Don't Compare Yourself to Others | Jack Canfield

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  • @JackCanfield
    @JackCanfield  6 років тому +16

    Thank you for watching today! Have you ever found yourself falling into the ''comparison trap''? Were you able to pull yourself out of it and get back to focusing on yourself? And if so, how? Leave a comment below!

    • @mogbeamreyan8912
      @mogbeamreyan8912 6 років тому

      Yes🙇🏽‍♂️ I have found myself in comparison before but I was able to stop by focusing on the good qualities in my life😁😁😁

    • @tanyaakh
      @tanyaakh 6 років тому +1

      I stopped comparing the moment I realized that Individuality and Uniqueness cannot be compared. If we compare ourselves to someone that implies that everyone should have the same purpose, values, standards, desires, dreams, etc. But this is not the case. We are all different if we trully listen to our own Inner Selves as opposed to societal expectations. There is a unique purpose for everyone of us and comparison means that we all are or should be the same. Which is nonsense.
      I know from experience that comparing yourself to someone only comes when you don't really know who you are and what your values are and what you came here to do on this Earth. When you are connected to your own Individuality and you value it, the need for comparison will drop off.
      I like to remember the quote of Osho who said:
      "Drop these stupid ideas of being superior or inferior to someone. You are neither superior nor inferior - you are simply YOURSELF. There exists no one like you, no one with whom you can be compared".

    • @jeannecabanis6902
      @jeannecabanis6902 6 років тому

      Dear Jack Canfield,
      thank you so much for your great work!
      The Success Principles is one of my favorite books and I listen to it often and I am always inspired.
      I also love your new video! I am going on a business trip tomorrow with a great collegue and it was just the right time to again see, that the only person I should compare with is my former self ;-)
      I love Robert Redford and Paul Newman and this example made me laugh. The truth is: everyone is beautyful and great in his or her unique way. Thanks for reminding me!
      Besteht regards from Germany

    • @daradance8643
      @daradance8643 6 років тому

      Yes it is!!! I feel very bad after that. Your video just for me)) Thank You!

    • @mairllewellyn2701
      @mairllewellyn2701 6 років тому

      Yes if I do feel deflated, I am easily able to pull myself out of mind games with EFT - I am so familiar with this brilliant techniques which Tam & I taught & trained groups worldwide from 2000 - 2014 which was an amazing gift. When I first heard about it I was skeptical however after watching how it cleared PTSD for war veterans I knew I needed to embark on the training with Gary Craig and many other energy therapies. That's why I love teaching my clients how to help themselves with this amazing way to make a difference to others.

  • @النور-ح3م
    @النور-ح3م 5 років тому

    Love that remember people in wars when we think of comparing

  • @nikigreer8320
    @nikigreer8320 5 років тому +2

    Hello Jack, what a great talk! My teenage son compares his grades to his friend's and my 14 year old daughter is constantly wanting high end clothes! Recently I discovered the book "the untethered soul" and what a breath of fresh air to learn how to disconnect from the voices in our heads! This morning I could hear my son thinking about his friend who received a better grade while working less time of the project: he too was listening to that voice. What a journey we are on!

  • @ladyv2ndtimearoundinc.156
    @ladyv2ndtimearoundinc.156 6 років тому +2

    I like comparing myself to myself. I’m always a lot better than I was 34 years ago or 25 years ago. I then feel gratitude. I am on the right track. Thank you for your wisdom

  • @raccoonsandfriendsproductions
    @raccoonsandfriendsproductions 6 років тому +3

