The Hidden Gifts of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder-Pat
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- Опубліковано 12 січ 2025
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Pat, a man with OCD from Long Island, New York.
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Thank you Mark for the opportunity to tell my story. I hope it can help as many as possible. A terrible aspect of OCD is the isolation. You might feel you’re the only person on the planet with your unique obsession~compulsion. And it might even be true, but you’re not alone. For all its faults, one of the gifts of the internet is how it erodes such isolation; I needed a channel like this when I was in the depths of it. (Lastly, I was remiss in not mentioning my amazing wife for all her support when things get weird. I had OCD the morning of the interview, because I forgot my wedding ring. As if not having the ring on said something about our relationship, or discredited what I was to say. In the past, I might have ran back to grab it, shown up late. But it was the merest concern, then it was gone). (*for those asking where to hear my music, it's "Pat Berlinquette" on Spotify or Apple Music. Thanks!)
After YEARS of my wife asking if I could go see a specialist I did. I had been absolutely paralyzed with fear over the latest obsession of the time which was at that moment asbestos. ( I won't go into detail ) but long story short, I went to group therapy and was eventually prescribed a medication. That was around 10 years ago. It really helped. If I let it I can go down that path again. Sometimes I do. The meds help me more easily come back to sanity. It something I can't completely rid myself of. But I can now manage. Best of luck to you.
Thank you so much for your detailed account of OCD and how it affects your life. I have now gained a greater understanding of the disorder and can empathise a lot more deeply with one of my close family members ❤️ I wish you all the very best in your future 🙏🏼
Great interview. My experience with specialists in OCD, to the extent that I could even find any, was also that they sucked. I'm sure there are good ones out there, but my experience left me feeling extremely isolated as well.
I'm so thankful that you shared this with us!
Thank you for the detailed description of your OCD. No doubt in 45 mins you have helped more ppl than you know.
I have OCD ... it's exhausting.
I applaud him for sharing.
It’s so exhausting and debilitating. I’m there with you. It doesn’t define us!
No you don’t stfu
@@BrittneeAlexusho3 you ain’t doing nun but acting
This wins the award for most easily understood explanation of OCD. I don’t have OCD but now feel like I have a basic idea of what this gentleman has had to live with. He is incredibly intelligent and an enthralling speaker.
Definitely my all-time favorite interview. Totally immersive.
I have pretty intense ocd that comes and goes it was extreme when I was young and this is by far the most accurate I've ever heard.
This has helped me understand my own OCD. Makes me feel not crazy.
Yeah it's a pretty good description. I will say everyone is different. For me, it's entirely in my head, similar to what he said about thinking he was a murderer.
Anyway, it's not all about cleaning and numbers like Hollywood says!
I had that repetition song 🎵 n my head thing- can’t even remember what was now but it had a driving guitar and lyrics- led to some insomnia…
Looking at the good effects of psilocybin mushrooms on Ocd and depression I had a test, the effects of just one dose of psilocybin mushroom gave me an encouraging result.
The insights I've gained from magic mushrooms have been invaluable. They've helped me understand myself and the world in a new way.
The effects of magic mushrooms are like a reset button for my mind. They help me clear my thoughts and feel refreshed.
After my trip yesterday, I did understand why mushrooms are praised... you can have some beautiful experiences on them..
Hello, it seems I'm interested in trying emm.. how do you get yours ?
doc.kain
As someone with OCD.... this is so so good. Thank you.
Patrick - Your description of OCD was so perfectly described. It must be so incredibly exhausting …. I can’t imagine going through life that way.. You brought tears to my eyes thinking of being so young going through this and still battling this. It’s simply incredible and the strength it takes to endure is monumental. You are a hero in my eyes 🏆.
Yes my sister( suicide r I P.) had ocd for real. She was very productive person ( Supervisor Nurse etc) excelled thru her college / training. But that OCD ? Literally became too much. It's no joke. I play my guitar/ instruments. OCD has its benefits too. Every note has to be perfect. Over and over. Have nice day. I gotta check my stove real fast😢
I came to say that his explanation of OCD was perfect.
Fully agree! And he is also incredibly hilarious! I like him
@@Frenchie.FireFly how are You doing?
It is exhausting
It would be great if you found more OCD sufferers to speak on their story. Thank you for all you do!
