How sad that the little girl in the car implied that their driver’s accent was somehow inferior to theirs simply because it was different. The parents have clearly instilled their own prejudices in them from an early age.
Result of being enclosed in a circle of entitledness. When I met my rich boss’ child for the first time they did not say hello, they said “how are you from Europe with that skin color” (my US boss hired me from western EU). No one corrected her so after some silence I had to explain my family history It’s not the kids fault, they usually mean no harm at all. The parents need to do a better job
Very telling that the children don't even consider them English. Some really deeply ingrained (learned) prejudices there. Which is ironic, given that their mother's own accent doesn't really sound like it's English either.
My dad once said: "some people are so poor, but so poor, that the only thing they have is money. Take that from them and there's nothing left. Just a shell of a human being."
I wish they showed more of the dads in the pictures too. They only seemed to have villianized the moms. Dads are also equally responsible for taking care of their children.
@@liad0x Well at least one of the mothers said they wanted the nanny and maid to be ugly so that their "love doesn't have to get distracted once". The boss of the nanny and butler agency also said " many mothers, they prefer not too beautiful nannies." So based on that they are not single parents. Some of them also speak of their husbands.
@@KNYD that comment by one of the women more sounded like possible boyfriend to me, not really a husband. For example like i want to be the prettiest in this house, if i ever bring a man into this house he shouldnt be distracted. But if she meant her husband then yikes!!! I mean they clearly have a horrible relationship if she gets insecure by a not ugly nanny so it would make sense for them to be used to old sexist gender roles.
Connie's story broke my heart. The fact that she had to leave her children and become an essential stranger to them, just to break the cycle of poverty, is insane to consider. I'm glad that her children, in particular her daughter, won't need to make the same sacrifice now that they have university degrees.
My heart broke when Connie describes leaving her children in her home country to take care of other people's children to provide a better life for them. This world...:(
Dude I actually cried. We do the same in South Africa. But the nannies do not abandon their kids. Sometimes the employers even let kids stay with them and be friends with the kids. And pay for their schooling. If the employers have the means. It's like one big family. And the babies kids are not seen as less and do no miss out on opportunities. I was truly disgusted to see this still happening in the world.
@@cassygray1343 it's the same thing .... both woman are abandoning their children so they can work and build a better life the only difference is one is so much more successful then the otherw therefore they have the money to have their children taken Care of at home where they'll probably see them throughout the day but they also have to work to be able to live like this
I agree. I have no children, but if I did, I'd be afraid to miss out on important memories. For that reason I don't think I'd hire staff except for perhaps a sitter on special occasions.
45:00. They pay so much $$ for every detail, but mother casually, repeatedly uses God's name in vain right in front of her children. (Not bashing her, they seem like a lovely family, but just pointing out an observation that what all counts as fine details is in the eye of the beholder. - but it is something a child with good upbringing should know not to do, as it is not considered appropriate in lots of settings.) Thinking there should be , for the right families, a real demand for nannies that also have children utilize religious principles in everyday life (processing forgiveness, challenges, gratitude, as well as praying, and just generally raising therm to live the faith in all the little ways that count in everyday life. For the right family, such qualities in a nanny would be highly desirable. and even required.
@@finallythere100 last thing children need is to be indoctrinated with religious brainwashing. Morals and good manners has nothing to do with religion.
@@bellona6356 - You are misfiring here. FYI - It is STILL considered ill-mannered to use God's name in vain in public situations. as well as STILL considered highly unprofessional and inappropriate in the professional workplace. I(t has nothing to do with your personal opinion on religion as brainwashing. ). I have no idea of your age range or background, so you are evidently clueless about time honored civility and professionalism. This is YT so anyone can sound off as you have and one will have to consider the source. perhaps your opinion is the norm in your world, but thankfully, not everyone dwells there. As for what children need, you will have your day, and you can tell it to Him when your day comes. He has given you free will, and I'm quite sure He can learn a thing or two from you!.
I felt so sorry for Mo when he got mocked by these brats. Sure, they're just kids right? But is shows you how the grown ups think and talk about him. Looked down upon whilst HE provides safety and protection to this family. Not the parents. It's Mo.
Most of the upper class looks down on the majority. They think of us as either useless or just servants. Doesn’t matter if your an engineer. To them your still beneath them because of their wealth and social class.
The way the girls tried punching him in the face everytime when he was showing them boxing techniques is just disgusting and shows how little respect they were taught to show him
I worked at a expensive daycare that many wealthy families would send their children to for socialization. I basically raised these children for five hours everyday for three years. Most had no relationship with their parents they were emotionally neglected and out of control. I even raised a few from as early as 14 months old all the way until they were 3. After a while parents started coming to me and asking what my tricks were as their children started to become happier and more behaved, it looked like I had punched them in the gut when all I said was I gave them my time and attention. I had one little girl who told me she wished I was her mommy because I played dolls with her and gave her hugs. I left that job with trauma from seeing how terrible these kids lives truly were.
I mean, when Connie brought the child to her, the baby was holding her and wanted to give her a hug and she held that baby like she was holding a dog that wanted to lick her🤣🤣🤣. Those children are just props in these ppls lives
I was thinking the same thing! The nanny admitted right there that she did it for the money! She is making sure her Filipino kids get a college education. I hope she does make a lot of money, she deserves it...I can't imagine seeing my own children once every couple of years...so sad!
@@rebeccacarlson9166 listening to Connie's story made me so sad... I was hoping to hear her say she would at least see her family every 6 months... Every 2 years? Heartbreaking! 💔
Fun fact, she's well aware that her nanny has a family that misses her. It seems that she isn't that naive. But the amount of money, the your boss treats you and the freedom you have are crucial aspects to consider before accepting and that nanny made such great sacrifice that she will have to reconnect with her children because they missed that bound.
Not letting your nanny see her children by providing flights and expenses every six months when you are drowning in money is obscene. These are the people who are running the world, no wonder we’re living how we are in 2022.
The nanny was hired in the home country of the clients, they didn't shuffle her from her home country so why is it their fault. They pay her the appropriate wages.
This is the part I don't understand. Let the nanny go home every six months even if it's for a week or instead of two years each year. Stay home and look after your kids then, leave them with family or anything but let them be with their children more. It's so cruel!!!!!
My heart breaks for the sweet woman who had to leave her kids behind, at least they were with her parents. She is so proud of her kids going to university. I hope someday her kids understand her sacrifice so they could have a better life, that is truly a mother's love.
In a perfect world that would be ideal but the reality is their mother is a stranger to them and always will be as long as she keeps working in other countries. Hopefully at least they don't have huge resentment towards her for giving what they should have had to other people's children. I suspect those feelings would be present until they are adults and can really understand why they grew up without a mom.
@@sarahp.3772 Plenty of countries that the women still do not have a right to say no or they will be looked down on as pointless if they don't have children. Then you bring into it religion. How many Catholics are going to listen to your words. Don't get me wrong. In a perfect world we wouldn't need rape kits, abortions just a right to say no and an ability to say no.
It's a common situation here in the Philippines...mothers leave and work abroad to take care of children of rich people, in exchange to leaving their children in the care of relatives...poverty that is...😔
She had to sacrifice being a mom to her child to be a nanny to those spoiled little monsters. Just to make enough money to keep her and her baby’s head above water. The world is so cruel and unfair.
Shoutout to Amanda for swindling rich people who are too lazy to teach their own kids to use the toilet $$$. She seems like a very kind person with the way she speaks.
I don't agree. From what I read a lot of people find it very difficult and stressful. This puts pressure on the child. Having a kind professional train a child is very kind!
@@cheberur completely on the same page. I was just using the word in a playful way. She’s doing great work with these kids and we all have different service needs, so it’s really awesome.
It's a part of her job, basically all nanies like that... But usually the parents would teach/ask the kids about it. It seems that different society/countries that do not usually use nannies/housemaids have different responses. All the nannies in this videos seem have a fine life tho since they work with upper class families.
That one mom parented the 7 dogs more than she patented her kids. The little girl was beating her brother he’s screaming and no one bats an eye. The dogs bark for 5 seconds and she actually ran. What the heck. I respect the decision to parent how ever you feel best but for me I could never ever give up those few precious firsts in those lives. I just lost my 12 year old unexpectedly and I would give anything for that time back.
I was a nanny for an extremely wealthy family in Denver. They were and are the most wonderful down to earth people. I still talk to and see the kids and just stayed with the parents in Jackson hole - we are still very fond of each other after 25 years and they still treat me like family. Seeing these screwed up families makes me cringe.
It sheds a terrible light on families who use a nanny. We've hired a nanny simply as a second hand so I can safely clean the house, prep meals, and run errands while someone is watching/keeping him safe. We don't have a village of family to help.
I also was a nanny for a wealthy family. They were kind, generous, and loved their children. They made me feel very appreciated and like part of their family and to this day we remain in contact. That was the best nanny experience I ever had.
I was also a nanny to several families, both wealthy and upper middle class, and all were great to work for, overall. I was treated as a member of the family and still communicate with the children, who are now adults with children of their own!❤️🥹🥹🥲
Love the hairdresser in the beginning. She is absolutely right about parents missing out on a whole lot of special. Really love this lady. Fresh breeze in a world full of crazy.
agreed. but not everyone is born to be a good parent. if they could afford it then it's better to hire experts instead of abandon the children just because the mom still "wants to be me".
@@rzkkmrth6059 good parents? Just because someone could hire someone else to do a job for them doesn’t mean they love their kids less than you! There are plenty of rich folk who love their children and are great parents but they don’t have the time to do the things you assume makes a “good parent!”
@@JJ-mp5ye I think you missed the point. Being a good parent is about taking time to be with your children, giving them attention and doing things for them and with them. Ultimately that is what they will remember. For ex. spending the night with them when they are sick will make you bond with them more than any expensive gift or holiday. Just my opinion.
unfortunately, there are a lot of ppl who is willing to outsource these precious opportunity if they can afford. It all has to do with money. in some countries where man power cost is cheap, not so rich ppl can also live like a king. Its just a choice.
This is why I've put my career on hold to be home with my kids until they're big enough to go to school. I still do some work from home and we've had to cut back on a lot of luxuries, but I'd rather have a good bond with my children than an expensive designer pram to walk them around in.
@janerees4887 It's why I settled for less material things and stayed home with my girls. I worked nights 2 days a week just to get out of the house and either my husband or mom watched them.
Round of applause for the dude who came out and yelled at those entitled idiots for using his doorstep as their personal photoshoot display. Imagine dropping dirt and spreading smoke wherever you please.
I can’t imagine letting my children make fun of someone taking care of them, because of an accent. Or laughing while the nanny deals with cleaning up after a dog.
I am a highly educated woman who reared her children. I chose to work as a Nanny. It is insane how people allow their children to speak and act towards the help. I informed a mother once was there is a difference between money and power. Your child cries when I leave the residence, that is power. I am giving you my notice that is power. What you have is money. Your children don't expect candy and treats from me. Though they are excited to see me. It was an ugly morning
Would love to see a follow-up when all the kids are in their teens. And then at 35. Secure attachment and bonding with your parent is invaluable for learning how to be a human, and your own human.
I grew up with both my parents, no nunnies and still emotional bonding didn't exist. My father was a computer engineer always working, my mother was a stay-at-home mom (she didn't work) but she had her own life, she would drop us at school and then go do whatever, visit her friends or sisters. After school I went home with school bus, most of the time I stayed at home alone watching tv, my brothers were in school, we studied at different schedules, me in the morning, them at noon. We are not rich but never went hungry, maybe middle class / working class. Just to say that even families who are not rich still fail to bond.
Secure attachments don’t have to be from a parent… sometimes it takes a village. We have moved away from the village raises the kid, and put most of the responsibilities on the mother alone. It’s not the way it’s been for centuries and there are still parts of the world where the village still raises the children. Now the screens are the nannies which is even worse 💀
It breaks my heart to know that she sees her children once in 2 years. The rich employer could pay for her to go home twice a year, and get a replacement during a short period easily. Taking care of those who sacrifice their own children to look after yours, will make your staff happier.
I love the Potty Lady. She know's she's got the skill and she knows that people will pay because they are literally too posh to parent so why not. She's so self-aware, she know's it's ridiculous but she's living her life doing her service and working with adorable babies so kudos to her XD
Warren Buffett embarrassed. His children went to public schools, no servants, no luxury lifestyle. According to Paul Fussell, real wealthiest do not care for luxuries. It is the pretenders who are showing off.
Her business idea is smart, because these "parents" have no idea of how to raise children. In real life, kids need to indicate themselves when they are ready, because it's a matter of physical and mental development and it's something super private and intimate. Also changing nappies - super important for bonding and everything. It hurts my heart to see, how little these people care. Their kids are more like accessories to them, much like the Chihuahuas.
My mom left me in Jamaica and raised 2 doctors kids in Boston. That's how we facilitate the immigration process. My mom is very close to the middle child, who became a successful lawyer. She tells my mom, who she affectionately calls Lally. "Lally anything you need, all you have to do is ask." God bless that child.
It's pointless to immigrate from Jamaica to the US. Most especially if you're a black female. Statistically, black American women have the highest average levels of the stress hormone cortisol of any demographic group in the world. Half-starved black African women, even, have more serene cortisol levels. America is fundamentally a rung down from Africa. It's where blacks who lacked even the power to fend off slave traders ended up. Nor could these black Americans be choosy about WHERE they were enslaved, because the journey across the Atlantic Ocean was pure torture and blacks are also a minority in America. In the big scheme of things, civil rights equal employment/fair housing laws are a joke. I have a B.A. in Economics so I can put them into perspective. These laws succeeded at rehashing the slave system by another name. Especially since blacks are also a minority in America.
There are two main reasons why black American females are under so much chronic stress. One, since the 1960's, most high-income blacks have migrated out of predominantly black neighborhoods into the suburbs. These defectors are overwhelmingly male as men of all races have an income advantage over females, rendering black females largely desolate. By the same stroke, the heightened market competition for white-owned homes automatically triggers supply and demand pricing adjustments. It further elevates the values of white homes and depletes black housing values. Black females are less likely to earn enough money to fill this imploding real estate money pit. So on the whole, civil rights laws are actually disadvantageous to black females in particular. Plus in one of his speeches, Martin Luther King decreed that blacks' love for our enemies should be primarily impersonal and "spiritual" in nature, as opposed to emotional or erotic. That means the US government and general population may scrutinize and regulate your deeply personal intimate desires and relationships BEFORE YOUR CIVIL RIGHTS EVEN KICK IN. That is of course a profound violation which defeats the purpose of said rights. I myself am an ostensibly all-black female with a white father which makes this policy particularly discomfiting. Nor am I privileged, which renders me financially susceptible to slave policies.
Martin Luther King is venerated in America...by our racist government. His barbaric racist motives were strategically understated so as to gloss over them while promulgating the tall tale of his heroism. All that glitters is not gold. Look before you leap. And READ THE FINE PRINT.
And there are some things money can't buy. England is equally to blame for America's "new racism". All black American churches, especially Southern ones, were founded by antebellum slaveholders. The British contributed their suavity and diplomatic skill to help these black preachers deceive their parishioners. Dr. King was a freelance puppet activist who sold his services to the highest bidder. It really doesn't matter whether his masters were of American or British origin. I really hope a large army invades England and sends some white soldiers to pry Kate Middleton's legs open for some ugly, low-caste black guys. Just sayin'.
It's funny how the children lied to the nanny about eating things their parents don't want to, yet the nanny is scolded instead of the children. You can even see the girl smile to the camera satisfied that she put the nanny in some trouble. That's NOT how you teach your children to be good people. The children should feel at least a little ashamed for putting another person into trouble with their lies. The problem with these people is not their immense wealth but their immense stupidity.
it was quite funny that the mom said they didnt know what fanta even means when it was quite clear what they were putting themselves into when manipulating the nanny into getting something they know they arent allowed to get
The children just wanted a soda, which they're never allowed to have. My mom rarely, if ever, let me have soda at that age. It sounds like the woman didn't have any experience with strict diets or keeping junk food out of the house. I would have known not to give them soda and I'm sure I'm not the only one. As for the food portions, has she never cared for young children? She would have had a better idea of how much food to give them if she had cared for children their age before. She's just inexperienced, and she is trying for a difficult nanny position. If possible, she should have researched more before trying.
I'm a vegetarian, but sorry to say those kids are going to head straight for McDonald's the second they are on their own. Why didn't she give her a clear outline of what was expected of her, rather than wait for her to fail. She should've shopped and prepared the 1st meal herself with Maria as she explained their lifestyle, since she's so strict. Marie keeps apologizing, but it's not her fault.
The kids were already sneaky enough to tell the nanny that they have Fanta all the time. The mom is in for a rude awakening the moment they have any kind of independence.
I was never allowed it either and then once I was in high school and driving on my own with a little it money i had from my after school job I ate it like it had crack in it!
OMG the Philippine nanny she is so sweet. I cried when she was talking about leaving her own children with her parents to support them. that's so hard :(
@@raimeyewens7518 Totally 💯 I left my son at daycare when he was 13 months and I cried for six months every time I drope him off because he didn’t wanted to stayed. I can’t imagine a new born. 🥺🥺
@@forestrot666 me neither. Just the thought of it my heart breaks. The fact that I know and seen so many Philippine ladies as Nannies here in Canada. Knowing that they are sacrificing so much is so sad. And btw Philippine’s nannies are the best. They are amazing. 🙏
24:20 💔 to hear Connie, the Filipina nanny, had to leave her 6 and 3 yr old children back in the Philippines with her parents so she could earn enough to get them an education. No words for how wrong this inequality is.
And what time in world history has that not been the case??She didn't have to leave her children at all she chose to.Plenty of parents in the Philippines who are not rich raise happy successful children and they dont leave the country to do so.
@@Nessa___ perhaps there are immigration reasons why. The UK is pretty intense re: visa issues & such... Also, Connie has a network back in the Philippines to help her raise her children- she wouldn't have that support if the kids were in England.
I was horrified when at one point an agency worker interviewing a mother about hiring a tutor for her child, asked her what she wants the child to achieve. Kidding about him winning a nobel prize. The child was sitting there, and nobody cares what he wanted! He was just a vehicle for his mother's ambitions.
The only expectation I have for my kids is to be their best selves. And they're doing it - phenomenally kind humans with very different interests & talents. Expectations/goals/dreams/hopes are double edged swords because if not met, there is shame, guilt, rejection, abandonment, anxiety, etc.
The hairdresser summed it up precisely, time with your babies is soo beyond precious, its hard to imagine giving soooo much of that time to others. This is so sad.
That's what happens when people have kids purely because it is needed to complete the image of a "perfect" family. Like an accessory. Have unfortunately know many who also have kids to fulfill any emotional void left behind by family or husband
Yet people do it all the time!! Even the poor..they give their children up to babysitters whilst they work and then up to the public school system when they are of school age..wake up
The hairdresser lady is so correct: teaching your kids for life is so prescious and helps to bond. what will the relationships look like between the parents and kids in a few years if the parents never really took time for the kids and outsourced almost everything? poor rich people. :(
Insane, simply insane. I couldn’t stop shaking my head. And it’s not envy. I don’t envy them one bit. Having money is a good thing, no doubt, but being as filthy rich as the people featured here, is a burden. It takes away from real human bond. Those mothers might think they’re the most important person in their kids’ life because they make the decisions, but as the violin playing girl said, she calls the nanny when there’s a problem. And then there’s the other girl that said she misses her nanny when she’s gone for two days. You reap what you sow.
