@@willsmith6560 It's the former! It can be having both parts of the sexual organs or having neither xx or xy chromosomes (such as xxy, etc). Trans is about gender while intersex is mainly biological
@@willsmith6560intersex comes in many forms. The most commonly thought of form of intersex persons is where folks have a mix of reproductive anatomy that is not strictly male or female, but possibly both. There are other forms where the body develops one way, but the individual’s chromosomes show that they are genetically the opposite sex or a combination of both sexes. Then there are hormonal variables that can cause someone to present a specific way that is different from their chromosomal or physical attributes. I hope I am making sense, but in short, there are many ways to be intersex, and many intersex people are not even aware that they are.
@@willsmith6560 In the simplest possible terms, an intersex person is someone who is neither XX or XY. There are tons of intersex variations and associated syndromes that result in all kinds of combinations of physical traits and often challenges. Many pass as "regular" male or female their whole lives, and it's typically only caught if there are medical issues that result in genetic testing.
Sounds more like attracted to women demi for men. When you're demi, you require an emotional bond in order to feel attraction. Being hot has nothing to do with it for a demi or anyone on the asexual spectrum.
What I get when I see you, your demeanor, is that you’re a beautiful person. I can tell you’re a kind soul, and that’s really all that matters. Straight, gay, intersex, trans, doesn’t matter, so long as you’re a good person.
You don’t need to label yourself. Just be who you are. Sex is a (usually) fun activity. Making love is SO much better! Being with someone you live kicks things up several notches. Hooking up for the physical release just can’t compete.
sometimes having one or more labels can help us find other people with the same experiences as us or help the people we want to date find us or just make us feel less along and like part of a community! the great in the LGBTQIA+ and queer spaces is that we have umbrella labels like “queer” that can be very general and inclusive for people to use, and thus get the helpful things that words and labels can bring, and there’s no pressure to necessarily be more specific if that’s not what one wants and we never have to feel limited or boxes in my any labels we identify with!
you hit it right on the head. I can look at a women or a female presenting person and have a crush right away. With men or people presenting male I have to get to know them before I even develop the crush feelings
I’m attracted to both and have only fallen in love with one man. Men just don’t fit in my brain re the white picket fence forever feeling. (I feel queer with men sexually and normal with women.) Didn’t work out with that particular man (he turned out to be a rage-aholic), and because I know about the white picket fence “this feels normal” feeling, I only pay attention to my attraction to women. I’d have to know a man a long while, get a real sense of the person, before I’d go there and consider forever could happen.
Same! For me I think part of it is a trust thing, I tend to trust women more initially than I would a man initially (based on my own experiences). My brain needs to know that they are even a potential safe crush before it will consider them and women, besides just being so pretty, have a track record of being more trustworthy.
@@saorise28 Umm You might need to do some research on that. Lesbians have the highest rates of divorce and the highest rates of domestic violence. Domestic violence rates for lesbians are double that of gay males, and even higher than hetero-couples. Im straight but this is well known in LGBT circles and has been reported in mainstream media and LGBT media on the internet. The trans community has high rates of domestic violence too. A majority of all homicides of trans people is done by their romantic partner, from domestic violence, Often its another trans person.
Isn't a crush really trivial tho? Only about looks and normally can be over when the smallest things change? If you "crush" on the personality then I'd say it's love, not a crush.
i feel so seen, between what you shared and the comments i just feel a lot less alone and kinda broken for how i experience sexuality. thank you so much for making a safe space for us to share the things we tend to keep to ourselves ✨💖✨
So cool seeing intersex people talk about their experiences! I myself am not intersex, but y'all do an amazing job spreading awareness of the fluidity of things like sex, gender, and sexuality, and as a trans person that's something I really appreciate. You rock 💛💜
For me it's a trust thing. It's easier for me to trust women, and that opens the door to romantic or sexual attraction to them. If a man shows themself to be trustworthy, I'm open to those feelings, too. People who reject gender stereotypes are the easiest of all for me to bond with, though, so at least half of my romantic and regular sexual partners are nonbinary.
You have everything backwards. The people who call themselves "nonbinary" are the people most obsessed with sexual stereotypes. They consider those stereotypes so incredibly important that they throw away all the standard sex-based terminology, in which everything is defined in objective terms without reference to stereotypes, and instead insist on categorising everyone in terms of stereotypes. Think about it. A person will only feel the need to invent a third category of people - a category of people who supposedly "reject gender stereotypes" - if they already implicitly define the first two categories in terms of stereotypes! In reality, the people who reject sexual stereotypes based on the gendering of clothing, behaviour, social roles, and so on are the gender-critical people. The clue is in the name!
@@omp199 Is your point that, ultimately, the idea of gender is unnecessary and counterproductive? (like it shouldn't be an end goal?) Because if that's the case, then I agree. However, I do acknowledge that those labels serve a very important political role in society nowadays. I see them through an utilitarian lens, but at the end of the day they should be ditched.
@@i.shuuya3231 The idea of gender - in the sense of a system of labelling and thereby partitioning humans based on sexual stereotypes - is unnecessary and counterproductive. Not only should it not be an end goal, but it shouldn't be a starting point, or an intermediate goal, or any sort of goal. If you want it to be ditched, all you have to do is join the movement that wants it to be ditched, which is the gender-critical movement. I'm not subscribed to a utilitarian philosophy, but even if I were, I don't see how the currently more fashionable movement of pushing for the enforced replacement of sex with gender in language, society, and law is in any way working towards an end goal of ditching gender. How can aggressively pushing _for_ something be a means to ditch it? It's the opposite of that.
I thought everyone was pan until I was older. It just seemed so strange to me (and still does really) that people can rule out nearly 1/2 of the population when they have not met 99.9% of those people. You never know who is out there that could hook your heart. 🤷🏼♀️ My daughter told me the other day she had spent much of her younger childhood thinking the same thing, and she couldn’t figure out why people are so worried about who other people are attracted to anyway. Made me feel like I’ve gotten at least some parenting things right🎉
Its funny cause I feel like I've had the complete opposite experience I'm like mostly asexual but have only been sexually attracted to a SMALL handful of men in my life (like 1-4, and just men too 😭) and I seriously wonder how its so easy for people to fall in love with just... anyone 💀 Like for the longest time I was convinced people were just hyping up sex and romance until I met a guy I was attracted to and I'm just like... yall go through this everyday??? With multiple people??? The fuck??
@@uwu2u436 yeah thats apparently pretty common for ace people, thinking Allos are exaggerating attraction. I assure you, we are not exaggerating. Yes, it's exhausting (though i'm actually both hypersexual and aspec, so i'm a bit of a special circumstance)
I felt the same! I was introduced to what sexualities was when my friend came out in 8th grade, and when she asked about the rest of our friend group, I realized I never really thought about it. I liked who I liked, because I liked them.
there is a whole ass spectrum of things to look into, you have like sexual stuff and romantic stuff and whatnot, and some people just like to use Queer, i do use comfy for me, and helps explain my whole deal but no one should force you to pick a label unless you want to, and if you have a label dont worry about having to stick with it, labels are like clothing, can be safe, can help people understand you, and if they dont fit change them, but being forced into clothing you do not like is not fun
The sense of humor is fantastic. I really appreciate learning about unique biology and experience and not being told how to think or feel about it. Feels like sharing, not telling. It's nice.
Honestly, there are so many things about you that are attractive with or without a label. And I am a guy. Now I'm wondering if that makes me gay? Or is it all just labels that don't matter because we're all just people in the end? So glad I found your channel.
Haha. I get it. I'm a guy that's attracted to females but feel like I'm a lesbian because I feel female mostly inside. Now I'm attracted to Blume, I'm wondering if I'm also gay. 😂 it just goes on forever I suppose. When it comes down to it, we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, so we can take any form at any time. Just my view...