He has a great interview on this channel with a man who works as a professional clown for kids, who has had OCD since childhood. It's great, if you haven't seen it.
There is a podcast on spotify called OCD stories and he interviews people with OCD and also psychiatrists and therapists that treat OCD.
@@sydneyogawaocd stories is so good!
I have extremely chronic OCD like him. As I was watching his story, I thought wow I would love to be interviewed by him as well!
I have OCD too, but mine is called “pure ocd” so I have a lot of compultions in my head.
I’ve had undiagnosed OCD for years until about 6 months ago I was in really really bad shape was having really frequent panic attacks and couldn’t sleep almost flunked out of high school, was hitting baseballs of a tee until 2 am every night ,I went into therapy where they diagnosed and prescribed meds life’s not perfect right now but it’s paradise compared compared to before I’m now a freshman in college not skipping classes because of panic attacks or anxiety or obsessive thoughts. I’m playing baseball in college have a girlfriend have a lot of friends and am content and happy
To anyone reading this who is struggling the way I was. There is hope. Hang in there ask for help know that you are loved. Life will never be perfect but trust me an infinitely better life can be right around the corner just stay strong ❤
While watching this, I remembered that suffering isn't the problem. What the problem is, is not knowing how to handle suffering. A precious lesson, that is, that trauma taught me.
exactly !
Man, as someone who is a compulsive checker, this really hit me. Almost had to turn it off because it was too introspective.
It's comforting in a way to know that someone else can so closely relate to that maze inside your brain.
Very thankful for this video!
@@AlvisinChains ❤️❤️❤️
It's absolutely exhausting when you're trying to leave the house and you have to continuously keep checking everything over and over and over and over again.
@@katmum6172 It definitely is! Why can't I just accept that the doors are locked?
@@AlvisinChainsbetween the doors and curling iron and coffee maker and iron....I'm exhausted 😢😂😢😂
@katmum6172 Stove tops are a whole other nightmare.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your parents, Pat. I resonated with the pain in your voice while sharing the story of your mother’s passing. Thank you for sharing your story.
I’m not diagnosed with OCD but have wondered for years. I relate to a lot of what this gentleman is explaining, some of it to a lesser degree and some of it spot on. I don’t even know where to begin but I think this is my sign to find a psychiatrist. Thanks for sharing your story!!!
Pat, another “silver lining” to look at all this you’ve been through, was how close it brought you to your amazing mom - that is a true gift, and I’m so sorry for your loss(es) Wishing you much peace, love and happiness always. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Pat, this is a beautiful interview. You are so brave to share all of this. It was amazing working with you. This will definitely help others. Wishing you continued success in your journey.
I am so happy to say that this is a video my therapist sent me. She wanted to see if I resonated with what Pat was saying, as she suspects I have moral OCD. Pat along with the OCD interview of Kate. And I really, really do. Thank you for sharing your story.
I have OCD with intrusive thoughts. I'm 40 now. As I'm getting older it's getting worse. Medication for me has helped for the most part. I'm at least able to work and get along with others much better than when I was young. It's so hard to control. My kids point out my ticks but I've never explained it to them. I'm going to let them watch this video. You do a great job explaining how it brain works. Thank you for your story.❤
Both of my daughters have this and it has been a roller coaster. It was really bad when they were younger with intrusive thoughts that they had done something bad and they had to tell me everything praying for you. I’m glad The Medicine helps.
May ask the medication you use? My aunt had ocd for many years and they spoke of using the same med on eating disorder sufferers as she was taking. Makes so much sense to me.
@@natalienelson8681 they give me anxiety medication after trying many others. It slows my brain down so I can concentrate and not have intrusive thoughts that I can't control. It has changed my life for the better. I finally feel normal for the most part. At night I'm suppose to take a sleeping pill. But lately I have not had to. So grateful for the life I have now. My kids and my other half are so much happier as well. Ongoing therapy has also helped tremendously. I went through a few therapists until I found one that understood OCD.
I have OCD. Meditation has been the ONLY thing that has helped me. It's difficult, but nothing has helped except meditation.
@@Sunflowergirl3071this is exactly how I was
Seriously uncool for Mark to insist on what the song was. Man, you do this for a living and these people are so vulnerable, don't insist on stuff they decided not to share, they're already giving us so much.
