Being a Single Father in Korea | THE VOICELESS #24
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- Опубліковано 22 жов 2019
- We want to thank Ji-hwan for sharing his inspiring story. Ji-hwan’s organization is doing its best it can to help out as many single parents as possible in Korea.
We at Asian Boss were touched by Ji-hwan’s story and decided to create a crowdfunding page to help with his cause. This means his group can provide more essentials, such as diapers and food, for struggling single parents. And more single fathers can get the legal support they need to finally obtain birth certificates for their children.
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We want to thank Ji-hwan for sharing his inspiring story. Ji-hwan’s organization is doing its best it can to help out as many single parents as possible in Korea.
We at Asian Boss were touched by Ji-hwan’s story and decided to create a crowdfunding page to help with his cause. This means his group can provide more essentials, such as diapers and food, for struggling single parents. And more single fathers can get the legal support they need to finally obtain birth certificates for their children.
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Thank you for all these interesting videos!! Keep up the good work!!
thanks for this inspiring stories
this slap me the most
while he always and want to give to other who need it even he also still struggling >
Just donated. Bless Ji-hwan’s heart! It would be so much easier to give up. Instead he keeps fighting for his daughter and fighting to help others. Just the thought that someone has to give up their child to an orphanage has me ugly crying.
If Asian Boss really wants to help, Asian Boss must create a foundation that has the same vision as Ji-hwan. The purpose of forming this foundation is to make a flats above the children's shelter. so that every single parent is able to work calmly and improve their standard of living and pay their insurance costs until their lives are stable or until their children are able to work. I'm sure the Asian Boss officials have links to several important foundations. it's not wrong to knock on a few boss doors. People get poorer if they get sick often. But if you are able to support an industry that is able to make drugs cheaper, that would be great.
Is there only an option to donate with credit card? I don't have that.
*sees man crying*
*sees interviewer crying*
*starts crying*
😭😭😭😭
I know right 😢
and sees this comment and then cries❗😭
How did I start crying first
I'm just reading this comment before watching the scene and I'm crying
Children dont remember lack of money, they remember lack of love.
wow yeah. indeed. sarang is fully loved by her father and thats what matters most
😭
Profound...
A smart child like me remembered both though >_
this is kinda irrelevant but even her name sarang means love in korean🥺🥺
“It’s not wrong for a poor person to want to have a child.” I wish more people help this man’s belief.
Govt. give full support to the family.there is no child fault in any situation.
It is so annoying to know it is okay for a child to be in an orphanage than live with a single parent. With all the development they still have that backward and ignorant thinking.
Exactly !
No it's not, but the problem is that they have too many children. People with low income have many times more children than higher-income people
A child. That's cool. But too many? Recipe for future problems
"Can you express that with your arms?"
"Just a second."
His daughter is incredibly cute.
I love that she looks exactly like her Dad!!
The system is pretty messed up when children of single parents technically may not be recognized as citizens.
It's so unfair !
Yeah! It really surprised me when I learned about that, as opposed to in America where if you're born here, you're automatically a full-blown citizen with your own rights, liberties, and legal standing, no matter the case.
Most Asian countries are leagues behind in their welfare systems
Even in Malaysia, if one spouse is not present or the child is out of wedlock, then it's literally impossible to get Child certificate. Meaning, the child will be State-less. Means no privilege for cheap med and free education. sigh... We even have cases where both parents are locals, yet unable to secure an ID card for the child even after presenting a child cert. It's farked up...
I was so fortunate to be born outside of korea my parents moved as soon as my mom got pregnant
The fact that he doesn't blame his wife for leaving him and their child hit me hard, to forgive someone for doing something like that is next level stuff.
@Brian Abisdid Good way to describe yourself.. phahahaha.!!!
Some mothers should not he mothers. This story is more proof of that. Family courts in all countries should take note.
why not? many women dont want to have the kid but at least she didnt abort it. Chances are she didnt even want to have it but she didnt want to abort it either, so better this than nothing; and also, it's better to leave your child with someone else rather than neglect him, abuse him, etc. If she didnt want this kid she did the right thing giving custody to the father, or in other case, giving it up for adoption. That's actually better than conspiring to kill your own child if you run out of money.
To be real. Those men probably wouldn't be so understanding if it wasn't partially their fault. Korean society is a tough one prone to alcoholism or domestic violence. And it's too frequent that males that work jobs requering physical labour resort to alcohol. So now that they are left with the responsability of taking care of a child they start understanding the world of mothers.
@@nekonekomoimoi6588 absolutely 🙌 also ppl are acting like this is the worst thing a woman can do, but easily forget that men do this every single day in FAR greater numbers than women leaving men. Single mothers are in the majority and they often live below the poverty line more often than single fathers
This hits so much harder when you realize the daughter's name means "Love" in Korean. I cried.
Gotta surround the world with love.
*"Isn't it wrong for society to think that you can't raise a child if you're a single parent and poor?"*
*"It's not wrong for a poor person to want to raise a child."*
Read that and sink that in.
