A Certain Type Of Friendship / Real Friends
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- Опубліковано 20 гру 2024
- Some fleeting thoughts on friendship.
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Sorry to hear about your friend's suicide. Those are good thoughts about what makes a good friend.
Thank you Judy :)
Joon, what are your thoughts about reciprocation? What if one friends checks up on another friend but doesn't do it back? Does that make them a bad friend? If the other friend realizes this, does it make it okay for them to cut that person off?
Oooo big topic. It's definitely an idea that I've thought of before, but haven't quite figured out my feelings on so I'll just share some initial thoughts:
I think ideally we all want reciprocation, but we want to find relationships where we're not constantly keeping track of "transactions". Kinda like the whole unconditional love thing.
On the other hand, people seem to vary a lot in how they express their care for others--sometimes in ways that might not look or feel like reciprocation. In that case, it's on you to know when they're expressing their friendship to you, which just comes down to communication between both parties.
In that kind of relationship though, it's easy for one friend to feel like they're losing out on the relationship and feel like the other person is a bad friend. I think rather than a bad friend, it could just be a bad fit if that makes sense? If that's the case then I think the friendship will naturally dissipate as time passes or if you create distance from that friend.
Now for me personally, I don't really care or keep track of who checks up on me. I care more about who shows up when I really need someone and explicitly ask for people to help out. But that's probably because I don't place much value in constantly checking in on others or constantly making small talk. I place much higher value in being there for someone when they're going through some tough stuff.
Hope that helps man and thanks for the interesting question!
I always ask myself when I was a kid, why should I born? , why should I do for the next day until I'm old? and I still ask that on myself every time I woke up from my sleep
and about friendship, it is so hard to have friends especially since my personality is being an introvert. and I saw mostly extroverts have lots of friends but in the other way, most of them didn't know what is the meaning of having a friendship.
Hey Winston, yep I'm definitely with you there! It's a good question to ask, but hope it doesn't stress you out too much.
The introvert vs extrovert interests me as well. My personality tests always say I'm in the middle so I have no idea what a more introverted or extroverted person defines friendship as. Thanks for your time and hope you're well man!
Good video bro! I recently posted to my Instagram the other day that life at times is to much for me, and I really don’t understand where the simplicity went from the time I was a kid watching good television to now being afraid to turn the tv on because I don’t know how it’ll effect the way I view people, life and a lot of shit. My brother when I tell you death has had a bigger impression on me than actually life itself smh...
To this very day I go to bed thinking will I wake up tomorrow or will I wake up to my mother dead in the other room....it’s frightening and at times feels slightly unrealistic. I hope your buddy finds peace on the other side, and I hope you find a way to become a better human in this physical life!
If you have an Instagram follow me man. I’d love to support your content on there, and if you are in need of talking to someone I’m accessible! My Instagram is jamel.antonio
Yo Mel, great to see you here man! Sounds like you got a lot on your plate man. I feel you though, especially the bit about tv affecting how we feel about people, life, etc. Hope you can get a good night's sleep tonight at least. We'll connect on IG--I got you too if you need someone to talk to!
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You too man. :) ASAP!