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Shane Burcaw (he/him) is the author of several award-winning books about disability. He is the President of a nonprofit organization called Laughing At My Nightmare, and a renowned public speaker who has performed across the country at places such as Harvard University, The University of Florida, The University of Connecticut, Princeton University, and many more.
Hannah Burcaw (she/her) graduated from Carleton College, where she studied Sociology and Anthropology. She films and edits the “Squirmy and Grubs” vlog, which has over 800,000 subscribers on UA-cam. Hannah has spoken at prestigious universities and Fortune 500 companies alike about the realities of ableism. On her popular Instagram account, she advocates for acceptance of all people and works to improve the way society thinks about disability.
Shane and Hannah have been together for over four years. They got married in September of 2020 in the midst of a global pandemic in their backyard, with their officiant conducting the ceremony via Zoom. Their interabled relationship often confuses people, because much of society still cannot fathom people with disabilities being involved in loving, intimate relationships. Anyone who watches these episodes will quickly see their relationship is just as “normal” as any other. Sure, Hannah helps Shane use the bathroom and brush his teeth, but those activities do not detract from the emotional, intellectual, and physical connection they experience together.
I’m adopted!! So excited for you guys! My parents adopted me when I was a week old, and I grew up always knowing I was adopted. My parents always told me that a lot of kids aren’t planned but that they wanted me sooo much they searched high and low and prayed and waited and they got exactly what they wanted. ❤️ sending y’all so much love!
Are you sure?
@@lizb4156 is she sure about what?🤦🏻♀️🧐
@@tamdonato That they got exactly what they wanted.
@@lizb4156 I’m sure they did. Having a little one to love on regardless how they come into your life is the most amazing thing❤️
@@tamdonato Get a grip you saddo. No one can be exactly what someone wants.
My grandparents adopted 2 kids - one was my mother - and fostered over 120 kids over 30 years. They were two of *the most awesome people*
It is a privilege to be part of an adopted and blended family. No one wanted my mum because she was mixed race so after fostering her for 3 weeks my grandparents were nope we want her forever!
Fantastic
Wow they sound amazing
I have absolutely nothing against mixed race people.
😭😭😭❤️
No one wanted her? Where was that? I don’t know why I continue to be amazed when I come across statements like that. I hope your sister never had to hear that. I believe one of the main problems that needs to be fixed if we actually want to create a better world is the proprietorial attitudes towards children. They do not belong to us, we are custodians if we are lucky but that brings responsibility, not ownership. It takes a village to grow a fully integrated human being who acts positively with consideration of all life, rather than reacting against fear and grasping for status.
It takes a certain privilege to be as loving and honest as this couple always seem to be, but we are not free until everyone is free. We cannot fix everything in a day, and our tools are always limited. We cannot be told, only taught by example. These people are a beacon amongst a barrage of bullshit. So refreshing, so humbling, something most of us desperately need.
You guys are so thoughtful, intentional, and sensitive. You'll make some incredibly wonderful parents. Shane was born ready with dad jokes...
Ha! That’s so true. So many Dad jokes 😂
I see so many "Omg daaaaaaaad"s in his future, lol. They'll be both hilarious parents. Which are the best kind of parents, I know by experience.
Dad jokes does not equal bad jokes.
What makes a joke into a Dad joke?
It’ll become apparent...
@Right_onRed rude.
You two are essentially healers. I'm a counselor, so I talk with teens and adults every day who have some crazy beliefs and ideas about life from growing up in our society. Our society is breeding self-loathing, judgemental, closed-off individuals who are unable to think critically for themselves. I love watching your videos. I feel hope for our society whenever I see you two and the work you are doing together. I'm going to become a patreon to your channel. Much love ❤.
We adopted two brothers internationally. They were 8 and 6, now they are 51 and 49 and we have 5 grandchildren and four great-grandchildren. Many stories, many excellent, some very difficult; wouldn't change a thing. Wish you well on this new direction in your life.
I've gotten so used to y'all's click bait titles that I seriously thought this was gonna be another pet. 😅
I'm so so so thrilled for y'all!! I've always been a huge advocate for adoption and I love so much y'all went that route. 🥺❤
Same!
Me too!
Woah I had the same exact thought. 🤣🤣🤣
That is what I thought too!
Same haha!