@@cynthiawilson5066 Yes it is but...if they have opportunity and good salary they can go home on holidays and that is the best situation for all. They provide their family with very needed income and have fulfilling work. But I could never have someone work for me without going home at least every 6 months. Preferrably every 4 months. Well..I do not have to worry because I cannot afford to even hire someone for a day !
Thank you preach I was thinking the same thing I’ve never fancy or cared for money unfortunately we need to have it to buy things especially way the world economy is right now but I’m glad I see a lot of the comments saying the same thing I couldn’t stop shaking my head it’s absolutely disgusting
My best friend was a nanny for a extremely wealthy family in Texas. They had a newborn baby and another child under two. She stayed for a year or so but had to leave when the children started calling her Mom. She said the parents just treated them like accessories and everything was always for show. They didn’t actually spend any time with the children outside of being in public. It’s really sad.
I had a very similar experience, but them calling me mom didnt make me leave, it was the mom being manipulative, gaslighting me and screaming at me everytime something was out of place. I still feel bad leaving those kids, but I hope CPS can do their job. Doubtful but I hope
@@jess-nd1kz what was she supposed to do!? She was 21 years old. Is she supposed to stay in a job she doesn’t like for someone else’s children for 18 years because she doesn’t want to upset them? Not to mention she couldn’t stay because she was foreign. The children are the responsibility of the parents not the nanny who is barely an adult herself.
@@jess-nd1kz she had to leave. i am sure the biological mother got upset when the kids called her mummy, took offence and let her go. its heartbreaking.
The mom spending more time and care dressing her 7 dogs than she does her kids is where I draw the line. I’m a firm believer that you shouldn’t have kids if you’re too busy to take care of them. I was still relatively happy to see that the mom takes time to pick the right people for her kids and that all their needs are met. It was when I saw her pay more attention to her DOGS that I came back to reality.
Me too. But i think she is better than other parents in this documentary: at least she takes her children with her when she’s flying around the globe, not leaving them at home.
I don't like dogs wearing clothes, but that being said - I didn't find the part where she picked the clothes for their dogs most disturbing. She was, afterall, dressing the dogs together with her children after what they went on a walk together. I'm sure dressing the dogs is a fun activity for the children. Not by far the worst thing shown in this docu in my opinion.
Those children's needs have definitely not been met. They have neglectful parents and that's going to have some consequences. I wouldn't be surprised if it were the personal assistant who located, vetted, and hired everyone else. Why bother having kids if you don't want to do anything with them or have anything to do with them? Sad
I think Heidi's parenting is already backfiring on her. By completely forbidding sweets, sugar, soft drinks and meat she makes it even more tempting for her daughters to try. That's probably why they find sneaky ways to get it anyway, like lying to the Nanny about what they're allowed to have.
My friend would never allow tomato ketchup amongst a myriad of other food items and the one thing they went crazy on when ever they could was tomato sauce. Neither of these kids when they grew up had strict rules around food because they remembered feeling nothing but deprived and sometimes shame - just because their friends could and they were not allowed. They have found a balance that works for them without the strictness being the main focus.
@@t_MattMan Its about the messaging. Kids who have gone through the anti-drug DARE program were found to be more likely to do drugs. The fear and use of the "NEVER" concept tends to bring more curiosity and desire for the forbidden.
I worked at an “independent summer camp” (ie camp for wealthy kids) & the stories of so many of the kids were heartbreaking. There was the 5 yr old from Korea who was sent to camp for weeks to be immersed in the language because his family were moving to America - no one spoke his language at camp so he spent most of his time in frustrated tears & learned all the swear words other kids could teach him. Then there were the brother & sister who had come straight from boarding school to camp for 10 weeks & had not even met their new stepmother. They would go home for a couple of short holidays per year & that’s it. Then there was a young girl, Hannah, who had an anxiety attack because she had volunteered to do a swimming leg for a camp competition & couldn’t do it when the time came, because of her anxiety. And she had tonsillitis & was apparently told that she had to take her medication every day or she could die 😳 She was such a sweet girl & so anxious about achieving & doing everything well that she was tied up in knots of anxiety...at 8 years old. I’ve thought about her a lot over the last couple of decades & hope she has learned to conquer her anxiety. Some of the kids were loved & their parents were involved in their lives, but far too many hardly saw their parents at all.
@@jaiylahjaii I said one kid’s name because I kind of hope that she maybe reads this & realises that one of her camp counsellors actually cared about her enough to think of her numerous times over several decades. No one but her would know who it is as I’ve given no other identifying details.
I love the different moms’ priorities. The socialites want a loving, homely nanny, the vegan mom wants a vegan nanny who skis, and the Russian mom wants a badass nanny who can fight. 😂
I don't like anything about any of these " moms". They are out of touch with reality and I don't even know why they had children if they didn't want to raise them. And to only want unattractive nannies just shows they don't have strong marriages either.
I was a nanny for a few years. Although I love the kids I felt awkward when they said I was "family", but I just assumed that I was just taking the word too literally. Until the last time they left their 4 kids and two dogs for 6 days in my house (because the parents were going on a business trip) and assumed I was doing them a favor because I love them and we were "family". They ended up "tipping me out of the goodness of their heart" (gave me 1/3 of what I deserved) and when I nicely tried to clear the "misunderstanding" the dad literally said that the kids take care of themselves LOL and that I really didn't need to do much (BEAR IN MIND: they're homeschooled, not allowed to play videogames nor watch TV). So yes, I cried out of frustration for a few days and had to pray hard to let any resentment go. I feel sad that some bitterness lingers when I think of that family, even though I still love the kids.
@@suzannelove I hadn't had any issues before, and the mom was usually generous and giving. I took it as a sign to move on to a different job more economically rewarding.
I went through something similar . There's no price to put on the people in your child's life , that have loved and cared for them. Yes before my own , I was a nanny / Auntie . I was an only child . The kids I nannyed in my twenties even looked like me . 2 1/2 -3 years I did this , ( some difficult moments? yes ! ) But we did become family . They came to visit me during some hard times during their puberty. Adolescing. They are young families now and Aunties , Uncle's to my own kids . I was wanting to go to school at that time . I gave it up long story . But to be a part of their childhood priceless . What is Love is what is real and lives on . Bless your life and your lessons. Learning to love yourself so you don't get compromised ? Taken me a lifetime . Those kids may end up picking their life partner because they are more like their nanny or care giver you never know . Love does choose. ❤️💖💜
Nah, child care is a lot of work that's why people who can afford it get help! It's so rude to drop them off and not pay you your worth, "if they practically take care of themselves" why didn't they take them on the trip... Kmt.
I'll tell you the same thing I ALWAYS TAUGHT MY CHILDREN, ask questions and express concerns, take a little time to think over your decision, if you need more info, such as HOW MUCH DOES THIS JOB PAY and WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM ME then ASK! Know what you are getting into BEFORE you agree.
I love that the one family bought their nanny a home, and appreciated her good care of their children. I wish the other family did the same for their nanny so she could be near her children. So many lives would be improved with this kind of compassion and generosity.
It’s rare. I was a nanny part time to a girl a few years ago. I was with this family for 7 years. I was terminated at short notice because the mother gave up work. I got nothing as termination pay. I felt really hurt. I made a difference in their lives. I cooked for them and tidied up. This still hurts today four years later. I’m still friendly with the family and I love the girl dearly. The rich get richer.
I gave up my high paying job when I had my girl because I couldn't imagine leaving her with someone else. This was a shock to watch. These kids have everything in the world except the most important thing every kid needs and craves, the caring attention that only parents can provide.
MOST of them are raised like this... Robin Williams, Trump, Angelina Jolie when she 1st got all the kids, theres many many more. I really think that's why so many deal with major depression and are constantly doing destructive behavior. It's sad, it really is!! I don't envy them at all, it's a hollow life.
My dad did something similar when i was a kid. Me and my brother were having some attitude problems so we went to see a therapist. She revealed to my parents that me and my brother didnt perceive our dad as part of our family. So he left his job and started to spend more time with us. It was like meeting someone for the first time. It took us a long time to construct a good relationship but it was worth it. We may not be as economically privileged as many years ago what we do have a strong family bond. Now that i think about it i feel really really grateful for all the things both my parents gave up to raise me and my brother.
I had 4 kids under the age of 3, the oldest was diagnosed as severely autistic while I was pregnant with the youngest which were twins, and all boys. My husband and I made a decision that I should stay at home and be a mom, unless we had no other option than for me to work. Between the first being born and the last moving out (the oldest still lives at home) I only worked outside the home for about one year total. And we are glad we did it that way. I wouldn't trade the time I got to spend with my kids for any amount of money, and they didn't seem to notice that we weren't rich. They have gone on to college, marriage and fatherhood, so now I get to be a grandma and have fun watching the next generation of our family grow up. It breaks my heart that my grandkids had to go to daycare so early, but we don't live close enough to help out with childcare. But the kids seem to be doing ok with it, and I understand the need for it. But these women seemed to be just selfish about taking the time to raise their own kids. The one seemed more maternal towards her dogs than to her kids, and they were all kind of horrible people.
Exactly! I would use paid help so I can be with my kids. Lol! I know this is the reverse but I'd like to be around my kids most of the time. . Someone else can do the cleaning and the cooking and the washing , etc.,
As a single mother who worked as a nanny for an ultra wealthy family the only thing I ever envied about their life was the free time the mother had. They always chose to spend their time away from their children. I couldn’t understand why when that was the most precious to me and I had to miss out on in order to support my child. The biggest disappointment of my life so far has been having to put my child in daycare. My heart goes out to that nanny who only sees her kids once every two years.
Daycare teaches kids to socialize, make friends, and to share, its workers are required to take child development courses and psychology and most are college students and empty nesters and most daycares today offer STEM workshops and motor skills development aide and ALL daycares have strict safety protocols. Kids love daycare because they're with kids their own age in a casual play setting and play games, build, and do creative projects.
@@ANEEAMA I agree, I'm a daycare worker, to children I am Miss Julie who feeds them healthy snacks, gatekeeper to the cabodle of endless stick on rhinestones, the one who reads with silly voices, and recess mediator, I am anything but their mom, I am basically a caregiver camp conselor snack lady. Only one kid has called me mom and it was as a joke as she calls the pet turtle mom and everyone mom.
@@juliannehannes11 I think you misunderstood her point. It's not that day care is bad for kids, it's that as a working mom she regrets not being able to spend quality time with her own children while having to expend that energy to a strangers child.
@@ReemTahir well having that being her biggest disappointment insinuates that she wouldnt do that again if given another chance. Daycare is important whether the parent likes it or not. Having a child form unhealthy attachments to parents is not good. Its not about what u want, its about what ur child needs
Every Filipino woman I have ever met has been the epitome of kindness and strength. I don't know if it's the culture they come from. Maybe it's that you have to already be that brave: to leave your home behind for a chance at a better life. Whichever it is, Filipino women always have and always will have my utmost repect.
I feel bad for Connie…but more so for her kids. Imagine growing up knowing that your mother had to give her love to other kids and they had a second mother while you had no mom. It’s not her fault because she needed to support her family, but I feel for the kids.
my mom was a therapist and I grew up watching her therapy kids love her and she'd give them attention (I would wait for her after school in the break room) but then when she got off work she couldn't handle talking to me. she admitted to ignoring me on purpose multiple times and it led me to believe that love is paid for bc those kids paid for her attention...
@@tsundere8532 it sucks…I personally didn’t really grow up with my mom. My brothers lived with my mom and I lived with my grandmother on my fathers side. I resented my siblings for being able to have a mom, but I never realized how much they sacrificed for me to be happy until there came a time when we all didn’t have a mom. My father lived with my other sisters and I resented my sisters as well for having a father, but nowadays I want to be closer to my siblings despite where my parents are. I think parents want the best for their kids even if that means sacrificing a bond with their child, but they don’t understand how much of an impact it has on a child. For example there’s a Korean family in another show and the father was absent for 17 years playing baseball. Everyone says he was providing for his children, but why must emotions come after finances. A kid won’t understand that you left them at a young age to put food in the table, but a kid would understand why you can’t buy them expensive toys..but yet you’re always their to support and cheer for them. Of course it is good to be financially stable, but at some point you must make sure your children are emotionally stable. Sorry you went through that..I know how much emotional trauma that gives you and hopefully you are currently healing or have already started healing. Also, sorry for the rant…I’ve just been seeing so many things children have to go through.
I don't think this was her only choice to support her family. This job for posh people doesn't worth it.. being a stranger to your own children... she is just a visitor for them. And honestly most of rich people in this video are not good people. They are so self absorbed it is astonishing. There is nothing wrong to have help, but normal people do it so they could have more quality time with their families when they actually have free time from daily job..
@@blue... obviously…it wasn’t her only choice, but a lot of jobs in the Philippines do not pay enough to take care of a whole family and still have money to send them to study. A lot of women can’t get higher paying jobs as well due to sexism. I also acknowledged that no matter what I feel for the kids and no parent should prioritize other children before their own. Do I feel bad for Connie?..of course, she has a lot of regrets, but she also has a lot of explaining and making up to do although she could never replace those years she left her children with money.
@@bertram5806 I don't know what is her situation in life...or was .. I am not judgmental.. but it doesn't seems logical that you have to sacrifice 20 years not being in your children life .. it is not like they are going to be homeless if she leaves this high payment job.. or are they? university is not worth it honestly..
Umm really? I’m a completely single mom and never have time to see my kid!! I work two jobs just to keep a roof over our head. But I can tell you this- I would much rather hire a professional nanny than to bring my kid to a daycare! If I had the choice to do so
@@victoriachaneledberg302 I think the children spend a lot more time with a nanny than they would with daycare staff.They stay with the nanny not just working hours but social engagements, of which there are many including overnight trips. Daycare could never provide the hours needed so it wouldn't be a case of one or the other. Daycare just couldn't provide the hours of care.
Agreed. It’s true. It’s one thing to be a single mom and work two jobs . But these families are two parents who are billionaires who one of them can stay home or parent . Or do without a nanny like most working families do. Ridiculous.
How traumatic must in be for these kids to grow up and have a vital character from their upbringing up and leave when their services are no longer needed.. can't imagine how horrifying it is for them in their teen years to have their nannies head out permanently.
When I was a child my family wasn't as wealthy as these people but I had a nanny from when I was a baby until about 6 years old. She had to leave and return to her country due to some issues that came up but it was incredibly traumatic. She had been my entire world and it had felt like everything was upside down. As an adult, I still think about her and hope she's ok.
You get used to it, like with every other thing life throws at you. Most likely a small price to pay in return of living such a life. Rich people also have mental problems, like any other people do.
@@michlblacksmith While of course they'll have to find ways to deal with it because they have no choice, this is the person who was essentially taking on the mother-role that is suddenly being ripped away. For all intents and purposes, that would be just as traumatic as a child or teenager losing their mother in a similar way. It could certainly be a trigger that leads to even more mental issues.
My mother used to babysit this rich family child, they child started to get so attached to my mother and even called her mum, didn’t want to be picked up by her own mother she would run to mine so they fired my mother because they where jealous of the child’s attachment to her
My father had to quit his job to stay home with me since my mother's job had health insurance, and he told me raising me and my siblings have been one of the most cherished and best things he has gotten to experience. Watching a tiny human grow into adulthood and progress in life is a blessing and should be cherished.
My mom was a nanny in Manhattan predominantly on the Upper East and West side. one of her charge's parents would disappear for days at a time, I really felt for that little boy, the parents would throw money at any and everything. That little boy ended up spending a lot of time in Brooklyn with us even started talking with a Jamaican accent. My mom went to many playdates and mommy and me classes, the crazy part is not one parent was in any of those classes or dates, it was all nannies. This documentary is so accurate.
There was an emptiness in the young Violin player's eyes... She didn't seem to really love the violin, despite her talent. The young boy who heard his mother say he was to become a scientist gave an epic eye roll. There really is something missing for these kids 💔💔
I worked around rich people doing a public service job. The funny thing happened when I was holding a lady's daughter and playing with her. She had seen how well her daughter was taking a liking to me and asked me who I was and I turned the question back around and asked her who she was because I had been coming to the house for two years and never seen her before. She took offense to that and answered, "I'm her mother." I replied, "Are you?"
@Yanick Otto most people don't get to see their meter reader. So, when they do see you, it's such a surprise to them that it throws them off, a little, with their reaction or response.
My career was very demanding, so I had a live in nanny for the first couple of years after my child was born. One day my toddler called her mama and it stopped me in my tracks. I sat in my beautiful corner glass window office with a gorgeous view and thought how I was missing out on my family life for what? For money? My mom grew up with a staff of help and I still hear her talk about how much fun she had with her nannies, and how she was the favorite over my aunts, etc. I don't recall that sort of affection towards my grandmother. I still keep in touch with my nanny. Thankfully, my mother was more involved. I realized my son's nanny, as much as I got to adore her, was living my life. She was enjoying my house, my child, my pool, my cars, my life. Whilst I was away just working for all that which I would enjoy on spare time. I thought long and hard about my life and priorities. Long story short, I retired in my mid 30s and have been a stay at home mom since. There isn't a dinner I miss with my family now. My son once asked me if I've ever regretted leaving my "posh" life to be a "soccer mom" per say, not one bit! Its the best decision I've ever made. Gucci doesn't give me random hugs bc it loves me, or build memories.
I wish you were able to share that insight with many of these women. Particularly the ones who bust their butts working at high demand jobs to have a certain lifestyle that they don’t really get to enjoy.
@@denisenoe7746 True. Others will have really great Dr's and Nurses by their death beds, hopefully not regretting missing on love and affection from their children.
@@redrightsue1346 You can't know their kids love them less. Donald Trump delegated parenthood and has good relations with his kids. I respect your preferences but you can't dictate what other moms choose. Their kids may love them for selecting such good caregivers.
Irene Major, former model and wife to oil tycoon, describes her nanny like a sister to her but is depicted as a narcissist with no awareness or care for her nanny who is giving up raising her own children to raise hers. With the amount of money, her and her husband have they could surely afford to pay for visits for the kids so that her “sister” can see her kids more than once ever two years.
Agreed! That woman was the worst!! She needs to understand that she’s NO DIFFERENT than the wealthy plantation owners that had slaves. Her mindset is the same. Disgusting.
yes!! That woman has a ludicrous amount of money. It would be a drop in the ocean to even BRING her children to her to live in the UK. There has to be work/life balance and it's the responsibility of the employer to create an equal relationship between the two.
I would like to know if Irene came from money and not from some shanty village. Funny how these sort of women marry rich and forget their roots. Humble down lady, that would make you so much more attractive and earthly. Tacky gold furniture in that house. no taste whatsoever
I'm only four minutes in, and I'm already struck by the sadness radiating from Nina's daughter... Further in now and all I can think about is how I've yet to see an authentic emotion from anyone. They talk of opulence, glamour, luxury, and all I can see is neglect, fakeness and control. Those poor, poor children...
Well, if those clever scientists manage to tweak the proto types of the artificial wombs, those parental outsourcers won’t even be inconvenienced carrying their babies for 9 months, the machine will do it all, and then it’s straight over to nannies and other staff. 🤢
There are a lot of nannies from the Philippines in the middle east. I've seen families that eat at a restaurant at 2 separate tables: 1 for the husband and wife, and 1 table for the nanny and kids. I've seen a preschool child cry at a school event on stage and wouldn't stop crying when the dad came up or the mom came up. Finally the nanny came up to hold the child and the child stopped crying.
I was thinking the same thing, so self possessed. Really, she had to sacrifice being with her own children to support them and you think it’s not for money she loves your kids that much. She should be ashamed to let those words come out her mouth.
