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GREAT VIDEO. When you stop addiction and start feeling emotions rather than numbing them, they begin to heal. Addiction is more abuse and abusing that began the addiction. The trauma is waiting to heal beneath the addiction.
There is lots of very detailed interesting information on youtube by a guy at an Australian clinic [based on Pia Melody's original work}. The addiction is a coping mechanism from childhood trauma {C-PTSD}. The trauma stunts their emotional development and the result is adults who can't function fully. South Pacific Private is the name of the youtube channel.
Yes Harry Bean, we have a Canadian doctor that has that same theory, and proves it. Hope Rising, when you check out Dr.Gabor Mate, HE has “the best explanation of addiction I’ve ever heard”.
this is hopeful, as a recovering addict, who struggles with addictive behaviour still (food etc) and I believe I was raised in a crazy alcoholic narcissistic insane crazy AF home, I struggle all day, every day, to not act like a narcissist, to learn what is normal and to behave, (not my natural state) I do not think I will ever be normal, but I do daily breath work etc. will never stop trying. thats the best I can do.
Well said, it is about recognizing the struggle, to “be ok with it” in other words to embrace the struggle, accept it and make light of the struggle so that then you can become stronger to the point of being able not only to manage it but eventually overcoming it. Keep persevering!! And be humble to accept the struggle, the truth is, everyone struggles with something. Some of us just happened to struggle with this type. Keep up the good work!
I really like this doctor too. His patience and kind approach is palpable, and he explained the dynamics of addiction and the possible ways out very clearly. Thank you for making and sharing this well conducted interview.
I felt this really helped me understand addiction in many more ways. The psychiatrist who studied this field specifically made slides specifically for those video and explains them in core ideas and subjects. I feel like I can understand it through a logical, emotional, and spiritual point of view. Thank you MedCircle for providing free knowledge to the public. It's seriously needed!!❤
My addiction is knowledge. I know that sounds funny but it's true. It's kind of like being a workaholic but I use learning new knowledge (I have my favorite subjects but I will learn just about anything) as my distraction/addiction.
@@mn9120 Oh I know that's why I do it. I've been in therapy for 8 years, so already got that covered. 🙂 As it could be assumed by me commenting on this video, psychology is one of them.
I have been like that for half my life until this very moment, I call it being an Insights Junkie, always getting that dopamine hits of learning something new but at the end never applying this new knowledge, which just end up being an unproductive behavior just like watching TV and whatnot.
I came to this realization a few years ago and despite anyone elses opinion about my reasoning, things worked for me. I have also tried to not insert any one activity to feel a sense of reward, but I have tried to give myself several ways to get that reward need met.
WOW.....I just do not see how some people find these kind of videos, "boring or not interesting"....this is our MIND'S that these Doctors are talking about and how it actually works.....the way it absorbs, perceive and executes the information it receives through emotions and trauma. The "HIGH JACKING OF THE ADDICTION PATHWAY" was an amazing truth. I love ❤ that medcircle is uploading these videos....they're truly informative, educational and inspiring 👏. Awesome
Thank you. I continue to drink and smoke pot daily; I’m sure it slows down my recovery. I did seek out help through my General Practice doctor. She referred me to a “ social worker “ who refused to see me until I get clean going through Rehabilitation that my GP referred me to before Covid19. They stopped the program and canceled my entry into the program. So far, I’ve not received any information about getting help. So thank goodness for you loving helpers.
i can't wait for this! gave up the drags and been running for 30 years. i am 56 found out i had ADHD AT 52 it's been a long journey clean for 30 years apart from coffee. running help a lot don't smoke or drink or take drags but i run everyday if i can. thank you for the advice and for helping as all.
NO I AM NOT TAKING NOTHING FOR IT HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE THEY WILL GAVE IT TO ME EVEN THOUGH MY BP FLUCTUATES HIGH IN MORNING TO LOW IN THE EVENING I DO DRINK TWO STRONG COFFEES DURING THE DAY. THAT'S MY ONLY DRAG. AND THE RUNNING. EVERY DAY IF I CAN.
Great content, for sure! If you’re interested in learning more about addiction, I always encourage people to listen to Dr. Gabor Mate. I think you’ll find some fantastic information 🙏🥰
I loved this video so thank you very much. I've been doing "self-helping" for a while now. I wouldn't say you should or shouldn't, just that I did. It was hard for me to find and trust in a good therapist. The parts i struggled with was when your mind slips back to old ways of thinking/old thought patterns. And you can go through a lot of emotions as your "walls" of protection start coming down. The pain and shame and guilt, those are the rough spots. But the more you accept yourself and understand, the more compassion you have and the easier it gets. You know, thinking now...i almost had to relearn emotions. How to feel them. What they feel like. Kinda like relearning how to be human. Idk. Just my thoughts at this moment.
This is just on point. I've been down the "spiritual" route on and off for some while now, using it as my coping mechanism to try and numb out all that I feel. Only recently have I started meditating in a way that allows me to process all the built up emotions in my body that I have been covering up with research and avoidance, the "just think positive" methods, working myself down to an extreme point. Also stopped going to school for a while, because I was constantly going over thoughts of not being right/ready, since I started actually letting my emotions out, which I'm still very often so scared to express outside/be seen in a different light than what people are used to. It's funny, I used to think I wanted to change to be enough for myself, but I've realized that deep down I feel that I'm a failure not holding up to my old, dysfunctional standard of productivity, and I'm actually most scared of by showing my vulnerability to the world and being rejected by others, while feeling my emotions. As with most cases, at the same time I long to accept myself, be loving to myself, be deeply in my core, and help the world as a result of being my truest self. It's much more messy than I expected, and I often slip back into the extremely critical thinking that tries to keep me away from feeling and accepting those feelings, even seeing those vulnerable parts of myself personally, but I don't think there's a way for me to give up on this process without being bitterly dissatisfied with my life and wanting to die. I know too much to back out now, and I won't stop, however long it takes and how often I fall again.