Angelica Theresia I don’t have any qualms with being a single parent since my mom is one but what I don’t understand is why you’d want to raise a child when you don’t have enough money to take care of yourself only.
Because they love their children and their children love them. Their child has already been abandoned by one parent. There is not guarantee they will be well cared for loved or adopted if they give them up. They don't want their child to lose the experience of being loved by their parent. They don't want to give up on the idea that they can get on their feet and care for their child, inspire them and love them directly. I don't think there's anything wrong with giving up a child for the child's benefit, but notice that these parents are also giving their everything for their children. It is a difficult to never give up just like it's a difficult choice to let them go. I was raised by a single parent too and she had a job and family that has supported her, it's a huge privilege. I think they want to love their children because they know they are priceless.
wayne wayne because the love that they have for that child far exceeds money, the child is enough to motivate them to work hard enough, I’m not saying it’ll be easy but they love their child enough to try. (Speaking behalf of my mother who is a single parent)
There is a difference between having one or two child and wanting to raise them in the best possible way albeit you might don't even have enough resource for yourself with continue to have children /another child until they have like 4-7 children when you can't even raise a child properly
I don't have problem with someone poor wanting to raise a children, I just irritated whenever I see some struggling parents in an interview where the parents have more than 3 children (and planning to have more or currently have another baby on the way/being pregnant) while they don't have the sufficient resource and economic measure for that.
Afif Rafif I understand this point of view to be honest..
Even the interviewer can't hold her tears. Just like i do.
I started crying too when he mentioned the suicide part. It was too hard to not become emotional. :(
Oh wow..did not even know this was happening in Korea..my son who is 17 yrs old showed me the video and i got teary but i think he did too..just showing how much this man loved his child..not only mothers feel this deep love for their children but fathers too.
We are both donating to his cause..which i am so proud of my 17yr old son who works part time wants to help this organization too...i am so proud of him!!❤
I was holding it in pretty good until the scene cut back to show her brawling, which got me spilling and it started raining on my face. Bloody reporter! grrrrr
yup the last part got me good i can really feel him
She was the one that made me cry haha... And then the fact that he continued his speech
This single dad is better than most two parent families.
I know right!?
So true
Vixon T you’re damn right
Yess
Yep. They are more stable as parents than a lot of mothers these days! I agree 💯
He doesn’t even blamed the mother of her daughter for leaving them. He is so kind, understanding and considerate.
Yes, he has a gold heart tho :')
He understands that she was sick and dosnt hold that against her.
@@ghidorahs1fan209 even if she was sick she must have at least helped him get a medical insurance since she knows it's hard to get one if you are a single parent plus she should have payed child support
Real man take all alone whit out blaming anyone
The daughter is blessed to have a father like him, not many fathers continue to support their children after the mothers die or leave the relationship.
actually there is a lot of fathers that do support their child...
winter bear, yeah, but you normally don’t hear about it cause when filing a divorce the child normally goes or picks to go with the mother.
Nevertheless, I’m really grateful for my dad, I’m glad my parents are still together and that we have enough money to live a stable life.
(Also, ARMY 💜)
@@bubbles696 Glad to hear that, wishing you a happy life :)
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@@bubbles696 💜
@@winterbear7170 I 100% agree with you.
She is adorable and he's so soft spoken. The fact that he talks well of his ex says alot about him as person and a man. She's a lucky and loved lil girl
This guy didn't just survive. He's thriving.
Give or take. He’s still technically in poverty unfortunately
It seems like he's still having a bit of a hard time but certainly better than before.
@@gavinsilva3919 He drives a Kia Carnival, I wouldn't say he's in poverty
@@brax5783 kias are korean cars, theyre bound to be cheap over there, especially if it was second or third hand
@@Chistralish Yeah that model only came out within the last few years, besides if you were poor would you be driving a recent MPV? They're not cheap
he uses his remaining expenses to help others in need. that hit.
Four things I loved:
1) He doesn't blame his wife for leaving;
2) He doesn't want his daughter thinking badly of her;
3) His message to his daughter; and,
4) The interviewer feeling everything I was a tearing up.
Though I feel sad because one day she'll learn that her mother did in fact leave her. I mean, he put it in an interview that's on the internet.
So he makes $800 a month, his expenses is $700, and he gives the rest to those in need? What a generous man!
generous people suffer a lot. I hope this man and his daughter will stay happy.
I hope so too. But at the very least he’s at peace knowing that he’s doing the best that he can to give back. Peace within is priceless
$850-$1300/month
You're a real genius.
He said he earns from $850 to $1300/month
His expenses are $700-$800/month
And he has a car?? I cant register that. Ppl in my country earn like USD $2K+ and still cant afford a car
The fact that he wants to help others when he don't even have enough for himself is beyond AMAZING. God Bless his heart.
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Are you a Texan women?