This is the grandiose level her delusions have reached, she probably thinks her 💩 doesn't stink anymore as well, this woman is laughable and devoid of soul her husband's wealth stripped her of all her humanity
I nannied with a special service to support myself while I lived in Hawaii. I got to play at the resorts like 4 Seasons and such. I actually was not asked back by one family early on because I was "too pretty". I was absolutely shocked. I am quite average but I was surfing every day so I was quite in shape. I didn't even wear make-up, dressed in plain baggy surf clothes. After that my boss suggested I 'ugly myself' so I would do an ugly hairstyle, I went to a thrift store and bought ugly tacky clothes, etc. I was in the top 5 nannies for the service and to give an idea of the $$$, I comfortably supported myself working 4 days a week!!! They provide all food, tip in the hundreds when the kids love you, and especially when they came home late drunk haha. I just felt so bad for the kids. Many were like void little dolls, not even making eye contact until a few days when they realized I actually cared and then they just transform into their amazing selves, they soak up the attention like they have never been really seen before. Often the children would hang on to me and cry their last day, especially after the week or longer trips. Many would beg their parents to hire me. It was so sad. Especially because with the insecure moms it makes them really turn on you fast. It is a delicate balance of caring for the kids but not giving them so much that the parents have to fire you because they have to be #1. With older kids I always went all out because they have already been through this and know to say nothing so I wouldn't get fired. Dealing with wealthy people is basically swimming in a mine field where everything is perfect on top where things can be seen, but underneath is a plethora of unspoken rules, scandal, and so much crap you would never even believe it unless you see it! I am thankful for my simple life everyday after experiencing that!!! *edit: my simple life
What a perfect way to put it. "swimming in a mine field where everything is perfect on top where things can be seen, but underneath is a plethora of unspoken rules, scandal......" 100%. I am with a family who is "wealthy" by normal standards. Not ultra rich like these people. Everything looks great from the outside with children who are well clothed in trendy names and play all the rich kid sports like lacrosse and tennis, and go to the private school even though they live in the top school district in the state. Their house from the outside is very large and the gardeners do a nice job keeping up the curb appeal. But they are absolutely a hot mess of forgetting appts and sending me late to things regularly and rushing the kids from one activity to the next just to have everyone else deal with them, and have them fall exhausted into bed each night at 10pm to get up at 6am and do it all again. The kids don't even shut the drawers of their dressers after getting clothing much less clean up after themselves. But on the surface, Mom and Dad are doctors. The kids do every sport known to man. They have two nannies, myself and another lovely older woman. They belong to the country club. They have playdates daily. It's perfect right????
@@megan2349 exactly!!! When I see wealthy people's life-style portrayed as some amazing thing I should idolize and spend my life trying to attain I'm just SMH. Also celebrities and their 'clout'.... *no thank you.* My life may not be glamorous or 'posh' compared to many, but I am free of debt, I get to be exactly who I am 24/7, and I put my family first, not my public, because I don't have any public 😂. Just how I like it ☺️. I now clean the houses of wealthy and extremely wealthy people, I charge whatever I want and they gladly shell out because I do a great job. It's perfect because I make more than I did in my dental profession, I make my own hours, and I don't deal with any drama at all. I make my own contract and make them follow it (they always try to guilt me into cleaning up Fifi's poopoo from the Persian rug or Fiona's piddle from the marble in the sunroom but I'm like "check the contract! "I DO NOT CLEAN: bodily fluids or excrement from anything living or deceased, or what it came from. It will be left where it lies. I do not offer an add-on fee/service for any hazardous materials." means *no Fifi poo,* period! No means no! Lol 😂 I leave it right there where it lies. Golf rules 😂). As for the family you nanny for, I hope you are able to enjoy the kiddos and put up solid boundaries with the parents to protect yourself emotionally amd legally. I learned that lesson the hard way trying to be helpful, trying to be nice. It is so important to set really clear boundaries and stick to them. Any time I have strayed from that advice I have regretted it! All the best to you! 💞
I really hope some of these families read these comments and have their eyes opened. They need a wake up call. Sometimes I’d like to see a reality show of these “ultra posh” families losing all of their wealth and see how they deal with real life and *gasp!* parenting their OWN children 😱 They’d probably end up LOVING their new, messy, poor life.
That mother who said she WANTS her son to go to Cambridge or Oxford and she WANTS him to be a scientist is probably the worst kind of parent. Kids are more than just what YOU want them to be. They’re their own person and they have their own dreams and aspirations in life. Parents should GUIDE and not FORCE kids into what they want to be in life or what they want to do. It’s just sad seeing when she said she wants him to be a scientist, he rolled his eyes and sighed like he’s probably heard her saying that to every person she’s ever introduced him to. It’s just sad, very sad.
Very sad indeed. He's being treated as if he's some kind of product off an assembly line. Just in that quick moment though, I sense he's going to be an amazing man one day. Maybe he will writhe against the control and become a great person despite it all.
the nanny with the vegan family...i nannied for a family with a pretty strict, healthy diet and the kids telling her something is ok and not knowing if it's true or not hits me right in the feels!! It is a thing that happens alot!!
The man that bought a house for their nanny was fair and generous, giving back to someone so important in their lives. On the other hand, that other lady could surely afford paying a holiday for the nanny to see her children or bring them over for a visit at least once a year -I guess there are enough guestrooms in the castle? I have a workaholic neighbour that has enough money to afford a live-in nanny for her two children and a maid. However, she's had 3 different nannies and a dozen different maids in the last 3 years. I think the reason is because she sees them as replaceable objects at her service, not as people with their own problems, needs, dreams, etc. They play such a vital role, they are part of the family! I think showing an interest in them as human beings and being generous says A LOT of who you are. Little details like taking them out to a nice restaurant in their birthday is nothing for a rich person but means a lot to the nanny, makes her feel special, appreciated and grateful. Wish more people could see it this way, is a win-win situation for everybody.
Agree. No matter the difference in status, you should always treat people with respect and consideration. I am surprise that the overseas nanny didn't get to go home once a year to see her own children. I know a family that had a lived in maid for over ten years - it was in her contract to be flown back to her country once a year to see her family. I think it's the least of what the rich can do to show some humanity.
I knew a family like this, they would pay for their nanny’s kids to come visit every summer and winter holiday. She stayed with the family for over 15 years
@@_salzberri I've never heard of this arrangement. By far, it's the most compassionate. The children don't lose out too much by not having mommy in their lives. They get to see how she lives and how she works for money. Everyone gains a good perspective. A happy story.
@@mabuhayPinay yeah ikr! I respected tf out of it and the kids (two girls) loved the “vacation” because they got to travel to the family’s home over the years. So even though their mom was gone they still found a compromise for them.
@@Aj-uu5is the filipino nanny you mean,Connie ?Well,it is not the rich woman´s fault that Connie spread her legs , popped 3 kiddies who she needs to support, and live far from where they are. Or did the rich woman force Connie to pop kiddies? NOPE. Poor people should not have kids. They just let them suffer from day 1.
I thought Heidi was *almost* somewhat normal until she just magically expected Marie to read her mind regarding how and what to feed her children. If you have a certain plate or meal structure, like x amount of vegetetables and x amount of main course, make a little diagram for your employee! Or just have a conversation, for goodnesssake. Moreover, that was an INCREDIBLY awkward and inappropriate to discuss in front of the children around minute 27. First of all, if you say a child (or an adult for that matter) cannot have something, they'll just want it even more lol. And you can see on the girls' faces that they KNOW Marie is being reprimanded... Just so CRINGE.
on my departure I would leave Hersey kisses under their pillow! That is just over the top to expect this nanny to know it all. And her discussing in front of the children in this way is red flag of what she would mostly likely face, lack of respect and understanding. Wait till the kids get older - they will eat sugary treats and there is not damn thing this mother can do about it.
Any time you are leaving your children or some aspect of their care (for example, their meals) to someone else, the very first thing you should do is to give clear instruction on what you expect and what needs to be done. It was ridiculous that she didn't have a more in depth conversation about the dietary expectations in advance of actually having Marie in charge of their food/drink intake.
Plus she needs to lighten up a little. I personally hate fizzy drinks & junk food, but let them try it once in awhile or they’ll develop a secret addiction to it later in life. And to just let them be kids! Btw, Fanta was developed by Nazis. I’m not kidding.
The super rich love to nitpick others, it's their great joy. What else are they to do with their time? If they gave full instructions, they'd miss out on their fun.
"She doesn't do it for the money..." Anybody else hear _"...because we barely pay her as it is already."_ I really hope Mrs Posh lady is paying Connie what she is worth. She's talking care of 5 kids! I've heard horror stories of nannies -especially the nannies that go to live as a foreigner in a strange country, who are being taken advantage of by their employers. I really hope her salary was increased with each child she saw come into this world.
@@ruthmaier755 I think Yanire is right with her number. But even 3 would be a good number for an increased salary. I babysittet 3 kids for some time and they were lovely and kind, but it was still a lot of work - and babysitting is not even close to being a full-time nanny.
Compared to the Austrian lady she seemed nice but it was very obvious she has no idea how much her nanny has had to sacrifice in her life to be there. Like don't think shes a bad boss shes just incredibly oblivious to what regular ppl go through.
I was feeling really burned out with parenting before I watched this. Now I feel grateful. Yes, I sit by the trampoline for hours, listen to endless questions and chatter, and am going grey from stress. BUT. I won't live with the regret of farming out my flesh and blood. 😭
I went to a very "posh" boarding high school in Europe. I was not "posh" just lucky that my father's company paid because of remote location of work. (Africa). It was enlightening. Some kids had been sent for convenience, some just because of wealth, some to be kept away from "problems" (family or political) but just a mish mash of young kids away from home. How quickly you become family...and it was not a bad thing. From all corners of the earth. I learned quickly not to envy wealth. Some were old money and some nouveau riche. The great equalizer was we were all young and away from home. Truly we were the motley odds. I came out knowing I was lucky to have a "normal" family with extended family that were just good ordinary people who were never too busy to be thrilled for visits and embrace with big hugs.
I really appreciate your comment. You came out of the experience with appreciation for your normal and extended family; in other words, relationships w people who care and love you (& vice-versa) are important to you. You said wealth is not to be envied -- I agree on that. Having lots of money puts you in a position of power. Unfortunately, having more translates to being better (than everybody) - which is false. If you are lucky enough NOT to fall for this, then you can use this power to help others, such as allowing your Filipina nanny to return to her home country every several months to visit her own children; hugging your kids tightly and every so often, doing the nightly ritual and tucking them in bed; asking your chauffeur what his family needs the most and delivering it. The consequences of these acts will return to you a thousand-fold because then, you would gain a new appreciation for what your staffers do & sacrifice for your family and they in turn will want to do a better job. And more will be gained by you, if you put some effort and do the messy work of caring for your children every once in a while -- you can be present to them, you can get to know them, you can see them in all their glorious and miserable traits - and at the end of the day, they are hugged and know that they are accepted.
I am SO happy to be "just" average......could not imagine being 8 years old and having 12 tutors and none of them is your Mom......what an insane amount of pressure these kids must endure. Really sad.
I also feel sorry for the kid with the Asian mom, he doesn’t have a say in his future; and the Russian girl, she has been playing violin since 5 years old because the parents decided that she’s good at it. SMH
@@thienkimnguyen1260 it triggered me so much when the Asian mom said she had dreams for his future and him becoming a scientist. is she a scientist herself? does she know what it even takes? if it's not something she would do herself, it's very likely he won't have inclinations towards it either, he may not enjoy it, he may have talent for something else, why don't these people ever treat their kids as human beings that have their own free will and not some form of investment?
@@Kementeri Exactly. Those kind of expectations can be detrimental. I seriously hope the kid grows into a young man who pursues his chosen path. I don’t hope for the mom to change because people like her are hopeless in changing, it’s too deep-rooted in them.
Insane that these people would agree to do this documentary because all it did was prove that rich people are completely out of touch with the normal human experience and are possibly raising a bunch of entitled children with no ability to form normal relationships when you’ve taught them to offload all relationship burdens on a paid professional instead of dealing with any difficulties yourself. The super rich couldn’t survive 1 second as a normal person, and I only find disgust in my heart for them.
The children grow up not even knowing their own parents !!Poor excuse ..They r raising a generation of Borderline personality disorders !! Quite sad really.
When she said that the maids and the nannies had to be ugly, so her love wasn't distracted, I laughed so hard! One of our anesthesiologists hired a Russian nanny, because she was brilliant, but very plain-looking. She was so taken by her good character that she paid for her to complete additional degrees to be a certified nurse anesthetist. The kids grew too old to have a nanny, and she met a wonderful and handsome man. They married, and she has 3 children of her own. She is such a smart and lovely person.
The vegetarian mom is the most evil kind of employer. She didn't TELL that poor woman what she wanted then was all huffy when she didn't get what she wanted.
It felt to me as if she knowingly set her up. And this in front of her children and the TV - you coud see how uncomfortable Marie felt in this scene at the table.
"we established she's good at playing the violin" - right. and her dead face while being forced to play an instrument she doesn't enjoy tells enough. parents who force their lifedreams on their children like that are the worst. each human >individual< needs to flourish and be exactly that - individual
I agree to some extent, I know a lot of these people know too much but! That family seemed very kind to their nanny, provided her a house, wanted the daughter to have discipline and not be a spoiled brat. Also, many musicians make funny faces or don't look happy. Not saying she's happy, but at the end of the performance she smiled so I don't think she hates it too much.
Well i didnt have to play violin, or participate any sort of afterschool classes and i grew up having No idea what do i like to do in life, so i think it’s better to push children to try different activities.
I completely agree. Parents like that are awful. I was shocked by the mother"s definition of her her role. "I'm the mother, I decide." Not that I disagree but ... thats' all ? To her there's nothing else to being a parent ? Geez. Unfortunately for the poor girl, I found out that this particular story didn't end well. Scrolling through the comments, I came upon this : Rūta P. Did some googling about these families and found out that the violin girl died about 3 years ago from overdose: "Katya Tsukanova was hosting a party for friends in June this year, a few days after turning 17, when she appears to have overdosed on a combination of drugs." So young, so sad.. Looks like you were right. The poor girl was not happy at all. Agree with Rūta P. it is so sad.
A girl punches her brother with a boxing glove, he cries and no one is there to hug and comfort him and discipline her. No nanny, no chauffeur, no chef, no assistant, no siblings and most important no parents...meanwhile mum is talking about her (she said well mannered-one makes fun of chauffeur's accent, other hits her brother) children's modeling in her catalog. Isn't that sad?
That’s the thing though. While no one was there to comfort that little boy, there definitely was a camera capturing every moment of his distress. Meanwhile mommy is hamming it up in another room and the father is just a picture on the wall.
Im confused? Why does he need comforting? Kids or siblings play fight and end up hurting each other all the time. It's part of growing up. Running to comfort a child over something so trivial is not a good thing. If anything that is the one normal, non spoiled thing going on in this video.
@@mrshappilymarried1 If they don't have kids who's gonna inherit it all? Some random strangers who don't have their blood or not going to expand that business? Point is: They don't parent even three hours per day, which is really sad.
While the vegan mom chastised the nanny’s meal in front of her daughters, damn woman, she totally ignored the fact that her daughters loved what the nanny had prepared. One girl had almost cleaned her plate and the other daughter was clearly enjoying it. I bet she finished that plate of pasta. Vegan mean mom needed to give the nanny a list of meal plans including the recipes to be used. The nanny said in the interview she could prepare anything with a recipe. Also did you notice the girls totally ignored what their mother was saying giving the impression they had heard their mom say all this so often, probably to other employees-where is their last nanny?-they just shut their mother out. All they cared about was getting that pasta down like it was going to be taken away at any moment. All vegan mean mom had to say was, give them less, add a nice salad, and it’s a great meal. Also a compliment about how much the girls were liking what the nanny had made them would have been appropriate. Kindness doesn’t seem to be part of this mother’s make-up.
She seems to be that kind of person that enjoys letting others run headlong into any trap possible. She doesn't give people vital information, so she can chastise them for doing it wrong afterwards. Seems to me there isn't much "spiritual" in that woman if she draws her energy and joy from others failing.
The mom of 5 who employs Connie truly takes advantage of having 5 children and the love they would give her and her husband. Her saying she can “go party anywhere in London anytime” really irritated 😤 why have 5 children if you’re just going to pawn them off on other people???
At the same time, the exact same thing could be said about the dad? They are not even in this documentary? We still expect women to run the household and do the childcare?
In all honesty you should be able to do both. There needs to be a balance. Just cause you have kids doesn't mean your personal life stops and it's okay to have a nanny but damn..the whole "I don't change a diaper" and Just the overall look of using your kid as like human prop is crazy
She has the money to have help so she can do that. Don't hate on her. She doesn't party everyday all day but when she wants to go to one she can. Just like you or any other mother who pays for a baby sitter to go out for the night. She just pays full time
I’m not a parent yet, but one day I may decide to try to be a daddy. Waking my child up in the morning, driving them to school, picking them up, listening to them about their day, and helping them with their homework would be the greatest parts of my day and life. I want to be there on the beautiful days, the good days, the bad days, and the ugly days. All of those experiences are what it means to truly be a dad. Those times when I’ll wake up in the middle of the night to comfort them when they are having a nightmare and are crying. The times when I would normally rest but instead take up my child’s hobbies and play with them. To the day I’ll be crying watching them go off to college and one day watching them get married. Even as a prospective dad I can’t imagine missing any of it. One day we’re all gonna be on our death bed and leave our loved ones behind. It doesn’t matter if we were rich or powerful. What matters is love. If I have kids and the day comes that I pass I want them to remember me, their dad, not by the material goods or money I gave them, but by the constant love, support, and presence I showed them. Peace and love to all the parents and prospective parents out there 💙🤙.
The lady restricting those girls' food has an eating disorder & is imposing one on both of her children by force. There are vegan cakes & chocolates that are healthy & tasty; there's no reason not to give that to them... It's ridiculous...
Yep. They'll have to likely get therapy in their 20s to deal with the ED, too- that happened to me. Parents can't teach what they don't know (ie how to have a healthy relationship with food).
i have rich cousins who grew up under parents like her (my mother's brother and his wife). My cousins didn't stop eating that kind of food, they just became sneaky about it and would make deals with people who worked in their house or people who visited. Whenever they came to my house my mother would buy them a ton of "unhealthy" food and they just resented their parents for all of it.
My workplace caters to all kinds of diets, including vegan options.. There's many tasty vegan foods so even if she wanted her kids to be vegan she can still allow them desserts and not make them hate vegan food (I think it's kind of obvious they won't be vegan if they had a choice 😂
I have a relative who is raising vegan children. Her third child was a premie who was fed a special non vegan formula and diet for her first two years. That child three years younger is bigger than the five year old and the two year old was born two months premature and VERY tiny baby. The five year old is bearly talking, very resentful and always hungry. She can clearly see she is being treated unfairly. None of us can understand how the parents can not see this. Honestly, if it wasn’t for the cheats they get at parties I think the older ones would not be well at all as sick and stunted as they seem as it is. Recently, a few vegan parents who starved their children to death were put in prison for life. So finally the precedent has been set. Depriving ones self as an adult of essential nutrients is one thing but starving children is quite another.
The irony in her situation is that while she’s caring for the kids of an absentee mom, she has become an absentee mom. I get that the situation or different but the irony is there.
It’s super difficult not feel judgment toward the mother with the Filipino nanny. She can only go home every two years…either they are horribly stingy or a bit cruel imo.