The point I originally wanted to add on was the one about relearning to be human, which can be a grave pitfall in the spiritual community, either with the "only positivity" practices or the false idea of enlightenment and often falsely described way of detaching from the world. These things have messed me up quite well personally, but I'm glad for the insights and experiences I've had with them, because without them, I wouldn't be at the point I'm at right now. However messy it might seem, I'm processing more of my emotions, and slowly unlearning the "all or nothing" mentality and the time restriction imaginations for change.
I think the causes of addiction are very personal & involve different things for different people. Its not as simple as “this person can tolerate pain better then that person”. It may be an aspect but it doesnt tell the whole story. It would be like saying “Jim became a doctor because he is intelligent.” People become doctors because of genes, experience, culture, luck etc. Its many things. Addiction is like that.
I agree. I didn't fall prey to addiction until my 40s, despite a lifetime of abuse, trauma, and loss. I just finally reached a point where the emotional pain I experienced was too much for me to deal with in a healthy way. I truly believe most people would have succumbed long before I did. Everyone has their breaking point, and anyone who thinks otherwise just hasn't reached it yet.
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Under "peer pressure" some children have used saying to friends how they could not do something because of "fear of getting in trouble with parents" to peers.
I have Empty nose syndrome. I developed severe anxiety and panic disorder. I became a different person. I was treated for depression before surgery and was on Prozac. While in treatment, my psychiatrists and psychologists wanted me to go on klonopin. [circa 1992]. I wouldn't take it because I knew it was addictive even though they claimed it wasn't. After my nasal surgery, I hyperventilated and couldn't control my breathing. I started on klonopin and it [I feel] saved my life. I still take 3 mg. a day. It was like a 180 degree shift in my brain chemistry. if I don't take it, I get anxious and start to hypperventilate. Thanks for any response.
Excellent talk! "How to motivate yourself to change addictive behaviors" is a bad title I feel like, it implies you can sort of do this on your own. But I get it's supposed to get people to watch the video, which is in itself fantastic. Perfectly melds science of addiction with real life context.
I watched this and a few others last night, took notes, reviewing notes today and to answer his first question. If Cravings is just anxiety, and anxiety is a fear state. And addiction is a maladaptive way we learned to meet our needs/survive then we learned to do that in a state of fear, not a state of love. Learning that above the current is learning it in a state of love. So A: Because they learned it in love, or adapted in a healthy way somehow (But Pia Mellody's work on Codependence talks about a spectrum and what society thinks is healthy isn't and is simply on the other end of the spectrum. I'm a huge fan of her work. So they may have more socially accepted form of codep, which is an addiction.) . What does that air flow current look like?? 1.Positive core belief/emotional pain/discomfort. 2. Craving?? Or healthy signal/desire to meet need, concious or subconcious. 3. Meet need with healthy boundaries. 4. Actual pleasure. Religion, real religion, calls it righteousness and commandments and urges to teach in love lest they esteem you to be their enemy and theres no emotional connection and round we go. Love and fear. Rounding off 21 months fully caffeine free, no more cortisol fear juice, not even chocolate. No more sucking down the fake tiger. One of the hardest things I've ever done. The anhedonia was real.
Awesome, thanks guys❤ One thing I always say is "If addiction was as easy as common sense, none of us would be addicted, now would we doctor?" (said to my family doc) Words are pointless. Goes in one ear and out the other😂and I sing Christmas tunes in my head during preach session🤣🌲I don't drink alcohol, don't do any drugs and yet I get harped on for 3 cups of coffee and low dose organic nicotine juice in my vape pen with a tiny battery/low output? I volunteer and I am always kind, good deeds, its like shut up already, don't you have bigger fish to fry? 🤣😂 I really don't do anything wrong in my life, not even lie for crying out loud✌🙄😂
My now ex-girlfriend (35 years old) wouldn't watch this as I was hoping with her addiction and smarts (functional drug addict), she'd come around and start to want to heal her illness. Sadly, she got enraged. And even more sadly, I couldn't take it anymore. After her impulsive consumption of LSD a few hours before our big Valentine's weekend, I'd had enough. Impulsivity co-occurring likely with an undiagnosed personality disorder (her now deceased father who she puts on a pedestal but was a narcissist clearly impacted her) just pushed me to the point that I just can't hang in there anymore. It's taking a devastating toll on not only us, but my own mental state. I co-parent an eleven year old daughter, and there is no way I'll expose my daughter to her. I still have hope my now ex- will watch this, but the shame and pain runs so very deep that I get depressed thinking about it. Watching such a beautiful and amazing woman self-destruct is the most painful experience I've ever had., and that includes spending time in war torn zones. And this feeling I have is very much like this.
Ok at 31:46 when he compares other addictions or even healthy behaviors to drugs it’s incredibly different. So when you have those chemical locks in the drugs that move the dopamine and serotonin to such a high level, it is such an incredibly high endorphin surge it replaces your brains normal circuit and starts to rewire the sympathetic system. Incapacitating an ability to rationally think. When an extreme addict is in the throws of a craving it is like a gun being pointed at the head. No other addiction is going to illicit quite that response. The addict will feel gagging, throwing up, an incredible adrenaline rush into the frontal lobes. The brain is actually taking a pathways that says if you don’t get that “Light” or reward you are going to die. Whether that is perceived or real. Convulsions, seizures, shaking. It’s unbelievable. Gabba addictions create such withdrawal that you can actually die if you don’t get the fix. So while not impossible, rewiring that circuitry is incredibly difficult. So let’s not downplay the severity of an action chemical that has lock and key past the blood brain barrier compared to other addictions. Drugs are very similar to a virus. It gets inside the brain and basically completely rewires the circuitry beyond anything. I don’t care what the brain scans show. It is unparalleled. These other addictions do have devastating consequences but not nearly as much death, relationship isolation, family and work dysfunction, homelessness. I’d also like to say treatment is seriously lagging for substance abuse. Pharmaceutical companies could literally make a vaccine for heroine but won’t fund it because it’s not profitable. When an addict goes into a 12 step program he is literally programmed into another completely mythological idea that he will get better if he just believes in God, apologizes, and is extremely self critical of their entire life. Someone with undiagnosed disorders such as social avoidance disorder or BPD is 100% going to relapse. And I’d like to put all your doctors on the spot. Why is the medical system not pushing for a universal healthcare system. This is literally catastrophic. Literally. Forget Covid. Every time I hear a dr compare drug addiction to other addictions I want to slap them into next week where they belong. Been to jail lately? What this country does is beyond appalling.