My love you are fabulous and at 61 I appreciate your honesty. Thank you for helping older people understand so that we can operate in the compassion and speak using a new and appropriate lexicon. If we misspeak, please know that we are genuinely trying to evolve with the world.🌍🎁🙏🏼
A friend once made a very confused statement about not understanding someone who identified as lesbian transwoman. Because in his thought that just made her a hetero man. And I cleared it up by just asking him if being gay is in any way linked to being male or female and he immediately went "no, of course not. .... Oh, yeah, now it makes sense". 😂
"Cleared it up"? No, he was right the first time. A "transwoman", as that term is most commonly used, is an adult human male. "Lesbian", as that term is most commonly used, implies sexual attraction to women. Put them together, and - again with the proviso that we are following how those terms are most commonly used - we get an adult human male who is sexually attracted to women. Otherwise known as a heterosexual man. The question about whether "being gay" is in any way linked to being male or female is a silly question, because you are clearly using the word "gay" there as an umbrella term covering two different, mutually exclusive things. The "traditional" meaning of the word "gay" (as used at least from the 1960s to the 1990s) meant being an adult human male who was sexually attracted to other human males, and so it was obviously linked to being male. At some point, the word "gay" was expanded to also cover lesbians, which are human females who are sexually attracted to other human females, but this additional meaning is obviously distinct from the meaning of human males who are sexually attracted to other human males. So each part of the meaning is linked to the person's sex, but you are hiding that fact when you conflate the meanings by using the same word to cover both. I hope I have managed to clear a few things up for you!
@@omp199You can't clear things up when you're wrong though. No offense. I don't relate to being gay and trans at all--but it's as simple as someone who presents male is attracted to men, or someone who presents female is only attracted to women. That's gay. I don't know why people like you want to move the goalposts so much. What's so hard about saying 'gay transwoman'? Every piece of important information is presented in that description. Instead you take issue with the word 'woman' because of their chromosomes, then you take issue with the word 'gay' because of their birthsex, and in the process you take issue with communicating anything. You lose information. Your reduction is not communicative, making it essentially useless. I can't stand the kind of paragraph you left here. You're acting like you're educating someone when you're really just trying to stir the pot AND not sharing anything useful--no one is remotely confused about the birth sex or chromosomal sex of trans people buddy. There's a difference between being conservative and being wilfully ignorant of language and nuance.
@@rawkhawk414 It's funny that you are accusing "people like me" of wanting to move the goalposts, when I am simply keeping the goalposts in the same place as they were before this irrational, sexist nonsense took over and destroyed what used to be the progressive political space. How can you not see how laughably ridiculous, superficial, sexist, and homophobic it is to say that being gay is "someone who _presents_ male" being attracted to men or "someone who _presents_ female" being attracted to women"? How simple-minded and shallow are you to think that someone's _presentation_ changes the fundamental nature of what they are? You pretend that I am somehow "losing information" by calling a spade a spade, but it is people like you who are throwing away information by refusing to allow people to tell the plain truth. If you start demanding that we refer to some spades as "spades" and other spades as "transutilised forks", then you have thrown away the ability to talk about both spades and forks as coherent and distinct categories. You have literally everything backwards. There is nothing "conservative" about opposing shallow, superficial, sexist, homophobic language and categorisation schemes. Progress requires the rejection of superficiality and sexist stereotypes, the recognition of biological reality, and the acknowledgement of same-sex attraction. There is nothing "wilfully ignorant of language and nuance" about advocating the use of language to convey factual information about reality.
@@rawkhawk414 Except that I'm not wrong. No information is lost by calling a spade a spade. On the contrary, if you refer to some spades as "spades" and other spades as "transutilised forks", then you have lost the notion that spades are a coherent category, and the notion that forks are a coherent category distinct from spades. You have literally everything backwards. You are moving the goalposts, not me. You are losing information, not me. You are being wilfully ignorant of language and nuance, not me. I am progressive, not conservative. You are pushing politics backwards with this absurd and shallow obsession with "presentation" and the notion that "presentation" is somehow more important than material reality.
@@omp199 Humans are not garden equipment. Inanimate objects do not have a gender, let alone the ability to define a gender for themself. Humans do have that ability. If someone is happier being referred to as a man when they were assigned female at birth, why not let them? Is it hurting you? My girlfriend is trans, and she's so much happier living as a woman than as a man. What business do you have caring about other people's genitals?
I’m old (I’ll be 51 soon) and I have some friends and family that use these terms and I still don’t know what they’re talking about 😞 I’m still a little confused after watching this and reading some of the comments, but watching videos helps me understand the people I know and the world around me. So thank you for uploading this 😊 But… for those of us who are old(er), could you maybe make one that’s like “Sexuality For Dummies”? Seriously, it would help a lot for me (and probably a lot of others my age) if some of these different variations of sexuality and explaining how being transgender and liking the same sex you identify with doesn’t mean you should have stayed the sex you were (that was one I couldn’t wrap my head around for a while). Sometimes I feel these videos fly through these things so fast because they target an audience that already understands a lot of these terms and ideas. But if you made one like you were writing a “for dummies” book, really made things simple, pretend we know nothing and go from there, maybe you could bridge the gap with the older generation that looks at you all baffled, throws up their hands and says, “I give up…” It’s just a thought. I keep trying to understand, but it really is difficult sometimes. And I’m making an effort! Imagine what it’s like for people who don’t put in the effort… So if you could make a really simple video with simple terms and definitions, I think that would help a lot 😊
I'm going to reply here to you even though I wasn't asked to, and I hope you're okay with me interjecting some facts and thoughts here. Please don't be angry with me for interrupting but I have been in your shoes for a long time...and I'm 61. So i get ya. When babies are being formed in the womb they (we) are all females to start with. Then, later our genes kick in and we form genitalia...either male or female. But once in a while something happens genetically and the transformation from female to male stops mid-way for some reason. I'm not a doctor so I don't know why....imperfection maybe??? So the baby is born appearing to be a female because it has no male genitalia. When in reality their genitalia is hidden inside their bodies. In her case her testicles stayed put and didn't drop down like a normal male baby's would. So she never developed completely sexually. And over time she formed certain feminine parts. Her face for instance. She has always looked like a female. And thinking that they've had a female child all this time, her parents raised her as a female because they weren't aware that she has male body parts hidden deep inside her. She has been "under developed" as it were. And because she has male parts internally she never developed a womb that can produce children or breasts that can naturally produce milk to feed a new born baby. But by the same token she has a body just like a female would, and was raised that way. It's just that her genetics got "confused" if you will, so she never fully developed in either direction. Thus, the term "intersex". Is this a good explanation to help you understand a little bit better? She could be viewed as gay because she's technically a male deep inside. But I prefer to allow her to express herself as a female as she has been her entire life. In other words...I don't expect her to drop everything and start living like a man and looking like a man and dressing like one. But if she chooses to go that route then I'll understand and root for her in my own little corner. And by the way...I am 100% heterosexual (I hope I spelled that right) and am married to the woman of my dreams and have been for over 27 years. Now if I can just figure out a way to make us both young and sexy and gorgeous again....😉🤣🤣🤣🤣 Too funny.😄
We could start an old peoples club 😂 . You both explained yourselves really well. I had a transgender student. The only information I got about the student was from the school. I wanted them to feel accepted but I didn't even know what the preferred pronoun was. The school forbid me to ask any questions. So now I'm on my own journey to learn because I feel everybody has a right to live a good life. Without people like Blum explaining her story I would just be in the dark. Medical journals only go so far.
This really isn't the place to be asking questions like this. You first need to read the story "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen. Then you need to realise that most people are like the people who praised the emperor's outfit. Much of your "confusion" will go away once you accept that pretty much everyone in the world is just pretending, and that when they say things that sound "confusing", that is usually because they simply have no idea what they are talking about. I hasten to add that I am talking here about the people in the comments, not the person in the video, who I have no reason to doubt has a genuine intersex condition. Having an intersex condition and being "transgender" are not the same thing. An intersex condition is something that you are born with, and that a thorough physical investigation can, at least in principle, reveal. Being "transgender" is not a physically observable condition. It is about how a person sees themselves and how a person labels themselves - and increasingly about how a person demands that other people label them. It doesn't really make sense to ask a person with an intersex condition to explain what being "transgender" is about, any more than it makes sense asking a person who has been born with six fingers to explain what it means to be a socialist. They are very different things.