    I have a personal experience that identifies first hand some of the points you've made here, and that might also add another aspect to comparing oneself to others.
    A couple of years ago, I went to an unofficial "ten year high school reunion" with some buddies whom I hadn't seen in years. I was excited for my friends to see how large and muscular I had gotten since high school (because I was always very scrawny throughout high school and felt quite self conscious about it).
    I started comparing myself to them. My friends were not showing off or bragging by any means, but were just talking about what was new/going on in their lives. Some friends had nice homes (I was/still am living with my parents) had or were pursing respectable careers (I was working at an unfulfilling warehouse job) and they either had spouses and kids, or were in a committed relationship (whereas I had been single, not having a girlfriend since high school-not for lack of trying).
    When I got home and went to bed that night, I cried! 29 year old, 6'2", muscular, 200lb Tyson was crying like a baby. So, to your initial point-yes, comparison does cause depression and misery.
    The next day, still feeling down in the dumps, I eventually had a thought: 'Well, I can keep feeling bad about this, or I can do something about it.' The train of thought continued to, 'I've been saying I want to make movies for about ten years now, and haven't. Why not start now? In fact... Why don't I make a movie about *this*??' I immediately felt that there was a story here, that it was relatable-that surely I wasn't the ONLY person who compares themselves to others.
    So I called up my same friends from the party and asked them to do a "repeat" and made a short film called '10 Years Later,' which later was shown in a small film festival here at the very same theater that I grew up watching movies at.
    To one of your other points here, I am also aware that my friends may have been doing their own comparisons, having their own dissatisfactions with life.
    For me, this was my wake up call-my "catalyst for change," or my "inciting incident," as it is often called in storytelling. As you've said before, Jack, when we're not experiencing joy and are instead experiencing unhappiness and pain, it's a sign that we are not living in line with our ultimate purpose. Working at a warehouse is NOT my purpose and filmmaking IS.
    Yes, absolutely-my comparing myself to my friends *did* cause me to be depressed. It ALSO actually helped me to realize that I needed to do something different. I believe all of your points about comparing (and have experienced them first hand) and also feel that it's how you look at it that matters. I viewed it with an attitude of, 'Well if *they* can do it, then so can I."
    This comment may been longer than your entire video, so I apologise. One more thought: I feel like my experience also emphasizes another point that you have taught, Jack, about surrounding yourself with positive people. At my warehouse job, I was surrounded by other people who accepted their less than ideal circumstances as "just the way it is." One day with my high school friends who were doing more, made me want to be better.

  • @AnitaAnita-du5wr
    @AnitaAnita-du5wr 6 років тому +1

    I used to compare myself to successful friends and movie stars and be completely depressed after learning about the law of attraction i understood my blessings. thank you dear jack Canfield for your wisdom and teachings ☺

  • @sallyheath586
    @sallyheath586 6 років тому +5

    Hello Jack.
    My parents, my mother in particular, would always say to me “Why can’t you be more like ...” (fill in the blank) , or “so-and-so wouldn’t do it like that”.
    Without realising it, I spent my whole life judging myself by others standards.
    It took a huge hit by an immune system disorder to teach me to be grateful for just little things each day and now I’m going from strength to strength and for the first time in 46 years I feel free.
    I love your videos and this one today has made me realise how far I’ve come. By the way that’s not just a social media gloat 😄 I still have a way to go, but I’ll be going there for me and not others 🙌🏻✨

  • @susanneschneller9506
    @susanneschneller9506 6 років тому +3

    I think we all fall into the trap of comparing our lives to others but it's so important to focus on you and do activities that make you feel good, like pet your cat, exercise, hug your kids.

  • @daradance8643
    @daradance8643 6 років тому +6

    Thank YOU, Jack!!! You are very kind person! I come from Russia. I love you're book "The success principles" and everything you're talking about! THANK YOU for you're support and knowledge!🤗👏😁

  • @tomcat3153
    @tomcat3153 6 років тому +2

    Hi Jack. Yes I have done this before and it took a while to break the habit. Now I just see everyone on different journeys and mindsets. If anything, I just remind me of the mindset they must have if they are doing better in some area of life and I learn from it

  • @LynnFunk
    @LynnFunk 6 років тому +1

    Thank You Jack! Oh, yes, once in awhile I am human and find myself comparing myself to someone else. I work hard
    to just compare myself to myself and be grateful for what I have and DREAM BIG for where I want to go and what I want to do. You are always inspirational! Thank you!

  • @gypsy698
    @gypsy698 6 років тому +8

    People's lives might look great to you, but they only let you see the good parts of their lives & hide all the bad stuff. So everytime you see this person, think about what they're hiding from the rest of the world. No one's world, no matter how it may seem to you, is perfect.

    • @leighharwood916
      @leighharwood916 5 років тому +1

      Precisely. This is why I've often advised people to get off social media. You only see what people wan't you too see. When you're constantly exposed to the highlight reel of other people's lives - it can leave you feeling somewhat depressed and inadequate (because our lives never quite seem to measure up in comparison).
      When I tell people that I'm not on social media - it's like they suffer a brain freeze. They just cannot understand why I keep it out of my life. They keep telling me that social media is all about staying connected and sharing your life, etc.
      I don't buy it at all. Just seems like a bunch of people attention-whoring and seeking validation from what I've seen.
      Just because something has become normal - that doesn't mean that the behavior in itself is normal.
      But yeah, your point is well founded.