Logic can be an aspect of treating addiction but you cant just rely on that. It needs to be a holistic approach. Learning to respond to life instead of react. This is why mindfulness, CBT, meaning and purpose are so vital. We learn to think more logically.... Obviously not always logical. Humans are fallible creatures. But much moreso.
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I struggle and struggle and struggle. My life is ridiculous. This sounds easy for someone who doesn't enjoy drinking or does drink but doesn't feel the need to get more drunk and only on occasion. I really, really enjoy drinking and being drunk. I go to a rv park every weekend where almost everyone has a drink in their hand. I hate feeling like I'm not aloud adult drinks. I don't feel like I'm having fun like others that are drinking. I hate hate hate this. This to me does sound like its just my choice to be an alcoholic. How does this help me to feel like I belong when I'm literally being excluded.
Not all social groups revolve around drinking/drug use. I spent many years hanging out with people just like you're describing and it doesn't take long for that behavior to become totally normalized in your mind. But the truth is, most people DON'T live that way. There are literally thousands of people all around you who are going about their lives every day without abusing drugs and/or alcohol. They're coaching little league, getting together for book club meetings, taking yoga classes, going bowling, scrapbooking, meal prepping, working out, etc. You just never run into those people in the bar, at the campground, or wherever the party people in your life hang out.
I'm at the point in my addiction where I'm fully aware of the false pleasure and general unwellness. I feel out of control of the craving and addiction. What should I do?
You’re on the right path. Recovery is not a linear journey, and asking for help and support is something that you will do when you are ready. I’m glad you are here.
I guess that's where you have to put in the work to train your brain to not give into the impulse. I'm kind of in the same stage (if you want to call it stage). Especially during the pandemic. I have just been a crazy alcoholic addict. But what helps me stay sane is working on my creativity.
Well, if I was you you maybe want to get the addicting thing isn't available. But if it is something that isn't so easy to get away from you may want to begin with something else. For example if you are addicted to youtube or social media you try first building up a different habit ( meditating, working out, journaling, drawing, drinking enough,...) so your brain get used to get new chalanges that are easier than going against a addiction. Than if you have build a différant habit you must find things to do instead of your addiction, for axample evry time I wanted to follow my addiction I dit handstands till I was tired and then I layd on the bed, by the time I was recovers I didn't have the urge to to the addiction ore I had other things in mind to do instead of my addiction. The following step I to minimize the amount that you are exposed to you're addiction. For example you may delete the social media you don't need. I needed social media to communicate with friends and family but I only kept one platform that wasn't addicting to me. The last step is to not give up. I wish you a lot of succès. This process can take a few months so don't rush it, look a each stair apart, don't look at the whole staircase, you will fail if you want to rush it. Succes😉
At about time= 23:00, they talk about Love craving. I remember seeking Love... A LOT. I didn't really get love from my parents. But, what really sucked is that I learned that Love ONLY hurts. Because either by self-sabotage or just plain bad luck, I somehow fell in "Love" with people who did not really Love back. My ex-wife did for a time; but then proceeded to just be consumed with manipulating and controlling me for her own personal benefit. She never realized just how much she smashed the Love right out of me. I've been loveless ever since. I'm literally afraid of Love. So, in a way, I think, I've done the opposite of addiction for Love in my brain. Is that a correct analysis? I don't know. What I need to do now is to somehow translate that negative feedback from ALCOHOL. I need to learn that ALCOHOL is against me... it doesn't "Love" me back. In fact it "Hates" me back. :-)
The human brain likes habits ...both healthy and unhealthy habits arise out of this. Habits are a form of efficiency that can become framed into something that says if I don't do this ... I will die or at the very least feel distress/pain/discomfort and so on.
17:42 I think many philosophers will disagree with him here. Formal training in logic definitely helped change my behavior and feelings towards something.
I think it's less that logic doesn't help and more that for many people, logic can only get you so far if you have all this underlying stuff going on like trauma.
Appreciate, very much, this info. A little confused where at first addiction is "not a choice" but then at 26:00 it IS a choice ... Oh, well behavior is a choice, right. Kind of a brain teaser though, a paradox? I wish someone would pass the memo to medical professionals. Despite an ongoing successful recovery journey partly through harm reduction, I steady get shamed and outright mistreated in urgent care situations after being drug tested without my prior consent. And then they love to revel in their confirmation bias, since I lied during intake, proof of a guilty conscience. Well a weak conscience has no bearing on any charge or verdict against me. Anyway, the holier-than-thou routine combined with professional ineptitude has sadly turned me off anything having to do with medicine. Literally traumatized.
I appreciate the video! The word "motivation" has become cliche a bit, but it still is needed to ignite everything else - The last video on my channel (Hold your pen tight) also aims to motivate others to live as their greatest self! I hope videos like ours give people that extra jolt toward their greatness. Just subscribed to your channel too.