He doesn't do this for a living at all. He was actually a big time photographer for Apple. Yes that iPhone company. He's basically retired letting society speak for themselves for us free on yt 😄 🤣
I would totally agree with you, however, I’m sure what had happened, was Mark missed the part where Pat said he didn’t want to mention the name…or Mark would never have pushed for the it, if he had realized that. If you’ve watched any interviews that Mark has given on other channels… he’s a one man show, and he has to pay attention to many aspects of producing these interviews… so unfortunately, he doesn’t always hear every detail of the interviews. I hope Patrick realizes this as well ✌🏼
He only asked the guy like 2-3 times he’ll live
@@Amy_Stanmoreactually he does do this for a living now. He calls it work. It is work. He does this every single day. Take a step back and think before you speak because I’m sure you’re not doing even half of the work he does. “
🤣” back atcha
I'm honestly starting to see a bit of apathy from him watching more of these. Just like the absolute dits that he lets have a voice, instead of interesting decent people. The comment sections on those are insufferable.
I’m so glad you had your mom
I’m so glad
Thank you for not being afraid to share
This is something good to do with this platform
Your story has changed me. I feel care for you and your mum and grandma. So much love and respect to all those who support those of us who struggle.
Wow, well done, SWU and Pat.
Thanks for sharing your story, Pat, incredible, powerful, and very informative.
This is my all-time new favourite interview.
thank you for sharing your story - your honesty and transparency is admirable
Wow! He left me with such a vivid understanding of OCD! Explained it so well.. very interesting
As someone with OCD, the description at the top of this episode hits the nail on the head perfectly. Perfect description.
Thanks for this story, OCD is very misunderstood, as a fellow sufferer it really can get to a point that is mentally and physically draining... though I did want to leave this in the comment section for anyone else suffering... ERP therapy and ACT therapy genuinely saved my life.... there is sooo much more info and resources out there now for OCD, if you can't get a therapy start by buying erp for ocd and act books, they seriously help... I have "flare ups" of intrusive thoughts now and then, but for the most part the therapy has helped me create a tool bag of things I can use daily... you are not alone and it is highly treatable. xx super appreciate you both putting a spotlight on ocd. x
I spent a long time driving around the same block over and over again because OCD convinced me that I ran someone over. I had to come back and check every single time I drove. Trips to the store took twice as long. That was the point in my 40 years of OCD that I finally relented and took the meds I had rejected for so long. Now on 200mg of Zoloft with 50mg of naltrexone and the OCD has calmed waaaayy down.
I have had to do the same thing; I have been on Zoloft 200 mg for 30 years and most of the time I am fine but there are times I have had to recheck or drive back around the block but nothing like it is without the medicine.
What a beautiful interview. Thank you, sir.
The best interview yet!!!
thank you for your story. i have been diagnosed with ocd for almost 5 years now but have struggled my whole life and have never been able to explain it fully.
needed this video today, thank you both and thank you everyone for the positive comments. even if not directed at the community at large, the supportive nature is uplifting to us all
I was molested from 5 yrs old but my therapist thinks younger but I can't remember until 12 yrs old I ended up with OCD it ended up being a protection of my mom and brother because I was told they would be killed if I told and I ended up with OCD it's the worst that you could ever go through. I didn't get through it until after I was a adult and my son was born and able to talk because he was able to talk. I was terrified he was going to get molested by my wonderful family that would never hurt him or me. But I needed to get well so my son wouldn't see me doing this and learn it and continue the cycle. It's a terrible thing to go through therapy say they can help you control it but not cure it. Well I went to the library and read books and learned and kept going through therapy and after yrs I got 100% over it . Work hard! What the mind can conceive and believe it can believe 💗
Well done❤
So sorry you went through that. Kudos to you for doing the hard work to get well for your son. I’m in the middle of that process right now (for another mental health issue not ocd) and it is super hard. That said I am resolved it has to stop with me and not pass the same junk on to my children. Best of luck to you.
@@benpersinger4600 remember this what the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve. That's my motive when it comes to any mental health issue that pops up with me and I just keep working with my therapist and do the work that gets me back in control of my brain. That's the hard part but it can be done. I have a traumatic brain injury since 2013 so it makes it even harder for me but I still work hard everyday . Good luck to you and God bless 🙏✝️
This is such a beautiful and touching story and it made my day to hear this man tell it. I’m really grateful to it!
