UNFILTERED Q&A 👶🏼✨ my weight loss *trigger warning*, real coparenting, why I'm NOT dating.
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as an only child (daughter) of a single mom let me tell you my mom is literally my best friend!! it’s a really special dynamic that makes you so close. you have nothing to worry about mama
Love seeing this. I am a single mom and my son is now 22 and we are best friends too!
You can still have that relationship with your mum AND have siblings too. I have 2 sisters. Best childhood ever. But to this day my mum is still my best friend.
@@heythere5817 yes you can. I have 5 siblings and we are all close and my mom is my best friend too. We were just stating that because she is a single mom to one. Doesn’t always mean a lonely existence.
@@heythere5817 i never said or implied that ppl with siblings can’t have that relationship. “special” does not equal better. my experience does not take away from yours lol
YESssssss omg as an only child I am now so glad as an adult. Many siblings hate each other in adulthood, it's so sad.
I became a single mom when my son was about 1. I lost a ton of weight for the same reason, I was so busy taking care of my son that I didn’t take care of myself. Thank you for being a good example for coparenting too. It makes the child’s life easier and stress free having parents that are united and get along. I had to put a lot of anger aside to get there but it was worth it.
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Hey Brittany, this video has made me think back to the one you made right after you moved into your own apartment. The journey you have taken since then is unbelievable. You learned how to drive you learned how to be the sole adult in a home and you've kept your daughter so healthy and loved during that time. You've grown your business with your launches. You deserve so much love and you have a wonderful family and friends to support you. I just wanted to say that I'm proud watching the progress you've made and 100% agree that this coming year would be a great time to just focus on making sure you are fueled would love food community family. You will pass on all that to your daughter. God bless you guys and we're rooting for you from NC! ❤️
I love being an only child. I'm absurdly close with my parents and we have a really great relationship built on positive communication. If you ultimately end up with just the one, I'm sure it will still be a beautiful relationship
Yeah- there’s nothing wrong with being an only child.
Same! I have an amazing relationship with my parents being an only child. I did ask for a sibling when I was young, but now I can’t imagine it any other way! It will all work out the way it should.
I’m an only child too, I love the relationship I have with my mom! ❤
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I really respect the way you talked about your daughter watching how you take care of yourself. I recently went on my own thyroid journey. Turns out after years and years of letting it slide that I don't just have Hypothyroidism I have Hashimotos disease. I needed to monitor my food and go on a gluten free/autoimmune journey. I was SO depressed about it because I love food. Not just to eat but the culture and story behind it. I had to shake myself out of that mindset because my son needs his mama healthy. He also needs to see her care for herself and her body in a way that I would want him to care for himself.
Big hugs 🫂
Motherhood got the best of me in the first years. My little is about to turn 2 next month and I am just now starting to feel like myself again.
Thyroid issues have such a HUGE impact on weight. I struggle with hashimotos and gained so much weight without changing anything at all. And since one in four women have thyroid issues, this is just another reminder to not blame people for their weight or shame them for it.
Totally! I hope you’re getting the proper care for your hashimotos, thyroid issues are so hard! ❤
So someone that eats fast food every day and has thyroid issues shouldn’t be blamed for their weight? It can have an impact on weight, however, lifestyle choices are even bigger than that. My mom is 65 years old, overweight most of her life. She’s had hypothyroidism since I can remember, she started eating better, intermittent fasting and walking daily, she lost like 80 pounds. Soooo….?? People use hypothyroidism as a crutch for poor choices.
How another person lives their life has nothing to do with us, so why blame anyone for anything? None of our business.
Girl, this comment section is for supportive vibes only.
Thank you lunalyn for enlightening us to the struggles of people with thyroid problems! It’s a good thing to know.
@@charlotte7268 you do not pass the vibe check. An appropriate respond would be “my mom tried this, this, and it could help you”. Instead of bashing someone else’s journey which you are not on. Do better.
I really wish you had a podcast!!! Your videos help me so much. Our daughters are the same age and we are around the same age too. I relate to you so much - exact situation over here. 🎉
Have you ever thought about writing a book? You have such calm way of expressing things. It is so thought provoking and has made an impact on the way I take in something and process it. You should be super proud of the way you present yourself ❤
Aww thank you so much, I’m actually writing a little kids book ❤
I'd love an adults book too 🙌✨
Seconded! An adults book would be super interesting
I agree , when she speaks it builds so many emotions in me , it’s like I’m reading a book. I love her content !