Shane you crack me up - always!!! Hannah - you're so lucky to have found someone who is endlessly entertaining with such a brilliant mind AND he is so devoted to you and you him. It's just feels good watching you two. You'll be the best parents. Both of you. It's so clear that Shane is your "safe place" and always will be. Which is what we all want and need after all, isn't it?What a true love story. One for the ages.
You summed them up perfectly. I feel exactly the same about them and just want the very best for them and their growing family 🤗💐
A lot of couples are best friends, it's not unusual, if it was that'd be terrible.
My exact thoughts! Made for each other. Endlessly laughing:)
They are adopting after going on a rant how Shane’s penis works?!? I call BS. I don’t think he can have sex which is why they are adopting.
@@youtubeadministration1059 He can't but they could use an injection of his sperm. No way do they have sex, it's not physically possible, which is ok but why does she have to pretend they do?
I truly believe that whatever path you two take whether it’s biological or adoption you both are going to make AMAZING PARENTS!!! Your child or children will be VERY BLESSED to have you both as Mommy and Daddy and I for one cannot wait to watch whichever path you take. God Bless!!!!
I love this!! & ditto!!!!! 😭😭🙌🏼♥️🙏🏼
a adoption was a long long time the new parents must make many many tests
I’m shocked they went the adoption route when they claimed Shane’s sexual member works. I call BS. I don’t think his penis works
I call fake on this couple.
@@jtvegas8761 totally 1,000% fake. And they expend all their energy acting so angry and righteous over all The people who can see right through them. There's not one ounce of romance in any of these videos. Not one ounce of romantic connection. These two are simply business partners faking a romantic life together for content. What a joke. The length that they've gone to try to trick the general public is beyond pathetic. Just for sponsorships and ads and AdSense
As a foster parent, I'm so glad to hear that you are considering the ethics of foster care adoption. So many UA-camrs who adopt paint it as sunshine and rainbows for everyone involved, ignoring the tragedy and trauma that inherently come with any foster care adoption. I'm sure you would be amazing foster/adoptive parents.
As a foster and adoptive parent, I had the same reaction. I wish everyone considering adoption was this thoughtful.
Embarrassing for the kids
True story! I adopted our little from DFPS and back then (17yrs ago) we totally weren't prepared for the amount of issues that eventually cropped up. It hasn't been perfect though I don't regret it. We had a lot of surprises along the way with how much her adoptive status and how she landed in foster affected her (we ignorantly believed her being so tiny would result in barely any memories of neglect) as human instincts are shaped a lot in infancy. It's not an easy process, and post adoptive service should definitely be a part of any plan so you have access to support system, but definitely don't regret having my daughter be my baby and now she is an adult!
Or they are trying not to face that because it is hard...you can't always judge so quick.
I agree. They are loving people however it’s not rainbows and sunshine. You can get children that are very behaviorally challenged and have so much emotional baggage that would be a severe strain on Hannah physically and emotionally. I hope they think this through very carefully.
What wonderful news!!! I am adopted and had wonderful parents and 3 years after I was adopted my biological 1/2 brother was adopted so we grew up together!! ♥️
Watch Summers I N ALASKA!! NOT KIDDING## DO IT#! NOW..
That is great to hear! My husband and I adopted our daughters from foster care a year ago, they are 14 and 16 so not small children. There are definitely (as people are mentioning) many challenges that come with being an adoptive parent, but it’s also very rewarding. Would you consider older children? As terrible as the circumstances that lead to children needing to be adopted are, the alternative (aging out of foster care with no permanent healthy family) is much worse. Permanence and stability in a healthy family are wonderful gifts to give children who have come from very hard places through no fault of their own.
We foster teens - primarily those who identify as LGBTQI - and we’re part of a special program that is often the final family home before kids age out of the system. We help our older teens learn how to register for college, manage a budget, find housing, shop, cook …. And then we have to turn them loose into a very big world.
I deeply appreciate parents like yourselves who are adopting older kids. The need for love and support doesn’t end at 18. ♥️
@@JustFamilyThings brainwashing system you got going on there. Pick'em vulnerable and turn them into a confused mess.
I hope your dreams come true of having children. Any child would be so excited and happy to be raised and loved by you guys. You have humor, compassion and so much love to bring to any child’s life. GOOD LUCK👏🙏
As the parents of 5 adopted children (now adults!), we did foster care.
I will be keeping y’all in my Prayers.
It is a great thing, y’all want to do!
Not really.
Fantastic
Blessyou !!!!!
