for the great work your doing🙏may the lord continue to bless you
Thanks ladies, we need to be open minded & strict about sexual harassments
Banange thanks for bringing up this here because this has helped me talk to my little nieces because this time they were close to me and I even brought them closer and actually restarted it because I wanted them to listen carefully.
After the show we had a very good conversations and they shared the experiences they’ve had so far and I could see how more confident this show has left them! No one will ever even come close to harass them. Thanks guys
wow, this topic! It is very serious, and can bring up painful issues. ! Great discussion ladies!
P.S. Manuella, exactly like you! I am always FIGHTING back!
I'm always happy to listen to the advice you give us on such challenging topics. Blessings bump love I really have to find my voice
Yes Racheal the best way to raise your child is through listening to them and encouraging them to have a voice
Awesome conversations
Just started following recently but now hooked
U are definitely making an impact to this generation
SH has been one of those things that has been ignored
My employer have recently encouraged us to speak out on it which is a good sign
God bless you Bump Love
Thank you so much Ladies ,have really learnt a lot from this episode, and I didn't want it to end coz was still enjoying 🙏
Its been avery intressting topic thanks bumplove their is always something to teach kids on sexual harassment at every stage it helps them trust you and open up. Parents listen to your babies if they are not comfortable somewhere dont force them to be their. Cheers beautiful ladies
Thank you ladies for your vibe
I really enjoyed this episode. I can so relate with Rachel. I can never find the right thing to say when confronted with harassing remarks. Thank you Manuela for pointing out the meaning of find your voice. First on my list of come backs is "your mama"🤣🤣
I really like Bump love show, watching from Saudi Arabia....God bless you ladies.....Amen
You guys are amazing I just discovered you channel
I remember my dad warning me not to step at one of his friend’s office. This man was like an uncle. He said if I needed to, I should go with my brother.
Sometimes we know such people but become so permissive around them and expose our children.
Manuela's story about the police officer opens another conversation of where to report when it comes to abuse
exactly!!
@@evelynkabahuma7035 especially in Uganda those police officers will; further assault/abuse you, mock you or extort money from you and the accused so it leaves little room for legal help
Thank you ladies. Sexual harrasment is so Terrible
Thank you ladies 👏👏
Very educative. Ts powerful to learn to find your voice@manuela, thanks ladies
Love this channel 🤩🤩
Oooh have liked the last part of practicing responses cause me I keep quite after awhile I start responding in my mind 🤣🤣🤣 thanks for the show guys
Wow thanks for bringing up this 🥰🥰
I binged on all your videos during my Christmas leave. Very informative content.
As a social worker, mother, child law and protection expert, parenting expert and social empowerment consultant-i must applaud you for the work you do and will definitely contact you for a collaboration the next time I am in Uganda.
Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪
Oh WOW! This already sounds like it would be a lovely collaboration. Danke schön. P
Oh...shall be here to tap on Yr wisdom
Parts of this conversation were triggering for me. Forcing my mind to go back to places I'd rather not revisit but thanks for bringing up this topic nonetheless.
Almost all of us girls growing up in Ug have been sexually harassed at one point, all the women I know have. The culture just let's it pass. I hate that part about our culture and laws seem nonexistent. As an adult, I've learnt to speak up more but downtown and Boda guys is something else.
I painfully ignore them although I've contemplated spraying their eyes with pili pili or carrying needles to just shove them into those ga men.
Indeed this conversation can be triggering for many. Thanks for forging through and watching either way. And yes...if we don't speak up, Noone will and this will keep happening. Hope you feel better now 🙏🏾. P
I'm deeply amazed that people think right minded humans think these things are ok!! It shows you how broken humanity is!! And then we are labelled Beta Males, unable to lead,weak, because we insist on basic good manners and dignity for our companions!! Sad....