Absolutely fantastic video this is the first one iv seen of ocd it's something that's not really spoken about great to see this
I'm so happy that I just stumbled upon this interview. WOW!! I too have OCD, have had it all my life. It ebbs and flows, and has gotten so bad at times I didn't think I would survive it. But just hearing someone else talk about what you think about makes things a little bit better. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you continue to do well.
This guy really helped shape the structure of OCD for me. Great interview, loved this guy.
You are such a brilliant, insightful, caring person. Keep on being YOU. ❤
Thank you mark! This was very informative and held my attention the entire time.
I'm slowly learning more and more about my mental OCD and this really helps.
Thankyou for speaking out, i had it wheh i was a child and after years of an abusive relationship ending it came back with a vengance. Reassuring there is light at the end of the tunnel ❤
You are a gift shared Pat!
It’s common for me to joke with someone about “what I thought ODC was”…NEVER AGAIN! I’m embarrassed and sad that I misunderstood the pain others were living with. For this I am so sorry!
Your testimony is so powerful in its truth and vulnerability!
I totally believe in embracing our mental or physical struggles and allowing the artistic mind in us to help us cope or heal!
I have had OCD and anxiety all my life. Stress makes it worse. I couldn’t leave my house without unplugging all my appliances in fear of my dogs being alone and worried about fire. I had to take out trash every night before bed. I would check locks and garage doors and be late for work bc I kept going back and checking it.
My grandmother had OCD and my older brother does too and I think my mom had it too. Mine by far the worst.
The best ways to explain ocd for me is think of when you think you left the stove on and you go check it, a normal person checks it, their brain gets that relief that they did the act, people with ocd, specially if we care about something and get fixated we dont get that relief in our brain. Thats atleast a part of it.
That's pretty much how he explained it
Wait so there a delay between you thinking about the stove or is it non stop
@@fusion_42 depends if i care about that specific thing or not. If i dont care about the stove being on or off Ill probably not care about it and wont check it several times, if i do care about it a lot of times checking or pushing a button once will probably not give me relief. Stress and anxiety can also make the ocd worse
He explained OCD really well. Grateful for this video.
I’m so glad you had your mom
I’m so glad
Thank you for not being afraid to share
This is something good to do with this platform
Music very cool
Outstanding the way your guest explains OCD.
Your graphic oratory and pontificating lucidity were a veritable expose of a brilliant mind and the trysts through a labyrinth of mental gymnastics. I feel transported and transformed by the raw insightful display of a transparent purge. I can intimately identify and embrace the embodiment of your personal odyssey..I feel a cohesive resonance that whispers a comforting truth... Everything happens right on time whether we realize it or not .. Choose to deny, ignore or ultimately lean into our destiny of an interactive self birth. Thanks...It was restorative.❤
Mark, another great interview, I have OCD, but under another spectrum. Thanks ❤
Massive respect for this guy. Having worked as a clinical psychologist with numerous people with severe OCD, the amount of work they have to do to simply get through the day is heroic. I am going to recommend this video to one of these individuals. Thank you!!
I have always been terrified of any hallucinating type substances, what a situation w/ your friend. Thanks for your share on mental health. Wishing you the best on your journey.
Pat, man, what an amazing guy! So special and gifted although sometimes I'm sure it didn't feel that way. I absolutely hate when ppl say, oh, I'm ocd about xyz...just because you prefer a clean bathroom doesn't come close to comparing to the turbulence and torment of true ocd.
Thanks so much for sharing, and so happy you had such a loving caring mother and wife. Your dad seemed like an articulate and unique person. You are perfectly made!
Damn thats interesting. I have diagnosed OCD and lost my mind for a year in my 20s after a bad mushroom trip too. Things that feel completely unique to you often aren't unique at all.
Oof! This hit home. My compulsions started at 8, too. Check faucet ✔️ stove ✔️windows ✔️garage door ✔️ some nights I couldn’t sleep because I would have to check everything. Luckily it calmed down until I had my baby. Then the intrusive thoughts were all around my baby. I had no idea what OCD was, so the harm intrusive thoughts terrified me to the point of almost suicide. Once I leaned it was OCD, I was able to find a Psychiatrist in town who helped so much. Thanks for sharing your story.