I’m so glad you addressed disordered eating vs an eating disorder. I have struggled with this so much before I got pregnant being in college and after having my daughter and becoming a mom. I have always been trying to “take care” of others or my to-do list before taking care of myself. I have so many people that are like omg you look amazing after having a baby, i never want someone to think it’s how you “should” look after a baby because I didn’t do it in a healthy way, or even intentionally. So important to try and make our health a priority, and I’m glad I’m not the only one❤️
Love your hair here! 🤩 Thank you for being so open and honest, we appreciate you!!! ✨☀️🧡🔆
I’m so proud of you! I heard a saying recently that went something like this “build yourself up to who you want to be first, then pick a partner from the high ground”
I love these chill Q&A videos 😊 although I'm not a mama, I work with kids and your videos are a great resource for me in my work as well! Hope you're having a great day ❤️
You are amazing mommy! I can tell your daughter is your number 1 priority in your life with all you life decisions!! It’s so refreshing to see 😍
Thanks so much for being so sensitive about our feelings on weight. I’ve struggled with my weight since lockdown and then having a baby. It’s hard to see other people lose their baby weight when I’m having such a hard time. I agree that we shouldn’t comment on other people’s weight. I’ve been making an effort not to comment on my daughter’s appearance or anyone else’s. With of my family members that’s all they say! “Look at her eyelashes or the color of her hair or her tummy.” Thanks again for being so sensitive about it. I would love to hear about your potty training once you do it, and the other readiness signs. Thank you!
You have no idea how much u inspired and influenced my motherhood journey beautifully, im thankful for that❤
I feel like In parenting it can feel like one is doing more at times, so that definitely understandable that it would be that way in co parenting. I am so proud for both of you for being able to be the best parents for arrow ❤ love these videos !
I always love seeing how well you and Arrow’s father coparent, and I wish people didnt jump to assume that means you’re back together. My husband and I have struggled for yeeears now to coparent with his daughter’s mother, and i would give damn near anything for us to have the coparenting experience with her that you have with Arrows father.
thank you for your honesty and transparency. ❤ taking time for you is sooo important. good luck with potty training!
You’re an incredible mom, Britt. Love ya! ❤
I’ve been watching you since MyDailyRiot!! I think you’re awesome and I love that you always share your journey. Im not a mom yet…but you inspire me and make excited for the day I get to be one! ❤
Great way of talking about weight loss/gain. Totally agree! no one should comment on your appearance, be it about loosing or gaining weight, especially when they don't even know you. You do you... being a mom is stressful enough. Do what you can, eat when and what you can, and take care of your precious baby girl which is most important. God bless
Hi Brittany! Your eating disorder segment made sense to me. You can have unhealthy (not just the nutritional value of food unhealthy) eating habits and not have an eating disorder. When I am stressed I don’t eat. My appetite goes away but I know I don’t have an eating disorder, just unhealthy habits.
I heard this being called disordered eating?
@@sandirose3545 my therapist said the same thing lol but I didn’t want my message to get more confusing by saying it’s not an eating disorder but disordered eating I think that could get a little muddled
Don’t be so hard on yourself when it comes to your body. I am going through the same thing. I am a stay at home working mom and our bodies are similar. I have a hard time keeping weight on in general and then add all the responsibilities I have on top of that it is really hard to make sure I am taking care of myself. I commend you for even commenting on your own personal body journey. Hopefully we will both be able to keep up with ourselves and be the best moms we can be ❤️ thanks for letting me know I’m not alone.
Such an inspiration to many, thanks for posting! I really like your fitness journey. I was wondering if you could answer a question for me. Have you ever used any of these custom meal plan tools? I got one from Next Level Diet to help me lose some fat and I actually like their plans. Was just wondering if you've heard of or tried any of them yourself. Thank you!
When it comes to having a second, you never know. My 2 kids are just under 10 years apart. I also waited about 4-5 years to start dating again, and I’m so glad I did. I got to heal from past traumas, and all of those years with my son just me and him, we will always have that special bond, so to see him with his little sister makes my heart burst. It will happen if it’s meant to happen ❤️
I relate to the drastic weight loss because of juggling and having a stressful life and not enough self care in that regard in general. Sadly people don't understand and will give you the side eye almost always.
