I always feel like this when I have to get my girls ready to leave the house. I start sweating uncontrollably, I feel like my heart is racing and I usually can only feel better if I cry. It’s very stressful and I’m sure my girls would rather have a calm mother. I think I’ve pinpointed that in childhood my mom would usually hit us if we weren’t getting ready fast enough. So it’s the flooding of emotions when I know I have to do something that feels like a lot of steps. Like getting a toddler and infant ready to go grocery shopping 😢 I try so hard to not get like that but it happens every single time. Then I’m fine once I’m out. I need help 🤦🏽♀️
Me to my therapist: I'm always gritting my teeth when I'm working, doing chores, dealing with people or anticipating dealing with people. Therapist to me: When you're gritting your teeth, repeat to yourself that you're here now, not in your childhood. Compare then with where you're at now. It'll retrain your amygdala. Me, trying it on the way home from therapy: Omg. This is IT. Wait, it's this easy?!
I'm so grateful I found you on YT. I was at the point of giving up on attempting to have any type of productive relationship with my mother. I have cancer, and the last time I talked to her, all she did was take a negative verbal shit on me to the point I had to hang up. She leaves me feeling sick, nauseous, and drained. I think I'm learning that there is no way to make it work.
Good stuff. Glad I found these. 53 with CPTSD, ADHD, and likely post concussion syndrome from many contact sports. Good source to share with partners for their understanding. Hyper vigilance is brutal and a full time pursuit, the physical/emotional armouring is exhausting, in a constant state of readiness. I meditate in the wild, hiking, camping, canoeing, fishing. Amazing what being “out there” can do for “in there”. Keep them coming doc.
I was saying to my therapist a few sessions ago that I started noticing a few weeks ago that whenever I sit with an acknowledge my inner child's pain, I'll hold onto myself and need to grab some part of me, touch my heart centre or even just scrunch my fists during the process like a little child would when they're scared and need comfort. When I touch something else nearby, it isn't as effective and needs to be either a body part, or something I'm wearing.
I always feel like this when I have to get my girls ready to leave the house. I start sweating uncontrollably, I feel like my heart is racing and I usually can only feel better if I cry. It’s very stressful and I’m sure my girls would rather have a calm mother.
I think I’ve pinpointed that in childhood my mom would usually hit us if we weren’t getting ready fast enough. So it’s the flooding of emotions when I know I have to do something that feels like a lot of steps. Like getting a toddler and infant ready to go grocery shopping 😢
I try so hard to not get like that but it happens every single time. Then I’m fine once I’m out.
I need help 🤦🏽♀️
Me to my therapist: I'm always gritting my teeth when I'm working, doing chores, dealing with people or anticipating dealing with people.
Therapist to me: When you're gritting your teeth, repeat to yourself that you're here now, not in your childhood. Compare then with where you're at now. It'll retrain your amygdala.
Me, trying it on the way home from therapy: Omg. This is IT. Wait, it's this easy?!
I'm so grateful I found you on YT. I was at the point of giving up on attempting to have any type of productive relationship with my mother. I have cancer, and the last time I talked to her, all she did was take a negative verbal shit on me to the point I had to hang up. She leaves me feeling sick, nauseous, and drained. I think I'm learning that there is no way to make it work.
I'm so sorry you're having to wrestle with your relationship with your mom AND stay present with yourself during very challenging health issues. 🫂
Thank you for this example ❤
More of this please!
Good stuff. Glad I found these. 53 with CPTSD, ADHD, and likely post concussion syndrome from many contact sports. Good source to share with partners for their understanding. Hyper vigilance is brutal and a full time pursuit, the physical/emotional armouring is exhausting, in a constant state of readiness. I meditate in the wild, hiking, camping, canoeing, fishing. Amazing what being “out there” can do for “in there”. Keep them coming doc.
Omgoodness, thank you, thank you, thank you for this ❣️❣️❣️👌🙏
I need this on repeat
Right!
Me too.
omg deeply thankful to you
"I'm here for you"
Thank you!! So verry much!! 😁
Dr Sage, thank you ❤ I will doing this multiple times a day
What I say is: I am OK, JESUS Has Me and will Keep me in HIS Perfect Peace!!!! AMEN!!!
I was saying to my therapist a few sessions ago that I started noticing a few weeks ago that whenever I sit with an acknowledge my inner child's pain, I'll hold onto myself and need to grab some part of me, touch my heart centre or even just scrunch my fists during the process like a little child would when they're scared and need comfort. When I touch something else nearby, it isn't as effective and needs to be either a body part, or something I'm wearing.
Thank you for this. Such a valuable reminder. 🫂❤️🫂