I didn’t have a great childhood, when I was younger probably about 4 or 5, I would move my bedroom furniture around weekly, we lived in a trailer park, and had dirt for the front yard. I swept it down to solid ground. It was very satisfying. And I was organizing all of canned goods, I didn’t have an idea of what was going on or knew there was a word for it, I realized it could get out of hand if I let it. When I grew up and started working, I had a job washing cars and I was very good at it, customers noticed how clean I would get their car, and at a rapid pace. I’m 52 now, been together and married almost 30 years to my Wife. 4 great children, good job and nice home with plenty of land. I could have easily went a different direction, that’s what was all around me growing up. I made a decision I wanted something more. I get not everyone can do that, but if you can, choose to be different.
Pat, your skill set, intelligence and care is what sets you apart. So many prominent people.. my bloodline has been living with this for generations and are top gifted . Have to live with the plus" and minuses. God bless and throughly enjoyed your presentation. ❤
Pat, thank you for being brave enough to tell your story 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Stellar storyteller. I hope all is well, Pat ✌🏼
Part of my OCD is constant songs. It's usually one or two that will be on a loop for months. Some are commercial jingles from my childhood. Lotsa trauma & PTSD, too. I get it!! Thx Pat & Mark. ❤
Wonderful video, Marc!
My husband is under the rainbow of OCD. He is a habitual gambler, an ex drinker, a chronic porn watcher, a workaholic and a terrible ticket collector (he speeds a lot) and spender. He has a bit of a clutter problem. I think there is a connection to these specific addictions and night terrors. His grandma is a hoarder and, to be fair, we lack the closet and shelf space but all our counter space has things on it. It drives me absolutely fucking crazy. When Pat rubs his hands, it's exactly like my husband. When he drives, he has to distract himself by running his hand through his hair, blow his nose, call, text people, literally take his socks and shoes off and rub his feet, and watches Netflix or Hulu or some pirate website to watch movies- all while driving. He's so distracted that his reaction time to miss a pedestrian or animal is incredible. He claims they came out of nowhere 🤦♀️ When I drive, I drive the speed limit and he says I drive like an old lady but I'm the one with the license, not him.
We do get better 😢
that was a lot of information
Wish your husband to overcome his ocd
@@jackrowe5146 I tried to only put the basic information. There's a lot more but I felt this was sufficient.
@@sheldonnails7885he's slowly getting better 🙏🏼🙏
Kudos to you, Patrick and very brave, brutally Honest and Real!!!👌💯♥️ as a fellow sufferer, I can relate Soooo much to your interview, and yr shared experiences!!! You were Sooooooo Lucky that you had support.. your mum, your grandma etc.... at the sudden, bewildering onset I had at age 18 (can come on later for girls, apparently), it was massively confusing, distressing etc.... and I told NO ONE.... till my 30s when I confided in a doctor. I also found out in my 30s that my dad also had it...which then I could look back and see, instantly.... it's a very "ALONE" feeling disorder...... isolating .... but sharing and talking somehow makes us feel that despite what we endure in our minds is aline, that we are not! ❤
Again, brilliance to Mark.. for continuing to show the underbelly .. and also Patrick's picture is gorgeous! ❤🎉
Kudos to you both, brave men.
Love from Tara ♥️🇨🇦🍁
I’m so glad you had your mom
I’m so glad
Thank you for not being afraid to share
This is something good to do with this platform
Music very cool addppp pop
I cannot empathize with this more Pat. I’ve had OCD since I was 7 (mainly contamination, even numbers, and triple+ checking everything from windows to locks to my answers on tests in school). I also have songs repeating on loop 24/7 and have never had anyone else say they struggle too! It is probably one of the most frustrating and in my experience worse than the contamination or bad thoughts as (like you mentioned) there is no compulsion you can do to get them to go away. Thank you for shedding light on this as I think there are also many other people who suffer in silence thinking that they are the only ones going through this and are going crazy. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
As someone with OCD, he described it very well.
This is one of the most interesting videos of yours that I have seen.