  • @TheWisdomDoctor
    @TheWisdomDoctor 6 років тому

    Tx for the tips. Learned from a quadriplegic: As long as I thought about what I didn't have, don't have now,, or might not have in the future, I was miserable. It all turned around when I focused what I'd achieved, have now, and could have in the future." The one sentence dramatically changed his life in spite of his severe handicap. I believe when we learn to really love our self with the abundance that overflows, other needs become manageable. We applaud other's success instead of envy it. Don Pet

  • @wendyhyde5467
    @wendyhyde5467 3 роки тому

    I love this one Jack, especially the story about Robert Redford & Paul Newman (I've forwarded this to my Mum who will be interested too!) I think I've always compared myself to others (unfavourably) consciously & unconsciously which I believe has definitely held me back & caused me not to show up in a strong light at times which then became a viscous cycle. I watch your UA-cam videos as part of my Power Hour morning routine & this one in particular grabbed me. It's made me conscious about the damage that comparing myself to others can do. It's a habit. And thanks to your simple tip about noticing, stopping & replacing, it's habit I WILL break. Thank You!!

  • @VivianeBossina
    @VivianeBossina 6 років тому +1

    I had to take out all those things that were leading me to compare myself, namely Instagram and Facebook. I am actually in the process right now. I've had to draw closer to God to be reminded of who I am and whose I am. That He has plans for me that are good. That I am loved as I am this very minute. I had to remind myself of these things so that I can genuinely rejoice at other people's achievements and successes.

  • @merridithlarsen7225
    @merridithlarsen7225 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this video. I've got to tune out of my news feed and just stick to my groups. There is alot of positive in my life. But you're right, SM is a vacuum of comparison and can be depressing.

  • @stellapatterson9834
    @stellapatterson9834 5 років тому

    Thank you for this. Very powerful and helpful.

  • @bridgeledoux1270
    @bridgeledoux1270 3 роки тому

    Thank you 🌷

  • @mariya9876
    @mariya9876 6 років тому

    Thanks Jack

  • @evelynwilhelmson9284
    @evelynwilhelmson9284 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for your wonderful ,spot on advice! You are so likeable and wise. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and doing the world a great service!

    • @JackCanfield
      @JackCanfield  6 років тому

      Thank you for watching. Happy to help ❤️

  • @DoanYuSi
    @DoanYuSi 6 років тому

    This topic came up at exactly the right time. I forwarded it to someone who'd just posted a video, advising her friends not to compare themselves to anyone because it makes you feel miserable. Next thing I'm seeing a FB posting about being either too young or that younger people said - "too old" and how confusing to know where to fit. The main criticisms implied, "not being enough.'" I sent your video, saying that everyone has their own perception. It has nothing to do with who you truly are. Thank you again, for your excellent timing with this wisdom.

  • @mogbeamreyan8912
    @mogbeamreyan8912 6 років тому +8

    Wow thanks Jack👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽.. Watching your reviews uplift my soul.... I love you 🕺🏽🕺🏽🕺🏽

    • @JackCanfield
      @JackCanfield  6 років тому

      Thank you for your kind words and thank you for watching!

    • @daradance8643
      @daradance8643 6 років тому

      I agree!!!

  • @thelongwindingpathtowardsf4978
    @thelongwindingpathtowardsf4978 4 роки тому

    Great video Jack, really interesting and helpful.

  • @media247tv3
    @media247tv3 6 років тому +3

    This is powerful! Thanks Jack

  • @ifrankjames1155
    @ifrankjames1155 6 років тому +1

    Great video!

  • @marychristou1705
    @marychristou1705 6 років тому

    Excellent video, Jack! Needs to be watched repeatedly so we don't forget!

  • @stevenrussi5595
    @stevenrussi5595 5 років тому

    I have fallen into the comparison trap many times, but thanks to this video I rarely do it anymore. Thank you Jack Canfield for putting things into perspective. ^_^

  • @phillee40
    @phillee40 6 років тому

    All so true Jack. Comparison is just one of the ways that our neurotic thoughts manifest. The real culprit is your ego...not your neighbour with the new car or your friend with the new house. You can't change these ego driven thoughts (If you could have you would have done it by now), but you can realise the true source and learn to distance yourself from them so that, over time, they are no longer dominating your awareness. If you want to konw more about this I would suggest you immerse yourself into the works of people like Eckhart Tolle, Michael Singer and Ram Das.
    BTW, contrary to what most people believe in the West, you really don't need the boat, more money, the perfect job etc to be happy. You already know that but it's the message you're being sold every minute of ever day! I live in a beautiful house, have a lovely wife, great kids who are well and successful, no mortgage, money in the bank....and I'm still waking up fretting over some things...go figure. It's a disease!
    Thanks for addressing this topic Jack.