A good person
He did actually
South Korea is penalizing these children in order to stigmatize "different" families. The government is hurting the kids, not the parents. Let them get their documents so they can do what can for their children.
South Korea is a different society which has a far lower divorce rate than the west. Instead of just pointing the finger (and alienating) maybe we should ask the government to modernize and acknowledge that the single parent families are increasingly more common in the west and elsewhere. That with the lower birth rates and lower marriage rates that it is in the best interest of the government to act accordingly.
nah South Korea Gov. offers supporting funds for family with single guardian & every textbooks in school show how various family could be. Only problem is a bit of social custom still remaining and this needs times .. society cannot just change suddenly.
they're extremely hard on people wanting to adopt too, if you're a single or divorced applicant. it's just really unfortunate, the children are the ones to deal with it
@@SomethingNewAMBW That part is difficult to understand. Why penalize the child and what about those people who wish to adopt? Why can't the thought be embracing family?
@@tonideaderick7024 hell if i know, i find the rules ridiculous and causes the children to lose out on the possibility of being adopted. slims down their chances
My mother did the same thing... She told me that my dad passed away when I was little, until my 16, she finally told me about the truth, and it didn't change anything for me, because she's the one who take care of me and my dad was never there for me. This man got a lot of courage and he's clearly amazing, I wish him the best with her daughter, may you two be healthy. I'm hoping from the bottom of my heart, all the happiness in the world for you two, you deserve so much, thank you for sharing this with us, you're an amazing parent Ji-hwan.
What the crap is that law? Can't register YOUR own child without the mother being present?
It is such a crap law. Here in South Africa, you just need one parent or a legal guardian to register a birth.
you will need a DNA test and court order otherwise how can you prove a father child biological relationship?
@@xg3068 true
Is South Korea a first-world country? Why is the country treating its own children like crap?!
@@xg3068 If the parents were married before the child was born it should be pretty obvious.
My dad has been a single father since I was 1 year old. He passed away 3 years ago, at the age of 53. He never dated anyone idk why really.
He wasn't perfect but nobody loved me like he did.
Whenever I feel lonely and miss him he sometimes appears in my dreams.
Luckily he was able to meet my daughter and hold her when she was a baby, on his last call he told me " I just wanted to say I'm proud of you, and I'm not feeling well so I guess this year I'm not going to be here anymore" of course I thought it was one of his frequently jokes, but one early morning a call told me it wasn't a joke.
He died by a heart attack, my grandma found him cold in the street, he had depression and was alcoholic but he never gave up on me. He was a great cook and he always taught me to respect myself and others efforts, he had read me tons of books and make stories before sleeping, he taught me to be brave, to choose whatever makes me happy even if he didn't agree on.
I remember he sold his car like the father on the video he sold everything and lastly he got help with my grandma she helped us both a lot, so I'm very grateful for the opportunities we had together as the non conventional family we were.
I remember he used to cry a lot whenever he watched the movie "the persuit of happiness" the part the dad gets the job he was in tears, always. He told me " one day you will understand why I cry every time I watch this" and he always hugged me tightly in that part.
I'm proud of you dad, hope you have found peace wherever you are. One day we'll meet again and we'll share stories together.
I miss him so much.
I'm a single father too. I hope my children will respect as you respect your father
Thank you for sharing your story! Wishing you nothing but happiness and hope you one day can share your stories with your father. 💕
@@xoqyxy it must be hard.. never give up, time pays off.
Also, as a parent, it's okay to share your feelings with your children, you can find support through them they understand sometimes better than we do.
(Of course explaining in a simple pedagogical way how you feel )
I told my daughter I was feeling tired the other day and she said " you need a massage mom, a very long one" lol and my humor clicked instantly. They are the true magic
may he rest in peace
@@chelle21100 thank you 🧡
I'm speachless. This man is such a wonderfull father. He sacrificed a lot in the name of love. He deserves not only profound admmiration, but so much respect as he helps others in the same situation. And how sad, but inspiring, beautiful and touching his story is. Thank you AsianBoss for sharing his story. I just hope that this will help change the situation of single parents in South Korea. Incredible situation in such a modern country. Blood ties are stronger and more real than a law that doesn't take into account a parent's love.
South Korea is has grown by leaps and bounds in the last 50 years?? However, culturally they're at a generation away from that cultural growth.
Ok, his message to his daughter has me crying uncontrollably. I wasn't expecting to cry watching this. His words to her are so heartfelt and beautiful 😭❤
the part where he said, one day he won"t be around to be with her.. He is hoping she stays happy and healthy.
Single parents everywhere deserve major respect
Especially men
@@cooliipie no ! are you kidding?
All life has been men who abandon women with children. When a man is left with a child, is he a hero? you are idiot.
Not all of them. The ones who pop out babies like tic-tacs knowing they can't afford them don't deserve any respect.
@@MARTHA.Patito I think he means, that every men that takes responsebility for their kids, should receive major respect, since its uncommon, but it should not be. And for saying he is an idiot, just because he shared his opinion, makes you look like one.