I think a lot of people still don’t know that sex and gender are two different things, and so even if you have “biologically” male organs, that doesn’t make your gender male. I’m not 100% sure, maybe Blume will chime in, but I think Blume identifies as female? Don’t see preferred pronouns on the profile so I don’t want to assume. Anyway, labels like gay or lesbian are based on one’s gender, not anatomy. EDIT: also I wanted to be clear, I am NOT trying to explain this to Blume whom I’m sure already knows, but instead to anyone reading the UA-cam comments who may not already know.
Just want to add/correct, I would say ones sexual/romantic orientation is based on how you perceive the people you are attracted to. If you are attracted to people you perceive as women, it doesn’t change your orientation if some of them are intersex, nonbinary, transfeminine or pre transition trans masculine. And if you are open about it and manage to not care that much about lables, it doesn’t have to matter if you pursue them, though you should definitely respect everyones gender identity
@MichaelHaneline...You are absolutely correct. I knew this..but most people are brain inflexible..narrow minded and can't understand. Thx for the great explanation.🧡
you can identify as a woman, but you cant identify as female, because biological sex isnt an identity, IIRC Blume is non-binary and has CAIS I get that you are trying to explain things to people, but you are getting it pretty wrong yourself: Female is a sex and a matter of pure biology, woman/man/non-binary are gender identities and represent cultural constructions that are related to sex, but still not synonymous with it. When it comes to labels like lesbian, they are constructed both based on gender and based on sex. e.g. MtF trans women who like only the female sex are transbians because that makes sense in light of their gender and their feminisation efforts, but at the same time female non-binary people who are only into the female sex also regularly use the term lesbian despite not identifying as women, and this makes perfect sense.
Excuse me being gay very much has to do with sex organs an actual gay man will not sleep with a woman nor would a lesbian sleep with a man. It’s way more than “gender” to us sex and gender are the same , the rest are just bi and trying to say it’s gay it’s not
@@h.s.lafever3277 stupid comment lol. Intersex is literally what it sounds like, when someone is physically in between male and female due to medical conditions. For instance with Blume the have a condition that means that even though they have XY chromosomes they look female physically and do not produce male hormones.
You make your journey of figuring out who you are sound so easy (even though I’m pretty sure it wasn’t, it usually isn’t). It took me years to figure out I was both asexual and aromantic. I’ve always kinda known I haven’t felt sexual attraction or that I didn’t want to have sex, but as someone who gets other types of attractions, I confused them for romantic. Of course these false romantic feelings led me to pretty awkward situations 😅 I don’t know what all types of attraction I feel, but at least strong aesthetic attraction, some sensual and platonic, and maybe rarely flutter attraction (all the feelings and sensations of a crush, with no romantic feelings whatsoever. I don’t like this one very much as it reminds me of my past awkward situations. At least it’s weakly and rarely felt). Kinda overshared but oh well ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
It’s tough when it takes a long time or a lot of situations to figure out what it is you’re feeling. You are feeling many things but as you get to know a person feelings can really change. Some time it will all line up for you. Try not to beat yourself up as you go through it. Maybe just talk it out with the person you are having a relationship with. Let them know that it takes you a long time to feel your way around and know what kind of love or attraction it is you are feeling.
Smh at people(usually the cishets) confusing Sex, Gender, Romantic attraction, and sexual attraction. It just makes me think of the 70-90s media confusion between cis gay men and trans women. Queerness is complex, multiple layers, and ever changing. I’m an agender asexual married to a pansexual transwoman for 12 years. I’m not technically in a same-sex relationship anymore. But we are still gay as hell. 😂
It doesn't matter that much if you identify as agender. You're still a male attracted to some person. Absolutely everyone deserves love and to be loved. ❤
Woah!! I'm intersex, and you just described my exact sexuality to a TEE. I am quite physically attracted to women/ feminine people, and not normally as physically attracted to men/ masculine people, unless I'm deeply emotionally connected with a man and then the physical attraction is just as powerful as anything I've ever felt! I always thought I was weird, and didn't know what to call my orientation. I feel like romantically I need a man to fulfill a lot of my "emotional and life-partner desires", but like, I have physical urges towards women that are different and impossible to ignore. I honestly want a three way relationship with a man and a woman. Wow. I'm not the only one!! Thank you!
“You’re,” not “your.” “Your hair is so beautiful.” “Your car isn’t working.” “Your use of English is lacking.” “You’re beautiful.” “You’re telling me there’s a chance.” “You’re learning to sound smarter.”
I'm curious, do you use the split attraction model? It separates romantic and sexual attraction (which sounds similar to the differences you're talking about). So someone could for example be biromantic and homosexual. No meed to put lables on it if you don't want to but I personally enjoy learning about this sort of stuff and considering how/if it applies to me
I can kinda relate. Part of my neurodivergent interests is putting labels on things when it has to do with myself. I just find that if I put a name to some part of me, it helps me understand myself better. This really came out when I was realizing more about my gender and sexuality and my own queerness. I identify as queer generally, but if I really wanted to be specific and all-encompassing, I could put lots of little labels on myself. Idk if that makes sense, but it feels like I'm making a little dictionary of me and I enjoy that. I enjoy it when others do it, too, but I don't insist on it, bc I do believe that this is all subjective and nebulous and everyone should get to figure this out for themselves instead of having someone else force it on them.
@@HolldollMcG Interesting! That makes sense as I feel like a lot of neurodivergent people have very specific special interests or collections. For me personally, I gave up on trying to find microlabels that fit and stuck with aroace nonbinary. But reading through the descriptions of these labels and learning about how people experience them gave me prompts to consider how I myself experience attraction and gender, if that makes any sense.
@@evermore331 for sure! researching the different terms definitely helped me to articulate to myself how I was feeling and guided my intuition, if that makes sense. So instead of just feeling like I was "wrong" or "off" or "didn't quite fit" I had some words to put to what I was feeling. Now I just say I'm queer, but having some terms and definitions to fall back on gives me a bit of confidence.
i was also thinking like demisexual possibly... cuz she needed to form a romantic connection to feel sexual attraction, but only for one gender which i haven't heard of before so idk if there's a term for it
OR ….it could be that you’re “ into sex”🤣😂🤣😂 ( sorry I couldn’t resist) . Ive previously told you that “ you’re beautiful on so many levels “ , your honesty is just another one .
What if: Your soul has a determining factor in your sexual preference. You may have X/X or X/Y chromosomes, or perhaps not. But if your soul has an orientation of sexual desire. For the majority of people, you sexual orientation aligns with your physiology. For a relatively small percentage, but yet recognizable group, the alignment is not . And this women who did not have a specific male/female physical determination at birth. Perhaps, the soul plays a part in the self recognition of the identity. In some spiritual beliefs, the soul passes from lifetime to lifetime. My best guess, is this , 1/ BE the person you desire to be. 2/ Don't expect society to treat you special, period. 3/ Let others who differ from you, be themselves, and accept them unless they are directly impinging on you or others to be who you are. The differences in gender form the canvas for life's dramas to play out. It is this drama, that determines how evolved you are in responding to the existence we participate in during our lifetime.
I'm transgender (knew before 7yo - 56 now - started transitioning 4 years ago) and went through the same mind phuque. As a teen I thought "As I'm a girl - if I went out with a girl would I be a lesbian?", thought about going out with boys, looked down at my body and, erm, gave up! Bottom line, you love who you love and labels are stupid!
Thank you for sharing your journey.❤ I am not up on the current understandings and terms. It is interesting that people's journeys are different. I am glad more people have the freedom to be themselves.
You are so precious and I love your videos❤❤ You're so honest and open. I live life as a very happy ACE. People don't understand that you can be incredibly happy with that lifestyle and I am. We just gotta get to a place where we love and except everybody for who they are, not what we want them to be.❤❤❤
What makes you a biological male compared to a biological female? Since your testes are inside and you have said you do have a vagina? Or why not say you are a biological third gender? Not asking in a snarky, judgmental, or argumentative way. I sincerely want to know why that is the distinction. 💛
In simple terms… everyone starts out female in the womb (female is the “default baby” basically, if the baby has an xx chromosome it will be a female, if it has an xy chromosome it will gain testosterone and become a male. The person in this video has an xy chromosome, but never properly developed into a male. She has testicles inside of her but still has the outwardly appearance of a female. Basically she was stuck as a “default baby”.