How a Man lives life Solo Self Educating, Relying on his own 2 hands to build up to success the entire 1st half of their lives. Is far better to talk about
@CrystalTippz ...I use social media for the most part as a platform to reveal the horrible crimes that have transpired against my infant daughter and myself. I have to use my phone to find out the time, for my watch was destroyed, in addition to everything else that I own. I am NOT kidding. I cannot believe that I am STILL waiting for justice and restitution ! This has gone on for decades and covered up for TOO long ! That is about it ! While I can appreciate technology, for it is a necessary tool in this day and age. Unless individuals are independently wealthy and do not need the internet/technology to find a career, attend college, receive adequate health screenings and tests ( from a legitimate source) and communicate with TRUE friends, then one may forego going online. I grew up in an era that did not have cell phones, and we mostly played outside. So, for me, at times, I look forward to being able to hike in the woods, ride my bicycle, run while listening to music from a MP3 player ( although I have not ran in a while because I am afraid to leave certain belongings unattended, for I had a hidden camera and that was "cut up" too like my other clothing) or just go for a walk outside. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from social media, cell phone etc. However, in my case, with what has happened to me, taking photos of vehicles who have tried to run me over or other crime /neglect situations has become vital to uncovering the TRUTH. I hope that clarifies my personal situation, for everyone is different and should NOT be judged until the know the TRUTH.
@@BodyRibbonz ..I need to sue and actually purchase my OWN home and live in PEACE for the rest of my life ! It has been absolutely BRUTAL ! The crimes and abuse are real, the pain is real and the suffering has been very real for 40+ years ! I am all about speaking truth ! I did speak to a counselor when I was younger regarding the issues growing up on Meeting House Rd. in Kensington, Connecticut, however, she thought it was some joke ?!?. I am like.."uh no" no joke ..! In addition, I spoke to a counselor after the torture and death of my infant daughter in 2007 and the divorce ! The psycho drama and lunacy has been insane ! It is like a 10 ring circus that involves severe family dysfunction (family mobbing, psychological, financial, religious, physical abuse), politics, religion, some freakish competition, employment games + triangulation, crime ( destruction of property, mail tampering, vandalized vehicle, bicycle destroyed, clothes "cut up") and terrorizing, heartache from some LTR's, and constantly relocating! I am hanging in there, however, I need justice NOW !! Thank you for your support and have a good night ! The TRUTH will prevail !!
This was so awesome for me to hear. Thank you so much for working so hard to help others, this is what its,all about ans you helped me understand what I've been so confused about
I love this guys outlook but it does seem a little naive to me. I absolutely have met many people that were stuck in addiction and can't get out or they just did so much damage that they never recover from it.
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Netflix more addictive then weed tons of articles and research on this and the guy who designed said they actually asked for the most adictive and the gui being designed to make you click next to encourage binge watching and binge watching is as bad a alcoholism. That it makes peoples emotional regulation worse and fomo worse as well, it's super bad Apple priducts designed to keep you in a echo chamber so they can take your money. As an art nerd I am highly agianst these practices art should be to enrish life not halt your life or give you anxiety.
Interesting, I have always thought there is something very punishing about coming down hard on addicts for coping with their pain either the only way they know how or how they have been trained. Punish those who have had a lifetime of punishment.
I feel like there's something to be said for teaching your children how to embibe. It seems like the people I know who are well adjusted and productive members of society all had at least somewhat permissive parents. I have one friend who has struggled with severe addiction to pills and another friend I grew up with just died from heroine. Both were raised by extremely conservative Christians.
thanks doc for saying that about genes. I feel like the story about genes all came about in an effort to show that addiction is an illness or a coping mechanism rather than immoral hedonistic compulsion. But its a bad story.
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GREAT VIDEO. When you stop addiction and start feeling emotions rather than numbing them, they begin to heal. Addiction is more abuse and abusing that began the addiction. The trauma is waiting to heal beneath the addiction.
This is the best explanation of the causes of addiction that I have ever heard, and I’ve been in recovery on and off for the past 20 years.
I agree with you 100%
Agreeeeeeeeeeee this guy is goood oohh good
There is lots of very detailed interesting information on youtube by a guy at an Australian clinic [based on Pia Melody's original work}. The addiction is a coping mechanism from childhood trauma {C-PTSD}. The trauma stunts their emotional development and the result is adults who can't function fully.
South Pacific Private is the name of the youtube channel.
Yes Harry Bean, we have a Canadian doctor that has that same theory, and proves it.
Hope Rising, when you check out Dr.Gabor Mate, HE has “the best explanation of addiction I’ve ever heard”.
@@nevada8462 100% agree. Dr Gabor Mate is amazing!
this is hopeful, as a recovering addict, who struggles with addictive behaviour still (food etc) and I believe I was raised in a crazy alcoholic narcissistic insane crazy AF home, I struggle all day, every day, to not act like a narcissist, to learn what is normal and to behave, (not my natural state) I do not think I will ever be normal, but I do daily breath work etc. will never stop trying. thats the best I can do.
I believe in you ! It gets easier as time passes by if you make the right choices
Well said, it is about recognizing the struggle, to “be ok with it” in other words to embrace the struggle, accept it and make light of the struggle so that then you can become stronger to the point of being able not only to manage it but eventually overcoming it. Keep persevering!! And be humble to accept the struggle, the truth is, everyone struggles with something. Some of us just happened to struggle with this type.
Keep up the good work!
I really like this doctor too. His patience and kind approach is palpable, and he explained the dynamics of addiction and the possible ways out very clearly. Thank you for making and sharing this well conducted interview.
I felt this really helped me understand addiction in many more ways. The psychiatrist who studied this field specifically made slides specifically for those video and explains them in core ideas and subjects.
I feel like I can understand it through a logical, emotional, and spiritual point of view.
Thank you MedCircle for providing free knowledge to the public.
It's seriously needed!!❤
This is one of the best mental health discussion I've ever heard👏👏
My addiction is knowledge. I know that sounds funny but it's true. It's kind of like being a workaholic but I use learning new knowledge (I have my favorite subjects but I will learn just about anything) as my distraction/addiction.
Woww
Intelligent. Not a big problem. You shoukd see what emotions are you avoiding? Knowledge can be helpful in processing them. 😊
@@mn9120 Oh I know that's why I do it. I've been in therapy for 8 years, so already got that covered. 🙂 As it could be assumed by me commenting on this video, psychology is one of them.