I firmly believe that was a sales gimmick. These people are coming to her because they don’t know how or don’t have time to potty train their kids themselves. They perhaps either think or have convinced themselves that it is too hard. So they turn to hiring a professional to do it but they have to feel good whilst doing so. By her saying that there is a potty training problem, even when there isn’t one, it makes these parents feel better about hiring her because they feel like they are doing something good, and that they are justified in not potty training their child themselves.
Taking advantage of their ignorance. These people are so sad, they don't know how to raise children and a lettuce has more iq than them. They need to be taken srsly, so by making their rich problems a worldwide epidemic they don't feel so pathetic. They have to feel understood and safe, so you just sell them whatever, so they can be happy and they give you money they don't need for something they don't actually need, 'cause they just can't be bothered. They want their """"problem"""" solved.
I was a full-time nanny/babysitter here in the States, I was always treated like a servant, if anything went wrong even if I wasn't there It was always my fault, one family I was with full-time for over 11 years since the oldest was a few weeks old, that was over 30 years ago, I loved those 3 children, still do, but unfortunately they turned into snobs just like their parents, one of them married last fall, I was not invited, broke my heart, there's hidden abuse too, you're paid peanuts, one family called me Nanny, no name, you don't have to be rich to mistreat those who are loving and caring for your most precious possessions - your children!
If Connie treats those kids so lovingly imagine how much she must miss her own children and how much her children are missing their mum. So sad when a parent has to move away to support a child and can't be by their side
As someone who grew up with nannies, i'm absolutly sickened and revolted how these kids are treating the people who work for them!!! I have a very close relationship with my nanny cus she's been with my family literally for my whole life, we are no where near as wealthy as these family’s in this video, but I could could NEVER imagine treating her or her family or any one of a """"lower class""""" with an absoulte lack of humanity. Absolutely digusting. That's all I wanted to say. How horrible. Their parents are raising them to be horrible people
I spent my early years being in the care of a live in nanny, although it was nothing near as posh as professionally trained nannys. She was absolutely lovely. After I was born (third child) my mom had to work and had little time to look after me, thus the idea of a nanny was brought up. It was fantastic. I had two moms essentially. I think that there is a healthy balance to it though, if all the important milestones are left to the nanny to take care of, there will naturally be distancing between parent and child. I’m glad that while my mom was busy, she specifically and intentionally spent time with me. Through this I’ve always understood my mom was busy and respected that and I’ve never felt neglected. So in summary I will say that having a nanny can be a very helpful and beneficial thing if it is done in the right balance. I still speak with and love my nanny today, 19 years later.
I feel so bad for the Russian mother, she seems very sweet and like she’s been through a lot. I also like that she described the woman who unfortunately ended up stealing from her as extra help as it shows she’s involved in her kids lives and as a single parent, just needs some extra help. I feel like she, far more so than the other mothers featured in the video, actually needed the help she was seeking since she was after security for herself and her kids.
The notion of paid staff being "like family" reminded me of an elderly patient my mother assisted some years back. This woman had spent decades caring for this family, their children, their home, and they told her she was family. She believed them. Now an old woman, she became ill and had to be hospitalized for a couple of months. When it was time for her to be released, they didn't want her back -- she had no home to go to. I guess her membership in their family hit its expiration date. My mother, who was part of discharge planning for the hospital, had to tell this woman that she couldn't go back to what she considered her home. I don't remember where she wound up being placed but just remember thinking how much of a gut punch it must have been for someone who actually believed her rich employers when they said she was family.
Wow that is freaking brutal… it kind of reminds me of one of the last scenes in the movie ‘Midsommer’ when two cult members are being set ablaze inside of a small cottage as part of a ritual. They give the guys a “potion“ that will “ make them feel no pain“ when the flames touch them. Needless to say it doesn’t work and the look of betrayal on the guy’s face when he realizes that everything he had believed his entire life was all a complete lie. I couldn’t even imagine feeling that way in real life. So tragic it makes my stomach turn.
rich people most of the times are scimpy ,they can pay thousands for a stupid ,ugly dress to wear on ,but they don't want to pay enough their employees!that's the reason they make so much money!they want only to earn money but never to spend them on others!
If your child has specific dietary restrictions and you're bringing in someone who knows nothing about them to prepare their food, it's absolutely ridiculous to expect them to just KNOW all the specific tiny details - especially when it's a diet that's alternative to the mainstream. The issues could have been avoided if she just wrote down or explained clear instructions on what is and isn't allowed and what serving sizes to prepare. I could never handle this, the complete lack of instruction and clarity would create so much anxiety that it'd make me ill.
Yeah i thought that vegan mom was kinda stupid. Yes its 48hrs trial but if u hv no specific instructions of the dos n donts ie list them out woman!! How the h*** did she expect of the nanny. Ure diet is ABNORMAL.. and serving portion etc.. id ran as far away as i can. But the nannys hair is outrageous. Not tied up not combed. It looked oily dirty and i bet theyre all over the place...and the co that recruited her DO NOT HV A STD at all... so... yeah But i like the african goddess n her nanny, they more cordial and i sense warmth in their household.
She said Connie was a parent of two, moments later it's revealed she's a parent of three. She doesn't even know her own nanny, who is like the second mom to her children. I'm not sure what to think of this, but I know I think it's sad for any kid to miss out on being with their parents.
No, no. I listen to it multiple times, and she does have 2 kids. 2 girls I believe. She left them when the older one was 5 (she said 6, no 5 that's why you thought its 3 kids), and the other kid when she was 3. Now they are 22 and 25.
@@midoriioyama9548 she said she's worked with them for 8 years...her kids were at the very youngest, 14 when taking the job...also it was a boy and a girl.
The logic, understanding and respect the Russian investment banker showed to the nanny (by buying her a home) is notable. It shows his bond with his child is of great personal importance. He’s not just saying he cares, he demonstrated it. An admirable quality. He’s correct one of the best investments he’s made.
@@anovemberstar yeah my 1st thought is he bought his side woman a house to keep her quiet. There's no way he bought her a house just because he's kind. He's definitely having an affair with her!
That’s unfortunate that you see the world in that false way. My husband and I would absolutely buy a home for our child’s nanny if they were with us for 13 years and were helping us to raise our child in a nice way. We both have extremely busy and demanding jobs and a nanny can become part of your family. My own nanny was like family to us. Of course you want to help your staff and their family too when they become that close!
What angered me more than anything was they did not help the Asian woman clean up that mulch. Where I come from in the southern U.S, you are never too important to clean up your own mess. What is wrong with these people?
Exactly! The driver and the PA were as bad as the employer for not lifting a finger. And then the PA made the excuse that 'oh we just do what Nina says, she (the maid) does all the dirty jobs no one wants to do'. Really sad.
Yeah all these people make me genuinely sick to my stomach. They are more or less exactly the same everywhere you go, and with very few exceptions. I have more in common with somebody who speaks a different language and has a completely different culture than I have with somebody from my own country who has never had to wash a dish or change a dirty diaper
I felt so sorry for that young boy whose mom said "I want him to be a scientist" What if he wants to be an artist or designer or anything else he wants to be? The control over that boy will be overwhelming and likely have devastating repercussions in his future, the poor kid already looked bewildered!
There is a girl in my class who ALWAYS obsesses over her grades. She is relieved when she gets a grade good enough for her parents. She laughs it off and think it’s weird I’m not having my parents know all my grades and results in school( we’re 18). I think it’s sad because she has to become a doctor for someone else
@@johannabagelius4177 I don't envy her! I've learned from my own life experience and from that of having raised three children that most people will NEVER be happy doing something unless they're doing it because they enjoy it or because they can reach a goal of THEIRS by doing it. Doing things to make true loves happy usually makes YOU happy, but parents have never fit into that category, at least for me. I'm sorry she's in that situation!
@Samiya Masih It would be different if the boy wanted to be a scientist, but it was pretty obvious from his facial expressions that he couldn't care less about being a scientist, that was all his mom's ambitions for him, not something he wanted for himself.
I never thought that having your mom full time with you and having your dad working hard and telling stories after dinner with a cup of tea is the luxuries that no one can buy. Once my father was one of the richest man in the country, after our country fall in flames of war, my parents travelled to another country. I and my siblings were born refugees, and we had a small house with very very much love and care. I cry when I remember my old days.
Lovely memories... When our parents love us unconditionally, it means we were absolutely wealthy and fancy life style than any rich people in the world ❤️
These children are beautiful, as all children are. I hope that these nannies, tutors, and bodyguards can love and raise these children to be wonderful adults.
Just finished watching a Real Stories video about child poverty before this video auto-played and the wealth disparity and how children are born into vastly different circumstances is heartbreaking.
No one needs to be poor. There are people who have enough wealth to change many people lives but selfishness and self serving is too great. So, in a world of plenty people needlessly suffer.
As long as there exist income inequality, the smartest thing for poor folks to do is not have offspring & thus not subject their poor children to poverty & potential abuse! From a child right's perspective, only those who can afford to properly provide for a child in terms of sufficient education (without relying on the state) and proper training for a wholesome & fulfilling life experience should have kids. Poor folks having kids is just dumb & perpetuates the cycle of poverty & income inequality!
My brother and I had a nanny each and my mother had strict instructions on diet, we were vegetarians. As soon as she left for work, nanny made us fried eggs, plenty of rice and hotdogs (they were free to shop for their food preferences). We were very happy during Breakfast! The times with our nannies were so much joy, I called mine mama. The down side is, my mother and I were not very close but she was just working very hard to give us a good life. Nannies are a blessing because you get an extra person loving you. My parents helped two of them finish college degrees for all the love they gave us.
@@clareruth3588 lol, they all do it. Believe me when they go to their friends houses they aren't following your rules lol. Btw, I'm a by choice vegetarian since I was 13, I DON'T force it on my daughter or anyone else. Kids need the protein and the substitutes will never be enough for them to grow properly. I'm also speaking from experience here. . Id never force my beliefs onto others. Edit, lemme clarify. . We had chickens when I was a kid, one day we came home from school and noticed half the chickens were gone.... There was 4 of them in our freezer and she had sold the others after they were butchered. . . She tried to feed it to us that night and that just destroyed me!! Can't handle meat to this day and I don't eat fish either. I'm 34 now with a ten yr old daughter. Maybe that makes the difference tho because mine was caused by a traumatic experience of my mom trying to feed our friends to us. If that makes sense
No wonder so many of these kids grow to be narcissist. This was so sad to watch. When I was a child my parents were very wealthy in Africa. I was told my parent's were so detached that when I cried they will wait for the nanny to come pick me up. I was their first born, and they never spend anytime with me. When I grew up they were still very detached. Never even asked me how was school, or how was I feeling. My aunt brought me to America at the age of four. She and the rest of the family found me to be a strange child, because I never cried or asked for my parents. I was so detached they said.
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How sad that the little girl in the car implied that their driver’s accent was somehow inferior to theirs simply because it was different. The parents have clearly instilled their own prejudices in them from an early age.
I actually loved his accent.... much better than their stuffy, nasal accents.
I wonder how that girl will react when she hears the many accents throughout England.
The driver handled that so well!
Result of being enclosed in a circle of entitledness. When I met my rich boss’ child for the first time they did not say hello, they said “how are you from Europe with that skin color” (my US boss hired me from western EU). No one corrected her so after some silence I had to explain my family history
It’s not the kids fault, they usually mean no harm at all. The parents need to do a better job
Very telling that the children don't even consider them English. Some really deeply ingrained (learned) prejudices there. Which is ironic, given that their mother's own accent doesn't really sound like it's English either.
My dad once said: "some people are so poor, but so poor, that the only thing they have is money. Take that from them and there's nothing left. Just a shell of a human being."
Well said
Excellent! Never heard that one and will save. My Dad told me " A beggars pride is that he is not a thief "🤗
A very wise Man 🙏🇨🇦❤️
Well said!!
You would love the song Just Visiting, by wookiefoot
I wish they showed more of the dads in the pictures too. They only seemed to have villianized the moms. Dads are also equally responsible for taking care of their children.
Very true! But im assuming these moms were single moms because… i dont think i ever saw a dad in those 50 mins or so
Agree
@@liad0x Well at least one of the mothers said they wanted the nanny and maid to be ugly so that their "love doesn't have to get distracted once". The boss of the nanny and butler agency also said " many mothers, they prefer not too beautiful nannies." So based on that they are not single parents. Some of them also speak of their husbands.
@@KNYD that comment by one of the women more sounded like possible boyfriend to me, not really a husband. For example like i want to be the prettiest in this house, if i ever bring a man into this house he shouldnt be distracted. But if she meant her husband then yikes!!! I mean they clearly have a horrible relationship if she gets insecure by a not ugly nanny so it would make sense for them to be used to old sexist gender roles.
@@liad0x She was wearing a wedding ring.
Connie's story broke my heart. The fact that she had to leave her children and become an essential stranger to them, just to break the cycle of poverty, is insane to consider. I'm glad that her children, in particular her daughter, won't need to make the same sacrifice now that they have university degrees.
hers is a story of so so so many
Can you imagine what a blessing it is for her to have her job?
My heart broke when Connie describes leaving her children in her home country to take care of other people's children to provide a better life for them. This world...:(
So awful. I can’t imagine not being able to see my kids for weeks at a time, much less years! That is absolutely heartbreaking.
Dude I actually cried. We do the same in South Africa. But the nannies do not abandon their kids. Sometimes the employers even let kids stay with them and be friends with the kids. And pay for their schooling. If the employers have the means. It's like one big family. And the babies kids are not seen as less and do no miss out on opportunities. I was truly disgusted to see this still happening in the world.
Warren Buffett embarrassed
The nanny was more heartbroken for leaving her own kids and raising someone else then the mother that want cocktail parties and don't give a dam
@@cassygray1343 it's the same thing .... both woman are abandoning their children so they can work and build a better life the only difference is one is so much more successful then the otherw therefore they have the money to have their children taken Care of at home where they'll probably see them throughout the day but they also have to work to be able to live like this
The spa owner said it perfectly. Parenting is stressful but so precious.
Well stress is a chosen consequence..
I agree. I have no children, but if I did, I'd be afraid to miss out on important memories. For that reason I don't think I'd hire staff except for perhaps a sitter on special occasions.
45:00. They pay so much $$ for every detail, but mother casually, repeatedly uses God's name in vain right in front of her children. (Not bashing her, they seem like a lovely family, but just pointing out an observation that what all counts as fine details is in the eye of the beholder. - but it is something a child with good upbringing should know not to do, as it is not considered appropriate in lots of settings.) Thinking there should be , for the right families, a real demand for nannies that also have children utilize religious principles in everyday life (processing forgiveness, challenges, gratitude, as well as praying, and just generally raising therm to live the faith in all the little ways that count in everyday life. For the right family, such qualities in a nanny would be highly desirable. and even required.
@@finallythere100 last thing children need is to be indoctrinated with religious brainwashing. Morals and good manners has nothing to do with religion.
@@bellona6356 - You are misfiring here. FYI - It is STILL considered ill-mannered to use God's name in vain in public situations. as well as STILL considered highly unprofessional and inappropriate in the professional workplace. I(t has nothing to do with your personal opinion on religion as brainwashing. ). I have no idea of your age range or background, so you are evidently clueless about time honored civility and professionalism. This is YT so anyone can sound off as you have and one will have to consider the source. perhaps your opinion is the norm in your world, but thankfully, not everyone dwells there.
As for what children need, you will have your day, and you can tell it to Him when your day comes. He has given you free will, and I'm quite sure He can learn a thing or two from you!.
I felt so sorry for Mo when he got mocked by these brats. Sure, they're just kids right? But is shows you how the grown ups think and talk about him. Looked down upon whilst HE provides safety and protection to this family. Not the parents. It's Mo.
Most of the upper class looks down on the majority. They think of us as either useless or just servants. Doesn’t matter if your an engineer. To them your still beneath them because of their wealth and social class.
The way the girls tried punching him in the face everytime when he was showing them boxing techniques is just disgusting and shows how little respect they were taught to show him
@@iween270 it's the parent fault, the kids don't know it
exactly, my same remark above
@@iween270 yeah I was disgusted and appalled!
I worked at a expensive daycare that many wealthy families would send their children to for socialization. I basically raised these children for five hours everyday for three years. Most had no relationship with their parents they were emotionally neglected and out of control. I even raised a few from as early as 14 months old all the way until they were 3. After a while parents started coming to me and asking what my tricks were as their children started to become happier and more behaved, it looked like I had punched them in the gut when all I said was I gave them my time and attention. I had one little girl who told me she wished I was her mommy because I played dolls with her and gave her hugs. I left that job with trauma from seeing how terrible these kids lives truly were.
This is so sad 😞
I hope those parents took your words to heart. Especially when they came to you for advice in the first place
This is so sad. Children under 4 don’t need “socialization” they need love and attention from mom and dad
@@mirellymiranda9591 I mean it is an important part of development at that age....but they still need their parents.
These parents don’t care because their are focus in money and pretending be good parents
If your relationship is so insecure that the nanny has to be "ugly" (a disgusting descriptor/requirement anyways), then it's already too far gone.
Actually that I do agree with. Its only sensible.
Well, she just said out loud what many women who employ nannies think..
Exactly
lol and when the husband cheats with a young and beautiful nanny everyone says “what was she thinking, putting such a temptation into her house?!”🙄
@@cristinaaristizabal9882 I actually can’t wrap my head around it. Knowingly staying with a man that will cheat on you with any opportunity he gets.
"she's not with us for the money" the disconnect is Astounding
I mean, when Connie brought the child to her, the baby was holding her and wanted to give her a hug and she held that baby like she was holding a dog that wanted to lick her🤣🤣🤣. Those children are just props in these ppls lives
🤣🤣🤣
I was thinking the same thing! The nanny admitted right there that she did it for the money! She is making sure her Filipino kids get a college education. I hope she does make a lot of money, she deserves it...I can't imagine seeing my own children once every couple of years...so sad!
@@rebeccacarlson9166 listening to Connie's story made me so sad... I was hoping to hear her say she would at least see her family every 6 months... Every 2 years? Heartbreaking! 💔
Fun fact, she's well aware that her nanny has a family that misses her. It seems that she isn't that naive. But the amount of money, the your boss treats you and the freedom you have are crucial aspects to consider before accepting and that nanny made such great sacrifice that she will have to reconnect with her children because they missed that bound.
Not letting your nanny see her children by providing flights and expenses every six months when you are drowning in money is obscene. These are the people who are running the world, no wonder we’re living how we are in 2022.
Each soul will stand before Jesus after death.
Every knee shall bow & every tongue will confess that "Jesus is Lord God Almighty."
The nanny was hired in the home country of the clients, they didn't shuffle her from her home country so why is it their fault. They pay her the appropriate wages.
This is the part I don't understand. Let the nanny go home every six months even if it's for a week or instead of two years each year. Stay home and look after your kids then, leave them with family or anything but let them be with their children more. It's so cruel!!!!!
@@suesmith5381 cruel? That is the contract she signed. They got her from an agency they didn't yank her away from her children.
This is why they are keeping the racial divide alive and thriving, if we are focused on it then we aren't focused on the real issue, Rich VS Poor
No matter how much money you have,the bond you develop with your child is priceless.Not every parent deserves a child.
You're right
Ooh goodness lord, 💯 agree and it's unbelievable to see all this thing.
Most of these rich people's kids are not as smart as they think. The parents just pay the school to get in. It's rigged.