@@MARTHA.Patito
They comment stated they deserve major respect, not a hero. I'm not disagreeing with your comment. Let's change it. Especially men need more awareness and respect for being a single father.
I love that the daughter name “Sarang” means “love”.
Ahahhaha yea, was just wondered whether that was the word people say in kdrama 😂
Such a beautiful name with a beautiful meaning 😊
There's few people named Sarang in Korean it is pretty popular, I won't blame them it is a beautiful name..
They say Saranghe in KDramas.. 💕
We also use the word love as a name in Greece. It's such a beautiful name to give to your child.
@@_namjuice_ The Japanese name Ai means love iirc, im not Japanese though.
Good men don’t get to shine, they’re too busy living life for others. We need award shows for men like this
everyone gangsta until 13:22
My eyes are leaking
When he started talking about the time he begged for money so he can commit suicide I teared up so hard. I am sorry for all the trouble he and other single parents have to go through and I sincerely hope they don't ever give up...may they all be blessed!
delanuhee when in the video?
@@moonchild4157 12:01 u should watch the whole video btw!
😭😭
Yes same here
Omg that part broke my heart. I was like why? 😳😭😭😭😭😭
He’s just so kind. He talks about his ex wife with so much love and respect even tho she left him alone with their child and disappeared..it’s really hard not to hate someone that led you to have such a hard time but he seems so warm hearted and he loves Sarang so much.. he raised her with love and she’s such a cute lovely little girl. I’m proud for him!
women do it all the time ..but society seems okay with that
@@kathloveeee Man do this, too. Not only Woman
@@tylerf4190 Oh that's why...
@@kathloveeee men do it much more often, the percent of single mothers is much higher than single fathers all over the world
@@tylerf4190 you know them personally or how comes you have that info
The fact that at the start he makes it clear that it wasn’t the mother’s fault for leaving speaks loudly about his character. “Many mothers go through depression after getting pregnant” super understanding. ❤️
Sarang seems so happy and you can tell she is being raised well. The father is such an inspiration!
I really like the interviewer. She has calming and caring vibe, asks sensitive questions with respect. She does hard interviews well like the gay priest, one room student, etc.
Yes, and I know this will be downvoted and appropriately so, but wtf, did anyone see her instagram? Freak'n perfect bodyline.
kimjack1000 What A body line can I ask.
@@di7209 her body shape
Same I really liked how she was trying not to ask really private questions. She was really careful in what she was saying 🥰
I agree. So many reporters have a typical dominant way of speech that you hear in the news, but I think her approach is more appropriate for sensitive interviewing.
Appa: "my precious daughter..."
Me: already crying a river
ismipurisa even after watching this video.. I can’t stop crying. When he said “I’m always sorry” 😭😭😭
I hugged my dad few mins before i found this vid and after watching this, i want to go hug him again, but my eyes are super puffy.. i'm too embarrassed to come to him :")
same
@Lachs geräuchert ofc, but because we know that he's a single father, so i feel more sentimental about it 😢😢
@@skrattardu20 I hope you hugged him a lot afterwards
That girl seems so bright and emotionally healthy, what a father.
I just started bawling like a baby, this dad is just so strong, he doesn't even blames the mom and Korea needs to do something about this, why make it so difficult and hard to obtain a birth certificate for your child as a single parent there. Jesus man I feel it for them, the interviewer couldn't even hold back her tears.
The fact that he doesn’t talk bad about his ex and is understanding says a lot about him. I wish the very best and many blessings for him and his daughter.
Yeah and he brought up the postpartum depression 🌟
@@_blank-_ she might as well be dead🤷
@@_blank-_ because kids tend to blame themselves when one of the parents leave, so he probably didnt want his daughter to go through that. It may backfire on him later tho, cause at certain point he will have to tell her the truth or she will end up learning it from this video.
STAN KIM YO-JONG i imagine he thought it was better for her to think her mother died a good person who loved her rather than her being alive and willingly leaving her, it would make the child feel it was her own fault
It is very Asian to not talk publicly about family tragedies
He put everyone else first before himself, wow he is extremely selfless.
He's obviously doing a great job but I've watched other documentaries where overly generous parents cause trauma for their own children who have to live poorer lives because of it. I dunno which way is "better."
kimjack1000 Living a life in the middle is the best. Being generous and selfless, but also providing necessary and practical needs for your own survival too.
@@kimjack1000 At least whatever he did was all for his daughter, even the charity he had created. His daughter will eventually understand his good intention as she grows older.
There are REAL men out there with such integrity, love and commitment. I feel like my heart is not beating.
How can anyone be so heartless to give this a thumbs down. He’s a god send. We need more people like him all around the world!
Lots of love and support to him and his daughter!
his daughter is so cute oml
@wendy ღ whoosh
YorickReturns you need to stop
@@jigaboojohn8839 🤦🏾♀️
@@YorickReturns 🤦🏾♀️
$105,500+ has been donated since the release of this video. Kudos to Asian Boss and it's subscribers...