Just because you’re biologically male, that doesn’t make you more attracted to women like that questionnaire is massively homophobic because it assumes that all men who are male are automatically straight or even gay men have some attraction to women which best just isn’t the case
It seems that being heterosexual is still somewhat more common than being homosexual. So I don't think it's necessarily homophobic, but depends who's asking and how they're asking.
@@freethegays we think of it like this. I’m a woman so to assume that I’m into guys because I’m a woman as massively homophobic because you don’t know who is into what reality is I’m gay I’m into women. Or think about it. If you’re a guy, would you want gay people just to assume that you’re gay because you’re a guy it’s the exact same logic
Honestly such titles do not apply to you, because you are organically functioning outside the parameters that define the common binary human physiology. In other words you are free to not play by the rules, because mother nature decided so.
@@SchwarzSchwertkampferSince she is intersex she is quite literally (sort of) in between the binaries of being male and female. Everyone starts out female in the womb (female is the “default baby” basically) if the baby has an xx chromosome it will be a female, if it has an xy chromosome it will gain testosterone and become a male. The person in this video has an xy chromosome, but never properly developed into a male. She has testicles inside of her but still has the outwardly appearance of a female. Basically she was stuck as a “default baby”.
This is actually therapeutic. Thank you for having the courage to raise awareness. Yes, as a demisexual, who struggles to let anyone have control over my body, one I've been privately intimate with alone for much longer than minutes, hours or days, with some other individual or mass of energy or someone, I just- There can be magnetism, attraction, and all that lust, but it just- It's not comfortable nor do I feel safe. It doesn't help that men have this carnal thing that kinda gets scary; strong grip, not listening at all, passionate, driven & just a little aggressive(which sounds hot sure on books. But in person, oh my god, it's very scary.). I know it's personal, but you talking about your experiences is healing. Especially with how mind boggling this must all sound to people who see the world in black & white. Thank you. I wish this would help raise awareness, and demisexualism or something more wholesome would become a norm someday.
Why do ppl keep thinking assigned gender at birth or gender identity have anything to do with sexuality/attraction? Thank you for educating ppl, Blume. I envy your patience haha
You are gorgeous! By the way, I'd just like to mention that I'm born, and still female, but somehow I've always felt like a man inside. But a gay man lol. I've even at one point in my life called drag queens my "spirit animal" 😅 (if I can say so without offense, for I mean none!) After learning about you, I might say that you just may be a new (friendly) obsession 😁 thank you for your transparency on intersex ❤
I'm demisexual, and this is complete facts for me too. I am bisexual, but I have to have emotional connection with males to be sexually attracted to them
To be honest, this is based… Who needs labels for sexuality when you already have gay as a default. Never live by others interpretations of you. You are who you are and that’s pretty cool.💛💜💜💜
Sexuality and gender are so freaking fascinating! Like, that’s why we’ve ended up with so many micro labels, because this stuff isn’t straight forward (in more ways than one, hehe). There are different forms of attraction, and you can have different combinations of sexualities, even different levels of ace or aro per gender you’re attracted to if that makes any sense (like for example being biromantic greysexual but the graysexual part for women specifically or smth). Idk, it’s just really interesting to me. Also just wanted to say you pop up on my FYP every so often and seem really cool!
SAMEEEEeee 😭💯 I’ve always been attracted to everyone as young as 3 but with boys I have to be head over heels for in order to reciprocate. Girls can always get it thooo 😌💁♀️✨
a just felt really validated, as ay split up ay attraction very specifically too, not just going with one sexuality label and seeing others do so too always makes ae happy
And if anyone was wondering yes Angelina in Tomb Raider was my first love and sexual awakening 💗
Its a shame Gerard Butler was so overshadowed and underutilized in that movie :( ... So glad we are getting a Greenland 2 wwooo
@@defectiveclone8450umm... the movie focused on Lara Croft the tomb raider. The titular character of the film. What else would you expect?
@@chimera91977 i guess he was still a little unknown at that point. :) just fanboying..
@@defectiveclone8450 personally, I loved Gamer
Thank you for having the courage to bring awareness to intersexuality. Also, you are just beautiful!❤
gay for da gurls, demi for them guys
Same 😂
@@hollydawn07Me as well. Now this has got me wondering how common this is for trans girls.
Blume isn't Trans FYI 😉 @@marshallferron
Redpillers are right men are not perceived as inherently sexually valuable
@@marshallferronBlume is intersex
“I think it’s just because I’m gayyyy”
Entire mood
Literally the best shit I've heard today
About the only thing this quote needs is some rainbow heart emojis.
Lmao love this
SAMESIES😊😅😅😅
"... I'm pretty much good to go with a girl all the time..." - Nope. Those sound like the words of a heterosexual male.
Girl intersex here as well. You just described my sexuality and THE HISTORY of my sexuality perfectly. Like so much it scares me a bit…
Explain that term ..I'm lost does it mean genetic male or female with both parts and no dominant hormones or like the term trans
@@willsmith6560 It's the former! It can be having both parts of the sexual organs or having neither xx or xy chromosomes (such as xxy, etc). Trans is about gender while intersex is mainly biological
@@willsmith6560intersex comes in many forms. The most commonly thought of form of intersex persons is where folks have a mix of reproductive anatomy that is not strictly male or female, but possibly both. There are other forms where the body develops one way, but the individual’s chromosomes show that they are genetically the opposite sex or a combination of both sexes. Then there are hormonal variables that can cause someone to present a specific way that is different from their chromosomal or physical attributes. I hope I am making sense, but in short, there are many ways to be intersex, and many intersex people are not even aware that they are.
@@willsmith6560 In the simplest possible terms, an intersex person is someone who is neither XX or XY. There are tons of intersex variations and associated syndromes that result in all kinds of combinations of physical traits and often challenges. Many pass as "regular" male or female their whole lives, and it's typically only caught if there are medical issues that result in genetic testing.
Me toooo
I found a comunity righ here 😂❤
the good ol' "if they hot they hot" approach to sexuality
Sounds more like attracted to women demi for men. When you're demi, you require an emotional bond in order to feel attraction. Being hot has nothing to do with it for a demi or anyone on the asexual spectrum.
Based
@@eeriecraft1797yep, but I think they just meant "screw labels, if I'm attracted to a person then that's all I need to know in that moment"
What I get when I see you, your demeanor, is that you’re a beautiful person. I can tell you’re a kind soul, and that’s really all that matters. Straight, gay, intersex, trans, doesn’t matter, so long as you’re a good person.
You don’t need to label yourself. Just be who you are.
Sex is a (usually) fun activity. Making love is SO much better! Being with someone you live kicks things up several notches. Hooking up for the physical release just can’t compete.
Omg I know right when there’s love involved its no longer a physical act it’s literally spiritual magical insanity
@@blumekind_Yeah, we call it “soul f**king” and it’s effing amazing!
"It's just because I'm gAy!" 😅 Love that! Me too!🎉
"Soul ties"
sometimes having one or more labels can help us find other people with the same experiences as us or help the people we want to date find us or just make us feel less along and like part of a community! the great in the LGBTQIA+ and queer spaces is that we have umbrella labels like “queer” that can be very general and inclusive for people to use, and thus get the helpful things that words and labels can bring, and there’s no pressure to necessarily be more specific if that’s not what one wants and we never have to feel limited or boxes in my any labels we identify with!
you hit it right on the head. I can look at a women or a female presenting person and have a crush right away. With men or people presenting male I have to get to know them before I even develop the crush feelings
I’m attracted to both and have only fallen in love with one man. Men just don’t fit in my brain re the white picket fence forever feeling. (I feel queer with men sexually and normal with women.) Didn’t work out with that particular man (he turned out to be a rage-aholic), and because I know about the white picket fence “this feels normal” feeling, I only pay attention to my attraction to women. I’d have to know a man a long while, get a real sense of the person, before I’d go there and consider forever could happen.