@@lindagithaiga1974 I knew a posh nanny who was fired because the kids liked her "too much." And the mom found an excuse to get rid of her.
My heart breaks for the sweet woman who had to leave her kids behind, at least they were with her parents. She is so proud of her kids going to university. I hope someday her kids understand her sacrifice so they could have a better life, that is truly a mother's love.
In a perfect world that would be ideal but the reality is their mother is a stranger to them and always will be as long as she keeps working in other countries. Hopefully at least they don't have huge resentment towards her for giving what they should have had to other people's children. I suspect those feelings would be present until they are adults and can really understand why they grew up without a mom.
That's why it's so important to think B4 having children. If you can't give them all they need, then don't have them.
@@sarahp.3772 Plenty of countries that the women still do not have a right to say no or they will be looked down on as pointless if they don't have children. Then you bring into it religion. How many Catholics are going to listen to your words. Don't get me wrong. In a perfect world we wouldn't need rape kits, abortions just a right to say no and an ability to say no.
It's a common situation here in the Philippines...mothers leave and work abroad to take care of children of rich people, in exchange to leaving their children in the care of relatives...poverty that is...😔
She had to sacrifice being a mom to her child to be a nanny to those spoiled little monsters. Just to make enough money to keep her and her baby’s head above water. The world is so cruel and unfair.
Shoutout to Amanda for swindling rich people who are too lazy to teach their own kids to use the toilet $$$. She seems like a very kind person with the way she speaks.
Yap I agree 😂😂😂
I don't agree. From what I read a lot of people find it very difficult and stressful. This puts pressure on the child. Having a kind professional train a child is very kind!
I wouldn't call it swindling. It's a business agreement between willing parties.
@@cheberur completely on the same page. I was just using the word in a playful way. She’s doing great work with these kids and we all have different service needs, so it’s really awesome.
It's a part of her job, basically all nanies like that... But usually the parents would teach/ask the kids about it. It seems that different society/countries that do not usually use nannies/housemaids have different responses. All the nannies in this videos seem have a fine life tho since they work with upper class families.
That one mom parented the 7 dogs more than she patented her kids. The little girl was beating her brother he’s screaming and no one bats an eye. The dogs bark for 5 seconds and she actually ran. What the heck. I respect the decision to parent how ever you feel best but for me I could never ever give up those few precious firsts in those lives. I just lost my 12 year old unexpectedly and I would give anything for that time back.
So sorry for your loss❤️
Sending you strength.
Im sorry
I am so sorry to hear that… Stay strong
Words serve no purpose with what you have gone through. I’m so sorry. Wishing you peace
I was a nanny for an extremely wealthy family in Denver. They were and are the most wonderful down to earth people. I still talk to and see the kids and just stayed with the parents in Jackson hole - we are still very fond of each other after 25 years and they still treat me like family. Seeing these screwed up families makes me cringe.
It sheds a terrible light on families who use a nanny. We've hired a nanny simply as a second hand so I can safely clean the house, prep meals, and run errands while someone is watching/keeping him safe. We don't have a village of family to help.
@@QueenSchatz all due respect, ‘family’ doesn’t have to be blood.
I also was a nanny for a wealthy family. They were kind, generous, and loved their children. They made me feel very appreciated and like part of their family and to this day we remain in contact. That was the best nanny experience I ever had.
I was also a nanny to several families, both wealthy and upper middle class, and all were great to work for, overall. I was treated as a member of the family and still communicate with the children, who are now adults with children of their own!❤️🥹🥹🥲
@@QueenSchatz exactly sometimes you do need that outside help and its far from being a resource that only well off people use.
Love the hairdresser in the beginning. She is absolutely right about parents missing out on a whole lot of special. Really love this lady. Fresh breeze in a world full of crazy.
Love it 💗
Agreed
agreed. but not everyone is born to be a good parent. if they could afford it then it's better to hire experts instead of abandon the children just because the mom still "wants to be me".
@@rzkkmrth6059 good parents? Just because someone could hire someone else to do a job for them doesn’t mean they love their kids less than you! There are plenty of rich folk who love their children and are great parents but they don’t have the time to do the things you assume makes a “good parent!”
@@JJ-mp5ye I think you missed the point.
Being a good parent is about taking time to be with your children, giving them attention and doing things for them and with them.
Ultimately that is what they will remember.
For ex. spending the night with them when they are sick will make you bond with them more than any expensive gift or holiday.
Just my opinion.
The lady in the salon nailed it...children are precious, and time with them is even more so.
unfortunately, there are a lot of ppl who is willing to outsource these precious opportunity if they can afford. It all has to do with money. in some countries where man power cost is cheap, not so rich ppl can also live like a king. Its just a choice.
not to everyone... you won't believe how many people don't care about their kids.
This is why I've put my career on hold to be home with my kids until they're big enough to go to school. I still do some work from home and we've had to cut back on a lot of luxuries, but I'd rather have a good bond with my children than an expensive designer pram to walk them around in.
Why do they even have kids😢
@janerees4887 It's why I settled for less material things and stayed home with my girls. I worked nights 2 days a week just to get out of the house and either my husband or mom watched them.
Round of applause for the dude who came out and yelled at those entitled idiots for using his doorstep as their personal photoshoot display. Imagine dropping dirt and spreading smoke wherever you please.
I was waiting for someone to mention this! Absolute best part of the show
👏🏼👏🏼
But seriously I thought they'd check with the owner of the property to do something like that beforehand. That's just basic knowledge.
@@angel31356 They feel they are entilted to do anything because they are rich.
What's the timestamp?
I can’t imagine letting my children make fun of someone taking care of them, because of an accent. Or laughing while the nanny deals with cleaning up after a dog.
There parents are ignorant maybe rich but they're ignorant.
Who cares
Agreed!
That's come from parents.
I am a highly educated woman who reared her children. I chose to work as a Nanny. It is insane how people allow their children to speak and act towards the help. I informed a mother once was there is a difference between money and power. Your child cries when I leave the residence, that is power. I am giving you my notice that is power. What you have is money. Your children don't expect candy and treats from me. Though they are excited to see me. It was an ugly morning
Would love to see a follow-up when all the kids are in their teens. And then at 35.
Secure attachment and bonding with your parent is invaluable for learning how to be a human, and your own human.
I grew up with both my parents, no nunnies and still emotional bonding didn't exist. My father was a computer engineer always working, my mother was a stay-at-home mom (she didn't work) but she had her own life, she would drop us at school and then go do whatever, visit her friends or sisters. After school I went home with school bus, most of the time I stayed at home alone watching tv, my brothers were in school, we studied at different schedules, me in the morning, them at noon. We are not rich but never went hungry, maybe middle class / working class. Just to say that even families who are not rich still fail to bond.
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@@belle3055 Everybody knows that.
Let's see if they are potty trained!
Secure attachments don’t have to be from a parent… sometimes it takes a village. We have moved away from the village raises the kid, and put most of the responsibilities on the mother alone. It’s not the way it’s been for centuries and there are still parts of the world where the village still raises the children. Now the screens are the nannies which is even worse 💀
It breaks my heart to know that she sees her children once in 2 years. The rich employer could pay for her to go home twice a year, and get a replacement during a short period easily. Taking care of those who sacrifice their own children to look after yours, will make your staff happier.
I agree fully but slight correction *Filipino :>>
They could have paid for her to fly home a dozen times a year, once a month at least, she deserved to see her kids grow up.
@@brendonurieonice5303 how do you onow that Filipino words
Yes to that..all the love😊💓
I wonder how much shemakes. When I hear, that some positions come with 1500 a week, I seriously hope she is not criminally underpaid in comparison....
I love the Potty Lady. She know's she's got the skill and she knows that people will pay because they are literally too posh to parent so why not. She's so self-aware, she know's it's ridiculous but she's living her life doing her service and working with adorable babies so kudos to her XD
Warren Buffett embarrassed. His children went to public schools, no servants, no luxury lifestyle. According to Paul Fussell, real wealthiest do not care for luxuries. It is the pretenders who are showing off.
replacing a mom and doing a moms job sad
its smart actually
If I could pay for the potty lady, I would.
Her business idea is smart, because these "parents" have no idea of how to raise children. In real life, kids need to indicate themselves when they are ready, because it's a matter of physical and mental development and it's something super private and intimate. Also changing nappies - super important for bonding and everything. It hurts my heart to see, how little these people care. Their kids are more like accessories to them, much like the Chihuahuas.
My mom left me in Jamaica and raised 2 doctors kids in Boston. That's how we facilitate the immigration process. My mom is very close to the middle child, who became a successful lawyer. She tells my mom, who she affectionately calls Lally. "Lally anything you need, all you have to do is ask." God bless that child.
It's pointless to immigrate from Jamaica to the US. Most especially if you're a black female. Statistically, black American women have the highest average levels of the stress hormone cortisol of any demographic group in the world. Half-starved black African women, even, have more serene cortisol levels. America is fundamentally a rung down from Africa. It's where blacks who lacked even the power to fend off slave traders ended up. Nor could these black Americans be choosy about WHERE they were enslaved, because the journey across the Atlantic Ocean was pure torture and blacks are also a minority in America. In the big scheme of things, civil rights equal employment/fair housing laws are a joke. I have a B.A. in Economics so I can put them into perspective. These laws succeeded at rehashing the slave system by another name. Especially since blacks are also a minority in America.
There are two main reasons why black American females are under so much chronic stress. One, since the 1960's, most high-income blacks have migrated out of predominantly black neighborhoods into the suburbs. These defectors are overwhelmingly male as men of all races have an income advantage over females, rendering black females largely desolate. By the same stroke, the heightened market competition for white-owned homes automatically triggers supply and demand pricing adjustments. It further elevates the values of white homes and depletes black housing values. Black females are less likely to earn enough money to fill this imploding real estate money pit. So on the whole, civil rights laws are actually disadvantageous to black females in particular.
Plus in one of his speeches, Martin Luther King decreed that blacks' love for our enemies should be primarily impersonal and "spiritual" in nature, as opposed to emotional or erotic. That means the US government and general population may scrutinize and regulate your deeply personal intimate desires and relationships BEFORE YOUR CIVIL RIGHTS EVEN KICK IN. That is of course a profound violation which defeats the purpose of said rights. I myself am an ostensibly all-black female with a white father which makes this policy particularly discomfiting. Nor am I privileged, which renders me financially susceptible to slave policies.
Martin Luther King is venerated in America...by our racist government. His barbaric racist motives were strategically understated so as to gloss over them while promulgating the tall tale of his heroism. All that glitters is not gold. Look before you leap. And READ THE FINE PRINT.
And there are some things money can't buy. England is equally to blame for America's "new racism". All black American churches, especially Southern ones, were founded by antebellum slaveholders. The British contributed their suavity and diplomatic skill to help these black preachers deceive their parishioners. Dr. King was a freelance puppet activist who sold his services to the highest bidder. It really doesn't matter whether his masters were of American or British origin. I really hope a large army invades England and sends some white soldiers to pry Kate Middleton's legs open for some ugly, low-caste black guys. Just sayin'.
@@evelynzlon9492 no offense, but don't assume someone is black when they say they are Jamaican
It's funny how the children lied to the nanny about eating things their parents don't want to, yet the nanny is scolded instead of the children. You can even see the girl smile to the camera satisfied that she put the nanny in some trouble. That's NOT how you teach your children to be good people. The children should feel at least a little ashamed for putting another person into trouble with their lies. The problem with these people is not their immense wealth but their immense stupidity.
The immense wealth just amplifies it :D
That was very sad
it was quite funny that the mom said they didnt know what fanta even means when it was quite clear what they were putting themselves into when manipulating the nanny into getting something they know they arent allowed to get
The children just wanted a soda, which they're never allowed to have. My mom rarely, if ever, let me have soda at that age. It sounds like the woman didn't have any experience with strict diets or keeping junk food out of the house. I would have known not to give them soda and I'm sure I'm not the only one. As for the food portions, has she never cared for young children? She would have had a better idea of how much food to give them if she had cared for children their age before. She's just inexperienced, and she is trying for a difficult nanny position. If possible, she should have researched more before trying.
Kids do that regardless of wealth
I'm a vegetarian, but sorry to say those kids are going to head straight for McDonald's the second they are on their own. Why didn't she give her a clear outline of what was expected of her, rather than wait for her to fail. She should've shopped and prepared the 1st meal herself with Maria as she explained their lifestyle, since she's so strict. Marie keeps apologizing, but it's not her fault.
The kids were already sneaky enough to tell the nanny that they have Fanta all the time. The mom is in for a rude awakening the moment they have any kind of independence.
I was never allowed it either and then once I was in high school and driving on my own with a little it money i had from my after school job I ate it like it had crack in it!
Agree!
@@HelloNewMoon lol...
Why doesn’t she hire a chef or subscribe to a meal program? Not nanny’s job to be a vegan chef also?
OMG the Philippine nanny she is so sweet. I cried when she was talking about leaving her own children with her parents to support them. that's so hard :(
And these rich fools could care less about her or her children, because they're ignorant narcissists.
That was sad. And her nursing friend having to leave her newborn behind. How hard it must be for her.
I was very sad about that too. I cannot imagine how difficult that must be.
@@raimeyewens7518 Totally 💯 I left my son at daycare when he was 13 months and I cried for six months every time I drope him off because he didn’t wanted to stayed. I can’t imagine a new born. 🥺🥺
@@forestrot666 me neither. Just the thought of it my heart breaks. The fact that I know and seen so many Philippine ladies as Nannies here in Canada. Knowing that they are sacrificing so much is so sad. And btw Philippine’s nannies are the best. They are amazing. 🙏
24:20 💔 to hear Connie, the Filipina nanny, had to leave her 6 and 3 yr old children back in the Philippines with her parents so she could earn enough to get them an education. No words for how wrong this inequality is.
With 47 bedrooms in that castle, you think Connie’s kids could come live with her there
@@Nessa___ Exactly. Imagine how enriching that would be for the British kids as well, having basically an extended family close by.
And what time in world history has that not been the case??She didn't have to leave her children at all she chose to.Plenty of parents in the Philippines who are not rich raise happy successful children and they dont leave the country to do so.
No one forced her, she chose it.
@@Nessa___ perhaps there are immigration reasons why. The UK is pretty intense re: visa issues & such... Also, Connie has a network back in the Philippines to help her raise her children- she wouldn't have that support if the kids were in England.
I was horrified when at one point an agency worker interviewing a mother about hiring a tutor for her child, asked her what she wants the child to achieve. Kidding about him winning a nobel prize. The child was sitting there, and nobody cares what he wanted! He was just a vehicle for his mother's ambitions.
She said "its MY dream" poor kid, he doesnt have a choice
The only expectation I have for my kids is to be their best selves. And they're doing it - phenomenally kind humans with very different interests & talents. Expectations/goals/dreams/hopes are double edged swords because if not met, there is shame, guilt, rejection, abandonment, anxiety, etc.
@@namehere4954 this is good parenting
I agree one hundred percent!
That one I understand, she was hiring, not him. The tutor is her employee, not his. Even though the boy was just siting there akwardly, It was normal.
If these kids don’t inherit enough money when they’re older, it’s going to be ROUGH for them, and especially everyone around them.
You ain’t lying
@@IINVICTA Life skills 101.
My thoughts exactly!
@@susanarsoniadou3588 I agree, I see many comments that belie jealousy of the rich. But not in this thread. Just plain facts.
Boo hoo😢
The hairdresser summed it up precisely, time with your babies is soo beyond precious, its hard to imagine giving soooo much of that time to others. This is so sad.
Did you also notice how awkward it got when the lady was promoting her business of potty training? (Or she just have stage fright)
@@famiilliii yeah, it was like …. Uh people really hire you todo that with THEIR child? (At least that’s what I got from her face😬)
That's what happens when people have kids purely because it is needed to complete the image of a "perfect" family. Like an accessory. Have unfortunately know many who also have kids to fulfill any emotional void left behind by family or husband
Yet people do it all the time!! Even the poor..they give their children up to babysitters whilst they work and then up to the public school system when they are of school age..wake up
Babies are annoying af.
The hairdresser lady is so correct: teaching your kids for life is so prescious and helps to bond. what will the relationships look like between the parents and kids in a few years if the parents never really took time for the kids and outsourced almost everything? poor rich people. :(
Royal family is a good example of that.
We see the consequences every day via drug overdoses, prison times, etc..
Could be the reason the wealth class lacks humanity.
Insane, simply insane. I couldn’t stop shaking my head. And it’s not envy. I don’t envy them one bit. Having money is a good thing, no doubt, but being as filthy rich as the people featured here, is a burden. It takes away from real human bond. Those mothers might think they’re the most important person in their kids’ life because they make the decisions, but as the violin playing girl said, she calls the nanny when there’s a problem. And then there’s the other girl that said she misses her nanny when she’s gone for two days. You reap what you sow.
Exactly!
So 😔 the one Nanny from the Philippines takes care of this rich women's kids and she has to leave her two kids THAT'S MESSED UP
@@cynthiawilson5066 That made me cry. I know she is giving her kids a good education so get that but still... no mummy around.
@@cynthiawilson5066 Yes it is but...if they have opportunity and good salary they can go home on holidays and that is the best situation for all. They provide their family with very needed income and have fulfilling work. But I could never have someone work for me without going home at least every 6 months. Preferrably every 4 months. Well..I do not have to worry because I cannot afford to even hire someone for a day !
Thank you preach I was thinking the same thing I’ve never fancy or cared for money unfortunately we need to have it to buy things especially way the world economy is right now but I’m glad I see a lot of the comments saying the same thing I couldn’t stop shaking my head it’s absolutely disgusting
My best friend was a nanny for a extremely wealthy family in Texas. They had a newborn baby and another child under two. She stayed for a year or so but had to leave when the children started calling her Mom. She said the parents just treated them like accessories and everything was always for show. They didn’t actually spend any time with the children outside of being in public. It’s really sad.
I had a very similar experience, but them calling me mom didnt make me leave, it was the mom being manipulative, gaslighting me and screaming at me everytime something was out of place. I still feel bad leaving those kids, but I hope CPS can do their job. Doubtful but I hope
@@jess-nd1kz what was she supposed to do!? She was 21 years old. Is she supposed to stay in a job she doesn’t like for someone else’s children for 18 years because she doesn’t want to upset them? Not to mention she couldn’t stay because she was foreign. The children are the responsibility of the parents not the nanny who is barely an adult herself.
@@jess-nd1kz she has her own life to live, selfless can only go so far
@@jess-nd1kz she had to leave. i am sure the biological mother got upset when the kids called her mummy, took offence and let her go. its heartbreaking.
That is so sad...
The mom spending more time and care dressing her 7 dogs than she does her kids is where I draw the line. I’m a firm believer that you shouldn’t have kids if you’re too busy to take care of them. I was still relatively happy to see that the mom takes time to pick the right people for her kids and that all their needs are met. It was when I saw her pay more attention to her DOGS that I came back to reality.
Me too. But i think she is better than other parents in this documentary: at least she takes her children with her when she’s flying around the globe, not leaving them at home.
Agree! That is the epitome of absurdity, arrogance and vanity. Truly awful 🤮
I don't like dogs wearing clothes, but that being said - I didn't find the part where she picked the clothes for their dogs most disturbing. She was, afterall, dressing the dogs together with her children after what they went on a walk together. I'm sure dressing the dogs is a fun activity for the children. Not by far the worst thing shown in this docu in my opinion.