@Right_onRed Exactly. She's constantly showing thumbnails of herself in bikinis and showing off and using click bait titles. They have no idea about the real world. You don't just foster or adopt a child and everything's perfect. The kids are psychologically and emotionally damaged from being with inadequate and abusive parents and being abandoned. They have behavioural problems and can ruin people's lives. What a bunch of immature people on here.
@@lizb4156 sounds like either you were adopted and had a horrible life or maybe you had a child and was a horrible mother to he or she? Or and I can bet this is the one , you have something wrong with your head! You sound very hurt for what reason who knows! I hope you get help that you so desperately need!!
I wasn't legally adopted by my father but his love was all the same. Congratulations and I wish yall the best on your journey 🥰
Are you trying to say you were kidnapped or you just had a step father or something like that? Sorry I just watched a video on kidnapped kids who grow up thinking the kidnapper is the parent and people were arguing that it was perfectly fine cause the kidnapper thought the baby was in danger with real parents. So that's where my mind is at when I read this.
Hi, i'm looking from Germany. Can you make subtitle in German under your stories? Lots of love, Anja❤
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I worked with foster children in Texas for years. The kids yearn for stability and want to have consistency. Don’t be surprised if they act out but do not give up on them. 💙💙
You two are amazing people and seem like you have a lot to offer children. I wish you nothing but the best 🙏🏻💙
I'm sure that you will be wonderful parents no matter how it comes about. There are so many children that need a parents' love so I'm glad to hear that you are open to that option. Love you both.
This is the most excited I’ve gotten from just the TITLE of a video!!!! 🥺🥺🥺
My hubby and I adopted our son at birth! He is now 18 months old and is our whole world!! I'm available if you have questions!! Super excited for you two!!
As an adoptee I say thank you for acknowledging that adopting isn't always a great thing. I love my dad but I did have issues with my adoptive mom and almost no one believes me. Your considerations are so thoughtful and kind. Knowing that they have a biological family and respecting them enough to know they might want a connect...
Thank you. You have no idea how much just saying that means.
I WAS ADOPTED. How beautiful is this?? I honestly LOVE people who adopt; you're heroes, and any child would be lucky to have you as parents.🤩
You must watch Crazy Pieces and Crazy Middles then??
There are tons of children that needs forever homes.
Adoption is a wonderful thing.
They’re only adopting Cuase they can’t have kids don’t praise them for this lol
@@MajorBall no one is going to praise you for your spelling! Dork
@@MajorBall what kind of shit are you trying to say? Nevermind...don't answer. Stupid ppl make my head hurt.
We adopted 3 precious babies, 2 with special needs from the foster system. You will be wonderful loving parents. The very best of luck to you both 💕
Willowgirl. Thank u for doing that given.special.needs children a home a family and love. U there mom
Why do you want to adopt if you can have your own children or if that's a problem I hope you all the best in your future
@@billparkinson3177 a lot of people adopt to give a child a home who does not have one regardless of whether or not they have biological children.
Adopting like having biological children is a choice that a couple makes for many reasons. We always wanted to parent a child or children who were in need of parents who could give them what they needed and deserved in life. We never felt the need to have biological children to grow our family, it was the best decision we ever made. Our kids (now adults) are awesome humans.
I too was adopted by the most loving, caring and supportive people ever! I think you both well make awesome parents! Don’t give up hope.
Best wishes on whatever path you eventually choose. My husband is paraplegic, and we adopted our son through foster care.
I’m an adoptive mama to 4 perfect little humans. I’m so glad to hear that you’re entering this process with wide open eyes. There are many dark sides to adoption, and soooo much to learn. But with a lot of humility, education, and strong morals, it can be the best choice to change a lot of lives for the better. Best of luck on your path!
When I saw “adoption” I thought y’all were getting a new puppy.
May all your desires be fulfilled at the perfect time & filled with joy and love.
When you get a puppy it’s usually buying that puppy not adopting. Adopting, for dogs, means you didn’t buy a puppy created to be sold. You adopt an unwanted someone else has abandoned.
Well said.
Shane thinks adopting a child is like owning a puppy lol
@@M_SC I know what pet adoption is but ty
@@M_SC In NZ it's usually always pet adoption.
As a parent through adoption, and a current foster parent as well, I appreciate how deliberately thoughtful and ethical you are in thinking through the issues surrounding adoption. Thank you for sharing your reflections with your following - especially about the need to keep children in contact with biological families.