Av been a victim of sexual harassment my entire life from the age of 10 and the fact that my guardian parents kept it moving and they always put the blem on me which resulted in to defilement and it affected me but a least you taught me something today I appreciate that and will use it to teach my daughter thank you ladies
Oh Flavia. So sorry for what you went through. We really do need to speak out more and put and end to this mess. Thank you for speaking up here. Let's heal together honey. And ofcourse - Do better by our children. P
Nabachwa you are another one 😂😂😂🤣🤣for sure i don't regret the one year I've moved with you girls you've uplifted me in different ways bless up
Hello team, thanks so much for choosing to be resourceful to us am really glad ,thx for educating our generation though the battle is still huge bt regardless we shall achieve
We. Shall. Achieve. P
Parents also need to stop asking their children to call every elder aunt or uncle. If the person is a friend or unrelated, they need to be addressed by their names. Much as relatives can abuse us too, growing up addressing people as aunt and uncle created confusion and so many of those “Uncles” and “aunts” abused that respect. Let’s teach kids to be respectful but teach them to be able to know when these elders try to cross some of these boundaries that lead to sexual abuse.
Yes, true. Those uncle's that are not our relatives are a big problem. And we had very many of them while growing up
Thanks ladies 👏👏👏
Yes I did it I did I did .yas guys here you are . amazingly yesterday I thought of the theme wow ladies you are sweet. Keep it up
Omg when I was young the shamber boy used to touch me un appropriately, dry hump and I was soo scared to even talk about it, he would do it then just smile and joke about it … so I actually thought he didn’t mean it so I would just brush it off… I didn’t know what to do , I didn’t know if it was wrong or right because of the way he used to portray it , he made it look like it was okay… and no one ever talked about sexual hate with me, so I didn’t know what to do… and this same thing affected me up to campus.
I remember the first time I was used by a man , I never realized that I was used till like weeks later after the event.
And thinking about it now, it must rooter from my childhood when that shamber boy would tell
Me “…ahh, it’s okay am not doing anything wrong “😥😥😥… so my brain was automatically tuned to always think that this man was not doing anything wrong 😖…. I hated myself for that , till now
Oooooooh shout to us who are doing accounting, business ethics 😊😊😊
Thank you FAM..
It's so painful how these lectures frustrate girls, am actually in the same place like Manuela though mine was worse!! I did three papers twice two were always missing results and one a retake I never passed so one day I Walk in to the registrars office and met his assistant who openly told me Dora I feel your pain and you have chased for those papers for long... I would advise if you could change to another university and start afresh coz what ever is happening you can never make it here unless some humans are transferred!! Up to now have never graduated I got frustrated and gave up so the only documents I have now is my Certificate in business administration.
I always come back to watch how Pumla slapped a man shwaaaaaaaaa😂😂😂
Had this supervisor who would come to my desk to tell me 'what he would like to do to me ' even demonstrating. I was always so disgusted. But never acted on it.
Hahahaha...@Pumla you killed me with Lawrence's story
I love you girls, you're just a bunch of very brilliant ladies, how I wish you can take this topic to family physical chats, schools and churches...I just feel you touching every part of my children's lives...weldone🤗
To us watching, can we begin to act🤔
Very interesting topic. I think women respond to sexual harassment differently based on their vulnerabilities and personal experiences. If a woman is at a job that she doesn’t want to loose, she may stay quiet even though she is being sexually harassed. Silence doesn’t mean a person approves what is happening or doesn’t have an opinion. Women have been marginalized for so many years, especially African women. I believe the culture emboldens men and almost gives them a free pass to get away with murder. I agree that men get harassed as well but I believe women suffer from sexual harassment at a higher percentage. Gréât topic. Keep them coming.
Thanks for the topic
Yaayy am early today...l love u so much ladies.loooovvvee pumla alot and every body🥰🥰🥰😍🥰😍🥰😍
Thank you for this awareness 🧡
I think recently things are changing especially with the bragging of people in public. I rarely see that in the down town and on the streets. But this is just my observation.