I completely relate to your story! I started suffering in my teens with specific songs in my head that would never stop playing. My OCD was bad in my teen and early twenties. I used alcohol to shut my brain off, had an eating disorders ( bulimia and anorexia) Just recently got diagnosed professionally with having ADHD and OCD. Its so mentally draining and sometimes debilitating. Learning coping skills and medication really helps. I am now 58 and been through so much therapy through the years, but now will be doing medication management with a psych Dr. to hopefully improve my quality of life .
How difficult
Alcohol definitely works in shutting OCD off -- did you ever quit drinking completely, or scale back?
My condolences to you about your mom, very sorry to hear that. I have those same fears of losing my parente. I also hace many negative Intrusive thoughts but I feel like it just makes me extremely depressed to where I feel like I have clinical depression.
i hate OCD... there's no hidden gift for me. it's caused me so much grief....
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Pat. It is very fascinating and educational hearing it and imagining things from your perspective. This is such crucial and helpful information for others to understand this condition and to work on helping family members and or patients. Sending you peaceful thoughts and warm wishes ❤
Thank you for sharing this ❤
One of my favorite uncles worked on F-14 Tomcat at NAS Oceana. The reason I am here today. A great man gone before his time.
Weird! My uncles has worked the last 30 years for Grumman, the defense contractor he also mentioned. I know he’s worked multiple times on air force one and other times when he leaves and can’t give us a bit of info.
Pat you have explained ocd so well.I am 39 and i have had ocd as long as i can remember,its hell to live with,it literally wonts to destroy you,i have intrusive thoughts and contamination form of ocd x
the way that he describes ocd, it sounds like i have it... an hour ago i saw heavy packages delivered to me instead of a neighbor 3 doors down, i wrote a note and taped it to their door and since then i've been thinking that i ruined the door because the tape will leave a residue and they will demand that i pay them for damage. this thought has been none stop and i've been trying to distract myself with youtube... that's why i'm watching this video.
What an amazing episode. I have suffered from OCD for many, many years. At times, it feels crippling! Between the negative thoughts going through my head and not satisfying the urge to complete a particular task can really wear me down. If I do not do certain things, my mood can switch in seconds...this isn't fair to my wife and son. I take medication for OCD, Anxiety and Depression...but nothing seems to take it completely away.
Relatable! Wow! I really appreciate this interview. I had stupid annoying useless obsessive things I would do and completely overcame them, I slayed that beast. It was absolute torture, I feel for anyone going through this alone at least you had your mother, I did not have that. What a shame.
Right there with ya pat, thanks for giving some of us the words to describe our inner world. Very brave of u!
I'm dead from the telling of the trip so far. I really hope it doesn't take a tragic turn because the description of the play by play is really good. I've gone tripping along those haunted woods before, so I get it, for the most part, I've been there. I'm right at the part of topless women drinking 2 % milk💀 Perfect recall and storytelling. Thank you
Amsterdam is wild
Interesting how every psychological disorder in it's base has a fear/discomfort of uncertainty and usually stems of parents not being a shield to their children in significant enough manner. And then again, there are children who's parents were too much of a shield so the kids didn't encounter enough of a chaos (uncertainty) to develop themselves into resilient and mature beings... Like there is a range of chaos that we need to develop and also that we're able to handle.
This is so accurate, thank you for saying this!
Thanks for sharing your story Pat.
I'm used to Mark Normand doing standup comedy and podcasts but this was really insightful. Thanks Mark Normand.
I immediately saw your name then (edited) which doesn't bother me at all about other people's post but drives me f ING nuts if I have to have edited by my posts.
That word vomit aside, i am so grateful to you for being so authentic for an extremely common and undiagnosed trial. I'm so tempted to try drugs to rid my ocd.
Might be time for me to get checked tbh lol what a great interview. These slice of life ones mark does are very enlightening. Intense, but not necessarily heartbreaking
This man elegantly expresses his condition in an understandable way. Went through a few moments like this in the past, but overcame it with prayer and meditation.