Those children's needs have definitely not been met. They have neglectful parents and that's going to have some consequences. I wouldn't be surprised if it were the personal assistant who located, vetted, and hired everyone else. Why bother having kids if you don't want to do anything with them or have anything to do with them? Sad
@@danderson4740 i mean they seem quite loving and happy with their mother.. so
I think Heidi's parenting is already backfiring on her. By completely forbidding sweets, sugar, soft drinks and meat she makes it even more tempting for her daughters to try. That's probably why they find sneaky ways to get it anyway, like lying to the Nanny about what they're allowed to have.
Orthorexic eater. Not good
That's like saying we're all more tempted to try drugs because we weren't allowed to have any.
My friend would never allow tomato ketchup amongst a myriad of other food items and the one thing they went crazy on when ever they could was tomato sauce. Neither of these kids when they grew up had strict rules around food because they remembered feeling nothing but deprived and sometimes shame - just because their friends could and they were not allowed. They have found a balance that works for them without the strictness being the main focus.
@@t_MattMan Its about the messaging. Kids who have gone through the anti-drug DARE program were found to be more likely to do drugs. The fear and use of the "NEVER" concept tends to bring more curiosity and desire for the forbidden.
A vegetarian lifestyle is a fad and not very healthy.
I worked at an “independent summer camp” (ie camp for wealthy kids) & the stories of so many of the kids were heartbreaking. There was the 5 yr old from Korea who was sent to camp for weeks to be immersed in the language because his family were moving to America - no one spoke his language at camp so he spent most of his time in frustrated tears & learned all the swear words other kids could teach him. Then there were the brother & sister who had come straight from boarding school to camp for 10 weeks & had not even met their new stepmother. They would go home for a couple of short holidays per year & that’s it. Then there was a young girl, Hannah, who had an anxiety attack because she had volunteered to do a swimming leg for a camp competition & couldn’t do it when the time came, because of her anxiety. And she had tonsillitis & was apparently told that she had to take her medication every day or she could die 😳 She was such a sweet girl & so anxious about achieving & doing everything well that she was tied up in knots of anxiety...at 8 years old. I’ve thought about her a lot over the last couple of decades & hope she has learned to conquer her anxiety. Some of the kids were loved & their parents were involved in their lives, but far too many hardly saw their parents at all.
I hope I can hug Hannah
Well shame on those parents
why u saying their names just say "little boy " little girl"
@@jaiylahjaii Oh who cares. There's millions of kids with those first names.
@@jaiylahjaii I said one kid’s name because I kind of hope that she maybe reads this & realises that one of her camp counsellors actually cared about her enough to think of her numerous times over several decades. No one but her would know who it is as I’ve given no other identifying details.
I love the different moms’ priorities. The socialites want a loving, homely nanny, the vegan mom wants a vegan nanny who skis, and the Russian mom wants a badass nanny who can fight. 😂
But none of them can be pretty?! Like...wtf?! Talk about issues and obviously they dont trust their husbands either. Sad life.
I don't like anything about any of these " moms". They are out of touch with reality and I don't even know why they had children if they didn't want to raise them. And to only want unattractive nannies just shows they don't have strong marriages either.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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@@michellemcbee5168 exactly
I was a nanny for a few years. Although I love the kids I felt awkward when they said I was "family", but I just assumed that I was just taking the word too literally. Until the last time they left their 4 kids and two dogs for 6 days in my house (because the parents were going on a business trip) and assumed I was doing them a favor because I love them and we were "family". They ended up "tipping me out of the goodness of their heart" (gave me 1/3 of what I deserved) and when I nicely tried to clear the "misunderstanding" the dad literally said that the kids take care of themselves LOL and that I really didn't need to do much (BEAR IN MIND: they're homeschooled, not allowed to play videogames nor watch TV). So yes, I cried out of frustration for a few days and had to pray hard to let any resentment go. I feel sad that some bitterness lingers when I think of that family, even though I still love the kids.
I would take them to court and get the full value of taking care of kids, room n board n those dogs.
@@suzannelove I hadn't had any issues before, and the mom was usually generous and giving. I took it as a sign to move on to a different job more economically rewarding.
I went through something similar . There's no price to put on the people in your child's life , that have loved and cared for them.
Yes before my own , I was a nanny / Auntie . I was an only child . The kids I nannyed in my twenties even looked like me . 2 1/2 -3 years I did this , ( some difficult moments? yes ! ) But we did become family . They came to visit me during some hard times during their puberty. Adolescing. They are young families now and Aunties , Uncle's to my own kids . I was wanting to go to school at that time . I gave it up long story . But to be a part of their childhood priceless . What is Love is what is real and lives on . Bless your life and your lessons. Learning to love yourself so you don't get compromised ? Taken me a lifetime . Those kids may end up picking their life partner because they are more like their nanny or care giver you never know . Love does choose. ❤️💖💜
Nah, child care is a lot of work that's why people who can afford it get help!
It's so rude to drop them off and not pay you your worth, "if they practically take care of themselves" why didn't they take them on the trip... Kmt.
I'll tell you the same thing I ALWAYS TAUGHT MY CHILDREN, ask questions and express concerns, take a little time to think over your decision, if you need more info, such as HOW MUCH DOES THIS JOB PAY and WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM ME then ASK! Know what you are getting into BEFORE you agree.
I love that the one family bought their nanny a home, and appreciated her good care of their children. I wish the other family did the same for their nanny so she could be near her children. So many lives would be improved with this kind of compassion and generosity.
The nannies with young children should have been provided for by their husbands or baby’s fathers. Their men failed them.
Of course, my suspicious mind thinks that the father was having an affair with the nanny, but don't mind me, I'm jaded a little. 🤣
These women as a group strike me as too self-centered to care about The Help.
It’s rare. I was a nanny part time to a girl a few years ago. I was with this family for 7 years. I was terminated at short notice because the mother gave up work. I got nothing as termination pay. I felt really hurt. I made a difference in their lives. I cooked for them and tidied up. This still hurts today four years later. I’m still friendly with the family and I love the girl dearly. The rich get richer.
Nobody gives away a house for free. Some other type of exchange might have happened.
I gave up my high paying job when I had my girl because I couldn't imagine leaving her with someone else. This was a shock to watch. These kids have everything in the world except the most important thing every kid needs and craves, the caring attention that only parents can provide.
MOST of them are raised like this... Robin Williams, Trump, Angelina Jolie when she 1st got all the kids, theres many many more. I really think that's why so many deal with major depression and are constantly doing destructive behavior. It's sad, it really is!! I don't envy them at all, it's a hollow life.
My dad did something similar when i was a kid. Me and my brother were having some attitude problems so we went to see a therapist. She revealed to my parents that me and my brother didnt perceive our dad as part of our family. So he left his job and started to spend more time with us. It was like meeting someone for the first time. It took us a long time to construct a good relationship but it was worth it. We may not be as economically privileged as many years ago what we do have a strong family bond. Now that i think about it i feel really really grateful for all the things both my parents gave up to raise me and my brother.
I had 4 kids under the age of 3, the oldest was diagnosed as severely autistic while I was pregnant with the youngest which were twins, and all boys. My husband and I made a decision that I should stay at home and be a mom, unless we had no other option than for me to work. Between the first being born and the last moving out (the oldest still lives at home) I only worked outside the home for about one year total. And we are glad we did it that way. I wouldn't trade the time I got to spend with my kids for any amount of money, and they didn't seem to notice that we weren't rich. They have gone on to college, marriage and fatherhood, so now I get to be a grandma and have fun watching the next generation of our family grow up. It breaks my heart that my grandkids had to go to daycare so early, but we don't live close enough to help out with childcare. But the kids seem to be doing ok with it, and I understand the need for it. But these women seemed to be just selfish about taking the time to raise their own kids. The one seemed more maternal towards her dogs than to her kids, and they were all kind of horrible people.
Exactly! I would use paid help so I can be with my kids. Lol! I know this is the reverse but I'd like to be around my kids most of the time. . Someone else can do the cleaning and the cooking and the washing , etc.,
@@Mauve77 me too! I would totally do that too
The portrait artist gushing over the mother . And the driver rolling his eyes. I can relate to the driver.
The painter knows who’s paying
Artist gotta do what the artist gotta do
This awful painting has nothing in common with art. And the painter is no artist.
No one inside the art world would call that art.
@@voyance4elle 🤣👏
As a single mother who worked as a nanny for an ultra wealthy family the only thing I ever envied about their life was the free time the mother had. They always chose to spend their time away from their children. I couldn’t understand why when that was the most precious to me and I had to miss out on in order to support my child. The biggest disappointment of my life so far has been having to put my child in daycare. My heart goes out to that nanny who only sees her kids once every two years.
Daycare teaches kids to socialize, make friends, and to share, its workers are required to take child development courses and psychology and most are college students and empty nesters and most daycares today offer STEM workshops and motor skills development aide and ALL daycares have strict safety protocols. Kids love daycare because they're with kids their own age in a casual play setting and play games, build, and do creative projects.
@@ANEEAMA I agree, I'm a daycare worker, to children I am Miss Julie who feeds them healthy snacks, gatekeeper to the cabodle of endless stick on rhinestones, the one who reads with silly voices, and recess mediator, I am anything but their mom, I am basically a caregiver camp conselor snack lady. Only one kid has called me mom and it was as a joke as she calls the pet turtle mom and everyone mom.
I agree, it's also my regret that I put my child in daycare. There's no place like home!
@@juliannehannes11 I think you misunderstood her point. It's not that day care is bad for kids, it's that as a working mom she regrets not being able to spend quality time with her own children while having to expend that energy to a strangers child.
@@ReemTahir well having that being her biggest disappointment insinuates that she wouldnt do that again if given another chance. Daycare is important whether the parent likes it or not. Having a child form unhealthy attachments to parents is not good. Its not about what u want, its about what ur child needs
Every Filipino woman I have ever met has been the epitome of kindness and strength. I don't know if it's the culture they come from. Maybe it's that you have to already be that brave: to leave your home behind for a chance at a better life. Whichever it is, Filipino women always have and always will have my utmost repect.
As a korean they rich people should respect Flipino nanny.
Not respecting Filipinos is what bugs do.
There also is a massive issue with domestic violence in the Philippines so don't generalize what anyone is.
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My experience has been very very different.
I feel bad for Connie…but more so for her kids. Imagine growing up knowing that your mother had to give her love to other kids and they had a second mother while you had no mom. It’s not her fault because she needed to support her family, but I feel for the kids.
my mom was a therapist and I grew up watching her therapy kids love her and she'd give them attention (I would wait for her after school in the break room) but then when she got off work she couldn't handle talking to me. she admitted to ignoring me on purpose multiple times and it led me to believe that love is paid for bc those kids paid for her attention...
@@tsundere8532 it sucks…I personally didn’t really grow up with my mom. My brothers lived with my mom and I lived with my grandmother on my fathers side. I resented my siblings for being able to have a mom, but I never realized how much they sacrificed for me to be happy until there came a time when we all didn’t have a mom. My father lived with my other sisters and I resented my sisters as well for having a father, but nowadays I want to be closer to my siblings despite where my parents are. I think parents want the best for their kids even if that means sacrificing a bond with their child, but they don’t understand how much of an impact it has on a child. For example there’s a Korean family in another show and the father was absent for 17 years playing baseball. Everyone says he was providing for his children, but why must emotions come after finances. A kid won’t understand that you left them at a young age to put food in the table, but a kid would understand why you can’t buy them expensive toys..but yet you’re always their to support and cheer for them. Of course it is good to be financially stable, but at some point you must make sure your children are emotionally stable. Sorry you went through that..I know how much emotional trauma that gives you and hopefully you are currently healing or have already started healing. Also, sorry for the rant…I’ve just been seeing so many things children have to go through.
I don't think this was her only choice to support her family. This job for posh people doesn't worth it.. being a stranger to your own children... she is just a visitor for them. And honestly most of rich people in this video are not good people. They are so self absorbed it is astonishing. There is nothing wrong to have help, but normal people do it so they could have more quality time with their families when they actually have free time from daily job..
@@blue... obviously…it wasn’t her only choice, but a lot of jobs in the Philippines do not pay enough to take care of a whole family and still have money to send them to study. A lot of women can’t get higher paying jobs as well due to sexism. I also acknowledged that no matter what I feel for the kids and no parent should prioritize other children before their own. Do I feel bad for Connie?..of course, she has a lot of regrets, but she also has a lot of explaining and making up to do although she could never replace those years she left her children with money.
@@bertram5806 I don't know what is her situation in life...or was .. I am not judgmental.. but it doesn't seems logical that you have to sacrifice 20 years not being in your children life .. it is not like they are going to be homeless if she leaves this high payment job.. or are they? university is not worth it honestly..
Why do they even bother to have kids in the first place if they don’t have time for them? It is so sad for a kid to be raised by the employee only …
Umm really? I’m a completely single mom and never have time to see my kid!! I work two jobs just to keep a roof over our head. But I can tell you this- I would much rather hire a professional nanny than to bring my kid to a daycare! If I had the choice to do so
@@victoriachaneledberg302 I think the children spend a lot more time with a nanny than they would with daycare staff.They stay with the nanny not just working hours but social engagements, of which there are many including overnight trips. Daycare could never provide the hours needed so it wouldn't be a case of one or the other. Daycare just couldn't provide the hours of care.
To carryon their bloodline / the family name
Agreed. It’s true. It’s one thing to be a single mom and work two jobs . But these families are two parents who are billionaires who one of them can stay home or parent . Or do without a nanny like most working families do. Ridiculous.
@@victoriachaneledberg302 they aren't single mums, nor are they struggling financially.....the comparison is irrelevant.....
How traumatic must in be for these kids to grow up and have a vital character from their upbringing up and leave when their services are no longer needed.. can't imagine how horrifying it is for them in their teen years to have their nannies head out permanently.
When I was a child my family wasn't as wealthy as these people but I had a nanny from when I was a baby until about 6 years old. She had to leave and return to her country due to some issues that came up but it was incredibly traumatic. She had been my entire world and it had felt like everything was upside down. As an adult, I still think about her and hope she's ok.
You get used to it, like with every other thing life throws at you. Most likely a small price to pay in return of living such a life. Rich people also have mental problems, like any other people do.
@@michlblacksmith While of course they'll have to find ways to deal with it because they have no choice, this is the person who was essentially taking on the mother-role that is suddenly being ripped away. For all intents and purposes, that would be just as traumatic as a child or teenager losing their mother in a similar way. It could certainly be a trigger that leads to even more mental issues.
Yeah having the woman I considered my mom just fired like nothing has been something I still won’t forgive my parents for all these years later
My mother used to babysit this rich family child, they child started to get so attached to my mother and even called her mum, didn’t want to be picked up by her own mother she would run to mine so they fired my mother because they where jealous of the child’s attachment to her
Hats off to all the men and women working like this to make a living.
My father had to quit his job to stay home with me since my mother's job had health insurance, and he told me raising me and my siblings have been one of the most cherished and best things he has gotten to experience. Watching a tiny human grow into adulthood and progress in life is a blessing and should be cherished.
You have a sweet dad .
Privilégio, only
Hats off to all the stay at home dads
My mom was a nanny in Manhattan predominantly on the Upper East and West side. one of her charge's parents would disappear for days at a time, I really felt for that little boy, the parents would throw money at any and everything. That little boy ended up spending a lot of time in Brooklyn with us even started talking with a Jamaican accent. My mom went to many playdates and mommy and me classes, the crazy part is not one parent was in any of those classes or dates, it was all nannies. This documentary is so accurate.
"even started talking with a Jamaican accent." C'mon, how cool is that!
Do you still keep in touch with the kid?
@@bluerose8165 lol no, that kid is now about 26 years old. One love to you🙂
I recently watched the movie “Nanny”. What you described about the Upper East Side was exactly how it was portrayed in the movie.
There was an emptiness in the young Violin player's eyes... She didn't seem to really love the violin, despite her talent. The young boy who heard his mother say he was to become a scientist gave an epic eye roll. There really is something missing for these kids 💔💔
I've read the comment that she committed suicided at 17, Poor girl.
@@RockGodBabe NOOOOO please tell me that’s not true!!! 😭 ლ(ٱ٥ٱლ)
@@RockGodBabe it wasn’t suicide. It was an accidental drug overdose. Still very tragic.
@@lukeo.6410 Thank you. It's really tragic.
@@lukeo.6410 Wait what? How?
This documentary is recently made, no? How did she turn 17?
I worked around rich people doing a public service job. The funny thing happened when I was holding a lady's daughter and playing with her. She had seen how well her daughter was taking a liking to me and asked me who I was and I turned the question back around and asked her who she was because I had been coming to the house for two years and never seen her before. She took offense to that and answered, "I'm her mother." I replied, "Are you?"
🤣 WTF she did not know who was during the day around her child.
@Yanick Otto most people don't get to see their meter reader. So, when they do see you, it's such a surprise to them that it throws them off, a little, with their reaction or response.
Wow! And how sad 😔
@@H.JudahMack but enough that your kid knows them well? No. You should know that person
@@H.JudahMack what kind of meter reader is always comming inside a family's house and playing with their kids?🤨
My career was very demanding, so I had a live in nanny for the first couple of years after my child was born.
One day my toddler called her mama and it stopped me in my tracks.
I sat in my beautiful corner glass window office with a gorgeous view and thought how I was missing out on my family life for what?
For money?
My mom grew up with a staff of help and I still hear her talk about how much fun she had with her nannies, and how she was the favorite over my aunts, etc. I don't recall that sort of affection towards my grandmother.
I still keep in touch with my nanny. Thankfully, my mother was more involved.
I realized my son's nanny, as much as I got to adore her, was living my life.
She was enjoying my house, my child, my pool, my cars, my life. Whilst I was away just working for all that which I would enjoy on spare time.
I thought long and hard about my life and priorities.
Long story short, I retired in my mid 30s and have been a stay at home mom since. There isn't a dinner I miss with my family now.
My son once asked me if I've ever regretted leaving my "posh" life to be a "soccer mom" per say, not one bit! Its the best decision I've ever made.
Gucci doesn't give me random hugs bc it loves me, or build memories.
I wish you were able to share that insight with many of these women. Particularly the ones who bust their butts working at high demand jobs to have a certain lifestyle that they don’t really get to enjoy.
You have your preferences and other moms have theirs.
@@denisenoe7746 True. Others will have really great Dr's and Nurses by their death beds, hopefully not regretting missing on love and affection from their children.
@@redrightsue1346 You can't know their kids love them less. Donald Trump delegated parenthood and has good relations with his kids. I respect your preferences but you can't dictate what other moms choose. Their kids may love them for selecting such good caregivers.
@@redrightsue1346 I don't care. I am childless and jobless.
Irene Major, former model and wife to oil tycoon, describes her nanny like a sister to her but is depicted as a narcissist with no awareness or care for her nanny who is giving up raising her own children to raise hers. With the amount of money, her and her husband have they could surely afford to pay for visits for the kids so that her “sister” can see her kids more than once ever two years.
Agreed! That woman was the worst!! She needs to understand that she’s NO DIFFERENT than the wealthy plantation owners that had slaves. Her mindset is the same. Disgusting.
But why would a narcissist care?
yes!! That woman has a ludicrous amount of money. It would be a drop in the ocean to even BRING her children to her to live in the UK. There has to be work/life balance and it's the responsibility of the employer to create an equal relationship between the two.
I was wondering who she was,
I would like to know if Irene came from money and not from some shanty village. Funny how these sort of women marry rich and forget their roots. Humble down lady, that would make you so much more attractive and earthly. Tacky gold furniture in that house. no taste whatsoever
I'm only four minutes in, and I'm already struck by the sadness radiating from Nina's daughter...