I bet you’ve impacted a lot of children’s lives for the better, just in this video. Getting prospective parents to think about open adoption, and how they’re going to prioritize ongoing family connections, is huge.
Thank you both for being your wonderful selves. Best of luck as your journey continues. 💜
I really hope you continue to talk about the process cause my husband and I are starting to look in to this. Obviously the process for your state and mine will be different, but I'm really looking forward to learning from you guys.
Stearns county (Central MN) here! This makes my heart so happy! My husband and I pretty much raised my biological niece, and then did foster to adopt. It is a LONG process! The home study- the foster license, etc. Also Minnesota is a big reunification state, so it's good looking out for the biological family. Thank you for choosing this beautiful journey, and I wish you all the best!
@6:44 there’s an asterisk above Hannah. (hope that’s what you were referencing)
LOL!!!! As Shane was telling his dream, I was so into it, with a smile on my face the whole time and laughing by the end 🤣🤣
you need friends.
@@JerseyAccent653 excuse me??
@@ASMRSunset This channel is filled with a lot of people who decide this has to be a fake relationship and assume anyone that believes it is either a social recluse or brain dead. 😐
Me too! That was such a fun story to hear! ha :).
@@JerseyAccent653 😂
I was adopted into a very loving caring family when I was 4. After living & seeing both sides of the coin with an abusive father who plain gave up on his daughters. Wishing you both all the best in your adoption journey.
@Austin Howland hello Austin how are you? Bored? 😂
Any child raised in the loving home environment you two create, the beautiful support of both parents, you should absolutely open your hearts and home to a child. You will rock! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wahoo I’m finally getting adopted by Squirms and Grubs? I’ve waited 53 years !
😂😂😂😂 thank you I needed a great laugh❤😂
KIWI RYKER You can't they are my parents to be and I can pull seniority at 64 years old!! Joking though - very very happy with my beloved mum ( dad long dead...) You've a lovely sense of humour KIWI) xx
Maw, theyre going to want someone younger. I win with age 49 😉 So you suppose they will come pick me up, or do I need to drive there?
My husband and I adopted two wonderful kids (internationally) and it was the best thing we ever did! We're empty nesters now- hard to believe our babies are all grown up! Best wishes to you both in whatever path you choose to take toward parenthood!
I'm still mind blown at just how quickly kids grow up! My son is 28, and I swear it doesn't feel possible. You blink and suddenly they're grown!
@@LaynieFingers you're still just a baby, my oldest is going to be 40 tomorrow, St. Patrick's day and my youngest will be 26 on Halloween😬 but yes you're right they do grow up fast❤😇
Because of the kind of people you are , there is someone who will benefit greatly from what you can offer together and as individuals.
From an adopted I just want to say thank you for doing the work and not rushing into it. There is a lot about adoption that adoptees share but people fail to listen to which would make life easier for both parties involved. Blessings as you continue to decide what is best for your family.
Duuuuudes, my husband and I just decided this past week to adopt as well. It won’t be for a couple of years but the prospect is exciting. Good luck!
Start now the process takes years
Best wishes❤️
Super !! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏💘
You will both make great parents, God Bless you both and your future kids! How exciting?
My wife and I went through pre-service training too. We ended up having our children but the training made us better parents; time well spent. In our state it was 36 hours of training and it has been so helpful in our lives as parents. Best of luck!
Bless you both...
Please consider adopting sibling groups... too many siblings get separated in the foster care system🙏
As someone who was adopted, it’s so exciting to hear you’re both considering it! I also really appreciate how you’re taking such a thoughtful approach, there are so many nuances to adoption but when done right it can be a beautiful thing
Hey there! My husband and I are planning to adopt kids in the next 3-5 years. Do you have any advice for adoptive parents about how to make sure they do right by their adoptive child(ren)? Is there anything your parents did great (or not so great)? Thanks so much! And if you don't feel comfortable responding, no worries at all. :)
I was adopted and am honored you are adopting. It is one of the most selfless things you can do if you are a stable couple looking for a child that needs a home. What a magicial miricle you are giving a child. What a gift you will recieve as parents!
What an exciting adventure!
I’ve been blind and have had mobility issues most of my adult life and I fostered two teenagers (15-17 and 12-15) and then a baby (3 months to 15 years) and loved it.
I’m regularly in touch with the first two who have gone on to be great adults and parents.