$266k right now, makes me so happy when I see the internet being not garbage.
@@andrei3831 what about the other single dad? Is he okay?
Just think if the RICH would give alttle we wouldn't have all these issues with people living in the streets, poverty, hunger. Very sad how the poor and middle class are usually the ones that step up.
@@ellensantiago6331 Im sure some of the rich people watching this also donated some money.
I agree that the rich are to blame for some of it, but don´t forget that not everyone with lots of money is evil.
In the end the government has the most responsibility in cases like this.
Here in Germany things ain´t as hard for single parents as they are in South Korea tho, but then again South Korea has an extremely competetive society.
Im sure if you had lots of money you would be doing some good :-)
My first time reviewing this and he deserves the best and of course along with his daughter. I hope she accomplishes much moving forward. I understand being poor growing up and it's a life lesson that always teaches you to climb the ladder and make it better.
Me: *sees comments saying that they cried * psh I'm not gonna cry
Me after the video: *crying nonstop * okay so maybe I was wrong
I was wrong too and now I’m crying like a baby 😭
I cried so hard. I know he struggled greatly for the love of his daughter. That hit home.
This man is sooo kind hearted... He doesn’t even blame his wife for this and gives everything he owns to others.. We need more people like him, I‘m so proud 😭 when the reporter cried my heart ached 2 times more..
His daughter has to be proud and happy to have such a strong and kindhearted man in her life!! 🥺
The fact that even the reporter cried... I’m in tears...
The laws need to change, these laws hurt children.
Shut up stop having opinions on other countries laws
@@tricep292 let the man speak. He has the right to give opinions
@@tricep292 Everything is perfect in Korea? What is this channel about? It's about Asia, therefore everybody can express their opinion about it. And if you can't take a critical opinion you shouldn't be on this channel.
shame on you
Every single one of you is so pathetic..... you have so much opinion on something that has no effect on you..... i guess thats why youre sitting here commenting on a youtube video when you’re not in office passing legislation....
This man and his daughter deserve the world
*This man is a whole role model to everyone that no matter how hard times you've went through. Just be a father to his daughter and be also a mother to her missing in action wife.*
*I was surprised how clean and pure his heart knowing that he never bad mouthing and resent his wife after they were abandoned with nothing but love still existed in his life.*
*I salute to him for not just being a father but also being philanthropist and educates somebody that being a single parent isn't bad at all. He may not be the best but he has the purest heart.* 💖
When he started recounting about how he planned to die alongside his daughter...cue the ugly crying
Welp, glad to know I wasn't the only one who ugly-sobbed. I thought I was done crying and then there was his emotional message to his daughter in the future and I started all over again...
Not being able to register a child as a parent... how is this legally possible in an advanced country like Korea? I hope things will change for the better
Korea is very advanced technologically, but quite far behind socially. That's the problem of countries with rapid economical growth: they don't have time to adapt socially and culturally. These things took centuries in countries like the developed ones in Europe, for societies to change and adapt. What's happening in Korea is that basically, they are forced to make these changes happen in mere years/decades, and that means that the more vulnerable people are left behind, like old people or single parents... anyone that isn't "the norm". It's really sad.
LadyPrincessDiana exactly
Jenna Maria it’s because their economic growth was facilitated because of a war, and socially their beliefs didn’t necessarily change with it.
@@LadyPrincessDiana im sure korea can learn from the european enlightenment and not have all the bloodshed..
South Korea is a country where technology is in 2100 but socially is in the 1800s.
this guy and the babybox guy need to make their dream a reality....a community of single parents working together to raise their children.
The fact that his daughter’s name means ‘love’.... this really is a story about love. A lot of love.
*This Man Deserves The World.*
*He is The strongest in the world no matter what.*
I agree☑️💯🙇
He already has his world
Don't know to what extend the mother had to leave but the fact he still shows her respect after she left by teaching his daughter that her mother is a beautiful person is just.... where do I find a man like this ?
@@itsjennifer.d9249 Even if the mother didn't want to be a mother...I feel like she could send money to them. It seems a little too cruel for her to not help at all. Also this is another lesson for society on why women shouldn't be pressured into being mothers...not everyone is suited to the role
@@sruthi671 so true, i personally don't want a child, but as soon as anyone hears that they tell me on what i'd miss out on and how as a woman that is unnatural. Total BS, better to not have a child, than to have a child you'd never love. that would be cruel in my opinion
Deep respect for this father who chose to hold his daughter tightly even when he had to beg on the streets. Men who choose to abandon their wife and children for new happiness... Please look at this father!
Dhanya Ravindran but he was the one who was abandoned by his wife.
Kaylee Kat i think u misunderstood lol they’re talking about guys who leave their wife and kids should learn this father’s ways since he was the one who was left by his wife and he was the one who stayed with the child
Dhanya Ravindran You must be directing this comment at blacks.
Most men are impregnating uneducated women that they meet then leave them like a HIT & RUN.