I want to be like u ladies for real we need such ladies in our country ♥️♥️
Great topic ladies
these ladies are smart upstairs liyale...eeeee this is educative thanks ladies
Banange it's not violence, it's self defense(every action has an equal reaction)
Am glad my Mum was a tough one😅😅,,boys and men around knew,, one time she confronted a saloon man who was starring at me in my presence,,i was in P7😂😂,have never forgotten that day.. My Mum was extremely tough,,even my husband can't just mess with me😅. But on the other hand I think am more like Ratchell.. that fear is too much with me even at the point wea am having authority to speak.. I hope I get the courage for my girls😢 to attack such harassers
Also, often women and girls often don’t say anything because of how men often respond when called out for uncouth behavior- they respond in further abuse and even extreme violence. And so a lot of us have been conditioned to keep quiet lest you offend men. As parents now, we must teach our kids - girls especially to advocate for themselves, raise your voice, be rude even.
I had a bad experience doing my first degree because I got retakes because of refusing to give the lecturer.
10 yrs later am going back this year for another degree and last week I decided to buy a wedding ring and be putting it on in class so that lecturers think am married and don't disturb me.
After this video I realize that it's a serious thing.
Please God help me...I know am going into a battle field
Oh No! This is terrible. So sorry about that. All the best in this other degree. P
@@pumlanabachwa8668 yes it's the world we live in, lecturers are terrible and like Manuela said, there's nothing you can really do. Otherwise thanks dear
Can we also acknowledge that sexual harassment on social media is now passively in comment. Things like you’re sexy, your body is…
Remember: it doesn't have to be sexual to be uncomfortable or harrasment. If it's any speech or touch that is unwanted it is WRONG. even if it is the hand or the shoulder. My body, woman or man, it is not ok to touch. Even my hair. And the kids should know that. I love the encourage them to talk. I ask my nieces and nephews for hugs and always let them know that if they don't want to hug hello they are not obliged to. Teach them autonomy early.
As a university student, there are many cases of sexual harassment especially those words and comments the dudes throw at girls about sex thinking that every university student is interested in sex.
One of the reasons women don’t speak up about harassment or abuse is because of the shame. Which girl, young lady or woman wants the humiliation of feeling defiled or even worse feeling spoiled. What about when she wants to be liked but not in a sexual way? I think one of the solutions is to have mothers, aunties, grandma form a circle of trust and protection around each other starting at age 12-80. Not just one way discussions mother to daughter. Remember, WE WONT HEAL WHAT WE DON’T REVEAL. With that we can change our societies.
Where do we amplify volume for the back benchers …. Because this one is giving
Today the backbenchers have heard. Atte our volume was good. Let them not pretend 😅. P
There should be a policy or employee committee( work council )within the company, that receives and addresses cases of sexual harassment at the place of work. Speaking of finding your voice, you can start by not “laughing “ at sexual connotations, if a colleague “grabs” you inappropriately, say( please don’t ever do that again!) & do not explain yourself.
Honey I did all this an the lu man didn't stop.😢😢
It is really unfair many can not fight back fear shame .we need protection on the weak ones who cant help them
From a legal perspective I still stand corrected there is a sexual harassment clause that employees should sign regardless of size now however given the masculinity of the work places it has received rejection and once you raise it the employers men in particular come up with a shitty defenses
Manuel's story on grades at campus is so sad
We had a boss who was so touchy and would use any chance. Sometimes he would walk up behind you and rub your arms or shoulders in a very weird way. When discussing something privately with a lady in his office, he would be touching your thigh or something like that. It was so disgusting yet he was the kind to get someone fired for the pettiest thing so anyone who still wanted their job would keep quiet. Those of us who made it clear that we hated what he was doing did not survive there for long, he would accuse you of making errors you did not make or totally frustrate and fail everything you try to do. This is someone with a wife and daughters too so you wonder if they do not think the same may be happening to them. As for strangers on he street or in the bar, any inappropriate touch, I slap immediately without fear or favour, None has ever physically reacted to that. As a matter of fact, at times other people join in when they realise what the person did or I call a bouncer and they get lifted out by the neck like chicken thieves
Bambi my dad faught those battles for me, I would just say and he wd kulumba nalo🤣🤣🤣🤣every boy in our home village bunamwaya feared me
Rosette. The necklace looks lovely..
This topic I love it.....for my son I always talk to him about his identity,what's appropriate n what's not and to always tell me anything about anything, recently he came and told me about the shopkeeper that was touching his middle area and even wanted to touch inside his pants am like what so I ask him to show me who exactly and it was a man 😠😠😠eeeeiii I told him well done son now this is how you deal with such habits......I told him to kick or slap off such filthy hands.