Sadly not really in touch with the last one since they blackmailed me after I’d willingly given them a few thousand pounds, but they demanded even more and I don’t give in to bullies.
It can be fun and terrifying at the same time, but I feel privileged to have had the chance of being a parent when I didn’t want to pass on my genetically wonky genes.
I think it’s adorable that Shane read all the books Hannah was assigned to read in college! I love that!
We started with an agency and experienced a lot of heartbreak. We ended up going with an adoption attorney. Very costly but worth every penny. We have a beautiful daughter. You will make amazing parents.
my aunt was adopted and it saved her life, i love both of you, you guys inspire me to be more kind, and y'all just make my day
This is awesome! We adopted our youngest child, a little girl who has epilepsy and cerebral palsy. Adoption is a beautiful thing. ❤️
Oh wonderful....
Oh wonderful....
@@lizb4156 you need therapy. Jesus christ.
@@Soph1998 You do, I can have my opinion.
Keeping this private while it was happening was smart. Healthy boundaries 😊 Whenever you two do decide to bring children into your family, however you do it, they will be soooo lucky to have such rad parents.
In the meantime... I wonder if Chloe would like a furry sibling 👀
I'm still caught up on the people stalking them and handing out their address. Imagine how desperate people will get when a baby is around
As a foster/adoptive parent, I think it is wonderful that y’all are open to this!! I also thank you for thinking about the most responsible way to go about it. My husband and I have been foster parents for almost 4 years now, & we adopted our five girls (all bio sisters) from foster care last August! It’s a hard journey, but so amazing and worth every hard day. I hope you guys are able to revisit this option in the future! ❤️
3 of my siblings where adopted. They are so precious to me.
I was just watching a different video where you guys are talking about how people don’t want you to have children, and I just want to say that you guys have such incredible communication, trust and love between each other that OF COURSE you should be having kids!!! You will be incredible parents!
What a blessing to have you as parents 💜 Good luck with the process! Thinking of your family
Thank you for sharing your life update. I pray you have peace as you move forwards with whatever you decide to do. You will both make amazing parents 💜💜💜
❤ thank you for considering to go down this path of Life.....there is a lot of tragedy in this world when it comes to CHILDREN.....I wish you both the very very best in your future plans...
New to the channel and I've been binge watching ever since. Several things I'd like to say in no particular order:
*Anyone actually watching and paying attention knows how much they love each other. Instantly could see that from the first video I stumbled upon.
*I'm internationally adopted and so love the idea that you are trying to adopt, especially from the foster care system. You guys would be wonderful parents!
*I adore your mom, Liz, not just because we share the same first name but because she is so down to earth, absolutely wonderful.
Blessings. You would make great parents❤❤❤Hope everything works out.
It's just so life affirming that you two put such great amounts if time and energy into plans for your future. Truly, you are a rarity in today's world. You will no doubt be wonderful, nurturing and loving parents because when you do have a child by any means they will be a gift you gave yourselves out of shared love and respect and open arms.
I adore you two. You are just so thoughtful.
Shane, I really hoped/wished you would address the issue of your disability in regard to how the adoption agencies reacted. When my wife and I began looking at infertility options, we were met with STRONG opposition, from the medical community, to our EVER having children! My wife and I were both disabled, mine, however, is ALMOST mild enough to be a non-issue.
I was hoping they would too and was thinking of a way to politely ask about it. I'm thrilled that they are able too, I'm just surprised because I thought if you had any significant health problems they wouldn't let you foster/adopt.
I know some people don't like talking about money, but if they're wealthy enough, I expect it will mitigate the disability. I think having extended family on hand will also factor in their favor.
Fertility treatment vs. Adoption. Two very different options and these two relate extremely different to genetic disability. Of course fertility doctors are interested in their treatments resulting in healthy and sustainable pregnancies, you can't really fault them for that.
@@mincedmash796 Hannah's parents live with them so I'm sure that will help having extra hands around to help. So what if Shane is disabled...many single people adopt children. They have financial stability, so much love to give and 2 extra (healthy) adults living with them. Just because someone is disabled doesn't mean they don't deserve children. They didn't choose to be born disabled.
I think it’s great want you both are doing, there are so many babies/children that need parents, a home, in our country ~ USA, always a supporter of that!!!