@@jigaboojohn8839 why ? It seems like you're the one doing it just by saying that
He's an incredible human, I hope Korean society evolves in this matter, its terrible even what his own family said to put her in an orphansge
my dad is a single father too, even though i always wanted to have my mom by my side my dad never made me feel like i needed more than what he gives me, i never had lack of love. he was always caring, cheerful through hard times and understanding to me. growing up as a girl without her mother is a tough thing but it'll teach your daughter that having a parent who loves her is enough even if there's one missing, she'll know how to appreciate little things and how to be strong. i sincerely hope your life will be filled with happiness and joy in the future because you're a great father and you deserve the world!
I wonder if he'll ever tell his daughter in the future that he lied about her mother dying in a car accident...kinda crazy how a few generous strangers prevented him from committing suicide, though.
This situation with thoughts of suicide would not have happened if there was a support of single parents from the government. It's ridiculous that a single father can't register his child without mom's presence and thus can't get the medical insurance and register his child to the daycare.
It seems like a terrible lie, but imagine a young girl growing up knowing her mother didn't want her. I can see why he wanted her to grow up as normal as possible. When she is older I hope he tells her the truth.
Shell probably watch this video as a teen.
@@EmmaAppleBerry uh oh
@@drewnayr1188 My father left before I was born, and my mom always told me when I was younger that he was sick and left because he loved me and didn't want to hurt me. She told me the truth when I was about 17 or 18, that he'd wanted nothing to do with me and even threatened her and me to get out paying child support. It was crushing and still hurts to this day, but I'm so grateful that I didn't have that baggage when I was a child. No kid should feel that they're unwanted. I can't imagine how I'd have turned out as a person if my mother had been honest with me from the moment I started asking about him (I was 5). This dad is doing the right thing in sparing his daughter from that.
the fact that even though he's poor he still tries to help others who are in a similar situation as his warms my heart :)
Yes I'm crying and so are you, don't lie.
13:42 It really pained me to see both of them tear uppppppp. The dad is so humble, I really hope that both of them have a better future ahead of them. Sarang is such a beautiful name tooo.
As a father to a daughter myself, I cried when hearing what he says to his daughter. Let me say this.
Thank you for not abandoning her.
Thank you for not killing yourself with her.
Thank you for working hard for her.
Thank you for making her smile.
What a beautiful world. 😍
Thank you for not killing her?!
@@junpi8562 Some things in this world can get unbelievably hard. You think anyone sane would ever even think for a second about that? A mother and/or a father? The most natural and beautiful love and bond in this world? Depression tied with hopelessness is one of the scariest things in this world. Be happy and grateful daily, if you never experienced something like that.
Thanks for not being bad?
@@junpi8562 yup, that's my true feeling when I live in a society where some desperate young mothers/parents kill their newborn baby because of shame. I feel really sad whenever I read about it in the news.
Btw, at one point of the interview, he said that he was considering to do so, then he would kill himself.
Reviews Because-I-Care yeah it takes a lot of effort and strength
bless him for keeping his daughter and not listen to people i cant imagine what he has gone through. wish nothing but the best for them, and hope the mother comes back one day and is better. he's an amazing person to say she isn't a bad person and talks about her kindly. thank you so much for sharing his story
he also mentions not once but twice that he thought about "dying together", this means killing the child, so sorry if I think it would have been better to give the baby up for adoption. I mean, especially at that point when he was so overwhelmed that he was thinking of dying, why was he even thinking about killing the child instead of giving it up for adoption??? and nobody is talking about that in the comments. The mother ran away, ok, maybe that was the best for the child, not to be raised by someone who didnt want the child and would be thinking of killing it. Sorry but thats not forgivable. I understand having the thought, but then he should have given custody to someone else. He actually planned this killing... Which kind of parent runs out of money and decides to kill the child instead of seeking help.... ..... is that a solution ???
@@vanessaruiz4705 I think it is just the process of how he overcame the situation and I believe suicide was the last choice he could make at that time. He finally realized that suicide is not the solution, right? So the important thing is right now he can live together with his daughter and amazingly supports other people who has the same situation with him. Can you imagine how many single parents who are desperate might be feel better after watching this video, listening to his story?
@@vanessaruiz4705 it's not about not wanting to have a child, it's more about that life is so unbearable to live for him and his child. There are actually are cases where parents deciede to kill themself and their child, so it's not that crazy too think of.
I think it will be better if Mom never show up anymore.
He told his daughter her Mom was died in car accident. She has the good image about her Mom that was so pretty.
She grown up already, if the Mom comeback she will find out Dad is lying and questioning why Mom left her???
She will devastated.
Mara Ram i'm sorry but u should keep that to urself, u only know half of the story. you never have felt his pain you can't say what was right or wrong it's his child
I'm not crying, you are crying! This man should be a role model not only for men but also for people in general. We need way more of being humble and loving. May God bless you!