I have been like that for half my life until this very moment, I call it being an Insights Junkie, always getting that dopamine hits of learning something new but at the end never applying this new knowledge, which just end up being an unproductive behavior just like watching TV and whatnot.
God I wish I had that. There are so much things I want to learn.
What a fantastic session, thank you! Absolutely loved Dr. Hochman.
This is so important as having had to deal with addicts in family and relationships. Thank you❤
This was such a great video. Thank you both for taking the time to do it & for sharing your light with everyone.
I came to this realization a few years ago and despite anyone elses opinion about my reasoning, things worked for me. I have also tried to not insert any one activity to feel a sense of reward, but I have tried to give myself several ways to get that reward need met.
utterly wonderful and well articulated information. you guys are special and necessary people to this world.
WOW.....I just do not see how some people find these kind of videos, "boring or not interesting"....this is our MIND'S that these Doctors are talking about and how it actually works.....the way it absorbs, perceive and executes the information it receives through emotions and trauma. The "HIGH JACKING OF THE ADDICTION PATHWAY" was an amazing truth. I love ❤ that medcircle is uploading these videos....they're truly informative, educational and inspiring 👏. Awesome
Thank you. I continue to drink and smoke pot daily; I’m sure it slows down my recovery. I did seek out help through my General Practice doctor. She referred me to a “ social worker “ who refused to see me until I get clean going through Rehabilitation that my GP referred me to before Covid19. They stopped the program and canceled my entry into the program. So far, I’ve not received any information about getting help. So thank goodness for you loving helpers.
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This almost made me cry. I always thought i was just born and will always be an addict.
i can't wait for this! gave up the drags and been running for 30 years. i am 56 found out i had ADHD AT 52 it's been a long journey clean for 30 years apart from coffee. running help a lot don't smoke or drink or take drags but i run everyday if i can. thank you for the advice and for helping as all.
Congratulations to you. You've done an awesome job staying clean
Congrats! So happy for you! Amazing. May I ask if you are taking anything for ADHD, and if so, did it make a big difference for you?
NO I AM NOT TAKING NOTHING FOR IT HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE THEY WILL GAVE IT TO ME EVEN THOUGH MY BP FLUCTUATES HIGH IN MORNING TO LOW IN THE EVENING I DO DRINK TWO STRONG COFFEES DURING THE DAY. THAT'S MY ONLY DRAG. AND THE RUNNING. EVERY DAY IF I CAN.
runneryg thank you!
Running is therapy
This guy is brilliant . Never heard this information before and so helpful in understanding addiction.
Great content, for sure! If you’re interested in learning more about addiction, I always encourage people to listen to Dr. Gabor Mate. I think you’ll find some fantastic information 🙏🥰
I loved this video so thank you very much. I've been doing "self-helping" for a while now. I wouldn't say you should or shouldn't, just that I did. It was hard for me to find and trust in a good therapist. The parts i struggled with was when your mind slips back to old ways of thinking/old thought patterns. And you can go through a lot of emotions as your "walls" of protection start coming down. The pain and shame and guilt, those are the rough spots. But the more you accept yourself and understand, the more compassion you have and the easier it gets. You know, thinking now...i almost had to relearn emotions. How to feel them. What they feel like. Kinda like relearning how to be human. Idk. Just my thoughts at this moment.
I can relate to that totally. Good luck to you. I'm still in the shit. But working on it, hence watching this 😉
This is just on point. I've been down the "spiritual" route on and off for some while now, using it as my coping mechanism to try and numb out all that I feel. Only recently have I started meditating in a way that allows me to process all the built up emotions in my body that I have been covering up with research and avoidance, the "just think positive" methods, working myself down to an extreme point. Also stopped going to school for a while, because I was constantly going over thoughts of not being right/ready, since I started actually letting my emotions out, which I'm still very often so scared to express outside/be seen in a different light than what people are used to. It's funny, I used to think I wanted to change to be enough for myself, but I've realized that deep down I feel that I'm a failure not holding up to my old, dysfunctional standard of productivity, and I'm actually most scared of by showing my vulnerability to the world and being rejected by others, while feeling my emotions. As with most cases, at the same time I long to accept myself, be loving to myself, be deeply in my core, and help the world as a result of being my truest self. It's much more messy than I expected, and I often slip back into the extremely critical thinking that tries to keep me away from feeling and accepting those feelings, even seeing those vulnerable parts of myself personally, but I don't think there's a way for me to give up on this process without being bitterly dissatisfied with my life and wanting to die. I know too much to back out now, and I won't stop, however long it takes and how often I fall again.
The point I originally wanted to add on was the one about relearning to be human, which can be a grave pitfall in the spiritual community, either with the "only positivity" practices or the false idea of enlightenment and often falsely described way of detaching from the world. These things have messed me up quite well personally, but I'm glad for the insights and experiences I've had with them, because without them, I wouldn't be at the point I'm at right now. However messy it might seem, I'm processing more of my emotions, and slowly unlearning the "all or nothing" mentality and the time restriction imaginations for change.
🤯 Thank you so much!!! This video has a lot of different brilliant perspectives that help to get a real understanding. I loved it! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️
This interview is so wise. I loved the humanitarian address gave to this so human topic. Thank you for helping us to become better
Great podcast, it resonates a lot with my own struggles.
food, cravings/addiction. definitely an emotional eater.
Great video, so insightful and not judgmental 🙏👏
This guy is amazing
I think the causes of addiction are very personal & involve different things for different people. Its not as simple as “this person can tolerate pain better then that person”. It may be an aspect but it doesnt tell the whole story.
It would be like saying “Jim became a doctor because he is intelligent.”
People become doctors because of genes, experience, culture, luck etc. Its many things. Addiction is like that.