You’re channel has been so helpful. Thank you!!!!
I have been following for so long, like when you would dye your hair a bunch of different colors. You have always been naturally slim. I am sorry you are getting so many comments about your weight. Also, I think it's awesome that many times you mentioned focusing on yourself more and making yourself a priority. Us Moms need to make time for ourselves too!
Thank you, I'm setting the same goal for 2023 for myself! For many months now I too have been trying to take care of everything before thinking about myself. I have literally forgotten to eat so many times. I've gotten too thin and it's not good. We have to be proper role models for our girls 💜
Thanks for sharing! Look up matrescence… all of us mammas need to be patient and kind to ourselves as we go thru this new stage of our lives. As much as you try to prepare for motherhood, it’s nothing we could ever imagine. It’s gonna take some of us a couple years to settle into our new lives and bodies but it’s so worth it being a mom to this awesome tiny human 😊 stay strong!
100% relate to the weight issue. I had a daughter 7 months ago and now weigh less than I did pre pregnancy. On top of EBFing, eating is not a priority to me when I have so much going on. Definitely something I’m working on. You look amazing mama!
Mama i was in the same boat 😩 the only time i ate was at night when she was sleeping and still didnt gain weight. Ive been done for a year and still having a hard time 😩
@@amberf8487 Yes! I find myself snacking throughout the day and maybe having one actual meal which is usually dinner.
Hi Brittany, I used to struggle a lot with my son suddenly hating the bath. I found out after awhile that it was a bit too cold, but also he was bored with his bath toys. I went out and bought a variety of engaging bath toys and now rotate them. He loves it now! He even brings some of his normal toys to play with in the bath as well. Maybe that could work for you 🤷♀️ Also he hated getting the shampoo in his eyes which turned him off from the bath for awhile as well. Hope this helps 💖
Thanks for sharing your positive thoughts on potentially being one and done. My husband and I have one son.. He’s been one and done since the beginning, I was on the fence and feeling a lot of pressure about it since our son is 3.5. It’s refreshing to hear people say the relief they feel letting go of the idea of having multiple kids. One and done works well for so many people, it shouldn’t be so taboo. You’re inspiring!
Totally relate, same situation with my husband and I. Feeling now like our daughter completes our family but there’s always the “what ifs”.
Your videos give me so much comfort and insight. My daughter will be 2 in December so i love getting a lil preview of whats coming 🤣. Her dad and I are trying to figure out coparenting, I have no idea how to start potty training and we're having some big feelings 😅 love you Brittany, please never stop making these videos ❤🙌🏽
Just wanted to say I appreciate your sensitivity when talking about eating disorders. I’ve struggled with anorexia for years unfortunately. Some people like to throw disordered eating and eating disorders into the same category, but you didn’t. I appreciate the respect you showed towards the topic and am wishing you healthiest journey for you and your body moving forward❤️
Thank you and I’m wishing you the healthiest journey too ❤
@@brittanybalyn thank you so much!❤️
You are so well spoken and thank you for letting us be a part of your life
Carving out time for yourself as a mom (for the first time) is so hard. I struggle to model taking care of myself, for my own sake as well as my daughters. Appreciated this chat and check in ❤
Love you!!! Thanks for the updates! I really like the hair style!!!
Thank you!
For the last one, I persinally think it depends. If you truly care about someone, you need to have the courage to tell them they are gaining or losing weights. It's really about how you say it. Some people have zero self awareness. Thanks for sharing 😊
Love this, agree with so many things. I was raised by a single mom and her health and food choices were a massive influence on me (and continue to be) and I am a single mom to boys and my habits have definitely impacted them. Also, I stopped dating a year ago and I have really been enjoying pouring that energy into myself. Potty training will happen, don't let anyone rush you. Good luck with everything, being a mom is a new adventure every day 😂 (oh, and YES about not commenting on people's bodies - positive or negative - we don't know how it will impact someone ❤️)
Thank you for touching on the subject of having an only child! I'm one and done by choice due to birth trauma and mental health and it's so hard to get people to stay out of the business of how you MUST have more than one. Because it's not true. Regardless of the circumstances. Thanks for being an advocate xx
I love your honesty ❤
I love your outfit (and hair) so much in this video! That red is so complementing for you! Also I am not a single mom and traveling anywhere just stresses me out lol
I love you that said that you also deserve to be loved instead of always giving, in terms of romantic relationships.