I know someone who is a single father in Korea. He is such a kind and gentle man i ever known. I hope when the pandemic is over, i had a chance to see him
When she's older and she sees this, i wonder how she'll react. id cry for days
The thing I'm worried about is bullying later at school .... Children can get cruel sometimes.
@@hirolee7085 yeah sadly youre right :( lets just hope for the best for her
@hiro lee how can anyone bully someone after this?
@@rayperez5918 bullies are cruel and heartless,they dont care what you go through
@@rayperez5918 bullies are children as well. They are not matured enough and wouldn't care if you have single parent or even orphan😬
Tbh bullying is everywhere, let us just hope for her best
this made me ugly cry and i wasn’t prepared.
spicy ash 😂😭🤣 have yet to meet an attractive cry.
Yeah even iam crying like a crazy baby
At the time when he himself would have been mentally suffering so much due to being left by his wife, he had to think of ways to make ends meet for both him and his daughter.. I wonder how a person can be so soft hearted even after going through all of this.. I'm so amazed.. even in the hardest times all he wanted to do was make his daughter happy.. I just wish that he receives all the happiness and love that he was deprived of for so long.. Sarang is going to grow up so well.
Definitely gonna share this and ask people for help which i myself cannot provide as of now.
Thank you so much for sharing his story with us.
I got stuck at the last moment he spoke to his daughter.
You're special and kind hearted man.watching this is worthy enough.
'A child growing without a mom/dad will have a hard time.'
I say a child would have a harder time growing with a society that looks down on people just bc of that reason.
It's both actually
I dont have both lol
My parents got divorced when I was like 6 or 7 (now 21) and I always thought how much worse would it be if they weren't divorced.
Agree. The stigma from society is the worst cause, making it all harder ;(
@@zbigbozbboy5245 I knew a lot of children who prayed for their parents to get a divorce because it was just an awful environment to grow up in. Having a stable society that doesn't look down on single parent families makes it a lot easier than having a two parent family in certain situations. Of course its ideal to have two happy parents raising happy children, but life doesn't always work out that way does it. I consider myself lucky to be raised in a society that did not treat me and my mom harshly for being a single parent family and it definitely wasn't easy for her at all but she never made me feel less fortunate than others. I was never bullied for not having my dad around, nor receive pity from my peers. That I believe, made a world of difference to the quality of my life growing up and would have definitely made life unnecessarily harder.
I love how that woman express her sympathy to the man over her face,and how she speak soo carefull,,
Rosidah Rahman thats how koreans are.....
The part where Sarang (the daughter) is expressing how much she loves her father squeezed my hEART.
I have never made a donation before (I said so many times that I don't believe in this type of behavior) but seeing this, I took it to the campaign and donated for the first time. Being a normal person with not that much of an income, I am proud I did it and I really hope that the little amount will make some little baby happy. It is heartbreaking and I could not help stop crying. Ji Hwan ssi, keep up the great work. Fighting!
Her name is ' Sarang ' and if I'm not wrong it means ' love ' in Korean , she is so full of love , bliss and radiates happy and positive vibes , I hope she grows up to be a wonderful and strong person .
You are correct.
I noticed that too (at the same time the interviewer was telling the father that she can tell he gave his daughter lots of love) and I think it’s really beautiful
also how is the korean government fine with not giving korean born children birth certificates
unless someone wanted to adopt her.... oops
@@someguyik wait you can buy korean children without documentation? Not being weird or anything, just curious
When the interviewer started crying, I lost it too 😭
Ji-hwan's organization is doing a lot of great work. He's a very responsible father. Thumbs up!
Geez when he said “I was down to last spoon of milk 🥛” I was literally pouring my 1.5 litre milk into my cereal 🥣...that hit me right in the feels! 😕...Donating!
So much respect to single parents all over the world.
Heartbreaking but life-affirming at the same time. My utmost respect to Ji-hwan for his selflessness and generosity despite his dire financial situation. His deep & abiding love for his daughter-that is priceless!
Thank you, Asian Boss, for using your platform to give voice to marginalized members of society. These stories deserved to be told and be heard.
His message at the end, it was game over for me, all the tears building up behind my eyes just rushed out like a broken faucet
Damn it Asian Boss, I didn't come here to cry.
I couldn't help to cry while he dedicated a message to his daughter. There's so much love in that man's heart and he helps so many people in need!
I hope all the single parents in need can have the help they need to properly raise their children.
Having someone to rely on, on your lowest moment is truly a blessing. And Ji-hwan Ahjussi knows that better than anyone else. That's why he helps those in need all he can in utility support and mental health support. How angelic.
im not cryin.... u r...
The best dad. I hope he and many single parents get the justice they deserve
This got too real when he said he felt like committing suicide..
Common in Asia
01001011 even if its common, its heartbreaking to hear.
@@RunicThor
Very
@@cooliipie what do you mean by common in Asia? America and many Western European nations have high suicide rates too and many Asian nations have low rates
@@chawrakaxom559 The highest is Russia, Followed by Lithuania, Guyana, S.Korea. So its common there..