Same! For me I think part of it is a trust thing, I tend to trust women more initially than I would a man initially (based on my own experiences). My brain needs to know that they are even a potential safe crush before it will consider them and women, besides just being so pretty, have a track record of being more trustworthy.
@@saorise28 Umm You might need to do some research on that. Lesbians have the highest rates of divorce and the highest rates of domestic violence.
Domestic violence rates for lesbians are double that of gay males, and even higher than hetero-couples.
Im straight but this is well known in LGBT circles and has been reported in mainstream media and LGBT media on the internet.
The trans community has high rates of domestic violence too. A majority of all homicides of trans people is done by their romantic partner, from domestic violence, Often its another trans person.
@@saorise28 agreed
Isn't a crush really trivial tho? Only about looks and normally can be over when the smallest things change? If you "crush" on the personality then I'd say it's love, not a crush.
i feel so seen, between what you shared and the comments i just feel a lot less alone and kinda broken for how i experience sexuality. thank you so much for making a safe space for us to share the things we tend to keep to ourselves ✨💖✨
So cool seeing intersex people talk about their experiences! I myself am not intersex, but y'all do an amazing job spreading awareness of the fluidity of things like sex, gender, and sexuality, and as a trans person that's something I really appreciate. You rock 💛💜
For me it's a trust thing. It's easier for me to trust women, and that opens the door to romantic or sexual attraction to them. If a man shows themself to be trustworthy, I'm open to those feelings, too. People who reject gender stereotypes are the easiest of all for me to bond with, though, so at least half of my romantic and regular sexual partners are nonbinary.
You have everything backwards. The people who call themselves "nonbinary" are the people most obsessed with sexual stereotypes. They consider those stereotypes so incredibly important that they throw away all the standard sex-based terminology, in which everything is defined in objective terms without reference to stereotypes, and instead insist on categorising everyone in terms of stereotypes. Think about it. A person will only feel the need to invent a third category of people - a category of people who supposedly "reject gender stereotypes" - if they already implicitly define the first two categories in terms of stereotypes!
In reality, the people who reject sexual stereotypes based on the gendering of clothing, behaviour, social roles, and so on are the gender-critical people. The clue is in the name!
@@omp199yappuccino
@@omp199 Is your point that, ultimately, the idea of gender is unnecessary and counterproductive? (like it shouldn't be an end goal?)
Because if that's the case, then I agree. However, I do acknowledge that those labels serve a very important political role in society nowadays. I see them through an utilitarian lens, but at the end of the day they should be ditched.
@@i.shuuya3231 The idea of gender - in the sense of a system of labelling and thereby partitioning humans based on sexual stereotypes - is unnecessary and counterproductive. Not only should it not be an end goal, but it shouldn't be a starting point, or an intermediate goal, or any sort of goal. If you want it to be ditched, all you have to do is join the movement that wants it to be ditched, which is the gender-critical movement.
I'm not subscribed to a utilitarian philosophy, but even if I were, I don't see how the currently more fashionable movement of pushing for the enforced replacement of sex with gender in language, society, and law is in any way working towards an end goal of ditching gender. How can aggressively pushing _for_ something be a means to ditch it? It's the opposite of that.
Non-Binary isn't real. The End.
I think it’s just because I’m ✨GaY✨
I’m loving the transparency you are bringing to intersex people
You are such a joy to listen to . I am a lesbian & you describe so much that is human 🎉😂
I thought everyone was pan until I was older. It just seemed so strange to me (and still does really) that people can rule out nearly 1/2 of the population when they have not met 99.9% of those people. You never know who is out there that could hook your heart. 🤷🏼♀️ My daughter told me the other day she had spent much of her younger childhood thinking the same thing, and she couldn’t figure out why people are so worried about who other people are attracted to anyway. Made me feel like I’ve gotten at least some parenting things right🎉
That's sweet, and I sort of thought as close to that as one could in the 80s while not having any good examples outside of Greek mythology!
My roommate's the same, his mom had to explain to him when he was like 8 that straight and gay ppl exist cuz he just thought everyone liked everyone
Its funny cause I feel like I've had the complete opposite experience
I'm like mostly asexual but have only been sexually attracted to a SMALL handful of men in my life (like 1-4, and just men too 😭) and I seriously wonder how its so easy for people to fall in love with just... anyone 💀
Like for the longest time I was convinced people were just hyping up sex and romance until I met a guy I was attracted to and I'm just like... yall go through this everyday???
With multiple people??? The fuck??
@@uwu2u436 yeah thats apparently pretty common for ace people, thinking Allos are exaggerating attraction. I assure you, we are not exaggerating. Yes, it's exhausting (though i'm actually both hypersexual and aspec, so i'm a bit of a special circumstance)
I felt the same! I was introduced to what sexualities was when my friend came out in 8th grade, and when she asked about the rest of our friend group, I realized I never really thought about it. I liked who I liked, because I liked them.
there is a whole ass spectrum of things to look into, you have like sexual stuff and romantic stuff and whatnot, and some people just like to use Queer, i do use comfy for me, and helps explain my whole deal but no one should force you to pick a label unless you want to, and if you have a label dont worry about having to stick with it, labels are like clothing, can be safe, can help people understand you, and if they dont fit change them, but being forced into clothing you do not like is not fun
Does the "whole ass spectrum" apply exclusively to gay male sex?
How could it be a spectrum if it's explicitly exclusive, @@theymademepickaname1248?
@@theymademepickaname1248 lol no, Paw Paw, or Mee Maw, old folks are so funny and out of touch
@@theymademepickaname1248What? Why would you think that?
(Although now I'm so curious about what a spectrum like that would look like lolll)
@@aazhie Would you go down on a transwoman?
Could listen to you share all day
She's so pretty...
The sense of humor is fantastic. I really appreciate learning about unique biology and experience and not being told how to think or feel about it. Feels like sharing, not telling. It's nice.
Honestly, there are so many things about you that are attractive with or without a label. And I am a guy. Now I'm wondering if that makes me gay? Or is it all just labels that don't matter because we're all just people in the end? So glad I found your channel.
It’s exactly what u said at the end there!
@@blumekind_ Yeah. I think so, too. Would be nice if more people could see it. That's why I like your channel. I think it helps people see.
Haha. I get it. I'm a guy that's attracted to females but feel like I'm a lesbian because I feel female mostly inside. Now I'm attracted to Blume, I'm wondering if I'm also gay. 😂 it just goes on forever I suppose.
When it comes down to it, we are spiritual beings having a physical experience, so we can take any form at any time.
Just my view...
gay
@@androgynastronaut That kinda sounds like you’re trans. Not saying you are, only you can know, but have you considered it?
I think you are very pretty. You definitely could be a model... You've got it. Whatever that it is... You've got it! Brain and Beautiful!
And a penis.
You're so gorgeous, love your hair and makeup and outfit and everything lol
My love you are fabulous and at 61 I appreciate your honesty. Thank you for helping older people understand so that we can operate in the compassion and speak using a new and appropriate lexicon. If we misspeak, please know that we are genuinely trying to evolve with the world.🌍🎁🙏🏼
I love that you’re open without being all pissed off. That’s refreshing.
You're absolutely stunning. Thanks for sharing your point of view with us.
From the waste up.
The monotone American accent for the word "gaayyyyy" killed me. 😂
ur band mystic tea party is so underrated❤
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@@blumekind_ OMG IM SOOO EXCITED
A friend once made a very confused statement about not understanding someone who identified as lesbian transwoman. Because in his thought that just made her a hetero man. And I cleared it up by just asking him if being gay is in any way linked to being male or female and he immediately went "no, of course not. .... Oh, yeah, now it makes sense". 😂
"Cleared it up"? No, he was right the first time. A "transwoman", as that term is most commonly used, is an adult human male. "Lesbian", as that term is most commonly used, implies sexual attraction to women. Put them together, and - again with the proviso that we are following how those terms are most commonly used - we get an adult human male who is sexually attracted to women. Otherwise known as a heterosexual man.