And thank you for sharing. ❤
Happy Monday Brittany! I clicked so fast I haven’t even had a cup of coffee yet! Lol
Happy Monday! Drink that coffee 🎉 I’m drinking mine now too :)
Happy Monday to you Britt❤️
Never related to anything so much! Exactly the same boat in that I feel like my eating is so weird compared to pre-pregnancy life. I am positive we aren’t alone either! ❤
After having my son I lost a ton of weight and fast. I struggle to gain now. Would love to hear more about your story ❤
Thanks for sharing and being so open. I relate a lot to accepting being one and done. I'm one and done for mental health reasons, PPD really affected me. I always thought I'd have two kids but acknowledging that plans change and me being my best self mentally and physically for my son is more important than having a sibling.
My toddler went through a phase too of not liking the bath. Not sure why. But I got in the bath with her and played and it helped tremendously! Just one time of that helped and now she’s good on her own. Might be worth a try! 😁
We also have an independent sleeper and find if you can get a hotel room with a suite it really works well. Then you can either put them in the bedroom or living room while you sleep in the other room. They’re usually not to much more expensive. We’ve also had success sharing a standard hotel room and just turning the lights off when toddler goes to bed until she is fully asleep. Most hotels will also supply you a pack and play or crip if you ask.
The baby Bjorn potty is amazing . Simple makes it easy to clean without all the extra parts. Also don't pay much attention to the potty training in 3 days, it took alot longer for my son. The most important thing was not over reacting when he had a accident or when he went in the potty . I know it's exciting when they start getting it but staying neutral helped so much .
I love that potty too. I totally believed in 3 day potty training. They get the concept but it definitely takes more than 3 days! Especially poop 🤣
I lost a huge amount of weight since my pregnancy and especially since stopping breastfeeding. I lost my figure completely. I think the hormones definitely play a part. I don't eat excessively and it's mostly healthy that's how Ive always been. Ive been getting the comments like you, it's definitely something no one talks about after becoming a mother how bodies change without effort.
I travel with my 2 under 2 independent sleepers and they adjust pretty quickly 😅 she might surprise you, we don’t co sleep so brining a pack and play and the usual nap/bed routine really helps them to understand . Plus I get aluminum to cover the windows at hotels or my moms house 😅
Love how open you are about coparenting! Also off topic, where is your necklace from?
I can relate to you so much. I have a 1 year old and all my life I've struggled with being thin because of the same thing. It takes me a lot of energy to feed myself and I don't eat as much as I should. I was happy to gain 33 pounds when I was pregnant but now I'm back to 100lbs.
I still breastfeed but it's so easy for me to ignore my hunger cues.
I can literally go 12 hours just saying, I'll eat later or eat 2 grapes and go another 10 hours without eating.
It's not eating disorder per se because I don't do it intentionally or for weight loss. I actually hate losing weight, but nonetheless I can't get myself to prioritize eating.
All this to say, I'm here for solidarity.
You look great, and some people are just smaller. I used to get comments about me being too skinny and I think that lead to real eating/food issues for me and I felt so much more comfortable in my skin back then when I was “too skinny”. Stopping working out is bad for me mentally so I personally wouldn’t suggest it, but you know your body than me or anyone else on the internet!
Since I’ve taken my baby to a hotel swimming pool she loves the bath now! Something about being totally in the water helped so much!
That color looks amazing on you! What nail polish are you wearing? I love it
I live in a city (Singapore) that doesn’t really have suburbs - it’s just all city but we lucked out & moved to an apartment that’s ground floor, has a small patch of grass & is a 10min bike ride to my kids daycare. O👏🏻M👏🏻G👏🏻
Being able to open a door & let my dog out to pee at any time of the day is amazing.
My kid gets sick from daycare every 3 weeks pretty much but I’m so nearby to pick him up. So easy. Just the level of convenience for my dog & kid makes my own life so much easier. Do it if you can!!!