My son is making 6 in Feb and while I thought he was too young for the talks when I started them I wasnt if j hadn't been talking to him who knows what the wolves would be doing to him now eeeeh parents we need to talk to our kids as soon as possible don't wait for puberty NO, talk and talk and talk often.
Thanks for the show ladies,I have loved it.
Oyo you should do follow up with some slaps from you as well
I was a victim at my first job... gladly I spoke out. The guy was shifted..... just had a challenge of some of my workmates who thought I did lugambo🤗
This was a heavy subject and I think personally it should have come with a trigger warning, coz it was very triggering. Sexual harassment, assault, violence and all it entails is extremely prevalent in this country and it's so normalized that females just have to "swallow it and move on" but it shouldn't excuse it or make it right/okay. It's so horrific that women are blamed for being assaulted or harassed! This was a very heavy subject and very triggering and for any girl or woman that has been assaulted,may you find healing in the journey and remember it is never your fault.
Thanks for the episode.
That teacher would literally say nyoko🤣🤣
The stories and the comments as well show this prevalent and wholly unacceptable issue is really endemic in this country. Pumla whether you feel nothing, is irrelevant. It is illegal behaviour. The fact that every woman, in this day and age, has experienced this, is enraging. It makes me not want to have a daughter because the world is such a dangerous and horrible place for women. At work, I am on the ethics committee and we receive so many sexual harassment complaints. As the only woman on the committee I fight with my male colleagues to give the perpetrators the harshest punishments, including termination, to make an example of them. The women at my workplace also have a specific group where we meet, share and it’s a safe space where they know they can express their issues to female senior management and we take it up. If your office doesn’t have such a group, please start it. We have to fight for each other. Some of us can speak up without repercussions and I accept and honour that responsibility for women below me. We have to.
We are saying the same thing. I mentioned it in the show that it doesn't matter if the intended victim feels anything or not, hareasmsnt is harrasment. Full stop. P
I slapped an old man close to 65 years just yesterday and people said I'm rude, mbu I grew up from a barracks that I have a mental disorder, but he touched my bums and said "Are these bums soft just like how you look" msteeew.
I like the talk and it's true these things happen
Am addicted 2 u bebs. Keep it up.
Finding your voice tip from Manuella👌🏼👌🏼
Rosetts ending remarks are wow
Pumla😂😂😂😂😂 I love you
Love you too Kansiimeeeeeeeeeeee ❤. P
Remember when we were young and those old boys would tell us "your my wife". These statements made me stay away from boys
90%of sexual abuse, especially the children, is with in the family setting. Children should be told as early as three years of age about their sexuality, let them know it’s not okay for anyone to touch their private parts without their consent( even if it’s the Dad or family members). And most importantly, once your children confide in you, listen, ask them how they feel ( do not interrogate ) and believe them!
But also, empower & instill self confidence from a young age so they are able to speak up,and create a healthy relationship with your kids, so they are comfortable enough to confide in you.
We think alike.... Sex education should come in so early
I have a lecturer who likes telling me that I should get pregnant for him🤦 and everytime he says it,I feel belittled and wonder if this is all he really thinks of me
It even hurts the more when I'm unable to talk back because I don't want problems with my grades
Some of these men are so annoying 😏
It's mostly difficult because the aggressors are in positions of power. And worse so for students. I know it is hard but I still feel something can be said - respectfully. All the best in your studies hun. P
Very helpful to us mums to be😍
I am a victim of my ki former employer, verbally Naye, I ran as fast as my legs wud carry me,coz it was becoming physical, I left the two months salary behind 🙄🙄🙄🙄but that gu lawyer, God will pay him
Let's look for that "ex employer" just to collect our ka 2 months salary that we worked hard for....kubanga economy ekaye! 😄
I remember when I have just joined university our assistant Dean of students was like he wants to marry me but according to me I don't like a short husband so he was like when will I visit him one day so that we sleep together I felt hurt so I kept ignoring him
Sorry Mr. Mulondo for me😂 Manuela!🙌