I agree. I didn't fall prey to addiction until my 40s, despite a lifetime of abuse, trauma, and loss. I just finally reached a point where the emotional pain I experienced was too much for me to deal with in a healthy way. I truly believe most people would have succumbed long before I did. Everyone has their breaking point, and anyone who thinks otherwise just hasn't reached it yet.
I'm in gratitude to discover the knowledge from this talk.
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Under "peer pressure" some children have used saying to friends how they could not do something because of "fear of getting in trouble with parents" to peers.
This is a beautiful explanation.
I have Empty nose syndrome. I developed severe anxiety and panic disorder. I became a different person. I was treated for depression before surgery and was on Prozac. While in treatment, my psychiatrists and psychologists wanted me to go on klonopin. [circa 1992]. I wouldn't take it because I knew it was addictive even though they claimed it wasn't. After my nasal surgery, I hyperventilated and couldn't control my breathing. I started on klonopin and it [I feel] saved my life. I still take 3 mg. a day. It was like a 180 degree shift in my brain chemistry. if I don't take it, I get anxious and start to hypperventilate. Thanks for any response.
Excellent talk! "How to motivate yourself to change addictive behaviors" is a bad title I feel like, it implies you can sort of do this on your own. But I get it's supposed to get people to watch the video, which is in itself fantastic. Perfectly melds science of addiction with real life context.
I watched this and a few others last night, took notes, reviewing notes today and to answer his first question. If Cravings is just anxiety, and anxiety is a fear state. And addiction is a maladaptive way we learned to meet our needs/survive then we learned to do that in a state of fear, not a state of love. Learning that above the current is learning it in a state of love. So A: Because they learned it in love, or adapted in a healthy way somehow (But Pia Mellody's work on Codependence talks about a spectrum and what society thinks is healthy isn't and is simply on the other end of the spectrum. I'm a huge fan of her work. So they may have more socially accepted form of codep, which is an addiction.) . What does that air flow current look like?? 1.Positive core belief/emotional pain/discomfort. 2. Craving?? Or healthy signal/desire to meet need, concious or subconcious. 3. Meet need with healthy boundaries. 4. Actual pleasure. Religion, real religion, calls it righteousness and commandments and urges to teach in love lest they esteem you to be their enemy and theres no emotional connection and round we go. Love and fear. Rounding off 21 months fully caffeine free, no more cortisol fear juice, not even chocolate. No more sucking down the fake tiger. One of the hardest things I've ever done. The anhedonia was real.
Growing our emotional intelligence is so very important.
Really wanting to learn about this. Thanks as usual for the opportunities, Kyle!
Awesome, thanks guys❤ One thing I always say is "If addiction was as easy as common sense, none of us would be addicted, now would we doctor?" (said to my family doc) Words are pointless. Goes in one ear and out the other😂and I sing Christmas tunes in my head during preach session🤣🌲I don't drink alcohol, don't do any drugs and yet I get harped on for 3 cups of coffee and low dose organic nicotine juice in my vape pen with a tiny battery/low output? I volunteer and I am always kind, good deeds, its like shut up already, don't you have bigger fish to fry? 🤣😂 I really don't do anything wrong in my life, not even lie for crying out loud✌🙄😂
Dr. Gabor Mate
My now ex-girlfriend (35 years old) wouldn't watch this as I was hoping with her addiction and smarts (functional drug addict), she'd come around and start to want to heal her illness. Sadly, she got enraged. And even more sadly, I couldn't take it anymore. After her impulsive consumption of LSD a few hours before our big Valentine's weekend, I'd had enough. Impulsivity co-occurring likely with an undiagnosed personality disorder (her now deceased father who she puts on a pedestal but was a narcissist clearly impacted her) just pushed me to the point that I just can't hang in there anymore. It's taking a devastating toll on not only us, but my own mental state. I co-parent an eleven year old daughter, and there is no way I'll expose my daughter to her. I still have hope my now ex- will watch this, but the shame and pain runs so very deep that I get depressed thinking about it. Watching such a beautiful and amazing woman self-destruct is the most painful experience I've ever had., and that includes spending time in war torn zones. And this feeling I have is very much like this.
Very neatly explained, thankyou
😄😄 I saw this on my AA meeting. I love the way you phrase your questions. You got it 👍
Ok at 31:46 when he compares other addictions or even healthy behaviors to drugs it’s incredibly different. So when you have those chemical locks in the drugs that move the dopamine and serotonin to such a high level, it is such an incredibly high endorphin surge it replaces your brains normal circuit and starts to rewire the sympathetic system. Incapacitating an ability to rationally think. When an extreme addict is in the throws of a craving it is like a gun being pointed at the head.
No other addiction is going to illicit quite that response. The addict will feel gagging, throwing up, an incredible adrenaline rush into the frontal lobes. The brain is actually taking a pathways that says if you don’t get that “Light” or reward you are going to die. Whether that is perceived or real. Convulsions, seizures, shaking. It’s unbelievable. Gabba addictions create such withdrawal that you can actually die if you don’t get the fix.
So while not impossible, rewiring that circuitry is incredibly difficult. So let’s not downplay the severity of an action chemical that has lock and key past the blood brain barrier compared to other addictions. Drugs are very similar to a virus. It gets inside the brain and basically completely rewires the circuitry beyond anything. I don’t care what the brain scans show. It is unparalleled.
These other addictions do have devastating consequences but not nearly as much death, relationship isolation, family and work dysfunction, homelessness. I’d also like to say treatment is seriously lagging for substance abuse. Pharmaceutical companies could literally make a vaccine for heroine but won’t fund it because it’s not profitable. When an addict goes into a 12 step program he is literally programmed into another completely mythological idea that he will get better if he just believes in God, apologizes, and is extremely self critical of their entire life. Someone with undiagnosed disorders such as social avoidance disorder or BPD is 100% going to relapse.
And I’d like to put all your doctors on the spot. Why is the medical system not pushing for a universal healthcare system. This is literally catastrophic. Literally. Forget Covid. Every time I hear a dr compare drug addiction to other addictions I want to slap them into next week where they belong. Been to jail lately? What this country does is beyond appalling.