  • @samikivela6604
    @samikivela6604 5 років тому

    Warm greetings from Finland. I've gained so much from many of these videos and your other work, but this particular one was special. Indeed the right key to a lock. So thank you!

  • @shelee2644
    @shelee2644 5 років тому

    You are such a wonderful person. Thank you for this.

  • @anantbaggolli5204
    @anantbaggolli5204 6 років тому

    Thank you Jack Canfield.love to you.

  • @vardhamansaija5749
    @vardhamansaija5749 3 роки тому

    i always find myself comparing to the success and lifestyles of actors and actresses of all the movies and tv series i watch. it really depressing and yet couldn't stop or lets say, really really hard to stop.

  • @MonicaSancio
    @MonicaSancio 6 років тому +2

    GENIUS Video, seriously! This is the best content I have ever found on this VITAL component of JOY! Thank you so much, Jack!
    🎉💖💜🙌🏼

  • @simonedenouveau6365
    @simonedenouveau6365 6 років тому +1

    What a fantastic video! I will keep your advice in mind Jack! Thank you very much and all the best to you!

  • @sets51
    @sets51 6 років тому

    Thank you, Jack.

  • @DanceWithTheDragon
    @DanceWithTheDragon 6 років тому

    Thanks, Jack. It's a good time to hear it this message.

  • @dererfinder6741
    @dererfinder6741 6 років тому

    Yeah Sir Jack usually social media and TV. But when I searched and I learn a lot and focus to your want and meditating You relieved from stress!

  • @kavyagoel4989
    @kavyagoel4989 3 роки тому

    That is so true sir......comparing actuall pulls your moral down ...just thought of few moments as you said ....thanks a lot sir for helping us to be more positive 😀

  • @manda12320
    @manda12320 6 років тому

    Thank you for this wonderful video, its mean a lot for me since i have so much envy about other success

  • @anowersadathkabir818
    @anowersadathkabir818 6 років тому

    I am totally agree with your point, thanks for your valuable advice.

  • @babooshbabouch364
    @babooshbabouch364 6 років тому

    Thank u so much for this great 👍🏽 video!

  • @saromaliga5937
    @saromaliga5937 6 років тому

    Thanks Jack!

  • @innamcglinchey9509
    @innamcglinchey9509 6 років тому

    Amen to that, Jack! Thank you!!!

  • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
    @ASMRyouVEGANyet 6 років тому +2

    One of my good friends has beautiful skin. I take really good care of my skin but always feel like it could be better. One day my friend and I were talking about our skin and she said "your skin is so beautiful, I wish I had your skin". I busted out laughing and said "that's exactly how I feel about YOUR skin".

  • @RjDhillon1
    @RjDhillon1 6 років тому

    I'm jealous of how much knowledge you have Jack!😊

  • @jeffeschliman
    @jeffeschliman 6 років тому

    Great reminders and tips Jack, thank you! I’ve personally found that journaling gratitude daily is extemly centering. I also love T. Harv Eker distinction of blessing others who have what you want. I equate that to gratitude 2x!! I look forward to seeing you here in Phoenix in November.

  • @aparnarane1090
    @aparnarane1090 6 років тому

    Thank you for such nice video its really helpful

  • @TTUHSL
    @TTUHSL 6 років тому

    I am world's worst at comparing myself with others. But I am able to control myself to realize that I do not have to have everything that the other person has

  • @suenaleo4737
    @suenaleo4737 6 років тому

    Sometimes as an artist I feel that there are people doing greater stuff out there, like Bezos or Jobs, having more impact blah blah blah... and this drains me, sometimes I don’t know how to get out of that zone... very painful and paralizing. So I end up doing nothing and giving up my own personal power... Yes, this video helped, thanks a lot. Still I feel there’s a lot more to do inside... but THANK YOU Jack!!

  • @riyajacob2909
    @riyajacob2909 6 років тому

    Thankyou so much for this message. I promise to myself that I am going to focus my thoughts on what grows ♡☆♡

  • @HN-db5cn
    @HN-db5cn 6 років тому

    Thank you for sending this to my email, I am very grateful for this. I always look forward to reading your emails and watching the videos that comes with the email. God Bless you Mr. Canfield.