The question about whether "being gay" is in any way linked to being male or female is a silly question, because you are clearly using the word "gay" there as an umbrella term covering two different, mutually exclusive things. The "traditional" meaning of the word "gay" (as used at least from the 1960s to the 1990s) meant being an adult human male who was sexually attracted to other human males, and so it was obviously linked to being male. At some point, the word "gay" was expanded to also cover lesbians, which are human females who are sexually attracted to other human females, but this additional meaning is obviously distinct from the meaning of human males who are sexually attracted to other human males. So each part of the meaning is linked to the person's sex, but you are hiding that fact when you conflate the meanings by using the same word to cover both.
I hope I have managed to clear a few things up for you!
@@omp199You can't clear things up when you're wrong though. No offense. I don't relate to being gay and trans at all--but it's as simple as someone who presents male is attracted to men, or someone who presents female is only attracted to women. That's gay. I don't know why people like you want to move the goalposts so much. What's so hard about saying 'gay transwoman'? Every piece of important information is presented in that description. Instead you take issue with the word 'woman' because of their chromosomes, then you take issue with the word 'gay' because of their birthsex, and in the process you take issue with communicating anything. You lose information. Your reduction is not communicative, making it essentially useless. I can't stand the kind of paragraph you left here. You're acting like you're educating someone when you're really just trying to stir the pot AND not sharing anything useful--no one is remotely confused about the birth sex or chromosomal sex of trans people buddy. There's a difference between being conservative and being wilfully ignorant of language and nuance.
@@rawkhawk414 It's funny that you are accusing "people like me" of wanting to move the goalposts, when I am simply keeping the goalposts in the same place as they were before this irrational, sexist nonsense took over and destroyed what used to be the progressive political space.
How can you not see how laughably ridiculous, superficial, sexist, and homophobic it is to say that being gay is "someone who _presents_ male" being attracted to men or "someone who _presents_ female" being attracted to women"? How simple-minded and shallow are you to think that someone's _presentation_ changes the fundamental nature of what they are?
You pretend that I am somehow "losing information" by calling a spade a spade, but it is people like you who are throwing away information by refusing to allow people to tell the plain truth. If you start demanding that we refer to some spades as "spades" and other spades as "transutilised forks", then you have thrown away the ability to talk about both spades and forks as coherent and distinct categories.
You have literally everything backwards. There is nothing "conservative" about opposing shallow, superficial, sexist, homophobic language and categorisation schemes. Progress requires the rejection of superficiality and sexist stereotypes, the recognition of biological reality, and the acknowledgement of same-sex attraction. There is nothing "wilfully ignorant of language and nuance" about advocating the use of language to convey factual information about reality.
@@rawkhawk414 Except that I'm not wrong. No information is lost by calling a spade a spade. On the contrary, if you refer to some spades as "spades" and other spades as "transutilised forks", then you have lost the notion that spades are a coherent category, and the notion that forks are a coherent category distinct from spades. You have literally everything backwards. You are moving the goalposts, not me. You are losing information, not me. You are being wilfully ignorant of language and nuance, not me. I am progressive, not conservative. You are pushing politics backwards with this absurd and shallow obsession with "presentation" and the notion that "presentation" is somehow more important than material reality.
@@omp199 Humans are not garden equipment. Inanimate objects do not have a gender, let alone the ability to define a gender for themself. Humans do have that ability. If someone is happier being referred to as a man when they were assigned female at birth, why not let them? Is it hurting you? My girlfriend is trans, and she's so much happier living as a woman than as a man. What business do you have caring about other people's genitals?
I’m old (I’ll be 51 soon) and I have some friends and family that use these terms and I still don’t know what they’re talking about 😞 I’m still a little confused after watching this and reading some of the comments, but watching videos helps me understand the people I know and the world around me. So thank you for uploading this 😊
But… for those of us who are old(er), could you maybe make one that’s like “Sexuality For Dummies”? Seriously, it would help a lot for me (and probably a lot of others my age) if some of these different variations of sexuality and explaining how being transgender and liking the same sex you identify with doesn’t mean you should have stayed the sex you were (that was one I couldn’t wrap my head around for a while). Sometimes I feel these videos fly through these things so fast because they target an audience that already understands a lot of these terms and ideas. But if you made one like you were writing a “for dummies” book, really made things simple, pretend we know nothing and go from there, maybe you could bridge the gap with the older generation that looks at you all baffled, throws up their hands and says, “I give up…” It’s just a thought. I keep trying to understand, but it really is difficult sometimes. And I’m making an effort! Imagine what it’s like for people who don’t put in the effort… So if you could make a really simple video with simple terms and definitions, I think that would help a lot 😊
I'm going to reply here to you even though I wasn't asked to, and I hope you're okay with me interjecting some facts and thoughts here. Please don't be angry with me for interrupting but I have been in your shoes for a long time...and I'm 61. So i get ya.
When babies are being formed in the womb they (we) are all females to start with. Then, later our genes kick in and we form genitalia...either male or female. But once in a while something happens genetically and the transformation from female to male stops mid-way for some reason. I'm not a doctor so I don't know why....imperfection maybe??? So the baby is born appearing to be a female because it has no male genitalia. When in reality their genitalia is hidden inside their bodies. In her case her testicles stayed put and didn't drop down like a normal male baby's would. So she never developed completely sexually. And over time she formed certain feminine parts. Her face for instance. She has always looked like a female. And thinking that they've had a female child all this time, her parents raised her as a female because they weren't aware that she has male body parts hidden deep inside her. She has been "under developed" as it were. And because she has male parts internally she never developed a womb that can produce children or breasts that can naturally produce milk to feed a new born baby. But by the same token she has a body just like a female would, and was raised that way. It's just that her genetics got "confused" if you will, so she never fully developed in either direction. Thus, the term "intersex". Is this a good explanation to help you understand a little bit better? She could be viewed as gay because she's technically a male deep inside. But I prefer to allow her to express herself as a female as she has been her entire life. In other words...I don't expect her to drop everything and start living like a man and looking like a man and dressing like one. But if she chooses to go that route then I'll understand and root for her in my own little corner. And by the way...I am 100% heterosexual (I hope I spelled that right) and am married to the woman of my dreams and have been for over 27 years. Now if I can just figure out a way to make us both young and sexy and gorgeous again....😉🤣🤣🤣🤣 Too funny.😄
We could start an old peoples club 😂 . You both explained yourselves really well.
I had a transgender student. The only information I got about the student was from the school. I wanted them to feel accepted but I didn't even know what the preferred pronoun was. The school forbid me to ask any questions. So now I'm on my own journey to learn because I feel everybody has a right to live a good life. Without people like Blum explaining her story I would just be in the dark. Medical journals only go so far.
This really isn't the place to be asking questions like this. You first need to read the story "The Emperor's New Clothes" by Hans Christian Andersen. Then you need to realise that most people are like the people who praised the emperor's outfit. Much of your "confusion" will go away once you accept that pretty much everyone in the world is just pretending, and that when they say things that sound "confusing", that is usually because they simply have no idea what they are talking about.
I hasten to add that I am talking here about the people in the comments, not the person in the video, who I have no reason to doubt has a genuine intersex condition.
Having an intersex condition and being "transgender" are not the same thing. An intersex condition is something that you are born with, and that a thorough physical investigation can, at least in principle, reveal. Being "transgender" is not a physically observable condition. It is about how a person sees themselves and how a person labels themselves - and increasingly about how a person demands that other people label them. It doesn't really make sense to ask a person with an intersex condition to explain what being "transgender" is about, any more than it makes sense asking a person who has been born with six fingers to explain what it means to be a socialist. They are very different things.
@@omp199 you assume much. Maybe you need to ask a few questions.
@@HobbitBroad Okay, here's a question: what do you think I have assumed?
Nope, I'm a cis female and I'm the same.
Womens are just "WOW" and men are "meeh" - until I fall in love
If you are a biological Female, you are just a female, no cis needed, that is just labeling
I think a lot of people still don’t know that sex and gender are two different things, and so even if you have “biologically” male organs, that doesn’t make your gender male.
I’m not 100% sure, maybe Blume will chime in, but I think Blume identifies as female? Don’t see preferred pronouns on the profile so I don’t want to assume.
Anyway, labels like gay or lesbian are based on one’s gender, not anatomy.