Further in now and all I can think about is how I've yet to see an authentic emotion from anyone. They talk of opulence, glamour, luxury, and all I can see is neglect, fakeness and control. Those poor, poor children...
That’s what all millionaires and billionaires are about. Nothing much common sense
Metaphorically,They are the POOR children
Well, if those clever scientists manage to tweak the proto types of the artificial wombs, those parental outsourcers won’t even be inconvenienced carrying their babies for 9 months, the machine will do it all, and then it’s straight over to nannies and other staff. 🤢
@@queenelizabethiii1616 Yeah they are! Poor babies
It’s called the feeling of entitlement. Their humanity is exchanged for money
There are a lot of nannies from the Philippines in the middle east. I've seen families that eat at a restaurant at 2 separate tables: 1 for the husband and wife, and 1 table for the nanny and kids. I've seen a preschool child cry at a school event on stage and wouldn't stop crying when the dad came up or the mom came up. Finally the nanny came up to hold the child and the child stopped crying.
" She loves the family so much " " She is not doing it for the money ". How naive can one be ?
I was thinking the same thing, so self possessed. Really, she had to sacrifice being with her own children to support them and you think it’s not for money she loves your kids that much. She should be ashamed to let those words come out her mouth.
Ignorant I would say.
This is the grandiose level her delusions have reached, she probably thinks her 💩 doesn't stink anymore as well, this woman is laughable and devoid of soul her husband's wealth stripped her of all her humanity
She lives in lala land, has no clue.
Entitled
I nannied with a special service to support myself while I lived in Hawaii. I got to play at the resorts like 4 Seasons and such. I actually was not asked back by one family early on because I was "too pretty". I was absolutely shocked. I am quite average but I was surfing every day so I was quite in shape. I didn't even wear make-up, dressed in plain baggy surf clothes. After that my boss suggested I 'ugly myself' so I would do an ugly hairstyle, I went to a thrift store and bought ugly tacky clothes, etc. I was in the top 5 nannies for the service and to give an idea of the $$$, I comfortably supported myself working 4 days a week!!! They provide all food, tip in the hundreds when the kids love you, and especially when they came home late drunk haha. I just felt so bad for the kids. Many were like void little dolls, not even making eye contact until a few days when they realized I actually cared and then they just transform into their amazing selves, they soak up the attention like they have never been really seen before. Often the children would hang on to me and cry their last day, especially after the week or longer trips. Many would beg their parents to hire me. It was so sad. Especially because with the insecure moms it makes them really turn on you fast. It is a delicate balance of caring for the kids but not giving them so much that the parents have to fire you because they have to be #1. With older kids I always went all out because they have already been through this and know to say nothing so I wouldn't get fired.
Dealing with wealthy people is basically swimming in a mine field where everything is perfect on top where things can be seen, but underneath is a plethora of unspoken rules, scandal, and so much crap you would never even believe it unless you see it! I am thankful for my simple life everyday after experiencing that!!!
*edit: my simple life
What a perfect way to put it. "swimming in a mine field where everything is perfect on top where things can be seen, but underneath is a plethora of unspoken rules, scandal......" 100%. I am with a family who is "wealthy" by normal standards. Not ultra rich like these people. Everything looks great from the outside with children who are well clothed in trendy names and play all the rich kid sports like lacrosse and tennis, and go to the private school even though they live in the top school district in the state. Their house from the outside is very large and the gardeners do a nice job keeping up the curb appeal. But they are absolutely a hot mess of forgetting appts and sending me late to things regularly and rushing the kids from one activity to the next just to have everyone else deal with them, and have them fall exhausted into bed each night at 10pm to get up at 6am and do it all again. The kids don't even shut the drawers of their dressers after getting clothing much less clean up after themselves. But on the surface, Mom and Dad are doctors. The kids do every sport known to man. They have two nannies, myself and another lovely older woman. They belong to the country club. They have playdates daily. It's perfect right????
@@megan2349 exactly!!! When I see wealthy people's life-style portrayed as some amazing thing I should idolize and spend my life trying to attain I'm just SMH. Also celebrities and their 'clout'.... *no thank you.* My life may not be glamorous or 'posh' compared to many, but I am free of debt, I get to be exactly who I am 24/7, and I put my family first, not my public, because I don't have any public 😂. Just how I like it ☺️.
I now clean the houses of wealthy and extremely wealthy people, I charge whatever I want and they gladly shell out because I do a great job. It's perfect because I make more than I did in my dental profession, I make my own hours, and I don't deal with any drama at all. I make my own contract and make them follow it (they always try to guilt me into cleaning up Fifi's poopoo from the Persian rug or Fiona's piddle from the marble in the sunroom but I'm like "check the contract! "I DO NOT CLEAN: bodily fluids or excrement from anything living or deceased, or what it came from. It will be left where it lies. I do not offer an add-on fee/service for any hazardous materials." means *no Fifi poo,* period! No means no! Lol 😂 I leave it right there where it lies. Golf rules 😂).
As for the family you nanny for, I hope you are able to enjoy the kiddos and put up solid boundaries with the parents to protect yourself emotionally amd legally. I learned that lesson the hard way trying to be helpful, trying to be nice. It is so important to set really clear boundaries and stick to them. Any time I have strayed from that advice I have regretted it!
All the best to you! 💞
The last paragraph 100 percent accurate.
I really hope some of these families read these comments and have their eyes opened. They need a wake up call. Sometimes I’d like to see a reality show of these “ultra posh” families losing all of their wealth and see how they deal with real life and *gasp!* parenting their OWN children 😱 They’d probably end up LOVING their new, messy, poor life.
Love the minefield example.
That mother who said she WANTS her son to go to Cambridge or Oxford and she WANTS him to be a scientist is probably the worst kind of parent. Kids are more than just what YOU want them to be. They’re their own person and they have their own dreams and aspirations in life. Parents should GUIDE and not FORCE kids into what they want to be in life or what they want to do. It’s just sad seeing when she said she wants him to be a scientist, he rolled his eyes and sighed like he’s probably heard her saying that to every person she’s ever introduced him to. It’s just sad, very sad.
I thought that was funny that she said that because scientists do not get paid anywhere near the lifestyle that she has.
Very sad indeed. He's being treated as if he's some kind of product off an assembly line. Just in that quick moment though, I sense he's going to be an amazing man one day. Maybe he will writhe against the control and become a great person despite it all.
In Asia, there is a term called “Tiger Mom.” She fits the perfect description of such.
I tell my kids all the time, it's not my job to tell them who they are, it's their job to tell me who they are.
the nanny with the vegan family...i nannied for a family with a pretty strict, healthy diet and the kids telling her something is ok and not knowing if it's true or not hits me right in the feels!! It is a thing that happens alot!!
I feel like the kids will grow up to have eating disorders with their mom being the way she is
I can only imagine. Part of the reason being a nanny would be difficult
That little girl did know the word Fanta for sure! Mom is clueless that the girls wouldn’t have heard soda names from other friends or TV 😅
And I’m betting that they have had that sort of thing at a friend’s house and mom never knew, which is why they said they have it all the time.
She's an almond mom. 🧍
The man that bought a house for their nanny was fair and generous, giving back to someone so important in their lives. On the other hand, that other lady could surely afford paying a holiday for the nanny to see her children or bring them over for a visit at least once a year -I guess there are enough guestrooms in the castle? I have a workaholic neighbour that has enough money to afford a live-in nanny for her two children and a maid. However, she's had 3 different nannies and a dozen different maids in the last 3 years. I think the reason is because she sees them as replaceable objects at her service, not as people with their own problems, needs, dreams, etc. They play such a vital role, they are part of the family! I think showing an interest in them as human beings and being generous says A LOT of who you are. Little details like taking them out to a nice restaurant in their birthday is nothing for a rich person but means a lot to the nanny, makes her feel special, appreciated and grateful. Wish more people could see it this way, is a win-win situation for everybody.
Agree. No matter the difference in status, you should always treat people with respect and consideration. I am surprise that the overseas nanny didn't get to go home once a year to see her own children. I know a family that had a lived in maid for over ten years - it was in her contract to be flown back to her country once a year to see her family. I think it's the least of what the rich can do to show some humanity.
I knew a family like this, they would pay for their nanny’s kids to come visit every summer and winter holiday. She stayed with the family for over 15 years
@@_salzberri I've never heard of this arrangement. By far, it's the most compassionate. The children don't lose out too much by not having mommy in their lives. They get to see how she lives and how she works for money. Everyone gains a good perspective. A happy story.
@@mabuhayPinay yeah ikr! I respected tf out of it and the kids (two girls) loved the “vacation” because they got to travel to the family’s home over the years. So even though their mom was gone they still found a compromise for them.
@@Aj-uu5is the filipino nanny you mean,Connie ?Well,it is not the rich woman´s fault that Connie spread her legs , popped 3 kiddies who she needs to support, and live far from where they are. Or did the rich woman force Connie to pop kiddies? NOPE. Poor people should not have kids. They just let them suffer from day 1.
I thought Heidi was *almost* somewhat normal until she just magically expected Marie to read her mind regarding how and what to feed her children. If you have a certain plate or meal structure, like x amount of vegetetables and x amount of main course, make a little diagram for your employee! Or just have a conversation, for goodnesssake. Moreover, that was an INCREDIBLY awkward and inappropriate to discuss in front of the children around minute 27. First of all, if you say a child (or an adult for that matter) cannot have something, they'll just want it even more lol. And you can see on the girls' faces that they KNOW Marie is being reprimanded... Just so CRINGE.
on my departure I would leave Hersey kisses under their pillow! That is just over the top to expect this nanny to know it all. And her discussing in front of the children in this way is red flag of what she would mostly likely face, lack of respect and understanding. Wait till the kids get older - they will eat sugary treats and there is not damn thing this mother can do about it.
You could see the kids were craving other foods as they manipulated the nanny into buying them Fanta.
That is a recipe for "Wife Swap"!!!!
Any time you are leaving your children or some aspect of their care (for example, their meals) to someone else, the very first thing you should do is to give clear instruction on what you expect and what needs to be done. It was ridiculous that she didn't have a more in depth conversation about the dietary expectations in advance of actually having Marie in charge of their food/drink intake.
@@lissamk3990 the mother was "far too" busy doing her high paid work to take time out to explain it to the nanny.
The vegan Mum should have given proper and full instructions and directions when the nanny first arrived!
yeah exactly - if you’re going to be particular then make some lists
Yes especially because the kids lied to the nanny.
Plus she needs to lighten up a little. I personally hate fizzy drinks & junk food, but let them try it once in awhile or they’ll develop a secret addiction to it later in life. And to just let them be kids! Btw, Fanta was developed by Nazis. I’m not kidding.
The super rich love to nitpick others, it's their great joy. What else are they to do with their time? If they gave full instructions, they'd miss out on their fun.
she sould get a vegan nanny, not a
This is very sad. Being a Mother is the most difficult but rewarding experience in the whole world. These Mums and Dads are truly missing out.
"She doesn't do it for the money..." Anybody else hear _"...because we barely pay her as it is already."_ I really hope Mrs Posh lady is paying Connie what she is worth. She's talking care of 5 kids! I've heard horror stories of nannies -especially the nannies that go to live as a foreigner in a strange country, who are being taken advantage of by their employers. I really hope her salary was increased with each child she saw come into this world.
3…there are 3 childrens
@@ruthmaier755 5... Connie takes care of her 5 children.
@@ruthmaier755 I think Yanire is right with her number. But even 3 would be a good number for an increased salary. I babysittet 3 kids for some time and they were lovely and kind, but it was still a lot of work - and babysitting is not even close to being a full-time nanny.
Her phone 24:41
Compared to the Austrian lady she seemed nice but it was very obvious she has no idea how much her nanny has had to sacrifice in her life to be there. Like don't think shes a bad boss shes just incredibly oblivious to what regular ppl go through.
I was feeling really burned out with parenting before I watched this. Now I feel grateful. Yes, I sit by the trampoline for hours, listen to endless questions and chatter, and am going grey from stress. BUT. I won't live with the regret of farming out my flesh and blood. 😭
and your kids will never have to feel like their mother doesn't care about them! You're giving them an amazing childhood
I went to a very "posh" boarding high school in Europe. I was not "posh" just lucky that my father's company paid because of remote location of work. (Africa). It was enlightening. Some kids had been sent for convenience, some just because of wealth, some to be kept away from "problems" (family or political) but just a mish mash of young kids away from home. How quickly you become family...and it was not a bad thing. From all corners of the earth. I learned quickly not to envy wealth. Some were old money and some nouveau riche. The great equalizer was we were all young and away from home. Truly we were the motley odds. I came out knowing I was lucky to have a "normal" family with extended family that were just good ordinary people who were never too busy to be thrilled for visits and embrace with big hugs.
I really appreciate your comment. You came out of the experience with appreciation for your normal and extended family; in other words, relationships w people who care and love you (& vice-versa) are important to you. You said wealth is not to be envied -- I agree on that. Having lots of money puts you in a position of power. Unfortunately, having more translates to being better (than everybody) - which is false. If you are lucky enough NOT to fall for this, then you can use this power to help others, such as allowing your Filipina nanny to return to her home country every several months to visit her own children; hugging your kids tightly and every so often, doing the nightly ritual and tucking them in bed; asking your chauffeur what his family needs the most and delivering it. The consequences of these acts will return to you a thousand-fold because then, you would gain a new appreciation for what your staffers do & sacrifice for your family and they in turn will want to do a better job. And more will be gained by you, if you put some effort and do the messy work of caring for your children every once in a while -- you can be present to them, you can get to know them, you can see them in all their glorious and miserable traits - and at the end of the day, they are hugged and know that they are accepted.
Well, kids are just kids. We are all once an innocent souls before the world corrupt us.
I'm curious. Where the old money as bad as the people in this documentary?
I can completely relate to everything you wrote. I had a very similar experience and at the end of the day, we were all kids away from home.
Me too. I spent my childhood in boarding schools. What a crazy world.
I remember Tori Spelling saying she was basically raised by her nanny and that she actually had more love for her than her actual parents
imagine how Heidi will feel if she ever finds out that there is as much sugar in apple juice as there is in fanta...
😂😂😂😂 Love your comment 😂😂😂
@June Bug , it's the overcontrolling parents that raise the sneakiest liars. This will backfire on her.
It’s not the sugar. It’s the dye.
Yep! I used to buy 100% juice and dilute it with a lot of water for the kids
As Heidi explained, they do not have sweets or cakes either.
I am SO happy to be "just" average......could not imagine being 8 years old and having 12 tutors and none of them is your Mom......what an insane amount of pressure these kids must endure. Really sad.
and the pressure to perform well must be out of this world if you've got so many tutors!
I also feel sorry for the kid with the Asian mom, he doesn’t have a say in his future; and the Russian girl, she has been playing violin since 5 years old because the parents decided that she’s good at it. SMH
@@thienkimnguyen1260 it triggered me so much when the Asian mom said she had dreams for his future and him becoming a scientist. is she a scientist herself? does she know what it even takes? if it's not something she would do herself, it's very likely he won't have inclinations towards it either, he may not enjoy it, he may have talent for something else, why don't these people ever treat their kids as human beings that have their own free will and not some form of investment?
@@Kementeri Exactly. Those kind of expectations can be detrimental. I seriously hope the kid grows into a young man who pursues his chosen path. I don’t hope for the mom to change because people like her are hopeless in changing, it’s too deep-rooted in them.
Insane that these people would agree to do this documentary because all it did was prove that rich people are completely out of touch with the normal human experience and are possibly raising a bunch of entitled children with no ability to form normal relationships when you’ve taught them to offload all relationship burdens on a paid professional instead of dealing with any difficulties yourself. The super rich couldn’t survive 1 second as a normal person, and I only find disgust in my heart for them.
The children grow up not even knowing their own parents !!Poor excuse ..They r raising a generation of Borderline personality disorders !! Quite sad really.
The UHNW families are secretly proud to be the way they are.
dont be jealous of the rich.
Textbook narcissism
They’re narcissists so they love it.
When she said that the maids and the nannies had to be ugly, so her love wasn't distracted, I laughed so hard! One of our anesthesiologists hired a Russian nanny, because she was brilliant, but very plain-looking. She was so taken by her good character that she paid for her to complete additional degrees to be a certified nurse anesthetist. The kids grew too old to have a nanny, and she met a wonderful and handsome man. They married, and she has 3 children of her own. She is such a smart and lovely person.
Así que el médico anestesiólogo se compró una esposa y tuvo una aventura con ella mientras estaba casado, no es algo que se deba tomar como romántico
The vegetarian mom is the most evil kind of employer. She didn't TELL that poor woman what she wanted then was all huffy when she didn't get what she wanted.
I can't wait for her husband to dump her aaaa s
Yes.
It felt to me as if she knowingly set her up. And this in front of her children and the TV - you coud see how uncomfortable Marie felt in this scene at the table.
Agreed! She should have said something in the interview. If she did, it was edited out and the rest was a script.
Yeah I don't get the logic behind that.
"we established she's good at playing the violin" - right. and her dead face while being forced to play an instrument she doesn't enjoy tells enough.
parents who force their lifedreams on their children like that are the worst. each human >individual< needs to flourish and be exactly that - individual
I agree to some extent, I know a lot of these people know too much but! That family seemed very kind to their nanny, provided her a house, wanted the daughter to have discipline and not be a spoiled brat.
Also, many musicians make funny faces or don't look happy. Not saying she's happy, but at the end of the performance she smiled so I don't think she hates it too much.
@@hinatau2 Yes, plus I think people forget that Russian culture tends to encourage a flat affect and not smiling very often.
Well i didnt have to play violin, or participate any sort of afterschool classes and i grew up having No idea what do i like to do in life, so i think it’s better to push children to try different activities.
I completely agree. Parents like that are awful. I was shocked by the mother"s definition of her her role. "I'm the mother, I decide."
Not that I disagree but ... thats' all ? To her there's nothing else to being a parent ? Geez.
Unfortunately for the poor girl, I found out that this particular story didn't end well. Scrolling through the comments, I came upon this :
Rūta P.
Did some googling about these families and found out that the violin girl died about 3 years ago from overdose: "Katya Tsukanova was hosting a party for friends in June this year, a few days after turning 17, when she appears to have overdosed on a combination of drugs." So young, so sad..
Looks like you were right. The poor girl was not happy at all. Agree with Rūta P. it is so sad.
@@delphinepallud9030 Wow. By the way I recommend posting this on the main comments page too.
A girl punches her brother with a boxing glove, he cries and no one is there to hug and comfort him and discipline her. No nanny, no chauffeur, no chef, no assistant, no siblings and most important no parents...meanwhile mum is talking about her (she said well mannered-one makes fun of chauffeur's accent, other hits her brother) children's modeling in her catalog. Isn't that sad?
For real. All that staff and 0 supervision or care somehow.
That’s the thing though. While no one was there to comfort that little boy, there definitely was a camera capturing every moment of his distress. Meanwhile mommy is hamming it up in another room and the father is just a picture on the wall.
and i could be wrong but i doubt those kids are getting paid. so she just gets to use them for free labor.
Bur..the cameras are watching them 😳
Im confused? Why does he need comforting? Kids or siblings play fight and end up hurting each other all the time. It's part of growing up. Running to comfort a child over something so trivial is not a good thing. If anything that is the one normal, non spoiled thing going on in this video.
Why did these people choose to have children?!? They clearly don't want them for anything but for the status of having them. This is genuinely sad.
Exactly. They had them for bragging rights,tax deductions and heirs. They clearly didn't have a yearning to be parents.