I will mention that MOST hotels have pack and plays already. you just call ahead and request them and they have them set up. some even provide actual cribs. So you shouldn't ever need to worry about bringing an entire pack and play, just bring the slumber pod thing and you should be good. Of course call ahead to the hotel, but yeah. Hope this helps calm those nerves!
u look so cute! influenced to buy a long sleeved top in this color so cute
What are your methods of coping with #coparenting? How do you get through different areas in life - what would you attribute that to?
Thank you for your content and transparency in your videos!
My mom was a single mom of one daughter - and we have had a great relationship for the majority of my life. (Age 17-19 was rough trying to be independent lol) but I really appreciate looking back on great one on one time with my mom.
My toddler prefers showers. So we don't so baths anymore. For travel, we use a toddler inflatable mattress. I think it's called Shrugs or something like that. Doesn't take much space and easy to carry.
I suffered from Grave's disease (overactive thyroid) in 2019 and I got a lot of positive comments on how I looked and my weight loss when I was experiencing horrific symptoms, including hives, swelling, heart palpitations, and anxiety. I had radioactive iodine treatment so now I am in the opposite boat and it's very difficult to lose weight, especially after having a baby. So yeah, what someone is experiencing cannot be assumed just by noticing their weight loss/gain.
For the bath fear/dislike I remember when I was a toddler that the air was cold and the bath warm and the feeling on my skin of the cold air on my wet skin was the reason of the tantrums. So I suggest you to level up the temperature in the room to feel like in a spa day 🤍
disordered eating is more likely in this scenario! when I had bad anxiety, I was hardly eating because I physically couldn't and I lost a lot of weight. self care is so important! 💕💕
As a newly busy mom, I can say that weight loss has definitely been an unwanted side effect of just being super busy and distracted with a child all the time now and not prioritizing myself… you are not alone.
I could listen to you for hours
Where is your shirt from 😍
PS appreciate your openness, honestly, & two sense ❤
I have the same struggle with the weightloss Brittany I definitely don't have an eating disorder. I have a 1 year old and putting myself last! Now I have to set timers when to eat also with breastfeeding and still breastfeed but not as much.. I don't have enough energy to keep up with her I just forget to eat. My boyfriend is forcing me to gain weight also :( which is very stressful!!
My daughter was the same with the baths. She is 2. Last time she was anti-bath I decided to get in with her and play. It was that one time that changed it all! She loved them again. Also I take her swimming once a week so I'm sure that helps with her love for water.
My daughter is the same way with being an independent sleeper. She does not associate being with me with sleeping at all. However, we still travel with her and it’s not as bad as you would think. I think the sleep pod would be a great thing to bring. We do the pack n play in a hotel, and it takes a little time but she does fall asleep.
My toddler went through a similar bath hating phase. I would lay her down on her changing table, prop her head so its out of the table frame and wash her hair while she watches something. Once thats done I wash her body while standing in the shower which is a lot less to manage if she kicks and fights but this system helped until she eventually forgot about her hate for the shower. Hope this helps!!
I was an only child and me and my mom were and still are so close! Just wanted to throw that out there! ❤️
I think your the future can hold so many different possibilities with children and siblings. You may be one and done or may be like me i have a 7 year old and an unexpected 7 month old. I know lost people want children together but if you had another further apart just remember that bond can be so good as well. Your daughter is lucky to have her parents either way be it with future siblings or not.
The bath fear very common. My son went through it and half of the Mums I know went through with there children.
I just ended up having showers with my son. If we did the bath I was in the bath with him. Then I just waited until he asked to have a bath. Now he's in love with it. We always give him the choice of shower or bath and often he'll choose bath.
I think for him it was a choice thing and fearful of slipping. Though it can often be due to draining the bath. For this fear they suggest not to drain when toddlers in the bath. For some people I know they could even drain anywhere near the toddler, just had to wait until toddler is far away from the bath.
My son at 15 months became terrified of the bath. It only last about a month, our family Dr said try daily baths and like you mentioned you tried toys, toys, toys. But the only thing that actually helped us was our family visiting from out of state and going to the hotel pool. My son was so intrigued by his cousins in the pool that he wanted in and once he was in didnt want to get out. That next few baths after that were much easier but still a little scary then all of a sudden baths were fun again!
love you queen
I don’t understand why so many people are pressuring her about having another baby. She’s super young. I’m literally damn near 40 having my second kid. Life happens and how you decide to live it is nobody else’s business if you’re not hurting someone else.