Thank you for this.
"Logic does not treat addiction, nor does it treat our emotional state ever" well said.
Logic can be an aspect of treating addiction but you cant just rely on that. It needs to be a holistic approach. Learning to respond to life instead of react. This is why mindfulness, CBT, meaning and purpose are so vital. We learn to think more logically.... Obviously not always logical. Humans are fallible creatures. But much moreso.
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I struggle and struggle and struggle. My life is ridiculous. This sounds easy for someone who doesn't enjoy drinking or does drink but doesn't feel the need to get more drunk and only on occasion. I really, really enjoy drinking and being drunk. I go to a rv park every weekend where almost everyone has a drink in their hand. I hate feeling like I'm not aloud adult drinks. I don't feel like I'm having fun like others that are drinking. I hate hate hate this. This to me does sound like its just my choice to be an alcoholic.
How does this help me to feel like I belong when I'm literally being excluded.
Not all social groups revolve around drinking/drug use. I spent many years hanging out with people just like you're describing and it doesn't take long for that behavior to become totally normalized in your mind. But the truth is, most people DON'T live that way. There are literally thousands of people all around you who are going about their lives every day without abusing drugs and/or alcohol. They're coaching little league, getting together for book club meetings, taking yoga classes, going bowling, scrapbooking, meal prepping, working out, etc. You just never run into those people in the bar, at the campground, or wherever the party people in your life hang out.
How old are you sweetie? I remember thinking the same thing 30 years ago.
I'm at the point in my addiction where I'm fully aware of the false pleasure and general unwellness. I feel out of control of the craving and addiction. What should I do?
You’re on the right path. Recovery is not a linear journey, and asking for help and support is something that you will do when you are ready. I’m glad you are here.
I guess that's where you have to put in the work to train your brain to not give into the impulse. I'm kind of in the same stage (if you want to call it stage). Especially during the pandemic. I have just been a crazy alcoholic addict. But what helps me stay sane is working on my creativity.
Well, if I was you you maybe want to get the addicting thing isn't available. But if it is something that isn't so easy to get away from you may want to begin with something else. For example if you are addicted to youtube or social media you try first building up a different habit ( meditating, working out, journaling, drawing, drinking enough,...) so your brain get used to get new chalanges that are easier than going against a addiction. Than if you have build a différant habit you must find things to do instead of your addiction, for axample evry time I wanted to follow my addiction I dit handstands till I was tired and then I layd on the bed, by the time I was recovers I didn't have the urge to to the addiction ore I had other things in mind to do instead of my addiction. The following step I to minimize the amount that you are exposed to you're addiction. For example you may delete the social media you don't need. I needed social media to communicate with friends and family but I only kept one platform that wasn't addicting to me. The last step is to not give up. I wish you a lot of succès. This process can take a few months so don't rush it, look a each stair apart, don't look at the whole staircase, you will fail if you want to rush it. Succes😉
DR. GABOR MATE DOES TELL YOU WHY. Canadian from Vancouver, ground Zero in North America for that
At about time= 23:00, they talk about Love craving. I remember seeking Love... A LOT. I didn't really get love from my parents. But, what really sucked is that I learned that Love ONLY hurts. Because either by self-sabotage or just plain bad luck, I somehow fell in "Love" with people who did not really Love back. My ex-wife did for a time; but then proceeded to just be consumed with manipulating and controlling me for her own personal benefit. She never realized just how much she smashed the Love right out of me. I've been loveless ever since. I'm literally afraid of Love. So, in a way, I think, I've done the opposite of addiction for Love in my brain. Is that a correct analysis? I don't know.
What I need to do now is to somehow translate that negative feedback from ALCOHOL. I need to learn that ALCOHOL is against me... it doesn't "Love" me back. In fact it "Hates" me back. :-)
Wonderfull best video about addiction thanks you!
The human brain likes habits ...both healthy and unhealthy habits arise out of this. Habits are a form of efficiency that can become framed into something that says if I don't do this ... I will die or at the very least feel distress/pain/discomfort and so on.
My goodness this is so spot on.
Thanks!
I used to be a workaholic. I am now into gardening to come out of it. Is it okay to have food, a full meal just once in a daytime?
Much appreciated thank you very much.
Can’t wait!
This is amazing information and work
Consciousness Problem ....wow, so profound.
What are the best ways to support or help someone who is combatting alcoholism.
this guy is a genius
Umm what's a genious ?? it's clear you're no GENIUS 🤓
What an amazing conversion
Could Kyle be any cuter? 🙂
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RIGHT??? 😍😍😍
Theres addiction to shopping too
thank you so much! I needed to hear this!
17:42 I think many philosophers will disagree with him here. Formal training in logic definitely helped change my behavior and feelings towards something.
I think it's less that logic doesn't help and more that for many people, logic can only get you so far if you have all this underlying stuff going on like trauma.
So, how are we supposed to deal with, or heal the pain that's causing the addiction?
Is the Current of Addiction applicable to self-harm too? Is it the same mechanism behind self-harm?
Heard it all.
Appreciate, very much, this info. A little confused where at first addiction is "not a choice" but then at 26:00 it IS a choice ... Oh, well behavior is a choice, right. Kind of a brain teaser though, a paradox?
I wish someone would pass the memo to medical professionals. Despite an ongoing successful recovery journey partly through harm reduction, I steady get shamed and outright mistreated in urgent care situations after being drug tested without my prior consent. And then they love to revel in their confirmation bias, since I lied during intake, proof of a guilty conscience. Well a weak conscience has no bearing on any charge or verdict against me. Anyway, the holier-than-thou routine combined with professional ineptitude has sadly turned me off anything having to do with medicine. Literally traumatized.
World Science Festival on UA-cam has an incredible show on addiction. Highly recommend any professional to check it out.