I don't have an OCD. But just so you know - you described it really well and as though you probably think some things you say seem funny or stupid to others: it doesnt. Believe me, we all have weired thoughts sometimes. I think you are amazing to handle your compulsions + being so honest, so people with OCD can relate❤
I have been an OCD sufferer since I was 19. I'm now 44. So for about 25 years now. Mine has always been what is called Pure O. It was never checking things or worrying about things. It was always music like what he occasionally suffered from. And it would always switch. I remember for years it was; for those of you old enough to remember, that Chili's resturaunt commercial..."I want my baby back baby back...Chily's baby back riiibs....bbq sauuuce". And then after a few years, it would always switch. Each day was a different song. And it was ALL day. Everyday. For 25 years. Couldnt think about anything else.
The compulsion for that was; he didnt seem to know, was trying to stop the music. ERP for this specific theme of Pure O would be to just let the music play without trying to stop it and think, going from one thought to the next, with the music going on in the background. My god it took me years to be able to do it. Over 5 years to get a grasp. I would always try and then the music would come up and I would focus on it trying to stop it instead of just letting it be there.
Eventually over time, with daily practice over years, it became easier and easier. It's getting less and less. The thoughts of music getting waeaker and weaker, further in the background in my mind as I go from one thought to the next. Feels so nice. I feel like myself before all this happened. Its so crazy to think back at what I have been through and all the time that has passed. It makes me so angry at times like "why the f#$k me"???! But knowing that it wasnt my fault, calms me down. It's just something that happens. There are countless afflictions that effect people. I was just one of them effected and had to endure this particular one.
While writing this, the 'Chilis' commercial theme entered my mind and started playing but, I give it zero importance and it fades away and goes. It enters my mind and is gone as soon as it comes. Looking back, I would basically attack it to try and get rid of it. ERP....just let it be there. Man, what a godsend it is. I have come so far because of it. The people that invented this therapy, thank you so much! Everything that I am....I THANK YOU! WIthout it, me, this guy and every other sufferer would be doomed for life. I love you!
Thank you Patrick. You are so strong and inspiring and sharing your unique struggle is so caring. It must be so hard and yet I hope your message and story can help others to feel less alone in their pain. x x
I have it. It is a gift. I wouldn't change it if I could. Thanks for sharing your story!
Yeah its not a gift
@@celticwarrior777 When I was younger, I didn't think so either.
We need another follow-up of Steve
I'm sure Pat appreciates being ignored.
What a great talk. I like this guy. Proud of him. ❤
A FELLOW LONG ISLANDER!!! How ya DOINNNN. Great interview.
@2:22 _ me looking at my garage door 5 times and still wondering if I closed it as I drove off
Your description of OCD hit home so hard.
ADHD often mistakenly diagnosed and treated harshly with powerful drugs. Children are naturally curious and often rambunctious much to the chagrin of some misled parents. Medication should be the absolute last resort.
Do you mean ADHD?
Left undiagnosed, great minds go wasted.
As someone who actually has it and went undiagnosed and untreated until college, you’re wrong in a lot of cases. In my case it was much more harmful to let it go untreated and I developed comorbid depression & anxiety from it. Not all meds work for all individuals, but just letting adhd fester bc you believe stigmas about the medication is soooooo harmful to your children. Pls do real research on these medications before spreading lies. These meds are the reason that many ppl are able to function comfortably/properly and be contributing members to society. Demonizing them is incredibly offensive.
He reminds me of Mark Normand! Thanks for sharing your story!
Can't wait to listen to this at work today with that lense
i was wondering who he reminds me of...almost to the point of ocd. Thank you!
I have obsessive urges to collect things and can never have enough of one thing if it’s something I enjoy and addiction runs in my veins I get addicted to everything everyday is a battle been sober for nearly 10 years this is a very informative video 🙏 keep up the amazing content
Thank you for sharing your story. I wish I had found your video when I was 8 years and didn't know what was going on.
"Watch Bob Ross or whatever we need to do". That got me laughing so hard haha
I'd love to listen to Pat's album. What is his musician alias?
It's really unfortunate that Mark asked what the song was when he clearly expressed that he did not want to discuss it. My advise to Mark would be to respect boundaries especially in cases where someone could be triggered. I have to say that was dissapointing.
Mark, how are the Whittaker's after Helene??
The storm didn't really hit West Virginia. It went to Tennessee and North Carolina West Virginia is above that maybe the southern part of West Virginia had some wind and rain but nothing big.
Holy shit the things he described were exactly what I’m feeling
I wish he shared the name of his album. Working on music with Kenny Segal is no small feat! Wishing you all the best Pat.