  • @dhanduay4559
    @dhanduay4559 6 років тому

    Thanks

  • @pateicialane4740
    @pateicialane4740 3 роки тому

    I’ve stopped tv and Facebook and I’m 64 ! X

  • @InfiniteTriztan1111
    @InfiniteTriztan1111 6 років тому

    I wanna be like Robert Redford then, haha..nope, the only way i can be successful is just me being me, i'm working on myself to become my best authentic self. Thanks Jack for this reassurance which is vital. 👍💚

  • @loverules965
    @loverules965 6 років тому

    Awesome video ♥

  • @grizzlybear4186
    @grizzlybear4186 6 років тому +1

    truth

  • @NANGSGARAGE
    @NANGSGARAGE 6 років тому

    Good video, teenagers need this big time

  • @f.m.r.1437
    @f.m.r.1437 5 років тому

    I was surprised that Robert Redford would feel inferior to any other celebrity or non-celebrity. Wow! Yes, I've been in the comparison trap many times. I think it stems from my parents always comparing their kids to everyone else. Only with strong will and being conscious of this bad habit, have I been able to lessen doing it---but, it still can be so easy to start it up again.

  • @scherrigreene5602
    @scherrigreene5602 4 роки тому

    I was always compared to my older siblings growing up which made me do the exact opposite of them. So I could be known for who I was.

  • @boo-leeproductionsinc3501
    @boo-leeproductionsinc3501 6 років тому

    Love this video!

    • @sidpr1
      @sidpr1 6 років тому

      Jack thank you but I am worried . I see you seem to be getting a pot belly like I have.

  • @christinebudz1235
    @christinebudz1235 6 років тому +7

    Liked this for the most part and I believe in being thankful, but isn't it a comparison if I should be thankful that I have running water and that I am not a refuge?? Seems like I should be able to be thankful just for the sake of gratitude. Who are the people without running water supposed to look to in order to feel thankful? I get the impression that many of them are smart enough to be thankful because it is a healthier way to be.

    • @jerrystampfer9954
      @jerrystampfer9954 6 років тому +2

      Be thankful for what you have not comparing with what others don't have

  • @lyndaschroeder8117
    @lyndaschroeder8117 6 років тому

    ok. this means I should stop comparing myself to Jack Canfield?? :):) How on earth am I going to have a couple million and my own helpful delightful program? Tis my yardstick. Great video as usual! Thanks.

  • @LifesGuideToExcellence
    @LifesGuideToExcellence 6 років тому +6

    I've found there is no point comparing yourself with other people, you might say to yourself that this person has a great job. But you might not know that when they get back home they are miserable, so focus on yourself and the people you care about.

  • @christopherbetancur9905
    @christopherbetancur9905 6 років тому

    This is a excellent video and has come during a much needed time. Recently I have read a lot of post that if you envision where you want to be make sure you are surrounding yourself with other people who are where you hope to be. And with this aim. Maybe this is a huge balance act that is great but also something you must be careful with for it forces you to see people Who have a lot of money where naturally the comparaison factors set in and I Should do that idea comes into play. As the saying goes and I quote “ we are products of our environments” So when we surround ourselves with people
    Who have so much and stirrs and creates a disconnect initially at least for me it did. What are your thoughts on this Mr Canfield?

  • @RemixProf
    @RemixProf 5 років тому

    Simple, i unfollowed all the unnecessary people on social media. I know that if i want to be happy, i will never rely on other peoples happiness. This is not a race. Just be better version of yourself then yesterday.

  • @alasfourfashionsnairobi1743
    @alasfourfashionsnairobi1743 5 років тому

    Is it right to compare yourself with someone who inspires and you would like to be like him one day?

  • @YasirChowdhrey
    @YasirChowdhrey 5 років тому

    Agree Completely Jack,
    Comparison is a trap and it stop us from achieving our goals. I completely agree this one of the habit that we should leave.
    That's is why to live a good life its super important to leave comparison.
    Also I resonate your point the social media has actually taken away happiness from our life. Here are the 5 ways we have come up to leave a comparison habit.
    selfninja.com/stop-comparing-start-living/

  • @thidapon129
    @thidapon129 6 років тому

    i always angry within God, why he is very poor? if he knew everything on earth, oh! no he compared him self within ZERO COST . what you said like this , it means that you did not know every in earth