I have a sugar addiction. It's crazy...
Please talk about borderline with Daniel Hockman
Thank you fantastic Tammy South Africa
lol i'm addicted to medcircle!! (Deanne) but that's because I'm currently having severe issues with my behavior and thinking patterns, uhgh!!
Such an informative video. Thank you!
Thanks for supporting mental health education!
As someone with ADHD, my alcoholism seems to be at least partly an impulse control problem.
Thoughts? Thank you.
It's atypical/ social only. Sober for 7 1/2 years.
Interesting question. I think at around the 14 minute mark he said it wasn't causal.
I appreciate the video! The word "motivation" has become cliche a bit, but it still is needed to ignite everything else - The last video on my channel (Hold your pen tight) also aims to motivate others to live as their greatest self! I hope videos like ours give people that extra jolt toward their greatness. Just subscribed to your channel too.
How a Man lives life Solo Self Educating, Relying on his own 2 hands to build up to success the entire 1st half of their lives. Is far better to talk about
I do not think I have ever been addicted to anything, maybe coffee in the morning. I consider myself very lucky all things considered.
@CrystalTippz ...I use social media for the most part as a platform to reveal the horrible crimes that have transpired against my infant daughter and myself. I have to use my phone to find out the time, for my watch was destroyed, in addition to everything else that I own. I am NOT kidding. I cannot believe that I am STILL waiting for justice and restitution ! This has gone on for decades and covered up for TOO long ! That is about it ! While I can appreciate technology, for it is a necessary tool in this day and age. Unless individuals are independently wealthy and do not need the internet/technology to find a career, attend college, receive adequate health screenings and tests ( from a legitimate source) and communicate with TRUE friends, then one may forego going online. I grew up in an era that did not have cell phones, and we mostly played outside. So, for me, at times, I look forward to being able to hike in the woods, ride my bicycle, run while listening to music from a MP3 player ( although I have not ran in a while because I am afraid to leave certain belongings unattended, for I had a hidden camera and that was "cut up" too like my other clothing) or just go for a walk outside. There is nothing wrong with taking a break from social media, cell phone etc. However, in my case, with what has happened to me, taking photos of vehicles who have tried to run me over or other crime /neglect situations has become vital to uncovering the TRUTH. I hope that clarifies my personal situation, for everyone is different and should NOT be judged until the know the TRUTH.
@@jengable4888 sounds like a lot to deal with. Sheesh. You might need a therapist
@@BodyRibbonz ..I need to sue and actually purchase my OWN home and live in PEACE for the rest of my life ! It has been absolutely BRUTAL ! The crimes and abuse are real, the pain is real and the suffering has been very real for 40+ years ! I am all about speaking truth ! I did speak to a counselor when I was younger regarding the issues growing up on Meeting House Rd. in Kensington, Connecticut, however, she thought it was some joke ?!?. I am like.."uh no" no joke ..! In addition, I spoke to a counselor after the torture and death of my infant daughter in 2007 and the divorce ! The psycho drama and lunacy has been insane ! It is like a 10 ring circus that involves severe family dysfunction (family mobbing, psychological, financial, religious, physical abuse), politics, religion, some freakish competition, employment games + triangulation, crime ( destruction of property, mail tampering, vandalized vehicle, bicycle destroyed, clothes "cut up") and terrorizing, heartache from some LTR's, and constantly relocating! I am hanging in there, however, I need justice NOW !! Thank you for your support and have a good night ! The TRUTH will prevail !!
This was so awesome for me to hear. Thank you so much for working so hard to help others, this is what its,all about ans you helped me understand what I've been so confused about
Addiction pathway is in all of us! That is such a relief.
What about alchoholics anonymous?
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Amazing and non- judgmental insight. Thank you
Ended up here Bc I'm addicted to napping... not joking. And this is the best explanation of addiction I've ever seen.
I love this guys outlook but it does seem a little naive to me. I absolutely have met many people that were stuck in addiction and can't get out or they just did so much damage that they never recover from it.
“Clearly, the high of a drug is not as healthy as the high of a really good hug”
how about really good hugs while high? ;)
Traumatic brain injury to the frontal lobe can make a person more "impulsive" I once learned.
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen.
🐒 greatful for everything!
Is there anything called normal?
Addiction may not be a choice but you choose whether or not you get help!
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Your content is really good . Now I am addicted to your channel 😀
Netflix more addictive then weed tons of articles and research on this and the guy who designed said they actually asked for the most adictive and the gui being designed to make you click next to encourage binge watching and binge watching is as bad a alcoholism. That it makes peoples emotional regulation worse and fomo worse as well, it's super bad Apple priducts designed to keep you in a echo chamber so they can take your money. As an art nerd I am highly agianst these practices art should be to enrish life not halt your life or give you anxiety.
Is the answer Balance?
Interesting, I have always thought there is something very punishing about coming down hard on addicts for coping with their pain either the only way they know how or how they have been trained. Punish those who have had a lifetime of punishment.
I feel like there's something to be said for teaching your children how to embibe. It seems like the people I know who are well adjusted and productive members of society all had at least somewhat permissive parents.
I have one friend who has struggled with severe addiction to pills and another friend I grew up with just died from heroine. Both were raised by extremely conservative Christians.
Maybe metaphorically a nice indigo bioenergy instead of thé breakstoyread
Selfishness can maerge to responsalcourage (not make listening still
Can a physical or psychological trauma trigger an addiction? E.G sexual abuse. Also, are people with PTSD more prone to addiction?
Did you watch the video before asking? Of course it can.
thanks doc for saying that about genes. I feel like the story about genes all came about in an effort to show that addiction is an illness or a coping mechanism rather than immoral hedonistic compulsion. But its a bad story.
This is so incredibly helpful. Thank you for this!
This was outstanding!
Kyle..the dr looks like you few years later
Omg that is 100% true!!!!
I am in love
Vague energy mind blocks to microbodythought wrong word mb but just