SO HAPPY FOR Y’ALL!!!!! You are going to be incredible parents ❤️❤️❤️❤️
You two make me chuckle! X
However you become parents,it doesnt matter ,you have a whole lot of love to give and you will be awesome x
Well thank you for sharing and it's nice to know that you're both giving it the serious justice that it deserves.
My husband and I adopted our sweet son after being his foster parents for 2 1/2 years. He came home when he was 1 1/2 and he will be 13 years old on the 25th of this month. I'm excited that you guys are open to foster/adoption because there is such a huge need for loving families. I can tell you that he has brought more joy to our lives than I could ever convey....he is our world! We will be praying for you as you make these huge life decisions. We love your channel and thanks for sharing.
You are so smart to think everything through!!
I appreciate how carefully you considered all of this, thank you for sharing! Adoption is a very nuanced topic, as you mentioned, and it’s really nice to see you two deal with it with the kind of sensitivity it deserves.
Congratulations on you're decision to adopt. We adopted our daughter from overseas as local adoption is rare here in Australia. Our daughter was 16 months old when she joined our family and is 18 now. She has been such a blessing to us x
I AM SO THANKFUL YOU TWO TOOK THIS ROUTE! 💕 there are so many babies out there in NEED of loving parents and you two have so much love, that child will be so lucky.
I was totally hoping for a cat!
Good luck to you both, I’m sure you’ll be great parents because Shane has the dad jokes nailed already.
I subscribe to family vloggers "Ayla and Caleb" their adoption and fertility journey is so beautiful. Embryo adoption wound up being the avenue that was best for their family. So happy for you guys. Enjoy your journey!
My dad and his siblings were adopted. It’s an amazing thing ❤️
What an exciting update! Thank you for sharing this with us. I am so impressed with how thoughtful you both are. Fostering to adoption is a beautiful gift for the world - so many kids need it!!
Adoption is a wonderful thing I'm so happy for you both!!!
I was adopted at 3 years old and I'm so happy you chose this path! It's super difficult but very rewarding!
Wonderful to hear this, and you're closing in on a million subscribers too!
A friend went through embryo adoption and was able to adopt the embryo bio sibling of the first one. They have been very happy with this route.
I didn’t know this was an option!!!
Shane should write a novel based on his nightmare.
It would read like Rosemary's Baby in The Shining Hotel.
Oh, this is good!!!!!
Please do this Shane!
More like if Shane would make another pointless 📖
"Strangers Assume My Kid Isn't My Kid Because My Kid Is Black"
I recently found your channel and truly appreciate how genuine. Transparent and entertaining you both are. I rarely comment on any videos but felt led to let you both know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I clicked so fast lol... I laughed so hard at the triplet/c section/natural birth ... got a mental pic of the last baby being held up in a sort of lion king style way 🤣
Adopting my two daughters at the moment. Just waiting on a court date. ❤ sending all the love guys x x
Congrats on your daughters, My only advice....... Say no every once in awhile, I have 1 daughter and 3 boys, I never said no to my daughter until she was in high school, eek trouble😂 just kidding, daughter's are a blessing❤😇
It's sad that you don't feel confident without kids. Women don't need to have kids it's 2022.
@@lizb4156 😂😂 good one
@@torisilver9488 Why do you feel the need to adopt 2 kids?
@@lizb4156 my life has no impact or bearing on yours so there is no need for a response to that question. Please leave me be
You guys are going to AMAZING parents! Wether that be to biological children or adopted children. They will be so lucky to have you both! And you will be so blessed to have them too! Sending all the good vibes your way!! ❤❤
They may not grow in your tummy but they will grow in your heart. Adopted 2 of our 3 ❤️
You will be incredible parents no matter how your child finds you. Excited for your future!
what exactly about them assures you that they'll be incredible parents?
@@shuarma0 What makes you question that they won't? 🤨🤔
@@ladybuglover4eva52 you don't see anything out of the ordinary?
@@shuarma0 What exactly is ordinary anyway? Do I see 2 loving, nurturing adults who own a home & maintain careers? Yes! So again I ask, what's your hang-up over this couple?
@@ladybuglover4eva52 go home
You would make the best parents! Any child would be lucky to have you as parents. You're so caring and genuine ❤️
Yay for you two figuring out how to get your family.