EDIT: also I wanted to be clear, I am NOT trying to explain this to Blume whom I’m sure already knows, but instead to anyone reading the UA-cam comments who may not already know.
I believe they identify as non-binary
Just want to add/correct, I would say ones sexual/romantic orientation is based on how you perceive the people you are attracted to. If you are attracted to people you perceive as women, it doesn’t change your orientation if some of them are intersex, nonbinary, transfeminine or pre transition trans masculine. And if you are open about it and manage to not care that much about lables, it doesn’t have to matter if you pursue them, though you should definitely respect everyones gender identity
@MichaelHaneline...You are absolutely correct. I knew this..but most people are brain inflexible..narrow minded and can't understand. Thx for the great explanation.🧡
you can identify as a woman, but you cant identify as female, because biological sex isnt an identity, IIRC Blume is non-binary and has CAIS
I get that you are trying to explain things to people, but you are getting it pretty wrong yourself: Female is a sex and a matter of pure biology, woman/man/non-binary are gender identities and represent cultural constructions that are related to sex, but still not synonymous with it.
When it comes to labels like lesbian, they are constructed both based on gender and based on sex. e.g. MtF trans women who like only the female sex are transbians because that makes sense in light of their gender and their feminisation efforts, but at the same time female non-binary people who are only into the female sex also regularly use the term lesbian despite not identifying as women, and this makes perfect sense.
Excuse me being gay very much has to do with sex organs an actual gay man will not sleep with a woman nor would a lesbian sleep with a man. It’s way more than “gender” to us sex and gender are the same , the rest are just bi and trying to say it’s gay it’s not
I think we might actually have the same intersex condition.
lol, so intersex is just a new name for bi.... how brave lol
@@h.s.lafever3277 No? It's a medical term to describe someone who is in-between the medical definitions of male and female.
@@h.s.lafever3277maybe dont make snarky comments on things you know nothing about. that isn’t even what it means.
@@h.s.lafever3277its not dummy
@@h.s.lafever3277 stupid comment lol. Intersex is literally what it sounds like, when someone is physically in between male and female due to medical conditions. For instance with Blume the have a condition that means that even though they have XY chromosomes they look female physically and do not produce male hormones.
That last line earned you a follow! Love the energy❤
oh my god, I feel and relate to literally every single word that you just said 😅 SO VALIDATING, THANK YOU 🎉
I bursted out laughing when you said “I’m just attracted to people”
The last word of this clip is the funniest thing I'll hear all day
Me too lol😂
Because I'm gaaaaaayyy
GgggggAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaay xD
You make your journey of figuring out who you are sound so easy (even though I’m pretty sure it wasn’t, it usually isn’t). It took me years to figure out I was both asexual and aromantic. I’ve always kinda known I haven’t felt sexual attraction or that I didn’t want to have sex, but as someone who gets other types of attractions, I confused them for romantic. Of course these false romantic feelings led me to pretty awkward situations 😅 I don’t know what all types of attraction I feel, but at least strong aesthetic attraction, some sensual and platonic, and maybe rarely flutter attraction (all the feelings and sensations of a crush, with no romantic feelings whatsoever. I don’t like this one very much as it reminds me of my past awkward situations. At least it’s weakly and rarely felt).
Kinda overshared but oh well ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I quite liked it, thank you for sharing.
It’s tough when it takes a long time or a lot of situations to figure out what it is you’re feeling. You are feeling many things but as you get to know a person feelings can really change. Some time it will all line up for you. Try not to beat yourself up as you go through it. Maybe just talk it out with the person you are having a relationship with. Let them know that it takes you a long time to feel your way around and know what kind of love or attraction it is you are feeling.
OP ur really educated on attraction
@@appreciatereciprocate5748 I’ve spent a lot of time researching about them in order to understand more about my identity
Smh at people(usually the cishets) confusing Sex, Gender, Romantic attraction, and sexual attraction. It just makes me think of the 70-90s media confusion between cis gay men and trans women.
Queerness is complex, multiple layers, and ever changing.
I’m an agender asexual married to a pansexual transwoman for 12 years. I’m not technically in a same-sex relationship anymore. But we are still gay as hell. 😂
I love this. I love the label, I love the vibe, and I love that you've found love. Good on ya!
And the way you label us is why I’ll never ever support you weirdos lol
@@Krgump my wife is also dating our (maybe Intersex) genderfluid roommate so...fair enough. 🤣
It doesn't matter that much if you identify as agender. You're still a male attracted to some person. Absolutely everyone deserves love and to be loved. ❤
Im totally all for this, buti am confused. I def would need flash cards
God you’re gorgeous. Those eyes alone make me crazy jealous, but your lips and cheekbones are incredible!
Woah!! I'm intersex, and you just described my exact sexuality to a TEE. I am quite physically attracted to women/ feminine people, and not normally as physically attracted to men/ masculine people, unless I'm deeply emotionally connected with a man and then the physical attraction is just as powerful as anything I've ever felt! I always thought I was weird, and didn't know what to call my orientation. I feel like romantically I need a man to fulfill a lot of my "emotional and life-partner desires", but like, I have physical urges towards women that are different and impossible to ignore. I honestly want a three way relationship with a man and a woman. Wow. I'm not the only one!! Thank you!
"So your telling me there's a chance "😂😂
“You’re,” not “your.”
“Your hair is so beautiful.”
“Your car isn’t working.”
“Your use of English is lacking.”
“You’re beautiful.”
“You’re telling me there’s a chance.”
“You’re learning to sound smarter.”
@@DaRyteJuan UR mad 🤣😂🤣🙂🙃
@@MajorGBear F’sho.
I'm curious, do you use the split attraction model? It separates romantic and sexual attraction (which sounds similar to the differences you're talking about). So someone could for example be biromantic and homosexual. No meed to put lables on it if you don't want to but I personally enjoy learning about this sort of stuff and considering how/if it applies to me
I can kinda relate. Part of my neurodivergent interests is putting labels on things when it has to do with myself. I just find that if I put a name to some part of me, it helps me understand myself better. This really came out when I was realizing more about my gender and sexuality and my own queerness. I identify as queer generally, but if I really wanted to be specific and all-encompassing, I could put lots of little labels on myself. Idk if that makes sense, but it feels like I'm making a little dictionary of me and I enjoy that. I enjoy it when others do it, too, but I don't insist on it, bc I do believe that this is all subjective and nebulous and everyone should get to figure this out for themselves instead of having someone else force it on them.
@@HolldollMcG Interesting! That makes sense as I feel like a lot of neurodivergent people have very specific special interests or collections. For me personally, I gave up on trying to find microlabels that fit and stuck with aroace nonbinary. But reading through the descriptions of these labels and learning about how people experience them gave me prompts to consider how I myself experience attraction and gender, if that makes any sense.
@@evermore331 for sure! researching the different terms definitely helped me to articulate to myself how I was feeling and guided my intuition, if that makes sense. So instead of just feeling like I was "wrong" or "off" or "didn't quite fit" I had some words to put to what I was feeling. Now I just say I'm queer, but having some terms and definitions to fall back on gives me a bit of confidence.
i was also thinking like demisexual possibly... cuz she needed to form a romantic connection to feel sexual attraction, but only for one gender which i haven't heard of before so idk if there's a term for it
@@HolldollMcG I'm glad that was helpful! I definitely resonate with that sentiment
OR ….it could be that you’re “ into sex”🤣😂🤣😂 ( sorry I couldn’t resist) . Ive previously told you that “ you’re beautiful on so many levels “ , your honesty is just another one .
Oh gosh the straights will lose their mind over this!
I am the exact same. From a biological woman. We are all different. That's what makes it fun & not boring
What if: Your soul has a determining factor in your sexual preference. You may have X/X or X/Y chromosomes, or perhaps not. But if your soul has an orientation of sexual desire. For the majority of people, you sexual orientation aligns with your physiology.
For a relatively small percentage, but yet recognizable group, the alignment is not .
And this women who did not have a specific male/female physical determination at birth.
Perhaps, the soul plays a part in the self recognition of the identity.
In some spiritual beliefs, the soul passes from lifetime to lifetime.