Jesuschrist, this was a tearjerker for me as a single no children 30 y.o male.
Be a wizard like me
@@Bonclayr yeah masters have no children they have students
Aww man you seem like my future self after 10 years
Are you one of the top Anonymous donors?
I am in the exact same position (and age!). I can't recall the last time I have been moved this much.
their law in registering a child is worse compared to poor country...
13:28 when he started to speak to his daughter ... i couldn’t hold my tears back any more 😓😓😓 i was ashamed of the judgement of the people - i was ashamed of my self bcs i can offer nearly every thing for my kids ( yes i am a single mom but in Germany you don’t have to suffer for the same reason - you can always offer the main things like food medicine... )
He was amazing, the fact he was a single parent and raising his daughters alone with prejudice in Korea society. He still manages an organization to help other single fathers, so much respect for you, sir. I hope you always healthy and happy with your daughter.
Lol the interviewer had to turn away to stop herself from crying. Bless her heart. What a compassionate soul.
I couldn't help the tears in my eyes when he said he wanted to commit suicide. I wish that people of the world would be more understanding of individual situations. This man is doing his best for his daughter and helping others. There are not many decent, caring and loving souls. This man has got such a good heart and an all round decent bloke. Many happy blessings to him and his daughter. God bless you both X
His daughter is such a sweetheart.
** Correction: the baby was 1 or 2 MONTHS old (not years) when the mom left.
It is because in korean age system after birth you are considered 1 year old.
@@asmr4424 that's what I thought as well Cedie 😂👍
@@asmr4424 Ji-hwan's verbatim: "Sarang was 1 or 2 months ("dal") old". It should be interpreted as it was said since the viewers are non-Koreans. Yes, we become 1 yr old at birth in Korea but I believe it was a simple mistake since "dal(month)" and "sal(years old)" could sound similar when they are spoken softly in Korean. 😄
You are simply 1 when you are born, and when New Year comes you are 2
(Imagine a girl born at 31st of December 2019, they will become 2 the next day.. ikr)
I thought he said 1 week @1:33
He is such a beautiful and caring father. He has a strong will and even a stronger heart. His love for his daughter is truly unconditional.
@@jigaboojohn8839 you cannot say that man
I am not black but I am a father
To be a father is not measured by colour
I am glad this video was made because it fights against bad father stereotype and show one side of fatherhood struggle
But of course you just don't get it
Jigaboo John Why do you have to bring race into it I’m black and my dad loves me unconditionally and has all the things they said this dad has. So stereotyping on such a nice video.
Why do babies if single parents not have a ssn in Korea? Seems extremely discriminatory
His story touched me deeply.... I'm from Seoul and was in a orphanage for a short time. I'm happy that Sarang gets to grow up with her Daddy! Don't give up. It's rough out here in the world but as long as y'all have one another you can make it through! I wish my Mom didn't give me up, but God works in mysterious ways.
I can't believe they suggested that he take his daughter to an orphanage. That's just horrible.
Ikr, how can someone think of something so cruel. Jesus, they could have offered him some help but nooooo.. he had to leave her in an orphanage. Unbelieveable.
हाना सुगिसाकी杉﨑華 Agree, I lived in the orphanage for 5 years . So think being raised by at least one biological parent is a must
Its because they don't think it's q man's duty and/or responsibility to take care of his progeny alone. Thats how low the bar is set, that there's an expectation that not only that they can't do it, but that they WON'T as child rearing is seen as a woman's job in majority places around the world
हाना सुगिसाकी杉﨑華 exactly. Especially when The girl is not even an orphan
I think it's okay. Some orphanage is not just for children who lost their parent. They can leave the child there and pick them when they have enough money so they could get together again. He said that he almost had suicide both of them... thank God he not give up. Maybe some people will just do the suicide. For people who do not have powerfull body and mind, they need help and some like the orphanage and his organisation do the help...
*sorry for the bad english
This is so heartbreaking ... I have never heard of a child not being able to have a birth certificate in the country of birth before
Exactly, isnt that against the laws ??? In the constitución of my country one of firts rights is have a nationality... Thats why people came from Venezuela to give birth to their kids here , cuz is as easy as that
I think its same like in US
Poor or mental ill people not allowed rising their child..
Govermemt will take over it , to get the kid in right and wealhty merried couple.. isnt ryt?
@@maddgie8927 Actually no. In the US there are programs to help poor people. As long as a child is being well taken care of the government wont take the child away. They only do that if the child is being abused or neglected.
@@maddgie8927 thats not even the same.........
Maddgie Not even close. They only take away children if the child is actively abused or neglected. Yes it’s easier to be considered “neglected” if you’re poor (“neglecting” to feed your child, not because you don’t care but because you can’t afford food) but there are numerous programs to combat that. Bottom line: Your children are taken when you can’t properly care for them.
I wasn’t expecting to cry after watching this 😭