Here are Unasked for Thoughts from an Adoptee (directed to anyone reading this. I don't assume what Squirmy and Grubbs know about things): Please know that Adoption is a Trauma no matter what the child's story is. Even from birth, Baby is taken away from all that they know (even at birth, they know the gait, smell, and voice of the person they grew inside of) into the arms of people they don't know. This does neurologically affect babies. Babies are hard-wired to look for the person they came from and when they time and time again try to find that person, their bodies are put into a state of stress. This stress becomes a Preverbal trauma (trauma that happens before the age of remembering trauma). Preverbal Trauma affects people in ways that are hard for them to notice much less work out because they don't remember the trauma that happened to them. The baby eventually figures out that their adopted parents will be there for them and are the ones to rely on.
If you want to adopt, please research how adoption (or surrogacy) even at the youngest of ages affect children and how best to support your child knowing that no adoption happens without trauma(s) -Even for Adopted from Birth Kids. -every kid.
Not every adoptee has trauma from adoption. There are plenty of people who feel their situation was win-win-win, don't have attachment issues etc. Adoptees are not monolithic, and adoptees who had a good experience are much less likely to post on forums talking about their experiences, because it tends not to be the place/relevant to them. Same with adoption support groups, why would someone go there and talk about how wonderful their life is? It's just not appropriate.
Of course Adoption Trauma exists, and today there is much more support for everyone involved which is good, and the potential for relinquishment trauma should be acknowledged. But it is NOT inevitable as you've presented it.
Good luck to you. It’s a very long and exhausting process but totally worth it in the end
I am adopted. I have a wonderful adoptive family. I have recently found my biological family after 52 years and against all the odds. It’s been a journey, but a wonderful one. It is a wonderful option.
Whatever path your hearts follow, any child will be blessed to be loved and molded by the two of you. With so many wonderful kids who have no one else, it is such a beautiful gift that you would be giving another human being. But as with all else, the two of you will make the best, educated decision for yourselves and for your future child(ren). Thanks for sharing. God speed 🤗 ❤️ 🕊
I am over the moon for you two. I am so excited. You will make the best parents
I will be over the moon to see you become parents ❤️❤️
Praying for abundant favor in this process!
I hope the absolute best for you two!
I think it's a wonderful decision! You guys will make perfect parents! I assure the experience will be very rewarding, good luck!
However you two become parents isn’t important. Natural, adoption, foster, you will be amazing parents with much to give. Speaking from personal experience, adopting is a great way to get out of a dark and muddy gene pool. 😀
I’m so happy to see you two talking about adoption! I’ve always wanted to give it a try myself, but as you mentioned it is a VERY thorough and tedious process that isn’t for everyone. Once I feel I’m steady enough I intend to try to start the process of potentially applying to be a foster parent. 💕 I love you both so much and I am so happy for you two 💕🧸
I'm about over these 2....
I loved the intro of the video! Shane's dream was amazing and funny too. I love the LOVE and respect you demonstrate to each other. It reflects the kind of person you both are. Congratulations for this new path in your lives.
Take your time and both of you will know when it’s right for everything there is a season and your season for the next chapter will be in that season take your time .
Who will take care of the baby? Hanna has a full time job with Shane?
@@barnettwd31 Mothers can be in the workforce?? I’m sorry if the way I wrote that looks harsh but I genuinely can’t understand if you’re joking or not
@@DenimJean98 no joke. A very serious question.
@@barnettwd31 so what's your point? Disable people can't be parents? Wake up this is 2022 not 1822😬
@@barnettwd31 when I was a nursing student an instructor said there is no dumb/stupid questions, going to forward your question to her, maybe she will use it in her lectures😂
Shane, you are one like me who has dreams so vivid and realistic remembering every detail of that dream. I’ve been doing this all my life, and I’m 70. I call it my other life, it’s fascinating when you talk to someone like your spouse who has dreams, but most of the time he often doesn’t remember them. The dreams are sometimes good and sometimes not so good. But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I Love to watch your videos and keep the journey for me and others to enjoy🙂
Hi It’s Louise from England ~ I’m so so pleased for you ~ I’m 50yrs and was adopted as a baby ~ Sending love and hugs Xxx Xxx
I don’t think I could think of a better couple of parents than you! You have so many things that happened in your life you’re so active you’re so knowledgeable kind and fun loving. I wish you the very best. Especially wish you good health and abounding love. Hoping that you get your dream. Bless you
Well, I appreciate your efforts and your loving consideration
That's amazing! I've been watching you guys for years, and you definitely seem like you'd be ready for a bigger family in the near future. I wish you guys the best of luck navigating this step of life!