My best guess, is this , 1/ BE the person you desire to be. 2/ Don't expect society to treat you special, period. 3/ Let others who differ from you, be themselves, and accept them unless they are directly impinging on you or others to be who you are.
The differences in gender form the canvas for life's dramas to play out. It is this drama, that determines how evolved you are in responding to the existence we participate in during our lifetime.
I'm transgender (knew before 7yo - 56 now - started transitioning 4 years ago) and went through the same mind phuque. As a teen I thought "As I'm a girl - if I went out with a girl would I be a lesbian?", thought about going out with boys, looked down at my body and, erm, gave up! Bottom line, you love who you love and labels are stupid!
Hey, love is love, and you just be you 😊
Thank you for sharing your journey.❤ I am not up on the current understandings and terms. It is interesting that people's journeys are different. I am glad more people have the freedom to be themselves.
You are so precious and I love your videos❤❤ You're so honest and open. I live life as a very happy ACE. People don't understand that you can be incredibly happy with that lifestyle and I am. We just gotta get to a place where we love and except everybody for who they are, not what we want them to be.❤❤❤
lol. So darn cute
What makes you a biological male compared to a biological female? Since your testes are inside and you have said you do have a vagina? Or why not say you are a biological third gender? Not asking in a snarky, judgmental, or argumentative way. I sincerely want to know why that is the distinction. 💛
I mean yeah, she said she's biologically intersex, that's the third sex group.
I am still confused. So you can be born with a vagina but be considered a biological male?
Maybe is because of the chromosomes is XY, thats why she says biologically male but I think she identifies as non binary
In simple terms… everyone starts out female in the womb (female is the “default baby” basically, if the baby has an xx chromosome it will be a female, if it has an xy chromosome it will gain testosterone and become a male. The person in this video has an xy chromosome, but never properly developed into a male. She has testicles inside of her but still has the outwardly appearance of a female. Basically she was stuck as a “default baby”.
@@baristaz8834Can you say it's the third since there are over 30 intersex chromosomal combinations?
"Ass is ass"
- Plato
Well, Plato was a Greek.
Wasn't it Oscar Wilde (thing). Da da da da🫣
Damn, I LOVE your earrings!! They're absolutely killer
It amazes me that I care about your sexual preferences. Thank you for educating me. I wish you love and happiness.
Just because you’re biologically male, that doesn’t make you more attracted to women like that questionnaire is massively homophobic because it assumes that all men who are male are automatically straight or even gay men have some attraction to women which best just isn’t the case
It seems that being heterosexual is still somewhat more common than being homosexual. So I don't think it's necessarily homophobic, but depends who's asking and how they're asking.
@@freethegays we think of it like this. I’m a woman so to assume that I’m into guys because I’m a woman as massively homophobic because you don’t know who is into what reality is I’m gay I’m into women.
Or think about it. If you’re a guy, would you want gay people just to assume that you’re gay because you’re a guy it’s the exact same logic
Honestly such titles do not apply to you, because you are organically functioning outside the parameters that define the common binary human physiology.
In other words you are free to not play by the rules, because mother nature decided so.
I love this. What an unreal perspective and comment. :)
@@rileybimm6950
Elaborate, please.
Huh
Love this comment.
@@SchwarzSchwertkampferSince she is intersex she is quite literally (sort of) in between the binaries of being male and female. Everyone starts out female in the womb (female is the “default baby” basically) if the baby has an xx chromosome it will be a female, if it has an xy chromosome it will gain testosterone and become a male. The person in this video has an xy chromosome, but never properly developed into a male. She has testicles inside of her but still has the outwardly appearance of a female. Basically she was stuck as a “default baby”.
Imagine if all people male and female were like Blume. It would be something.
Omg the world would be chaos
This is actually therapeutic.
Thank you for having the courage to raise awareness.
Yes, as a demisexual, who struggles to let anyone have control over my body, one I've been privately intimate with alone for much longer than minutes, hours or days, with some other individual or mass of energy or someone, I just- There can be magnetism, attraction, and all that lust, but it just- It's not comfortable nor do I feel safe.
It doesn't help that men have this carnal thing that kinda gets scary; strong grip, not listening at all, passionate, driven & just a little aggressive(which sounds hot sure on books. But in person, oh my god, it's very scary.).
I know it's personal, but you talking about your experiences is healing.
Especially with how mind boggling this must all sound to people who see the world in black & white.
Thank you.
I wish this would help raise awareness, and demisexualism or something more wholesome would become a norm someday.
It's the same for me ! Girls are just so amazing
Respect to your personal choices…. With no malintent… you are an attractive person!
You’re truly amazing for who you are! I been watching your videos and short videos and honestly you are amazing and gorgeous thank you for being you!
real attraction comes with the chemistry, the humor the things we have in common or that divides us...not the drawer the people choose us to put in...
You’re awesome❤️ I totally appreciate your easy honesty.
You utterly confuse me and I'm totally fine with that. XD. Thank you for these videos, they fascinate me endlessly.
The sword earrings are everything
"Just because I'm gayyy" made chuckle heh heh perfect sign off for this
Love your honesty❤. Same I am attracted to all genders, it is all about love not gender anyways 🫶🏻
This explains it well so much for me. All women are great and being in love with a man is great. Love this explanation.
as a varioriented person (sexual and romantic attraction is split between either genders) I understand you so much
Why do ppl keep thinking assigned gender at birth or gender identity have anything to do with sexuality/attraction?
Thank you for educating ppl, Blume. I envy your patience haha
that ending made me chuckle, loved the short
labels are added to finished products. life is more of learning experience than checking boxes to discover where your pieces fit into the puzzle.
Be in love with the person you have feelings for ❤ and Mother Nature will look after the rest - god bless kid 🤣👍🙏
Not intersex and you still described my sexuality pretty much to a T 😂🥰 thank you for sharing stories about your life! 💛
That smile! Ill hold ya hand all day
Gay in the truest sense ... knows themselves and happy with it.
I think your best description is Bi to be fair, But be what suits you best and dont worry too much
You are gorgeous! By the way, I'd just like to mention that I'm born, and still female, but somehow I've always felt like a man inside. But a gay man lol. I've even at one point in my life called drag queens my "spirit animal" 😅 (if I can say so without offense, for I mean none!) After learning about you, I might say that you just may be a new (friendly) obsession 😁 thank you for your transparency on intersex ❤
I have to watch each video at least two times. I get distracted by Blume's stunning good looks.
This is so similar to my sexuality!! Its exciting that someone else experiences this
I'm demisexual, and this is complete facts for me too. I am bisexual, but I have to have emotional connection with males to be sexually attracted to them
To be honest, this is based… Who needs labels for sexuality when you already have gay as a default. Never live by others interpretations of you. You are who you are and that’s pretty cool.💛💜💜💜
LOL I love this. You're a very funny narrator in the best way possible
"im just attracted to people" is so real
Thanks for teaching us about intersex people. I love your videos! Greetings from Germany.
Sexuality and gender are so freaking fascinating! Like, that’s why we’ve ended up with so many micro labels, because this stuff isn’t straight forward (in more ways than one, hehe). There are different forms of attraction, and you can have different combinations of sexualities, even different levels of ace or aro per gender you’re attracted to if that makes any sense (like for example being biromantic greysexual but the graysexual part for women specifically or smth). Idk, it’s just really interesting to me. Also just wanted to say you pop up on my FYP every so often and seem really cool!
It does not matter to me what your gender is, you are beautiful and an amazing person!
This is EXACTLY how i feel but im not intersex. thank you for putting into words what ive been feeling about my sexuality.
“I’m attracted to people” I love that 🥰
SAMEEEEeee 😭💯 I’ve always been attracted to everyone as young as 3 but with boys I have to be head over heels for in order to reciprocate. Girls can always get it thooo 😌💁♀️✨
Omg I studied you being intersex in science class you're so cool!
The ending is priceless.❤
She's so pretty! Love her omg
I love her energy! ❤
Thank you for this. Love learning new topics. X
So good, so relevant, so refreshing!
No way your absolutely stunning ❤
a just felt really validated, as ay split up ay attraction very specifically too, not just going with one sexuality label and seeing others do so too always makes ae happy
Love your energy 😊