@@mrshappilymarried1 If they don't have kids who's gonna inherit it all? Some random strangers who don't have their blood or not going to expand that business? Point is: They don't parent even three hours per day, which is really sad.
@@mrshappilymarried1 Millions of the poor neglect their kids. At least these are provided for materially.
Gotta lock down the rich hubby by giving him heirs…obvi 🤷🏻♀️
Everyone who choose to have children do it for their own selfish reason.
While the vegan mom chastised the nanny’s meal in front of her daughters, damn woman, she totally ignored the fact that her daughters loved what the nanny had prepared. One girl had almost cleaned her plate and the other daughter was clearly enjoying it. I bet she finished that plate of pasta. Vegan mean mom needed to give the nanny a list of meal plans including the recipes to be used. The nanny said in the interview she could prepare anything with a recipe.
Also did you notice the girls totally ignored what their mother was saying giving the impression they had heard their mom say all this so often, probably to other employees-where is their last nanny?-they just shut their mother out. All they cared about was getting that pasta down like it was going to be taken away at any moment. All vegan mean mom had to say was, give them less, add a nice salad, and it’s a great meal. Also a compliment about how much the girls were liking what the nanny had made them would have been appropriate. Kindness doesn’t seem to be part of this mother’s make-up.
I don’t trust vegans😂. There is something wrong with people loving vegetables
I didn't even knew why I was watching this, but you said it so right
She looks constipated by the way she complains about everything 🙄
@@yr2180 I don‘t trust meat eaters. There‘s something wrong with people loving meat
She seems to be that kind of person that enjoys letting others run headlong into any trap possible. She doesn't give people vital information, so she can chastise them for doing it wrong afterwards. Seems to me there isn't much "spiritual" in that woman if she draws her energy and joy from others failing.
THIS IS BY FAR THE MOST GROTESQUE FORM OF PARENTING EVER! A child is a gift.
The mom of 5 who employs Connie truly takes advantage of having 5 children and the love they would give her and her husband. Her saying she can “go party anywhere in London anytime” really irritated 😤 why have 5 children if you’re just going to pawn them off on other people???
At the same time, the exact same thing could be said about the dad? They are not even in this documentary? We still expect women to run the household and do the childcare?
In all honesty you should be able to do both. There needs to be a balance. Just cause you have kids doesn't mean your personal life stops and it's okay to have a nanny but damn..the whole "I don't change a diaper" and Just the overall look of using your kid as like human prop is crazy
@@Pimpin0225 exactly!!!
She has the money to have help so she can do that. Don't hate on her. She doesn't party everyday all day but when she wants to go to one she can. Just like you or any other mother who pays for a baby sitter to go out for the night. She just pays full time
She has 8 kids now
I’m not a parent yet, but one day I may decide to try to be a daddy. Waking my child up in the morning, driving them to school, picking them up, listening to them about their day, and helping them with their homework would be the greatest parts of my day and life. I want to be there on the beautiful days, the good days, the bad days, and the ugly days. All of those experiences are what it means to truly be a dad. Those times when I’ll wake up in the middle of the night to comfort them when they are having a nightmare and are crying. The times when I would normally rest but instead take up my child’s hobbies and play with them. To the day I’ll be crying watching them go off to college and one day watching them get married. Even as a prospective dad I can’t imagine missing any of it. One day we’re all gonna be on our death bed and leave our loved ones behind. It doesn’t matter if we were rich or powerful. What matters is love. If I have kids and the day comes that I pass I want them to remember me, their dad, not by the material goods or money I gave them, but by the constant love, support, and presence I showed them. Peace and love to all the parents and prospective parents out there 💙🤙.
Super Star: Will you marry me? 😁
Please, adopt me.
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The lady restricting those girls' food has an eating disorder & is imposing one on both of her children by force. There are vegan cakes & chocolates that are healthy & tasty; there's no reason not to give that to them... It's ridiculous...
Yeah, those kids have a high chance of binge-eating by university. That is just outrageous.
Yep. They'll have to likely get therapy in their 20s to deal with the ED, too- that happened to me. Parents can't teach what they don't know (ie how to have a healthy relationship with food).
i have rich cousins who grew up under parents like her (my mother's brother and his wife). My cousins didn't stop eating that kind of food, they just became sneaky about it and would make deals with people who worked in their house or people who visited. Whenever they came to my house my mother would buy them a ton of "unhealthy" food and they just resented their parents for all of it.
My workplace caters to all kinds of diets, including vegan options.. There's many tasty vegan foods so even if she wanted her kids to be vegan she can still allow them desserts and not make them hate vegan food (I think it's kind of obvious they won't be vegan if they had a choice 😂
I have a relative who is raising vegan children. Her third child was a premie who was fed a special non vegan formula and diet for her first two years. That child three years younger is bigger than the five year old and the two year old was born two months premature and VERY tiny baby. The five year old is bearly talking, very resentful and always hungry. She can clearly see she is being treated unfairly. None of us can understand how the parents can not see this. Honestly, if it wasn’t for the cheats they get at parties I think the older ones would not be well at all as sick and stunted as they seem as it is. Recently, a few vegan parents who starved their children to death were put in prison for life. So finally the precedent has been set. Depriving ones self as an adult of essential nutrients is one thing but starving children is quite another.
That Philippine lady broke my heart. She's a beautiful, strong independent woman. Her sacrifice for her kids... She deserves everything 👏
Indeed we need more mothers like her
*Filipino
Yes. Reminds me of my yaya.
The irony in her situation is that while she’s caring for the kids of an absentee mom, she has become an absentee mom. I get that the situation or different but the irony is there.
It’s super difficult not feel judgment toward the mother with the Filipino nanny. She can only go home every two years…either they are horribly stingy or a bit cruel imo.
Did she just say ;There a big problem worldwide in potty training? That has got to be the most ridiculous world problem.
Because these people have lots of money but ZERO brain cells. 🤣
I firmly believe that was a sales gimmick. These people are coming to her because they don’t know how or don’t have time to potty train their kids themselves. They perhaps either think or have convinced themselves that it is too hard. So they turn to hiring a professional to do it but they have to feel good whilst doing so. By her saying that there is a potty training problem, even when there isn’t one, it makes these parents feel better about hiring her because they feel like they are doing something good, and that they are justified in not potty training their child themselves.
Especially in the UK😂😂
I was thinking maybe they wanted to take her process and go make their own money with it, finding families that may need help.
Taking advantage of their ignorance. These people are so sad, they don't know how to raise children and a lettuce has more iq than them. They need to be taken srsly, so by making their rich problems a worldwide epidemic they don't feel so pathetic. They have to feel understood and safe, so you just sell them whatever, so they can be happy and they give you money they don't need for something they don't actually need, 'cause they just can't be bothered. They want their """"problem"""" solved.
I was a full-time nanny/babysitter here in the States, I was always treated like a servant, if anything went wrong even if I wasn't there It was always my fault, one family I was with full-time for over 11 years since the oldest was a few weeks old, that was over 30 years ago, I loved those 3 children, still do, but unfortunately they turned into snobs just like their parents, one of them married last fall, I was not invited, broke my heart, there's hidden abuse too, you're paid peanuts, one family called me Nanny, no name, you don't have to be rich to mistreat those who are loving and caring for your most precious possessions - your children!
I'm sorry that you went through that. I wish more people treated workers (especially those close to the family) with more respect
Good thing the children are not their possessions, they are gifts from God.
If Connie treats those kids so lovingly imagine how much she must miss her own children and how much her children are missing their mum. So sad when a parent has to move away to support a child and can't be by their side
As someone who grew up with nannies, i'm absolutly sickened and revolted how these kids are treating the people who work for them!!! I have a very close relationship with my nanny cus she's been with my family literally for my whole life, we are no where near as wealthy as these family’s in this video, but I could could NEVER imagine treating her or her family or any one of a """"lower class""""" with an absoulte lack of humanity. Absolutely digusting. That's all I wanted to say. How horrible. Their parents are raising them to be horrible people
It's not the children's fault. They just repeat what they hear from the adults
The parents are to blame. They have no clue what is normal respectful way to treat people or how to teach their children this.
worst breed of parent, the children are only modeling what they are taught.
That's the right attitude. Please never stop treating your nanny as family! X
I spent my early years being in the care of a live in nanny, although it was nothing near as posh as professionally trained nannys. She was absolutely lovely. After I was born (third child) my mom had to work and had little time to look after me, thus the idea of a nanny was brought up. It was fantastic. I had two moms essentially. I think that there is a healthy balance to it though, if all the important milestones are left to the nanny to take care of, there will naturally be distancing between parent and child. I’m glad that while my mom was busy, she specifically and intentionally spent time with me. Through this I’ve always understood my mom was busy and respected that and I’ve never felt neglected. So in summary I will say that having a nanny can be a very helpful and beneficial thing if it is done in the right balance. I still speak with and love my nanny today, 19 years later.
yes, your situation was different. Your Mom actually worked and didn't consider work as attending cocktail parties, dress ups or photoshoots
I feel so bad for the Russian mother, she seems very sweet and like she’s been through a lot. I also like that she described the woman who unfortunately ended up stealing from her as extra help as it shows she’s involved in her kids lives and as a single parent, just needs some extra help. I feel like she, far more so than the other mothers featured in the video, actually needed the help she was seeking since she was after security for herself and her kids.
The notion of paid staff being "like family" reminded me of an elderly patient my mother assisted some years back. This woman had spent decades caring for this family, their children, their home, and they told her she was family. She believed them. Now an old woman, she became ill and had to be hospitalized for a couple of months. When it was time for her to be released, they didn't want her back -- she had no home to go to. I guess her membership in their family hit its expiration date. My mother, who was part of discharge planning for the hospital, had to tell this woman that she couldn't go back to what she considered her home. I don't remember where she wound up being placed but just remember thinking how much of a gut punch it must have been for someone who actually believed her rich employers when they said she was family.
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Wow that is freaking brutal… it kind of reminds me of one of the last scenes in the movie ‘Midsommer’ when two cult members are being set ablaze inside of a small cottage as part of a ritual. They give the guys a “potion“ that will “ make them feel no pain“ when the flames touch them. Needless to say it doesn’t work and the look of betrayal on the guy’s face when he realizes that everything he had believed his entire life was all a complete lie. I couldn’t even imagine feeling that way in real life. So tragic it makes my stomach turn.
The sad reality 😢
rich people most of the times are scimpy ,they can pay thousands for a stupid ,ugly dress to wear on ,but they don't want to pay enough their employees!that's the reason they make so much money!they want only to earn money but never to spend them on others!
If your child has specific dietary restrictions and you're bringing in someone who knows nothing about them to prepare their food, it's absolutely ridiculous to expect them to just KNOW all the specific tiny details - especially when it's a diet that's alternative to the mainstream. The issues could have been avoided if she just wrote down or explained clear instructions on what is and isn't allowed and what serving sizes to prepare. I could never handle this, the complete lack of instruction and clarity would create so much anxiety that it'd make me ill.
Felt to me like she was setting her up for failure from the start just to add drama to the show
The way that little girl gave the camera an evil grin after telling the Nanny they could have Fanta, thus getting her in trouble was chilling! 😬
On the other hand that spaghetti was really huge
Totally, If the Nanny didn't have a list.
Yeah i thought that vegan mom was kinda stupid. Yes its 48hrs trial but if u hv no specific instructions of the dos n donts ie list them out woman!! How the h*** did she expect of the nanny. Ure diet is ABNORMAL.. and serving portion etc.. id ran as far away as i can. But the nannys hair is outrageous. Not tied up not combed. It looked oily dirty and i bet theyre all over the place...and the co that recruited her DO NOT HV A STD at all... so... yeah
But i like the african goddess n her nanny, they more cordial and i sense warmth in their household.
She said Connie was a parent of two, moments later it's revealed she's a parent of three. She doesn't even know her own nanny, who is like the second mom to her children. I'm not sure what to think of this, but I know I think it's sad for any kid to miss out on being with their parents.
I’m really hoping she said “momma too” or something. I feel so bad for Connie…
You’re right. I didn’t catch that.
She only shows 2 children and named 2 so I went back to listen thinking you were mistaken but you had it right. That’s strange.
No, no. I listen to it multiple times, and she does have 2 kids. 2 girls I believe. She left them when the older one was 5 (she said 6, no 5 that's why you thought its 3 kids), and the other kid when she was 3. Now they are 22 and 25.
@@midoriioyama9548 she said she's worked with them for 8 years...her kids were at the very youngest, 14 when taking the job...also it was a boy and a girl.
The logic, understanding and respect the Russian investment banker showed to the nanny (by buying her a home) is notable. It shows his bond with his child is of great personal importance. He’s not just saying he cares, he demonstrated it. An admirable quality. He’s correct one of the best investments he’s made.
And we are to think he doesn't expect anything in return??, yeah right!
@@anovemberstar yeah my 1st thought is he bought his side woman a house to keep her quiet. There's no way he bought her a house just because he's kind. He's definitely having an affair with her!
That’s unfortunate that you see the world in that false way. My husband and I would absolutely buy a home for our child’s nanny if they were with us for 13 years and were helping us to raise our child in a nice way. We both have extremely busy and demanding jobs and a nanny can become part of your family. My own nanny was like family to us. Of course you want to help your staff and their family too when they become that close!
What angered me more than anything was they did not help the Asian woman clean up that mulch. Where I come from in the southern U.S, you are never too important to clean up your own mess. What is wrong with these people?
and then they even talked about her just a few meters away in the car, watching her clean...
Exactly! The driver and the PA were as bad as the employer for not lifting a finger. And then the PA made the excuse that 'oh we just do what Nina says, she (the maid) does all the dirty jobs no one wants to do'. Really sad.
I really felt for her, what a nightmare having to work for Nina. She comes across very self obsessed, full of only her self interest & little else.
that was humiliating, they were all standing there while she was cleaning they mess.
Yeah all these people make me genuinely sick to my stomach. They are more or less exactly the same everywhere you go, and with very few exceptions.
I have more in common with somebody who speaks a different language and has a completely different culture than I have with somebody from my own country who has never had to wash a dish or change a dirty diaper
I felt so sorry for that young boy whose mom said "I want him to be a scientist" What if he wants to be an artist or designer or anything else he wants to be? The control over that boy will be overwhelming and likely have devastating repercussions in his future, the poor kid already looked bewildered!
My thoughts exactly!! 🎯
A woman like that shouldn't have kids-what a narcissist. He didn't care look bewildered to me, more like he wanted to roll his eyes
There is a girl in my class who ALWAYS obsesses over her grades. She is relieved when she gets a grade good enough for her parents. She laughs it off and think it’s weird I’m not having my parents know all my grades and results in school( we’re 18). I think it’s sad because she has to become a doctor for someone else
@@johannabagelius4177 I don't envy her! I've learned from my own life experience and from that of having raised three children that most people will NEVER be happy doing something unless they're doing it because they enjoy it or because they can reach a goal of THEIRS by doing it. Doing things to make true loves happy usually makes YOU happy, but parents have never fit into that category, at least for me.
I'm sorry she's in that situation!
@Samiya Masih It would be different if the boy wanted to be a scientist, but it was pretty obvious from his facial expressions that he couldn't care less about being a scientist, that was all his mom's ambitions for him, not something he wanted for himself.
I never thought that having your mom full time with you and having your dad working hard and telling stories after dinner with a cup of tea is the luxuries that no one can buy. Once my father was one of the richest man in the country, after our country fall in flames of war, my parents travelled to another country. I and my siblings were born refugees, and we had a small house with very very much love and care. I cry when I remember my old days.
Beautiful memories and comment.
Well said! I used to wish to be wealthier when I was younger but now I’m just grateful that I had loving parents and memories
Lovely memories... When our parents love us unconditionally, it means we were absolutely wealthy and fancy life style than any rich people in the world ❤️
@@emma_eegii Well stated!!
These children are beautiful, as all children are.
I hope that these nannies, tutors, and bodyguards can love and raise these children to be wonderful adults.
Just finished watching a Real Stories video about child poverty before this video auto-played and the wealth disparity and how children are born into vastly different circumstances is heartbreaking.
Yup it's funny how even 1 child in this video is worth more than my entire bloodline combined.
No one needs to be poor. There are people who have enough wealth to change many people lives but selfishness and self serving is too great. So, in a world of plenty people needlessly suffer.
this is capitalism!that's why so a few have so many and so many people are not able to feed their children!
As long as there exist income inequality, the smartest thing for poor folks to do is not have offspring & thus not subject their poor children to poverty & potential abuse! From a child right's perspective, only those who can afford to properly provide for a child in terms of sufficient education (without relying on the state) and proper training for a wholesome & fulfilling life experience should have kids. Poor folks having kids is just dumb & perpetuates the cycle of poverty & income inequality!
@@alexds8452
That sounds like eugenics to me. You are saying poor people are not as worthy than rich people, so they should not have children.
My brother and I had a nanny each and my mother had strict instructions on diet, we were vegetarians. As soon as she left for work, nanny made us fried eggs, plenty of rice and hotdogs (they were free to shop for their food preferences). We were very happy during Breakfast! The times with our nannies were so much joy, I called mine mama. The down side is, my mother and I were not very close but she was just working very hard to give us a good life. Nannies are a blessing because you get an extra person loving you. My parents helped two of them finish college degrees for all the love they gave us.
At least it ended up well!
Did mom ever find out about the food?
She wasn't working very hard to give you a good life, she was working very hard to hoard money and give you way more than you needed.
It’s very disrespectful to give meat to a vegetarian child behind their parents’ backs.
@@clareruth3588 lol, they all do it. Believe me when they go to their friends houses they aren't following your rules lol. Btw, I'm a by choice vegetarian since I was 13, I DON'T force it on my daughter or anyone else. Kids need the protein and the substitutes will never be enough for them to grow properly. I'm also speaking from experience here. . Id never force my beliefs onto others.
Edit, lemme clarify. . We had chickens when I was a kid, one day we came home from school and noticed half the chickens were gone.... There was 4 of them in our freezer and she had sold the others after they were butchered. . . She tried to feed it to us that night and that just destroyed me!! Can't handle meat to this day and I don't eat fish either. I'm 34 now with a ten yr old daughter. Maybe that makes the difference tho because mine was caused by a traumatic experience of my mom trying to feed our friends to us. If that makes sense
The painter:
“A woman, a mother…”
Cuts to the mother in question:
“Can you close the door don’t let them in here.”
The laugh I let out😭
How dare the children ruin her moment of being the centre of attention!
(I'm sure she would have let the chihuahua's in though)
🤣 how did I miss that 36:42
The awkwardness in that scene lol
I respect the grind. He knows she is horrible, but has money and pays well. I mean, he even compared her to Grace Kelly!!!😂😂😂😂
@@b-chu9747 Yep, he's a smooth operator. She likes idealised images of her children adoring her, the real ones are a nuisance! 🤣
No wonder so many of these kids grow to be narcissist. This was so sad to watch. When I was a child my parents were very wealthy in Africa. I was told my parent's were so detached that when I cried they will wait for the nanny to come pick me up. I was their first born, and they never spend anytime with me. When I grew up they were still very detached. Never even asked me how was school, or how was I feeling. My aunt brought me to America at the age of four. She and the rest of the family found me to be a strange child, because I never cried or asked for my parents. I was so detached they said.
Very sorry to hear that. I hope you got the love and support you needed from your aunt and other members of your family.
Aww…Blessings to you…that is a terrible way to grow up! I don’t approve & most of us don’t approve…rather disgusting…worship $ more is what it is
O dear