Because eggs start to scramble after 30
Bath time suggestion - what worked for my toddler who also hated the bath…
1. Make the bath soft and comfy like put a towel on the bottom or a bath mat. And bring a really fun and special toy(s) in there. For a few days, go into the bath tub to play with these things - get in with her. Keep clothes on, no water. So several times a day for a few days just go in there and treat it like a super fun activity area. The point is, make it a fun place and break the negative association.
2. After a few days of this you’ll start bath time again with water. Just a few inches of warm water. You should plan to get in with her. Make it super fun. TIP - don’t force her to lay back or pour water over her face and eyes. My kid hated that it was a trigger.
Took about a week of this for us and ever since my kid has been obsessed with bath time - just as long as I don’t force him to lay back or get water in his eyes. Haha
About the independent sleeper in a hotel room, you can get a room with 2 beds, then you do bedtime, put her in one of the beds and go hide in the bathroom until she sleeps. We did that and it super worked!
The internet can be so insensitive.. Sorry you have to deal with all that mama. But let me just say I have looked up to you since I became a mom in Nov 2020. I’m trying to get my son in speech therapy, I followed A LOT of your blw tips, and just admire how gentle you are in your approach to motherhood. Thank you❤️
I'm with you with the potty training I refuse to go diaper less while I'm home alone, someone needs to help clean up these accidents 🤣
Hey, have you been tested for an ulcer? That can effect weight loss and weight gain aswell ❤️ one of my friends post pregnancy has a stomach ulcer and also has problems gaining weight!xxx
I wanna call you Brit! Let me know if that’s not ok. For real though I appreciate you keeping it real in this video. My first video and I’m definitely bout to watch some more of your videos now…
My son went through a very hard time with the bath as well at around 22 months! He was terrified of the drain turns out. But he did learn it was safe and not an issue.
Hey! Not sure if this will help with the bathroom issue with your daughter but I was just reading a parenting book that was talking about kids at this age developing a fear of drains because they see the water go down and think they'll get sucked down too, my daughter is about 6 months younger than yours so it's something I've been looking out for!
I struggled with eating disorders my whole life and i was scared of how i get through pregnancy and all this... PPD after my first and the struggle of unplanned 2 under 2 leave me skinny with a toddler and a baby.
It isn't the eating disorder right now, it's not enjoying with pressure. I'd rather skip a meal and have another cup of coffee. I need to find other solutions
Where did you get your outfit?!❤ love you!
We live in Orange County , CA, pretty close to LA. And honestly it scares me to see how almost everyone is obsessed with being very skinny. I feel like this whole area , LA -OC “promotes” eating disorders. It’s crazy ! So much pressure!!! The expectation is you have to look the certain way to kind of fit it.
I know this was November last year, but if you are till thinking of moving...Temecula and Murrieta are great cities that are only 90 mins from LA! Wine country, Top rated schools, family oriented and one of the safest cities in the US :) A lot of people move here from SD and LA and Love it!
For the bathroom thing, maybe you can try to transition from bathing to showering? I have a removable shower head and I kind of just let it hang from the cord for my 2 year old and he loves it. She might find it as a new form of water play? 🤔 Just a thought! ☺️
I love your lipstick ! What color & brand is it
Try an Airbnb that has a crib already! There are also baby/toddler rental equipment in some places
I was the same with bathrooms when I was young. This is the age where they start to develop scares. My daughter has it with cars and the sound of ambulances 😅
Thyroid issues here ! Hashimotos I used to be 110 lbs I’m now 144! I did used to not be able to gain at all I was so small now I gained a lot. Now I have so much gut issues now it’s no joke when we go through.
Oh my gosh no one really talks about how hard it is prioritizing yourself postpartum! I’m so busy taking care of my 9 month old but I have the opposite problem. No matter what I do my body will not let go of my pregnancy weight. It’s so stressful to try everything and have nothing work. I wonder how if I should get my thyroid checked out because I know it can be the other way around. Either way, getting back to yourself post baby is extremely hard, no matter what way we look at it!
You should give Arizona a chance to live. I love Arizona. I’m also in a situation similar to you with the co parenting situation with my kids mother. It’s best to keep it best for the kids.